Welcome to the Eighth edition of the Bride Guide. If you’ve seen one of these before, then you’ll know what to expect, but just in case... Safe Trading is SO EASY LISTINGS The listings in the book are all free listings and are wedding suppliers that feature at Bridefayre Wedding fayres.
Emails to this address are forwarded to all the people in the section, replies will come from individual suppliers. Great for finding availability and getting quotes from multiple suppliers. Be as specific as you can in your email.
For a supplier to be listed they will have been at or booked into a late 2018 or 2019 wed- Websites—The wedding ding fayre and will have shown business runs on small decent to be professional and reliable. traders and some of these have no website, please don’t asBLOCK ADVERTISING sume that lack of a “proper website” is an indication of These are available to suppliers reliability. who qualify for a free listing . Numbers in Boxes—This is nothing more than a guide to date ones I have. the LATEST you should look at booking these suppliers, in Group emails—Each secmonths, before the wedding. tion has a group email Popular suppliers need more (Cakes@bridefayre.com) time!
Emails—are the most up to
Weddings are expensive enough...
Communication. Always clear and always documented, a text reply to a facebook post which was a comment about a phone call is no use to anyone. Write it, Print it, Keep it. Honesty. Both sides need to be clear about what they need, when they need it and what they will do to fulfil their side of the bargain. Flexibility. Life inflicts change upon us. Sometimes plans need to change. Wedding suppliers should have a contingency, always drop in the question “what happens if you are in a car crash the day before the wedding”. If they have to think...leave and find someone with a plan. Pricing. An open and upfront price is never a rip off, you can accept, look around or negotiate. The cheapest is NEVER worth the money. Agree a price for a service and stick to both. Contracts. A long ten page contract is never there to protect YOU. Read it all or walk away and find someone sensible. Payments. No-one EVER needs 100% deposit a year before the wedding, 10-15% is normal, balances 6 weeks before is fair, always get some form of receipt.
The 2019 Diary of great little events! Date
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Accessories Balloon Sculptures Bands Bars Beautician Bridalwear Cakes Campervans Camping Candy Caricaturist Carriages Cars Casino Caterers Celebrants Chair Covers Childrens Ents Dancefloors Dentistry Disco Entertainment Fireworks Flowers Formal Attire Garden Games Gifts Glamping Hairstylist Hats Honeymoons Invitations Jewellery Limousines
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Love Letters Magic Mirrors Magicians Make-up Marryoke Millinery Musicians Photo Booths Photographers Postboxes Singers Spray Tan Stationery Table Centres Tanning Toastmasters Travel Venue Dressing
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6, 12, 28, 33 Venues 27 Video 31 Vocalists 17 Wedding Arches 31 Wedding Favours 17 Wishing Trees 31
The Directory of Wedding Suppliers. The following right hand pages are the listings of suppliers who have exhibited at, or are exhibitors at Bridefayre wedding fayres—plain text listings are free—colour adverts are paid for by the supplier. Short Emails—Every section has a short email address. An email to this address will be diverted to all the suppliers in the listing for availability and price requests. Be specific about needs and dates, locations and times.
Perfect Jewellery Tracylea Weddings
Sparkly pretty things to add a little extra glam.
Bars (Mobile) Drinks@bridefayre.com
Alcohol on the go! None listed at the time of printing—email above for updates.
So much choice but there is only “one” The place to find it and have it fitted is a Bridalwear shop.
Allison Louise Bridal Designs of Barton Under Needwood Ltd Finesse Brides Team Bride Derbyshire Tracylea Weddings Opulence Bridals (Curvy Sizes)
www.allisonlouisebridal.co.uk www.bridaldesignsofbarton.co.uk www.finessebrides.com www.teambridederbyshire.co.uk www.tracyleaweddings.com www.opulencebridals.co.uk
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Modern Venues All the comfort—All the convenience—Lots of rooms
The Holiday Inn Derby/Nottingham 01159210500 A lovely light and bright informal wedding venue about 500 metres from the very centre of England’s transport network. This hotel doesn’t pretend to be anything opulent or flamboyant it is however, great value, friendly and very customer focussed. Lots of parking, lots of lovely smart modern bedrooms and just 10 minutes from the Airport, the rail network and the Nottingham tram terminus make this hotel a popular choice for couples with spread out families. Suitable for weddings of up to 150 guests, you’ll find the deceptive layout to be really popular with your guests and you’ll find the keen prices to be popular with your plans.
