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BANSTEAD UNITED REFORMED CHURCH SERVICES Our Family Worship is held every Sunday at 10.30am a crèche is provided. Junior Church for children aged 3-14 meets at the same time, and we have a music group which meets at 10.10am. Holy Communion is normally celebrated during our morning service on the first Sunday of each month. For details of future events and important dates for your diary please see the monthly Diary Sheet or on our Website:


Service including Holy Communion led by Jo Patel

8th Sept

New Beginnings Service for all ages led by Members of Junior Church

15th Sept

Service led by Mr Albert Read from Redhill URC

22nd Sept Service led by Revd. John Joseph from Redhill URC 29th Sept

Harvest Festival led by Linda Richards (see page 12)

Tidings is edited by Linda Richards. Address: 3 Breech Lane, Walton on the Hill, Tadworth, Surrey KT20 7SQ Tel 01737 813617, e-mail I am happy to receive your contributions, ideas and suggestions for Tidings at any time but copy for the next edition should be with me by Sunday, 22nd September 2013 at the latest. Page 2 , Tidings, September 2013

For the first edition of Tidings of our vacancy I have asked our Interim Moderator, Revd. Philip Gray of St Andrew’s URC, Cheam, to address us all. Dear Friends, This may sound like my inaugural address, but what I hope will happen, as you and I journey through vacancy to induction of your new minister, is that we become friends. I hope it will not be a long journey for you all but that it will be a happy one. Let me tell you a little about myself so you have a picture of who will be working with you. My full name is Kenneth Philip Gray, normally known as Philip, but please not Phil! I am married to Helen and we are the proud parents of five children and seven grandchildren. Both Helen and I are Northerners, Helen from Yorkshire and myself from Manchester in Lancashire. For those of you who may be interested, here is a little of my working life, although somewhat edited. My early years were spent repairing televisions and radios before joining the RAF in 1968. I served 25 years with the RAF as an electrical engineer, during which time I was also non stipendiary. I left the RAF to go into full time ministry with the URC in 1993 and was recruited into the Army Chaplin’s department as a reservist whilst at my first church, serving with the Logistics Corp and the Royal Artillery. You may note I have an MBE, which was awarded to me for services in Kenya. In 1992/3 I led an RAF Church mission that designed and installed a water catchment scheme for a Theological/ Further Education College, providing 20,000 litres of fresh drinking water. The scheme was adopted by the UNWHO for use elsewhere in Africa where rainfall could be harvested. Tidings, September 2013, Page 3

Hobby wise, I ride and rebuild motorcycles and am currently in the final throes of refurbishing a 26 year old BMW. I am also a Radio Ham and play brass instruments, when I have the chance. That’s a little about me, but you will have to ask Helen about herself when you see her, and boy, does she have an interesting past career! Now the important things you need to know. As Northerners we like to laugh, as Christians who have heard the good news we have plenty to laugh about as well. We are serious about the word of God - and good coffee, (whoops! - now you know one of my main weaknesses). September is traditionally the month of Harvest Festival. Sadly, we have turned them into harvest services and slowly lost the celebration that we should be having when the harvest is safely gathered in. It’s hard these days to understand the joyfulness of harvest home that we once felt. We are so lucky these days with food obtained from all over the globe, enjoying fruits and vegetables that would have once been out of season. Yet even today, somewhere in the world, families will go hungry for the want of a crop, or may even die because the last crop did not last until the new one was ready to harvest. So this year let’s make our harvest festival into a celebration and rejoice in God’s goodness and bounty to us. One last thought: A Kenyan headmaster told me not to worry about how much food we have in the Northern hemisphere, but instead be glad, give thanks and praise God during the second helping. He then added, ‘but if you can help us in any way, we would be very glad.’ So don’t be embarrassed by God’s bounty, but try to remember others in practical ways. God Bless, Philip Page 4 , Tidings, September 2013

