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“Planting the seeds” of spiritual choice


Local LGBT ministers to participate in forum to unify community

Erotic art from a master

7 ENTERTAINMENT Opportunity for all: On Monday, July 21, President Barack Obama again took a pen in hand and made LGBT history. Joining the president on stage are Virginia Governor Terry McAuliffe (over his left shoulder), Deputy Secretary of Labor Chris Lu, Office of Federal Contract Compliance Programs Director Pat Shiu, Rev. Delman Coates, Rabbi David Saperstein and LGBT workplace equality advocates Kylar Broadus, Michael Carney, Anne Vonhof, and Faith Cheltenham. Note: Names were provided by the White House Press Corps and are not listed in any particular order. (Photo by Patsy Lynch) Human-centric comedy


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Can we get an ‘Amen’? Morgan M. Hurley | GSD Editor Surrounded by the Governor of Virginia, members of his staff and with dozens of members of the LGBT community in the audience at the White House on Monday, July 21, President Barack Obama again took a pen in hand and made LGBT histor y, broadening long-existing Employment Non-Discrimination Acts. Viewed as a conspicuously timed response to the Supreme Court’s Hobby Lobby decision that opened up what could ver y well be the floodgates of religious discrimination, the president, flanked by two large LCD screens bearing the words “Opportunity for All,” signed two ENDA Executive Orders. The first amended President L yndon Johnson’s EO 11246 (barring federal contractors to discriminate) to include “sexual orientation” and “gender identity”; he

then amended President Richard Nixon’s EO 11478 (barring discrimination of federal employees, which President Clinton later amended to include “sexual orientation”) adding “gender identity.” Some are calling these ENDA actions the most significant personal contributions the president has made to the equality movement thus far. Many in the audience peppered the president’s remarks prior to the signing with “Amen,” which he acknowledged and said himself. Governor Terr y McAuliffe, whose first act in office was to sign a similar law prohibiting discrimination against LGBT employees of the Commonwealth of Virginia, stood behind the president’s left shoulder. Senator Jeff Merkley of Oregon and openly gay Senator Tammy Baldwin of Wisconsin were also in attendance. For more analysis, see The Keen Files on page 3.t

Matches Troyer purchased to market the event (Photo by Melanie Peters) Morgan M. Hurley | GSD Editor On Saturday, August 2, a gathering of local LGBT ministers of multiple denominations along with others whose churches are welcoming to LGBT members will converge at the San Diego LGBT Center from 1 – 4 p.m. The entire community is invited to the first annual LGBTQ Spiritual Summit to experience what is being called a place where a “different conversation” will be taking place. As the march for our equal rights moves at a seemingly rapid pace these days, the summit’s organizers were reminded that as a community, LGBT individuals are still pushing up against those who use their faith to condemn, deny and fight against any progress of equality. In doing so they stir up the old feelings of hurt and rejection felt from families or churches while growing up. Organizers hope this forum will change all that and open new doors

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(l to r) Brian Bielawski, co-founder and chairman, Walter Meyer, co-founder, and Council President Todd Gloria clown around at last year’s Gam3rCon launch. (Courtesy Walter Meyer)

Game for something fun during ComicCon, but don’t want to deal with the maddening crowds? Try Gam3rCon. It’s a gaming-oriented event timed to coincide with the Con, but on a much smaller scale. Now in it’s fifth year, Gam3rCon is held annually at the Tenth Avenue Arts Center, Downtown. It’s a few blocks away from the Convention Center, but a world away in terms of intimacy and cohesion. It’s much like Comic-Con used to be before the movie studios and everyone else

discovered it. Last year’s Gam3rCon drew 3,300 people, but co-founder Walter Meyer is expecting more than 5,000 this time around. This anticipated increase is part of the reason some of Gam3rCon will be held a few blocks away at the NewSchool of Architecture and Design this year. All those attendees will come to play role-playing games like Dungeons & Dragons and compete in video game tournaments while the games are projected onto a 40-foot screen. There’s also a Retrocade: A

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GAM3RCON room dedicated to old school video systems like Atari and Sega. “We’re actually holding the video game tournaments at the New School of Architecture because the Tenth Avenue Arts Center building is 100 years old, so the electrical outlets are a little out-of-date,” Meyer said. But there is a lot more to Gam3rCon than just games. There is also an art exhibit dedicated to pieces inspired by gaming characters, themes and stories; a music festival on Thursday, dedicated to “filk music,” a genre that combines folk music with lyrics devoted to gaming; a Friday night comedy show where the jokes are designed to appeal to geeks and nerds; and a performance on Sunday by a man who bills himself as “Jedi Elvis.” For Meyer, the highlight is the chance to once again put on a performance of “Gam3rs,” an original play dedicated to gaming that was the inspiration for the Gam3rCon. “We originally tried unsuccessfully to get ‘Gam3rs’ into the Con,” but the owner of the Tenth Avenue Arts Center said ‘My building is empty’ so we created an event for all the people who couldn’t get into Comic-Con.” Besides celebrating gaming, Meyer, who is also gay and author of the popular coming-of-age novel “Rounding Third,” hopes to effect change in the gaming community. “I think the gay influence helps us be much more accepting of all cultures,” he said. “We did a panel last year on bullying in the gaming world, like insulting someone by saying, ‘You’re so gay.’”

Despite pejoratives like that, Meyer sees similarities between gays and gamers. “Comic-Con and gay pride have this in common: You’ve had people that may have hidden in basements for a year looking for that one week a year where they can be outrageous,” he said. “At the Con, no one thinks you’re weird if you dress like Wonder Woman — even if you’re a man.” This year, Gam3rCon panels will discuss female content creators in the gaming world and why even popular gaming characters like “Zelda” of “The Legend Of Zelda” aren’t allowed to have the adventures of their male counterparts. Meyer expects a lot of Con attendees will find their way over to Gam3rCon — especially since the Con officially ends at 7 p.m., while Gam3rCon goes until midnight. However, Meyer sees a day when Gam3rCon is successful enough to stand on the own. “We’d like to grow it so it could be a third weekend in July,” he said. “Think Gay Pride, the Con and then us.” Gam3rCon runs July 24 – 27, from 12 p.m. to 12 a.m. daily at the Tenth Avenue Art Center, located at 930 10th Ave., Downtown. In addition to all the games and panels, join the nightly fun up on the rooftop with live entertainment, food, drink and additional games. Most of Gam3rcon’s activities be held at the Art Center, with video game tournaments taking place at the NewSchool of Architecture + Design, located at 1249 F St. Check for more information, including tickets, schedules and event locations. —Alex Owens is a San Diego based freelance writer.t


SUMMIT to those seeking answers, wishing to heal old wounds, or just interested in learning more about their spiritual options that they were unaware of. “So many of us in the LGBT community come from a place of rejection about our spirituality,” said summit founder Rev. Jerry Troyer. “Growing up in traditional Christianity, and even if we never set foot in a church before, we read and or we heard people talk about how religion which means for many people God, disapproves of us,” he said. “And so even if we were never involved in church, so many of us took that in as we were growing up, so even if we’d not been involved in anything related to religion or spirituality in years or decades or ever, we have that in us. Troyer said that when you come from a foundation of belief that somehow “God” hates us, it affects everything in our lives. “What we believe about our selves affects the choices that we make on a daily basis,” he said. “It affects how we treat ourselves, how we look on life, and it affects what we agree to and put up with, perhaps believing that we’re somehow not good enough.” The purpose of the summit is to help effect change, Troyer said, by “inviting, encouraging and challenging” members of our local LGBT community to take a close look at how they view themselves and their higher selves — whatever that means to them — and to maybe offer others the option to explore it for the first time. A La Mesa resident, Troyer is Senior Minister at Joyful Living Spiritual Center, a “new age” Religious Science church located in Mission Valley. He is also the author of “Coming OUT to Ourselves … admitting, accepting, and embracing who we truly are.” Troyer, who has a monthly column on Gay San Diego’s media partner, wanted to find a way to reach out — beyond his church and his column — with his message of self-acceptance. He and his publicist, Melanie Peters, were kicking around ideas when they decided to do an interactive blog. Putting themselves out into the community and ask individuals what their experiences with spirituality were. Peters would tape the conversations and Troyer would use them to pepper his own writing and wisdom on the blog. Peters had recently filmed a successful mini-documentary for another literary client about the PSA crash in North Park and saw the potential of using the same interactive format for Troyer’s message. More brainstorming with another community members uncovered the the long list dozens of LGBT spiritual leaders within San Diego, many whom are Christian and some even evangelical, running their own successful churches. There are many other ministers who are allies of the community, with equally thriving churches that welcome their doors to LGBT members. A light bulb went off: “What if we got them all in the same room?” The LGBT Spiritual Summit was born.

