Volume 4 Issue 26 Dec. 27, 2013–Jan. 9, 2014
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SERVING OUR LGBT COMMUNITY
A look back at 2013
Top 10 events affecting the LGBT community at large Lisa Keen | Keen News Service
A lesbian in oppressive Cuba
Members of The Center’s “50 or Better” group (above) and other LGBT seniors in San Diego will soon be able to live in housing that supports and affirms them. (Courtesy The San Diego LGBT Center)
An opportunity to live with dignity CHW to open LGBT-affirming senior complex in North Park Hutton Marshall | GSD Assistant Editor
If it sounds like a duck
Stopping in for Wings
The year in sports
INDEX BRIEFS.…………………6 FOODIE FLASHES……………8
Nonprofit developers Community HousingWorks (CHW) recently unveiled plans for an LGBT-affirmative senior housing complex in North Park. With aims to break ground as early as 2016, the 501(c)(3) organization has set its sights on the intersection of Texas Street and Howard Avenue. Due largely to a study released by The San Diego LGBT Center, CHW identified LGBT seniors in San Diego as a particularly vulnerable demographic in need of welcoming, affordable living spaces. Among the unique challenges and inequalities faced by LGBT “baby boomers” as they enter their later years are isolation, insufficient medical treatment and an unwelcoming senior care environment, according to the “LGBT San Diego’s Trailblazing Generation” study. “Not only do they face the age discrimination that their non-LGBT counterparts face, but they must also navigate the legacy of a senior
care system that often returns them to invisibility and isolation and unfortunately rewards their lifetime of hard work with unequal treatment under its laws, programs and services,” the study stated. The study also showed LGBT Americans are less likely than non-LGBT seniors to have a familybased support network as they enter their later years, primarily due to the fact that they are both more likely to be single and less likely to have children. The Center will partner with CHW to provide programs for the living complex and surrounding area that encourage a social, active and healthy lifestyle in an LGBTsupporting way. “We’re very enthusiastic about this collaborative project,” stated The Center’s CEO Dr. Delores Jacobs in a press release. “LGBT seniors have very few options for affirming and supportive housing — and for our low-income seniors, the situation is even more difficult. This project will provide a significant step in the direction of
A time to thrive Addressing the diverse spokes in an LGBT child’s life
Morgan M. Hurley | GSD Editor
Local resident Vinnie Pompei has been enhancing the lives of children for well over a decade. Bullied himself as a child, he has also dedicated his life to empowering LGBT youth. Pompei spent nine years as a middle school English teacher, was founder and president of a Riverside County PFLAG chapter that focused on children as much as parents and friends, became a high school counselor, is currently finishing up his tenure as president of the California School Counselor’s Association, and in 2010, Pompei helped launch the CESCaL Supporting Students Saving Lives (SSSL) conference that empowered the counselors and educators of K-12 children.
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making sure LGBT seniors in San Diego can live with dignity. The fact that it’s a CHW development makes it even more exciting, as it gives us full confidence that it will be a safe, supportive, well-planned project that anyone would be proud to live in.” CHW’s decision to build the community in North Park also caters to the idea of creating an LGBT-affirming environment for these seniors. Many LGBT baby boomers have found a socialsupport system in the historically progressive and LGBT-friendly neighborhoods of Hillcrest and North Park, according to CHW executives. Unfortunately, due to their recent upsurge in development and popularity, rent has increased significantly in these areas, and seniors are often the most susceptible to being priced out. An affordable housing solution would enable LGBT seniors to maintain their socially familiar environment vital in one’s later years.
see LGBTHousing, pg 3
That San Diego-based conference grew exponentially over a four-year period and saw Pompei’s role expand from volunteer to conference co-chair, to chair, and the only paid staff member of the nonprofit that is part of SDSU’s School Counseling Graduate Program. Unfortunately funding for the annual conference dried up earlier this year just when momentum for this type of outreach was at an all-time high. Luckily, the Human Rights Campaign (HRC) had bigger plans in store and the perfect place for Pompei to … well, thrive. On February 14 – 16, Pompei will again be at the helm when the HRC Foundation, in partnership with the National Education Association (NEA) and the American Counseling Association (ACA) launches their inaugural “Time to THRIVE” conference, at Bally’s Resort and Casino in Las Vegas. The HRC Foundation hired Pompei earlier this year as director of the Youth Well Being Project, and identified the national “Time to THRIVE” conference as its anchor. In part because of Pompei’s connection and the timing of this new conference, people will see similarities in them, but Pompei says despite the
Even before 2013 began, everyone knew what the big news story for 2013 would be. The U.S. Supreme Court had, in December 2012, agreed to hear to two high-profile marriage cases: One testing the right of the federal government to refuse equal benefits to same-sex married couples, and the other testing the right of a state to ban same-sex couples from marrying. What no one knew for sure was how the court would rule. And speculation in December 2012 was all over the map. Even long-time court observers who routinely cautioned against predicting how the court might rule couldn’t resist predicting how the court might rule. There was unprecedented media attention and public interest in the oral arguments, held on successive days in March. And then, on June 26, the court ruled. The results were not everything the LGBT community wished for but they were far more than many in the community expected to see in their lifetime. Those two rulings alone made 2013 perhaps the “Best year ever for the LGBT Movement” toward equal rights in this country. Their impact was deep and wide, politically, symbolically, and literally. But there were other breathtaking developments — including the unexpected — that secured 2013 as the most successful year in the movement’s seven decades of organized struggle. Here are our picks: No. 10: The U.S. Senate gets its first openly gay member. U.S. Rep. Tammy Baldwin, a seven-term congressmemeber from
see 2013, pg 9
(l to r) Vinnie Pompei, Carol Bolton and Max Disposti, all recently honored by KPBS and Union Bank as “Local Heroes.” (Photo by Melissa Jacobs) many parallels, they are very different. “[CESCaL] was an educator conference,” Pompei said. “It was more regional and this conference engages a much broader audience.” With a theme of “home, school and community,” organizers say “Time to THRIVE” is reaching
see Helping, pg 3
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HELPING out to adults who work with LGBT children in every capacity and inviting them to come empower themselves and as a result, those children. “That might be staff at the boys and girls clubs, the YMCA, acquatic instructors, K-12 educators, pediatricians, social workers, child welfare agency staff, parents and families, or anyone who has a passion for this and want to be a better advocate or voice in their community,” Pompei said. Leadership teams from both the ACA — including its president — and the NEA will be in attendance, as well as state affiliate leaders. Pompei said the entire leadership of the California Teacher’s Association will also be there — not as speakers — to learn, engage and attend the workshops, themselves, to enhance their cultural competency. “If the adults in these young [LGBT] people’s lives were equipped with the type of knowledge we’ll be able to provide at this conference, I don’t think we would see the disparities that we see in this youth population,” Pompei said. The direct result of the data gleamed from a recent HRC survey on LGBT children and their families, Pompei said the survey created a “call to action” when the organization realized they needed to do something with all the information and data the survey produced. According to the HRC website, the HRC Foundation — its 501 (3) (c) arm — “improves the lives of lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) people by working to increase understanding and encourage the adoption of LGBT – inclusive policies and practices.” “The HRC Foundation already had ‘welcoming schools,’ and a ‘coming out guide,’ and a ‘transgender visibility guide’ and being a straight ally guide,’” Pompei said. “Then they looked at the results of the survey and said, ‘how do we use all of this to empower and educate?’” The answer was to create the Youth Well Being Project and “Time to THRIVE.” In addition to home, school and community, the inclusion, safety and well being of LGBT children will also be a major focus, according to Pompei. “Overall well being is a new component,” Pompei said. “I call it the diverse spokes in a child’s life, because it really does take a village to raise these kids, we can’t just equip the educators. It must be the community as a whole to ensure these young people can thrive.” “Time to THRIVE” will follow a typical conference format; with general sessions, break-out sessions, exhibitors, national experts, speakers — both professional and youth — and offer attendees time to grasp, network and process all they have learned. There will be literally dozens of workshops addressing such