CHURCH FAMILY NEWS In our thoughts and prayers ... We send our best wishes to all the young people who have done so well in their school exams this summer - your hard work has paid off! Congratulations too to those who have completed degrees this summer and those starting out in new jobs. In July we were delighted to ordain and induct Emma Sabin as an Elder and induct Fiona Gayner, Ian Catt and Linda Richards who are returning to serve on the Elders’ Meeting. Please remember them in your prayers as they take up their new responsibilities. We also remember those who have recently moved - further details on the Members Page of the website. Martyn Sanders (younger son of Bernard and Muriel) has successfully completed the selection and training process to become an Ordained Local Minister in the Church of Scotland. Ordained Local Ministers are ministers of the word and sacrament appointed by Presbyteries (Synods), rather than a local church, to work with a group of churches. Martyn’s ministry will be in Gretna and nearby villages and will include celebrating the sacraments, outreach to a new housing development and supporting the wedding ministry in Gretna. Martyn’s ordination service was held on 14th July and his brother Robin was delighted to be able to attend.

Further, more personal Church Family News is available in the members’ log in page or in the paper copy of Tidings. For details of the log in and password please contact

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TO EVERYONE AT BANSTEAD URC ‌ A very big thank you to everyone for making my last day at Banstead so memorable. There were so many surprises that it was quite overwhelming. So many people did so much to make it such a wonderful day with all the planning and preparation beforehand and on the day itself (including the clearing up followed for some by preparing for Holiday Fun Week). Thank you everyone. The service itself contained a number of surprises - thank you to the Junior Church and to the choir. We are looking forward to hearing again the Choir Anthem which is such an affirmation of the musical gifts and tradition of the church. Holding the farewell lunch in the church itself was a brilliant idea, and another surprise. As we enjoyed a most delicious lunch together, it seemed to make it even more poignant knowing that we had just shared in Communion together. Thank you also for all the wonderful and generous gifts. I have already earmarked a place in the dining room for the Junior Church plate and the Elders and Church photographs which will bring back many happy memories of my time in Banstead. And we shall be buying something that will be a permanent reminder of everyone in the church. Banstead URC really is a most exceptional church. The members are genuinely friendly and welcoming, and the church as a whole is willing to tryout new things - and with enthusiasm! And Charles and I have received a great deal of personal support and acts of kindness over the years. It has been a source of great joy that I have been able to serve the church here. The church is blessed with its Officers and Elders (serving and non-serving) and I know that the church will be in good hands during the vacancy as it continues to witness to its faith in Jesus Christ. With many thanks and every blessing

PS If any of you are visiting Goring, we would love to see you. Page 6 , Tidings, September 2013

REFLECTIONS ON SUNDAY 28TH JULY 2013 There have been many notable celebrations and festivals in the life of our church but for logistical planning and excellence, last Sunday is surely the epitome! Our much esteemed minister Jenny’s farewell service in the lavender bedecked church was a happy one despite sad thoughts of she and Charles leaving Banstead, and included Junior Church’s presentation of a signed platter. Afterwards we waited for the children to collect the communion glasses before adjourning to the green for wine and a vast assortment of canapés served by the children so happily. Jenny and Charles had many of their family there to see them cut a splendid cake before the call to lunch.

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The church had been transformed with well-laid dining tables, (more flowers) seating 90. A delicious lunch was cheerfully served – a special thank you to Chris and her family for their substantial contribution – and tributes were paid by Kevin, Alan and Robin, together with presentation of pictures of the church family, a book of personal messages from us all and a cheque. In response Jenny kindly gave us the gift of a lovely Scottish Hymnal and a mystery bag which contained a corkscrew for the church. Apparently one had had to be borrowed from the manse on several occasions! Finally we moved on to the hall for coffee and cake against a televised background of high spots including Charles, the engine driver, transporting laughing passengers. Oiled wheels require care and effort and on this sad but special occasion of wishing Jenny and Charles happiness in their retirement, we were truly appreciative of all the helpers who made the day wonderful. Thank you so much, we are proud of you. Olive Worsley

