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Dear BeSafe, If I wanted my kids to learn the importance of volunteering their time, where are some local places that they can do so safely? - J. Rhodes
Dear “J,” What a great question! Volunteering is an awesome way for children and adults to learn how to give back. Studies show it makes us healthier too! We did a little reasearch and will share it with everyone. Hope you find a great place to plug in! We contacted the United Way for a little advice and found out there are quite a few organizations in and around the local area who are always in need of people to help. Here are some questions to ask yourself before you select an organization: - First and foremost, does the organization have a mission statement and is it something you and your family are passionate about? If your child is not an animal lover and you have them volunteer for a shelter, the little one may incorrectly arrive at the conclusion that volunteering isn’t for them, which might deter future opportunities. In other words, don’t have them volunteer just to say they did it. A friend of mine told me once, “volunteering is simply finding the thing that you would be happy doing whether you got paid to do it or not.” For me, it was coaching basketball. I love
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the game and love to watch kids improve their skills. When I coached, I didn’t pay attention to my watch, make excuses or avoid my responsibilities. If it’s a chore, it isn’t for you. Same goes for the kiddos. - Second, be sure you check the organization out before volunteering. Some may claim that all of their funds go directly to serve a population or cause, which may not be true. You can check out many organizations by contacting the United Way, Better Business Bureau or doing an online search. We were able to find a good amount of information just by ‘googling’ the subject. -Third, make sure the organization conducts background checks and/or interviews. You want to be sure that your child has a safe environment in which to volunteer - especially if he’s a bit older and able to be dropped off and picked up. Some of our family favorites in the East Texas area: PATH, Salvation Army, Tyler ISD, the East Texas Food Bank, Keep Tyler Beautiful, and Christian Women’s Job Corp. You can find more by visiting http:// getconnected.uwtyler.org/volunteer/agency/ or call your local United Way to find those closer to home. The important thing is to find a place where you and your child can connect.
My Two Cents I can remember a time not long ago when I felt discouraged when it came to figuring out exactly how I was supposed to give back to my community. Frankly, I felt like coaching my boy’s sports teams was enough. But I quickly realized that while coaching was fun and I enjoyed it, it left very little behind - mostly because the kids were very young and were often more concerned about what we would have for snack after practice. I have long been searching for something that allows me to leave a legacy. Not like what you see on television where I broadcast myself on Twitter and Facebook, but instead, one that when I am no longer around, people remember my passion. I am also writing my two cents here just after the tragedy that occured in Connecticut in December. Stephanie and I had already decided that this issue would be dedicated to highlighting ways that kids and their parents could get involved,
give back, and leave a legacy. I wrote a poem after the incident that I would like to share with you here. “We reach but cannot grasp, we search but cannot find, answers as to why we lose our state of mind. Satan we command, get the behind! As sorrow gives way to anger, let us remind, there is hope left to find.” The words simply came to me because it seems that when many of these tragedies occur, we often hear it is because people are abused, left out, left alone or just simply disconnected - from themselves, from others, and even from the world around them. BeSafe encourages you as a parent, that while you cannot control your children’s lives, or even many times, what happens to them on a daily basis, we need to talk to them about what they are feeling, about what they are experiencing and often we must get behind the mask that they wear which tells us nothing is wrong. Sometimes they tell us nothing is wrong and we let it go. Many times,
nothing is wrong. But don’t miss an opportunity to connect your child - to other children, to other adults, to simple pleasures, to opportunities to learn lessons and to you. We cannot avoid talking about tragedy with our children, as delicate as the process may need to be. To find a few tips on talking with your kids about this subject, visit our Facebook site at www. facebook.com.besafepub. As parents ourselves, we have found that one way to provide the connection I am talking about is to volunteer. Whether you ring a Salvation Army bell at the holiday, work in an animal shelter, a nonprofit food pantry, or even something as simple as visit elderly neighbors who have no family close by - those acts, are the ones that keep us connected to each other and to the world around us. I am not suggesting this will fix the issues we face with our children, but I am suggesting that it is one way to ensure we leave the kind of legacy future genereations will need - if nothing else than to look back and say ‘look what they did, we can do even better.’
Raising a Superhero
Help Your Kids School Thrive
A New Year Resolution you don’t want to miss!
