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Volume 11, Issue 12 B’nai Israel Reform Temple

Kislev/Tevet 5771

67 Oakdale-Bohemia Road

Oakdale, NY 11769

December 2010 (631) 563-1660

Happy Chanukah 

www.bnai-israel.org

Inside this issue: 

 

Chanukah Party

1

Children’s Chanukah Party  Sunday, December 5, 2010  12:00 pm  $10.00 Admission 

Rabbi’s Message

1

About our Services

2

Schedule of Services

2

Torah Readings

2

Bulletin Information

3

Rabbi’s Message 

Thank You

3

Donations & Contributions

4

I must first tell you what a wonderful time forty-five Temple members and their friends had on our recent Fall Jewish cultural Trip to Manhattan and a visit to the only Greek Jewish synagogue in the Americas. It was a most beautiful day weather wise; perfect for walking in the city. To say we ate well is an understatement. We had knishes at Yonah Shimmel's, a Greek lunch at the synagogue, bialys at a bakery off of Essex Street, and kosher pickles at Pickle Man (Gus' moved to Cedarhurst, Long Island). I hope you will join us for our next tour which will probably be in the spring.

$1-A-Week-Club News

4

President’s Message

5

Religious School News

5

Latkes Anyone?

6

Friendship Group

6

Dues Raffle

7

Bulletin Board

8

Military Bridge

8

Taste of Judaism

8

B.I.Te.Y.

9

Our Jewish calendar certainly presents challenges to us and this year in particular. When Chanukah is as early in December as it is this year, the challenges for Jewish families are very great as all of us can hear our children saying, come December 25th, "Mom, Dad, I want to celebrate Christmas and get presents like my friends in school!" After the parent responds, "but we had our Chanukah celebration a few weeks ago", you probably can hear your child answering, "We did! Oops, I forgot!". You can then only shake your head and throw up your arms in frustration. This will only get worse in 2013, when the first day of Chanukah is on Thanksgiving Day itself, November 28th. Oy!

Community Menorah Lightings 9 Chanukah Blessings

9

December Calendar

10

January Calendar

11

Sisterhood Newsletter

12

Knit/Crochet Workshop

13

Mah Jongg Cards

13

Looking Ahead Tu BiSh’vat

14

Chanukah Nursing Home Schedule

14

Donations

15

To help this situation I would make the following two suggestions:

Condolences

16

1) Make your Chanukah observance, whenever it occurs on the calendar - be it Nov. 28th or Dec. 25th, a very special and meaningful celebration. This celebration should include home decorations, lighting the Menorah every night, coming to Temple Chanukah events, eating latkes and jelly donuts, attending public Menorah lightings, and yes, sharing presents (which by the way is not a part of the traditional observance). It is important to emphasize the true miracle

Yahrzeits

26

Advertisers

17

Temple Directory

19

Share a Simcha!

20

In truth, there is no way that a Jewish family can compete with Christmas, regardless when Chanukah falls on the calendar. We live in a Christian country and the Christmas "Spirit", which is now viewed as an economic barometer measuring the financial stability or instability of the nation, is overwhelming. I am writing this message on October 27th, and just yesterday, while in a local retail store, I heard Christmas music through the store's audio system. Ugh!

(Continued on page 2)


Schedule of Services 

About our Services 

Friday

12/3

Friday

12/10 Family Service

7:15 PM

Friday

12/17 Children’s Service

7:00 PM

Our Friday night worship is conducted in English and Hebrew. Services are every Friday evening. Our Shabbat Services are the 1st, 3rd, 4th & 5th Fridays at 8:00 pm. We have a Family Service geared toward school age children the 2nd Friday of each month at 7:15 pm. The Rabbi will offer Birthday and Anniversary Blessings for the month at this service. We also have a Children’s Service geared toward pre-school children the 3rd Friday of each month at 7:00 pm. Please come and join us.

Chanukah/Shabbat Service 8:00 PM

Shabbat Service

8:00 PM

Friday

12/24 Shabbat Service

8:00 PM

Friday

12/31 Shabbat Service

8:00 PM

Please visit www.bnai-israel.org for additional services and the entire calendar.

Rabbi Message (continued)  of Chanukah which was the victory of a small band of Jewish warriors over the mightiest army in the world at that time in order to secure their freedom of worship. 2) During a holiday season such as this one, when Christmas occurs it is an opportunity to teach your children that they can enjoy the celebrations of others without making the celebrations of others their own. While it is every child's fantasy, when attending someone else's birthday party, that he or she receives presents in addition to the birthday child, every child knows this is not going to happen. This knowledge should not detract from that child's enjoyment of his/her friend's birthday. The same with this holiday season. Both children and adults should be able to appreciate and enjoy the celebrations of others without making them their own. This is a good life lesson for you to teach your child and for your child to learn. Again, Judy and I pray that you have a wonderful and enjoyable Chanukah celebration. Please join us for all our Temple and community events.

Torah and Haftorah Readings for Home Study  Dec. 4 Genesis ch. 41 through ch. 44 vs. 7; Numbers ch. 7 vss. 24 through 35 Zechariah ch. 2 vs. 14 through ch. 4 vs. 7 Dec. 11 Genesis ch. 44 vs. 16 through ch. 56 vs. 27 Ezekiel ch. 37 vss. 15 through 28 Dec. 18 Genesis ch. 47 ch. 28 through ch. 50 vs. 26 I Kings ch. 2 vss. 1 through 12 Dec. 25 Exodus ch. 1 through ch. 6 vs. 1 Isaiah ch. 27 vs. 6 through ch. 28 vss. 27 through 28

Online Torah Study Resources  http://urj.org/learning/torah/


Attention:

Bulletin Information  All items to be considered for inclusion in the bulletin must be sent, preferably in an electronic format, to webmaster@bnai-israel.org or delivered to the Temple Office by the deadlines shown below. Accepted electronic formats are Microsoft Word, Microsoft Publisher, or a simple message in an email. If you are submitting a picture to be considered for inclusion, please make sure that it is a .jpg file. If you have any questions about these requirements, please email webmaster@bnai-israel.org or call (631) 775-6147. Issue January 2011 Issue February 2011 Issue March 2011 Issue April 2011 Issue May 2011 Issue

Deadline December 10, 2010 January 10, 2011 February 10, 2011 March 10, 2011 April 10, 2010

Items must be submitted on or before the 10th of the month to be included in the next Bulletin. If items are received after this date, we cannot guarantee they will be included.

