Page 1

Pride Festival Schedule

Volume 5 Issue 11 May 30–June 12, 2014 Follow us on Facebook and Twitter



A toast to Toni Atkins


Get on the bike train


Paying homage to HOLLYWOOD

Photo by

Local Dems celebrate California’s first openly lesbian speaker Vince Meehan | Gay San Diego On May 24, The San Diego Democrats for Equality Club hosted a congratulatory party in honor of Toni Atkins, the newly sworn-in Speaker of California’s Assembly, at the Bamboo Lounge in Hillcrest. The event attracted Democrats from all over San Diego County to celebrate with Atkins, including members of Democratic clubs based in Serra Mesa, Pacific Beach and Point Loma.

FilmOut returns with a diverse lineup of shorts and feature films Morgan M. Hurley | GSD Editor

Guerrilla warfare


Soy-free fare


Whoopi-ing it up

Index Opinion............….….6

FilmOut, San Diego’s LGBT Film Festival, marks its 16th year this weekend, with a full schedule of diverse films that cover topics coming from ever y corner of the LGBTQ alphabet. Longtime fans of festival have noticed a series of branding changes for the organization in the last couple of years, most of which took place in advance of its 15th anniversar y, and included increasing their visibility. “Even though our festival is one of the oldest and most successful LGBT film festivals in North America, we recognized that for our nonprofit organization to grow and thrive, we needed to elevate our community profile, appeal to a wider demographic, and boost our image,” said Ken Williams, board member and the festival’s film and media relations director. “We determined the need to brand all our products so there was an exciting, trendy, cohesive imager y to be used in all our marketing tools,” he said. “The imager y included a fresh, new website that was more appealing to view, easier to use, and communicated our message of diversity. The imager y, conceived by the board and executed by Mance Creative, would be found on our tickets, press releases, and promotional and marketing materials.” Williams said that social media has become their focus this year, and the organization used Facebook extensively to promote the festival’s 2014 selections. “The results have been amazing: Advance ticket sales are at record levels, and we expect attendance will be outstanding,” he said. “The impact of

Giving those who lost their lives the respect they deserve Michael Crane | Gay San Diego


More than just a three-day weekend and the unofficial start to summer, Memorial Day is the time to remember the hundreds of thousands who gave the ultimate sacrifice to defend American freedoms. That remembrance was made a little more complete this year when the San Diego LGBT Community Center hosted the first Memorial Day ceremony at the Hillcrest Pride Flag. Active service members, veterans and local civilians gathered at the intersection of University Avenue and Normal Street at for the short ceremony on May 26, which was coordinated by The Center and the San Diego County Office of Veterans Services. Veterans reflected on comrades who never made it home and spoke on the importance of honoring their memory every year.

Spor ts.......…......…18

Contact Us Editorial/Letters 619-961-1960

Advertising 619-961-1958

San Diego Community News Network

Congressmember Susan Davis (D-CA 53) attended as well, along with San Diego Democrats for Equality President David Warmouth and Uptown Community Parking District COO Elizabeth Hannon. Atkins said that it was good to be back in San Diego among so many friends. “I enjoy working in Sacramento because it reminds me a lot of Virginia where I grew up,” Atkins said. “But when I come back to San Diego, it’s different because I am home. Everything is so local and I

see FilmOut pg8

see Atkins pg5

San Diego Democrats for Equality President David Warmouth (left) and Assembly Speaker Toni Atkins at Bamboo Lounge in Hillcrest (Photo by Vince Meehan)

A more suitable Memorial Day

Wedding Guide....….….10


this two-year-long rebranding effort is paying big dividends, with new faces in the audience, a broader reach to include movie lovers outside of the LGBT community, and greater visibility. “We could not be happier with the results,” Williams said. Another change made last year by FilmOut’s Programming Director Michael McQuiggan was to break up the short films and run them along with the feature films. In the past, all shorts were screened together, but Williams said this change was made as an homage to the “Golden Era” of Hollywood, when filmgoers expected to see shorts in advance of the full-length feature films. The biggest change that attendees will see this year is a much shorter schedule. In previous years, the festival ran over two weekends, but the 2014 festival is short and sweet; it runs just three days, Friday, May 30 through Sunday, June 1. Williams said due to free food and drinks, the “hot tickets” are for opening and closing nights, when after par ties are included in the price of the tickets, but he said he expects good crowds for all the movies this year. Though they encourage ever yone to venture to the FilmOut website and purchase tickets in advance, Williams said those who wish to wait and buy tickets at the door should arrive no less than 30 minutes prior to the screening of any film. Friday night’s opening party is $25 and takes place at Sunset Temple, located at 3911 Kansas St. across from the North Park Theatre. Sunday’s $15 closing

The militar y’s long ban on LGBT ser vice members was still fresh in the minds of those who attended. “We didn’t really care why everyone thought we should be there, we cared that we were there, and that our comrades were there, that our brothers were there,” said Sean McHugh, a hospital corpsman in the Navy who served multiple tours in Iraq and Afghanistan. “That’s the reason I was there. I know that when I’m there, it’s the guy next to me that I really care about.” Since the controversial “don’t ask don’t tell” policy was repealed in September of 2011, giving gays and lesbians the authority to finally serve openly, the LGBT Center has worked with the County Veterans Service Office to honor veterans in the community and help them apply for benefits. “‘Don’t ask don’t tell’ was [17] years long, so it’s kind of like unraveling the things we couldn’t celebrate before,” said Sean Sala, an Iraq War veteran who helped organize the event. “We couldn’t march in Pride parades, we couldn’t be open about

LGBT Vietnam veteran and Normal Heights resident Frank Salerno salutes the U.S. flag raised on the Hillcrest Pride Flag pole. (Photo by Michael Crane) ourselves, or our spouses … and we couldn’t stand in front of a rainbow flag monument and honor service members on Memorial Day.” Navy Petty Officer 2nd Class Jordan Reckmann sang “The Star-Spangled Banner” to open the ceremony, and he was followed by retired Air

see MemorialDay, pg 14



GAY SAN DIEGO May 30–June 12, 2014

Jump on the train Grassroots effort addresses community and bike safety

A group of bicyclists on a recent “SD Bike Train” ride stop at Normal Street and University Avenue (Photo by Veronica Medina) Morgan M. Hurley | GSD Editor While bicycle lobbyists and local government officials iron out all the details regarding the impending Uptown Bicycle Corridor, two local women are taking matters into their own hands, building community and spreading awareness about bicycle safety along the way.

One day last April, Veronica Medina, a City Heights resident, had a big dilemma: with her car on the fritz, she had to find an alternative means to work. “I realized I had to ride my bike all the way to Hillcrest,” she said. “I was so scared to ride my bike by myself. I thought if I reached out to the community it would help.” Medina took to social media

and found an open group page on Facebook called, “Bike on Univer University Ave.” She quickly drafted a post, looking for others who might also commute along University between City Heights and Hillcrest that would be interested in establishing a “bike train.” The response Medina received was better than she expected. Within no time a planning committee was formed, comprised of interested riders. Shortly after their first meeting, Medina invested the help of her friend Sandra Pimentel, another bicyclist. They launched a Facebook page called “SD Bike Train” and began discussing specific routes. Within 10 days, the inaugural “SD Bike Train” was on the road. University Avenue, a main corridor of the region — which runs approximately 10 miles from La Mesa in East County to Mission Hills — has long been deemed an unsafe roadway for bicyclists due to the narrowness of the street, various potholes and aggressive drivers. Until the proposed changes regarding bicycle infrastructure along University Avenue take place, commuters either tough it out or find alternative routes to make their way across town. With Bike Train, an alternative now exists. “There is a need for people to feel safe when they are commuting,” Medina said. “We’ve been asked, ‘Why University? Can we go on Howard … or Orange?’ We made a decision; we want to be visible and we want to have the most direct route to get to wherever we need to go instead of going out of our way and feel safe doing so.” The first ride took place April 22 and started at 7:45 a.m. in City Heights, ending at the Old Town Trolley Station, with multiple stops along the way. It corresponded with Earth Day, which was a Tuesday, but subsequent rides have been shifted to Fridays. Aimed at both recreational and commuter bicycle enthusiasts, SD Bike Train participants are now instructed to meet every Friday at designated points along University Avenue and ride together, single file or side-by-side. The Facebook page, which outlines the routes and shares other information, now boasts 188 members, and the number of riders has steadily increased every Friday since that inaugural ride. The primary route remains University Avenue, which starts at 7 a.m. in City Heights and moves west, but recently another route, taking riders from North Park to Downtown, was established starting at University Avenue and 30th Street. More routes are in the works. Though most of the members were total strangers wanting to build community with other bicycle riders, some, like Ken Eby-Gomez, was already a friend of Medina’s.

“I have two jobs that are both in City Heights,” he said. “I like to join in anyway to help build some momentum, but also because it is pretty fun to ride with friends that early.” Both a bike mechanic and teacher, Eby-Gomez said he is one of the organizers of Bikes Del Pueblo, a local bicycle collective aimed at selfsufficiency. He said being involved in SD Bike Train has broadened his perspective. “It’s given me new insights about what organizing for livability in neighborhoods might look like, how reaching out to residents can look, and how to find solutions to common needs,” he said. Stephen Sloan said he learned about Bike Train through Facebook. “I belong to several bike groups and, of course, Facebook makes suggestions for similar interests,” he said. “I don’t have a morning commute. I just thought it would be a good idea to help promote the ride, as I regularly ride my bike on University.” Sloan ventures from the corner of College and University avenues, near his home, to meet up with the group, which is quite a distance from the first official Bike Train meet up. “For me it is a social ride,” he said. “I usually ride to Downtown and go to the library or stop for coffee. It’s a really nice group of people and there are a lot of conversations happening during the ride. I think most bicyclists ride alone and it is a pleasant change to ride with others.” For Pimentel, who came from Long Beach where a much more advanced bicycle infrastructure is in place, something like SD Bike Train was sorely needed in her new neighborhood. “This project for me means more bicycle visibility, that means getting more cyclist on the road, riding to work, school, grocery store etc.,” said Pimentel. “It is a great way to have people try commuting on their bikes, in a safe group environment, and also lets drivers see that bicycles will be sharing the road with them, so they can be more alert to cyclists.” Organizers haven’t formally reached out to the local bicycle coalitions and other organizations — although word about the Bike Train is rolling out fast — and they’re not sure they will. They prefer to keep it as a community building experience. “This is by cyclists for cyclists,” Medina said. “It’s very grassroots and it builds a sense of community. Sometimes people come just to talk to other cyclists. On our first Downtown route, some people went to work, others went to grab coffee. “I understand there’s different organizations … but I think there really is something to be said when the actual community gets involved and says ‘hey let’s get together and make this happen,’” she said. What Pimentel and Medina are doing is listening to feedback from members in their group, asking for suggestions and making everyone feel they have a say in things as their little movement expands and adapts. The sky seems to be the limit with SD Bike Train. “I see the Bike Train growing, we have started a Facebook, we’re working on a website and looking to add more routes,” Pimentel said. “This is all because there is a need for us to do so. The outreach from the not only the bicycle community, but the motorists, has been great.” For more information on SD Bike Train, visit their Facebook. com/SDBikeTrain page. t


GAY SAN DIEGO May 30–June 12, 2014

Taking care of others (and yourself)

