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Assembly Speaker John A. Pérez to receive highest honor Sept 22 By Manny Lopez | GSD Reporter

Avenue and Quince Street. Money raised through teams and individuals provides funding for local HIV/AIDS service organizations that serve approximately 12,500 people in the county, organizers said. A program of The San Diego LGBT Community Center, the event also helps raise awareness of HIV and AIDS. AIDS Walk Coordinator Ian Johnson said the street challenges add a “high-energy element” to the annual event. The obstacles will test strength, endurance, agility and quick thinking. “The funds raised from AIDS Walk are vitally

San Diego Democrats for Equality announced Assembly Speaker John A. Pérez as this year’s A. Brad Truax Human Rights Award recipient, to be handed out at the Democrat’s annual Freedom Awards on Saturday, Sept. 22. Each year the award is presented to a person who has helped make significant and sustained strides toward the advancement of LGBT equality. The 2013 Freedom Awards will be held at the home of Lambda Archives of San Diego board President Maureen Steiner and Camille Davidson in Coronado, Calif. “I am deeply grateful to be receiving the Brad Truax Human Rights Award,” Pérez said via email. “Our community has made tremendous progress over the last few years. Certainly, having our marriage rights restored was a powerful victory for our community, but California is leading the way forward on other issues of equal importance.” Doug Case, president of San Diego Democrats for Equality, said Pérez was chosen for the award because in addition to having an outstanding record on LGBT and progressive issues in general, he is the highest-ranking LGBT official ever in the history of California. Case said that throughout the Assembly Speaker’s career, Pérez has been supportive of labor issues, and a strong participant in the Democratic Party and LGBT caucus. “John’s role in the LGBT movement has primarily been as a role model. It’s not as unusual [now] or as trailblazing as it was, having an LGBT elected official,” Case said.

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Wrapping in Hillcrest


(l to r, top) Ian Johnson, Vanessa Peek, Rick Cervantes, (l to r, bottom) Ben Cartwright, Denise Serrano, Aaron Heier and Sarafina Scapicchio show what AIDS Walk means to them. (Courtesy Rick Cervantes) Veg out

t CALENDAR 24th AIDS Walk & Run adds Street Challenge, photo exhibit to this year’s event By Anthony King | GSD Editor

Keep it in the dark


It’s official. The new name for San Diego County’s largest one-day HIV and AIDS fundraiser is now AIDS Walk, Run & Street Challenge San Diego, as organizers have upgraded the annual event with a new course, extended festival focusing on health and wellness, and, you guessed it, a street challenge featuring obstacle courses complete with beach balls, zombies and a costume contest. Now in its 24th year, this year’s AIDS Walk is set for Sept. 29, kicking off with the 10k run at 7:30 a.m. Walkers will take to the 5k course at 8:30 a.m., all starting in Balboa Park near the intersection of Sixth

Being welcomed at the table Lambda Archives honors political leaders at annual gala By Anthony King | GSD Editor

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Lambda Archives of San Diego held their annual gala Sept. 6, honoring the region’s openly LGBT elected officials with a reception and catered dinner. The “20 Years at the Table” celebration highlighted the careers of nine political leaders, as well as honorary Chair Al Best, who, in 1979, was the first openly gay candidate to run for San Diego City Council. “Tonight’s event truly is a

celebration. Not just of the nine individuals who we single out as ‘San Diego’s openly LGBT elected officials,’ but of all the accomplishments that have come as a result of being ‘at the table,’” Lambda Archives board President Maureen Steiner said in her welcome. Elected officials honored that evening were former Senator Christine Kehoe, District Attorney Bonnie Dumanis, Assembly Majority Leader Toni Atkins, San Diego Interim Mayor Todd Gloria, former Chula



Local LGBT elected officials hold their commemorative plates at the Lambda Archives gala. (Photo by Big Mike) Vista Mayor Steve Padilla, former Coronado Councilmember Frank Tierney, former San Diego Councilmember Carl DeMaio, San Diego Unified School District board Vice President Kevin Beiser, and County Board Supervisor Dave Roberts.

Called “Heroes, Pioneers, and Trailblazers,” the gala serves as one of the primary fundraisers for the nonprofit, whose mission is to “collect, preserve and teach the his-

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Rainbow-colored fruits and veggies pop up around Hillcrest By Morgan M. Hurley | GSD Assistant Editor Residents and visitors of Hillcrest may have noticed an artful addition to the neighborhood recently, thanks to a new project launched by the Hillcrest Business Association (HBA). Deemed the “Utility Box Art Project,” it started with acquiring colorful, high-resolution digital photography of fruits and vegetables, printing those images out on 64-by-58-inch, all-weather material and wrapping the final product around a series of high-profile, traffic-signal control boxes. The idea came after HBA Executive Director Benjamin Nicholls saw an electrical box in Point Loma outfitted in a similar fashion. John Thurston, a third-generation Hillcrest native who currently lives in City Heights, is a local photographer who joined the HBA beautification committee at the first of the year. Once Nicholls floated the idea of beautifying area utility boxes to the committee, Thurston said he saw an opportunity to make a difference with his art and formulated a pitch for the project, offering his services at just a $1 per box. “As a gay man growing up in San Diego where do you hang out?” Thurston said. “This was the center of the universe. I’m kinda thrilled to, not really leave my mark, but my contribution.” A retired aerospace technical editor, Thurston grew up with a journalist father and was always tinkering with cameras, but he said it was the digital age of photography that finally bit him for good. After taking photography classes from South Bark Dog Wash co-owner Lisa Vela at City College, Thurston now runs a thriving business and even teaches classes of his own. Thurston’s work did come with a hitch; all boxes had to have his web address – – identified on one side, and the final contract included HBA’s website as well. Prior to submitting his proposal to the HBA, Thurston said he set out with his phone to do a layman’s survey – though quite sophisticated thanks to today’s applications