Please be prompt.  Items received after  the deadline, may not  be included. 

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Donations & Contributions  We gratefully acknowledge the following donors for their contributions to B’nai Israel Reform Temple: Religious School  Mike & Alice Lambert Mike & Alice Lambert Mike & Alice Lambert Dot & Irv Lewis Joyce & Jim Amato Joyce & Jim Amato Helen & Ed Pshedesky Helen & Ed Pshedesky Helen & Ed pshedesky Sharon Eckhouse Steve & Gail Levine Mike & Alice Lambert

In memory of Pauline Shernicoff In memory of Mark Schwenk In memory of Barry Zimmerman In memory of Pauline Shernicoff In memory of Pauline Shernicoff In memory of Mark Schwenk In memory of Pauline Shernicoff In memory of Jerri Berk In memory of Barry Zimmerman In appreciation to Judy Moss for mahjong lessons In memory of Barry Zimmerman In memory of Carl Rosen

Kim Rogers-Schade Marcia & Richard Alberino Steven & Robin Hellreich Sandy & Allan Greenberg Jerry & Sheila Kessler Karen & Tom Smollins Joel & Audrey Weinstock Nat & Phyllis Ozarin Darin & Debra Kabalkin Grandma Roberta Snair Barbara & Willard Sprague

In memory of Barry Zimmerman In memory of Barry Zimmerman In memory of Barry Zimmerman In memory of Barry Zimmerman In memory of Barry Zimmerman In memory of Barry Zimmerman In memory of Barry Zimmerman In memory of Barry Zimmerman In loving memory of Barry Zimmerman Happy 8th birthday to Elliot Ray Snair In memory of Carl Rosen In memory of Barry Zimmerman

Outreach  Trudy & Marty Neckameyer Trudy & Marty Neckameyer Shaindy & Marty Ullman Shaindy & Marty Ullman Gerald & Rochelle Slochevsky Marcia & Richard Alberino Trudy & Marty Neckameyer

In memory of Barry Zimmerman In memory of Pauline Shernicoff In memory of Barry Zimmerman In memory of Pauline Shernicoff Help-A-Family Donation In memory of Julian Ullman In memory of Carl Rosen

General Fund  Jeannette & Seth Berman Jean Baker Karen & Tom Smollins Dot Zuckerman Dot Zuckerman Debby & Bernie Lazen Ann & Zion Armoza Debby & Bernie Lazen

In memory of Barry Zimmerman In memory of Pauline Shernicoff In memory of Pauline Shernicoff In honor of Ryan’s Bar Mitzvah For all that Judy Moss has done for me In memory of Pauline Shernicoff In memory of Barry Zimmerman In memory of Barry Zimmerman

Discretionary Fund    Irving & Miriam Levine Toby Bolson Toby Bolson

In appreciation of Rabbi Moss & Judy In memory of Bess Leibowitz In memory of Robert Bolson

Building Fund  The Linehan Family

In memory of Barrry Zimmerman

Ian Matarasso Memorial Fund  Donna & Jack Matarasso

In memory of Mr. Cimillo

$1­A­Week­Club News  Our 2010-11/5771 $ A Week year is well underway with over forty participants. You, and your children can also be members of this special group of people. All you have to do is donate weekly at Religious School or just add $4 each month to your Temple dues (clearly marked $ A Week.) Then, next year you can look in the Temple newsletter and proudly see your name added to this list. The following individuals and/or families have donated at least seven times: Jacqueline Bukzin, Feinstein Family, Brandon Kabat, Lambert Family, Alison Maskin, Matt Menis, Ethan Mihlstin, Rachel Mihlstin, Rabbi Moss, Rosenbaum Family, Phoebe Taitz, Jordyn Zurbaran, Katy Zurbaran The following individuals and/or families have donated at least three times: Bradley Altman, Julia Anello, Julian Armel, Ethan Aube, Noah Cone, Amanda Davidman, Sarah Davidman, Annie Davis, Matt Ely, Andrew Gansrow, Josh Koretz, Hunter Levine, Haley Rosenblatt, Ethan Rothburd, Hannah Shapiro, Zuckerman Family

Ethan Snair Memorial Fund  Gammie & Pop Pop Harvey & Marilyn Kabalkin Harvey & Marilyn Kabalkin Grandma Roberta Snair Roberta Weisinger Ellen & Richard Motlin Dot & Irv Lewis Joyce & Merrill Altman Sharon Eckhouse Joyce & Jim Amato Alice Stotsky & Bill Hayward Robin, Elliot & Jonathan Adler Mindy & Eric Schnell The Linehan Family Mindy & Lewis Joseph Phyllis & Stu Eisenberg

In memory of our beloved Ethan In memory of Barry Zimmerman In memory of Pauline Shernicoff In loving memory of our beloved Ethan In fond memory of my friend BZ In memory of Barry Zimmerman In memory of Barry Zimmerman In memory of Barry Zimmerman In loving memory of Barry Zimmerman In memory of Barry Zimmerman In memory of Barry Zimmerman In memory of Barry Zimmerman In memory of Barry Zimmerman In memory of Barry Zimmerman In memory of Larry Snair In memory of Barry Zimmerman In memory of Barry Zimmerman

Remember:

You can still join, it’s NOT TOO LATE! You can easily catch up. You need to have donated at least ten times to be listed here next month.


