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THE REAL Coaches’ Wives of

SOUTH CAROLINA Meet Kay Higgins, Jerri Spurrier, and Kathleen Swinney



Meet Cancer Survivor


ONE on ONE with

Dr. Botelho


In this Issue




EDITOR-IN-CHIEF Lori Samples Duncan loriduncan86@gmail.com

MEDIA REPRESENTATIVE Lauri Truesdale info@woman2womanonline.com

CONTRIBUTING WRITERS Melissa Birdsong Ruth Chapman Lori Samples Duncan Mandy Rivers Elaine Samples Rebecca Wallace-Kazimir

From the Editor

9 In the Spotlight

2 Welcome!



10 Meet the Chamber

3 What’s Happening in Charleston?

COVER PHOTO Tammy Bevins Photography

DESIGN Melissa W. Morris


Let’s Talk

4 5 6 8

You’re Smoking What? A Favorite Holiday Dessert Where Will You Go from Here? A One on One with Valerie Burton Do You Know What the “F” Word Means?

Clark Berry Photography MCG Photography Tammy Bevins Photography Kathy Stonaker

22 Find us on facebook!

Charleston Woman Magazine Woman 2 Woman Publishing (803) 785-4475 711 East Main Street, Suite A-2 Lexington, SC 29072

Every effort has been made to ensure the accuracy of this publication. However, the publisher cannot assume responsibility for errors or omissions. No part of this book may be reproduced in any manner whatsoever without written permission. © 2011

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12 Toni Bunch: Breast Cancer Survivor 14 Meet Jodi Barteet of Trident Medical’s Women’s Imaging

Health & Wellness

16 18 20

One on One with Dr. Tina Botelho Caring for the Woman In You Palmetto Primary Care Physicians gains national recognition for providing quality Diabetes Care

The Coach’s Wife

22 Kay Higgins 24 Jerri Spurrier 26 Kathleen Swinney

Personal Note

29 Legacy of Love

Business & Web Directory

30 Contact our advertisers



e are so excited about our premiere issue of Charleston Woman Magazine! Working in this community is my distinct pleasure. Woman 2 Woman Publishing is so excited to be starting this venture with you, the reader. I happen to feel this is a lovely community to live in and raise a family in. Some of you are doing that as well and some of you are now focusing on grandchildren. We hope to bring you excellence in every issue of Charleston Woman Magazine. That is our goal. We believe that through sharing good information with each other, we can make a difference in our homes, our communities and in the lives of those we love! Thank you for being a part of that.

Happy Holidays!

Every advertiser within the pages of Charleston Woman has made a commitment to you, the Charleston woman, to provide you with quality services and products. We want you to know that these are businesses that we would refer our friends, neighbors and families to. Tell them you heard about them in Charleston Woman Magazine — it is through their support of our informative content that we are able to bring you this high quality publication at absolutely no cost to you! They have invested in you, invest in them! This magazine is not possible without you, our reader. Feel free to email me what you like, what you don’t like and what you want to see more of. Or, if you know a great story or a great person in the community who is worth telling others about, feel free to let us know. Our survivor section is dedicated to the men and women who have fought valiantly against a life threatening illness and managed to keep their chin up and maintained a positive attitude. Being a survivor doesn’t mean you live to be a hundred years old. Being a survivor means that every day after diagnosis, you get up, put your feet on the floor and a smile on your face and FIGHT, FIGHT, FIGHT! We are striving for excellence, in everything we do, and we hope to leave you with that impression. We know this issue of Charleston Woman isn’t out for just December; however, Woman 2 Woman is all about living with an attitude of gratitude. Enjoy this issue! Your friend,

Lori Samples Duncan Editor-in-Chief

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Colossians 3:23-24 Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters, 24 since you know that you will receive an inheritance from the Lord as a reward.


What’s Holiday Festival of Lights November 10 – January 1, James Island County Park

Let the spirit of the season embrace you as James Island County Park comes alive with illumination at Charleston’s most beloved nighttime event – the Holiday Festival of Lights! The festival is a great place to gather family and friends to capture the magic of the holiday season. Learn more at the website below. www.holidayfestivaloflights.com

Low Country Singing Christmas Tree Dec 9 at 7:30 p.m., Dec 10 at 3 p.m., Dec 11 at 3 p.m., Dec 12 at 7:30 p.m., Summerville Baptist Church

The LCSCT features a 90 voice choir singing in a 35 foot tree, along with a spectacular cast presenting a Biblical drama. The corresponding modern story will add to your experience as you see how Christ still makes a difference in peoples’ lives today. You will be blessed and inspired as you hear the music, see the drama and experience the true meaning of Christmas. Purchase tickets online or call (843) 873-2440. www.summervillebaptist.org/lcsct

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Happening in Charleston?

The Nutcracker Ballet Dec 10 &11, The Gaillard Auditorium, Dec 16 & 17, The North Charleston Performing Arts Theatre

The Charleston-themed Nutcracker has been a holiday classic for over three decades and has been expanded to performances at both Gaillard Auditorium and at the N. Chas. Performing Art Center. Charleston Ballet Theatre’s Nutcracker, set in the Lowcountry of the 1860’s features familiar Charleston names and landmarks, making this holiday classic a truly unique Charleston Christmas time experience. Tickets are $25-$45 (military and student discount $10 off at box office or walk up only). Buy tickets online or call (843) 723-7334. www.charlestonballet.com

Charleston Sleigh Ride Dec 15 & 16 at 5 p.m., Dec 17 – 31, excluding Christmas, 3:30 p.m. and 5 p.m., Charleston Harbor

In the month of December, THRILLER will slow down to a more leisurely holiday excursion perfect for couples and families looking to spend some time together. The 1 hour tour travels around the harbor. Reserve your tickets at the website below or call (843) 276-4203 to make reservations. The Sleigh Ride departs from 1313 Shrimp Boat Lane,


Mount Pleasant at the dock in front of Vickery’s Bar & Grill. www.thrillercharleston.com


Things we about Charleston

Live Manger Scene Dec 22 & 23, 5:30 – 7:15 p.m., Dec. 24, after the 6 p.m. Christmas Eve Service, Bethany United Methodist Church, James Island

Perfectly Frank’s

Every year during the Christmas season, this local James Island Church presents a live manger scene. Take your family and view the live manger scene – you may stop and walk up to the scene or simply drive slowly by to view. Be sure to join them for the 6 p.m. Christmas Eve Service, presented by Pastor Colin.

Located at 118 N Main Street in Summerville, they serve the “Aretha Franklin” an eclectic flavor assortment. We tried more than one kind but the “Aretha” deserves a little RESPECT. Try a side of sweet potato fries!

Happy New Years Charleston Dec 31, 4 – 10:30 p.m., Marion Square and surrounding locations

This community celebration offers a nonalcoholic and family-oriented alternative program to celebrate the New Year in Charleston. This city wide, admissionfree program has something wonderful for everyone: comedy, African dancing, many forms of music including classical, gospel and jazz, children’s activities and so much more. Call (843) 724-7305 for more information.

Blossom Shop Florist

Fruit Baskets Plants Dishgardens Balloons Stuffed Animals Chocolates Candles Delivering to: Summerville • Goose Creek N Charleston Ladson • Ridgeville





Located Downtown Summervile: 318 N Cedar Street



Smoked Beef Brisket

You’re Smoking


by Mandy Rivers


’m a South Carolina girl. Among many, many other things, that means I have a few born-and-bred ideas about barbeque. For starters, it means I spell it with a “q”. It also means my barbeque sauce is mustard based. And it means pork shoulders and butts. I do own a television so I am aware that somewhere around the Mississippi River, barbeque can also mean beef brisket. The only exposure I’ve ever had with beef brisket has been in the bigger barbeque restaurants around town. My experience has been that the meat is almost always overcooked and usually drowning in barbeque sauce. Errr… no thanks. I was a little less than enthusiastic when my dad informed me that we were going to have brisket for Sunday dinner. He said my cousin had smoked one and everyone raved about it so he wanted to try it out. Dad found out the particulars of how my cousin cooked his brisket (technique, seasoning, etc.) and set out to duplicate it. No need to try and reinvent the wheel before you know how to roll one, right? Dad applied a liberal amount of the rub on the brisket then smoked it (fat side up) for about 12 hours using a standard charcoal smoker with charcoal, hickory chips and apple juice. Most home-use smokers slow cook the meat by way of heat (charcoal), smoke (hickory chips) and steam (apple juice). He let it rest about an hour, thinly sliced it and served it up (sans sauce). It. Was. Amazing. The meat was moist, tender and