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relevant topics as orientation and gender, faith, inclusion, laws and advocacy, HIV risks, coping strategies, reparative therapy, and many, many more. Chelsea Clinton — daughter of both former president Bill Clinton and former secretary of state Hillary Clinton, and vice chair of the Clinton Foundation — will be giving “send off” remarks to attendees during the Closing Plenary session. Pompei said he follows Clinton on social media and knew she was the perfect fit. “She will connect with the audience, which will be mostly allyidentified or what I call ‘emerging allies,’ because they are learning to be an ally,” Pompei said. “An ally is more about just calling yourself supportive, I usually make that very clear. Just because you support gay marriage doesn’t mean you can add ally to your name. You really have to know how to advocate. What works, what do you say, what do you do. I think [Chelsea Clinton] is one of those. She is a true ally — she is informed, she has expertise, she engages with this topic and she is passionate about it — when we asked her it was an immediate yes.” Pompei said Clinton will not only launch the group back into their communities, but will ask them to process and dissect what they have learned all weekend and ask questions of her. “It’s vitally important we create opportunities for young people to raise their voices, develop their talents, and join in the work of imagining and then building a better future for us all,” Clinton said in remarks posted on the HRC website. “Too many LGBTQ youth face significant challenges to being supported and empowered in their
communities, schools and even their homes because of who they are. I’m grateful ‘Time to THRIVE’ is bringing people together to raise awareness and find solutions to ensure every young person can be empowered for their future and ours.” Betty DeGeneres, a keynote speaker at the Feb. 2013 CESCaL conference, has signed on as part of the host committee for “Time to THRIVE.” Pompei said DeGeneres was HRC’s first national spokesperson for National Coming Out Day. Other special guest speakers include Earvin “EJ” Johnson III, the son of Magic and Cookie Johnson; Judy Shepard of the Matthew Shepard Foundation; HRC President Chad Griffin; labor leader and civil rights activist Dolores Huerta; and ESPN contributor LZ Granderson, among others who have yet to be announced. In addition, Pompei said each session of the conference will have an emphasis on stories of LGBT youth, featuring young speakers who have had to stand up for themselves. They will also be asked to tell the group what the adults in their lives did that worked and what they did that didn’t. Earlier this year Pompei was recognized by KPBS and Union Bank as a “Local Hero,” and honored at their annual ceremony in November, but said he feels the LGBT children he advocates for are the actual heroes. “It is a truly a dream come true to do this work for a living,” he said. Time to THRIVE will be held at Bally Resort and Casino in Las Vegas, Feb. 14–16. For a complete list of workshops, sponsors, host hotels, speakers and to purchase tickets, visit timetothrive.org.t
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“Kalos” on Florida Street in North Park is the most recent low-income community built by CHW. (Photo by Mark Davidson Photography) FROM PAGE 1
LGBTHOUSING “If they have support, this is where they have it,” said Anne Wilson, senior VP of housing and real estate development at CHW. “And if they have to move out to El Cajon or to Arizona to find more affordable housing, then they’re going to lose all of that.” The mixed-income development will include 76 apartments for low-income LGBT seniors, in addition to 118 market-rate multifamily homes. CHW solicited input from the North Park Planning Group’s urban design and project review subcommittee, and plans to submit a formal application to the City in January through the Affordable Housing Density Bonus program, which offers incentives to developers building affordable housing. In January of 2013, CHW completed Kalos, an environmentally friendly and affordable-
living rental community on Florida Street, also in North Park. Similar to Kalos, the future LGBT-based complex plans to rely partially on tax credits and publicly funded programs — although CHW will likely seek a for-profit partner this time around. Due to the lengthy application and approval process, the project has a significant way to go before breaking ground, according to CHW Vice President of Acquisitions Dave Gatzke. “All real estate development has long time horizons but when you bring in the affordable-financing layer, it adds even more time unfortunately,” Gatzke said. “Our best possible outcome would be groundbreaking in 2016, but I also want to be careful not to set expectations. It may not happen until 2019.” CHW plans to hold open house information sessions about the proposed development in early 2014 for members of the community. For more information, visit chworks.org.t
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Memory Mambo CALEB RAINEY OUT ON THE PAGE “Memor y Mambo” by Achy Obejas is a gorgeous novel that not only tells the stor y of Juani — a 24-year-old Cuban lesbian who has to navigate her family as well as a racist society — it also explores the histor y of Cuba, a little island that has preoccupied the United States for decades and still remains a topic in our national news. An immediately endearing and valuable aspect of this novel is that it tells historical events through the eyes of the young lesbian. Histor y — whether it is being told through fiction, poetr y, or non-fiction — is often told from the point of view of a heterosexual. When the stories of the founding of the U.S., slaver y, women gaining the right to vote, 9/11 or the Iraq War are told, they are almost always told from the vantage point of a straight person. It is as if LGBT people only experience historical events that are directly related to being LGBT, or as if we were only present at Stonewall and the historic marches on Washington, and then we suddenly disappeared when “real” mainstream histor y took place. Obejas is challenging this idea by writing queer Cubans
into histor y and inserting them into the larger stor y of Cuba’s political, social, and economic undertakings. This in itself is invaluable. As LGBT people we have often been erased from histor y, pushed into shadows and silenced. Fiction is one of the few places where LGBT people can reach back across time and “revise” the official stor y of a given event to include LGBT voices. Fiction can provide us with a glimpse of how the LGBT community might have experienced a wide range of historical events that we simply are not present for, at least according to the official record. Books like “Memor y Mambo” actively recreate historical memories to include LGBT voices. One aspect of Latino/a life that is explored in the novel is the role of national borders in the creation of families. Juani notes the difference between “blood” cousins born and often still residing in Cuba and those “in exile” — born or permanently residing in the U.S. She has to navigate this fractured, bi-national family and figure out how to be a part of it. Immigration and national borders have been a hot topic in the U.S. lately and it is critical that LGBT people pay attention. Immigration issues that are not connected to marriage are often not thought of as LGBT issues but narratives like Juani’s resist
that sort of easy dismissal. Her life experience insists that LGBT people think about the often damaging role that national borders play in families and asks LGBT people to do something about it. Another aspect of Latino/a life that is focused on the novel is colorism. Colorism differs from racism in significant ways, though both forms of oppression target similar people and have similar results. Racism is generally based on ancestr y and appearance. In the U.S., race is believed to include not just one’s skin color, but also their facial features, mannerisms, and often even culture and language. For example, we have all heard someone say that a person is acting like a certain race. So clearly in the U.S., race does not just mean the color of one’s skin, although it certainly includes skin color as part of its definition. Colorism on the other hand is much less concerned with ancestr y and more concerned with physical appearance. Colorism — which is also prevalent throughout the U.S. and Latin America — favors lighter skin and softer features and rewards those individuals, either economically or socially. In the novel, Juani’s mother acts under this system and at-
Vicky Sanchez: Our 2013 A. Brad Truax Award winner
tempts to “marr y up” by partnering with a ver y light-skinned Cuban man while she herself is darker skinned. Her hope is to have lighter children so that they will have more opportunities and an easier life overall. Colorism is not something that we often discuss in the U.S. and yet it has a grip on white people and communities of color. To get to the point, in order to achieve real racial justice in this countr y, we must battle both racism and colorism, and Obejas is urging LGBT people to be at the forefront of that effort. “Memor y Mambo” is a beautifully crafted novel that touches on histor y and politics and definitely belongs on your bookshelf. You can order the book online through sdliterar yfoundation. com — a non-profit bookstore in San Diego dedicated to promoting LGBT authors — where ever y book purchase goes toward helping preser ve our culture. —Caleb Rainey recently graduated with his master’s degree in cultural studies. He is a long-time social justice enthusiast and the founder and executive director of the San Diego Multicultural LGBT Literary Foundation. Contact him at email@example.com
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PROFILES IN ADVOCACY My late December/early January column is always exciting for me to write, because I get to highlight a champion in the HIV/ AIDS field. It has become a World AIDS Day (Dec. 1) tradition for the community to honor its members at the A. Brad Truax Awards. Named for Dr. Brad Truax, the top award given at the reception held in his memory is presented to an individual that embodies his spirit of compassionate advocacy for people living with HIV/AIDS. Virginia “Vicky” Sanchez, of San Ysidro Health Centers, seems a quiet woman when we first meet. It’s a rainy Thursday night at a noisy Chula Vista Starbucks, right in the thick of holiday shopping. Though soft of voice and small of stature, she exudes an air of calm and self-certainty in an otherwise frantic environment. Without preamble, she begins her story: “I began working with HIV patients in 1985, in Mexico at the Federal Government Hospital,
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Happy damn New Year!
