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SELF-ESTEEM and

CONFIDENCE kit Fun activities and worksheets for kids. Essential guides for parents and teachers.

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Table of Contents Guides for Parents & Teachers 7 Ways to Respond to Your Child’s Negative Self-Talk...............................................10 One of the most difficult things for parents to hear is their child putting themselves down. Negative self-talk is connected to low self-esteem and confidence. Use these strategies to help your child or student conquer their negative self-talk. To learn more, read the article here.

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25 Ideas to Build a Child’s Confidence.........................................................................11 You can start implementing many of these ideas right away. Focus on one idea a day and when you've tried one, mark it with a star. To learn more, read the article here.

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5 Ways to Build Lasting Self-Esteem in Kids...............................................................12 A great summary of research-based strategies to build self-esteem in children. To learn more, read the article here. The 4 Proven Steps to Goal-Setting for Kids................................................................13 A guide for parents to help children set goals. To implement the steps, use the goalsetting worksheets on pages 22 and 23 in this kit. To learn more, read the article here. How to Teach Problem-Solving Skills to Kids..............................................................14 As parents or teachers, our job is to TEACH our children how to solve problems by themselves. This way, they can become confident, independent, and successful individuals. This is a summary of effective strategies (grouped by age) to teach problem-solving to children. Use together with My Problem-Solving Plan on page 24. To learn more, read the article here. 7 Ways to Instill a Love of Learning in Children..........................................................15 The love of learning comes with deeper curiosity, confidence, and motivation. You can help kids develop the love of learning with these simple strategies. To learn more, read the article here.

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7 Ways to Help Your Child Overcome Social Anxiety.............................................16 Social anxiety is one of the most common problems that prevents children from adopting a growth mindset. It is one of the main reasons kids are afraid to fail or make mistakes. You can help your children learn how to overcome social anxiety using these seven strategies. Use together with My Fortune Teller - Coping Strategy Activity on pages 32 and 33. To learn more, read the article here.

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7 Ways to Encourage Your Child to Try New Things..............................................17 Fear is a common response to new challenges or experiences. These situations make children feel uncertain, vulnerable, powerless, and anxious. They strip away a child’s confidence and sense of control. Use these strategies and activities to raise confident children who aren't afraid to tackle new situations. Use together with The Things I Can Already Do! printables on pages 27 and 28. To learn more, read the article here. How to Connect with Your Child Using the Love Languages.................................18 When children feel our unconditional love, their confidence soars! Here you have practical tips on how to demonstrate your love according to each of the five love languages. Use together with the Love & Connection Cube on pages 40-42. To learn more, read the article here. Encouragement Notes................................................................................................19 These lovely notes are a great way to offer encouragement and support to your children or students, which in turn will build up their self-esteem. Suggested uses: - Cut out the notes and put inside their lunch boxes - Leave the notes on their desks, inside books they’re reading, in their pockets, or anywhere else you think they would love finding them

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Table of Contents Worksheets & Activities for Children All About.......................................................................................................................20 This activity helps build self-esteem and promotes growth mindset thinking. Print enough copies for all family members or students. Invite everyone to read their answers aloud to learn more about each other.

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All About My Interests.................................................................................................21 This is a great exercise to increase children's motivation and desire to learn. When children discover their interests and unique things about them, their confidence increases too.

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As your kids or students complete the printable, take time to discuss their answers. Plan different activities which would include things they marked they love doing. For example, if they are interested in learning about history, you can plan a day at a museum. My Goal Think-Sheet and The Goal-Setting Sheet..............................................22-23 Use these goal-setting printables to help your children brainstorm ideas where they want to improve and the things they want to accomplish. As they create goals and work towards them, their confidence grows. First, use the printable “My Goal Think-Sheet” to help them pick a goal. Refer to the printables “All About Me” and “All About My Interests” to get ideas for their goals. These goals can be related to school, sports, extracurricular activities, or even their character traits. If this is the first time they are doing the activity, they may need help brainstorming. Second, ask them to choose one goal and complete the second goal-setting printable together. You will see a section on obstacles. Research shows that when we envision future obstacles and ways to overcome them, we’re more likely to achieve our goals. Help your children write steps for overcoming specific obstacles.

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Table of Contents Worksheets & Activities for Children, cont. My Problem-Solving Plan...........................................................................................24 This activity a great way for children to practice taking ownership of their problems and focusing on solutions. Keep several copies accessible at all times. Whenever difficult situations arise, you can help them map out solutions.

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Growth Mindset Dream Board....................................................................................25 Have your kids or students create their own dream board! A dream board helps children define their dreams, plans, and goals in a visual way. Children become more confident when they take the time to dream about their future and set goals. A dream board can be for any period: a month, a year, or 5 years into the future. If you’re a teacher, have your students create an individual dream board or a big one for the class. Encourage them to put their aspirations and things they want to learn on the board. My Dream Board Planner............................................................................................26 Use this printable to brainstorm ideas for the dream board. When kids are ready to fill out the printable, ask them to dream big! You can say, “If you can do and be anything, what would you put in each of these boxes?” Things I Can Already Do........................................................................................27-28 This printable is a wonderful way to build your child’s confidence to try new things. Next time your child is worried they won’t be able to accomplish a task, remind them of all the things they can do using an “I Can” can. 1. Print out strips of paper that have the sentence starter “I can,” written on them. 2. Ask your child to fill in the blanks. Help them brainstorm and allow them to come up with their own suggestions. 3. Put the strips in a can, and have your child add more strips any time they learn a new skill or conquer a new challenge. You can also revisit the “I Can” can, asking your child, “Have you always been able to do this? How did you learn to do this?”