– of all the electrical-type utility boxes within the HBA footprint. Once all the boxes – which included various sizes from San Diego Gas & Electric, the City, Cox Communications and AT&T – were photographed and geotagged, Thurston recommended starting with the 10 traffic-signal boxes as they were tall, uniform in nature and present at every major intersection. The project was quickly approved, and soon Impact Visual Arts (IVA) in Mission Valley and Howard Sign Services in El Cajon, Calif. were brought on board as part of the implementation team, with Thurston assigned as the project lead. After fruits and vegetable images were decided upon to promote the Hillcrest Farmers’ Market, Thurston said the HBA board suggested he attempt “a rainbow motif” when considering his subjects. Although each color is represented, he said laying them out that way was “a little tricky.” What also was not easy, he said, was preparing the utility boxes for IVA’s polyester/natural fiber, ecofriendly UV coating. Each stainlesssteel box takes up to four hours of preparation prior to the installation. “It became the biggest ex-

John Thurston in front of his completed “zucchini” wrap at Normal Street and University Avenue, in honor of the Hillcrest Farmers’ Market (Photo by Morgan M. Hurley) pense,” he said. “It’s gotta be smooth as a baby’s bottom to get it right, and Howard [Sign Services] has really gotten it down to a science.” Deciding the location of some of the specific fruit and veggie images also took on meaning. The first installation, at the corner of Sixth and Robinson avenues on June 27 was a photo of kiwi fruit, a nod to Nicholls, who hails from New Zealand. Seven more “wraps” have been installed along University

(l to r) Howard Mittleman (kneeling) and Mike Bancroft of Howard Sign Services finish “strawberry” on University Avenue. (Photo by John Thurston Photography)

Avenue: zucchinis at the corner of Normal Street, habanero chilies at Richmond Street, strawberries at Vermont Street, heirloom tomatoes at 10th Avenue, Thai peppers in front of the Hillcrest Fire Station at Ninth Avenue, blueberries at Fifth Avenue and cherries at Third Avenue. A red leaf lettuce image has been installed at the corner of Washington and Normal streets, and the 10th and final installation, eggplant, will take place at Washington Street and Fourth Avenue.

IVA’s material won’t fade, is “tagging” resistant and should last for up to 10 years, Thurston said. For consistency, the HBA will vote in November regarding how to wrap the remaining 14 utility boxes with native plant images, and Thurston said he expects to get compensated for that phase. With this project now under his belt, Thurston plans to approach other neighborhoods with the idea, since many are undergrounding their electrical lines, a process that creates utility boxes in its wake.t



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The bottom line on the Olympics?

Mountain views of Sochi, Russia (Courtesy Sochi 2014 OC)

Government, nonprofit and private sponsors see opportunity for LGBT rights at Sochi Games, pass on boycott By Lisa Keen | Keen News Service While there are a few people who would like to see a boycott of the winter Olympic Games in Russia next February because of that nation’s newly passed laws hostile to LGBT people, most see that idea as an example of the proverbial “throwing the baby out with the bath water.” They don’t want to throw away the precious opportunity for a peaceful gathering of the world’s nations to make clear their distaste for the maltreatment of LGBT people in the host nation. From President Barack Obama to the Russian LGBT Network and the Federation of Gay Games, the belief is that more good can be done for LGBT people in Russia by going to the games than by staying home. And the Russian government signed onto the United Nations’ symbolic “Olympic Truce” that promised to “promote social inclusion without discrimination of any kind,” the New York Times reported. Nonetheless, there is a distinct discomfort among some with the similarities of Russia’s harsh treatment of LGBT people today and Germany’s treatment of Jews, gays and others when it hosted the Olympic Games in Berlin in 1936. “Having rejected a proposed boycott of the 1936 Olympics, the United States and other western democracies missed the opportunity to take a stand that – some observ-

ers at the time claimed – might have given Hitler pause and bolstered international resistance to Nazi tyranny,” states the U.S. Holocaust Memorial Museum website. The Museum notes that Nazi officials toned down their “Aryans only” policy during the Berlin games and even “ordered that foreign visitors should not be subjected to the criminal penalties of German anti-homosexuality laws” during the Olympics. Thus, it’s not likely that many people were comforted when the International Olympic Committee (IOC) issued a press release Aug. 22 saying a letter from Russian Prime Minister Kozak promised to comply with Item 6 of IOC’s non-discrimination policy. Although IOC says Item 6 includes sexual orientation discrimination, the text reads, “Any form of discrimination with regard to a country or a person on grounds of race, religion, politics, gender or otherwise is incompatible with belonging to the Olympic Movement.” Nor was there any likely comfort gained when the IOC, on Sept. 10, elected German Thomas Bach as its new president and he told reporters, “We have the assurances of the highest authorities in Russia” that there will be no discrimination at the Sochi Games. Bach acknowledged there are many “political implications” for various decisions made by the IOC, but said the IOC has to be “strictly politically neutral.” President Obama is not support-