LIFE BEYOND THERAPY As a new year approaches, many of us feel pretty damn depressed. Whether you’re partnered or alone, it’s tempting to imagine that everyone else is having more fun than you are. The truth is, you have no idea how happy or miserable anyone else is behind his or her façade. If you could sit in my chair and hear how unhappy many people are at this time of year, you’d stop envying other people immediately. There’s a great Phoebe Snow song whose line “December 31st is the very worst time of the year” sums up how many of us feel as New Year’s Eve approaches. So what can we do about it? Here are some ideas to make your New Year’s Eve as happy as possible: If other people appear to be going to lots of fun New Year’s Eve parties — and you’re not — refocus on what makes you happy. This is hard, I know, but obsessing on the parties you won’t be attending will just bring you down. The same rule applies if you’re new in town and you’ll be alone on New Year’s Eve / Day. Resist the temptation to imagine how happy other people are, focus on pleasing yourself. If you’re alone, what would make you feel as good as possible? Going to the Zoo? Walking in the park? A funny movie? Whatever it is: do it. Even though Christmas is over, be your own Santa and give yourself a day (or two) that makes you as happy as you can possibly be. Perhaps you have the opposite problem: there’s too much going on and you feel stressed out and anxious. Don’t get sucked into overdoing: do less, enjoy more. Give yourself some alone time to unwind from events. If you are partnered, schedule more “couple time” than usual: help each other relax and chill out. If you’re single, make sure to have quality time with people you can be yourself with. Some people (no names, please) try to avoid New Year depression by getting so wasted they don’t feel anything. This is a mistake. Don’t drink or drug yourself into oblivion. It only gives you a temporary escape, anyway. You want a nice, healthy escape? Go out dancing: work your body hard, laugh and come home covered with sweat and wearing a smile. What if this time of year is particularly awful for you? If your partner/friend/parent died in the recent past, this may be your first New Year without them. Or your third or fourth without them, but you still miss them like hell. This is a time to get emotional support from people (and pets) who love you. It may be a time to grieve/ cry and also to laugh/enjoy life as much as you can. Be real. Don’t fake it. Faking is crazy-making.
If you feel sad, lonely or disconnected from friends and family, you may need to tell the people around you that this is a hard time of year for you. Let them know and trust that they’ll understand and respect your emotions. Do you do the codependent thing at this time of year? Do you put yourself last and everyone else first? This is a great way to make sure your New Year is miserable and you end up resentful and pissed off at yourself and everyone else. Instead of being the perfect caretaker for your friends/family, I suggest upping your self-care. Put yourself first. Start the New Year off right by being kinder and more forgiving of yourself than you were last year. And don’t make rigid New Year’s resolutions that are impossible to keep. This will just make you feel like a failure. If you must make a resolution, why not resolve to be more loving and compassionate to yourself this year. You could start out by looking at yourself in the mirror and saying: “How can I be kind to you today?” and see what happens. This little exercise alone might make 2014 your best year ever. But why wait? Try it out on New Year’s Eve, too. You have nothing to lose but that damn depression. Happy New Year from Michael! —Michael Kimmel is a licensed psychotherapist who specializes in helping LGBT clients achieve their goals and deal with anxiety, depression, grief, sexually addictive behavior, coming out, relationship challenges and homophobia. Michael is currently accepting new clients. Contact him at 619-955-3311 or visit lifebeyondtherapy.com.t
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PROFILES where I worked for 30 years,” she said. “When the epidemic started, I was head nurse and the lack of knowledge was tremendous and no one wanted to care for ‘those patients.’” For those who are not of an age to remember the initial discovery and spread of HIV/AIDS, it is important to understand that moment in history. While many members of our community now have friends, family or colleagues living healthy lives with the disease, in 1985, diagnosis really did equal death, and far too little was known about how the disease was spread. Many would not even embrace a person infected with HIV, let alone engage in clinical care. The first nurses who took up the mantle of “caretaker” for this population truly were living the Florence Nightingale Pledge, which reads, “I will do all in my power to maintain and elevate the standard of my profession …” Vicky maintained her station in the face of misinformation, post-mortem diagnoses and the development of AZT, the first drug approved for the treatment of HIV and its subsequent elevation to “black market status.” The first patients she saw were suffering from chronic diarrhea and dehydration, but clinicians were afraid to administer intravenous fluids. General hospital supplies, such as linens, were routinely burned for fear of contamination until there were none left. One of the stark truths that Vicky still experiences is the inequality of resources for clients that live mere miles from each
other, because of the international border. Born in Tijuana, Vicky began her work at the age of 18 and notes that their distance from Mexico City precluded them from receiving the funding for care available through the Mexican government. After 28 years at Tijuana’s Federal Government Hospital, faced with the option to retire and “reinvent” her role, she instead shifted her clinical work to an emphasis on border healthcare. In 1998, while still maintaining her duties at the government hospital, Vicky also began her work at San Ysidro Health Centers, which opened her eyes to the difference in HIV treatment across the border. After two years of this balancing act, she began her time with the UC San Diego Mother, Child and Adolescent Program (MCAP) working to bring HIV infected children and expectant mothers into the care of trained clinicians. In an effort to see quality healthcare applied to her Mexican clients, she even brought blood samples to the U.S. to be tested, as resources were scarce. During her time working between the two countries, Vicky also volunteered with Agencia Familiar Binacional, A.C. (AFABI), a Tijuana-based initiative to reduce new infections in the border region. They work to fill gaps in care, as there are few HIV specialists in Tijuana, where clinicians and nursing staff are often expected to switch priorities from week to week. Additionally, the challenges of stigma and denial are still pervasive, and individuals tend to be diagnosed later in the disease progress. Vicky’s more recent efforts include leveraging her experience into a teaching role. Referred to
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as “Madre SIDA” (Mother AIDS) by some colleagues, she worked with San Diego City Schools HIV education initiatives for 14 years, ensuring that staff and faculty understood the challenges of combatting HIV in a binational environment. In her soul, Vicky will always be a nurse and her greatest sense of accomplishment is based in the success of her clients’ health outcomes. Due to the inherent challenges of treating HIV in a resource-poor environment, each of these victories has meant so much more. “The one thing that I hope to see, because my heart is still in Mexico, is that they will have the resources to fight this disease,” she said. “Because AIDS is not represented in the government, these clients are not given resources. I want to live to see the day that Mexico really cares about HIV.” Take a minute, as we head into a new year, to remember those who were in the front lines of treating HIV, before the disease was understood. One brave young woman — a nurse, a wife, and a mother — resolved to treat her clients with the care and dignity she knew they deserved and has dedicated four decades to fighting HIV. Congratulations, Vicky Sanchez, San Diego’s 2013 A. Brad Truax Award winner. —Ian Morton has worked in the HIV field since 1994 when he began volunteering with AIDS Response Knoxville. He currently serves as outreach liaison for the AIDS Research Institute at UCSD. To nominate a person or organization to be featured in Profiles in Advocacy, please submit name, affiliation and contact information to firstname.lastname@example.org
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Will the Mormon Church keep funding NOM? By Fred Karger, Rights Equal Rights Editor’s Note: This opinion piece previously ran in Huffington Post’s Gay Voices on Dec. 21. I wonder if the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints (LDS, also known as the Mormon Church) will keep funneling millions and millions of dollars to Brian Brown and his National Organization for Marriage (NOM) after their huge loss in Utah [this past week]. Will the LDS Church keep throwing good money after bad? The Mormon Church ran and its members funded every anti-gay marriage vote in over 30 states since 1998. Take a look at these secret Mormon Church documents courtesy of Mother Jones Magazine at motherjones.com [check for the direct link online at gay-sd.com]. Last year it appeared that the LDS Church pulled the plug and bowed out of the gay marriage fight to avoid becoming an issue in the Romney campaign. This year-after Romney was no longer a factor, the Mormon Church jumped right back in to the fray in Hawaii where it all began 15 years ago. The LDS Church unsuccessfully tried to block the gay marriage law
from passing there during a recent special legislative secession called by Hawaii Governor Neil Abercrombie. Utah has to be the line in the sand as far as the Mormon Church is concerned. It must really irk Church leaders like President Thomas S. Monson and the 12 Apostles to watch all the same-sex couples waiting in lines to get married throughout Utah. It is dominating the news cycle all over the state. The Mormon Church has had some tense moments with NOM, which it created in 2008 to qualify and pass California’s Proposition 8. Four years later NOM founder’s Maggie Gallagher and Brian Brown turned on Mormon candidate Mitt Romney and went all out for Rick Santorum, who was nipping at Romney’s heels at the time. That put a big strain in their relationship. There were always three prominent Mormon Church members on NOM’s seven member Board. Apparently over the summer Orson Scott Card resigned because of the terrible backlash and boycott of his new movie “Enders Game,” because of Card and his homophobic rants. That still leaves Broc Hiatt and Craig D. Cardon as the Mormon
Got your ‘ducks’ all in a row? By Barb Hamp Weicksel Editor’s Note: This previously ran in our media partner sdgln. com on Dec. 24, 2013. I wanted to stay away from the fray of the whole “Duck Dynasty” fiasco. I tried not to engage, read or discuss, but when someone posted a “I PROUDLY support Phil Robertson” picture on my Facebook page and wanted me to “LIKE and SHARE” — well I could not be silent. The fact that people — millions of people — believed this is a “free speech” issue made me understand just how little people really know and understand about their freedoms in this great country of ours. The first Amendment protects us all from Congress
abridging our right to free speech — and since Congress hasn’t passed a “Shut up and Sit Down Phil Robertson” law … common sense would tell us that this is a dispute between Robertson and A&E Television. Period. As far as Robertson’s comments on gays and blacks — well, there will always be haters and haters will always hate. You can’t fight that kind of stupid, and you will never change their mind by arguing with them and stooping to their level of stupid. Just let them roll in their own mud and walk away. But I do wonder: Why don’t they just own it? If you hate gays and blacks and Jews and whomever else you feel is inferior to you, then just own it. Don’t hide behind a flag or a Bible or a gun or even a duck call: Just own it. Don’t DIRECTOR OF SALES & MARKETING
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say stupid, hurful things and then hide behind the Bible: Just say the stupid hurtful things and move on. There is plenty of hate, anger and intolerance in this world as it is. Sadly, these folks believe what they say is the truth, and they believe what they say matters. It will only matter if you let it. If you know who you are, nothing anyone can ever say to you or about you will ever hurt or humiliate you. Let them call you a “sexual deviant” or a “pervert” or a “sodomite” or whatever else trash talk they can come up with. It matters not. In the grand scope of life, people like Phil Robertson and those who foolishly believe he is more than a rich man who makes duck calls have nothing to do with you and your life. My thought has always been that those who yell the loudest have the least to say.