President’s Message 

 

 

 

Earlier this year, B’nai Israel was invited to join a growing number of Temples in our area in a coalition called the Central Suffolk Jewish Alliance (CSJA). The stated mission of CSJA is to coordinate, strengthen and enhance the Jewish community in Suffolk County. You may recall a quarter page ad in Newsday that appeared several times last summer, inviting unaffiliated Jews to visit our member Congregations for the High Holy Days. The cost of that ad was shared by eleven Temples, thereby making it affordable to all. Following an all day event sponsored jointly by the CSJA and UJA, Jewish Week ran a front page article about the event, about CSJA, and about the plight of the Jewish community in Suffolk County today. Rabbi Moss, quoted in the article, makes reference to membership and financial problems that face all of us with the declining affiliation of Suffolk’s Jews. The article is of interest and relevant to us at B’nai Israel. It can be accessed via a link on the home page of our web site, www.bnai-israel.org. On a related financial note, first in a letter and then face to face in a Kol Nidre Appeal, I outlined to the Congregation how the state of the economy in general was affecting the financial situation here at B’nai Israel. At that time, the projected deficit for 2010 was huge, and growing. Dues income was not keeping up with our cost of doing business and I asked for help from all who were able. Happily and not surprisingly, your response to that appeal was overwhelming. Pledges and donations, large and small, followed. Some are being paid in installments

 

 

                             Joel Silverman 

and “help” continues to arrive monthly. We have more than doubled our historic Kol Nidre income by a substantial margin and triple our budget expectation is not out of reach by year end. The generosity of Temple families and friends has made a major inroad in that anticipated year-end deficit. More than one in four Temple families pitched in and for that, we say a sincere THANK YOU. While we are not out of the woods long term, and will continue to rely on the generosity of our members for the foreseeable future, the situation is more manageable now. What you have done for your Congregation is very much appreciated. As I read our weekly announcements at the conclusion of services each Friday evening, I am reminded of how much goes on at our Temple for anyone with the interest and the time to participate. As a suggestion, read through the bulletin each month when it arrives by mail, or check it out on-line even sooner, and make note of dates and events relevant to you and members of the family. Use the calendar to plan your Temple activities in advance and try to include a Shabbat Service where you can. B’nai Israel is here for you, as you have shown us yet again that you are here for us. I urge you to take advantage of what we have to offer. Jan and I wish the entire B’nai Israel family a very happy Chanukah. Joel

Religious School News  The Religious School Family Sabbath Service for Grade 4 will be on December 10th 2010 at 7:15 pm so please come and worship with your entire family at this very special service! December 4th will be the Children’s Chanukah Festival during Religious School. ** Please remember that Chanukah is early this year and there is still Religious School on December 11th and 18th. We would like to thank everyone who supported our Macy*s “Shop for a Cause” fundraiser. A special thanks to Sharon Baker for organizing and running the entire event! It was a huge success!

special program. This program allows you to have your child’s very own artwork reproduced onto a selection of over twenty quality products. These products range from magnets, mugs and mouse pads to t-shirts, tote bags and tiles. The wide selection of professionally produced, full color products offers something for everyone. Your children will be creating their artwork in school. You will then have the opportunity to order whatever products you wish with your child’s own artwork featured on each and every product. We are thrilled to be participating in this unique and innovative program. Look for complete program, product and pricing information coming soon.

Parents:

Please check your email regularly for announcements of upcoming events and any missed Upcoming Events: assignments as this is our primary method of The Jewish Book Club for grades PreK-3 will be held communication. If we do not have your current email from January 23rd through April 23rd. Please begin to address and you have not been receiving please email us at read and feel free to borrow books from our Religious c o r r e s p o n d e n c e s , school@bnai-israel.org with your current email address. School Library! More information will follow. Our School has teamed up with Original Works – the Please continue to bring in tzedakah, $ A Week and food #1 art based program in the country – to offer a very for outreach!


Latkes Anyone? I love Chanukah! I enjoy eating greasy latkes, singing silly songs and yes…I even spin a pretty mean dreidle! When my sister I were little, probably about five and two years old, since we still lived in an apartment in Brooklyn at the time, my parents must have been feeling the pressure of the Christmas commotions and created a “Chanukah Bush” to put our presents under. It was one of those small (4ft) silver tinsel trees. My mom hung blue shiny menorah decorations, blue tinsel garland, blue glass ornament balls, and plastic dreidles. She, of course, didn’t leave out the all important “Star of David” on the top. We were told that the “Chanukah fairy” had placed our gifts under the very special bush just for us. Now for two small children whose friends all had the Christmas stockings and trees and cookies and Santa, this was a perfect solution in my parents’ opinion to make us feel important and not different. Once I had children of my own, I chose not to carry on Mom’s well intentioned tradition for a number of reasons. I began to understand something that I’m not sure my mother (May she rest in peace) ever really got. Being different is what makes Chanukah special. Being Jewish is what makes me special. Avoiding the Hallmark hype is what allows the Festival of Lights to be what it was meant to be in the first place. It is a time to celebrate our Jewish heritage and the strength that it gives us. It is a time to sing with friends and family about a triumph in our history. It is a time to thank G-d for all that we have that is worth celebrating. The miracle of the oil is a reminder that what makes us different is what makes us special and worthy of gifts from Adonai. So I hope you will remember to avoid the pressure to be like everyone else and instead celebrate with tasty latkes and silly songs and a mean game of dreidle. May you find your home filled with more latkes than you can eat and songs that bring an infinite amount of joy into your family’s hearts!!! Wishing you and your family a very Happy Chanukah!

