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GREAT DEBATE

TO CHANGE OR NOT TO CHANGE... that is the question To paraphrase Shakespeare: “What’s in a name? After all, a rose by any other name would smell as sweet...” Nubian Bride’s editor, Claudia Pillay, and her fairly new husband, Mujahid Padayachy, go head to head over the issue of name changing and tell us how they resolved it

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really love my husband and he is one of the best men I know. Kind, thoughtful, understanding and extremely generous with awesome legs, there’s nothing he wouldn’t do for me. He also knows how to work the business end of a mop and is a dab hand at the washing! So while he’s a bit of a sports-crazy jock (my exact opposite) he’s still highly evolved. Which is why the battle of changing my name is not one I expected to fight. So when my reasonable, understanding, laid-back husband reverted to some caveman like behaviour, it was a surprise. All this sudden rearing up into an alpha-

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male pose missed were the words, “Me Caveman, you Mrs Caveman!” It seems that after the wedding I was going to be Mrs Mujahid Padayachy, no questions asked. And while I was eager to wed and finally ready to check the ‘Mrs’ box, I knew I wasn’t ready to change my name. “Why should I?” I sulked like a teenager not allowed to go to the dance. So what if this is the conventional way? For more than three decades I was Claudia Pillay, journalist, reader, shopaholic, shoe lover and good friend to many – was I ready to throw that all in and become the unknown Mrs Padayachy? I wanted to join my life with this man and proudly stand next to I wanted to join my life with him as his wife, but did that mean I had to lose myself entirely? this man and proudly stand I considered double-barreling next to him as his wife, but but being Claudia Claire Pillaydid that mean I had to lose Padayachy (CCPP) was not an option. Somewhat passionately myself entirely?

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Nubian Bride Issue 9  

Nubian Bride is the only bridal publication in the industry that caters for African women. African brides, in all their diversity, celebrate...

Nubian Bride Issue 9  

Nubian Bride is the only bridal publication in the industry that caters for African women. African brides, in all their diversity, celebrate...