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making business more personal the pros and cons of dating in the workplace written by Lauren Landry / photo by Danni Scully

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fter two days of working in retail, and after a long, eight hour shift, seeing daily, and it’s easier to spend time toyou realize how redundant your the face of a familiar love was nothing if gether. “It becomes apparent very quickly job is. So imagine my boredom not comforting. if two people are not meant to be,” said after five years of slinging denim, tuckRomance in the workplace, however, Nicole Spirito, class of 2011. “Essentially ing tees, and swallowing the wrath of can get sour fast, as the cons begin to because so much time is spent together, angry customers. My only solace came hold their own next to the glimmering both inside work and outside.” in the form of a curly haired, brown positives. So should you or shouldn’t The large amount of time you spend eyed, six foot male who just so happened you have that coworker on speed dial? together can either make or break a relato be my coworker. “It is a big risk you take when you tionship. If a breakup does occur though, We started off as friends. When I need- commit to dating a coworker,” said Jeff you need to hide your hurt. Libby Erlbaumed to borrow an X-Acto knife, he’d reach Beam, class of 2010. “If your relation- Rumelt, class of 2010, described a relationinto his back pocket and hand me his own. ship ends, it makes working conditions ship she once had with a coworker. When After a few shared casual their innocent office flirtation there was just something lunches in the store’s caturned into a sexual relationnary yellow break room, ship, she realized the sex, and about the way the store s we swapped myspace his personality, were so bad names and soon began fluorescent lighting bounced that she stopped talking to to talk outside of work. him at work for two months, off his almond locks Quickly, we discovered creating many awkward situhow much we had in comations for herself. “Ultimately mon besides just our place of employment, uncomfortable and could make fellow I had to smooth things over because it was such as our love for Bill Cosby, the Boston coworkers uncomfortable.” nearly impossible for me not to interact Celtics, and anything sung by James Taylor. By dating in the workplace, you with him on the job,” she said. One date led to two, and the next thing I could become the subject of gossip. “You Many companies create policies reknew we were in a relationship. have to know yourself,” said Vanessa stricting interoffice dating to avoid these There was just something about Williams, class of 2010. “If you know sticky situations. While these relationthe way the store’s fluorescent lighting that you can’t keep your emotions and ships can work and be beneficial, you bounced off his almond locks. We’d steal relationship drama private, [workplace] need to keep your private life private. glances at each other in the warehouse dating is not for you.” “The rule is that if you have a sexual or and share secretive smirks, telling only When you spend 20 or more hours romantic relationship, keep it profesthe people we truly trusted of our “illic- of your week at work, dating a fellow em- sional at work,” Williams said. “You’re at it” affair. The relationship made coming ployee becomes a matter of convenience. work to work. If you get some ass in the to work pleasurable, rather than painful, You’re guaranteed to see your partner process, well that’s just a bonus.”

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em magazine- Winter 2010  

I was the Assistant Entertainment Editor and worked on the editorial team to copyedit, conceptualize articles and write articles.

em magazine- Winter 2010  

I was the Assistant Entertainment Editor and worked on the editorial team to copyedit, conceptualize articles and write articles.