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representatives on the NOM Board. Time will only tell on how much longer the Mormon Church stays in the losing battle to stop the freedom to marry and deny loving couples the same rights to marry and raise a family that they have fought for. Will Mormon Church leaders now send a softer, kinder message regarding gay marriage to help stop losing members and money since this issue divides the Church? It seems to be working for the Roman Catholic Church. I hope that seeing so much happiness and love in Utah in the last 24 hours will only encourage the Mormon Church change its ways. Only time will tell. P.S. I would like to congratulate my good friend Jim Dabakis who married his partner of 27 years Steven Justesen yesterday. They were one of the first couples to get married by Salt Lake City Mayor Ralph Becker.
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Surround yourself with people who love and care about you. Do not listen to the machinations of the stupid, intolerant insecure in this world. Love comes to us in many ways. Find what brings you happiness — and let that bring you love and peace. Merry Christmas, happy holidays, happy Hanukkah, happy Kwanza and may whatever God you believe in “… Bless us every one.” — SDGLN contributor Barb Hamp Weicksel was born in 1952 in Pennsylvania and moved to California in the early 1980s, where she met her partner Susan. They’ve been together 30 years and share the love of Susan’s four children, nine grandchildren and four greatgrandchildren. Her blog, Barb’s Gift of Gab, can be found barbweickselsgiftofgab.wordpress.com.t
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GSD TO LAUNCH SAME-SEX MARRIAGE ANNOUNCEMENTS SECTION Starting with its “marriage equality” issue January 24, 2014, Gay San Diego will begin publishing same-sex marriage announcements. The announcements will allow LGBT couples to announce their engagements, weddings, or anniversaries to the community at large. The announcements will both be printed and readable online at gay-sd.com. “Now that same-sex marriage is legal again in the state of California, it is time for people in the community to share their love and bonds publicly, and Gay San Diego wants to be that vehicle,” said Editor Morgan M. Hurley. “This is something that will surely be appreciated and no one else is currently doing it.” Basic wedding announcements will be made available for a small fee and those wishing to purchase a basic announcement will also be given the option to include a photograph. Custom, more extravagant announcements will also be available. For more information, contact Mike Rosensteel at firstname.lastname@example.org. CABRILLO BRIDGE TO CLOSE IN JANUARY The iconic Cabrillo Bridge in Balboa Park will be closed to vehicle traffic starting in January, and continuing until April. The closure is due to a retrofit and rehabilitation project that was started last fall and expected to be completed by summer. The closure will affect motor vehicle traffic only; pedestrians and bicyclists — who walk their bikes — will be allowed to cross via a narrow path on one side of Laurel Street provided by Caltrans. During the closure, businesses in the park will remain open and operate under their normal hours. Caltrans will also be implementing periodic late-night lane closures along SR-163. Notices for both traffic control efforts will be placed on routes leading to the work site well in advance of any closure. The $38 million rehabilitation and retrofit project will bring the bridge up to current earthquake safety standards and include repaving along the roadway leading into Balboa Park. For more information on this and other state transportation projects, log on to dot.ca.gov/dist11. CITY SOLICITS REQUESTS FOR BIKE RACKS As it expands to make the region more bike-friendly, City of San Diego officials are actively soliciting locations for bike racks — used for the short-time use of personal commuter bicycles — in front of local businesses. Requests will be made via email and evaluated for acceptance by City staff within 60 days. Once approved,
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BRIEFS the racks will be installed as space allows and maintained by the City. Certain conditions that are not acceptable include narrow sidewalks, residential addresses, bus stops, and private property, among various other scenarios, some of which could cause obstruction or not allow a secure installation. Requests should be addressed to the City via email@example.com. Downtown and Little Italy requests should be sent to Daniel Reeves at Civic San Diego reeves@civicsd. com. In each request, the following information is required: name of business; contact name; telephone; email; street address of proposed location; number of racks requested; and any additional useful information. For more information, visit sandiego.gov/tsw/programs/ bicycle.shtml. TICKETING CHANGES FOR PRIDE 2014 In order to simplify ticket prices and increase access, San Diego LGBT Pride announced earlier this month that all tickets will now be $20 two-day access passes to this year’s annual celebration in Balboa Park. In past years, Pride offered early bird tickets, oneday passes, and special prices to groups such as seniors, students, and military. This year, there will be just one ticket available to all, though volunteers and youths under 15 will continue to receive free admission. The change comes with a price drop as well. In past years, a two-day pass was $30, while a one-day pass was $20.
“People who buy a festival ticket should be able to get in as often as they’d like all weekend, and people shouldn’t have to figure out what type of ticket they need to buy,” said Stephen Whitburn, San Diego Pride’s general manager. Pride’s 40th anniversary will take place July 19 from 12 – 10 p.m. and July 20 from 11 a.m. – 8 p.m. at Marston Point in Balboa Park. San Diego LGBT Pride, a charitable nonprofit, funds year-round community giving using proceeds from the festival, which raised $146,000 in 2013. UCMJ REMOVES STIGMA OF CONSENSUAL “SODOMY” Media partner SDGLN reported that the Uniform Code of Military Justice will no longer consider consensual sodomy a criminal offense under its Uniform Code of Military Justice (UCMJ). The military will also review policies triggering unjust prosecution and stigmatization of troops with HIV. The change appears in the National Defense Authorization Act for FY 2014, the budget for the Department of Defense that requires annual approval by Congress. Included in the new defense budget is language from HR 1843, the REPEAL HIV Discrimination Act, which requires the Secretary of Defense to prepare a report for Congress regarding Armed Forces members with HIV or hepatitis B. Also included in the bill was language from Sen. Mike Lee (RUT) expanding the “conscience provision,” which allows servicemembers to express their beliefs against homosexuality. Critics fear this will give homophobic servicemembers the ability to harass and bully LGBT troops.t
Not so local GAY NEWS BRIEFS SEEN ON FACEBOOK As if Utah hasn’t surprised us enough this week, a Boy Scouts troup in Salt Lake City was photographed delivering pizzas to some County Clerks who were working overtime processing marriage licenses, as well as those same-sex couples patiently waiting in line to get their own right to marr y certificates. —thedailygrind.com SEEN ON TWITTER Popular DVD rental dispenser RedBox has made an exception to its “no documentar y” policy with “Bridegroom.” The film is based on the YouTube video “It Could Happen To You,” which told what happened when one person in a committed same-sex relationship dies and their family doesn’t approve of the relationship. Made last spring by Tom Bridegroom’s sur viving partner Shane Bitney Crone, the 9-minute video went viral, receiving over 3.4 million views worldwide. “Bridegroom” is a fullfeature documentar y that tells the stor y more completely. RedBox is reportedly offering 5 percent of rental sales to marriage equality organizations. —Redbox.com Our own iconic Bankers Hill restaurant, Bertrand at Mister A’s, just made Open Table’s annual Diners’ Choice list of “Top 100 most romantic restaurants” in the United States. Mister A’s, as it is locally known, offers sweeping views of Downtown, the Bay and the airport from both inside the restaurant and out on its wrap-around deck. It also ser ves a mean brunch on Sundays. —opentable.com Two gay men from Los Angeles will make histor y on New Year’s Day, when they get married
