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TURN OVER A NEW BELIEF
Grow Better Beliefs and Watch Your
Have you ever felt blocked or sabotaged when striving for a goal? Do you experience the same struggles over and over? If so, you may have certain limiting childhood beliefs holding you back.
veryone falls into the “negativity trap” at one time or another— that place where we’re overly self-critical or judgmental of others. Whatever the cause, whether physical exhaustion, overwhelming emotions, work pressures or family stressors, when we become aware of strong negative thoughts it’s essential to call a timeout to flip them to positive before they grow into damaging beliefs. Napoleon Hill, a Virginia native and business consultant, once said, “Our mind is a fertile garden spot in which weeds will grow in abundance if the seeds of more desirable crops are not sown there. Don’t let negativity find its way into the rich garden of the mind.” Author Bill Meyer reinforces this sentiment when he writes, “Be intentional! Every thought is a seed. If you plant crab apples, don’t count on harvesting Golden Delicious.” Beliefs are thoughts we have over and over until we believe them to be true. Empowering beliefs such as “I am happy, healthy and strong” bring out our best and help grow a positive mindset. Limiting beliefs such as “I’m fat, stupid and not good enough” undermine our confidence, creating shame and self-doubt. We have the power to choose by design what we believe. We’re free to change our minds and, as we change our minds, we inch steadily toward achieving our goals. So how can you grow better beliefs by design? Begin by using the follow-
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ing tips to intentionally plant better beliefs—those that grow your ability to rebound quickly with grace and ease.
Take a Timeout You can’t give to others if you’re running on empty! So step out of the fast lane, grab a pen and paper, and clear your mind. Take a long, deep breath and ask for guidance. Slow down and look within for inspiration and wisdom. Be honest and take responsibility for where you are by giving your feelings a voice. Seeing your thoughts on paper provides fresh perspective and renewed clarity. Without regularly connecting to what’s most important, you’ll find yourself tired, depleted and serving everyone’s needs except your own. Now think about your beliefs. Try to identify any that are working against you. Which are keeping you from reaching your full potential? Your goal will be to start eliminating these, one by one, from your belief system.
Accept and Love Yourself Exactly as You Are Don’t beat yourself up. Instead, celebrate the awareness that you can do better. Focus on progress, not perfection. As poet Leonard Cohen says, “Forget your perfect offering. There is a crack, a crack in everything. That’s how the light gets in. I am asking you to love your pockmarks, your scars, your size, your inability to be articulate, your awkwardness and all your imperfec-
By Christina Kunkle, RN, CTA Certiﬁed Life and Wellness Coach
tions. Do not run from these very welts that are a part of you. Stop, turn and embrace your humanness, ALL OF IT. Nurture yourself. Get used to loving who you are right now, with no excuses, no conditions.”
Stay Positive It’s tempting to jump head-first into a busy day, yet that’s the fast track to negativity. It’s more empowering to start heart-first, setting a clear intention about who you want to be and how you want to feel, no matter what’s going on around you. This determines whether you respond or react to circumstances as they unfold. Every thought, feeling and action will either take you closer to or farther away from who you want to be. Belief is the key to your success. You’ll need grit and courage to master your mindset, so get tough! “Keep your thoughts positive, because your thoughts become your words. Keep your words positive, because your words become your behaviors. Keep your behaviors positive, because your behaviors become your habits. Keep your habits positive, because your habits become your values. Keep your values positive, because your values become your destiny.” — Gandhi
Counter Negativity Formulate a positive affirmation that counters your negative belief and reaffirm it daily. Write your affirmation in