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20 Something Old is New Again
The ukulele is making a comeback, and in her community, musician Heather Stubbs is leading the jam sessions.
6 Playing on Pender
Pender Island offers a balance between a surprising array of amenities and enough natural gifts to feed your body and soul.
9 15 Fashion and Beauty Tips
Helpful advice to keep you looking your best.
10 Grey is the New Blonde
The Boomer generation strikes again by driving the trend towards grey hair – from the runway to the street.
COLUMNS 4 The Family Caregiver
12 Old Dame; Young Heart
by Barbara Small
Hilly Van de Wetering has returned to her love of fashion, and designs one-of-a kind outﬁts from gorgeous fabrics.
22 Forever Young by William Thomas
14 Find Your Fashionista this Summer
24 Fit for the Adventure by Eve Lees
Revamp your wardrobe, and showcase your vibrant personality through your fashion choices.
25 Ask Goldie
16 Closet Clean-Up
32 Reﬂections: Then & Now
Tips to help you shed outdated garments and make space for new ones that make sense for your body and lifestyle.
by Goldie Carlow by Gipp Forster
18 Embracing Life
For counsellor-turned-author Gail Boulanger life is about embarking on daring new adventures.
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amily caregiving at home can be made easier by the use of aids and equipment that help maintain or increase your care recipient’s independence and mobility. Products are available for almost any daily activity that becomes challenging due to declines in health. In addition to the more common items such as scooters, walkers and canes, there are smaller devices that can help in getting dressed, bathing, meal preparation etc. Whatever someone needs help with, there is probably a product available! These include aids that help with opening jars or reaching for items that are up high without climbing on a chair, shoe horns with extra-long handles, shower stools, items for gripping or turning or adaptive specialized clothing. I have two unique items that I use and love. The first is a sock aid with long straps. I slip the sock on the holder, which then holds the sock open so I can easily slip my foot in. Then, I use the long straps to pull the sock on. Sure helps save my arthritic knees. The second item, which I received one Christmas, is a long-handled device with rollers on it used to apply lotion on your own back. Many communities have medical supplies and equipment loan services from which you can borrow items for a small fee, by donation or sometimes for free. You can also contact your local branch of the Canadian Red Cross. Some senior’s complexes or communities have created their own supply rooms, where residents can donate and share aids and equipment. Regional health authorities, Home and
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iller whale “shows” at Thieves Bay, knock-your-hiking-boots -off views from Mt. Norman, sylvan swimming in Greenburn and Roe Lakes and 55 trails to wander, what could be better for an active break away? North and South Pender Island have the balance right: developed enough to offer a surprising array of amenities; and natural enough to gift you with lonely forest treks and secluded beaches. In fact, this 36-square kilometre paradise has more beach accesses than any of the other Southern Gulf Islands and almost 70 parks, surpassed only by Saturna Island for parkland. On the amenities side are historical sites, a museum, several restaurants, the luxurious Poets Cove Resort and Spa, myriad artists’ studios, the Red Tree Gallery at Hope Bay, a busy shopping complex at the Driftwood Mall, a Saturday morning Farmers Market at the community centre, and for browsers who love to uncover treasures, the must-visit Renaissance Gallery. Well serviced by BC Ferries from 68
Swartz Bay, and twice-daily sailings from Tsawwassen, the Penders are an ideal getaway for city folk, combining a Gulf Island cruise with a laid-back island experience. But “laid-back” has nothing to do with indolence. North and South Pender’s year-round population of around 2,000 may be primarily made up of retirees, but these folk keep busy, in the community and at leisure. Here’s a sampling of the leisure activities that visitors can get up to. A day visit is do-able, but you’ll go home frustrated; set aside a few days to play like a Penderite. When driving off the ferry, think Roesland. The museum, located in the restored, historic Roe homestead, will be open on summer weekends, but check the website to be sure. This side trip combines history with natural beauty and adds a little, or a lot, of exercise. The “little” is the Arbutus-fringed walk out to the tip of the islet to enjoy the views, and linger at the beach after the museum visit. The “lot” is to add the trail to Roe Lake. Energetic hikers WWW.SENIORLIVINGMAG.COM
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walking past the lake and beginning down the hill will soon be looking over Shingle Bay. They can even access a road from here that heads down to the old fish reduction plant, an historic park that’s one of the latest acquisitions to the Gulf Islands National Park Reserve. There’s also the option of walking and scrambling all around the natural lake, so if you only have a day on Pender, be cautioned: magic munches minutes. Speaking of munching – a trip over to sleepy Port Washington will wind past the 9-hole public golf course and its café, a busy place in season. Exploring this part of the island takes you on a quiet road, past an historic old farm, once the home of one of the early pioneers whose name graces the nearby port, Washington Grimmer. It will also take you past a farm, where you can buy fresh eggs on the honour system, and the Renaissance Gallery, where crystal jewelry designer Milada Huk, and her husband, Jan, have their treasure trove of “deals.” Milada’s jewelry can be seen in places like New York and London, and