Next Ritual Committee meeting: 

From my home to yours with Shalom,

Terri Randall For some modern Chanukah fun…check out this online menorah that you can light each night…prayers included!!! http://urj.org/holidays/chanukah/menorah/

Monday December 6, 2010 at 8pm Temple Social Hall. All are welcome! Terri Randall Ritual Committee Chairperson ritual@bnai-israel.org

Friendship Group The first meeting of the Friendship Group was a great success. Some suggested activities were discussions, movies, lectures and mitzvah projects for charity. The bottom line is that people want to make friends and enjoy getting together.

Friendship Group

Our next meeting is scheduled for December 8, 2010 at 1:00 pm when we will celebrate Chanukah. Mark your calendars for January 12, 2011 which will be our first get-together in the new calendar year. Watch the bulletin for the topic.


B’nai Israel Reform Temple 67 Oakdale-Bohemia Road Oakdale, NY 11769 (631) 563-1660

DUES RAFFLE One Winner to receive

FREE TEMPLE DUES* for 2011 Cost: 1 for $5 Drawing:

5 for $18

Fri. January 7th In the Temple Social Hall after services. You need not be present to win.

*Prize does not include Assessments, Building Fund, Religious School Tuition or Books.

To purchase tickets please contact the Temple Office or a member of the Fundraising Committee.


Bulletin Board & Announcements  B’nai Israel wishes

A Special Thank You

to: xAndrea & Eric Van Epps on the Bar Mitzvah of their son Devin

The Music Shabbat on October 27th was a real hit. A special thank you to Cantor Ilana, Leo Cassuto, Paul Fink, Lorraine Pappas, Jarrod Randall, and Ellen Spergel for making the evening so enjoyable and inspirational. The next Music Shabbat is April 29th. The cantor invites all musicians to be a part of the wonderful Jewish experience.

Jessica & Eric Kunis on the Bat Mitzvah of their daughter Julia Ellen & Lance Missry on the Bar Mitzvah of their son Dylan Erin & Jonathan Rudner on the Bat Mitzvah of their daughter Elizabeth Cindy & Robert Goldsher on the Bar Mitzvah of their son Jordan Richard and Denise Bassin on the Bat Mitzvah of their daughter Alexandra

MILITARY BRIDGE January 22, 2010 Brotherhood and Sisterhood will once again be hosting the Annual Military Bridge game. You do not need to know how to play bridge in order to have a great time at this rotational card game.

ices v r e S mily Family Service a F er b 5 pm m rvice e t 7:1 c a s Se e 0 ’ n 1 e D r r be ild - Ch e ce m y, D Frida

m h 00 p nora at 7: y Me ! t 7 i n 1 m u ko a er Comm nkon ce m b o e e R h t D d r n y, u s fo al e a Frida join Oakd o , t k o t o forge t, Holbr don’t or p d y n a A in B ings Light

The cost is $25.00 per person and includes bagels, salads and make your own ice cream sundae for dessert.

Please RSVP to the Temple office by January 4, 2010. (631) 563-1660

Volunteer Opportunities! To sign up visit www.bnai-israel.org and use the form provided or send an email to webmaster@bnai-israel.org If you subscribe to this list we will notify you via email about upcoming volunteer opportunities at B’nai Israel.

Rabbi Moss, in conjunction with Rabbi Losben of the Sinai Reform Temple in Bay Shore, will offer a Taste of Judaism Class, funded by the Union for Reform Judaism, on the first three Thursday evenings in January at 8 pm. Rabbi Losben will hold the same classes on the first three Monday/Tuesday evenings. These classes will present an overview of Jewish philosophy, history, beliefs, customs, and observances. The class is open to the public and it particularly wants to welcome the unaffiliated in our community. So, if you know of those who are not Temple members, please tell them about this. Please register by calling the Temple at 563-1660.


Bring a 9th – 12th grade friend to B.I.Te.Y.’s next big event. An Interfaith Holiday Party...a.k.a.

B.I.Te.Y.’s 1st Annual

Chrisma-Hana-Kwanzukah Party! We are going to get together, make some latkes, spin some dreidels, and share all the different customs and traditions that we do for all the different holidays that we celebrate! th

Join us on December 11 from fun and don’t forget to bring a friend!

7-9p.m. for some holiday

RSVP to Robyn Ruelius at phoneyak@hotmail.com or search for B.I.Te.Y. on Facebook to get updates and information about our upcoming events!

Community Menorah Lightings  Be sure to mark on your calendar and join us for lighting the community Menorot in Bayport, Holbrook, Oakdale and Ronkonkoma. The schedule is: December 1, 2010 at 5 pm in Bayport, the base of Nicolls Road and Montauk Highway December 1, 2010 at 6 pm in Holbrook, in front of Friendly Drugs on Main Street December 1, 2010 at 7 pm in Oakdale, in front of the Oakdale train station December 5, 2010 at 5:30 pm in Ronkonkoma Raynor Beach Park

Chanukah Blessings ­ from the URJ Website  This year, we kindle the first candle of Chanukah on Wednesday night, December 1st and the last candle on Wednesday night, December 8th. Candles are added to the Chanukiah from right to left but are kindled from left to right. The newest candle is lit first. (On the Shabbat of Chanukah, kindle the Chanukah lights first and then the Shabbat candles.) Light the Shamash - the helper candle - first using it to kindle the rest of the Chanukah lights; say or sing: Baruch atah, Adonai Eloheinu, Melech haolam, asher kid'shanu b'mitzvotav v'tsivanu l'hadlik ner shel Chanukah. Blessed are You, Adonai our God, Sovereign of all, who hallows us with mitzvot, commanding us to kindle the Chanukah lights. Baruch atah, Adonai Eloheinu, Melech haolam, she-asah nisim laavoteinu v'imoteinu bayamim hahaeim baz'man hazeh. Blessed are You, Adonai our God, Sovereign of all, who performed wonderous deeds for our ancestors in days of old at this season. For first night only: Baruch atah, Adonai Eloheinu, Melech haolam, shehecheyanu v'kiy'manu v'higianu laz'man hazeh. Blessed are You, Adonai our God, Sovereign of all, for giving us life, for sustaining us, and for enabling us to reach this season.