MICHAEL KIMMEL LIFE BEYOND THERAPY Dear Michael: My elderly parents live in El Centro. So far, they’ve been okay, but lately my dad’s health is shaky and my mom’s mental state isn’t the greatest. I am the only child who lives nearby. I’m afraid I’m going to get asked to have my parents move in with my husband and our two kids, and neither he nor I could handle that. I have suggested they consider assisted living, but they both say they want to die in their own house and that a nursing home would “kill” them. I’m driving to El Centro almost every weekend. What about my own life? Help! Dutiful Son in San Diego Dear Dutiful: I used to work for San Diego Hospice and learned a great deal there about caring for ailing or ill parents. Here are some things to consider: As a caretaker, your number one priority is to take good care of yourself while (somehow) attending to the needs of your husband, kids and parents. Start by not doing it all by yourself. Bring your husband and siblings into this (and if your kids are old enough to understand, include them too). Let your kids and husband know just what you’re dealing with. Maybe the kids can help more around the house to decrease your stress. If you don’t tell them what’s going on, how can they pitch in and help? Even little kids can understand that “grandpa and grandma aren’t so strong and need help sometimes.” At San Diego Hospice, I facilitated family meetings when a family member was ill or dying. Everyone in the family gets together (in person or by phone) and does specific problem solving: in this case, the focus would be how to best assist your parents with health/financial/ quality of life concerns. The result of a family meeting is a “family plan” that is specific about who will do what for whom and when, e.g., you will visit your parents every other weekend and stay overnight one night, your siblings will call your parents twice a week and visit in person once a month, etc. A big part of caring for our aging parents is money. Financially, do your parents need help? If so, who is able to help them and how? Perhaps your siblings have financial resources that you and your husband do not. Get help. Make a list of who can help your parents. Find out what’s available in their area. Do they have neighbors that they’re close to? Neighbors can often help you keep an eye on them. Do they have friends they see regularly? Do they

belong to any social groups, bridge clubs, a Senior Center? Get information. In the family meeting, really talk with your parents and find out what they want for themselves. Talk with their doctors (with their permission). Find out what financial resources they have. Do they have a Will? A Durable Power of Attorney for Health Care? Talk with them about these important documents. Get respite for yourself. You can’t do this alone. Do your parents qualify for hospice or palliative services? Meals on Wheels? Public transportation? Much of this information is available on the Internet. If your kids are old enough to be computer savvy, let them help you with this. Get them involved in problem solving (they may be doing this for you and your husband some day). Monitor your caretaker/codependent tendencies. You can’t do it all, no matter how much you (or they) think you should. Get a massage now and then, talk with a therapist (or someone objective you can “vent” to), get away for an occasional day or weekend with your honey (without the kids, if possible) and find a few minutes for yourself every day. And, dear readers, don’t ignore this topic because you’re young

and your parents are healthy. The best time to talk about the future with your parents is when they are healthy and financially solid. The worst time is when something dramatic happens and no one has thought ahead or made any tentative plans for health emergencies. Being proactive now can spare you a lot of grief and panic in the future. God willing, we’ll all live long enough to age gracefully and die peacefully, but planning ahead really helps. —Michael Kimmel is a licensed psychotherapist who specializes in helping LGBT clients achieve their goals and deal with anxiety, depression, grief, sexually addictive behavior, coming out, relationship challenges and homophobia. Michael is currently accepting new clients. Contact him at 619-955-3311 or visit

Hillcrest Newsstand

Featuring San Diego’s best collection of hard to find international magazines! We also carry all your favorite local & national publications, as well as souvenirs, snacks and lotto tickets!

529 University Ave.- Hillcrest (619) 260-0492

COMING JUNE 27TH Best of Gay San Diego awards issue! See who this year's winners are!



GAY SAN DIEGO May 30–June 12, 2014


Canvass for a Cause: putting the ‘act’ in activism

Participants show off their picket signs at a previous Guerrilla Pride event. I have a question for my contemporaries, by whom I mean the 30 to 50-something year olds who have found their advocacy calling. When was last time you felt like you were “in the trenches” or “on the front lines” regarding an issue? I’ve volunteered or worked, in some manner, in the HIV field for 20 years now. I’m proud of the work I do, but I don’t know that I can pinpoint the last time I really stepped outside of the safe, “socially acceptable” zone. I remember my first Pride Parade; it was in Knoxville, Tennessee and I was 20 years old. To my “newly out” eyes, it looked like there were more protesters against the parade than supporters and participants combined. I felt scared, significant and exhilarated but, most of all, I felt alive. It is that sort of vibrant energy that runs through the offices of Canvass for a Cause (CFAC). This juxtaposition of strident passion, goodwill, discourse and a sense of urgency lets you know that there is stuff happening. True to their slogan, “Strictly Radical, Always Queer,” CFAC is about making a purposeful and noticeable imprint on the world in which its members live. Established in 2009, in the wake of “Prop 8,” CFAC’s methods pay homage to the heyday of LGBTQ grassroots activism, with a strong affinity for the Stonewall protests of the 1960s. While this young initiative is savvy in utilizing social media and email calls to action, a centerpiece of their methods is taking the effort out from behind closed doors or the safety of a computer screen, and into the public eye. They stand ready with a strong street team to respond to acts of injustice toward all humans, through storefront and street corner “educational canvassing,” fundraising efforts for those in need, phone call campaigns to raise awareness, mobilizing the public to contact elected officials, and spontaneous protests at strategic sites. I had the privilege of sitting with several members of CFAC to discuss what drew them to the organization. One of the first things that became very clear was that all CFAC members took to heart their commitment to mutual respect, as we established names, personal gender pronouns and the fact that, no matter what position and individual held or how long they had been with CFAC, their voice was important. “Canvass” team members face a very challenging task: They are the public face of CFAC, armed with their convictions, information about their cause and a clipboard, as they look to change or enlighten public

opinion, one person at a time. I was joined by some of the canvassers who had just returned from a day spent educating the public and raising support to prevent the repeal of The School Success and Opportunity Act (AB 1266). This is the first bill in the country to guarantee trans* students equal access to school bathrooms, locker rooms and sports teams that match their gender identity, and has garnered opposition from anti-LGBTQ groups.

I A N M O RTO N PROFILES IN ADVOCACY Jamie found satisfaction in the opportunity to raise awareness, stating: “About 90 percent of the people I spoke to today did not know that the law existed, or about the struggles that transgender people have in regards to safe access to facilities.” Ayden related his experience with a person who was initially confrontational, but did allow Ayden to pull them aside for a discussion. “At the end of the conversation, they understood that this is about kids trying to live their lives, a hard enough challenge without taking away their protections,” Ayden said. When we continued discussing what motivates canvassers to continue their efforts in a potentially hostile environment, Sofia put it simply: “I speak for those who have no voice.” While AB 1266 has been the core issue for CFAC since December 2013, they continually seek out causes that align with their principles and include, among others, environmental justice, freedom of speech, the end of “conversion therapy,” police accountability, cannabis reform, and disaster relief. In addition to engaging the public in these issues, there is a cathartic element for CFAC employees who now advocate against some of the very oppression they have experienced. Suhaila, a two-year staff member and communications representative, remarked on her own

(Courtesy Canvass for a Cause)

connection with a 2012 campaign supporting SB 1172, a bill to ban “conversion therapy” or “pray the gay away” camps, which was subsequently signed into law by Gov. Jerry Brown on Sept. 29, 2012. “That was an amazing experience for me, as I had dealt with this personally,” she said. “Now I had the opportunity to be on the other side, fighting for youth to be able to make their own choices.” To explain the wide scope of CFAC’s choices of causes, field director Holly Hellerstedt clarified it for me. “CFAC considers issues through a lens of intersectionality,” she said. “We will never win full equality for queer people without tackling our other oppressions.” So, do you want to jump-start your own activist spirit? On June 14 at their headquarters at 2139 First Ave., from 2 to 10 p.m., CFAC will hold their second annual “Guerrilla Pride” event. A response to increasingly commercialized and cost-prohibitive Pride festivals in major cities around the country, Guerrilla Pride is a day that, while celebrating the strides that activists have made, reminds us that marginalized communities within the LGBTQ rainbow are not automatically embraced by those who might tolerate a more “homogenized” queer person, and that full equality is still elusive. On that note, I wanted to take a moment to let readers know that I will be taking a leave of absence from “Profiles in Advocacy” to pursue some educational goals. Having a platform to write about the people and programs that create change was always a dream of mine, so I want to thank the folks at Gay San Diego for taking a chance on me 2 and a half years ago! I’m thrilled that my last column (at least for a while) features Canvass for a Cause, a program founded in San Diego that is bolstering the next generation of activist leaders. On June 14, I’ll be stepping out from behind my desk to attend and I hope to see YOU at Guerrilla Pride! For more information about CFAC, check out canvassforacause. org/ or give a call at 619-630-7750. Editor’s Note: Anyone who would like to step into Ian’s shoes and take over this column for a while, please email me at —Ian Morton has worked in the HIV field since 1994 when he began volunteering with AIDS Response Knoxville. He currently serves as outreach liaison for the AIDS Research Institute at UCSD. To nominate a person or organization to be featured in Profiles in Advocacy, please submit name, affiliation and contact information to


GAY SAN DIEGO May 30–June 12, 2014 FROM PAGE 1


‘Songs of Protest, Songs of Peace,’ was the theme of the 2014 annual spring concert for the San Diego Women’s Chorus (SDWC), when they shared the stage of Downtown’s Balboa Theatre with the Indigo Girls on May 18 in front of a sold-out crowd. The 27-year-old chorus partnered with the San Diego Human Dignity Foundation to help raise money for its new Lesbian Health Initiative. The partnership gave the two organizations the chutzpah they needed to reach out to the legendary duo, who were more than eager to lend their name and voices to the cause. Above, SDWC sings backup to Indigo Girls (l to r) Amy Ray and Emily Saliers during their chart topping “Closer to Fine,” which was the last song of the evening. (Photo by Varner Photography)

GAY NEWS BRIEFS PRIMARY POLLING PLACE SHIFTS JUNE FOOD BANK On Tuesday, June 3, The San Diego LGBT Community Center will ser ve as a polling place for the primar y election for the City of San Diego. As a result, the monthly food bank will move to Wednesday, June 4. Hosted by the San Diego Food Bank, their Community Cares project works to combat hunger by distributing more than 18 million pounds of food per year to low-income families and individuals. Those needing assistance can visit The Center’s parking lot for emergency food from 9 – 10:30 a.m. on June 4.

SPEAKER ATKINS TO BE HONORED AT THE CENTER In light of her recent election by her peers to become California’s 69th Speaker of the State Assembly, San Diego’s own Speaker Toni Atkins will be honored by the San Diego LGBT Community Center on June 27 for her many accomplishments. Atkins is the first San Diegan, the first out lesbian and the third woman to hold this of fice. The celebration will be held from 6 – 8 p.m. in The Center’s auditorium, located at 3909 Centre St. in Hillcrest, and will include light appetizers, wine and beer. The event is expected to fill up quickly, so attendees are encouraged to RSVP as soon as possible at events.thecentersd. org/SpeakerAtkins.

see Briefs, pg 6

events attheCenter tuesday, June 3

Don’t forget to Vote! Wednesday, June 4

Food Bank 9-10:30 am, the Center The San Diego LGBT Community Center hosts a distribution site once a month for the Community Cares Project of the San Diego Food Bank. On the first Tuesday of every month, visit The Center’s parking lot for emergency food. For more information, visit the San Diego Food Bank website at The Center will serve as a polling place for the Tuesday, June 3 election, so the June food bank will move to Wednesday, June 4.