Jan is one of a handful of the world’s art restorers. Wait ’til you see what’s up that hill, and the prices you can get on Persian carpets, art and custom jewelry! Now it’s probably lunch time, so head over to the Hope Bay Café and its warren of shops, and be sure to wander into the Red Tree Gallery’s artists’ co-op. It’s one way of getting a sense of the incredible variety and talents of island artists. The café, lounging over Plumper Sound, is a lively spot for good food, meeting the locals, and watching the boats come and go. We’ve spied killer whales from this snug vantage point. If the need to walk off lunch arises, take nearby Hoosen Road and follow it to the end. A trail leaves from here, climbing up and over to Morning Bay Vineyards and great views. Later on, you may want to visit the winery for a glass of the grapes. Back to the main road traversing the island, pull into Driftwood Mall. The first reason is to pick up a map of the island at the Chamber of Commerce kiosk, if you didn’t remember to get one while on the ferry. Secondly, to take a look at all the great stores and amenities Penderites enjoy: a popular and excellent bakery café, a cozy little Sushi restaurant that Vancouverites rate highly, a liquor and food store, well-stocked bookstore and gallery, a clothing store, a pharmacy, et al. Okay, time to move. Before crossing over to South Pender on the picturesque one-lane bridge, stop to read the cairn on the north side, a tribute to the people who lived here thousands of years before the European settlers. It’s always a surprise to visitors to come across swishy Poets Cove, with its lounge, restaurant, spa, pools and marina. Not many small islands can boast a resort of this quality, and you might want to take a while to check it all out and perhaps ask about the haunted Yew tree. Time is flying, right? So, jump in the car and drive to the nearby fire hall to park and walk up to Greenburn Lake. It’s a short but steep road that leads to a picture-perfect lake. But don’t stop here. Go right around the lake and then take the first trail on the left toward the sea. You’ll be rewarded with amazing views from the ridge. After gorging yourself on the views,
head back down and drive to the end of the road, the southernmost point of the islands. Take the short trail to Brooks Point to admire a view that has been lauded in many a travelogue. If arriving in April-early June, you’re in luck; the rare, chocolate lilies will be blooming in the headland meadows. If you’re overwhelmed with the views here, you have the Pender Islands’ Conservancy Association and its Brooks Point Completion Committee to thank; they spearheaded the fundraising to protect this special part of the Gulf Islands, but they still have a ways to go. Returning, now well-walked, wellwatered, and sated with the natural beauty and vistas you’ve seen today, you may want to take the steep dirt road just before the bridge to Mortimer Spit. You probably noticed it on the way down and were dying to check it out, so why not? It’s a favourite spot to walk dogs, launch kayaks, take children, and relax on the white shell beaches while watching boats churning under the bridge. It looks highly inviting for swim-
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ming on a hot day, but be cautioned; the waters here are not nearly as warm as you would imagine. Now you’ll see Port Browning waving at you from the head of the bay, so it’s only polite to stop and say “hi.” Visiting Port Browning with its excellent beach, swimming pool, café, and busy pub, will probably wind down your varied and busy day. But have you played disc golf yet? Have you hiked down to Beaumont Park, or rented a kayak and explored Shingle Bay and those old ruins? Have you been down to Thieves Bay yet to watch for those whales and get the sunset splashed in your face? Now aren’t you glad you booked overnight at one of the islands’ accommodations? See the Chamber of Commerce website for everything you need SL to know and come prepared. For IF YOU GO information, more photos, and additional articles about Pender Island, visit www.seniorlivingmag.com/articles/playingonpender
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Fashion & Beauty
15 Beauty and Fashion Tips to Keep You Looking Your Best
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1. Hydrate – drink lots of water. Not only will this keep your skin hydrated, if you drink a glass before each meal you’ll be less likely to overeat.
3. Vitamin A derived retinoids. A topical skincare ingredient, retinoids stimulate new collagen (which starts decreasing as early as age 30). It also helps exfoliate and increase cell turnover (meaning you shed your older skin cells quicker, and bring the newer ones to the surface). 4. Don’t forget your hands and neck. It’s not just your face that needs attention. The skin on your hands and neck is even thinner than the skin on your face. Hands and neck will show your age just as much as your face, so be sure to apply a moisturizing and retinoid treatment to these areas of your body too. 5. Do something really good for your body. Exercise. Even if it’s just 20 minutes of energetic walking. This helps improve circulation and oxygen intake and lets your pores dilate and release clogging. The water you will drink during and after your exercise adds to your overall glow. Plus, you’ll get the endorphins ﬂowing, making you FEEL better on top of looking better. 6. Lift weights. Some simple dumbbell lifts of 5, 10 and 15 pounds will help keep your muscles toned. Use your body weight to help tone other parts of your body. Abdominal crunches, push ups, burpees, jumping jacks... there’s so much you can do without equipment. 7. Stretch. You have to stay limber to maintain your ﬂexibility. If you can’t easily touch your toes or raise your leg and foot to table height, you should be spending a few minutes every day ﬂexing and stretching. Don’t expect a once-a-week yoga class to do it for you. We’re talking daily practice to get optimum results. Good muscle tone and ﬂexibility will not only help allow you to pursue more activities, it will go a long way toward preventing falls, lowering the injury or speeding the recovery should you take a tumble. 8. Find a professional hair stylist who can give you a classic, precision haircut. It takes a little searching, but the good ones don’t just cut hair, they style it to your facial features and the type of hair you have. Look for one that has sought out additional training from world class
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2. Use sunscreen and self-tanning lotion. A moisturizing body lotion with a built-in self-tanner can help hide spider lines, brown spots, and minimize the look of cellulite. No need to spend hours in the sun. In fact, be sure to use at least SPF 15 every day, even if it’s raining. Not only is UV radiation the cause of many skin cancers, it accelerates skin aging... and you don’t want to do that.
