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ASK DR. EADIE Coffee vs. Tea Q: Dr. Eadie, my husband and I have been debating over which is healthier, coffee or tea? Can you shine some light on the matter for us please? Tea drinker, West Bloomfield Township, MI A: The fight between coffee and Tea! This debate has existed since these two famous beverages were discovered. They both have been linked to wars that were waged over access to their mother plants and the mystical effects both drinks have on the human body. When interviewed, coffee drinkers enjoy warm cups of this delight for very different reasons than tea drinker s. So, in a match between Mr. Coffee and Mr. Tea, you may expect one to knock out the other but the fight lasts much longer than twelve rounds. Letâ€™s look at a play-by-play of each scientific round.
Reginald J. Eadie, MD President, Detroit Receiving Hospital Round 1 Tea was said to be discovered around 2700 B.C. in China by a Chinese ruler, only after a leaf fell into his hot water. There began the existence of a tea as a new ruler over beverages. It wasn’t until the 9th century (A.D.) that coffee stepped on the scene. According to history, the effect of coffee beans on behavior was noticed by a sheep herder from Kaffa Region in Ethiopia (where the plant originally grew before transplantation) as he tended his sheep. He noticed that the sheep were skipping, rearing their hind legs, and making loud noises, after eating these bright red berries from a nearby green bush, when they changed pastures. Curious, he ate some of them and was soon as overactive as his herd. Apparently, the name (Mocha or coffee) came after an Arabian and his followers were exiled to the desert without food. In desperation, they boiled and ate the fruit (berries) from an unknown plant. Not only did the drink save them nutritionally, but their survival was considered a miracle from God by the natives of a nearby town called Mocha. The plant and its beverage were named Mocha to honor this miracle. The heavy weight championship fight began as soon as the word spread about how spiritually stimulating this mocha was found to be.
Round 2 As a reminder, antioxidants are disease preventing agents that occur naturally and variably in many food items. It has been found that antioxidants are present in tea and at different concentrations, depending on the color of the tea. White tea has the highest concentration of these life saving chemicals, followed by green tea, black tea and coffee. Green and white teas are made from different parts of the tea leaves while black tea is a product of fermentation which lowers the levels of both caffeine and antioxidants. Round 3 What makes these drinks the world’s favorite is the chemical that many of us are addicted to – CAFFEINE. This drug augments productivity, increases alertness, improves memory, concentration, and enhances athletic performance. Coffee has the highest concentration, followed by black tea, green tea and white tea. Coffee has about 150 -200 milligrams of caffeine per cup. Decaffeinated coffee has a small amount of caffeine in it because the removal process is not 100% accurate. Tea only has an average of 55 milligrams of caffeine per cup.
Round 4 Coffee contains caffeine, trigonelline, chlorogenic acid, phenolic acid, amino acids, carbohydrates, minerals, organic acids aldehydes, ketones, esters, amines and mercaptans. Tea contains caffeine, Vitamin E, Vitamin C, tannin, catechin, fluorine and polysaccharides. Round 5 Tea is good for your heart as it decreases the serum cholesterol, triglycerides, and free fatty acids. Coffee has a fat-like chemical called cafestol, which may increase cholesterol levels. Recent studies have shown coffee to be a heart attack preventing drink, although too much of it may have a deleterious effect on your cardiovascular system. Round 6 Chemicals found in tea suppress the growth of cancer cells. The secret of the teas lies in the fact that it is rich in a catechin polyphenol, particularly epigallocatechin gallate (EGCG). EGCG is a powerful anti-oxidant that inhibits the growth of cancer cells. Unlike many of the chemotherapy agents, it kills cancer cells without harming healthy tissue. At this point, coffee has not been found to be a risk factor or of any benefit to cancer.
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“WHERE R U JUAN ATKINS?” Coire D. Nichols Houston
“Where are you Juan Atkins?” I have found myself asking, and now texting, that exact same question for nearly the three decades that I have had the pleasure of knowing, growing, following and transitioning with “The GOD FATHER of Techno.” From the alter egos of Cybroton, Model 500, and Channel One; Juan has been prone to taking you on a “Night Drive,” down his personal inner-galactic highway while chilling, in his “Cosmic Car!” Today, the internationally acclaimed artist continues his travels, sharing, living and loving his craft with all of his fans globally... Although he has not dropped any new tracks in a few years, I am pleased to announce to the readers of the B-List, that there’s no need to fear, the CREATOR is “Clear” on the future of his musical destiny! So stayed tuned, something for everyone is coming very soon! Where R U Physically? He’s right here in the city of Detroit. After spending several years in Washtenaw County, the origins from where he and “The Bellville Three” (friends/ artists: Derrick May and Kevin Saunderson), were conceived; along with his wife Carla, the two have returned back to his roots, after their daughter, Milan, enrolled at Wayne State University. The ‘Apple,’ of both parents’ eyes, which Atkins has personally made reference as being his “Greatest Accomplishment in Life,” apparently did not fall far from “Daddy’s tree!” Ms. Atkins innately inherited his love for music, with recently receiving a scholarship to Wayne State University in music, her major. Keeping within the traditional “La Costa Nostra,” by running their businesses from within; “The God Father,” intends on doing the same by making his daughter the President of Metroplex Records (the first record label allocated to Techno music, which he founded). Last year, during “‘Movement’, Detroit’s Electronic Music Festival,” Metroplex celebrated its 25th Anniversary with a monumental gathering of performances of local and international artists. What made the event nostalgic was all three of ‘The Originator’s,’ cohorts that were instrumental with creating this musical phenomena; Kevin ‘The Elevator’ Sauderson, Eddie ‘Flashin’ Fowlkes, and Derrick ‘The Innovator’ May, were included. For the first time since their early beginnings, all four raised the roof from sundown to sunrise “United as One!” 11
