Volume 5 Issue 18 Sept. 5, - Sept. 18, 2014
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SERVING OUR LGBT COMMUNITY
SANDAG bike plan alternative gains momentum
Hutton Marshall | Contributing Editor
Blogging for beer
9 DINING Last year’s AIDS Walk San Diego was the 24th such event and the last to be held in Balboa Park. This year’s event starts and finishes at the Pride Flag in Hillcrest. (Courtesy San Diego LGBT Center)
Hillcrest’s three largest community organizations recently formed an informal coalition to support an alternative to the forthcoming SANDAG bicycle corridor through the neighborhood. Although SANDAG has not released a preliminary layout of their bicycle corridor design, community groups have quickly rallied behind the plan envisioned by Bankers Hill architect Jim Frost as a community-friendly alternative. Since Frost’s plan was unveiled in August, the Hillcrest Business Association (HBA), the Hillcrest Town Council and the Uptown Community Parking District have each passed motions supporting the plan. The three or-
On the move after 25 years Buona appetite
AIDS Walk celebrates a milestone and moves to Hillcrest
Jeremy Ogul | Contributing Editor
With a new date, a new route, a new 5K “fun run,” and a new Friday night vigil, this year’s AIDS Walk San Diego could be the biggest yet. More than 8,000 walkers, runners, volunteers and supporters turned out for last year’s event in Balboa Park, raising nearly $400,000 for 18 San Diego-area HIV/AIDS service organizations, according to event director Ian Johnson. This year, on Sept. 27, the routes begin and end on Normal Street in Hillcrest. Both
the 5K and 10K travel along University Avenue, Park Boulevard, El Prado, over the Cabrillo Bridge and up Sixth Avenue back to University. “We’re hoping to get a lot more community support by moving it up into Hillcrest and having it on a Saturday instead of Sunday,” Johnson said. “Hopefully it will bring out our neighbors that will want to get involved and see what’s happening.” see Aids Walk, pg 3
Jim Frost’s plan would turn the blocks between Fourth and First avenues in Hillcrest into a one-way street. (Courtesy Jim Frost)
see Bike Plan, pg 16
The Center challenges our community to end the war against AIDS George Vernon
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The San Diego LGBT Center has joined the national #BeTheGeneration campaign. (Courtesy San Diego LGBT Center)
Can San Diego cut the number of new HIV cases to zero in the next 10 years? Delores Jacobs, CEO of the San Diego LGBT Community Center, thinks so. In a message to the community in the organization’s weekly newsletter last month, Jacobs urged San Diegans to reinvigorate the national #BeTheGeneration campaign. #BeTheGeneration was launched in 2006 by the National Institute of Allergy and Infectious Diseases, part of the National Institute of Health, as a call to action to help end the war against HIV and AIDS. “We can be the generation that fights to
end new cases, that stops the epidemic-level spread of HIV/AIDS,” Jacobs wrote. “We can make it happen.” To make it happen, HIV/AIDS education needs to be provided without shame or fear, and access to condoms and medications for all who need them should be easily available, Jacobs said. “PrEP (pre-exposure prophylaxis — treatments like Truvada) and PEP (post-exposure prophylaxis) are revolutionary tools in this fight, and offer the most promising hope we have seen in prevention,” Jacobs said. “There see Generation, pg 13
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San Diego’s vibrant craft beer scene draws bloggers nationwide
Paul McGuire | Legally LGBT
Editor’s Note: Our Legally LGBT columnist is a craft beer blogger when he is not parsing legalease. He recently attended the local Beer Blogger’s Conference here in San Diego and we asked him to share his firsthand experience.
hat enticed me into attending the Beer Bloggers’ Conference (BBC) was the chance to meet some of the big brewers. A big part of what originally drew me into craft beer was the ability to get to know the people behind the beer. This is especially great at a small brewery where the brewers are also pouring your beer. Once a brewery grows large enough, the brewers hire staff and stay behind the scenes. This year’s BBC gave me a chance to see talks from the brewers behind Karl Strauss, Sierra Nevada, Green Flash, Alesmith, and Lost Abbey. I
Lots of local small craft beer breweries attended the Beer Blogger’s Conference (Photos by Paul McGuire)
got to learn about the story behind some of the beers that have become mainstays in the San Diego craft beer scene. We didn’t get to hear a talk from anyone at Stone but through each of the talks, we got a good introduction to Stone’s history as well. It may seem hard to believe, but craft beer in San Diego is still relatively new. Until Karl Strauss opened up in 1989, the San Diego beer market was still mostly limited to big name beers. Though now it seems common sense for distributors
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to push craft beer, Stone started distributing their own beers because they couldn’t find anyone to touch them. Stone now distributes a good portion of the craft beer throughout Southern California, both local brands and other bigger craft breweries from out of state. The other thing that makes a BBC so much fun is the ability to try so many different beers in one weekend. It has become a big thing for people to take brewery tours to visit a number of breweries in one day; but even then you are usually lim-
gay-sd.com ited to five or six, and there is quite a bit of travel in between. At the conference, the beer comes to you and the people pouring your beer are excited to tell you about what they’re serving. Some of the breweries brought with them beers that were special releases in the past that are now hard to find. Others brought a taste of what they are going to release in the future. Through all of it, I got the feeling that the breweries value the ability of the bloggers to spread the word and share their experiences. Two breweries went the extra mile and hosted dinners for all in attendance. The first night we had a private gathering at Karl Strauss catered by one of the best local taco caterers I’ve ever had. There were some of the brewery’s most popular selections available for all in attendance. The second night, Stone bussed everyone over in party buses to their Point Loma location where we had an outdoor area all to ourselves complete with some exciting small-batch beers that were only available at that location. This gave us an early look at the new Lupulin Loop, a new series of beers aimed at exploring the tastes of single varieties of hops. All the food provided was straight out of Stone’s kitchen, and everyone was impressed by the flavors presented. Stone hosts special events fairly regularly so they were ready with systems in place to limit beer consumption.
The last thing that stuck out to me from the BBC was how fantastic it was to get to meet fellow bloggers and people working in the industry. We all share a love for beer, so connections formed quickly with most people I met. If you are interested in learning more about the craft beer scene in San Diego, check out my blog San Diego Hop Addict at sdhopaddict.com. I cover everything from local breweries to new beers in bottles and beers from other states that show up in the liquor store. I also have some recent posts that explain the basics of craft beer if you are still feeling lost among all the fancy terms. —Paul D. McGuire is an openly bisexual family law attorney in San Diego. He writes a blog on family law and LGBT issues at paul-mcguire.com.▼
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AIDSWALK While a certified 10K race and 5K walk have long been part of the event, organizers this year added a new casual 5K fun run with a “Heroes and Villains” theme. Costumes are encouraged, and strollers, walkers, in-line skates, skateboards and scooters are welcome. Also new this year is a Friday night candlelight vigil to commemorate friends and family lost to AIDS. The vigil will be held on Normal Street at University Avenue under the Pride Flag and monument at 7 p.m. on Sept. 26. The money generated by AIDS Walk is a vital revenue source for nonprofit organizations such as Christie’s Place, which provides support to more than 1,200 women, children and family clients who are impacted by HIV/AIDS. “It helps to literally keep our lights on and our doors open here at Christie’s Place,” said Liz Brosnan, the organization’s executive director. “AIDS Walk is really sort of woven into the fabric of who we are.” Shannon Hansen, Christie’s Place program manager and leader of the Christie’s Place AIDS Walk team, said the fundraising aspect of the event is just one part of what makes it important. “It’s a great opportunity for people who are affected by HIV/ AIDS to see that San Diego cares about them and that people want to help them,” Hansen said. “I think that’s a really powerful message.” Other beneficiaries last year were Being Alive, Community HousingWorks, Family Health Centers, Fraternity House, Mama’s Kitchen, North County Health Services, North County LGBTQ Resource Center, Operation Samahan, San Diego Volunteer Lawyer Program, San Diego Youth Services, San
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Mark your calendar for these upcoming community events organized to raise money for AIDS Walk San Diego. Car Wash | Sunday, Sept. 7 2 to 6 p.m. Metropolitan Community Church 2633 Denver St., Bay Park The Family Health Centers team will host a car wash and donate all proceeds to the cause.
