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Volume 5 Issue 19 Sept. 19–Oct. 2, 2014 Follow us on Facebook and Twitter




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Dancing to empower Life’s work of local community member is to heal others Delle Willett

New NC Pride location


OUT in the film fest lineup

In memory of Juan Carlos Garces, her late son who suffered from Muscular Dystrophy, Lisbeth Garces has been providing dance-therapy exercise for people with physical and developmental disabilities since 2007.

Inset: (l to r) Carlsbad resident Cori Schumacher and her partner Maria Cerda (Courtesy Cori Schumacher); Pro surfer David Wakefield checks the surf at Byron Bay, Australia. All are profiled in "OUT in the Line Up" film. (Courtesy OITLU)

Love isn’t strange


LGBT themes and gay San Diegans profiled at San Diego Film Fest Morgan M. Hurley | Editor For the 13th year in a row, the San Diego Film Festival will return with its showcase of U.S. and international independent films, including an assortment of films of interest to the LGBT community.

The five-day festival, which runs from Sept. 24 – 28, is produced by the San Diego Film Foundation and will screen films at both the Reading Gaslamp 15 Cinemas Downtown, as well as the ArcLight Cinemas in La Jolla’s University Town Center. “The San Diego Film Festival will celebrate the year’s best independent cinema from emerging and established filmmakers showcasing their latest works

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tion of these two people. Within minutes, that joyful gathering was attacked without warning. The two getting married were both men, and a resident who lived within eyesight of the ceremony did not like that. Not only did he not like it, he decided to interrupt the ceremony and inject his hatred and bigotry into what was a wonderful gathering of close friends. As the ceremony started, underscored with classical guitar music, a resident of a condominium at The Landing, a complex bordering Centennial Park where the ceremony took place, started booing and yelling hate speech from his balcony toward our gathering below — ironically in the middle of a poem about the true nature of love. With verbal smears like “homos go home” and “get out of here faggots” — it was reprehensible behavior from anyone, let alone someone living along a public venue like this very popular city park. This was our wedding. As two gay men, we are used to this kind of bigotr y and hatred,

One of the first Zumba instructors in San Diego, Garces has built a regular following throughout the county over the past six years with her Latin music-based professional, joyful and inspiring classes. Garces, 52, is certified in Zumba Fitness; Zumba Gold (for beginners and seniors); Zumba Toning (body sculpting and highenergy cardio work); ZumbAtomic (for kids 4 – 12); and Aqua Zumba. Born the youngest of seven siblings in Venezuela, Garces gave birth to Juan Carlos at the age of 20. After a couple of years she began to worry about physical changes she was seeing in him. In the small town where she lived, there were no medical resources available, so on the advice of a doctor she drove her son to a pediatric hospital in Caracas, where they were given the devastating diagnosis of Muscular Dystrophy. At that point, Garces decided to devote all her time and energy to improving her son’s quality of life. She already had extensive personal experience living with people with disabilities. Her mother passed away from the effects of Parkinson’s. Garces witnessed her mother’s slow decline while at the same time caring for her older sis-

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Love and Hate in Coronado Putting the wow in waffle

w THEATER (l to r) Gary Jackson, Officiant Mayme Kratz, and Oscar De las osas during their wedding in Coronado (Photo by Kristina Lee Photography)

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Oscar De las salas | Special to Gay San Diego Editor’s Note: Oscar De las salas and Gary Jackson travelled from their home state of Arizona to San Diego recently, to have the wedding they had been dreaming of and celebrate their union with their closest and most cherished friends. But what should have been a special day of love and commitment was instead marred by hateful speech and threats of violence. This is their story.

It was a Sunday — Aug. 17 — a gorgeous, sunny and warm day in Coronado, California. The wedding was planned to take place near the Coronado Ferry Landing at Centennial Park, just before sunset with the stunning backdrop of the Downtown skyline across San Diego Bay. In attendance were a diverse group of close friends of the couple, professionals of all backgrounds who had travelled to San Diego from Phoenix to join in the celebra-

Lis Garces (Courtesy Juan Carlos Organization)



GAY SAN DIEGO Sept. 19–Oct. 2, 2014

Celebrating 10 years of Restaurant Week Get yourself out of the ‘hood and try something new Morgan M. Hurley | Editor Started a decade ago by Ingrid Croce with New York as a template, San Diego Restaurant Week (SDRW), which will take place Sept. 21 – 26, was designed to showcase the diverse and unique culinary scene that San Diego has to offer. “My dream for [SDRW] was to help San Diego become a dining destination and not remain the step-child of Los Angeles, New York City, Chicago, Philadelphia and even Boston,” Croce said. “Today San Diego has truly come into its own and I’d like to think SDRW has had a lot to do with that.” Much different than the popular neighborhood “Taste of” events, SDRW actually gives the restaurants the opportunity to offer full servings of their finest foods at discounted prices, rather than samples that may not bring people back. Croce worked with the San Diego Convention and Visitor’s Bureau (now called the San Diego Tourism Authority) and a 30-person committee to establish the first SDRW, which started with just 75 restaurants. Today, over 200 restaurants around the county participate, and that number continues to grow every year. No passes, coupons or tickets

Ingrid Croce imagined SDRW (Courtesy Ingrid Croce) are required for SDRW; diners merely visit their favorite restaurants — or those they’ve always wanted to try — as often as they like during lunch or dinner hours for those six days. Participating restaurants will offer a two- or three-course prix fixe lunch menu, ranging in price from $10, $15 and $20, or a three-course dinner menu, with prices set at $25, $35 or $45 per person. Some will offer both, and options for each course available. Reservations are highly recommended, especially for dinner. Over 140,000 people are expected to take advantage of SDRW. Croce, who moved her iconic Croce’s Restaurant and Jazz Bar out of Downtown’s Gaslamp Quarter in December of 2013 to start Croce’s Park West in Bankers Hill, is still a huge supporter of SDRW. Her new restaurant is not only participating with a $35 three-course dinner menu, but Croce’s Park West is also offering many of their standard menu options for the same price, as well as specials on cocktails and wine

flights all week long. Croce’s has always been known for its top-notch local live music, and now it can be enjoyed every day of the week at the Bankers Hill location. Many other participating restaurants are also offering special deals on standard menu items, but the big draw of SDRW really are the prix fixe menus. Many in the LGBT community spend their dollars in and around Hillcrest, and while there are sure to be some of your favorites participating, this is the time to see how far your money can go and where it can take you. Step out of your comfort zone and into a restaurant around the county that you have always wanted to try. Grab lunch at the new Harley Gray Kitchen and Bar in Mission Hills, Busalacchi’s A Modo Mio in Hillcrest, Jayne’s Gastropub in North Park, Bo-Beau Kitchen in Ocean Beach, or Café Coyote in Old Town. Or why not finally sink your teeth into one of Slater’s 50/50 burgers over in Liberty Station? Imagine a romantic dinner with your loved one at Bertrand at Mister A’s in Bankers Hill, Mille Fleurs in Rancho Santa Fe, Flemings or Morton’s steakhouses Downtown, or even Pacifica Del Mar, then imagine that meal for just $45. And who hasn’t dreamed of dining at the legendary Marine Room or George’s at the Cove in La Jolla? This is your chance.

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WEDDING but our guests for the events over the weekend — which by the way, included a U. S. Congresswoman — were horrified by this shameful behavior. Just as we thought that his rant might just stop, it continued, only ceasing once the photographers turned to capture this coward in the act, at which point he ducked from view and scurried back into his condo. Sadly, we still had no idea what to expect next from this bigot in this era of hate-motivated, irrational violence such as movie theater and school shootings, and as a result, our wedding guests were subjected to a state of great fear and alarm.

one of the least progressive states in the union, and as gay men, we live with the daily attacks on our rights in our state. Many of these individuals believe that they are justified in advocating hatred. When you have mainstream candidates for the highest political offices in the land espousing inequality and injustice, I have a hard time solely blaming one man for his hateful actions. We have to blame, but more importantly, we have to show our peers in our communities that brandishing a flag of hatred and bigotry under the guise of tradition and religion is just not acceptable in a free society. The first step is that any resident who creates this kind of fear for legal gatherings in the park must be called out for what it is — unacceptable, and it is up