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REVD IAN STEWART We were saddened to hear of the death of Revd Ian Stewart, former minister of this church, on 8th August. Ian’s son Marc writes: Ian and June so enjoyed their years in Banstead, and we as a family were blessed by Banstead URC in so many ways. Though I did not stay long with them in the Manse, other than for a few months during university teaching-training, Banstead was like a home to me, and will always have a special place in Cheryl and my life as we celebrated our marriage at the church in 1981, and as we recall the faithfulness of Banstead URC members. Dad often spoke to me of the great privilege he felt, in a very humble way, of serving with such a vital congregation. Just a short story from yesterday: My Dad was not a very insistent person but he insisted that we make plans to go to Blackpoint Inn in Scarborough, Maine for a family meal following next Tuesday's graveside service. This evening we went to check Blackpoint Inn out, it was where Winslow Homer had a home...but there were two paintings in the men's room, of British sailing called "outward bound" and the other called "homeward bound" of the ships passing Liverpool light outside Liverpool harbour in the UK, the harbour where dad used to sail in/out of when he was in the British Merchant Marines before we moved the USA. We believe Dad is in the protection of the God who "watches over our going and coming from this time forth and forever more" as it says in Psalms, and that he is both outward bound and homeward bound. God-speed, Marc Stewart Ian’s obituary can be read at memsol.cgi?user_id=1060038 Tidings, September 2013, Page 9

ELDERS’ SONGS OF PRAISE SERVICE On Sunday, 18th August the Elders arranged something different for us – they led us in prayers, readings, and a talk to the Church family but there was no sermon – instead we had nine hymns chosen by members of the congregation and linked together by Madeline Cranfield. I think it is fairly safe to say they were well known to everyone with the exception of that chosen by the Music Group – but isn’t that just what one wants – the spice of something new or at least new to most of us! On a nice sunny morning we were grateful to Anne Bestente for starting us off with “Morning has broken” its lilting traditional Gaelic tune making it a very appropriate choice for her. “The Lord is my shepherd” came next with Joan Higgins reminding us how it is such a wonderful affirmation that God cares for each one of us in both good and difficult times. We sang it to Stuart Townsend’s music which we are beginning to know well – it is encouraging when a new tune is so swiftly accepted even when there are several other well established ones. Hazel Woodrow, who helped in the crèche for so many years, chose “All things bright and beautiful” – a hymn we associate with children but is sung on many other occasions as well. It seems now unbelievable that in my childhood days that extraordinary verse inferring God ordered the estate of the rich and the poor was still included! The Music Group chose “My Jesus, my Saviour” which Georgie Catt introduced. She said she wasn’t sure exactly why she liked it but it had a nice “oomphi” bit in the middle. We saw or rather heard what she meant – and I guess more people than I realised knew it quite well! Our centenarian Peter Woodrow requested that evocative hymn “Abide with me”; Madeline reminded us how its language speaks of the eternal hope of God’s love. Nettie Cooper introduced her choice “Dear Lord and Father of mankind” emphasising the need for a good tune that can be sung easily – but also underlining how the words of this hymn are Page 10 , Tidings, September 2013

appropriate to different stages in life. Beverly Kent asked for “Be still for the presence of the Lord” which surely will be in the next URC hymn book. Madeline told us that David Evans who wrote both the words and the music was then only in his twenties. I chose “Give to me, Lord, a thankful heart”, partly because of the words and music but also because wherever I am it will immediately link me back to Banstead URC. Elizabeth Johnson asked for “The day thou gavest, Lord, is ended” which brought the Service suitably to a close. She shared with us her memories of singing this in Church and at school in Northern Ireland and how it proclaims the hearing of the Gospel has no limits. One felt the Service had been well received and may be at some later date will be repeated – not very soon as I know the pulpit is “supplied” one way or another until Christmas and maybe beyond. What is it about hymns that has such a broad appeal? Perhaps sometimes they just come as a welcome interlude between things we have not been able to concentrate on, or really understand. But in our hearts and minds we know they are much more than that and to an extent in the non –conformist church they express our creed. Certainly through the popularity of Songs of Praise they are a vital link with the non church going public – even those who express no belief will listen regularly. The importance of “good hymns” in both words and music cannot be over emphasised. Thank you Elders! Ruth Williams

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SUNDAY 29TH SEPTEMBER 2013 BRING A FRIEND TO HARVEST Harvest is a time for celebration and a time for sharing so why not make a special effort to invite a friend to join us for our Harvest Festival Service this year? Everyone will be made warmly welcome and all are invited to join us for …