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Table of Contents Worksheets & Activities for Children, cont. My Mighty Treasure Coins ...................................................................................29-31 With this printable, kids learn to problem-solve. It’s a great way to help them define the obstacles and problems they’re facing. It also helps them build a collection of strategies to overcome those obstacles which they can always refer to.

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My Fortune Teller ..................................................................................................32-33 This printable demonstrates different coping strategies to deal with anxiety or difficult situations. As your child practices these strategies, they will feel better able to cope when a difficult situation arises. 1. Discuss each strategy and try each one out together. 2. Follow the instructions on the printable to make the fortune teller. 3. Talk to your children or students about how they can use any one of these ways to calm down if a situation brings about nervous feelings. EFT Tapping Guide for Kids..................................................................................34-37 “Emotional Freedom Technique” (or EFT) is a clinically proven form of “emotional acupuncture without needles”. Used by therapists, psychologists and millions of people worldwide to ease emotional distress and clear negative emotions, beliefs, and memories. EFT can teach kids how to manage their emotions, process events, and foster confidence and resilience. To learn more, read the article here. 5 Mindfulness Activities for Children........................................................................38 Practicing mindfulness is incredibly empowering for children. It can help them better manage stress and anxiety when it does occur. It helps with self-regulation, promotes confidence and self-compassion. To learn more, read the article here.

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My Mindfulness Bingo................................................................................................39 Practicing mindfulness can help children feel more empowered, so they can learn to try new things and take more risks. Using mindfulness techniques, such as deep breathing and tensing and relaxing muscles, can also help children overcome anxiety when they make mistakes. By promoting self-love and self-compassion, mindfulness activities can also help children overcome their negative self-talk. Use this bingo as an introduction to mindfulness. Before you begin, explain the key benefits to your child or students.

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Love & Connection Cube......................................................................................40-42 This printable game is a great way to promote a sense of security and belonging. Use it together with the guide on 5 Love Languages, included in this kit. A Family Manifesto Poster....................................................................................43-49 It’s vital for children to have a sense of belonging and connection. Connection fosters optimal brain development, self-esteem, impulse control, and more. When children feel safe, loved, and accepted, they can develop the confidence and skills they’ll need to face unfamiliar situations, solve problems, and persist in the face of challenges. Go ahead and create a powerful family manifesto for your family! Engage your kids to make it a fun bonding activity for the whole family. To learn more, read the article here.

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ACKNOWLEDGE THE FEELING, NOT THE WORDS

USE HUMOR TO HELP THEM SEE THINGS DIFFERENTLY

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USE SPECIFIC PRAISE TO SHOW YOUR CHILD HOW GREAT THEY’RE DOING

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TALK OPENLY ABOUT NEGATIVE SELF-TALK

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TALK ABOUT HAVING A GROWTH MINDSET

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DISCUSS YOUR “BEST FAILURES”

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CREATE AN AFFECTIONATE, WELCOMING HOME

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Ensure they know your love is unconditional

Give ageappropriate chores around the house or classroom

Address them by their name

Give them ageappropriate "special tasks" to help you out

Join their play (and let them lead)

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Make special time together

Let them make ageappropriate choices

Set aside time when you give them undivided attention

Let them overhear you speaking positively about them to others

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Teach them how to set and achieve goals

Encourage to try new things to develop new skills

Help them discover their interests and passions

Help them overcome the fear of failure

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Create a Wall of Fame to recognize their achievements

Shower them with hugs

Hang their portraits or artwork around the home or classroom

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Encourage them to express their feelings

Make sure they know you're upset with their choices, not who they are

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Offer choices (e.g., what shirt to wear). Give age-appropriate responsibilities (e.g., setting the table, folding clothes, feeding the dog, making the bed). At first, spend time demonstrating the chore and helping your child learn how to complete the task successfully. Then allow your child to do the chore independently, even if it isn’t perfect every time.

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If kids grow up hearing that they’re the best at everything, they may never push themselves to continue improving. Real, lasting confidence comes from trying, failing, and making hard-earned progress. Be sincere and specific with your praise. Instead of, “You’re the best artist in the world!” say something like, “You’re getting so good at coloring in the lines!” or, “This is a beautiful flower.”

Use failure as an opportunity Let your kids challenge themselves, make mistakes, and occasionally fail. Then make it clear that you still love them just the same. Encourage them to try again. Trying again after failing, and improving through hard work and practice, can help your child’s confidence soar.