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flavored perfectly. The combination of marbling, cooking method and seasoning was simply perfect. I’m of the mind that if you have to put barbeque sauce on meat to eat it, then you’ve already failed. Sauce should serve as an accent – not as a means to return moisture to dry, overcooked meat or as a means to provide flavor to something that was under seasoned to begin with. We used Smokin’ Coles BBQ Dry Rub and I could not have been more pleased. It was a perfect compliment to the brisket. The spices offered the right amount of heat and flavor while providing a subtle earthiness, then finished with just the right amount of sweetness. You can buy the rub on their website at: www.smokincolessauce.com If you are reading this and you love barbeque, you’re already making mental notes of the comments you could send wherein you inform me about everything I don’t know about barbeque. And you might be right. I’m no barbeque expert. What I am is a food writer who ate some wicked good brisket this weekend and has a new appreciation and respect for it. Women

• ¾ cup Smokin’ Cole’s BBQ Dry Rub (approximately) • 1 5-8 pound beef brisket • 4 cups hardwood chips (oak, hickory or mesquite) • 1 bag charcoal • 1 quart apple juice • Water as needed Pat the dry rub onto the brisket thoroughly (use more or less depending on the size of your brisket to ensure the meat is generously coated) and wrap tightly in plastic wrap. Allow the meat to marinate, refrigerated, at least 6 hours or overnight. Soak wood chips in a large bowl of water for 1 to 2 hours. Drain water and set aside. Remove the meat from the refrigerator and let come to room temperature. Prepare a charcoal smoker* with charcoal and wood chips according to the manufacturer’s instructions. Place the water pan in the smoker and add apple juice to the fill line (use additional water as need to reach the fill line). Place the unwrapped brisket – fat side up – on the upper rack of the smoker, close the lid and cook, regularly stoking the fire and adding additional wood chips, until an instant-read thermometer registers an internal temperature of 140 to 145 degrees (cooking time can vary from 5 to 12 hours depending on smoker and size of brisket – be sure to follow the manufacturer’s instructions for your smoker). Remove the brisket from the smoker. Cover tightly with aluminum foil and let rest for 3545 minutes before serving. Carve against the grain into thin slices. Serve with barbeque sauce on the side if desired. *A gas or electric smoker can be used as well. Omit the charcoal and follow the manufacturer’s instructions.

View more of Mandy’s recipes online at www.mandyrivers.com


Holiday DESSERT by Melissa Birdsong

Pumpkin Cream Cheesecake lngredients for the Crust: • 1½ cups graham crackers • ¼ cup gingersnap cookies • 2 tbsp. butter, melted

lngredients for the Filling: • 5 (8 ounce) packages cream cheese, softened • 1¾ cups sugar • 3 tablespoons all-purpose flour • 6 eggs • 1 tablespoon vanilla extract • 2 tablespoons apple pie spice (Yes, APPLE pie spice) • 1 can (15 ounces) pumpkin

Garnish: Icing of your choice, praline pecans or marshmallows are all excellent choices for this cake. You can also decorate with baked, spiced pumpkin seeds.

Directions: Preheat oven to 500 degrees F. Combine graham crackers, gingersnaps and butter in a medium bowl. Press into the bottom and 1-inch up the side of a 10-inch nonstick springform pan. Set aside. Beat cream cheese and sugar until smooth. Add flour. Slowly add eggs, one at a time. Add vanilla. Add pumpkin pie spice and pumpkin. Blend until smooth.

photography by Clark Berry Photography

Place a pan filled with water on the lower rack of your oven. Bake cheesecake at 500 degrees F for 10 minutes then reduce temperature to 200 degrees F and bake for 1 hour, 30 minutes. Run a knife around top of cake to loosen from pan. Open oven door (with oven off) to allow cake to cool gradually for 20 to 30 minutes. Remove from oven and continue to cool on a rack for one hour. Place in the refrigerator overnight.


Where will you go from here?



Certified Personal and Executive Coach who has served hundreds of clients in over 40 states and eight countries, Valorie Burton is founder of The Coaching and Positive Psychology (CAPP) Institute – a training and leadership development company. She is a published author who is deeply committed to helping people be more resilient so they can thrive in life and work. Her newest book, Where Will You Go From Here?, helps readers move forward when life doesn’t go as planned. We had the chance to sit down with Valorie and discuss her latest book, and I hope you will enjoy her unique insight as much as we did!

Charleston Woman: Valorie, your message is that of empowerment. Where do you draw the strength to motivate others? Valorie Burton: I learned my mission after I’d prayed about it for a couple of years. I felt like God spoke to me one day in my spirit that I was supposed to inspire women to live more fulfilling lives and I would do it through writing and speaking. That’s really why I do what I do. And I know that it is God who gives me the strength. At times, when you get tired, I really feel like my work inspired. I can’t attribute it to anything other than God, really. CW: What single attribute of yours would you say has contributed most to the success you’ve had? Valorie: Besides the fact that I know it’s my purpose, I’ve been able to persevere. It hasn’t always come

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easily to get book deals and to have a business for almost eleven years writing and speaking — that’s not a typical way to earn a living. Perseverance is key to anything just because if you give up too soon, you never know what could have been. One of the things that keeps me going is I get a lot of communication from people who have read something I’ve written or heard me speak and just knowing that they did something positive in their life, made a change, overcame a fear, or went after a dream because of something I said, motivates and inspires me. CW: At Charleston Woman, we are always excited when we hear about women inspiring other women. Can you tell



Let’s Talk us about women who inspire you? Valorie: My mother has inspired me most. In addition to being a good, loving person who always does things for others without seeking glory or recognition, she is the most determined woman that I know, having suffered a brain aneurysm and bounced back. By all medical accounts, she should have died, but her faith continues to inspire me. And she’s just always been a good mom. She’s the one who taught me how to write when I was three years old, and how to read. I have loved books since I have had a memory and I attribute that to my mom.

get out of the ditch. You can forge a new path if you need to, or you can find your way back onto the old path. CW: You offer five commitments to help when bouncing back from a setback: 1) I will not feel sorry for myself. 2) I will not stare at a closed door. 3) I will dig deep to unearth the courage I need. 4) I will direct my thoughts. My thoughts will not direct me. 5) I will choose to believe that all things work together for good. I really like, “I will direct my thoughts. My thoughts will not direct me.” I once heard Bishop T.D. Jakes say, “What you think about, you will become.” Can you tell us about how we can direct our thought life to be more healthy? Valorie: It’s about building self-awareness and that starts with noticing what you are saying to yourself, particularly when you deal with a challenge. One of the best things you can do is to identify the self-sabotaging, counterproductive thoughts that are most common for you and develop the thoughts you want to replace those with so that when those common thoughts come to you, you already know what you are going to say. Decide to be very intentional about being more positive.

Perseverance is key to anything just because if you give up too soon, you never know what could have been. I also feel blessed to have a mom that knows part of her purpose was being a mother, and although I haven’t been a kid for twenty years, she is still as dedicated to me now as ever, though in an adult way. CW: Tell us about the idea for your latest book, Where Will you go From Here? Valorie: This is a book that’s for people who — you’ve been walking along your path and feel like you got sideswiped into a ditch. So, it might be that you ended up divorced, that you received an unexpected health diagnosis, lost your job, lost your home, or had a financial setback. We all have those ditches that we land in, and the book is about how you bounce back from the setbacks and the unexpected turns in life — because you don’t have to stay in the ditch. It knocks you out and you might wake up and see stars. Though you can’t get up and run yet, you can

CW: I especially like what you said about having the choice to become better or bitter. When my father died, my sister decided that she could use the most tragic thing in her life and become depressed or she could use the tragedy to make her better. Woman 2 Woman Publishing was born out of that very concept. Any advice on putting that instruction into action? Valorie: There is something that researchers call Post Traumatic Growth. We can actually grow as a result of our trials, and not just

have to go through them. Ask yourself, “How will I be better because of this?” After my divorce, I made a decision that I will be a wiser woman. When my instincts tell me something, I will pay attention. I think a lot of times we have to say, “How will I be better?” Whether you are more grateful, you learn to enjoy your family more, or you were forced to slow down, there are a lot of good things that can come from a bad situation. When the bitterness comes up, I think if you are angry, you have to acknowledge it and find a constructive way to get through your anger. But bitterness and negative emotions damage your immune system. They are not good for your health or life expectancy, so if you want to live a long, happy life, you can’t do it bitter. CW: Anything else you would like to share regarding resilience and bouncing back after serious setbacks? Valorie: I think that it is really critical to put things into perspective by talking to other people, reading other people’s stories and not isolating yourself. It’s the reason that I shared so many other people’s stories in the book. I thought I’d really gone through something and then I interview these people and many of them are people I knew, but I had no idea what they had gone through and bounced back from. One of the most important things you can do to be resilient is to be aware of other people who’ve gotten through things at least as diffi-

cult, if not more difficult than what you’ve gone though and it will give you help and perspective. CW: Do you have a special holiday memory you can share with our readers? Valorie: My first Christmas in Dallas, I was pitiful because my family wasn’t there and I wasn’t dating anyone, but I went with a girlfriend and her fiancé to feed the homeless and give away Christmas gifts. I am telling you that is one of the best Christmases I ever had. It helped my perspective because all of these adults had ridden a bus to an empty theater to get a couple of gifts they might be able to give to their children, and… what was I complaining about? They were just so grateful and the experience was wonderful. So, one of the best things you can do during the holidays is find somebody to bless. When you stop thinking about yourself, you’ll find that, all of the sudden, you feel totally different about what you thought were your issues. CW: So, tell us, where will YOU go from here? Anything exciting in the works that you would like for our readers to know about? Valorie: I have another book coming out in 2012 called Successful Women Think Differently, and it is about all the habits that make you happier, healthier and more resilient. We are continuing our coach training program and I’m also working on a television show concept. I just signed a deal with a production company to develop a show and I’m really excited. So, I have big goals and I trust if I persevere, eventually they will all come together.

