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FEATURES 5 Celebrating Creativity

Hats off to B.C.’s senior artists and performers.

6 Raising a Rukus

These rockers keep the Golden Oldies alive.

8 Light and Shadow

Gabriola Island sculptor Elias Wakan combines his love of math with art.

DEPARTMENTS 25 BBB Scam Alert 26 Classifieds

COLUMNS 3 The Family Caregiver by Barbara Small

10 The Lady is a Ham

27 Ask Goldie

12 Humanitarian Uncovers Island Secrets

31 Outrageous & Courageous

Actress Sharron Bertchilde takes on new roles.

Artist and author Theo Dombrowski explores enticing beaches on Vancouver Island.

16 Channeling the Wind

Wind harp artisan Greg Joly immerses himself in music.

18 Magical, Musical Maestro

Conductor Simon Leung inspires musicians.

20 Making Peace

Artist Deryk Houston takes a positive approach to negative world affairs.

22 Great Gal-loping Getaway Old friends share new experiences.

28 Three Seafaring Ladies and a Boat

Adventureous boaters circumnavigate Vancouver Island.

by Goldie Carlow by Pat Nichol

32 Reflections: Then & Now by Gipp Forster

Cover Photo: Rukus band members (from l. to r.) Bob Dalziel (blue jacket), Steve Hansen (kneeling in front of the car), Marty Adams (standing behind the car), Barry Casson and Dave Kissinger. Story page 6. Photo: Vernice Shostal


FINDING RESPITE FROM CAREGIVING Rest, recharge, get your errands done or take a much-needed holiday.


espite is the break caregivers get when they allow someone else to temporarily take over their caregiving duties for an hour, a day, a week or longer. Respite can help prevent caregiver burnout and permits you to continue caring for your family member for as long as possible. It gives you a chance to rest, recharge, get your errands done or take a much-needed holiday. Several formal types of respite are provided through your local health authority, such as: • Your family member attending an Adult Day program. • Having a Home Support Worker come to your home overnight to look after your family member, so you can catch up on sleep or during the day for a few hours to stay with your family member, so you can spend some time on your own. • Scheduling a short-term admission or respite stay for your family member in a residential care facility or other facility that provides respite care. This type of respite can range from overnight to a week or more. Caregivers can access these types of respite services by calling their care recipient’s Case Manager or the Home

and Community Care department of your local health authority. Similar services are also available through private home support agencies and private care facilities. These can be found in your local telephone book, online or in a community resource directory, such as the Senior Living Housing Directory available at housingdirectory In addition to these forms of respite, there are many other creative ways for caregivers to take a break. At FCNS, we think of “respite as an outcome.” This means any activity or event that allows you to feel more rested and to feel as though you have had time off from your caregiving duties: • A neighbour or volunteer coming over for a couple of hours to play cards with your family member while you go out • Spending time in your garden, at the beach or going for a walk • Having a family member come and stay overnight, so you can sleep through the night • Going out for coffee with friends • Reading a book or watching a movie • Trading homes for a weekend with a family member or friend who lives nearby. They can take over your caregiving responsibilities and you can relax.


Respite does not always mean separation from the person you are caring for. It can mean sharing non-caregiving-focused time together, such as going to see a play or to the spa. These activities help to reduce your sense of isolation and reestablish a balanced relationship. For respite to be refreshing, you need to be able to let go of worrying about the other person. Others may not provide care exactly as you would, but your family member will be cared for and their daily life will be enriched by interactions with new people. You will come back stronger and more refreshed. SL Everyone will benefit! Next month: Caregiving and Facility Placement Barbara Small is the Program Development Coordinator for Family Caregivers’ Network Society located in Victoria, BC.

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Bard on the Beach Shakespeare Festival. “The support has grown and nurtured many artists that have requested arts council assistance – but over the past while as deficit budgeting drags us down, arts and culture have had to take it on the chin. These are difficult times for the arts, and I suspect senior artists are looking for other ways to augment their incomes – but we will survive. We will be creative! The economy will recover! Let us entertain you as we wait for better times – this is the way of the artist.” B.C.’s artists have delighted and entertained thousands. They let us peek into their lives –Norman Yates by sharing their stories and add colour to the pages of our magazine. And as long as they continue to explore and express the talents that make them SL unique, we will continue to celebrate them.

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uch can be said about British Columbia and her artists. Whether they toil in paint, sculpture, photography, performing arts, music or word play, these artists share one thing in common – a creativity that thrives in the natural allure of our province. Arts and entertainment in B.C. has a unique flavour that is distinctly Canadian. In fact, the artists’ creativity we marvel at helps shape our national identity. Senior artists, in particular, are prolific here. Some have spent a lifetime perfecting their work, while others take to the canvas, the stage or the page later in life. Time and freedom from the responsibilities of career and family have allowed many to explore the creativity they say bubbled beneath the surface since childhood. And it’s a passion supported and encouraged by arts and entertainment outlets eager to share their voice. “As part of our mandate, the Art Gallery of Greater Victoria feels it is important to acknowledge the careers and contributions of senior artists in the community,” says Nicole Stanbridge, Associate Curator, Comtemporary Art. “We recently featured a retrospective of local artist James Gordaneer, who has been painting for six decades and has spent the last 30 of those [years] as a significant and inspiring member of Victoria’s art community.” Senior Living magazine has had the privilege of interviewing artists and entertainers working in every conceivable medium. Whether born and raised here, or transplanted from other parts of the country or world, artists and performers flourish in our cities and remote islands. Over the years, we have chatted with fine artists like Norman Yates, Jim Wispinski, Margaret Hallett and Ted Harrison; writers Ann Kelly, Naomi Beth Wakan, Stanley Evans, Betty Gordon Funke and Arthur Black; musicians Allan SingletonWood, Catherine Young, George Essihos and Winifred Scott Wood; and groups like the Oak Bay Orchestra, the Pensionaires Barbershop Quartet, City of Gardens Sweet Adelines and the Victoria Broadway Chorus. And year after year, new senior artists emerge and take to the spotlight, despite challenging economic times and the provincial, federal and global issues that threaten to command more attention. “The province of British Columbia has been supportive of all sorts of different initiatives by artists of all ages for many years,” says Christopher Gaze, Artistic Director/Founder of