12 Volunteer Directory find a place to plug in 13 Truly Alive Child: A Must Read 14 Kid’s Draw - Free Smash burger!
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16 The Power of Color 17 On Campus: BeSafe interviews a new middle schooler.
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Lilianna Sinclair, Cayden Mazza; Walker and Sarah Coe
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Volunteers are Heroes!
Say what? In 2008, nearly 27% of the American population contributed 8 billion hours of volunteer service, worth an estimated $162 billion dollars. That’s the equivalent of buying 4,000 Gulf Stream jet planes or six thousand private islands! dollars and cents The estimated dollar value of an hour of volunteer time is between $20.25-$21.79, almost triple that of current minimum wage.
“Volunteers do not necessarily have the time; they just have the heart.” -Elizabeth Andrew new attitude Young people volunteer twice as much as adults do. leaving a legacy By 2008 there were more than 8.2 million young adult volunteers . . . an increase from 7.8 million the year before. If that trend continued, we would currently have an estimated 10 million young adult volunteers. 6
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- a person who performs a task willingly and without pay. Also, Latin, meaning that one does something out of their own free will. volunteers perform better Youth who volunteer tend to do better in school, feel connected to their classmates and engage less in risky behaviors such as smoking.
altruism leads the way Only 5% of youth who volunteer, do so because they are required to. The majority of youth volunteers say they do so because they would like to make the world a better place, or they would like to help those in need. parents set the example A youth who has a parent who volunteers, is nearly three times more likely to volunteer on a regular basis.
by Chris Taylor, BeSafe Editor. Some information courtesy of worldvolunteerweb.org and the United Way of Greater New Haven.
live the motto:
Most organizations suggest taking the time to write down how much time you want to volunteer and compare it to how much free time you actually have. Trying to meet other’s needs while yours are not being met, may increase your frustration, lower your expectations, and make the experience seem like it isn’t worthwhile. Start by looking at a calendar and writing down the amount of time you would have had to dedicate to volunteering within the last four weeks. Be realistic.
Many people find that while they want to help out, the need is greater than they can meet. It is crucial to remember that while a volunteer’s impact is large, one person cannot typically make the kinds of change they had hoped, as quickly as they had hoped. In other words, don’t set yourself, or your family up for failure by expecting it to be life-changing from the moment you sign up. It may take time to reap the benefits of your gift.
BeSafe had the pleasure of sitting down with a couple of youngsters to find out what they think about volunteering. Walker (10) and Sarah (7) Coe (son and daughter of Donald and Lori Coe), like the majority of American children, do not have to worry about where their next meal will come from. They do however, worry about some of their fellow classmates. We asked the dynamic duo a few questions - check out what they had to say: BeSafe: What does volunteering mean to you? “It means to help others in need,” Walker says. Sarah echoed by saying “you get to help families get what they need,” as she smiled a big seven year old smile that would melt any heart. When asked what their family does to volunteer, the Coe kids were quick to tell us that they love doing the “Angel Tree,” a practice where families who are able, obtain a wish list to purchase gifts for children who are not likely to receive any for Christmas - due to a variety of unfortunate circumstances beyond their control. It was easy to see that this was Sarah’s favorite activity. She giggled
It’s best to match your family’s skill set, to an organization that would benefit from those skills. If you sign the family up to build a house for a family that needs it, but lack any carpentry skills, you may leave feeling like you didn’t help much, which in turn may lead the kids to believe it wasn’t worth the time and effort. Take the time to write down a couple of skills each of your family members possess and match them to the skills needed by the organization you wish to help.
We encourage parents to share expected emotions with the whole family. Kids will comprehend information at various levels depending on age and maturity of course, but you might start by sharing your first volunteer experience and describe the emotions you felt before, during and after the activity. Kids may need to know that not everyone they help will express thankfulness. This is important for the success of a long-term volunteer mindset. Kids can be discouraged easily sometimes and prevention may be key.
