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WE DON’T HAVE ALL THE ANSWERS! We are Secure magazine. Our purpose is to make you feel better. We may not have all the answers but knowing that other people share the same insecurities as your self makes you feel a whole lot better. The fact that you are not going through it on your own can give you the confidence to conquer any selfdoubt that you may have. Throughout this magazine we will cover all areas of insecurities that people may have. Some questions will be answered but the majority is just reassuring statements to help you in your daily life.

Sharing is something that we don’t do very often but we should. We tend to feel that others may laugh at us. The truth is that some people probably will but if you find someone that you trust and open up then your mind will be at ease. It is important that if someone comes to you with an issue that you treat them the same by not blatantly disregarding their feelings. I know this sounds very “schooled” and we’re not a bunch of hippies but if there’s a basic platform then almost anything goes afterwards.

We go through this world thinking that there is an answer for everything. What we have to do is just find away. Besides answers are overrated. Even if you find out the actual answer it would most likely be deflating and so far from what you originally wanted that you would wish you never knew it in the first place.

Problems differ dramatically and each has to be handled differently. This is why our content is vast, and we include new topics every issue. So see if we can help you, and if not well at least we tried. Or you can look at the pretty pictures instead, Its your choice.

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Greed is a sin that has always consumed my father’s side of the family Q1: Do you have any insecurities?

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Yes I do. The future; such as money and job/career. Also trying to be independent - knowing that I am reliant on my parents is shaming.

Family ties are what have troubled my family relationships. For example when close family members cross other ones with lies, deeds and wills and then general help for one another. Greed is a sin that has always consumed my father’s side of the family. Something I don’t understand, because my mother’s side is much happier and easier to bond with.

Q2: Tell us a tough moral decision you’ve made. Probably not. I've never stolen or done anything rash without thinking about the consequence. Lying is probably the worst I have ever done, I think. Q3: What are your most embarrassing moments? I find it quite repulsive when people talk confidently about sex and poo. So taboo topics are quite embarrassingly shaming in my opinion.

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Q5: Are you addicted to anything or/& have you ever been depressed or anxious? I’ve been raised with moral attitudes and rules, so drugs and other substances aren’t a part of my life and never will be. I’d say that I am slightly addicted to alcohol because I feel less stressed and happier. Depression is a daily occurrence I feel. I have accepted that it’s a part of being human, as well as anxiety.


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I was convinced it was my fault, that I was bad luck Q1: Do you have any insecurities? My skin condition, my appearance, my weight/size and my personality. Q2: Tell us a tough moral decision you’ve made. Probably just concerning my sister (expanded in on in q4). Just whether to keep on giving (because she's my sister) despite the fact I can't afford to, even when she gives nothing back. Q3: What are your most embarrassing moments? I don’t like getting things wrong, or realising I have been wrong. I also find it embarrassing to go to the doctors’ about my skin condition, particularly when it involves showing them my skin. Q4: Write about troubling relationship. I have a really bad relationship with my sister. We were never really close and things have become worse over the years. She’s the opposite of my personality - I am quiet, not very outgoing, I am driven, I can occupy myself. She is loud, argumentative, stressful, confrontational. Our relationship isn’t calm, because there’s no reciprocation. She takes without giving back. I find this hard, as I’m the younger sister; money is tight as I have been at university for four years. I’ve never had a full time job, but she has worked full time for eight years. She has more money than me and is unwilling to part with any. She’s not very understanding, so my distress is just met with her abuse.

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Q5: Are you addicted to anything or/& have you ever been depressed or anxious? I have never been addicted to anything. I used to smoke, but was never addicted. I was more of a social smoker and preferred to smoke to getting drunk. I liked to have a cigarette whilst contemplating things, but was made to stop, as my boyfriend hated it. I never felt there was a problem as my smoking was so infrequent and I saw it as doing less damage than if I consumed alcohol as often as a lot of the people around me. I have felt depressed, when I was around 14-16. There was a time in my life when many of my relatives passed away. Nobody gave me any help or guidance with how I felt around these events. I also felt very isolated as no one else I knew had known or seen deaths, just me. It was a lot to try to understand at the age I was. I felt responsibility. It sounds stupid but I was convinced it was my fault, that I was bad luck. It made me very pessimistic about life, as despite my age I couldn’t see the point in living if everyone was just going to die. These where some of the saddest times of my life. Q6: Have there been any bad or funny moments involving sex in your life, or a friend’s life A friend of a friend of mine was once using a cockring with her boyfriend when her parents were out. They heard them arrive back so stopped having sex. The dog then carried the cockring downstairs and presented it to the parents.