Wednesday, June 4

Guys, Games & Grub 6:30 pm, the Center Join us for Guys, Games & Grub with host Ben Cartwright! Meet new friends while enjoying snacks, food, and drinks for only a $5 donation to Men’s Programming. On the first Wednesday of every month, nearly 200 men of all ages (21+) gather at The Center for a night of games, pizza, drinks and socializing. Some of San Diego’s most interesting men are here – come join them. For more information, contact aaron heier at or 619.692.2077 x211.

get to hang out with all my family and friends.” Atkins added that she spends four days a week in Sacramento, then flies back home on Thursday nights. “Then I fly back up on Sunday night and start to whole thing all over again,” she said. A former San Diego city councilmember and deputy mayor, Atkins is the first lesbian and the first San Diegan to hold the highest office of California’s lower legislative house. Prior to being unanimously chosen by Assembly democrats to replace California Controller candidate John Pérez as Speaker, Atkins served as the state legislature’s majority leader. Guests enjoyed grilled Panini and ceviche while enjoying Bamboo Lounge’s selection of local craft beers on tap. Atkins mingled with the crowd, speaking one-onone with nearly every attendee. The party then migrated to the outdoor patio where a table of sparkling wine greeted guests. The event culminated in a toast to Atkins, followed by a short speech by her to the attendees. She told the crowd that she has had to get used to the title “Madam Speaker,” and that her wife Jennifer had to do the same.

“I came back home to Jennifer one night, and she asked me if she should address me as madam speaker now,” Atkins said. “I thought about it and told her ‘yes, absolutely, madam speaker it is!’ With that, she held out a bag of trash and told me, ‘Well then Madam Speaker, can I get you to take this out?’”

Toni Atkins speaks with two of her constituents. (Photo by Vince Meehan) Atkins closed by expressing her humility at being voted speaker and thanking the community for its support. “As I said at the Harvey Milk breakfast, I’m lucky because I’ve had some strong shoulders to stand on to get to where I am now,” Atkins said. “I’m the first lesbian to be speaker, the second from our community, and the third women to hold that title. I certainly hope my shoulders will be as strong as the ones who came before me.” t

Expert Advice

To read advice and information from the experts, please go to: JOHN EVANS MORTGAGE SPECIALIST BROADVIEW MORTGAGE

San Diego Branch serves up their first Triple Layer Cake

Wednesday, June 11

MarYah Spring Soiree 5:30-8:30 pm, the headquarters @ Seaport District Join MARYAH (Metro Area Real Estate Professionals for Youth Housing) and The Center for our annual Spring Soiree at the brand new downtown space known as “The Headquarters @Seaport District” located at 789 West Harbor Drive. Tickets are only $30 online or $35 at the door and will benefit The Center’s Youth Housing Project. Sponsorships are also available. Just drop by after work and enjoy delicious food samples provided by restaurants at Headquarters, an open bar, a DJ, photo booth, a 50/50 auction and much more! Learn more at MarYahspring. The San Diego LGBT Community Center 3909 Centre Street • 619-692-2077

Twitter: @LGBTCenter



LGBT Family Planning


Maintaining Your Vehicle


Discusses touchpoints and how people experience you and your brand

To participate in our Expert Advice section call:

619-565-4454 619-961-1964



GAY SAN DIEGO May 30–June 12, 2014 FROM PAGE 5

BRIEFS START UP TO SUCCESS WITH THE GSDBA On June 12, the Greater San Diego Business Association (GSDBA) will start a new incarnation of its professional luncheon series, which will invite mentors, speakers and business leaders to educate GSDBA members in an upscale event benefitting the LGBTQ business population. The first event of the new series, “Start Up To Success,” features Eugene Cornelius, deputy associate administrator for field operations at the U.S. Small Business Association. At the three-course-lunch, Cornelius will give a talk titled, “Many Faces, One Dream.” The GSDBA will also discuss the need for LGBT businesses to exert economic influence at the local and national level. The Luncheon takes place from 11 a.m. – 1:30 p.m. at the W Hotel at 421 West B St., Downtown. Seats are limited, and must be reserved by June 9 at 619-2964543. Individual reservations are $60, and a table of 10 may be sponsored for $600. Visit or more information.

Editorial Letter to Me, Age 14

If I could share some accumulated wisdom with my younger self, it would sound about like this. By Abby Dees Dear Abby, I realize that I’ve owed you a letter for way too long. I know that you feel hopelessly awkward and out of sync with people, but you haven’t been around long enough yet to know how well you’re actually doing. You know how people keep saying, “Be yourself”? And how they don’t seem to give a damn when you do just that? Maybe they’re hypocrites, but try not to take it personally (in time you’ll see that we all have hypocritical moments). The deal is, they’re right. But they don’t understand — or tell you — how difficult a task being yourself actually is. I can assure you, though, the only way to get through what seems like an endless wait to grow up is to believe that you are indeed fabulous. Don’t be a selfcentered jerk, but rather, someone who appreciates her gifts and doesn’t care about anyone else’s vision of perfection. It’s the only way to get where you want to go. Yeah, it’s hard. So what. You have to do it. You will do it. Along those lines, I cannot emphasize enough how much you should ignore the family’s nattering on about your weight. You’ll learn later on just how

bonkers they are and how lovely you are. Instead of pinning all life’s hopes on being 20 pounds lighter, how about giving occasional props to your classically shaped, normal body. Spend that energy getting better at guitar. Or reading. Or picking your toes. Much better use of your energy than starving. You won’t be a rock star, I hate to tell you, but if you’ll also stop believing that you’re too fat to front a band, or make friends, or put yourself out there in front of people, you will never regret taking those risks. Live now. Don’t wait. And please give up trying to tan. You don’t want to have to scan yourself for melanomas forever more. Accept that you have no melanin. Anyway, people will compliment your fair skin when it becomes fashionable in a few years. You will be loved and appreciated in your life for who you are – which is exactly the same person you are now, only with a lot more confidence, as well as gentle acceptance of your flaws. That’s how the “be yourself” thing pays off. You’ll even have to find delicate ways to let people down who fall for you, which sucks, but I want to underscore the fact that you can stop worrying that you’re destined to be alone. Did I mention that you were a lesbian? You knew that already, of course. You’ll go out with boys just to make sure, and because you want to try to be “normal,” and because you’re itching

PUBLISHER David Mannis (619) 961-1951


ACCOUNTING Priscilla Umel-Martinez (619) 961-1962

EDITOR Morgan M. Hurley (619) 961-1960

ACCOUNT EXECUTIVES Kathleen Allen (619) 602-1341

ASSISTANT EDITOR Hutton Marshall (619) 961-1952

Terrie Drago (619) 961-1956

CONTRIBUTORS Charlene Baldridge Michael Crane Michael Kimmel Ian Morton Jeff Praught Frank Sabatini Jr.


Sloan Gomez (619) 961-1954

PRODUCTION MANAGER Rebecah Corbin (619) 961-1961

Yana Shayne (619) 961-1963

PRODUCTION Vincent Meehan (619) 961-1961

SALES INTERNS Edgar DeLeon Carlos Dervis Charlie Baterina

Mike Rosensteel (619) 961-1958

WEB DESIGN Kim Espinoza

to experience everything. That’s fine, I guess – just don’t expect much. The sooner you face your truth, then the sooner you can live your life fully, with a big s$#t-eating grin to boot. I should also give you a heads-up that “normal” is wildly overrated. You will discover this repeatedly. Take all those secrets and things that embarrass you and dump them in the trash. This includes any shame about being gay, your birthmark (everyone has them), or those rock star dreams. As soon as you speak things out loud and claim your quirks proudly, you transform vulnerability into strength. This is the definition of having balls. Understand that adults are more confused about life than they let on. As a result, they’ll inevitably underestimate you. Listen to your gut about whether they are being straight up with you. If so, then pay attention. Ask their opinions, and then remember the ones who really look you in the eyes as they share those opinions with you. Remember the ones who care what you have to say, especially if they take the time to challenge your ideas about things. In about thirty years you’ll want to send them a thank-you letter for treating you with real respect. The future will arrive in due time, and it will be worth all of the struggle to get there. I promise. Love, me.t OPINIONS/LETTERS Gay San Diego encourages letters to the editor and guest editorials. Please email both to Include phone number and address for verification. We reserve the right to edit letters and editorials for brevity and accuracy. Letters should be no longer than 350 words in length unless approved by staff editors. Letters and guest editorials do not necessarily reflect the views of the publisher or staff. SUBMISSIONS/NEWS TIPS Press releases and story ideas are welcome. Send press releases, tips, photos or story ideas to For breaking news and investigative story ideas contact the editor by phone or email. DISTRIBUTION GAY San Diego is distributed free, biweekly, every other Friday. COPYRIGHT 2014. All rights are reserved.

CRAFT BEER COMES TO BALBOA PARK Balboa Park visitors will soon be able to enjoy an ice-cold craft beer in the May S. Marcy Sculpture Garden, located adjacent to the San Diego Museum of Art in Balboa Park. The owners of Blind Lady Ale House in Normal Heights and Tiger! Tiger! in North Park have won a bid to take over the Sculpture Garden Court Cafe, adjacent to the Plaza de Panama this summer, where they will ser ve lunch and take-out picnic boxes as well as local craft beer. Tiger! Tiger! Chef Sharon Wilson will oversee the menu at the eater y, which will feature a weekend brunch as well. Patrons will be able to enjoy fine food and craft beer amid the sculptures of 20th centur y artists including Louise Nevelson, Claire Falkenstein and Henr y Moore. This will be the third local eater y by owners Lee Chase, Jenniffer Chase, Jeff Motch and Clea Hantman. SUMMERTIME WITH THE HILLCREST WIND ENSEMBLE On June 28, The LGBT Center’s Hillcrest Wind Ensemble will present its annual Summer Cabaret Concert in the historic Lafayette Hotel’s Mississippi Room, 2223 El Cajon Blvd., in North Park. The 28-yearold group will showcase a variety of Americana pieces, showtunes, jazz and blues, culminating with a tribute to the late, great Billie Holiday and the sensational trio, The Andrews Sisters. Guest vocalists will join the 45-piece ensemble for a few of the evening’s pieces. The ballroom will be arranged in a cabaret style, and will feature a no-host bar, complimentary hors d’oeuvres, and a raffle drawing. Food and refreshments will be served at 7:30 p.m., 30 minutes prior to the concert’s beginning. Tickets are $20 in advance or $25 at the door, and are available at, from any ensemble member, or at The Windsmith, 3875 Granada Ave. For more information, visit or call 619-692-2077 ext. 814. MARYAH ANNUAL SPRING SOIREE The Metro Area Real Estate Professionals for Youth Housing (MARYAH) will hold its spring fundraiser at The Headquarters Seaport District on June 11. The annual event raises needed money for The Center’s Youth Housing Project, an innovative initiative that works to keep homeless youth, including LGBT and HIV-positive youth, off the streets. The soiree will take place June 11 from 5:30 – 8:30 p.m. and attendees will enjoy food from local restaurants, an open bar, music and an auction. “The Headquarters” is located at 849 W. Harbor Dr., Downtown. Tickets are $30 online or $35 at the door. For more info and tickets visit events.