hairstyling schools. When you get a good cut, you won’t need a bunch of styling products to make your “do” look good. It will naturally fall into line and look good all the time. 9. Invest in a good quality pair of European shoes. Styles from Europe tend to be a year or more ahead of North America. Want to always be on trend? Find a store that imports their shoes from manufacturers in Italy, Portugal, Germany, etc. Though a little pricier, the proper ﬁt and longer wear will be so worth the extra money to invest upfront. 10. Watches – men’s style watches make a statement. Gold or stainless steel will match anything you wear. 11. A leather jacket. Look for colours other than black or brown, like reds, blues, greens. So versatile, you can dress it up or dress it down and always look like a badass – in a good way! Today’s faux leather jackets can be an animal-friendly alternative. While they may not have the same length of wear, they can still provide the look you want. 12. Necklace – choose one that hits just below the bust to make you look taller and thinner. It will help draw attention away from wrinkles in the neck area too. 13. When choosing earrings, studs or short earrings look best on a long or oval face. Pendants work on a round or square face. Hoops work for both, but stick to a medium size. 14. Pencil skirts – of all the styles, the pencil skirt looks good on every body type. It’s a classic that can be a staple of any wardrobe. 15. Scarves – From ﬁlmy silk styles to bulky wool pashminas for colder temperatures... these versatile, and generally affordable, fashion pieces SL can really put the ﬁnishing touch on an otherwise plain outﬁt.
Fashion & Beauty
GREY IS THE NEW BLONDE BY ELIZABETH MINCEY
covered by a Ford Model Agency scout, just after she opted to go gracious – cutting off the last of her coloured hair. The increasing visibility of grey-haired models in the fashion world is driven by the Boomer generation – yet another example of how this demographic is affecting current trends. Regardless, the decision to embrace grey hair – or not – is a personal choice. Every situation is unique. Consider the following factors: As hair turns grey, it is most complementary on persons with pink or cool skin undertones. In contrast, on warm skin tones, grey creates a sallow or dull appearance. For redheads and brunettes, rich colour tones become diffused as the percentage of grey increases. Grey can also appear in sporadic, unattractive patches rather than foxy streaks. Fine hair can look thinner as hair lightens, especially when the skin and hair are of similar hue. Textured, coarser hair
Nancy Murray models multi-dimensional colour using grey as blonde accent and a Red-Violet colour enhancement.
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Mitzi Ujimoto models greyblending with dark lowlite weaves.
can take on a brittle, dry appearance. For these less ideal scenarios, colouring the hair can enhance remaining pigments, condition the surface of the hair, create fullness and add shine. Professional salon treatments produce better results than damaging doit-yourself direct dyes, which contain saturated pigments that look unnatural. How to colour grey hair is best decided with the help of a trained and experienced professional, who is thoroughly conversant with colour theory. An expert colourist will determine the type of treatment to apply and choose the most complementary tonal values for your hair and skin colour. How often that colour will need to be maintained is based on the percentage of grey in the natural pigment and can vary considerably. Colour options can be as simple as grey-blending.
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ccording to catwalk fashionistas, grey power is in full swing on the runways. At the Chanel and Dior couture shows, models donned grey wigs. Even super model Kate Moss, sported grey streaks in her hair at the launch of her handbag collection. Sixty-year-old Cindy Joseph was dis-
Grey blending can be done over time for a strong yet subtle change. It is popular with men and women who want their colour to gently fade out over a three to six week period with a minimal root line. Complete coverage can be achieved with a more permanent colour and needs to be repeated every two to six weeks. Multi-dimensional colour incorporates the natural grey into a colour palette of two or more colours artfully woven through the natural hair. This technique minimizes grow-out and lasts for 10-12 weeks. Each treatment type varies in application technique, time required and products used. Depending on practitioner expertise, costs will range from $60 to $300. When it is time to forgo coloured locks and embrace grey hair, there are strategies that make the grow-out process less daunting. While it is impossible to colour hair to mimic a natural grey, letting coloured grey grow out results in a jarring root line. Seek professional advice for solutions, such as highlights or lowlights, in order to blend in the roots. Opting to cut the hair shorter can minimize the transitional time required to achieve the desired result. Some cautions: For darker hair, never use henna to blend in grey. It stains it orange – impossible to remove. Grey care is similar to blonde hair in that ultra violet rays cause damage and discolouration. Prevent yellow tones and fading with products designed for sun-care. For lengthy exposure to the sun, stylish hats are effective accessories. Invest in a shampoo and conditioner with plant-based ton-
ers, such as blue malva flower, which adds shine, lustre, and camouflages subtle yellowing that occurs over time. In cases of over-indulgence in unprotected sunning, your colourist can use salon-exclusive remedial products to rescue your look. Lastly, grey hair is like precious, delicate fibre requiring TLC. Therefore, when styling, Karin Holdegaard models use products designed to ward Violet-red based Brown off the damaging effects of heat colour enhancement. from flat irons, curling wands and blow dryers. All considered, your individual expression is key. Whatever your take on grey, it’s your play! SL Elizabeth Mincey is an awardwinning stylist and colourist with 30 years’ experience in the hair industry. As the owner of Luna Aveda Concept Salon, 1035 Fort St., she is as com- Anna Wozniak models multimitted to health and sustainability as dimensional colour using she is to promoting individual beauty. grey as blonde accent.