Just in time for the


Order your copy of Valorie’s latest book Where Will You Go from Here? at www.amazon.com or www.valorieburton.com www.charlestonwomanonline.com

Let’s Talk

Do You Know What the “F” Word Means?

by Ruth Chapman


o you know what the “F” word means? I’m not talking about a foul word, I’m talking about the word, fidelity. It seems that no one, at least in government knows what that words means. In marriage vows you agree ‘to love, honor and cherish each until death do you part.’ And there is another part, ‘what God has joined together, let no man put asunder.’ I sometimes wonder if anyone ever hears those vows and if they know what they mean. Also, the word vow means a promise made to God. It’s not something to be made or taken lightly.

So when these politicians, former Governor Sanford of South Carolina, and now former Governor Arnold Schwarzenegger, Senator John Edwards, and Senator Anthony Weiner just to name a few, think that their actions will go unnoticed and unpunished, they are fool hardy and seem to have completely forgotten their vows. Years ago, when we were on one of our first dates, (at the tender age of 17) I asked my husband, Chris, what he considered cheating. Mind you, this conversation was years before President Clinton came into power and single handedly ruined our country (as my husband says.) His response was, “cheating is anything that you do that you feel you can’t tell me about.” There were no hard and fast rules like: no holding hands with anyone else, no kissing anyone else, no

lunch with an old boyfriend, no dinner with an unmarried man, etc. It was simply, use your best judgment and at the end of the day, make sure you can look at yourself in the mirror. Why don’t more people follow this logic in every aspect of their life, not just the romantic side?

One of my roommates was from a Midwestern farming state (which one I don’t recall) and she was very shy and homesick. She wasn’t particularly pretty, smart or funny, but she had been well endowed from birth. (A single bra cup would fit on my head – don’t ask how I know that.)

9 years for 3 weeks? But she wasn’t the only one at this training course who had strayed. My other roommate invited her boyfriend up to spend the weekend with her the first weekend; then she was on the sofa making out with a new guy (not from our class) the very next week!

When I started a new job years ago, the first thing this company did, much to my dismay, was to send me on the road! I was sent by myself to a 3 week training course in Atlanta, GA. When I arrived I knew no one. We were required to stay four to a suite in a residence inn type of hotel. I had never met my roommates before and they did not work for the company that I did, nor were they even from the same state as me; so consequently, after the course was over we would never see each other again. Remember, this is before Facebook and cell phones.

I remember the first few days of the class; she would call her husband and talk for hours, then cry all night because she missed him terribly. They had been married for 9 years and had never left each other’s side. By the end of the third week, I gave both her and another new friend a ride to the airport. Since we had arrived early, we sat and visited for a little while before they flew off. The shy Midwesterner admitted to us that she had succumbed to infidelity and had slept with another member of our class, the California surfer dude, 10 years her junior!! I was absolutely shocked. She couldn’t manage to remain faithful to her husband of

I was never so happy to leave the cesspool of infidelity as I was when I arrived at Chris’ house and into his waiting arms. That was in September of 1987; we were married in February of 1988 and have remained faithful to each other ever since. I can’t imagine straying and I certainly can’t imagine him straying. As for our elected officials, it never ceases to amaze me how sleazy they can be sometimes. I urge you to trust your instincts when deciding for whom to vote and if they seem, ‘too good to be true’ beware!

In marriage vows you agree ‘to love, honor and cherish each until death do you part.’ ... I sometimes wonder if anyone ever hears those vows and if they know what they mean.

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Let’s Talk

IN THE SPOTLIGHT (photography by Kathy Stonaker)

Caroline Cashion

WEST ASHLEY HIGH SCHOOL KICKER Caroline will forever be known as the girl who beat Summerville and its legendary coach, John McKissick. On her sixteenth birthday, the West Ashley High sophomore placekicker provided the winning margin in the Wildcats’ 10-7 win over Summerville. You go girl!

A special thanks to the West Ashley Coaching Staff for participating in this photo!

Charleston Wildcats JV Football Team WEST ASHLEY HIGH SCHOOL

Congratulations to the West Ashley JV football team for their undefeated 2011 season. Great job!

Call to be a part of our next issue!

(803) 785-4475


Cheerleaders Pink Practice WEST ASHLEY CHEERLEADERS

Pink practice provides a pounding performance and playful panorama of patient princesses (i.e. cheerleaders)! The cheerleaders dressed in pink to kick off raising money for the Susan G Komen Lowcountry foundation. www.charlestonwomanonline.com


by Elaine Samples


ost towns have them – a Chamber of Commerce. This organization nurtures the business climate and promotes economic vitality in the region. Established in 1911, the Greater Summerville/Dorchester County Chamber of Commerce has been serving the community for many years. Below are some of the wonderful women that make it work every day.

Rita Berry (President/CEO) Rita Berry has proudly served as President/CEO of the Greater Summerville/Dorchester County Chamber of Commerce since April, 2007. She has also been elected to the 2012 Board of Di-

rectors of the South Carolina Chamber of Commerce, the nation’s first state chamber accredited with Distinction by the U. S. Chamber and the state’s largest statewide broad-based business and industry trade association

representing more than 18,000 businesses and more than one million employees. Rita and her husband, Chris, have twins that are juniors at Summerville High School.

“It is my pleasure to work each and every day to help provide advocacy, resources and business to business opportunities to our members and our community,” says Rita. “I have the great fortune to work with an incredible staff, and together it is

The Ladies of the Greater Summerville/ Dorchester County Chamber of Commerce

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Marie McLeod

Jackie Turner

Tori Burke-Koskela

our goal to provide support to our member businesses and to collaborate with other organizations, agencies and municipalities to make Summerville/Dorchester County an excellent place to live, work and play.” Tina Zimmerman (Tourism Coordinator,Visitors’ Center) “Each year, we greet over 10,000 folks that come through our doors. We have tourist from all over and abroad visiting our charming town. With Summerville being a top retirement town, lots of folks come in to find out about the town and what it has to offer. We welcome new locals who are trying to find their way around town as well as those born and raised here. Stop by. We’ll show you Southern Hospitality!” Marie McLeod (Account Executive) “We consider our members business partners and I enjoy working with each member to ensure they get the maximum benefit of their investment and that their expectations are met.” Jackie Tucker (Program and Event Coordinator) “I provide program and event services for the chamber, helping our members sponsor or volunteer for events and programs. I am here to help you enjoy and understand opportunities available through sponsorship, attending, and volunteering for programs and events. Let me know if I can help you in any way.” Tori Burke-Koskela (Membership Coordinator) “I help our members get the most from their Chamber membership, so if you have any questions about how to get involved and connected through our numerous councils and programs just give me a call. I also facilitate LEADERSHIP DORCHESTER, an 11 month program which is ideal for business and industry professionals who are

emerging and/or existing leaders who want to increase awareness and knowledge of the region’s economy and community networks.” Kara Martin (Marketing and Communications Coordinator) “In addition to managing the websites and electronic communication, I work with the local media to ensure coverage and visibility of the many events and initiatives that the Chamber sponsors and supports. I also work in conjunction with the Chamber Communication/ Marketing and Member Services Divisions to coordinate consistent messaging and relevant information for all Chamber Members, Chamber Staff, and the communities we serve.” Fay Bell (Receptionist) “As a receptionist, I am one of the “managers of first impressions” with the Chamber and Visitor Center. I greet each guest that either comes into or calls the Chamber and Visitor Center. It is my pleasure to provide answers to your questions and/or assist in making your visitor experience in Summerville/Dorchester County one of great remembrance.” Susan Worthy (Financial Services) “I provide financial services to the Chamber. Whether you are buying a ticket to an event or paying for your membership, I am here to see that your financial transactions go smoothly. Let me know if I can help you in any way!” Joann Brooks (Office Assistant) “Not only do I provide administrative support to the Chamber Staff, but I also help our members by keeping them informed about Chamber programs and events as well as local community happenings. Maintaining an up-to-date Chamber membership database is another way I help provide member visibility in the community.