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Rukus band members. Back row: Barry Casson, Steve Hansen, Dave Kissinger. Front: Marty Adams (keyboards), Bob Dalziel.


ictoria’s “Golden Oldies” Rockers began in 1977 with two musicians, Bob Dalziel and his friend, Rod Arundell, who, seven years earlier, had met “over a few beers at the Old Century Inn.” In addition to sharing beers, they shared a love for ’50s rock ‘n’ roll music. Rod bragged about the way he could imitate the licks of Scotty Moore, Elvis Presley’s guitarist, and Bob boasted about his ability to imitate the King himself. But it was mostly talk until 1977, when their hero died. Shocked by the brevity of life, the duo decided to quit delaying their own desire to become musicians and started jamming on a regular basis. For two years, they played at parties and did some live shows, but their enthusiasm waned and they quit playing in public. A year later, meeting other musicians, they got a new start when they took on a bass player and later a drummer. Their first real gig was videotaping seven songs for Daybreak, a local CHEK-TV show, where the name Rock House Ruckus became the current Rukus. Disbanding again in 1983, they rejoined in 1988 when a friend enticed them to help him celebrate his 40th birthday. A love for authentic rock ‘n’ roll has kept the band


jamming ever since. “It is gratifying to know that in a small way we are helping to keep the original rock ‘n’ roll alive,” says Bob. Keyboard player Marty Adams joined Rukus in 2001. Victoria Rock ‘n’ Roll Hall of Fame drummer Barry Casson joined in 2003. In 2007, Steve Hansen, who had been with the band for a while, rejoined original band member Bob Dalziel and Dave Kissinger, who replaced Rod Arundell in the early ’90s. The Rukus band members come from various walks of life to speak the universal language of music. “Everybody sings and everybody plays,” says Bob, who was born in Victoria and worked for the city since 1974. Both the youngest and oldest member of the group, he and his wife of 30 years, Brenda, have two daughters and three grandchildren. Retired from the cablevision industry, lead guitar Dave Kissinger, also born in Victoria, taught himself to play by the age of 12. With several friends, he began playing at school dances and later joined a band called R.P.M. and the Regents. He has an extensive musical background with Victoria band Phoenix, playing Eagles, Bachman Turner Overdrive,



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Police, Chicago, CCR and Van Morrison tunes. In 2008, he was inducted into the Victoria Rock ‘n’ Roll Hall of Fame. “We play songs I grew up hearing and playing,” says Dave. “It’s always magic when a band puts a song together and it just ‘works.’” Barry Casson has been playing drums since he was 16. He played with local bands before joining “Bob and the Strangers,” a group that went to England in 1966 and played in major venues all over the British Isles. Back in Victoria, Barry taught drums and learned photography, later becoming a newspaper photographer with the Times Colonist, TV news cameraman with CHEK TV and director producer of over 60 films and videos. Past president of Victoria Motion Picture School, he wrote his first book on filmmaking and gives presentations to high schools, colleges and business groups. Raised in Nanaimo, bass guitar and vocalist Steve Hansen came to Victoria in 1970. Influenced mainly by the Beatles, Steve began playing in bands in the 1960s. After a few years of accordion, he switched to guitar and then bass. Steve played with “Whiskey Tree,” one of the first bands based out of Nanaimo. They did the coffeehouse circuit up and down the island. Steve played with several bands in the ’70s and ’80s. He took time off to concentrate on family before getting back to music to play with Rukus. A cooking school graduate as well as a journeyman electrician, Steve is the only member who joined the band twice.

Born in London, England, keyboardist and vocalist Marty Adams played with several bands in the ’60s, until he started teaching in 1968 and his focus turned to choral directing and musical theatre. In the mid ’80s, Marty joined “Doc & The Doowops,” which he calls the highlight of his musical career. “I played keyboards for 11 years with Doc & The Doowops, Victoria’s premier rock ‘n’ roll show band and performed with them for the Opening Ceremonies of the Commonwealth Games in 1994.” The energetic Rukus musicians, mostly in their 60s, with 200 years of combined stage experience, performed at the opening for Buddy Knox’s 60th birthday party bash. Competing with 15 other bands in 1999, they won the “Battle of the Bands” competition and set the attendance record for the Government House “Music On The Lawn” outdoor concert series in 2006. They have played on shows with Tommy Sands, Bobby Curtola, The Coasters, Susan Jacks, Randy Bachman and Buddy Knox. This summer, the band will be raising a ruckus at Butchart gardens, Rutledge Park, the Saanich Fair and more. They entertain at private and retirement parties, special anniversaries and reunions. From Elvis to the Beatles and everything in between, the band plays tunes the way their fans remember them. “You’re never too old or too young to rock ‘n’ roll,” says Bob. SL For more info, visit

