Catholic Charities of Fairfield County, Inc. Behavioral Health Counseling April 2022· Vol.10
What Is Your Attachment Style?
Richard Madwid, MS, LPC, LADC, CCS Director, Behavioral Health Counseling Services
A person's attachment style is their specific way of relating to others in all relationships. Attachment style is shaped in early childhood in response to our interactions with our earliest caregivers. Our adult attachment is thought to mirror the dynamics we had with our caregivers as infants and children. Attachment style includes the way we respond emotionally to others as well as our behaviors and interactions with them.
Four Main Adult Attachment Styles 1 Secure
4 Fearful Avoidant
56% of adults have secure attachment The latter three are considered to be forms of insecure attachment
Secure Refers to the ability to form secure, loving relationships with others. Can trust others, not afraid of intimacy, ability to depend on others without becoming dependent, don't feel panicked if their friends or partners need space.
Avoidant This type maintains some distance from people or partners, or are largely emotionally unavailable in their relationships, preferring to be independent and rely on themselves. Also known as "dismissive-avoidant and anxiousavoidant observed among children." 25% of adults have avoidant attachment. (Hazan & Shaver)
Anxious Insecure attachment marked by a deep fear of abandonment, neediness, clingy behavior, always worried about people leaving them, hungry for validation. 19% of adults fall under the anxious attachment type.
Fearful-Avoidant Combination of both anxious and avoidant attachment. Children or adults desperately crave affection and want to avoid it at all costs even though they have a dire need to feel loved by others.
How Attachment Styles Are Formed Developed in infancy with our earliest caregivers. Researchers believe attachment style is formed within the first year of living (711 months old). Determined by how the caregivers respond to the child's cues when they are experiencing emotional distress. Human beings are born helpless, so we are hardwired at birth to search for and attach to a reliable caregiver for protection.
Secure attachment is formed by caregivers that are:
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