3737 Fifth Ave. Suite 201 San Diego, CA 92103 (619) 519-7775

Business Improvement Association

GAY SAN DIEGO May 30–June 12, 2014




GAY SAN DIEGO May 30–June 12, 2014

Filming who and where people really are


FILMOUT party will take place at West Coast Tavern, located in the same building as the North Park Theatre, at 2895 University Ave. All other movie tickets are $10., and the VIP All Access pass, which includes everything, is $125. “I am ver y excited about [this year’s festival] and expect it to be the most financially successful yet,” Williams said. “As a board member, I can sleep well at night knowing that we are presenting quality movies that people want to see, and that we continue to build a nice nest egg for the future.” FilmOut kicks off tonight with “Boy Meets Girl,” and ends Sunday with “John Apple Jack.” For the full schedule of films and events, or to buy advance tickets, visit

Director of ‘John Apple Jack’ has local ties Ken Williams | SDGLN

At a recent fundraiser held at Harvey Milk’s American Diner, (l to r) FilmOut’s festival programmer Michael McQuiggan, board members Ken Williams and Danny Bollon, festival director Cavin Knight and board president Rick Goldenstein. Board member Robert Bouchard is not pictured. City Council President Todd Gloria can be seen in the background. (Photo by Big Mike)

John (Chris McNally) is a handsome young playboy whose coming out moment draws big yawns from his family, who own a string of fancy restaurants in Vancouver. But when his sister announces she is engaged to Jack (Kent S. Leung), who happens to be John’s boyhood crush, things begin going sideways for John after he is unexpectedly disinherited. “John Apple Jack” is set in the yummy backdrop of Vancouver’s trendy East-West restaurant scene, which serves as a fitting metaphor for the sexual tension between John and Jack. Director Monika Mitchell, who co-wrote the screenplay with producer Rick Tae, discusses the making of “John Apple Jack” and how post production problems almost derailed the movie. Ken Williams (SDLGN): Your movie has the honor of being the Closing Night movie at the 16th annual FilmOut San Diego LGBT Film Festival. Will you and other cast members be attending? Monika Mitchell (MM): We are so thrilled! The writer/producer Rick Tae, producer Selena Paskalidis, and both our leads, Chris McNally and Kent Leung, will be there to answer questions and enjoy the audience. I am particularly excited to attend because my parents and siblings live in La Jolla, California and will be seeing the film for the first time! SDGLN: Why were you attracted to this movie project, and what challenges did it pose for you as a director? MM: My agent sent me the script and immediately I loved it. I had a meeting with Rick and Selena — it was love at first twohour-interrogation-I-mean-meeting. There is a brightness to this film and I’m an optimist. I want my films to represent that visually and “John Apple Jack” is a “blue sky” comedy and we wanted a blue sky, even in Vancouver. I prefer films that are luxe and have a great depth of color and feel luscious. I really wanted that for this piece — for this audience — because with sex and food and passion, you should be able to taste it. I wanted the audience to have the full sensual experience of the characters. Challenges? Post production. We had technical difficulties, as many low-budget pictures do. Selena and Rick had to do so much begging and had to be so determined. Lesser producers would have quit, filed an insurance claim and gotten on with their lives. But those two just slogged through it — they never stopped. And now they have a fabulous little film to their credit. Selena was relentless. They have really earned it. I hope they’re proud of all the work that they created for our team and the results they produced. It is absolute entertainment, and I could not be happier to be a part of something made from pure joy. I think entertaining people is a noble task, not always given the respect it deserves, as if making a film that’s incredibly fun is low brow. No way — I’m so proud of it and our people who crafted it. SDGLN: Were the interracial relationships original to the story,

which just happen to be set in Vancouver’s East-meets-West dining scene, or did that just come out of casting? MM: Rick wrote the characters and the story as East meets West, and all the little things that trickle down from it are real, and represent a lot of the life he leads. SDGLN: The plot’s recipe for success is its use of the restaurant industry as a backdrop to this romantic comedy. Did you shoot on location at actual restaurants or on a set? MM: Both! One restaurant was closing and hadn’t moved everything out yet. Another restaurant let us come in on their day off. The dining scene in Vancouver really supported the film. SDGLN: What were your secrets to casting this movie? MM: We already knew Chris as one of our favorite characters in “Marco Chow Massage,” a web series we’d done the year before. Even so, he read more than once. He is such a wonderful person. I think we had to get past our own ideas of him being so sweet to believe he could be as arrogant as John needs to be. Our casting director Edward Rea helped us find Kent, a diamond-not-even-alittle-rough. And when the two had a chemistry read, Rick and I knew they were it. SDGLN: What is the buzz about the movie on the gay film festival circuit? Monika: I know it got great press in Montreal, and the bloggers in Vancouver loved it. SDGLN: Not that it isn’t one of the most beautiful cities in the world, but why did you choose Vancouver as the setting of the movie? MM: Vancouver is, as John says, “the gayest place on earth.” It is also completely about East meets West with almost a 50/50 population, and the dining scene is outrageous. People literally travel here to eat. It felt very real. And in our industry, with so many visiting productions, we often are hired to shoot Vancouver for … Seattle ... San Francisco ... New England. It was so refreshing just to shoot Vancouver for Vancouver! SDGLN: What do you want audiences to remember about the film after they leave the theater? MM: That true love is a real thing and will find you if you are committed to growing as a person. SDGLN: Do you consider this an LGBT film or a mainstream movie, and why? MM: Both. It doesn’t get any gayer than our flick. And yet, mainstream audience members just love it. How can you not love a movie about the right people finally getting together? I think, as the movie says, it’s not 50 years ago. Less people are concerned with sexuality and that leaves a lot more space to simply be concerned with love. SDGLN: If you were granted three wishes, what would you do with them? MM: Make sure my children would always be 1) healthy, 2) happy and 3) live in a world of peace. — Ken Williams is Editor in Chief of SDGLN. He can be reached at, @KenSanDiego on Twitter, or by calling toll-free to 888-442-9639, ext. 713.t

GAY SAN DIEGO May 30–June 12, 2014


Washington, D.C. (Capital Pride)

May 29 – June 9 Salt Lake City, Utah May 30 – June 2 Boston May 31 – June 9 Fresno, Calif. June 1 Honolulu, Hawaii June 1 Los Angeles

(West Hollywood)

June 7 – 9

Ensenada, Baja Calif. June 15 Sacramento, Calif. June 15 Flagstaff, Ariz. June 15 – 16 Santa Fe, N.M. June 22 Tijuana, Baja Calif. June 22 New York June 28 – 30 San Francisco June 29 – 30 Seattle June 29 – 30 Los Angeles

(At the Beach – L.A. Black Pride)

July 3 – 7

San Luis Obispo, Calif. July 11 – 14 San Diego July 12 – 14 Santa Barbara, Calif. July 13 Vancouver, B.C. Aug. 4 Reno, Nev. Aug. 17 San Jose, Calif. Aug. 17 – 18 Las Vegas Sept. 6 – 7 Chula Vista, Calif. (South Bay Pride)

Sept. 14

Oceanside, Calif. (Pride @ the beach) Oct. 12 Bakersfield, Calif. Oct. 19 San Bernardino, Calif. (Inland Empire Pride)

Oct. 26 – 27

Palm Springs, Calif. Nov. 2 – 3


GAY SAN DIEGO May 30–June 12, 2014


GAY SAN DIEGO May 30–June 12, 2014

Friday, May 30

FILMOUT SAN DIEGO 2014: Opening night for the 16th annual festival of LGBT-themed films kicks off at 7:30 p.m. with “Boy Meets Girl” at the North Park Theatre, located at 2891 University Ave. There will be a Q&A following the film and an opening night party across the street at Sunset Temple, 3911 Kansas St. Tickets are $25 which include the film and after party. Weekend “all access” passes are $125. For more info, trailers, or tickets visit

Saturday, May 31

FILMOUT SD: Day two of the 16th annual festival of LGBTthemed films. Movies begin at 11 a.m. with “Lilting,” followed by the World Premiere of “Girl Trash.” Films continue all day until last film “Folsom Forever” at 10 p.m., and all screen at the North Park Theatre, located at 2891 University Ave. There will be a Q&A following many of the films. Tickets are $10 for each film or $125 for a weekend “all access” pass. For more info, trailers, or tickets visit

Sunday, June 1

ROCK AND ROLL MARATHON: If you aren’t running in this annual marathon and half-marathon, you’ll feel like you are if you don’t pay attention to the street closures happening from 5 – 10:30 a.m. identified online at FILMOUT SD: Third and final day of the 16th annual festival of LGBT-themed films. Movies start at 11 a.m. with “Boys,” and continue until the closing night film “John Apple Jack” at 7 p.m. All movies screen at the North Park Theatre, located at 2891 University Ave. There will be a Q&A following most of the films and a closing night party immediately following at West Coast Tavern, 2895 University Ave. Tickets are $10 per film or $15 for “John Apple Jack” and after party. For more info, trailers, or tickets visit PAINTING AND VINO: Local professional artists instruct attendees on painting a masterpiece. Today – “Pelicans in Flight” at 98 Bottles in Little Italy, 2400 Kettner Blvd. Event is 1 – 4 p.m. and is 21+ up. Cost is $45, all supplies included, but registration is required. Corkage fee $15 if you bring your own wine. For more info, visit SHOWTUNE SUNDAYS AT LIPS: Babette Schwartz and Divettes bring you the best of Broadway musicals. 7 – 10 p.m. For reservations, visit or call 619-295-7900.

Monday, June 2

SAN DIEGO PADRES: Padres meet up with the Pittsburgh Pirates for a three-day stint, starting tonight at 7:10 p.m. Petco Park, East Village. Tickets at DINE IN MOVIE MONDAYS: The new Gossip Grill has a new address and a new Monday night. You can still get all you can eat spaghetti for just $5 from 6 – 11 p.m., but now you can enjoy it with a great movie inside the restaurant (patio mongers get music) and a popcorn bar starting at 8 p.m. Gossip Grill is now located at 1220 University Ave. in Hillcrest. For more info, visit


Hillcrest’s ‘Egyptian Bazaar & Movie Night’ SATURDAY, MAY 31 A family-friendly night of entertainment will take place in Hillcrest’s Egyptian Quarter, located south of Park Boulevard between Robinson and University avenues. Festivities kick off at 5 p.m. with a street bazaar packed with local vendors. The evening will then culminate with a screening of Disney-Pixar's “Finding Nemo” at 8 p.m. in the parking lot adjacent to Heat Bar & Kitchen, which will be converted to an artificially-turfed pocket park for the evening. The movie will be shown on a giant inflatable screen in an oasis-inspired parklet created for the event, and residents

are encouraged to bring chairs, blankets and pillows to sit on. Officially titled “Egyptian Bazaar & Movie Night” this event is presented by the Hillcrest Business Association and free to all who wish to attend. The bazaar will feature clothing and art for sale, as well as yoga demonstrations and floral workshops. Soft drinks, popcorn and candy will be available from a concession stand in addition to treats from numerous food vendors. For more info, visit

Tuesday, June 3

VOTING DAY: Today is the primary election for San Diego County. Get out and VOTE. LESBIAN MEET-UP: Weekly early morning business networking meeting, offering a chance to share and support each other’s business or passions. All lesbians in community are invited. 7:30 – 8:30 a.m. Caffe Calabria, 3933 30th St. in North Park. SAN DIEGO PADRES: Padres meet up with the Pittsburgh Pirates for night two of a three-day stint, at 7:10 p.m. This is also “First Responder Salute” night and “Taco Tuesday,” with $1 pollo asado tacos sold at six locations throughout the park. Petco Park, East Village. Tickets at SPAGHETTI & SHOWTUNES: When was the last time you had an all-you-can-eat plate of fabulous spaghetti for a mere $6? Now that’s a bargain. Plus showtunes and fun clips for your favorite TV shows. 5 – 10 p.m. Urban MO’s, 308 University Ave. Visit

Wednesday, June 4

SAN DIEGO PADRES: Padres wrap up their time with the Pirates with an afternoon game today at 3:40 p.m. Petco Park, East Village. Tickets at PICTIONARY: Come play with Tiger … and Sister Ida Know on the back patio. Match your skills, win fun prizes and raise money for good causes. 7:30 – 10 p.m. #1 on 5th, 3845 Fifth Ave.