GAY SAN DIEGO Dec. 27, 2013–Jan. 9, 2014 on top of the AIDS Healthcare Foundation float during the iconic Tournament of Roses Parade in Pasadena, Calif. Aubrey Loots and Danny Leclair will marr y in keeping with the theme of the 125th annual parade, “Dreams Come True,” as well as that of the AHF float, “Love is the Best Protection.” —advocate.com SEEN ON HUFFPO Lockheed Martin, a longtime aerospace and militar y defense contractor based in Mar yland, has decided it will no longer support nonprofit organizations that do not align with its corporate policies or commitment to diversity, including the Boy Scouts. The defense giant, who made the decisions during a reevaluation of funding priorities for 2014, said in a statement that although they were pleased to see changes in the Boy Scouts membership policy, they oppose its continued ban on gay leadership. —Gay Voices at huf fingtonpost.com Ugandan gay rights activist Frank Mugisha has decided to “fight to the end” to stop a bill from becoming law that could force him behind bars for the rest of his life. The bill, which made quick advances after the death penalty clause was removed, was passed by parliament last week but is still not yet law. American-style evangelicalism has been on the rise in Uganda and many feel it is the cause of the widespread homophobia across the nation. —Gay Voices at huf fingtonpost.com SEEN ON GOOGLE ALERTS Privacy for All Students, a hate group disguised as a child advocacy group, is suing the California Secretar y of State over the state’s AD 1266 law that will go into effect Jan. 1. The group says it dropped off boxes of signatures to help qualify for a referendum to put a halt to the measure, which supports the rights of transgender children in schools. —sdgln.com Got something to share? Tweet it to @gaysd.t
GAY SAN DIEGO Dec. 27, 2013–Jan. 9, 2014
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An employee at Wingstop noted that I was the third person originally from Buffalo, N.Y. to recently challenge the kitchen’s fry time for cooking chicken wings to a perfect crisp. By default, the Texas-based chain submerges the appendages in bubbling oil for nine minutes before tossing them in a choice of 11 sauces. But as any Queen City native will tell you, that’s not long enough to develop a coveted crunch. Request them “extra crispy,” as we did in a second order, and the wings are kept down for 14 minutes. Those tickled our feathers with a firmer, less-elastic bite, although in a third round, when asking for “extra- extra crispy,” 18 minutes became the magic number for transforming the skins into an addicting texture resembling potato chips. When working for a restaurant famous for its wings during my college days, patrons expected to wait 20 minutes before sinking their teeth into these iconic devils. I learned that wings are difficult to overcook, as their thick, stubborn skins hold up well to extended frying while keeping the traces of meat underneath moist and juicy. Wingstop defies a few other hard-line rules as well, which isn’t necessarily a bad thing considering there are more than 500 locations around the nation, though all of them keep a safe distance from my hometown. Locally, you’ll find a half-dozen outlets throughout San Diego County, mostly in strip plazas such as this. The wings are the smallest I’ve ever seen compared to other joints that sling them. From wherever they’re sourced, the company addresses the size issue on its web site. “Although we do specify what size chicken our wings come from, there is no way to guarantee the wing size.” The explanation continues by pointing to “the time of year and even the day” that the wings fly in, implying that their weights and sizes are seasonal. Who would’ve known? However, when push comes to shove, less is more because jumbo wings oftentimes tend to be rubbery and gristly. In keeping with modern-day demands, Wingstop pulls all the right stops with a vari-
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ety of sauce flavors in addition to classic Buffalo-style made with Frank’s Hot Sauce and a little butter or margarine. The company’s newest flavor, mango-habanero, involves a viscous glaze that is sweet up front until the capsaicin hits the back of your throat with a congenial punch, at which point the essence of the chicken becomes a footnote. The Cajun-style wings are less saucy in comparison, offering more complexity with a robust peppery flavor. I also grew fond of the hickory-smoked version, a basic recipe that delivers nuances of a backyard barbecue. Both the lemon-pepper and garlic-Parmesan wings sported the flavors of commercial seasoning, with the latter ranking as the zestier and more mouthwatering of the two. And then there’s “atomic” sauce, which is masochistically hot for the sake of being hot. The company doesn’t reveal any of its sauce ingredients, but if I had to guess, the recipe contains pure habanero extract and black pepper. Fortunately, domestic and premium beers are available for effectively quelling the burn. The menu accommodates fickle palates, allowing for “split flavors” within individual or family-pack meals. In each visit the kitchen was on target with our orders, as we requested odd splits of three of this, seven of that. Further defying the chicken wing culture is the fact that blue cheese and Ranch dips cost 69 cents apiece, unless you order
Prices: Wings and chicken strips, $5.99 to $65.99 (depending on quantity); “glider” sandwiches, $5.99 to $14.99 (served 2, 4 or 6 to an order)
a combo meal. Celery and carrot sticks also come at an additional price of $1.29. The company justifies the extra charges as “price-conscious decisions.” The poultry-centric menu also features boneless wings, chicken strips and “glider” sandwiches comprising a lightly breaded chicken patty with your choice of sauce tucked in to smallish yeast rolls. French fries are long, lightly seasoned and freshly cut. They become even naughtier and nicer when dipped into hot cheddar cheese sauce, a velvety, tangy concoction available in three sizes. My favorite side dish is the bourbon baked beans, which sport a discernible taste of the booze upfront along with brown sugar and a touch of tomato. The regular portion for $1.99 is substantial if you’re eating solo, enough to soak up a little time if ordering your wings cooked for the recommended 18 minutes. at Wingstop’s prefabricated atcorrugat mosphere features corrugated metal wainscoting, framed aeronautical sketches and flat screens tuned in usually to sporting events. Additional locations can be found in City Heights, Loma Portal, Lemon Grove and Chula Vista.t
An all-you-can-eat deal from a menu card, not a buffet, is available at RB Sushi, which replaced Lotus Café in the Village Hillcrest shopping plaza on Fifth Avenue a few months ago. Guests can order endlessly from a wide selection of hand rolls, nigiri and other Japanese fare for a flat price of $20.95 (for lunch) or $24.95 (for dinner). Everything is made to order. But listen to your stomach before proceeding with additional dishes because in the end visitors are charged for what they can’t finish on their plates, right down to the rice. 3955 Fifth Ave., Suite 100, 619-269-9900. Back by popular demand, KPBS Television has given the green light for a second season of “Savor San Diego with Su-Mei Yu,” allowing the Mission Hills restaurateur to focus this time around on the local craft-brewing scene, various coffee roasters and the foods and wines emerging from Mexico’s nearby Guadalupe Valley. Yu has been credited for bringing authentic Thai cuisine to San Diego when she opened Saffron Grilled Chicken at 3731 India Street 28 years ago. She has since expanded into the adjoining space with Saffron Noodles & Sate,, and authored several cookbooks that include the recently released “The Elements of Life: A Contemporary Guide to Thai Recipes and Traditions for Healthier Living.” Su-Mei Yu (Courtesy Red Coral PR) After a long run in Old Town, the outdated El Fandango restaurant will become a Mexican barbecue house under the holding of Old Town Family Hospitality Corporation, which will rename it El Vaquero, meaning “the cowboy.” Renovations are expected to be complete by May, giving way to a new bar area and an open kitchen specializing in assorted meats smoked over pecan and apple woods. 2734 Calhoun St. The culinary journey around the world continues into the New Year and beyond at Hanna’s Gourmet in Normal Heights, where chef-owner Hanna Tesfamichael features dishes from a specific country each week with notable accuracy. Running until Dec. 29 is “American comfort food” that includes meatloaf, green beans and creamy potatoes. The first week in January spotlights “Basque Country” dishes such as spinach-cauliflower soup and cod with braised peppers. The theme will be followed by specialties of Indonesia. 2864 Adams Ave., 619-280-5600. The national organization, GlutenFreeSingles.com, has named its top 10 picks in San Diego for gluten-free dining. Among them is Wellington Steak & Martini Lounge in Mission Hills; Stacked and True Food Kitchen in Fashion Valley Mall; plus Sea & Smoke, Del Mar Rendezvous and the “superfoodcharged” Beaming Café, all in Del Mar. Look for a yakatori grill and oodles of ramen when CH Projects opens Underbelly II in the North Parker Lofts this spring. The restaurant promises more seating than its flagship Underbelly in Little Italy, but with a similar menu. The company operates several other hotspots such as Soda & Swine and Polite Provisions in Normal Heights and Craft & Commerce in Little Italy, where it will open yet another kitchen (by late January) called Ironside Oyster. The latter will focus on seafood and share space with an in-house bakery. Locations are 3000 Upas St. and 1654 India St., respectively.t