when we asked her if she enjoyed going shopping with her parents to purchase gifts. Both Sarah and Walker added that it was nice to be able to buy other kids toys, when they would not other wise have had any. The Angel Tree is a great way for kids to see exactly how helping others creates a sense of well-being. It was easy to see in the young Coe’s eyes, that helping with the Angel Tree made them happy. The other favored activity was ringing the Savation Army bell. They admit to making as much noise as they possibly could with the bells for several years. Then we asked them how volunteering made them feel. This was the highlight of our interview. The two couldn’t contain their inner joy. Almost laughing, Walker told us that it makes him “feel really good, because I’m helping people,” and Sarah who took the opportunity to nudge her brother gently, agreed before she ever spoke a word. When asked to describe their favorite memory, both unianimously agreed that buying presents for other kids was the highlight of their experience. Winding it up, we asked what they would tell other kids who were nervous about volunteering. “Volunteering is really good for helping other people Walker said. Sarah followed him by saying, “it helps people who need shelter, food, clothes and other stuff they need.” When asked what volunteer activity they were already thinking about, the Angel Tree topped the list. It was easy to see that the Coe family had found a volunteer activity they found meaningful and one everyone understood. Whether you ring bells, buy presents, serve food, repair something broken, or donate money, our hats are off to the Coe family for giving back to their community, and for sharing that passion with the next generation.
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My New Years Resolution by: Savannah Warrington
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Help Your Child’s School Thrive by RACHEL FROST, TYLER ISD PUBLIC RELATIONS SPECIALIST
Looking for a meaningful New Year’s resolution? Consider becoming a Tyler ISD volunteer. Volunteers are a much appreciated and highly respected group of people who make up a very important part of our educational team. According to the Independent Sector, one volunteer hour is worth $21.79; to Tyler ISD, the hours volunteers spend at our schools are worth much more. Volunteers benefit our students, schools, and our community as a whole. Volunteers benefit students in many ways, but most simply, students see our volunteers’ commitment to education. Seeing parents, grandparents, and community members volunteering in our schools shows students that our volunteers believe learning is important. Volunteers can support learning by serving as tutors, mentors or classroom assistants. As an education
community, student achievement is our top priority. Volunteers benefit our schools by helping with various projects or activities so that our staff has more time to focus on helping students succeed academically. Finally, volunteers benefit our community by sharing stories of their positive experiences in our schools with friends, neighbors and coworkers. Tyler ISD volunteers are part of something important: impacting the education of future generations. Whether you can spare half an hour a month, or several hours a week, there are many ways to get involved as a volunteer in our schools. Volunteer opportunities include: • An activities volunteer gives important support for special events and/or projects.
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• A classroom assistant works closely with teachers and staff, assisting with various projects, preparing instructional materials and interacting with students. • A field trip chaperone supervises a group of students during schoolsponsored field trips throughout the school year. • A mentor works with a student on a regular basis. A mentor’s goal is to help guide the student in setting short-term goals while serving as a positive role model. A mentor can provide encouragement and friendship to a student. • A support service volunteer performs a variety of school duties as assigned by staff members. Those duties might include working in the office, monitoring hallways, assisting with traffic duty, and helping in classrooms. • A tutor works one-on-one with a student or with a small group of students who need help in academic subject through reinforcement of basic skills. If you are interested, contact volunteer.tylerisd.org.
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1. How many servings of fruits or vegetables does your child eat in a day? (one serving is typi cally identified by the amount that will fit into the palm of the childs hand). 2. How many times a week does your child eat dinner at the table with family? 3. How many times a week does your child eat breakfast? 4. How many times a week does your child eat takeout or fast food? 5. How many hours a day does your child watch television, movies, or sit and play video and/or computer games? 6. Does your child have a TV in the room where she sleeps? 7. Does your child have a computer in the room where he sleeps? 8. How much time a day does your child spend in active play (faster breathing/heart rate or sweating)? 9. How many 8-ounce servings of the following does your child drink a day? 100% juice _____ Fruit drinks or sports drinks _____ Soda or punch ______ Water _____ Whole milk _____ Nonfat/reduced fat milk _____ 10. Based on your answers, is there ONE thing you would like to help your child change now? - Eat more fruits & vegetables - Spend less time watching TV/playing video games - Take the TV out of the bedroom - Eat less fast food or takeout - Play outside more often - Drink less soda, juice or punch - Switch to lowfat milk - Drink more water
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‘the truly alive child’: a review Simon Paul Harrison’s interesting take on how we can change the world in which our kids live
From the Author: The Truly Alive Child provides powerful tools and techniques for all adults to support children in re-connecting with child-like wonder, love for learning and natural creativity. The tools include honoring uniqueness, developing deep relationships with nature, embracing the “real” child and many more. Education and parenting are explored from a holistic point of view, including how all adults can play a conscious role in creating environments that promote inner peace and compassion. A visionary book that will change the way we think about education, what we are creating for the next generation and the future of our children. Freedom, Not Prescription The Truly Alive Child is not a prescriptive book. There are no suggestions for what facts
children should learn, or what they should be able to do at certain ages. There are no recommendations on how, for example, we can teach science better or mathematics more efficiently. It is not about how we can squeeze another drop of "progress" out of children. Instead, it looks deeply into how we can provide an environment for children that encourages them to discover their deepest potential. It provides us with ways in which we can support children in how to be creative, not what to create, and in how to be successful, not what to be successful at. Our Greatest Challenge We may think our society has achieved greatness because it has put a man on the moon or because we are allowed to democratically vote for our leaders, but it cannot even support human being's most basic desire: To experience our eternal, free nature, one with all life. The truly alive child is one who knows intimately who she really is and what her relationship is to life. She knows that to play in the puddle of mud is never wasted time, that to marvel at the flight of the butterfly is never mere child's play, and to embrace the cold, wet ocean on her toes is so much more than the just the purely physical act it can appear. Young children understand, without being taught, that just like them all life is sacred, and that each part of creation has its place, from the largest bear to the smallest ant.