The entire Jackson-De las osas wedding party. Slurs were shouted from a balcony in the background. (Photo by Kristina Lee Photography) proceeded with what was a proud proclamation of love and commitment, even while his hateful speech still rang in our ears, but the damage was done. Our guests bravely blew off the concerns, but we could sense the unease as we gathered for photographs on the same lawn that had been the target of his hate just a few minutes prior. My now-husband was rightfully concerned for our safety and that of our guests. Though it had started as a wonderful experience, from the welcoming of the staff of the City of Coronado, to the local businesses who embraced and supported our weekend event, and even from the locals who all wished us well as our wedding party took the ferry across the Bay to Centennial Park – this incident brought a sad and shameful reality back into our lives, on what should have been a definitive day of celebration. We wholeheartedly believe in the right to free speech, but regardless, as a legally-sanctioned event in a public city space, for this resident to selectively disrupt and threaten what should be respected as a beautiful moment is reprehensible and deserves to be shamed. But this is just one instance. The sad truth is that our society often condones this disgraceful behavior and many of our politicians, religious leaders, and talk-show entertainers promote and encourage this animosity and prejudice. We now reside in Arizona as a married couple, which is arguably

to the local leaders in a community like Coronado. Hatred and threats to safety have no place in a public park. The second step comes from the reality that it cannot be the gay men and women to stand up in protest — it has to be the rest of the community. The “straight world,” as it were. One of our guests expressed to us that he was shaken by this incident. As a suburban, white, straight and married family man, he had no idea that this kind of behavior still occurred in 2014. And while we never wanted anything but a wonderful event to share with our friends, in his discomfort lie the solution. As gay men, we can and should shout for equal rights and stand up to protect our families, but until the rest of society — the straight, mainstream people — need to stand up against the hatred and inequality promoted by their peers. When the rest stand for freedom and equality for all — then will it end. It will never go away, but it will be demoted to the shadows and shame where hatred belongs. This kind of hatred needs to stop before the next couple enters that, or any park. As for these two grooms, our commitment and love will thrive and endure regardless of that poor, shameful fool in Coronado living alongside Centennial Park at The Landing. Getting married was the best, most important day of our lives.t


GAY SAN DIEGO Sept. 19–Oct. 2, 2014

Pride By The Beach is just around the corner On Oct. 11 — National Coming Out Day — North County Pride will celebrate its seventh year of pride-related activities. Like our cousins of the South (Bay), there are so many reasons to be visible in areas where being LGBT is still a struggle. While the 200,000 marchers in the San Diego Gay Pride Parade may give the impression of an already achieved state of gayness, here in the North, South and East Counties visibility is a true effort. The season of pride celebrations around the county is a boost to our local youth and something that will support them for the rest of the year, when they feel all alone and there are no other places to celebrate who they are. This is also why Pride By The Beach this year has decided to become even more visible — we are “taking it to the streets” of Oceanside, and we are asking the local business community to display our rainbow flags outside their stores. The City of Oceanside is officially sponsoring the event and because we are in downtown, more people are expected to come, and entrance to the festival will be free. Not many folks understand that our local pride celebrations are often 100 percent organized by volunteers. Our Pride Director Shannon Rose has taken the task to lead this year’s Pride ver y seriously and so have the many volunteers that are supporting her. Prides are not just parades or festivals, they make our communities better, they make change a possibility and they show the existence of a community that can thrive. We have experienced these changes since opening our own LGBT Resource Center in Oceanside. Our families feel more comfortable to come out, young LGBT couples are finally seen ever ywhere and our ser vice members are not as shy as they used to be. So if you have not yet planned your Coming Out day, I hope you decide to spend it with us and all those kids and other folks who really need your support and solidarity. Catch the Coaster if you want and make it a fun day at the beach, you never know, you might just really like it.



—Max Disposti is a human rights activist, a community organizer and the founder and executive director of the Nor th County LGBTQ Resource Center. He currently serves as a board member on the Oceanside City Library and Main Street Oceanside, and he previously served on Oceanside’s Community Relations Commission. He can be reached at maxrome@

Candye Kane Sister Ida Know on her way to Pride at the Beach in 2013. (Courtesy Sister Ida)

Take the Coaster to North County Pride! For the second year in a row, join the San Diego Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence on a train ride north for a day of fun and revelr y at Pride by the Beach in Oceanside. The Sister’s Express (Coaster #681) departs Santa Fe Depot at 9:48 a.m., first stopping in Old Town — lots of free parking — at 9:58 a.m. Single, one-way Coaster (not Amtrak) tickets to Oceanside from Santa Fe Depot are $5.50 and round-trip is $11. Check for fare prices and departure times of the stop nearest you. Arrival in Oceanside is 10:51 a.m. Once there, the Sisters will lead a miniature parade to the festival site, located at 300 N. Coast Hwy. The festival ends at 6 p.m. and the last Coaster south will leave at 6:35 p.m. Riders can return on their own time schedule or catch Coaster #692 along with the Sisters at 5:15 p.m. Schedule subject to change. For updates search FB for “Sister’s Express: Nuns on a Train.”t

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North County Pride by the Beach Oct. 11, 2014

National Coming Out Day 11 a.m. – 6 p.m. Free entry New Location: Oceanside City Hall 300 N. Coast Hwy  (at Pier View Way) Candye Kane Mike Munich San Diego Kings Club Lips performers Take Uber and get $20 off Promo Code: NCPRIDE14




GAY SAN DIEGO Sept. 19–Oct. 2, 2014

Letting go of a toxic parent

MICHAEL KIMMEL LIFE BEYOND THERAPY You can divorce an abusive spouse. You can call it quits if your lover mistreats you. But what can you do if the source of your misery is your parent? I’m not talking about having a perfect parent, because there aren’t any. But what if you have a parent who is poisonous to you, one who sabotages your happiness, is dangerous to your self-esteem and may literally be “crazy”? It’s not always clear how I can best serve clients who have these kinds of parents. In general, psychological theory recommends that we try and salvage parental relationships, because — after all — they’re not all bad. But what about parents who really are bad for us, no matter how hard we try and improve the relationship? If you wonder if your parent(s) are toxic, consider whether maintaining the relationship is really good for you at this point in your life. As a child, you had no choice: You were stuck

with your parents, like it or not. But now that you do have a choice, is it best to let your toxic parent go? What would that look like? Consider this situation (details have been changed to respect confidentiality): A bisexual man in his mid-30s came to me for therapy for relationship problems and low selfesteem. He had recently come out as bisexual to his devoutly religious parents, who promptly disowned him. His father told him it would have been better if he, rather than his younger sister, had died in a car accident several years earlier. If you’re like me, your jaw hit the floor as you read that sentence. Yes, these families do exist; read on. In the course of our work together, it became clear to me that this newly-out bisexual man still hoped against hope that he could get his parents to accept him. During a family session with the man and his parents — yes, miraculously, they agreed to try family therapy — the parents insisted that his “lifestyle” was a grave sin, incompatible with their deeply held religious beliefs. When I explained that — according to research — their son had no more choice about his sexual orientation than his height or the color of his hair, the parents were unmoved (and quite angry with me). They simply would not accept him as he was. As a therapist, what would you do with a client who didn’t want to “give up on” having a relationship with parents like that? Ultimately, after many attempts to connect with his parents and win their unconditional love, the client decided to not continue to pursue a relationship with his overtly toxic and openly cruel parents. He needed to protect

himself from the psychological harm these “toxic” parents could — and did — inflict. My intention is to empower my clients to take care of themselves and encourage their growth and development. With toxic parents, this often involves coming up with strategies to protect themselves when they have to interact with their parents. While I can admire a client’s loyalty to her/his parents, what is the price that they’ll have to pay for that? Some clients are traumatized for weeks after a brief visit with their parents. Is it worth it? Research on early attachment, both in humans and in nonhuman primates, shows that we are hard-wired for bonding — even to those who are cruel to us. We also know that although prolonged childhood trauma can be toxic to the brain, we have the ability later in our lives to rewire our brains by new experiences, like loving relationships, productive psychotherapy and appropriately prescribed medication, like anti-depressants. As a psychotherapist (and former preschool teacher) whose first Master’s Degree is in child development, it is clear to me that having a toxic parent is literally harmful to a child’s brain, not just his/her emotions. The bad news is that we can’t erase our history with psychotherapy, but the good news is that we can help heal ourselves by taking ourselves out of destructive relationships. And sometimes, no matter how difficult it is, that means letting go of a toxic parent. —Michael Kimmel is a licensed psychotherapist who specializes in helping LGBT clients achieve their goals and deal with anxiety, depression, grief, sexually addictive behavior, coming out, relationship challenges and homophobia. Contact him at 619-955-3311 or visit

