the Hindu religion. The caste would also indicate a common language and geographic origin. Parents or relatives could begin the hunt by putting the word out to their circle of friends (within the caste) that they are on the look out for. A young man’s level of education and financial status gives him value while a woman’s beauty (notably her skin tone) and intact virginity are of primary importance. In addition, the prospective couple should possess compatible astrological forecasts and pleasant dispositions. Photos and phone calls would be exchanged between families until everyone (including the bride and groom) accepted the match.
Although some couples get time to know each other in arranged marriages, others don’t. But more often than not, the chemistry exists. That is the important point. Doesn’t something similar happen in a love match too where the couple has undergone through a phase of dating? Two people instantly hit it off and the chemistry between them encourages them to meet again. True, they might not have marriage on their minds. But they can fall deeper in love, and that is because the chemistry exists in the first place. In an arranged match, the fact that background checks have been done by families protects the couple from the insecurity of being duped. The duping can still happen, but it can happen in a love match too.
an opportunity to know each other, getting a routine going, and saving some money before our marriage scheduled for the coming December. It has helped us to decide whether we would like to spend the rest of our lives together. I mean it’s a lot better to try on a pair of jeans before buying them, ya dont want to get it exchanged. Right?! While there might be others who may not get into the commitment of marriage as they come to terms with reality that they don’t like each other so well, may have habits that can’t be tolerated, or may get so uncomfortable living together,” says Aditi. It purely depends on every couple.
before tying the nuptial knot. Eventually as the saying goes ‘marriages are made in heaven’. Dating or arranged marriage none can avert the inevitable. Their paths may vary. But ultimately they both lead to one goal, the attainment of true love.
to d e c u d Where as youngare re fe of sters now move te i a l around more i d s a e n often for work ing mm ma i v u i l h s ’ e s n and study, o A e ay h d t m o o t s r distancing f e p themselves rochi ng values nging tim d c i m from friends a an ibi cha b g h m n t i i and famI k w e ce. ma n n i ily members l e h i c n t n i e a a m and loose out gs n f conv n e i o k d a n m t this privilege of surrou ional syste rriage has ating matchmaking the traditional way. So, whether a couple’s tradit anged ma hands of d Similar is the case of meeting is arranged by famAditi and Manish who ily or friends, or whether they arr he t r i n e i h both hail from north of Inmeet on their own…the reality t g n r i o t f a e dia and work for Tata Consulis that they meet, love each other b to look mate. and in most cases get married. And tancy Services. “Some people can live together and really benefit from it. while dating has emerged as a presoul Dating Manish for the last one year has given me ferred option amongst the city youth
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