YPC Feud | Saturday, Sept. 20 2 p.m. Flicks 1017 University Ave., Hillcrest Survey says: the Young Professionals Council will host their own Family Feud-style game show event — YPC Feud — to raise money for AIDS Walk. Entry is free, the bar will offer drink specials and participants can enter an opportunity drawing.
Fierce Fling | Sunday, Sept. 14 2 p.m. Claire de Lune’s Sunset Temple 3911 Kansas St., North Park Zumbathon | Saturday, Sept. 20 Olive Onemore and Tiffany Tanqueray host 10 to 11:30 a.m. “Fierce Fling,” an annual AIDS Walk fundraiser Southwest High School featuring outlandish drag performances, men in 1685 Hollister St., Nestor swimsuits and other special guests. A $10 donaZumbathon madness is back for a second tion is suggested, and don’t forget to tip your year, and organizers encourage participants to drag queen. wear their favorite Disney outfit and dance the morning away. Tickets are available for $15 ($10 HRC SD Social | Tuesday, Sept. 16 for Lulu Fitness members). All proceeds will be 7 to 9 p.m. donated to AIDS Walk. Harvey Milk’s American Diner 535 University Ave., Hillcrest Zumba | Saturday, Sept. 20 HRC San Diego’s monthly networking 1 to 3 p.m. social will double as a fundraiser kickoff for Party Fitness Studio AIDS Walk. Those who donate at this event 4659 Mission Gorge Pl., Grant Hill will be entered for a chance to win fun and The Family Health Centers team will host a fantastic prizes. high-energy fitness fundraiser featuring U-Jam and Zumba workouts. A $10 donation is suggested.
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How to retire happy (the RMO method)
MICHAEL KIMMEL LIFE BEYOND THERAPY
hat does it mean to retire? Let’s expand the definition beyond “to stop working.” After all, maybe our grandparents wanted to stop working entirely, and they could. Do we? Some of my clients have retired at 45, 50 or 55. Some left the military with a full pension, or did their 25 years as a schoolteacher, nurse or public employee. When you retire at that age, what do you do with the rest of your life? To give up working is typical of what I call “old-school” retirement. But, even if we have pots of money, do we not want to do any kind of work at all? Is there any kind of work we could enjoy or find meaningful? Or do we just want to hang out for the next 20, 30 or 40 years? I think it’s time to redefine retirement. A definition I like says that to retire is to repair. This makes sense. After working for many years, we probably need to repair ourselves. We may be worn out, tired, bored or not excited about the way we made our living. Repair may be just the ticket. How do we repair ourselves? We restore, mend, overhaul. We want to RESTORE our enthusiasm for our life. We want to MEND ourselves where we’re physically, mentally or spiritually broken. And we want to OVERHAUL our life to get rid of old, outdated stuff (people, places and things) and replace them with something much better.
Let’s look more closely at the restore/mend/overhaul (“RMO”) method of happy retirement: Whether you love your job or hate it, how can you RESTORE your enthusiasm for living? If you don’t like the work you’re doing, can you spend less so you can work less? Can you create time to do things you enjoy? Maybe you don’t even know what makes you happy. Well folks, now is a great time to experiment and find out. Where are you broken, wounded, cynical or unhappy? These are the parts of yourself you want to MEND. Take a good look at your body: Is it working really well? Are you strong and flexible? If not, your body needs some help. For many of us, yoga is a big piece of successful aging. Finding a form of exercise you enjoy is crucial. A happy retirement is about enjoying your life. Don’t force yourself to do some physical thing that you hate. Are you ready to enjoy moving your body? All those machines and treadmills in over-crowded gyms may not work for you anymore. How about running, biking, rollerblading, hiking, dancing or swimming? Your body will mend if you give it something it likes; it won’t mend if you force it to do something it hates. Is your mind peaceful and happy? Do you easily forgive people? Are you willing to be wrong? If not, your mind needs some mending too. Meditation, psychotherapy, workshops, books, movies and music are all good tools to help heal your mind. A spiritual path may be your next step toward a more peaceful mind. Religion could be helpful too. A silent retreat may be just the ticket to start the next (better) part of your life. Find something that brings you contentment. When it’s time to OVERHAUL your life, it’s a major task that unfolds over time. It’s not something you do only once. Retirement is a
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ust over a week away to South Bay Pride Art & Music Festival, Sept. 13! We are so excited about all that is happening this year. This free event is open to all LGBT and their allies in celebration of diversity, love and equality for all. Not only do we have some wonderful entertainment, artists, vendors and exhibitors throughout the day with great food and an awesome MO’s Universe Playground beverage garden, but San Diego Kid’s Party Rentals is bringing out the Euro-bungee trampoline, Wipeout 8 game, Daredevil freefall and an obstacle course. You will want to come ready to go kayaking and paddle boarding during the day as well. Our entertainment lineup for our two stages is amazing. Check out the schedule below and come ready to spend the day listening and dancing to some of the best local bands around.
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great time to make a list of the people you really love who love you just as you are. It’s time to dump people who mistreat, manipulate or use you. Get them out of your life! Make space for some great new people (yes, that’s how it works). Try new things. Go to new places. Get out of your rut. You may be a bit anxious at first, but do you want to live the rest of your life as you did the first part? I didn’t think so. Retirement isn’t about how old you are or whether you work or not. It’s about restoring, mending and overhauling your life. You can do that at any age, but when you hit the halfway mark (ages 40-50) is a great time to start the process. And it IS a process. Don’t wait until you’re 65! That’s way too late to put off being happy. Start now. —Michael Kimmel is a licensed psychotherapist who specializes in helping LGBT clients achieve their goals and deal with anxiety, depression, grief, sexually addictive behavior, coming out, relationship challenges and homophobia. Michael is currently accepting new clients. Contact him at 619-955-3311 or visit lifebeyondtherapy.com.▼
12 -1:30 p.m. – 80s|90s|Pop with DJ Junior DiscoPunk “Manic Mondays” 1:45 p.m. – Cheyenne Dville 2 - 3:30 p.m. – Latin Music with DJ Rick Betta “Uncut at Numbers” 3:45 p.m. – Naomi Fiercee 4 - 5:30 p.m. – Top 40/Hip Hop with DJ Kinky Loops “Gossip Grill” 5:45 p.m. – Shania Luvless & Cassidy Richards 6 - 7:30 p.m. – EDM/TRAP with DJ WILL Z “Richs & Flicks” 7:45 p.m. – Erica Foxx 8 - 10 p.m. – EDM with DJ Royal Zeven “Hard Rock, Stingaree, Ivy Nightclub”
Our opportunity drawing prizes are great as well and by donating $5 to South Bay Pride, you have a chance of winning the prizes listed below throughout the day. The Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence, led by Sister Ida, will be on hand to help you out with the raffle. Look at these prizes and then donate to help us keep South Bay Pride free as well as contribute to our future South Bay LGBTQI Center! 2 VIP box tickets to the Carnivores Tour: Linkin Park, 30 Seconds to Mars and AFI. Sleep Train Amphitheater in Chula Vista on Sept. 16 at 6:30 p.m. Gift certificate for a complimentary consultation, orthopedic and neurological examination and computerized spinal analysis of your nervous system. Visit vitalitychirocenter.com Four tickets to the Oct. 2 Taste of Downtown. Explore and enjoy the diverse culinary culture of 50 participating neighboring restaurants. Four tickets (worth $25 each) for Restaurant Week, Sept. 21 - 26. Choose from over 180 of San Diego’s most delightful and delicious eateries for a three-course dinner. Four VIP tickets to San Diego’s premiere Halloween block party. The 14th annual Monster Bash, from 6 p.m. to midnight. Sandiegomonsterbash.com Gift certificate for one hour Tuina massage, value of $85. lotussanctuary.com. And finally, this year, we’re teaming up with Uber so you can drink responsibly and ride in style to and from South Bay Pride this weekend. You can either use them from wherever you live or take the trolley to the “E” or “H” street stations and then get your last leg taken care of by Uber. If you are new to them, they have generously offered to give $20 off your first two Uber rides, sign up at uber.com/go/southbaypride14 or download the app, and enter the promo code “southbaypride14.” Uber wants you to enjoy Pride and look great doing it, whether that’s seaside, or in the sleekest ride in town. With our Uber partnership, you can get home safely. Party responsibly this weekend and take pride riding with Uber. #RideWithPride. Check out directions and other transportation options on our website: southbaypride.org. Don’t miss this wonderful Pride Celebration. See you there! —Dae Elliott is a sociologist working at SDSU since 1994. She is a founding executive committee member and current executive director of South Bay Alliance, a 501(c)3 nonprofit and organizer of the annual South Bay Pride Art & Music Festival. Contact her at firstname.lastname@example.org.▼
Literature: the necessary bread
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s a director of a literature foundation and as someone who studied literature relentlessly in college, you would think that I had an unwavering belief that literature is an essential feature of a life well lived and is certainly essential to social change. But even I have doubts. I wrestle with nagging thoughts like “No one reads anymore,” or “Fiction is frivolous and non-fiction and facts are what matter,” or “Do novels or poetry really have anything important to contribute to society other than just entertainment?” These thoughts are among many others that nip at my heels whenever I begin to feel insecure about what I have dedicated my life to. I can only imagine that these doubts and insecurities are 100 times worse for actual writers who are hoping their work means something.
