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Dine Out! Fight AIDS! The Center’s Cheli Mohamed on the magic that volunteers bring to Dining Out for Life San Diego

COMMENTARY Has San Diego supplanted LA and San Francisco as the place to look for future political leaders?

ARTS Moxie’s Delicia Turner Sonnenberg collaborates with The Old Globe on Skeleton Crew

MOVIES Genre defying Colossal is a revelation


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Message from Our Publisher


Around the City


Trans Progressive Politically Aware Conversations with the “Mayor of Hillcrest”


Dine Out! Fight AIDS!

19 Colossal is a Revelation

Skeleton Crew


The City: Top to Bottom Movies: Colossal Eat This! Redwing Bar and Grill Bookwatch: Raising the Transgender Child


Bill’s Briefs Where’s the Faith?


Real Estate Classifieds

13 Support Police Officer Christine Garcia

25 Bookwatch

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MESSAGE FROM OUR PUBLISHER 1850 Fifth Ave. San Diego, CA 92101 619-546-8398


PUBLISHER Stampp Corbin

San Diego strong


OVER THE LAST YEAR, I HAVE HAD THE pleasure of travelling to Sacramento to represent the Addiction Treatment Advocacy Coalition (ATAC), a group that advocates for those who suffer from Substance Use Disorder and those facilities that provide treatment. As the president of ATAC, I have met with regulators and legislators throughout the California capitol and the San Diego strength is amazing. Assemblyman Todd Gloria, Assemblywoman Lorena Gonzalez Fletcher, Assemblywoman Dr. Shirley Weber and Sen. Toni Atkins are well respected by other legislators and all have key leadership positions within the legislature. The influence of San Diego in the California legislature is palpable. Gloria, Gonzalez Fletcher and Atkins are all rising stars. Weber (68) is also a force to be reckoned with but may have limited upward mobility in California or national politics because of her age. Let’s look at those making San Diego proud:

Toni Atkins Toni is the former speaker of the State Assembly and is considered a potential candidate for Congress or governor in the next five years. She is on the influential Rules Committee and has introduced a single payer health care bill to provide Toni Atkins health care to every Californian. In her freshman term in the Senate, Toni is someone to watch. By the way, she is an open lesbian.

Todd Gloria Many people assumed Todd Gloria would be the first openly gay elected mayor of San Diego but the Filner debacle forced him to step into the abyss and put San Diego before his political ambitions. As part of the deal to become interim mayor, Todd Gloria Gloria could not run for the job. He is now in his frosh year in the State Assembly and was immediately put into a leadership position. Todd is the assistant majority whip who is responsible for ensuring that legislation the leadership wants to see passed has the votes within the majority party. 4

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Todd will get to know everyone in the Assembly through his current leadership position which will likely lead to other leadership positions. Sometimes a nice, openly gay guy finishes first.

Steve Lee

ART DIRECTOR Jeff Jungblut


Lorena Gonzalez Fletcher Born from the labor movement in San Diego, Lorena is the chair of the powerful Appropriations Committee in the Assembly. The Appropriations Committee manages the fiscal impact of any bills passed from policy committees. Lorena Gonzalez Lorena’s committee is the Fletcher final check on how a bill’s implementation will affect the financial health of California. Gonzalez Fletcher is considered to be a future speaker of the Assembly. A Latina with a good heart, the sky’s the limit for Gonzalez Fletcher in California and beyond.

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REPORTERS Tom Andrew, Victor Hoff, Neal Putnam, Thom Senzee, Abby Walker

PHOTOGRAPHERS Vito Di Stefano Son Appareil Photography

CONTRIBUTING WRITERS Nicole Murray Ramirez, Ted Gideonse, Bill Hanson, Rev. Dan Koeshall, Del Phillips, Lance Ryder, Autumn Sandeen, Joel Trambley



Dr. Shirley Weber Former chair of the Assembly Budget Committee, Dr. Shirley Weber was responsible for attempting to balance the budget for the state from 2015-2017. She currently is a member of the Joint Legislative Budget Committee which makes Dr. Shirley Weber recommendations concerning the state budget to minimize the cost of state government and promote efficiency in state departments and programs. Dr. Weber may be a future speaker of the Assembly, if ageism does not hold her back. Due to the incredible talent that San Diego has elected to the legislature, the city’s influence on the state is growing. Has San Diego supplanted Los Angeles and San Francisco as the place to look for future leaders of the state and potentially the country? ❖ STAMPP CORBIN PUBLISHER San Diego LGBT Weekly

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Federal murder trial starts for man accused of killing his boyfriend in Mexico BY NEAL PUTNAM

THE ATTORNEY FOR A SOUTH BAY man accused of killing his boyfriend in Mexico told a federal jury Tuesday there was no physical evidence, such as DNA, blood, fingerprints or footprints linking him to the crime. However, David Enrique Meza, 26, David Meza and Taylor was not suspected Langston in the May 2, 2015, slaying of Jake Merendino, 52, until later and a search of his apartment and belongings a month later produced no trace evidence.

Attorney Reuben Cahn told the eight woman, four man jury it would have been very difficult for Meza by himself to drag the 310-pound body of Merendino to a ravine off a highway near Rosarito, Mexico. Merendino was 6'4" tall. Meza’s girlfriend and now wife, Taylor Langston, 22, has pleaded guilty to obstruction of justice in providing a false alibi for Meza. She was in Mexico that night but was believed to be in a different location. She was also pregnant at the time. Assistant U.S. Attorney Alexandra Foster played a portion of a cell phone call Meza placed to Langston in which he said he felt terrible and remorseful after doing something see MEZA, page 6 >>

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San Diego ‘homeless murder’ suspect charged with fourth homicide

Guerrero, 40, pleaded not guilty Tuesday before San Diego Superior Court Judge Jeff Fraser, who set a July 11 preliminary hearing. His arraignment was the first hearing since his arrest last summer in which his mental competency was not an issue after a judge determined he was mentally fit March 20. Harvey said Guerrero killed Angelo DeNardo, 53, under the Interstate 5 Bridge near Mission Bay July 3 by plunging a railroad spike into his head and chest. He was also charged with arson by setting the body on fire. DeNardo attended Metropolitan Community Church and a memorial service was held there for him and the two others in August.

Shawn Longley, 41, was the second person killed near Robb Field in Ocean Beach July 4. Dionicio Vahidy, 23, died July 10, four days after he was mortally wounded downtown. There were two attacks in the Sports Arena area also in July in which a 61-year-old man was left blind after a railroad spike was driven into his sinus cavity. The very first attack occurred Feb. 8, 2016 when a man awoke to being stabbed. The attacker carried a flashlight, but dropped it at the scene. Harvey told the judge that DNA on the flashlight matched Guerrero’s DNA profile. “He’s terrorized the homeless community,” said Harvey. The charges represent 12 people attacked in 2016. The charges include four murders, three attempted murders, two arsons, five counts of assault and the special circumstance of multiple murders. Harvey said her office has not yet decided whether they will seek the death penalty or a life term in prison if he’s convicted. Guerrero remains in jail without bail. The motive remains unknown, but Guerrero was convicted in 2009 of stealing a bicycle from a homeless woman who was knocked down. ❖

including slashing his throat. Jurors saw photos of bloodstains on the SUV and the heavy blood trail in which the body was dragged about 20 feet and dumped in the ravine. Jurors also saw the one page handwritten will that says “I leave everything to David Meza” that was written on stationery from the Hercor Hotel in Chula Vista where the two stayed in 2014. “His feelings of remorse don’t stop him from trying to collect Jake’s money,” said Foster, who noted that Meza submitted the will to a Texas probate court. Merendino had previously drawn up a will in 1998 with an attorney in Texas. Foster said Meza wanted Merendino’s condominium, and in order to get it, “Jake has to die.” Cahn told jurors that Meza crossed into the U.S. at 3:57 a.m. and showed photos and a video of that. Cahn said there was no blood on him or the motorcycle and the border employee would have noticed it if it appeared Meza had been in a struggle. Cahn said prosecutors sought to portray him as “a criminal mastermind,” but in reality

he is “a bumbling David Meza who left this circumstantial evidence … and creates a trail of breadcrumbs leading to him.” The reason the jurisdiction is federal is because Meza is charged with killing a U.S. citizen in Mexico. He is also charged with conspiracy to obstruct justice with Langston which happened in San Diego. The first witness was Rosarito Police Officer Jose Corona, who was the first at the scene to discover Merendino’s abandoned SUV and the blood trail in the early morning hours. Corona said special equipment was used along with a gurney to retrieve the body. Isidro Magana, the manager for Bobby’s by the Sea, testified Meza returned to get his belongings and he let him into Merendino’s room to retrieve them. Magana said it was not obvious that Merendino and Meza was a couple because they arrived separately. He said the hotel has since changed some of its policies and security as a result of the murder. The crime scene is about a five minute drive from the hotel. ❖