6 Chanukah: Candle 6 8:00 pm Adult Hebrew 8:00 pm Ritual Committee Nursing Home Visits see page 14

13 8:00 pm Adult Hebrew

20 8:00 pm Adult Hebrew

27 No Religious School

5 Chanukah: Candle 5 12:00 pm Chanukah Party 1:00 pm NY Islanders Game Community Menorah Lightings See Pg 9

12

19

26 No Religious School

Tuesday 

28

21 7:30 pm Sisterhood Knit & Crochet Workshop

14

7 Chanukah: Candle 7

See page 9 for   Community   Menorah Lighting   Dates and Times 

Happy  Chanukah 

Monday 

Sunday 

29 6:00 pm Bingo

22 6:00 pm Bingo

15 6:00 pm Bingo

8 Chanukah: Candle 8 1:00 pm Friendship Group 6:00 pm Bingo 8:00 pm Adult Bible Class

Community Menorah Lightings See Pg 9

2 Chanukah: Candle 2

1 Chanukah: Candle 1 6:00 pm Bingo

30

23

16 8:00 pm Temple Board Meeting

9

Nursing Home Visits see page 14

Thursday 

Wednesday 

31 8:00 pm Shabbat Service

Have a Safe  and Happy  New Year! 

25 No Religious School

3:00 pm Bassin Bat Mitzvah

8:00 pm Shabbat Service

24 8:00 pm Shabbat Service

18 10:00 am Goldsher Bar Mitzvah

11 10:00 am Missry Bar Mitzvah 3:00 pm Rudner Bat Mitzvah 7:00 pm B.I.Te.Y. Meeting 17 7:00 pm Children’s Service

Deadline for January 2011 Bulletin

10 7:15 pm Family Service with 4th grade participation

3:00 pm Kunis Bat Mitzvah

4 Chanukah: Candle 4 10:00 am Van Epps Bar Mitzvah

3 Chanukah: Candle 3 8:00 pm Shabbat & Chanukah Service Nursing Home Visits see page 14

Saturday 

Friday 

December 2010 


Monday 

Tuesday 

Wednesday 

10 8:00 pm Adult Hebrew

9

17 No Religious School

24 8:00 pm Adult Hebrew

31 8:00 pm Adult Hebrew

16

23

30

Deadline for February 2011 Bulletin

3 8:00 pm Adult Hebrew 8:00 pm Ritual Committee

26 6:00 pm Bingo

27

20 8:00 pm Temple Board Meeting 8:00 pm Taste of Judaism Class

13 8:00 pm Taste of Judaism Class

6 8:00 pm Taste of Judaism Class

Thursday 

28 8:00 pm Shabbat Service

21 7:00 pm Children’s Service 8:00 pm Shabbat Service

14 7:15 pm Family Service

Dues Raffle Drawing after Services

7 8:00 pm Shabbat Service

Friday 

Tu B’Shvat  January 19­20 

25

19 6:00 pm Bingo

12 1:00 pm Friendship Group 6:00 pm Bingo

11

18 7:30 pm Sisterhood Meeting Guest Speaker: Rabbi

5 6:00 pm Bingo

4 7:45 pm Book Club

RSVP to Temple Office by January 4, 2010

2

January 22, 2010

MILITARY BRIDGE

Sunday 

January 2011 

29

22 10:00 am Stoller Bar Mitzvah 4:00 pm Klomp Bar Mitzvah Time TBA Military Bridge

15 10:00 am Steinroeder Bat Mitzvah 3:00 pm Aronow Bar Mitzvah

8

1

Saturday 


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We hope everyone had a Happy Thanksgiving. The Chinese Auction was a huge success! Thank you to all who donated items and time for this outstanding event.. It is December already and Chanukah is just around the corner. Our Annual Children’s Chanukah party is always a delight (even if we smell like latkes for hours). It will be held on December 5, 2010 at 12:00 pm, and we hope to see you there. On December 21 we have an evening of learning. We will be able to learn how to knit, crochet, or just be there to support one another (se ad on next page). In this season of “Lights” let us enjoy and not stress and remember what the holday is all about. To be successful, Sisterhood needs you and we look forward to seeing you.

Rita and Phyllis

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Sunday, December 5 Tuesday, December 21 Tuesday, January 18 Tuesday, February 15

Children’s Chanukah Party Knit/Crochet Workshop Guest Speaker: Rabbi Moss ZUMBA

12:00 pm 7:30 pm 7:30 pm 7:30 pm

The Judaica Shop is open for all your holiday and daily needs.

Chanukah Gift Shop Special Dates and Times December 2, 2, 3 and 5 in the Religious School Building during School Hours and during the Children’s Chanukah Party on December 5th which starts at 12:00 pm.

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January 4 at 7:45 The Little Bee by Chris Cleave "Little Bee" deserves a warning label: "Do not judge this book by its cover. Contents under pressure." Despite the cutesy title (the book was more sensibly published in Britain as "The Other Hand") and the coy book-flap description ("It is a truly special storyand we don't want to spoil it"), "Little Bee" will blow you away. Amazon says, "It is a truly special story and we don't want to tell you too much..."


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Tuesday, December 21 at 7:30PM 4

As a kickoff to eventually crocheting and knitting lap blankets for nursing home patients and preemie caps for hospital nurseries, we are offering an instruction workshop that will continue as a project-based group on a regular basis this year.

