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Anyone can cuddle, but only the Welsh can cwtch. Celebrity Summer Babies... Coping with Colic... “I embody the ‘baby freak’ personna...” “I couldn’t even carry my own baby properly...” The 50 Shades of Grey effect...

Swapping worldwide competitions, for staying at home drowning in sick. How one mum came to terms with giving up her biggest passion for her baby. The top 5 things they don’t tell you about birth! We let you in on the secrets of giving birth and how to prepare yourself for them! “Life hasn’t been easy since I took that pregnancy test and had to grow up...” Can you imagine being 14 and finding out your pregnant? Baby and Bump magazine for Barry and the Vale of Glamorgan

May Issue - 2013


Welcome!

Croeso!

Hello and welcome to the first edition of Cwtch magazine; the magazine which is crammed full of tips and hints to keep you occupied throughout pregnancy and after baby arrives. Our magazine will fill you in on all the local classes and activities on offer in Barry and the Vale of Glamorgan, as well as all the little things mums-tobe and new mummies want to know.

Helo a croeso i rifyn cyntaf o gylchgrawn Cwtch, y cylchgrawn sy’n llawn dop o gynghorion ac awgrymiadau i’ch diddau chi drwy gydol beichiogrwydd a ôl babi gyrraedd. Bydd ein cylchgrawn i chi lenwi i mewn ar yr holl ddosbarthiadau lleol a gweithgareddau sydd ar gael yn y Barri a Bro Morgannwg, yn ogystal â’r holl bethau bach mamau-i-fod a mummies newydd am ei wybod.

Enjoy, Chloe Scales Editor and Mummy

Mwynhewch, Chloe Scales Golygydd a Mummy

Contact Us/Advertising: Email: 10030891@glam.ac.uk Telephone: 07817277270 Website coming soon! Like us on Facebook: facebook/cwtchmagazine Follow us on Twitter: @cwtchmagazine Photo: Rebecca Watson

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This Issue:

Celebrity summer babies

News: 3 Celebrity summer babies 4 Local prenatal and antinatal classes Health & Wellbeing: 5 What makes your baby kick? 8 Coping with colic 9 Milestone of the month - first tooth 17 The top five things they don’t tell you about birth 23 The big stretch 24 Five things to do when you cant sleep Features: 10 “I embody the ‘baby freak’ personna...” 11 Bump art by Rebecca Watson 12-13 Is it ever a good idea to watch programmes about giving birth, before you actually give birth? 14-16 “I couldn’t even carry my own baby properly...” 18-19 Swapping worldwide compeitions, for staying at home drowning in sick. 22 14 and pregnant. What to do next? Lifestyle: 6-7 One more chance to see your little one. 20 Why talk when you can use sign language. 21 The 50 shades of grey effect.

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Who: Rochelle Wiseman and Marvin Humes When: May 2013 This is the first baby for the pair who began dating in March 2010 and married in August 2012 - and given these dates this could well be a honeymoon baby! However, Rochelle claims that they were only on honeymoon for a few days, due to both of their busy schedules. She insists that the baby was conceived after a long awaited reunion in New York.

“I think it’s one of the sexiest things ever!” - Channing Tatum

“I’m feeling massive .. excitement. ost She’s the m beautiful dy...” pregnant la mes - Marvin Hu

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Who: Kim Kardashian and Kanye West When: June 2013 This is the first baby for the couple and, no doubt, a bit of a thunder stealer for Kanye’s pal Jay-Z and Beyoncé - who supposedly isn’t Kim’s biggest fan. KimYe announced their pregnancy in the final hours of 2012 at a Las Vegas club party Kim was hosting. Kim’s ‘momager’ Kris has supposedly claimed she wants to document as much of the pregnancy as possible on the family’s reality show. Given that Kim’s sister Kourtney had both her births filmed for the show it’ll be interesting to see how far golden girl Kim goes...

“Stop the music and make noise for my baby mama!” - Kanye West Who: Jenna Dewan-Tatum and Channing Tatum When: Summer 2013 This is the first baby for the pair who first met when they starred in 2006 streetdance film Step Up. Speaking of impending parenthood, heartthrob Channing has said: “I don’t think there’s one thing that doesn’t terrify you, but in the most unbelievably Photo: Google Images

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Local prenatal and antenatal classes Tots Play

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Breastfeeding

Breastfeeding classes are designed to help you learn how to feed your baby, before your baby actually arrives. Many people find it a struggle to breastfeed at the start, so attending classes in advance can help teach you vital techniques and tips on how to make breast feeding easier. You will watch videos on how to breastfeed and will also be able to ask a selection of midwives and breastfeeding support workers any questions you have about the prospect of breastfeeding. The breastfeeding support workers are often volunteers who have breastfed their own babies in the past and have

since had training in breastfeeding support. To find out what’s available in your area, there are a number of people you can talk to, including: your midwife, health visitor or GP. Alternatively, contact the National Breastfeeding Helpline on 0300 100 0212. You can also go to your local Children’s Centre or Family Information Centre, which may have a list of local groups and activities for you to choose from. It is advisable to book your place on courses when you are 20 weeks pregnant, as courses fill up fast and have a limited amount of places available.

Water Babies

Tots Play is a group of classes run locally throughout the Vale of Glamorgan involving musical, physical and sensory play for your little one and you. The classes are suitable for children from birth up to the age of two. The classes run from birth are called Baby Development Courses. These are short courses, where you learn fun ways to play, interact and communicate with your new baby. Such techniques include: massage, yoga, music and sign language. These classes are also a great way to meet other new mums. The classes run from eight weeks are classed Discovery Tots. These classes are designed to stimulate, delight and boost the development of all baby’s senses. The classes are interactive and include yoga based movement, music, sensory play and sign language. The final class is run from eight months and is called Social Tots. These classes are specifically for older babies and toddlers who will enjoy a wide range of physical, musical and social play activities. For more information about the classes and free weekly play ideas, visit: www.totsplay.co.uk

What makes your baby kick? Feeling your baby kick inside you for the first time is a magical moment. We asked some local mummies-to-be what makes their little ones kick...

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“My little one has got a very good kick on him! He kicks me almost constantly, so I joke to my partner that he had better be a good footballer when he’s older for all these kicks he’s giving my tummy! But nothing makes my little man kick more than when Daddy rubs my belly. As soon as my partner puts his hands on my tummy, my baby finds his hands and kicks him straight back. It’s so cute!” Laura Moss, 18, Culver House Cross.

“My mini me is clearly a lot like me because she tends to kick me when I’m doing things I enjoy. She loves listening to the music I play; it’s as if she’s kicking around inside me instead of dancing around. She also loves kicking me after I’ve eaten something sweet and sugary! I think it’s her little way of thanking me for the sweet treat.”

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Water Babies is a unique swimming programme where babies swim underwater as well as on the surface. The classes are designed to make the most of babies natural affinity with water whist teaching confidence, safety techniques and having lots of fun! As well as the classes offereing parents the opportunity to bond with their baby in the water, classes also allow parents to meet other parents with children around the same age as theirs. Classes become an opportunity for parents to socialise with other parents, creating a nice and relaxed atmosphere for not only the parents, but for the baby’s to learn in too. Classes also offer the opportunity to capture your baby underwater with speciialist underwater photo shoots (extra charge) which take place every term. The photographs achieved from these sessions give parents an alternative photography experience and a different way to capture their baby’s first experiences with the water and swimming. Water Babies classes are run locally at the Copthorne Hotel in Culverhouse Cross. Each term of lessons totals ten weeks. For more information and to book your place call: 01633 278 504. Alternatively, email: glideswim@waterbabies.co.uk. You could also find out further details and information about the classes on their website: www.waterbabies.co.uk

Debra Allcock, 35, Barry.