The Hallmark Mickleover Court Hotel 01332 521234 A spacious and modern American style “venue hotel” with three superb function suites to cater for weddings of most sizes, The Mickleover court has a stunning atrium and sunken lounge as you enter the hotel reception but also features a separate entrance for your wedding day. Lots of parking, close to the A50 trunk road and about 15 minutes from the Airport and the rail network. The function rooms are flexible in size due to some clever hidden moving walls so you can be as spread out or snug as you wish. A 4* hotel with a spa and full fitness centre, the Mickleover court is perfect for families that plan to make a weekend of it.
From the â€œNaked fresh cream cakeâ€? to the tower of Cupcakes, your wedding dessert says a lot about your style.
A's Treat Box Cameo Cupcakes CocoaBake Dawn Marie Cakes Deborah's Cakes and Sugarcraft Emily Twyford Wedding Cakes Joanna Evans Cake Design Julia Florence Cake design Lemon Zest Cake Company Little bit of heaven Red Velvet Bakery The Butterfly Bakehouse The Lavender Whisk The Fabulous Baker Girls
Abbie's Sweet Cart Bee Sweet Cart Sweet-a-fayre Sweet Little Moments sweet little thing
www.astreatbox.co.uk www.cameocupcakes.co.uk www.cocoabake.co.uk www.dawnmariecakes.com www.fb.com/debscakesandsugarcraft www.etweddingcakes.co.uk www.joannaevanscakedesign.co.uk pending www.lemonzestcakes.co.uk www.littlebitofheaven.co.uk www.redvelvetbakery.co.uk www.thebutterflybakehouse.com www.lavenderwhisk.co.uk www.fabulousbakergirls.co.uk
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Candy carts, stands and ferris wheels, all the fun of the fair (see also Dental :-)
www.fb.com/AbbiesSweetCart www.fb.com/beesweetcart www.sweetafayre.co.uk www.fb.com/sweetlittlemomentsderby www.fb.com/sweetlittlethingderby
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Once you remove the expectations of your family from the plans, you are free to rip up the rule book, those little unspoken family rules about who you MUST invite, where you MUST have the ceremony and why you can’t do this or must never do that. Your mum had her wedding, she doesn’t need to control a second one. This is YOUR wedding, this is 2019, the world is your oyster, the beach is your chapel! Except…
Gay Tips for a Straight Wedding.
efore everyone condemns me as a raving homophobe, stuck in the 1970’s let me start by saying that since 1983 I’ve attended well over 1000 weddings, of those only about 20 were “Civil Partnerships” or more recently single-gender marriages. So what tips for the majority of weddings will come from those few events? Bizarrely, quite a few!
The guests are not there to witness your day, they are there to take part in it and the Gay weddings I’ve attended have been every bit as much about the guests as the couple. A real celebration of community, sparkling entertainment planned to create a show. Partially rehearsed speeches with love and humour in the right balance.
The one thing you are pretty much guaranteed at a single gender wedding reception, is a happy upbeat, memorable event that people want to be at. We’ve all been to a wedding where we’ve felt left out of it, that we were just there because the happy couple felt they ought to invite us, where perhaps we were just observers of a day with no consideration for us, just a massive ego boost for a bride, a groom, or worse, a brides parents. I can say with all honesty that every “Gay” wedding I’ve attended, either as a DJ or a wedding car owner, has been fun, and inclusive, and as far as I can make out, the two underlying reasons are fairly simple…
Knowing your guests and the things they like is the best wedding present you can give yourself, included guests and full audience participation is the way to go! Four hours of mad, crammed in fun, cocktails and cheesy dance music, streamers, balloons and glow sticks, fish and chip suppers and hugs from friends OR, 12 hours of trying to impress virtual strangers who happen to be related.
