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Barbara Cox The Book of Mormon Returns to San Diego


The City: Top to Bottom Movies: The Big Sick Eat This! The Nolen Bookwatch: Death Goes Overboard


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The after glow

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NOW THAT EVERYONE IS EXPERIENCING the post-Pride after glow, we should reflect on what has happened in the last year. In 2014, I was so happy about the gains that the LGBT community had made that I wrote a message about what 2024 might look like for our community. I was giddy with the possibilities for the LGBT community in terms of marriage and adoption. But I also cautioned about the total assimilation of the LGBT community; the loss of the gayborhood and potential LGBT gathering places. Now that all seems like folly. What a difference three years make. President Trump has taken our nation backward in terms of rights for all minority groups including the LGBT community. GLAAD has a great study on 25 things that Trump has done that negatively affect our community. I made the mistake that many in the African American community made after the passage of the Civil Rights Act of 1964. Some African Americans thought that discrimination was over. Other African Americans thought “we’ll see.” We’ll see won the day. It is clear now that the “we’ll see” folks have carried the day about the future of LGBT freedom. There is still a struggle to maintain the rights that we have

worked so hard to achieve. The Trump presidency highlights how fragile our gains are and that they can be rescinded or taken away at any moment. Why is there a Black Lives Matter movement 53 years after the passage of the Civil Rights Act of 1964? The simple answer is in America equality is a journey with no pre-determined destination. The LGBT community should look to the African American struggle to understand that we must remain vigilant. What will happen to our community if another conservative Supreme Court justice is appointed by President Trump? Could they overturn marriage equality? The abolition of sodomy laws? I hate to beat a dead horse, but once again I offer the opportunity for any LGBT Republican to defend their vote for President Trump. Are you shocked by his horrible policies against our community? Did you not think that he would appoint conservative Supreme Court justices? Oh, that’s right, he told you. Your hate of Hillary Clinton has resulted in fundamental damage to our community. Please defend it. Of course, I would also welcome those who want to express their regret for their vote. Please make your editorial 500 words or less. ❖

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Recalling the first Pride parade Dear Editor, Reading about Pride always reminds me of this wondrous episode: Many years ago I went to work at the brand new SD AIDS Project as the director of volunteer and chaplain services and made strong connections with the clients as well as the volunteers; for many I was the “surrogate” mom who accepted them totally after some of their families had

disowned them after they came out. I also took my grandson and granddaughter to work at times to keep things feeling homey. We marched in the very first Pride parade! Along the parade route behind barriers guarded by police were the “fundies” shouting all kinds of insults at us. My 6-year-old grandson Robin left my side and walked to the barriers shaking his finger at the hecklers: “That’s not very nice – these

are my friends!” For one stunned moment there was silence, and the policeman at that spot gave Robin a high five! He proudly came back to us and we marched to the end, with his dear friends praising him and thanking him all the way! No radicals can shut out kindness and love! And, we worked closely back then with Nicole; tell him hello. ❖ ONA RITA YUFE

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SAN DIEGO’S BIGGEST CIVIC EVENT, the annual Pride parade and festival drew record attendances this past weekend. According to San Diego LGBT Pride over 230,000 people witnessed 253 contingents marching in the parade. Contingent participation increased by 50 percent over 2016, with new additions such as the Black Panther Party, Interfaith and The San Diego Convention Center. “This weekend saw over 200,000 people descend on Hillcrest to send a message of unity,” said Chloe Janda, public relations manager for San Diego Pride. This year’s unifying Pride theme, Allied in Action: United for Justice, helped to bring people out in huge numbers this year according to the organizers. “We are hoping that Pride can bring the entire community together,” Bianca Burt, cochair of the San Diego LGBT Pride Board told the Union Tribune. “There’s more that unites us than divides us. We are open to hearing from parts of the community that feel left out.” During the parade the San Diego chapter of No Justice, No Pride held a peaceful rally at Sixth and Upas together with a native honor song in memory of the 17 trans women of color who have been murdered this year. Despite the pre-Pride rhetoric the huge parade went ahead with very few reported problems. As the parade ended people headed to the festival site in Balboa Park to enjoy dozens of booths and a jam-packed music festival headlined by legendary group En Vogue. Commenting on the crowds Fernando Lopez, director of operations for San Diego Pride said, “Ticket sales are up 20 percent from last year. We’re on track to have 48,000.” The Salvation Army, a Buddhist group and Narcotics Anonymous were among the booths set up at the Pride Festival and volunteers say they had a good turnout of people interested in hearing more about them. This year was the first time the Salvation Army charity sponsored a booth at the festival, said communications manager Rachael Fowler. “A lot of people have been pleasantly surprised to see us here,” said Fowler, adding the group had “a lot of good conversations

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with people” at the festival. “People think the Salvation Army hates gay people. We don’t,” said Fowler. “It is in our mission statement that we do not discriminate.” People curious about Buddhism sought information from the booth sponsored by the Soka Gakkai International USA, a sect of Nichiren Buddhism. “I think people are searching for answers they can’t find anywhere else,” said Rich Macklin, a volunteer. “(Buddhism) is a philosophy that becomes a daily practice. It unlocks your highest potential.” Another volunteer, Patricia Howard, said, “We decided to come back this year at the festival after several years of not having a table. We have had quite a few discussions, actual dialogues,” said Howard, adding that people “are seeking some type of solution.” A table by Narcotics Anonymous had literature about dozens of daily meetings all over the county. The two people at the table said a number of festival-goers expressed interest in recovery for either themselves or others.

Art Garcia, the enrollment coordinator for the Mankind Project, said this was the fourth year the organization had a table at the festival. The organization has 48-hour weekend retreats for men only that “can transform your world as a man.” The literature says the “new warrior training adventure is a modern male initiation and self-examination.” The Mankind Project’s next retreat is Oct. 20-22 and is located in a mountainous area. Also with a table was the California Men’s Gathering that is more of a social organization with movie nights, pool parties, barbecues and educational workshops for mostly gay men. The literature says they are “connecting men at the heart” for personal growth. As the last festival-goers made their way home on Sunday San Diego LGBT Pride summed up the weekend with a post on Facebook which read: “2017 Pride is in the books, but our work together is far from over. Let’s keep the message of this year’s theme going until next Pride! Allied in Action: United for Justice!” ❖

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San Diego Trans Pride event educates, empowers, entertains BY MELANIE YARBOROUGH (NEUTRAL CORNER)

San Diego’s fourth annual Trans Pride, which took place July 14, re-affirmed the local transgender community’s growing self-confidence and continuing advocacy work. Sean Redmond of the Stonewall Citizen’s Patrol, who provided security for the event, estimated attendance at over 550 people. Organizing committee Chair Veronica Zerrer of Neutral Corner attributes a big part of the event’s success to its being “family-affirming”. It honors those families who give love and support to trans people, but at the same time challenges those families whose support is tepid or non-existent. Significantly, Trans Pride drew in not only trans children and their parents, but many other local youth along with their own families and friends. The event featured a stage show where a


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number of activists and others entertained with song and commentary. Andrea Jenkins, writer-poet-performance artist-activist, returned to San Diego after her January poetry reading at Hillcrest’s LGBT Center. She shared some of her provocative and heartfelt songs and verses onstage. She spoke of trans community pride, connecting with friends, telling