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nter the studio of sculptor Elias Wakan on Gabriola Island, and what strikes the eye is the incredible play of light and shadow within his sculptures. Eli explains that his constructions (he prefers that word, since his pieces are painstakingly built up unit by unit) are appreciated because they seem to change along with the light of day. With their architectonic nature, Eli says, architects often imagine how each piece would be scaled up to full-building size in concrete, steel and glass, rather than the finely grained hemlock he uses.

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True for many sculptures, a person needs to walk around them to fully appreciate their scope, but Eli’s sculptures make people want to walk into them. They invite participation. One piece, Sliced Ice, resembles a diamond. Eli says the light from it changed because of the interference of the wood. At one point, there is a view all the way through it. From a different perspective, a person can see through where he or she was looking before, but then, a moment later sees through at a new spot; it’s as if the light follows. The name of the Sliced Ice sculpture came from the structure of water and the fact that it expands as it freezes; inside each molecule of ice there is a hollow space. The negative and positive shapes are what make his pieces so remarkable. Before beginning a sculpture, Eli puts pen to paper. Stacks of pages build before he starts a single construct. On them are the keys to a perfectly executed piece – they include mathematical proportions, points of balance, wood

densities, sizes of jigs, how the pieces should be put together, where the gaps should be – loads of calculations. “As I make the constructions, I think ‘Oh, I’ll just take it a stage further, maybe I’ll just add one more level.’” says Eli. “And then again, perhaps still one more level, until eventually the realization dawns that adding any more would be a mistake.” Eli says the last step is the naming. One construction’s name, Plane Sailing, was chosen because it looks like a pair of sails, and is a nautical term based on the charts all sailors use that employ the convenient fiction of being on a mathematical plane, instead of the messy curved Earth. About his current outdoor project (with its own stack of papers), he laughs, “In the workshop, being out a third of a degree can be a problem for me, so it’s very different working outside on the fence for our new orchard, where a discrepancy of one inch is sometimes tolerable. Working outside on this project is really like a kind of sabbatical.”

All Eli’s pieces are made from single unit shapes, sometimes a square cross-sectioned stick, sometimes a wedge, but cut in the hundreds or even thousands, depending on how many might be needed. Curiosity keeps this artist motivated from idea to completion of these complex sculptures. Eli wants to see what his ideas look like. If, before making them, he could see them already finished on a computer screen, he’s not sure he would have the incentive to spend the months it takes to make each piece. Though Eli was a math major, he felt the need to put the math to use in practical ways. Pure math was too abstract for him – his interest was more in plane and solid geometry, so it wasn’t a big leap to carpentry to translate math into everyday use. And, eventually, he became a journeyman carpenter. When he met his wife, writer Naomi Beth Wakan, they decided to live in Japan for a while. The Japanese aesthetic of unvarnished wood structures created with precision and no nails influenced Eli. On returning to Canada, he first experimented with folding paper, not exactly origami, but more like architectural maquettes. When the couple moved to Gabriola Island in 1996, he set up a workshop to see what these forms looked like in wood; his first showing was called “Origami in Wood.” Living on idyllic Gabriola, nature plays a significant role in Eli’s work. “My pieces are very organic and cellular,” he says. He points to a sculpture called Meeting at Infinity and says its double helix form suggests DNA. Eli plans to continue designing and building his constructions despite the potential physical problems that may arise from the many hours of standing, not to mention the visual strain of working in precise detail. To ensure his longevity, he takes precautionary measures like using a heavy-duty dust mask, as well as ear and eye protection. “If you’re good at something and interested, I don’t see why one couldn’t go on for a long, long time,” says Eli. “I just like puzzles and each piece I start is a puzzle I have set myself.” SL

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f I can teach one more person in the world to be as selfish as I am, I will not have lived in vain.” That’s Sharron Bertchilde speaking in Nanaimo, where she is making another life, another persona for herself; another in a long line of lives. She’s been a student, a teacher, an administrator, an athlete, a wife, a mother, a grandmother and, as an actor, many versions of wife, mother and grandmother. In some of these roles, she will

surely raise eyebrows, but there has been little real selfishness in any of them. The different selves of Sharron got their start in Kenora, Ontario, where she was born into what she describes simply as “a railroad family” and where she attended many different schools, dropping out before the end of Grade 12. She graduated from high school in Winnipeg, by means of adult education, and became an educator herself, first as a teacher with a degree from the University of Winnipeg. She employed her “strong instinct for ham acting,” using drama as a teaching tool in Winnipeg schools and in adult education programs. When Sharron achieved a master’s degree in Public Affairs from the Uni-

versity of Manitoba, she ventured west and took administrative posts at Malaspina College, now Vancouver Island University. Husband and tennis partner Harvey Jenkins found employment at the same institution. Harvey is now nearing retirement and, like Sharron, is moving into a life in the arts, writing poetry, particularly haikus, and winning competitions with his verses. The “meetings, meetings, bloody meetings” of administrative life eventually palled on Sharron, and she resolved “to do something interesting while I was still able to.” She retired at age 60 and made her way to Nanaimo’s Red Room studio, where actor training from Jackie Casey and Andrew McIlroy prepared her for work in Vancouver’s burgeoning film and television industry. Her first professional job, she recalls, was as a grandma in a Mattel Toys commercial, about five years before she became a grandma in real life. But it is the stage that has brought Sharron the greatest pleasure; the electric thrill of immediate direct connection with audiences. Local audiences have enjoyed her work in performances for the Nanaimo Theatre Group and in the summer theatre, Bard to Broadway, in Qualicum Beach. Now, cheerfully doing things backwards, she attends classes at the univer-