But these thoughts and worries do not happen in a vacuum. Rather they are part of a culture that I think is becoming rabidly anti-intellectual and anti-art and one that is also obsessed with “fact” or completely “objective” truths. I have gotten into heated debates with other young activists, where I have to argue once again that working in the field of literature is a legitimate and essential part of making our world more livable. But I still have nagging doubt. As a result, I will occasionally take my doubts to books and “ask” the author to demonstrate to me yet again why literature matters, why it can literally change the world, and why I should care so much about it. This Labor Day weekend I had the pleasure of reading Julia Alvarez’s “In The Time of the Butterflies,” a book of historical fiction that restores the revolutionary Maribel sisters to memory. But it was the postscript in the novel that really spoke to my belief in the power of literature, however shaky that belief can get at times. In the postscript Alvarez writes, “For I wanted to immerse my readers in an epoch in the life of the Dominican Republic that I believe can only be finally understood by fiction, only finally be redeemed by the imagination. A novel is not after all, a historical document, but a way to travel through the human heart.”
And further on she writes, “A reading, thinking, empathetic citizenry is a lot less likely to be controlled or hoodwinked. ‘The function of freedom is to free someone else.’ And I can’t think of a better way to pass on that freedom than to make that someone else a reader and put a good book in his or her hands.” Alvarez is spot on with her assertion that history and politics can only be truly understood in one’s core through an emotional
“I will occasionally take my doubts to books and ‘ask’ the author to demonstrate to me yet again why literature matters, why it can literally change the world, and why I should care so much about it.” connection to the issue or moment. Literature helps to build that connection and allows us to travel into various human hearts and gain a sense of empathy that would be inaccessible to us if we just operated under “cold hard facts.” Indeed, even politics is de-
events attheCenter Saturday, Sept. 6
tuesday, Sept. 9
LGBt Veterans Benefits Clinic
LGBt Parents Connect
11am-1pm, the Center
6pm, Latino Services
The County of San Diego Veterans Services Office, along with local LGBT military organizations, will present a workshop on benefits accessibility for United States Armed Forces veterans. Participants will learn more about the many services, benefits, and programs available to them, and the County will have some staff on hand to assist veterans in enrolling in certain benefit programs or provide referrals. For more information contact Ben Cartwright at email@example.com or 619.692.2077 x106.
tuesday, Sept. 9
50 & Better Games, Games, Games Group 1-4pm, the Center Library Do you love to play cards or miss the old days of classic games like Connect Four, Life and Trivial Pursuit? Join 50 and Better Together’s new group of game enthusiasts on the second Tuesday of every month. We’ll have tons of your favorite games available in a relaxed, drop-in environment. This is a free event and all are welcome. For information, contact Larue Fields at 619.692.2077 x212, or firstname.lastname@example.org.
Having a tough day? Learned the secret to not having a tough day? If you need a sympathetic ear, or if you just want to meet other parents in the area, then this group is for you. If you’ve already dealt with issues such as coming out, temper tantrums, troubled teens or single parenting, come share your experiences and insight. This group meets on the 2nd Tuesday of every month. Free child care is available if you RSVP by the first Tuesday of each month. For more information, contact us at email@example.com.
Wednesdays, Sept. 10 & 24
Diamonds in the rough: etiquette with Miss Pepper 12noon-1:30pm, Latino Services Project TRANS invites you to join Miss Pepper Price every other Wednesday for a fun and informative class on etiquette designed especially for trans women. For more information, contact Connor Maddocks at firstname.lastname@example.org or call 619.692.2077 x109.
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pendent on stories. Politicians are experts at using stories to prove why healthcare reform or immigration reform are needed or not needed. Few people respond passionately to facts and numbers. Many of us need to feel an emotional connection to an issue before it really resonates with us. This is especially true when the issue at hand does not directly impact us. As LGBT people, we work tirelessly to convince the heterosexual majority of our equal humanity and human worth. We do this through studies, impassioned political speeches, and protests that resist homophobia or transphobia in all its forms. And all of these methods work. They all have a place in the activist arsenal. For many straight people, however, LGBT issues are difficult for them to access. They may not know anyone who is LGBT and they may be in an area where there is no LGBT culture to really speak of. And a speech or study may very well not engage them to become social change makers in their communities, but a story can. Progressives often forget that literature has been at the forefront of social movements for centuries. It was books like “Uncle Tom’s Cabin” that helped shift the minds of middle class white women concerning slavery. It was books like “The Color Purple” that brought the plight of poor southern black women, particularly black queer
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women, to the fore. Books have shifted how generations perceive race, gender, class, and sexual orientation. Literature reaches into the reader’s heart and invites him or her to momentarily leave their world and enter into someone else’s. That someone else may be someone they have been taught to hate or think less of. That someone else may just be someone they know nothing about. And for the duration of that book, that someone else takes center stage and the reader can build a sense of empathy and connection with a person or group of people. This empathy that is gained through the reading experience is then translated into votes for marriage equality in Alabama, votes to protect affirmative active in California, organizing on the border to ensure that all children are safe in the U.S. This is why literature is not an afterthought or a garnish to social justice organizing; rather it is one of the centerpieces. It is necessary bread. Humans need stories. And stories lead to action, empathy, and sometimes love. —Caleb Rainey recently graduated with his master’s degree in cultural studies. He is a long-time activist, and the founder executive director of the San Diego Multicultural LGBT Literary Foundation. Contact him at email@example.com.▼
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Letters San Diego’s showing at GG My sister Tammy and I were at the games to cheer on Todd [See “San Diego tennis scores big in Cleveland,” Vol. 5, Issue 17]. We were so inspired we are going to Paris as doubles partners in 2018. I met so many new friends and it was such a wonderful event. I live in New York but am proud to say I was born and raised in Ohio. —Melanie Stevens, via gay-sd.com The Gay Games 9 – Cleveland+Akron was a hugely positive, affirming and inspirational week of competition, good sportsmanship and friendship. I will always remember this week with a sense of pride and accomplishment. —Todd Linke, via gay-sd.com
The “courage” to discuss depression
This is a very powerful article and well written [See “Editorial: I’ve decided to come out,” Vol. 5, Issue 17]! Sharing your story was courageous and will impact so many people. You impacted me and my life. Thank you for sharing your story. —Jennine Estes, via gay-sd.com I am emotionally impacted to read how you feel and want you to have fun again. It took a lot of courage to share your story and we support you! —Jose via gay-sd.com
Dreaming of a more artful Hillcrest By Eddie Reynoso
all me a dreamer. But to me the “Transforming Hillcrest” plan is a tremendous opportunity for us. As I’ve said, keeping the 10 [MTA bus] and moving the 11 & 120 onto Washington Street through Eighth or Ninth avenues is not going to affect many stops. And the bulb out on Fifth Avenue and Washington Street creates an awesome transfer center, further increasing the opportunity for a wider pedestrian plaza or additional parking or bike share stations on Fifth Avenue where businesses are already struggling due to lack of foot traffic. Imagine transforming University Avenue with a month-long art installation from First to Fifth avenues — like “Les Boules Roses” in gay Montreal — eventually going all the way to Park Boulevard! We’ve discussed this before. We created a budget for it. What is stopping us now? Why not pay for the infrastructure when the bike plan comes through as part of our own beautification? In time, I can envision University Avenue blanketed with a carpet of rainbow colored balls with LED lights inside hanging high above the street that illuminate the night unlike any lights festival I’ve seen. For one to three months our most congested section could become PUBLISHER David Mannis (619) 961-1951 firstname.lastname@example.org EDITOR Morgan M. Hurley (619) 961-1960 email@example.com CONTRIBUTING EDITORS Jeremy Ogul, x117 Hutton Marshall, x102 CONTRIBUTING WRITERS Charlene Baldridge Dae Elliott Michael Kimmel Jeff Praught Sean Ryback Frank Sabatini Jr. George Vernon