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one’s story with a whole heart, standing strong for independent expression and the right for people to be who they are, and making life better for the future. Miss Venice (Pepper Price) led the crowd in the classic civil rights era song “We Shall Overcome”. San Diego’s Spanish language group Transgenero 2000 was also on hand, their booth prominently displaying the Mexican flag. Representative Sandra Ramirez said “It’s an honor to show our flag … It shows where we come from. It unites our being trans and our being Mexican”. Transgenero’s presence at the event underscored the integral part Latina/o transwomen and transmen play in San Diego’s LGBT community. In many ways, incarcerated transpeople are the most invisible members of the trans-community. They face conditions most people can’t even imagine. One particular booth at the event invited members of the public to write


general letters of support to transgender prison inmates. (The organization is also doing significant work to bring their issues to national attention). Many local organizations and professionals staffed resource booths. San Diego’s transgender community was represented by The Neutral Corner Inc., Transfamily Support Services, Transforming Families, Trans Narratives archival and oral history recorder, Transgender Americans Veterans Association and the T-Spot resource clearinghouse. Social service and advocacy organizations included PFLAG, the Foster Youth Mentor Program, Child Welfare Services, the Metropolitan Community Church, the Human Rights Campaign and the Equal Opportunity Employment Commission. The psych and health care community was represented by Darlene Tando LCSW, Jennifer Rickard LMFT, Family Health Centers, and Christie’s Place HIV/AIDS education and support. Other groups in attendance included Auntie Claire’s electrolysis and Jaxbug studios. And rounding it all out, Trans Pride’s special guests from both ends of the county: the North County’s LGBT Resource Center’s Gender Advocacy Project (GAP) and South Bay Pride. At the end of the event, an estimated 200 people participated in a peaceful march from Balboa Park to the LGBT flag in Hillcrest, the site of the Spirit of Stonewall rally. Three marchers led the parade carrying the flags of the United States and Mexico, with the trans flag in the center. People carried signs that read “Proud Parent of a Trans Child,” and “Ban Transphobia.” Rainbow flags were flown, transsupportive T-shirts were worn and chanting echoed up Sixth Street. Upon entering the Spirit of Stonewall rally site, the marchers were greeted with a thunderous cheer and sustained applause. The San Diego Police Department provided an appreciated march escort, as well as a security presence at the event. One prominent participant was 7-year-old trans girl Vanessa Barilla, who served as the high spirited co-mistress of ceremonies at the stage presentations. Her mother Trish says, “My daughter is unapologetically authentic” and adds “Being the mother of a trans little girl inspires me to be a better mother every day … She’s my reason for being”. As the next generation of the transgender movement, young Vanessa is arguably the San Diego trans community’s own reason for being as well. ❖ July 20, 2017 ❖ San Diego




The safe spaces that shape us IF YOU ASK ALMOST ANYONE IN OUR community about where they first felt safe to be authentically queer, they can remember. For some, it was a place, for others, a person; for me, it was Gettysburg, Pa. I have always been a blend of nerdy and artistic, two qualities to which I am happy to lay claim, leading to my primary extracurricular activity throughout high school being yearbook. By the time I was a senior, I was editor-in-chief and the drive to produce the perfect book was ingrained in my existence. I, like many of my fellow staffers, lived and breathed everything yearbook, which included attending conferences to grow our skills and camps to develop ideas and connections. Gettysburg Yearbook Experience, or GYE for short, was held at Gettysburg College in Gettysburg, Pa. Most can acknowledge the meaning of this historic town by conjuring a vague memory from high school history class.


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Despite being located in the North, this town felt South. The highlights included a diner backing up to the train tracks, the 7-11 where we celebrated Free Slurpee Day (as the camp dates fell in early July), and the famous battlefield, complete with historical re-enactments. There was a motorcycle convention, or maybe

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it was a parade, in town that weekend too. It was the least qu e e r- app e ar i ng space from the outside looking in, but it quickly became my sanctuary. It was the summer before college, and I had just come out, though only having shared this realization with exactly two people. I initially saw my upcoming time as a directors’ assistant at GYE as the space where I could test out this new label with a high degree of anonymity. When I arrived, the other DAs, a nickname we proudly wore, awed me. There was a staunch juxtaposition in my mind between who they were and who my high school peers had been – they were so alternative. They were creatives, unabashedly sporting their originality outwardly, confident and self-assured. I idolized them. Feeling otherwise plain, I wore my newfound sexual label with pride, liberated by the sense of otherness it gave me. I vividly remember the moment another DA told me that she, too, was bisexual. We were sitting in the cafeteria, eating lunch. I was already crushing hard on her, so when she shared her mirroring identity, it clicked together two cogs in my mind that started churning my queer existence: I had a crush on a girl, and this girl was also attracted to women. Despite her expressing no interest in return, it was enough to give tangibility to my identity: my attraction could one day translate into the possibility of attraction back. A few of my fellow DAs knew about my crush, and they listened as I gushed and laughed right alongside me as I acted a complete fool over her. It was a beautiful existence, being authentic without any judgment or expectation. It was the kind of existence so many of us strive for, the kind of safety the world too often falls short of. While my days at GYE totaled less than two weeks, their significance was immeasurable. It was the first space in which I was accepted as and felt free to be queer – and that is irreplaceable. ❖



#Resist complacency ON MONDAY, SENS. MIKE LEE AND Jerry Moran went on record as the third and fourth votes against the Senate’s latest version of Obamacare, denying Republicans the 50 votes they needed to proceed and effectively killing the bill. By Tuesday morning, Majority Leader Mitch McConnell announced he would introduce the repeal bill passed by the Senate in 2015 and vetoed by President Obama. Tuesday night, three moderate senators appeared to end that plan as well. McConnell and President Trump vowed to soldier on, but what if Obamacare repeal is really dead? Health care has been the driving force of the #resistance in the past few months, particularly in the town hall meetings that swayed legislators like Moran. If repeal leaves page one, progressives will need other issues to keep the activism batteries charged through the midterms. For better or worse, there are many to choose from. The math doesn’t change. Any


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Senate legislation is dead if Democrats stay together and three Republicans defect. Tax Reform. At this point, many Republicans will be relieved to be moving on to tax reform. If gutting Medicaid is off the table, corporate tax cuts will require deficit spending, tax increases on the middle class, or fuzzy math. Keep the focus on how much the cuts benefit Trump and the wealthy over his own voters.

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The Border Wall. After a health care loss, Trump might see wall funding as the easiest win that would excite his base. Aggressive messaging on the positive economic impact of immigration might get some moderate votes and the Chamber of Commerce, while more conservative members might be swayed by the importance of keeping families together. Planned Parenthood. Don’t be surprised if defunding Planned Parenthood sneaks into tax reform or the new budget in the House. Make sure moderates like Sens. Susan Collins and Lisa Murkowski remember how bad that is for women’s health. The Travel Ban. The Supreme Court decided it might be legal. It’s still wrong. Russia. It appears the sins of the father have been repeated by the son. On Tuesday, we learned the name of another person at Donald Trump Jr.’s meeting, and that Trump had an extra meeting with Russian President Vladimir Putin at the G20. The resistance should ensure that Congress keeps up the sanctions, their own investigations and support for Special Counsel Robert Mueller. Infrastructure. Trump will likely use infrastructure funding to line the pockets of big corporations, largely at the expense of his own voters. Demand that reform create union jobs and living wages. Finally, we can keep up the pressure on health care. Legislation the #resistance can support is a bipartisan effort to fix problems with the Affordable Care Act while enhancing coverage and blocking any effort by President Trump to let it wither on the vine. ❖



Some of San Diego’s No Justice, No Pride voices “… It’s also easy to look at California and think ‘We’re completely free here.’ But as a trans woman, I do not feel any less threatened going to the bathroom of my gender than I would in most other states … Just because I’m in California, I do not feel I get to act exactly as I choose. Even if there’s somewhere in the California rulebooks a law that says certain bathrooms need to be gender neutral or people can go to the bathrooms they want to go to, that’s not going to keep a person from possibly acting aggressively towards me.” “Similarly,” Adam added. “It’s easy to look at some of the things that have happened to black folks in places like Ferguson and say ‘We’re in California, and that really couldn’t happen here.’ But, if you look at Alfred Olango, just a little bit east in El Cajon, we are really no different than any other place in the country that is experiencing oppression along intersectional lines.” “Taking a cue from [Washington D.C.’s No Justice, No Pride],” stated Adrian, “we decided to do something similar here in order to bring about awareness of the erasure of black trans women in the community honoring Marsha P. Johnson and Sylvia Rivera.” Both Adrian and Adam brought up the corporatization of Pride, and both mentioned Wells Fargo, a San Diego Pride Supporting Partner.