ing a boycott of the Olympics but is not taking a neutral position either. Attending a G-20 economic summit in Russia, he met with nine LGBT activists Sept. 6, telling them he supports their efforts to oppose the anti-gay laws in Russia. “Nobody’s more offended than me about some of the anti-gay and lesbian legislation that you’ve been seeing in Russia,” Obama said. The Human Rights Campaign (HRC) has not called for a boycott either, but has found alternative ways to try and leverage some pressure on the IOC and the Russian government. When Russian President Valdimir Putin published an op-ed in the New York Times Sept. 11 criticizing President Obama’s claim that “American exceptionalism” compels the U.S. to respond to the use of chemical weapons against civilians in Syria, HRC issued a statement pointing out an incongruity between Putin’s statement that “God created us equal” and his support for treating Russia’s LGBT people as lesser. “If we’re all equal, then it’s time to put a stop to the anti-LGBT propaganda law,” said a Sept. 12 statement on HRC Blog. HRC sent also letters to all 10 of the major corporate partners of the Sochi Games, urging them to take a “public position” against the anti-gay law, “denounce” violence against LGBT people in Russia and take other actions. HRC created an “IOC Sponsor Watch” online to

monitor how the corporate sponsors respond. A spokesperson for Dow Chemical, a top Olympic sponsor with a perfect score from the HRC Corporate Equality Index, said “Dow is globally committed to equality and diversity and inclusion. … We believe that the IOC will continue to uphold its commitment to nondiscrimination in all aspects of the Games. We are engaged with the IOC on this important topic and support its recent statement that sport is a human right and the Games should be open to all.” General Electric (GE) spokesperson Megan Parker, whose company earned a 75 rating from HRC’s index this year, said GE believes the global attention the Olympic Games bring has “many positive influences” beyond sporting circles. “We expect the IOC to uphold human rights in every aspect of the Olympic Games,” she said. And Coca-Cola corporate spokesperson Ann Moore said Sept. 2, “We commit to continue demonstrating our values around diversity and inclusion through our actions and policies in communities throughout the world. We have great respect for the Human Rights Campaign, and

we look forward to continuing our dialogue with them on this important issue.” There has been other pressure aimed at the corporate sponsors, too. On Aug. 17, a small group of Chicago area activists held up signs outside the McDonald’s fast food headquarters in Oakbrook, Ill., Windy City Times reported. On Aug. 28, activists in New York City staged a “Dump CocaCola” action. In their press release, Queer Nation NY and RUSA LGBT – a group of Russian-speaking American LGBT activists – said the Coca-Cola Company is “sponsoring hate” by their corporate sponsorship of the Sochi Games. The group demanded that Coca-Cola withdraw its financial support of the Sochi Games and implement in Russia the same non-discrimination policies it has for its workers in the U.S. The group has not yet gone after any of the other nine corporate partners but Queer Nation spokesperson Alan Klein says protests against the others are “in the works.” “We started with Coca-Cola because they are a World Partner and major sponsor of the Games and have been associated with the Olympics since 1928,” Klein said. On the same day as the Queer Nation action, Coca-Cola posted a statement on its website reiterating that it has “long been a strong supporter of the LGBT community” and that it does “not condone intolerance or discrimination” of any kind. “We believe a more positive impact can be made through continued involvement, rather than by sitting on the sidelines,” the statement said. Coca-Cola is but one of 10 “top” corporate partners with the IOC for the Sochi Games. These partners provide millions of dollars to fund the staging of the games, support Olympic teams, and provide technology and expertise. A petition at, asking five of the 10 sponsors to “pull sponsorship” from the 2014 Olympics had more than 211,000 supporters as of Monday, Sept. 16. Texas-based Global Language

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Monitor, which specializes in auditing the value of various corporate brands, says most Olympic sponsors sign contracts that provide the sponsorship relationship through Summer, Winter and Paralympics games. It estimates that corporate sponsorship of the Olympics over the course of a four-year period costs each company about $1 billion in fees paid to the IOC and in costs associated with advertising and merchandising. “The Olympics have the ability of make, break, energize, or hasten the decline of global brands,” wrote GLM President Paul JJ Payack. “As they become an ever-larger presence in an evermore wired world, their importance to the global marketing community will only increase in new, and possibly disruptive, ways. Successfully affiliating one’s brand with the Olympics can result in billions of dollars in revenue differential.” LGBT political commentator Richard Socarides said in an Aug. 20 essay for The New Yorker that corporate sponsors are in a bind, but so are activists. “Last year’s boycott of the chicken-sandwich chain Chickfil-A for its financial support of anti-gay groups saw mixed results after conservatives rallied around the company and visited it in droves,” Socarides wrote. There is another complication when it comes to evaluating some of these sponsors: many do sponsor LGBT events and make significant contributions to the LGBT community. For instance, Proctor & Gamble contributed to the effort to repeal Cincinnati’s anti-gay initiative, a move that prompted Focus on the Family to urge a boycott of its popular toothpaste Crest and detergent Tide. The Visa corporation offers a rainbow Visa card for consumers who want to show their pride and HRC offers a “HRC Visa Card” that allows supporters to automatically contribute a percentage of each purchase to the lobby group. The McDonald’s fast food corporation has a “Lesbian Gay Career Development” class that “teaches our employees how to move from awareness to action in the area of inclusion and intercultural management.” General Electric’s LGBT employee group hosts 50 LGBT community service projects each year and sponsored the World Pride event prior to the 2012 London Olympics. And Coca-Cola, which has sponsored several LGBT pride events as well as the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force’s Winter Party Festival, reportedly pressured the Atlantabased law firm of King & Spaulding to drop its initial contract to defend the Defense of Marriage Act for the House’s Bipartisan Legal Advisory Group. “But whatever the impact on the bottom line, the [Chick-fil-A] controversy did generate a lot of media coverage, and certainly the Olympics offer a much bigger media platform for gay-rights supporters than a take-out chain,” Socarides said. “If Russia continues to arrest, harass, and stigmatize gay people, then human-rights activists will no doubt continue to protest, and the Olympics in Sochi could turn out to be one of the most politically explosive Games in history.”t