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Madison, Wisconsin, who embodied the polite, witty, but determined temperament of a Midwesterner, added another “first” to her already long list of accomplishments. Before January, she was already the first open lesbian elected to the Wisconsin Assembly, the first openly gay person elected to the U.S. Congress, the first open lesbian in the House, and the first woman elected to Congress from Wisconsin. After being sworn in to the 113th session, she became Wisconsin’s first woman senator and the U.S. Senate’s first openly gay member. Her colleagues praised her diplomacy in the successful effort to get ENDA approved by the Senate was praised and she became the first rookie senator to win the U.S. Senate’s “Golden Gavel” award for having presided over the chamber’s activities for more than 100 hours. No. 9: Congress gets its largest ever LGBT Caucus. Not only was U.S. Senator Tammy Baldwin in the Senate, as of the start of the 113th Congress, there were six openly LGBT members in the U.S. House, and by year’s end, there was seven. Prior to 2013, the LGBT Caucus numbered four and, with the retirement of Rep. Barney Frank at the end of 2012, it looked like it might dwindle to three: Baldwin and Reps. Jared Polis (DColo.) and David Cicilline (D-RI). But fresh off newcomer victories in November 2012, the four new openly LGBT reps were sworn in: Kyrsten Sinema (D-Ariz.), Mark Takano (D-Calif.), Sean Maloney (D-NY), and Mark Pocan (DWisc.). And, in November, Rep. Mike Michaud (D-Maine) came out in an op-ed to ward off a whisper campaign by his opponents in the 2014 Maine gubernatorial race. The Caucus size doubled to eight over the previous high. No. 8: The U.S. Senate passes ENDA for the first time. The Senate had voted on the Employment Non-Discrimination Act once before in the bill’s nearly four decades as the LGBT movement’s flagship piece of legislation. In that first tally, taken in 1996, it lost by one vote. This year, it passed 64 to 32, and only one senator spoke against it (long-time gay civil rights opponent Dan Coats, a Republican from Indiana). A Republican-dominated House gives the bill virtually no chance to even reach the floor there, but passage in the Senate signaled that a new and friendlier political landscape had been established in LGBT civil rights. No. 7: President Obama’s second inaugural promotes equality. He had already “evolved” to the point where he stated publicly, in July 2012, that he supports the right of same-sex couples to marry. And while LGBT leaders always hope a major presidential address will at least mention LGBT people when identifying the nation’s strength in diversity, no one had expected President Obama to go beyond that in his second inaugural address. But he went much further: “We, the people, declare today that the most evident of truths — that all of us are created equal — is the star that guides us still; just as it guided our forebears through Seneca Falls, and Selma, and Stonewall. ... Our journey is not complete until our gay brothers
and sisters are treated like anyone else under the law – for if we are truly created equal, then surely the love we commit to one another must be equal as well.” No. 6: NJ drops appeal of court ruling that struck state marriage ban. Following the U.S. Supreme Court’s ruling in U.S. v. Windsor that the key provision of the federal Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) was unconstitutional, Lambda Legal asked a state court judge in New Jersey to rule in a pending case, Garden State v. Dow, that the state ban on marriage was harming same-sex couples by preventing them from having access to federal benefits associated with marriage. The judge did just that in late September and ordered the state to comply starting October 21. When Republican Governor Chris Christie sought an emergency stay of that order, the state supreme court rejected the request and New Jersey became the 14th state with marriage equality. The unanimous and forceful reasoning in the court’s refusal prompted Christie to drop his appeal of the ruling, providing another powerful political sign that acceptance of the right of gay people to equal protection of the law was becoming the new expectation. No. 5: Five state legislatures passed marriage equality laws. Rhode Island (April), Delaware (May), Minnesota (May), Illinois (November), and Hawaii (November). In the ten years prior, only four state legislatures and the District of Columbia had approved marriage equality legislation and seen it signed into law. The debate in each legislature was marked by emotional and dramatic testimony, much of it from former opponents of same-sex marriage who had evolved on the issue. A Rhode Island senator spoke of being a life-long devout Catholic who said “I struggled with this for days and weeks and have been unable to sleep.” In the end, she said, she could not vote against friends and constituents in same-sex relationships. In Hawaii, where same-sex couples mounted one of the first legal challenges in the country in the 1990s, opponents organized an unprecedented flood of citizens to public hearings — literally thousands of people expressed anger and threats of political retribution. But the resolve of legislators willing to stand “on the right side of history” held firm. By year’s end, 16 states and the District of Columbia had approved marriage equality. (Editor’s note: Since writing this article, New Mexico and Utah have joined the fray, bringing the year’s number to seven and the total of states to 18.) No. 4: Russia passes laws outlawing “promotion” of homosexuality. In June and July, Russian President Vladimir Putin signed laws to prohibit the “propaganda of nontraditional sexual relations around minors,” any public
displays of affection by same-sex couples, public events related to LGBT people, and any adoptions of Russian children by couples from countries where marriage equality is law. One Russian law even allows authorities to arrest and detain anyone suspected of being gay or pro-gay. LGBT activist groups immediately pushed back, some calling for a boycott of the Winter Olympics scheduled for Sochi, Russia, in February 2014. The boycott idea quickly faded, but many U.S. officials found ways to register their unhappiness over the draconian legislation. President Obama said that countries participating in the Olympics “wouldn’t tolerate gays and lesbians being treated differently” during the 2014 Olympics. He also canceled his one-on-one meeting with Putin at a September G-20 summit, citing “human rights and civil society” issues. Pressure on corporate sponsors of the events elicited statements in support of LGBT people and one international human rights organization called on the Obama administration to include LGBT leaders in its official delegations to the opening and closing ceremonies.
was not, in other words, a ruling on the merits of the underlying legal issue in Hollingsworth v. Perry. But by refusing to accept the “Yes on 8” appeal, the court left the district court judge’s ruling intact, and same-sex couples began obtaining marriage licenses once again in California. Reaction was understandably euphoric from LGBT legal activists and the thousands of supporters of same-sex marriage gathered outside the Supreme Court building in Washington and town hall in San Francisco where the case began in 2009. The Perry decision, and another that struck down the key provision of DOMA, were issued on the tenth anniversary of the 2003 Lawrence v. Texas decision, which struck down state laws that prohibited intimate relations between partners of the same sex. And while the Perry decision fell short of declaring all state bans on same-sex marriage to be unconstitutional, it set off a tidal wave of new litigation seeking to do just that. At year’s end, Freedom to Marry’s Executive Director Evan Wolfson estimated there are 44 lawsuits in 19 or 20 states “moving forward.”
No. 3: President Obama responds to Supreme Court rulings. In 2003, when the U.S. Supreme Court struck down laws prohibiting private intimate contact between same-sex partners (in Lawrence v. Texas), then President George W. Bush had nothing to say and his administration took no action to determine to what extent the Lawrence ruling might apply to various federal programs. Following the two landmark rulings in marriage equality cases before the Supreme Court in 2013, President Obama issued an immediate statement in support of the rulings and “directed the Attorney General to work with other members of my cabinet to review all relevant federal statutes to ensure this decision, including its implications for Federal benefits and obligations, is implemented swiftly and smoothly.” Two major federal departments announced that their interpretations of the U.S. v. Windsor opinion would bring benefits to married same-sex couples regardless of whether a couple’s state of residence recognizes the marriage. And the Internal Revenue Service announced that legally married same-sex couples “will be treated as married for all federal tax purposes,” including for income tax filing, gift and estate taxes, individual retirement accounts, and in other tax regulations where marriage is a factor.