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ON THE SATURDAY OF SAN DIEGO’S Pride weekend, there was a protest of about 50 people at noon, at Sixth and Upas, organized by the San Diego Chapter of No Justice, No Pride. I spoke to Adrian Scott (pronouns: they, them, theirs), a protest organizer, and Adam Powers (pronouns: she, her, hers), a protest participant, about it. I wanted to get a sense of what people involved with the local No Justice, No Pride protest were about in their own words, hearing what they’re for and against, and why. And because this is a column in large part about the transgender community, I wanted to hear from some of the transgender voices who were involved with the protest. And, I thought I’d share. “We are the San Diego chapter of No Justice, No Pride,” said Adrian. “Locally started by people within the community that would like to see change and awareness brought to Pride events – just the seriousness of oppression and injustices that occur within our community and in San Diego.” The protest sign Adam highlighted: “The first Pride Was a Riot”. And, she added that many of the signs were a reminder of what the roots of Pride are, and what Pride stands for. “I think that the oppression that we’re currently experiencing is a very intersectional oppression,” said Adam, “It’s very easy to look at places like Hillcrest; it’s very easy to look at things like the Pride parade and think that the checkbox of queer freedom has been checked. And, I think that checkbox thinking is incredibly dangerous because it inspires you to stop acting; it disincentives you from continuing to dig into the problem.”

“Being sponsored by Wells Fargo,” Adrian said, “they are the number one monetary contributor to DAPL [the Dakota Access Pipeline].” “It’s rather strange to see our community celebrate organizations and companies like that,” Adrian added. “When they’re killing us, they’re killing our land, they’re killing our people – they continue to target black and brown people.” In the near future I’ll likely be sitting down with No Justice, No Pride activists and writing about their take on police in queer spaces. Just from talking to Adrian and Adam, I can see that’s a column in and of itself. San Diego’s No Justice, No Pride asks of San Diego Pride were previously printed in a letter to the editor ( These are worth a look. Adam summed up why she protested: “I was really glad to be able to come together with a bunch of my activist friends and contribute to the Pride atmosphere in a way I thought that was really necessary.” ❖

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Freedom to Marry board chair, Cal Western Law vice dean retires San Diego’s loss of Barbara Cox is Wisconsin’s gain

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BARBARA COX HAS SEEN THE FUTURE. And while the mid-term outlook for marriage equality, one of the most consequential achievements of her professional lifetime, may be shadowed in the arguably dimmer light of recent political developments, according to the California Western School of Law vice dean, the U.S. legal system and our system of government always offer a silver lining. “I just can’t believe that, even if a future Supreme Court or a constitutional amendment would say, [to same-sex couples] ‘you can’t get married’ in the future – I mean that would be terrible and we’d have to fight back on that – but I can’t believe that people can be ‘unmarried’ by a law,” Cox said during a recent interview in her transitional office on CWSL’s downtown San Diego campus. The law school professor, faculty administrator, civil rights activist and Freedom to Marry Board chair, has engaged at the grassroots level in the constitutional aspects of marriage across four decades. In fact it’s probably fair to say the (recently named emerita) vice dean is among the 25 or so most instrumental leaders and organizers responsible for bringing forth the advent of marriage equality in the United States. “I got involved in marriage equality in 1983,” Cox said, recalling the year after which the Equal Rights Amendment (ERA) failed to be ratified by a required 38 states. It was both a crushing blow and call to arms to this unapologetic progressive. “Phyllis Shlafly, you know, said [the ERA] was going to lead to ‘gay marriage,’” she said. While Shlafly and people like her who despised the idea of equal rights for LGBTQ folks won many battles, Barbara Cox and legions of equality allies can now say we’ve won the war for marriage. “I really do believe in the American system,” said Cox, who doubts an amendment abolishing marriage equality would ever come by way of a constitutional convention. “You know, it sounds really trite, even 12

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[whereas] at the same time I don’t stand up at ball games for the national anthem because I think I have the right – and so I exercise my right; not a popular thing in San Diego – I think [a constitutional convention] hasn’t happened because everybody’s afraid that the other side, or a different side, or a different belief will carry the day.” Although an unabashed optimist with unshakeable faith in the system the founding founders laid out, Barbara Cox isn’t leaving her office at Cal Western looking back at America through rose-colored lenses. One worrisome and perpetually disappointing blind spot that the system she ultimately trusts, yet seems mindlessly slow if not willfully obstinate about improving centers on gender. “I just think the fact that the Constitution doesn’t protect women as women is – you know, it protects religion; it protects race; it protects color and nationality, but it doesn’t protect sex,” Cox lamented. “All the others are right there in the Constitution or there as amendments. Protection for women is only in a statute. I mean it’s been interpreted as being in the Constitution, but …”

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The alliance of Barbara Cox as board chair and Evan Wolfson as executive director of Freedom to Marry resulted in several rapidfire strokes of branding and programming genius that helped move more Americans to support marriage equality. One example of their genius was the decision to promise partner organizations, equality activists and other allies that once its singular purpose of securing equal access to two-partner marriage for all people in the United States irrespective of gender had been achieved, Freedom To Marry would cease operations and disperse the bulk of its remaining funds among likeminded advocates. That assured previously existing organization that aiding the single-proposed Freedom to Marry wouldn’t be akin to aiding something what might otherwise have gone on as a “zombie-org” siphoning off donor resources and occupying competing spaces. “We gave almost $2 million to other gay rights and progressive organizations when we shuttered,” Cox said. “We also funded Evan [Wolfson] for a few years to document the history of the work for others to learn from our successes and failures so they wouldn’t have to repeat the same mistakes. The Oral History Project [at U.C. Berkeley] came out of that.” While Freedom to Marry’s board chair was always keen to defer the spotlight to her executive director (of whose voice and public image Cox was fiercely protective for she believed Wolfson, as the face of the organization, had always to be head-and-shoulders above the progressive-politics fray), the Cox-Wolfson collaboration was responsible for the creation of wildly effective messaging campaigns and partnerships. At least one of those partnership-and-messaging campaigns paid homage, however unspoken, to 1930s Associate Press editor, Byron Price’s and the late House Speaker, Thomas “Tip” O’Neill’s philosophy that “all politics is local.” “From small towns to big cities, America’s mayors know that including gay couples in the freedom to marry does nothing but strengthen families and communities for all,” Wolfson once said. Promulgating a partnership within the U.S.