A FOURTH MURDER WAS CHARGED Tuesday against Jon David Guerrero who is accused of killing three homeless men, but this homicide has a different pattern from the 11 other attacks. Molly Simons, 83, was walking to a bus stop in North Park in the early morning hours of July 13, 2016 when a man on a bicycle hit her in the back of her head with an object which has not been found. She died three weeks later in a hospital from a skull fracture. Deputy District Attorney Makenzie Harvey said the Simons murder only had one thing in common with the other attacks and that she was attacked when she was alone. Simons is also the only female who has been attacked and most of the other victims were homeless and asleep at the time. Simons was going to a local YMCA where she volunteered and was going early to a bus stop. Because of the differences from the other attacks, it wasn’t originally attributed to Guerrero, but it was in the same time period when the homeless men were slain.

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bad, but he didn’t specify what it was he did. Foster described Meza as living “a double life” in which he was gay with Merendino and straight with Langston, with whom he was engaged at the time. She quoted Meza as saying Merendino was his “sugar daddy.” The trial before U.S. District Court Judge Jeffrey Miller is expected to last three weeks. Meza remains in the federal Metropolitan Correctional Center without bail and has pleaded not guilty. Meza met Merendino online in July, 2013 when Meza was 23. Merendino gave Meza a new red motorcycle as a Christmas gift in 2014. Merendino and Meza were staying at Bobby’s By the Sea Hotel in Mexico May 1, 2015. Merendino got a call from someone who was stuck on a road and he left at 1 a.m. May 2 to help him, according to a hotel employee. Merendino drove there in his Range Rover SUV, and it is alleged Meza stabbed him 22 times 6

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What’s mundane in California is not mundane elsewhere The mundane in California includes a lot. What’s mundane here isn’t mundane everywhere. on facebook i’ve used the term “transgenda” and the hashtag #transgenda; i’ve used it to list mundane things i do on many days. Such as, i listed out my trans-genda to my facebook friends on one day this past week as: • dentist appointment • Walk rwby (pronounced ruby) the dog • Pick up roommate from the airport • Pay attention to, and feed Kitty Bon-Bon when she demands attention or feeding • Clean the bathroom i didn’t get to clean the bathroom that day, having the chore pushed to the next day, due to handling other unplanned mundane tasks that included some shopping. it also included going out for dinner, getting a sandwich and tater tots at a local barbecue restaurant. The point of the “joke” i’ve posted on multiple occasions to social media is that i’m a whole person with a life that’s whole and full of mundane things that a lot of us do, and not a one-dimensional caricature of a life that social conservatives and some others seem to perceive our transgender lives to be. even though i’m retired and no longer have to worry about gainful employment to afford the financial costs of my life, as many of my peers do, i do have to be concerned about housing – about having a roof over my head. and, i need to be concerned about public accommodation, which includes the ability to access full and equal accommodations, advantages, facilities, privileges or services in all business establishments and public entities of every kind whatsoever. Public accommodations is often boiled down to access to what bathrooms one uses, but put in simple context, it’s also about being able to buy a sandwich and a cup of coffee at a restaurant without being harassed or discriminated against; it’s about being able to receive a government issued license without being told by the clerk that he or she has a government approved religious objection to providing that government service. We who live in California live in a state where its employment, housing and public accommodation antidiscrimination protections, based on marital status, sexual orientation and gender

identity, are mundanely protected by law. When trans man rose Trevis went to hawleywood’s Barber Shop & Shaving Parlor in 2016 and was denied a haircut because they perceived rose as female and they stated they only served men, it was news. in the end the barbershop settled out of court and changed their business practice, and it can be said they pretty much changed it because California law clearly prohibited it. it was news because what the barbershop did didn’t stick to the established, mundane rules. many states’ laws don’t protect against employment, housing and public accommodation discrimination. What many municipalities have done in response is pass citywide laws protecting against discrimination based on sexual orientation and gender identity. it’s been shown to be good for business. Charlotte, n.C. tried to follow this model. The legislature of north Carolina – in a state

with very gerrymandered districting that favors socially conservative republicans – passed hB2, which functionally repealed the Charlotte ordinance and a lot more. ostensively, hB2 was passed on the argument that people using bathrooms that didn’t align with the gender marker on their birth certificates were dangerous and violated women’s privacy in restrooms and locker rooms, and so a birth certificate provision was specifically included in hB2. after economic losses in the state, and the loss of prestige, such as the nCaa and nBa pulling sports events from the state, the north Carolina legislature “repealed” hB2. it was bad for business. it’s not mundane for an lGBT community member in north Carolina to be assured they can access full and equal accommodations, advantages, facilities, privileges or services in all business establishments and public entities of every kind whatsoever. ❖

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What is TRUVADA for PrEP (Pre-exposure Prophylaxis)?

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TRUVADA is a prescription medicine that can be used for PrEP to help reduce the risk of getting HIV-1 infection when used together with safer sex practices. This use is only for adults who are at high risk of getting HIV-1 through sex. This includes HIV-negative men who have sex with men and who are at high risk of getting infected with HIV-1 through sex, and male-female sex partners when one partner has HIV-1 infection and the other does not. Ask your healthcare provider if you have questions about how to prevent getting HIV-1. Always practice safer sex and use condoms to lower the chance of sexual contact with body fluids. Never reuse or share needles or other items that have body fluids on them.

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IMPORTANT SAFETY INFORMATION What is the most important information I should know about TRUVADA for PrEP? Before taking TRUVADA for PrEP to reduce your risk of getting HIV-1 infection: ‹Y ou must be HIV-negative. You must get tested to make sure that you do not already have HIV-1 infection. Do not take TRUVADA for 2T'2VQTGFWEGVJGTKUMQHIGVVKPI*+8WPNGUU[QWCTGEQPĆ’TOGFVQ be HIV-negative. ‹M any HIV-1 tests can miss HIV-1 infection in a person who has recently become infected. If you have flu-like symptoms, you could have recently become infected with HIV-1. Tell your healthcare provider if you had a flu-like illness within the last month before starting TRUVADA for PrEP or at any time while taking TRUVADA for PrEP. Symptoms of new HIV-1 infection include tiredness, fever, joint or muscle aches, headache, sore throat, vomiting, diarrhea, rash, night sweats, and/or enlarged lymph nodes in the neck or groin. While taking TRUVADA for PrEP to reduce your risk of getting HIV-1 infection: ‹Y ou must continue using safer sex practices. Just taking TRUVADA for PrEP may not keep you from getting HIV-1. ‹ You must stay HIV-negative to keep taking TRUVADA for PrEP. ‹ To further help reduce your risk of getting HIV-1: • Know your HIV-1 status and the HIV-1 status of your partners. • Get tested for HIV-1 at least every 3 months or when your healthcare provider tells you. • Get tested for other sexually transmitted infections. Other infections make it easier for HIV-1 to infect you. • Get information and support to help reduce risky sexual behavior. • Have fewer sex partners. • Do not miss any doses of TRUVADA. Missing doses may increase your risk of getting HIV-1 infection. • If you think you were exposed to HIV-1, tell your healthcare provider right away. ‹ I f you do become HIV-1 positive, you need more medicine than TRUVADA alone to treat HIV-1. TRUVADA by itself is not a complete treatment for HIV-1. If you have HIV-1 and take only TRUVADA, your HIV-1 may become harder to treat over time. TRUVADA can cause serious side effects: ‹T oo much lactic acid in your blood (lactic acidosis), which is a serious medical emergency. Symptoms of lactic acidosis include weakness or being more tired than usual, unusual muscle pain, being short of breath or fast breathing, nausea, vomiting, stomach-area pain, cold or blue hands and feet, feeling dizzy or lightheaded, and/or fast or abnormal heartbeats. ‹ Serious liver problems. Your liver may become large and tender, and you may develop fat in your liver. Symptoms of liver problems include your skin or the white part of your eyes turns yellow, dark “tea-coloredâ€? urine, light-colored stools, loss of appetite for several days or longer, nausea, and/or stomach-area pain.