Thursday, June 5

#LEZ AT RICH’S: The women are at Rich’s tonight for DJ Von Kiss, hot go go girls and lots of music. 10 p.m. – 2 a.m. Rich’s is at 1051 University Ave., in Hillcrest. For more info, MALE BOX NIGHT: While the girls are playing at Rich’s the boys are invited across the street to Gossip Grill for this inaugural event,

which will repeat every Thursday going forward. Special menu, drink specials and rotating DJs. 9 p.m. Gossip Grill is now located at 1220 University Ave. For more info, visit

Friday, June 6

PRIDE LOS ANGELES! PAINTING AND VINO: Local professional artists instruct attendees on painting a masterpiece. Tonight – “Good Morning SD” at Hilton Del Mar, 15575 Jimmy Durante Blvd. Event is 6:30 – 9:30 p.m. and is 21+ up. Cost is $45, all supplies included, but registration is required. For more info, visit SAN DIEGO PADRES: Come watch our Padres battle the Washington Nationals at 7:10 p.m., but get there early at 5 p.m. to enjoy the Summer Beerfest. Taste up to 12 breweries for $5., entry is free with admission. Petco Park, 100 Park Blvd., East Village. Tickets at

Saturday, June 7

SAN DIEGO PADRES GIVEAWAY: Come watch our Padres battle the Washington Nationals and get a Padres beach towel. First pitch is at 7:10 p.m. Petco Park, 100 Park Blvd., East Village. Tickets at KICK-UP YOUR HEELS AND DANCE: Country Western Night at Kickers inside Urban MO’s has been letting those cowboys and girls swing around the dance floor every Thursday and Saturday for decades. All skill levels, free lessons. 7 – 8:30 p.m. Urban MO’s, 308 University Ave.

Sunday, June 8

NOT YOUR MOMMA’S CHURCH: Welcome to the award-winning Church, happening ever y Sunday at world famous Babycakes, located at 3766 Fifth Ave. There is definitely some preaching going on here between 3 – 8 p.m. Visit or call 619-296-4173. SO YOU THINK YOU CAN DRAG?: Join Paris, the Lips Divas crew and past performers of “So You Think You Can Drag” and see how well you can strut your stuff. $500 in cash and prizes will go to the winning amateur or professional drag artist. For reservations, visit or call 619-295-7900 x5.

Monday, June 9

MOVIE MONDAY: “Some Like It Hot” starring Marilyn Monroe, Jack Lemmon and Tony Curtis in a wacky gender-bending comedy that was filmed at the Hotel del Coronado. 7 p.m. Free with purchase of food/drinks. Expatriate Room, Croce’s Park West, 2760 Fifth Ave., Bankers Hill. Call 619-233-4355 or visit YOGA FOR EVERYONE: Wanting to tr y yoga but afraid to start? Check out this weekly free basic yoga class at The Center, taught by Tim Schultheis. Options available for the more advanced. 10:30 – 11:30 a.m. The LGBT Center, 3909 Centre St., Hillcrest. Contact LaRue Fields,

Tuesday, June 10

LESBIAN MEET-UP: New weekly early morning business networking meeting, offering a chance to share and support each other’s business or passions. All lesbians in community are invited. 7:30 – 8:30 a.m. Caffe Calabria, 3933 30th St., North Park. PAINTING AND VINO: Local professional ar tists instruct attendees on painting a masterpiece. Tonight – “Bicycle” at Jake’s on 6th, 3755 Sixth Ave., Hillcrest. Event is 6 – 9 p.m. and is 21+ up. Cost is $45, all supplies included, but registration is required. $10 corkage if you bring your own wine. For more info, visit

Wednesday, June 11

PICTIONARY: Come play with Tiger … and Sister Ida Know on the back patio. Match your skills, win fun prizes and raise money for good causes. 7:30 – 10 p.m. #1 on 5th, 3845 Fifth Ave.

Thursday, June 12

GSDBA LUNCHEON: The GSDBA hosts Eugene Cornelius of the U.S. Small Business Administration at a professional 3-course luncheon kicking off their new series “Start Up To Success” at W Hotel, 421 West B St., Downtown from 11 a.m. – 1:30 p.m. Cost is $60 for individuals or $600 for a 10-person table. More information at For inclusion in the calendar, email


GIOVANNI’S ROOM Across 1 Peters out 5 Word used by grabbers 9 Plotting group 14 Wife of Buck’s Wang 15 Carbon compound 16 You must remember this 17 Start of James Baldwin’s definition of home in _Giovanni’s Room_ 19 Card of the future 20 Spin like a top 21 Hymn to a Greek god 23 Island necklace 24 Place for a stud 26 Sugar pill, at times 28 Heather’s mommy count 29 More of the definition 31 Animal bite worry 33 Cut out 34 Watched intently

35 Seaman 36 Verne hero Phileas 40 Lambda ___ Defense and Education Fund 43 Decide on 45 More of the definition 49 “Phooey!” to the Bard 50 Most intimate 51 Renting out 53 Four, often, to Sheehan 54 German white wine 56 “If I Were a ___ Man” 57 One-named pop singer 59 End of the definition 62 Provide new equipment for 63 “Blowjob” filmer Warhol 64 Make more potent 65 No-tell motel meeting 66 Give the slip to 67 Sommer of film

Solution on page 16 Down 1 Awfully long time 2 Thrill with oral sex? 3 Postcoital garment 4 One who comes slowly 5 Martin of the Daughters of Bilitis 6 All worked up 7 Frida’s mouth 8 More ready for bed 9 Breaks for pussies and toms? 10 Home of T. Bankhead 11 Beermaker’s grain 12 Microscopic critter 13 It’s for skin 18 Anal insert from a UFO? 22 Soprano Gluck 24 To be in Rimbaud’s arms 25 It picks people up who eventually get off 27 Chin dimple

30 Milano opera house, with “la” 32 One who screws around 35 Kind of maneuver 37 Dave Pallone, to a baseball game 38 Become a debtor 39 Eldest Brady boy 41 Rupert of _Stage Beauty_ 42 “Hey, I never thought of that!” 43 JosÈ’s huzzah 44 Kind of dish 45 To some extent 46 Woolf’s _The Common Reader_ 47 Thin out 48 Becomes part of the crowd, with “in” 52 Owner’s document 55 Denial for Nanette 58 Fleur-de-___ 60 Head job? 61 Born, to Bonheur



GAY SAN DIEGO May 30–June 12, 2014

FINNISH PIES and ‘tangerine dreams’


Gelato Vero Caffe 3753 India St. (Mission Hills) 619-295-9269 Prices: $2.50 to $9.50

(clockwise from left) “Tangerine dream” waffle; a Finnish-inspired Karelian pie; effervescent elixirs (Photos by Frank Sabatini Jr.)


he brunch menu at Gelato Vero Caffe takes you to such faraway places that you’ll hardly notice its total absence of meat, seafood and soy, the latter of which Chef Kirstin Green considers “toxic.” Yet in terms of vegetarian cooking, her dishes are loaded with color, flavor and novelty. “I don’t shy away from fats,” said Green, referring to her use of butter as well as coconut, olive and grape seed oils in recipes she picked up in her global travels, which included a five-year mission in West Africa with the Peace Corps. “My M.O is to get into people’s kitchens when I travel abroad,” she added.

While in Finland, for example, she mastered the recipe for karelian pies, a rare find in the U.S. and a top-selling nosh at her brunch, which will be held from 8:30 a.m. to 2 p.m. starting June 3. Tuesday through Sunday rather than on weekends only. The pies involve crimped r ye pastr y crust housing creamy rice porridge at the bottom and a mash of hard-boiled eggs and butter on top. Think egg salad without the wetness of mayo and spread over dark, brittle bread. Though understated in flavor, they made for a richly satisfying starter at only $3 each. A few effervescent “elixirs”

containing sparkling water also kicked off our morning repast, along with robust French-pressed coffee and moist Italian almond cake made with rice and chickpea flours. The cake became double delicious when swiped through a plop of house-made lemon curd we requested on the side. Of the elixirs, the “ginger” was radiant orange, thanks to turmeric root in the recipe. Another that was made with pineapple and fresh mint was equally arousing. From the menu’s savory section, chi bom is an African-style egg sandwich on whole wheat artisan bread capturing the additions of tomatoes, shallots, cheddar and

peppery house-made harissa. We upgraded it with avocado, which actually made it too hearty to finish. Doggie bag, please. We also touched down in Greece with phyllo triangles stuffed with kasseri cheese, potatoes and leeks. They were a tad dry, but compensated by the accompanying tomatocucumber-feta salad spiked with oregano, which was cool and juicy. Perhaps the most pedestrian dish on our table was a croissant sandwich enveloping eggs, tomatoes and basil pesto and goat cheese. (It was supposed to come with mozzarella, but supplies had run out.) The pesto was mediumstrength, lacking a little in garlic, but my companions gave it a fast thumbs-up nonetheless. When the “waffle of the week”

is named “tangerine dream,” few can resist. We chose the buckwheatcornmeal recipe over the other two choices: classic and vegan wholewheat sourdough. As we were assured, the waffle was super fluffy, thus efficiently sucking in the juice from tangerine segments on top as well as tangerine reduction and tangerine-infused whipped cream. With the sweet and citrus flavors so poetically balanced, the thought of applying butter or maple syrup to the waffle was out of the question. Green changes the menu often; expanding on her repertoire of international recipes and other dishes she creates along the way — all of them vegetarian, some of them vegan, but none containing tofu. Her disdain for soy, she said, aligns to the negative claims made in the book, “The Whole Soy Story: The Dark Side of America’s Favorite Health Food.” Brunch is ser ved in Gelato’s recently remodeled second level, a casual space featuring a full kitchen, big windows with street views and artsy metal tables. The quality of Green’s dishes far exceeds their prices. Even better, chances are good that you won’t have to wait in a cattle line to eat.t


BY FRANK SABATINI JR. Stone Brewing Company has tapped Chef Amanda Baumgarten of Waypoint Public for a home brew recipe that will become available at Stone’s World Bistro & Gardens in Point Loma as well as at Waypoint. Baumgarten’s beer is a complex Waypoint Public Team saison brewed with apricots, juniper berries, chile de arbol and vanilla pods. (Courtesy H2 Public Relations It is the first chef collaboration that Stone has ever done. As part of the rollout, Baumgarten will enter the kitchen of World Bistro’s chef, Thomas Connolly, to create a four-course beer-pairing dinner featuring the saison. The event will be held from 7 – 10 p.m., June 19. Tickets are $75 plus tax. The suds will then make their official debut on June 21 at the bistro and Waypoint. Respective addresses: 2816 Historic Decatur Road, Liberty Station, 619-269-2100; and 3794 30th St., 619-255-8778. A soft opening of The Patio on Goldfinch in Mission Hills is scheduled for June 11. The restaurant is an offshoot to The Patio in Pacific Beach, although the Mission Hills venture has incorporated into its design a temperature and humiditycontrolled cheese cave and 20-foothigh living green walls. A menu spotlighting sustainable seafood and regionally sourced meats and produce will pair up with wines and craft beers on tap, plus an array of agave spirits and house-made soft drinks. (Coke and Pepsi products will not be available.) 4020 Goldfinch St., 619-501-5090.

Old Town will see the arrival of its first Indian restaurant in the space that formerly housed Bentowich, an Asian-fusion eatery that operated for a little more than a year. Restaurateur Mayur Vadhwana says Indian Grill will open sometime in July and feature specialty dishes from both the north and south regions of his native country. With a tandoori oven already in place and a chef from New York City lined up, Vadhwana is currently modernizing the building’s interior and its spacious outdoor patio. 2367 San Diego Ave.

Stay tuned for a grand opening sometime in June of the muchanticipated Modern Times Flavordome, which already began giving beer aficionados sneak peeks of its zanily designed tasting room. The 1,600-square-foot space in The North Parker marks the second beercentric venture by North Park resident Jacob McKean, who also runs Modern Times Beer in Point Loma. Design elements include a mishmash of lampshades on the ceiling; old VHS cases fronting the bar; and floppy disks forming a wall portrait of Yoda. In the absence of food, the beer selection will soon come to include 16 taps. The company also sells its suds in to-go cans. 3000 Upas St., Suite 102.

