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How I Divorced the Military There are many ways to divorce the military!


Copyright Š 2010 by Karleen Page. All rights reserved. No part of this book may be reproduced or transmitted in any form or by any means without permission by the author. w w w. H o w I D i v o r c e d t h e M i l i t a r y. c o m P.O. Box 14548, Humble TX 77347-7548


Hello _______________________, I wanted to write you a personal note and thank you for reading my book. No matter how

you received it, whether you purchased it, it was donated, given to you, or you just borrowed it, I thank you. I wrote this book because, after all the years of growing up to the present, I wanted to be heard. I felt I had something to say since I would find myself on bended knees so many times. I wanted to scream out in public, but that would be un-ladylike. If my book offends you or anyone else, know that it is not my intention to be offensive. It is not and has never been my intent to slander my characters in anyway, either. I have nothing but great respect and admiration for the singers of all the songs that I wrote about in this book. To a great degree, I thank them for helping me get over many humps in my life. Gospel singers like Lee Williams and The Spiritual QC’s put a lot of things in my mind when they sing songs like “Come See about Me” and “You Can’t Run and You Can’t Hide.” I know I am not the only person that wants to scream out because life gets to be too much; this was my outlet. If my book helps one person other than myself, like the singers of the songs have helped me get through all of my storms, I am grateful. I hope while you are reading my book you will at least be able to find a moment of peace. For that, I dedicate this book to you, the reader..


Table of Contents Part I: An Introduction into My Private Life Chapter 1.................................................................................2 Chapter 2 ..............................................................................13

Part II: Growing Up Too Fast Chapter 3 ..............................................................................35 Chapter 4 ..............................................................................42 Chapter 5 ..............................................................................58

Part III: Living a Fantasy Chapter 6 ..............................................................................68

Part IV: Life as a Trophy Chapter 7 ..............................................................................88

Part V: Divorcing the Military Man Chapter 8 ............................................................................107 Chapter 9 ............................................................................120 Chapter 10...........................................................................165 Appendix ............................................................................192


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Acknowledgments

First and foremost, I want to salute the power of

God and his son, Jesus Christ, for allowing me to see my vision through.

My team of editors Cheryl Delahoussaye, Nathan

Tavares, Christy Adams, Brandi Sikes-Smith, and other colleagues for supporting my vision

and editing How I Divorced the Military and enhancing it to become the insight that I knew it could be.

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Thank you to my sisters Tina Page-Wakes

and Penny Scott-Williams and my nieces and

nephews; my sons Allen Leyon and Randy Alexander Harley and their wives Re’Ana Janice

and Finanthia Elaine. My grandchildren Jaylyn

Allen Harley, Jayda Alexia Gathers, Devionne Quortez Eaton, Shantayla’re Page Harley, Leyona

Katrina Harley, Allen Leyon Harley Jr., Trej’Nae Ana’Ray Patterson-Harley; all of whom continue to provide me unconditional love through it all.


Acknowledgments

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My attorney, Lawrence Stanley, who steered me

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Stephen Williams who portrayed Taylor in the

in the right direction with his advice.

I want to thank my closest friends and confidants Gloria Utley, Maria Hunt, and Earnestine Wyatt, and also Cheryl and Michael Lathan.

photo’s for How I Divorced the Military.

Brad Martin of www.bettermarketingdesign.com I want to offer you a collectable thanks for the

layout, design and book cover. You were able to capture the mystery in the design that I desired.

Thanks for collaborating and putting all the final touches together.

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I would also like to show my appreciation

and acknowledgement to www.guru.com who assisted in providing me with freelancers

through their large market place throughout the completion of How I Divorced The Military.


How I Divorced The Military

Part I

An Introduction to My Private Life

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uthless, my mother, told me that I was born during a tornado in 1966. I have

since found indications of tornados all over the world,

occurring on the eleven days after my birth. Because I was born June 6, 1966, many of my family members teased me, saying I had the “Mark of the Devil.� For

that reason, when I turned twenty-one, I changed my birth-date.

I was born in Topeka, Kansas, the state capital.

The Kansas state bird is the Western Meadowlark and the state flower is the Sunflower. We are the home state

of the K.C. Chiefs and the Jay Hawks. A brief history lesson will teach you that we became the 34th state in 1822.

We call ourselves Kansans. There are many

well-known Kansans from my great state: Dennis 2


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Hopper, Gwendolyn Brooks, Clark M. Clifford, Walter P. Chrysler, Bob Dole, Russell Gordon Parks, Barry Sanders, and Vivian Vance. Most people are reminded

of Coffeyville, Kansas, the city that I grew up in, because of the violent history of the Dalton Gang. I

love Kansas most of all, because “There is no place like

home,” which we learned from Dorothy, in The Wizard of Oz.

Although I was born in Topeka, I was raised

in Coffeyville. My mother, Ella Mae Scott-Page, (or

“Ruthless” as I call her) and my father Nathan Adrian Page’s families both lived in Coffeyville. My sister and I were shared children, meaning my dad and mom didn’t want to give up total custody of us to the other. I

remember my mother disappearing out into the world many times when I was growing up.

In the beginning of their relationship, Dad

joined the Army to fight for his country. While he was away serving in the Korean War, Ruthless got

restless and decided to abandon us. My dad eventually returned home, wounded from his tour of duty, for the last time. He received a Purple Heart for his service. 3


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Unfortunately, he could not find my sister Tonya or me when he returned home.

My middle sister, Tonya, is only birth months

older than me. (“Birth months� means that Mom and Dad conceived me before her wound was healed.) My dad called her T.C., short for Tonya Carol.

A few months before she abandoned us, Ruthless

befriended a lady she met at a store. One night, Ruthless asked her to baby-sit us and then went on her way. My

sister and I were now living with this lady, Mildred,

who we barely knew. None of our relatives, including my father, knew where we were, but my dad never stopped trying to find us.

Mildred had several kids of her own. I remember

a set of twin boys, two other sons, and two daughters. She also ran a day care. They were all nice to us and treated us just like we were their family. I think I was about four and T.C. was five at that time.

Mildred would occasionally go out to social

clubs in the evenings. She never brought anyone home except this one man. Mildred met this man in a bar. He kept telling her about how his wife and kids had been 4


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missing for over a year or so. Mildred and the young man grew close, and she started inviting him over for

nightcaps, but he would always leave before morning. The other kids and I knew something was going on

because Mildred was behaving differently, in a happy sort of way.

Like always, the young man came over one night

while we were sleeping. Mildred went to the kitchen to get the man a drink while he waited in the living

room. T.C. got out of bed and went into the living room looking for Mildred, but instead she found the man sleeping in a chair. When she saw the young man,

T.C. began trying to climb onto his lap calling, “Daddy, Daddy!”

Yes, the man was my father! My daddy yelled

T.C.’s name, and he called, “Mildred!” Mildred, not

knowing what was going on, came into the room and tried to remove T.C. from Dad’s lap, while apologizing

at the same time. He stopped her and asked her how she had gotten his child. When Dad realized that T.C. was in his arms, he was so full of joy! Mildred told him

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and did not return. He asked for me, “Where is Lilly?�

Mildred brought me out of the bedroom, and Daddy was ecstatic.

Nowadays, most people call me Eve. It is a

pleasure to share my story with you. How I Divorced the Military tells you how I went from a little girl growing up to be a military spouse, facing capricious times

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