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NORTH SHORE REFUGE FREES WOMEN AND CHILDREN FROM GRIP OF TERROR Shine’s North Shore Women’s Refuge, the only refuge serving the North Shore community, is a life-saver for women and children caught in the grip of terror by an abusive partner or father. A former resident of Shine’s North Shore Women’s Refuge tells this story about how she and her daughter were helped by Shine: “Everyone thought he was wonderful. But at home he was a manipulative and abusive alcoholic. I was convinced that one day he would break my neck. When I first rang Shine’s Helpline a woman there talked to me about being safe and about being prepared. I trusted her enough to tell her anything, and I felt relieved because she actually believed me. After he assaulted me again one night, the Police arrived, but didn’t arrest him, so my daughter and I left. We had nowhere to go and no money. So I rang Shine again, and my daughter and I went to stay at their Refuge. We felt so safe, so relieved. My biggest fear was that he would find us. But the house was like Fort Knox. My daughter loved it. She called it a castle. During that time, I got thinner and thinner. I cried every day. My hair fell out in clumps. But the staff had seen it all before, they reassured me that I would be ok and they kept me going when I wanted to give up. We had such incredible support from the women at Shine who had such knowledge and professionalism and kindness and humour. There’s just no way I would have got through this without them.” Shine safe@home helps women and children in extreme danger of further assaults, to stay safe in their own homes, by providing home security upgrades and installing personal monitored alarms which, when triggered, alert the police communications centre. However, when women and children are simply not able to stay safely at home, or need to leave in a hurry, they are offered refuge accommodation. KIDshine is one of the only services in New Zealand that provides direct support and safety planning for children who have been exposed to domestic abuse. Families who stay at the refuge are offered this service for their children, and it is also offered to families in the community. First established in 1985, Shine’s North Shore Women’s Refuge, with the support of the North Shore community, has helped thousands of families become safe over the years. Shine’s Helpline (0508-744-633) takes calls seven days a week, from 9am to 11pm. Find out more, or donate, at www.2shine.org.nz

in the country was launched in Takapuna. Yellow Belle in Hurstmere Road sells quality clothing with proceeds going directly to Women's Refuge. 'Pre-loved' clothing can be dropped off in the store's giant paper bag (pictured right) produced and kindly donated by Benefitz, publishers of Channel. Stylish Shore women have been keeping the shop well stocked with superb quality clothing, footwear, jewellery, handbags. Give your winter wardrobe a boost - support the store and the cause during Women's Refuge Appeal Week 14 – 20 July and beyond!

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The Heartland Tour, The Album The Song - Walk Away Supporting

Womens

Refuge

Walk Away BY TINA CROSS

What would you do to be safe Behind four walls in your place I wouldn’t know at all I’ve never been there before You close your eyes so tightly Pretending that you can’t see The burning of a stare It is with you everywhere Angel of mercy, can you touch her fear Give her a voice, give her a voice Walk away, walk away, you don’t have to stay You’re cut to the bone, it’s turned you to stone Walk away, walk away, you’re strong enough to say You don’t own me, gonna go my own way Come walk a mile in her shoes You know sometimes you can’t choose Mistakes are how you learn We all need somewhere to turn Her courage is her saviour She’ll walk away from danger No woman has to bare Abuse from one who doesn’t care Angel of mercy, can you touch her fear Give her a voice, give her a voice She cannot breathe, so how can she talk Give her a voice, give her a voice Walk away, walk away, you don’t have to stay You’re cut to the bone, it’s turned you to stone Walk away, walk away, you’re strong enough to say You don’t own me, gonna go my own way What would you do to be safe Behind four walls in your place I wouldn’t know at all I’ve never been there before Angel of mercy, can you touch her fear Give her a voice, give her a voice She cannot breathe, so how can she talk Give her a voice, give her a voice

Benefitz MD and Channel publisher Aidan Bennett.

Walk away, walk away, you don’t have to stay You’re cut to the bone, it’s turned you to stone Walk away, walk away, you’re strong enough to say You don’t own me, gonna go my own way What would you do to be safe Behind four walls in your place I wouldn’t know at all I’ve never been there before 39

Channel Magazine Issue 45 July 2014  
Channel Magazine Issue 45 July 2014  

Channel Magazine Issue 45 July 2014