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4 Steps To Turn Your Dreams Into DO So Your
Can Come True By Lisa Steadman
11 years ago, I walked away from the life I knew – a well paying, creative job writing and branding Barbie, living in my newly purchased luxury condo, falling in and out of bed with my ex, aka My Big Breakup – to pursue a life I didn’t yet believe could exist. A dream life that included writing books, finding true love, living in my dream neighborhood (far away from my condo!), and getting paid to be me. I didn’t know HOW to make that dream life a reality. And yet 11 years later, here I sit, typing in my home office with a view of the Hollywood sign out my window, my extraordinary husband (The Night Owl) asleep in the next room, 3 best selling books on the shelf across from me, weekly meetings on my calendar to pitch, develop, and consult on entertainment projects where I get to be me, and a robust 6 figure coaching business filled with dream clients. And while it’s easy to look from the outside and say, “Must be nice!” the truth is, I couldn’t have arrived where I am today had I not put in the blood, sweat, and tears of the last 11 years, a decade of self discovery, trial, error, epic failure, and rock bottom combined with self forgiveness, spiritual allowing, insane self awareness, trust, stamina, and strength. My journey isn’t all that uncommon. Think of any well-documented success story. Martin Luther King. Steve Jobs. Jim Carrey. Oprah. Caitlyn Jenner. Our field of expertise may be different. But our approach is not. Here’s the exciting part - these secrets of success are not just attainable for others. They’re attainable for us all when you unlock and implement this simple success formula…
Dream + Do = Dreams Come True 4
Chances are, you’ve mastered one of the two elements that are essential to your success. Either you’re a dreamer who struggles to take action. Or you’re a doer who struggles to define your dream. Either way, the four steps I’m about to share will help you turn your Do into a Dream OR your Dream into Do so your dreams can come true.
Step 1: Set a Vision
“I want to write a book.” This was the dream that called to me from my future self while I was happily – and somewhat ignorantly – going through the motions of my life 13 years ago. The idea hit me like a bolt of lightning one Saturday afternoon. I still see it in my mind’s eye like it was yesterday. I’m standing in the dining room of my 1 bedroom apartment in Culver City, pre-condo purchase. I’d painted the walls a vibrant red when I moved in. I’m on the phone with a friend, staring up at one of the red walls, talking yet again about my on-again, off-again romance with Mr. Ex, my Big Breakup. “I want to write a book about breakups,” I hear myself clarify. It was a single idea, birthed from the pain of my confused heart. And yet, that one sentence changed everything, shifting me every so slightly day after day, month after month from a young woman who was happy writing about Barbie for a living, who relished collecting a paycheck every two weeks, who dutifully maxed out the employer matching program with her 401K, who relished being in love with a man who worked three cubicles away. That one sentence slowly but surely chipped away at my satisfaction with life as I knew it, and set me on a path my future self had carved out, inviting me some days to take baby steps, and others to take giant leaps. That path included writing four versions of my first book proposal over a two year period. It nudged me to quit my job, rent out my condo, and sleep on a blow up mattress on my best friend’s living room floor for a summer while launching my first website BreakupChronicles.com to build my online brand. It inspired me to write my own breakup stories when submissions were slow to trickle in. And two years later, it ultimately attracted an email in my inbox from an editor at a publishing company who wanted to know if I was interested in writing a book. Big or small, wild or practical, what is YOUR big dream? What can you give yourself permission to say out loud that you deeply desire… but may be terrified to make happen? Today, give voice to the dream. Don’t hold back because of your history, your age, your size, or the wrinkles around your eyes. Give yourself permission to dream as big and bold as you want. No apologies.
Step 2: Own your Voice
Once you own your Dream, it’s time to start magnetizing it to you. How? By getting so clear and distinct about why this dream is uniquely YOURS that the dream has no choice but to find YOU! continued on page 14 . . .
“ Yo u ’ re N E V E R Too O ld To U N L E A S H You r Bo ld !”
Featuring Lisa Steadman