We will be teaching the art of knitting and crocheting and the schedule will depend on the participants. We need more teachers and of course, we need women who are interested in learning the skills needed to go forward with this project. If you are interested in beginner, intermediate, or advanced instruction, can teach either one or both skills, or you want to attend and begin the project, please email me. Pre-registration is required in order to have the materials and the instructors available. Also, donations of yarn, knitting needles and crochet hooks would be greatly appreciated! Please drop them off at the temple clearly marked with my name. Joyce Amato Sisterhood Programming Co-Vice President jgblight@aol.com

The New Mah Jongg Cards are Coming! Mah Jongg Cards 2011

Another Year! Another Challenge!

2011 Mah Jongg card orders will be taken from now until January 10th. This year the prices from the league per card are as follows: Standard card $7 and Large card $8. All checks are to be made payable to B’nai Israel Sisterhood and mailed along with a list of names and addresses to Sandy Greenberg, 52 Amy Drive, Sayville, NY 11782. Please fill out the form below for your order. Feel free to contact Sandy at (631) 589-0389 with any questions. Your Sisterhood thanks you for your support. ENJOY!

Name

Address

# of cards

Total $

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Looking Ahead ­ Tu BiSh’vat     January 19­20  From the URJ Website:

Tu BiSh'vat or the "New Year of the Trees" is Jewish Arbor Day. The holiday is observed on the fifteenth (tu) of Sh'vat. Scholars believe that Tu BiSh'vat was originally an agricultural festival, marking the emergence of spring. After the destruction of the Temple in 70 A.C.E. this holiday was a way for Jews to symbolically bind themselves to their former homeland by eating foods that could be found in Israel. In the sixteenth and seventeenth century Kabbalists created a ritual for Tu BiSh'vat similar to the Passover seder. Today, Tu BiSh'vat has also become a tree planting festival in Israel, in which both Israelis and Jews around the world plant trees in honor or in memory of a loved one or friend. To plant a tree in honor or in memory of a friend or loved one, please contact The JNF Online Tree Planting Center. www.jnf.org/trees

For more great ideas on how you can celebrate Tu BiSh’vat please visit these websites: http://urj.org/holidays/tubishvat/ and http://www.nfty.org/resources/holidays/tubishvat/

Nursing Home Visits ­ Chanukah 2010  THURSDAY, DECEMBER 2 9:30 AM - Arbors at Hauppauge 1740 Expressway Drive South, Hauppauge It is on the South Service Road of the LIE just east of Route 67 (Motor Pkwy) The exit on the LIE is 58. Turn right into Arbors 10:30 AM - Arbors at Islandia 1515 Veteran’s Highway, Islandia It is on the northeast corner of the North Service Road of the LIE at Vets Highway. 1:00 PM - Lake Shore Assisted Living 211 Lake Shore Road, Ronkonkoma It is on Pond Road one mile north of the North Service Road of the LIE. Pond Road is one traffic light WEST of Ronkonkoma Avenue on the North Service Road of the LIE. Exit 60 off the LIE is Ronkonkoma A 2:00 PM - Affinity Nursing Home – 305 Locust Avenue, Oakdale Locust Avenue South of Sunrise (Exit 48) Turn east into institution looking complex before RR tracks It is set way, way back from the road FRIDAY – DECEMBER 3 10:00 AM - The Hamlet at Medford 1529 North Ocean Avenue, Medford Located 2.2 miles north of Sunrise Highway If you are coming from the LIE, it is Exit 63 south 2:30 PM - Medford Nursing Center 3115 Horseblock Road, Medford Horseblock Road just east of 112. You need to be north of the LIE on 112 and then turn east onto Horseblock Road. Route 112 is exit 64 on the LIE. It is a huge institution looking facility on the left about half a mile down from 112. MONDAY, DECEMBER 6 10:00 AM - Arbors at Bohemia 1065 Smithtown Avenue, Bohemia Smithtown Avenue about half a block south of Church Street. The entrance is opposite the John Pearl Ele mentary School. The Nursing Home is set way back off the road – as is the sign 11:00 AM - Good Samaritan Nursing Home 101 Elm Street, Sayville, 11782 1 Turn South on Candee (across from Greek Restaurant) Left on Elm Street (should be the second left) 1:00 PM - Sunrise Assisted Living 320 Patchogue Holbrook Road, Holbrook On Patchogue Holbrook Road two traffic lights south of Nicoll’s Road on the west 2:15 PM - John J. Foley Nursing Home – 16 Glover Drive, Yaphank, 11980 Sunrise Highway Exit 57 North (Route 21). Left on Glover (about 1/2 mile north of Sunrise)

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Donations ­ We Need Your Help!  Your Temple’s income from dues has fallen during the past year, leaving B’nai Israel more dependent on donations than ever. Please consider making a donation at this time. While your donation may be made to honor a special person, remember that it also helps to provide good works for a larger community. Donations of $1000 or larger will be commemorated on an attractive new arrangement of plaques to be placed in the Temple lobby. Large donations may also be made in installments. How to Donate: You can bring or mail a check identifying the intended fund to the Temple. You can also arrange to provide larger donations in installments. Please contact the Temple office if you have any questions. (631) 563-1660 or email office@bnai-israel.org

Temple Funds and Sale Items  Sustaining the Temple  The General Fund The Building Fund The Rabbi’s Discretionary Fund

Adding Natural Beauty  The Landscaping Fund Flower Arrangement donations

Involving Our Youth 

My Own Endowment Fund?  The Temple welcomes larger donations that establish endowment funds in accordance with donor wishes. An endowment provides the Temple with long-term benefits that you specify. Endowments are publicized and often grow by attracting additional donations from others. You may name your endowment fund in honor or in memory of someone special. Please call the Temple Office at 563-1660 for further information.