High on the list is family pressure. It’s not easy to say to mum “I’m not doing that just because you did it” but she’ll soon get over it when she sees you glow, blossom and celebrate on your own unique wedding day.
“Doing things just to make my Dad happy went out of the window when I came out of the closet”
Cars, Carriages and Campervans
Elsie the Camper Van VW Days
Bass Shire Horses Karen Bassett Carriage Driving
A and C Cars (v,c,m ) Capital Limousines (c, m) Chic Wedding Cars ( c ) Luxury Chauffeured cars (c, m ) Wedding Cars of Derby (c, m )
Classic VW campers in perfect condition
Don’t just get there—Arrive!
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Vintage (v) classic ( c ) and Modern (m) —the choice is yours!
www.aandcvintageweddingcars.co.uk www.capitallimos.co.uk www.chicweddingcar.com www.luxurychauffeuredcars.co.uk www.weddingcarsofderby.co.uk
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From Burgers to Banquets
Beyond Coffee UK (Barista Van +) Sweet-a-Fayre (snacking solutions) The Fabulous Baker Girls (Desserts)
Sharon Weaver Celebrant
www.beyondcoffee.co.uk www.sweetafayre.co.uk www.fabulousbakergirls.co.uk
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Your ceremony, your words, delivered beautifully.
These guys actually own a dancefloor, most DJ’s also have a contact. Sparkly and pretty!
Distinct Event Solutions DJ Daz Spirits High The Dancefloor Company TCK Entertainments Tracylea Weddings
www.distinct-events.co.uk www.djdaz.co.uk www.spiritshigh.co.uk www.thedancefloorcompany.co.uk www.tckentertainments.co.uk www.tracyleaweddings.com
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These chaps are experts in the “whitening and straightening” side of the business as well as being general dentists
Etwall Dental Practice Bupa Dental Care (Bolsover)
Classic Venues History and Style from a past generation
Entertainers—All you need to keep the party going!
Bow Belles String Quartet Christina & Harry Acoustic Duo Goldleaf Duo
Andy Gilbert Caricatures
Funny Money Casino Little Las Vegas
Duos, trios, bands—Music and vocals.
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A lovely guy and more than just a cartoonist.
From full on Vegas to a flirty flutter, a fun casino brings cruise ship magic to the wedding.
Children’s Entertainment email@example.com
Miniature horses and unicorns, yes, really.
Ashmore Antics www.ashmoreantics.co.uk Under the Stars Sleepovers & Events www.fb.com/@underthestarssleepovers
DJ Daz GC Events Jason v Gellecum DJ Leslie Ball Wedding DJ Livewire DJ Monteray Roadshow Spirits High TCK Entertainments
Matthew Ramsell Magic Paul Grundle Magician
Bow Belles String Quartet
Sparkling set-ups and professional presentations.
www.djdaz.co.uk www.gcevents.co.uk www.jasonvdj.com www.leslieball-weddingdj.co.uk www.livewiredjandkaraokehire.co.uk www.monterayroadshow.com www.spiritshigh.co.uk www.tckentertainments.co.uk
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Stunning illuminations to end the evening in style.
Table magic to break the ice from the masters.
Classical sounds to walk down the aisle with
Sometimes you just need a little something to make a corner of the wedding reception pop out and shout “Hey—it’s a celebration!” Owned by not one, but two recent Brides, Magnum cel-
ebration hire are proud to offer you the fun, photo or focal corner for your wedding celebration. Based in Derbyshire, close to the Staffordshire border we are local and ready to visit you for a chat. info@magnumcelebra onhire.co.uk
Linsey Hardy Lucy Floyd Wedding singer Natalie Nightingale Stephanie Garrett The Vintage Singer
Break the ice with a soulful song
www.facebook.com/linseyhardy88 www.singingprincess.co.uk www.natalienightingale.com wwwstephanie-garrett.co.uk www.simonpartridge.com
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More than just announcements, these gents will ensure the smooth running of your day.