“I’ve got a very lazy baby inside me who isn’t really a big kicker at all! That means I have to be really sneaky and know the things that make him kick really well. If I drink a really cold glass of water, I instantly get a kick out of him! Also, if I lay on my tummy for a few minutes, he kicks me then too. It’s as if he’s saying ‘Hey mum, your squishing me,’ which is so funny!” Karan Hooper, 32, Barry. Photo: Debra Allcock

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Health and Wellbeing

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One more chance to see your little one...

Does the thought of seeing your baby inside you for the last time at your 20 week scan scare the life out of you? Do you wish there was a way you could see your baby again, just to make sure everything is still developing fine? Well now you can with a 4D scan...

hen you find out your pregnant, your initial feeling is usually excitement, followed by worry. All mothers want to know that they’re unborn baby is healthy and happy. The 12 week scan doesn’t come around fast enough and offers mum’s the reassurance that everything is developing nicely, as it should. The next scan is like a countdown for mummies and daddies. Inbetween the 12 weeks and the 20 weeks, baby does a lot of growing! So the scan offers parents the perfect opportunity to see how much their little one has grown and changed. It’s also the first chance you get to find out whether your having a little boy or a little girl, that’s if you want to find out. From the 20 week scan it’s a long wait until the arrival of your little one. In fact, its half of your entire pregnancy! For this reason, more and more parents are paying privately for another scan. Many companies offer a variety of packages to choose from which give you further piece of mind towards the end of your pregnancy. 4D bonding and reassurance scans are available for pregnant women from 24 to 32 weeks of gestation. Although, the best photos can be achieved from 25 to 29 weeks of gestation, as the baby is not too big, but not too small at this stage of pregnancy. It is also advisable to book your 4D scan for a time of day when you know your baby is most active, as this will make the best photo memories. A deluxe 4D ultrasound experience allows you to see your unborn baby in live 4D motion, providing a unique and positive bonding opportunity. The scan allows you to experience your baby waving their little hand snd sucking on their thumb. The scan also creates the opportunity for you to see your baby’s facial expressions. The exciting new 4D ultrasound technology and imaging equipment means you can actually see what your baby is going to look like before they are born. Find out whether your baby has mummy’s nose, or daddy’s eyes. The position of your baby can on occasions be awkward and make 4D imagery difficult to achieve. On these occasions the Sonographer may ask you to take a gentle stroll to encourage

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4D scan packages vary, but most include the following: * 10-20 minute 4D ultrasound appointment * 4-8 Colour gloss 3D photos * Pregnancy growth report with position, weight estimation and wellbeing checklist * DVD Recording of Scan (minimum 5 mins of traditional 2D & 4D footage) Optional extras can also be bough in addition to the 4D scan package: *1 Sheet of 4 Images (5”x3.5”) - £10.00 *1 A4 Portrait Colour Gloss 3D Photos - £10.00 * Picture CD with 3D JPeg Images - £15.00 * Heartbeat Bear - £20.00 * Gender Confirmation - £15.00 * On-Line Gallery Access - £5.00 (share your cherished images instantly with familiy and friends - 3 months access) Packages start at around £95 and raise to around £150, without any additional photograph prints or extras that are listed above. There are a number of 4D ultrasound scan companies in the local area. For more information about local 4D scan’s and other packages available, the following websites are of companies operating in the local area: http://www.firstencounters.co.uk/ http://www.babybond.com/cardiff.php http://www.peekaboobabyscan.co.uk/

Estelle Hughes, 19, Barry said: “I’m currently 22 weeks pregnant and have just found out that I’m expecting a baby boy, from my 2D standard hospital scan. Although the hospital told me that everything is developing fine with my baby, I don’t feel very comfortable going another 20 weeks without seeing my developing baby at all. The thought of having to go another 20 weeks without actually seeing my baby scares the life out of me! I think you should be able to have scans more frequently throughout your pregnancy in this country. In America, expectant mothers have scans on a weekly basis when they see their health visitors. I know that they have to pay for their medical care in America, but to have that peace of mind, I would pay too. My partner and I have just booked a 4D scan with a company called ‘First Encounters’ that are based in Cardiff. Just knowing that the scan is booked and that I won’t have to wait too long to see my baby is a big weight off my mind. It’s something to look forward to and count down the days towards. The scan is conducted at 27 weeks and not only checks the physical development of the baby, it also ensures that the baby is measuring correctly, the amount of fluid surrounding the baby and the baby’s foetal positioning. The package we have bought also includes a teddy bear with the baby’s heartbeat inside and several coloured photographs to capture the experience. All of my family are really excited to see some more photos of the baby, especially considering these will be so clear and show my baby’s facial features. I’m really excited to see our baby again and I know that all of my friends who have used this company have been really happy with the results.”

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movement of your baby before recommencing your scan. It is also advised that you drink a few fizzy drinks and eat a few chocolate bars 30 minutes before your scan is due to take place as this can encourage baby to move more. On the rare occasion your baby is still camera shy, most companies would be offer one complimentary re-scan visit on an alternate date.

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Coping with colic Is your baby crying all the time and you have no idea why? Are you close to tears yourself and ready to pull your hair out? Your baby may have colic. Here’s what you need to know...

Every month we give you the lowdown on your baby’s big steps...

Colic is a nightmare for any parent. It’s a time when your baby constantly seems to cry inconsolably, with no obvious cause. The wailing can seem sudden and intense. It can be heartbraking to witness, even though it’s harmless. A fifth of all newborn babies born in the UK experience colic to one degree or another. It can affect both boys and girls equally, and is the most common complaint the NHS sees in young babies. You’re not alone!

Memorable moments They might be tiny, but what your baby’s pearly whites lack in size they more than make up for in milestone milage. From the first time you see a baby tooth emerge from it’s gums, teeth mark some of the most memorable moments of early childhood.

In time for tea Your baby’s first tooth can pop up at any point within a fairly wide timeframe. Very early developers start cutting their milk teeth at three months, while others take a year or more although around six months is typical. The signs that your baby’s teeth are coming through can include: drooling, sleep disturbance, sensitive or irritated gums and trying to chew everything baby can get it’s hands on!

Why does it happen? Although all experts agree that colic can appear from the first two to four weeks of a baby’s life, nobody knows what actually causes it! Some health professionals think that a three to twelve week old baby’s stomach goes through a maturing process. During this time, the digestive system finds it hard to brake down the large enzymes in milk, which results in a gut spasm, causing discomfort. But there are other theories that indicate rapid feeding, wind, food intolerance, or even too much air getting into a baby’s feed, could be to blame.

What can you do? An inconsolable baby who cries for hours and hours can be difficult at the best of times. It’s a good idea for mum and dad to work out a strategy. If your sleep deprived or stressed, your baby will pick up onn this and find it harder to relax. Talking to your partner is key. Getting support from your family and friends if you feel it’s all becoming too much is also a good idea.

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What are the symptoms of colic? Your baby may suffer with crying that lasts for more than three hours a day, more than three times a week. Your baby will be wailing frantically, bringing it’s knees up to its’ chest, clentch it’s fists and even arch it’s back. Other signs include: a flushed face, not wanting to be touched, and looking shocked or distressed. The tears tend to occur between 5pm and 9pm, and should stop by the time baby is four months. But every child is different.

