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agree it’s time?). If you do decide that ending the suffering is in your pet’s best interest, take your time to create a process that is as peaceful as possible for you, your pet and your family. You may want to have someone come to the house and perform the euthanasia there. You might want to take off work the next day. Do whatever is right for you and try to remember that guilt is normal. 2. Feel the grief and deal with the guilt: The grieving process happens only gradually. It can’t be forced or hurried—and there is no “normal” timetable for grieving. Some people start to feel better in weeks or months. For others, the grieving process is measured in years. Whatever your grief experience, it’s important to be patient with yourself and allow the process to naturally unfold. Time heals all, and expressing your grief allows for the quickest, healthiest process. Realize that the guilt you feel is irrational in nature and is a normal part of the grieving process. Simply knowing this will not stop these feelings from happening, but it will help you to work through them when they do. 3. Don’t let anyone tell you how to feel: Feeling sad is a normal, healthy feeling. It’s okay to cry, it’s okay to be angry. Don’t let anyone tell you it’s time to move on or that you’re being too emotional. Let yourself feel whatever you feel without embarrassment or judgement. If you feel lonely in your grief and want additional support, there are online groups and message boards created for this purpose. lowcountry dog 30

The pain of loss can often feel overwhelming and trigger all sorts of painful and difficult emotions. While some people may not understand the depth of feeling you had for your pet, you should never feel guilty or ashamed about grieving for an animal friend.

Even if your friends and family don’t understand, there are other options for support. Rainbow Bridge is a free online grief support community that provides a forum, sympathy e-cards, a list of pet-loss hotlines and other resources. 4. Create a memorial for your pet: Whether it’s a plaque under a tree in your backyard or an urn on a shelf in your living room, give yourself some kind of commemorative item to display. Most vets take a mold of your pets paw print for you to keep as a memento. There are Etsy shops that will take your pets ashes and turn them into jewelry such as rings and necklace pendents. Artisurn sells beautiful urns in various sizes. Even just having a memorial where you spread your pets ashes can be 

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