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GLCCB News, Voting for Question 6
Local Couples on Marriage in MD
By Anthony Moll and Daniel McEvily
10 Two Fundraisers for Moveable Feast
By Ted Blankenship
11 World AIDS Day
BMore Guardian Angels
By Paige Hunter
12 Barbara Cook at the BSO
By Frankie Kujawa
15 Dining at Alchemy
By John Cullen with Marty Shayt
20 National & International News
By Rachel Roth
Find all the details about TransParent Day on Nov. 4 and Transgender Day of Remembrance on Nov. 20, plus discover how to become involved in the Transgender Leadership Academy, Gender Empowerment Maryland, and Sistas of the T. Plus, we provide a handy list of trans resources in the Baltimore area.
Queer Art Sensation Opens at Ottobar Vocalist Cody Critcheloe discusses his band, SSION, a glam-freak pop project he launched back when he was a teen in Kentucky, plus his upcoming performance with House of LaDosha, opening for Class Actress at Ottobar on Nov. 9.
22 Marriage Equality: End of the Tunnel?
By Steve Charing
25 Queer Health: Trans Care
By Alicia Gabriel
25 Insure Your Love
By Yoshiko Hayakawa
26 BSCENE: Baltimore Black Pride 2012 Events
By John Kardys and Richelle Taylor
27 BSCENE: Tea at Tyrconnell
By Jay W.
By Rachel Roth
30 BMA's New Wing By Kristi Metzger
Autumn Engagements I want to write something like: “In just a few days, same-sex couples will finally be assured of marriage equality, and we’ll be able to turn our attention to other inequalities that face our communities.” However, as Gay Life goes to press, the future of the Civil Marriage Protection Act is not yet assured. Even though I’m just an ally, I’m taking this fight personally: My best friend (my maid of honor, my circa 1987-DebbieGibson-dance-buddy) is in love and engaged. And despite all we’ve done for each other over the last 25 years, I can’t yet help her get married in her home state. I can, however, show up to the polls and vote for Question 6. I hope Gay Life readers will do the same. Because legal marriage is not just a technicality. And it’s simply not fair that couples in love have to wait for the rest of society to be ready. I hope that the days that follow Nov. 6 will be marked by celebrations for our communities across the state. However, no matter what happens on election day, we must recover quickly in order to support other important
events in November: Nov. 20 marks Transgender Day of Remembrance. This is a day for recognizing and honoring transgender victims of violence. That violence against this community is so prevalent, it needs its own day, is heartbreaking, much like the stories told on this day year after year, let alone the stories being told for the first time. Read about several local events on and leading up to this day (p. 16). A transgender day of celebration also takes place this month: TransParent Day is Nov. 4. Mother’s Day and Father’s Day are fine for some, but TransParent Day lets people recognize and celebrate their transgender parents. Families can truly create new traditions that are right for them. Learn about the (local!) history and this year’s event (p. 16).
MAGGIE BEETZ Editor
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November Events at the GLCCB More exciting events are taking place at your community center this fall. Check out some of November’s events: SATURDAYS • 3-5:30PM
"Express Yourself!" is an adult-facilitated arts workshop for LGBT youth to come together and develop their artistic and expressive skills. Youth will become more knowledgeable about queer artists and identity politics, and apply methods from art history into their own artmaking. Workshops take place right after the Sufficient As I Am (SAIM) youth group meetings and are open to all LGBT youth ages, 13-24. Contact email@example.com. FRIDAY, NOVEMBER 2 • 7-10PM
First Fridays Films at the Center! Stop by for a FREE screening of Clue, a 1985 dinner party murder mystery starring Tim Curry and Madeline Kahn. Popcorn,
EARLY VOTING Early voting centers will be open Oct. 27 (10am-8pm) and Oct. 29Nov. 1 (12-6pm). Baltimore City early voting centers include the following: Public Safety Training Facility (Old Pimlico Middle School) 3500 W. Northern Pkwy. St. Brigids Parish Center 900 S. East Ave. Maritime Industries Academy School #431 5001 Sinclair Ln. (rear entrance) League for People with Disabilities 1111 E. Coldspring Ln. Edmondson Westside Sr. High School #400 501 Athol Ave. Visit Elections.state.md.us for directions and for info on early voting outside of Baltimore City.
Join the GLCCB Welcome Center Volunteer Staff snacks, soft-drinks, and beer (must show ID) will be available for sale. Come dressed as your favorite character and enjoy free refreshments! Movie begins at 7:30pm. SUNDAY, NOVEMBER 4 • 2-6PM
TransParent Day Potluck Gathering: Celebrate the 4th annual TransParent Day, created by the GLCCB’s own Sharon Brackett. Bring a dish to share, or just bring yourselves. (See p. 16 for details.) Email sharon@GenderRightsMaryland. org, or visit on.fb.me/PP7hAK or TransParentDay.org. SATURDAY, NOVEMBER 17 • 6-8PM
Wine Tasting at the Center! Enjoy a variety of seasonal wines. Check our online calendars for details. MONDAY, NOVEMBER 19 • 7PM
Book Club: To Kill a Mockingbird by Harper Lee. The GLCCB Monthly Book Club meets the third Monday of each month. English professor and bon vivant John Woods facilitates the discussion. Learn more at on.fb.me/T9q2JO
TUESDAY, NOVEMBER 27 • 7PM
HIV 101: Talk by Poz Men's group facilitator on what it is like to be an HIV positive member of the community.
Up next month… Hunks in Trunks! WEDNESDAY, DECEMBER 12 Hunks in Trunks: The GLCCB is the beneficiary of the next Hunks in Trunks All Male Swimsuit Fashion Show and Charity Auction! Watch hot young men strut their stuff for a great cause. This holiday season skip the mall and bring your friends to this unforgettable show! Red Maple, 930 N. Charles St. HunksInTrunks.org
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Vote to Support Marriage Equality on Nov. 6 Voting matters! Yes, even in Maryland. Despite Maryland’s primarily blue hue, there are multiple ballot initiatives that are too close to call. Marylanders will be asked to vote on Question 6, which would uphold the Civil Marriage Protection Act. The Act will grant same-sex couples the right to be married in the state, effective Jan. 1, 2013. The text of Question 6 will read:
Referendum Petition Civil Marriage Protection Act (Ch. 2 of the 2012 Legislative Sess.)
Establishes that Maryland’s civil marriage laws allow gay and lesbian couples to obtain a civil marriage license, provided they are not otherwise prohibited from marrying; protects clergy from having to perform any particular marriage ceremony
in violation of their religious beliefs; affirms that each religious faith has exclusive control over its own theological doctrine regarding who may marry within that faith; and provides that religious organizations and certain related entities are not required to provide goods, services, or benefits to an individual related to the celebration or promotion of marriage in violation of their religious beliefs. The vote choices read as follows:
FOR the Referred Law AGAINST the Referred Law
Find Your Polling Place
Not sure where to vote? Contact the Board of Elections (Call 1.800.222.8683 or visit Elections.state.md.us online) and provide your address.
What to Bring
It may be helpful to bring your Voter Notification Card and Specimen Ballot. Some first time voters in Maryland may be asked to show ID. If your employer asks for proof that you voted, ask an election judge for a Certificate of Participation.
Tuesday, Nov. 6, 2012 Polls open 7am-8pm
Question 6: How the Marriage Referendum Impacts Marylanders Marriage equality has yet to become a reality to these and thousands of other same-sex couples in Maryland. Three local couples speak about how the Civil Marriage Protection Act and the November 6 referendum affect their relationships and their lives.
Elizabeth & Rebecca BY DANIEL MCEVILY The act of marriage is perhaps the most profound symbol of love and commitment that two people can share. It can also be said that planning a wedding is a herculean exercise in both logistics and patience. Couples preparing for their big day have ceremony spaces and reception venues to reserve; marriage officials to book; guest lists to create, mull over, pare down, and mull over again; and a veritable cornucopia of endless decisions, deadlines, fittings, tastings, showers, parties, registries, themes, and designs to analyze and agonize over. Now, imagine in the middle of all of this planning, a couple had to press pause, and wait to learn the geographical location of their wedding from outsiders. That’s precisely the scenario that Elizabeth and Rebecca are presently facing, as they wait with baited breath for Nov. 6, when Maryland voters will decide whether to uphold the Civil Marriage Protection Act, which would allow same-sex couples the right to be married in the state. “This is the first time in my life that I’ve felt so personally affected by an election,” said Elizabeth, who proposed to Rebecca earlier this summer on their five year anniversary. “This is going to make a huge decision for us, without us really having any part in it.” Their engagement has been met with positivity and enthusiasm by their PAGE 8
family, friends, and co-workers, who are all excited to press the couple for details on their upcoming nuptials. But excitement is soon quelled when they explain that their plans are on hold until after the election. “It’s something that they’ve never really thought about or had to deal with. They didn’t realize what a luxury it is for them to really get married anywhere,” said Rebecca. She said this may also be a blessing in disguise, as it helps raise awareness of the high stakes that the upcoming election will play on their wedding plans. As for the politics of the upcoming election, Elizabeth and Rebecca believe that most people have firmly formed their opinion on same-sex marriage one way or another, and it will be very hard to change anyone’s mind at this point. The biggest challenge marriage equality supporters face in the last legs of this election season, they say, is voter apathy. “The hardest thing right now is keeping up the momentum that people do really feel strongly about it and go out and vote,” said Elizabeth. Elizabeth is a native Marylander and Rebecca has lived in the state for over twelve years. While they have considered getting married in Washington, D.C., which legalized same-sex marriage in 2010, they would prefer to get married in the state where they met and where the majority of their friends and family live. “This is home for us, and we want to get married at home,” said Elizabeth. One way or another, Elizabeth and Rebecca are ready for the real planning to begin Nov. 7.