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Am I Why do i have no friends Why do i have nightmares Why do i have spots on my back Why do i have no energy why does my boyfriend annoy me why does my boyfriend come so fast why does my boyfriend love me why does my girlfriend ignore me why does my girlfriend not trust me why does my girlfriend lie to me why does my girlfriend love me I’m bored I’m a freak sometimes when i’m alone I pretend I’m a carrot sometimes when i’m alone I use comic sans sometimes when i’m alone I cover myself in vaseline

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My Passive Partner I have a bipolar partner. We are both 19. Its difficult to describe the disorder and how it’s taken a toll on our relationship. But I can try. I think most people think it’s the extreme mania and depression that is difficult to deal with when it comes to bipolar disorder. But the worst part for me is the neutrality. My partner will either be manic, depressive or passive. The passive part is the worst part, because it directly affects the relationship. Mania and depression does not effect the relationship too much, it’s more personal and individual. I can try and make him feel better when he’s depressed. But when he’s passive, he shows no emotion, he is non-responsive and distant. He puts no effort in whatsoever. It’s like he is in a glass bubble from the rest of the world. I can’t get through to him.

Today, I threatened to break up with him. I hoped that it might muster some emotion and fight for us, for me. But I barely got five syllables out of him. He used to express emotion so beautifully. But now when he says “I love you” I don’t even think he understands what he is saying. I don’t know if we’ll last. This probably won’t have a happy ending. My partner cuts himself and can barely express emotion, it’s like dating a malfunctioning robot. I’m not holding out massive amounts of hope for the future. We have a very dysfunctional, unhealthy relationship. And I’ll be perfectly honest; because of his condition I don’t think I can be with him for much longer unless things change. I’m having trouble separating him from his problem. I love him, but I wish I didn’t

Grief or Guilt My 14 year old dog was so crippled with arthritis that I had to lift him out of the car and gently set him on the pavement. One last hug, and full of trust, he struggled walking across the parking lot. It was the last time I saw him. Constant pain had taken the joy from his life. Yet until the end, he was my constant companion, in some ways my closest friend, and I wondered if I had done the right thing. Was I being selfish, having him put down because I could not stand his pain anymore? Could a different vet have given him another year or two? Was killing him really necessary? Doubts. Grief. Guilt

I adopted my dog from a shelter about 12 years ago. She wasn’t a puppy at the time so I don’t really know how old she is. My guess would be about 14. She is now partly blind, deaf and incontinent. We took her to the vet and he put her on estrogen for the incontinence. She seems to be going downhill. She has fallen off of our porch a couple of times. She hasn’t been able to get her medicine because she’s not eating. I know that dogs don’t live forever but how do you know when it’s time to make the decision? Like I said, she has had good days and bad days. Do you wait until they’re all bad days?

My border collie is 15 this year. She is blind and going deaf; it’s such a shame. We keep her in our kitchen because she pees everywhere. Otherwise, she is in okay health. Everyday she wakes up and I am surprised. Everyone I know says we should “put her out of her misery”, but I don’t think she is unhappy. I am tired of cleaning up after her, and no one ever wants to pet her because she always smells and is itching all the time. I bathe her every Saturday, and give her flea shampoo every month, and shave her when she needs it. I’ve had her since I was 10. When do you think it’s time to let her go?

The Family Plan I am pregnant with my boyfriend’s baby. He knows I am pregnant and so does my mother. My boyfriend says he will stand by me with whatever decision I make, but my mother insists that I get an abortion, as she strongly believes in family planning. I, personally, do not. I know for a fact that I will be heartbroken and regretful afterwards for the rest of my life. It breaks my heart just thinking about killing my baby before it even gets a chance at life.

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Keeping it isn’t the best option. Me and my boyfriend have no money, no jobs, can’t drive, we don’t really even have room in either of our parent’s houses for us or a baby. We could always get jobs and save up, but I feel like I would be ruining mine and my boyfriend’s life and giving my baby a poor start. Adoption is an option, but that’s nearly as heart-breaking as abortion, and I don’t think I would be able to. I don’t have the heart to do that. I have no idea what to do!