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OLD DAME; YOUNG HEART BY CAROL MATTHEWS
n the early sixties, when Hilly was studying at the Academy of Fine Arts in Rotterdam, she worked as a stylist for a well-known designer while she designed and sewed clothes for her friends to make a bit of pocket money. After she married and moved to Vancouver Island with husband, Rob Van de Wetering, Hilly turned her talents towards the creation and operation of Kinderspel, a store that featured children’s clothing and educational toys. A few years later, the couple moved to Vancouver where Hilly opened new branches of her store, first in South Vancouver and then in Marpole. After she sold the business several years later, she and Rob began earning their living buying and renovating apartments. “Fashion was a lot of fun,” Hilly says, “but I became much too busy with interior design to pay a lot of attention to clothes.” All her life, Hilly had been active and engaged, whether creating children’s clothes, operating her business, or designing, building and refurbishing the homes the couple lived in. But when her husband died suddenly of a heart attack in the summer of 2007, she found it difficult to build enthusiasm for creative work. “The first few years after Rob’s death were difficult ones,” she says. “I didn’t have the energy or desire to work at anything. At first, it was hard to imagine developing another creative outlet. It took time for me to overcome my grief and loneliness, and I wasn’t motivated to work on new projects.” But now, Hilly, 71, has returned to her love of fashion, and designs one-of-a kind outfits from gorgeous fabrics designed by her long-time friend Robin Field, a Vancouver Island artist who recently retired from the Art Department of Vancouver Island University. “Robin and I make a good team,” she says. “We like talking
Fashion designer Hilly Van de Wetering enjoys having her friends model her clothes.
about art and design, and when Robin and his partner Brendan travel in Europe, I often meet up with them to visit galleries and look at textiles that we just can’t find in Canada.” Building on each other’s talents and a long-term friendship, Hilly and Robin work together on finalizing a motif and pattern design to suit a particular fabric and garment. The result is always stylish, eye-catching and unique, not something that you would easily find in a local store. Robin’s fabric designs are created from computer-manipulated paintings and photos, which are then digitally printed on organic fabrics of silk, linen, cotton and knits. And, in addition to the clothing he creates with Hilly, Robin is continuing his explorations of design on fabrics, which are being used for upholstery and the creation of large format art panels. “I love working with Robin’s material because the textiles are all natural and of high quality, and the designs are beautiful and original.”
The feeling is mutual. Robin says, “I enjoy working with new creative outlets for design ideas, and I’m inspired
Hilly with long-time friend and creative partner Robin Field.
into the shadows.” “As we grow older we can become bolder and try out lively and colourful ways to express our individual personSL alities. That can be a lot of fun!” To see more photos of Hilly’s designs, visit www.seniorlivingmag.com/ articles/olddameyoungheart
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Find Your Fashionista this Summer BY STEFFANY GUNDLING
inding your own personal fashion style from season to season doesn’t mean spending a lot of money. The keys to success are being strategic and, of course, having fun! Here are some tips on how to revamp your wardrobe, and showcase your vibrant personality through your fashion choices: The Colour Let go of your colour-phobia! It’s easy to fall into the safe rut of having a colour monotone closet, filled with pastels, blacks, beiges or navy. Take the plunge this year and reclaim your rainbow! Orange is the No. 1 colour in fashion this season, with red and yellow following in second and third. If you are feeling reluctant about being too bold, ease into colour by adding it in small but dynamic accents. Bright jewelry or shoes are a safe way to excite your outfit without overwhelming yourself – and others – with a loud colour. The Prints/Graphics/Lace Have fun with graphics! Sharp geometric shapes and graphic designs are back in style this season. The great thing about embracing prints is that they can
be very forgiving with any physical imperfections you feel you may have. By paying attention to the print’s blocking (the way the colours fall on your body), you can accentuate your goods with simple optical illusions. Remember, if you are going to wear a busy print, keep the rest of your outfit simple. Ocean prints and nautical graphics are also a good pick for a casual look. Blues and turquoise colours complement paler skin. Asian-influenced prints are not a new trend, but are worth a look. Elegant and often unassuming, they give the illusion of class and the exotic (perfect for summer), even on a simple t-shirt. Lace and sheer materials are a great way to spice up your look, while still keeping it casual. Choose items with small lace or sheer detailing rather than risking overkill. Sometimes less is more. The Fit Finding clothing that works with your body and not against it can sometimes be a difficult task, especially for mature women. The issue with many reasonably priced retail stores catering
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to women over 50 is that they don’t actually cater to woman over 50. We find ourselves stuck with limp, baggy t-shirts and tank tops that just cover the body, but don’t celebrate it. Unless you have a large clothing budget or a personal seamstress, finding apparel perfectly suited to your body can
The Accessories Scarves and earrings and belts – oh my! One of the best ways to create your own unique fashion personality is with your accessories. It’s all you need to crank up the style on any outfit! Floral printed summer scarves add elegance to an otherwise one-note outfit. The Bohemian look is back, which means there is an immense variety of beautiful prints for scarves available at retail outlets, allowing you to find the perfect fit for your ensemble. Another of my favourite accessories this summer is the clench belt. A throwback to the ’80s, they are back with a vengeance and work for most body types. Try one with an oversized shirt or dress. It instantly gives you an hour-glass figure by redefining your waist. Be adventurous! You will be surprised how much a unique accessory will liven up an otherwise dull outfit. The key to fashion is always have fun. It is not just a young person’s game, but a chance for you to express your personality. Step away from your comfort zone, and give yourself a SL chance to shine this summer.
