After reviewing two movies in which the main caregiver of the children was a male and
where the mother was working fulltime, I concluded society views fathers who stay at home fulltime, while taking care of the house and children, as weak and feminine. The first movie I watched was Mr. Mom and was produced in 1983(Hughes, 1983). In Mr. Mom the father lost his job and his wife went back to work fulltime, leaving him home with the children. He was looked down a pond from his friends, former coworkers, and even people he did not know at the supermarket. They acted as if he was controlled by his wife and was not masculine. At the beginning of the movie, the father was perceived as if he did not know what he was doing and everything seemed to go wrong coming back to him.
The second movie I watched was The Pacifier and was made in 2005(Lennon & Garant, 2005).
The male caregiver of the children in The Pacifier was muscular and looked “manly”, but was still considered to be not normal in the eyes of others. Throughout the movie the main character was laughed at and received mean looks from other characters because he did not have a full time job and did everything that a mother would traditionally do.
While watching Mr. Mom and The Pacifier, I noticed being a “stay at home father” had an
impact on the main characters emotionally, as well. Both of the characters experienced the same emotions throughout the movies. They became depressed, felt worthless, and overall had a hard time completing their roles of the main caregiver. As time went on and they were able to prove to others that they did have a purpose and when they started to have a routine, they were happier with the role switch.
Both of the movies proved that Dr. Thatcher’s family story was common and did not just
happen to her. In fact when a father is a “stay at home dad” it causes troubled times within the family and society is not always completely understanding of the situation. But like all new things
Gender Differences Within the Family