No. 1: Supreme Court strikes down key provision of DOMA. With Justice Anthony Kennedy writing for a 5 to 4 majority, the U.S. Supreme Court declared on June 26 that the key provision of the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) was unconstitutional. That provision (known as Section 3) had barred any federal entity from recognizing for the purpose of any benefit the valid marriage license of a same-sex couple. The majority opinion in U.S. v. Windsor
No. 2: Supreme Court leaves intact ruling that struck down Prop 8. With Chief Justice John Roberts writing for 5 to 4 majority, the U.S. Supreme Court ruled that the defenders of Proposition 8, the California voter-approved ban on same-sex marriage, did not have proper federal standing to appeal a district court judge’s ruling that the measure was unconstitutional. It
said DOMA Section 3 violated the constitutional guarantees of equal protection and due process. The DOMA decision, said GLAD Civil Rights Director Mary Bonauto who organized the first lawsuit against Section 3, “not only strikes DOMA but makes clear what we’ve been saying all along – that DOMA is discriminatory and that it is an effort by the federal government to deprive same-sex couples of their rights and to demean them.” The decision began working like the first domino to fall in a long line of laws, state and federal, that deprived same-sex couples of equal benefits. State legislators cited it during debates over marriage equality bills; state and federal courts cited it to strike down other DOMA-like laws and regulations. “It seems fair to conclude that, until recent years, many citizens had not even considered the possibility that two persons of the same sex might aspire to occupy the same status and dignity as that of a man and woman in lawful marriage,” wrote Justice Kennedy. “For marriage between a man and a woman no doubt had been thought of by most people as essential to the very definition of that term and to its role and function throughout the history of civilization. That belief, for many who long have held it, became even more urgent, more cherished when challenged. For others, however, came the beginnings of a new perspective, a new insight. Accordingly some states concluded that same-sex marriage ought to be given recognition and validity in the law for those samesex couples who wish to define themselves by their commitment to each other. The limitation of lawful marriage to heterosexual couples, which for centuries had been deemed both necessary and fundamental, came to be seen in New York and certain other states as an unjust exclusion.” —Lisa Keen is a well-known, well-respected and award-winning gay journalist who spent 18 years as editor of the Washington Blade. See more news from Keen and other select veteran gay journalists at keennewsservice.com.t
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Passion thrives at Green Fresh Florals Carlos Franco of Hillcrest’s Green Fresh Florals, has a passion for design which is unsurpassed in San Diego. Trained in Paris and London, Franco has combined a classic French motif with contemporary styles to create world-class designs. These arrangements have been featured at top venues such as the San Diego Museum of Art, the San Diego Symphony, the Museum of Photographic Arts, the Westin Gaslamp Hotel, the Museum of Contemporary Art, Oliver McMillan and Bloomingdales. “I approach design as a collaboration with my clients. Together, I can mold their desires into creations that are unique and yet reflective of their personality or brand,” says Franco. He was recently chosen by the San Diego Museum of Art to be the Rotunda Designer for the annual art and flower spectacular “Art Alive” held in April this year. Over the past year, Green Fresh Florals has grown from an outdoor venue into a showcase for home and garden décor, plants and containers. With his large event and wedding clientele, Franco has enlisted the help of two additional designers, Travis Rogers and Carla Bassi, who help bring his unique floral and design vision to life.
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GAY SAN DIEGO Dec. 27, 2013–Jan. 9, 2014
Friday, December 27
FILMOUT FUNDRAISER: Join board member Ken Williams at Redwing Bar and Grill as he celebrates his birthday and helps to raise money for our local LGBT film festival. Attendees will get Happy Hour pricing from 7 – 9 p.m., a FilmOut San Diego drink special, Jello shots, raffles and more fun, with much of the proceeds going to FilmOut. Redwing is located at 4012 30th St. in North Park. For more information about FilmOut visit filmoutsandiego.com. YOU’RE A MEAN ONE, MR. GRINCH: Take your kid or become a kid again with one of your last chances to see how The Old Globe is once again transformed into Whoville for the 16th year of this Christmas classic. Donald and Darlene Shiley Stage, 1363 Old Globe Way, Balboa Park. Showtimes vary and tickets start at $24. Visit theoldglobe.org or 619-231-1941.
Saturday, December 28
SCROOGE IN ROUGE: One of the last performances of the gender-bending Christmas Carol production at Diversionar y Theatre – guaranteed to be the only one in town with drag. Three actors play 23 different roles. 4545 Park Blvd., University Heights. 8 p.m. For more info or tickets, visit diversionar y.org or call 619-220-0097. WINTER WHITE PARTY: Presented by Rich’s and SDPix, celebrate the holidays and wintertime together and chill out at a venue decorated in all white, with frosty go go dancers along for the sleigh ride. 10 p.m. – 2 a.m. Rich’s Nightclub, 1051 University Ave.,
in Hillcrest. Visit richssandiego. com or call 619-295-2195.
Sunday, December 29
NFL SUNDAY TICKET: Join the ladies of Gossip Grill and seven big TV screens to cheer on the San Diego Chargers in their final attempt to make it into the playoffs. Drink specials starting at 10 a.m., Happy Hour starting at 2 p.m., Chargers play at 1:25 p.m. 1440 University Ave., Hillcrest. Thegossipgrill.com or 619-260-8023. SHOWTUNE SUNDAYS: Hosted by Babette Schwartz and the Divettes, this “bite of the Big Apple” will give you a little Broadway, some showtunes, musicals and more. 7 – 10 p.m. Lips San Diego, located at 3036 El Cajon Blvd. For more information, visit lipssd.com or call 619-295-7900.
Monday, December 30
YOGA FOR EVERYONE: Wanting to try yoga in the new year but afraid to start? Check out this weekly free basic yoga class at The Center, taught by Tim Schultheis. Options available for the more advanced. 10:30 – 11:30 a.m. BIG BAY BALLOON PARADE: How gay is a parade? Even moreso when it’s called “America’s largest balloon parade.” This Port of San Diego sponsored event is a production of the Holiday Bowl, but you don’t have to care about college football to love a parade. Starting on Harbor Dr. at 10 a.m. near the corner of W. Ash St., the parade will travel south, ending at the corner of W. Harbor Dr. & Pacific Hwy. Grandstand tickets for reserved seating near Maritime Museum are $20. Visit holidaybowl.com.
Tuesday, December 31
LIVE MUSIC – CANDYE KANE: Celebrate New Year’s Eve happy hour with our local master of blues, swing and boogie woogie, Candye Kane. 5:30 – 8 p.m. $10. Belly Up Tavern, 143 S. Cedros Ave., Solana Beach. Bellyup.com or 858-481-8140. BREW YEAR’S EVE AT HBC: Join the staff of Hillcrest Brewing Company as they ring in the New Year and introduce a new beer at midnight – Pomegranate Hefeweizen. 1458 University Ave., in Hillcrest. For more info, visit hillcrestbrewingcompany.com or call 619-269HEAD. LIPS MASQUERADE BALL: Hosted by Tootie, this fun evening will give you an excuse to dress in a gown, wear a mask and be someone else for the evening. A three-course gala pre-fixe dinner, live drag shows, dancing, a midnight celebration with masks, horns and party favors and a champagne toast. 9:30 p.m. dinner seating. Reservations a must. Lips San Diego, located at 3036 El Cajon Blvd. For more information, visit lipssd.com or call 619-295-7900. UPTOWN MASQUERADE PAR TY AND DINNER: Celebrate the New Year with a three-course dinner for $42.50, and a Masquerade Party with party favors hosted by DJ Tone Capone. Uptown Tavern, 1236 University Ave., Hillcrest. For more information, visit uptowntavernsd.com or call 619-241-2710. NYE AT CROCE’S: Celebrate the final night of the year on the final night of business for the iconic Croce’s Restaurant and Jazz Bar. Celebrate with SDMA’s artist of the year, Gilbert Castellanos and The New Latin Jazz Quintet. Dinner packages available and reservations are a MUST. Croce’s Restaurant and Jazz Bar, 802 Fifth Ave., Gaslamp. Visit croces.com or call 619-233-4355. NEW YEARS EVE AT FLICKS: Music by DJ Will Z along with go go boys, compli-
mentary party hats, champagne toast at midnight and more. 9 p.m. – 2 a.m. Flicks, 1017 University Ave., Hillcrest. For more info, visit sdflicks.com or call 619-297-2056. PAULA POUNDSTONE: Come just for her comedic performance before your night on the town or add a pre-show dinner package at Bandar Persian Steakhouse or OperaCaffe, also both on Fourth Ave. Dinner seating is at 5:30 p.m., comedy performance is at 8 p.m. Tickets: comedy – $27.50 – $45. Dinner – additional $45, incl tax/tip. Balboa Theatre, 868 Fourth Ave., Gaslamp. Visit sandiegotheatres.org or call 619-570-1100.
Wednesday, January 1
“DREAMS DO COME TRUE” AT THE ROSE PARADE: Though you probably already watch repeats of the annual Tournament of Roses Parade every year while you recoup from the night before — this year, the parade’s 125th — make sure you pay special attention as a gay couple from Los Angeles gets married along the route. Aubrey Loots and Danny Leclair will be tying the knot atop the AIDS Healthcare Foundation float. For more info, visit ktla.com/roseparade/. HANGOVER BRUNCH: Special Bloody Mary Bar and champagne specials to match your food choices. 11 a.m. – 3 p.m. Uptown Tavern, 1236 University Ave., Hillcrest. For more information, visit uptowntavernsd.com or call 619-241-2710.
Thursday, January 2
ZINE WORKSHOP: This weekly Thursday night group at the Hillcrest Youth Center will help you make your mark on San Diego’s premier LGBTQA youth magazine and — you don’t even have to be a writer, poet or artist — just bring yourself. 7:30 – 8:30 p.m. HYC, 1807 Robinson Ave. Suite 106, Hillcrest. For more info, email firstname.lastname@example.org.