"It's A GREAT DAY in Summerville and Dorchester County!" Our mission is to protect and promote the quality of life in the community, with specific emphasis on improving economic vitality and providing a favorable business climate.

(843) 873-2931 402 North Main Street Summerville, South Carolina www.GreaterSummerville.org www.VisitSummerville.com

Please let me know how I can help you realize the true value of your membership!”

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Kara Martin

Fay Bell

Susan Worthy

Joann Brooks


Take the Chamber’s New Mobile Site for a Drive by Scanning the Tag! www.charlestonwomanonline.com


TONI BUNCH {Breast Cancer Survivor}

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he “Survivor” pages are what W2W Publishing is all about. It is amazing how sharing a story can give someone else the strength they need to believe, to hope, to fight a harder fight. Charleston Woman Magazine would like to thank Toni Bunch for being our first featured survivor. Sometimes it is hard to tell your story. Every survivor story we have published has brought a response from someone who says, “I needed to read that.” If you or someone you know is battling cancer, visit www.woman2womanonline.com and read more stories of survivors like Toni. Remember, you are “braver than you believe, stronger than you seem and smarter than you think.”

Charleston Woman: How does it feel to be a survivor? Toni Bunch: It is wonderful to be a survivor. Being a survivor gives you a new outlook on life and an outlook that I wish I had before my diagnosis. I have always been a very positive individual but being a survivor makes you focus on the things and people who are important in your life. CW: What went through your head when you were diagnosed? Toni: It was April of 2007, and I was at a routine annual GYN exam and my physician palpated a lump. I was sent to the Trident Breast Care Center for my Mammogram. I knew in my heart and soul what the outcome was going to be and thought I was prepared for the news but I wasn’t. The positive diagnosis hit me like a ton of bricks. I don’t know that there was any one thought going through my mind. I went to the mammogram by myself and I remember af-


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terwards wishing I had a support person with me because you feel so alone when you get the news. I think I would have felt the same way if someone was with me, but at least I would have had someone with me. CW: What has been the most difficult part of your experience? Toni: It can all be so overwhelming, loss of hair, change in your body, feeling so incredibly fatigued, the loss of personal control, dealing with insurance companies, dealing with side effects of the chemo – which seemed to change with every treatment. No matter what – it is an incredibly difficult situation to deal with so for me it was important to remain positive and surround myself with the people who loved me and who could be positive as well. As a matter of fact, my husband Doug, my greatest supporter, made sure that we and our friends remained upbeat and positive. He kept calling this “just a speed bump” and we would get through it.


CW: How did it change your professional life? Toni: I have always loved what I do and consider myself a hard worker. Being a survivor makes you step back and put your work life in proper perspective. It certainly made me more aware of the things in life that are important. CW: How did it change your personal life? Toni: In the short term – As a nurse and a wife, I am so used to multitasking, being in control and essentially taking care of things. During this period of time, I had to be okay with letting others do for me. My best friend gave me wonderful advice that I share with survivors. “The best gift you can give your friends and loved ones is allowing them to do for you.” She was absolutely right about that. It was hard to let others help but when I thought about it as a gift I was giving to others, I could accept help from them. In the long term – I appreciate EVERY day. I look at life different. I relish blue skies and sun-

shine in ways I didn’t before. I really try not to “Sweat the little things” and try things that I wouldn’t think of doing previously.

I relish blue skies and sunshine in ways I didn’t before. At the end of chemo and the beginning of Radiation, I started to paddle with the “Dragon Boat of Charleston” team. I cannot tell you how this was so not like me but I had heard about it and had to try it. It is one of the greatest things that has happened to me, especially after a diagnosis of cancer. It allowed me to begin to heal and see myself again in control and powerful and healthy again. I could go on and on about this as it has been so powerful in my recovery. CW: How did the treatment process play out? Toni: Pretty routine. Chemo followed by radiation therapy. Some good days, many bad days but you do get through it and realize what a strong individual you really are. CW: What do you feel was crucial to your understanding that you would and will continue to be a Survivor? Toni: Again, continuing to have a positive attitude and becoming a member of Dragonboat Charleston. CW: What is the most valuable thing you have taken from this experience? Toni: Actually there are many things – I have a new sassy hairdo and have stopped coloring my hair. I love the way I look at this point in my life. Friends and family were so vital to how well I was able to do. I can’t thank them enough and love them with my heart and soul. I would like to say if you don’t try new things now – when will you? Reach out there and do it. About 7 months after the completion of my treatments, I wanted to do something that allowed me to experience nature, challenge me physically and told me that I was “healthy” again. I went hiking in Yellowstone for a week. It was a wonderful, spiritual experience. I probably wouldn’t have taken the

time to do it if it had not been for my cancer diagnosis. I would have hated to miss that experience. I also became involved with the Lowcountry Affiliate of Susan G Komen for the Cure organization. I highly regard this organization for everything they do for women with breast cancer. I am so fortunate that they came into my life. CW: Do you have a funny chemo story? Toni: I knew my friends at work were struggling and feeling so bad for me. I wanted to do something to help them and myself process it all. I asked my friend to help me organize an outing for my work friends. I rented a limousine, had everyone come to my house for brunch. We then took the limousine wig shopping. We all had furry boas (mine was pink) I tried on numerous wigs and laughed myself sick. From the wig store we went to a Party City and located a silly wig for my husband as a gag gift. He had shaved his head by this time in support of what was to come. From there, we went downtown and had a wonderful lunch at a great restaurant. On the way, we drank Mimosas and described the 10 best things about being bald. On the way home we sang “girl scout camp songs” What a silly, fun day. By the end of the day, I felt that I had the courage, love, and support to face whatever the journey ahead threw at me. CW: Can you share something that you feel may help someone who is facing your same diagnosis? Toni: Surround yourself with “positive” friends and family. Let them do for you… I always took a friend with me to my initial doctor appointments to act as my ears. I knew I was only hearing part of what was being said. My friend would take notes which I would then refer to later on – generally in the middle of the night when I could not sleep. That was an invaluable asset.

Breast Self-Exam Taking a few minutes once a month for a self-examination can make a lifetime of difference. Nearly 70% of all breast cancers are found through self-exams and with early detection the 5-year survival rate is 98%. If you find a lump, schedule an appointment with your doctor, but don’t panic—8 out of 10 lumps are not cancerous. In the Shower Fingers flat, move gently over every part of each breast. Use your right hand to examine the left breast, left hand for the right breast. Check for any lump, hard knot, or thickening. Carefully observe any changes in your breasts. In the Mirror Inspect your breasts with your arms at your sides. Next, raise your arms high overhead. Look for any changes in the contour of each breast, a swelling, a dimpling of the skin, or changes in the nipples. Then rest your palms on your hips and press firmly to flex your chest muscles. Left and right breasts will not exactly match—few women’s breasts do. Lying Down Place a pillow under your right shoulder and put your right arm behind your head. With the fingers of your left hand flat, press your right breast gently in small circular motions, moving vertically or in a circular pattern covering the entire breast. Use light, medium, and firm pressure. Squeeze the nipple; check for discharge and lumps. Repeat these steps for your left breast. www.national breastcancer.org

CW: What do you want others to know about who you are? Toni: I am so thankful for everyday. I can get overwhelmed with the beauty I see in this world. CW: Any other words of advice? Toni: It’s only a speed bump in the road. www.charlestonwomanonline.com


Meet Jodi Barteet

of Trident Medical’s Women’s Imaging by Lori Samples Duncan


ne of the things that makes writing so fun for me is the people I interview for a story. Jodi Barteet was a particular delight. I often tell my children, “Find what you are passionate about, find a way to do it for a living, and then you will be happy.” Jodi embodies the fulfillment of this instruction.

