WHAT IS ‘LOVE’ ANYWAY?
Here are some of the questions my clients ask about the loving attachment audit: Q. How long does it take to make a difference? A. Changes do not happen overnight. Generally it takes couples three or four weeks to make a significant difference to their feelings about each other. Q. If I have fallen out of love with my partner shouldn’t it be up to them to change? A. When we’re upset with someone our natural instinct is to treat them less well. Guess what? They normally sink down to our level and the relationship becomes trapped in a negative circle. Why not lead by example and do something nice instead? Your partner might not respond in kind immediately but before long she or he will feel better disposed and ready to return the favour. Miracle of miracles, you have set up a positive circle. It just takes somebody to make the first move – why not you?
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