HARVEST BRUNCH On Sunday 29th September we will be celebrating Harvest in a traditional way by Sharing – bringing a donation to the Epsom Food Bank (see opposite), bringing food along for a Healthy Harvest Brunch following the morning service, and also bringing along any visitors you can think of who might like to attend with you. Brunch will be a ‘no-ticket event’ so you should just turn up on the day. Soft drinks (including tea and coffee) will be provided. There will be lists of the foods we will need that we encourage you to sign up to bring along, and there will also be the opportunity for you to volunteer to help with the usual set-up, serving and clearing up activities. We look forward to this latest opportunity for the church to pull together once again as we celebrate Harvest together. For further detail please contact Emma Sabin or Jo Patel.

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THE EPSOM FOOD BANK ( WWW.EPSOMEWELL.FOODBANK.ORG.UK/ ) Perhaps, like me, you were surprised to learn earlier this summer that food banks nationwide were struggling to meet demand with more people than ever being referred to them. This is not the place to debate the reasons why it has happened but as Christians we want to help those less fortunate than ourselves and it seems to me that this is just such an opportunity. Nationally during 201213 over 346,900 folk asked for help of which over 126,800 were children. In our area, Epsom Churches Together coordinates the reception of donations and subsequent distribution. Not only churches are involved but also others such as local schools, shops and businesses. Clients are referred to distribution centres by frontline workers such as Doctors and Social Workers. For our Harvest Festival it has been proposed by Elders that we direct our giving towards our local food bank. Nationally, about one third of goods given come from Harvest services and it follows from this that only non-perishable items can be accepted. Needs vary throughout the year and what is wanted now by the Epsom food bank are: ● instant custard

● instant mash

● coffee

● tinned spaghetti ● tinned puddings ● dried milk ● single packed toothbrushes ● shampoo ● deodorants BUT for the time being … NO soup

NO cereals

NO tea,

NO biscuits

NO pasta please.

Perhaps, after Harvest, we will be able to continue to support the Food Bank by sending regular donations to boost their supplies. Look out for more information in Tidings next month. Arthur Bestente Tidings, September 2013, Page 13

PLANS FOR THE AUTUMN We have two exciting new groups planning to meet during the autumn ...


Tuesday 10th September at 7.45pm will be the start of a new prayer venture. A group will be getting together every fortnight in the Church to explore prayer in a discussion time. We will have refreshments and finish with prayer around 9pm. Open to everyone from all churches and none.... Please join us when you can or speak to Jo Patel for more details Future dates for 2013: 10th & 24th September ( NOT 8th ) 22nd October 5th & 19th November 3rd & 17th December

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Following the enthusiastic feedback from the ‘King’s Speech’ house group, there will be another film-based house group series starting in October.

We will meet at Linda and Ken’s on Monday evenings starting on 14th October for 5 weeks (i.e. 14th, 21st, 28th October, 4th and 11th November).

More details in month’s Tidings.


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As editor of Tidings it is always nice to receive contributions from members of the congregation for inclusion in the magazine (provided they are free from copyright, of course!). The following poem was given to me by Eric Riley. It appeared previously in ‘Outlook’ the Parish Magazine of St Martin’s Church, Ruislip and is widely available on the internet. Thank you, Eric.

HEAVEN’S GROCERY STORE I was walking down life's highway A long time ago. One day I saw a sign that read: Heaven's Grocery Store.. As I got a little closer, The door came open wide ... And when I came to myself, I was standing inside. I saw a host of angels; They were standing everywhere ... One handed me a basket and said: "My child, shop with care." Everything a Christian needs Was in the grocery store. And all you could not carry, You could come back next day, for more. First I got some Patience ... Love was in the same row. Further down was Understanding, You need that wherever you go. I got a box or two of Wisdom, A bag or two of Faith. I could not miss the Holy Spirit, For he was all over the place.

