Adult dating—or dating in general—is pretty tough. More women than men are cautious about adult dating, because most of them are not the type that are into the game-playing or rules-following aspect of it. Why should they be into it if there are people that don’t even play the same game, or follow the same rules? When this happens, it generally results in bad communication, hurt feelings and walls that are difficult to bring down. To help you conquer this obstacle, there is one rule that everybody should know and follow. We shall call it “The Rule of Two.” This rule is not about being elusive or playing hard to get, it is about giving common courtesy and paying mutual respect, making the whole adult dating process a pleasant experience. Here is how the rule works: In the early phase of adult dating, do not ask a person out or make vague remarks more than twice without getting a response first from that person. If she does not respond to you the first time, it may be one of the following reasons: she may be busy, she hasn’t opened her email inbox yet, her phone
battery died or has poor cell reception, it takes her a little more time to respond, etc. Continuously chasing her even after putting you off doesn’t come across as persistently debonair; it makes you look like you don’t know how to read subtle signals that she’s not interested at all. You shouldn’t take this is the wrong way though. Yes, it’s rude for her—or anyone for that matter—to be disregarded on purpose like that, but it is also rude to keep pushing yourself to get her attention even if she’s sending out different signals saying she’s not that into you. Besides, who would want to go out adult dating with someone who does not even like you back?