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Closet Clean-up BY STEFFANY GUNDLING
very spring that turns to summer has me sitting in front of my closet overwhelmed and frustrated. As I tuck away bundles of winter clothing, I am reintroduced to my favourite summer outfits, like old friends. But I also uncover those pieces that evoke feelings of “someday” and “10 less pounds.” Each morning, they taunt me. My body has changed as I’ve grown older, yet I hold on to “someday,” reluctant to let go. This year, I committed to a plan I call “The Closet Clean-up.” As I shed my winter layers, I also shed the anxieties that used to haunt my summer wardrobe. Here are some tips that may work for you too: Sorting is the most daunting part of the process, so be realistic. Like most people, you probably have “go-to” outfits – about 4 or 5 – in which you feel most confident, and suit your lifestyle. These should be the highlight of your closet, easy to reach and accessible. As you barrel through the rest of your items, be honest with yourself. For years, I hung onto excuses as to why I
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What you choose to wear is a direct reﬂection of how you want people to view you, and having to weed through “Nos” every morning is not a positive start to any day. couldn’t part with some items: this was too expensive; that had sentimental value, etc. Get real with your delusions: “this would be perfect if I ever go to the opera or mountain climbing or get invited to the Oscars or ‘insert random event here.’” If an item is not realistically tied to your current lifestyle, get rid of it. Even if weight loss is a personal goal of yours, don’t let it be a daily reminder of who you “should be.” Set up a healthy environment supporting who you are right now because facing your closet each morning can be subconsciously deflating to your self-esteem. Wear clothing that complements your figure – no matter the size. What you choose to wear is a direct reflection of how you want people to view you, and having to weed through “Nos” every morning is not a positive start to any day. Decide what “just-in-case” items should be neatly and safely packed away. For those expensive items that you wore once, con-
sider consignment or donation, so someone else can allow the garment to shine, rather than hide masked in the smell of mothballs and dust. Divide each piece of clothing into different categories, like “go-tos,” “maybes,” “business wear,” “event/fancy wear,” “gym gear,” “cosies,” “consignment/donations” and “miscellaneous.” Ask a trusted friend (not your partner) to help you decide what works for body and lifestyle. Letting go of something you’ve been hanging onto for years or decades can be scary and may bring up memories and emotions, but the reality is that you won’t miss it once it’s out of your life. When organizing the pieces you’ve decided to keep, focus on a hierarchy that works for you. While it may make sense to group the pants, shirts, jackets, skirts and dresses, it is not the most efficient method. Pull out your foundation pieces – the “go-to,” essential items – and make sure they are the stars of your closet. If you’re still part of the workforce, you don’t need to be gazing longingly at sundresses that you only wear on weekends. If exercising is part of your morning routine, make sure your workout togs are close at hand to avoid any second thoughts. Build a simple system based on your needs and lifestyle, and work from there. Getting dressed each morning this summer season should be a positive experience, unburdened by the heavy weight of clothes from your past. And when the seasons change again, SL revisit your closet and repeat. Good luck! -30-
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EMBRACING LIFE BY VERNICE SHOSTAL
Author Gail Boulanger enjoys daily walks with her poodles.
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hether counselling, writing, walking, sailing, sketching or baking cookies, Gail Boulanger approaches all that she does with enthusiasm. She believes in vibrant living and making the most of every opportunity. “Stepping off into the unknown and taking that proverbial leap of faith has, for me, always produced a bonanza,” says Gail. “The next bend in the road beckons, and what better way to remain mentally alert, physically agile and emotionally engaged than embarking on a daring adventure. New learning experiences abound; they break us out of our comfortable cocoons. Adventures challenge us to grow and expand our horizons.” Author of two books, Life Goes On: Losing, Letting Go and Living Again, published in 2002 and republished in 2012; and Adventures Over Sixty (2012), Gail’s 30 years of counselling experience offers a recipe for making the most of everyday life. “Adventures Over Sixty is designed to inspire, inform and invigorate.” All true stories, says Gail, woven together with her own particular philosophy. “It is intensely personal. I was living the experiences while writing about them, hand in hand with exploring my own aging journey.” The book offers reflections on and encouragement for living and aging wholeheartedly with full attention on greeting each new challenge as an adventure. Gail’s stories are drawn from her own personal experience and those of family friends and neighbours. Her stories encourage the reader to develop inner resources while engaging in physical pursuits, community building and creative expression.