Friday, January 3
COMPLETELY KAHLO: “The Complete Frida Kahlo—Her Paintings. Her Life. Her Story.” Exhibition with audio guide features 123 precise replicas of Kahlo’s known paintings in their original size, becoming the largest, most comprehensive exhibition ever created about the iconic Mexican artist’s work, life and story, through Jan 10, 2014. Today 10 a.m. – 8 p.m. Barracks 3, Liberty Station, 2765 Truxton Rd., Tickets start $12.50. Visit ntclibertystation.com/fridakahlo.php.
Saturday, January 4
COUNTRY LINE DANCING: Kick up your heels in the new year and learn a new skill with Kickers Countr y-western dance instruction. 7 – 8:30 p.m., Urban MO’s, 308 University Ave. Visit urbanmos.com or call 619-491-0400.
Sunday, January 5
QUIET AS A CHURCH MOUSE: No one is quiet at the award-winning Church, happening every Sunday at World Famous Babycakes, located at 3766 Fifth Ave. There is definitely some preaching going on here between 3 – 8 p.m. Visit babycakessandiego.com or call 619-296-4173.
Monday, January 6
ALL YOU CAN EAT SPAGHETTI: When was the last time you had an all-you-can-eat plate of fabulous spaghetti for a mere $5? Now that’s a bargain. Plus the last Monday Night Football of the season! All you need to do is purchase a beverage of your choice. 6 – 11 p.m. Gossip Grill, 1440 University Ave. Visit gossipgrill.com.
Tuesday, January 7
AFTER WORK OFF-ROAD: The new year has started and you may be looking for ways to get more active. Here’s the chance to get on the trail (Penasquitos, San Clemente Canyon, or Mission Trails) for a couple hours with Rainbow Cyclists. 5:30 – 8:30 p.m. Contact organizer Bill Rountree for specifics and meet up info email@example.com. For more info, visit rainbowcyclists.org or call 858-467-1090.
Wednesday, January 8
INTERACTIVE ART GROUP: Looking for ways to express yourself in the new year? Join this fun and relaxed group (for those over 50) led by artist Sabato Fiorello. The eight-week rotating workshop will allow you to explore different mediums, start a new project or work on one of your own. 1 – 4 p.m., bring basic pencils, paper and inexpensive watercolor paints and brushes. The San Diego LGBT Center, 3909 Centre St., Hillcrest. For more info call 619-692-2077 or visit thecentersd.org.
Thursday, January 9
MEET MS. GAY SAN DIEGO: Kristy Salazar interviews Terry Nunez, Ms. Gay San Diego 2013 for “The Monthly Grind” a monthly talk show offered every second Thursday through the Women’s Resource Center. Coffee, pastries and door prizes included. 6 – 7:30 p.m. The LGBT Center, 3909 Centre St., Hillcrest. For more info visit email women@thecentersd. org or call 619-692-2077. For inclusion in the calendar, email firstname.lastname@example.org
15. Chicago Blackhawks take Stanley Cup
The ‘Hawks brought home the National Hockey League’s title trophy after defeating the Boston Bruins in an action-packed Stanley Cup final. To reach the finals, Chicago had had to overcome a 3-1 deficit to my beloved Detroit Red Wings. The Blackhawks shot out of the gate during the 2012-13 season, earning at least one point in each of their first 24 games, a new NHL record.
14. Connecticut women are NCAA champs
For the eighth time in Head Coach Gino Auriemma’s tenure, the UConn Huskies women’s basketball team won the NCAA women’s basketball championship, denying Louisville a sweep of both tournaments. The men’s team defeated my Michigan Wolverines 82-76 in the title game.
Diana Nyad successfully swam the entire 111-mile distance from Cuba to the Florida Keys without the assistance of a shark protection cage. This accomplishment is mind-boggling, not just because of her age, but the risks associated with it. Afterward, some marathon swimmers took to social media to question Nyad’s claim to fame. Some cited GPS data hinted that Nyad endured a seven-hour period where her average speed nearly doubled, leaving them to wonder if she held onto the nearby support boat. Nyad supporters say beneficial currents explain the speed during this 53-hour ordeal.
10. Kobe Bryant’s Achilles injury
Personally, I have trouble supporting someone who I believe may have gotten away with some serious foul play in Colorado years earlier. But without rehashing those events, Kobe and his Los Angeles Lakers enjoy tremendous support in San Diego, and this career-threatening injury was big news. Late in the 2012-13 season, Bryant tore his Achilles tendon in a game against Golden State. He finally returned to the floor just a few weeks ago, but has since been sidelined again with a knee fracture.
9. Bullying in Miami
Miami Dolphins teammates Richie Incognito and Jonathan Martin brought the topic of hazing and bullying in the NFL to the spot-
Sports: a year in review Lists are fun, debatable things. I have collected what I feel were the most pertinent sports stories of 2013 to those of us in San Diego’s LGBT community. Your order, or even the selections themselves, will assuredly be different. I base mine on the fact that the majority of sports fans I know do not care if the story is LGBT-related or not (though in a few instances, it does make for interesting cooler talk at work). It has been an unforgettable year filled with thrills, upsets and terrible tragedy.
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light. Martin’s agent provided details of various incidents involving physical threats and racially charged comments by Incognito, who was suspended by the team. Neither has played since the allegations came to light and an investigation report is due soon.
8. Lance Armstrong admits to doping
After cycling governing bodies stripped him of his titles and issued a lifetime ban, Lance Armstrong finally admitted to using performance-enhancing drugs throughout his career after years of denial and counterattacks on others. Hardly apologetic, Armstrong to this day insists he did not cheat nearly as often as his counterparts.
7. Ravens win blacked-out Super Bowl
After charging to a huge halftime lead, Baltimore sat frustrated as Louisiana Superdome officials tried to restore power during a lengthy second-half outage. My 49ers staged a furious comeback that fell just short, after four tries to take the lead from inside the tenyard line late in the fourth.
6. Red Sox win World Series, but Pittsburgh is the story
Boston defeated the St. Louis Cardinals to earn their third World
Series title since 2004. But the real story was the return of the Pirates to postseason play. Pittsburgh had endured a 20-year streak of losing seasons — a professional sports record — and this tremendous sports town was finally rewarded. They took the Cardinals to five games in a thrilling NLDS.
5. Manti Te’o and the non-existent girlfriend
Deadspin.com, mostly a sports humor site, did some fantastic investigational work to expose the fraud that was the existence of Lennay Kekua — a made-up girlfriend of then-Notre Dame linebacker Manti Te’o — who reportedly died of cancer. Acquired in his current rookie season by the Chargers, the linebacker now claims he was “duped” by a family friend, and says he never actually met “Kekua” and only spoke with her over the phone.
4. Baseball and biogenesis
Documents from a Miami-based drug lab were secured by Major League Baseball and used as a basis to suspend several players, including Ryan Braun and Alex Rodriguez. Braun, the 2011 NL MVP who denied ever using and vehemently claimed his positive drug test in 2011 was result of foul play, reversed course in accepting a 65-game ban. Rodriguez received a 211-game suspension, the longest non-lifetime ban in the sport’s history. He is appealing the decision in what has evolved into a bloody legal war.
3. Jason Collins becomes first major sports athlete to come out
Basketball center Jason Collins became the first active player in any of the four major team sports to announce himself as openly gay, doing so in a Sports Illustrated story during the NBA’s offseason. Talented but on the backside of his career, the free agent was unable to draw a contract offer from any team.
2. Aaron Hernandez charged with murder
New England Patriots tight end Aaron Hernandez was charged with the first-degree murder of Odin Lloyd, a friend and former semi-pro football player. Hernandez has pled not guilty and is in jail awaiting trial. He and Rob Gronkowski formed the best tight end tandem in the NFL.
1. Boston Marathon tragedy
The 117th Boston Marathon was marred by a horrific tragedy when two homemade bombs exploded at the finish line. Three people were killed, while dozens of others were severely injured, many losing limbs. A manhunt for two brothers alleged to have concocted the plot ended with one dead and the other captured while bleeding and hiding inside a parked boat in suburban Boston. —Jeff Praught is actively involved in the LGBT sports community, where he plays in the local softball (AFCSL), football (SDAFFL) and basketball (SD Hoops) leagues. He has served on AFCSL’s board of officers in various capacities and is currently the commissioner of SD Hoops.t
13. Alabama sees third BCS title in four years
Alabama Head Coach Nick Saban is a snake. But he is darned good at what he does, and the Crimson Tide blew out the “Golden Domers” to win their third title in four seasons. Alabama rolled to a 28-0 halftime lead of a game that was not even that close, eventually besting overrated Notre Dame by a score of 42-14.
12. Miami Heat win second straight NBA title
Thanks in large part to a missed free throw by SDSU alum Kawhi Leonard in Game Six, the Miami Heat completed a remarkable comeback to topple the San Antonio Spurs in seven games, earning their second straight NBA title.
11. Diana Nyad swims from Cuba to Florida
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