2016 Change Agent June (Issue 25)

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SENIOR LIVING FACILITIES: A FRONTIER FOR GAY RIGHTS Gay people in the U.S. have made great strides in overcoming discrimination. From being the subject of slurs in the 1954 McCarthy Trials to the 2015 Supreme Court ruling making same-sex marriage legal nationwide, Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Trans-Gender (LBGT) Americans have made remarkable advances on the path to equality. Seattle—with the fifth largest LGBT population of any U.S. metropolitan area---has been in the forefront. In the late 1960’s, not one law — federal, state, or local — protected gay men or women from being fired or denied housing. But in the 1970’s, the Seattle City Council passed landmark revisions to the City’s Fair Employment Practices (1974) and Open Housing (1975) Ordinances, making it illegal for employers, landlords and home-sellers to discriminate on the basis of sexual orientation. Then Mayor and long-time Bayview Trustee, Wes Uhlman (image above), was a pivotal supporter of these measures. Uhlman also officially declared a Gay Pride Week in 1975, an historic first. And years of persistence by former state senators, Cal Anderson (now deceased) and Ed Murray led to legislation in 2012 making Washington the seventh state to make same-sex marriage legal. Today, LGBT people enjoy vastly increased acceptance, wield substantial economic power and influence, and openly exercise leadership in our society. One recent study estimated the buying power of LBGT persons in the U.S. to be $884 billion. And consider the following openly gay leaders: Apple CEO, Tim Cook; Talk Show Host, Ellen DeGeneres; CNN Anchor, Anderson Cooper, and Seattle Mayor, Ed Murray.

Yet much more progress needs to be made, particularly for LBGT elders. The Administration on Aging estimates that there are 1.5 million LGBT people age 65 and older in the U.S., and this population will double by the year 2030. And despite data showing prosperity among the general gay population, LBGT elders have disproportionately higher levels of poverty, financial insecurity, and social isolation stemming from lifetimes of discrimination. Senior living facilities generally lag behind in creating welcoming and non-discriminatory environments for LGBT elders. For example, a 2014 study by the Equal Rights Center found that 48% of older same-sex couples experienced unequal treatment when inquiring about housing in a senior living facility, including less information about available units, higher costs and a more extensive application process. Here we at Bayview look forward to becoming another Seattle leader in breaking down discrimination against LGBT people. For many years, the Bayview community has opened its doors and arms to LGBT older adults. And today, we are enriched by a good number of gay and lesbian elders who call Bayview home. Yet we too have much more to do in providing a welcoming and comfortable environment for LGBT elders. Pro-active marketing and sales, education in cultural competency, and varied pricing. It’s all part of moving forward. IN THIS ISSUE Senior Living Facilities: A Frontier for Gay Rights Sleep Expert Says Growing Older Does Not Mean Sleeping Poorly Refreshing our Brand Craig Wilson Queen Anne Days You’re Invited to Bayview’s Street of Dreams