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Humanitarian Uncovers Island Secrets BY VALERIE GREEN


man of many talents, Theo Dombrowski, a retired teacher, has firmly established his skills as a photographer, artist and now writer on Vancouver Island. Two recently released books Secret Beaches of Greater Victoria and Secret Beaches of Southern Vancouver Island are written and illustrated by Theo. The illustrations in watercolours, oils, charcoal and ink blend to create what

he describes as “a sort of scrapbook of different visual responses that visitors, artists and photographers might have to our varied shoreline.” In addition, there are sketched maps showing the reader how to find the “secrets” he has discovered. These two books are Theo’s first to be published by Heritage House Publishing. In the past, he self-published a children’s book called The Dragons of Vancouver Island. He is also working

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Theo taught for one year at the Collegio del Mondo Unito in Italy and two years at the Red Cross Nordic United World College in Norway, all of which made him more aware of the world’s many worthwhile causes. Following the Haiti earthquake, for instance, he arranged a display of his work in a local shopping centre, where he sold several paintings to raise funds for both the Red Cross and MSF.

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Greg Joly with the Aeolian Wind Harp he designed and constructed.

Greg’s childhood fantasy became reality when he graduated from building his smaller two-stringed wind harps to designing and building his Grand Harp that’s mounted on a swivel base, allowing the harp to be turned to catch the wind. When this elegant wooden structure has its side panels opened wide, the wind releases the harmonic notes of the strings inside. Next, Greg built a cylindrical wind harp that allows a person to sit with his head inside to experience the sounds of the wind on the strings. Then he created his most

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reg Joly, wind harp artisan, had a secret that began when he was a small child of eight and discovered a box-like toy with strings. “I didn’t know what it was exactly, but I liked the sound it made,” he recalls. “I had this wonderful image of building a box, where I would be immersed in the sounds of the strings.” Growing up, Greg learned to play the piano. With his ears sharply attuned to the chords and harmonics, he became a professional piano-tuner. But deep within, Greg kept searching for that elusive childhood sound. “I was at the Courtenay Fair in 1982 and heard it in a recording,” he says. “I had to know what made that sound.” The sound was that of Aeolian wind harps built by Benjamin Bloomfield. “The sound of the wind harps truly inspired me,” Greg recalls. “Benjamin suggested several books from the University of Victoria Library. I was ‘on fire’ soaking up all the information I could find to build my first two-string wind harp.” Aeolian wind harps have been known since 6th-century Greece and are a stringed instrument played solely by the wind. They resurfaced in the Renaissance age and were seldom heard of again until Henry David Thoreau, the 19th-century nature writer and poet wrote: “The sounds of the Aeolian harp and the woodthrush are the truest and loftiest preachers I know now left on this earth.” Apparently inspired by the sounds of the wind on the telegraph wires, Thoreau built his own wind harps in an attempt to capture what he heard.

ambitious wind harp, the Harmonic Sanctuary, which houses two or three people, wrapping minds and bodies in notes played by the breeze of the wind. The strings are of different diameters or gauges. As the wind blows among the strings, a chordal sound is produced. Within one string, there are many tones called harmonics and these series of notes produces a harmonic series. “Each string doesn’t play a different note,” Greg explains. “They are all the same note but when the wind blows and causes a vibration of any one string, there is a breakdown of the one sound causing it to go from quite deep to very high. That’s the harmonic series.” Listening to wind harps is different from listening to wind chimes because even the wind on the small door or window of the wind harps produces a sound effect, which affects each individual’s ears differently. One of Greg’s favourite stories is of an older gentleman who was intently listening to the sounds of a wind harp recording on the headphones. “He turned to me, teary-eyed and said, ‘This is what I heard when I was on the Other Side.’ Apparently, this gentleman had undergone a clinical death experience and remembered this deep sense of peace. I’ve heard from others that listening to the primordial wind songs touches people in an inspiring and spiritual way.” Collaborating with Irish artist Mark Garry, Greg’s smaller wind harps have been part of a successful Irish visual/ sound art show called “Wind Harps” set in Dublin’s Blackrock Park. Now, Greg’s goal is to be commissioned to build his wind harps, especially his Harmonic Sanctuaries, in one or more of Victoria’s local parks as a place for quiet reflection. “It has been my vision for the last 10 years to build a 22person Harmonic Sanctuary, somewhere safe with public access for people to enjoy, to quietly meditate, to take refuge from the elements,” says Greg. “I’m good at designing and building it to suit the location. I want my first large, commissioned wind harp to be built with maximum exposure and public accessibility.” He describes his 22-persons Harmonic Sanctuary as 11feet (3.4 m) in diameter, similar to an enclosed gazebo so it would be like a giant sound box. The Harmonic Sanctuary is designed to withstand the elements as it is built for outdoors and can play in breezes or heavy storms. “I didn’t invent wind harps, but I extrapolated all the information I could to build my Harmonic Sanctuary,” says Greg. “I like to have people experience the actual wind harps, to hear the genuine wind songs. It’s not meant to be for a ‘beer and chips’ gathering, but a place for inner reflections, a joyful SL spiritual re-awakening.” To view Greg’s wind harps and to hear a sample of songs, visit: For more info, call 250475-1106 or email