What if it’s not colic?

Although there’s no definite cure, there are things you can do to ease the symptoms of colic. Movement when your little one is crying is soothing. When feeding baby, remember to wind for five minutes after every feed to prevent indigestion. Holding your baby face-down along your forearm is thought to soothe colic.

If your normally healthy and happy baby starts crying for long periods with no clear reason, it could indicate something more serious... * Under the weather - Your little one could be suffering from a fever, rash or cold. Seek medical advice promptly. * A bloated belly - If your baby’s poos have become less frequent, then baby may be constipated. * Troubled tummy - She could be experiencing acid reflux, where swallowed milk comes back up from the stomach. If you think your baby has this, seek medical advice.

Given before or after a feed, Dentinox Colic Drops, £2.95 (tesco.com), will reduce colic by gently dispersing trapped air. Health and Wellbeing

Tommee Tippee’s Closer to Nature Adcanced Comfort Bottles, £13.29 for a pack of teo (boots. com), have a venting system that reduces your baby’s chance of swallowing air.

Moving On Besides giving your finger a cheeky nibble every now and then, those new teeth have popped up for a purpose - to kick-start your child’s weaning journey. After all, chomping through finger foods and crunchy nibble is infinitely easier with a set of parly whites.

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4 ways to calm colic...

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Formulated to give relief, Colief ’s Infant Drops, £11.99 (boots.com), help reduce the hours of crying that are associated with colic in babies.

Hot topic: Breast vs Bottle Both breast and bottle fed babies can get colic - so don’t feel tempted to switch from breastfeeding to bottle thinking it will cure it. Dr Brown’s Natural Flow Starter Kit BPA Free, £17.99 (cmsshop.co.uk), includes bottles that eliminate air bubbles in order to reduce colic symptoms. Cwtch - 8

Although newborn babies seem to spring from the womb toothless and as gummy as great-grandma, appearances can be deceptive. Your child formed a store of teeth buds when you were in the first trimester of pregnancy, which lie dormant waiting for the right time to pop out. Around the six-month mark, when babies start to cut their first tooth, many parents begin weaning them onto solid foods - an activity your baby’s new gnashers will come in handy for.

Your milestone mate

Sophie La Girafe teething ring (£8.99, sophielagirafe.co.uk) is a best friend for both teething babies and parents!

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Troubling time Teething can unfortunately be uncomfortable for your tot, and for you! If baby’s gums appear red and swollen, try gently massaging them with a clean finger, or giving baby a damp washcloth to chew on. Soothe any painful, inflamed areas with a chilled teething ring, or give baby cool foods like yoghurt or ice lollies made with fruit juice. If your baby seems really uncomfortable, a gentle anaesthetic gel or an infact pain reliever can help. Gels available include: * Bonjela Teething Gel - £2 (boots.com) * Calgel Babies Teething Gel £3.29 (tescos.com)

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Bump Art by Rebecca Watson

“I embody the ‘baby freak’ persona...”

Tanya Thomas is a photographer based in Cardiff Bay, specialising in newborn photography. Tanya covers Cardiff, Newport and the surrounding South Wales areas capturing the most precious early days of your baby’s life. She makes the moments that go by so fast, last forever. Chloe Scales discovers more about the photographer. Thank you for taking the time to meet with me today Tanya and discuss your beautiful photographs. I’m sure you’d rather be photographing some gorgeous new babies right now, so I really appreciate you sharing some of your little precious time with me. So Tanya, when did you start getting involved with photography? Tanya: Well I’ve always had a love for photography. For every birthday or Christmas, the first thing on my wish list would be the latest camera. Then after I had my first child, I wanted to have some professional photos done of him. I scoured the local area and struggled to find someone who was able to take the kind of images I really wanted. Anyway, I settled with a particular photographer, spent a lot of money on photographs that weren’t really my style and regretted it. Although don’t get me wrong, I love being able to look back at how tiny my son was in those pictures, they just weren’t the images I would have taken myself. I guess they say if you want something done right, do it yourself and that’s when I decided I would start taking professional photos of babies and children. What kind of style photos did you want to have taken of your son? Tanya: I wanted some classic shots of him looking absolutely gorgeous. I wanted photos of him sleeping in his little mosses basket and of him softly smiling with wind. I wanted to remember every little thing about him when he was first born, because those precious first moments go far too fast. Where did you get the inspiration for your individual and unique photos from? Tanya: A few years ago I grew to love an Australian born photographer called Features

Anne Geddes. She became well known for her stylised depictions of both children and pregnant women. Typically, her images would show babies dressed as fairies and fairytale creatures, flowers or small animals. She branded herself as ‘a baby freak.’ If you like, I embody the ‘baby freak’ persona and put my own little spin on it. Anne Geddes would often photograph babies in full costumes and outfits, whereas I like to photograph newborns naked with hints of different outfits. I like newborns to be naked so you can see all the little creases in their beautiful new skin and then I’ll add in different hair bands or hats. I’ll use a variety of backgrounds and blankets to get the desired effects. I use a variety of props that I’ve collected over the years just to add those final finishing touches. I’ve got an array of ornate beds, boxes and benches.

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Tree of Life Bump Art

Rebecca Watson is an artist. As a mother of two herself, she understands that pregnancy is a beautiful experience that should be captured in as many ways as possible, to allow the memories to live on. Rebecca helps make memories extra special by offering unique experiences including: bump painting and casts.

Did you have to do any photography courses before you could begin your local business? Tanya: I had already done several photography courses. I then set up my own website and Facebook page to start attracting mums in the local area who wanted the photos I couldn’t have. I uploaded photos of all the newborns I had photographed and still do. I’m constantly buying new props and trying out new ideas, so I like to keep my followers constantly updated.

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regnancy is a very special time for any expectant mother. Every pregnant women, reguardless of how painful your pregnancy may have been, wants to remember what being pregnant was like. Rebecca Watson says: “When I was pregnant with my children, the only way you could remember your pregnancy, was by having standard photos done. I wanted to offer pregnant women an alternative to your usual photoshoot. I wanted to be able to create something beautiful on a beautiful miracle, to last forever.” Bump Art is a wonderful way to celebrate your pregnancy and capture the once in a life time moment and be able to remember it forever. To make the experience even more special, your partner and children can also take part. They can be painted to compliment your pregnancy bump design.The experience takes place in the comfort of your own home. Rebecca: “I’ve been through pregnancy twice myself and I know that when your pregnant, the thought of having to drag yourself out is something that you don’t prioratise! The bump art experience takes about an hour or two of pampering in your house. I also know that pregnancy can be quite uncomfortable and comfort is my priority so plenty of toilet breaks and stretching of the legs is a must!” Although Rebecca has plenty of ideas and inspirations of

what to paint onto the many bumps she paints, she is open to suggestions from the mum to be. Rebecca: “I often give the mums I’m painting ideas for what they would like me to paint on their bump, but if mum has a specific idea that she would like, I try my upmost to accomodate her wishes. I mainly tend to paint images that are associated with fertility and that symbolise pregnancy. These could include the tree of life, for example, Other mothers just want something bright and colourful on their bellies! Some mums also like to have their bump painting themed with either a baby boy or a baby girl. Obviously this only works if you know what your expecting though.” Rebecca works in partnership with Alicia Roberts. Rebecca is the bump painter and Alica is the photographer. Together they offer pregnant women a beautiful maternity shoot, with an artistic difference. Alicia: “I have been taking professional photographs for a long time; primarily of babies, children and weddings. However, Rachel is a good friend of mine and when she started up her bump painting business, I knew I wanted to capture the beautiful paintings she was creating! Together and offer a different pregnancy experience. Packages start from £50. To enquire, phone: 07792940353. All photos in this feature taken by Alicia Roberts.

