A mom will do whatever she has to do to make sure you have what you need. I remember my mom, alongside my father working two jobs both manual labor so that the bills were paid. Rarely did she complain but she just did what needed to be done. Then after working on their feet all day, then they come home and put in even more hours, washing dishes, sewing up pants, washing our clothes, and cooking our dinners. Florida Evans from Good Times and Roseanne Conner from Roseanne come to my mind in popular culture as television moms that eluded that type of realness. Of course everyone wanted a Clair Huxtable from The Cosby Show or a Carol Brady from The Brady Bunch but that was not everyone’s reality. In my neighborhood our mothers were more like Florida and Roseanne who worked multiple jobs and still had to hold down the family without missing a beat. Mom’s had to deal with special diets, meaning, “I don’t like this or that.” The proverbial joke is that if you didn’t like it, you didn’t eat. That was the case in my house, as much as I say it was. I didn’t like navy beans growing up, nor did I like chicken and noodles, whenever Mom cooked that, she would always make sure I had some frozen pizzas (until I was old enough to work and pay for my own). My mom would be at every event, parent teacher conference, classroom party, or music concert you had even if they had to take off work. Do not tell a mom she cannot have time off for her kids. You do not want to do that. Even if you did, a mom work overtime or sacrifice her other day off just so she could attend your school events. That’s what mom’s do. There is something about that gives you peace, knowing you would not be one of the kids who did not have a mom present. As an educator it was sad to see the lack of participation today from some of my student’s parents. I often remembered that no matter what my parents had to do, they would make sure they would not miss our events. They made it happen, they did what needed to be done. As a child, I did not have to want for anything because of my parents. I could not recall a time when we did not get what we wanted, due to my parents even if they had to sacrifice.
My grandmother passed away two years ago. I miss not being able to go to my grandmother’s house on a midweek afternoon to watch Young & The Restless or listen to jazz music with her. Throughout my busy workweek or with whatever situation I was going through it was peaceful to go there and forget about the world. I was always at peace there. Words cannot express how much I miss that. Every now and again you need that in your life. I no longer live in the same city as my mother, but just hearing her voice gives me peace for the day and a comfort that is like no other. There is something about our mothers that gives us peace.