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Magical Musical Maestro BY JUDEE FONG


rowing up in Hong Kong, Maestro Simon Leung was enthralled by his first symphony concert. “I liked the classical music I heard and wanted to be a musician. But, coming from a traditional Chinese family, my father had plans for his three sons to be a lawyer, a doctor and an engineer. One of my brothers is a lawyer and the other is a computer scientist. I entered medical school.” Taking a year away from his studies, Simon came to Victoria and enrolled in the Victoria Conservatory of Music, where he studied voice under Selena James and classical guitar under Ian McConkey. “I saw another young tenor, Richard Margison, beginning his singing career,” Simon recalls. “He won the coveted Rose Bowl for voice that year. The

quality of teaching at the Conservatory and later at the University of Victoria inspired me.” When Simon’s year was over, he continued with his music studies, and Hong Kong lost a potential doctor. Absorbing the vast knowledge of conductors Glen Fast, Paul Freeman and Bruce More, Simon’s enthusiasm and passion for music earned him an excellent reputation. One of the highlights of his choral conducting occurred in 1994 when Simon was instrumental in uniting the Newcombe Singers and the Sooke Community Choir for three remarkable performances in Hong Kong. Retiring from his many commitments in 2005, Simon began freelancing as orchestral conductor and choir conductor, singing, teaching and inspiring his numerous students. Conducting a choir, orchestra or

symphony has its own uniqueness, but in the end, it is the music that matters. “One interesting thing I learned from my teachers is to look beyond the ‘blacks and whites.’ Conducting is all about communication,” says Simon. “It’s how you have the musicians interpret the music for the audience. But if you ask yourself the question, ‘why?’ it’s because you’re feeling the music, not just playing the notes.” Recently, Simon returned to Saigon for a series of concerts, and taught workshops to students between the ages of 9-17 years. “Many music teachers send their best students to me for the few weeks I am in Saigon. One of my favourite stories is about this one girl who played for me for one of my first concerts there. She rushed up to my producer and said, ‘I know Simon is giving a concert. I

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museum as part of their permanent collection and several of his paintings have appeared in movies such as The Odd Couple, X-Files, Outer Limits, Poltergeist and others. He has illustrated books and donated artwork, turned into holiday greeting cards, to raise money for B.C. Children’s Hospital. A prolific artist, Deryk chooses a positive approach about what goes on in the world. “When I’m painting, I try to reach the heart,” he says. “The way I paint and the things I paint are about life and when I see people being killed (in war), it catches my attention. These are difficult issues and we have to understand that we’re all part of the solution. I go into each project thinking I don’t necessarily have the answer, but what I

really want to do is raise questions. Both sides have needs and each person has to recognize the other person’s [perspective] in order to get trust and harmony.” A sojourn with artists in Baghdad was a life-altering experience for Deryk when he was exposed to the plight of the Iraqi people, particularly the children. Compelled to speak out, his peace sanctuary, a unique nature art project near Hudson’s Hope in the Peace River country in Northern British Columbia, was an attempt to draw people’s attention to the situation in Iraq. Because of his love for ancient art and since he had to move hundreds of tons of gravel and dirt over a 1,000-foot (305 m) area, he chose to keep the design simple. The sanctuary, earth art – rocks, gravel and

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y work is about peace. Even when I paint wilderness like the MuskwaKechika in British Columbia’s far north, the work is all connected,” says Scottish-born artist Deryk Houston. In his youth, he worked with his father and brother in a house-painting business. “I remember being up on a swing stage scraping six-inch-deep pigeon droppings off the window sill in preparation for painting, and my friend, who was helping us said, ‘How can you stand doing this kind of work?’ And I thought, ‘He’s right! I have to pursue my love for art.’” Deryk went on to study art in Canada before he was accepted into L’Ecole Nationale des Beaux Arts in Paris. His first show was in the Kitsilano Neighbourhood House in Vancouver, a community hall with a theatre, where the artist was soon designing some of the sets. A year later, he represented the city of Vancouver with a solo exhibition of his paintings in the former Soviet Union. That was the beginning of dozens of one-man shows and exhibitions in Scotland, the former Soviet Union, Iraq, the U.S. and Canada. His work has been accepted in the Canadian War