important to our local HIV/AIDS service agencies, so we continue to develop new and creative opportunities for people to participate,” he said in a release. The new street challenge will include a course through Balboa Park’s Marston Point, with six different obstacles, plus two workout stations. There are five different heats for the challenge, running every half hour between 9 and 11 a.m. The first obstacle is “Attack of the Gladiators,” where participants will walk across a balance beam “while gladiators hurl giant bounders at you,” organizers said. Obstacle two, sponsored in part by Rich’s San Diego, is the “Zombie Wall Escape,” where a “horde of zombies” chase participants climbing over a wall. In “Life’s a Beach,” a third obstacle, a large fenced-in area containing hundreds of beach balls takes on participants, who are challenged with making their way through the pit in record time. Organizers are encouraging street challenge participants to dress up in a costume of their choice, with a “Best Dressed” trophy awarded to the most unique costume. Also new this year, organizers are offering an extra incentive to participants who are able to raise more than $100 for AIDS Walk. Called Superheroes, those who do will receive a special, limited edition T-shirt.


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Strong, amazing and unique: AIDS Walk brings out the best of San Diego. (Photo by Cali Griebel/SDPIX)

“We really wanted to recognize those folks who go beyond registering and commit to raising at least $100, with something special, and the ‘AIDS Walk Superhero’ shirt is just one way for us to express our gratitude for their efforts,” Johnson said. While a fun, community event is planned, organizers are also taking the opportunity to remind participants of the long history of HIV and AIDS. Photographer Jae L. Hanson has been asked to display his photo series highlighting long-term survivors of the virus. Called “Survivors Exhibit,” the exhibit will be on display at the festival grounds and features images of men and women diagnosed before 1997.

“I present this project as a celebration of long-term survivors of HIV: those who were diagnosed during a scary time when premature death seemed a certainty, those who lost so many friends and family, those who have lived through the devastation caused by this disease [and] those who continue to live with courage,” Hansen said on the exhibit website, “I also present this project as a reminder that, while we have made great progress, the battle is not yet over,” he said. “Despite the medical advancements of the past decade, the effects of HIV remain with us.” Darnell Walker has been volunteering for AIDS Walk since


2007. In 2010, he became an area coordinator for the event and said he valued his role in making the day a success. Motivated by the loss of an uncle to AIDS in 2004, Walker brings his entire family and friends to help, too. “I got involved with AIDS Walk San Diego because someone asked me to be on their team,” Walker said in a press release. “The energy from that first experience was infectious so every time since – when The Center asks me to help – I love having the chance to give back to the community.” More than 800 volunteers in total manage AIDS Walk, and organizers are always looking for individuals who can contribute time before or during the event. Those interested are asked to contact Volunteer Coordinator Jerry Tomaszewicz at 619-692-2077, extension 202. The extended health fair in Balboa Park, including the “Survivors Exhibit,” is open to all. Individuals and teams can participate in the run, walk or street challenge only, as well as both the run and challenge, or walk and challenge. Online registration closes Thursday, Sept. 26. Different sign-up options are available on the event website, and registration cost runs from $25 for a youth runner or walker, to $65 for a runner and challenger, or walker and challenger. No refunds will be given. For more information on the event, including individual or group registration, visit or call 619-291-9255.t



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Harvey Milk’s WHAT?!? I must have been hungry today. First, I stopped by the Ronald Reagan drive-thru for a quick bite. Later on, I found myself at the Martin Luther King donut shop for a coffee and snack. Since we have an early morning meeting tomorrow, I headed to the John F. Kennedy bagel store to get something for the staff to eat. I’m hoping to one day make it to the new “Harvey Milk’s American Diner,” however I know that will never happen. Even though the Harvey Milk Foundation

has granted permission for a diner to bear his name, and the diner has agreed to provide a one percent quarterly donation to the foundation, there is no way I would ever walk through the doors. Call me old fashioned, but political leaders who have fought for freedom in one way or another are deserving of appropriate public recognition. Naming a street, airport, building, highway, aircraft carrier, etc. seems suitable ways to honor those who brought about change that didn’t seem possible. Attaching the name of someone like Harvey Milk to a restaurant, any restaurant, diminishes

his legacy and makes it harder for us to place him in his rightful spot in history in the way he should be treated – like other leaders. So, no matter how cold the Harvey “Chocolate” Milk is, how delicious the HM Breakfast Special is, or how charmingly decorated the restaurant is to honor Harvey, I can’t do it. Then again, maybe eating a McMilk burger or a Harvey latte might be the best way to support an LGBT business and raise money for the Harvey Milk Foundation. No, I think I’ll write a check. —Joe Reid, via emailt


Still waiting for a great lesbian movie 28 years after ‘Desert Hearts,’ lesbian cinema hasn’t changed much By Abby Dees Now that the excitement of the DOMA case has mellowed, my thoughts have turned to the second most important LGBT pride moment of my life: the release of “Desert Hearts” at my local movie theater in 1985. I’d never seen so many lesbians standing in one line as there were that night, buying tickets because they’d all heard that a real lesbian movie was here at last. What I mean by a real lesbian movie is there were no vampires, no suicides, no one running back to men and no psychopaths in the movie. Up until then, that’s pretty much what you got if you wanted to see a movie with a bit of lesbian in it. A simple, stylized, and otherwise unremarkable film, “Desert Hearts” hit it out of the park with every lesbian I knew because the romantic leads were likeable and they stayed together in the end.