Where everybody knows your name JEREMY OGUL RAISING THE BAR Less than a day before deadline, I frantically dialed the phone number for Cheers, the University Heights bar where I had been hanging out the last few days. After five or six rings, a voice answered: “This is Cheers — hey girl hey!” It was Jen, the tall lady bartender I had met a few nights earlier. The audio from the bar’s cordless phone flickered, perforated by the sounds of boisterous background conversation, laughter and clinking glasses. I asked Jen if she had seen a small yellow spiral-bound notebook. It contained my notes, my quotes, everything I collected during my time doing “research” for this column. I last remembered it in my hands as I was getting ready to leave the bar the night before, but that memory is hazy, no doubt clouded by the buzz from the drinks my new friends insisted on buying for me. I could hear Jen ask everyone around her if they had seen it. No luck. “Sorry girl sorry,” she said, with an audible frown. I have never lost a notebook before, and certainly not the day before an assignment was due. There was no way I could write the story without my notes, right? Then again, this was no regular assignment. Unlike a City Council meeting or a court case, drinking here was not only allowed but encouraged. While that may or may not have been a factor in the case of the missing notebook, Cheers actually turned out to be one of the most memorable bar experiences I have had in San Diego. What makes Cheers special is its exceptionally casual, come-as-youare atmosphere. In a gay culture that too often prizes youth, beauty, fashion and money above all else, it’s refreshing to be in a place where none of that makes you special. “Anyone can come here and they will be welcomed,” said Frankie, a 51-year-old member of the bar’s staff who grills burgers for everyone on the back patio every Sunday afternoon. “Young, old, black, white, gay, straight. It’s not pretentious.” The age range of the patrons is diverse as well. Most patrons seem to be in their 30s, 40s or 50s, but one regular is 94 years old, and twentysomethings aren’t shy about dropping in on their way to or from Bourbon Street just around the corner. Age is isn’t the only source of diversity. Cheers thinks of itself as more of a “friendly neighborhood bar” than a gay bar, so more than a few of the patrons are straight women and men. Staff from nearby food and drink establishments have a habit of stopping in for a drink after their shift, too. The friendly vibe is enhanced by the cozy space, which is probably not much more than 500 or 600 square feet, decorated in a dim 1980s version of island décor. It’s small enough that you could be forgiven for feeling like you’re hanging out in a friend’s basement. Cheers of San Diego opened in 1983, around the same time the sitcom of the same name was taking off. Surprisingly, our local Cheers

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The world according to


John Lithgow

‘Love Is Strange’ actor on his ‘defiance of prejudice’ and humanizing gay rights

relationship of 40 years without having both a sense of humor and a sense of compassion and forgiveness. CA: It’s refreshing to see an elderly gay couple portrayed on screen. In Hollywood, there aren’t many stories about older people being told, let alone older gay people. JL: Yes – they’re not very well served in this very youthful industry.

John Lithgow as Ben in a scene from “Love is Strange” (Courtesy Sony Classics) Chris Azzopardi | Q Syndicate


here’s a beautiful moment in Ira Sachs’ indie hit “Love Is Strange” when two older men — a New York couple, forced to live apart after one of them loses his job — tearfully embrace. Life-changing? No. But that’s the point: Its simplicity is a revelation. That distinctly post-gay perspective is what attracted John Lithgow to the role of Uncle Ben, an elderly artist adjusting to life away from his husband, George (Alfred Molina), after financial woes drive them into separate residences. During a recent chat with Lithgow, the actor discussed being touched by the gay community’s response to “Love Is Strange,” the underrepresentation of LGBT people in film, and his groundbreaking turn as a trans woman alongside Robin Williams in “The World According to Garp.” Chris Azzopardi (CA) “Love Is Strange” is resonating with the gay community on a very personal level, especially now that many of these longtime gay and lesbian couples are able to wed. For you, what does it mean to be part of a film that means so much to the gay community? John Lithgow (JL) It’s extremely moving to me. Even if the whole same-sex marriage issue had not become such a major issue of our times, this would still be a very, very moving film just by virtue of the fact that it is a portrait of a 40-year-long relationship. And since it’s a 40-yearlong relationship between two gay men, there is such a history there: They’ve been through 40 extraordinary years; they’ve seen the terrible scourge of AIDS in the ’80s and ’90s; between them they’ve lost scores, if not 100s, of friends; they’ve somehow survived and they have seen the sort of awakenings of freedom — this slow emergence from secondclass citizenship through these gay marriage initiatives. The great thing is, it puts a human face on it. You see real people. These are the people who are really directly affected by it, and I just find it terribly moving. The narrative hones in on these vignettes of their life together, which says a lot about relationships — that, no matter who’s experiencing it, love is love — and it’s complicated and it’s messy, but they are the luckiest people in the film because their relationship has survived and they’re inseparable. They’re so essential to each other. CA: Is there a particular exchange between Ben and George that left an impression on you?

(J.L.) Oh, there are so many of them! I think the finest scene is right toward the end: the scene in Julius bar, followed by their walk through the streets of the West Village. It’s the moment when Ben apologizes to George for being less monogamous and less faithful, and yet reassures him and acknowledges the fact that they are essential to each other. I think that’s a wonderful scene, and I love the fact that that scene itself is shot with humor — there are two moments in that scene where they laugh uncontrollably. The way it swings back and forth between the serious and the silly just seems to define their relationship in so many ways. And, as they salute their old friend Frank — it’s quite clear what happened to Frank — that scene is also acknowledging the loss they feel because of AIDS. CA: You and Alfred have such a rapport — not just in the film, but in real life. You’ve been friends for years. But besides the obvious answer — that it’s called acting — how do you take that platonic affection for each other to the next level? JL: It’s impossible to be selfconscious with Alfred. Both of us have done a lot of acting and so it takes an awful lot to throw us. But it’s very rare that you find an actor that you feel so completely free with, so un-self-conscious with, and both of us share a certain quality as actors. We’re both very serious actors who are also very frivolous people. [Laughs] We love to laugh, and yet we take acting very seriously — that gives you a lot of reference points in playing a love relationship. You can’t have a

CA: What’s your take on the representation of LGBT characters in film? JL: They’re underrepresented and to the extent that they are represented — I mean, there have been important and fine films on gay themes. Many! “Longtime Companion,” “Milk,” “Philadelphia” and “Prick Up Your Ears.” But so many of them have been shot through with torment and crisis. “Milk” is about an assassination, “Philadelphia” is about death by AIDS, “Prick Up Your Ears” is about a crime of passion between two gay men. This one is exactly the opposite. It is so prosaic. What’s extraordinary and revolutionary about the film is how ordinary it is. It goes beyond acceptance of a gay lifestyle right on to taking it for granted. You know, there are different gradations — there is prejudice, and then there’s tolerance, and then there’s acceptance, but the best of all is simply taking something for granted as if there’s nothing unusual about it. That’s what’s revolutionary about this film. That’s exactly how this relationship is viewed and I think it’s a sign of the times that this is actually happening. I’m not saying the battle is won by any means, but it’s getting harder and harder to be bigoted about homosexuality and that’s extremely good news. CA: And the film acknowledges that. JL: Yeah — that heartbreaking moment when Joey [Ben’s teenage great-nephew] uses the word “gay” in such a derogatory way is just heartbreaking and yet you know that things are changing and changing for the better. CA: There’s still a battle to be fought, and that’s demonstrated in the film when George loses his job as a longtime Catholic school music teacher because he marries Ben. JL: And yet, even in that moment you can tell — because of a

beautiful little performance by John Cullum as the priest — he doesn’t want to be doing this. He hates to do this. By that very fact you get the sense that this can’t stand 10 years from now. People are not gonna be fired by the Catholic Church for having a gay lifestyle. So, I think it’s a hopeful film. CA: I do hope that’s the case. JL: They simply can’t keep doing this. They just can’t. It’s unacceptable. CA: You received an Equality Award from the Human Rights Campaign and also participated in the star-studded reading of Dustin Lance Black’s “8,” but when did gay issues become important to you?

ferent time periods — Uncle Ben in “Love Is Strange” and, in 1982, transgender woman Roberta Muldoon in “The World According to Garp” — what does it say about the gay community when you look at these roles side by side? JL: I approached both characters the same way, and that is, loving the people and treating them with great dignity. Roberta is a slightly bizarre character, especially in the context of that film. When I talk about somebody being taken for granted, that is much more true of “Love Is Strange” than of Roberta Muldoon in “The World According to Garp.” To that degree, times have changed, but it feels very, very good to have been a part of changing that sensibility

(l to r) Alfred Molina as George and John Lithgow as Ben, a married couple in NYC. (Courtesy Sony Classics) JL: Much, much earlier than that. I’ve grown up in a theater family and I’ve lived my life in the creative arts — half of the people in the creative arts are gay! The arts community is way, way beyond the rest of the society in some degree of acceptance, so I’ve grown up in an atmosphere of acceptance. CA: Though there were things about the gay community you apparently didn’t know that you learned while shooting “Love Is Strange.” I understand Cheyenne Jackson schooled you in gay culture. JL: Yes! Cheyenne was absolutely an essential consultant. [Laughs] CA: Having played two queer characters who inhabit very dif-

just a tiny part perhaps. I love that I have dignified these two characters almost in defiance of prejudice. CA: You co-starred with Robin Williams in that film ... JL: Yes, rest his soul. CA: Such a friend to the gay community as well. Do you have a fond memory of Robin you’d like to share? JL: All my memories of Robin are very, very fond, and I’m still extremely sad about it. The world has lost a lot of laughter. —Chris Azzopardi is the editor of Q Syndicate, the international LGBT wire service. Reach him via his website at



GAY SAN DIEGO Sept. 19–Oct. 2, 2014

Letters Reimagining Hillcrest I appreciate Eddie Rey’s creativity and vision! For too long, we’ve been told “we can’t” do this or that in Hillcrest because of this or that, but it’s time we look past the naysayers and build an even better community for us and future generations! I look forward to dreaming with you, Eddie, and to work toward putting those dreams into reality! —Ben Cartwright, via

With regards to the histor y of AIDS Editor’s Note: This letter and many other emails and voicemails (most not suitable to print) have been received from Mr. McCarthy in response to various articles and opinion pieces regarding HIV and AIDS published in recent months. This was in response to GSD Vol. 5, Issue 18.