Phillip & Fred BY ANTHONY MOLL Phillip and Fred are a traditional couple. They are proud to talk about the importance of family and faith in their lives. They are active in their church and in their community. When they do get a bit of downtime, they like nothing more than to spend it on the couch with their dog Esso. Their church supports them. Their families support them. Yet they will have to wait a few more weeks to hear whether they are fully supported by the state of Maryland. The two have been together for 14 years, after a serendipitous street connection in the Mt. Vernon neighborhood of Baltimore reunited the two old friends. Today, they look every bit as in love; they squeeze each other’s hands and share inside smiles when they look at one another. “We’re a pretty boring couple,” said Phillip Lovett, a licensed graduate social worker and energetic community volunteer. His husband, Fred Mason III, agreed with this characterization. In addition to their day jobs—Lovett with AIDS Action Baltimore and Mason as an architect— they are regular volunteers at their church, St. James’ Episcopal Church at Lafayette Square. Lovett teaches Sunday school there, and both men volunteer in the food pantry and help with taking communion to the sick and shut in. Both men also volunteer at the St. Francis Neighborhood Center near their home in Reservoir Hill. The list of community involvement goes on; the couple may be traditional, but they are anything but boring. The two travelled to Toronto in 2006 to get their marriage license. Phillip had
proposed at a New England lighthouse during a Christmas vacation. Yet the elopement wasn’t for the customary reasons; their parents supported the union, and were present when they returned to Maryland for the ceremony. At their historically African-American church, the congregation celebrates with them each year when the couple comes before the flock to observe their anniversary. Even the Episcopal Bishop of Maryland, the Right Rev. Eugene Sutton, expressed his support for marriage equality in a recent pastoral letter. On marriage equality here in Maryland, the couple approaches the issue in a way fitting such socially-minded men: they think first of their community. Lovett and Mason themselves have been married for several years, and for them, the Civil Marriage Protection Act is a clarification of their marriage’s status here in Maryland. Yet the couple is more concerned with their friends and neighbors throughout Maryland. “This is important to a whole lot of people,” Mason said. “We have a lot of friends and acquaintances who have been together for years who simply cannot get married in Maryland.” “There are couples older than us, who have been together longer than us, who need this,” Lovett added. “This is about real people, and real lives.” Both men are cautiously optimistic that Maryland voters will affirm marriage equality this November, but they insist that supporters cannot become complacent. They hope Marylanders will get out and vote for question six on Election Day. Said Lovett, “If we win, we will have made our state, and the United States, more fair than they were the day before.” GAY LIFE MAGAZINE
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World AIDS Day Events to Benefit Moveable Feast BY TED BLANKENSHIP
Every year, on Dec. 1, millions of people recognize World AIDS Day and honor and remember those who have died from the disease and those who are living with it every day. This year, there are two events recognizing World AIDS Day that will benefit Moveable Feast. Every day, Moveable Feast delivers free, nutritious meals across the state to people who are homebound and living with AIDS. Moveable Feast started 23 years ago, in response to the AIDS crisis, and has grown over the years to be a respected nonprofit community organization that provides a life-saving service to people who are fighting AIDS and other critical illnesses. Whether you’d like to enjoy a concert of music, or go to a salon for a haircut and color, you can support Moveable Feast and honor World AIDS Day by getting involved.
THE NEW WAVE SINGERS PRESENTS “A CONCERT: WORLD AIDS DAY”
On Dec. 1 and 2, the New Wave Singers will present a concert, and 50 percent of the ticket sales will be donated to Moveable Feast. “A concert of music will help us remember, be inspired, remain hopeful, and be challenged to believe that there can be miracles when WE believe!” explained New Wave Artistic Director Adam Koch. “We will come together with our brothers and sisters to sing music that matters and to benefit our neighbors who help those with AIDS and cancer. The New Wave Singers will feed your soul as we aim to help Movable Feast nourish our community.” Gay Life spoke with New Wave Singers President Greg Zechman, who shared why they got involved with Moveable Feast: “This year, New Wave began searching for a way to share more than positive messages of music with those in need. Many chorus members were already familiar PAGE 10
with and supportive of Moveable Feast, whose vision is to ‘Feed people, Fight disease, and Foster hope.’ We felt that this closely aligned with New Wave’s vision to create an atmosphere of acceptance and support. Both organizations strive to foster hope for those they serve. New Wave’s Board realized that a partnership would allow them to fulfill their mission and vision in a broader and more substantial, tangible way.”
NEW WAVE SINGERS OF BALTIMORE “A CONCERT: WORLD AIDS DAY”
Saturday, Dec. 1 • 8pm First Unitarian Church of Balt. 12 W. Franklin St. Sunday, Dec. 2 • 4pm Govans Presbyterian Church 5828 York Rd. $20 (50% donated to MFeast) TNewWaveSingers.org
New Wave Singers of Baltimore
BALANCE – THE SALON HOSTS “BEAUTY & THE FEAST” FUNDRAISER
On Dec. 3, Balance – The Salon will host a cut-a-thon fundraiser where 100 percent of the proceeds from that day will be donated to Moveable Feast. Additionally, for the entire month of December, Balance will donate $10 for every client who mentions Moveable Feast when booking a service. This is the second year that Balance has hosted this fundraiser for Moveable Feast. Beauty & the Feast is a creation of Balance stylist Woody Pitman, who has a personal reason for getting involved and giving back. “About two years ago, I was diagnosed with HIV/AIDS. I was too sick to work and unable to support myself. Fortunately, I had friends and family who were able to help me get well and provide food. Many people aren’t as fortunate. Having been so sick and realizing that I couldn’t have done it alone, made me see that it really does take a village. It also instilled in me a passion for living and for giving. Sure, I can make a person feel good, make them
Balance – The Salon Stylist Woody Pitman
look good with a great haircut and color (I call it ‘hairapy’), but that just isn’t enough. Shortly after joining Balance, the concept of Beauty & the Feast was born. Why not do what I do, for a cause? Last year, Balance raised over $2,200 for Moveable Feast. This year, I hope to donate even more.” Matt Kone, owner of Balance, agreed: “We are happy to support Moveable Feast because they bring real, life-sustaining support to these populations with compassion and dignity for pennies. We are lucky enough to work doing something we enjoy daily, and our community has shown us great support over the years. Beauty & the Feast is an opportunity for our gratitude to become an action.”
BEAUTY & THE FEAST
Monday, Dec. 3: Cut-a-Thon All of December: $10 Donations Balance – The Salon 406 W. Cold Spring Ln. W410.366.6169 T Balance-TheSalon.com
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Getting to Zero:
WORLD AIDS DAY 2012 Since World AIDS Day (WAD) was established by the World Health Organization (WHO) in 1988, December 1 has been a day to remember those who have been lost to AIDS, celebrate the lives of survivors, and raise awareness about HIV in order to prevent new infections. Between 1981 and 2007, more than 25 million people worldwide succumbed to AIDS. Today, it is estimated that more than 30 million people across the globe are infected with HIV. In 2011, the WHO announced that World AIDS Days through 2015 would have the theme of “Getting to Zero: Zero New HIV Infections. Zero Discrimination. Zero AIDSRelated Deaths.” Since the beginning of the epidemic in Maryland, more than 18,000 have died AIDS-related deaths. Across the state, more than 30,000 people currently live with the virus—a number that continues to grow. Gay Life readers can help “get to zero” locally: know your status, practice safer sex, remember lost loved ones, and support local AIDS service organizations. Watch Gay Life’s online events calendar (BaltimoreGayLife.com/ event-calendar) for information about local WAD events as they are announced. Meanwhile, consider participating in some of these:
SATURDAY, DEC. 1 RIDE FOR THE FEAST 2013 KICK-OFF PARTY! Sponsored by Team with a Purpose Door 7pm • Show 8pm Metro Gallery 1700 N. Charles St. T on.fb.me/XQyYsO
A CONCERT: WORLD AIDS DAY
New Wave Singers of Baltimore First Unitarian Church of Baltimore • 8pm (see article at left for details)
Taking a Stand 2012 WORLD AIDS DAY — REHOBOTH BEACH 4:30pm: WAD 2012 Art Exhibit Reception and Candlelight Walk CAMP Rehoboth 37 Baltimore Ave. Rehoboth Beach T CampRehoboth.com
7:00 pm: Service of Remembrance and Hope All Saints’ Church 18 Olive Ave. • Rehoboth Beach TAllSaintsParish-Rehoboth.org
SUNDAY, DEC. 2 A CONCERT: WORLD AIDS DAY
New Wave Singers of Baltimore Govans Presbyterian Ch. • 4pm (see article at left for details)
MONDAY, DEC. 3 BEAUTY & THE FEAST Cut-A-Thon Balance – The Salon
(see article at left for details)
TUESDAY, DEC. 4 HOT SAFER SEX!
In honor of World AIDS Day 6:30pm Sugar • 927 West 36th St. T SugarTheShop.com
FREE CONFIDENTIAL HIV TESTING GLCCB
241 W. Chase St. Wednesdays 5-8pm W410.777.8145 T GLCCB.org
CHASE BREXTON HEALTH SERVICES
1001 Cathedral St. Mon., Wed., Thurs. 9am-7pm Tues. and Fri. 9am-4pm W410.837.2050, ext. 1307 T ChaseBrexton.org For a list of other HIV testing sites in Baltimore, visit bit.ly/XjJYyJ.