Conference of Mayor’s by creating an adjunct group, Mayors for the Freedom to Marry, Barbara Cox’s work came full circle. Jerry Sanders, then mayor of her adopted hometown, San Diego, eventually became chair of the group. Comprised of top elected officials from cities across the United States who supported repealing or overturning the Defense of Marriage Act, former Mayor Sanders’ arrival on the marriage-equality scene a few years earlier had been dramatic. The conservative Republican was expected to veto his own city council’s vote in 2007 to support marriage equality. But instead of vetoing the city council resolution, the day the veto was expected, he instead announced that learning his daughter was a lesbian had changed his mind about marriage, and convinced him to oppose DOMA along with city legislators. “I see a lot of people who say it has helped change their minds too,” Sanders said in an interview he gave me in 2012. “I can’t tell you how good it felt when a local resident at Starbucks told me, ‘I felt all alone when my child said, ‘Dad I’m gay,’ but when I heard about your family and saw you say it’s OK to be gay, I felt I wasn’t alone.’” But perhaps the simplest yet most brilliant work toward securing the dream of state-recognized marriage for same-sex couples was the deliberate, persistent and vigilant “rebranding” that Cox and her Freedom to Marry cohorts performed on a daily basis both inside and outside of the LGBTQ community. The decision to persuade people to stop saying “gay marriage” or “same-sex” marriage was a momentous one, says Cox. It’s hard to imagine marriage equality having come to pass without it. Cox says the she and Evan Wolfson thought hard and talked a lot about getting the messaging right. She notes that similar language as “freedom to marry the person they love” was present in a previous case won along the way to winning marriage nationwide. It was used by Justice Anthony Kennedy, whose “swing vote” was crucial. “It was marriage,” Cox said. “Just marriage. We don’t want to get same-sex married; we just want to marry the person we love.” While Barbara Cox says she

won’t start a career in politics in Wisconsin, she is available to help equality-minded organizers, campaigns and any social-justice effort there. She is absolute about her lack of interest in running for political office. The fact that she won’t be running for office in Wisconsin doesn’t mean Barbara Cox is headed into an apolitical Wilderness. “We’re going to turn Wisconsin blue again,” she said. Wisconsinites Scott Walker and the Koch Brothers may not have Barbara Cox on their radar, but the activist cum law professor from California has a recipe for winning against those who would like to maintain the status quo – and she’s taking it to Wisconsin as her 30-year career at Cal Western School of Law comes to an end. “I’ll still be connected to the law school,” Cox said. “Peg and I made a donation for an LGBT law school scholarship. Cal Western has been amazingly supportive of me, of us, since I first came here in 1987. The law school was not horrified when the Daily Journal put ‘Lesbian Law School Dean Fights for Same-Sex Marriage’ on the front page.” Cox, who was one of three faculty who established the law school’s Diversity Committee, is proud of the progress the institution has made in terms of creating a diverse campus and opening access to students of color. “When I came here in 1987, we had five students

of color,” she said. “And now our student body is about 50-50 diverse and non-diverse.” Cox is both grateful and proud that Cal Western has supported her work to achieve marriage equality. She’s also proud that the law school’s own social justice efforts are exceptional. “We’ve been recognized by the federal government as one of only two law schools over the last several years that win the pro bono award consistently,” Cox said. “We really have tried to make sure that our California Innocence Project, our community law project, the New Media Rights project helps people …” “I’m going to miss this place and the people,” Cox said. “I’ll be back, but being here on a daily, weekly basis for 30 years has been a privilege.” ❖ A longer interview with Vice Dean Emerita Barbara Cox will appear in August at Cal Western School of Law’s Web site: In it, Cox shares a humorous anecdote about the reaction she got from a customer service representative at a rural Wisconsin utility when she put in her order letting the company know she and her wife would be moving to the area from San Diego. She also shares her impressions of Supreme Court Justice Anthony Kennedy, who visits the law school every year.

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2017 San Diego Pride notebook DID YOU KNOW THAT … from all over San Diego County? Did you Major General Matthew Beevers marched in know that over 18 youth from Iraq (ages 12our parade with the military contingent? That 17) toured the festival and 25 young people the Walmart contingent had over 400 employ- from 18 African countries also went to the fesees and families marching? That Ms. California tival and rally and many of their views 2017 waved throughout the parade at every- changed about homosexuality? That the Trans one? That the “Burning Man Festival” had a Pride Festival was bigger than ever and that space at the festival? That our popular Sheriff Kathie Moehlig (founder of Trans Families) Bill Gore had a recruiting booth that gave out got one of the largest cheers for her award and rainbow bands to everyso did Dr. Delores Jaone? Did you notice the cobs of The Center? bigger representation (Bravo to two outstandfrom the Asian Pacific ing women.) Islander community? That Pride Volunteer That the Black Panthers Coordinator Bob Leyh local chapter not only worked his butt off with marched in our parade hundreds of volunteers? but had a booth in the That Barbara Blake and festival? That City the GSDBA launched Council members Lorie their “Buy LGBT” camZapf and Chris Cate paign? That the front (with his beautiful wife) runner for County Suwalked the entire pa- Mayor Kevin Faulconer, Sheriff Bill Gore, pervisor Nathan rade, and Congressman Police Chief Shelley Zimmerman and a San Fletcher had huge banJuan Vargas almost Diego Police officer at the Pride parade ners hung out in over danced along the entire two dozen bars and route? That this is the first time the American businesses and his wife Lorena Gonzalez had Cancer Society had a contingent? That the two the best staff T-shirts in hot pink. (Runner-up most popular stages were the hip-hop and Todd Gloria in royal purple). Popular CouncilLatino ones? That Harrah’s Casino sponsored woman Georgette Gomez also got a huge the V.I.P. area all with free booze and beautiful crowd response. That the No Justice, No Pride lounging furniture? That Gloria Cruz gave one group had about 15 people attend their protest? of the most rousing speeches at the Spirit of (Thank you for not blocking the parade.) That Stonewall Rally and Pride Co-Chair Bianca Police Chief Shelley Zimmerman and the poBurt did an outstanding job emceeing? lice officer contingent received thunderous apNot only did our Mayor Kevin Faulconer plause the entire parade? Marching with the once again walk the entire parade, but became chief were LGBT police officers. the first San Diego mayor ever to wave a rainThat Sunday was my pal Sherman Menbow flag almost the entire route, receiving doza of the Caliph’s birthday and we celecheering applause? That once again the Rich’s brated by eating our way down the entire Nightclub float rocked and was the most festival? That 2018 possible mayoral candidate sought after venue to party at? That once again Assemblyman Brian Maienschein had a great Todd Gloria and Toni Atkins broke the record time and so did members of the Lincoln Club. for Pride parade spectators’ loudest applause That for the first time the Consul General of and cheers? That Parade Grand Marshall Rus- Mexico Marcela Celorio marched in the pasell Roybal cried with joy almost the entire pa- rade? That our new District Attorney Summer rade and Grand Marshall Susan Jester wore Stephan was well received? That America’s Got the exact same American Flag shirt that I wore Talent finalist Brian Justin Crum was kicked (she wore it better.) That San Diego made his- out of an Uber because the driver didn’t like tory being the first Pride parade in the nation him kissing his boyfriend? to be led by over 100 Interfaith leaders (pasAnd lastly, did you know that San Diego tors, rabbis, reverends, buddhist monks, etc.) Pride’s very own Fernando Lopez will be re14

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ceiving a Harvey Milk Leadership Award for his years of activism at the upcoming 2017 Nicky Awards?

The San Diego LGBTQ Latino Coalition Yes, after months of discussion with Latino leaders a new organization will be officially launched next month for LGBTQ activists. This is the long overdue San Diego LGBTQ Latino Coalition. The date and location of its first meeting will soon be announced and all Latinos will be invited. Organizers are Carolina Ramos, Fernando Lopez and I. Further information coming.