problems if you are female, very overweight (obese), or have been taking TRUVADA for a long time. In some cases, these serious conditions have led to death. Call your healthcare provider right away if you have any symptoms of these conditions. ‹W orsening of hepatitis B (HBV) infection. If you also have HBV and take TRUVADA, your hepatitis may become worse if you stop taking 6478#&#&QPQVUVQRVCMKPI6478#&#YKVJQWVƒTUVVCNMKPIVQ[QWT healthcare provider. If your healthcare provider tells you to stop taking TRUVADA, they will need to watch you closely for several months to monitor your health. TRUVADA is not approved for the treatment of HBV. Do not take TRUVADA for PrEP if you already have HIV-1 infection or if you do not know your HIV-1 status. If you are HIV-1 positive, you need to take other medicines with TRUVADA to treat HIV-1. TRUVADA by itself is not a complete treatment for HIV-1. If you have HIV-1 and take only TRUVADA, your HIV-1 may become harder to treat over time. Do not take TRUVADA for PrEP if you also take lamivudine (Epivir-HBV) or adefovir (HEPSERA).

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Serious side effects of TRUVADA may also include: ‹K idney problems, including kidney failure. Your healthcare provider may do blood tests to check your kidneys before and during treatment with TRUVADA for PrEP. If you develop kidney problems, your healthcare provider may tell you to stop taking TRUVADA for PrEP. ‹B one problems, including bone pain or bones getting soft or thin, may lead to fractures. Your healthcare provider may do tests to check your bones. ‹C hanges in body fat, which can happen in people taking TRUVADA or medicines like TRUVADA. Common side effects in people taking TRUVADA for PrEP are stomacharea (abdomen) pain, headache, and decreased weight. Tell your healthcare provider if you have any side effects that bother you or do not go away.

What should I tell my healthcare provider before taking TRUVADA for PrEP?

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have or have had any kidney, bone, or liver problems, including hepatitis virus infection. ‹ I f you are pregnant or plan to become pregnant. It is not known if TRUVADA can harm your unborn baby. If you become pregnant while taking TRUVADA for PrEP, talk to your healthcare provider to decide if you should keep taking TRUVADA for PrEP. Pregnancy Registry:ǥ#RTGIPCPE[TGIKUVT[EQNNGEVUKPHQTOCVKQPCDQWV your health and the health of your baby. There is a pregnancy registry for women who take medicines to prevent HIV-1 during pregnancy. For more information about the registry and how it works, talk to your healthcare provider. ‹ I f you are breastfeeding (nursing) or plan to breastfeed. Do not breastfeed. The medicines in TRUVADA can pass to your baby in breast milk. If you become HIV-1 positive, HIV-1 can be passed to the baby in breast milk. ‹A ll the medicines you take, including prescription and over-the-counter medicines, vitamins, and herbal supplements. TRUVADA may interact with other medicines. Keep a list of all your medicines and show it to your healthcare provider and pharmacist when you get a new medicine. ‹ I f you take certain other medicinesǥYKVJ6478#&#HQT2T'2[QWT healthcare provider may need to check you more often or change your dose. These medicines include ledipasvir with sofosbuvir (HARVONI). You are encouraged to report negative side effects of prescription drugs to the FDA. Visit, or call 1-800-FDA-1088.

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TRUVADA for PrEP™? The once-daily prescription medicine that can help reduce the risk of getting HIV-1 when used with safer sex practices. • TRUVADA for PrEP is only for adults who are at high risk of getting HIV through sex. • You must be HIV-negative before you start taking TRUVADA for PrEP. Ask your doctor about your risk of getting HIV-1 infection and if TRUVADA for PrEP may be right for you.



This is only a brief summary of important information about taking TRUVADA for PrEP (pre-exposure prophylaxis) to help reduce the risk of getting HIV-1 infection. This does not replace talking to your healthcare provider about your medicine.



Before starting TRUVADA for PrEP to help reduce your risk of getting HIV-1 infection: • You must be HIV-1 negative. You must get tested to make sure that you do not already have HIV-1 infection. Do not take TRUVADA for PrEP to reduce VJGTKUMQHIGVVKPI*+8WPNGUU[QWCTGEQPĆ’TOGFVQDG*+8PGICVKXG • Many HIV-1 tests can miss HIV-1 infection in a person who has recently become infected. Symptoms of new HIV-1 infection include flu-like symptoms, tiredness, fever, joint or muscle aches, headache, sore throat, vomiting, diarrhea, rash, night sweats, and/or enlarged lymph nodes in the neck or groin. Tell your healthcare provider if you have had a flu-like illness within the last month before starting TRUVADA for PrEP. While taking TRUVADA for PrEP to help reduce your risk of getting HIV-1 infection: • You must continue using safer sex practices. Just taking TRUVADA for PrEP may not keep you from getting HIV-1. • You must stay HIV-1 negative to keep taking TRUVADA for PrEP. • Tell your healthcare provider if you have a flu-like illness while taking TRUVADA for PrEP. • If you think you were exposed to HIV-1, tell your healthcare provider right away. • If you do become HIV-1 positive, you need more medicine than TRUVADA alone to treat HIV-1. If you have HIV-1 and take only TRUVADA, your HIV-1 may become harder to treat over time. • See the “How to Further Reduce Your Riskâ€? section for more information. TRUVADA may cause serious side effects, including: • Buildup of lactic acid in your blood (lactic acidosis), which is a serious medical emergency that can lead to death. Call your healthcare provider right away if you have any of these symptoms: weakness or being more tired than usual, unusual muscle pain, being short of breath or fast breathing, nausea, vomiting, stomach-area pain, cold or blue hands and feet, feeling dizzy or lightheaded, and/or fast or abnormal heartbeats. • Severe liver problems, which in some cases can lead to death. Call your healthcare provider right away if you have any of these symptoms: your skin or the white part of your eyes turns yellow, dark “tea-coloredâ€? urine, light-colored stools, loss of appetite for several days or longer, nausea, and/or stomach-area pain. • Worsening of hepatitis B (HBV) infection. If you have HBV and take TRUVADA, your hepatitis may become worse if you stop taking TRUVADA. Do PQVUVQRVCMKPI6478#&#YKVJQWVĆ’TUVVCNMKPIVQ[QWTJGCNVJECTGRTQXKFGTCU they will need to check your health regularly for several months. You may be more likely to get lactic acidosis or severe liver problems if you are female, very overweight, or have been taking TRUVADA for a long time.

TRUVADA can cause serious side effects, including: • Those in the “Most Important Information About TRUVADA for PrEP" section. • New or worse kidney problems, including kidney failure. • Bone problems. • Changes in body fat. Common side effects in people taking TRUVADA for PrEP include stomacharea (abdomen) pain, headache, and decreased weight. These are not all the possible side effects of TRUVADA. Tell your healthcare provider right away if you have any new symptoms while taking TRUVADA for PrEP. Your healthcare provider will need to do tests to monitor your health before and during treatment with TRUVADA for PrEP.

• Take 1 tablet once a day, every day, not just when you think you have been exposed to HIV-1. • Do not miss any doses. Missing doses may increase your risk of getting HIV-1 infection. • You must practice safer sex by using condoms and you must stay HIV-1 negative.