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Incomplete I was diagnosed with POF (premature ovarian failure) when I was only 17 years old. I am now 25. A nurse explained to my mother that it was not normal for a 17 year old girl to not have started puberty. I cannot explain the hurt and disappointment that I felt the moment the doctor told me I cannot have children of my own. I was always the girl who played with dolls and pretended to be a mother. A family is something I never questioned-I never thought that choice would be taken from me. On top of not ever being able to conceive, my body did not develop how it should have. I still do not have breasts like a woman. This has seriously debilitated my self esteem for a very long time. I often still feel like that young girl waiting to become a woman. I have always looked younger than my age and often was bullied at school for it.

I have never had the emotional support from family. Everyone who knows it doesn’t exist. When I bring it up, people get very uncomfortable and don’t know what to say. I have difficulties sharing joy with family and friends who are pregnant or having babies. I couldn’t even visit the hospital when my nephew was born because it hurt too much. I have had a very supportive boyfriend threw this but of course he just being supportive now he doesn’t have kids and all we talk about is getting married and starting our own family. I don’t feel like we will ever be complete until we have a child. Because of this I have post-pone our wedding because I don’t think its fair to marry someone and cant even produce them a child when I know that’s all he wants. He the only one left out of six brothers who doesn’t have kids and it’s all my fault

Stay or Go I have a very important decision to make and I am not able to do it on my own. I came to London to work 6 months back pretty much. The money is good for me. I screwed up on my job. Now I am not at all happy to work, my quality of work is going down consistently. Right now I am thinking about quitting and head back to Scotland and starting a fresh career, the pay will be less but I can be happy with family and friends. I don’t know what to do?

I hate that my dad can be so ignorant. He doesn’t even know my boyfriend that well and all he does is judge and tries to make me feel bad. I’m tired of people belittling me like I have no feelings, just because of some stupid mistakes my boyfriend made. They don’t understand how much I love him, and how our relationship is. I hate that I can’t even share my feelings with my own family about something so big that is on my heart everyday

Last Monday, I declined a job offer because I felt like it’s not the right job for me. After a few hours of sending them a reject letter, they gave me another offer to reconsider it. The problem is, I really don’t want the job unless they are willing to compromise with my offer and change the contract; then I will accept it. But still, I don’t know what to do. I can’t think of any more strategy on how to outsmart them and I don’t even know if I will even be happy there

Taboo Tattoo I am about to have an abortion. I went to my first appointment today and found out I'm 5 weeks pregnant. It's still too early for even a heartbeat so I didn't have to listen to that. My next appointment is the day after tomorrow where I will undergo a surgical abortion. There's an anti-abortion clinic next door to the women's clinic I'm going to, and bigoted anti-choice people stand outside and say awful things to me. But that's okay, because this is my body, my decision, and I'm the only person with control over this. And I'm doing what's best for me. Don’t listen to people trying to shove their beliefs down your throat.

I’m a tattoo apprentice so close to having my dream career, I’m 19 years old, and I have only known the would-be-farther for 2 months. I’m definitely not ready to have a kid with him. Nor am I ready to have a kid at all. I still live with my mom. I said I never wanted kids ever, because it would hurt my tattooing career. Tattoo shops have long hours. I have no time to raise a child and I don’t have the money to support one. I know that I’m making the right decision for myself and my future. My family wanted me to carry out the pregnancy and have a child and that isn’t what I want. This is my body, and it’s my life, so only I can make this decision for myself

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I’m 18 and I have these weird lumps one on each testicle but the one on the right is a little sore but both are exactly the same in size and shape, should I worry? I have a spot or lump on the skin underneath my testicles. It not on my testicles but on the skin near them? Any ideas what this could be? My right breast is a different shape to my left breast, as in my right breast sags lower than the left one. Could this be a sign of cancer? I’m 19 I have a pea-sized lump outside the area of my nipple. I noticed it getting into the shower this morning; it’s hard and painful.