Your images really are beautiful. You do an amazing job of making a small moment last a lifetime. Thank you very much Tanya. To contact Tanya Thomas by phone: 02920343910/07971381934. Alternatively, you could visit her website: http:// www.TanyaThomasPhotography.com/ Facebook page is: http://www.facebook. com/tanya.thomasphotography All photos in this feature are taken by Tanya Thomas.

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Is it ever a good idea to watch programmes about giving birth, before actually giving birth?

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here is approximately one baby born every minute, across the UK. No new mother knows what to expect when it comes to delivery. You can read a million books and talk to all your family members about their personal experiences, but the truth of the matter is that no two births are the same. Having said this, with maternity wards across the UK feeling a surge of mothers coming in under the recent baby boom, it seems that it’s become popular to watch others. There is now a long list of various ‘birthing’ programs that mums to be can tune into before having their own baby, to see what all the fuss is about, but the most popular of these programs has to be ‘One Born Every Minute’. The show first aired in 2010. The program is shown on Channel 4 and is currently in its fourth series and is growing rapidly in popularity. ‘One Born Every Minute’ is a British observational documentary series which shows the day to day activity on a busy

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maternity ward in Leeds. The popularity of the show hasn’t stopped in the UK, the show has also made two series’ in America! The first series of the show also won a BAFTA for best factual series and it was nominated for the same category, the following year. There is no doubt that the controversial show has a large following of supporters, but recently the most loyal supporters have been rocked by the show and questioned whether it went too far. On Wednesday 27th March 2013, the show took the controversial decision to air an episode in which one of the baby’s born died six days later. This was the first time that the show had shown a baby’s ‘fight for life’ and then the loss of its life. The program showed the baby born, and then taken to special care to gain strength ready for his lifesaving operation. Baby Kaiden was born with congenital diaphragmatic hernia (CDH), which is an illness where there is an absence of a child’s diaphragm or a hole in the diaphragm. However, the baby’s parents were called to a meeting on day five with the neonatal senior staff members who informed the parents that their son had not gained enough strength to be operated on and that given that he hadn’t gained it yet, he probably wasn’t going to gain enough strength. The parents were distraught and it left the viewer feeling very anxious and upset. The following day the baby lost his fight. Since the airing of the episode thousands of people have shown support for the Scunthorpe couple Hayley Jackson and Pete Hesletine, who had named

their son Kaiden, as its meaning is fighter. During the episode, hundreds of people sent in messages of support to the couple. A Facebook page in memory of Kaiden gained a following of more than 50,000 people overnight, having had just 1,000 likes before the program was shown. The messages being left for the couple on ‘This is Scunthorpe’ were described as ‘overwhelming’ on Hayley’s Twitter page. Hayley Jackson said: “I was on Facebook and Twitter at the same time the show was on, looking at all of the messages during the adverts. I was getting messages constantly through people visiting Kaiden’s page. Lots of people with babies diagnosed with CDH were nervous before the show about opening up. It seems, already, as though more people are telling their stories now. Kaiden’s story has helped it become more of a subject that people discuss.” Hayley and Pete’s experiences with baby Kaiden, albeit touching, could be extremely distressing to an expectant mother. Most mums to be want to learn about what to expect when labour finally rears its ugly head, to prepare themselves for any outcome. They read book after book, lay awake Googling different things when they can’t sleep and ask as many people as humanly possible for their tales of woe. But does any mother really prepare herself for the potential outcome of a stillborn, or an ill baby? More to the point, would any mother actually want to prepare herself for the potential of a stillborn, or ill baby? We all just want to go through the monstrosity that is labour, knowing that our prize at the end is our healthy, happy baby. Cwtch - 12

Having said that, I’ll admit that I am a ‘One Born Every Minute’ fan, I tune in on a weekly basis and literally didn’t miss an episode whilst pregnant. Sometimes I would watch from behind a pillow, asking my partner to tell me when it was all over and begging to let me have a normal straight forward delivery. But I found it informative. I watched it knowing in the back of my mind that every labour is different, so to take each episode and story with a pinch of salt. After all, we all handle pain differently. But after watching each episode, I felt more informed and a little bit more ready for the arrival of my own bundle of joy.

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I’ll also admit that I did tune into Hayley and Pete’s episode of ‘One Born Every Minute’, knowing that it was going to be a distressing episode, knowing that the baby featured in the show would later die. I had the opportunity to turn the program off, but I didn’t. Again, I watched the episode with my hands covering my face for the most of it, but I couldn’t bring myself to turn off. I empathised with the parents, I felt sorry for them and wanted to know that they were coping in such a tragic situation. The whole episode I thanked my lucky stars that my baby was fine and kept asking myself: “What would I have been like in their

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The great debate! No:

I think that being able to watch birthing programmes such as ‘One Born Every Minute’ is a really good idea. You can watch different women expereince all the various forms of pain relief, labour, highs and lows. Rosemary Vavoulas, 52, St Athans. Photo: Rosemary Bird Features

situation?” But I guess that’s something you’ll never know, until your put in that situation, god forbid. So although these programs can’t necessarily tell you exactly what your labour will be like, it can prepare you for a variety of different outcomes. Some good, some bad, but all necessary to bare in the back of your mind.

I’m 26 weeks pregnant and couldn’t think of anything worse than to watch birthing programmes like ‘One Born Every Minute’! You can’t prepare yourself for labour, because you never know whats going to happen. Jessica Shawbrick, 21, Barry. Photo: Jessica Shawbrick

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“I couldn’t even carry my own baby properly...”

aving a premature baby isn’t something anyone plans for. In fact, most expectant mothers automatically assume that if anything, they will end up going two weeks over! But imagine being 29 weeks pregnant and knowing that your baby would be born within a matter of days, despite the best attempts made to prolong the pregnancy. Cwtch editor and fellow mother, Chloe Scales, shares her experiences. When I first found out I was pregnant, there was immediately a giant mix of emotions running through my blood stream. Initially I was scared and then almost instantaneously I was glowing and my smile had never been so big and bright before. I began to look forward to seeing my little one for the first time at my 12 week scan and hastily begin to count down the days. Then the day of my 12 week scan finally arrived. I had all the routine check-ups first, gave in a urine sample, to test for proteins, had my blood pressure checked, some blood taken and then I got what you’ve longed for; a seat in the ultrasound waiting room. My name was called and I got butterflies in my tummy. And then I saw it, that tiny little smudge that looked like barely anything, when in actuality it’ was a piece of my partner and I. A little baby that was happy and healthy and growing just like it should. The good news was like a massive relief has been Features

lifted off my shoulders. I said it out loud ‘everything’s fine’ and for the rest of that day I was on cloud nine. Before I knew the date of my 20 week scan had arrived. I woke up beaming, filled to the brim with excitement. I sat in the waiting room, again, ready to go through the usual tests, which all came back completely normal. I was then, once again, sat outside the ultrasound room, consuming as much water in 10 minutes as humanly possible. My name was called and I followed the nurse into the ultrasound room. And there was my baby, more than twice the size of the little smudge I had initially seen. The nurse begins to check all of the baby’s organs; she showed me my baby’s heart, brain, liver and kidneys. She then measured my baby’s head and belly circumference. She checked baby’s spine, for spinabifida and ensures you that everything is fine. Finally, she looked at my baby’s mouth, to check for hair lip and clef pallet, again everything was completely normal. She told me that I was having a little girl and my heart melted. I had told my partner all along that I was convinced our baby was a girl. My baby had passed the anomaly tests and I felt on top of the world. Everything was completely fine and in 20 weeks I assumed I would be able to meet your baby for the first time. I was half way there and it felt amazing.