TRUVADA is a prescription medicine used with safer sex practices for PrEP to help reduce the risk of getting HIV-1 infection in adults at high risk: • HIV-1 negative men who have sex with men and who are at high risk of getting infected with HIV-1 through sex. • Male-female sex partners when one partner has HIV-1 infection and the other does not. To help determine your risk, talk openly with your doctor about your sexual health. Do NOT take TRUVADA for PrEP if you: • Already have HIV-1 infection or if you do not know your HIV-1 status. • Take lamivudine (Epivir-HBV) or adefovir (HEPSERA).

• Know your HIV-1 status and the HIV-1 status of your partners. • Get tested for HIV-1 at least every 3 months or when your healthcare provider tells you. • Get tested for other sexually transmitted infections. Other infections make it easier for HIV-1 to infect you. • Get information and support to help reduce risky sexual behavior. • Have fewer sex partners. • Do not share needles or personal items that can have blood or body fluids on them.

TRUVADA, the TRUVADA Logo, TRUVADA FOR PREP, GILEAD, the GILEAD Logo, and HEPSERA are trademarks of Gilead Sciences, Inc., or its related companies. All other marks referenced herein are the property of their respective owners. Version date: April 2016 Š 2017 Gilead Sciences, Inc. All rights reserved. TVDC0083 03/17

BEFORE TAKING TRUVADA FOR PrEP Tell your healthcare provider if you: • Have or have had any kidney, bone, or liver problems, including hepatitis infection. • Have any other medical conditions. • Are pregnant or plan to become pregnant. • Are breastfeeding (nursing) or plan to breastfeed. Do not breastfeed if you become HIV-1 positive because of the risk of passing HIV-1 to your baby. Tell your healthcare provider about all the medicines you take: • Keep a list that includes all prescription and over-the-counter medicines, vitamins, and herbal supplements, and show it to your healthcare provider and pharmacist. • Ask your healthcare provider or pharmacist about medicines that should not be taken with TRUVADA for PrEP.


GET MORE INFORMATION • This is only a brief summary of important information about TRUVADA for PrEP to reduce the risk of getting HIV-1 infection. Talk to your healthcare provider or pharmacist to learn more, including how to prevent HIV-1 infection. • Go to or call 1-800-GILEAD-5 • If you need help paying for your medicine, visit for program information.



Now is the time to protect science and the environment ANALYSES OF THE 2010 REPUBLICAN electoral wave put considerable importance on the rallies held during Congressional recesses. The newly dubbed “Tea Party” showed up at town halls to challenge President Obama’s agenda and strike fear into moderate Democrats and Republicans. They couldn’t stop the stimulus, Dodd-Frank or the Affordable Care Act (ACA), but their organization and energy led directly to the electoral successes that stymied other Obama legislation. Congressmembers are currently home for a recess, making it a good time for progressives to organize against Trump’s agenda and lay the groundwork for their own 2018 electoral wave. Groups like Indivisible are already planning to attend town halls and demanding more of them. While there are plenty of objectionable parts to the Trump agenda, the sheer chaos makes it hard to find a single rallying point. The ACA is safe (for the moment), the travel ban is in the courts, Justice Gorsuch is a reality and tax reform remains amorphous. So I suggest the environment. The Trump administration continues to have success in rolling back environmental protections, including allowing continued pesticide use, refusing to calculate the environmental cost of fossil fuels, reconsidering fuel standards and generally rejecting science. In addition to advocating at town halls, there are two notable opportunities for San Diegans to support the environment while fighting the broader Trump agenda. Thursday April 20, the Environmental Health Coalition (EHC) will hold their annual awards celebration, themed “Leaders

United for Justice”. Those looking for a local group fighting a multi-front war against the current administration should check them out ( Women? Many of the leaders to be celebrated are women trained to advocate for the health and safety of their families. Health care? EHC is fighting the high rates of childhood asthma in underserved communities. The wall? EHC works on both sides of the border, building bridges with our neighbors in Mexico and serving local communities with significant immigrant populations. Working families? Labor and civil rights icon Dolores Huerta is the keynote speaker and an award recipient. Follow that up with the March for Science on Earth Day, April 22, which “champions publicly funded and publicly communicated science as a pillar of human freedom and prosperity.” Never have science, and the truth in general,

been under such political assault. House Speaker Newt Gingrich, who led the conservative revolution in 1994, sought to increase funding to the National Institutes of Health even as he tried to cut and balance the federal budget. He knew that investment in research, both basic and applied, was a good investment in America and saved lives. That lesson seems to be lost on this generation of conservatives, who would shrink everything but military spending. ( President Obama was derided for not being able to ensure “if you like your health care plan, you can keep it.” President Trump’s administration won’t even try to protect science or the environment. This recess, #Resist to keep them. ❖ In the interests of full disclosure Joel Trambley is on the Fund Development Committee for the Environmental Health Coalition.

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Let’s support Police Officer Christine Garcia ONCE AGAIN TRANSGENDER POLICE Officer Christine Garcia has been subjected to hate, disrespect, insults and attacks by some militant radical members of our very own LGBT community. As many of you remember, Officer Garcia was barred from attending the annual Transgender Day of Remembrance because she was wearing her police uniform. Now for the recent ugly incident. Earlier this year Officer Garcia got a phone call from Tracie O’Brien, the founder and chair of the annual Transgender Day of Empowerment. Officer Garcia was informed that she was going to be honored and recognized with an award at the April 14 event. Officer Garcia humbly accepted and was very touched by this well-deserved recognition. Officer Garcia is the first out transgender officer in the San Diego Police Department with the full support of Police Chief Shelley Zimmerman. Officer Garcia is married, has children and is a role model of an outstanding San Diego citizen and police officer. Well a few weeks ago Officer Garcia received a phone call and was told that they would not be honoring her after all, and yes, rescinded her award. Why? She was told that the same small group of radical transgender activists who demanded that she not wear her uniform now stated that they would disrupt the upcoming event if Officer Garcia was recognized. One even threatened to “shut the event down.” These individuals numbering about three to five transgender activists absolutely hate all police officers and departments, period. Tracie and her committee

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being afraid of an ugly incident caved into the bullies and withdrew Officer Garcia’s award. Then some other community activists were informed of this insult including me, and we raised hell and let Tracie O’Brien and her committee know that this was not only unacceptable, but there would be a counter demonstration in support of Officer Garcia. This past week Officer Garcia was informed that they would indeed honor her this Friday night and I am glad that she will be in attendance proudly wearing her police officer uniform. While it is good that the Transgender Day of Empowerment organizers have changed

their minds, my question is why the San Diego transgender community has let these few radical transgender activists cause so much dissent and division? A short while ago there was a Black Lives Matter event held at the rainbow flag in Hillcrest, supported by these radicals. Many nonblack transgender San Diegans told me that they felt left out and hurt. To me, the suicide of four San Diego transgender teens who were not African American and all transgender lives matter, period. I have spoken with many transgender leaders who tell me that these radical transgender activists are indeed causing division and bullying their fellow transgender sisters and brothers. Recently there was a Project Trans Career Fair at The LGBT Center and Police Chief Zimmerman made sure that there was a San Diego Police Department booth there to recruit transgender police officers. It’s time that our LGBT community stand up and face down these radical transgender activists. Please attend this Friday’s Transgender Day of Empowerment at The Center at 6 p.m. and show your support for Police Officer Christine Garcia. Thank you. ❖ NICOLEMRSANDIEGO@AOL.COM • an award-winning columnist since 1973 • a Latino and gay activist for more than 45 years • currently a city commissioner and has served the last seven mayors of San Diego • national board member of the Harvey Milk Foundation • chairman of the International Court Council of the USA, Canada and Mexico • named “Mayor of Hillcrest” by a City proclamation in 2013

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Dine Out! Fight AIDS! The Center’s Cheli Mohamed on the magic that volunteers bring to Dining Out for Life San Diego BY CORRI PLANCK PHOTOS BY VITO DI STEFANO

THE SAN DIEGO LGBT COMMUNITY Center has made it incredibly easy, and wildly fun, to make a difference in the fight against HIV. Share a meal at that new place you’ve wanted to try = support HIV services at The Center. Invite your co-workers to lunch = help ensure effective HIV prevention efforts. Get a group of friends together for after-dinner cocktails = help end the stigma associated with the disease. Thursday, April 27, San Diegans will again dine out to support HIV services and prevention programs at The Center as part of the 11th annual Dining Out for Life® San Diego. This year, more than 70 restaurants and bars throughout San Diego will donate 25 percent or more of their food and liquor sales to 14