a temporary pedestrian plaza hosting the “CityFest ArtRageous Summer of Arts” or the “Hillcrest Arts Festival.” Our Farmers’ Market on Sundays gets complimented with a nighttime market on Thursday nights under the lights! Maybe the plaza closes to traffic the entire time? Maybe only in the evenings and on weekends? A piano or two is rolled out into the street, waiting to come alive and fill the street with music once discovered by a passing musician. Street artists, performers, mimes and musicians are not only welcomed, but encouraged to converge on Friday nights, helping to fill our restaurants with the first dates and celebrations of LGBT families and our allies! Retail stores spill into the sidewalks to entice shoppers to enter. Our vacant storefronts become temporary low-rent art galleries highlighting the space for potential tenants, while giving the artist the space to showcase their work for a month or two and the landlord a little rental income in between tenants. Art has a way to invoke emotion. We have an opportunity to once again make Hillcrest an LGBT mecca; welcoming to everyone through art and implemented through beauWEB & SOCIAL MEDIA Jen Van Tieghem, x118 firstname.lastname@example.org CREATIVE DIRECTOR Todd Kammer email@example.com PRODUCTION ARTIST Arielle Jay, x111
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tification and the bike plan. It blows me away that as community with such a significant LGBT presence that art is scarce in Hillcrest. We’re among the most creative people on earth. Our retail window displays from Mint, to Obelisk, to Ace Hardware, and Babette’s and countless others are impressive works of art. John’s [Thurston] utility box project is just the tip of what we can do. Why not encourage more of it? Imagine the light canopy installation opening CityFest at Night with a countdown and the flip of a switch! The next three months extending our tourist season well into October, opening the streets to CicloSDias, FilmOut San Diego outdoor movie nights, public art installations, Leather Fest, a Toast to Hillcrest return, and then it all goes dark with Nightmare on Normal. Each weekend can bring something new. Tattoo Festivals, Restaurant Week, Beer Week, wine walks, Fridays on Fifth! We have other major events, like the Autumn Classic, that give us an October boost — how do we attract more? The Egyptian Quarter wanted a Fashion Week, why not tie it in see Opinion, pg 7
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Thank you for sharing this. Your story will help a lot of other people, who may be delaying getting medical attention for depression or other mental health issues. I learned in the legislature and while working on Prop 63, to improve funding for mental health issues, that most of us have someone close- Family member, friend, coworker, neighbor — who is, or has been, dealing with a mental health condition. The brain gets sick just like other organs of the body, but for some reason we are uncomfortable talking about it. Sharing your story takes courage. Hopefully it will help others be more open as well. Thank you again for doing it. —Lori Saldana, via gay-sd.com Thanks for your courage in “coming out.” It is a true act of generosity. I also have had battles with the D Word, fortunately in the past now, but, I do know that only people who have battled that unrelentless demon understand how debilitating it can be. We know so little about the human brain … really, we are in the Dark Ages still when it comes to understanding human mental functions. Someday, hopefully, there will be cure for this horrible disease that has no mercy even for one of the brightest stars in our society. RIP Robin – finally at peace. We hope. —Carmen McKay, via gay-sd.com Well said. Thank you for coming out. As you know, I believe the more of us who come out, the more we can remove the stigma. Also thanks for finding those pinholes of light. The world is a better place with you in it. Hugs. Thanks for being so brave! —Amy Teeple, via gay-sd.com Depression doesn’t have a face, it doesn’t look like you “think” it will. If anyone could choose to not be depressed they would. It’s bigger than positive affirmations or journaling can help. Thank you for this BRAVE piece, it took courage to write and an honesty that is admirable. —DeAnn Peterson, via gay-sd.com ▼
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OPINION on a weekend? The Center’s Food Truck Rally is another event that would benefit from a pedestrian experience. Like the flag project, our community will take full ownership and create a space for events. Maybe Diversionary Theater can run a show for a week in a [pop-up] plaza theater? Or the Gay Men’s or Women’s Chorus might want to host an outdoor concert? It we build it our community will make an entire season of events. And in November the installation comes down, and Shop Hillcrest for the Holidays begins with holiday lighting on the same poles we installed for the art installation. The warm lights and garland welcoming shoppers and further highlighting everything Hillcrest offers and everything it can be. There is so much potential if we start small and begin to extend our tourist season. Suddenly the one-way street from Fourth to First avenues gives us an opportunity to expand our festivals like Mardi Gras or CityFest further along University Avenue and maybe it’s the catalyst that welcomes Pride into the neighborhood? What an awesome dream, right? If millions flock to Montreal from all over the world to see the art, over time I can see millions flocking to San Diego from Southern California, Las Vegas and Phoenix alone. But then again, maybe I’m just a dreamer. — Eddie Reynoso is a board member of the Hillcrest Business Association and sits on its Marketing and Beautification committees. He can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org.▼
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NEWS BRIEFS HUMAN DIGNITY FOUNDATION OFFERS FREE WORKSHOP On Sept. 23 from 6 – 7:30 p.m., the San Diego Human Dignity Foundation will offer a free workshop giving seniors advice and lessons on how to gracefully enter one’s golden years. Participants will take a Retirement Confidence Quiz that judges preparedness for retirement and senior living. The interactive workshop will help seniors develop a retirement plan working directly with a senior living specialist and a financial advisor. The workshop will take place at the Malin Burnham Center for Civic Engagement, 2508 Historic Decatur Rd. at Liberty Station in Point Loma. Light refreshments will be served. RSVP with Janelle Hickey at 619-2913383 or Janelle@sdhdf.org. NATIONAL LGBT WEDDING EXPO HITS DOWNTOWN The national RainbowWeddingNetwork will soon visit San Diego to host a free LGBT wedding expo at the Horton Grand Hotel. On Sept. 21, a wide range of gay-friendly wedding businesses will congregate in the Downtown hotel to show same-sex couples what they can purchase for their nuptials, including cake decorators, florists, photographers and more. Other highlights include speakers on marriage equality issues, LGBT-specific wedding planning tips and a raffle drawing. The expo will take place at Sept. 21 from 1 – 4 p.m. at Horton Grand Hotel, 311 Island Ave., Downtown. RSVP with Cindy Sproul at email@example.com or 858231-7983. Visit SameLoveSameRights.com for more information. MANKIND’S NEW LOCATION TO BE CELEBRATED WITH GRAND-OPENING PARTY Mankind, a gay-friendly merchandise and clothing store, has finally opened at its new location at 1295 University Ave. in Hillcrest. The store, which moved there from its previous location on Fifth Avenue had a “soft opening” in July following construction delays. The new location will hold an official grand opening on Friday, Sept. 12 with a ribbon cutting at 8:30 p.m. Following the ceremony, Harvey Milk’s American Diner (535 University Ave.) will host a “Welcome to the heart of Hillcrest” party for Mankind and its patrons from 9 to 11 p.m. There will be a hosted bar from 9 to 10 p.m. courtesy of Devotion Vodka followed by a Mankind fashion show. Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence will be selling raffle tickets throughout the night with winners announced at the end of the event. Prizes include gift cards from Mankind, Harvey Milk’s and other local businesses with proceeds benefitting the Hillcrest Youth Center. PRIDE ELECTS NEW EXECUTIVE TEAM San Diego Pride announced Aug. 29 the election of its 2015-2017 executive team, in which first-term co-chairs Romer De Los Santos and Tiffany Gonzalez both won re-election. Jaime Carrillo will continue as board secretary. Current chair of board development Steven Kilgore will become the board treasurer. “The executive committee is an experienced, well balanced, and cohesive team,” said Romer De Los Santos in a press release. “We are focused on helping Pride achieve its strategic objectives and mission to foster pride in and respect for all lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender communities locally and globally.” Pride’s board of directors also invite the community to attend the annual Post Pride Town Hall on Sept. 6 from 6 – 8 p.m. in The Center’s auditorium, 3909 Center St. If you are interested in board service, contact boarddevelopment@ sdpride.org. LOCAL LGBT ORG TO HOST WORLD-RENOWNED POETS San Diego’s Multicultural LGBT Literary Foundation will partner with the San Diego Central Library to host acclaimed Native American writers and Activists Chrystos and Janice Gould for a see Briefs, pg 12