Q and A with DOTTIE NEUFELD Jan Anderson, Bayview Director of Spiritual Care sits with Resident Dottie Neufeld to talk about the issue of inclusivity with regards to the LGBT Community. This exchange is intended to lift up pride month and this city: Q: You’ve seen a lot in the time you’ve lived here and in your career. Can you share any initial thoughts or memories? A: I was a nurse and have never felt uncomfortable. I grew up in a city so my experiences have been more comfortable than someone who grew up in a smaller community. But I’ve always felt I needed to be guarded. I can remember my friends - just the 8 of us. We talked about what would happen as we get older - when we’re in our 50’s and 60’s. Did we have to create our own space to grow older? It didn’t seem like there would be a place that would be welcoming and where we could be who we are. Q: It’s only been 4 years now in this state since same-sex marriage has been made legal. I’m eager to ask you what you think the frontiers are at this point for the Gay community - what do we need to be focusing on? A: One thing would be adoption. I have gay friends who have adopted kids but there’s still a lot of concern and prejudice in terms of having gay couples raise children. Q: How did you meet your late partner? A: During those early years and when girls started looking at boys - my brother said someone at my church wanted to go out with me and I didn’t get it - why would I want to do that! It wasn’t until I was in college that I actually started dating women. When I met Carol we were both working together. We were friends for a long time before we got into a committed relationship. Q: Have you felt that people are supportive since the time you became a widow? Do you feel that people have understood the issues you’ve faced in the same way they would with a heterosexual women who lost someone? A: I had support from my church and friends. And here at Bayview when I talk with other residents who’ve lost a spouse, we just talk to each other as people who have lost a spouse. It hasn’t been an issue at all. I haven’t felt my relationship was diminished because I was in a relationship with another women. I felt that people understood that my loss was the same as theirs. Q: What do you think would be important for a place like Bayview – a retirement community – to attract members of the gay and lesbian community? What do we need to do or change? A: So much happens with word of mouth. I have friends – one is interested [in communities like these] and the other isn’t. And the younger one is usually the one not ready to move in. I have friends who are an interracial couple. I asked her [what she thinks about moving into a retirement community.] She felt comfortable but I think they wouldn’t want to be the first or only gay couple living in a community. Q: Is there anything else you would want our readers to know or that you would like the opportunity to say? A: If they’re looking for a place to be? I would love to see more people from the LGBT community living here. And by our relationships and our presence with another we can continually educate ourselves. The things we thought were scary and fearful are not. That’s probably the biggest witness I think that could happen here. We need to be able to take in the change and have it be a part of us. I am proud of where I live. I feel that people are respectful here.

*Bayview Resident Dottie Neufeld

Refreshing our Brand

Notice something different? Bayview has been working with a marketing firm to refresh our logo, website, and collateral materials in response to changing market expectations. We have a high level of brand recognition from our 55 years of service and will retain “Bayview,” however “Retirement Community” will not carry forward. Watch for more exciting changes!

Sleep Expert Says Growing Older Does Not Mean Sleeping Poorly By Tom Carlson, Bayview Director of Development Can we sleep well as we grow older? Yes! says Dr. Michael Vitiello, an internationally recognized expert on sleep and sleep disorders in older adults. On May 3rd, Dr. Vitiello gave Bayview’s 2nd Annual Lecture on Healthy Aging on the topic, Growing Older Does Not Mean Sleeping Poorly: Dispelling Some Myths about Sleep and Aging.

Sleep disturbance in older adults is caused by: 1) medical conditions such as pain or depression and their treatments, 2) poor sleep habits such as irregular sleep schedules and unconducive sleeping environments (noise, light, room temperature, bedding), 3) sleep disorders such as obstructive sleep apnea and restless leg syndrome; and 4) stress and worry.

Good sleep--along with diet and exercise--is one of the three key pillars of health, said Vitiello. It improves concentration, sharpens memory, helps control weight, improves mood, and can decrease the risk of accidents, depression, diabetes, heart disease, cancer, and Alzheimer’s disease. It’s 100 percent natural. And it’s free!

The good news is that such sleep disruption—even chronic insomnia—is treatable. First and foremost, establish a regular bedtime schedule and improve other sleep habits (Google “The 13 Commandments for Better Sleep). Second, utilize Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for Insomnia (CBTI)—a practical method to help change patterns of thinking or behavior. And only then consider pharmacological treatments. The takeaway? Stay healthy and continue to sleep well. Sleep well and continue to stay healthy.

It has been commonly thought that growing older means suffering from poor sleep. But groundbreaking research by Vitiello and colleagues shows that poor sleep is not because of aging itself.


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You’re Invited

Exclusive Street of Dreams Bayview is undergoing exciting new changes this summer. The character and mid-century modern feel of Bayview will remain, while the interiors are upgraded and new amenities are added. We are a Life Plan Community (formerly known as CCRC). We have apartments that can fit everyone’s budget. Please join us for a sneak peek at Bayview’s Master Plan presented by Mary Cordts, CEO of Bayview. The event is designed to let you experience the wonderful new look and feel of our community. RSVP is required.

DATE: Tuesday, June 21 PLACE: 11 West Aloha Street, Seattle WA 98119 TIME: 1pm - 3pm 1 pm presentation in the Albertson Center folllowed by small group tours POST TOURS: Wine, cheese and schmoozing!

RSVP at (206) 281-5744 Limited space is available.