The Youth Group Fund

Honoring Memory  The Ian Matarasso Memorial Fund The Ethan William Snair Memorial Fund The Sidney Sonkin Memorial Fund

Remembering Life Events  Engraved leaf on our Tree of Life Engraved plaque on the Honorial-Memorial Board Memorial plaque in the sanctuary Prayer book

Sharing Music  The Music Fund

 Adding to the Experience  The Fine Arts Fund

Aiding the Community  The Outreach Program The Help-a-Family Program The Shiva Fund

Promoting the School  The Religious School Fund The Library Fund The Scholarship Fund

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Condolences  The B’nai Israel Congregational Family extends its deepest condolences to the Glickman family on the loss of Judith’s mother Jean Glickman, to the Zimmerman family on the loss of Paula’s husband Barry Zimmerman, to the Kalish family on the loss of Michelle’s father Robert Pasternak, to the O’Rourke family on the loss of Debby’s brother Mark Schwenk, and to the Motlin family on the loss of Ellen’s father, Carl Rosen. May they find comfort in the blessings of good memories that will always be theirs.

Yahrzeits  December 3rd  Samuel Aberman Hilda Balfour James Bellotti Frances Brilliant *Hyman Cassuto Martin Dubner *Belle Fels *Ruth Fishman Jayson Giles Mosesh Gofman Carl Kertesz *Shulamit Lack Florence Lang *Annette Lavsky *Rosalind Lebensfeld *Anita Naomi Lebowitz *Ruth Lewinson Ronald Lewis *Bertram Lipton David Niemetz Meyer Packard *Irene Rosen *Barnett Rubin *Al Saffren Eugene Scher *David Weisberg *Morton Zick

December 10th  *Yetta Feinstein Selma F. Fink *Anne Franklin

The following names of loved ones whose Yahrzeit are observed during the preceding week will be read before the Kaddish Prayer at the Friday Evening Service on: *David Gottesman Fred Havemeyer Alexander Hochheiser *Sidney Hoffman Esther Kessler Henry Kolodkin Bess Leibowitz *Helen Marks Murray Newman *Ida Paskin *Ralph Peyser *Samuel Precker *Pearl Wilans *Jack Wilansky

December 17th  *Max Abramowitz Blanche Alt *Mack Bergman *Ludwig G. Dellova *Jennie Helfer *Henry Kolodkin Daniel Liebman *Sidney Mirrer *Philip Ben Morse *Ceilia Peare Norbert Platt *Fanny Rose Richardson Harry Seltzer *Katy Schwartz Frank Turoff Bernice Wagner *Hilda Warshaw *Samuel Weiman

*Frieda Wenacur

*Edith Mildred Zuckerberg

December 24th 

December 31st 

Edith Blake Leonard Cohen Corine Davenport Archibald Dixon *Louis Edelman Samuel Fels Joel C. Fink *Aaron Gerb *Daniel Howard Goldsher *Joseph Goldstein *Leonard Goldstein *Louis Gordon Marvin Kaminsky Jerome Kaye *Benjamin Lavender Jennie Liebman Sally Lux *Albert Marks *Harry Marcus *Frances Mennen Abraham Perlman *Gregory Roker *Lena Romm *Samuel Rosenbaum Lillian Rosner *Minnie Stotsky Ruth Tesman *Victims of Pan Flight over Lockerbee 12/21/88 *Murray Warshaw Lillian Weiss

Sarah Berkman *David Blutreich *Sarah Brody Gertrude Fishman *Murray Gainsburg *Mildred Gold *Thea Gold Max F. Goldman *Sylvia Kabalkin Sara King Louis Klinger Shirley Klinger *Generose Leibowitz *Gladys Levine *Nancy Licht *Harris Morganlander *Ira Moss Abraham Muroff Paul Oppenheimer *Carl V. Richardson *Pearl Rothbart Joseph Schwartzman *Judith Traurig *Jack Wagner Ann Rothenberg-White *Sol Yourist *Seymour Zimmerman

Cemetery Plots Available  B'nai Israel has both Jewish and Interfaith burial plots available for its congregants and their families. If you are interested in purchasing plots, please call the Temple office and someone from the Cemetery Committee will contact you with details and answer any questions. The office number is 631-563-1660.

* Indicates a Memorial Plaque is lit in the sanctuary.

I.J. MORRIS, INC. Jewish Funeral Directors Since 1888 21 E. Deer Park Road , Dix Hills (631) 499-6060 55 North Station Plaza, Great Neck (516) 487-8600 46 Greenwich Street, Hempstead (516) 486-2500 1895 Flatbush Ave., Brooklyn (718) 377-8610 114-03 Queens Blvd., Forest Hills (718) 263-5365 21 W. Broad Street Mt. Vernon (914) 664-2062 www.ijmorris.com Preplan—call for information Monuments by I.J. MORRIS, INC.

Please Contact the Rabbi...  Please call Rabbi Moss at (631) 472-5272 when someone is sick or if there is a death in the family so that the Temple can extend its assistance.

Before making any funeral arrangements, please call Rabbi Moss at (631) 472-5272

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SHALOM MEMORIAL CHAPELS, INC. FUNERAL DIRECTORS COMPLETE GRAVESIDE SERVICE WITH CASKET $4530.00 760 Smithtown ByPass, Smithtown, NY 11787 Tel: (631) 360-1600 Fax: (631) 630-7978 www.shalommemorialchapelsinc.com


2676 Sunrise Highway East Islip, NY 11730

(631) 277-1177 Mon-Fri 9-7 Sat 8-7 Sun 8-6 Temple Member - 10% Discount with this Ad

PAUL R. FEUER ATTORNEY AT LAW • Personal Injury Cases • Real Estate • Criminal Defense • • Traffic & DWI Defense • Wills • Estate Planning & Probate • • Small Business and Corporate Services •

Law Offices of FEUER & FEUER 124 Medford Avenue Patchogue, NY 11772

Computers

Tel: (631) 447-1600 Fax: (631) 447-2609 www.FeuerLaw.com PFeuer@FeuerLaw.com

Computers

Software consultation, Small office network setup MS Access Programming, MS Office Training Virus and Spyware removal Jeff Richer Consultant 631-835-9615 (MBA, IT Professional) NYsoftwareConsultant@gmail.com

99 Main Street Holbrook, NY 11741

YOUR AD HERE contact the Temple Office if you are interested (631) 563-1660

TAYLOR RENTAL Mike Weber (631) 588-5252 FAX: (631) 588-0918

office@bnai-israel.org One Year Ad is $125 That’s only a little over $10 a month!