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because of their irregular here’s no mystery behind shapes and unorganized scatthe intense fanfare at BuBuona Forchetta terings of ingredients. But as ona Forchetta, which often fills 3001 Beech St. (South Park) you’ll find here, their crusts are to capacity as though it were 619-381-4844 wonderfully elastic, the sauce sitting on a central square in Prices: Salads and appetizers, $5 is bright and vivid and the butany major Italian city. to $10, pizzas, $7 to $30; pasta tery mozzarella pays deserving Since opening last year in dishes, market prices insult to part-skim versions this tranquil, residential area used elsewhere. of South Park, the restaurant Our trio chose the Nicola continues pampering customers pizza, which captured red with authentic Neapolitan pizzas, showing off gorgeous exterior tile work is the focal sauce, mozzarella and herby, homemade pasta dishes and a point when you first walk in. minced mushrooms under a passionate staff that will charm Owners Matteo Cattaneo, a blanket of prosciutto that was the pants off of you with their northern-Italian transplant, sliced so thin you could have rolling Italian accents. The name, Buona Forchetta, and his wife, Alexa Kollmeier, read a newspaper through named the custom-made it. When appropriately cut translates to “good fork.” But hearth after their young this way, the ham’s saltiness it’s what your utensil pokes daughter, Sofia. becomes a teasing compliment into where the real goodness In keeping with true to the pizza rather than tastresides, such as in a starter of Neapolitan pizza ing antagonistic. bulbous artimaking, the oven Other pizza choices include choke hearts cranks out pies several made without sauce, served just in 90 seconds such as the tempting Andrea like they or less from crowned with roasted potado in Italy, an inferno toes, sausage, Parmesan and with their registermozzarella or the top-selling stems still ing above Thomas layered with crème attached 900 defraiche, asparagus, an oozy and sitting grees. egg and dry-cured bacon, in a pond The known otherwise as speck. of olive afood kitchen If you come knocking for sale s oil and h it ini w adheres to other ad and pasta, Buona Forchetta de lingu a herbs. -m e s Hou vital standards as well, such obliges with flying colors, as A couple as forming the pizza dough proved with an eloquent plate sitting at an adjoining table by hand and using both San of baby arugula dressed in launched into their meal with arancino Bolognese, a crispy ball Marzano tomatoes and water buffalo mozzarella as toppings. of Arborio rice filled with fresh see Buona, pg 12 Neapolitan pizzas can mozzarella and a wisp of beef. appear unat“This is why we drive in tractive here from East County,” the woman said of their repeat visits to the restaurant. “The food is incredible.” Ambiance plays into the restaurant’s favor as well. Located in a quaint, historic structure at the corner of Beech and 30th streets, the spacious front patio is canopied by mature trees and strung light bulbs. The interior is equally inviting with big windows framed softly in white curtains and marble tabletops flanked by heavy wood chairs. A portly wood-fire oven The Nicola pizza (Photo by Frank Sabatini Jr.)
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A special Ethiopian family-style dinner is in the offing at the internationally inspired Hanna’s Gourmet in Normal Heights. The multi-dish feast will be served in two seatings, at 5:30 and 7:30 p.m., Sept. 18. Guests can expect braised lamb in Ethiopian spices, slow-simmered chicken in red sauce, curried vegetables, lentil stew and more. Customary injera bread used for scooping up the food will be offered in lieu of utensils. The cost is $30 per person. Reservations are recommended. 2864 Adams Ave., 619-280-5600.
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The well-established East Coast Pizza has opened its first urban location in the heart of Hillcrest and will hold an official grand opening on Sept. 24 with daylong specials and samples. With everything made in-house, the eatery maintains its original Cardiff-by-the-Sea operation, which launched 10 years ago before expanding into San Marcos. The Hillcrest outpost is currently serving whole pizzas and slices, but will offer a full menu of baked pasta dishes, stromboli and calzones after its soft opening. A beer and wine license is also in the works. 435 University A new pizzeria arrives to Hillcrest (Photo by Frank Sabatini Jr.) Ave., 619-501-3444.
For those struck with a hankering for Chef Deborah Scott’s popular pepita and sesame-encrusted brie cheese served at Indigo Grill and Island Prime/C Level, the appetizer is now also available in packaged form at several Costco locations, including those in Mission Valley, Bay Park and La Mesa. The 16-ounce wheels sell for $9.99 and include the savory sidekicks of jalapeno jelly and garlic spread along with baking instructions for the oven or microwave.
A go-to eatery for authentic Philly cheese steaks at 3501 30th St. in North Park has sadly and suddenly gone poof. Without explanation, the voice greeting simply states: “We are sorry that Eddie’s Philadelphia Steaks has officially closed Aug. 22, 2014. It’s been a pleasure serving you all.”
Savories from the Mastiff Sausage Company food truck have become all the rage in South Park ever since it began regularly rolling up to Whistle Stop Bar from 5:30 to 7:30 p.m. every Thursday. Mastiff’s co-owner, Jacob Bartlett, says his partnership with the event-oriented bar at 2236 Fern St. Mastiff’s pulled ham-and-cheese sandwich (Courtesy Jacob Bartlett) has resulted in brisk sales of the company’s homemade bratwurst and pulled ham-and-cheese sandwiches as well as other menu items. “Our beet Reubens get a lot of action too,” he said, adding that the sausages, sauerkraut, coleslaw and condiments are made from scratch in a rented commercial kitchen in Miramar. The truck also appears in the early evenings every other Friday at Thorn St. Brewery in North Park, located at 3176 Thorn St. For a complete Mastiff schedule visit mastiffsausagecompany.com.
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Dozens of top restaurants and their leading chefs will be cooking for a good cause during Taste of the Nation San Diego, to be held from 3 to 6 p.m., Sept. 14 at Hilton San Diego Bayfront. The culinary festival is presented by Share Our Strength’s No Kid Hungry Campaign, which supports the San Diego Hunger Coalition. Food samples will be doled out to guests from restaurants such as The Prado, Ironside Fish & Oyster, Jayne’s Gastropub, Alchemy, Searsucker, Pacifica Del Mar and more. A large number of local breweries are also taking part, including Stone, Culture, and Belching Beaver. General admission is $75. Tickets can be purchased online at ce.strength.org. One Park Blvd., 619-564-3333. Friendly FREE Festival Desert Playground Entertainment Outdoor Adventure Oasis Mid-century Modern Treasures
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The politics of marriage
laywright Paul Rudnick has long been known for fluffy, rather thin plays that provide elevated sitcom tailored for the off-Broadway fare of sophisticated New Yorkers. Best known among these is “I Hate Hamlet,” seen cheek by jowl with “Much Ado About Nothing” at Intrepid Shakespeare Company recently. As Intrepid demonstrated, it is possible to succeed brilliantly with Rudnick if one has the right cast and a daring director with flair. Furthermore, it is possible, while letting loose Rudnick’s sparkling language, to find a modicum of humanity, as Diversionary Theatre does with Rudnick’s 1996 comedy titled “Regrets Only.” Seen Sunday, Aug. 31, the play continues through Sept. 21 at the University Heights LGBT theater company. A loss, the politics of same-sex marriage, an impending heterosexual marriage amendment and a work-walkout ahead of its time are the events that cause lifelong friends and even the family maid to reexamine their allegiances. Socialite Tibby McCullough (Kerry McCue), who never met an expensive gown she didn’t buy, and her super-successful attorney husband, Jack (Charles Maze), have enjoyed a marriage of 30-some years, produced a smart daughter named Spencer (Rachael VanWormer), who is also an attorney, and are reliant upon their lesbian maid, Myra Kesselman (funny Teri Brown), to make sure the household runs smoothly and no one takes life too seriously (one never knows whether Myra will be Cockney, French or Irish upon her next entrance). Enter Tibby’s best friend, gay fashion designer Hank Hadley (Andrew Oswald), whose longtime lover recently died. When Jack announces that he’s been asked to go to Washington to help President Bush draft a new definition of marriage between a man and a woman,
his trip elicits discussions of gender, love and marriage and ultimately requires Tibby and Hank to redefine their friendship. To add to the mayhem, Spencer announces she’s marrying the unseen Peter, described as an über-Nazi style attorney. First, she will accompany daddy to D.C. and then wed. Of course Hank will design her dress, and legions will work the reception, assigned cake, flowers, etc. Act II is The acting in “Regrets Only” is solid. enlivened by (Photos by Daren Scott) the appearance of MariAlina Bokovikova is costume etta (Dagmar Krause Fields), designer. Matt Scott creates Tibby’s freewheeling, much the Upper East Side Manhatmarried mother. Complications tan dwelling and the city bearise, but darling, the gowns are yond; Peter Herman, the wigs; divine and so are the women and Luke Olson, the lighting. who wear them. Kevin Anthenill is sound deDirector Jessica John has a gift for this type material, and if signer and composer. It’s interesting to note that La anyone can find the heart of the Jolla Playhouse Artistic Direcpiece, it is she. Oswald embodtor Christopher Ashley staged ies the deeply human designer the original production of “Rewithout undue bitchiness. grets Only” at off-Broadway’s Hank’s friendship with Tibby Manhattan Theatre Club.▼ goes far beyond the eye-candy he creates for her to wear. He is the lover of her cleverness, “Regrets Only” and a certain bitchiness must through Sept. 21 exist to set up her numerous, outrageously apt one-liners. Thursdays – Saturdays 8 p.m. Recently arrived in San Diego Sundays 2 p.m. from Arizona, McCue is a true Diversionary Theatre find. The others are all solid. 4545 Park Blvd., Suite 101 The direction, splendid. University Heights These are, take it or leave diversionary.org it, love ‘em or leave ‘em, the or 619-220-0097 beautiful people.