Editorial Addressing the drought By Toni G. Atkins More than 80 percent of California is facing either “extreme” or “exceptional” drought right now. Who would have thought that one of the driest years in the state’s history would also be one of the best years ever in terms of securing California’s water future? But that could certainly be the case. This summer the California Legislature solved a potential problem that had been hanging over the state’s head for several years. An $11.1 billion water bond had been put together in 2009 that was to be presented to voters this November. The problem was it was too bloated with pet projects to pass, and its failure could set back for many years any serious chance to improve the state’s water infrastructure. So we passed legislation removing that bond from the ballot. Then, after months of hard work and negotiation among stakeholders across the spectrum of water users and environmental advocates, we passed legislation to create a $7.5 billion water bond to address the state’s need for clean, safe and reliable water. We held hearings around the state to ensure the legislation addressed needs from every part of California. We took a comprehensive approach to address the water system across the board — how we save it, how we store it, how we move it and how we protect it. To obtain information about the legislation, the Water Quality, Supply, and Infrastructure Improvement Act of 2014, you can find analyses of the bill by going to The second major benefit to California’s water future we passed this year — and some say it is even more historic than the bond legislation — comes from a package of bills that establish a responsible mechanism for managing the state’s groundwater. California has the most groundwater of any state, but we are the only state without a groundwater management plan. That just doesn’t make sense. The state cannot manage water in California until we manage groundwater. You cannot have reliability with no plan to manage groundwater. PUBLISHER David Mannis (619) 961-1951 EDITOR Morgan M. Hurley (619) 961-1960 CONTRIBUTING EDITORS Jeremy Ogul, x119 Hutton Marshall, x102 CONTRIBUTING WRITERS Chris Azzopardi Charlene Baldridge Oscar De las salas Max Disposti Michael Kimmel Jeff Praught Frank Sabatini Jr. Delle Willet

So finally, for the first time in more than 100 years, California has established a process that will prevent overdrafting and ensure our groundwater aquifers are available for generations to come. Several hearings held by the Assembly Water, Parks and Wildlife Committee showed some of the problems we face. Between 2003 and 2009, groundwater aquifers for California’s Central Valley lost almost 26 million acre-feet of water. While some groundwater is handled well under local and regional management, other groundwater is not. In some places news reports show lower water tables have caused the ground to sink more than 20 feet. Following several public meetings with water stakeholders, we moved forward with legislation to ensure consistent, responsible stewardship for California’s groundwater. Under this legislation, local agencies must create entities to develop sustainability plans for the highest-range of over-tapped aquifers. These plans would need to be presented to the state over the next six-to-eight years, and implementation of the plans will occur over the next 20 years. The State Water Resources Control Board would be authorized to step in if local agencies fail to do the job. While the agriculture industry and some others have expressed opposition to groundwater being regulated, the fact is that the process is just beginning and the sustainability plans are not yet developed, which gives those with legitimate concerns ample time and opportunity to make sure their views are considered. Governor Brown is now considering the merits of the groundwater legislation on his desk. Given that his administration was a powerful force in the discussions leading up to these bills, I am hopeful he will give his signature to the final product. Timing is everything. With the drought as bad as it has been this year — and the forecasts for next year becoming increasingly somber — this also has the chance to be the year where we truly prepare for future droughts and shortages and secure our water future. —Toni G. Atkins is Speaker of the California State Assembly and represents coastal San Diego from Solana Beach to Imperial Beach. t

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It has been 35 years since we first saw the “gay cancer.” Over the years great progress has been made dealing with HIV infection. Due to advancements in pharmaceuticals, men no longer die from — or even get — Kaposi Sarcoma, but I believe our community is still suffering from a different, more virulent form of “gay cancer.” A generation later, 78 percent of all male infection of HIV in this country is due to MSM (men having sex with men). The next 10 percent of infections for men is due to IV drug use, half of which are also MSM. Extrapolating, 83 percent of all male HIV infection in this country is due to the MSM community. HIV is not easily transmitted from person to person; it requires direct blood-to-blood contact or unprotected sexual intercourse. Gay men simply refuse to use condoms, putting themselves at risk for not only HIV, but other STDs that will stress their immune system, especially for those already HIV “Poz.” Sir Elton has raised over $3 billion for “AIDS,” but he has never addressed slapping a god damn rubber on it when poken’ in the butt. Fundraisers are still telling us, “the AIDS epidemic is raging,” and that “we must fight the injustices HIV/AIDS thrives upon.” And one of my personal favorites, “most of all, ending AIDS will require a sea change in the way society, organizations and donators view the communities that are ravaged by this disease.” Perhaps after 35 years, ending AIDS in this country will require a “sea change” in the gay community itself. This month the LGBT Center will “commemorate the 25th AIDS Walk & Run San Diego with a special weekend of events.” They will be “honoring our community›s commitment to fighting HIV/AIDS and standing up for those impacted by the disease.” Really? In my opinion, The Center’s biggest one-day fundraiser of the year commemorates and honors nothing but a community’s failure. That “gay cancer” of which I speak … perhaps there is something to that “gay self hatred” theorized by some. Perhaps it is some sort of “community-based Munchhausen,” or perhaps it is a sort of hazing to be accepted in the basest of fraternal organizations. Yet it is certain that “gay cancer” is no longer about the physical health, but the emotional, psychological and sexual health of the entire gay community. —Kevin McCarthy via email t

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GAY NEWS BRIEFS GSD CONTRIBUTOR NAMED TO NLGJA HALL OF FAME Lisa Keen, longtime national news contributor to Gay San Diego — most recently through her column “The Keen Files” — was recently inducted into the National Lesbian and Gay Journalists Association (NLGJA) Hall of Fame. The inductions took place Aug. 23 in Chicago during the organization’s national convention. Keen, who served as editor of the Washington Blade for 18 years, became a freelancer in 2001 when the Blade changed hands. She eventually established Keen News Service, a syndicated service providing LGBT-related political reporting, covering news from such prominent places as the White House, Congress and the Supreme Court. Keen has been the go-to news service for Gay San Diego throughout the fight for same-sex marriage in the courts. The NLGJA selected Keen based upon her “tireless commitment to reporting stories that matter most to LGBT people,” according to a story in Press Pass Q, a trade publication for LGBT media. “I really appreciated the acknowledgement,” said Keen in the Press Pass Q article. “And it promoted me to think back on my own career and realize what a wild ride it has been — what wonderful opportunities, surreal moments, and even scary experiences I had. I think so many of us are so busy rushing from one breaking news story to the next one, we don’t take much time to look back. And it’s just a really good feeling to have others in the business stop you and say, ‘Hey you — you did good.’” In her remarks at the ceremony Keen compared LGBT news of the 1980s and ‘90s to today. “Things have changed. Our mainstream daily newspapers cover gay stories more than our gay community newspapers,” she said, adding that gay newspapers are as vital to our community now as back then. NLGJA established its Journalists Hall of Fame in 2005, and has since honored a total of 25 LGBT journalists for their commitment, courage and dedication to LGBT issues in the media. Other journalists inducted with Keen were Tracy Baim, publisher and executive editor of the Windy City Times, and Donna Cartwright, veteran copy editor at the New York Times, a and longtime transgender activist. For more information on Keen and her syndicate, visit DIVERSIONARY ANNOUNCES NEW EXECUTIVE ARTISTIC DIRECTOR After an exhaustive, nationwide search, Diversionar y Theatre has announced the hiring of a new executive artistic director. Matt Morrow, currently wrapping up commitments in New York, has been selected to take the reigns in November of the nation’s longest running LGBT theater production company. “We looked for a candidate with a keen knowledge of evolved LGBT theatrical productions, fundraising prowess, experience in developing new works, and excellent leadership and communications skills,” said Todd Nelms, Diversionar y’s acting executive artistic director in a press release. “In Mr. Morrow, we believe we found all of this and more. We firmly believe he will lead our theater in a bold new direction.” The position was widely advertised and nearly 60 applications were received from around the globe. The search committee, which was headed up

by Board Vice President Darrell Netherton, also consisted of Nelms, several local community arts leaders, including Larr y Baza, Camille Davidson, Bill Eadie, Rob Granat, Dean Murray, Marcus Overton and Tamara Keller, a member of the theater’s board of trustees. Morrow is a graduate of Carnegie Mellon University, where he later ser ved as the John Wells Professor of Directing at its School of Drama. He has an extensive resume, with dozens of assistant directorships and directorships around the countr y. “I’m most excited about producing new plays and musicals that push theatrical boundaries, but also rarely seen classic work, and re-envisioning this work for today’s audience via the LGBT point of view,” Morrow said. “I’m attracted to work that explores what the LGBT experience means at this moment in time, both directly and indirectly. I’m interested in opening up the dialogue between the LGBT community and the community at large in an inclusive, thought provoking way that reveals our similarities and honors our differences.” Morrow added that he hopes to develop Diversionar y Theatre into “a haven for writers and their work.” For more information about Diversionar y Theatre, visit diversionar