Visit us online at:

JUST BECAUSE YOU’RE WORKING OUT, DOESN’T MEAN IT’S WORKING. If you put in the work, you should get the results. Fitness Together is proven personal training for individuals that holds you accountable and keeps you motivated. Goal-oriented, highly customized.


20% off any package

MIssion Hills 4019 Goldfinch Street San Diego, CA 92103

619.794.0014 •

Coming to North Park from Coronado is a second location of Saiko Sushi, which co-owner and Chef Anthony Pascale says will be named something different. “There will also be a few changes to the menu such as unique rolls specific to our new location,” he adds. But his premium sake list and adherence to using local fish whenever possible will remain in place. Since signing the lease for the space, which is 500 square feet larger compared to the eatery across the bridge, Pascale and business partner Evan Bennett Premium sake have just begun hammering out design decoming to North Park tails. Their goal is to open in November. (Courtesy Saiko Sushi) 2884 University Ave., 619-435-0868. The menu at Little Italy’s new Cook Book Tavola Calda appears luscious and easy. For a flat price of $16.95, diners choose one item from either the “primi” or “secondi” menu along with two sides. Those initial choices include everything from lasagna Bolognese and paprika chicken stew to daily roast and baked fish. Among the comforting side dishes are “grandma style” mashed potatoes and green peas with bacon and onions. 2034 Kettner Blvd., 619-450-6064.

GAY SAN DIEGO May 30–June 12, 2014


San Diego’s largest wine and craft beer bar is currently making way for Allegro Bistro, which will soak up a remaining chunk of space at 57 Degrees in Middletown. “We’ve been looking for the right restaurant partner for five years and this completes the final piece of the puzzle,” said 57 Degrees owner Russ Kindom, who moved his wine business several years ago from the East Village into the current address that formerly housed Pier 1 Imports. Allegro’s all-day menus will reflect a fusion of Mediterranean and California cuisine spearheaded by Chef Nathan Rayle, who previously worked for local catering companies as well as at The Brigantine and The Venetian. Downtown restaurateurs Paul Garduno and Carlos Solloa are behind the project and construction is underway for an interior design accented with subway tiles and dark wood. Their goal is to soft-open in August. 1735 Hancock St., 619-234-5757.t


GAY SAN DIEGO May 30–June 12, 2014


‘Next Goal Wins’

Digital Gym screens tale of soccer team with FIFA's first transgender player Hutton Marshall | GSD Assistant Editor From May 31 – June 4, The Media Art Center San Diego’s Digital Gym in North Park will screen the newly released documentary “Next Goal Wins,” which details the emotional highs and record-breaking lows of the infamously unsuccessful American Samoa national men’s soccer team. It also delves into the unique challenges faced by several of its players, including Jaiyah Saelua, the first transgender person to ever compete in a FIFA World Cup qualifying match. A decade before Saelua’s achievement, American Samoa set another record no team wants to claim. In a 2001 World Cup qualifying match, they lost to Australia 31 – 0. That’s the worst defeat any team has ever suffered in the

Transgender American Samoa soccer player Jaiyah Saelua is featured in "Next Goal Wins." (Courtesy Digital Gym) league’s 110-year history. What’s worse, they had set that same record just two days prior, losing to Tonga 22 – 0. By 2011, the team’s international reputation still stank. They were on a 17-year-losing streak, and were FIFA’s lowest ranked team at #186. That’s where the documentary begins: at the low point — or so we hope. But despite being an admittedly dismal soccer team, the players are humorous and light hearted. Residing in a small, resource-poor cluster of

unincorporated U.S. islands, the humble group seems content with their place in the international soccer community. However, the reality of being one of the world’s worst national teams is swiftly made apparent. The documentary follows as the team travels around their neighboring Pacific Islands for the 2011 South Pacific Games, suffering scoreless defeat after scoreless defeat. The team’s coach — relaxed and hopeful at the film’s get-go — devolves quickly into petty anger with each compounding loss. The team seems hopeless, insignificant and novice-like — desperate, even — when it finally makes a plea to the U.S. Soccer Federation for aid. The federation puts out a call for a new head coach. One person applies: U.S.-based Dutch coach and professional angry person Thomas Rongen. While the guidance he gives the team is anything but gentle, he and the Pacific Islanders go through a myriad of challenges and obstacles — on the field and off — that eventually earn them international recognition. The film explores the culturally rich people of American Samoa, using the struggling sports team to demonstrate the best of an admirable,

inviting culture, while also shedding light on bleak realities for the island’s youth, such as the debilitating the effects of a 2009 tsunami, or the choice young men often make between joining the U.S. military or never escaping the poor, tuna-exporting U.S. territory. While several team members, Coach Rongen included, go through transformative emotional journeys during the course of the nearly two-hour documentary, the upbeat and proudly feminine Saelua proves the most enduring, and likely the most historically significant. Saelua, a transgender female, is known in the Samoan islands as a fa’afafine, meaning a third gender, blending both male and female traits. Unlike in much of the Western world, where transgender people are often misunderstood or ostracized, fa’afafines have a esteemed social position for possessing the strengths of both men and women. While Saelua faces her own challenges on the soccer field, the way her teammates accept, support and revere her exemplifies American Samoa’s warm, accepting culture. There is much more to take from this documentary than a David-and-Goliath sports saga.t


MEMORIALDAY Force Master Sgt. Frank Salerno, who shared his story of being shipped off to Vietnam when he was 18 years old. Salerno recalled the loss of close friends and comrades, as well as the hostile welcome he encountered upon returning to the U.S. “When you see a Vietnam veteran walking around homeless, remember that they were young and confused when they came back, because certainly when we came back, we were not welcomed,” Salerno said. “Talk about going into another double closet. I did. We were not welcomed at all.”

is to remember them and to care for our war-torn veterans, and to the numerous people who have lost friends to PTSD,” Sala said. “We owe them, because although there are many people returning from war right now, 22 veterans a day commit suicide. In 2013, that was a higher number than the casualties in Afghanistan.” Sala said he hopes the Memorial Day ceremony will become an annual event like The Center’s LGBT Veteran’s Wall of Honor ceremony, which takes place in November near Veterans Day. He said he will also be involved with a Sept. 6 workshop presented by The Center and the County’s Veterans Service Office, which will assist veterans in applying for their benefits.

Sean Sala (foreground) listens as Navy MA2 Jordan Reckmann (center) sings “The Star Spangled Banner” at a Memorial Day ceremony hosted by the San Diego LGBT Community Center. (Photo by Michael Crane) County Veterans Service Officer Tom Splitgerber recalled his time as a dental officer in the Navy and of the patients he lost in the Vietnam War. He also spoke on the importance of raising awareness about getting veterans the help they need. According to Sala, only 20 percent of veterans living in San Diego apply for their benefits. “For the prisoners of war, those forgotten and those we will never know, our duty today

“I truly believe there’s no better way to honor those who have fallen than to make sure our veterans are taken care of,” said Sala. “Those who have passed on can’t speak, but they are speaking. They are speaking today.” To learn more about the LGBT Center’s programs for veterans, visit The San Diego County Veterans Service Office can be reached at 858-694-3222.t

Are you following us? Search for Gay San Diego

CLASSIFIEDS ADOPTION PREGNANT? CONSIDERING ADOPTION? Talk with caring adoption expert. Choose from families Nationwide. LIVING EXPENSES PAID. Call 24/7 AbbyÕs One True Gift Adoptions 866-413-6296 Void In Illinois/ New Mexico/Indiana

GAY SAN DIEGO May 30–June 12, 2014 To You! Any Make/Model. Call For Instant Offer: 1-800-864-5960 Meet singles now! No paid operators, just people like you. Browse greetings, exchange messages, connect live. FREE trial. Call 1-877-737-9447

All other states are subject to individual state laws that limit or regulate the use of advertising in adoptive placement.

SUPPORT our service members, veterans and their families in their time of need. For more information visit the Fisher House website at

PREGNANT? CONSIDERING ADOPTION? Talk with caring adoption expert. Choose from families Nationwide. LIVING EXPENSES PAID. Call 24/7 AbbyÕs One True Gift Adoptions 866-413-6296 Void In Illinois/ New Mexico/Indiana

TOP CASH PAID FOR OLD GUITARS! 1920's thru 1980's. Gibson, Martin, Fender, Gretsch, Epiphone, Guild, Mosrite, Rickenbacker, Prairie State, D'Angelico, Stromberg, and Gibson Mandolins/Banjos. 1-800-401-0440


KILL BED BUGS! Buy Harris Bed Bug Killer Complete Treatment Program or Kit. Available: Hardware Stores. Buy Online:

RETIREMENT APARTMENTS, ALL INCLUSIVE. Meals, transportation, activities daily. Short Leases. Monthly specials! Call (877) 210-4130

AUTO DONATIONS DONATE A CAR - HELP CHILDREN FIGHTING DIABETES. Fast, Free Towing. Call 7 days/week. Non-runners OK. Tax Deductible. Call Juvenile Diabetes Research Foundation 1-800-578-0408

AUTOS WANTED TOP CASH FOR CARS, Any Car/Truck, Running or Not. Call for INSTANT offer: 1-800-454-6951 WE BUY CARS! Running or Not. Any Make, Model or Year. Call today for an INSTANT OFFER. Free Towing/Pickup. Top Dollar. We're Local! 1-800-844-3595 CARS/TRUCKS WANTED! Top $$$$$ PAID! Running or Not, All Years, Makes, Models. Free Towing! WeÕre Local! 7 Days/ Week. Call Toll Free: 1-888-416-2330 GET CASH TODAY for any car/truck. I will buy your car today. Any Condition. Call 1-800-864-5796 or

BUSINESS OPPORTUNITY MAKE $1,000 up to $9,000 Per Sale! Remotely Work From Home. Anyone Can Do This. Apply Now: 1-800-577-0318 www.

HEALTH & FITNESS VIAGRA 100MG and CIALIS 20mg! 50 Pills $99.00 FREE Shipping! 100% guaranteed. CALL NOW! 1-866-312-6061 Canada Drug Center is your choice for safe and affordable medications. Our licensed Canadian mail order pharmacy will provide you with savings of up to 75 percent on all your medication needs. Call today 1-800356-4170 for $10.00 off your first prescription and free shipping VIAGRA 100MG and CIALIS 20mg! 40 Pills + 10 FREE. SPECIAL $99.00 100% guaranteed. FREE Shipping! 24/7 CALL NOW! 1-888-223-8818 VIAGRA 100MG and CIALIS 20mg! 40 Pills + 4 FREE for only $99. #1 Male Enhancement, Discreet Shipping. Save $500! Buy The Blue Pill! 1-888-797-9029 VIAGRA 100mg or CIALIS 20mg 40 tabs + 10 FREE! All for $99 including Shipping! Discreet, Fast Shipping. 1-888-836-0780 or PremiumMeds.NET

HELP WANTED AIRLINE CAREERS begin here – Get FAA approved Aviation Technician training. Housing and Financial aid for qualified students. Job placement assistance. Apply now with AIM Dallas 877205-0503 or Houston 888-216-1687 $1000 WEEKLY PAID IN ADVANCE!!! MAILING BROCHURES or TYPING ADS for our company. FREE Supplies! PT/FT. No Experience Needed! HELP WANTED Earn Extra income Assembling CD cases From Home. Call our Live Operators Now! No experience Necessary 1-800-405-7619 Ext 2605 AIRLINES ARE HIRING Ð Train for hands on Aviation Career. FAA approved program. Financial aid for qualified students. Housing & Job placement assistance. CALL Aviation Institute of Maintenance 888-686-1704 CASH PAID- UP TO $25/BOX for unexpired, sealed DIABETIC TEST STRIPS! 1 DAY PAYMENT & PREPAID shipping. BEST PRICES! Call 1-888-776-7771. VIAGRA 100MG and CIALIS 20mg! 40 Pills + 4 FREE for only $99. #1 Male Enhancement, Discreet Shipping. Save $500! Buy The Blue Pill! 1-800-213-6202 CASH FOR CARS: All Cars/Trucks Wanted. Running or Not! Top Dollar Paid. We Come