Jodi Barteet Jodi Barteet is a wife, a dedicated mother of two boys, and the Director of Imaging at Trident Medical Center. If you believe in fate, as I do, then you might agree with Jodi that entering the wrong room in her junior year as a pre-med student forever changed the course of her life. “I accidentally entered a nuclear medicine conference. Because the speaker made a big production as I entered the room tardy, when I realized that I was in the wrong room, there was no way I was getting up to leave. I believe that it was God. I changed my major that night. I graduated in 1990 in Health Administration. I loved patients and I love operations because I am still able to talk to patients every day.” Having an aunt who lost her battle with breast cancer, Jodi finds this cause to be particularly dear to her heart. “Mammography has always been my passion. It is easy to get passionate about it when you see patients that are dealing with it every day. Trident has had a wellestablished breast center for years and I wanted to make it better.” Jodi was able to introduce digital equipment, with sharp images affording the opportunity to see potential problems at a very early


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stage. Her centers have realized growing mammography numbers for fours years running, providing care for an average 100 patients a day. Raving about “the most amazing staff,” Jodi said that when she came to be director at Women’s Imaging Center, she felt it was important to offer breast Magnetic Resonance Imaging (MRI). “If you have a positive family history of breast cancer, it’s even more important. An MRI allows us to look at the breast one layer at a time, so that we can detect inconsistencies even the size of a millimeter. There is a special table made specifically for women who are having a breast MRI, which helps make the biopsy process easier. There are only two of these tables in Charleston and we have one of them.” After acquiring the MRI table, Jodi began her campaign to make the breast center “pretty.” Since many women dread getting their annual mammogram, Jodi wanted to create a more nurturing, spa-like environment, to help women relax and have a more comfortable experience. “I started planning for the renovations and it has taken a couple years to put all the pieces



together. When the breast center is completed, I hope everyone in Charleston is talking about it. I want them to be so excited that they’re saying, ‘I get to go the Trident Breast Care Center for my mammogram!’ I want them to know it’s a place where they can be educated, where the staff will take exceptional care of them, and where they can feel safe.” It is really difficult not to get energized as Jodi gushes about the new center, scheduled for completion in May 2012. “I get so excited that I go over there two times a week just to see the progress. I want our patients to have the most wonderful experience they have ever had. Sometimes, we have to deliver difficult news, but we can at least deliver that news in the most comfortable place possible. “I know exactly what it is like to be a patient. I get my mammogram just like everyone else. Patients who had a good experience send lots of comment cards, thank you notes, and homemade goodies for my staff I love my staff. They love what they do and they have been with Trident for a long time. One staff member even postponed her retirement so she could be here

for the grand unveiling of the new center. The staff find ways to make our environment special.” With regard to local support, Jodi says, “There is such a strong support group here in Charleston, sometimes I feel like KOMEN originated here. If I could win the lottery, I’d give to all of these wonderful groups so that more people could be educated about breast cancer and prevention. I’d love for everyone to know that yes you need a mammogram, yes you need to have a screening done and you have to keep pushing even if a doctor says you are fine.” It’s that kind of passion that makes Jodi an exceptional Charleston woman and I have no doubt that her passion will be evident in the newly renovated facility. With so many women being affected by breast cancer every day, it’s important that we make the time for yearly exams and mammograms. Why not go to a place that is relaxing and friendly, where you are more than just an ID number; where people with a passion for improving the quality of lives for their patients, like Jodi Barteet and her staff, have chosen to have a career.

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One on One with

Dr. Tina Botelho

by Elaine Samples

photography by Tammy Bevins Photography


r. Tina Botelho is a great example of someone growing up, leaving home for college and deciding to return to her roots, so to speak. By making the decision to open a practice in North Charleston, Dr. Tina Botelho is committed to helping the people of Charleston live healthier lives. We recently had an opportunity for a one on one interview with Dr. Botelho.

Charleston Woman: Do you have any children? Dr. Botelho: Proud mother of 3 children—Johnathon (7), Katelyn Grace (4), and Durham Anderson (1) CW: Could you give us a little background on your education and when it was that you decided to study medicine and become a doctor? Dr. Botelho: My sister and I were the first women in our family to attend college. Deciding to become a doctor was as much a journey as the actual process of doing so. I attended the College of Charleston


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where I obtained a BS in Biochemistry and a BA in Chemistry. Being science/math oriented, having a strong appreciation for all aspects of education, and the satisfaction of helping others were all key factors in my decision. I considered engineering though after a year of making batteries for Motorola, I decided that I needed more interaction with people. I considered Veterinary Medicine though ultimately decided to pursue a career in Human medicine.

Dr. Botelho: At Legacy Internal Medicine, we provide primary care for all adults—anyone over the age of 17. We evaluate and treat adults with any acute illness (respiratory problems, abdominal pain, urinary tract infections, etc.) as well as those with chronic disease (Diabetes, High Blood Pressure, Heart Disease, Obesity, etc.) Weight Management and the importance of exercise at any size is an area of medicine which I am particularly passionate about.

CW: Tell us about your practice. Do you specialize in any particular type of medicine or treatment?

CW: Are there any health tips that you would like to give our readers? Dr. Botelho: Know your body!



Denial may be therapeutic, but it will only mask a problem until it becomes overwhelming. Ask your doctor about recommended screening tests—which ones are necessary and how often. Eat less and exercise more—obesity is a frontrunner in the list of diseases affecting people of all ages. Maintaining a healthy body weight is a key factor in prevention of many other diseases which lessen quality of life and longevity. CW: What do you find to be the most rewarding aspect of your work? Dr. Botelho: The privilege of shar-

ing in the most intimate details of a person’s life and having the opportunity to help improve their quality of life. CW: And the most challenging aspect of your work? Dr. Botelho: The obvious would be dealing with insurance providers and bureaucrats mandating guidelines for patient care which are oftentimes unreasonable.

I hope to teach my children the value of hard work, perseverance, honesty, integrity, and compassion— MY LEGACY.

CW: What is your vision for your practice? Dr. Botelho: Our practice is small—one physician and Mary, my office manager. Our mission is to help patients live their best life primarily by way of lifestyle modification. We hope to restore the more personal experience of a typical doctor’s visit—like the “good old days” when doctors and staff knew and treated their patients like family. CW: Do you have a favorite holiday tradition that you can share with our readers? Dr. Botelho: Watching old classics — Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer, Frosty the Snowman, and A Charlie Brown Christmas. CW: So, tell us, where will YOU go from here? Anything exciting in the works that you would like for our readers to know about? Dr. Botelho: I have arrived at the last leg of this journey. I plan to focus on building a medical practice which exceeds expectations and inspires people to live a healthier life—delivering the best quality of patient care in a family friendly atmosphere. We want our patients to enjoy coming to see us! Most importantly, I hope to teach my children the value of hard work, perseverance, honesty, integrity, and compassion—MY LEGACY. As for the specifics of our practice, we are excited about incorporating acupuncture and herbal medicine—merging with the world of Western medicine—and hope to offer patients a broader range of treatment options for any ailment. We will be offering Thursday afternoon/evening “Tea Talks” teaming with Dana Pappas—a holistic nutritional counselor and licensed acupuncturist. See Legacy Internal Medicine’s ad on page 13. www.charlestonwomanonline.com


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rust is an important part of the relationship between a healthcare provider and a patient. Trust is what prompted Clary Vance to drive eight hours from Florida to have her c-section performed by Dr. James Martin.

“The difference between my first c-section in Florida and my two repeat c-sections with Dr. Martin is really quite simple: Dr. Martin cares,” states Clary. “I have complete confidence in him and feel like his work is more than a job; it is a calling. We absolutely trust him with our lives.” That trust is what keeps patients coming back to see our providers. Several of our patients were delivered by Dr. Martin years ago, and now they trust us to care for them during their own pregnancies. The thought of going to a doctor’s office can be daunting. We work hard to make your visit here as pleasant as possible. Take one step into our office, and you enter into a quiet, peaceful and almost spa-like atmosphere that helps to put your mind at ease. Our providers work hard to put your mind at ease as well. They know that no two patients are alike. When you visit our office, you are treated as an individual with care and understanding. You are not a nameless, faceless chart when you are seen by our providers. Listening is one of the most important acts in the practice of medicine, so we take the time to do just that...listen. Many conditions such as urinary incontinence and pelvic organ prolapse can be embarrassing for patients to discuss. We treat each patient’s problem with the utmost confidentiality and respect. Our three experienced healthcare


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providers provide our patients with the very best in medical care and excellent service. Dr. James Martin has served the lowcountry for over 25 years in the field of obstetrics and gynecology. He is the leading GYN surgeon in the area in minimally invasive and robotic surgery. Dr. Martin and his wife, Jan, reside in Summerville and are both active in the community and their church. Becky Miller and Martha Green, our two Physicians Assistants, are both members of the South Carolina Academy of Physicians Assistants as well as recipients of the organization’s prestigious P.A. of the Year Award. With over 25 years experience as a Physician Assistant in the Charleston area, Becky Miller has worked in women’s medicine since 1986. She lives in Charleston with her husband and is an active member of the Grace Episcopal Church.



We work hard to make your visit here as pleasant as possible. In addition to her services as a P.A. in our practice, Martha Green has also served as an instructor at the Medical University of South Carolina in the Physicians Assistants program. Martha resides in Summerville with her husband, Jody, and their two sons, Garrett and Gage. Our entire professional staff can assist you with choices not only related to medical problems you may be having, but also with decisions to maintain good health. We stress the important of a healthy lifestyle to prevent health care problems in the future. We offer comprehensive gynecological services including

annual exams and pap smears as well as compassionate one-on-one pregnancy care.