Years later, one of the actresses, Helen Shaver, remarked that she will never have to fear becoming homeless, as there are thousands of grateful lesbians who would happily take her in. In fairness, two years earlier the gentle and cerebral lesbianthemed film, “Lianna,” beat “Desert Hearts” to the punch, but that film suffered from one key problem: Director John Sayles, a straight man, bent over backwards to be sensitive to lesbians, right down to the gauze over the lens during the sex scenes. At least it was a click up on the passion meter from 1980’s “Personal Best,” which presented lesbian intimacy as nothing more than a naked tickle game (and especially notable for Mariel Hemingway’s whining), so I applaud Sayles for the effort. By contrast, “Desert Hearts” was made by a lesbian and captured a certain lesbian sensibility, humor and even some sweaty sex. What a revelation. Thus began the golden age of lesbian cinema. I’m sorry. I meant to say, thus began a random trickle of cringeworthy lesbian indie films, and the occasionally redeeming art-house

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flick. It seemed that ever after, most so-called “lesbian films” functioned as a kind of home-made therapy device, typically telling coming-out stories with such heavy-handed earnestness that all irony got smothered with a lavender pillow, leaving only two-dimensional fantasy versions of lesbian lives. I mean, how many esteemed closet-case professors can there be out there just waiting for a sexy, brilliant free-spirit to pull them out of their ivory towers? For many years I dutifully saw each new lesbian flick, hoping for something fresh and challenging, and then nearly always forgot the film moments after tossing my popcorn tub into the trash. Don’t even get me started on “Claire of the Moon.” Today I watched a 2013 Outfest film called “Who’s Afraid of Vagina Wolf”[sic]. I can’t say it was bad, because it had cool lines like this: “I don’t like improvisation. It’s like leaving an open window into your soul and all the little squirrels can crawl in and raid your panties.” At least there’s some room for edginess in lesbian cinema now. That’s an improvement. But I was still too aware of a self-conscious “Hey kids, let’s make a movie!” quality throughout, which was


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unfortunate, as the film is about a bunch of people doing just that. I want a lot more after all this time, which may just be too bad for me. In another unwittingly apt line from “Vagina Wolf,” a film producer quips, “Gays and lesbians have the same shitty taste as everybody else.” Movies rarely equal art. Back in 1985, I was a newly out, baby dyke and desperate to see my most ridiculous lesbian romance fantasies projected on a big movie. I must have seen “Desert Hearts” five times the week it came out, but frankly it wasn’t a great film. I didn’t care, because how could I resist an escapist romp with a sexy ingénue who enters the film driving backwards in a convertible, full-speed, to say hello to the brilliant female professor that’s just come to town? Carry on, all you makers of “lesbian films.” There’s always going to be an appreciative lesbian audience, but can you aim high every now and then? —Abby is a civil rights attorneyturned-author who has been in the LGBT rights trenches for over 25 years. She can be reached through her website at

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tory of lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people in the San Diego and Northern Baja California region.” The gala was held at the Marine Corps Recruit Depot, San Diego for the second year in a row. While Atkins was unable to attend, each of the remaining eight honorees spoke briefly, describing their personal experiences running and holding office as a member of the LGBT community. Lambda Archives also gave each a commemorative plate marking the evening. Particular attention was paid to Best, who was honored in 2011 as part of that year’s Lambda Archives “Heroes, Pioneers, and Trailblazers” gala. After his unsuccessful run for City Council – coming in fifth out of 11 candidates – Best went on to become executive vice president of protocol development at Community Research Group, an HIV/AIDS clinical trial network that helped develop the initial AIDS drug “cocktail.” In a 2011 interview for San Diego Gay & Lesbian News, Best said he was particularly proud of their work in Tijuana, Mexico, where they were the first United States group allowed to work in the city to help develop their own drug protocol. U.S. senators Barbara Boxer and Dianne Feinstein of California extended their congratulations in a letter to Lambda Archives, both for their continued work in collecting and preserving LGBT history, as well as playing a vital role in the community. Sponsors for the event were The San Diego Foundation’s Gay & Lesbian Fund for San Diego and the Imperial Court de San Diego. Silent auction items were donated by Harvey Milk’s American Diner, MO’s Universe, Big Kitchen Cafe, Coast Restaurant, Cohn Family Restaurants and The Pearl Hotel. In continuing the theme of recognizing the political advancement of the local LGBT community, Lambda Archives will be hosting an open reception of their latest exhibit, also called “20 Years at the Table.” The exhibit is currently on display at the Archives, and the reception will be held Oct. 11 from 5 – 7:30 p.m. “As believers in the political process, I urge you to stay engaged and continue to push for the outcomes you desire,” Steiner said. “And, as every honoree here tonight will tell you, they did not do it alone. It took all the effort and good will of you … to make their place at the table a reality, to make our successes tangible.” For more information, visit Lambda Archives at 4545 Park Blvd., suite 104 or online at They can be reached at 619-260-1522.t