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I stopped to get some strength and courage, To help me run this race. By then my basket was getting full, But I remembered I needed some Grace. I did not forget Salvation, For Salvation is free ... So I tried to get enough of that To save both you and me. Then I started to go up to the counter, To pay my grocery bill, For I thought I had just enough of everything To do my master's will, As I went up the aisle, I saw Prayer. And I just had to put that in, For I knew that when I stepped outside, That I would run right into sin. Peace and joy were plentiful, They were on the last shelf; Songs of Praise were hanging near, So I just helped myself. Then I said to the angel: "Now how much do I owe?" He just smiled and said: "Just take them everywhere you go." Again I smiled and said: "How much do I really owe?" He smiled and said: "My child, Jesus paid your bill, A long time ago." Author unknown

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GREETINGS FROM SHAFTESBURY PART TWO (News from Keith and Carol Pollock) Because we now only have a cottage garden I got involved with ‘Shaftesbury Home Grown’. This is a local community project where a group of 30 plus residents, together with, at times children from the local primary school work on a piece of land (6 acres) that was given to the group by a local landowner. It’s really like a huge allotment with the addition of sheep, chickens, ducks, pigs and a couple of bee hives. For every hour that you put in you get a point. These points convert to what you can receive in produce. Apart from the satisfaction of growing the produce, there is also the camaraderie which has been a great way of meeting up with local people. Despite this flurry of activity, we haven’t been holed up in Shaftesbury for five months. We’ve been up to London a couple of times to visit my son, partner, and grandson, and in April went down to Fowey in Cornwall. I was doing a five day Furniture Restoration Course while Carol walked the South West Coastal Path. I’ve booked October for what will be my second 5 day course, with two more booked for March and April 2014. Shaftesbury’s in an ideal location betwixt London and the South West, and also not far from the Jurassic Coast where we’ve taken our visitors… …of which we’ve had several friends and family come to stay with us already, which has been lovely. Paul, Glenda and Nicki Chadburn called in on their way back from a holiday in Cornwall and its times like these that we do miss our Surrey friends. We don’t however really miss Tadworth. We both knew the time was right to leave those memories behind, and life, although it can never be perfect, is about as good as it can be. Why ‘April Cottage’ you may ask. Well, Sophie loved helping me in the garden at Tadworth. Who could forget that evocative poem she wrote “Me and Pops in the Garden”. More than anything she loved the changing of the seasons, and her favourite time of the year was spring. When everything starts to grow, the trees blossom and when the seeds need planting, Sophie was always there to help. It Page 18 , Tidings, September 2013

was on a drive back from Shaftesbury after we’d decided to buy the Cottage that we were trying to decide what to call it. After much tossing around of ideas, Caitlin eventually came up with the perfect name “April Cottage”, Sophie’s favourite Month of her favourite season, as it’s also the month of her Birthday. Finally, what news of the Girls? After meeting up with Lauren in India last December, we travelled together through Thailand spending Christmas and New Year on Koh Lanta Island. We parted company in Bangkok, when we returned to the UK and Lauren to Cambodia. She is now in Sydney, Australia where Caitlin has recently met up with her (and Annabel Parsk). We believe their plan is to spend some time together exploring Australia, and in between times Lauren will ‘pop’ back to Africa for a month to catch up with her friend Tyrone who runs a safari tour company there. We hope to see Caitlin back home for Christmas, but who knows? It’s hard to keep up with their travel plans. We just sit back & wait for the next instalment, or the S.O.S. e mail for some emergency funding. To be paid back, of course, “When I get a job” Here in Shaftesbury we have not as yet got involved directly with any specific churches although many of the events that we have attended have church connections. There are several local churches, and the ‘United Church’ ( URC/Methodist) is just around the corner. I am sure there will come a time to become involved, and I’ll know when that will be. So Banstead URC is entering another period of vacancy, it doesn’t seem like 6 years have passed since the last one. I know though, that this will give the Elders an opportunity to step into the breach again to ensure that the services, prayers, devotions and celebrations continue until the appointment of a new minister. So, best wishes to you all and especially Jenny and Charles on their Retirement. I am sure there will be lots of celebration surrounding the event, and we’re sorry we can’t be there to share the occasion. Keith and Carol Pollock