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hay – bears the image of a mother and child. The mother/child image is important for nurturing, caring and fertility. Deryk chose a remote site because people would have to make a commitment to go out and see the sanctuary, which would raise awareness and get people talking to each other. A video, Baghdad to Peace Country, produced by the National Film Board of Canada in 2003 shows the construction of the sanctuary and can be viewed on Deryk’s website. “Like any artist and most people in our time, we’re trying to understand why we’re here and what the purpose of life is,” says the artist. “Generations and cycles of life play an important part of my work simply because it’s a complete miracle. That’s why peace interests me so much.” Fascinated by robins’ eggs since he was a child, and finding another way to express his love for the miracle of life, Deryk constructed three large six-foot by 10-foot (1.8 m x 3.1 m) blue eggs. He placed them in Victoria’s Beacon Hill Park one sunny day in the spring of 2009 and as the sun changed directions, Deryk, his wife, Elizabeth, his son, Samuel, and friends, moved the eggs from one nest-like place to another; inside the eggs, Deryk included children’s art. Deryk spent a month building the project for a day’s enjoyment and the resulting photography that captured the event. Since his experience in Iraq, Deryk has been invited to speak at many conferences. In support of children’s rights, he has completed ground art and earthen works in Iraq, Canada and Scotland. Deryk’s family is a vital part of his life. Samuel helped him on his project in Scotland as well as the Peace Sanctuary in the Peace River district where daughter, Amy, played her cello. “My wife has always been a solid support of my work,” he says. Deryk’s work is currently on display at the Old School House Arts Centre in Qualicum. Until July 11, people can view his small series of canvasses featuring tractors, cows and old trucks; he likes old machinery, especially tractors because they tear up the earth and make the ground fertile for seeds to SL take hold.


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invades my comfort zone. But fortunately, help accompanies these well-behaved beasts. Kit Cramer could pose as The Horse Whisperer. Sporting chaps, spurs and twin braids that fall from her wide-brimmed Stetson; she’s a cowgirl to the core. Even her western drawl sounds authentic. Thankfully, it also seems to mesmerize the energized pack for, in unison, they obey her every command. In minutes, she has us perfectly pegged and paired with our equine companion. And, before we know it, we’re ready to giddy up and go! “Each one of these 1,200 pounds of horsepower has a brain the size of a walnut,” Kit chuckles, “but they all provide a safe four-wheel drive ride.” Her wrangling expertise is matched by a witty sense of humour and, while sauntering nose-to-tail along the rim of Sun Mountain’s 915-metre-high plateau, I’m hoping there’s truth to this gesture. Nestled in a lush valley far below is the western town of Winthrop, a popular tourist haunt where we spent the previous day strolling the creaky boardwalks, checking out emporiums, and uncovering past and present treasures. As with most mining towns, the gold-rush boom in Winthrop was a colourful era. But once the resources dried up, so did the reasons to stay. We discovered it wasn’t revived again until 1972, after the completion of the North Cascade Highway. And thanks to the financial support from local lumber baron, Kathryn Wagner, it took on this new Wild West flavour. The elusive cowboy dream also lingers in the hearts of many who visit the lodge. Its 3,000 embracing acres are laced with enough trails, flower-choked meadows and jaw-dropping vistas to satisfy any Roy Rogers wannabe. “It’s a great place to experience life as it used to be,” Kit proudly says, as she guides us through a grove of trembling aspens. She should know. Her family has lived in the Methow Valley for generations and she has pretty much grown up on the backside of a horse. She also co-authored Bound for the Methow, a coffee table favourite that traces the region’s rich history. We mosey along a trail just below the main lodge and find out it too has well-established roots. In 1965, visionary Jack Barron was so moved by this magnificent countryside, he wanted to share it with others. He chose this plot because it provided a 360-degree view of the mountains and valleys, and constructed his dream property out of local materials, so it would blend in with the landscape. Three years later, the original Sun Mountain Lodge was open for business. Although it’s had major upgrades since those early days, the Northwest feel is still incorporated into this AAA Four Diamond retreat. Ninety-six regionally-inspired rooms are housed centrally and any one of them, whether in the main lodge, Gardner or Robinson buildings would enhance our getaway. But on this trip, we decided to go for even more seclusion. We wanted to wine, dine and enjoy our diva downtime without any interruptions. And our fully equipped home-style cabin at nearby Patterson Lake was certainly filling the bill. From our promontory trail, we have a great view of this lake. A couple of canoes dot the glistening surface and hugging up to


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one edge is a grassy shoreline that hosts our home away from home. Later, we’ll catch up on lost sleep, yack on our sunsplashed veranda, and sing along with John Denver. If we still have energy, we can try another adventure. How ‘bout flyfishing, river rafting or kayaking? Tennis or swimming anyone? The courts and two pools sure look inviting. A hundred miles of hiking and biking trails also weave over this terrain. But for now, there’s still more riding to do! Our mid-point is the Hough Homestead, a landmark that dates back to the late 1800s. A log-hewn structure and weather-beaten wagon are remnants of the past and close by are a few picnic tables for tonight’s Cowboy Camp Dinners. “Why not join us later,” Kit asks, when we get back to the ranch. “There’ll be singing ‘round the campfire and a fabulous spread of food.” Although steak, country-fried potatoes and baked beans sounds finger-lickin’ good, we have our hearts set on some award-winning fare for this final night. Above all, though, comfort comes first. After finally prying our duffs off the saddles, we make a bowlegged beeline for the spa. Sue gets her pinkies pedicured, Carol has every kink massaged out of her spine and I go for a treatment that’s most needed these days – an anti-aging facial. With Kazia at the helm, my pores are cleansed, exfoliated, massaged, masked and toned. I’m pretty sure her grand finale head massage produces a snore. An hour later, we all emerge in Zen-like states. Decadence continues in the restaurant where we later dine and wine. Accompanying Chef Bradshaw’s artistically presented specialties is a wine list that would appease Henry VIII. With a 5,000-bottle cellar, it’s not surprising to hear that the Washington State Wine Commission rated Sun Mountain as the top wine restaurant in 2010. And while we soak in the lush Methow Valley view and graze on goodies like wild antelope, diver scallops and wild mushroom strudel, we naturally fill our glasses and raise them for one final toast. “Here’s to revival, reconnection and retirement – and, of course, one great SL gal-loping getaway.” 24