(l to r) Melanie Peters and Rev. Jerry Troyer out filming Spiritual Summit panelists for a mini-documentary. (Courtesy Melanie Peters) “I call it a spiritual shopping cart,” Peters said. Initially funded and marketed primarily by Troyer’s own pocketbook, as word of the summit grew, an advisory committee was quickly established of like-minded individuals each with unique contributions. Soon The Center got involved, a booth at SheFest and Pride was put into place, then donors and volunteers, a Facebook page, a website … it all happened very quickly. Troyer reached out to local spiritual leaders of various denominations and presented his idea for the project, then assembled a panel of 10 spiritual leaders — and even a representative from the local Humanist (Atheist) organization — to speak at the Summit. Troyer also signed on a Keynote Speaker, Rev. Canon Albert Ogle, recent recipient of KPBS and Union Bank’s annual LGBT Month Hero award. Ogle, an Irish immigrant and Anglican priest, is President of St. Paul’s Foundation for International Reconciliation, home-based in San Diego. Ogle spends his days speaking out for LGBT members of third world countries where LGBT members face jail or even death for being who they are. Earlier this year Ogle spoke at the World Bank’s annual meeting, and he has attended former president Bill Clinton’s meeting of the Clinton Global Initiative. The 10 panelists will “plant the seeds” of the summit’s message,

Troyer said, with each speaking about their own journey through a series of questions posed by organizers. In addition, audience members will be asked upon entry to consider contributing a question. Due to time constraints not all questions will be asked at the forum, but all questions will be answered by one of the panelists on the group’s Facebook page, After the panel discussion, there will be three break-out sessions: one focused on LGBT Youth; another called “What the Bible Does and Does Not Say About Homosexuality,” facilitated by Linda Patterson, author of “Hate Thy Neighbor: How the Bible is Misused to Condemn Homosexuality”; and “Forgiving Religion,” facilitated by Clifford Edwards, author of “The Forgiveness Handbook: A Simple Guide to Freedom of the Mind and Heart.” Although free to the public, donations will be graciously accepted at the door, during or after the event. Co-sponsored by Eric Brown of Waddell & Reed Financial Advisors, Troyer hopes the Spiritual Summit will be the start a continued conversation within the community, one which he and Peters hope to continue with their blog and on the street video series. A 501(c)(3) is in the works and Troyer plans to take this idea outside of San Diego to other cities in the future. The LGBTQ Spiritual Summit will take place on Saturday, Aug. 2, from 1 – 4 p.m. at the San Diego LGBT Center, located at 3903 Centre St. in Hillcrest. For more information, visit or find LGBTQ Spiritual Summit on Facebook.t

At a glance: LGBTQ Spiritual Summit Aug. 21 – 4 p.m. The San Diego LGBT Center

Keynote: Rev. Canon Albert Ogle | Anglican Panelists: Father Ric Castanon | American Catholic Rabbi Laurie Coskey | Jewish Kelsang Chokyi | Buddhist Rev. Hill Kirchner-Rose | Disciples of Christ Pastor Dan Koeschle | MCC Rev. Rich McCullen | Evangelical Rev. Kathleen Owens | Unitarian Universalist Madison Shockley | Evangelical Richard Stravinsky | Humanist Rev. Jerry D. Troyer | New Thought Breakouts: 1. LGBTQ Youth Session 2. “What does the Bible say and not say about homosexuality?” 3. “Forgiving Religion”

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KEEN FILES In a brief ceremony in the East Room of the White House, with a scattering of “Amens” from the 300 or so LGBT activists gathered, on July 21 President Obama signed an executive order prohibiting contractors who do business with the federal government from discriminating based on sexual orientation and gender identity, and adding to existing protection (which includes sexual orientation) for federal employees a prohibition of discrimination based on gender identity. “President Obama is showing strong leadership taking this historic action to advance equality in our country,” said openly gay U.S. Senator Tammy Baldwin, in a statement issued July 18 after details of the executive order were released. “By signing this executive order banning workplace discrimination against employees of federal contractors and the federal government, we will ensure millions of American workers will be protected from discrimination simply because of who they are or who they love.” Baldwin was in the front row for Monday’s event. Importantly, the new executive order neither expands nor removes a relatively narrow exemption put in place by President George W. Bush that exempts “a religious corporation, association, educational institution, or society, with respect to the employment of individuals of a particular religion to perform work connected with the carrying on by such corporation, association, educational institution, or society of its activities.” But the order, because it does not create an LGBT-specific religious exemption, also hands a major victory to LGBT political and legal activists. In recent months, they have united in a pushback against efforts by religious conservatives to carve out new exceptions to existing non-discrimination laws in order to discriminate against LGBT people, especially same-sex couples seeking to marry. The focus on religious exemptions had also grown following the U.S. Supreme Court’s ruling on June 30, in Burwell v. Hobby Lobby, that closely held for-profit companies could claim a religious exemption from a mandate of the Affordable Care Act to provide health insurance coverage for contraceptive services. Some LGBT legal activists called the Court’s decision “radical” and “dangerous,” saying it could open the door

for companies and other entities to seek religious exemptions for LGBTrelated matters. On July 1, a group of 14 religious leaders urged President Obama to include a “robust religious exemption” in his pending executive order for federal contractors. In a July 15 letter, 69 groups — including more than two-dozen religious organizations — urged against such an exemption. The latter noted that religious entities already have an exemption, provided by an executive order from President George W. Bush. Although the pro-LGBT groups asked President Obama to remove the Bush religious exemption, the new executive order does not. Noting that there are now more states with marriage equality than there are prohibiting discrimination based on sexual orientation, President Obama diverted from his prepared remarks to urge the audience to take a moment to reflect upon all the progress on LGBT issues the administration has made in the past five years. It is estimated that federal contractors employ 14 million people. The Human Rights Campaign heralded President Obama’s executive order a “profoundly consequential” document that “dramatically underscores President Obama’s own LGBT legacy of achievement unmatched in history …” President Johnson signed Executive Order 11246 [Sept. 24,1965] that prohibits federal contractors and subcontractors from discriminating in employment on the basis of race, color, religion, sex, or national origin. Four years later, President Nixon issued Executive Order 11478 [Aug. 8, 1969] to bar discrimination against federal employees based on race, color, religion, sex, national origin, disability, and age. Although President Clinton signed Executive Order 13087 [May 28, 1998], adding sexual orientation to Nixon’s non-discrimination order protecting federal employees, he did not sign an order regarding employees of federal contractors. President Obama’s amendments add gender identity to President Nixon’s executive order and both sexual orientation and gender identity to President Johnson’s order. —Lisa Keen is an award-winning journalist who spent 18 years as editor of the Washington Blade. See more news from Keen and other select veteran gay journalists at Editor’s Note: To read all of President Obama’s remarks prior to his signing of the Executive Orders, see this article online at

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‘Tortured cocks’

"Untitled" by Clive Barker. Oil on canvas. (Photo by Jeremy Ogul) Jeremy Ogul | GSD Assistant Editor English author Clive Barker is famous for his horror and fantasy stories, some of which became the basis for the blockbuster “Hellraiser” and “Candyman” movie series. Barker is also a prolific visual artist, and a never-beforeseen collection of his art is now on display at the Alexander Salazar Fine Art galler y. The show, titled “Parade,” features some of Barker’s erotic horror sketches and paintings. “Basically the underlying theme is ‘tortured cocks,’” Salazar said. “His sort of fascination with male genitalia is evident in this exhibit.” The drawings, ripped straight from Barker’s sketchbooks, are perhaps the most depraved works in the exhibit. In one, a fully erect nude man stands with his arms raised and bound together at the wrists. With a skeptical expression, he watches as some kind of reptile — a scorpion, perhaps — crawls down his back. In another sketch, sharp metal implements prod and pull at the foreskin of an erect penis. A third sketch shows a

nude man with his limbs bound as centipedes or other insects crawl up his leg and over his erect penis. There are 42 sketches in all. “This is a show where disturbing is good,” Salazar said. Barker’s paintings, all oil on canvas, are more fantastical and vivid than the sketches. In one untitled painting, an evil-looking man with large eyes and a pointed beard sits nude and bound as flames blaze around him. “Ever y image that you see can be its own horror stor y,” Salazar said. “None of this is tied to his stories, which makes it more interesting because you can imagine what the stor y might be.” Another painting, titled “Amongst His Congregation” shows a nude, bald and bearded man holding a staff made of two erect penises bound together. “His brush stroke is loose,” Salazar said. “It’s not realism by any means.” The works reflect Barker’s intrigue with the intersection of horror, fantasy, sexuality and pleasure. They also reflect a theme common to all of his work: his “desire to distress, disturb, subvert,” as he described it in one inter view about the work. “In many ways I see my job as pushing the boundaries, the limits of what can be said, what can be shown, what can be discussed, what can be enjoyed,” Barker said in a 1999 inter view with Phil and Sarah Stokes. “I like messing with people’s minds,” he said in another inter view with New Times LA in 2001. “Intensity messes with people’s minds.” Barker, born in 1952, did not start painting until the age of 43, but his creative process has always involved drawing and developing an image from which he developed the horrific creatures of his stories, such as Hellraiser and Nightbreed.

The works are priced in a range from $400 for the sketches to $15,000 for the largest paintings, which Salazar said is reasonable, considering their large size and Barker’s fame. Salazar said Barker is not in it for the money, however. “He’s doing this to share his mind,” Salazar said. “He wants to inspire people.” On Friday, July 25, Salazar’s galler y will host a special opening reception of Barker’s artwork, featuring a special presentation and speech from the producers of “Jacqueline Ess,” an upcoming feature film adapted from one of Barker’s short stories. The movie stars Lena Headey, best known for her role as Cersei Lannister in the HBO series “Game of Thrones.”