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the cause. (A full list is available on The Center’s Web site at “This day-long event is always inspirational,” said Ian Johnson, director of development for The Center. “By providing as many dining options as possible this adds to the excitement and success of this event. These participating restaurants help fight HIV in our community and also have an opportunity to showcase their venue to a new audience.” Volunteers also contribute significantly to the success of Dining Out for Life and this year, Araceli (Cheli) Mohamed will be working to provide information and support to those volunteers. Mohamed recently returned to The Center as director of Volunteer Services and Community Leadership Development. She’s a familiar face in the San Diego LGBT community, having previously served at The Center from 1995-2000 in various administrative and programmatic roles. For more than two decades, she has volunteered and worked with San Diego LGBT Pride and for 12 years with the Victory Fund, at both local events and at the organization’s national conference. In her new role, Mohamed is focused on re-

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cruiting and training volunteers and ambassadors for this year’s Dining Out event. “Volunteers are an essential ingredient in the success of Dining Out for Life,” Mohamed said. “Their enthusiasm and compassion help us raise much-needed funds for HIV services and prevention efforts. They also make a difference by bringing the issue of HIV to the forefront and helping end the stigma associated with the disease.” San Diego LGBT Weekly recently asked Mohamed about her return to The Center, the importance of volunteers and the motivation behind her own volunteer service. San Diego LGBT Weekly: What has it been like to come back to The Center in your new role? Cheli Mohamed: Being back at The Center has

been an incredible experience already. Reconnecting with old friends, incredible volunteers and devoted community members. It’s almost dream-like, feeling connected and inspired every day by the life-changing services that The Center offers. The spirit of community that is exemplified by The Center’s staff members is also incredibly motivating. Every day I come to The Center feeling like I can move mountains.


and family to include their community service hours to The Center. They make The Center part of their lives. When a volunteer approaches your table during Dining Out for Life, they are prepared to share why The Center is critical to the community. The volunteers educate patrons about the HIV services we provide, but most importantly, about the impact on the quality of life that our programs have on individuals. They are there because they believe!

You’ve remained active as a community volunteer, and a leader in the area of volunteerism. What drives your own volunteer service, and what drives you to encourage and support others in their volunteer work?

My very first job after graduating college was at AIDS Foundation San Diego in 1994, at the height of the HIV/AIDS crisis. I was hired as their bilingual volunteer training specialist. My job was to work with health service providers and community organizations that were working with our HIV/AIDS-impacted community on developing volunteer programs to assist them in providing services to and support for people fighting, and I mean fighting for their life. Clients were dying daily, wasting away, rejected by family and friends, losing their jobs and their homes. The volunteer program at AIDS Foundation required a 16-hour training (two full days of trainings). You would have thought that would be a turn off. Yet every month we had almost 45-50 volunteers going through the training. Volunteers devoted dozens of hours to assist with the food bank, legal clinic, community outreach and education and staff the hotline. But the most important thing was simply being present and offering hope. You could often see volunteers simply sitting down with our clients, talking, crying sometimes just holding them. You see, by the time they got to the Foundation, they had sometimes lost everything! Volunteers offered a welcoming smile, a warm hug, held their hand. They didn’t retreat when they saw their visually weakening bodies. Volunteers offered hope. I have never been able to walk away from that feeling of hope, and feeling that volunteers are truly the catalysts for change and that feeling is incredibly empowering. I am a volunteer junkie. When I am not at work or with my family, I am volunteering and I drag my kids (all four of them!) into my volunteer work. Whether it’s making peanut butter and jelly sandwiches and delivering them to the homeless downtown or painting murals at the San Diego River Conservancy, feeding seniors or answering hundreds of questions at San Diego Pride’s Info Booth, picking up trash at countless beach cleanups or simply serving donuts

What are the volunteer opportunities for people to get involved in Dining Out for Life?

at church, making that connection with people, accepting them for who they are, seeing a flicker of hope in their eyes. It makes every moment precious and appreciated. Why do you think volunteers are so important to The Center overall and specifically for Dining Out for Life?

I think the magic that volunteers bring to The Center, and especially to Dining Out for Life, is hope. Volunteers bring the mission and vision of The Center to life. They bring such dedication and devotion to our programs, clients and community at large. They make time in their busy schedules and balance work

There are a number of ways people can help support Dining Out for Life. Before the event, we need volunteers to help distribute posters to restaurants and businesses to raise awareness of the event, and of which restaurants are participating. You can also serve as an ambassador, which means you’ll host and welcome guests to your assigned restaurant, answer questions about the event and help with our annual drawing. The ambassadors also approach all the tables at the restaurant and explain the event to guests and ask for additional donations. The day of the event is a busy one, and we need runners to assist in getting materials to and from restaurants. We also have a Balloon

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Volunteer training

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Brigade that assists with inflating hundreds of balloons and placing them at participating restaurants. Our goal is to see a sea of red! Johnson added, “Last year we started the balloon placement at each participating location. Yes, each location! I wanted community members to be able to drive down the street and know what their options were for Dining Out for Life and to give some recognition to those restaurants participating and giving back. What better symbol of HIV awareness than the color red. Dining Out for Life San Diego has energy throughout the city and driving down the street and seeing red balloons in front of over 70 restaurants adds to the experience,” he said. How can potential volunteers get connected for Dining Out for Life? Cheli Mohamed


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Every volunteer represents a flicker of hope. Think about what Harvey Milk said — “Without hope the US’s give up. I know that you cannot live on hope alone, but without it, life is not worth living and you, and you and you have got to give them hope!” Anyone interested in becoming a Dining Out for Life® volunteer or ambassador can contact Cheli Mohamed at 619-692-2077, ext. 202 or at Upcoming volunteer trainings will take place on Thursday, April 13 at 5:30 p.m. at Baja Betty’s, 1421 University Ave. and on Saturday, April 15 at 10 a.m. at The Center, 3909 Centre St. ❖



thursday, april 13 First Date


First Date


Scripps Ranch Theatre, 9783 Avenue of Nations in San Diego, 8 p.m., tickets $31, 858-578-7728,

Flemming (An American Thriller)

sat The Wizard of Oz


The Freedom to Marry

saturday, april 15 The Wizard of Oz - Film with Orchestra

Copley Symphony Hall, 750 B Street in San Diego, 8 p.m., tickets from $20, 619235-0804,

The American Comedy Company, 818B Sixth Ave. in San Diego, 7 p.m., tickets $5, 619-795-3858,

The Freedom to Marry movement is now known as one of the most successful civil rights campaigns in modern history, but change did not arrive by happenstance. This victory was carefully planned and orchestrated over decades. The Freedom to Marry, a new documentary film, offers the untold, inside story of this historic movement. This is a riveting ride alongside Evan Wolfson and Mary Bonauto, the architect and the main litigator of the movement. Digital Gym Cinema, 2921 El Cajon Blvd. in North Park, 11 a.m., 3 p.m. and 7:30 p.m., general admission $11, 619230-1938,

tuesday, april 18 Steely Dan

tue An enduring 1939 classic about Dorothy (the immortal Judy Garland) and her adventures in the Land of Oz, as she tries to find her way home to Kansas gets the Fox Theatre treatment. Dorothy and her friends, the Scarecrow, Tin Man, The Cowardly Lion and her little dog Toto do battle with the Wicked Witch of the West as the San Diego Symphony performs the tuneful score by Harold Arlen and Herbert Stothart.