BALTIMORE'S GUARDIAN ANGELS AND THE LGBT COMMUNITY BY PAIGE HUNTER In February 2011, a transgender woman named Tyra Trent was murdered in west Baltimore. The case was never solved. The Baltimore chapter of the Guardian Angels researched the case and, as they had been doing with other victims of violence, set up vigils/memorial services and a remembrance/awareness campaign called “Honk-4-Her” (which involved standing in the community with posters with the victim’s family and friends, and encouraging passing drivers to honk in memory of the victim). In the course of this, they got to know Trent’s mother, who talked about how devastated she was with the loss of Trent especially over the holidays. The Guardian Angels spent Thanksgiving with the grieving mother. In June 2012, Desean Bowman was murdered at a gas station in east Baltimore. Details are scarce, but in the reports one detail stands out: Bowman was wearing women’s clothing at the time. It is unknown if Bowman was shot because the assailant knew Bowman was transgender. The Baltimore chapter of the Guardian Angels was contacted, and the LGBT vigil was born that June. The message was clear: no matter their background, no matter their identity, everyone had the right to enjoy their neighborhoods, to live without the fear of hate crimes and bullying, to go to work, go to school, walk a dog without worrying if they would be beaten up, mugged, or shot. The Guardian Angels are communitybased volunteers who promote peaceful solutions and safety awareness within their cities and neighborhoods. The Baltimore chapter had been previously attempted, but was successfully restarted in 2006. New initiatives include the Remember Me campaign, created by Baltimore Angel Krush Kent, which raises awareness of victims of violence. “I decided to join the Baltimore Guardian Angels because I felt that their efforts to improve the community were in sync with my mission to bring the
injustices committed against minority victims of violence to the forefront of society,” explained Kent. “My experience as a Guardian Angel has exceeded my expectations as I am now able to advocate for more victims of violence with a team, as opposed to doing this alone, through Remember Me.” After the June 2012 vigil, they started working with organizations already in the LGBT community, including the GLCCB, to see what they could do to help individuals and their families who constantly face fear, hate, and violence. They have been working together in earnest. “The future looks very promising for the Baltimore Guardian Angels. We have accomplished many things as a Chapter and for Baltimore and we can only continue to succeed from Krush Kent this point forward,” said Kent. “Some of our future goals include expanding our presence into different parts of the city and surrounding counties, establishing a wholesome and efficient relationship with the police, government officials, and other leaders/activists in Maryland.” The Baltimore Angels encourage members of the LGBT community to report crimes committed against them to the police as well as to the Angels, especially because crimes against the LGBT community often go unreported, which makes it difficult to accurately depict the occurrence of crimes committed against the community. For more information on the Baltimore chapter of the Guardian Angels call 410.916.2215 or visit BaltimoreGuardianAngels.org. “As always, the Baltimore Guardian Angels are looking to expand our team,” said Kent, “and we welcome anyone who has a passion for creating a positive difference in the community.” NOVEMBER 2012
Broadway Legend Barbara Cook
Photo by Denise Winters
The "New" Barbara Cook Serenades Baltimore BY FRANKIE KUJAWA This November, Broadway legend Barbara Cook brings her enchanting voice to Baltimore’s Meyerhoff Symphony Hall. The 2011 Kennedy Center Honoree, whose soprano voice has the ability to etch passion, sorrow and bliss into each note she sings, recently sat down with Gay Life to discuss her upcoming performance, her stance on gay marriage, and additional pearls of wisdom from her remarkable career. Barbara, you are fresh from performing at Carnegie Hall (Oct. 18) in celebration of your 85th birthday. How was the performance? It was just wonderful. I’m so pleased! It was a very warm, wonderful evening. It was very, very close to being a sold-out house! There were amazing reviews in the papers. Were there any surprise guests? Sheldon Harnick [Lyricist for Fiddler on the Roof] was there. John Pizzarelli and his wife Jessica [Molaskey] were also there. And, of course, Josh Groban. It was truly a wonderful evening. They really kept it a secret who would be there for the show. They even had a little party for me at Carnegie afterward. Of course, afterward, I had people over the house. We finally went to bed around 3am! You released the album, Loverman, back in September. The release has been described as a “departure from your [normal] Broadway repertoire.” What was the inspiration behind this album? Well, first of all, for the first time in all these years, I had to put a show together by myself. All the other accompanists were busy with other jobs. I tried out four people who weren’t really right. Finally, I found Ted Rosenthal who did the shows with me. I’m new at this jazz. He was really terrific. It was getting closer and closer to putting the show together, and I put a lot of it together myself. I pulled from a lot of older songs that just seemed right. I love trying to do swing. I really enjoy it tremendously. The program I’m performing in Baltimore will be very similar. PAGE 12
You will be performing at The Meyerhoff Symphony Hall in November. What can audiences expect from this performance? They probably, if they know my work, will be expecting Broadway songs. I normally do Sondheim. I’m not doing any of that this time. I’m doing jazzy and bluesy standards. Very similar to what Ella Fitzgerald or Billie Holliday would do. It’s a wonderful program. This show is part of an introduction to a ‘new’ Barbara Cook. There are many people who have seen my old work, but they should especially come to see the ‘new’ Barbara and my new work. On Nov. 6, three days after your performance, Maryland voters will be going to the polls to defend same-sex marriage. As a performer who has spent most her life singing from the heart on the subject, where do you stand on the issue of same-sex marriage? If people love each other and they want to be with each other, what the hell is wrong with that? These people who are so against gay marriage…they didn’t choose to be straight. You don’t choose that, it just is. You don’t think about it, it just is. A lot of it goes back and forth to the Bible and religious fervor, which personally I think is terrible. It’s not true of all people in religions, and their faith is very important to them, and I know that. But when you try to start living your life by the Bible exactly, you start cutting off hands and doing all weird things. Regardless of what faith you have. In 2006, you were the special guest performer at The Gay Men’s Chorus of Washington’s silver anniversary performance at The Kennedy Center. You’ve also been very supportive of gay choruses throughout the country. Some even revere you as a gay icon in the Broadway world. How do you feel about this? It’s fine. My son is gay. I’m very pro-gay and pro-getting married. And some day, please,
some day people will understand that this is not a choice. Let people be who they are! We need to realize that everybody has their own path. We’re so inclined to put people in boxes and label them. Everyone is their own individual. You should just sit back and relax and let people do their thing, as long as they aren’t hurting anyone else.
Barbara of 25 if she could? Well, let’s see…what would I do? I think, as far as my career goes, I would have told myself that it is very important to have a larger career in this sense: to fight harder to do films. To fight harder to do television, so I could be more nationally known than I am now. That’s just the plain old nuts and bolts of my career.
Have you ever visited Baltimore prior to this performance? Yes, very shortly. The last time I was in Baltimore, I was driving home from Washington D.C. having performed the night before at the Kennedy Center. You know your Visionary Art Museum?
And personally? You could drive yourself crazy with things you could have done. There were times when I should have been performing, but I was unemployable. I was a drunk. But I’m glad that I was able to come out of it. A lot of it, I feel, was a gift. Something happened and I just decided that I wouldn’t do it anymore. I haven’t had a drink since 1977. I’m lucky that I’ve had this thing I’ve been able to do for so many years. I feel very fortunate.
Yes, it’s a great museum. Well, I spent a lot time in that museum. I love going to museums. I’m fascinated with art. I’m a small time collector. [Laughing] Definitely not a big time one these days. As a matter of fact, I have no room for it in my house anymore. I really take the time to walk around and appreciate it throughout the rooms in my home. You were recently a 2011 Kennedy Center honoree. In one word, how would you describe the experience? [Laughs] In one word? One word. Well…it really boils down to one thought. It makes me feel understood. So there’s your one word. Understood. Ok, why understood? It makes me realize that people got it. That they finally have realized what I’ve been trying to do all of these years. At 85 years young, what advice would the Barbara of today tell the
You’ve said: “The very place where safety lies for us is the thing that seems most dangerous. And that is having the courage to let people really, really into what life has done to us.” It’s such an inspirational quote, especially for the many men and women of our community. A lot of people are afraid to feel vulnerable in our society. But when we are, that’s when we are the most safe. It’s a scary thing… opening up and letting people really into your life and your feelings. Particularly for young people starting out. Maybe if they understand that’s where they are most safe, maybe it will help.
Saturday, November 3 • 8pm $30-80 Meyerhoff Symphony Hall 1212 Cathedral St. TBSOMusic.com
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Alchemists Delight Palates in Hampden BY JOHN CULLEN WITH MARTY SHAYT Alchemy, “a modern American eatery,” opened about two years ago in a former storefront on the Avenue in Hampden. A four-foot-high image of Jessica Rabbit greeted us from the front window ( John never did figure out the connection…). Inside, Alchemy has a contemporary feel with a dozen tightly configured, walnuttopped tables, plus a few high-backed booths along one wall. A small dining room with sponged plum colored walls and white tablecloths on the second floor has a traditional arrangement but is only open on weekends or when the first floor dining room is full. Colorful modern art and photographs punctuate the walls. Alchemy’s standard dinner menu includes eight “beginnings” ($8-13), a couple of soups ($7), five side salads ($7-11), nine entrees ($17-34), six side vegetable dishes ($4-6) as well as a printed page of daily specials. Marty, who likes his meat well-done, smiled at the menu’s warning that the kitchen honors customers’ requests for dishes to be cooked well-done “but it breaks our heart and we cannot be responsible for the outcome.” Some small yet dense, warm popovers wowed us while we struggled to decide what to order. After considerable analysis, Marty and John finally decided to share the mojito mussels appetizer, and our friend Rita opted to start with the calypso hummus. For entrees, Marty experimented with pepper fennel-crusted hebi (a mild Hawaiian white fish, $29); John
Pepper Fennel-Crusted Hebi
ordered a peach cider glazed pork chop ($27) while Rita decided on a vegetarian stuffed acorn squash ($17). The mussels were large and plump (with more than enough for both of us to share) but it was the broth that really got our attention. With mingled flavors of lime, orange, cilantro, and garlic, it was fantastic and addicting (we started scooping it up with mussel shells at first, then with some French bread our server brought when she noticed our enthusiasm!). Rita’s hummus had a distinctive tang of unusual herbs and spices, which she couldn’t quite place but enjoyed; she smiled as she realized she’d never before described a bean dish as “refreshing.” Both starters rated a “Thumbs Ups!” from all three of us. John’s large, double-thick pork chop dominated his plate and reclined on a bed of (yummy!) white bean cassolet and an interesting corn purée. While the cider glaze wasn’t really evident, the chop was good and not overdone. Marty’s fish entrée served with marinated artichokes and pickled radishes and a dab of fennel purée was artfully presented. The fish was mild tasting and the fennel purée wasn’t to Marty’s liking so he asked Debi Matassa, one of the owners and who keeps a close eye on the dining room, for ketchup. Poor Debi was obviously taken aback! While she explained that Alchemy avoided serving processed foods like ketchup and that if necessary she would run across the street to grab some ketchup, she then suggested a couple of sauces from the kitchen. A dab of a creamy crab sauce turned out to add just the touch that Marty wanted! (Bravo Debi!) The clear star of the entrées though was the acorn squash which arrived overflowing with roasted autumn vegetables, tomatoes, capers, and lightly braised arugula. Mixed in with the veggies, long wide strands of homemade pappardelle pasta (which Rita said was “superb!”) added a wonderful contrast. Rita thought that her entrée was the best vegetarian dish she’s experienced in a restaurant. This extraor-
Stuffed Acorn Squash
Peach Cider Glazed Pork Chop
dinary dish showcased the talent of the alchemists in the kitchen. After such a feast, we decided to share one dessert and our server suggested the Grand Marnier tuile. The tuile was a softball-sized, thin, crispy, cookie shell with scoops of vanilla ice cream topped by Grand Marnier-soaked raspberries and strawberry slices sitting in a 10-inch soup bowl with a half inch of thick cream dabbled with traces of more Grand Marnier. Not necessarily evident from this list of ingredients, the tuile was surprisingly light and not overly sweet, which probably contributed to the three of us making it completely disappear! John also loved the option of having steamed milk with his coffee! Alchemy’s food and service impressed
us considerably and both clearly earned a “Thumbs Up!” from all three of us. The kitchen’s alchemy magic at dinner doesn’t come cheap, and the prices may have some considering this a place for “special occasions” rather than every day dining.