"The Generations" by Clive Barker. Oil on canvas. (Photo by Jeremy Ogul)

Alexander Salazar Fine Art is located at 1040 Seventh Ave., Downtown. The galler y is open by appointment for this exhibit through Aug. 10. Call 619-2378813 to arrange a viewing. For more information, visit or search for the Clive Barker exhibit on Facebook. More of Barker’s paintings and prints (other than his male erotica) are on display at the Centur y Guild booth in the Comic-Con exhibit hall through July 27. t

How to be (and have) a good friend MICHAEL KIMMEL LIFE BEYOND THERAPY In this world of Scruff, Grindr, Mister and all the other social/ hookup apps, sex seems to be an awfully high priority. Sometimes, I wonder if the art of friendship is getting lost. After all, if we can’t enjoy each other’s company and be good to each other, sex isn’t going to be very good, no matter how hot the person we’re with is. To me, friendship is the foundation for all other relationships. How can you have a spouse, lover or partner that you’re not friends with? Without friendship, no relationship has much of a chance of a long-term run. You may be infatuated with someone you meet — “I’m drowning in lust,” as one client told me — but that alone isn’t going to keep you together. You need friendship. Surprisingly, some of us aren’t very good at it. What can we do about that? Luckily, friendship is a skill and can be learned. In my observation, women seem to be better at it than men. As men, many of us —unfortunately — have been trained to “suck it up” and “pull yourself up by your bootstraps.” We are encouraged to hide our feelings for other people and put on a tough (often blank) face so that no one sees our vulnerability. Growing up on a farm in Ohio, my brother and I were encouraged not to appear open or vulnerable in a way that my sisters were allowed to be. As a result, my sisters had

better and more well-developed friendships. Not a big surprise, is it? We were set up that way. For many successful LGBTers, competition trumps friendship. We think we need to “look out for number one” and “don’t trust anyone.” This may make us lots of money (and enemies) but also leave us isolated, alone and lonely. You know “lonely,” right? One of the things I hear most often in my psychotherapy office is when clients tell me how lonely they are. These clients are often very women and men who are respected, admired … and alone. They didn’t learn how to be a good friend. The good news: it’s never too late. Cultural constructs about “independence” and “self-sufficiency” keep many of us from being good friends. We think we’re needy or clingy if we ask for help. I love psychologist Brene Brown’s work on vulnerability. Check out her TED talks. Many of us are lousy friends because we’re afraid of getting hurt by being vulnerable and “open” to other people. Some of us have been badly burned by people we trusted who screwed us over and left us lying by the side of the road, vowing to “never be so stupid again.” This is understandable, but a poor life strategy. If you live and love, you’re bound to get hurt. To me, the object isn’t to avoid getting hurt: that’s impossible. A smarter strategy would be to learn how to cope with disappointment and betrayal. We all pick the wrong person at one time or another. What do we do about it? We go to our friends and cry on their shoulders. The benefits of friendship are obvious: kindness, compassion, brother/sisterhood, emotional support, laughter, companionship … the list is endless. Friendship is an art and, for most of us, it takes time and experience to learn how to be a good friend and to get to the point where we attract people to us who have the potential to be really good friends. How do we get there? Consider these qualities of a good friend. How would you rate yourself? Dependable – there when they say they will be, you can count on them; Forgiving – accept your humanness as you accept theirs; Generous with their time, energy and affection; Honest and kind – love you enough to tell you the truth, gently; Protective – look out for you, stick up for you, have your back; Respectful – respect you as a person, even when they don’t like what you may say or do; and, Vulnerable and open – let you in, show you they’re not so perfect. Friendship is a lifelong skill set that’s never static: We can cultivate friends until our very last breath. And if we’re smart, we will. —Michael Kimmel is a licensed psychotherapist who specializes in helping LGBT clients achieve their goals and deal with anxiety, depression, grief, sexually addictive behavior, coming out, relationship challenges and homophobia. Michael is currently accepting new clients. Contact him at 619-955-3311 or visit


GAY NEWS BRIEFS LGBT LEADERS AND ELECTRIC VEHICLES CELEBRATED Environmental advocacy group CalETC partnered with the Greater San Diego Business Association, San Diego Gas & Electric and numerous other environmental and business groups to host the “Drive Your Values” event for LGBT business and community leaders on Thursday, July 24. Attendees were able to experience some of the benefits behind “going green” by test driving environmentally efficient cars like the Cadillac ELR, Chevy Volt, Nissan Leaf, Fiat 500E, and Plug-in Prius, among others. The event took place at SDG&E’s Energy Innovation Center, located at 4760 Clairmont Mesa Blvd., in Clairemont Mesa. More than 100 leaders attended the event, and the LGBT community is expected to be one of the larger demographics poised to use the technology. Members of the San Diego Gay Men’s Chorus performed a selection of “car-themed songs” and Assembly Speaker Toni G. Atkins was on hand as keynote speaker and to receive CalETC’s inaugural Drive Electric Green Megaphone Award for state leadership. Council President Todd Gloria also received the same award for local leadership. For more information about CalETC visit better FREE PLAYWRITING CLASS FOR LGBT COMMUNITY Balboa Park’s Old Globe Theatre has teamed up with Diversionar y Theatre to welcome

LGBT playwriting enthusiasts to participate in The Old Globe Community Voices, a series of free workshops teaching skills in playwriting. Participants will learn how to develop short plays through a variety of creative writing and performance activities. At the end of the course, the plays will also be presented during a professional public reading at the Old Globe and Diversionar y Theatres. The workshops will be held on Saturday mornings from 10 a.m. – 12 p.m. starting Aug. 9 through Sept. 13. For more information and to apply for the program, contact Katherine Harroff at 619-238-0043 x2105 or

SAFE DRIVING SCHOLARSHIP CONTEST Orange County-based personal injur y law firm Avrek is awarding $9,000 in scholarship funds to winners of the DriveSafe scholarship contest, a viral video competition where students can create and film journalistic, documentar y, public ser vice announcements, song, sketch or compilation style videos advising others on the dangers associated with driving while distracted. Dangers associated with texting, eating, and drinking while driving are some of the major causes of car collisions. Even taking your eyes off the road for five seconds while traveling at 55 mph is equivalent to covering the length of a football field blindfolded. Contest entries will be accepted until Sept. 30 and should be uploaded to YouTube. Ten finalists will be chosen and a panel of judges will determine the top three, awarding 1st prize, a $5,000 scholarship; 2nd prize,

a $2,500 scholarship; and 3rd prize, a $1,500 scholarship. Participants can register at avrek. com/scholarships. Non-students can also win Visa gift cards and get involved in revolutionizing the way we drive by sharing the DriveSafe webinar. To register or for more information, visit avrek. com/scholarships.

VOLUNTEER ADVOCATES NEEDED TO HELP FOSTER CHILDREN Voices for Children is looking for volunteers who can dedicate 10 –15 hours a month for 18 months as a Court Appointed Special Advocate (CASA) for children in foster care. CASA volunteers spend time with abused and neglected children as they navigate the Juvenile Court system. The volunteer becomes one of the few consistent adult presences in the child’s life during this tr ying time. When social workers and attorneys are overburdened with large caseloads, the court relies on the CASA volunteer to ser ve as the court’s eyes and ears in the life of a foster child. CASA volunteers do not need to have any experience in law or education. Many of the volunteers work full time, work from home or are retired. Voices for Children provides a 35-hour comprehensive training program, and CASAs are further supported by a full-time professional advocacy super visor. Several information sessions for interested volunteers are still available in the Kearny Mesa area: Saturday, July 26 from 10 – 11:30 a.m.; Saturday, Aug. 9 from 10 – 11:30 a.m.; and Wednesday, Aug. 13 from 12 – 1:30 p.m. For more information and info session locations, visit speakupnow.

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ANNUAL BEAD BAZAAR RETURNS For the 15th year in a row, the San Diego Bead Society will host its popular Bead Bazaar on August 2 and 3 at the Scottish Rite Center at 1895 Camino Del Rio South. The event offers a chance for bead fanatics to admire and purchase artisan jewelr y from local and national artists showcasing their silver clay, vintage, semi-precious and precious metals, and glass bead creations.“Make-and-takes,” demos and raffle prizes will also be offered to attendees. “What distinguishes the Bazaar from other bead shows is that it brings together the work of extraordinar y and unique artisan jewelr y artists with vendors that specialize in providing quality merchandize for all your jewelr y making needs, in an intimate and friendly atmosphere,” San Diego Bead Society Chair Linda Roberts stated in a press release. The Bead Bazaar will open at 10 a.m. and last until 5 p.m. on both Saturday and Sunday. Tickets cost $5 and proceeds will benefit the Bead Society’s future endeavors.  POWERS PLUMBING CELEBRATES 100 YEARS With Mayor Kevin Faulconer declaring Aug. 1, 2014 Powers Plumbing Day, the historic Mission Hills-based plumbing and heating contractor will honor its centennial anniversary throughout the month. On Aug. 5, Powers Plumbing will sponsor a “Walk Through History” walking tour, led by a local Mission Hills historian. The event will depart


at 5 p.m. from the plumbing shop located at 1705 W. Lewis St. In addition, Powers Plumbing and the Blue Powers Padres will team up to celebrate the anniversary and a recent championship win by serving cake during Pioneer Memorial Park’s Concert in the Park on Aug. 8. Also during August customers will receive $50 off services calls on jobs over $500 and $100 off service jobs over $1,000 when clients mention the Secret Power Word of the Week. Be sure to check the Powers Plumbing Facebook page for the secret word and a chance to save money. 