Mike Lawrence is an Emmy nominated New York City based comedian from South Florida who has found success in both writing and stand up. He is the winner of the first season of Jeff Ross Presents Roast Battle. He was a staff writer on season four of Inside Amy Schumer, Comedy Central’s Roast of Rob Lowe, Black and White on A&E, Triumph’s Election Special on Hulu and was a writer on the 2015 MTV Movie Awards.

monday, april 17 The Freedom to Marry

friday, april 14 Flemming (An American Thriller) Bored by his privileged, but mundane life, Henry Flemming sells his lucrative brokerage firm to become a detective. On his very first case, and to the horror of his wife, Karen, and his two crazy neighbors, Suzy and Stan, the Flemming living room begins to fill up with dead bodies. Karen is further annoyed when one of them turns out to be her father. Even though Henry keeps showing up at home every day more disheveled and beaten up, he couldn’t be happier.


Horton Grand Theatre, 444 Fourth Ave. in San Diego, 2 p.m., tickets from $34, 858560-5740,

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sunday, april 16 Mike Lawrence


Opposites attract in this uproarious romantic musical comedy about the chances we take to find love. When blind date newbie Aaron meets serial dater Casey, a first date turns into a hilarious high stakes dinner. In an unexpected twist, Aaron and Casey’s inner critics’ transform restaurant patrons into scheming exes, overbearing parents, and supportive best friends who sing and dance them through their date. Will Aaron and Casey be able to turn this disastrous date around before the check arrives? Rated R for language and adult themes.


Mike Lawrence Sunday at The American Comedy Company

Steely Dan fans are one of a kind and they love the unique sound, incredible vocals and the unbelievable energy that make Steely Dan’s live music one of a kind. The Rock ‘n’ Roll Hall of Famers will perform songs from their vast catalog rich with infectious tunes, bodacious harmonies, irresistible grooves, blazing solo work, rich ensembles and sleek, subversive lyrics. Humphreys Concerts by the Bay, 2241 Shelter Island Dr. in San Diego, 7:30 p.m., tickets $185, 800-745-3000,

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wednesday, april 19 Travels with my Aunt


A New York Times Critic’s Pick in 2015, Travels with my Aunt is an engaging, always entertaining journey. Eccentric Aunt Augusta swoops in and shakes up the life of her staid bourgeois nephew. She ignites the lust for adventure that is buried within his gray flannel soul.

Travels with my Aunt

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North Coast Repertory Theatre, 987 Lomas Santa Fe Dr. in Solana Beach, 7 p.m., tickets $46, 858-481-1055,


Refusing a genre, ‘Colossal’ is a revelation MOVIES BY TED GIDEONSE

The sTrongesT of my genre expectations is that every film will exist in some sort of genre. And then, I expect that the conventions of that genre will convene, maybe with a few slips or surprises, but nothing more. When a film like Colossal comes along – a film that defies, ignores, mashes up and spits on multiple genres – I couldn’t help but be confused. Through half of it, I watched with my head tilted as if I were a puppy watching his owner practice yoga. It’s a talky indie comedy, a Korean monster movie, a feminist suspense film and an addiction parable; it’s funny, creepy, shocking and weird as hell. clearly, the studio didn’t know what to do with it, because the trailer makes it seem like a slapstick rom com star vehicle for Anne hathaway and Jason sudeikis. It’s not. hathaway plays gloria, an out-of-work new york writer who is drinking away her sorrows, her anxiety and her boyfriend Tim (Dan stevens). When he kicks her out after one-too-many all-night binges, she lands in the empty house where she grew up in maidenhead, new Jersey. While walking home with her new inflatable bed, her childhood friend oscar (Jason sudeikis) drives by. he now owns his father’s bar, and they rekindle their friendship while drinking till dawn with his friends Joel (Austin stowell) and garth (Tim Blake nelson). oscar eventually offers a bartending job to gloria; he clearly has a crush on her, but she seems more interested, at least while drunk, in Joel. meanwhile, a several-story-tall monster is randomly appearing in seoul for a minute at a time and causing mass destruction. not surprisingly, everyone is horrified and mystified, and oscar’s bar does good business because of it. But then gloria notices that the monster has the exact same body language she does, particularly at 8:05am when she’s walking home drunk through a nearby playground. somehow, she is that monster – for a minute a day, from 7,000 miles away, and only in that little playground. she’s confused and feels horribly

Jason Sudeikis and Anne Hathaway in Colossal

Colossal Written and Directed by Nacho Vigalondo Starring Anne Hathaway, Jason Sudeikis and Dan Stevens Rated R Opens at Landmark Hillcrest April 14

guilty for being responsible for the deaths of so many (nameless, faceless) Koreans. one morning, drunk as usual, she reveals her bizarre secret to her new friends, who are flabbergasted. And then it turns out that she’s not alone in her violent out of body transnational gigantism. gloria’s plight veers from ridiculous to pathetic to horrifying to hilarious, with the film starting as a comedy and ending in some sort of cathartic tragedy. The tone shifts make narrative and artistic sense, but they are certainly disconcerting, especially when you realize you’re watching comedic drunkenness that is killing hundreds of people on the other side of the planet. Writer-director nacho Vigalondo doesn’t clearly signal to the audience how they’re supposed to feel about that or about gloria’s emotional messiness in general, aside

from bemused pity and confusion. But then the awkward love square created by gloria’s flirtation with Joel, oscar’s crush on gloria and Tim and gloria’s unresolved issues mashes up against the mysterious monster embodiment. Who’s good and who’s bad and what’s right and wrong becomes clear. And by the end it should be clear to most that the whole thing is a metaphor for the struggle with alcoholism. hathaway has done drunk well before, earning a much-deserved oscar nomination for Rachel Getting Married. gloria isn’t as well written a role, but hathaway’s ability to seamlessly transition from broad comedy to dramatic grit is perfectly utilized. except for sudeikis, the rest of the cast mostly exist as plot devices, which is a shame considering the skills of stevens and nelson. sudeikis, however, matches hathaway’s skills in his portrayal of a not-so-secretly despondent drunk who is the life of the party one second and its destroyer the next. oscar’s first appearance sets him up as the lead of a rom com, but then he becomes something much less safe and much more sinister, like the film as a while. Both are a revelation. ❖

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Skeleton Crew

(from left) Amari Cheatom as Dez, Brian Marable as Reggie, Tonye Patano as Faye, and Rachel Nicks as Shanita in Dominique Morisseau's Skeleton Crew

The Old Globe Theatre, Moxie Theatre and Delicia Turner Sonnenberg come together in a historic collaboration BY TOM ANDREW | PHOTOS BY JIM COX

OPENING THIS WEEK AT THE OLD Globe Theatre is the play Skeleton Crew, penned by playwright and actress Dominique Morisseau. Skeleton Crew focuses on the Great Recession and how it affected one of the last auto stamping plants in Detroit, and the choices workers had to make to move forward if that plant were to shut down. It’s also the third part in a play cycle by Morriseau, set in Detroit. The play is being done in association with San Diego’s Moxie Theatre and is being directed by Moxie’s artistic director Delicia Turner Sonnenberg. Sonnenberg made her way to San Diego after working in NYC at the Second Stage Theatre Off Broadway and then was a part of a director’s project at the Hangar Theatre. She has been in San Diego for the last 17 years starting as a stage manager mostly for San Diego Repertory. That opportunity opened the door for her to focus on becoming an artistic director. She was awarded a TCG New Generations Grant that allowed her to work 20

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with Sam Woodhouse for a few years and that started the wheels turning for the beginnings of Moxie Theatre. Moxie Theatre was founded in 2005 and now, 12 years later, Sonnenberg and Delicia Turner Moxie, are getting the Sonnenberg opportunity to work with one of the country’s most recognizable theaters, The Old Globe. “The artistic director of the Old Globe graciously offered this opportunity,” Sonnenbeg said. “I am not only grateful as a director to direct a great play, but also as an artistic director to work in association with one of the country’s most prestigious theaters.” Sonnenberg was familiar with Morriseau’s two other plays in the cycle, Detroit ’67 and Paradise Blue. Skeleton Crew was originally produced in April 2016 Off Broadway at The Atlantic Theatre Company in NYC and is get-