Life Goes On is a practical book about how to gently and effectively navigate one’s way through all types of grief and loss. “Throughout our lives, we become attached to people, places, pets, events and things,” says Gail. “We also become attached to our health and well-being. When that attachment is broken, we grieve. Grieving is a natural, normal, healthy process of integration that occurs over time. It can help us move from feeling stuck to feeling free.” Grieving is a skill that allows us to identify our losses, acknowledge our pain, bring closure and move on, she WWW.SENIORLIVINGMAG.COM
says. Grief and loss are simply a part of life to which we are constantly required to adjust in order to thrive. “I wanted to let people know that a conscious grieving process is an elegant way of identifying our losses, experiencing our pain, concretely bringing closure to the past and helping us move on and into a bright future. People who learn to grieve well, learn to live well.” “Lending a helping hand has always anchored my life,” says Gail, who, while raising two boys and teaching life skills to young parents, completed a BA in Psychology from the University of Waterloo, Ontario and went on to com-
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plete a Master’s Degree in Counselling Psychology from the University of Victoria. Gail believes that counselling found her. “From the vantage point of my mid-sixties, I now believe I was born to be a counsellor, but it took me years of stumbling from one unfulfilling job to another before I found my ultimate career.” Five years after Life Goes On was published, Gail realizes, the book represented the culmination of a conscious process she began in the early 80s to learn everything she could about grief and loss, death and dying. “It was like a solitary wilderness climbing expedition with all the attendant heart-stopping adventures.” Gail’s life is active and full of adventure. In addition to writing two to five hours a day, she strives to walk between 10,000 and 15,000 steps a day, usually accompanied by her two poodles. She reads paper books because she loves the smell and feel of a book in her hand. She bakes cookies because it helps her think. A neophyte bird watcher, she also sketches birds, rocks, plants, flowers, shells and any other item found in nature. Sketching helps her to better see and appreciate her surroundings and to cultivate a sense of wonder of our nature world. With her husband Lou, whom she met on a blind date in 1968, Gail enjoys sailboat racing and cruising. Although they no longer race, “cruising has never lost its allure and is still a central part of our lives,” says Gail. “Sailing anchors our life and has taught me important life lessons.” Looking at life, Gail says, “Embrace the journey because the fastest and richest route from here to there is rarely a straight line and more likely to require considerable tacking back and forth across the wind. Storms always pass. Fog lifts. When you are becalmed or drifting in circles, wait for the wind. The wind always comes, frequently from an entirely unexpected direction. Pay attention, be flexible, be patient and adjust sail as required.” From her experience as a counsellor, working with all ages and in a variety of settings, Gail recommends letting go of unhealthy guilt, anger, resentment and regret, wholeheartedly embracing life and making the most of every day. SL
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Something Old is New Again BY LEE MASSEY
o you remember “when rock was young ...me and Susie had so much fun....”? This song dates back to the ’70s when Elton John’s Crocodile Rock rocked the world; and today the tune continues to be strummed and sung by plucky ukulele players. Heather Stubbs holds an informal ukulele class, followed by tea and cookies, every Wednesday morning. The group started out with the most basic of music lessons because none of the members had ever had any musical training. Now, they play and sing ballads from the ’40s, folk songs, rock ‘n’ roll and everything in between. Heather was a secondary school music teacher: she has a Bachelor of Education, specializing in classical music from the University of Victoria, and she has studied piano at the Banff School of Fine Arts. After years of being a full-time mom, Heather found the ukulele and this small, beginner-friendly instrument lead her right back to teaching music. Heather asked some friends if they would like to learn to the play the ukulele – she promised it would be easy. That was almost two years ago. A group of eight women showed up to receive a brand new ukulele and a few pages of music to get them started. There was instant rapport with the songs and their ukuleles. “I am having so much fun at these lessons,” says Lynda, one of the group members. “When I was young, I was never encouraged to do anything musical. And now that I have the time, I want to learn, and keep my brain active.” Lynda sums up what a lot of seniors and the newly-retired are contemplating: they have the time, and they want to try something new and interesting. Heather’s style includes praising her students to motivate them, and she keeps 22 20
Heather Stubbs plays her ukulele on Kitsilano Beach in Vancouver.
the group challenged by introducing new chords, strumming rhythms and songs each lesson. For the new musician, this is brain training: the brain is creating new pathways and the nervous system is sharpening up its message sending capabilities. Learning something new is an exercise of the brain’s plasticity, as defined by Gary Marcus in Guitar Zero as “the capacity of the nervous system to learn new things.” Marcus also credits seniors as having a willingness to learn or, to use his word, Sitzfleisch, from the Yiddish meaning ‘the patience to sit on one’s behind long enough to get something done.’ He says new knowledge can bring about a “surge of dopamine.” Heady stuff. And boy does that feel good. This group have fallen in love WWW.SENIORLIVINGMAG.COM
with the ukulele. They are not the only ones. An online search turns up hundreds of sites relating to the ukulele, lessons, videos of amateurs and rock stars playing the ukulele, along with chords, music and dates and places of jam sessions. People who have an old ukulele are dusting it off and heading out to meet other ukulele players. Beginners are benefiting from the experiences and knowledge of the seasoned players, and are always given a warm welcome at the jam sessions. Heather knew she was onto something special with this small, four-string instrument. “It’s a wonderful skill to be able to play music with others. It’s fun, and it’s social. It’s like being on a team, but you never lose. If you are playing sports, someone
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Heather Stubbs with two of her students.
has to lose, but in music, everyone is a winner.” Heather’s music education and finger dexterity gave her a head start when she learned the ukulele, but she soon recognized that ukulele has so much to give to everyone at any age. The ukulele is something old that’s new again. Learning to play music appeals to the mature student, especially boomers who now have the time to try something new. The ukulele is easy and entertaining, and it keeps those gray cells active. Whether or not you can recall the music of past eras, you can catch up and learn to play a ukulele while having, as Elton SL says, “...so much fun.”