Favours & Gifts Favours@bridefayre.com
Nothing says thank you like a little white box with something unusual in it..
Adorn Jewellers A R Prints Aspire Fine Jewellery Limited Duo Jewellery Mug of Love Perfect Jewellery
www.adornjewellerschesterfield.co.uk www.arprints.wordpress.com www.aspirejewellery.co.uk www.duojewellery.com www.mugoflove.co.uk www.perfect-jewellery.co.uk
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Fine art Keepsakes Tracey Hayward
Buttonholes to bouquets see also stunning artificial arrangements..
Brown Box Flowers Fletcher's Floral Design Studio Funky Florists Inspirations Florist Margaret's Florist No8 Studio Sarahs Floral Studio
http://brownboxflowers.co.uk www.fletchersfloristofderby.co.uk www.funkyflorists.co.uk www.inspirations.org.uk www.facebook.com/Margarets-Florist www.no8studioflorists.co.uk www.sarahsfloralstudio.co.uk
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Other Floral Silks@bridefayre.com
More than just announcements, these gents will ensure the smooth running of your day.
Forever in Bloom (Stunning Silks) Decorations By Design Sarahs Floral Studio Soul Binding by Rosie (Paper displays)
www.foreverinbloom.co.uk www.fb.com/decorationsbydesign www.sarahsfloralstudio.co.uk www.facebook.com/SoulBindingbyRosie
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Formal Attire Formal@bridefayre.com
Bridalwear for blokes!.
Jon Paul Formal Derby
Jon Paul Swadlincote
Perfect for the outdoors wedding, glamping is easy, laid back and lots of fun..
Not Just Travel Travel Searcher
Honeymoon Ideas Travel@bridefayre.com
Plan with the experts relax.
Adorn Jewellers Aspire Fine Jewellery Limited Duo Jewellery Perfect jewellery
See Also Accessoriesâ€”Rings to last a lifetime
www.adornjewellerschesterfield.co.uk www.aspirejewelleryonline.co.uk www.duojewellery.com www.perfect-jewellery.co.uk
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Tanning, Beauty, Hair
Bridal Beauty Beauty@bridefayre.com Bourne Beauty Grace N Glamour Hydra Beauty Perfectivity The Dollshouse by Sally Whitehead
www.monkeytailsnails.com www.fb.com/graceNglamour.pindy www.fb.com/hydrabeautyuk www.perfectivity.co.uk www.fb.com/sallywhitehead
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Bridal Hair Hair@bridefayre.com Beau Hair Bourne Beauty
Tanning Tan@bridefayre.com Wilde About Tan
Perfect for the Mother of the Bride, superb hats and fascinators.
The Little Hat Hire Company
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The little sideshows that get the conversation flowing.
Capturing Memories photobooths Distinct event solutions GC Events Instant image Magnum Celebration Hire Tracylea Weddings
www.capturingmemories-photobooths.co.uk www.distinct-events.co.uk www.gcevents.co.uk www.instantimagephotobooth.co.uk www.magnumcelebrationhire.co.uk www.tracyleaweddings.com
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Marryoke Electra Films and Marryoke
The top ten Most Forgotten wedding details. With SO MUCH to remember and so much to do, it’s no wonder little things get forgotten, things like… 1.
Baby Wipes… Handy for EVERYTHING.
Safety pins, a small one and a hefty one.
Directions, for everyone in a car.
End of the night taxis, they take AGES otherwise
Ibuprofen, for the next morning and
Water, bottles of water everywhere, you’ll need them.
Your “day after” kit of bags and boxes for the dress, the presents and the table décor you are keeping.
Dancing Pumps, those wedding shoes are going to pinch by 10pm
Saying thank you with a nice wedding photo in the post and a few well thought out words. And the Big one which is ALWAYS forgotten.
10. Taking time during the day to enjoy the little things, the smiles and laughter, the love and the friendship. It will go so fast so soak it up and slow it down.
So many Styles, so much choice. Choose the one you can work with and who reflects your style.