GSDBA SEEKS ANNUAL BUSINESS AWARD NOMINATIONS San Diego’s LGBT chamber of commerce, the Greater San Diego Business Association (GSDBA), is seeking nominations for their annual business awards, to be presented at their annual awards brunch on Oct. 12 at the Kona Kai Resort and Marina on Shelter Island. Community leaders and businesses that “exemplify GSDBA values” and have displayed business success will be recognized in five different categories: Business of the Year; Non-profit Organization; Community Leader; Emerging business, and Corporate Partner of the Year. Nominations should include ways has assisted, motivated or inspired others, any professional achievements or community contributions, and how they exemplify the highest standards of their profession. Each response should be limited to 200 words or less. Submit nominations no later than Aug. 15 through the association’s website at or via email to

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Letters Let’s not forget where we came from

I am in agreement with Ms. Biegeleisen [See “Letters: Where is the pride of the last 40 years?” Vol. 5, Issue 13]. For the past few years the aging LGBT community has been left out. There was a time when Stonewall was remembered. When Dan White was given a slap on the wrist, the San Francisco LGBT community marched in sadness and anger over that horrendous verdict. When we fought Anita Bryant and John Briggs over Prop 6. When our gay brothers were dying of AIDS and we couldn’t stop crying. When the community came together to work on AIDS quilts to ease our sorrow and fear. When we marched with bags over our heads or masks at gay pride parades, but march we did. When very talented artists were blackballed by mainstream society, but, kept singing, painting and writing for us, their community, anyway. When as a community we gave thanks to those that endured for us. So, dear Wendy, I do remember, I’ll never forget and thank you for your kindness in remembering as well. —Carla de Baca, via email

A place for tennis players

Thanks for a great article [See “Dugout Chatter: SDTF hosts San Diego Open” Vol. 5, Issue 14]. If you are interested in playing tennis, whether you’re new to the game or have been playing for years, there IS a place for you in the San Diego Tennis Federation. We have numerous activities throughout the week and throughout the year, so we’ll find one that suits your interest and schedule. Check out our web site at; there you’ll also find email addresses to all of our board members, so you can find out more. —Todd Linke, via

Refreshing summer tips

You are refreshing to say the least [See “Summer Fitness,” Vol. 5, Issue 14]! Thanks for the great article and no beer for me during PRIDE weekend. We look forward to more and we hope to see you during our celebrations. —Sean McNichols, via


The ‘State of the Movement’ By Toni G. Atkins, California State Assembly Editor’s Note: This is the prepared speech (without adlibs) that Assembly Speaker Atkins shared at the Spirit of Stonewall Rally and Flag Raising held Friday, July 18 in Hillcrest. It is so exciting to be here with you all to celebrate the LGBT national holiday. Well, there’s also Halloween, but Pride really is the big one.

Speaker Atkins at Stonewall Rally (Photo by SDCNN)

And I am thrilled to be able to share it with you and to have been selected to serve as the Grand Marshal for tomorrow’s parade. Forty-five years ago, when the Stonewall riots occurred, LGBT people had few options for achieving their rights other than to take it to the streets. I am sure the people back then could PUBLISHER David Mannis (619) 961-1951 EDITOR Morgan M. Hurley (619) 961-1960 ASSISTANT EDITOR Jeremy Ogul (951) 704-6210 CONTRIBUTING EDITOR Hutton Marshall (619) 961-1952 EDITORIAL INTERN McKenna Aiello

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not possibly imagine that less than a half a century later one of those streets would be named for a gay icon — Harvey Milk. But that is one of our achievements since Stonewall. A street named after Harvey Milk right here in San Diego. And of course, that isn’t all. In just the past year — the Postal Service put Harvey Milk on a stamp; federal marriage benefits are now available to same sex couples since the Supreme Court rejected DOMA last year; wedding bells are ringing once again in California because we finally got rid of the horrible Prop 8; and marriage equality is on its way to happening in some of the most unlikely places — like Utah and Arkansas and Kentucky. Today, nearly 44% of Americans live in a place with marriage equality –— that’s 19 states! Wouldn’t the folks at Stonewall be amazed? It is very tempting to borrow a military phrase and say “Mission Accomplished” for LGBT equality. But if we are going to borrow military language, then we would be well served to remember another time honored saying, “no man left behind.” Or, to put it in more appropriate gender-neutral language –— “no person left behind” — because we aren’t finished. Here in our own country, we still have not passed an inclusive federal ban on LGBT discrimination in the workplace. And the recent Hobby Lobby Supreme Court decision is likely to lead to more and more attempts to claim a religious right to discriminate against LGBT employees. We must change that. We may have 19 states with marriage equalPRODUCTION ARTIST Arielle Jay

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ity, but that leaves 31 states where marriage is banned. And in most of those states civil unions and domestic partnerships are also banned. We must change that.

Atkins accepts the Pride flag flown June 28, 2013 from San Diego Pride’s Fernando Lopez. (Photo by SDCNN)

Our transgender brothers and sisters are still far too often subject to misunderstanding, fear, discrimination, pover ty and violence. We must change that. While we Americans celebrated Independence Day earlier this month, Kenya had its own Stonewall when 60 people were arrested in a raid on a gay club in Nairobi. In many places beyond our borders being LGBT is still a crime. We can change that. This weekend we will party like it’s 2014, parade down the streets of our city, and proclaim for all to see that we’re out and proud, and we will be joined by many, many non-LGBT allies. Amid all that fun, let’s be sure to take a moment to remember those who don’t enjoy the freedoms we do. And let’s all make a pledge to change that in the spirit of Stonewall.

—Assembly Speaker Toni G. Atkins represents California’s 78th Assembly District. She served eight years on the San Diego City Council from 2000 – 2008, with a stint as Acting Mayor in 2005. Atkins served as Majority Leader prior to being unanimously elected to Speaker, and she is the first San Diegan, the first lesbian, and the third female to hold the position. She lives in South Park with her wife Jennifer LeSar and their two dogs, Haley and Joey. She can be reached at Speaker.Atkins@

Reflections of Pride, 1974 – 2014 By City Commissioner Nicole Murray Ramirez Editor’s Note: This is the entire prepared speech Nicole gave at the Spirit of Stonewall Rally. We felt it was worth sharing for those who may have not heard it, and worth repeating for those who did. I speak to you today as yes, an aging Latino gay activist from the 1960s and 70s, I speak today for those no longer with us … those who helped build our community and movement whose shoulders we all stand on. Reflections of Pride … and does this old queen have a story to tell you. It’s a story of a people, a tribe, a community; who built a civil rights movement. A proud people who can trace its history on this continent, back to our “two-spirited” sisters and brothers of this country’s first nation; the Native Americans. For we have al-

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On the edge of comedic greatness

Dana Goldman brings her smart and edgy comedy to Martinis July 31. (Courtesy Dana Goldman)

Goldberg’s “human-centric”act connects with us all Morgan M. Hurley | GSD Editor The last time Dana Goldberg had a gig in San Diego, just over one-and-a-half years ago, she had a little dust up; that is, she was rear-ended on the freeway en route to Martinis Above Fourth. Although personally unscathed, the comedian’s truck suffered damage that was audibly noticeable; it gave off a big scraping sound whenever she turned her wheels too far to the right. “I was pulling into the parking lot … and there was this group of very attractive women, so I said, ‘maybe I’ll just go around the block.’” After escaping both injur y and humiliation she made it to the venue, and with a little help from both Jameson and the crowd, Goldberg got through the evening. As she prepares to make her return to Martinis next Thursday, she’s hoping this trip is less eventful so she can focus on the tour at hand, which is in support of her recently released audio CD, “Crossing the Line.” The taping of the CD was a “fluke” since it was in no way planned. Goldberg was performing at a club in Seattle and the

opening act’s friend, who had been filming with a “miked” audience — something Goldberg said is rare — was also using the venue’s soundboard. “He asked if I wanted to keep it running, so I said ‘sure,’ and forgot all about it, which is probably good,” she said. “It was one of those nights where the audience was rowdy and participator y, and I was just kind of on top of it, and when I watched the clip later I said ‘this is actually usable.’” Goldberg describes her comedy as “smart and edgy,” and admitted she has always been a bit conscientious as well. “Mine is the kind of comedy that makes you feel better leaving than you did when you [went] in,” she said. “Some comedy can

be mean and I’m just not that comedian. I don’t think there’s ever a time where someone’s left my show and said ‘man, I felt really good when I came in, but let’s go drink. Let’s go do some shots cuz that comedian …’” Despite this “mindful” approach to her material, with over 10 years under her belt as a stand-up comic who has traveled the world and played with some of the biggest names on the circuit, she’s not meek by any stretch of the imagination. “I definitely take it to that line, especially in some of my new material, I even cross it,” she said. “But I’m pretty conscious about my audience and I read them and I stay away from — for my own personal reasons — some really taboo stuff that other people touch on that I just don’t see the reason to.” Her new CD, appropriately titled “Crossing the Line,” sums up the conscientious but “it’s time to let loose” stage of her comedy. Goldberg said processing the angst derived from a break-up in 2013 allowed her to find her “unapologetic voice” and “really get in touch” with improvisation and the audience. “I know my limits by now and I trust my voice now, so I kind of just let things fly a bit more and gave myself a little more creative license than I have in the past,” she said. The Albuquerque native’s first appearance on stage was at age 17, when she randomly decided to put together a 10-minute stand-up comedy set for her high school talent show. “I don’t know why I did it, I had never seen anyone do it so I just went for it,” she said. She won — validating her innate talent for turning a phrase — but she didn’t go back on stage until years later. When she did, an amateur film of that early performance resurfaced through a friend. “Oh my God, they put the tape in and I’m telling jokes