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GAY NEWS BRIEFS DEMOCRATS FOR EQUALITY TO HOST MAYORAL CANDIDATES The San Diego Democrats for Equality will hold a mayoral candidate forum at their next meeting, scheduled for Thursday, Sept. 26. Democrat candidates Mike Aguirre, David Alvarez, Bruce Coons and Nathan Fletcher have all signaled they will appear to speak in front of the LGBT Democrat club. Current Councilmember Kevin Faulconer, a Republican, declined to complete a candidate questionnaire and participate in the forum, representatives from Democrats for Equality said in a press release. Before the candidates explain their vision and answer questions from attendees, Interim Mayor Todd Gloria will speak on his experiences as council president and interim mayor, as well as opportunities facing San Diego. Immediately after the forum, the club will consider making an official endorsement in the mayoral race. The public is invited to attend, however only club members may submit questions for the candidates and participate in a debate regarding endorsements. The meeting will be held in the Joyce Beers Uptown Community Center, located at 3900 Vermont Ave. The room opens at 6:30 p.m. with refreshments, and the meeting starts at 7 p.m. TRANSGENDER NAME-CHANGE BILL SENT TO GOVERNOR Authored by Assembly Majority Leader Toni Atkins, Assembly Bill (AB) 1121 providing transgender individuals seeking legal name changes to reflect their gender identity with a “streamlined and inexpensive process” passed the California legislature Sept. 6, a press release from Atkins said. Current law requires people to obtain court orders and publish the name change application in a newspaper for four weeks, a potentially expensive process that could also expose people to forms of “discrimination, harassment or even violence” because of their gender identity, the release said. AB 1121 allows for a transgender person to avoid the public notice and court process, applying directly to the Office of Vital Records instead. “Transgender people are entitled to have their official documents and their legal name reflect their true identity without a burdensome and expensive process that endangers their personal safety,” Atkins said in the release. Sponsored by Equality California and the Transgender Law Center,

the bill has been sent to Gov. Jerry Brown for his signature and he has until Oct. 13 to sign it. FASHION WEEK SAN DIEGO RETURNS TO DOWNTOWN Fashion Week San Diego (FWSD) returns for one full week, starting with an advisory panel workshop on Friday, Sept. 27, followed by the main attraction: five days of fashion events, runway shows and a trunk show, open to the public. Oct. 2 is “The Art & Beauty Behind Fashion” from 6 – 9 p.m., and the runway shows are Oct. 3 – 5, also at 6 p.m. The final day, Oct. 6, is the Day 7 Trunk Show and shopping experience at 11 a.m., and all events are at the Port of San Diego’s Broadway Pier, Downtown. Out designer Andre Soriano returns this year to compete in the new fashion-competition TV series, “Styled to Rock.” Airing on the Style. network, “Styled to Rock” is a 10-episode series that gives 12 up-and-coming designers an opportunity to create fashion pieces for celebrity talent. With two other designers from the TV series, Soriano will close out Fashion Week San Diego’s Thursday runway show. Soriano last presented his Spring/ Summer 2013 line during the 2012 San Diego Fashion Week. Of the 26 designers at this year’s San Diego event, LGBT representatives include Victoria Roberts of Wishnow, showing on Saturday; Richard Henderson and his partner Tim of RHCREATION, showing Friday; and an additional “Styled to Rock” designer, Dexter Simmons. “Fashion to me is art, a personal sense of style that allows us to present and express ourselves as individuals,” Henderson said on the FWSD website. General admission tickets for Oct. 2 – 6 are $100, and VIP passes are $175. For more information and tickets visit HIV FUNDING COLLABORATIVE RECEIVES $25,000 AWARD The San Diego Human Dignity Foundation received a $25,000 award from the Alliance Healthcare Foundation for the 2014 grant cycle of the HIV Funding Collaborative. Alliance has been a “key member” of the Collaborative since its inception, Human Dignity Foundation representatives said, providing administrative and financial support from 1997 – 2009. The Collaborative, which was formed in 1990, is currently run by the Human Dignity Foundation and has awarded close to $400,000 to local HIV and AIDS service organizations for the 2013 grant cycle. The 2014 cycle opens in October. “We are so grateful to the Alliance Healthcare Foundation for continuing their commitment to the HIV Funding Collaborative,”