I’m 16 and for a while now, my left nipple has had an irregular coloured patch and small lump on it. They are usually pale pink but this particular bit is dark pink/ purple with a small lump, s not a hard lump and it isn’t painful. I have a lump on my testicle, its slightly larger than a pea, the actual size seems to vary from day today & its been there for a short time now, could this be anything apart from cancer. Hi I’m Stacey 22 yrs old and I have had a pea size cyst on the side of my face by my eye It sometimes aches it’s like a hard ball under the skin I want it gone, I feel so insecure with it there

Hi my names Thomas I’m in my 20s, and around 6 years ago I was stupid enough to shave my private region/testicles with a razor. A few weeks after that I can remember small lump boil like things under the skin? There are now several lumps with pussy stuff inside them...I have attempted to squeeze a few with white cream puss stuff comes out. It’s really frustrating? i’m really worried about it as the doctor said it was maybe folliculitis? I have really small testicles and I’ve attended my gp/ health center and he checked my testicles and found o lumps or bumps. I got a blood test and got my results today and they says my results are perfectly fine. What should I do now?

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Not to Plan In the middle of taking my boyfriend's virginity, his nose started bleeding right onto my face. I asked him if he was ok, and he said, "yeah, it's just...my nose always bleeds when I get nervous"

My boyfriend stuck his fingers in me and felt the nuvaring and thought it was an old condom I forgot about. He didn't tell me that he thought this until about 8 months into our relationship

I was masturbating in the tub and was taping the whole thing for later viewing and I left the tape out. My dad watched it. It was so embarrassing and I got a whole lecture on how I should respect my body

I tend to squirt. A lot. When it first started I was mortified but as I got used to it, I owned my liquidy awesomeness and it got to be kind of hot. So my guy and I are 69'ing, he starts using fingers and I come, essentially waterboarding him. I felt awful as I didn’t tell him before hand

I attempted deepthroating. My boyfriend wanted me to shove his cock down my throat as he came. So like any good girlfriend I did just that when he gave the signal... I still have no fucking clue what happened, it turns out semen really burns when it's gushing out your nose

I was licking out my girlfriend and it tasted like the smell of a bunch of coins sitting in your hand. I told my best friend and she started laughing. She then told me she would have been on her period and it was the monthly red monster that I could taste. It wasn’t the best experience I’ve had

Listening in I was sitting on the edge of my bed, with my girlfriend straddling me. It was that great kind of loud, dirty talking sex, and I started to spank her as she rode me. She loved it and kept asking for more, so I spanked harder as we got more and more into it. We got a lot of energy going, and I was smacking her ass pretty damn hard... Until I spanked out of sync with her movement. My hand swung down as her ass moved up, and I ended up missing her entirely and smacking myself in the balls with full force. I doubled over and immediately fell off the bed, curled up on the floor, blinded by the sudden pain. My girlfriend had no idea what to do, and thought maybe a cold washcloth would help, so she ran to the bathroom and threw open the door... to find my roommate, pants around his ankles, dick in hand. There was an eternity of stunned silence, as no one knew what to do or say. She slammed the door shut again, and that was the last time I saw my roommate that year

Going down on a guy and I normally have zero gag reflex. What I didn't factor in was the food poisoning I thought I had gotten over. I vomited into my mouth, tried to swallow it back. The taste made me vomit a second time, he pulls back and it goes all over my chest, his dick & the sheets. I was mortified, but he wanted to carry on. It actually turned him on. I can't decide whether I am more embarrassed about throwing up, or the fact he liked it On my 18th birthday, my girlfriend and I were on the couch watching a movie. My family had gone to bed, and my girlfriend says to me "I'm going to give you your birthday present now". We're in the spooning position, and there is a blanket covering us up from the waist down. Not too much motion at the time just some good grinding, but I was deep inside her. The room suddenly got lighter; I look up to see my family with a cake. Singing happy birthday. While I am still in my girlfriend

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Disclosing an STI to a potential partner is a good thing to do, both because it’s right and kind, and because not disclosing could lead to a lawsuit. People deserve to have the opportunity to make informed decisions about their sex lives, and that requires an open and honest discussion about risks and precautions. STI infections, even with life long infections such as HIV and herpes, aren’t necessarily relationship dealbreakers for people, but lying about them almost always is. You don’t need to bring up these topics on the first date, but do not put the conversations off until the night you plan to first have sex