Avoid harsh criticism and sarcasm Avoid giving criticism in front of others and while angry. Harsh messages aren’t motivating for kids; they’re damaging. Over time, they can cause children to have a negative view of themselves. Criticize thoughtfully and gently. Explain to your kids that although you sometimes dislike their actions, you never dislike them.

Create opportunities for success Teach your kids to successfully do things for themselves from a young age. Focus on their strengths. Notice what they enjoy and do well, and give them opportunities to nurture these abilities.

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Ask questions like: • What do you think is the greatest benefit to you doing well in this class? • How can that help others?

Use a “goal ladder” to break down their big goal. At the top of the ladder, write down the big goal, then work your way through the steps it would take to achieve it.

4 Encourage them to plan for potential obstacles. Talk about bad habits or negative thoughts, including a desire to give up. Ask: “If you feel like giving up, what will you do instead?”

By writing down their goals, they're 40% more likely to achieve them.

Remind them of the purpose behind their goal. Remind how they decided to deal with this obstacle. Recognize as they climb the steps on their “goal ladder”. Give examples of your own struggles at their age.

Focus on how they can continue improving. Celebrate their effort, determination, and persistence. Teach them positive self-talk.

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Find a relaxing place, sit comfortably, and set a timer for one minute. Breath deeply in and out while paying attention to any sensations you notice or sounds you hear. Take another slow deep breath, imagine the air moving down into the lungs and back up. Take one more deep breath and hold for a moment, then release it.

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Find a jar or plastic bottle and decorate it however you like. Fill the bottle up 3/4 of the way with water. Next, add clear glue, food coloring, and glitter. Seal the lid and then shake. The next time you're upset or anxious simply shake the glitter jar and remain quiet and still while the glitter is settling.

Grab a timer. Stand up and either jump up and down or do jumping jacks for one minute. At the end of that minute, place your hand on your heart and pay attention to how your heartbeat and breathing feels.

Go outside on an exciting adventure! Pick up a small rock or touch a plant or flower. Notice the bugs or the birds. Take a moment to kneel down and touch the earth. Walk mindfully paying close attention to everything. Make sure you walk in silence because you want to notice all those little details.

Starting at the feet, gently squeeze the muscles by tightening them, then slowly releasing. Next, squeeze the large muscles in the calves for 5 seconds, then gently release. Working your way up the body, squeeze the thigh muscles for 5 seconds then gently release. Continue moving up the body for more relaxation.

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The goal is to complete one row of squares vertical, hori ontal, or diagonal by the end date. Color in the square once you completed it!

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Name things you can hear right now

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Assemble into a cube by gluing or taping the sides together along the tabs.

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What is important to our family? What does our family believe in? What are some of our favorite family activities? How do we want to treat each other and others? How do we celebrate in our family?

After everyone has come up with their own ideas, narrow them down to your favorite 10-20 as a family. Since the manifesto is something you created together, it will hold much more meaning, and you’ll have more buy-in from your family.

Have each family member read their ideas and discuss which ones you like/dislike. Post each family member’s ideas, then have everyone put a tally mark next to their favorites.

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The manifesto will be more meaningful if you can get your whole family involved in the process of creating it. Hold a family meeting and to discuss the following questions. Write everyone's answers down.

If your family is creative and artsy, you can design your own poster. Alternatively, you can...

print it from a computer hire a local designer to design it for you use Fiverr or Etsy commission someone you know to bring your manifesto to life

Once your manifesto is complete, place it somewhere prominent. Each member of the family should see it often. The manifesto serves as a reminder of your unity, uniqueness, and shared values, beliefs, and/or activities.

Surround the manifesto with pictures of your family—even better if the pictures represent the values or activities mentioned in the manifesto!

Over the years, especially if you create the manifesto when your children are young, your manifesto may need some updating.

Occasionally revisit and revise the manifesto with input from your family. You might make this an annual tradition, or simply revise as needed.

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A Family Manifesto Poster Create a powerful family manifesto for your family! Engage your kids to make it a fun bonding activity for the whole family and display for all to see.

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Write, draw, and color to create your manifesto. Make it a family project! See the next page for suggested phrases and statements.

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Family Manifesto Phrases Use the suggested phrases below or create your own!

Phrase ideas In our house, we...

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finding the good in every day working hard being humble laughing more worrying less learning by doing thinking outside the box

Motivational phrases Dream, create, inspire Create your own happiness Be the best version of YOU Find joy in the process Be proud of YOU Do more of what makes you happy Love with all your heart Make time for each other Make things that make you proud Discover your passion It always seems impossible until it's done Some things take time

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love, support, respect each other encourage and help each other have a growth mindset love to learn grow our brains ask questions make mistakes fail forward ask for help are thankful and grateful are brave and honest start each day with a smile hug often embrace challenges keep going when it gets tough smile through the struggle practice practice practice try new things read, play, rest do our BEST

Build Your Own We CAN______ When we make a mistake, we _____ We LEARN ______ Together we ______ In difficult times, we ______ We find JOY in _______ Mistakes are there to ______ We follow our ______

We practice ______ We do _____ We start each day ______ We are ______ Remember ______ Do more of _______ Work hard and ______ Be your own _______

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