1011 W. 36th St. W410.336.1163 TAlchemyon36.com Open Tues-Sun for lunch & dinner Sunday Brunch Full bar • Street parking Email DiningOut@BaltimoreGayLife.com and find all prior reviews at BaltimoreGayLife-DiningOut.info.
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n 2009 when we had our first TransParent Day there were no formal celebrations. The day had been concocted by myself and my dear friend from Minnesota, Erica Fields, a few months before. We had descended on the Southern Comfort Conference, an annual transgender conference in Atlanta, Ga., in September 2009 to guerrilla market the idea using our pink, white, and blue wristbands. I wear one as I write this and do so daily. So do many others. That week we distributed 300 wristbands at our own expense to “cloud seed” the idea. Since that date we have distributed more than 2,500 of them throughout the USA and even internationally. Upon occasion when traveling I will meet a new person who has some trans aspect to their lives. Maybe their parent is trans, or they have a trans child, or they are trans themselves. And to my delight I see them sporting a wristband. I will ask them, “What is that?” Invariably they will proudly inform me that it is for TransParent Day, a holiday for trans parents and their families, like Mother’s Day or Father’s Day. I say, “Neat, when is that?” They answer, “the first Sunday in November.” Then I ask, “Who started that?” And they say, “I am not sure.” I am always happy with that answer,
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as it means the idea was bigger than me and Erica. And it propagates cleanly and crisply. Unlike the “operator” game in which a whispered message is passed down a row of people, and the last person announces the message that was passed along; usually the meaning or details were changed along the way. Not so with TransParent Day. It truly has become a meme. For yuks, when they say “I am not sure” I will sometimes point at myself. And they often respond, “No kidding.” I think sometimes people think that folks who make an impact on the world are somehow way different than they are. Most are not. Most folks who change the world do so in small increments. A person at a time. And that is why TransParent Day works. You see for each family it takes on its own meaning, and in some ways its own traditions and rituals. I have had trans folk contact me to say things like, “This is the one day of the year I have a meal with my son,” or “Thank you for this, it has given my family a reason to gather together and get to know the new me.” I have seen the same happen in person here in Maryland. And it is a good thing. For me personally, it is the only day I celebrate being the parent of my two sons. They attend the gathering, help
get it set up, and lug around all the supporting things we use. And what is most important is they are visible to others who can see how close we all are. My transition did not have an adverse impact on them, it made our bond stronger. I am a better person and they know and appreciate that. And I appreciate their support and love. I know many trans folk are not as lucky as me in that regard. Many are estranged from family. I can only hope that as TransParent Day becomes more widely known that those families might find a way to heal and embrace their trans members. At least the day exists as an “excuse” to perhaps offer a gift or a meal as an icebreaker. I know that has happened, folks have told me so. I just hope it happens even more. And it will as word spreads. Last year we had our first formal government recognition of TransParent Day. Mayor Stephanie Rawlings-Blake issued a proclamation declaring the first Sunday in November TransParent Day in the City of Baltimore. We hope the state and nation follow suit. Maybe someday you will be able to buy a TransParent Day card at the store. Even better, I get a handmade one every year. So in our local tradition, we will gather again this year to celebrate trans parents and trans kids at our annual potluck event. We hope you join us. Bring a dish to share. We will have plates and cups will supply beverages. Even if you cannot manage a dish, come anyhow, there is always too much food to eat!
TRANSPARENT DAY POTLUCK GATHERING 2012 SUNDAY, NOVEMBER 4 • 2-6PM GLCCB • 241 W. CHASE ST.
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sharon@GenderRightsMaryland.org on.fb.me/PP7hAJ TransParentDay.org
TRANSGENDER DAY OF REMEMBRANCE EVENTS
November marks several transgender events, perhaps the most important being November 20, Transgender Day of Remembrance. This day we remember the lives lost to violence against transgender people. The day was founded in 1998 by activist and Gay Life contributor Gwendolyn Ann Smith, to memorialize the murder of Rita Hester in Massachusetts.
WEDNESDAY, NOV. 7 • 2-4PM SPECIAL REMEMBRANCE FOR MS. RHONDA
Sistas of the "T" hosts a luncheon to celebrate the life of Ms. Rhonda Grey.
AIDS Action Baltimore 10 E. Eager St. 410.837.2437 Monicafly.vpweb.com/Events.html
WEDNESDAY, NOV. 14 • 10AM MAYOR’S PRESS CONFERENCE Observing Transgender Day of Remembrance. Speakers include Mayor Stephanie Rawlings Blake and TransMaryland’s Jenna Fischetti
City Hall Rotunda 100 N. Holliday St.
For questions contact Kevin Cleary at email@example.com
TUESDAY, NOV. 20 • 6:30-8:30PM CANDLELIGHT VIGIL AND MEMORIAL SERVICE First Unitarian Church 12 W. Franklin St. FirstUnitarian.net Find updates at Sites.google.com/site/ TDORBaltimore and Twitter.com/ TDORBmore. Learn more about Transgender Day of Remembrance at TransgenderDOR.org.
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New Trans Leaders Equality Maryland kicked off the Transgender Leadership Academy (TLA) at the GLCCB on August 18. It is Maryland’s first class of exclusively trans or gender non-conforming people who wish to become leaders in Maryland’s progressive movements. This first class hopes to provide new skills, and sharpen existing tools, to broaden the trans leadership pool in the state, and develop the leadership skills to help boost their resumes. Equality Maryland developed this intensive leadership development program from ideas and feedback from the transgender community in Maryland. The transgender community checkin survey, which Equality Maryland created to gather community feedback
on our work, started the ball rolling on TLA. The results showed that an overwhelming number of respondents wanted to see more trans people in leadership positions. Gender Empowerment Maryland (GEM), a community empowerment group through lobbying and education, and the trans community advisory group for Equality Maryland, began researching other organizations who have trans exclusive leadership development programs that may be able to be replicated in Maryland. GEM and Equality Maryland decided to use the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force’s model used in Los Angeles, Cal. in 2011. We began to plan content, set goals, and develop themes, and started
Sistas of the T A TRANSWOMEN GROUP OFFERS RESOURCES, SUPPORT, AND ALTERNATIVES TO PROSTITUTION BY ROSE D’LONGCROI Monica Yorkman comes across as your average Baltimore grandmother: stylish flats, jeans and sweater set, and a too-young-tobe-a-grandmother sway. When our 90 minute conversation drew to a close, the discussion turns fondly to her “grand-babies” and preparations for their pending sleepover. That is the nature of Yorkman: to be the warm encourager, firm, guiding hand, and occasional kick-in-the-pants one requires to move forward on this journey called life. Yet Yorkman’s gracious calm took a turbulent childhood before she would be comfortable in the body she was born in. It is this hard-earned comfort she is offering to others in her weekly meetings, “Sistas of the T.” Within the safe space of the
Baltimore Community Resource Center, Yorkman invites other T sistas to discuss discrimination, housing, substance use, mental health, life after surgery, reemerging in a new social role, and the life skills that extend beyond the ladies-of-the-night profession that many in the trans community consider their only option. Yorkman, a retired teacher, recalls the shock of one transgender woman upon meeting another T sista who did not previously earn her living on the streets of Baltimore. “It is a limited reality offered for these women,” explained Yorkman. It is that limited option she hopes to eradicate every Tuesday by running a support group for transgender women by a transgender woman.
outreach to trans and gender non-conforming people throughout the state. It has been critical to both GEM and Equality Maryland that the trans community develop the academy, and that their voices are heard in every layer of the Transgender Leadership Academy. TLA was developed as a six-monthlong, one-weekend-a-month training program. The lesson plans have been created by some of the greatest trans leaders on the East Coast. The TLA Leadership Team, also known as the program’s core trainers, have set a goal of empowering trans and gender nonconforming people with leadership skills and the tools to ensure that transgender voices are present in movements and projects that directly impact trans
“Before [this], every group offered was run by a therapist or counselor that was not in the life, let alone a T-lady,” said Yorkman. “Most of those groups do not move beyond that one aspect of our lives. We don’t stay in that place forever.” Sistas of the T offers monthly workshops on various aspects of “daytime” living such as resume writing, interview skills, applying to college, and developing conflict resolution skills. “It is not surprising that the finesse required for living amongst other 9-to-5ers is lost when you work the night shift,” she
BY OWEN SMITH
communities. Each week has a different theme, and covers everything from awareness to outreach and communications. The best part is that the Academy is free to participants with the hopes that it will assist in getting more trans people in leadership positions, and open doors that have been to this point slammed in their faces. Equality Maryland has high hopes that our TLA graduates will be the first class of many, and is excited to help them lead Maryland into an inclusive state where no one is mistreated, or feels unsafe being who they are. For more information about TLA, to donate to future TLAs, or to apply for the next TLA class, please email Owen Smith at Owen@equalitymaryland.org.
explained. According to Yorkman, the belief that T sistas must work the streets in some form has become a crippling barrier to those who wish to branch out into careers paths. “I remember one sista who when she decided to enter the university, she lost most of her friends, and the college campus offered little support in developing a new group of friends.” This suppressive mentality is what Yorkman currently advocates against in her role as GLCCB board member, in various panels, and at trans conferences, using guerrilla tactics as her the keystone of her advocacy campaign. There is so much to be done for the trans women of Baltimore, and Yorkman is dedicated to moving this branch of the community forward.
SISTAS OF THE T
TUESDAYS 4-6PM BALTIMORE COMMUNITY RESOURCE CENTER • 21 W. 25TH ST.