A Humble Photographer Aaron Russell Photography Andrea Palmer Weddings Chapel Photography Cummings Photography David Freemantle Photography Electra Films Field Photographic Field Photographic Gemma Yeomans Photography Kate Hollingsworth Photography Kevin Matthews Photography Martelle Photography Martin Cheung Photography Matt Collis Photography Neil Bennett Photography Pinky Promise Photography Screen Photography Shipley Photographic Shoot Photographic Total Wedding Photography Venus Photo Shoots Vicki Clayson Photography
www.ahumblephotographer.co.uk www.aaronrussellphotography.co.uk www.andreapalmerweddings.com www.chapelstudiophotography.co.uk www.cummingsphotography.co.uk www.davidfreemantlephotography.co.uk www.electrafilms.co.uk www.fieldphotographic.com www.fieldphotographic.com www.gemmayeomansphotography.co.uk www.khollingsworth.co.uk www.kevmatthewsphotography.co.uk/ www.martelle.co.uk www.martincheung.co.uk www.mattcollisphotography.com www.neilbennettphotography.co.uk pinkypromiseuk.wix.com/pinkypromiseuk www.screenphotography.co.uk www.shipleyphotographic.co.uk email@example.com www.totalweddingphotography.co.uk www.venusphotoshoots.com www.vickiclaysonphotography.com
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Oh, it used to be so simple, it was the back room of the pub, the club or the village hall. So many venues—so many promises—so many deals to be had. Here are my top 5 tips for finding the venue that suits you and your guests and remember, sometimes, walking away is the most positive thing to do. 1.
Location is essential, Is it easy to get to and get a taxi home from? Many really lovely out of town venues just too far for your guests to travel and the further out a venue is, the more no-shows you’ll get.
When you walk in off the street with no appointment are you greeted, or met with a frosty stare of a smile? A warm efficient service from staff is important and how they deal with minor hiccups is key.
Is it too big? A cosy reception venue is always a better atmosphere that a huge spacious, half empty room.
What are the bar prices like? If the guests are frightened to order another Pepsi for the kids or another pint, it won’t be much of a party later on. A good venue bar will always be 10-15% up on price, any more than that and you really need to consider your guests’ pockets.
What will they let you do, what do they insist on doing “in-House” and what can you not do? Get it in writing and see how it fits with your plans. No decent venue will lose business over a chair cover or your own preferred DJ but many shoddy ones use the backhanders from “preferred” suppliers as managers perks. Hidden costs like these can really harm your pocket! Merv Sheldon
Quite a few venue dressers have them, Paul has a choice of colours and styles .
Postbox for My Wedding
Stationery to set the scene
Cards4U Celebration Belles (Ripley) Ltd
Che Chic Stationery Sally-Ann's wedding Boutique With Love wedding stationery
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National Brewery Centre The Moat House Acton Trussell
See also Pages 4,10, 14 .
Historical Venues Walk to the wedding in the footsteps of Mary, Queen of Scots
Alfreton Hall 01773 838300 At 300 years old, Alfreton Hall has stood proud overlooking the valley and the ancient ruins of Wingfield Hall and the hunting grounds of the Cromwells. 100 years of mixed fortunes and some very dodgy owners ended around the turn of this century when the current owners took on a long plan of investment and care in this beautiful manor house. Alfreton Hall is an exclusive wedding venue with just 9 bedrooms, a lovely, cool ceremony room and history in every nook and cranny. Wheelchair accessible, great parking and flexible food options make this a real winner with brides looking for style and class without selling the family dog to pay for it.
Tutbury Castle 01283 812129 With 950 years of overlooking Derbyshire and East Staffordshire, when you say â€œI Doâ€? at Tutbury castle you will be doing so in a place visited by Kings, Queens and the most famous of prisoners, Mary Queen of Scots. Owned by our own Queen Elizabeth II and leased long term to a passionate historian, the castle, much of which was dismantled after the civil war, still stands tall as a partial ruin leaving just the Great Hall as a ceremony room and the grounds where the smart wedding marquee hosts the evening reception. No bedrooms, thanks to Oliver Cromwell, but space enough for glamping and the local hotels are but a short walk away in historic Tutbury. Close to the A50, A38 and with good parking, the castle is amazingly quiet and private.