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about my ex-boyfriends and why it’s not working out so well, but … I’m wearing a pair of jeans, a button down [shirt] and a tie with polar bears on it,” she said, laughing. “I looked like Paula Poundstone.” She had the footage digitized and in 2009, added it as an “extra” on her first DVD, “Hot and Bothered.” Her next foray onto the stage was years later and motivated by the sheer envy she experienced as an audience member. Longtime celesbian comic Suzanne Westenhoefer, now a close friend, was headlining a big variety show called “Funny Lesbians for a Change.” “I remember her getting this laugh and I was like, ‘I want to know what that feels like,’” Goldberg said. “It’s always been kind of a dream, so I went and auditioned for the show. It was five lesbians in this dive … and they gave me a seven minute set.” Those five lesbians liked what they heard and the next thing Goldberg knew, she was on the bill, standing on stage in front of 650 people. “I hit my first big joke and I heard the most deafening laughter I’d ever heard, and that was it,” she said. “I just went into this zone. I had a great show and ever ything hit. I was excited, the audience was right there with me, and it was just one of those moments where I was like ‘this is what I am supposed to be doing.’” While Goldberg calls George Carlin “brilliant,” remembers listening to the old Comic Relief tapes with Robin Williams, Billy Cr ystal and Whoopi Goldberg back in high school — “I didn’t even realize I was actually studying,” she said — and always ap-

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preciated the deadpan humor of Steven Wright, it is her current colleagues that inspire her today. “I get to per form with comics like Erin Foley, and Dana Eagle, who was just on Last Comic Standing,” she said. “These are my friends … and Jessica Kirson. On the boy’s side, Jason Dudey … I feel so blessed to per form side-by-side with them and I still learn from watching them. It’s nice to be par t of a community that I admire and respect so much.” The LA-based comedian hopes that ever yone comes out to see her upcoming San Diego show. “My material is not lesbiancentric,” she explained. “It is ver y much either our community — LGBT-centric — or humancentric,” she said. “When you take away the pronouns, we all have the crazy families, we all have the crazy relationships, we’ve had the same experiences, if you can just let go of the he and the she. “The boys should come out because they get to make fun of lesbians,” she said. “When do they ever get to do that in public and not get beat up by a bunch of lesbians?” Dana Goldberg performs Thursday, July 31 at 8 p.m. at Martinis Above Fourth, located at 1040 Fourth Ave. in Hillcrest. Premiere tickets are $25 and include an autographed copy of her CD, “Crossing the Line.” General admission tickets are $15 in advance, $20 at the door. All tickets come with a $15 minimum food or drink order. Visit for more information. Oh, and no Jameson this time; she’s since switched to Bulleit.t



GAY SAN DIEGO July 25–Aug 7, 2014



Geeking out

(l to r) Ed Hollingsworth and Pete Hoban “geek out” in the latest ion theatre production. (Courtesy PsyPhi Productions)


(l to r) S. Keala Milles, James P. Darvas, Sarah LeClair, Dakota Ringer, Devon Hollingsworth and Franklin DeBerg in “Geeks the Musical.” (Courtesy PsyPhi Productions)


he opening night of “Geeks! The Musical” got lost somewhere in the first weekend of the San Diego International Fringe Festival. Booked into ion theatre company by PsyPhi Productions, the little musical was created by Thomas J. Misuraca (book and lyrics) and Ruth Judkowitz (music) to harmonize with Comic-Con geeks and attendees. It is directed by Patrick Gates and Lizzie Morse with musical direction by Brandon Sherman. Misuraca’s book follows “a gaggle of geeks” during their attendance at the San Diego Comic Book/Sci-Fi Convention. Pete Hoban plays Jordan, a hetero guy

with a longing for Batman issue #92. He is so intent on finding the prized comic book that he almost misses the geek of his life, Kerry (vocally talented actor Sarah LeClair, who also plays the recorded piano score). They meet over the comic book bin, and while Jordan’s straight friend Chip (Franklin DeBerg) plays gay to distract Kerry’s insufferable gay companion, Emerson (James P. Darvas), Jordan and make a dinner date. The date is soon derailed by Emerson, the bitch queen of the world, and the fact that Kerry meets her idol, has-been middleaged actor Mel Tyler (Ed Holling-

sworth), who when younger played the heroic Alien Avenger in a cult series. Passed over for a role in the new sequel, he is now reduced to attending conventions, where he signs posters at $25 a pop. Tyler invites Kerry to dinner with his Alien Avenger filmmaking friends. She is thrilled and her phone message never reaches Jordan. A subplot involves comic book creator wannabes writer Audrina (Lorina Alfaro) and her friend and illustrator Trey (M. Keala Milles), who claims to be bisexual. Trey makes the rounds, pitching his drawings, to no avail. Other geeks are played by Devon Hollingsworth and

THE MUSICAL THROUGH AUGUST 16 Thursdays & Fridays 8 p.m., Saturdays 6 & 9 p.m.

ion theatre company Sixth & Pennsylvania in Hillcrest Tickets $15 – $25 or 619-600-5020

Dakota Ringer. The unevenly gifted company works very hard to please. It’s a sweet stor y with numerous subplots and songs such as “Geek to Geek,” “Woman in Sci-Fi,” “Bi Guy” and “Who’s

Who of Dr. Who.” The music is generic, var ying little in tempo and presentation, and perhaps by tongue-in-cheek intent, set up with clunky dialogue as introduction. You don’t have to be a geek to get the 80-minute intermissionless show, but sadly much of the humor flew over audience heads July 10. The show is much funnier than it plays. Certainly ComicCon attendees will be more fully in tune with the work. The producers plan additional shows during the convention, which runs July 24 – 27 at the San Diego Convention Center. The best musicians in the company are LeClair and longtime San Diego musical theatre stalwart Ed Hollingsworth, who is progenitor, along with his wife Marian, of an entire gaggle of talented kids, among them Morgan. A veteran of Starlight, Moonlight, and San Diego Musical Theatre (a touching General Waverly in the recent “White Christmas”), he is the solid heart of the show. Scenic designer is Ron Logan, who suggests the entire convention with a few deft touches and some posters. Mary Summerday’s costumes are a hoot, especially the Hollingsworths’ Avenger get-ups. “Geeks! The Musical” performances continue through August 16. Showtimes 8 p.m. Thursdays – Fridays, 6 and 9 p.m. on Saturdays, with additional Comic-Con week performances found on web site BlkBox is located at ion theatre company, Sixth & Pennsylvania, Hillcrest. Tickets $15 – $25, 619600-5020, ext. 10. — Charlene Baldridge has been writing about the arts since 1979. Her book “San Diego, Jewel of the California Coast” (Northland Publishing) is currently available in bookstores. She can be reached at

DINING A seafood restaurant sporting a tackle-shop theme is coming to Normal Heights by early fall under the name Beerfish. The project is being launched by Abel Kaase, who also owns Sessions Public in Point Loma. No word yet on who will run the kitchen, but we know that Bells & Whistles is overseeing the design, which has made its mark on Sycamore Den in Normal Heights and The Smoking Goat in North Park. 2933 Adams Ave.

A breakfast sandwich from the new brunch menu at Amici’s East Coast Pizzeria (Courtesy Berkman Strategic Communications)

Brunch alert: Amici’s East Coast Pizzeria in Hillcrest and La Jolla has launched a new breakfast-lunch menu available from 10 a.m. to 2 p.m., Saturdays and Sundays. Among the new items are “pizzaritos,” which allow customers to choose pizza sauces and toppings that ultimately end up inside a burrito. There’s also a new egg-topped breakfast sandwich filled with ricotta and baby arugula dressed in lemon vinaigrette. Pizzas, omelets and other hearty fare round out the list. 3958 Fifth Ave., 619-2601111; and 811 Prospect St., 858-729-9988. With a huge following under his belt, Hanis Cavin of Carnitas’ Snack Shack in North Park is gearing to open a second location Aug. 15 in the Del Mar Highlands Town Center. Cavin says the menu will be the same, but with the additions of a seasonal salad and an artichoke-zucchini frittata sandwich. His famous “triple threat” pork sandwich remains. Unlike the North Park walk-up at 2632 University Ave., which features patio seating only, the new outpost will offer indoor dining. Additionally, a third, smaller location of the eater y is due to open Downtown next spring, at Broadway and Harbor Drive. 12873 El Camino Real, Del Mar,

GAY SAN DIEGO July 25–Aug 7, 2014 Chef Riccardo Heredia’s departure from Alchemy in South Park has put Chef de Cuisine Troy Oftedal in charge of the kitchen. Menu changes are coming “down the road,” said owner Ron Troyano. But in the meantime, Oftedal continues creating three-course vegan menus available the last Wednesday of every month. As for Heredia, he left his post to pursue national television gigs. 1503 30th St., 619-255-0616.