Pride Advisory Council and Parade awards Because of all the changes in the executive director position of San Diego Pride, the forming of the Community Advisory Council was put on hold. But now it will form and be officially established. One of my first recommendations will be the establishment of the Pride Parade Contingent Awards named after LGBTQ heroes. (The Imperial Court de San Diego has offered to underwrite the cost.) Also we will be discussing the issue about parade or march? Personally I would like marches for the next four years but I believe there could be a solid compromise … a Pride march (RESIST!) about a month before. The Pride Community Advisory Council will have a representative from all our LGTBQ organizations. ❖ NICOLEMRSANDIEGO@AOL.COM • an award-winning columnist since 1973 • a Latino and gay activist for more than 45 years • currently a city commissioner and has served the last seven mayors of San Diego • national board member of the Harvey Milk Foundation • chairman of the International Court Council of the USA, Canada and Mexico • named “Mayor of Hillcrest” by a City proclamation in 2013

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thursday, july 20 Subject To Change Subject To Change is Finest City Improv’s ensemble peg that fits in no hole and every hole at the same time. Described as “the gunslingers of improv” viewers are warned to refrain from blinking as what you see on stage will not be what it is, because everything becomes what it isn’t, and what it is, it wouldn’t be, and what it wouldn’t be, it would. You see?



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Dana John Gould is an American standup comedian, writer and actor who has been featured on HBO, Showtime and Comedy Central. The first episode of Gould’s own podcast, The Dana Gould Hour, was made available on iTunes Jan. 31, 2012. Recurring guests include comedians like Eddie Pepitone, and each episode revolves around a singular theme. Currently, a new episode of The Dana Gould Hour is released about every two months.

Dana Gould


Star Wars: The Force Awakens


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Join the San Diego Symphony inside their home at Copley Symphony Hall for a special concert of live music by the greatest soundtrack wizard of our time, John Williams. The concert will feature famous excerpts from Jurassic Park, Superman, Raiders of the Lost Ark, E.T. and more. And no John Williams concert would be complete without music from the Star Wars movies, including some selections from The Force Awakens! Copley Symphony Hall, 750 B Street in San Diego, 7:30 p.m., tickets from $25, 619-235-0804,

Hooray for Captain Spaulding! When a celebrated painting goes missing from Mrs. Rittenhouse’s fancy house party in honor of African explorer Captain Spaulding, her guests set out to find the thief in a series of madcap antics and exploits. Based on the original Marx Brothers Broadway hit and film classic, this adaptation of Animal Crackers is an outrageous, rollicking, laugh-out-loud musical comedy, complete with audience participation!

monday, july 24 Hermia & Helena

The American Comedy Company, 818B Sixth Ave. in San Diego, 8 p.m., tickets $16, 619-795-3858,

saturday, july 22 Raiders, Rebels and Supermen: The Music of John Williams

sunday, july 23 Animal Crackers

Cygnet Theatre, 4040 Twiggs St. in San Diego, 2 p.m., tickets $47, 619-337-1525,

Finest City Improv, 4250 Louisiana Street in San Diego, 9 p.m., tickets $10, 619-306-6047,

friday, july 21 Dana Gould

Animal Crackers Sunday at Cygnet Theatre


In Matías Piñeiro’s latest “Shakespeareads” – modern day stories inspired by the playwright’s heroines, a young translator moves to NYC from Buenos Aires to work on a translation of Shakespeare’s A Midsummer Night’s Dream. When she arrives, she finds herself distracted by a series of mysterious postcards, a young administrator who has caught her attention and a desire to explore certain questions about her past. Digital Gym Cinema, 2921 El Cajon Blvd. in North Park, 3:30 p.m. and 10 p.m., general admission $11, 619-230-1938,

tuesday, july 25 Baja’s Wild Side Baja’s Wild Side features the breathtaking photography of shark expert and Scripps marine biologist Dr. Dan Cartamil as he explores Baja California’s Pacific coast region. This exhibition chronicles a fragile paradise of remote and hauntingly beautiful landscapes, wildlife and ancient rock on the verge of being taken over by modern civilization. From the high sierra to the desert to the surf-pounded Pacific, visitors will discover Baja’s little-known “wild side.” San Diego Natural History Museum, 1788 El Prado in Balboa Park, 10 a.m.-5 p.m., adult admission $19, 619-232-3821,

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PJ Morton

wednesday, july 26 PJ Morton After traveling the world as a successful solo artist and keyboardist for pop powerhouse Maroon 5, Grammy Award- and Dove Award-winning singer, songwriter, producer and multiinstrumentalist PJ Morton gained a new perspective on his old stomping grounds that would inform his 2017 solo offering and debut for his own Morton Records, the aptly titled Gumbo. House of Blues San Diego, 1055 Fifth Ave in San Diego, 7 p.m., tickets $15, 619-299-2583, July 20, 2017 ❖ San Diego



A romantic comedy that’s both fresh and familiar MOVIES BY TED GIDEONSE

KUMAIL MEETS EMILY WHEN SHE sort-of-heckles his standup comedy performance that is centered on his immigration experience. He asks if anyone else is from Pakistan, and Emily, a young blonde woman from North Carolina, woops in response. He joshingly admonishes her, she wittily snaps back, and he hits on her after the show. She makes fun and of his come-on line, claims she’s not interested in dating, and then they fall for each other. Problems arise, because if they didn’t we wouldn’t have a movie. Some of the problems are unsurprising, like his conservative parents trying to arrange his marriage to a good Pakistani girl. But then it gets surprising. Shortly after Emily figures out why Kumail hasn’t introduced her to his family and dumps him, she gets deathly ill and placed into a coma. He ends up keeping vigil by her bed until her parents show up, and they are predisposed to hate the man who broke their daughter’s heart. Hilarity ensues? Yes, and no. The Big Sick is based on Kumail Nanjiani and Emily V. Gordon’s actual relationship, with Nanjiani playing a version of himself and fantastic Zoe Kazan playing a version of Emily. The real couple wrote the beautifully realized screenplay, and Michael Showalter, who gave us last year’s under-watched and wonderful My Name is Doris, directs. The film mashes up a number of film tropes – star-crossed lovers, the immigrant experience in America, struggling comedians experiencing pathos, nervous guy meeting his girlfriend’s disapproving parents, and post 9/11 racism – and the result is something totally fresh while also being a little, and nicely, familiar. The film’s authenticity comes partly from it being a true story, but also because Nanjiani, Gordon and Showalter create a naturalism in both drama and in comedy, with the jokes coming from people who are making them because it’s their job or because it’s the only way to deal with the awkwardness of life. Nanjiani is the center of the film, and while 20

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Zoe Kazan and Kumail Nanjiani in The Big Sick

The Big Sick Directed by Michael Showalter Written by Emily V. Gordon and Kumail Nanjiani Starring Kumail Nanjiani, Zoe Kazan and Holly Hunter Rated R At Landmark Hillcrest

his shtick as a performer is to be different versions of himself (see, for example, Dinesh in Silicon Valley), he does it very well. In his scenes with his conservative family – Anupam Kher as his father, Zenobia Shroff as his mother and Adeel Akhtar as his brother, all wonderful – he is deferential but still wry, struggling to be the comedian as well as their dutiful son. With his friends at the comedy club, he is more snarky, but he also tamps down his Pakistani-ness unless it’s being used as material. With Emily, he starts out trying to be what she wants him to be, but when she discovers his act, it’s devastating. His inability to integrate his various selves is his fatal flaw. In trying to deal with Emily’s parents, played by Holly Hunter and Ray Romano, Kumail is

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Holly Hunter and Anupam Kher in The Big Sick

forced to confront his mistakes, his fractured identity and his love for Emily. Hunter and Romano are given fantastic roles, much deeper and broader than such characters usually get, and their interactions with Nanjiani are at times nerve-wracking, even upsetting, and then they are hilarious. I can say I both laughed and cried at The Big Sick. ❖