Venue Dressing Decor@bridefayre.com
Enhance your venue with some well-chosen details
Apricot Events Decorations By Design Everlasting Weddings and Events Happily ever after weddings and Events Jason v Gellecum DJ Lily Rose Weddings Redshine design Spirits High Stage 2 Events Tracylea Weddings Balloon Artworks
www.apricotevents.co.uk www.fb.com/decorationsbydesign www.everlastingweddings.co.uk www.happilyeverafterweddings.co.uk www.jasonvdj.com www.lilyroseweddingsandevents.com www.redshinedesign.co.uk www.spiritshigh.co.uk www.stage2events.co.uk www.tracyleaweddings.com www.balloonartworks.co.uk
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Balloon Sculptures Balloon Artworks
Giant Garden Games Spirits High
Giant Love Letters Capturing Memories Photobooths Distinct Event Solutions DJ Daz Everlasting Weddings and Events Magnum Celebration Hire The Dancefloor Company Tracylea Weddings
www.capturingmemories-photobooths.co.uk www.distinct-events.co.uk www.djdaz.co.uk www.everlastingweddings.co.uk www.magnumcelebrationhire.co.uk www.thedancefloorcompany.co.uk www.tracyleaweddings.com
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Wishing Tree Hire The Caltef Design Co
Wedding Arches Beautiful Arches Everlasting Weddings and Events Fletcher's Floral Design Studio
Bramblehedge Wedding Videos Electra Films
www.beautifularches.co.uk www.everlastingweddings.co.uk www.fletchersfloristofderby.co.uk
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Treasured memories to enjoy and share
Dealing with the Drama queens.. How many times have we heard it?
determined to have their say in your wedding, Spend a few moments sounding these out you’ve tried neing flexible but no matter how to yourself. “The thing is, my bestie from school won’t much you plead, pander or laugh it off, the probwear blue and my sister won’t be a brides“That’s a shame, I really wanted you to be part of lem finders keep doing what they do. maid if my stepdad gives me away…” MY wedding and to be a (_____________) on MY special day, but I understand how you feel and The options would appear to be... Well first of all, why are all these four year olds I’ll make other plans, but thanks for letting me telling you what to do for your wedding? 1. Give in. Let the crazy take over. know” I like to blame Eastenders, this whole conflict 2. culture where everyone is constantly offended, where every chipped toenail is an emergency and where someone holds a grudge for 30 years over a spilled vodka and tonic is SO soap opera, but what can you do?
Stand firm, upset the lot of them. Have your own little tantrums until you either a – get your own way and fill your wedding with sulky faces or b—save a fortune because no-one will turn up.
“I know you and (_____________) don’t get on normally, but it would have made me so happy to have you both at MY wedding, I’ve planned this for so long, I understand if you don’t want to put the past to one side for a day”
3. Deal with the four year olds, as you would Clearly the very first thing to de is to make with REAL four year olds. a conscious decision to have a happy wedding day. It sounds too simple doesn’t it? Step 4. Use your powers of persuasion to bring away from the conflict, embrace the important them on board. stuff and let the unimportant stuff ride over you. Sometimes, explaining why something is imThe truth is in 6 months time no one will remem- portant to you serves one of two purposes, it helps ber the bridesmaid wearing the different colour the other person see the big picture and how you dress, was she even a bridemaid? No-one will care really want them to take part in it and sometimes that your cousin came along with his latest girl- in explaining it, you realise how petty and totally friend who announced 3 days before the wedding unimportant it really is, even to you. It’s not a that she was a gluten free vegan and, trust me, a 9 competition, there's no winner or loser, just a day months pregnant-and-ready-to-drop bridesmaid of awesome memories. will not take the attention away from the bride. But just in case... But then there's occasionally someone who seems
A favourite of mine is to actually ask someone how they suppose you feel about an issue.