A couple of San Diego-born eateries have entered into the national spotlight because of their ongoing expansions. MSN Money’s “Inside the Ticker” recently cited Burger Lounge as the one of the six emerging chain eateries in the countr y. Famous for its grass-fed beef patties, the company currently operates a total of 12 locations locally and in Los Angeles. Several new outlets throughout Southern California are planned over the next few years.

Another familiar name, Tender Greens, also made the MSN list. With four locations in San Diego and more than a dozen others throughout California, it plans on nearly doubling its presence in the state to 30 locations by 2016. The list also cited the waffle-sandwich eatery known as Bruxie, which arrived recently to 5157 College Ave. from Orange County. The company is reportedly eyeing more locations locally as well as in Los Angeles and Las Vegas.

Bruxie’s waffle sandwiches have made their way to San Diego (Courtesy Bruxie) The operators of Cellar Door underground supper club, Gar y McIntire and Logan Mitchell, have secured a space in North Park to open Native Spirits later this year. The venture combines a retail section for beer, wine and spirits with a bar and restaurant in the back, where “soft-spirit” cocktails will be served. “We’ll be utilizing all kinds of bitters and alcohol products in our drinks that are under-used in the cocktail world, such as Port, vermouth and beer,” said McIntire, adding that he’ll stock the retail section with specialty small-batch spirits such as local gin from the upcoming Old Harbor Distilling in the East Village. In addition, the couple has tapped the locally based catering company, Spanglish Eats, to run the kitchen. The menu will feature Latin-inspired fusion dishes. The address is currently occupied by Awash Ethiopian Restaurant and Market, which is slated to move down the street in a few months. 2884 El Cajon Blvd., —Frank Sabatini Jr. can be reached at

Spirits expert Gary McIntire

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GAY SAN DIEGO July 25–Aug 7, 2014

(clockwise from left) UTC’s Veggie Grill staff hard at work on the “yumbelievable” food; harvest bowl with soy sausage; crispy orange-glazed cauliflower (Photos by Frank Sabatini Jr.)

Mainstream VEGAN cuisine

If for some far-fetched reason I ever give up meat and dairy, Veggie Grill is where I’ll run for conversion therapy. Until its recent arrival to University Town Center shopping mall and the Costco Center in Carlsbad, vegan restaurants in San Diego have remained largely anchored to inconspicuous storefronts in hipster neighborhoods. The Irvinebased Veggie Grill breaks that esoteric mold with 25 high-profile locations scattered along the West Coast as well as a colorful design possessing the splashy allure of a modern burger chain. The food is bright and makes a lasting impression with convincing faux meats and creamy, flavorful

sauces. In regards to fried items, such as orange-glazed crispy cauliflower coated tastefully in panko crumbs, or skin-on Yukon Gold French fries, the kitchen uses rice bran oil, a monounsaturated fat touted for containing enzymes that help clear toxins from our livers. Proteins such as “chicken” and “steak” are made with soybeans, wheat and peas, which the menu states are “non-GMO whenever possible.” There’s also smoky tempeh that serves as the bacon on a fabulously rich B.T.L.A. sandwich. The bread is toasted on a flame grill. And with the additions of avocado, vegan aioli and cilantro pesto tucked inside, the sandwich rivals most conventional versions.

The Buffalo-style chicken strips, served plated or over chopped salad, come so close to tasting like poultry that customers have been known to question whether they originated from a coop or the soil. A vegan friend and I ate them draped over a medley of fresh romaine, celery, avocado and roasted corn salsa. The ranch dressing in the mix tasted a little weak but it added substantial creaminess. Known as the “B-wing salad,” it’s among Veggie Grill’s top sellers. The “All-American stack” on a wheat bun contains what appeared like skirt steak. The sandwich’s overall construct, however, tasted closer to a juicy old-fashioned burger, thanks to vegan Thousand Island dressing teaming up with pickles, lettuce, tomatoes and crispy onion rings. Among the best sauce in the house is vegan Southwestern mayo drizzled over char-grilled corn on the cob. It’s thick, spicy and seemingly cream-based. The sweet, summer kernels came dusted with cilantro and soy “Parmesan cheese” that smelled and tasted like the real deal. We were fascinated. Another titillating sauce, gingermiso, turned a bowl of plain ole steamed kale into a palatable appetizer that I might have otherwise ignored in lieu of vegan mac-ncheese with rice pasta or “mondo nachos” blitzed with soy cream, jalapenos and crumbled veggie proteins. When shoving dark, leafy greens down my gullet, this is exactly how I want them, flavored with a tangy, velvety dressing. The starter list also features



seasonal herb-roasted veggies, which we didn’t try. But given the sturdy grill flavor we detected in everything else, I’m guessing these are no plain Janes. From the menu’s “bowls + plates” section, you’ll find crispy “chicken” accompanied by mashed potatoes and porcini mushroom gravy; Baja “fish” tacos; and marinated Portobello skewers ser ved with lavash bread and tzatziki sauce. We opted for the “harvest bowl” adorned with fairly convincing sausage that’s spiked with sage, fennel and apples. The best component in the dish was the mushroommiso gravy, which complimented the inclusion of gluten-free “super grains” strewn throughout the bowl. The grains blend together millet, buckwheat, quinoa and brown rice, adding a good dose of clean protein and amino acids as well as an engaging, nutty texture. It’s unclear whether Veggie Grill will open additional locations closer to San Diego’s city core, but UTC general manager Chris Radle said that consumers drive up from places like Hillcrest and North Park “all the time” to partake in the eatery’s healthy meals, which manage to taste delightfully sinful at times. For sure, the desserts will fool you into thinking that dair y is lurking in the recipes. The house-made chocolate pudding mimics its whole-milk counterpart with silken tofu folded into melted chocolate chips and cocoa powder. Like the dynamic carrot cake moistened with apple sauce and crowned with vegan cream

Veggie Grill 4353 La Jolla Village Dr. (University City)

858-458-0031 Prices: Appetizers and salads, $3.50 to $10.50; bowls, sandwiches and entrees, $7.95 to $9.95 Grilled corn with spicy mayo (Courtesy Veggie Grill)

cheese frosting, it’s sweetened with a little bit of cane juice. Organic iced teas, fresh lemonade, wine and craft beer are also in the offing. Meals are ordered at the counter in eyeshot of an open kitchen before they’re delivered to your table. The staff is enthusiastic and knowledgeable about the food, claiming they’ve heard many carnivores like myself express aloud that they could easily eat dishes like these more often. —Frank Sabatini Jr. is the author of “Secret San Diego” (ECW Press), and began his local writing career two decades ago as a staffer for the former San Diego Tribune. He has since covered the culinary scene and other subjects for various print and broadcast media outlets in the area. You can reach him at fsabatini@




Dungy’s ‘distraction’

Former NFL coach Tony Dungy got in some hot water with comments about Michael Sam, above. (Twitter) If you were involved in any of the San Diego Pride activities last weekend, you probably did not hear the disappointing words attributed to former National Football League head coach Tony Dungy regarding the NFL’s first openly gay player, Michael Sam. “I wouldn’t have taken him,’’ Dungy told the Tampa Tribune for their July 20 story about locker room culture. “Not because I don’t believe Michael Sam should have a chance to play, but I wouldn’t want to deal with all of it.” The “it” he was referring to, as it turns out, is the additional attention a team drafting Sam would have to deal with from the media. Dungy’s words generated a firestorm of criticism from both fans and media, especially on social media. On July 22, Dungy tried to explain his comments. He noted that at the time he was interviewed (two days after the St. Louis Rams drafted Sam), the rookie defensive end still had plans to take part in a seasonlong television reality show with the Oprah Winfrey Network (OWN). In calling the media attention surrounding Sam an unwanted “distraction,” Dungy claimed he was including the unusual television show attention (plans for the show were cancelled within a week of the draft due to a hugely negative reaction to the announcement.) He also posted the following comment on his Twitter account (@TonyDungy): “Just got back from family vacation on the Ore coast. Appreciate everyone who has communicated support, Esp the Christian community. Thanks!” Dungy’s faith is no secret. He is very public about his beliefs, and has been involved with groups that wanted to halt gay marriage legalization in Indiana. While everyone is entitled to their opinions, there are a few reasons why Dungy’s words should have kept quiet.