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ting its West Coast premiere here at the Globe. Morriseau was also an integral part of this project as well. “Dominique was involved in casting and spent some time in rehearsal with us,” Sonneberg said. “I have read the other plays in the Detroit Trilogy; the strong writing drew me to this piece.” Playing one of those conflicted plant workers is actor Brian Marable who actually resides in Detroit and has had family that actually work for the automobile business over the last 30 years. “My grandfather (mother’s dad) and my uncle (mother’s oldest brother) both put in over 30 years a piece at Chrysler,” Marable stated. “My grandfather wasn’t around during the 2008 recession and my uncle retired a couple years prior, but the automotive crisis didn’t just affect people working at the plant. The trickle down was volatile. There were so many smaller companies that depended on outsourced car needs by the Big Three, that when they started to crumble smaller companies were going under left and right. I know several people, family and friends, who did in fact lose homes, jobs and families (due to the stresses of not being able to provide). It was definitely a sad time!” Marable was drawn to this piece because of that but for many other reasons as well. He ac-


Amari Cheatom as Dez

tually knew Morriseau while growing up and remembers her and her passion “There are so many enticing qualities about this piece especially me being a black actor who is not only from Detroit but who still resides there,” Marable confessed. “The author Dominique and I both attended Cass Technical High School and we were both Performing Arts Majors. I remember her really making waves as a poet when we were younger. She was fierce! I was a little older but we still crossed paths within our art from time to time. It’s truly special that this amazing author has created a work of characters that are so real, so relevant and they’re based inside of real situations and times within my city. A place I was born and raised and since I was raised there, I know many people who were directly affected by the demise of the auto industry. This play is not only an incredible piece of literature but it has a special place with me. More so than the other two plays in the cycle due to the fact that I actually lived through this time and witnessed it happen.” One of the interesting things in this collaborative venture between The Old Globe and Moxie Theatre is that Skeleton Crew works quite nicely with Moxie Theatre’s mission statement. “Moxie’s mission is to create more diverse and honest images of women for our culture,” Sonnenberg said. “This includes producing female playwrights and exploring female characters that defy stereotypes. This play does that.” It’s that diversity and honesty that in essence drew and attracted Marable to Morriseau’s work. In fact this is his second time working on a Morriseau piece. “Her characters are real people and authentic,” Marable said. “She writes about our city and our people with such passion. Her char-

Brian Marable as Reggie

Rachel Nicks as Shanita

Tonye Patano as Faye

Amari Cheatom as Dez and Rachel Nicks as Shanita

acters jump off the page at you. She writes about real/relevant issues, and about real times. For instance the three shows in the cycle are all relevant/real times in Detroit’s history. I’m truly a fan of them all. When I did Detroit ‘67 in Baltimore last year I was excited at the opportunity to do a Dom (Dominique) play and it was all I thought it would be and then some. I wasn’t alive in ‘67, but I have heard many stories of the infamous ‘67 riots from my dad and other family members, and it is an unforgettable time in Detroit’s history. It still can’t compare to how connected I feel to Skeleton Crew simply because I actually lived through it, saw it, felt it; it was real! That’s why doing this piece means so much to me.” Even though the play takes place in 2008, and in Detroit, there are many things that make its message relevant to today’s times and

today’s world. Sonnenberg agrees, finding that the struggles of the working class people and Morriseau’s writing capture a time in history that will speak clearly to its audience. “At its core the play is about working class people struggling to survive; that’s timeless,” Sonnenberg said. “The recession is recent history, and it still has an impact on the choices we make. I believe when people see this play, hear the writing, they will discover that Dominique deserves to be in the conversation that includes Childress, Hansberry, Wilson, Miller, etc. as one of the best playwrights America has produced.” Skeleton Crew runs through May 7 at the Sheryl and Harvey White Theatre at the Old Globe Theatre in Balboa Park, 1363 Old Globe Way in San Diego. Tickets are available at or by calling 619-234-5623. ❖

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with a spoon and melty strings-on-your-chin provolone cheese. Sides of rich au jus and a sinus-opening horseradish cream sauce for dipping complete the presentation. Sumptuous. Ivis (pronounced EE-vis) the diligent grill master, doesn’t say much while preparing tasty food in the efficient kitchen. But there really isn’t any need; the mouth-watering aromas and quality results do all the talking. Eat this, hungry readers. You’ll be glad you did. ❖

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The calmness and comprehensiveness of this book sets it apart BOOKWATCH BY TERRI SCHLICHENMEYER

Your preschooler has always had an active imagination. Flights of fancy and dress-up fill his days. She’s rough-and-tumble, a scrapper in her mind. Make-believe has always been a big part in your child’s life but now you’re hearing something you know in your heart is not pretend – and in the new book Raising the Transgender Child by Dr. Michele Angello and Alisa Bowman, you’ll find guidance for it. In retrospect, you might’ve seen it coming: your child told you once that he was really a girl. Or she cried when you wouldn’t let her get a buzz-cut. You’ve suddenly realized, or your child has told you, that zie is gender-diverse. Either way, Angello and Bowman point out that few parents are immediately 100 percent prepared for raising a child like yours. And so, you’re not alone. Others have raised transgender children before you, and have “blazed trails” already. Whatever you’re feeling is normal, as is worry. This confusion about gender dysphoria will “burn off.” Now, there’s a term you might have heard while you’re doing research in print or online. There are many words you’ll want to know when raising a transgender child, in fact, starting with the difference between “sex” and “gender.” And by the way, as for shaky “studies” and online myths: put them aside. There are many theories on “what leads to gender diversity,” and a lot of unknowns. Again, put any arguments away and ignore negativity; all kids are different, and so are their gender experiences. Is it worth obsessing over? Probably not; you love your child regardless, so prepare yourself for a toe-dip into “social transition.” Talk with teachers and neighbors. Take steps to make relatives aware of new pronouns and appearance. Educate yourself on bathrooms, extracurricular sports and other legalities. Know when to ask for help, both financial and emotional. Remember that grief is common, and that your child may experience issues, too. Finally, dare to dream again. Your child will grow up one day and, as the authors say, will eventually fall in love with “Someone wonder-

ful and amazing …” As the parent of a transgender child, you may think that all this is common-sense stuff you’ve heard before, and that may be

Raising the Transgender Child by Dr. Michele Angello and Alisa Bowman © 2016 Seal Press $17.00 / $24.50 Canada 275 pages

so, but there’s a certain calmness inside Raising the Transgender Child that can’t be beat. The other thing that sets this book apart is

its comprehensiveness: authors Angello and Bowman seem to have thought of everything a parent or caregiver could need to know about present issues and what’s to come. It’s all easy to comprehend, too, and it covers children from small toddler to older teen. Particularly vexed parents will be happy to see that the authors even tackle the negative issues and emotions that may need to be heeded along this journey. Whether you need it now, or you sense that you might later, Raising the Transgender Child is a good book to have in your parenting bag of tricks. For questioning children and families with questions, it’s more helpful, perhaps, than you can imagine. ❖

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The need for kneepads As A child of stAunch new england Protestants i knew little of catholics except they were awaiting word from the Pope to take over the country with the stacks of rifles and casks of gun powder hidden in the church basement. My father’s friend swore he had seen them. how and why he was there in the first place was never explained. i also thought genuflecting meant to cross oneself. not until college did i learn it meant to kneel; an action of recent, painful importance. (how cleverly i have slid into my topic.)

my knees, he kept stifling a giggle. i failed to see the humor.