LGBT Bowling Leagues in San Diego S
an Diego is home to a wide variety of LGBT sports leagues and one of the more popular ones involves one of America’s favorite pastimes: bowling. Bowling is not merely a recreational drinking game — many of the people I know who participate are very serious about (and very good at) their craft. The two main leagues take place on Wednesday and Thursday nights and their fall seasons began during the first week of September. However, it is not too late to get involved.
League nights in the Rainbow League, which take place on Thursday nights at Kearny Mesa Bowl, feature some of the best bowlers in the city, gay or straight. Any combination of five men and/or women make up each of the dozen teams in this league and they compete from September until April (a span of about 32 weeks). Each team bowls three games per night, with each player paying $20 per week to participate. For anyone who has ever gone bowling, you will obviously see a wide range of skills on display. Beginners compete against everyone — even experts — thanks to a handicap system. New players spend their first three weeks in the league establishing a handicap, which is retroactively applied to the game results after three weeks. From there, they join everyone else in holding a fluctuating handicap over the course of the season. For example, if one player averages 200 and their opponent averages 120 per game, the latter receives 80 bonus pins added to their score when they face off. In short, your skill level does not prevent you from competing against everyone else in the league. The season is broken up into trimesters and the team with the most wins during each trimester clinches a spot in the “Roll-Off” at the end of the season. One wild card team also advances to complete a field of four teams that then compete for cash prizes. Individual prizes are also awarded for High Scratch Series, High Scratch Game, High Handicap Series and High Handicap game. No individual may win more than one of those categories so there are several chances for players to win money. Another fun aspect of the league is its 50-50 raffle drawing each week. Players chip in to win cash prizes, with half the money going to local charities. If a player’s name is drawn in the raffle, the whole bowling alley stops to watch them try to win the pot. If they roll a strike, they win the money. If they roll a spare, they get a small token amount of cash and the pot rolls over to the following week. Teams have been formed, but individuals can still get placed on teams who need additional players. Interested players are
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San Diego City Council offices D1 Sherri Lightner 619-320-6458 D2 Ed Harris 619-320-6422 D3 Todd Gloria 619-320-6401 D4 Myrtle Cole 619-320-6437 D5 Mark Kersey 619-320-6003 D6 Lorie Zapf 619-320-6531 D7 Scott Sherman 619-320-6606 D8 David Alvarez 619-320-4954 D9 Marti Emerald 619-320-6615 SD Hoops was founded in 1999 and begins its fall season in October (Courtesy SD Hoops)
encouraged to show up to the bowling alley at 6:15 p.m., as practice begins at 6:30. For more information on the Rainbow League, contact David Hilbish at email@example.com.
The format of competition in High Rollers is basically the same as the Rainbow League, though the High Rollers league has 18 teams instead of 12. They compete on Wednesday nights also at Kearny Mesa Bowl, with a similar player cost. Bowlers compete with the same type of handicap system and there are both men and women participating. The season also runs from September until April. For more information about this league, show up to the bowling alley at 6:15 p.m. or contact Judy Thompson at firstname.lastname@example.org.
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Just because we usually associate bowling with casual family or friendly affairs, often involving beer and goofing off, don’t be fooled: These leagues are as much about stiff competition as anything. Many of the bowlers have previously, or simultaneously, competed in non-LGBT leagues or events, both locally and in tournaments across the country. High Rollers Vice President Alex Ordoubegian says the league has been a fantastic experience both socially and competitively. “The league really provides a fun environment with friendly competition,” he said. “It’s really neat to have the community get together while bowling.” Both leagues recently added a fun, new incentive to the weekly schedule: Whichever team rolls the highest score in their first game, including handicaps, is treated to a round of drinks. Again, you do not need to be a great bowler to be successful in these leagues. There is also a summer league that begins in May, and newer players are encouraged to get involved at that time. Doing so not only allows them to get acclimated to the spirit of competition, they get to meet other players in the league as well. In addition to the weekly $20 fee, players are also required to purchase a one-
year membership ($20) to the United States Bowling Congress in order to play.
SD Hoops Update
SD Hoops (sdhoops.net) recently concluded its second annual summer league and to nobody’s surprise, we had an upset champion. The league boasts tremendous parity, and the number-three seeded Baja Betty’s, led by first-time coach Brian Ruszkiewicz, knocked off sixth-seeded Flicks in the title game. Flicks had won just two games during the regular season, but boasted a talented roster capable of knocking off the top teams. They did just that when they took down John Crockett’s three-time champion Loft team in the semifinals. The league will now go on a small break before its larger and more popular fall season. Those games will begin in mid-October and run through the end of March. A typical fall season involves 8-9 teams with a guarantee of 15 games, making SD Hoops the best value in town. Player fees are just $90 for the season, which includes the use of leagueowned jerseys. In the meantime, SD Hoops holds “open gym” sessions every Wednesday at Golden Hill Rec Center (2600 Golf Course Dr., next to the Balboa Nine Golf course) from 6 to 8 p.m. These sessions are a great way for newcomers to meet league members and get themselves known, as teams are ultimately built through the traditional draft method. Open gym costs $5 per person to participate and players are asked to bring dark- and light-colored shirts to play in. New players are required to attend Coaches Reviews in October, where the league’s coaches will observe their style of play and make draft notes. Everyone who registers and pays their player fee on time will be drafted onto a team in October. —Jeff Praught is actively involved in the LGBT sports community, where he plays in the local softball (AFCSL), football (SDAFFL) and basketball (SD Hoops) leagues. He has served on AFCSL’s board of officers in various capacities and is currently the commissioner of SD Hoops. He can be reached at email@example.com.▼
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White anchovy salad at Buona Forchetta in South Park (Photo by Frank Sabatini Jr.)
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—Frank Sabatini Jr. is the author of “Secret San Diego” (ECW Press), and began his local writing career more than two decades ago as a staffer for the former San Diego Tribune. He has since covered the culinary scene and other subjects for various print and broadcast media outlets in the area. You can reach him at fsabatini@ san.rr.com.▼
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FRIDAY, SEPT. 5
FRIDAYS ON FIFTH: Sponsored by the Hillcrest Business Association, a weekly Friday happy hour event encouraging people to “eat drink and shop” from 4 – 9 p.m. on Fifth Avenue between Brookes Avenue and Washington Street. Visit fridaysonfifth.com. “REGRETS ONLY”: A bubbling comedy about the politics of marriage (written by Paul Rudnick); runs through Sept. 21. Tonight’s show 8 p.m. Diversionary Theatre, 4545 Park Blvd., University Heights. Tickets diversionary.org or call 619-220-0097.