410.558.7447 firstname.lastname@example.org MonicaFly.vpweb.com
Gender Identity Groups of Maryland at the GLCCB
mental health and substance abuse services; HIV care. Online transition services information at ChaseBrexton.org/wellness/ lgbt/transition.
HEARTS AND EARS, INC. 11 W. Chase St. 410.523.1694 • HeartsAndEars.org Support groups for LGBT people; referrals to LGBT-friendly health care, mental health care, and other service professionals; life skills development; drop in center; information and referral to emergency services.
BALTIMORE TRANSMASCULINE ALLIANCE
Black Transmen, Inc. presents Akanni, a support group for all transgender men that are conforming and non-conforming at any stage in their transition process. Meets the 2nd Tuesdays, 6pm, room 202. Contact email@example.com or BlackTransmen.org.
Support group and social network for transmen of all sorts and stripes, providing a safe space to share explorations or concerns relating to health, identity, and personal experience. Meets the 3rd Thursdays, 6:30–8:30pm, room 202. Contact BTMA@glccb.org.
A support group for MTFs, but anyone who varies from traditional gender expression are welcome. Meets 2nd and 4th Saturdays, 8pm, room 201. Contact Tranquility@glccb.org. Join the group at Groups.Yahoo.com/Group/GIGinMd.
A support and resource group for significant others, friends, family, and allies of transgender persons. Meets 4th Saturdays, 8pm, room 202. Contact SOFFA-T@glccb.org.
241 W. Chase St. 410.777.8145 • GLCCB.org
Other Resources AIDS ACTION BALTIMORE’S TEA TIME (TRANSPEOPLE EMPOWERMENT IN ACTION)
10 E. Eager St. • 410.837.5573 AIDSActionBaltimore.org Individual & group support services for transgender women and men, HIV prevention, referral for HIV-positive persons, information, and referral. 3rd and last Wednesdays.
CHASE BREXTON HEALTH SERVICES, INC.
1001 Cathedral St. (also locations in Randallstown, Columbia, and Easton) 410.837.2050 • ChaseBrexton.org Primary health care; case management; hormone prescriptions and management;
325 E. 25th St. 410.889.8333 • PowerInside.org Group counseling, re-entry and aftercare, open rap group, and literacy tutoring for women re-entering the community after incarceration.
1814 Maryland Ave. 410.837.1400 • ProjectPlase.org Transitional and permanent housing programs, social networking, life skills training, HIV outreach.
TheDenBaltimore.org Support and social events for LGBTQ youth in Baltimore.
Locations in Baltimore City, Rosedale, and Towson 410.377.8111 • TurnAroundInc.org Counseling, emergency shelter, client advocacy for victims of domestic violence and sexual assault. Provides transgenderspecific services.
UNIVERSITY OF MARYLAND STAR TRACK - ADOLESCENT AND YOUNG ADULT CLINIC
120 Penn St. • 410.328.TEEN on.fb.me/VAYwwL Serves ages 12 – 24; primary health care; HIV/STD testing and treatment; counseling for youth and families; teen support group; referrals and much more.
WOMEN ACCEPTING RESPONSIBILITY (WAR)
2300 Garrison Blvd., Stes. 150/170 410.878.0357 WomenAcceptingResponsibility.org Beautiful Me Sorority offers young transgender women of color peer support; HIV counseling, testing, and referral; linkages to care; and group interventions. All of WAR’s services are delivered in a women-centered, safe and supportive environment.
Information provided by the Transgender Response Team (TRT). The purpose of TRT is to launch and sustain a linked framework of culturally competent, evidence-based HIV prevention services for transgender communities and individuals in Maryland. Contact Jean-Michel Brevelle, Sexual Minorities Program Manager, Prevention and Health Promotion Administration, Center for HIV Prevention, at firstname.lastname@example.org or 410.767.5016. PAGE 18
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Queer Art Sensation Opens at Ottobar SSION’S CODY CRITCHELOE TALKS TO GAY LIFE BY EMILY SALINAS Photo By Barrett Emke
(pronounced 'shun') is the glam-freak pop project that Cody Critcheloe launched back when he was a teen in Kentucky. SSION developed its particular aesthetic while Critcheloe was attending art school in Kansas City, Mo. And he's been making waves ever since. The distinct style of SSION almost defies categorization, but it could be described as part Fischerspooner, part Boy George, with the flamboyance of artist Ryan Trecartin, all rolled up into one iconic Freddy Mercury mustache and a unibrow. Critcheloe defines SSION’s sound as “Ever changing. I would say right now it's pop music, really weird pop music.” He claims that this 'pop' sound was an accident. He never listened to electropop or house, and was instead obsessed with ‘90s rock and riot grrl icons such as Hole and Bikini Kill, and Sonic Youth's Kim Gordon. Cody Critcheloe has directed music videos for superstars like Santigold, Peaches, and CSS, so it's no surprise that he considers himself a multimedia artist instead of solely a musician. For Critcheloe, music videos are released like singles, and each one aptly illustrates his wicked sense of humor. In his 2009 video for “Bullshit,” he satirizes Madonna, Courtney Love, and Rosanne Barr—who band together to form an ultimate queer-core supergroup,
and then become witches and wrestle each other. Critcheloe's playful exploration of cult icons proves that sometimes the most appropriate way to show reverence for something, is to make fun of it. Critcheloe described his teen years in Kentucky as, surprisingly, “not that horrible.” He explained, "I didn't even really identify as being gay, per se, I was just a weirdo... Maybe it was harder for them, I didn't have any choice in the matter... I was just the type of person that liked to get in trouble and stir up shit in school. And I was also really cynical, and so it was sort of impossible to make fun of me because I just didn’t care.” SSION's new album, Bent, proves itself to be a more sophisticated collection of pop songs, while still maintaining Critcheloe’s subversive side. Lyrics such as, “Doing poppers on a treadmill/God damn, I love LA” show that SSION's stylized superficiality is anything but unintentional. As a whole, Bent feels like sleazy good fun. The track “Earthquake” even gleans a moment of sincerity for Critcheloe as he claims it to be the first love song he’s ever written. When asked
why it took him this long to write about love, he replied, “I think because I've never been in love before. That's like the most truthful answer to that, you know. I think I actually had to experience that in order to write about it.” Recently, there’s been a dedicated fanbase that’s popped up, from a vast Twitter following to girls on Tumblr covering his songs on acoustic guitar, and Critcheloe’s all on board. “You know, that’s the purpose of doing this,” he said. “You put music out into the world, you put all these visuals out into the world, you start a band, and you hope to have an audience for it and to inspire people. Or piss people off, whatever. I would never be ashamed of something like that, you know what I mean? I can't understand why anyone would be.” In the past, SSION has had some notoriously outrageous performances, from smashing a Tori Amos effigy filled with fake blood to thoughtfully choreographed productions at MoMA's PS1.
SSION's performance in Baltimore should get particularly rowdy, since it will be the last show of the tour. “I feel like that's the coolest part about touring. It just gets better every night, you get more comfortable, you get tighter as a band, and you sort of lose yourself a little bit. You guys are either gonna get one of the best shows on the tour or one of the worst. But either way it won’t be forgettable [laughs].” We can't wait to see what kind of elaborate and garish surprises he may have in store for us. SSION will be performing at Ottobar on November 9, along with House of LaDosha—a fierce, trans-woman electronic crunk duo from Brooklyn.
SSION WITH HOUSE OF LADOSHA (Opening for Class Actress) November 9 • 8:30pm • $12 Ottobar • 2549 Howard St. W410.662.0069 TTheOttobar.com
NATIONAL & INTERNATIONAL NEWS
BY RACHEL ROTH
RUSSIA MARYLAND ENGLAND
TEXAS HONG KONG SERBIA
Gay Congressional Candidates Make History NATIONWIDE
A record number of LGBT politicians are vying for Congressional seats this November. Eight openly gay candidates are running as major-party nominees for the House of Representatives—the most ever. Among those running are incumbents Democrats Jared Polis of Colorado and David Cicilline of Rhode Island. Both are favored in their races. Congress could also see its first openly gay Asian-American, Mark Takano of California; its first openly bisexual member, Kyrsten Sinema of Arizona; and its first openly gay senator, Tammy Baldwin of Wisconsin. There’s one gay Republican in the group, Richard Tisei, who is fighting a competitive campaign for a House seat from Massachusetts.
Voter Suppression Disproportionately Impacts Trans Voters NATIONWIDE
Strict voter ID laws have been enacted in 33 states, leaving more than 25,000 transgender people in danger of losing their right to vote. They claim to prevent voter PAGE 20
fraud, but federal courts in Texas, South Carolina, and Wisconsin struck down pending voter ID laws, stating they “disproportionately affected immigrants, the elderly, people of color, the poor, women, and trans folk.” The National Center for Transgender Equality (NCTE) has launched a series of public service announcements in an effort to educate trans people on how to protect and exercise their right to vote. The campaign, “Voting While Trans,” features filmmaker Ignacio Rivera, NCTE Executive Director Mara Kiesling, actress Laverne Cox, writer and advocate Janet Mock, Charles Meins, and poet Kit Yan.
California Bans “Ex Gay” Therapy CALIFORNIA
California is the first state in the nation to outlaw “sexual orientation change efforts” on LGBT youth. The legislation states that “any sexual orientation change efforts attempted on a patient under 18 years of age by a mental health provider shall be considered unprofessional conduct and shall subject the provider to discipline by the provider’s licensing entity.” California Gov. Jerry Brown told the San Francisco Chronicle that in the end, this type of treatment has “no basis in science or medicine” and that they will now “be relegated to the dustbin of quackery.”
The law is already being challenged in court by two religiously oriented therapists and a therapy student described as someone who has successfully undergone treatment for same-sex attractions. Attorneys for the three argue the law tramples on families’ rights and therapists’ consciences, and intrudes on free speech, privacy, and freedom of religion.