GLORIA REQUESTS TRANSPARENT COUNT OF REFERENDUM SIGNATURES Ever since the City Council overrode Mayor Kevin Faulconer’s veto of the local ordinance guaranteeing a minimum wage increase and earned sick days to workers, opponents have been collecting signatures in full-force around the city to challenge the measure through a referendum. Many who signed the petitions wrongly believed it supported the minimum wage ordinance and later stated they felt misled or were wrongly informed by signature gatherers. Despite a “don’t sign it” campaign encouraged by Democrats, corporate interests have now turned in petitions with the required number of signatures. Council President Todd Gloria, who drafted the original measure, released a statement about the petitions, calling into question the deceit behind the petition campaign and the validity of the signatures collected. “With the knowledge that hundreds of people rescinded their signatures after learning the true purpose of the petition, and with the understanding that 63 percent of San Diegans support the reasonable minimum wage increase, certification of the necessar y signatures is not assured,” he said. “I request that the referendum organizers allow supporters of the minimum wage and earned sick leave ordinance to obser ve the official counting of the signatures. While excessive evidence demonstrated the organizers’ willingness to deceive the public to reach their desired result of denying raises and benefits for 279,000 San Diegans, it is imperative that an honest count occur and that the signatures gathered are scrutinized for validity.” Gloria also stated that the recent methods of the signature gatherers brings the referendum process into question, and requires a more legitimate “check and balance.” The ordinance calls for workers to earn five sick days and a gradual minimum wage increase to $11.50 by 2017.t

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GAY SAN DIEGO Sept. 19–Oct. 2, 2014


SDFILMFEST to some of Hollywood’s most buzzworthy award season releases,” said Tonya Mantooth, vice president and director of programming, in a press release. “We’ve curated a wide selection of films that we hope movie lovers of all genres will enjoy.” Last year’s attendance topped 15,000, and with 89 total films this year, organizers expect that number to be exceeded. Three types of films are curated: 25 narrative (traditional feature length films of all genres), 14 documentaries and 50 shorts. Within those three categories there are “tracks” — such as Native American, animation, foreign film, LGBT, etc. — and the short films are divided into nine specific track themes. As is the case every year, in addition to the indie films, the festival also includes what Mantooth calls “Gala Studio Films,” new releases from the big studios that are on their tour of the film festival circuit. “Wild,” starring Reese Witherspoon and Laura Dern and directed by Jean-Marc Vallee, will open the festival on Sept. 24 at 7 p.m. at the Reading Gaslamp. The “closing” gala film, which will screen on Sept. 27 at 7:30 p.m. at Reading, is “You’re Not You,” starring Hilary Swank and Josh Duhamel, who is expected to attend the screening. Last year festival organizers chose Steve McQueen’s “12 Years a Slave” to open the festival, a film that was later nominated for nine Academy Awards and went on to win three, including Best Picture,

Best Supporting Actress and Best Adapted Screenplay. This year’s festival received over 1,500 submissions. The method used to pare that number down to the final 89 is an arduous but important one, Mantooth said. “We’ve got an amazing group of screeners,” she said. “It’s a process just to move [the films] through, but we just feel like every filmmaker really deserves to have multiple pairs of eyes to see it. Not

Enigma Code, which helped the Allies win the war. Less than 10 years later he was prosecuted for being homosexual by the same government that revered him before. The Imitation Game plays 7:30 p.m. at the ArcLight Theater. “PRIDE” is inspired by the true story of a group of London-based gay and lesbian activists who in 1984 raised money to support the National Union of Mineworkers, but found their money was not

Benedict Cumberbatch as Alan Turing, whose genius helped the Allies win WWII but was later prosecuted by the UK for being gay. (Courtesy The Weinstein Company)

every film is for everybody.” This year there are two fulllength feature films, one fulllength documentary, and a short documentary film that members of the LGBT community won’t want to miss. Here is a run-down of those LGBT-themed films. Studio feature film “The Imitation Game” stars Benedict Cumberbatch as British genius Alan Turing and it will remind many of the hypocritical sting of DADT. During WWII, Turing used his logician, cryptology and computer skills to crack the Germans’

wanted. Bill Nighy of Pirates of Caribbean fame leads the cast. “PRIDE” screens Sunday, Sept. 28 at 3 p.m. at the Reading Gaslamp. “OUT in the Line Up” is an Australian-based documentary that was filmed largely in San Diego. The film explores the “taboo” of homosexuality in surfing. Thomas Castets, who launched the social media website in 2010, found thousands of like-minded surfers existed all over the world. He and co-producer Ian Thomson set out to shoot this film and dozens of local San Diegans are featured, including Cori Schumacher, threetime world class longboard champ and activist who will soon launch “The Inspire Initiative,” a 501(c)3 that “seeks to empower and enrich women of all ages through participation and education in surfing.” Pro surfer David Wakefield, who is also an Australian, came out through the making of the film. “Families are Forever” is a short documentary film about a devout Mormon couple who, while working to drum up support for California’s anti-gay Proposition 8, find out their own child is gay. This will screen in advance of “OUT in the Line Up.” “It was important to us to show three completely different aspects, touching on the broad spectrum of the LGBT community,” Mantooth said of the indie films selected. “OUT in the Line Up” made its U.S. debut at the San Diego Surf Film Festival in May and has been making the rounds of the film festival circuit and raking up the awards ever since. “It was an amazing experience making a film from scratch and with almost no budget, finding faith from a whole community, working with so many volunteers, meeting so many amazing souls and seeing that the film is now travelling around the world, all is really beyond any of our expectations!” said Castets. Several San Diego surfers profiled, along with the film’s music super visor will be at the screening. There will be plenty of Q & As with filmmakers and actors of all the films, and attendees will have the option to take in a series of industr y panels as well. In between all the films there will be plenty of time for socializing and elbow rubbing at various festival events. Film Fest screenings will take place at Reading Gaslamp 15, located at 701 Fifth Ave., Downtown, and ArcLight Cinemas, 4425 La Jolla Village Dr. in UTC. For times and locations of other festival events as well as the entire schedule of the San Diego Film Festival, visit —Morgan M. Hurley can be reached at



Other places that should be on your definitive foodie list are Blue Point Coastal Cuisine Downtown, Brockton Villa in La Jolla, Seasons 52 at the new Headquarters Downtown, The Prado in Balboa Park, Fish Public in Kensington, 100 Wines in Hillcrest and Leroy’s Kitchen and Lounge in Coronado. On Friday, Sept. 26, before heading up to that big gay happy hour called “Top of the Bay” at the Porto Vista in Little Italy, make sure you hit up their restaurant, The Glass Door. Or maybe afterward, bring your new friends just a few steps down the road to Chef Deborah Scott’s Indigo Grill. If sweeping water views are more your style, why not try Island Prime on Harbor Island, Top of the Market along the Embarcadero, Bali Hai on Shelter Island, Peohe’s across the Bay in Coronado, or even a Hornblower Cruise around the Bay? If you are looking for something unique, I suggest El Agave Restaurant and Tequileria in Old Town. They have over 200 fine tequilas in house and their food is traditional mainland Mexican cuisine, not what we’re used to here in California. Another unique destination is The Smoking Goat in North Park. Look for Frank Sabatini Jr.’s recent review in our sister-paper San Diego Uptown News. For heavy-duty carnivores, Fogo de Chao Churrascaria Downtown should suit you to a T because they bring the meat to your table; whereas the Gaslamp Strip Club let’s you cook your own steak on grills that are located in the dining area. No matter what you have a hankering for you can find it among the 200 restaurants participating in the 10th annual SDRW. So open your wallet, flex your options and give your tastebuds a treat at least once per day that entire week. For a list of all the participating restaurants, visit and search for the one you want or peruse their list. You can find out in advance what their lunch and/ or dinner menu prices will be. You can even make a reservation from the SDRW website. Bon Appetit! —Morgan M. Hurley can be reached at

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Prices: Salads, soups and sides, $2.95 to $9.95; sandwiches and sweets, $2.95 to $8.95 (clockwise from bottom left) Greek salad with grilled chicken; Chicken and waffle; Lemon cream and berries waffle (Photos by Frank Sabatini Jr.)