Yarah a day old in the intensive care unit

After the all clear from my scans, I began to see my midwife every fortnight, like all pregnant women do. I went for my routine midwife appointment at 26 weeks and for the first time my midwife noted that my tummy wasn’t measuring correctly. Instead of measuring the normal 26cm, I was only measuring 24cm. In addition to this, I now had 1+ protein in my urine and my blood pressure was slightly raised. My midwife assured me that she wasn’t at all concerned about any of my abnormalities, but instead of seeing her in a fortnight, she arranged to see me the following week. I arrived at my doctor’s surgery ready to see my midwife and for the first time I was actually worried. I had absolutely no idea what would happen if my blood pressure was still raised. She called my name and my heart sank to the pit of my stomach, I just had this feeling that nothing would have altered. Sure enough, my tummy measurement still hadn’t caught up and my blood pressure had climbed slightly to 154/82. My midwife then informed me that it was policy to refer any expectant mother with a blood pressure reading of over 150 to the hospital. I felt petrified, but my partner held it together and shipped me off to the hospital to find out more. The midwife at the hospital set up a monitor to observe my baby’s movements and heart rate, which were both completely fine. I was the Cwtch - 14

problem. The midwives decided to keep me in overnight for observations and I just burst into tears. One day, both me and my baby were completely healthy and happy and then the next I found myself in hospital with an uncontrollable blood pressure. Throughout the night the nurses took my blood pressure every half an hour

and it still remained high. At 3am they called a doctor to see me and decided to start me on some beta blockers twice a day. These did the trick and in the afternoon, after some further observations I was allowed to go home. The doctor told me that I would now have to see my midwife once a week, as well as my consult once a week. Every time I saw my midwife or my consultant now I ended up out the hospital on the obstetegic assessment unit. I felt as if I might as well reserve a bed there permanently. Every time I was referred to the unit, my blood pressure was a little bit higher and I felt a little bit more useless. My tummy measurements still hasn’t normalised. As well as increasing my initial dosage of beta blockers to three times a day, instead of twice a day, the doctors also introduced a different beta blocker, which I was taking twice daily. They also sent me for a further scan to determine whether baby was as small as she felt. I was now 30 weeks pregnant. My scan showed that baby’s head was measuring in at 27 weeks, baby’s legs were 26 weeks and baby’s tummy was just 24 weeks. The doctor’s immediate Features

decision after this was to give me steroid injections, to develop my baby’s lungs, encouraging her to breath by herself if she had to be delivered early. At this point I felt like such a failure, I couldn’t even carry my own baby properly. I knew that the measurements weren’t good news. I knew that I was now on the maximum dosage of beta blockers. I knew that my baby’s movements had become increasingly fewer and softer. I knew that it was only a matter of time until someone decided to take further action. And yet despite this not a single midwife, or nurse, or doctor, or consultant had discussed having a premature baby with me. Petrified wasn’t even the word to describe how I felt. I had been in hospital now for two weeks straight, having my blood pressure taken every 20 minutes all day and all night. I had been giving in urine samples every two hours and been having blood taken every day. My arms were completely covered in bruises from the blood samples and my legs were completely covered in bruises from the steroid injections. I felt completely physically and mentally exhausted. I just wanted to go home; to be able to curl up in my own bed and sleep for a week. At 29 weeks plus five days, yet another

“Petrified wasn’t even the word to describe how I felt.” consultant came to see me. She then informed me that I now had 3+ proteins in my urine, which is the highest amount of protein I could have. She didn’t need to tell me this, by now I was able to test my own urine and had come to this conclusion all on my own. She then took my blood pressure and said nothing, just simply started to take it again. By now I also knew that an immediate repeat of blood pressure meant it was sky high. She shook her head said: “These beta blockers clearly aren’t working are they? Your blood pressure is 176/96.” She then informed me that she thought I had the onset of preeclampsia and said that the aim was to get me to 30 weeks and then deliver my baby. I literally died inside. 10 weeks early?! I tried my best to hold everything together but tears started pouring out of my eyes faster than I could control. She decided to give me an injection, which should have taken my blood pressure down immediately. And it did. For all of 20 minutes. Each day I would see a different

consultant that would have different ideas. None of these ideas worked and I started to become frustrated. At 31 weeks exactly, another preeclampsia symptom reared its ugly head in the form of an aggressive localised headache. Of all the symptoms I had, this one was by far the worst! The pain was so unbearable that I was literally rolling around my hospital bed. I complained to the consultant about my headache and all he told me was: “…be thankful it isn’t an internal bleed yet.” Brilliant. They came to take my blood pressure for the millionth time and it was 192/106. Enough was enough. They attempted to give me beta blockers directly into my veins, which they assured me would work. Fat chance. After several attempts of this method, the midwife decided that baby wasn’t moving enough, I was too distressed and it was time to deliver my baby. The room was suddenly filled with a sea of different medical staff, all distinguishable by the colour of their clothing. There were two auxiliary nurses, monitoring my temperature and blood pressure. Five midwives, looking through my notes. One senior midwife inserting a caffita. Three consultants, two of which were inserting cannulars and one describing what was happening. There was an anaesthetist and several other members of the theatre staff all trying to discuss the emergency caesarean section. This was impossible. When asked if I was ready, my response was: “Let’s do this.”

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The top 5 things they don’t tell you about birth...

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here are many ways that women prepare themselves for the delivery of their first child. Having never experienced this before, they turn to pregnancy books like ‘What to Expect When You’re Expecting’, they take child birth classes, or watch one of the many television shows about childbirth. The thing is, things like that give you a very

Yarah in her Daisy Duck tutu At 31 weeks plus 3 days, on the 27th November 2012 at 21:20pm, my baby was born. She was born inside the amniotic sack, which is apparently very lucky and pretty rare. She cried, by herself, which was something I longed to hear. She weighed in at just two pound seven ounces and was rushed off to neonatal care and there she stayed for eight weeks. The toughest eight weeks ever. I didn’t get to see her for a whole day after she was born, which tore my heart out. My baby was ripped out of me nine weeks earlier than expected and then she was taken to a room by herself, without me, her mummy. I didn’t want her to feel alone, I wanted her to have me by her side. And then when I did finally get to see my little girl, nothing could have prepared me for what I was about to see. Although I understood that my baby was small, I didn’t know what to expect visually. I was wheeled into a room of six incubators and didn’t even know which baby was mine! My partner showed me our little baby, our tiny little baby who was all covered in wires and tubes. She had no help breathing though, which was unusual for such a premature baby. My baby spent a week in the high dependency unit of the neonatal department, in which time she stopped all the initial medicine she was taking and was able to come out of her incubator and into a proper little cot. She was also able to come off the heart monitor, as she was controlling her breathing as well as her temperature. My baby was then moved to the nursery for the next seven weeks. She took her sweet time learning to feed by herself, but eventually she got there. My partner and I shed thousands of tears

“She was born inside the amniotic sack, which is apparently very lucky and pretty rare.”