GROOMER 5+yrs exp FT & BATHER/BRUSHER FT. Both for reputable busy shop coastal SD. or fax 619-342-8665 MISCELLANEOUS CASH FOR CARS, Any Make or Model! Free Towing. Sell it TODAY. Instant offer: 1-800-864-5784 DISH TV Retailer. Starting at $19.99/ month (for 12 mos.) & High Speed Internet starting at $14.95/month (where available.) SAVE! Ask About SAME DAY Installation! CALL Now! 1-800-615-4064 CANADA DRUG CENTER. Safe and affordable medications. Save up to 90% on your medication needs. Call 1-800-734-5139 ($25.00 off your first prescription and free shipping.) AIRLINE JOBS Start Here - Get trained as FAA certified Aviation Technician. Financial aid for qualified students. Housing and Job placement assistance. Call AIM 844-210-3935 Make a Connection. Real People, Flirty Chat. Meet singles right now! Call LiveLinks. Try it FREE. Call NOW: 1-888-9099905 18+. DISH TV Retailer. Starting at $19.99/ month (for 12 mos.) & High Speed Internet starting at $14.95/month (where available.) SAVE! Ask About SAME DAY Installation! CALL Now! 1-800-341-7308 MAKE A CONNECTION Real People, Flirty Chat. Meet singles right now! Call LiveLinks. Try it FREE. Call NOW: 1-877-909-2569 DirecTV Over 140 channels only $29.99 a month. Triple savings! $636.00 in Savings, Free upgrade to Genie & 2013 NFL Sunday ticket free for New Customers. Start saving today! 1-800-416-7254

REAL ESTATE/RENTALS Retired senior desires to relocate to S.D. Seeking affordable 1 or 2 BD guesthouse to rent in Uptown, with carport or garage. Contact: John 760-408-9330

REAL ESTATE FOR SALE $0 Down, Only $119/mo. NO CREDIT CHECKS! Near El Paso, TX. Beautiful Views! Money Back Guarantee 1-866-8825263 Ext.81 www.SunsetRanches.NET

SATELLITE TV/MISC. DIRECTV, Internet, & Phone From $69.99/ mo + Free 3 Months: HBO¨ Starz¨ SHOWTIME¨ CINEMAX¨+ FREE GENIE 4 Room Upgrade + NFL SUNDAY TICKET! Limited offer. Call Now 888-248-5961

SCHOOLS HIGH SCHOOL DIPLOMA FROM HOME. 6-8 weeks. ACCREDITED. Get a Diploma. Get a Job! 1-800-264-8330 Benjamin Franklin HS.

TELEVISION Order Dish Network Satellite TV and Internet Starting at $19.99! Free Installation, Hopper DVR and 5 Free Premium Movie Channels! Call 800-597-2464 Order Dish Network Satellite TV and Internet Starting at $19.99! Free Installation, Hopper DVR and 5 Free Premium Movie Channels! Call 800-597-2464 DIRECTV, Internet, & Phone From $69.99/ mo + Free 3 Months: HBO¨ Starz¨ SHOWTIME¨ CINEMAX¨+ FREE GENIE 4 Room Upgrade + NFL SUNDAY TICKET! Limited offer. Call Now 888-248-5961


WANTED TO BUY CASH PAID- up to $25/Box for unexpired, sealed DIABETIC TEST STRIPS. 1-DAYPAYMENT.1-800-371-1136 Wants to purchase minerals and other oil and gas interests. Send details to P.O. Box 13557 Denver, Co. 80201 WANTED JAPANESE MOTORCYCLES 1967-1982 ONLY KAWASAKI Z1-900, KZ900, KZ1000, Z1R, KZ1000MKII, W1-650, H1-500, H2-750, S1-250, S2-350, S3-400 Suzuki, GS400, GT380, Honda CB750 (19691976) CASH. 1-800-772-1142, 1-310-721-0726 Cash for unexpired DIABETIC TEST STRIPS! Free Shipping, Best Prices & 24 hr payment! Call 1-855-440-4001 English & Spanish


Wedding Officiant Do you have marriage plans?? My minister services will create a fantastic and unforgettable wedding day. All details explained. Your service includes everything. $259. Rev. Robert Text/call 619-399-3173

ADVERTISE to 10 Million Homes across the USA! Place your ad in over 140 community newspapers, with circulation totaling over 10 million homes. Contact Independent Free Papers of America IFPA at or visit our website for more information. Reader Advisory: The National Trade Association we belong to has purchased the above classifieds. Determining the value of their service or product is advised by this publication. In order to avoid misunderstandings, some advertisers do not offer employment but rather supply the readers with manuals, directories and other materials designed to help their clients establish mail order selling and other businesses at home. Under NO circumstance should you send any money in advance or give the client your checking, license ID, or credit card numbers. Also beware of ads that claim to guarantee loans regardless of credit and note that if a credit repair company does business only over the phone it is illegal to request any money before delivering its service. All funds are based in US dollars. Toll free numbers may or may not reach Canada.




GAY SAN DIEGO May 30–June 12, 2014 ATTORNEYS





Dirty30 workouts burn serious body fat.

(619) 322 1625




Renee Differ Troy Curnett

Brian White

REALTOR ® - Broker

My business depends on referrals. Thanks for thinking of me.


Experienced & Professional

619-516-0400 TILE



H R Tactics Strategic Planning, Tactical Training Joe Whitaker operates H.R. Tactics, a full-service human resource consulting firm in Mission Hills, providing a broad range of human resource support, products and solutions for small to midsized companies with fees designed to put affordable human resources in reach. He can be contacted at 804-4551 or e-mail at


(619) 857-8769

302 Washington St., Suite 112 DRE # 01343230

San Diego, CA 92103


Visit us online at:



from pg. 11

Getting BLUNT with Whoopi

Entertainer shrugs off gay rumors, talks being ‘claimed’ by the LGBT community Chris Azzopardi | Q Syndicate


ever one to give a flying youknow-what, Whoopi Goldberg has made a career out of not caring. Ask her about her sexuality – to some, a lingering enigma since the ’70s, when Goldberg made lots of lesbians laugh at San Francisco comedy clubs — and she doesn’t get all the fuss. Ask her what she thinks about pot — actually, don’t even bother. She just wrote a column about it. Whoopi loves a blunt. It makes a lot of sense, then, that one of Goldberg’s earliest comedy heroes is veteran standup Jackie “Moms” Mabley, the 20th-century trailblazer — and later, a civil rights activist — known for a “so-what” attitude, her edgy humor and dressing like your grandma. The first female comedian to be featured at the Apollo, Mabley was also known to be a lesbian, a topic discussed in “Whoopi Goldberg Presents Moms Mabley,” a Goldberg-funded documentary featuring a roster of comedy big shots: Joan Rivers, Eddie Murphy, Bill Cosby and Kathy Griffin. In this recent interview with Whoopi, the comedian-actress talked about how being a lesbian had no effect on Moms becoming “the funniest woman in the world,” the longstanding rumors of Goldberg’s own sexuality and her commitment to the fight for gay rights. Chris Azzopardi (CA): How do you think a black lesbian like Moms managed to have such a following in the ’20s and ’30s, a time when homosexuality would’ve likely been a career breaker? Whoopi Goldberg (WG): Nobody was thinking about it. If you weren’t funny, you didn’t work. Your sexuality, who you were — whether you were a man or a woman – didn’t matter. Funny trumps everything. (CA): You were an early ally of the LGBT community at a time when identifying as such was a much bigger risk. At that point in time, people would automatically assume an ally was someone who just did not want to come out of the closet. (WG): [Laughs] That’s what people thought! It was ridiculous. I was like, “Uh, no.” People just didn’t understand. You see bad situations or stupid situations, like folks having an issue with who you cared about, who you wanna be with, all that kind of stuff that has nothing to do with the realities of our world. The realities of the world I grew up in was: It was nobody’s business. If you’re not doing your job, then I’m gonna bitch. But I’m not gonna bitch at anybody ’cause they’re gay,

or because they weigh a lot more than me. At the time, it just seemed so stupid to me that this was what people’s issues were. (CA): As an ally and as someone with a long history in the movement, what’s your take on the role you played then and the evolving nature of being identified as an ally? (WG): I don’t know yet. There was nothing anybody could do to me then, because I felt that these were my friends and my people, and no one had a right to judge them. I don’t want people messing with me, so I defend everybody’s right to be themselves. That has always been my battlecry. I think now, people get it. They understand it because they’re looking at themselves saying, “This is how I am.” I know if somebody’s messing with me, I don’t wanna hear it. I have to stand up. Get off my stage. (CA): People have long speculated about your sexuality, haven’t they? (WG): [Laughs] Yeah! And it’s like, there are a lot worse things people could have accused me of — things that would really be upsetting! That’s not one of them. It never has been. I grew up in the theater. I grew up in a neighborhood where there was always gay folks. Always! So I never understood people’s freak out about it. Everybody is so damn paranoid about everything. They’re so concerned that [people] are gonna be like, “Oh, somebody’s gonna think I’m gay.” So what! What happens if they do? (CA): Considering how long people have wondered how you swing, watching “Moms Mabley” made me think: Should a documentary be made about your life one day, how do you want people to characterize your sexual identity? (WG): I don’t care. Don’t care! Because I’ll probably be gone by then! [Laughs] With all the amazing people who have come out, if you’re still talking about my sexuality — I’m the one you choose — you’re not doing your job. (CA): But don’t you think celebrities also play a role in the gay rights movement just by being themselves? (WG): They do now. But there was a time when people were like, “Oh, no, I’m not gonna say anything. Somebody’s gonna think I’m [gay].” It’s like, you’d be lucky if somebody thought you were gay! That’s my response to everybody. If that’s what you’re freaking out about, then you’re concerned about the wrong thing. (CA): In 2008, you held up a


Whoopi (Courtesy HBO Entertainment)

sign that said “For My Friends — Equal Rights” during a Prop 8 protest in New York. In 2010, you joined Cyndi Lauper in the launch of her Give a Damn Campaign to raise awareness of LGBT discrimination. But your gay advocacy dates back even further than that: You pushed an AIDS-stricken man in a wheelchair in the 1987 March on Washington. What motivated you to become an ally? (WG): Well, sure, there’s all of that, but I’ve always had gay people in my life. I mean, I grew up in Chelsea, a neighborhood that has all kinds of folks, because nobody had any money. We were all poor. There were men you’d call “uncle” who never seemed to have girlfriends, and they were your “uncle.” Later on you learned what it meant. These guys didn’t want to be with these girls. They had their love from their brothers. They wanted their men. (CA): And Moms, despite talking about young men in her act, had a thing for the ladies. (WG): Yeah, she worked a great game. (CA): She was all about living life on her own terms. Moms must

GAY SAN DIEGO May 30–June 12, 2014 remind you of yourself in that sense. (WG): It’s crazy — she’s very much like me. Very much! Like her, I’m always trying to get the gig, and it can be a bit difficult because I’m not conventional. There’s many things people can wonder about, but if you don’t know by now, it’s because you don’t wanna know. I say to people, “Well, what do you think I am?” They say, “We think you’re gay.” I say, “If that’s what you wanna think, OK!” I have been gay in films. I’ve done two: “The Color Purple” and I always forget what the other one is. People assume they know because they’ve seen you in a movie or because they’ve seen you do something or they’ve heard you say something, and then they make assumptions. Quite honestly, I was glad to be claimed. (CA): We were happy to claim you. (WG): Yes! You know, no one was trying to claim me, nobody wanted me. Black folks didn’t want me. Nobody wanted me. But I’ve always been claimed by the gay community. Always. (CA): And maybe that’s why people have assumed you’re anything but straight. Through the years you’ve even made some vague remarks regarding your sexuality. For instance, on “The View” in 2009 you told Barbara Walters, when she made a comment about you coming out of the closet, “Please, that door’s been open for years.” Is your sexuality something you prefer to leave ambiguous? (WG): No, I’m pretty clear. You’ve never seen me with a woman. Pretty much been married to men the whooole time! Not the same, but a few of them. [Laughs] Nah, I’m straight, but what does it mean? What does it really mean?