It’s a misconception that all prostitutes have HIV, and that STIs are transmitted every time you have sex. Neither of those things are true, but it’s still a good idea to use protection whenever you engage in any type of commercial sex (or casual sex), because these things do potentially have substantial risks. Besides, if you’re worried about HIV after you’ve purchased oral sex, then you should know to take precautions in advance. The risk of acquiring HIV through a blowjob may be relatively low, but diseases like herpes, gonorrhea, and syphilis can all be spread quite easily during oral sex

When someone who has been in a longterm relationship is diagnosed with an STI, their first instinct is almost always to assume that their partner has cheated on them. While in many cases that may be true, it isn’t always. If you both weren’t tested before starting the relationship, or earlier during the relationship, it’s possible that your partner might have had an asymptomatic infection since before you got together, and only infected you recently even if you’ve been involved for years. So the main thing to focus on is trust, and if you trust someone they may very well be telling the truth, but if not you may never know

Wouldn’t I know if I had an STI?

What does discharge from my penis mean?

The truth is, it’s quite easy to be infected with an STI and have absolutely no idea. Many STIs can have no symptoms for years, so the only way you’d know for certain if you had an STI would be if you’d asked your doctor to test you and recieved the results

Discharge can be a symptom of many STIs’. The only way to tell which one is to go visit your local doctor and get tested. There is no way for someone to diagnose what STI is causing the discharge without doing laboratory tests. All you have to do is give a urine or blood sample

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You can’t know if you got an STI during unprotected sex. The only way you will is to get tested. However, what you probably actually want to know is how long you have to wait until symptoms show up, or if you’re going to see them. The answer varies from disease to disease

Do I have to tell my partner I have an STI?

I had sex with a prostitute. Do I have HIV?

My bf has an STI but he said he didn’t cheat. how?

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I am 17 and I’m a frickin addict...my parents seem to care but never try to kick me off or even try to help. I have no life. I cant even imagine what I would do if I deleted my game. I really want to quit but I cant. This game is controlling me and I can’t stop. I have almost deleted it but I’m afraid I’ll just start up another one. I’m 18 and I can’t stop playing games I play about 8-10 hours a day, mostly because all my friend are on it, and I’m bored when I don’t play it. I just failed college too, so what should I do? Game addiction is no joke. I started to play because cousins and friends played (who are, by the way, all overweight). At first all I did was play, once or twice a day for, lets say, 2-3 hours. Then out of the blue my cousin stopped playing because he said he was addicted too, so he gave me his characters. Well after that I was on 6-10 hours a day. I ignored my friends, went from workingout 4times a week to twice. I would cuss people who asked me to get off. In the end though I released by playing I was just supporting big business. Also, why waste money, time with friends, for a game? I know people who would be a lot better off without games. I just want to get all the money I have invested into it back. I want to quit gaming so badly; I’ve been playing for 2 years... The problem is that I don’t know what else to do besides play video games. I’d completely neglected everything in real life as my obsession with online gaming took over and consumed my every thought. A few months ago I was groggy from playing a game for 40 hours straight, I slumped to the floor and wept as I realized the Internet had taken over my life. I hadn’t left my flat for five weeks, had not showered and had piled on almost three stone by living on takeaways. I was so consumed with the life I was living online that I couldn’t escape.

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Bad Relationships I came home after a long day of work to find a Facebook message left open on my computer. My boyfriend had been writing to his ex and explaining to her that he was currently living with his ‘lame-ass girlfriend.’ I had been nice enough to let him move in with me after his sister had thrown him out a few days prior. Needless to say, I’m no longer the ‘lame-ass girlfriend.’ I made a point of helping him with his things...right over my third story balcony. I was cheating on my boyfriend of two years, Tim, with a guy named John. I really was planning on breaking up with Tim, but I hadn’t gotten there yet. One day, we were lying in bed when he made a joke. I squealed: “John!” That wasn’t his name. I confessed I had cheated, and he broke up with me on the spot.

My ex had his penis pierced and loved to show it off to anyone that would look. After cheating on me, I figured that since he liked showing off his junk so much, I’d help him out a bit...by cutting the crotch out of every single pair of his pants!

My twin brother and I used to be best friends, but I recently he has started acting like a jerk toward me. He didn’t like my boyfriend and insisted I break up with him. He claimed he had a right to tell me who I could date because we’re twins.