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spouses and others, but we only sailed together for about four or five hours before this trip,” says Cathy. “There’s always a concern when you take a long trip that you may lose your friends,” she adds. Margaret smiles in agreement. “Before the trip we didn’t know each other’s preferences for tea or coffee but now we do, plus all the other little idiosyncrasies!” Margaret made a distinctive blue bra burgee to fly from the mast and set a daily routine for afternoon tea by providing a banana loaf their first day at sea.


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Cathy provided her 36-foot (11 metre) Beneteau, the Rivendell II, newly equipped with fridge, freezer and a two-burner stove with a reliable oven. This galley produced extraordinary meals including handmade pasta, cabbage rolls, occasional barbecues, freshly baked croissants, muffins and biscuits. “We had a roster where we took turns doing cooking, cleaning-up and motor maintenance. We also rotated berths every three days, so no one felt she had the best or the worst for the entire trip!” says Alison. So, in the month of August, when seasoned sailors shake their heads at a trip taken in “Fog-ust,” the Rivendell II sailed out of the Sidney North Saanich Marina. The route would be counterclockwise around Vancouver Island starting with the Inside Passage. Much of the coastal areas were a new experience for the women. “I’ve raced in the Swiftsure and the furthest north I’ve sailed is Desolation Sound,” says Cathy. Margaret had sailed to Cortez Island and Alison as far as Hornby Island. “We had to plan where we could get diesel fuel and gauge the distance we had to travel, but wherever we docked, we would fill up our fuel tanks, even if it was only a ‘top-up,’” says Cathy. “I remember we docked at Walter’s Cove, where they used to have diesel fuel, a restaurant and a fish-packing plant, but nothing was there anymore,” Alison recalls. Cathy nods in agreement. “I had two 20-litres of emergency fuel just for times like that. It got us to our next fuel stop.” Since most boaters take to the coastal waters in May, June and July, there were a number of concerned comments when the women docked at various anchorages in August. Smiling, Margaret reflects that the positive side of August is that anchorage wasn’t a problem. “We entered an inlet and it would be totally empty. We have photos of the Rivendell II, all by itself. Then we would stop at another place with a few more boats and we would say, ‘Who are they? What are they doing here?’” Snug on board, they knitted, read, did crosswords and baked while they tied up to wait the storm out at Sea Otter Cove. “There was a fishing boat in the bay with us and it was nice to know there was someone else there, especially when we were going through a gale!” says Cathy. Seeing eagles, herons and whales was unforgettable, but the sea lions captured a lot of their film. Margaret recalls the unbelievable noise they made in their feeding frenzy. “At first it was fun watching them circling these schools of herring and pushing them up to the surface so the others could feed. They were so incredibly loud and the noise never let up. I had enough photos of them and thought to myself, enough is enough, go away!” Another unforgettable memory: when Cathy and Alison were able to visit “Cougar Annie’s Gardens” in Hesquiat Harbour. Cougar Annie was a feisty pioneer woman who outlived four husbands, raised 11 children, survived by her wits and managed to create a beautiful garden from two-hectares of wilderness. They encountered some solo male boaters who were quite intrigued to meet three women sailing around Vancouver Island. “It must be a dream for every single male sailor to meet three



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women in a boat!” laughs Margaret. Alison recalls one incident in Silver Bay. “This fellow is standing there in the middle of the docks and his wife is standing at the other end. As we’re walking towards him, he shouts, ‘You know what? I’m seriously thinking of ditching my wife and wouldn’t mind marrying any one of you three!’” Another solo boater came across with a blueberry cake he had baked, was invited for cocktails and stayed for dinner. Reflecting on their trip, all three women agreed it was the best time they ever had despite a few rough storms at sea. The spectacular scenery, the natural friendliness of people they encountered, the wildlife in its natural habitat and the experience of their sea odyssey made their voyage memorable. “When you’re only with women on a boat, you gain more confidence because you do a lot more on board. It’s quite different when you’re sailing with men,” says Alison. At the end of one of their speaking engagements, Cathy recalls a woman standing up and saying, “’This is another example of ordinary people doing extraordinary things.’ I SL turned to Alison and said, ‘We’re not ordinary!’” For speaking engagements on this sailing saga, contact Cathy at, Alison at kershawa@telus. net, or Margaret at Margaret Horsfield’s book Cougar Annie’s Garden is available at Bolen Books and most bookstores.