Ravens Center Joins Marriage Equality Opposition MARYLAND
Baltimore Ravens center and NFL’s Man of The Year Matt Birk is staunchly opposed to marriage equality, and he’s joined the campaign to prevent it from passing in Maryland. Birk, who grew up in St. Paul, Minn. filmed a video for the Maryland Marriage Alliance and the Minnesota Catholic Conference. The football player also penned an article for the Minneapolis Star-Tribune, in which he wrote, “Marriage redefinition will affect the broader well-being of children and the welfare of society. As a Christian and a citizen, I am compelled to care about both.” Birk’s stance on marriage equality puts him at ideological odds with his teammate, Brandon Ayanbadejo, who has been very outspoken in support of Question 6—Maryland’s referendum on the marriage equality law.
New Immigration Policy Includes Lesbian, Gay Couples NATIONWIDE
The Obama administration has instructed immigration officials to consider same-sex couples family. According to the Chicago Tribune, Homeland Security Secretary Janet Napolitano told Nancy Pelosi via letter that she ordered U.S. Immigration and Customs Enforcement to notify its field offices that “the interpretation of the phrase ‘family relationships’ includes longterm, same-sex partners.” This directive has huge implications for undocumented LGBT immigrants facing possible deportation.
Austin City Council Backs Marriage Equality TEXAS
Austin became the first city in Texas to support marriage equality when the City Council unanimously passed a resolution condemning the Defense Against Marriage Act. The “strongly worded” resolution was supported by a coalition of civil rights groups and backed by a petition signed by more than 1,800 people living in and around the Austin metro area. According to Raw Story, the resolution states that the GAY LIFE MAGAZINE
Austin City Council will no longer abide discriminatory practices that “deny the powerful and important affirmation of love and commitment” that is civil marriage.
Federal Judge: DOMA Unconstitutional NATIONWIDE
A federal appeals court in Manhattan ruled that the federal law defining marriage as a union between a man and a woman was unconstitutional in a 2-1 decision. Saying the gay population has "suffered a history of discrimination," Judge Dennis Jacobs of the 2nd U.S. Circuit Court of Appeals wrote that it courts needed to scrutinize laws in the “same heightened way as discrimination faced by women was in the 1970s.” The heightened scrutiny, as it is referred to in legal circles, would mean government discrimination against gays would be assumed to be unconstitutional.
Marriage Equality on the Ballot NATIONWIDE
Voters in four states have the chance to grant lesbian and gay couples the right to legally marry on Nov. 6. Maine, Maryland, Minnesota, and Washington State could make history as the first states to vote in favor of same-sex marriage. Maryland would be the first state below the MasonDixon Line to allow it if Question 6 passes and the first state to approve marriage equality through a referendum. According to most recent polls as Gay Life went to press, measures in Maine, Maryland, and Washington have slim leads but Minnesota’s Amendment 1 is tied.
Gay and Lesbian Victory Fund 12 Races to Watch NATIONWIDE
Nov. 6 could be a landmark election for LGBT rights and politicians. The Victory Fund highlights 12 candidates in groundbreaking runs for political office this year: Tammy Baldwin — U.S. Senate (Wisc.) Baldwin could become the first openly LGBT senator. Joshua Boschee — North Dakota House Boschee could become the first out member of the North Dakota legislature. BALTIMOREGAYLIFE.COM
Kate Brown — Oregon Secretary of State Brown is the second highest-ranking elected official in Oregon. David Cicilline — U.S. House (R.I.) Cicilline is running for his first re-election to congress in a tight race. Sean Patrick Maloney — U.S. House (N.Y.) Maloney would be the first openly LGBT member of congress from New York. Marie Mayor — Delaware House Mayor could become the first out state legislator in Delaware. Tim Brown — Ohio House Brown would become the only openly LGBT Republican state lawmaker in the US. Kyrsten Sinema — U.S. House (Ariz.) Sinema would be the first out bisexual elected to congress. Stephen Skinner — West Virginia House Skinner would become the first openly LGBT state lawmaker in West Virginia. Andy Staton — Delaware Senate Staton could become the first out state legislator in Delaware – or tied with first if Mayor wins too. Mark Takano — U.S. House (Calif.) Takano could become the first openly LGBT person of color in congress. Richard Tisei – U.S. House (Mass.) Tisei would become the first out Republican elected to congress as a non-incumbent.
Kids Picked the President NATIONWIDE
The kids have spoken and resoundingly reelected Barak Obama in Nickelodeon’s Nickelodeon's 2012 Kids Pick the President "Kids' Vote” special. President Obama received 65 percent of the vote and former Governor Mitt Romney received 35 percent. In order to more closely replicate the actual election, and to ensure the results were more authentic, this year the voting was limited to one vote per electronic device. Every election since 1988, Nickelodeon has given America’s youth the chance to be heard and the kids have accurately predicted the outcome of the election 5ive out of the last six times. In 2004 kids picked John Kerry to win over George W. Bush.
Malawi Won’t Repeal Anti-Gay Legislation
opposed to equal marriage rights for lesbian and gay couples.
Billionaire Offers Marriage Bounty for Lesbian Daughter
Despite Malawian President Joyce Banda’s promise to repeal indecency and unnatural acts laws, she said citizens of the African country are not ready to lift the ban on homosexuality: “Where Malawi is and most African countries are, is maybe where America or the U.K. where about 100 years ago,” Banda told the Associated Press. “The best thing the world can do is to allow each country to take its course, to allow each country to have that debate freely without the pressure of being pushed.”
Same-Sex Parents Eligible for Benefits AUSTRALIA
Australia has become the first country to afford lesbian and gay parents the same rights as heterosexual parents. The New Dad and Partner Leave will start in January 2013 and allow two weeks of leave, and minimum wage of about $606 per week. Mothers and fathers with same-sex partners are eligible for this government benefit. Like with heterosexual couples, a “primary carer” must be named in order to take advantage of the maximum 18 weeks leave the government offers.
Church may have Caused ‘Mental Pain’ ENGLAND
In one of his last major public lectures before he steps down later this year, the Archbishop of Canterbury, Dr. Rowan Williams, admitted that the Church of England’s position on gay relationships has been harmful to lesbians, gays, and bisexuals. Williams said that the Church was “wrong” not to have advocated LGBT equality, but also criticized Prime Minister David Cameron for “embarrassing” the church over the issue of equal marriage. According to the Telegraph, during a lecture to the think-tank Theos in London, Williams also suggested the church could learn lessons from its mistakes. “We are trying to catch up with a reality which for a long time we didn’t handle at all well,” he said. “I think the church has, in recent years, tried quite hard to say we are not condemning a person as such for their sexual orientation and that is a serious commitment.” Williams’ likely successor, the Archbishop of York Dr. John Sentamu, is staunchly
One of the richest men in Hong Kong has pledged $65 million to any man willing to marry his lesbian daughter. According to the Telegrapgh, Cecil Chao Sze-tsung, a property magnate, announced the reward after reports that his daughter—Gigi Chao, 33, a University of Manchester graduate—entered a civil partnership with her long-term girlfriend in France. Chao announced that he was looking for a good man for his daughter in an interview with the South China Morning Post. “I don’t mind whether he is rich or poor,” he said “the important thing is that he is generous and kindhearted.” Chao also denied that Gigi wed her girlfriend of seven years, but Ms. Chao’s Facebook page states otherwise.
No Pride in Belgrade
Serbia’s police banned the Gay Pride Parade in the capital city of Belgrade for the second time in two years, citing security concerns. However, it appears as though officials were also complying with a request from Serbia’s Christian Orthodox church. Patriarch Irinej, the head of Serbia’s Christian Orthodox church, said such a “parade of shame” would cast a “moral shadow” on Serbia. The country is presently seeking entry into the European Union; membership is contingent upon their pledge to respect human rights.
Violence Erupts on “Coming Out” Day RUSSIA
Two-dozen masked individuals stormed one of Moscow’s most popular gay bars on International Coming Out Day and beat patrons with bottles and fists. More than 10 people were injured and two women and one man were hospitalized. 7freedays is one of the few LGBT-friendly places in the notoriously anti-LGBT country. As Gay Life has reported, this past year three cities including St. Petersburg have passed laws criminalizing “homosexual propaganda,” and a law banning gay pride parades in the capital city was upheld by the nation’s highest court in August. NOVEMBER 2012
Is There Light at the End of the Tunnel? BY STEVE CHARING All the hard work over the past decade, all the sacrifices, all the persuasions, all the deal-making, all the dollars raised and spent, all the legislative and judicial defeats, and then the eventual signing into law the Civil Marriage Protection Act have brought the Maryland LGBT community to this critical moment in history. On Election Day, voters will decide if same-sex couples can legally marry in the Free State. Unfortunately, the majority will have the opportunity to vote on the rights of a minority. Maryland law allows for citizens to petition laws to referendum under specific circumstances including this measure. As Thomas Jefferson said in his first Inaugural address, “Bear in mind this sacred principle, that though the will of the majority is in all cases to prevail, that will, to be rightful, must be reasonable; that the minority possess their equal rights, which equal laws must protect, and to violate would be oppression.” At the ballot box, marriage equality has not fared well. In 32 states prior to this year when brought up before the voters, there has been no victory. Maryland, as well as Washington, Maine, and Minnesota, will have an opportunity to end that skein on Nov. 6. But will it? Polls give reason to be upbeat with improving numbers in the African-American community as the key factor. Most political observers view this demographic as a key to victory (or defeat) based on its comprising a quarter of the likely voters. But polls are typically not reliable on matters concerning social justice. Many respondents are loathe to coming off as bigoted during such surveys but will vote a different way in the privacy of the voting booth. Many of us in the LGBT community were horrified and deeply saddened to learn that long-time friends, co-workers, neighbors, and even family members PAGE 22
who seemed outwardly supportive on marriage equality had actually signed the petition to bring the issue to a vote. Marylanders for Marriage Equality is the organization who, along with its coalition partners, is leading the campaign to uphold the law that was signed by Governor O’Malley on March 1. They are responsible for the nuts and bolts of the campaign: attracting volunteers, phone banking, canvassing, messaging, fundraising, enlisting support from the faith community, and developing advertising to compete with such opponents as the Maryland Marriage Alliance. Gov. O’Malley has been a vanguard in raising funds for the campaign.
