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THE BALTIMORE JEWISH HOME
FEBRUARY 22, 2018
What Would You Do If… Moderated by Jennifer Mann, LCSW of The Navidaters
B A LT I M O R E J E W I S H H O M E . C O M
When I got divorced two years ago, my parents were not happy about it for many reasons, but I often thought that maybe the main reason was because they were so crazy about my in-laws. They are a prominent family in the community, well-respected, and admired. My parents always looked up to them and thought that our shidduch was the best thing that ever happened to our family.
What they did not know was that my then-husband had some serious issues that were kept secret from us. But that is for another column. My question to you is the following: My mother has tried to keep some kind of relationship going with my former mother-in-law. I was never happy about it and I’m still not happy about it. Though my former mother-in-law happens to be a kind woman, I have a hard time looking at her because she pushed this shidduch, I believe, knowing exactly what she was doing. My sister is getting married in three months and my mother let it slip that she plans on not only inviting my former in-laws to the wedding, but even some other relatives from that family. I think my mother feels it would be a feather in her cap if they showed up at our simcha. I’m furious about this, and my mother thinks I’m being silly to object. Obviously, I can’t not go to the wedding, but I now am dreading the whole thing and it’s putting a real damper on what should be a happy time for me. Am I wrong to feel my parents are loyal to the wrong cause here and is there anything I can say or do to help them understand that this is a huge betrayal to me?
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