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said Human Dignity Foundation Executive Director John Brown in a press release. “Every year the gap between what the AIDS/HIV providers need and what is available grows and every year it becomes a greater challenge to help fill that gap. Today we are $25,000 closer.” Since its inception, the Collaborative has distributed over $6 million. LOG CABIN REPUBLICANS NAME DUMANIS AS WOMAN OF THE YEAR The local chapter of the Log Cabin Republicans, a LGBT Republican Party organization, named District Attorney Bonnie Dumanis as recipient of their Woman of the Year award. The honor was announced at their regular monthly meeting, held Wednesday, Sept. 18 at Diversionary Theatre, San Diego Gay & Lesbian News (SDGLN) reported. “DA Dumanis has been not only a role model for women in law enforcement, but she has set the bar for LGBT Republican women who wish to run for public office,” said Log Cabin Republicans of San Diego President Susan Jester to SDGLN. “Bonnie demonstrated great courage in running in 2003 as an openly gay candidate under the GOP banner and has helped pave the way for those who would follow in her footsteps.” SDGLN reported current Councilmember and Mayoral candidate Kevin Faulconer presented the award to Dumanis, and California Republican Party Chair Jim Brulte was also in attendance. UPTOWN INCLUDED IN ANNUAL COASTAL CLEANUP DAY In honor of the 29th annual California Coastal Cleanup Day – a initiative that sees over 60,000 volunteers throughout California taking to waterways, canyons and streets in a communal effort to pick up trash, clean graffiti and remove invasive plants – I Love a Clean San Diego is once again organizing groups to target local sites in San Diego County. Last year over 9,000 volunteers in the greater San Diego region removed approximately 167,000 pounds of trash and recyclables, a release from the nonprofit said. Of the 90 total county locations, five sites in Uptown are targeted for this year’s cleanup, to be held Saturday, Sept. 21: Juniper Canyon in Golden Hill, Maple Canyon in Park West, Marston Canyon in Hillcrest, Switzer Canyon in South Park and a neighborhood cleanup in Mission Hills. The cleanup is from 9 a.m. – 12 p.m., and organizers recommend bringing a bucket, work gloves and a reusable water container. There will be captains at each site, and interested volunteers can register for any site at For more information visit or call 619-291-0103.t

(l to r) Gov. Jerry Brown looks on as Assembly Speaker John Pérez speaks (Courtesy office of John A. Pérez) FROM PAGE 1

FREEDOM “When Christine Kehoe became the first LGBT-elected official in San Diego, it was big news and it was groundbreaking, and that was what the story was all about,” Case said. “These days when [someone like] Todd Gloria, David Roberts, Bonnie Dumanis or Carl DeMaio gets elected to office, their sexual orientation is more of a footnote and not a major story.” Pérez was elected in 2008 to represent the 48th Assembly District, located in Los Angeles. In 2010, he became the first openly gay person in the country to ever be elected as speaker of a state House or Assembly. Among his accomplishments is his election to serve as president of the National Speakers Conference, a non-partisan organization of those holding the position of speaker in a state House or Assembly. He was also appointed by former-presidents Bill Clinton and George W. Bush to serve on the President’s Advisory Council on HIV/AIDS. Assembly Majority Leader Toni Atkins, a past recipient of the award, will present the Human Rights Award to Pérez on Sept. 22. About 100 people are expected to attend the ceremony. The award is the highest honor given by the nonprofit. It is named for Dr. A. Brad Truax, a physician and early president of the LGBT Democrat group, which was previously known as the San Diego Democratic Club. Truax advocated for laws protecting people with HIV and AIDS from discrimination. “Speaker Pérez is one of the toughest, smartest, most strategic

political leaders I’ve had the honor to work with,” Atkins said. “He is also a good friend and a perfect choice for the Brad Truax award.” Atkins said that as the nation’s first LGBT Speaker, Pérez has moved LGBT rights forward and brought LGBT elected officials to the table in an unprecedented way. She said that under his leadership, the California legislature has passed groundbreaking laws to advance LGBT equality, especially for LGBT youth. “We were the first state to ban the abhorrent practice of conversion therapy, and other states are following our lead,” Pérez said. “I am very proud of the groundbreaking protections the legislature has passed for transgender students in California’s classrooms. We clearly have more work to do, but the victories we have won on behalf of our community are a powerful affirmation of justice and human dignity, and I am deeply grateful not only for this award, but for the work activists in our community do across the state every single day.” Other honors presented Sept. 22 include the J. Douglas Scott Political Action Award to Don Mullen, the Gloria Steinem Communications Award to Lambda Archives, the Eleanor Roosevelt Community Service Award to Connor Maddocks and the R. Stevens Pope Award for Volunteerism to Phyllis McGrath. Special Recognition will be given to the San Diego Democrats for Equality Transformation Task Force and the President’s Award will be announced at the event. Tickets for the Freedom Awards are $50 for members, and $60 for guests. For more information on the San Diego Democrats for Equality, visit or email info@


SEE CRUISE Across 1 Partners of bottoms 5 Vidal’s “Visit to a ___ Planet” 10 Words before delighted 14 Final Foursome org.? 15 CafÈ con ___ 16 Go down 17 Hudson and Day pillow activity 18 Spear of Minnesota 19 Sultry Horne 20 Tom Cruise danced in his briefs in this flick 23 Storage spot 24 Eavesdropping org. 25 Folk singer DiFranco 26 Elbow-bender 28 Excessive 30 Still in the closet, perhaps 32 Some cracks are full of it 35 They shoot up when they shoot off 37 With 46-Across, song to which Cruise danced

See Cruise solution on page 19 39 Coloratura Gluck 41 “West Side Story” girl 42 Decorated man, maybe 45 Born in Boulogne 46 See 37-Across 48 “Breakfast on Pluto” actor Stephen 49 Beat (out) 51 “Not to worry” 53 Singer of the song 59 Positive sign 62 Response to an on-line personal 63 Nick Adams character Johnny 67 Actress Skye 68 Rimbaud’s turf 69 Ditch school for the day 70 Hockey thug 71 Trojan beauty 72 Just your type?