Green eggs and ham on a Bruxie waffle (Courtesy Bruxie)


t took several years after visiting Brussels for longtime chef Dean Simon to perfect the recipe for a type of Belgian waffle that is unfamiliar to most Americans. Since doing so he’s partnered with a fellow chef to launch a string of unique sandwich shops named Bruxie. The eatery made its San Diego debut this summer in a small commercial plaza wedged between San Diego State University’s Student Union Center and the dorm towers. The yeast-driven waffles, which Simon refers to as “better than bread,” dominate the menu as the base for a variety of musttry sandwiches and desserts.

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As conveyed accurately by a team of “Bruxie ambassadors” that greet customers at the order counter, the waffles are remarkably lighter than you’d expect, crispy on the outside and feathery inside. They are thinner than the hefty Liege-style Belgian waffles seen at fancy brunches, and while resembling standard American waffles in appearance, they taste yeasty rather than pancake-sweet. “We show the versatility of the waffles,” said Simon, recalling that when he first tasted them in Brussels, he thought, “Now this is a waffle.” He added, “What people imagine they’ll get turns out to be a totally different result.”

Assuming we’d be toting home leftovers, a companion and I ordered three different waffle sandwiches and polished them off with ease. The “green eggs and ham” excels with the addition of arugula pesto mingling with a jumbo fried egg, grilled ham and Tillamook cheddar. As with all of the other sandwiches, the fillings are folded into in a seven-inch round waffle cooked to order. A modern twist is given to the buttermilk fried chicken and waffle, which contains a tender breast augmented by chili honey and cider slaw. For $1 extra, you can sweeten the sandwich with a mini bottle of pure Vermont maple syrup. We left good enough alone, dabbing the syrup instead onto a few plain ends of the waffle for a blissful finale. Gruyere cheese added gourmet flair to the hot pastrami sandwich, which uses Boar’s Head meat. With spicy brown mustard and sour pickles also at work, the creation leaves you forgetting about rye bread altogether. From the “sweet treets” section, the perfected waffle teams

up with “intense” lemon cream and fresh seasonal berries. It’s outstanding without being overly sweet. Or if you prefer dark Belgian chocolate, look no further than the thicker dough-based Liege waffle sold prolifically on the streets of Brussels. Salads are also available, with the Caesars served in Parmesan waffle crisps. We opted for the Greek salad with grilled chicken, which yielded a shareable portion of fresh romaine, arugula, feta cheese, sun-dried tomatoes and other veggies dressed judiciously in lemon vinaigrette. Both Simon and his business partner, Kelly Mullarney, have worked in kitchens throughout the U.S. and later operated a successful catering company in Los Angeles. The birth of Bruxie out of Orange, California reflects their culmination of using topquality ingredients, which seems unexpected in a casual, affordable eatery such as this, especially one catering to budget-minded students. By next summer, however, Bruxie stands to gain more local momentum when it opens a second San Diego outlet in what Simon calls “a glass cube” in the

upcoming Horton Park on Broadway. There are currently seven other locations of Bruxie outside of San Diego, mostly throughout Southern California. “I had it in my mind ever since visiting Brussels that if we could ever bring these waffles to the states, people would go crazy for them,” he said. Based on our experience and the fanfare we witnessed in The College Area, he’s absolutely right. —Frank Sabatini Jr. is the author of “Secret San Diego” (ECW Press) and began his local writing career more than two decades ago as a staffer for the former San Diego Tribune. He has since covered the culinary scene and other subjects for various print and broadcast media outlets in the area. You can reach him at fsabatini@san.


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Jefferson Mays on stage during “I Am My Own Wife” (Photo by Alyssa Schecter) ; (right) Mays as Charlotte von Mahlsdorf with a copy of “Die Transvestiten”(Photo by Kristen Flores)

The Transvestite In 2001 author Doug Wright, director Moises Kaufman, and actor Jefferson Mays (who received his MFA at UC San Diego 10 years earlier) came to La Jolla Playhouse’s “Page to Stage” program. Their purpose was to further develop the first act and hopefully find a second act for Wright’s play titled “I Am My Own Wife,” a one-man show that had been in development earlier at Sundance. Mays, who is currently playing on Broadway as all the murdered D’Ysquiths in “A Gentleman’s Guide to Love and Murder” (which premiered last year at the Old Globe Theatre), received a 2004 Tony Award for his portrayal of Charlotte von Mahlsdorf, the “wife” whose life Wright explores in the play. Dressed in a simple black housedress and pearls, the actor is called upon to play 37 characters. Transformations take place in the mind. Charlotte was born Lothar Berfelde in Berlin in 1928. A sympathetic aunt, who found the boy trying on dresses, counseled him. She gave him Magnus Hirschfeld’s 1910 book, “Die Transvestiten,” allowing Lothar to become Charlotte. “This book is not just any book,” Charlotte’s aunt told her. “This book will be your Bible.” One of the passages says, in effect, “In each person there is a delicate balance of male and female

substances. Just as we can’t find two matching leaves from the same tree, it is scientifically impossible to find two human beings whose male and female characteristics match in kind and number. And so we must treat sexual intermediaries as a common, utterly naturally phenomenon.” As a transvestite, Charlotte became owner and proprietor of Berlin’s Gründerzeit Museum, sur vived the Nazis German

Democratic Republic, World War II, and later the Stasi police state behind the Wall in East Berlin. During the course of inter views between Wright and von Mahlsdor f, the question of Charlotte’s possible collusion with the Stasi arose, begging the question how far one goes in order to sur vive repression and preser ve what one considers impor tant.

GAY SAN DIEGO Sept. 19–Oct. 2, 2014 Charlotte’s fall from Wright’s pedestal makes the work even more fascinating. In the more poignant Act II, the actor portrays antiquities dealer Alfred Kirschner, whom Charlotte more than likely loved and yet betrayed politically. Or did he, as she claims, insist on taking the fall for her? The life of Charlotte von Mahlsdorf, her touching journey from bewildered boy to iron-willed woman, makes a mesmerizing, enigmatic play, which received the Lambda Award in 2004. The play is exceptionally timely today. The newly formed New Group West presents James P. Darvas as Charlotte (et al) in a smartly designed production (Kristen Flores, scenic; Keala Miles, lighting; Lisa Burgess, costumes; and George Soete, sound), played in the Studio Theatre at 10th Avenue Arts Center, and directed by Mark Zeifach. Darvas has the intelligence and concentration requisite for playing Charlotte, and certainly the height. She was a tall woman in more ways than one. The shoes are enormous to fill. Performing this play is a brave endeavor and a remarkable achievement. The performance is surprising, especially when one is accustomed to seeing Darvas in more frivolous and effeminate roles. Winner of the 2004 Pulitzer Prize for Drama, “I Am My Own Wife” continues through Sept. 28 at the 10th Avenue Arts Center, located at 930 Tenth Ave., Downtown. — Charlene Baldridge has been writing about the arts since 1979. Her book “San Diego, Jewel of the California Coast” (Northland Publishing) is currently available in bookstores. She can be reached at charb81@gmail. com.t




does a pretty good job of living up to the television ideal. There’s no Ted Danson, and as far as I can tell, none of the regulars are named Norm, but quite a few are greeted by name by half the bar when they walk through the door. Nicknames are common. There’s Teacher Bob, Black Bob, Crazy Bob — and that’s not even all the Bobs. There’s One-L-Michele and Two-L-Michelle. There’s Nurse Frankie. There’s Day Val, and then there’s Night Val. Altogether, bar manager Lukas Dupus counts a rotating cast of about 100 regulars (not all of whom have nicknames). A couple reviewers on Yelp and in other places have complained about feeling out of place on their first visit. The solution to that, Dupus said, is to not be shy when you walk in. Introduce yourself to the bartender and a couple people at the bar, and before you know it you’ll be one of them. That’s what happened to me, and now they know my name. “You wanna go where the people know people are all the same. You wanna go where everybody knows your name.” Now if I can just get that damn song out of my head. —Jeremy Ogul can be reached at— Do you have a story you want to tell about one of San Diego’s gay bars? Write to Jeremy Ogul at

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Gentlemen Prefer Blondes: Cinema Under the Stars presents the classic film starring Marilyn Monroe and Jane Russell, also the inspiration for Madonna’s “Material World” video. 8 p.m. $15. 4040 Goldfinch St., Mission Hills. Showings all weekend long. For more info visit or call 619-295-4221.