Taxes, etc. it is a little late to remind you of income tax time as you have (or should have) filed, made an appointment, asked for an extension or done it yourself. My tax guru brought his computer, sat at the table and logged on to a tax form. i brought him my papers, sat on the sofa and logged on to Judge Judy. A few questions were asked, answered and then, “sign here.” i am sure i can do it online myself, but as i have yet to master the iPhone 4, it is safer to rely on an expert. this recommendation of caution brings us to the “etc.” of the topic and refers to all serious paperwork: wills, health directives, funeral preferences, etc. which must be easily found and/or given to a few persons of trust. for you who have done this, the point is when,

how long ago. think about those who have passed on or are no longer among your intimates and also take into account your new friends or charities. i did this before my recent trip and was surprised how many things i changed. if it is time for an update, read everything thoroughly and decide if the expressed desires and conditions match your feelings today. if you wish to make alterations, do not scrawl them in the margins. it is vital a professional checks everything. one word omitted or incorrectly placed can sabotage your intent. A recent news article showed the importance of the comma: A, B, c and d or A, B, c, and d. check this and add the comma: “the rest to be equally divided among my sister, brother, niece and nephew.” have your wishes carried out; confer with a specialist. tomorrow may not come; do it today. Your loved ones will thank you for the clarity if you did and curse you for the mess if you didn’t. ❖ X-SPOT 9

there was a time when being on my knees was easily and swiftly accomplished. now, sad to say, not only the going down, but the getting up are considerable endeavors. the first thing you are thinking of is, of course, me on a grimy floor with rag in hand rubbing and scrubbing until all comes clean. no, i have a monthly service for that now. i refer to when i went to retrieve a pen from under the sofa. to my surprise intense pain hit as soon as my old bones ground against the floor. i concede one must face the aches and ailments of aging and the attendant glasses, hearing aids, canes, walkers, etc., but i can’t imagine me with those things that look like homemade falsies. what did i ever do to result in such a condition? there it is, however, medically confirmed. once informed of my agonizing affliction, my doctor told me bluntly not to get down on my knees so much or if i couldn’t break the habit, get kneepads. such proposals are actually of little magnitude to my current activities. i was upset, however, that my distress and torment were taken less than seriously. when referring to me on

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As A progressive ChristiAn, i believe there are many names for god and many ways to a loving god; this article reflects one of those ways. take from here what works for you. Celebrate life with joy and peace! this season of Lent in the life of the church is reflective of Jesus’ 40 days in the wilderness, where he fasted and prayed and struggled with temptation – it was in the wilderness that Jesus was able to discern his true relationship to god. his true identity. During the season of Lent, we are called to slow down our hectic lives, to make moments of solitude, and take moments of reflection, and enter into these 40 days of examining our hearts. it’s a season of spiritual preparation; a time of introspection marked by spiritual disciplines like prayer, almsgiving, coming to worship and even fasting. it’s a time for us, like Jesus did in the wilderness, to discern our true relationship to god and know our true identity. “You are a child of god. You are a beloved child of god.” this is true! scripture talks about Jesus being led by the spirit into the wilderness. now, i don’t know about you, but i think the wilderness can be a beautiful place. think about the desert in the super bloom. i had a buddy in escondido and we loved to go camping in the wilderness. Far away from anyone; no running water, peace and quiet, where the stars are so close if feels like you can touch them. i am recharged in the wilderness; i feel god in the wilderness. god speaks to me through nature. i’ve been blessed to be in the outback in Australia, living with an aboriginal tribe, experiencing their language, culture and food. i also loved a wilderness camping experience in the beartooth Mountains in Montana. i was a seminary student in my 20s; we carefully arranged our backpacks with everything we’d need for a few days (there was no 7eleven); we drove until the road ended. then we hiked about five miles over log jams, around lakes until we found a good place to set up camp. We had to put our food in bags on ropes, dig our own latrine, fish for our food and filter our drinking water. it was lovely! i soaked in the beauty all around me

and i only got scared once when in the middle of the night i heard something walking just outside the tent. My mind was racing; it was a huge elk as evidenced by the deep footprints just inches from my head where i lay in the tent! but there’s more than one kind of wilderness. it’s not all pretty. We can experience wilderness in the city, in crowds, at work and school. this can also be known as a “wilderness experience.” When we look at Jesus in the wilderness and how he overcame temptation, it is reassuring to us. We are not alone. now, do you think Jesus was tempted just the one time as we read in the gospels? Hebrews 4:15 says Jesus was tempted in “all points” as we are. so, i suspect Jesus was tempted more than this one time. so, his example has great meaning and relevance to us. We are not alone in our wilderness experiences. You are not alone in your wilderness experience. What does it mean to have a wilderness experience? A wilderness experience can be thought of as a tough time where we have to endure discomfort and trials. During this time, even the so-called pleasant things in life are unable to be enjoyed; it’s lonely, depressing and exhausting! A wilderness experience is often a time of intensified temptation and spiritual attack. it can also involve a spiritual, financial or emo-

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tional drought. having a wilderness experience is not necessarily a sign that someone is sinning; rather, it’s an exercise into what the spirit is teaching us. it’s an opportunity to see how we’re learning our lessons and growing spiritually. A wilderness experience is often coupled with a mountaintop experience. After a great success, then comes the struggle. After a period of accomplishments and achievement, comes a period of trial and testing. Jesus’ experience in the wilderness teaches us some important truths: 1) it’s not a sin to be tempted; 2) times of testing will come our way (Jesus was “full of the holy spirit” when he went into the wilderness; and, 3) we are never without god’s grace. in a wilderness experience, we experience confusion. And in our confusion we doubt god’s promises are for me. We doubt our value and we doubt our identity. remember, you are a beloved child of god. in a wilderness experience it may feel like it’s a struggle to simply survive! You might feel the pressure of financial, material, physical, relational or emotional burdens that feel so heavy; that’s all we end up seeing. We want relief and we cry out for it sometimes in healthy ways and sometimes not. in this intense time, we have choices. We can go to pieces or we can go to Peace. We read in 2 Corinthians 4, “We are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not abandoned; struck down, but not destroyed.” the wilderness experience is an unpleasant place but it’s also a rich place. the same god who created the garden also created the wilderness. our faith will be tested and the god of grace and love will meet us even in the wilderness. god will never leave us alone. in the midst of our struggles, god is with us. even though you might not see god, or feel god or even believe god during a wilderness experience, god is there. ❖ Rev. Dan Koeshall is the senior pastor at The Metropolitan Community Church (The Met), 2633 Denver St., San Diego. Services every Sunday at 9 and 11 a.m.



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FOR THOSE OF YOU LUCKY TO HAVE an outdoor space or two to design, the pleasures are great but the challenges many. It takes money, care and most importantly, thought, to design a garden that is beautiful yet does not gobble up too many resources and is relatively easy to maintain. For those of us in drought plagued areas like San Diego, our circumstances do limit our choices, but planning wisely will bring great results. First, some basic ideas to keep in mind. The same principles apply when designing a garden or any work of art. We need to think about color, texture and composition. With such a vast variety of plants to choose from, we can select a personal palette. To amplify interest, think of mixtures of species— grasses, cacti, perennials and ground covers to include in your garden. The ground may be flat but you can create an interesting topography with berms and rocks. Remember to think of how to direct whatever rainfall may occur into your waterwise design. Using nature and then enhancing it is the key to a successful garden. You can create levels with your plan and also with the plants you choose, adding height and volume with trees and shrubs. It is wise to select plants that are drought resistant and local varieties that are adapted to soil and climate. These plants are hardy and rarely require additional fertilizers and pest controls. Be cognizant of each plant’s requirement for sun or shade and place them appropriately. Limit turf grasses as these require significant water and choose native grasses instead. In designing your garden composition, think big to small. Trees should be selected and planted first, as they are not to be moved and are foundational to your space. Remember not to place them too close to the house; four feet away would be the minimum. These distance considerations should be made for patios, decks and swimming pools too. You don’t want to compromise the structure of these elements. When selecting plants at the nursery, be mindful of their appropriate climate zone, how large they are likely to grow, the soil they will need to thrive. If you decide to incorporate bamboo, be aware of the different types

and their tendency to grow fast and wild, possibly overwhelming your yard. Your garden will likely attract wildlife, some welcome, some not. If you’d like hummingbirds, bees and butterflies to stop by, select those plants that will attract them. To deter

unwelcome visitors, make sure fences cannot be breached. If you’d like to enjoy your garden in the evening, make sure to incorporate lighting into your design. Your garden can be magnificent or it can be a sorry mess. Overall, the most important factor is water. The need for lots of water can be mitigated by making the right choices of water-resistant plants, and making the most of the water we do get, with correct placement and water catchment systems. With proper planning, even water-starved areas like our own can produce stunning verdant spaces. Start digging and good luck landscapers! ❖ Del Phillips is a California Licensed Real Estate agent. He is a member of the National, California and San Diego Association of Realtors. You can reach Del at Ascent Real Estate at 619-298-6666 or at DRE LIC #01267333.

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