Should a problem arise, our providers are here to help, using cutting edge medical advances to better serve our patients. We evaluate and treat abnormal periods, pelvic pain, uterine fibroids, endometriosis, osteoporosis and menopause to mention a few. Dr. Martin also specializes in laparoscopic surgery using the daVinci robotic system. Our mission statement is simple: Generation to generation, through all phases of life, we will care for the woman in you with quality, compassionate healthcare in a friendly and relaxed environment. Our doctor, physicians assistants and staff share the same goals and values, treating each patient with this mission statement in mind.

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Palmetto Primary Care Physicians gains

national recognition for providing quality Diabetes Care


or over 15 years, Palmetto Primary Care Physicians has provided patients with the best medical care available in the Lowcountry.

The group has grown to over 400 employees, including 70 clinical providers and now has 25 offices throughout Berkeley, Charleston and Dorchester counties. While the name is synonymous with primary care, the group recently added the following specialty groups: neurology, vein specialty and sleep medicine specialty. Throughout the years Palmetto Primary Care Physicians has remained a leader in healthcare, not only among the local community – but also nationally. They were among one of the first physician’s groups to integrate Electronic Medical Records (EMR) almost ten years ago and most recently launched a Patient Centered Medical Home (PCMH) pilot project. While it is the main topic of conversation in many medical orga-

nizations, very few have launched and measured the success of a Patient Centered Medical Home (PCMH). At the center of the PCMH model is the patient’s primary care physician – who coordinates care through a ‘team’ consisting of specialists, social workers, pharmacists, nurses and a diabetes educator. The idea is to provide patients with all the resources they need in one convenient ‘medical home’, which improves the quality of care. Palmetto Primary Care Physicians partnered with Blue Cross / Blue Shield of South Carolina to launch the pilot program. The pilot project focused on diabetic patients who were members of BC/BS of South Carolina and BlueChoice HealthPlan of South Carolina. A 2008 study by the National Center for Chronic Disease Prevention and

This focus on quality care has brought national attention to Palmetto Primary Care Physicians. Health Prevention showed that 10.1% of South Carolinians were diagnosed with diabetes compared to the national average of 8.2%. The pilot program would work on improving the quality of care for those patients with diabetes. Appointed case managers called on patients and reminded them of upcoming appointments with specialist, of the importance of taking their medication as instructed

and were even registered for wellness clinics. Other benefits included: free glucometers, exercise guides, gym discounts and a secure webbased patient portal where patients could communicate with their doctors. These outcomes were then measured through the monitoring of patient blood sugar levels and cholesterol levels, as well as the number of emergency room incidences and other serious conditions that arose. What has resulted is three years worth of data that show mass improvement in patient’s quality of life. The individual treatment plans and case managers helped to reduce the gaps in care, subsequently lowering emergency room incidences in patients and improving blood sugar and cholesterol levels.

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The group has received national attention for their results, including Medical News Today, American Medical News and will be presenting at the 12th Annual Summit for URAC in Chicago this October – which focuses on continuous improvement on quality in healthcare. An advantage to the Patient Centered Medical Home model is that it makes for healthier patients because it focuses on preventative care. By having a team of specialists, case managers and medical educators at the patient’s fingertips, it provides them with yearround care as opposed to just an annual visit. The residual affects of properly taking blood pressure medication or managing their diabetes could very well raise their quality of life, avoiding more life threatening medical issues. This focus on quality care has brought national attention to Palmetto Primary Care Physicians. Eighty percent of their physicians have been nationally recognized by The National Committee for Quality Assurance (NCQA) and the American Diabetes Association (ADA) through the Diabetes Recognition Program for providing quality diabetes care to patients. “Most families are affected by diabetes and our doctors have noticed,” states Jennifer O’Donnell, MHA – Director of Provider Services for Palmetto Primary Care Physicians. “National recognition from a group such as the NCQA shows our patients that we are serious when it comes to delivering quality healthcare to all of our patients”. NCQA is a private, non-profit organization dedicated to improving health care quality. The Recognition Programs are built on evidencebased, nationally recognized clinical standards of care. For more information on Patient Centered Medical Homes, NCQA or to find a physician near you, visit www. palmettoprimarycare.com

Beauty Fixes by Rebecca Wallace-Kazimir

Rebecca Wallace-Kazimir


e all know the feeling: you’re rushing to get ready for a big meeting or a party, and suddenly disaster strikes while you are getting ready. With these five fast beauty fixes that effortlessly solve common primping problems, you can keep calm and carry on, with confidence!



Tired-Looking Eyes Since dark colors such as black and brown close off our eyes, making them look smaller, brighten up your eyes and make them look larger by applying a white or flesh toned eyeliner to the lower water-line of your eyes (see photo). This technique will pick up light, making your eyes look not only larger, but much more refreshed, even if you have to fake it. Overnight Blemishes If you’ve ever woken up to an inflamed, red blemish, you’re not alone. Apply ice wrapped in a cloth directly to the blemish for up to five minutes to reduce inflammation and redness. Applying a green concealer will neutralize the redness of the blemish. Greasy/Flat Hair If your hair has fallen flat from your daily activities, or you need to add some volume back, simply spray dry shampoo into the roots and ends of your hair. Deodorant Stains So you just slipped into your black dress for an event, and it’s suddenly black and white.


This technique will pick up light, making your eyes look not only larger, but much more refreshed, even if you have to fake it. Run a clean makeup sponge (found at any drugstore) or a pair of pantyhose over the fabric where the deodorant stain is. Voila! No more pesky deodorant marks. Chapped Lips The colder weather can leave your lips dry, chapped, and flaky. Exfoliate dry lips by mixing sugar and water to form a paste. Scrub gently using circular motions with your finger and rinse off with warm water. You now have a fresh, healthy base for your lip balm, lipstick, or lip gloss. Questions? Email Rebecca@beautygala.com www.charlestonwomanonline.com


Kay HIGGINS by Lori Samples Duncan


had lunch with Mrs. Kay Higgins at Poogan’s Porch in downtown Charleston one beautiful fall day. She is a dedicated family woman and strong supporter of her husband. Tall slender and innately graceful, Kay and I spent an hour chatting about family, faith and what else? Football.

Charleston Woman: What is your favorite part of being a coach’s wife? Kay: I love meeting so many different and interesting people—from players to parents, school officials, alums—it is such a privilege. But I also enjoy the game and profession itself, and I like that I’m married to the bloodied man fighting in the arena, and not the cold and critical soul evaluating the fight, to paraphrase Teddy Roosevelt. CW: How did you meet? Kay: Kevin and I met at a Fellowship of Christian Athletes Coach’s Conference in Lake George, New York. I was a basketball coach and Kevin coached football and basketball at the time. We both drove green Dodge Darts and came from large Irish families. CW: What advise would you give to a woman whose husband is just starting to coach? Kay: First, make sure you go into coaching together. Talk about the long hours and try to plan how you will handle the coaching commitment together. The coach will always have many adversaries, you don’t want to become one by fight-


ing over things you should have considered before going into coaching. There always will be challenges, keep the lines of constructive, positive communication open. Secondly, if you have the illusion you can control anything outside of yourself, give it up now! See the position as an opportunity to have an impact on the next generation—don’t view it as just a job. And lastly, remember that it’s not about you or your husband, so be careful not to derive your identity from wins and losses, or even the position itself. CW: What are some challenges that football brings to the family? Kay: We must learn to do everyday life without Dad being around and available. He leaves early in the morning and is often at work until 10 or 11 p.m., he travels for two months after the season concludes and is unavailable for over two thirds of the weekends in a year. He is a rar-


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The Coach’s Wife ity at the kids’ games and activities, and when he is home, the phone is always buzzing. The coach must communicate to his family that he loves them even though he has to be away so often. Kevin did that in one way by including the kids in what he was doing. They knew his recruits, each had favorite players, they would go to his practices, and he would tell them what the first play of the game would be—just lots of ways they felt a part of what he was doing. Now mind you, we have one son and two daughters. Our girls seemed to enjoy it, and now they know more football than most people—male or female. CW: What is the hardest part of being a coach’s wife? Kay: While no one really knows what tomorrow will bring, many can at least live under the illusion they do. Coaches don’t have the luxury of such illusions. I have a hard time with the uncertainty of our circumstances. Where will we live? Will we move? I tend to take time making friends, and when I do, they are GREAT friendships. It is so hard to leave them and start over elsewhere. Many wives struggle with loneliness, but not knowing where to call home is the most difficult for me. CW: What is the most rewarding part about being a coach’s wife? Kay: When Kevin first got the job at The Citadel, I looked up at the stands during the Spring Game and there were 10-13 former players from his Lehigh days who had come to watch and wish him well. They are all successful, many with young families of their own. They cherish their memories and it was very touching. Being part of a team and competing together is a wonderful lifelaboratory for the players. They learn that decisions and choices often have consequences—good and bad; they make mistakes that they can learn from in a controlled environment; they learn how to

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Kay with her husband, Coach Higgins, and their family communicate, relate to and depend upon one another. I just love it when the guys begin to grow and mature and begin to care about more than just themselves. There is nothing like watching a team that truly cares for each other and have one another’s backs. We’ve been fortunate enough to have some teams like that over the years.