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Thinking about joining B5Y? Not sure whether you want to? Not sure what they do? Below is an article by someone who joined B5Y when she was in Year 9 and is now leaving as she goes off to university...... When I first started going to B5Y I didn’t know many people but everyone was really friendly and made me feel welcome straight away. Since then I have taken part in many exciting activities including youth services with games and food afterwards, caving, rounders and football, low ropes and Christmas discos. There is also the annual venture weekend which usually involves a talk and workshop (last year we learnt about what it is like to have a disability), a church service, a night walk, lots of games and a sleepover in the church hall! I have really enjoyed being able to attend youth services at the five churches in Banstead because it is interesting to listen to different ministers. Now I am going to Bolivia as a volunteer with Tearfund and before I go I have to raise £800 to show my commitment to Tearfund and its aims. I am doing the volunteer work with ICS (International Citizen Service) which is a government funded programme therefore the money I raise is not to pay for my own travel expenses, it is to allow ICS to continue running for other volunteers. The details of my placement are on my Just Giving page: Being involved in B5Y has been a brilliant experience as it has given me the chance to meet other people my age who share the same faith and values as me. I have made lots of lasting friendships at B5Y and most importantly I have had lots of fun! Maddie Larkin For more information and to join in the fun at our next activities please contact the Banstead 5 Youth Coordinator, Beverley Kent Page 20 , Tidings, September 2013

B5Y activities planned for the autumn are Sunday 8th September at URC 7 - 8.30 pm Fun & Food for Years 8 – 10 8 – 9.15 pm Chill & Chat at URC for Year 11 & above Sunday 15th September at St Ann’s Church 5.45 – 8.30 pm Youth Service & Fun & Food Sunday 10th November - Outing Details will be available approximately 3 weeks prior to each event. Please see your church rep or contact Beverley by email for permission forms.

MISSING ... PRESUMED BORROWED! The Good News Dramatised Bible seems to have ‘disappeared’, from the Church Library. If you know its whereabouts please return it as soon as possible.

St Paul’s Church presents A French Evening on Saturday 14th September in the Church Hall, Warren Road, 7.30 – 10.00pm. A 4 course French meal with aperitifs, wines and liqueurs. Please advise any dietary requirements at time of booking. Open Bar. Dress code is “A la France” this will be appreciated but is not essential. Tickets £15.00 available from Carole Gossain 351683 A Fun Night with all profits for St Paul’s Church Funds Tidings, September 2013, Page 21

THE BANSTEAD FIVE CHURCHES DAY CONFERENCE Saturday 12 October 2013 at Banstead United Reformed Church 9.00am – 4.00pm (£10 includes lunch) BISHOP KIERAN CONRY “Are there key ethical issues which the church should defend?”

DR. PETER VARDY “Good and Evil/Good and Bad Religion”

REVD. JOHN PROCTOR “Breaking Bread – Mending Fences”

The last date to purchase tickets will be 22nd September. Make sure you don’t miss the opportunity to hear these excellent and very distinguished speakers.

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ST PAUL’S CHURCH IS GOING TO CANTERBURY Saturday 21st September and you are welcome!

In the year 597, Augustine and a party of monks, on the instructions of Pope Gregory, landed in the Anglo-Saxon kingdom of Kent. Their mission was to convert the English. Augustine founded a cathedral and became the first Archbishop of Canterbury. We travel through Kent, the “Garden of England” and our day begins with a short walking tour of Canterbury, with Blue Badge Guide, Geoff Marshall. We break for an early lunch and are then guided around Canterbury Cathedral by a specialist cathedral guide. There is much to see in the cathedral, including beautiful stained glass windows with scenes from the life of Becket, the Norman crypt, Becket’s shrine and the tombs of Edward the Black Prince, Henry IV and Joan of Navarre. The day ends with sung evensong in the cathedral for those who would like to attend or free time in Canterbury. Meet the coach at 08:45 at the Horseshoe, Banstead or at St Paul’s Church, Warren Road at 0900. (Please indicate your choice when booking). We return to Banstead by 7pm What does it Cost? £38 all in (this includes admission (£13) to the precincts of the cathedral and a guided tour of the cathedral by an in-house cathedral guide) Cheques made payable to St Paul’s Church, Nork and tickets from: Jill Bakker, 12 Parkwood View, SM7 1JH 01737 210241

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Church Secretary: Kevin Dinnage 01737 356380 Copy for the next edition should be with the editor by Sunday 22nd September Email:

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Tidings September 2013  

Magazine of Banstead United Reformed Church September 2013