First, Dungy is an African-American ex-NFL player and coach. 20 years ago when Dungy was attempting to become one of the first black coaches to rise through the ranks, it could be argued that hiring him would also be a media “distraction.” If Dungy wanted to be a head coach in an organization that had never hired a black head coach, would he have decided not to interview, to spare the team the distraction? Of course not. Second, Dungy is a significant voice in the NFL. He is often asked to help troubled players (Michael Vick, for example) about how to behave or repair their image. He is an analyst on NBC’s Football Night in America every Sunday during the season. High-profile analysts rarely say things that will irritate NFL leadership, due to the financial relationship between television and the league. And finally, by thanking the Christian community, Dungy comes across as a bit naive. He had to have known that mentioning Christianity during a talking point involving homosexuality would just further expand the debate over his words, not quiet them down. What a television analyst and NFL personality wants in a case like this is for the debate to go away. Instead, Dungy stoked the fire, even as innocently as he did and even though it was well within his rights. The talented Ray Ratto (, referring to a team’s willingness to deal with distractions based on their skill level, offered this money quote in his July 22 column: “Even if you allow [Dungy] his stand that he has no issue with Sam’s homosexuality (despite his own history with groups who oppose it) ... the essential unfairness of Talent/Tolerance still crushes him underfoot.” Dungy’s words were an opinion and an honest one. Of course deal-

ing with the media is a headache. NFL teams and players get rich because of that media attention. It is part of the deal. The best franchises deal with it well (New England with Tebow, for example). If you are afraid to deal with media attention, you are in the wrong business. This Dungy story is going to calm down and go away, but it led me to discover another annoyance. Peter King did not address Dungy’s comments in either his Monday Morning Quarterback column, or his Tuesday Upon Further Review story. The two weekly columns are mustreads for NFL fans, and Peter King is basically the voice of the NFL within the media. Adam Schefter of ESPN breaks the stories, along with Chris Mortensen, but King is the columnist everyone turns to for the best access and opinions. King not addressing Dungy’s comments bothers me for a couple of reasons. King is also part of NBC’s Sunday Night Football show, making him a colleague of Dungy’s. He has never been shy about expressing his admiration for the man on Twitter as a friend. His only comments when asked on Twitter about Dungy? “It is a free country, but I do not agree.” Weak. King had no problem laying into Sam about his initial agreement to run the OWN television show. It is common knowledge that King is liberal in many of his political views, and he is in no way against Michael Sam. He ripped the agreement because he wanted Sam to live up to his own request — to be thought of only as any other football player, not a gay one — and not participate in a show that nobody else would entertain. Maybe King will eventually opine after some consideration. But the premiere media voice of the NFL should not take several days to craft a response to a boiling topic. Did he hold back because Dungy is a friend and colleague? True or not, it is fair game to perceive things that way. Had King written, Dungy would have listened. Ultimately, though, the bigger problem is what Dungy said. He influences current coaches. As an ESPN columnist argued, Dungy has now given organizations an excuse not to draft a gay player. Instead of admitting any bigotry, the team can hide behind the weak excuse that they do not want the added media attention. Keith Olbermann of ESPN took Dungy to the cleaners immediately, chiding him for his words during his television show on consecutive nights. King should have done the same thing. —Jeff Praught is actively involved in the LGBT sports community, where he plays in the local softball (AFCSL), football (SDAFFL) and basketball (SD Hoops) leagues. He has served on AFCSL’s board of officers in various capacities and is currently the commissioner of SD Hoops. He can be reached at

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Friday, July 25

House of Styles ComicCon Drag Show: A superhero drag show with special guests and go-go dancers. $5 cover, 7 p.m. Numbers, 3811 Park Blvd., Hillcrest. Fridays on Fifth: Sponsored by the Hillcrest Business Association a weekly Friday happy hour event encouraging people to “eat drink and shop” from 4 – 9 p.m. on Fifth Avenue between Brookes Avenue and Washington Street. For more info, visit fridaysonfifth. com. Clive Barker erotica: Come see the erotic artwork of Clive Barker — the legendary master of horror (“Hellraiser”) — who also has an exhibition of his fantasy works at Comic-Con this weekend. Called “Parade,” this special exhibition launches tonight from 7 – 9 p.m. Cocktails will be served. Alexander Salazar Fine Art, 1040 Seventh Ave., Downtown. Tickets or more visit or call 619-531-8996.

Saturday, July 26

Beach clean-up: Join the Gay for Good gang for their July volunteer event, cleaning up Coronado Beach with the Surfrider organization. Meet at the beach at the end of Isabella Avenue. 8:50 – 11 a.m. For more info search for the “Gay for Good” group on Facebook. SDPix 12 Year Anniversary Party: Celebrate with complimentary cake and champagne 10 – 11 p.m., red carpet photo shoot, and music by DJ Taj. Rich’s, 1051 University Ave., Hillcrest. Painting and Vino: Local professional artists instruct attendees on painting a masterpiece. Today – “Shaken Not Stirred” at Jake’s on 6th, 3755 Sixth St., Hillcrest. Cost $45, all supplies included, registration required. Corkage fee $10 if you bring your own wine. 5 – 8 p.m. 21+. For more info, visit Comic-Con Underwear Night: Celebrate Comic-Con weekend by wearing your favorite super hero or sci-fi character underwear. 10 p.m., San Diego Eagle, 3040 North Park Way, North Park. Superhero Walkabout: It’s the 50th walkabout for the South Park Business Group and since it coincides with Comic Con, the theme is “Let’s get geeky” and they are embracing superheroes, sci-fi, fantasy and overall nerdiness. Come enjoy special events,

displays, flash mobs, a photo booth, special discounts for those in costume and more. 6 – 10 p.m. Free. On 30th Street between Kalmia and Beech Streets. For more info visit

Sunday, July 27

Sing Along Brunch: Enjoy the new brunch menu while singing along with memorable pop culture tunes. 10 a.m. – 2 p.m. Gossip Grill, 1220 University Ave., Hillcrest Bare: A Pop Opera: Contemporary rock musical about teens in a Catholic boarding school exploring identity, sexuality, and religion. 8 p.m. Diversionary Theatre, 4545 Park Blvd., Normal Heights. Tickets diversionary. org or call 619-220-0097.

Monday, July 28

Movie Monday: “The Simpsons Movie” is this week’s screening at 7 p.m in the Ex-Patriate Room at Croce’s Park West, 2760 Fifth Ave., Bankers Hill. Call 619233-4355 or visit crocesparkwest. com – FREE with food or drink purchase.

Tuesday, July 29

Leigh Scarritt presents “Stars of the Future”: Young performers showcase musical talents. Doors 5:30 p.m., show 7:30 p.m., Martinis Above Fourth, 3940

Woods” debuted at The Old Globe nearly three decades ago and weaves together reinventions of beloved fairy tale masterpieces. After the show enjoy an informal question-and-answer session with cast members. 7 p.m. Tickets start at $29. Donald and Darlene Shiley Stage. 1363 Old Globe Way. Tickets or 619-23-GLOBE.

Wednesday, July 30

HBA Quarterly Open House and Mixer: Get to know your neighbors and things happening in your neighborhood. Guest speaker: Mike Mance of Mance Creative will talk about the importance of branding and marketing for small businesses. Drinks and appetizers provided. RSVP to 5:30 – 6:30 p.m., Pappalecco, 3650 Fifth Ave., Hillcrest. Dine and Make a Difference: Join The Center’s AIDS Walk team for a late lunch or dinner and 20 percent of sales generated (excluding tax and alcohol) from dine-in and to-go meal purchases will be donated to AIDS Walk. Boudin, 7007 Friars Rd., Fashion Valley Shopping Center. Visit Bitchy Bingo: Hosted by Kiki and Ophelia every Wednesday. Play for goodies and prizes. No cover, food minimum: $15. Lips San Diego, Lips, 3036 El Cajon Blvd., North Park. Visit

Thursday, July 31

Fourth Ave., Hillcrest. Tickets visit Lesbian Meet-up: New weekly early morning business networking meeting, offering a chance to share and support each other’s business or passions. All lesbians in community are invited. 7:30 – 8:30 a.m. Caffe Calabria, 3933 30th St., North Park. Spaghetti & Showtunes: When was the last time you had an all-you-can-eat plate of fabulous spaghetti for a mere $6? Now that’s a bargain. 5 p.m. – 2 a.m., every Tuesday. Urban MO’s, 308 University Ave., Hillcrest Visit “Into the Woods” with Q&A: Described as “funny, poignant and truly enchanting,” Stephen Sondheim’s awardwinning masterpiece “Into the

Comedian Dana Goldberg “Crossing the Line” Tour: Named one of the top three LGBT comedians in the country by Catch her new show for one night only. Doors 6 p.m., show 8 p.m., Martinis Above Fourth, 3940 Fourth Ave., Hillcrest. For tickets and more visit Wine & “Pageant” at Cygnet: Enjoy a complimentary pre-show wine tasting from Hacienda de las Rosas Winery before seeing “Pageant,” the hilariously funny musical directed by James Vasquez. The audience crowns a different winner every night. Pageant plays through Aug 31. 4040 Twiggs St., Old Town. Tickets 619-337-1525 or

Friday, August 1

“This One Girl’s Story”: A staged reading of the play by Bil Wright inspired by the murder hate crime of 15 year old Sakia Gunn in Newark, New Jersey in 2003. Free. 7 p.m., The Center,

3909 Centre St., Hillcrest. Visit Live Music: David Koz and Friends Summer Horns Tour featuring Mindi Abair, Gerald Albright, and Richard Elliot. 7:30 p.m. Humphreys Concerts by the Bay, 2241 Shelter Island Drive. For tickets and more visit

Saturday, August 2

Tequila Club: First Saturday of the month. Taste up to six different tequilas and socialize. 4 – 6 p.m., Baja Betty’s, 1421 University Ave., Hillcrest.