(CA): It means you play a lesbian in “Boys on the Side” and people jump to conclusions. (WG): Yes, that’s the other one! Thank you. I love that movie. I always forget “Boys on the Side” because I did “The Color Purple” and I know people saw that first. (CA): What’s gayer: playing an actual lesbian or a singing nun? (WG): It’s all a challenge because you always have to find out what your sweet spot is in a piece. My sweet spot in “Boys on the Side” was how much I loved Mary-Louise [Parker, who played Robin]. The sweet spot for “Sister Act” was really religion — that everybody can have some relationship to religion and it doesn’t have to be what everybody else thinks that relationship should be. (CA): I love that answer, but I think you misinterpreted my question. (WG): I’m sorry. I’m on a cell phone. I can’t hear shit, honey! (CA): We’ll just go with what you think I said. (WG): I love you already. (CA): Whatever happened to your nun’s habit from “Sister Act”? (WG): I think I sent it to France. Everybody needs something for Halloween. (CA): Thanks for chatting, Whoopi, and also for being an ally. Your advocacy in the gay community has meant a lot to a lot of people. (WG): Well, we’re all one people, baby. People keep trying to divide us up into “you’re gay, you’re black, you’re white,” but we’re all one people. What fucks with one fucks with us all. If we don’t recognize that, we’re in deep trouble. Chris Azzopardi is the editor of Q Syndicate, the international LGBT wire service. Reach him via his website at


GAY SAN DIEGO May 30–June 12, 2014



(l to r) Laurence Brown has a moment with Sandra Ruiz (Photo by Ken Jacques)



(l to r) Esteban Andres Cruz and Steven Lone in Cygnet’s “Motherf**ker With the Hat.” (Photo by Ken Jacques)

Keeping it crass-y Ponder, if you will, what unsuspecting tourists will think should they wander into the comic drama playing at Cygnet Theatre in Old Town. Surely those with tender theatrical sensibilities will get the idea from the play’s title, “The Motherf**ker With the Hat.” If, not they will become inured to the F-word in short order. The playwright is Stephen Adly Guirgis. San Diego’s adventuresome theatregoers have long acquaintance with his work and his characters, who are far removed from the usual fare seen at larger theatres hereabouts. We have been assailed by them, and because of their humanity, we sought them out at Al Germani’s

former Lynx Theatre (“Jesus Hopped the ‘A Train’,” “Our Lady of 121st Street,” and “In Arabia We’d All Be Kings”), at Triad at 10th Avenue Theatre (“The Last Days of Jesus Iscariot”), and most recently at Hillcrest’s ion theatre (“The Little Flower of East Orange”). San Diegans have an opportunity to experience Guirgis’ 2011 Broadway hit with the unprintable name through June 22 at Cygnet Theatre, Old Town. The breathtaking work, peopled by working class people, is set in New York’s Times Square, Hell’s Kitchen and Washington Heights. It is staged by young director Rob Lutfy, who says in his note that

these working class people are too seldom seen and considered on the American stage. With an assist from George Ye’s fight choreography, Andrew Hull’s jaw-dropping, swiftly adaptable set, and a riveting company, Lutfy, a 2012 – 13 directing fellow at the Kennedy Center, makes an auspicious Cygnet directorial debut. Like artistic director Sean Murray, he is a graduate of University of North Carolina School of the Arts. Guirgis’ works usually build to a fever pitch so taut that one forgets to breathe. The profane, violent “Motherf**ker” is no exception. Its characters are taut as well. Steven Lone is a virile powder keg as Jackie, a recently released con trying to get his life and his relationship with Veronica (Sandra Ruiz) together. The principal steadying influence in Jackie’s life is his Alcoholics Anonymous sponsor Ralph D (Laurence Brown). As those acquainted with the program know, the condition of being in recovery does not confer perfection. On his first visit to Veronica, who faithfully visited him in prison, Jackie is about to bed her when he notices a man’s hat on a bench near the bed. Veronica, an active cocaine addict, denies her infidelity. Jackie grabs the hat, borrows a gun from his workout-addicted cousin, Julio (Esteban Andres, a screamingly funny performance), goes to the apartment of the suspected hat owner, throws it down, and shoots it. The play’s fifth character is Victoria

(Whitney Brianna Thomas), Ralph D’s longsuffering wife. She attempts seducing Jackie to repay Ralph’s philandering. Each character — and we care about them, defects and all — has a revelatory “aria” during which the extent of their self-delusion becomes obvious. Perhaps the most rotten of all is Ralph, whose sobriety and role of sponsor are important in terms of self-exultation, but who is truly immoral when it comes to using others, especially women. The only bone-deep decent character is Jackie. We care about him intensely as he engages Ralph in a struggle for truth and survival. The amusement comes from recognition of ourselves and of others we have known. For some the humor is raucous; for others, it may be more internal, but the wisdom is there in Guirgis’ rich characters and the actors’ luscious portrayals. Contains drugs, violence, nudity, sexual situations and a lot of strong f**king language.t

“The Motherf**ker With the Hat” Through June 22 Wed & Thurs 7:30 p.m. Fri & Sat 8 p.m. Sat 3 p.m. Sunday 2 and 7 p.m. Cygnet Theatre 4040 Twiggs St. Old Town Tickets $32 and up 619-337-1525




Crazy D Division highlights AFCSL Open Division races It is anyone’s guess as to which team will win this division, but the Outlaws and Lawmen do play each other on June 1 at 1 p.m. in Poway in what essentially could be the division’s deciding game. The Stars get a crack at the Outlaws, Lawmen, and Sol over their final three games. That is a brutal slate of games but also gives Viejas the chance to catapult themselves into first place.

Josh Ramirez is a leader among the spirited Flicks Fireballs. (Photo by Adriano Mabeza) Two weeks remain in America’s Finest City Softball League (AFCSL) Spring Season, and as is usually the case, there is a mad scramble for World Series berths going right down to the wire. Open B Division The one division where there is no such scramble is the B Division, the highest-rated group of teams in the Open Division. The Urban MO’s Spikes (15-2) has dominated its competition, both locally and during interleague play. Evan Morris and David Lewis lead this veteran ballclub, which features fantastic hitting up and down the lineup. To beat the Spikes, a team needs to outscore them, and my Loft team (9-8) certainly has not been able to accomplish that. We are in second place, just a game ahead of Film Out Strike Force (8-9). At the start of the season, AFCSL announced that all three teams would be offered a World Series berth, so the division race has lost a little bit of its luster. But Loft and Strike Force face each other twice more and will certainly be playing for bragging rights. Open C Division The C Division boasts 12 teams and two divisions, following up on a tradition that began in 2013. The team with the best overall record will receive one of the division’s two Series berths. The next three teams in the standings will battle it out in a postseason three-team playoff, and the winner will receive the second berth. The Hillcrest Brewing Company Outlaws and Flicks Lawmen once again sit atop the standings with just one loss apiece. These two teams have ruled the roost the last few years, although the Outlaws were upset in the three-team playoff last year by Mariposa Sol. By no coincidence, Sol is right in the thick of the chase with just two losses. Bill French’s team saw quite a bit of roster changes over the past year, but the core of this smart-hitting team remains the same. The Outlaws, coached by Randy Miller, and Lawmen, led by Roman Jimenez, have battled for the title for what seems like the better part of a decade, with each side holding bragging rights at various times. The Lawmen have a little more pop, while the Outlaws play slightly better defense. Not to be overlooked are the Viejas Stars, managed by Tim Bactad. This squad has just three losses and a veteran lineup that was able to add long-time hitting nemesis Troy Camacho to its roster this season.

Open D Division The C Division is crazy, with four teams clustered together battling for two spots. The D Division is even zanier. Pecs (15-2) has just five games remaining and a three-game lead in the loss column over secondplace Babycakes (13-5). But the true hysterics of this division lie in the battle for second place. The Flicks Fireballs (12-6), #1 on Fifth Hitmen (11-6), and Loft (11-6) are all just one loss behind Babycakes. Baja Betty’s Masterbatters (11-7) and Redwing Rebels (10-7) are just two games back. And even though they have a lot of teams to jump, there is no counting out former division champion Krush (10-8). That amounts to seven teams battling for one World Series berth, all within three games of each other. The games in this division have been exciting and balanced. As manager of the Flicks Fireballs, I have had the pleasure of watching a team that essentially began anew in January and knocked around during a winless Las Vegas tournament, grow to one of the most competitive teams in the league. While we do have six losses, our largest defeat has been by a mere four runs. The Masterbatters admit that they have been perennial cellar-dwellers in their history, but not this year. They are capable of beating anyone, thanks to the coaching and camaraderie-building of Lance McDermaid and Scottie Tagle. Like the Fireballs, the Rebels have pieced together a new roster that has not played together before, and they have started knocking off some of the top teams in the division. The Hitmen have shown that they can beat anybody, and are coming off a terrific second-place finish in the Phoenix tournament this past April. The Loft has a core of players who have won a couple of division titles recently, and are always a tough opponent. If any team deserves to be proud of their accomplishments, it is the Babycakes team led by AFCSL and NAGAAA Hall of Famer George Biagi. Back in 2012, Biagi pieced together a team of tennis players who knew virtually nothing about the sport. The point of playing was just to do something different, and to have fun regardless of the results. Not only has this team stuck together, they have improved rapidly, thanks in part to great team chemistry. To go from nearly winless to nearly winning the division is a fantastic achievement for Biagi’s boys. To view the schedule for June 1 and June 8, AFCSL’s final two weeks of the season, visit the league’s website at Softball drag-off fundraiser to be held June 21 The Strike Force is throwing together what is sure to be a wild event from 2 – 6 p.m. on June 21. AFCSL teams were offered the opportunity to earn $500 cash by registering groups of players to perform a drag act on stage at the event. Teams are given leeway with what they want to perform, and acts will be judged by various local San Diego drag performers and personalities. The event, called “Hits, Runs, Whores,” will be held at Sunset Temple in North Park. If you are interested in watching a bunch of softball players try their hand at choreographed drag skits, general admission tickets can be purchased for $15 at Proceeds from this fundraiser go to the winning team and the Strike Force. Shameless plug: Under Team Affiliation, select Fireballs, as we have an act in the show. SD Hoops summer league begins June 4 SD Hoops will hold its draft party on Saturday, May 31 from 6 – 8 p.m. at Hillcrest Brewing Company, where it will unveil rosters for the six teams that will participate in its second annual summer basketball league. SD Hoops was founded in 1999 and traditionally held just a long fall season from October through March. But interest in even more games sparked the formation of the summer league. Games are held every Wednesday at Golden Hill Rec Center (2600 Golf Course Dr., Balboa Park) at either 6, 7, or 8 p.m. For more information on the league, visit

GAY SAN DIEGO May 30–June 12, 2014



GAY SAN DIEGO May 30–June 12, 2014

Gay San Diego - May 30 2014  
Read more
Read more
Similar to
Popular now
Just for you