Yarah in her Pooh Bear dress

Yarah in her spotty dress and hat

for her during these weeks, but then the feeling we had when we were finally able to bring her home was indescribable. She has now been home with us for five weeks and weighs six pound four ounces. Giving birth to a premature baby is a whirlwind of emotions. It’s something that is never discussed. Most mothers to be are told to expect their baby to be late, but never early. Any expectant mother can develop preeclampsia at any stage of their pregnancy and at different worsening degrees. It could be you.

What To Look For: * High blood pressure (hypertension). * Proteinuria (protein in the urine).

Signs in your Unborn Baby:

* Severe headaches.

* Around 5-10% of preterm births are of a direct result of preeclampsia.

* Vision problems, such as blurring or seeing flashing lights.

* Slow growth.

* Pain in the upper abdomen (just below the ribs).

* Slow blood supply through the placenta to the baby.

general idea about things that are possible and do not always paint the whole picture. Childbirth classes give you suggestions on comfort measures for early labour, show you different pieces of equipment that may be used in the hospital to monitor the baby, and usually give you a tour and discuss the admitting process. Television shows give you a picture of someone’s birth experience in 30-60 minutes from start to finish and edit out much of the ‘not for TV’ content. Yes, all of these methods contribute some valuable information, just remember no two pregnancies, labours or births are exactly alike. You can’t take the information from any of these sources to be gospel. Do not believe everything you see or hear! Here are a few things that they don’t tell you or that you probably will not see on TV.

* Vomiting.

* Baby can gradually be starved of oxygen and nutrients.

* Excessive weight gain due to fluid retention.

* Preeclampsia can also result in abruptio placentae, which is when the placenta seporates from the uterine wall.

* Feeling generally unwell. * Nose bleeds.

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We are trained since childhood that our ‘private parts’ are indeed that private. Unfortunately, it is not possible to keep things covered and private during childbirth. In many hospitals it is the nurse, whom you have just met that day, who checks your cervix and reports back to your doctor. During birth there will be a number of people in your delivery depending on the setting and circumstances of delivery. After birth, during the couple of days you stay in the hospital the nurses will have to evaluate your perineum and bleeding; even more stranger looking at your ‘private parts’. Not so private anymore... and there goes your modesty.

3. The poking, prodding and pain does not end with delivery. Once the baby is born, there is still the matter of the placenta. The placenta is the disposable organ that has enabled you to sustain your baby. Pitocin is often administered after birth to encourage the placenta to separate from you uterus. Your nurse, midwife or doctor may also do a “fundal massage” to help this separation to occur. Once the placenta comes out, any tears that you may have will need to be repaired. Evan after the delivery of the placenta, the nurse will need to evaluate your bleeding closely over the next hour. Every 15 minutes a ‘fundal massage’ will be performed to push out any blood clots that remain in your uterus and prevent excessive bleeding. I put this term in quotations because the word massage implies that this is a comfortable thing. In fact, a fundal massage is when the nurse, midwife or doctor firmly presses down on the top of your uterus. After everything that your body had just been through, this is a very uncomfortable thing albeit necessary.

2. Babies usually aren’t pretty when they are first born. At first glance babies are a pale, blue grey colour and have misshapen elongated heads. Sometimes their faces are swollen or bruised. They are often covered in blood, amniotic fluid, vernix and sometimes their own faeces. Some babies, particular if they are premature, are covered in fine hair called lanugo. Maternal instincts kick in and all women usually see is their beautiful baby. Dad’s sometimes take a little longer to come around. All of the things listed are temporary so no worries. Nurses will immediately begin to wipe away the blood, fluid and vernix from the baby in order to stimulate crying and help the baby keep warm. Within minutes of crying your baby will pink up; although it is normal for both the hands and feet to remain pale for some time after delivery. Swelling or bruising of the baby’s face and head will go down in a couple of days. In time the lanugo will fall off as well.

4. Early labor can go on for days. The First Phase of Labour is made up of three stages: Early Labour, Active Labour, and Transition. You are not considered to be in active labour unless you are 3-4 centimetres dilated with regular contractions resulting in cervical change. That being said, in some hospitals if you come to the hospital during this early stage of labour you are often sent back home. With suggestions to rest, bathe, eat lightly, try different positions, and use massage for comfort. This can be a painful and exhausting process, so it is important to be mentally prepared for it.

5. Labour hurts.

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1. You can’t get through childbirth with your modesty intact.

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Most women say ‘I can’t do it’ or ask for medication at some point during their labour; whether or not they actually need or get it, just depends how close to delivery they are when they are feeling this way. Also, everyone’s pain tolerance is different. You sometimes consider yourself to have a high pain tolerance, but you don’t really know until you have experienced labour. Typically, each baby gets easier. It isn’t really that the pain is less intense, but instead that the duration of the labour is less, making it more tolerable. Cwtch - 17


Swapping worldwide competitions, for staying at home drowning in sick. How would you feel if everything you’ve ever known was taken away from you? If the passion you’d had since the age of three was there one day and gone the next? Amy Moss does. Amy was a worldclass cheerleader, competing in competitions all over the world yearly. That was until she found out she was pregnant and that she couldn’t cheer anymore. Amy’s Cheerleading Group RSD competiting in Worlds 2012

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my Moss was a worldclass Cheerleader, constantly competing in multiple Cheerleading and Dance competitions. On a yearly basis she would compete firstly all across the UK in venues such as: London, Cardiff and Nottingham. Secondly, she would annually compete in the ultimate cheerleading and dance competition. This ultimate competition took place in none other than Disneyland Florida! In fact, it was whilst she was competing in ‘The Worlds’ Cheerleading competition in Florida that she found out she was pregnant, aged 19. As it is unsafe to cheer and stunt whilst pregnant, Amy had to give up the biggest passion in her life, the sport she had been doing since she was just three years old, to become a mother. Just like that Amy’s biggest passion, all that she knew and depended on was taken away from her and she could never have it back. The sport Amy had spent 16 years practising and perfecting was suddenly a thing of the past. Cheering and stunting is

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“I just didn’t want to compete, I needed to compete.” impossible whilst pregnant, so that’s a whole nine months minimum that Amy had to give up her obsession. Amy Moss: “Cheerleading is something I know I’ll never be able to get back into now. It might sound like I haven’t missed too much, but even a week off from Cheer is detrimental, let alone several months off. I had to stop cheering as soon as I knew I was definitely pregnant.” “I had a sneaky suspicion that I was pregnant before I went to the World’s championships in America, but it was something I pushed to the back of my mind. My period was late, but then again it had been late before. I had spent the whole year training for this competition and I didn’t just want to compete, I needed to compete. I acted as if everything was fine, I told myself, even convinced myself that everything was fine. But as each day went by and I was still being

sick, I just knew I was pregnant. I still took part in the competition, it was my last and I’ll remember the feeling of competing it forever.” As Amy was a valued member of her team, her coaches asked her if instead of leaving the cheerleading team completely, if she would like to become a coach for the team. She had already done her coaching training and had passed with flying colours, so there was nothing stopping her but childcare. Amy’s parents knew how much stopping cheerleading broke her heart, so when she told her parents about the opportunity, they immediately offered to look after her son, Callum, whilst she coached. Luckily for Amy, coaching was on Sunday’s, which both her parents didn’t work, and Monday evening’s, again which both her parents didn’t work. Amy’s ‘maternity leave’ from cheerleading was a pain, she couldn’t wait to get back into it, even though she was only off for a month. As soon as she was mobile again after giving birth to her son, she was straight back into training, getting herself back into shape and