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he second most expensive item people purchase, next only to our homes, is a car. For many, a vehicle is an extension of their personality. Not an item to be purchased indiscriminately, it is something we will (hopefully) keep for a while. Given that, selecting a car should take some thought: large or small, how many seats, do we want it to be ours alone or should we plan on ferrying friends? Interestingly, for me, the colour is also an important feature. Although I find they look exciting, red cars and I don’t mix. When I’m behind the wheel, red cars attract accidents. A yellow car would be fun, but then I hear my father’s voice in my head talking about lemons. Not good. My last car was black, and my next car will probably be black too, although, I do have visions of one in deep purple. For the past month, I’ve been on a search for a car that is sleek, sexy and makes me feel powerful behind the wheel. Sleek, sexy, powerful – a hard bill to fill when car salespersons don’t see you that way. It has been a most interesting experience. At some places, I must have been wearing my invisible cloak – no one bothered to come near me. In one case, my daughter was doing some preliminary searching for me, and the salesperson told her which car I needed – without ever having met me! As it happens, that particular model is one that I would NOT want. Or how about the very young salesperson who sug-


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gested, when I commented about the car being close to the ground, that there were cars made for older people. Scratch that sale! In every case, I left my wish list and phone number with each salesperson I spoke with. Maybe the car I want doesn’t exist because only one has followed up. Here I am, with a car to trade, cash in my pocket and ready to buy. It seems simple, two doors, automatic, good sound system, large trunk and a few other minor requests. Maybe like last time, I will drive onto a lot and MY CAR will be sitting there waiting for me to claim it. I hope so, and I hope so soon. Perhaps by the time you’re reading this column, I will be driving around in something sleek, sexy and powerful. SL

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ReflTHEN ections & NOW



ixty-one years ago, I received the second greatest gift a 12-year-old boy could ever hope for (at least in that era) – a Red Ryder BB Gun. The greatest treasure, of course, was a bicycle, which I also received that year. The bicycle I worked long and hard for and purchased myself. But the BB gun was a Christmas gift. It was tough to have to wait for spring to arrive, so I could go hunting with my lever-action, multi-load Red Ryder BB Gun. Even before the snow melted, it was taken away from me twice for shooting holes in the plaster walls of my attic bedroom. But, by the time we were heading for the cottage at the end of June, my prize was paroled back to me. I was Hawkeye that summer, Uncas, Daniel Boone, and Davy Crockett too! I was Red Ryder himself, a cowboy and a woodsman. It was my last summer of near innocence. Little did I know that childhood would be relinquished to the days of Brylcreem, pegged pants, flight boots and leather jackets. And that it was the last summer to dream dreams of what might have been before I challenged tomorrow and yesterday would be left in the dust. It was a summer of long goodbyes, although I didn’t know it at the time. A summer of adventure and a BB gun, with tiny round bullets. Our cottage was on Shea Lake in the Gatineau region of Quebec, between a place called Kazabazua and Danford Lake. There were only four other cottages on the lake at that time and we were the only ones who stayed for the full summer. The other owners came to their cottages on weekends. A quiet and peaceful place, I remember the loons crying in the early morning and as the sun set in the evening, and the sound of the whippoorwill after darkness 32


had settled in. We had no electricity. We used coal oil lamps and had what we called a “cooler” dug into the ground lined with tin and a locked lid. We had to go for ice twice a week, pulling a kid’s wagon a mile and a half. Then, with a chunk of ice covered in a cloth, we’d pull it back a mile and a half and chip it into the cooler. We had an outhouse too, which we called “the library.” It was spooky to make the trip after dark with a flashlight in hand. There were bears, skunks, elk and deer. There were magnified noises in the woods that surrounded us. I felt very safe that summer. After all, I now had a BB gun to protect my family. After breakfast, the adventure would begin. Going deep into the forest, knowing exactly where I was but pretending to be lost, I shot my BB gun into the air, alerting imaginary companions to where I could be found. I would have to put my foot on the stock of my BB gun, hold tightly to the top of the barrel and crank the lever with all of my strength. I had a tube filled with BBs and I rationed them out. I went hunting for water snakes in our red and white rowboat. The snakes were three- to five-feet long and were far better swimmers than I was a shooter. In August, friends visited with their boy who was about my age. He was a show-offy type and I couldn’t stand him! After about five days of his irritation, I knew what I had to do. In those days, boy’s bathing suits were made of some kind of shiny material. Nylon? Rayon? I don’t really know. But they were skin-tight. I positioned myself on the little balcony that overlooked the lake. I hid be-

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hind the slats, as any good sniper would do. I cradled my lever-action, multi-load Red Ryder BB gun and hugged it to me. I caressed it, talked to it and tried to explain to it why this would probably be our last time together. The sun was hot that day, and I felt its warmth on the stock of the gun as I held it to my cheek. I remember sighting down the barrel at the shiny blue bathing suit as it danced past me and then away from me, never suspecting I was laying there in wait. I squeezed the trigger and felt the air gush from the barrel sending the BB straight and true, like a bee stinging the left buttock of a boy who yelled louder than I ever dreamed he could. For a moment, I thought the wound might be mortal. Well, anyone can guess the outcome. I got the tar licked out of me and I never saw my beloved BB gun again. My adversary sported his wound to anyone who cared to look, while I was grounded from going into the woods for a week. I knew my imaginary friends were mourning me. But a man (or boy) must be willing to sacrifice and suffer for his convictions. I knew what the cost would be for my action. Still to this day, I do not regret my act of discipline in bringing a whining, irritating kid to deserved justice. But I sure miss my lever-action, multi-load Red Ryder BB Gun! Over the years, I have met many people who I would have liked to introduce to it. I am known now as a peacemaker and, indeed, I am. SL But still...

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