SATURDAY, SEPT. 6
LGBT VETERANS BENEFITS SEMINAR: Event hosted by the San Diego LGBT Community Center and the County of San Diego Veterans Services Office. Participants will learn about the services, benefits and programs available to them through the county and other military organizations. Free to veterans of all ages. 11 a.m – 1 p.m. The Center, 3909 Centre St., Hillcrest. For more information contact Ben Cartwright at email@example.com or 619-692-2077 ext 106. WINE AND CANVAS: Stepby-step instruction and materials are included in this event to create a 16-by-20-inch gallerywrapped canvas painting to take home. Today’s painting: “Pink Cocktail.” No outside food or drinks — both available for purchase. $35 per person. 1 – 4 p.m. Taste and Thirst, 715 Fourth Ave., Downtown. Visit wineandcanvas.com. SAN DIEGO GAY MEN’S CHORUS AUDITIONS: Sign up for holiday show auditions online or call 877-296-7664. 1 – 5 p.m. University Christian Church, 3900 Cleveland Ave., Hillcrest. Visit sdgmc.org. SAN DIEGO WOMEN’S CHORUS SECOND ANNUAL CABARET NIGHT: Intimate musical evening will include solos, duets, small ensembles, dance and comedy. Appetizers, desserts and non-alcoholic drinks will be available for sale. Reservations/tickets are recommended. Doors at 6:30 p.m., show at 7:30 p.m. Mission Hills United Church of Christ, 4070 Jackdaw St., Mission Hills. Visit sdwc.org. POST-PRIDE POTLUCK PICNIC: Grab your friends, family, a blanket, a beach chair, a cooler and enough food to feed
10 people and head to the north side of the Sixth Avenue playground (near Sixth and Thorn St.). Look for the rainbows and have fun celebrating those who work to make Pride a success. 11 a.m. – 2 p.m. Search for evite on Facebook to RSVP.
SUNDAY, SEPT. 7
GAY WEDDING FAIR: To highlight the themes of Paul Rudnick’s play “Regrets Only,” Diversionary Theatre is hosting a free wedding fair open to the public. The event will include wedding vendors, a photo booth, music and a raffle. Attendees can also purchase tickets and stay for the day’s showing of the play at 2 p.m. The wedding fair starts at noon. Diversionary Theatre, 4545 Park Blvd., University Heights. Visit diversionary.org. SAN DIEGO GAY MEN’S CHORUS AUDITIONS: Sign up for holiday show auditions online or call 877-296-7664. 1:30 – 5 p.m. University Christian Church, 3900 Cleveland., Hillcrest. SUNDAY BUST: Starting today, every Sunday Hill St. Café will turn into a safe space for all LGBT and allies to gather. Food is vegan-friendly, and they serve beer, wine and sake. 15 percent of proceeds go to the North County LGBTQ Resource Center. 3 – 9 p.m. at Hill St. Café, 524 S. Coast Hwy, Oceanside. Visit ncresourcecenter.org.
MONDAY, SEPT. 8
SAN DIEGO LGBT PRIDE TOWN HALL: Meeting to discuss main Pride events and board service. Those interested in joining the board can learn about the application process and what service entails. 6 – 7 p.m. The Center, 3909 Centre St., Hillcrest. Visit sdpride.org.
TUESDAY, SEPT. 9
LESBIAN MEET-UP: New weekly early morning business networking meeting, offering a chance to share and support each other’s business and passions. All lesbians in community are invited. 7:30 – 8:30 a.m. Caffe Calabria, 3933 30th St., North Park. SPAGHETTI & SHOWTUNES: When was the last time you had an all-you-can-eat plate of fabulous spaghetti for a mere $6? Now that’s a bargain. 5 p.m. – 2 a.m., every Tuesday. Urban MO’s, 308 University Ave., Hillcrest. Visit urbanmos.com. CRAZY COMEDY: LAbased veteran comics Vickie
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WEDNESDAY, SEPT. 10
LAMBDA ARCHIVES FUNDRAISER: A mixer featuring specialty drinks and hors d’oeuvres and a chance for attendees to hear about new projects by Lambda Archives of San Diego. 100 percent of any donations will go directly to the Archives to help keep them open and free to the public, and to continue their mission to collect, preserve and teach local LGBT history. 6 – 8 p.m. Harvey Milk’s American Diner, 535 University Ave., Hillcrest. Visit lambdaarchives.us. BITCHY BINGO: Hosted by Kiki and Ophelia every Wednesday. Play for goodies and prizes. No cover, food minimum: $15. 7 – 10 p.m. Lips, 3036 El Cajon Blvd., North Park. Visit lipssd.com
THURSDAY, SEPT. 11
PRIDE IN THE MIX: Mingle with the folks that make Pride happen! Raffle and door prizes; 15 percent off food bill all day if event is mentioned to diner staff. 6 – 9 p.m. Harvey Milk’s American Diner, 535 University Ave., Hillcrest. Visit sdpride.org. LIVE MUSIC – SUE PALMER: Enjoy a fun Friday with the queen of boogie woogie starting at 7 p.m. in the Expatriate Room at Croce’s Park West, 2760 Fifth Ave., Bankers Hill. Call 619-233-4355 or visit crocesparkwest.com. COUNTRY WESTERN LINE DANCING: Every Thursday and Saturday night come check out the cowboys and cowgirls as they spin across the floor, join in or even take free lessons. All skill levels encouraged. Drink specials. 7 – 8:30 p.m. Urban MO’s, 308 University Ave., Hillcrest. Visit urbanmos.com.
FRIDAY, SEPT. 12
SAN DIEGO MUSIC THING: The two-day music and media conference starts today with panels, featured speakers and more. Evening music performances will take place at various venues and times. Daytime
events start at 9:30 a.m. Town and Country Resort Hotel and Convention Center, 500 Hotel Circle North, Mission Valley. Visit sandiegomusicthing.com. “WELCOME TO THE HEART OF HILLCREST” PARTY: To celebrate Mankind’s new location at 1295 University Ave., Harvey Milk’s American Diner will host a party featuring a hosted Devotion Vodka bar from 9 – 10 p.m., a Mankind fashion show, a raffle by Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence and more. Harvey Milk’s, 535 University Ave., Hillcrest. Visit mankindsd. com and harveymilksamericandiner.com.
SATURDAY, SEPT. 13
SOUTH BAY PRIDE ART & MUSIC FESTIVAL: The event will feature live entertainment with bands, DJs and dancing, plus food, beverage gardens, children’s activities and more. Noon – 10 p.m. Bayfront Park, 980 Marina Way, Chula Vista. Visit southbaypride.org. GAY FOR GOOD CLEAN UP: G4G is looking for volunteers to help Friends of Famosa Slough to clean up and care for the marshlands of Point Loma. Meet at the corner of West Point Loma and Famosa boulevards in Ocean Beach. Wear work clothes (long sleeves, long pants, sturdy shoes) and bring work gloves, gardening tools or clippers. Refreshments will be provided. 9 a.m. – noon. Find event on Facebook or visit famosaslough.org.
SUNDAY, SEPT. 14
SUNDAY BUST: Every Sunday Hill St. Café will turn into a safe space for all LGBT and allies to gather. Food is vegan-friendly, and they serve beer, wine and sake. 15 percent of proceeds go to the North County LGBTQ Resource Center. 3 – 9 p.m. at Hill St. Café, 524 S. Coast Hwy, Oceanside. Visit ncresourcecenter.org. SING ALONG BRUNCH: Enjoy the new brunch menu while singing along with memorable pop culture tunes. 10 a.m. – 2 p.m. Gossip Grill, 1220 University Ave., Hillcrest. Visit gossipgrill. com.
MONDAY, SEPT. 15
TRANSGENDER COMING OUT GROUP: Welcoming transgender people in all stages of exploring their gender identity and their friends, family and loved ones. 7 – 8:30 p.m. San Diego LGBT Center, 3909 Centre St., Hillcrest. Visit thecentersd.org.