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The Septic Tank
Buried But Not Forgotten
or the past 10 years here, along the north shore of Lake Erie, the township of Wainfleet has been obsessed with sewage. The original septic systems of concrete tanks and weeping tiles were crumbling; the waste water was leeching into wells and cisterns, as well as the lake itself. One of the real tip-offs that we may have a water pollution problem was when we noticed Lake Erie fish were starting to cough. The big pipe solution hooking our sewer and water systems up to Port Colborne was, at approximately $80,000 per household a “dead in the water” proposal that a few stubborn politicians pushed for five long years. Try convincing the owners of a $100,000 house that the
new water and sewer system was going to cost them, with the usual budget overruns … $100,000. On his best day, “Vince, the Slap Chop Guy” couldn’t sell that idea to a millionaire with a drinking problem and obsession for late-night infomercials. Apparently, my idea of rotating pay toilets on wheels was thought to be unsophisticated by most people. The money was going to pay for the newspapers. So, it’s safe to say that for at least the last decade, the sprawling rural community of Wainfleet has been trying to get its s__t together. The people pushed back, shoved the mayor out of office, and common sense prevailed. Each household must now have a sound and, in many cases, a modern sewer system in a
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everal lifestyle practices can harm and reduce collagen and elastin in the skin, which provide support and structure, preventing it from wrinkling and sagging. Cut back or avoid smoking, excess sun exposure, alcohol and caffeine, constant mental stress and intense physical exertion. These can all “stress” the body’s efficiency and will affect the health of your skin. Infections, pollution, medications and drugs also deplete collagen. High intensity exercise isn’t a good idea when you’re over the age of 40. It’s important to continue exercising, but now is the time to retire from “physical abuse” and start enjoying more moderate activities. Aging bodies are less able to recuperate and rebuild exercise-damaged tissue. Damaged skin tissue appears wrinkled and loose-looking, due mostly to the loss of collagen and elastin. Cut back on sugar. Research show it is responsible for almost half of skin aging. Sugars are extracted from whole foods,
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making sugar a processed, refined food (i.e. table sugar is made from beets, corn or sugar cane; all whole foods). Sugar inhibits the formation and performance of collagen, resulting in sagging, wrinkled skin and age spots. Eating lots of refined and processed carbohydrates (carbs) can also harm skin health, for the same reasons as sugar. Highly processed, refined carbs are basically “sugar” – so omit the processed, refined carbs and stick to the highly nutritious carbs in their natural form as Mother Nature created them (have an apple instead of a snack bar, for example). Skin health relies on omega-3 fatty acids (fish are a rich source) and antioxidants (especially vitamin C), as well as fat-soluble vitamins A, D, E and K. Severely restricting calories won’t guarantee you’re getting these nutrients. When dieting, simply cut back on refined carbs, and deep-fried foods and foods rich in transfats. Be aware of the type of fat you’re eating. Nuts, seeds, fish, avocadoes and
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olives provide excellent sources of fat and other nutrients for your skin. Caffeine and alcohol dehydrate skin. Cut back. And avoid high-protein diets – they also dehydrate. Maintain a healthy balance of protein to carbs in your diet. Carbs help lock water in your muscles, so you need just the right amount of carbs to maintain adequate hydration. The drawback of popular low-carb diets is that the body becomes dehydrated, contributing to wrinkled, loose skin. Drink water to remain adequately hydrated, which reflects in a more toned, firmer appearance of skin. Eight cups daily has recently been challenged, but this was never a gold standard. It was merely a guide. We all differ in our hydration needs. Start with eight cups and tailor it to your own requirements. Under normal conditions, we are sufficiently hydrated when our urine colour is pale yellow (however some foods, vitamins and medications may naturally darken it). Adequate sleep is also necessary for skin health. Human growth hormone (HGH) is released by the pituitary gland. This hormone has several functions to keep us looking and feeling young; our skin too. After about age 20, HGH production begins to decrease. However, at any age, HGH production is highest during sleep and exercise. SL
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Pedalling in Paradise
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The author stops to pick roadside wild raspberries.
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he undulating paved path carves through wild grasses rife with yellow wildflowers, wild daisies, fruiting raspberry bushes and shrubs, and edges close to a small lake playing hide-and-seek with the sun. It’s Day 1 on our sixday cycling itinerary and my partner, David, deeply contented, gives me the thumbs up. Cycling the bike path they call “Le P’tit Train Du Nord,” in commemoration of the train that used to click along its tracks, is already turning out to be spectacular. It made its last run on November 15, 1981, and 15 years later the 200-km trail was opened, stretching northwest from Saint-Jérôme to Mont-Laurier, and reputed to be the longest linear park in Canada. Avid cycle tourists, we have rolled along every cycle route known to us in British Columbia, including the famed Kettle Valley Railway routes, so we were keen to find new trails to explore. When we came across Quebec’s Le P’tit Train du Nord in our search, we knew we had found cycledirt. Located in the Laurentians, the route is one sweet ride. At its steepest, it only climbs 221 metres, and two thirds of it is paved. Even the unpaved southern section is smooth-packed dirt and crushed stone, easily cycled by thin tires. We’re kitted out with gleaming hybrid Opus bikes, rented from Autobus Le Petit Train du Nord at Saint-Jérôme’s picturesque old station, and are now leisurely peddling our way back from the northern terminus of Mont-Laurier at KM200, having been transported there with our bikes by the same company. It gets better; they are shuttling our luggage from place to place. The successful family business, which started in 1997, also works in tandem with B&B Le Voyageur Inn to book nightly ac-
commodations, breakfasts and dinners based on guests’ choices of itineraries. Cyclists get to choose between a 2, 3, 4 or 6-day trip. Asking ourselves why we would want to travel across the country to rush our way through a pedaller’s paradise, we emphatically choose the 6-day itinerary poetically called Le Baladeur (Rough translation: someone who strolls). So, here we are on a sunny late August day with no responsibilities or concerns other than getting ourselves from inn to inn. After 37 kilometres of lakes, woodlands and plentiful rest stops, we find ourselves at our first accommodation, a cozy motel tucked into a tiny island on Lac-Saguay. The lake offers a perfect complement to the day’s cycling – an opportunity to exercise the upper body, get the kinks out, and cool off.
