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“ Date ”
How do you keep the romance in your relationship aglow long after the lovelight of Valentine’s Day begins to dim? Julie Spira — author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online — offers five specific tips for “dating” your mate which will help keep your relationship fabulous and flair-worthy, once the sweet sting of Cupid’s arrow becomes just a memory.
• Create a date night every week (Okay, if that’s not possible, every month!): Select a day that you know will not be pre-empted by some sports playoffs or a bridge game and stick to it.
• Take turns creating your date: Alternate each week (or month) as to who selects the outing. Get creative. It can be as simple as dining in by candlelight to finding outside events to attend, such as comedy shows, movies, plays, or concerts.
• Plan pre-date night foreplay: Show some enthusiasm and excitement the day before your date. Leave a love note on his pillow or send a suggestive text message in anticipation of your special night. Take out the sexy lingerie that has been collecting dust in your bureau. • Memorialize your date: Be your own love historian. Bring a camera along and take photos of you and your sweetheart at different locations. Upload them to your Facebook account or onto your desktop for quick viewing. • Leave the workplace behind: If you’ve had a bad day at the office or a presentation with a tight deadline, keep those conversations away from your date night. There’s plenty of time to talk about work outside of your special evening. Romance requires nurturing and consistency —and focus.
Remember: the simple ritual of creating a date night can help you reclaim the passion you possessed during your first days of dating and can help you sustain that rediscovered excitement for decades to come. All it takes is a little effort . . . for a lot of love!