TUESDAY, SEPT. 16
LESBIANS CONSIDERING PARENTING WORKSHOP: Held every third Tuesday of the month, addresses parenting issues and options and is facilitated by Suzann Gage, OB/GYN nurse practitioner, licensed acupuncturist, and nutritionist. 6:30 – 8 p.m. Lesbian Health Clinic at Progressive Health Services, 2141 El Cajon Blvd., University Heights. Visit progressivehealth.org. TRIVIA TUESDAY: Every Tuesday come alone or with a group of friends for a chance to win valuable HBC gift cards. 7 – 9 p.m. Hillcrest Brewing Company, 1458 University Ave., Hillcrest. Visit hillcrestbrewingcompany.com or call 619-2694323.
WEDNESDAY, SEPT. 17
WINE AND CANVAS: Stepby-step instruction and materials are included in this event to create 16-by-20-inch gallery-wrapped canvas painting to take home. Tonight’s painting: “Make a Wish.” No outside food or drinks — both available for purchase. $35 per person. 6 – 9 p.m. Fifty Seven Degrees – 1735 Hancock St., Mission Hills. Visit wineandcanvas.com.
THURSDAY, SEPT. 18
GSDBA SOCIAL CLUB: A monthly gathering “unlike a traditional networking event,” hosted by the Greater San Diego Business Association, kicks off for the first time. 5:30 – 7:30 p.m. Wang’s North Park, 3029 University Ave., North Park. Visit gsdba.org. “REGRETS ONLY”: A bubbling comedy about the politics of marriage (written by Paul Rudnick); runs through Sept. 21. Tonight’s show 8 p.m. Diversionary Theatre, 4545 Park Blvd., University Heights. Tickets diversionary.org or call 619-220-0097. LIVE MUSIC: Join San Francisco-based Grammy Award-winning gay singer-songwriter Matt Alber as he shares his songs about falling in love with other men. Matt also performs acoustic cover versions of songs like “I Wanna Dance with Somebody” and “Rocket Man.” 8 p.m. Martinis Above Fourth Table & Stage, 3940 Fourth Ave., Hillcrest. Visit martinisabovefourth.com.
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The name of the game: intensity!
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s another sunny, summer season winds to an end, for many of us the intensity of the approaching football season is building into the beginning of the regular NFL season games. That means more Sunday get-togethers with friends, extra-delicious, high-calorie snacks and beverages and maybe even staying up late on a Monday night to see the final seconds of your favorite team’s game. It is a truly amazing time of the year for fans of the game. With that in the forefront of a large majority of Americans’ minds, health and wellness goals tend to take a back seat, falling to the wayside come fall.
As fitness professionals, we help clients learn how to safely and appropriately change intensity in their resistance training to maximize results. A great way to keep your health and wellness goals on the straight and narrow is to follow the lead of your favorite NFL team. Teams progress the intensity of their workouts gradually and shift intensity levels to maximize results. In terms of an average person’s workout, this refers mainly to a cardiovascular training program, like a local gym elliptical session, a run out on the beach or enjoying your favorite Spin class. Additionally, this commonly includes resistance-training programs from cutting-edge cable machines to traditional dumbbell training. As fitness professionals we change the intensity of cardiovascular training with both specific movements and general force exerted during an exercise bout. For example, with a traditional elliptical cardio machine, one can change the pace either slower or faster to allow the body a variation in movement, which changes the intensity. Increasing the resistance of the machine makes accomplishing that same movement require more force, creating differing outcomes. Lastly, modifying the progression of the exercise session through the time of the workout can change intensity. This is commonly done through interval training or sustained exercise at a specific target
heart rate. A great way to monitor these changes in intensity is to utilize a heart-rate monitor. If you are someone that loves to break a sweat outside, then you can change the route that you take running or biking which could add more hills in your future — or time your pace to see if you can beat your best time. Both are great ways to change-up the intensity and keep your cardio workouts effective throughout the week going into your next NFL kickoff. Many ecstatic NFL fans geared up earlier this year to watch the NFL Scouting Combine — a series of athletic events to test pre-drafted prospects on their physical fitness and their potential attributes if they are to become a successful professional football player. This includes well-known assessments such as the 40-yard dash, vertical jump test, and 225 lbs. bench press for total repetitions to failure. In order for these athletes to achieve their best every February at Lucas Oil Stadium in Indianapolis, they must change the intensity of the training programs they are used to. Athletes conduct sport-specific training on each event, gradually increasing intensity to maximize their output. Most of us that participate in resistance training are not trying to see how many repetitions we can complete with 225 lbs. on the bench press, but we may include a free-weight press, cable machine chest fly, or other forms of pushing exercises. As fitness professionals, we have the opportunity to help clients learn how to safely and appropriately change intensity in their resistance training to maximize results. We change the amount of precise movements at a lighter weight to either increase muscle endurance with a higher number of repetitions, or drop down the number of completed repetitions to work toward achieving more force that one is able to generate. The start and end positions of an exercise, also known as the range of motion (ROM) may change to alter intensity. For example, setting either a widegrip hand position compared to a close grip, the route that is traveled for the chest/arm muscles maybe shorter or longer changing the intensity on specific muscles. Furthermore, the angle at which an exercise is completed will change the intensity and also create lasting variation in your workouts. A common way that we in the fitness world — as well as the top-level NFL prospects — complete this in strength training is with state-of-the-art cable machines that offer thousands of variations of exercises to complete specific goals. The name of the game, whether it is the achievement of your favorite NFL squad or personal/maintained success of your health and wellness goals moving into the fall is “intensity.” Altering the intensity of your cardiovascular training and resistance
training programs will allow you to change-up your workouts and variation with your exercises to keep it fresh and to keep your results moving down the field. Maybe at your next NFL gettogether, you may cheer louder, have more energy, and possibly be the “12th man” to help your team chalk-up that next win! —Sean Ryback works at Fitness Together Mission Hills, a gym that offers personal training with qualified professionals by regular appointment in private suites. Exercise and nutritional programs are custom designed to fit your needs and abilities. Call 619-794-0014 for more information or to schedule a free fitness diagnostic.▼
GAY SAN DIEGO Sept. 5-Sept. 18, 2014
GAY SAN DIEGO Sept. 5-Sept. 18, 2014
Jim Frost’s plan includes a separated bike path and extra parking. (Courtesy Jim Frost)
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BIKEPLAN ganizations will now convene regularly in hopes of rallying more community support. HBA Interim Executive Director Benjamin Nicholls said the coalition drafted a joint letter it will soon send to SANDAG. “I think the tone of the letter is going to be more demanding than previous letters that typically come out of these community organizations,” Nicholls said. “We’ve got consensus, so we don’t have to ask people to study things, we are going to ask people to do things.” The plan, known as “Transforming Hillcrest,” proposes condensing street traffic to just one lane in each direction in order to provide more parking and pedestrian space. Both SANDAG and Frost include protected bikeways in their plans, which differ from commonly seen bike lanes in San Diego by creating a physical buffer between cyclists and automotive traffic. Supporters of the alternative point to Frost’s inclusion of over 40 additional parking spaces, compared to the SANDAG plan, which many fear will remove University Avenue parking. A SANDAG spokesman stated earlier this month that the planning agency did not have an estimate on the impact its design will have on parking. On Sept. 17, the coalition will host a community meeting at Bombay Exotic Cuisine of India, where Jim Frost will give a
presentation outlining his plan. The Uptown Planners will also hear Frost’s plan as an action item at their Sept. 2 meeting, which means they’ll vote to make a recommendation to city planners on the design. “The community is clearly speaking with one voice, and when you boil it down, the community is saying we would like parking more than we would like University Avenue to be basically a highway into North Park,” Nicholls said. “That’s what [Frost’s] plan ultimately is.” Samantha Ollinger, executive director of Bike San Diego, a bicycle-advocacy nonprofit, said she’s “neutral to supportive” of Frost’s plan. She is primarily concerned with the possibility that the bike lanes would have to be narrowed to allow for the design’s other amenities. Frost previously stated that the bike lanes in his plan will be the same as those in SANDAG’s: five feet wide with a three-foot buffer. “I’m waiting to see how it would be laid out on the ground, but conceptually I don’t have any issues with it at all,” Ollinger said. Similar to what Frost’s plan proposes, Ollinger asked a SANDAG planner to study the feasibility of reducing University Avenue to one lane in each direction through portions of Hillcrest. She said no such feasibility study has been completed to her knowledge. Find this article online at sduptownnews.com to view a PowerPoint presentation outlining Frost’s Transforming Hillcrest plan.▼