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Booze and bites with a view sorbed the aerie’s ambience: polished concrete tables, intimate seating areas, a large circular fire pit. The contemporary open-air design is BY LANCE RYDER the creation of San Diego-based Bluemotif Architecture, the team who brought us Juniper THE NOLEN IS A BREEZY ROOFTOP BAR & Ivy and Kettner Exchange. I struck up a conversation with Luke, the on the 14th floor of the Courtyard by Marriott in downtown San Diego. I stopped in one tall, trim and nicely muscled bartender. He told me he had relocated from balmy afternoon enticed by North Carolina because he their happy hour prices. The The Nolen needed a “broader view”. “Looks Nolen is named for John 453 Sixth Ave. like you found it,” I said, indicatNolen, a city-planning visionSun-Thurs: 4 p.m.-12 a.m. ing the expansive cityscape surary who mapped out San Fri-Sat: 4 p.m.-1 a.m. rounding us. I ordered the Diego’s early development. As Sun Brunch: 10 a.m.-1 p.m. Dealer’s Choice cocktail ($6) a former planner for the City of 619-796-6536 and asked what was good on the San Diego, I am very familiar menu. Without hesitation, he with the namesake’s legacy. recommended the Chili Glazed The casual sophisticated space offers commanding views stretching Meatballs ($6) and confided he gobbles them from the traffic-choked Coronado Bridge, down whenever possible. The cocktail-of-the-day is a blend of across the sailboats sluicing through the bay, and out to Point Loma and the Pacific Ocean. Cruzan Silver rum, Hamilton Jamaican Pot I took a seat at the marble-topped bar and ab- Still Gold rum (a spicy-sweet black rum dis-



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Sunday Brunch at The Nolen

tilled from fermented molasses and aged up to five years), lemon juice, orgeat (a syrup made with almonds, rose water and citrus flower), and campari (a herbal liqueur) shaken with crushed ice and served in a chilled martini glass garnished by a thin lemon slice. A perfectly refreshing balance of sweet, sour and bitter notes. The pair of large meaty balls (wink), made with minced onion, garlic and carrots, are baked and glazed in a tomato and Fresno chili sauce, served on thin slices of potato, and topped with chopped green onion and fontiago cheese shavings, a blend of sweet fontina and tangy asiago. Lip-smacking good, but might benefit from introducing an acidity – perhaps adding lemon zest to the glaze – to offset the underlying sweetness. “What else can I get you?” Luke inquired, flashing a smile. I wish I could see the eyes hidden behind the dark sunglasses. I imagined they were playful and mischievous. The Nolen focuses on spirit-forward drinks adding a contemporary spin to classic cocktail recipes, a homage to a turn-of-the-century speakeasy, if you will. I ordered an Old Fashioned ($6) and the Beer Braised Sliders ($11). The Old Fashioned is a simple blend of bourbon, demerara sugar and angostura bitters served on ice with an orange peel garnish. Unlike common brown sugar which is merely refined white sugar mixed with molasses, demerara is an unprocessed raw brown sugar with a natural caramel flavor. The caramel notes are what elevate the classic concoction to sublime heights. The sliders, served with nutty arugula leaves lightly tossed in a citrusy vinaigrette, are warm pretzel buns heaped with tender braised short ribs, piquant blue cheese sauce and crispy fried shallots. A savory treat with the right amount of salty pungency. Located near the Convention Center, The Nolen is the perfect place to take a break from Comic-Con and catalogue your swag, or to watch the goings on from a safe perch. Eat this, hungry readers. You’ll be glad you did. ❖


Documentary celebrates LGBT families at world premiere THE NATIONAL GAY & LESBIAN CHAMber of Commerce (NGLCC) announced Tuesday the world premiere of Families Like Yours, a powerful documentary exploring the love, compassion, sacrifice and success of LGBT families in America. Bristol-Myers Squibb, Dk Realizadores, NGLCC and Wells Fargo underwrote the film’s production. Deutsche Bank and Hilton presented the premiere screening in New York City July 17. Watch the trailer at Through candid interviews and humorous real life stories, Families Like Yours demystifies LGBT families and their lives, showcasing that they are just as loving, busy and complicated as any other family. Families Like Yours follows five families as they attempt to balance work and school, rush kids to sports practice and deal with diaper duty. From all across the nation and in all different stages of family life, from conception to grandchildren, these families represent a cross-section of the modern American family – the only difference is that they are LGBT families. “It has never been more important to showcase the richness of diversity in America. LGBT families are a fixture of every community in this country, and Families Like Yours demonstrates why love, dignity and respect for all is a virtue that should unite each of us,” said NGLCC Co-Founder and President Justin Nelson, who is an executive producer on the film along with NGLCC Co-Founder and CEO Chance Mitchell. “This film is dedicated to the brave and inspiring LGBT families across the nation who overcome discrimination and fear as they work hard, give back to their communities and strive to achieve the American Dream just like everybody else.” Award-winning filmmakers Rodolfo Moro and Marcos Duszczak are the creative team behind a parallel film in Argentina, Familias por Igual. The film was widely praised, receiving several prestigious awards that added momentum to Argentina’s LGBT equality movement. Families Like Yours will next be screened at the 2017 NGLCC International Business & Leadership Conference in Las Vegas, ahead of submissions to film festivals and LGBT conferences around the world. ❖ July 20, 2017 ❖ San Diego





Mormon is one of those rare shows that will make you laugh at the absurdity of life. If you AT THIS POINT IT’S PROBABLY PRETTY can let yourself go and enjoy all of the wrong safe to say that the musical The Book of Morthings that happen in the show, you will defimon, written by Trey Parker and Matt Stone is nitely walk out with a smile on your face. a piece of musical theater that is globally recMany may argue that it goes too far, but in ognized. all honesty, if the show went too The creators of South Park, yet anfar would it be having the sucother phenomenon for the writing cess it’s had since 2011? duo, pushed the limits beyond that of The story of Mormon is the small screen by premiering their pretty basic. Two young Mormusical on Broadway in 2011. mon missionaries travel to Rumor has it the team first came up Africa to preach the Mormon with the idea after seeing the musical religion. Avenue Q in 2003. See? Basic. It’s the pairing of Stone and Parker along with collab- Gabe Gibbs these two missionaries and Myha’la Herrold Conner Peirson orator Robert Lopez (Frozen) met with their journey together, and current and former Mormon missionapart, that make this show hiaries and the birth of this nine-time Tony Award If you haven’t seen the show, you have most larious. Elder Price, a steadfast, devout and winning show began. likely heard of it. The question that comes to handsome Mormon, hopes to do his two-year Mormon is now playing on Broadway, in mind, if you haven’t seen it is why? mission in Orlando and prays daily to make that happen. He is paired with Elder Cunningham, who is a habitual liar and terribly insecure. They are sent to Uganda, not Orlando, and upon their arrival they are robbed and meet local villagers including the young and beautiful Nabulungi. Playing the pivotal roles of Price and Cunningham on tour are Gabe Gibbs and Conner Peirson respectively. Both actors along with San Jose native Myha’la Herrold who plays Nabulungi are relative newcomers to the Mormon family. Herrold joined the cast quite recently after a few years of auditioning for the Tony award winning show. But oddly enough she wasn’t all that familiar with the show. “I had only heard some of the songs,” Herrold admitted. “But knew about its success. The Book of Mormon company BY TOM ANDREW

London and Australia and is on tour in North America with a planned stop in San Diego at the Civic Theatre from July 25 through July 30. This cult favorite has had two national tours and is now playing Stockholm, Sweden, Denmark and Norway.