CW: The most memorable moment in all of his career ? Kay: I believe the most memorable is yet to come, but we’ve had a few great ones along the way. The first was 1995 winning the Patriot League Championship over archrival Lafayette (the most played rivalry in college football history) in triple OT. The sun had set, there were no lights, players could barely see and the officials were about to call the game. One of our receivers made a terrific catch to win it. The second was defeating heavily favored University of Richmond in the NCAA D 1AA play-offs at Richmond in 1998. The third was 2007 when The Citadel defeated Furman in triple overtime. Our son Tim played for The Citadel in that game and we had a winning season. CW: What is the one thing you and your husband want to be remembered for when your tenure is over, however far in the future that may be… Kay: That Kevin would have had a good and positive life-long impact on his players; that we made things better for the school, community and football program; that we were

found faithful in all we were called to do here, and in the end, we would hear, “Well done, good and faithful servant!” from our Lord. It would also be nice to win a Southern Conference Championship!! CW: What are your hobbies? Kay: I enjoy reading, playing golf and having lunch with my friends. I really want to get my boat license and learn how to fish. CW: Do you cook? What is the Coach’s favorite meal? Kay: I do cook but not regularly anymore. A favorite meal for Kevin would involve a grill, meat or fish, raw vegetables and a baked potato. No sauces, dressings or condiments of any kind. Perhaps that is why I don’t cook regularly anymore! CW: Where are you during the game? Kay: My home tickets are between the twenty and thirty yard line, but I prefer to sit among the opponent’s fans on their side of the stadium. I often move around during a game. CW: So may fans are passionate about football yet to your family football is also an income how does that make it different or more difficult to juggle? Kay: It is different for us than for the typical fan. Wins and losses are felt more personally because they actually affect our lives—where we live, our income, future opportunities etc. In general, I really try to avoid all sport talk with fans. CW: Where does his love of foot-

ball come from? Kay: He had some iconic coaches who mentored him during his formative years, and he wanted to do the same for other young men. I also believe that football is the ultimate team sport, everyone must do their job in order for the team to win. Kevin has always been a team guy, and he enjoys the challenge of getting people to work together for a goal. Football is a perfect fit for his personality. CW: How did you encourage him to accept or decide to take the position at The Citadel? Kay: Actually, it was he who encouraged me about coming to The Citadel. He really liked the school, the people and was so excited about the opportunity. I didn’t think it would be good for his career to coach at a small military school in the SEC of Division 1AA football. I was being protective. He had to remind me of what I had always told my children—that for us, coaching is a calling as well as an occupation. Kevin learned from his Dad that it is a privilege to be called to hard things, and that God will faithfully care for you where He calls you. Kevin loves the challenge of it all, and now of course, I love Charleston and have made many wonderful friends here. CW: What is your favorite Holiday Tradition? Kay: Family, family and family!! It is a delight to cook, eat, and be surrounded by our children, their spouses, and the rest of our extended families. www.charlestonwomanonline.com



SPURRIER by Lori Samples Duncan photography by Clark Berry Photography


rs. Jerri Spurrier is originally from Fort Lauderdale, but when I asked her where home is she smiled in that Jerri Spurrier way and said, “Here (pause) in South Carolina.” The consummate Team Mother, every season she inherits a new group of children. 103 boys become family to the Spurriers and the other coaches at the University of South Carolina. You know behind every good man is an even better woman and as my daddy used to say, “a woman can make you or break you.” If this is true, I think it’s fair to say that Mrs. Jerri Spurrier has played a major role in her husband’s success. The mother of four grown children, Amy, Lisa, Steve, Jr., and Scott and grandmother to a host of grandchildren, I asked Jerri what she loved most about being a grandmother. She was glowing as she said, “their parents. I am a mother first. I just love being a mother, I love taking care of my older children. It trickles down to the grandchildren.”



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‘I have three of my men on the field at the same time, my husband and my two sons...’ As we visited on a sunny day in April I had the opportunity to listen as she spoke of each of her children and how blessed she feels in her life. She talked about the importance of spending time together and how she enjoys them as adults. I wanted to know if she had some words of wisdom for us parents who still have little ones. This was her response, “Every day, I try to teach them something different. It never stops. Every day we are as parents still teaching and guiding. Riding in the car with them sharing your days together.” Teaching them the importance of, “honesty, looking people in the face and talking to them about what you need. Don’t text, or email. Sit down with someone so they understand where you are coming from.” Mrs. Jerri Starr Spurrier met the old Ball Coach in college and dated during the time they were both Students at University of Florida. Jerri was a big sister for some of the fraternity brothers in Steve’s fraternity. She told me a story about their first date. She had saved some money and bought a nice dress which at the time you could do for fifty dollars. She laughed as she told me how the Florida players got in the drive-in for free. So where do you think a college football player took his girl on a date? Yes indeed, on their first date Steve took her to the drive-in. He was a college football player for heaven’s sake; the future Heisman trophy winner didn’t have a paying job…yet. Mrs. Jerri said she was the best dressed girl at the drive-in! On September 14, 1966, she became his wife, and now almost forty five years later, she still blushes when she talks about him. She is a huge support to the football program at the University of South Carolina. She is at practice every afternoon and on game day she can be found sitting in the stands with the families of players and the other coaches’ wives. They have family dinner every Wednesday night. Mrs. Spurrier said, “It is a gratifying thing to watch a new family come in and how easily those children become part of the family.” She explains how close all the children are. How the older ones help take the younger ones under their wings and make bathroom trips or

concession stand runs. Of being such an active part of the program she comments, “I go to the field to the practice; I have three of my men on the field at the same time, my husband and my two sons. I get to watch them do what they do. It is amazing how fortunate I am.”



She still cooks big family meals on Sunday nights and her immediate family has a standing invitation. She even cooks her grandson’s favorite just for him, “Nolan’s Noodles.” Jerri doesn’t see herself as particularly benevolent. She played down the fact she is on the Children’s hospital board, “I am on the children’s hospital board but I really don’t spread myself too thin.” Her hobbies are cooking and running. She enjoys her classwork. She goes to the Russell House where she says all the players hang out. She is definitely hands on, currently working on a degree in psychology at USC herself. She actually goes to school with the players. She is modest. When she talks about the players of the University of South Carolina football team it is obvious she cares deeply for them and the young men they will become.

The McKissick Family It was Christmas in July for the McKissick family as they gathered the entire clan for lots of fellowship, good barbecue, and fun in the sun!

Understanding how much she loved football I had to ask, “What do you love about being a coach’s wife?” To which she replied, “My favorite thing about being a coach’s wife is the boys.” She went on to say, “All the wonderful different boys. Watching them grow up, change and learn. Going with them to hospital when they have surgery or attending their weddings after they have graduated” and gone onto to their careers. She and Coach Spurrier even visit former players when their children are born. Watching the young lives they help to mold achieve their own successes are very gratifying for them both. I needed to know if this woman who had helped her husband accomplish so much had a bucket list and was not disappointed by her answer. “I have never been bored. Steve always has something fun and exciting and challenging going on.” She spoke briefly of what it might be like when they decided to give it up for a life of retirement. Shaking her head as she wondered how she would enjoy slowing down and not being at the football field every Saturday, “But I know whatever he plans will be exciting. If he wants to go to New Zealand and climb mountains or look at zebras, I know whatever he plans I will have fun.”

The Reedy Family Christmas is a time of year loved by both Coach Reedy and his wife, Debbie, especially since it was the time of year when they first started dating. After a hopefully successful football season, they are ready for the festivities. Debbie loves to decorate for the big occasion and has put up as many as 25 trees in their Lake Murray home. The trees all have a theme with one being of course, football! Ornaments and other memorabilia from Coach Reedy’s football years decorate this tree. The main family tree is a live tree in the basement next to a roaring fire where the family gathers for gift opening and stories.