Light Brigage Maryland
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However, other individuals in the community have taken the initiative to advance marriage equality as well. For example, Mark Patro has worked with PFLAG chapters and others to form a group called Light Brigade Maryland. The volunteers go to highway overpasses or other venues and hold up lit letters forming phrases in support of marriage equality. They have shed light on nearly two dozen locations within the state. See their work on Facebook.com/LightBrigadeMaryland. Baltimore residents Gerry Fisher and Mike Bernard have been active in developing mini-courses on how to conduct “two-minute conversations” with those who may not be supportive. Jerry and his husband, David Kimble have been holding open-houses each Friday for months to discuss ideas from members of the community. Will this overall effort pan out? National trends are pointing to more acceptance of same-sex marriage. Endorsements received from President Obama, the NAACP, leading clergy in the state, and celebrities should be helpful. But any optimism is matched with caution. A strong turnout by the LGBT community and supporters may be the difference, and victory could finally be at hand. GAY LIFE MAGAZINE
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Hope Grows for Trans Health BY ALICIA GABRIEL The health care needs of transwomen, transmen, gender-queer, and others who do not conform to society’s gender norms are often overlooked by conventional health care organizations. Often, the issue is a painful matter of discrimination. Discrimination in the workplace leads to lack of insurance coverage for transgender individuals. Transgender people are twice as likely to be unemployed and without employer-based health insurance plans. Uninsured rates among our transgender population is estimated to range from 21 to 64 percent. Even with coverage, however, individuals struggle with insurance companies’ “transgender exclusions” and are regularly denied transgender-specific health services. Hormones and surgery become a personal cost financed only by the individual out-of-pocket. When transgender people do engage in health care, they face extreme levels of provider bias, and more than 70 percent of transgender patients report experiencing some form of discrimination. Horrifyingly, one in five individuals has been refused medical care because of their gender identity. Even without discriminatory practices, most medical providers are simply not prepared with trans-specific medical knowledge. Training in transgender health care is rare for general medical students. There is hope, though. In today’s health care environment, quality, informed transgender health care is becoming more accessible for many reasons. Not the least of which is the historic and diligent focus of individuals who have fought for their own or their loved one’s care. Numerous incredible organizations, like the World Professional Association for Transgender Health (WPATH), Gay and Lesbian Medical Association (GLMA), and many others, have consistently brought attention to the health care needs of the transgender community. But, this article cannot capture all the work, the tears, and the lives that have been dedicated to the cause. What we can capture here is a brief (by no means exhaustive) overview of where the health care environment is today—nationally and legally speaking. BALTIMOREGAYLIFE.COM
Insure Your Love SIX THINGS YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT LIFE INSURANCE
BY YOSHIKO HAYAKAWA FOR VETERANS A Veterans Health Administration directive has established a policy of respectful delivery of health care to transgender and intersex veterans. Coverage includes hormones and other medical and transition needs. Nevertheless, the VA will not provide or cover sex reassignment surgery. FOR EVERYONE The Affordable Care Act (ACA) provides groundbreaking attention to LGBT health care. ACA funds cultural competency trainings—specifically to address LGBT disparities in health care. In 2014, the Patient’s Bill of Rights will prevent insurance companies from denying coverage based on pre-existing conditions. The expansion of Medicaid will mean more individuals—including gender non-conforming individuals—will receive coverage. What’s more, the ACA will bring Title VII federal nondiscrimination protections to the health care field, which the Department of Health and Human Services recently confirmed will ban discrimination based on gender identity. While this cannot wholly prevent discrimination, it will outlaw the discrimination so many have suffered when pursuing treatment. Non-governmental organizations that have significant influence over all U.S. medical practices, such as the Joint Commission and the American Medical Association, have, with increasing volume, urged providers to create more inclusive care environments. The Joint Commission (recognized nationally as the gold standard of evaluation of patient safety and care) has recently added patient-centered communication standards to specifically prohibit discrimination based on sexual orientation, gender identity, and gender expression and to ensure access to a support person of the patient’s choice. Health care should not to treat you “regardless of ” who you are, but affirm who you are and support you becoming the healthiest you can be. As the environment shifts to recognize and address the needs of the whole community, it is still vital that we as individuals diligently ask for what we need.
Life insurance is one of the kindest gifts someone can give their loved ones. In fact, 75 percent of Americans say the main reason to buy life insurance is because you love your partner and family. Below are six important tips to make the process smoother, eliminating frustrating false starts and unnecessary bumps in the road.
Why do I need life insurance, really?
What is your most variable asset? Well, your most valuable asset is YOU. Your income helps guarantee that your partner and family’s lifestyle is maintained—that, each and every month, the money is in the checking account to pay the mortgage, auto and other loans, buy clothes and put food on the table. Life insurance is designed to provide your loved ones with financial security in the event of the unthinkable.
But I am young and single. Why do I need it?
If anything happens to you, some education loans and other debts may be buried with you. However, many education loans are taken out in the names of other family members, and life insurance can help protect your family members from this obligation and final expenses as well. More importantly, life insurance purchased today can protect your future insurability. It is even possible to lock in the premium rate for life. Premiums at issue are lower for younger men and women, increasing each year. However, you can ‘freeze’ those rates at the age of issue.
How can I figure out the coverage I need?
The easiest way is to simply take your annual salary and multiply by eight. You may also use readily available tools like a calculator (Life-
Happens.org/life-insurance-needscalculator). But talking to a financial professional who understands your situation may be the best way to make your final decision.
What type of policy is right for me?
How can I find the right provider?
Check out the extended version of this article on BaltimoreGayLife. com to learn the difference between Term Life and Whole Life.
You want to make sure you choose a company you can rely on to be around for as long as you’ll need your coverage, and that makes wise and stable investments. Make sure the company and your financial representative understands what you need. Here are some of key issues they should know: • Issues specifically related to same-sex couples and their family • Gender reassignment and underwriting • Estate planning strategies for same sex couples and domestic partnership
Can I afford it?
Most consumers needing life insurance don’t buy it because they think it’s too expensive. I’d love to show you how affordable life insurance truly is. See the extended article on BaltimoreGayLife.com and for more visit LifeHappens.org/ can-you-insure-your-love.
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THURSDAY, NOV. 1
SATURDAY, NOV. 3
FRIDAY, NOV. 9
The Burlesque Assassins
Married and Counting
Revivals at The Charles
In support of the Civil Marriage Protection and Dream Acts. FREE • 5pm Friends Meetinghouse • 5116 N. Charles HomewoodFriends.org
The love story of two men on a remarkable adventure. $5-10 • 7:30pm The Patterson • 3134 Eastern Ave. CreativeAlliance.org
Hip Hop Night at Club Hippo
Potty Time Ladies’ Room or Gents’? Boys’ or Girls’… or Both? Which is the “wrong” facility? And just what are we doing in there? For her book Queering Bathrooms: Gender, Sexuality, and the Hygienic Imagination, Sheila Cavanaugh interviewed 100 LGBT and/or intersex people to explore their relationships with public “restrooms.” Now, Towson University’s Center for Student Diversity, Housing, and Residence Life, the Department of Theater Arts, and Iron Crow Theatre Company present a staged reading of the subjects’ responses—verbatim. “For some people public bathrooms are a safe haven, but for others a source of confusion,” Iron Crow’s Katie Ellen Simmons-Barth told Baltimore’s City Paper, “Towson just created gender-neutral bathrooms and they are looking into genderneutral housing, so we thought we’d help them facilitate the discussion with this play.”
Get your dance on. Every Thursday Evening Reduced cover before 11pm. Club Hippo • 1 W. Eager St. ClubHippo.com
Escandalo Presents “Day of the Dead”
Monthly Latin Party honors the dead with a zombie-themed dancefest. $6 • 9pm Grand Central Nightclub 1001/1003 N. Charles St. CentralStationPub.com
FRIDAY, NOV. 2 Sugar’s First Friday Fundraiser
10% of sales donated to local nonprofit. 6-9pm • Sugar • 927 West 36th St. SugartheShop.com
Grammy-award winner’s latest tour. $58-103 • 8pm Music Center at Strathmore 5301 Tuckerman Ln. • North Bethesda Strathmore.org
LGBTQ running/walking club. Every Saturday Morning 8:45am • Brunch 10am Panera Bread • 3600 Boston St. BaltimoreFrontrunners.org
1955 Antonioni film, Le Amiche (“The Girlfriends”) $7.50 • 11:30am The Charles Theatre • 1711 N. Charles St. TheCharles.com
Photo by Timothy White
It’s Whoopi. Live. Need we say more? $55-100 • 8pm Lyric • 140 W Mount Royal Ave. LyricOperaHouse.com
BLADEAF’s 20th Anniv. Banquet
Celebrate the world’s first local Deaf Leather Organization. $30-55 • 1-5pm Best Western Hotel and Conf. Center 5625 O’Donnell St. BLADeaf.com
All good things must come to end, so don’t miss the LAST dance! $25 • 8pm Holiday Inn • 9615 Deereco • Timonium BrasMaryland.com
John Travolta and John Waters
MONDAY, NOV. 5 Karaoke with Nikki Cox
Sing your heart out. Every Monday and Tuesday night Grand Central Nightclub 1001/1003 N. Charles St. CentralStationPub.com
Hosted by Mr. Mid-Atlantic Leather Sir, SIR EDD. Every Tuesday Evening 9pm • Baltimore Eagle • 2022 N. Charles TheBaltimoreEagle.com
Networking, socializing, recognition, education, and FUN! $20-125 • Thru Nov. 4 Wyndham Baltimore Peabody Court, Triple L, and Club Hippo MML.CommandMC.org
SATURDAY, NOV. 10
Potluck dinner, flashlight walk in the woods. Bring Dish. 6pm • Druid Hill Park bit.ly/RiZvMl
Election Day – Vote FOR Question 6!
Mr. Maryland Leather 2012 & COMMAND MC XXIV Run
A new film with live opening by Sticky Buns Burlesque. $10-15 • 8pm The Patterson • 3134 Eastern Ave. CreativeAlliance.org
BRAS Last Dance: Just Us Gals (JUGS) Throwback Dance
TUESDAY, NOV. 6
QUEER BATHROOM MONOLOGUES: A STAGED READING
By Sheila Cavanaugh Presented by Iron Crow Theatre Monday, November 12 7:30 pm• FREE! Mainstage Theatre, Center for the Arts at Towson University 8000 York Rd. Towson, MD 21252 T www.towson.edu/artscalendar
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WEDNESDAY, NOV. 7 Gay BINGO!