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They demonstrate their amazing awareness by living their brotherhood and sisterhood with all things, equally and with compassion. They seek not to destroy but to discover, and not to dominate but to love. Our greatest challenge is so simple it seems almost too easy: To ensure that our natural state of being truly alive never leaves our children. Ever. Quick Review BeSafe received a preview copy of the book before it was widely distributed and found it to be a very good read - one worth every parent’s time. These days, it seems our kids go to school all day with limited physical activity, come home to homework and chores, then are transported from this practice to that rehearsal, and allowed very little free time. Harrison’s book is a gentle reminder that there is more fun to be had in childhood than we sometimes allow. The author challenges us to rethink the ‘system,’ and what we consider status quo. What are we training our kids to become, the author wants to know - and what a great question to ask ourselves. “As individuals, and as a society, we must find the strength and courage to give children the gift of allowing them to find their own truths. We can give this gift, by choosing to do so, he says.”
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H ere’s an idea that may color how many children are raised: Artistic expression is vital for childhood growth, development and overall well-being during the early stages of life, according to Dr. Karen Hill-Scott, Ed.D., a nationally recognized expert in child care. “The role of art in early child- hood education is critical in helping children develop necessary life skills and promote basic problem solving and self-esteem,” she explained. “Exposure to art not only encourages self-expression through the representation of an object on paper but also stimulates the development of abstract ideas and concepts.”
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t Education Through Art In fact, a new series of e-books and interactive i-books called The Drip Drops has been designed to do just that. They have what Kaiser calls “a unique ability to help young kids learn on a variety of platforms, making their stories that much more relevant to kids and parents of today.” The only preschool app and e-book series that focuses on art and color as well as reading and overall creativity, it provides children ages 2 through 6 with the tools necessary to appreciate and investigate the world around them. Each character has a unique personality and talent that kids can identify with. They work together in a community that’s similar to most neighborhoods, complete with a library, grocery store, school, town hall, and playground, but also a color-mixing park and alphabet orchard. Through a wide variety of engaging visual arts activities, children can examine alternative solutions to problems using creative thinking, trial and error and teamwork. By encouraging self-expression and allowing children to give form to their emotions, ideas and feelings through art, the series can be a valuable teaching tool and provide a solid foundation for future learning.