Kathleen SWINNEY by Lori Samples Duncan photography by Clark Berry Photography


had the opportunity to visit Clemson University this fall to meet with Head Football Coach Dabo Swinney’s wife, Kathleen. It was an exciting visit for me because Clemson is beautiful and the surrounding town has lots of charm. As I drove onto the campus filled with laughing students walking and playing sports on beautiful lawns, I was reminded of my own college experience at Brenau University in Gainesville, Georgia. Hollywood has brought many of us glimpses into the lives of a coach’s family. There are dozens of movies that document significant athletic teams and historical moments in sports through the years and in each movie there is always one constant: the strong character of the coach’s wife. Kathleen Swinney is one such Coach’s wife.



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The Coach’s Wife She was a gracious hostess when she showed me Death Valley. Although their older son was at middle school basketball try outs, I had the privilege of meeting two of their young sons, Clay and Drew, and was afforded the occasion to witness Coach Swinney with his sons. It was a special moment for me because as an overly exuberant fan of college football myself, I think sometimes we forget that the men behind the logo are fathers, husbands and friends. Coach Swinney appeared to be a loving and attentive father. I saw him ruffle each son’s hair and ask about their day. And ladies, he is even better looking in person than he is on TV. A kind man, he had one of my favorite quotes crocheted in a frame on his wall: “No man can open a door God closes and no man can shut a door God opens.” All that being said, I wasn’t at Clemson for a visit with Coach Swinney. I was there to speak with the woman behind the man. I asked Kathleen to tell me a little about her, and her role as a support to her husband. Dabo and Kathleen met during grade school in Birmingham, Alabama, she was a first grader and he was a second grader. Kathleen says he still teases her to this day saying, “I got you elected to safety patrol.” Yes, Coach Swinney still reminds his beautiful bride that he rallied for her to hold that esteemed title back when he was a fifth grader and she a fourth. Here they are, a few years and three children later, Dabo a head coach of the new ACC Championship team. Kathleen’s favorite part about being a coach’s wife is all of the players and people she meets. “18-22 is a big transformation time and it is truly neat to see the boys grow into young men and to get to know their parents. Clemson graduates over 90% of their players, and I’m always a little sad to see them go, although we stay in touch. Another

really neat part of football that is so special to me is watching as people from different backgrounds become best friends. Boys who most likely would never have met, suddenly find themselves at each other’s homes for the holidays. Dabo still has friends back from when he played at Alabama who he stays in touch with. Watching people grow as a result of this common bond called football is really fascinating to me.” And the most difficult aspect of being married to a coach, for Kathleen, is those times when you are subjected to intense criticism and downright cruelty in the court of public opinion, “While we know that you have to win in order to keep your job, it is our belief that Dabo’s real life work is growing and molding these young men. That’s his number one responsibility.” Knowing that it presents some special challenges, Kathleen would advise other wives of football coaches to “love and support your husband if coaching is what he is called to do. It’s a privilege to be a coach or a teacher and if you are a woman of faith, supporting him is a lot easier.” Being a football family requires a lot of sacrifice, especially when it comes to time spent together. “Seven months a year,” states Kathleen, “my husband works seven days a week. When the season is over, he and his staff recruit through February. That’s a lot of time away from the family and our children’s activities.” If you follow college football in the south at all, then you likely know that Clemson ended Auburn’s 17 game winning streak this fall. “It was absolutely wonderful!” exclaims Kathleen, “especially since both of us are Alabama (Auburn’s biggest rival) graduates, Auburn is just the team you want to beat! Especially after last year. I was so happy for him and so happy for

The Swinney Family the players. You could literally see the excitement coming from him. It was just thrilling. They were well prepared.” Kathleen says that the moment in her husband’s career, which stands out the most is when he was named head coach of the Clemson Tigers. Having read about him, seen him on television, and met him briefly, I asked Mrs. Swinney if Dabo was really as nice as he seems: “Absolutely! He is very driven and strict with his rules when it comes to his team and his boys. He just wants the best for everyone. He loves his players, his coaches, and he is the most wonderful father.” In her free time, Kathleen enjoys spending time with her family, as they go to Clemson basketball and baseball games, pro sporting events and travel when time permits. And of course, she enjoys reading and reading books with her sons. She and the other coaches wives also enjoy baking goodies for the players when they are allowed those extras. As I talked with Kathleen, it was very evident to me that coaching football isn’t just a job for her husband. She feels like he is there to make a difference in people’s lives. And she is there to help him do just that. I felt like I had just spent a couple of hours with a friend af-

ter my time with Mrs. Swinney, I felt honored to be in the presence of someone who really lives every day to make an impact on the world around her. As we were walking toward the stadium one of the Clemson staff poked their head out of an office and informed us we were talking to “the second hottest woman in college football,” and in truth it was hard not to miss what a lovely lady she was. Kathleen like many of the coach’s wives I have had the privilege to interview radiated that beauty from the inside out. She was an absolute delight to interview and no matter what college team is my personal favorite I will never again be able to watch a Clemson game without thinking of this smart, vibrant lady who spoke of her husband with such obvious love and devotion. The University of Clemson, in my humble opinion is lucky to have Coach Swinney and his wife. Kathleen shared with us one of her favorite holiday traditions: We host a gathering every Christmas at our house, Santa on the Roof, microphoned up, lights, featuring Dabo and some other people as elves. We started it when we were in Alabama and this is our twelfth year. It’s really magical for the kids who still believe. www.charlestonwomanonline.com



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A Personal Note


his January 6th will mark the seven year anniversary of my precious father’s death. I cannot express in words the grief that began to overtake me at his passing. I could write pages filled with imagery and metaphors and still you would read them without comprehending the depth of my pain, unless you have lost a parent. I felt as if I were drowning in a sea of sorrow, consumed by the pain, and unable to understand how people were still smiling around me. Simply put, I was lost… Shortly after his death, another close friend of his passed unexpectedly, and I attended the funeral out of a sense of loyalty for my father, though it was very difficult. The minister spoke eloquently of the man we had called friend for many years. Then he made a statement that even through my tears I knew would change my life. “When someone dies, you can become bitter, or you can become better.” Truth is, I have no idea what the minister said afterwards, because I recognized myself in the bitter part of that sentence. In that moment, I began to reflect upon the legacy my father had left with me, one that included an inherent love of life and family. And it suddenly occurred to me that I had allowed the death of this amazing man to plant a seed of bitterness in me. How disappointed would my daddy be if he knew that I had chosen bitter over better? Make no mistake: my father was not perfect, for he was human. Kind and gentle, he was everything a father was supposed to be. He did not take lightly his responsibilities toward his family, as provider, teacher, mentor, example, protector and patriarch of our very large family. Hour after hour, in the scorching Georgia sun, he would tend to the soil, nurture the plants, and sit on the bucket at the end of the row, water hose in hand, literally watching his garden grow, providing fresh fruits and vegetables for his family and for so many others in the community. I daresay his vegetable soup was famous in those parts and there was hardly a Sunday to go by that dozens of people didn’t stop by for Sunday dinner, some invited, others just dropping in “to see what Lonzo had cooking.” Saturday nights meant singing and playing the guitar with the family from grandmother on down. He would sing those songs of his childhood, even change the words to include “Lori” so I would know he was singing for me. Sure not to exclude anyone, he would go down the line until every little name (brothers, sisters, cousins) was used in his lyrics, eliciting a smile on each face. An animated storyteller, we’d laugh as Daddy told us funny stories about fishing, hunting and even turtle “grabbling”… An avid outdoorsman, I remember one particular camping trip where he wrapped a snake around my arm, almost sending my dear mother into cardiac arrest. Just a little girl, I thought it was super cool—it was just a little water moccasin. And besides, my father was right there—nothing could harm me with Daddy near, for he was my ultimate defender and protector. I still smile when I think of my mother screaming his name and his responding laughter booming across the water as he took the snake away and placed it back into the water. For page after page, I could share with you my memories of him, each one of which would be filled with childlike admiration and unwavering love, but I would like to close with this thought: my father taught me to believe in God’s love. It isn’t that he said to me, “Lori, God loves you with unconditional love,” but more that he demonstrated to me the way in which fathers are supposed to love their children—with a patient, steady love that remains constant and strong, no matter what storm is passing. I never felt judgment from him, even when I was wrong. I never had to feel ashamed to him, because I knew he was able to look past the moment and still be proud of who I was. My father loved me in spite of my failures, much the way my heavenly father loves me. During the 32 years that I was blessed to have him, this was the greatest gift my father gave me. My earthly father did an incredible job of fathering. When his life here was over, my heavenly father stepped in. With His help, I was able to use the most painful time of my life for inspiration to become better. As a result, Woman 2 Woman was born. I know that my daddy is proud of me. He always was. This magazine, and every other one I create like it, is his legacy—his legacy of love. Thank you for allowing me to continue his legacy. God Bless each and every one of you.

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