Amy and her son Callum

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ready to train up her future little champions. “The way I look at it now is I’m able to pass on all the knowledge I have learnt and put into practise over the years to the younger and future cheerleaders. I have all my own little tricks at how to remember the different dance routines and my own ways of stretching and being able to stunt properly and safely. I can calm the little ones before they compete really well, because I’ve been there myself and know exactly how terrifying it feels. Until all those flashing lights are on you and the music starts to play; from that moment you’re in the zone. You know what you have to do and exactly how to do it. And trust me you do it, because no feeling compares to when you get to hold that trophy and know that you’re a winner. I may miss that feeling, but it certainly is a feeling I will never forget.” Although Amy misses cheerleading and dancing with her team mates at RSD – a world of cheer and dance in Cardiff, she does appreciate that she still has

“If something doesn’t sparkle, it isn’t worth having.” the opportunity to be involved in all things cheer related. She is still stuck in her cheerleading ways... “There are certain rules of cheerleading that become your life and dictate the way you live your life. Firstly, pink, pink, pink; everything has to be pink because pink is a cheerleaders best friend and best colour. Secondly, sparkles, if something doesn’t sparkle, it isn’t worth having. We learn from a young age to cover all our costumes in as many diamantes as possible. The more your clothes sparkle, the more you shine. Thirdly and finally, all cheerleaders love bows, we make our own bows and put bows on everything. I have one on my car mirror! All these little things may seem ridiculous to you, but to a cheerleader they are everything and they allow me to still feel like a cheerleader at heart.”

“All cheerleaders love bows”

Cheerleading used to be the centre of Amy’s world; everything she did was cheer. Eat, Sleep, Cheer – in that order. But then Amy’s little surprise came along and took up an even bigger space in her heart; her little boy Callum, and she wouldn’t change him for the world. “Having Callum may have meant that I had to stop cheering and competing, but I wouldn’t change that. I’m just gutted that his father is adamant that there is no way he will be allowed to cheer. According to his father he has to take up a real sport, like football. Clearly his father doesn’t understand how hard it is to be a cheerleader! Really, even though I can’t compete professionally anymore, I can still cheer whilst I’m coaching and I still get to train with all of the other girls two. Just now I have the best of both worlds, my passion for cheer and my beautiful baby boy, I couldn’t be happier.” All photos in this feature by Amy Moss.

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The 50 Shades of Grey Effect

Why talk when you can use sign language? It has often been said that babies and young children have a mind like a spounge. This meaning that children are able to learn new skills and pick up different languages easier and at a faster pace than adults. Baby Sign language classes create an opportunity to take advantage of a childs adapatable mind and teach them a skill that will be useful throughout the entirety of their lives. Tinytalk helps children do just that...

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inytalk is a baby sign language class run across the UK and more importantly, within our local area! The classes create a whole new world for your little one to learn and develop in. The local classes are run weekly and held in the following locations: Penarth, Rhoose, St Athans, Sully, Dinis Powys and Barry. Classes cost £5 per family. Baby sign language allows your baby to express itself in an alternative form to the spoken word. Baby’s find it easier to communicate with actions so baby sign language is an ideal opportunity for parents to interact with their children, before they are able to actually speak. Baby signing classes are an excellent way to:learn baby signing skills, to learn the forgotten words to songs from your own

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Many midwives are blaming the popularity of the ‘Fifty Shades of Grey’ trilogy for the baby boom they are currently witnessing. However, it looks as though the book isn’t just to blame for the baby boom, it’s also having an impact on baby names.

A childhood as well as a fun way for you and baby to socialise with other parents and children. Alica Robets, Tinytalk tutor in the Vale of Glamorgan: “Tinytalk sign language classes are a brilliant way for you to interact with your young children in a relaxing environment, whilst teaching them a new and exciting skill. Both of my children use sign language now on a daily basis.” If you are interested in attending your local Tinytalk sign class. please contact Alicia Roberts for more information and booking. Spaces on the classes fill up very quickly, so it is vital to book your place to avoid disppointment. Also if you can’t make it to any of the local classes then contact Alica and tell her when and where you could attend a class. If there is enough interest she maybe able to organise a new class which is more convienient for you. Alicia Roberts: “You don’t have to decide that baby sign language classes are right for your child right now. If you think that the classes may be right for your family, we invite you to come along and try one out. This allows you to test drive what we have to offer, without booking a block of classes. If you would like to know some more information about any of our classes, please don’t hesitate to contact me for more details.” To contact Alica, phone her on: 07906675762. Alternatively, you can follow her on Twitter: @ValeTinyTalk. You could also email Alica via: aliciar@tinytalk.co.uk. All photos in this feature by Alicia Roberts.

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lthough Aiden and Sophia may still hold the crown for ‘the world’s most popular baby names,’ but as well as characters from the ‘Fifty Shades of Grey,’ and ‘Mad Men’ apple products are also all popular baby names. But several trending names made headway this year, including the ‘Fifty Shades of Grey’ inspired Anastasia, placing at number 75. Ana has also moved up 35 spots, to number 34. The name Grey has risen significantly. Christian, however, actually declined in popularity. BabyCenter’s global editor in chief, Linda Murray, said: “Earlier this year we heard moms telling us... ‘this book is an aphrodisiac,’ and it’s helping them get pregnant. So it was not a surprise to see these names coming up the list. I’m wondering how the moms are going to explain the inspiration for these names in a few years.” However, the biggest gain in the top 100 was the name Betty. The name is now placed at number 1013 this year thanks to Betty Draper’s character on Mad Men, coupled with a growing trend in old-fashioned names. But BabyCenter also pointed out that technology has had a big effect on baby names this year, mainly due to the iPhone. Apple, the name of Gwyneth Paltrow’s daughter, has risen to number 2730. Whilst Mac has also become increasingly popular at number 699. Siri, the name of Apple’s talking personal assistant, jumped up on the girls list to number 1528. Murray explained: “This was a surprise to us this year.

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We hadn’t seen Apple rise when Gwyneth Paltrow named her daughter, but people love their technology.” The top 100 name list is based on the names of 450,000 babies born this year to mothers worldwide registered with the BabyCenter website. The UK has also had a strong influence, with young royal names up in popularity. Harry is up to number 122 from the 2011 list, and Princess Kate’s sister, Pippa, increased to number 911. Ms Murray said: “People love Harry and Pippa. They’re less in the spotlight than Will and Kate.”

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2012 Top Baby Boy Names

2012 Top Baby Girls Names

1.Aiden 2. Jackson 3. Ethan 4. Liam 5. Mason 6. Noah 7. Lucas 8. Jacob 9. Jayden 10. Jack 11. Daniel 12. Joshua 13. Max 14. Noah 15. Alfie 16. Samuel 17. Dylan 18. Oscar 19. Isaac 20. Riley

1. Sophia 2. Emma 3. Olivia 4. Isabella 5. Ava 6. Lily 7. Zoe 8. Chloe 9. Mia 10. Madison 11. Amelia 12. Isla 13. Charlotte 14. Grace 15. Evie 16. Poppy 17. Lucy 18. Ella 19. Holly 20. Emma

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14 and pregnant. What to do next?