“How would YOU deal with this if it was your wedding day?” or even just ask “How do you think this makes me feel when I’m planning the most important day of my life?” One final thing to say, if all else fails, you don’t NEED these people at your wedding, they are not your real friends and being family makes no difference, none at all. But… Wedding day wounds take a long time to heal, you can’t undo a decision after the big day. Sometimes, just occasionally, it’s better to lose a point than a friend.
Totally Personalised Venues Unique Spaces for unique weddings
Lumb Farm Country Club, Marehay 01773 744299 A great little exclusive use wedding venue, not far off the beaten track, but just far enough to soak up the countryside charm. With it’s own cabin style bedrooms, a function field and a smart function suite, this can be your festival, your glamping or your back to nature in a barn wedding dream.
The Whitworth Centre 01629 733678 Out on the A6 at Darley Dale, this Victorian mansion is home to a superb ballroom, a modern function room, two very different wedding chapels and 10 acres of open parkland… with a lake. Adjoining the park is the heritage railway and you can have your very own Hogwarts or vintage style wedding for vintage prices. A totally blank canvas with the flexibility to do whatever you want for your wedding, your way…
The 1862 Suite at Meadow Lane 01159 557222 A very open, very modern function suite for the larger wedding who may or may not be interested in “The Beautiful Game” The 1862 is part of Notts County and in the very heart of Nottingham, lots of parking, lots of options, this venue will have you inviting the entire street without breaking the bank.
Why Wedding Stationary is Going Nowhere! The quick guide to effective invitations. First thing to say here is “first impressions really count, I often wonder when I see an online supplier offering “Stationary” or “Invites”, if they apply the same rules of spelling and grammar to YOUR Stationery (with an “e” for envelope) and Invitations. Rule 1 then is to get a stationer with a brain, who can spell.
Wedding Stationery is one of the simplest things to really set your day apart, it’s really easy to get right and done well, it’s the best way to ensure that your wedding has no nasty surprises such as empty chairs, unwanted guests and catering misunderstandings.
Invitations traditionally come from the parents of the groom but are paid for by the parents of the bride! Most nowadays come from the couple. Your printer will advise you on the wording, but it is here where you state your preferences “Smart attire please” “Children welcome to the reception” and you ask for a response by putting RSVP. Remember, you need two different ones and they need to be clear, some will have the “Ceremony and the day of celebrations”, Some will have the “Ceremony and return at 8pm for the wedding reception” They need to have Dates, times, locations and an easy reply method. A popular thing to do is enclose a reply card where the guest can list dietary needs or if they can onlt make part of the day.
As soon as you confirm the date with your venue, talk to a local stationer, coordinated invitations, place settings and thank you cards that suit your theme, your style and your budget will work lots better Online gift lists can be represented with a small card insert and if than the “pound shop” tat and be less stressful than making them needed, the back can have details of your “honeymoon fund” yourself. Then follow the simple plan. Place settings and table plan are all proSocial Media is great for chat but rubduced a week before the wedding, so if you bish for getting people to commit, howneed to chase anyone for a reply to the inviever, setting up an event is a good way tation, do it early! tell people about your plans and find out about possible clashes, sometimes, movThank you cards with a wedding photo are ing the wedding a week early on in the generally unexpected, which is why you need planning is better than half the guests to send them, old people keep them, young not being there because of clash. Do it as people will feel special that you remembered soon as you have a date. Then order... to thank them and it all helps to make people feel that they were an important part of your Save the Date cards. They should be day. Failing that, a simple phone call thanksimple and smart, your names, the date ing them is always a great way to make someand your contact details. Post them 2nd one feel valued. A thank you text is not worth class or hand them out in person. the paper it’s printed on :-)
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This little bride guide has grown over the last 5 years and I hope that tucked away somewhere is a gem of wisdom that you are able to use for your own magical, wonderful wedding day, my best tip though is right here, in Pink. Steal the best ideas, laugh at the worst but more than anything, make YOUR wedding day yours. You are NOT a production line bride, don’t accept a production line wedding.
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