YPC Family Feud: PreAIDS Walk fundraiser sponsored by the Youth Professionals Council, a program of The San Diego LGBT Center. Ever yone is invited to join in this fun TV-show-like event. 2 p.m. Free entr y. For more info contact harrisonmalone@ Flicks, 1017 University Ave., Hillcrest. Wine and Canvas: Stepby-step instruction and materials are included in this event to create a 16-by-20-inch galler y-wrapped canvas painting to take home. Today’s painting: “Island Bliss.” No outside food or drinks — both available for purchase. $35 per person. 1 – 4 p.m. Taste and Thirst, 715 Fourth Ave., Downtown. Visit PGK Dance Project’s Mediterranean Nights: PGK celebrates their 20th anniversar y and kicks off the 21st season with performances by The PGK Dance Project, Flamenco Arana, Iza Moon Dance Collective and more. Free admission with reservations. 5 – 10 p.m. Centro Cultural de la Raza, 2004 Park Blvd., Balboa Park. Visit


Gay & Lesbian Wedding Expo: RainbowWeddingNetwork brings dozens of gay-friendly exhibitors — DJs, photographers, officiants, jewelers, venues, wedding planners — to San Diego to help couples plan their big day. Free raffles and giveaways. 1 – 4 p.m. Horton Grand Hotel, 311 Island Ave., Downtown. To RSVP visit “Regrets Only”: Final performance of the bubbling comedy about the politics of marriage written by Paul Rudnick. 2 p.m. Diversionar y Theatre, 4545 Park Blvd., University Heights. Tickets: diversionar y. org or call 619-220-0097.

Sunday Bust in North County: Ever y Sunday Hill St. Café will turn into a safe space for all LGBT and allies to gather. Food is veganfriendly, and they ser ve beer, wine and sake. 15 percent of proceeds go to the North County LGBTQ Resource Center. 3 – 9 p.m. at Hill St. Café, 524 S. Coast Hwy, Oceanside. Visit Live Music: KSON presents an evening with countr y star Martina McBride. Tickets start at $45. 6:30 p.m. House of Blues, 1055 Fifth Ave., Downtown. Visit Transgender Coming Out Group: Welcoming transgender people in all stages of exploring their gender identity and their friends, family and loved ones. 7 – 8:30 p.m. San Diego LGBT Center, 3909 Centre St., Hillcrest. Visit

WOSD Film Night: Women Occupy San Diego presents “Koch Brothers Exposed: 2014 Edition” a documentar y that began as viral videos focused on David and Charles Koch’s controversies surrounding their political activities and negative impact on American life. Doors 6:30 p.m., film 7 p.m. Women’s Museum of California, 2730 Historic Decatur Rd., Barracks 16, Liberty Station. Visit Film Out Screening: “Crazy Bitches” — A girls’ weekend turns into a nightmare when one by one they are killed by their own vanity. 7 p.m., Landmark’s Hillcrest Cinemas, 3965 Fifth Ave., Hillcrest. $10. Visit Bitchy Bingo: Hosted by Kiki and Ophelia ever y Wednesday. Play for goodies and prizes. No cover, food minimum: $15. 7 – 10 p.m. Lips, 3036 El Cajon Blvd., North Park. Visit




National Voter Registration Day: The Center’s Equality Votes team will meet up for a #TacoTuesday bar crawl visiting locations throughout Hillcrest to encourage people to register to vote. 6 p.m. Babycakes, 3766 Fifth Ave., Hillcrest. RSVP to Rebekah Hook at rhook@ or 619-6922077 ext. 103. Successful Aging: Free workshop offered by the San Diego Human Dignity Foundation featuring experts in the field of older retirement living and financial advice. 6 – 7:30 p.m. Deborah Hoffman Room at the San Diego Foundation, 2508 Historic Decatur Rd., Liberty Station. RSVP to Free LGBT Healthcare Workshop: Certified Covered California Outreach Educators will answer questions and help individuals with personal and family coverage options under the Affordable Care Act. 6 – 7:30 p.m. San Diego LGBT Center, 3909 Centre St., Hillcrest. Visit


San Diego Film Festival: Five-day festival starts today featuring over 100 independent films. One of two film villages will be set up in the Gaslamp Quarter. Visit

Peters and DeMaio address voters: Little Italy Resident’s Association hosts District 52 Congressmember Scott Peters and challenger Carl DeMaio. Each candidate will be given 30 minutes to present why he is the best person to represent D52. Questions will be taken, time permitting. 6 p.m. Arrive before 6 p.m. to secure a seat. Email topics and questions to by Sept. 22. Firehouse Museum, 1572 Columbia St., Little Italy. Democrats for Equality: Monthly meeting open to public on fourth Thursday of month. Meeting at 7 p.m. with social time beginning one half-hour prior. Joyce Beers Community Center, 3900 Vermont St., Hillcrest. Visit Live Music: Patrizia the Sultr y Lady of Jazz in “Autumn in the Key of Jazz” accompanied by her outstanding band. 8 p.m. Martinis Above Fourth Table & Stage, 3940 Fourth Ave., Hillcrest. Visit Casablanca: Cinema Under the Stars presents the iconic film starring Humphrey Bogart and Ingrid Bergman. 8 p.m. $15. 4040 Goldfinch St., Mission Hills. Movie shows

see Calendar, pg 13


25th annual AIDS Walk and Run The following events (and more) will take place throughout the weekend of Sept. 26 – 28 honoring our community’s commitment to fighting HIV/AIDS. Sept. 26: Reasons We Remember — Candlelight vigil the night before AIDS Walk and Run to remember those we’ve lost, followed by a rally to commit to ending the epidemic. 7 p.m. Hillcrest Pride Flag, Normal Street at University Avenue. Sept. 27: AIDS Walk and Run — Opening ceremonies 7:20 a.m., 10k run 7:45 a.m., 5k Fun Run 8:10 a.m. and 5k walk 8:15 a.m. Normal Street and University Avenue. Sept. 27: After Walk Brunch — Each of the following restaurants are donating a portion of their sales to the cause. Martinis Above Fourth (50 percent); Har vey Milk’s American Diner, Uptown Tavern and East Coast Pizza (all 25 percent). Sept. 28: Founder’s Concerts for Life — A benefit concert to wrap up AIDS Walk weekend featuring performances by Tori Roze and The Hot Mess, Roman Palacios Group and Manny Cepeda and His Trio of Bomba Music. 5:30 – 8:30 p.m. Heat Bar and Kitchen, 3797 Park Blvd., Hillcrest. Visit for more information on these and other AIDS Walk events.t


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Fridays on Fifth: Sponsored by the Hillcrest Business Association, a weekly Friday happy hour event encouraging people to eat, drink and shop from 4 – 9 p.m. on Fifth Avenue between Brookes Avenue and Washington Street. Visit Wine and Canvas: Stepby-step instruction and materials are included in this event to create a 16-by-20inch galler y-wrapped canvas painting to take home. Today’s painting: “Color Burst Floral.” No outside food or drinks — both available for purchase. $35 per person. 6 – 9 p.m. Fabrison’s French Creperie, 1425 India St., Little Italy. Visit Comedy: Mama Tokus performs comedic poetr y on subjects including womanhood, fashion, music and more. 6:30 p.m. Women’s Museum of California, 2730 Historic Decatur Rd., Barracks 16, Liberty Station. Visit


Adams Avenue Street Fair: This two-day music and ar ts festival kicks of f today with over 100 bands on eight stages. 10 a.m. Adams Avenue, Normal Heights. Visit 80s Brunch: Enjoy the brunch menu while singing along with your favorite ’80s tunes. 10 a.m. – 2 p.m. Gossip Grill, 1220 University Ave., Hillcrest. Visit Rummage Sale: First Unitarian Universalist Church’s 1000 Family Rummage Sale is diverse and extensive with thousands of quality, gently-used items. Sat. and Sun.,7 a.m. – 3 p.m. 4190 Front St. Visit Celebration of Life for Susan “Sam” Clopton: Friends and family will gather to eulogize and remember their dear friend. Guests are encouraged to dress in a festive way Sam would have loved. 6 p.m. Bamboo Lounge, 1475 University Ave., Hillcrest. Visit Susan-SAM-Clopton.


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“Encore on the Rocks”: Cabaret show and fundraiser hosted by the Encore Vocal Ensemble of San Diego featuring their soloists and small ensemble of singers. Songs from Jesus Christ Superstar, Rent and more. 7 p.m. Martinis Above Fourth Table & Stage, 3940 Fourth Ave., Hillcrest. Visit


Trivia Tuesday: Ever y Tuesday come alone or with a group of friends for a chance to win valuable HBC gift cards. 7 – 9 p.m. Hillcrest Brewing Company, 1458 University Ave., Hillcrest. Visit hillcrestbrewingcompany. com or call 619-269-4323.