Country Nights: Every Thursday and Saturday night come check out the cowboys and cowgirls as they spin across the floor, join in or even take free lessons. All skill levels encouraged. Drink specials. 7 – 8:30 p.m.

Sunday, August 3

Painting and Vino: Local professional artists instruct attendees on painting a masterpiece. Today – “Moon Bird Wire” at Jake’s on 6th, 3755 Sixth St., Hillcrest. 5 – 8 p.m. 21+. Cost $45, all supplies included, registration required. Corkage fee $10 if you bring your own wine. For more info, visit Bare: A Pop Opera: Final performance of a contemporary rock musical about identity, sexuality, and religion. 8 p.m. Diversionary Theatre, 4545 Park Blvd., Normal Heights. Tickets or call 619-2200097. “Feminist: Stories From Women’s Liberation” a Film by Jennifer Lee: Documentary of the women who made the Women’s Liberation Movement happen. 4 p.m., Women’s Museum of California, 2730 Historic Decatur Rd, Barracks 16, Liberty Station. Visit

Monday, August 4

Broke Ass Mondays: Happy hour cocktails and food $4 all night. 2 p.m. to close,

every Monday. Urban MO’s, 308 University Ave., Hillcrest Visit Transgender Coming Out Group: Welcoming transgender people in all stages of exploring their gender identity and their friends, family and loved ones. 7 – 8:30 p.m. San Diego LGBT Center, 3909 Centre St., Hillcrest. For more info visit

Tuesday, August 5

Community Food Distribution: The first Tuesday of the month, receive emergency food, pre-screen for Food Stamps and sign up for a range of other services, including employment and medical and well as low-cost utility programs. The Center, 3909 Centre St., Hillcrest. Visit TheCenterSD. org and Painting and Vino: Local professional artists instruct attendees on painting a masterpiece. Tonight – “Albuquerque Mountain Range” at 98 Bottles in Little Italy, 2400 Kettner Blvd. 6 – 9 p.m. 21+ up. Cost $45, all supplies included, registration required. Corkage fee $15 if you bring your own wine. For more info, visit

Wednesday, August 6

Painting and Vino: Local professional artists instruct attendees on painting a masterpiece. Today – “Lotus Birds” at 98 Bottles in Little Italy, 2400 Kettner Blvd. 6 – 9 p.m. 21+. Cost is $45, all supplies included, but registration is required. Corkage fee $15 if you bring your own wine. For more info, visit Pictionary: Come play with Tiger … and Sister Ida Know on the back patio. Match your skills, win fun prizes and raise money for a good causes. 7:30 – 10 p.m. #1 on Fifth, 3845 Fifth Ave. in Hillcrest.

Thursday, August 7

Jake Simpson in “Isn’t He Lovely”: A look back at the wondrous musical life of Stevie Wonder. Doors 6 p.m., show 8 p.m. Martinis Above Fourth, 3940 Fourth Ave., Hillcrest. Tickets visit

“Into the Woods”: Described as “funny, poignant and truly enchanting,” Stephen Sondheim’s award-winning masterpiece “Into the Woods” debuted at The Old Globe nearly three decades ago and weaves together reinventions of beloved fairy tale masterpieces. 7 p.m. Tickets start at $29. Donald and Darlene Shiley Stage. 1363 Old Globe Way. Tickets or 619-23-GLOBE.t


RUE DE FLEURUS Across 1 Perfect serves from Mauresmo 5 Popular variety of nuts 10 Sucker or suckee? 14 Kid needing a butt-whipping 15 “___ ear, and out the other” 16 Meat that goes in your boxers 17 Lorca’s house 18 Utopia and Shangri-la 19 Inconsequential upturn 20 Expat that moved to Paris 23 Killed, to King James 24 Fast flier of old 25 “Got it” 26 “How may ___ of service?” 28 Inventor’s monogram 30 Fruit juice cocktail 34 “CHiPs” costar Erik 39 With 40-Across, partner of 20-Across 40 See 39-Across 41 That’s bull, to Gloria Anzaldua 42 Theater opening?

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Rue De Fleurus solution on page 12 Down 1 “Modern Family” network 2 Rugged rocks 3 O’Keeffe’s stand 4 Rubberneck 5 Docking site 6 Top? 7 Some student bodies 8 Bening of “American Beauty” 9 Monster’s loch 10 Kate Clinton’s “___ in Joyland” 11 Stan’s straight man 12 Give a piece of one’s mind 13 Blow 21 How often Santa checks his list 22 Connect with 27 Kiddie-lit elephant 29 Husband of a Duke 30 Satisfied fully 31 “___ Paris” 32 Alan Ball and Jodie Foster 33 “The Name of the Rose” writer

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EDITORIAL ways been here and we will always be here! Yes we are proud, gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender people of America … and we helped built this great nation. We are not only celebrating

beatings, fire bombs, hate crimes, and killings. And yes we survived those early dark years of AIDS when we were all alone and dying … and yet even in those dark times we showed a loving and compassionate community, full of love and giving of ourselves to others. And yet in this 2014 there are those who are still working night and day to deny us our rights.

Nicole Murray Ramirez (top right) addresses the crowd at the Stonewall Rally while a banner with the names of deceased, LGBT activists is held up for all to see. (Photo by SDCNN) the 40th anniversary of San Diego Pride, but the 45th anniversary of the Stonewall riots; when drag queens, bull dykes, sissies, transsexuals, lesbians and gays fought back against police brutality … and yet sadly even today, many of our community and movement feel “uncomfortable” with drag queens, butch lesbians, leather, and our transgendered brothers and sisters. Many still even argue today if they should really have a place at our LGBT table. Well I say to them on this 45th anniversary of Stonewall … we drag queens, dykes, and transgender people … built that fucken table! Reflections of Pride ... I stand before you today as a proud, brown, rainbow activist of over 45 years; an organizer, a senior citizen, a Catholic … yes a some-time drag queen, a voter and yes a long time survivor and I still have some fight in me … because we still have a long ways to go before we reach that mountain top of equality. We have survived the Joe McCarthy era and the witch hunts, the decades that just with a stroke of a pen parents and judges sent us to mental hospitals where we were subjected to electrical shock treatments. We have survived Anita Bryant and John Briggs and their homophobic hate filled campaigns. We have survived anti-gay referendums and every homophobic attack against us including

When our first black President was elected there were 150 extreme right-wing groups, now there are more than 1,000! So I have a message to those Duck Dynasty-shooting, tea partydrinking, and Fox network-watching people … history is on our side … for the LGBT fight for equality is the last American civil rights movement of the 21st century, and we are winning! But let us never forget that we have never been in this fight alone. I thank God for our many straight allies and supportive families. But my message to you today is that we MUST continue to build stronger coalitions and bridges to other communities and progressive causes. The pro-choice, Planned Parenthood, woman’s equal pay is our fight too … the killing of Trayvon Martin is our outrage too … the anti-war and never again sending our young men and women overseas to die should be our cause too … we must stand with those who are trying to stop the right wing efforts to suppress the voting rights of minority voters. Our elected gay and lesbian officials are leading the way. The issue of homelessness our State Assembly Speaker Toni Atkins will tell you is our issue too. Decent pay and those struggling in poverty our Council President Todd Gloria will tell you is our issue too. The bullying of any child our School Board

President Kevin Beiser will tell you is our cause too. The protection of the environment Super visor Dave Roberts will tell you is our issue too. Getting guns and all hate crimes off the streets our District Attorney Bonnie Dumanis will you is our cause too. The mistreatment and unacceptable medical care of some of our veterans is all our issue too. And lastly, we the LGBT community join millions of Americans who are outraged and angry with those attacking and trying to dehumanize those immigrant children and families. SHAME on you. We also have a message to all those religious right wing extremists. Last Saturday CNN released a national survey and study. Listen well: The children of same sex couples were found healthier and happier than their counterparts.

GAY SAN DIEGO July 25–Aug 7, 2014 GLBT families are indeed true family values. In closing, I have a message for our LGBT youth, students, young adults, teens … your community is so proud of you. You are so out, brave, fierce, and prideful … more than my generation could ever have been. Don’t ever accept people telling you that, “you are our future.” HELL NO you are our ‘here and now’! Yes, for the torch of activism has been passed to you, our next generation of LGBT activist and leaders, and I know that that you will carry that torch of equality to the mountain top. So I say to you again: A community — indeed a movement — that does not know where it came from, does not really know where it’s going.


Reflections of Pride; for only when you have walked through the deepest and darkest valley, will you know how magnificent the view is on the highest mountain. My dear brothers and sisters, this old queen may not reach that mountain of equality with you, but I know that because of you, our younger generation, it will be reached! Si Se puede! Thank you. God Bless you all.t

(Photo by SDCNN)


GAY SAN DIEGO July 25–Aug 7, 2014

A snapshot of San Diego



Photos by SDCNN

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