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The Book of Mormon company

Many of my peers and teachers told me Nabulungi would be a good part for me so I auditioned. I auditioned three times within two years before I was offered the job.” It’s no surprise that Herrold’s current career path is taking her exactly where she has always hoped to be, ever since she was a child. “I’ve been singing and dancing my whole life,” Herrold said. “I’ve never wanted to do anything else. “It was my whole life! All I ever did.” She attended Archbishop Mitty High School in San Jose and graduated in 2014. Mitty is a private school with a well-known performing arts program. Herrold’s talents were recognized by the Bay Area High School Musical Awards in 2013, with an Outstanding Actress Award. That led her on to the National High School Musical Theatre Awards where she performed at Broadways Minskoff Theatre in New York City. She attributes her success to those close to her, who have always been a big influence in her life over the years. “My family and friends have always been inspirations,” Herrold said. “Now, femme/women artists of color are who inspire me every day.” Believe it or not, Herrold is still in school

while on tour with the show. She is currently a senior at Carnegie Mellon University and couldn’t be happier with her choice. “I love CMU for lots of reasons,” Herrold confided. “Aside from the program for acting being one of the top programs in the country, I fell in love with CMU because of the people. They are inspiring, nurturing, eccentric and well-rounded good people who help me be the best version of myself I can be.” Most actors have admitted that tour life isn’t for everyone. It’s a new city every week, sometimes two in one week depending on the show and it’s schedule. However Herrold seems to be enjoying her first foray into the world of national tours. “It’s fun and exciting,” Herrold said. “It will take some getting used to, but I already enjoy traveling.” As for being in the show, that she is now more familiar with, Herrold admits that when she is questioned about what her favorite part of the show is, it’s tough for her to pin down just one moment. “That is such a hard question to answer,” Herrold said. “I love the whole thing!” It might be tough to think of anything serious when it comes to The Book of Mormon,

but it is said that most comedy comes through the truth and honesty of the characters and who they are. And although the role of Nabulungi is played for laughs, like most of the characters in the show, Herrold has still been able to find some things that she has learned since taking on the role. “This show is special because it talks about some very pointed topics,” Herrold confessed. “It uses satire as a window into these topics. I think the greatest lesson I’ve learned is that faith can come in many shapes and sizes, and as long as it’s doing you and the world good, that’s OK!” Aside from enjoying every moment she has on stage, Herrold does seemingly find the time to enjoy the many cities she is getting the chance to visit. Her stop in San Diego won’t be the actress’s first time in “America’s Finest City”. That being said she has already made some plans while she is here. “I visited Ocean Beach last year which was very fun!” Herrold said. “I look forward to laying out on the beach and eating burritos.” Catch The Book Of Mormon at The Civic Theatre located at 1100 Third Ave. (3rd Ave and B Street – Civic Concourse). You can buy tickets at the box office, or you can call 619570-1100 or get them at ❖

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This noir novel is an old black-and-white movie in book form BOOKWATCH BY TERRI SCHLICHENMEYER

CAN YOU FLOAT ME A LOAN? It’s a common question when your friends know you’re flush with cash. Can I hold a ten for a minute? Can you spot me five? Sure, you probably could but will it be hard to collect on that debt or, as in the new noir mystery, Death Goes Overboard by David S. Pederson, will you be paid back swimmingly? The weekend was all set. Detective Heath Barrington had everything planned down to the Death Goes Overboard last detail: he and police officer by David S. Pederson Alan Keyes were heading to a © 2017 Bold Strokes cabin in Northern Wisconsin, just Books the two of them, under the guise of $18.95 / higher in a “fishing trip.” It was 1947, after all, Canada and discretion was absolutely nec237 pages essary for two professional gay


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men, but the getaway would be a great chance to see where their new relationship was going. Still, despite his and Alan’s carefulness, rumors could come from anywhere, which was why Barrington was worried when his boss called him in early one day. Fortunately, the Chief didn’t want to quiz Barrington on his love life; he wanted to send the detective on a special assignment. Milwaukee law enforcement had been following Gregor Slavinsky ever since the smalltime hood got out of prison, assuming that he’d screw up eventually - and that’s exactly what happened: word on the street was that Slavinsky recently borrowed $25,000 from Benny Ballentine, a bigger crook and the guy the department really wanted to nab. Both were booked on a Lake Michigan excursion, and something was afoot. The Chief needed Barrington to find out more. The “fishing trip” cancelled, Barrington boarded a small luxury boat for a weekend tour. With few fellow travelers – two known hoodlums, a henchman, plus a man and his elderly aunt – he thought he’d have no trouble keeping an eye on everyone, especially since the boat’s steward was an undercover cop, too. But when a scuffle, a splash, and a missing crook proved otherwise, Barrington knew his assignment had suddenly changed. Slavinsky was nobody’s favorite guy… but who among the handful of possible suspects had the most reason to kill him? Every cliché ever packed in a noir novel – every single one – seems to be inside Death Goes Overboard. You’ve got mobsters, a fedora-wearing detective in a pinstriped suit, seemingly-prim matrons, and man-hungry blondes eager for marriage. It’s like an old black-and-white movie in book form – but curiously, you probably won’t mind. You won’t mind because author David S. Pederson has packed a lot of else in this novel. You don’t normally find a soft-sided, poetrywriting mobster in a noir mystery, for instance, but he’s here. And then there’s the sweetly chaste, budding romance between two men; not so unusual, again, except that one of them is considering something drastic in order to hide his secret, a side-plot that’s historically accurate and that fits. So this novel is both predictable and not, making it a nice diversion for a weekend or vacation. If that’s the kind of book you enjoy, then Death Goes Overboard will make you buoyant. ❖

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Faith is trust When the New Testament speaks about faith, maybe we would understand the meaning better if the word “trust” were substituted. Faith is a life of trust in God in all times, places and circumstances. Many times, after Jesus healed someone, he often said to the person healed, “Your faith has made you whole.” Those who were healed trusted Jesus before he did anything for them. Trust preceded healing. Faith is still trust in God, even in the absence of healing. We trust not only when life is good and rosy, but we trust also in hardship. The Christ story marches to a cross and the very worst that life can give. In times like these, I’m reminded of the great sermon line … “It may be Friday, but Sunday’s a comin’!” We are an Easter people! We trust that in the resurrection, God has the last word. Now, we might think that God’s last word is late and even in our “Friday’s”, God gives words of love and grace and hope. Trust takes many forms. Here are some: First, faith trusts God for today. The Savior’s Prayer that we pray every Sunday seeks nothing for tomorrow, but only for those things we need today. In the Sermon on the Mount, Jesus asks, “Can any of you by worrying add a single hour to your span of life?” Faith is marked by a quiet confidence that God’s grace will be sufficient for today. It is a trust that embraces today’s joys and troubles, and does not worry about tomorrow. Faith also trusts that God’s nature and name is Love. Look around to those who claim to be followers of Jesus, and there’s plenty of evidence to the contrary. A strong case can be made that only the strong survive, that might makes right, and that the world is a scary and dangerous place. We are all too well aware of this, and, still trust that God’s nature and God’s name is Love. Finally, faith trusts God not only for this life, but also for the life to come. Faith is neither focused on heaven, nor is it a strategy to escape purgatory or hell (however you define them). Faith simply trusts God’s love is greater than death. I’ve been at the bedside of many, who because of their faith, die at peace, not because of a belief in heaven, but simply because of an utter trust in God. Rev. Leonard Sweet tells the following story


