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A Different Angle:

SINGLE PARENT

WHEN CHRIST HAS A HOLD OF YOUR HEART IT DOESN’T EVER TAKE LONG TO FORGIVE. IT SHOULDN’T. LETTING OUR HEARTS HEAL, THAT TAKES LONGER. AND IT SHOULD.

By Dedra Herod

EVERY MORNING THAT WE ARE BLESSED WITH WAKING UP WE RECEIVE SOME OF THE MOST AMAZING GIFTS. Every morning you open your eyes on this side of heaven you receive grace, mercy, and forgiveness. Every day you confess your sins to God, you are forgiven. Instantly your weaknesses, mistakes, sins are forgotten, never to come up to Him again. If these things are true, and we are to live like Christ lived on this earth, then why is forgiveness so hard? I’d love to know. Recently, in the current season of my life, I came to a shocking conclusion. I was holding on to some unforgiveness in a family relationship. Grief has been a big part of my life. I had gotten to my early thirties affected by four deaths of family members, including the death of my first husband. I kind of had to

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DEDRA HEROD is wife to a husband that refuses to be tamed, mom to three college kids that make her laugh, and whose desire is a home where everyone loves to hang out, as long as they clean up after themselves.

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Why is forgiveness so hard?

“get” the whole grief process and work through it biblically or I was going to bust. Seriously. This world is hard and I was determined to walk this grief road well. I’d seen it done not-so-well first hand. Christian counseling for my kiddos and myself was necessary. Prayer became so incredibly important. Bible Study was crucial to my daily walk. But somewhere forgiveness fell through the cracks. Fast-forward about 15 years and here I stood with the glaring fact that I had in my hands: unforgiveness. What? How do you not forgive others instantly? When we are blessed with a Savior who so shockingly died for us, how do you not so quickly forgive? I discovered that it was all based on taking a portion of pain and grief and putting it in a neat box on the shelf of life and deciding to let it sit there. I moved on with growing up and raising a family and I just let it sit there, until one day recently that box came crashing down. It was right there staring at me. The situation and relationship that I hadn’t let God be the King over was just staring right at me. Let Christ take hold of your heart. When he does, it doesn’t ever take long to forgive. It shouldn’t. Letting our hearts heal, that takes longer. And it should. But forgiving, with all that He gifts us with every day? That should be easier.

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