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Day 2 to Lac-Nominingue is, happily, a mere 24 km. “Happily” because there is much to see and experience en route: a wealth of interesting signs on such subjects as maple syrup harvesting and the area’s history, as well as an outdoor exhibition on river portage. And then, there’s the second of the route’s 13 renovated stations, Nominingue, at KM145. Erected in 1904, the renovated building is divided into a tourist information area and a craft boutique, with a sliver of a museum embedded in the middle. A friendly bilingual guide tells us it was the original telegraph office and shows us relics of bygone days. We arrive at Auberge Chez Ignace, our second night’s sanctuary, and a connoisseur’s cornucopia of culinary delights and libations. Ignace turns out to be a chef and hotelier from the Ardennes region in Belgium, with an impeccable pedigree in the hospitality industry. We pass a sublime afternoon and evening there, swimming in Lake Nominingue, making use of the resort’s canoes to explore the lake’s fringes, and then relaxing over the table d’hôte with fellow cyclists, Marian and Kevin, an active Ontario couple in their late 50s. Cyclists Darcy and Brenda – in their 50s – staying young by staying active.
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got to thinking the other day (I do that every now and then; it scares my wife) about how many occupations I have had from when I was very young, right up until now when I’m a little bit older than very young. I delivered Liberty magazine back in 1947, and I sold newspapers on a corner not long after that. I delivered groceries for two corner stores after school and on Saturdays, and was even a clerk in a men’s wear store. I was an elevator operator, an usher, a shoe salesman and an aluminum siding salesman. I sold aluminum doors and windows for Sears, and I was an assistant x-ray technician. I worked at two pulp mills and on a coffee plantation in New Guinea. I sold encyclopedias and pot and pans and vacuum cleaners door to door. I ran a ski hire in Australia, and owned two secondhand stores, for a time, and a coffee house and an illegal bottle club. I have been and am an ordained Baptist minister. I’ve written two published books and three unpublished. I’ve been a disc jockey and recorded five albums. I’ve been a councillor, a gambler, a singer and a poet. And I’ve also been a vagabond and a ne’er-do-well. I always said I was going to settle down… kind of. I just took a long time to do it. Just before I sort of retired, I was asked by someone who knows me well what I wanted to do when I grow up. I couldn’t answer him then, and I doubt I could answer him now. Some have said to me: “Wow, you sure have lived an adventuresome life. How come you never really did settle down or grow up?” Well, if truth be told, I’m not an ad34 32
venturous person or a daring person. In fact, I’m a downBY GIPP FORSTER right coward. I’ve always had a poor sense of direction. Once, I went out to get a quart of milk mas show across Canada for over 20 and a loaf of bread and, instead of end- years. But what does all that prove? ing up back home, I ended up in the Only that I don’t know what I want to highlands of New Guinea. And be- be when I grow up. Whatever it turns cause of that lousy sense of direction, out to be, it will have to begin with reit took quite a few years to find my sponsibility, otherwise, I can never plan way back… and I’m still looking for for tomorrow. God has been good to me. No, more my proper place in this swirling place we call the world. When I find it, I will than good! He has been merciful, understanding and generous. I have lived consider myself “grown up.” Still some, I know, will disagree. through some of the nonsense I have But it will probably be someone who created and, yet, He saw fit to protect has had only one job since leaving high me and guide me out of one foolishness school or college or university. In my as I ventured into another. It’s a good estimation, that person is a hero and one thing that he watches over fools and orto be admired. He or she knew respon- phans, as someone suggested to me resibility from the get-go, set their course cently. I know I’m not an orphan. So, for those of you who grabbed and didn’t stray from it. I, mentally lazy and without specific hold of the reins from the beginning, goals, chased shadows wherever I found and held on and wouldn’t give up, I them, and now have few monetary trea- salute you because you faced responsures, but lots of memories. It sounds sibility and didn’t run from it. And for good to some of the young who seek the young who face the future now, I adventure – even, at times, looks good. wish you Godspeed in your journey. But to those who think that, may I sug- May He reinforce your courage and gest you consider all the aspects of such determination in tackling responsibility and wrestling it to the ground. You a life and where it may lead you? What got me started was my fear of are the adults of tomorrow who allow responsibility, and being irresponsible; we dreamers to go on. What do I want to be when I grow I could never stay in one spot too long. I guess I wasn’t “searching for,” as the up? I really don’t know. But one day I poets like to say, but “running from” hope to. SL what took conviction, courage and determination. Sadly, Gipp passed away on April 15, I have had many jobs; done many 2013. He left us with some unpublished writthings. I’ve been a writer, a maitre d’, ings, so we are honoring his love of Senior worked in a printing shop, even been a Living and its readers by continuing to pubcolumnist. I’ve had a miniature Christ- lish his work for as long as we can. WWW.SENIORLIVINGMAG.COM
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