Where R U Musically? This Memorial Day weekend marks the 11th year for “Movement,” an annual event that draws people from all facets of the world, to Detroit, communing all “For the love of Electronic Music!” When asked if he was surprised with the success of the festival? He replied, “The first year was a huge success! In view of the turnout with the attendance numbers, it was obvious that it was going to be around for a while. I’m not as surprised that it existed (the festival) this long, but that it has continued due to the different management changes that have transpired over the years.” Since its early beginnings, in the 80’s, the (Techno) sound has remained underground and is only played at certain clubs nationally, with very few festivals, in the United States. Whereas, in Europe, Asia, and other continents, faithful listeners travel in droves to hear our Detroit pioneers perform. According to Atkins, “The USA is a very commercial oriented market. This is where capitalism and commercialism started. The emphasis that (American) “Pop stars” can sell out stadiums really clouds-out a true, pure, music movement (which audiences across the pond and beyond understand). Depending on the line-up of artists, there are festivals (overseas) with an attendance of anywhere from 10-20 thousand people with 20-30 DJ’s performing.” I asked where Techno (music) is today, and what is its future? “There have been a lot of innovations that have happened since the beginning, and now computers are playing even more of a role than they have ever played in the past. Not only electronic but also techno music. Today, if you have a laptop with enough power, you can make an entire track. Because the technology has allowed people to make tracks and with the evolution of music, people are producing electronic compositions from every corner of the globe. There’s no longer a need for 4-5 people to remain in one room to make one track. So to answer your question, this will result with a lot of new and fresh ideas. What that might be? I can’t tell you, but I’m sure it will result with music changing more than it ever has before.” Identifiably an electronic musician, first and foremost, with attributing his style to naturally being associated with computers and technology; hence the term Techno; his record label’s future appears to be exciting and enlightening, especially for whom he’s grooming to be his newest star! “I made Milan the President of Metroplex (records) this year. I’m waiting for her to finish-up her semester in school so I can begin to show her the business aspect of the industry.” With regards to launching her musical career, is concerned. Big
Obviously, not only does he clearly “talk the talk,” but he also “walks the walk,” as many of his successors have taken heed to his skills over the years by sampling his tracks on their music. Artists consisting of; T.I.’s, “Lay Me Down;” Sir Mix A lot’s, “Baby Got Back;” Missy Elliott’s, “Loose Control,” as well as, the girl rap trio, (who was produced by a younger Dr. Dre) JJ Fad’s, “Super Sonic.” Although Juan never pursued Dr. Dre, who’s now a legendary ‘Rap’ producer, legally; he remains humbled with always knowing that his music has and continues to be inspirational to various different levels of genres.
plans are in store for something new and innovative that has not been introduced to the United States. “In the UK (United Kingdom/England), I’ve been checking out this style of music called “Techstep” and “Dubstep” w hich has been around for about 10 years. I’ll just call it the evolution of drum, bass and jungle music. It’s very hot in Europe with a sound that’s up-tempo! What I want to do with her will be innovative and interesting by taking some elements of that style and laying her vocals on top of that to create something different, and new for a younger generation! Let’s just say it will be a mesh between “Pop” and “Dubstep” music. ” I personally remained dumbfounded with trying to grasp onto what the hell he was talking about, yet he continued to add to my confusion, “Just tell your readers this, those who know anything about music will understand what I’m saying! Dubstep, is an up tempo version of electro music which can be mixed in easily with other tracks, that’s double the speed of a rap track. While a hip-hop or rap track will play at 70-80 DPM, a Dubstep track will play at 140-150 DPM!”
Where R U Mentally? Astute and well versed with all types of music, his preferences range from Classical to Hip-Hop, and from Jazz to Rock and Roll. In his spare time he also reads, with recently adding “God’s Miracle Plan for Men,” by Minister Robert Tilton to his literary repertoire. Of course, this opened the door to questioning his spirituality, which he adamantly stated, “Yes, I am very spiritual, I’m non-denominational but I am a Christian!” While his love for music obviously runs deep from within, his second being, as with most men, is football! “I am a football ‘Fanatic!’ If I were big enough, I would have played football in high school; however, I did play on a little league team over there on 7 mile and Wyoming, (in Detroit at the Tindal Recreation Center) with the ‘Northwest Cougars!’ ” His fondness for football is such, that when traveling he’s a seasoned subscriber to “Direct TV’s NFL Internet Channel” so he will not miss any games on his laptop!” Although, he may get ‘Brutal,’ on the ‘Wheels of Steel,’ on stage and in the studio; his demeanor is the exact opposite, laid back, and somewhat of an introvert. A husband, and father; new music under construction, his companies’ new leadership underway; all while keeping it in “La Familia!” With God first, to being the “CREATOR” of a universal sound; certainly meets all of the prerequisites for being “The GODFATHER of Techno!” So, if you thought you knew who “Don Juan” is, was, or where he’s going to be; NOW, you KNOW! He’s right, ‘in the here and now;’ physically, and mentally, while anxiously awaiting any musical manifestations that technology might bring! “I’m gonna make them an offer they can’t refuse!”Don Corleone
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