Free LGBT Healthcare Workshop: Cer tified Covered Califor nia Outreach Educators will answer questions and help individuals with personal and family coverage options under the Af fordable Care Act. 10 – 11:30 a.m. San Diego LGBT Center, 3909 Centre St., Hillcrest. Visit She-Rantulas from Outer Space in 3D: A send-up of the femme fatales and B-movie horror stories of the 1950s. Previews start tonight. 8 p.m. Diversionar y Theatre, 4545 Park Blvd., University Heights. Tickets diversionar or call 619-220-0097.


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GARCES ter who lives with Cerebral Palsy. Her sister received no medical support or education while growing up and had no social interaction outside of the immediate family. “Having seen the disturbing way in which people with disabilities live in my native Venezuela, I made a vow to give my son a full range of physical and social activities that would enrich his life,” Garces said. She made the courageous decision to leave her native country and come to the United States. After neighbors held a fundraiser to help pay for her airfare to America, Garces and Juan Carlos arrived in San Diego in 1988 when she was 26 and he was five, neither speaking any English, having no immediate source of income and carrying all their belongings in one suitcase. For the next 10 years of Juan Carlos’ illness, Garces worked full time and cared for her son. Knowing that his life could be cut short at any time, she sought experiences that would enrich his physical and emotional life. “I saw how meaningful it was for him to be a part of organized physical activity,” she said. “He told

Garces leads a Zumba class with her students (Courtesy Juan Carlos Organization) me how empowered and joyful he felt when he took part in movement activity.” Sadly, Juan Carlos passed away in 1999 at the age of 15 from the debilitating effects of Muscular Dystrophy. The totality of Garces’ life experiences began to merge shortly after her son’s death. Returning to her love of dancing and her Latin musical roots, Garces became a certified Zumba instructor. As a natural trajectory, she began to volunteer teaching lowincome, special-needs students

about the joy that can be achieved through jubilant dance-therapy exercise, adapting the movements to each group she taught. Her repertoire expanded to people living with Down’s syndrome, Parkinson’s, autism, Muscular Dystrophy, brain injuries, spina bifida, Cerebral Palsy, people in wheelchairs and people recovering from injuries. She envisioned a program that would provide regular classes for people with disabilities. With drive, inspiration and a gift for dance, in May of 2012 she recruited a board

of directors to form a new nonprofit, Juan Carlos Organization. Now a 501(c)3, the Juan Carlos Organization provides dance-therapy exercise classes ever y week for people of all ages in San Diego’s special-needs community, many of whom have no other access to organized physical activities. The inclusive classes, open to all participants at little or no cost, put into action the words of Juan Carlos: “Being active in some way makes me feel the most like a regular person.” This personal connection feeds the passion she feels for the Juan Carlos Organization’s mission: To strengthen the physical and mental health of special-needs students of all ages through regular participation in joyful, adaptive, dance-therapy exercise. Her students come alive with the Latin and international high-energy music and dance moves, building physical fitness, strength, and alertness. They exhibit self-confidence and selfesteem, and their communication skills often improve. To those in San Diego’s specialneeds community and their families, teachers, and caregivers, her continuing creativity and dedication to their health and wellbeing is an ongoing gift. Garces teaches all over San Diego County. She lives in Birdland with her wife, who works in customer care. On Oct. 25 at 10 a.m., Garces will lead a spirit-filled and inclusive Zumba Dia de los Muertos gathering in the parish hall at Christ Lutheran Church located at 4761 Cass St. in Pacific Beach. The free event, open to people of all ages and abilities, will feature face painters and live percussion, and charitable contributions to Juan Carlos Organization are always welcome. Participants will be invited to remember and celebrate the lives of their loved ones who have left their sides by bringing along photos and mementos to place on decorated tables at the front of the gathering. For those seeking more information about the Juan Carlos Organization, contact Board Chair Jacqueline Hanson at 858344-9518 or via You can also visit the organization’s website at —Delle Willett is a PR consultant and a freelance journalist. She does pro-bono work for organizations that empower women and work to end world hunger. Reach her at




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(l to r) Carlos Santiago of The Loft team and Davis Lewis of Spikes will be looking for repeat success at the NAGAAA World Series in Dallas. (Photo by Grady Mitchell) NAGAAA World Series Five teams from the Open Division of America’s Finest City Softball League (AFCSL) are headed to Dallas this weekend for the start of next week’s North American Gay Amateur Athletic Alliance (NAGAAA) World Series, which kicks off with opening ceremonies on Sept. 22. The weeklong tournament is a competition between the best teams across several divisions (A, B, C, D, Master’s). Each San Diego team will be placed into a five-team pool by random draw. Those teams will play each other once in a four-game seeding schedule that will produce rankings for teams. These pool play games begin Tuesday, Sept. 23, with each team playing twice on Tuesday and Wednesday. On the night of Sept. 24, teams find out what time their first double-elimination game begins; the double-elimination slate is the true tournament of the NAGAAA World Series. With the lowest seeds playing the highest seeds to begin, teams are guaranteed to play at least one game on Friday, Sept. 26, but if they lose their first game on Thursday, they are done for the day. Champions will be crowned during the

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In the C Division, the champion Flicks were not able to attend this year, so fifth-place Viejas is taking their place. The Stars are a team of fun and experienced veterans, many of whom are experiencing their first World Series in years. The secondplace Hillcrest Brewing Company Outlaws return after a one-year absence, led by manager/pitcher Randy Miller. The Outlaws have enjoyed the most success of any AFCSL team in recent years while competing in national tournaments, though not at the World Series level. The boys in pink and black hope to crack the top five, and are fully capable. In the D Division, champion Pecs was a runaway winner of the recent AFCSL spring season. This team can hit and spray the ball anywhere in the outfield. Joining them will be the Number One on Fifth Hitmen, who are making their first World Series appearance. Austin Jacobsen’s ragtag group of players came together strong in 2014, taking second in Phoenix back in April and edging the Flicks Fireballs (the team I coach) in the spring’s final game to earn the berth. The weekend leading up to the World Series will be important to San Diegans in another way: AFCSL’s Commissioner Roman Jimenez is heading our league’s bid to host our own World Series here in San Diego in 2016, which would be the 40th anniversary of the tournament. We are competing with Austin, Texas for the right to host a tournament that boasts over 160 teams and brings in tremendous revenue, with approximately 3,000 players and friends expected to attend.

Good luck to all of the teams competing in the Texas heat — my guys included, of course! For more information about the Dallas World Series or to track scores online, visit the tournament website at Winding Down the MLB Season As we enter the final week of the regular season in Major League Baseball (MLB), now is as good of a time as any to look back at my preseason picks and see if I succeeded and where I failed. In the National League East, I correctly predicted that Washington would win the division, as the Nationals took care of that with a victory on Sept. 16. Back in April, I wrote: “The Marlins and Mets will be better, but only mildly.” This turned out to be right on, though we wonder if the Marlins would have contended for a wild card spot if ace Jose Fernandez had not succumbed to Tommy John elbow surgery. My NL Central pick was St. Louis. The Cardinals hold a slim lead over the fast-charging Pirates, who I predicted would regress just enough to miss the playoffs. Each of these teams benefited from a huge collapse by Milwaukee, a team I never thought would compete in the first place. So if the Cardinals hold onto the lead, I get a “victory,” but a lucky one at that. I had the Reds as a wild card team, but their offense struggled mightily. In the West, I not only admitted my bias against the Dodgers, but also picked my favorite team, the Giants, to win the division. This was still possible as of Sept. 17, as San

Francisco sat just three games behind LA, with a critical three-game series pending at Dodger Stadium Sept. 22 – 24. Whoever finishes second will get a wild card berth. In the American League, my picks were all over the map. I had Boston (ok, so they are going to finish in last place instead of first, my bad), Detroit (clinging to a slim lead over the surprising Royals), and Oakland (who had the best record in baseball until they stopped winning completely, now in danger of missing the playoffs entirely). I had the Angels (who now have the best record in MLB) and Rays (who started the year in too big of a hole to climb out of) in the wild card. My NL final four teams were the Cardinals, Dodgers, Giants, and Nationals. This could still come true. My AL final four included the Athletics, Rays, Red Sox, and Tigers. This could miss entirely. My World Series champion was the Cardinals, who have been borderline inept on offense but still in the hunt. As my Giants proved in 2010 and 2012, anything can happen in a short playoff series, and you do not need to be the best team to win it all. And hey, it is 2014 — another even-numbered year parade for the black and orange looming? —Jeff Praught is actively involved in the LGBT sports community, where he plays in the local softball (AFCSL), football (SDAFFL) and basketball (SD Hoops) leagues. He has served on AFCSL’s board of officers in various capacities and is currently the commissioner of SD Hoops. Reach him at dugoutchatter@


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