AS A PROGRESSIVE CHRISTIAN, I BElieve there are many names for God and many ways to a loving God; this article reflects one of those ways. Take from here what works for you. Celebrate life with joy and peace! What is faith? Google Dictionary defines faith as “complete trust or confidence in someone or something.” Faith is also defined as a “strong belief in God or in the doctrines of a religion, based on spiritual apprehension rather than proof.” I, personally, have faith in God or a Supreme Being/Spirit/Creator who, throughout the millennia, has been given many names. (Spirit, Allah, Jehovah, Universe, Elohim, Father/Mother, Yahweh …) So, then, what is Christian Faith? Is it believing certain creeds, having a moving experience of God’s mercy in Christ, asking Jesus into your heart, doing deeds of mercy and justice, being a member of a church, reading the bible, being a good person, being baptized, worshiping regularly in church, praying? These things are definitely desirable, and a part of the Christian experience and practice, but none of them alone makes one a Christian. And in this day and age when even the word “Christian” is used, it’s very loaded and emotionally charged and ranges from Mainline, Evangelical, Liberal, right-wing, conservative, to progressive, and the list goes on … I define a Christian as a follower of Jesus and one who strives to live by his teachings. “What does it mean to have faith?” Classically, those who identify as Christians have said, God’s grace is at the heart of our experiences of life, and the hope we have in Christ. This grace is incorporated into our lives through faith. But, just what does it mean to say we have faith? Perhaps it’s best to start with the things Christian faith is not. Faith is not intellectual agreement with certain beliefs. It’s not a statement about the nature of God or the work of Christ. Faith is not a blind hope that God will somehow make our lives easy or that God will fix all the problems we face in our lives. Faith does not magically protect us from illness, accident, betrayal, stress or even death. If faith isn’t just blind acceptance of a set of beliefs or doctrines, nor protection from trouble, then just what is faith? Simply put, we could say faith is trust.

in the Feb. 2, 1992 edition of Homiletics magazine: “On March 1, 1990, Jean and Ken Chaney, while attempting to negotiate a little-used road in the Sierra National Forest, skidded off into a huge snowbank. With a blizzard swirling around them, they decided to sit tight. As they waited for help to arrive, the couple began to keep a diary of their actions. They wrote, ‘We began to realize that we were on a road that isn’t maintained during the winter … we have no idea what lies ahead … we are completely and utterly in God’s hand! What better place to be!’ They endured those days by singing hymns together, quoting all the bible verses they could recall, and praying. Still, no one came. On March 18, Jean Chaney made the following entry in their diary: “Dad went to the Lord at 7:30 this evening … It was so peaceful, I didn’t even know he left. The last thing I heard him say was, ‘Thank the Lord. I think I’ll be with him soon … I can’t see. Bye. I love you.’” Talk about complete trust; talk about faith. Faith doesn’t depend on a happy ending. It doesn’t require rescue from life’s problems. It trusts, and believes as is written in Romans 8, that nothing in life or death can separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord. ❖ Rev. Dan Koeshall is the senior pastor at The Metropolitan Community Church (The Met), 2633 Denver St., San Diego. Services every Sunday at 9 and 11 a.m.

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Pride – Allied in Action, United for Justice I PLANNED A PRIDE ARTICLE, BUT GOT the dates mixed (Sound familiar?). After recent comments about possible trouble, I thought I’d chime in even though all will have happened. Years ago I came for my first San Diego Pride and found University Avenue festooned with LGBT flags put up by the city. This public acceptance of LGBT life was astonishing. Reality returned days later when the parade started with a tear-gas canister thrown into the crowd. Then the smoke cleared, groups reformed and the parade continued. Talk about pride! Since then, the size and friendliness of the crowd have grown and the marchers now include the military, police, firefighters, church groups, etc. I wonder if the younger crowd can comprehend how incredible this is. We seniors can and “celebration” is the word for this event. At the same time we don’t forget the past (we

across especially once we have the attention of a crowd. No doubt there is a place for serious banners, posters and activities in the parade and festivities. My limit is reached however, if/when disruption and negativity become the focus and overwhelm and depreciate our special day. I hope this did not happen and our once-a-year bash while including serious concerns allowed our community, especially seniors, to positively acknowledge and rejoice with solidarity and pride in how far we have come since our days of fear and hiding.

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Digging around for subjects of interest, I always delve into anything possible. This doesn’t bother me as I enjoy the research and at times it becomes addictive. Bored? Look in an encyclopedia type book, skim the headings until something catches your eye and start reading. You’ll soon find another intriguing point to investigate; suddenly it is an hour later. We are never too old to learn and it is vital to not sit around and vegetate. I am constantly on the look-out for light-hearted content to comment on or offer advice about. I shun the political preferring to address senior issues and current events, but admittedly I also check emails from friends featuring a tweet or face of some hilarious and/or horrifying tidbit. I also confess to glancing, very briefly, at the supermarket tabloid headlines. Titillating as they might be, they are seldom worth inflicting on my readers. “Did Rihanna steal Naomi Campbell’s man?” does not set my heart aflame with editorial potential. I’m not really sure who they are or what they do, but wish them well. Likewise, “Kylie Jenner, age 19, CEO and founder of Kylie Cosmetics, will be on TV weekly in “Life of Kylie” a docuseries” (a what?). Kylie seems to be famous for something, being a star I guess; sort of like Zsa Zsa. YouTube and Google offer great fun as we get facts and view stars, movies and interviews from the past. Subjects for the AARP crowd and surprising facts are waiting to be discovered: just this morning I found out where Montana is and how to spell Deuteronomy. If I can write an article, you can get out of the house, meet people and surprise them with your knowledge of an unusual topic. ❖



Let’s talk insurance AS WE KNOW ONLY TOO WELL, REAL estate and insurance go hand in hand. You wouldn’t want to leave your most significant asset unprotected and if you have a mortgage, you are required to hold adequate insurance on your home. To get the skinny, I sat down with Ryan Hartwigsen, of Allstate Insurance, 4080 Centre Street, Suite 107 in San Diego. Here is that interview: What do new homeowners need to consider when they cover their homes? Ryan Hartwigsen: Buying a home can be an

exciting but stressful process. There is a lot to consider; securing a loan, scheduling the inspection, getting home insurance quotes. Insurance is expensive and you should know what you are buying so that you don’t have any surprises down the road should you ever have to file a claim.

How can I determine how much coverage I need?

This is where an agent can really help. Insurance can be confusing so it’s often hard to tell what coverage you really need. Further, once you decide which coverages you need, we will advise your limits. Everyone is different and it takes an agent to develop a custom solution for each person. What happens if I don’t buy enough insurance; if I’m under-insured?

First and foremost, new home buyers need to make sure that they have adequate coverage to rebuild their home. To do this, we use a third party company who aggregates building information (like the cost of building materials, architectural fees, labor costs, etc.) and combines this with property data to develop replacement cost. However, if you think the estimate to replace the home is too low, defi-

nitely discuss this with your agent. Secondly, you should review your policy with your agent on an annual basis to make sure that your policy keeps up with changes in your life. Do I need an umbrella policy?

Umbrella policies increase your underlying liability limits in increments of $1 million. For example, if you were in an auto accident and the person driving the other car decided to sue you, and the judgment was for $1 million, the first $250,000 would come from the auto policy; the balance would come from the umbrella policy. When people ask if they need an umbrella policy, I typically tell them to imagine that all of their assets are in a pile on their front lawn. If someone were to try to come by and take those assets, how high would we have to build the wall around those assets to make them safe? If the wall is high, then we need to consider an umbrella policy. Is there anything else you think is important that readers should know about insurance?

When thinking about insurance, it’s important to consider a total risk management approach. As an agent, it is my responsibility to make sure that you are prepared for any situation, no matter what comes your way. For example, you know that you need to purchase a homeowners policy to protect your home from a fire or weather damage. But what about the debt of a mortgage loan should something happen to you? Perhaps you need to consider a life insurance policy to help pay off the debt. What about if you are injured and can’t work for a while? What can we do to make sure that you have enough income to make your mortgage payments? Working with an agent to develop a plan can help give you peace of mind. Thanks so much Ryan.

You can reach Ryan Hartwigsen at: ❖ Del Phillips is a California Licensed Real Estate agent. He is a member of the National, California and San Diego Association of Realtors. You can reach Del at Ascent Real Estate at 619-298-6666 or at DRE LIC #01267333.


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