Cash prizes and progressive jackpot. Drink specials, appetizers, and raffles. Every Wednesday Evening Benefits GLCCB • 8:30pm Club Hippo • 1 W. Eager St. 410.547.0018 • ClubHippo.com
John Travolta & John Waters A unique tribute to Hollywood legend John Travolta. $75-300 • 7pm MICA Brown Center 1300 West Mt. Royal Ave. MDFilmFest.com
Ani DiFranco with Pearl And The Beard
See the “Little Folksinger” live. $40 • 8pm 9:30 Club • 815 V St. N.W. • Wash., D.C. 930.com
“Take Ten” ShipMates of Baltimore Club Night
Drink specials, raffle, Wagon of Cheer tickets and more. 9pm-Midnight Triple L • 227 W. Chase St. ShipmatesClub.com
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SHE Productions Presents REHAB Get clean the 2nd Saturday of the month. 21+ • $5 • 9pm Grand Central Disco and Sapphos 1001 N. Charles St. Facebook.com/sheproductions
SUNDAY, NOV. 11 Girls with Guitars
LeAnn Rimes and others raise awareness for Susan G. Komen for The Cure® $32-100 • 5:30pm Hippodrome Theatre • 12 N Eutaw St. France-MerrickPAC.com
MONDAY, NOV. 12 Interfaith Fairness Coalition Mtg.
Organizations, associations, LGBTQIA individuals and allies. FREE • 3pm First Unitarian Church • 12 W. Franklin St. FirstUnitarian.net
Award-winning Irish novelist/journalist. FREE • 8pm Goucher College Kraushaar Auditorium 1021 Dulaney Valley Rd. Goucher.edu
TUESDAY, NOV. 13 Rainbow Youth Alliance of Howard County
Support for LGBTQ teens and allies. Owen Brown Interfaith Center 7246 Cradlerock Way • Columbia 410.280.9047 • firstname.lastname@example.org PFLAGMD.org
Rainbow Youth Alliance of Baltimore County
Support for LGBTQ teens and allies. FREE • 7:00-9:00pm Towson Unitarian Universalist Church 1710 Dulaney Valley Rd. RYABaltimoreCounty@gmail.com PFLAGBaltimore.org
Howard Co. PFLAG Monthly Mtg.
For parents & friends of LGBTQ children. FREE • 7:30pm Owen Brown Interfaith Center 7246 Cradlerock Way • Columbia PFLAGMD.org
Works on gender, technology, empathy, and animal sentience. FREE • 6pm MICA Main Building Room 110 1300 W. Mount Royal Ave. FYI.MICA.edu
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WEDNESDAY, NOV. 14
MONDAY, NOV 19
TUESDAY, NOV. 27
PFLAG Howard County Parent Forum
Rainbow Youth Alliance of Howard County
(See listing under Nov. 7)
Meets every other Wednesday. Registration required. FREE • 7pm Equality Maryland • 1201 S. Sharp St. Owen@EqualityMaryland.org
Group for parents of LGBTQ children interested in support or helping others. Meets on the third Monday of each month. FREE • 7:30-9pm Owen Brown Interfaith Center 7246 Cradlerock Way • Columbia PFLAGMD.org
Charm City Volleyball Wednesday Social Play
TUESDAY, NOV. 20
GEM Gender Empowerment MD
LGBT volleyball organization. Most Wednesday Evenings $3-30 • 6:30-9:30 Mt Royal Rec. Center 137 McMechen St. VolleyBaltimore.org
FRIDAY, NOV. 16 Olivia Newton-John
Pop icon, star of Grease and Xanadu, and four-time Grammy winner. $38-$78 • 8pm The Music Center at Strathmore 5301 Tuckerman Ln. • North Bethesda Strathmore.org
SATURDAY, NOV. 17 Charm City Roller Girls
November Double Header $5-25 • 5:30-10pm Du Burns Arena • 1301 S. Ellwood Ave. CharmCityRollerGirls.com
Mid-Atlantic Leather Sir, boy, Women, and Bootblacks Night
ALL are welcome 9pm Baltimore Eagle • 2022 N. Charles St. TheBaltimoreEagle.com
Transgender Day of Remembrance Candlelight Vigil & Memorial Service (See p. 16 for event details)
WEDNESDAY, NOV. 21 Gay BINGO!
(See listing under Nov. 7)
THURSDAY, NOV. 22
For parents & friends of LGBTQ children. FREE • 5pm St. Paul’s United Church of Christ 17 Bond St. • Westminster PFLAGWCC.org
The hottest MALE/MALE Spanking Party north of DC! FREE • 4-8pm Baltimore Eagle • 2022 N. Charles St. TheBaltimoreEagle.com
Support and Q&A for parents of transgender kids. Meets on the 4th Tuesday of every month. FREE • 7:30-9pm Owen Brown Interfaith Center 7246 Cradlerock Way • Columbia email@example.com • PFLAGBaltimore.org
PFLAG Baltimore County General Meeting
For parents & friends of LGBTQ children. FREE • 7pm Towson Unitarian Universalist Church 1710 Dulaney Valley Rd. PFLAGBaltimore.org
The life of a fun-loving, wealthy eccentric woman abruptly changes. $16-20 • 8pm • Thru 12/23 Spotlighters Theater • 817 Saint Paul St. Spotlighters.org
BazaART Preview Party and Sale Get the first shot prior to Saturday’s BAZAART extravaganza. $10-20 • 5:30pm American Visionary Art Museum 800 Key Hwy. AVAM.org
Million Dollar Quartet Million Dollar Quartet Opens
Westminster PFLAG Meeting
Parents of Transgender Kids Support Group
Charm City Volleyball Sunday Competitive & Scrimmage Play
A lively discussion and hands-on skill-building. FREE • 1:30-4:30pm firstname.lastname@example.org • BESS-MD.org
(See listing under 11/13)
FRIDAY, NOV. 23
SATURDAY, NOV. 24
BESS submissive & slaves SIG
Rainbow Youth Alliance of Baltimore County
SUNDAY, NOV. 18 LGBT volleyball organization. Most Sundays $3-30 • 10am-1pm Volleyball House 5635 Furnace Ave. • Elkridge VolleyBaltimore.org
(See listing under Nov. 13)
(See listing under Nov. 3)
Revivals at The Charles
1951 Alfred Hitchcock thriller, Strangers on a Train. $7.50 • 11:30am The Charles Theatre • 1711 N. Charles St. TheCharles.com
AVAM’s BazaART Holiday Marketplace
Get a head start on holiday shopping. FREE • 10am-5pm American Visionary Art Museum 800 Key Hwy. AVAM.org
Musical about the only recording session with Elvis Presley, Johnny Cash, Jerry Lee Lewis and Carl Perkins. 8pm • $30-85 Hippodrome Theatre • 12 N. Eutaw St. France-MerrickPAC.com
WEDNESDAY, NOV. 28 Gay BINGO!
(See listing under Nov. 7)
GEM Gender Empowerment MD (See listing under Nov. 14)
SUNDAY, NOV. 25 Rise Up
Monthly meetings to explore women's spirituality. FREE • 12:45-2:15pm First Unitarian Church of Baltimore 12 W. Franklin St. FirstUnitarian.net
Bus Stop Opens
Eight strangers wait out a snowstorm. $20-56 • 8pm • Thru 12/23 CENTERSTAGE • 700 N. Calvert St. Centerstage.org
BMA's Contemporary Wing Reopens MULTIPLE LGBT ARTISTS SHOWCASED THROUGHOUT BY KRISTI METZGER The much anticipated reopening of the contemporary wing of the Baltimore Museum of Art (BMA) takes place Nov. 18. Adorning the 16 renovated and renewed galleries will be a collection of American and international art from the past six decades including the works of LGBT artists such as Andy Warhol, Jasper Johns, Robert Rauschenberg, and Zoe Leonard. Also of LGBT interest is Sarah Oppenheimer, Wade Guyton and Kelley Walker, and the arts collective General Idea. The revitalized contemporary wing will turn your idea of a museum visit upside down; gone are the days of just standing back and observing. The BMA will introduce two new interactive galleries encouraging visitors to explore, create, connect, and share through a variety of creative activities and multimedia features. Many are eagerly anticipating the wing’s reopening: “The Contemporary Wing reopening is an opportunity to experience the great works in our collection in a new and fresh way and see them alongside new acquisitions that speak to the art of the moment,” Curator Kristen Hileman says. “Johns and Rauschenberg were lovers and are being exhibited in the same gallery… coincidence?” says art historian Rebecca Wyeth, who is excited about the unveiling of works that have not been seen by the public in decades. One of BMA's employee says, “I think the most exciting aspect about the West Wing is seeing how all of these amazing artists can come together under one roof and tell so many different stories. The public will get to see old favorites as well as pieces that haven’t been exhibited in years. The Wing houses artwork from the 1950s to 2012, which is an awesome thing to see when they are exhibited side-by-side.” The big day comes on Sunday, Nov. 18 and is free to the public. There will be live PAGE 30
performances and demos as well as an opportunity to create your own art. Check out robotic demos and watch G.R.O.W. (Great Recycled Orchestra Workshop) jam out on their instruments made of repurposed materials.
BMA CONTEMPORARY WING REOPENING CELEBRATION
Sunday, November 18 11am–5pm • FREE Baltimore Museum of Art 10 Art Museum Dr. TArtBMA.org
BMA members will receive an exclusive invitation to Members Preview Week, November 13-17, featuring special tours, premier access, and more.
Andy Warhol • Self-Portrait
1986 • The Baltimore Museum of Art: Purchase with exchange funds from Bequest of Saidie A. May; and partial gift of The Andy Warhol Foundation for the Visual Arts, Inc. BMA 1994.37 ©2011 The Andy Warhol Foundation for the Visual Arts, Inc./Artists Rights Society (ARS), New York
Exterior of BMA's Contemporary Wing
Photo courtesy of Baltimore Museum of Art
Robert Rauschenberg • Honorarium (Spread)
1981 • The Baltimore Museum of Art: Gift of Robert and Jane Meyerhoff, Phoenix, Maryland • BMA 1981.44 © Rauschenberg Estate / Licensed by VAGA, New York, NY
Sarah Oppenheimer installing permanent collection work at The Baltimore Museum of Art GAY LIFE MAGAZINE