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oanne White became a mother, when she was just a child herself. Becoming a teenage mother wasn’t a conscious decision that she made. It wasn’t what she wanted to become, it wasn’t what her parents wanted for her either and it definitely wasn’t what society had in mind as the perfect outcome. Joanne wasn’t particularly society’s stereotype of a young mum. Joanne was predicted A*’s in her upcoming GCSE’s. Joanne was even brought up in a Catholic family environment, yet she ended up having children early on in their life. The Catholic belief is ‘no sex before marriage’ so when Joanne’s parents found out she was pregnant, they were mortified. They had dreamt of Joanne leaving school with a good set of qualifications, like her older sister. That dream was a distant memory now. It was time for Joanne to wake up and become a mother, even though she was barely a teenager. “I never planned to fall pregnant at the age I did. Life hasn’t been easy since I took that pregnancy test and had to grow up. I’ve had to mature fast, for my daughters’ sake. When I told my daughter’s dad that I was pregnant, he immediately decided that being involved in her life was something he couldn’t do. I was adamant that I didn’t want to have a termination so I quickly realised that it was going to be just me and my little girl.” Since falling pregnant at 14, Joanne has been a single parent. She has struggled to try and gain qualifications in the hope of one day being able to provide more for her daughter. The young mother, now 21 years old, was

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put into a scheme run by Flying Start in Barry called Partnership for Young Parents (PYP). The scheme allows young mothers to attend a ‘college’ specifically designed to help them to stay in education. The girls are taught: English, Maths and Computing. Joanne attended the scheme for two years. “The PYP scheme helped me gain some qualifications to help me get a job, but it’s just impossible to find an employer that allows me to work around Ruby’s schooling. I’ve only had two jobs and I’ve had to leave both because they weren’t flexible. I definitely didn’t choose to have a baby over a career, but that decision just happened and I can’t change that now.” “I was able to get a place at Barry College, through the PYP scheme who

“Life hasn’t been easy since I took that pregnancy test and had to grow up...” arranged for my daughter to be put into the college crèche. I completed two courses; one in legal sectarianism and one in medical sectarianism. After completing these further courses I tried for a long time to get a job where the employers understood about my daughters schooling. Just this year I managed to get a job as a sectary in my local police station. The station is a five minute walk from my house and a 15 minute walk from my daughter’s school; its perfect and I’ve been very lucky. Although, it did take me three years to get this job after qualifying!” In 2009, according to research by the National Office for Statistics (ONS), was a total of 38,259 conceptions to women aged 18 and under in England and Wales.

This is where the PYP project that Joanne attended comes in. Ceri Dunkley, supervisor of the PYP project says: “At the moment we have 19 young mothers on our books, but we are only able to take 17. This is because our crèche can only hold a maximum of 17 babies. We are looking to relocate the project to a bigger building, so that we can take on more young mothers and their babies. This however is easier said than done. We need to get the funding first to be able to even start looking for another building, but we are hopeful of moving within the next year. We have too many young mothers on our books, wanting to learn and gain an education to not move. We want to take on every young mother who wants to learn and we can only do this with a bigger building to educate them in. It’s almost heartbreaking turning the young mothers away at the moment, when they are so eager to better themselves for their children’s sake.” “In my opinion, teenage pregnancies are on the rise. In 2010 we only had 10 young mothers at the project, this number had almost doubled by 2011, in 2012 we still saw yet more young mothers wanting spaces and who knows what the figures will be like for 2013! It is also worth noting that we are being referred more and more young mothers under the age of 16. When we initially set up the PYP project, it was aimed at ‘young mothers’ of around 20 and yet over the years, we have had to dramatically lower the age of the ‘young mothers’ that we take on. Stereotypically, the younger the mother, the more they need our help.” All photos in this feature by Joanne White.

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Johnsons Skin Perfecting Oil RRP: £15 Rated: 4 out of 5

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This cream was our readers favourite as not only did it help with the delay and appearance of stretch marks, it also gave the user a really nice moisturised feel. The smell of this cream is lovely, too. This cream has a really thick consistency which sits on your skin and slowly soaks in, leaving your skin feeling velvety soft. The results of this cream may not appear as fast as others, but it does the trick over a period of time,! For the price this cream is really good value for money and a must have for pregnant women.

This oil based lotion left your skin feeling subtle, smooth and really gorgeous. It did make our readers stretch marks look considerably better, but they also found it a little bit pricey to use throughout the course of pregnancy. The oil doesn’t last as long as the cream, so you end up buying it more often, which can be a pain. If you want a fast acting stretch mark cream that delivers instantly noticable results, for a higher price, then this is the cream for you.

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The Second Runner Up Mothercare Bump and Beyond Stretch Mark Cream RRP: £5 Rated: 3 out of 5

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Although this cream had a really lovely floral fragrance to it, the cream was much more of a lotion and was really thin. With a stretch mark cream, you want it to sit on your skin and soak in for the next couple of hours, whereas this cream was gone within minutes which left our mums wondering whether it had actually done anything at all! This cream would be good if you want to put it on in the morning or during the day under clothes, but as a good overnight worker, it doesn’t live up to its competitors.

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* Biotherm Biovergetures Stretch Mark Cream: £23 * Derma Mum Superior Stretch Mark Cream: £8 * Provenance Scar and Stretch Mark Cream: £13 * Sebamed Anti Stretch Mark Cream: £8 * Bloom and Blossom Anti Stretch Mark Cream: £24 * Thalgo Stretch Mark Cream: £26 * Mama Mio Tummy Rub Stretch Mark Butter: £21 Cwtch - 23


5 things to do when you cant... SLEEP!

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Try a Sleep Inducing Snack Comfort food isn’t always bad. There are some snacks that might actually be helpful in promoting sleep. The warm milk or turkey can do the trick. The key when pregnant is to not overdo it and wind up giving yourself heartburn which keeps you awake.

Get Up When all else fails, don’t lay in bed. Get up, do something, even if it’s just changing locations. Set a time limit of 30 or 60 minutes that you’ll stay in bed trying to fall asleep or back to sleep. Fighting it can only be more frustrating. And sometimes you can be very productive in the middle of the night alone. Some say that this helps you prepare for the sleepless nights in parenting ahead.

Warm Water A bath or shower can not only relax you and soothe soreness that accompanies pregnancy, but it can also help you prepare for sleep. This works before bedtime as well as in the middle of the night. For a double dose, trying reading in the tub to help clear your mind.

Reading Reading, doing small craft projects or even a tiny bit of mindless television can help you shut down your brain. In pregnancy you may feel like your mind is racing with all you need to do and think about. By giving yourself a chance to shut it off you can help prepare yourself for sleep. Avoid reading tense novels, mysteries or scary books if that upsets you in anyway. I also do not recommend pregnancy books for this time period, though baby name books seem to do well.

Go To Sleep Drowsy Sometimes the issue is that you are going to bed wound up and not able to sleep because you are not physically or mentally ready to sleep. By entering your bed, only when truly ready to sleep, you increase the likelihood of actually succeeding. To help with this avoid caffeine after early afternoon, don’t exercise vigorously past late afternoon, and don’t have heavy discussion before bed or in bed. Doing relaxation alone or with your partner can be helpful. Health and Wellbeing

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