When I was in college my boyfriend and I had split three months ago. Once he texted me during lesson (while he was sitting right beside me), “Hey, I’m probably going to have a girlfriend next week, so do you want to have sex today?” I was so mad I had to leave the lesson.

I broke up with my boyfriend when it became apparent he was not only too dependent on me, but dependent on painkillers as well. One of the most memorable parts of the entire breakup (which involved endless texts and calls on his part, to the point that I changed my number) was that his lawyer father tried to negotiate the terms of our separation (we were in high school). He wanted me to stay in a relationship for another thirty days and “then see how I felt.” Absolutely fucking ridiculous.

I grew up in a troubled home. My mother was an alcoholic, and my father was the enabler. She also used drugs, but alcohol took over her life. She wasn't really there at all during my childhood. The Weak Man

I am a 25 year old guy and my relationship with my father really sucks. I have never felt love from my father. Since my early childhood. My father never ever said he loved me, he never said... let’s go to the movies etc. Yes we played football… twice in 25 years for like 20 min... I clearly remember when I was 5, trying to give my father a kiss on the cheek and the reply was “this is not men’s stuff”, all my attempts to show him my love were taken as “not a macho thing”. We never hugged, etc. He always humiliated me in every single occasion. If I dropped a glass or something, he would call me “worthless”. The only memories of my childhood with my father is him pulling me down and arriving home drunk sometimes and hitting my mom, which wasn’t a regular thing, but it really stayed in my memory.

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My father NEVER had the balls to say me most of his “teachings” and he always used my mother as a middle-man, like “come here and tell him...” or “come here and look what he has done” He was always complaining about everything, his job his colleagues, so he is just a WEAK man, that’s what he is. So when I was 19-20 I just got the idea of making a relationship with him out of my head. We have nothing to talk about actually. I know nothing about him, like his girlfriends, his school years etc. The few things I know is what my mother told me. He is the same about me. He never asked to be honest. I get so upset when my friends tell me stories when they went with their father/stepfather to have some drinks or so.. I never had that and never will


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Dare Me! I am a 25 year old girl. When I was about 16 I always treated my 12 year old brother like crap. One day he decided to strike back and he did. One time during summer vacation I came home drunk about 4:30 in the morning, just before our parents woke up to go to work. Just as luck would have it my brother was awake and saw me sneak in the house. Anyway, I woke up about midmorning to see him and 2 of his friends looking down at me and I had nothing on! I had undressed myself while I was sleeping and pushed away my blanket. They saw everything there was to see. The worst part was that I had to pee so bad I had to get up naked and run to the bathroom. He said that I had better stop treating him like crap. He apologized a few years later but I’ll never forget that day! So I was at my friend Sara’s sleepover. There was me, Sara, and about 6 other girls. We played truth or dare, and I was the girl who would do anything. So, they dared me to go outside in her front lawn and undress completely: bra and all. So I walked out the door. It was harmless! At 3:00 am, no one would notice. I was then topless, had only my panties on. I started to take them off until I heard laughing. Her older brother was staring at me from his window. He gave me a wink, and I quickly started to dress. I left first thing in the morning so I didn’t see him. I will STILL do any dare though

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One night I was really tired and couldn’t be bothered going to the bathroom to brush my teeth, so I found mouthwash and a toothbrush in my room and brushed. I used a glass of water to spit it in. In the night I woke up and was really thirsty so grabbed the nearest glass and drank it. It wasn’t till morning when I was washing the glass that it bubbled and then I remembered I drank the spit out and I started heaving. Afterwards, I was amazed that in the night I didn’t even feel the burn of the Listerine, as I was both really thirsty and dazed from my sleep One Christmas my family where all round my house and as I had received a gift that needed batteries, I turned round to the whole room and shouted “has anyone got any durex” Since my family never talk about sex openly there was an incredibly embarrassing, awkward silence My boyfriend and I went to the cinema to see Paranormal Activity. It was getting tense and everyone in the theatre was on the edge of their seats. A sudden scary scene occurred, everyone jumped a little, but my boyfriend screamed at the top of his lungs for about 30 seconds in pure fear. The tension was broken and everyone was in hysterics. Later, in the toilets I heard: ‘did you hear that guy screaming?!’ to which I interjected ‘that was my boyfriend’. And they all looked at me in pity


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