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IN JAPAN! by Sarah Baker

foods or alcohol yet, although it now feels like I am battling a bad hangover every day as I am just starting the morning sickness phase and that reminds me that something is definitely going on inside of me. And yes, I told everyone the minute I found out I was pregnant. I know miscarriages are common and it is said to be taboo to tell people before the three-month mark, but there is no way that I could keep something that BIG a secret. I am getting more excited with each day that passes and should something unfortunate happen, like a miscarriage, then I accept that for what it is, too. It’s just as much a part of life as everything else. I would need my friends’ and family’s support through that, too.

few things are different about being pregnant in Yokosuka. Our baby will be exposed to Skype A communication immediately. knew this would be a good time to begin our family. Most importantly, we’ve been able to do a lot of fun things together as a couple prior to taking this big step. We have spent the past seven months travelling and reconnecting. A strong, communicative marriage is really important to us because it’s the foundation from which we build everything else. It’s our goal to make each other and our marriage a priority, even after life gets more chaotic with children. I don’t know what I expected I would feel like when I actually got pregnant. As a lot of women do, I have gone through many phases of growing into myself over the past decade. Some of those phases didn’t include marriage and children. Most of those phases focused on finding true love, purpose, and self-confidence; becoming a successful career woman, and continuing to travel the world to see as much as I can before I die. I am ecstatic to report that I was able to do most if not all of the above. I am living my dream. Although my career back home is temporarily on hold due to the relocation, I am confident everything will continue to work out as it should. My parents did a wonderful job of believing in me and teaching me that anything is possible. Despite the many phases I’ve gone through, deep down I knew that a family of my own was what I wanted, someday. So now that I’m pregnant, how do I feel about it all? I’m happy! I feel a satisfaction that I had never known before. This is what we wanted. With that said, I don’t think it’s fully sunk in yet. After all, I don’t see a bump yet… I think if I did, that would drive the point home a little faster. I don’t feel like an alien vessel carrying another creature around yet. That’s what I always imagined it to be like; a very foreign, alien feeling. I haven’t missed giving up certain

Sarah and her husband are ready to welcome a new arrival into their lives in Japan. Image provided by Sarah Baker.

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’m pregnant in Japan! When my husband and I relocated to Japan seven months ago from San Diego, we knew that attempting for our first child was in the game plan while abroad. Family planning is common among a lot of couples, but having a husband who is a Navy Officer makes planning all the more important, as long deployments away are more common than not. In fact, this is the first time my husband Jake and I have been under the same roof for any great length of time since we were married in September 2006. In sum, in our first three years of marriage we were together sixteen months and apart for twenty. Our life in Japan will give us three solid years together before our next relocation, so we

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PREGNANT...

I am looking forward to the unique things that Japan has to offer when toting a little one around. The ease of going places with the stroller by train, the safe and clean environment, and the fun I’ll have picking out some of the adorable outfits Japan’s shopping scene has to offer. I’m also excited that our child will get to experience a different culture right away upon coming into the world. I want the world and all its countries to feel exciting, accessible, and familiar to our children, not big, scary, distant, and out of reach. I think it’s important in a child’s education to learn to celebrate and be tolerant of cultural differences rather than to judge other cultures negatively for being different. On the flip side, I am due in July. I am not looking forward to experiencing my eighth and ninth month of pregnancy during Japan’s hottest, most humid summer months. And there are a lot of things I miss about my old surroundings and the network of family and friends I had in San Diego. Our parents and siblings aren’t able to fly over for a short weekend. It’s not an inexpensive trip to jump over the pond and not possible without taking up some saved vacation

best husband in the entire world to help support me and although I really miss my best friend Karlee in San Diego, I was fortunate enough to be able to witness and participate in the birth and first four years of her first baby’s life. I was able to be there to see the good, great, bad, and the ugly! I learned a lot from Karlee and because of that experience I look forward to the challenges as much as the sweet and tender moments. A few things are different about being pregnant in Yokosuka. Our baby will be exposed to Skype communication immediately. We Skype family and friends and see their little ones on a weekly basis. I can only imagine the increased Skype traffic after our little addition is born! Other bonus features of being pregnant abroad are that no one will have to see any of my weight gain or the bad maternity outfits that I try to piece together! I won’t have to be the centre of attention at a baby shower or play annoying (to me) baby shower games, though I know some people love that stuff. I’m not the type to sit and pre-plan my kid’s life out, or to worry and dwell on the more serious aspects of how I can make my child’s life perfect in every way. I think perfect is scary and I look forward to doing the best job I can and watching

time. I have not yet built the same kind of friendships and network here as I have back at home, but I am comfortable now and have participated fully in my life in Japan so far. I hope to continue to look at this as an opportunity, because I know that being out of our comfort zones will allow us to grow and evolve in ways we never thought possible. As an about-to-be new mother, do I feel scared and isolated over here, or, do I feel prepared and optimistic? Perhaps foolishly, I feel more than prepared and completely optimistic. I have the

our child’s personality take shape on its own and for life to take its course. I do enjoy daydreaming about the dance parties we’ll have with our little peanut in the living room, while I introduce him/ her to Bob Dylan, John Lennon, Eric Clapton, John Fogerty, and all of the classic rock legends that seem to bring additional life and meaning to special family moments. As for pregnancy, it’s not every day you get to be pregnant in Japan. So I am going to make the most of it and have fun. I am going to enjoy every single minute.

s for pregnancy, it’s not every day you get to be pregnant in Japan. So I am going to make the A most of it and have fun.

Being A Broad December 2009

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BAB December 2009  

Our December issue bids farewell to '09 with Tokyo Physio's Annette Chase on our cover, great gift suggestions for any time of year, a look...

BAB December 2009  

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