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exist. During our first few weeks of middle school I was shocked to know that we had already been offered tobacco by Chris Taylor products, had rocks thrown at The pilgrimage from us and I could see he elementary school is was starting to become an adventure that I deflated. His journey remember very little began to trigger a few about. I do rememmemories of my own and ber asking a friend his experience began to to teach me a few feel all to familiar. I reaswords in Spanish so sured myself that private that I could be cool, school probably wouldnt later to find out what offer any real solutions to he instructed me to these issues, and even say should not only if they did, what would be followed by soap happen when he went off and water, but should to college? We had many also never be stated conversations about life directly to a guy twice and some of its follies, your size. But we all but I admit to putting off had moments like anything not G-rated in that, right? So when a desperate attempt to my oldest began mid- remain oblivious to realdle school, I wasn’t ity. However, I pondered sure what about the experito expect. I ence others were remember having and found watching a willing victim in him walk 12-year-old Lauaway from ren Alexander, the car and who is not only feeling like a new middleI just sent schooler, but him off to moved from one college. city to another- a They look double-whammy. so grown up, carrying I sat down with Lauren to 75 pound backpacks, pick her brain a little and texting on their smart- thought I would share it phones and giggling with you here. while hiding any BeSafe: When you were insecurity that may in 5th grade, what did you
with Lauren Alexander
think middle school would be like? Lauren Alexander: “I thought it was going to be hard. Other kids made it sound that way too,” she added. BS: Do you think elementary school prepared you for middle school? LA: “They taught us how to do basic math” (math was Lauren’s biggest challenge, but she liked it). BS: What is your favorite thing about middle school? LA: Emphatically, Lauren loved the new found sense
relief enveloped me as I took notes while she talked. Maybe it wasn’t as bad as I had feared. BS:Do you feel like you have been pressured by your friends or others at school? LA: Again, it took her a few seconds to think it over, but again she replied, “no.” I began thinking to myself that either Lauren was blissfully unaware or she was extremely resilient. I opted to believe the later. That was when it hit me - I didn’t need to worry about the whole
“That was when it hit me - I didn’t need to worry about the whole middle school experience - if I just concentrated on making my kiddo resilient.” of freedom. No more walking in lines like miniature soldiers, much less handholding. “And you get to talk to your friends.” BS: What is the hardest thing about middle school? LA: “Math,” she quipped. “The teacher is really nice and I like the challenge.” Okay, easy enough. Now it gets a bit harder. BS: Have you or any friends been offered tobacco products? LA: Obviously grossed out by the thought, Lauren replied “no.” She had also not personally witnessed any such activities. BS: Have you or any of your friends been bullied while at school? LA: “No,” she said after giving it a moment or two of thought. Lauren is in band and attends quite a few other activities and was confident she had not witnessed any. A sigh of
middle school experience - if I just concentrated on making my kiddo resilient. I ended our interview by asking Lauren if she had any advice for parents of new middle schoolers. She said that they needed to know it isn’t as bad as others make it sound. “It’s fun,” she said, “you get to do a lot more stuff,” clearly hooked on her newfound freedoms. “It can be difficult sometimes she piped in, but “it’s good,” she assured me. I quickly realized that perhaps I needed to do this interview just to make myself feel better. And Lauren had done just that. I will probably still go ‘google’ a hundred ways to make your kid more resilient, but that’s all part of the journey right? BeSafe appreciates Lauren for sharing her thoughts and experiences continued on page 18. . .
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BeSafe reader Beth Bills asked us to review the new app, “ARTKIVE,” which we were happy to do! Beth, Thanks for asking! At first it was a little confusing - when we tried downloading from an iPad - it said the app was unavailable but would work on the iPhone. The developer states that it is iPad compatible, so we gave it a shot. It downloaded fine. When we opened the app, we found it great for storage of photos. It was a snap to store the photos of our kiddo’s artwork by album, which we did by our child’s name and grade. You can also categorize however you wish, which was great - eliminates hours of searching. You can then print the album in a booklet format which was awesome. Some of the downfalls were the inability to edit or adjust the photos. While the app did not freeze on us, some reviews say that was common. Overall for $2.99, the reviews and our experience with it make it a BeSafe recommended app. Have fun! Want BeSafe to review an App for you? Make a suggestion on our Facebook site at www. facebook.com/besafepub and ‘like’ us while you are there. 18
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1. Make connections - teach your child how to make friends, including the skill of empathy, or feeling another’s pain. 2. Have your child help others - volunteering allows children to connect and feel like they are a part of something bigger. 3. Maintain a daily routine - kids love routines, whether they admit it or not. It helps keep them on track. Surprises are hard to deal with, when you don’t have the skills. 4. Take a break - keep monotony to a minimum by scheduling fun time. Take walks, listen to music, ultimately, connect with your child without using instruction. 5. Teach self-care - your child needs to be aware of his needs for a healthy diet, adequate exercise, time to destress, identifying their feelings and knowing how to communicate what they need and when. To read more suggestions like these, visit http://www.apa.org/ helpcenter/resilience.aspx#
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