Mathematics Tutoring & Test Prep + Personalized instruction for any math class or test + College, high school or middle school math + Algebra, geometry, calculus, statistics, much more Paul Guzzardo Jr., M.S. NYS Certified Mathematics Teacher

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631-384-5365 guzzardomath-students@yahoo.com


Luscious Chocolate, with Personalized Ribbons

CHOCOLATE BY DESIGN INC. 631-737-0082 Excellent service since 1979

Visit us on the web

YOUR AD HERE

BE YOUR OWN GUEST

contact the Temple Office if you are interested (631) 563-1660

WAITERS/WAITRESSES BARTENDERS/GRILL PEOPLE

office@bnai-israel.org

(631) 745-1180 or (631) 580-4432

One Year Ad is $125

YOU BE THE GUEST, WE’LL DO THE

That’s only a little over $10 a month!

REST!!!

MITZVAH CATERERS AT THE NORTH SHORRE JEWISH CENTER

YOUR PLACE OR OURS WEDDINGS, BAR/BAT MITZVAHS, BRISSIM, BABY NAMINGS,KIDDUSHIM, SHIVA MEALS, ELEGANT DINNER S, OFFICE, BBQS OR ANY EVENT ASK FOR ANDREW OR IRWIN (631) 928-6082

“Mitzvah caterers will gladly donate a portion of your bill back to your organization” STRICT ORTHODOX RABBINICAL SUPERVISION

YOUR AD HERE contact the Temple Office if you are interested (631) 563-1660 office@bnai-israel.org One Year Ad is $125 That’s only a little over $10 a month!

SHORE PSYCHIATRIC CENTER COMPREHENSIVE SERVICES FOR CHILDREN, ADULTS AND SENIORS

RONALD J. TADDEO, MD BOARD CERTIFIED PSYCHIATRIST MARGARET GALVIN, NPP HILARY PARENTE, LCSW MARY MACCONNELL, LCSW, BCD ERIN HAYES, LCSW JANE INDILLA-BROWN, LMSW KATHLEEN MALSKY, LMSW CHRISTINE SADOUSKY, LMSW 4 Phyllis Drive SUITE H PATCHOGUE, NY 11772

(631) 447-7560 FAX: (631) 447-7561


Temple Directory  67 Oakdale, Bohemia Road, Oakdale, NY 11769 Phone (631) 563-1660 Fax (631) 563-9816

Website Email

www.bnai-israel.org office@bnai-israel.org

Clergy  Rabbi Dr. Steven Moss Cantor Ilana Plutzer

Temple Office Staff  (631) 472-5272

rabbi@bnai-israel.org cantor@bnai-israel.org

Board of Trustees 

Religious School 

President, Joel Silverman Past President, Barbie Saslau Vice Presidents: Buildings & Grounds, Seth Berman Fundraising, Debby Lyons Administration, Michael Lambert

president@bnai-israel.org

bandg@bnai-israel.org fundraising@bnai-israel.org

Treasurer, Allen Kaminsky Financial Secretary, Barbara Abrams Recording Secretary, Martha Kolodkin Trustees: Jeannette Berman, Joel Brand, Arthur Diamond, Rita DiGiantomasso, Paul Fink, Ritva Gottesman, Debby Lazen, Brian Linehan, Richard Motlin, Nat Ozarin, Donna Paskin, Stephanie Plewka, Terri Randall, Ira Rosenfeld, Steve Saslau, and Steven Sonkin.

Committees, Groups, and other individuals to know...  Choir Director, Roselyn Selmanoff Sisterhood Co-Presidents Rita Porwick & Phyllis Rubin

Religious School Office (631) 563-1663 school@bnai-israel.org Bar/Bat Mitzvah Scheduling Fran Baker (631) 567-1537

Bingo Hall 

Temple Caterers 

sisterhood@bnai-israel.org

B’nai Israel is limited to these caterers for any celebration in the Temple Social Hall.

membership@bnai-israel.org

Bagels N a Hole Lot More Port Jefferson Station location (631) 474-4445

Brotherhood President, Barry Saffren (631) 775-6147

Chairperson, Alice Lambert (631) 589-1375

1644 Locust Avenue, Bohemia (631) 244-9057

Legal Council, Jonathan Sinnreich

Membership Chairperson Jeannette Berman

Karen Smollins & Kim Rogers-Schade

Ritual Chairperson Terri Randall

ritual@bnai-israel.org

Donation Committee

donations@bnai-israel.org

Lessing's Caterers (631) 277-7800 (631) 581-0022

Groundskeeper, Joel Silverman Custodian, Tom Smollins

Mitzvah Caterers of Plainview (516) 938-1310 (516) 351-0661

Yarmulke Orders (631) 472-1888 Harriet Jacobs (for Bar/Bat Mitzvahs and Weddings)

Woodbury Kosher (516) 681-7766

Outreach, Ritva Gottesman (631) 804-9545

ritgott@gmail.com

Zan’s Kosher Caterers (631) 979-8770

Bulletin, Website, Temple e-nouncements Jeannette Berman (631) 775-6147

webmaster@bnai-israel.org

Miller Place Bagel & Deli (631) 331-7645

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Share a SIMCHA Sponsor an ONEG Let everyone celebrate with you for your Birthday, Anniversary, Graduation, Promotion, or any other occasion you would like to share. Contact the Temple Office (631) 563-1660


December 2010 Bulletin