Down 1 Explosive stick 2 Ovate wind instrument 3 Air an aria, avid diva 4 Fifth Avenue store 5 Puts in stitches, like Kate Clinton 6 Moore of “Hair” 7 Rights-defending org. 8 Tibetan capital 9 Big dictator in the land of Peter the Great 10 “Spamalot” writer Eric 11 They cover the knees of drag queens 12 Yves’ evening utterance 13 Ecology org. 21 Work with the hands 22 Big bang cause, briefly 23 It picks people up who eventually get off 27 QB feats 29 Home of the Bruins 31 Problem for skin 33 Gay-dog owner of “South Park” 34 Object to

35 “Get ___ the Church on Time” 36 By mouth 38 Russian commune 39 Bannon of ‘50s lesbian pulp fiction 40 Bloom of “The Producers” 43 ___ Speedwagon 44 Hard woody one 46 Busy activity 47 Tell a tall tale 50 “The Wizard of Oz” dropout Buddy 52 No-tell motel meeting 54 Aleph follower 55 Nemesis of Tinkerbell 56 Banjoist Scruggs 57 Wilde country 58 One side of Ed Wood 59 Party in a fairy tale threesome 60 Elton’s john 61 One, to Frida 64 Ho’s instrument 65 Be social 66 “Rent” unit (abbr.)


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Debating condoms in porn


LEGALLY LGBT Younger generations of gay and bisexual men who did not experience the height of the AIDS crisis are lured in by images of bareback sex in pornography. To the younger viewer, condoms detract from the enjoyment of porn, and a new generation of pornographers recognizes the allure of bareback videos. Many studios producing bareback porn are based in Los Angeles. In the 2012 election, Los Angeles County passed a referendum requiring condoms to be used in any material showing vaginal or anal sex. Some readers may be a fan of the idea of requiring condoms in porn, either for the safety of the actors themselves or to send a message to youth that bareback sex is not sexy or cool. Admittedly, many younger viewers might be led to believe that they don’t need to use condoms in their own

sexual encounters. Others may be happy consumers of bareback porn and want to see its production continue. I know a number of people who do not enjoy watching porn when condoms are involved. The studios that produce bareback porn were not able to defeat the ballot measure in the election, so they are moving forward with a lawsuit to stop it. In the lawsuit, studios claim that requiring condoms in porn violates their First Amendment right to freedom of expression. The case is still ongoing and it is unclear how long the studios will last. The challenge to the referendum has two strong main arguments: the First Amendment challenge and what is called a prior restraint challenge. The studios asked the court for an injunction to prevent the law from going into effect until the courts can make a final decision. The First Amendment argument is essentially saying that because sex in porn is expressive, it can not be restricted except through limited ways. However, supporters of the referendum argue that it regulates the secondary effects of speech rather than the speech itself. The referendum is aimed at preventing sexually transmitted infections that can be spread when making porn, not at the sex itself. The court denied the studios’ preliminary injunction on this basis. The judge found enough evidence that preventing disease is important enough to satisfy the defendants’ burden. The studios will have a second chance to make this argument if the case goes to

trial. However, by denying the injunction, the judge indicates that he does not think the studios will be successful. The second argument is that the law is invalid because it creates a prior restraint. A prior restraint is when government requires you to seek permission before engaging in protected speech. Prior restraints are presumptively invalid because they chill speech from occurring. The referendum requires porn studios to apply for a permit before creating any adult films. The judge granted the preliminary injunction against the permit requirement. The judge found that the permit requirement was likely to be unconstitutional because under the law studios could not produce any porn without first applying for a permit. The judge also found it problematic that the law allowed officials to search porn studio sets without a warrant and authorized revoking a permit if officials suspected a studio of breaking the rules. The judge also granted a preliminary injunction against these requirements. This decision leaves the condom requirement in place until the challenge reaches its climax but makes it much harder to enforce. The porn industry is certainly big enough to last until the end. —Paul D. McGuire is an openly bisexual family law attorney in San Diego who assists families dealing with dissolution of marriage and domestic partnerships. He writes a blog on family law and LGBT issues at

Why do I drink? MICHAEL KIMMEL LIFE BEYOND THERAPY It’s popular in psychological or treatment circles to focus on how much alcohol we drink, how much is too much, what to do about it, et cetera. In this column, let’s look at why we drink. What’s our motivation in throwing down those beers, mojitos or Stolis? Is it to feel more of something, like relaxed, playful or comfortable socially? Or is it to feel less of something: less tense, nervous or fearful? Let’s assume that you want to feel more relaxed, playful and comfortable. Well, is a drink (or two or three) the best way to get there? Are there other ways? Sure, but it’s more work. The downsides of alcohol are all too familiar: hangovers, depression and, most of all, nothing really changes. We haven’t really changed anything because the answer to our problem was in that bottle, not inside ourselves. When the answers to our problems remain external – alcohol, sex, shopping – we’re basically just putting new Band-Aids on a deep wound. We avoid ripping off the Band-Aid and really cleaning out the wound because it’s uncomfortable and takes time and energy. So we just have another drink. As someone who likes a drink or two (usually that’s my limit), I personally know the benefits and pitfalls of alcohol. I once had a job that I disliked so much, I found it necessary to have a glass of wine every night when I got home from work. Then it became two glasses of wine. The job didn’t change, I just began drinking more. I was lucky. I realized what I was doing, found another job and stopped drinking for a while, just to “clean my system out” and remember how to cope with difficulties stone cold sober. Any time I find myself “needing” a drink, I ask myself what’s going on. What do I not want to feel right now? The answer is usually clear. I’m bored or angry or lonely. Then I’m at a choice point: what am I gonna do about it?

I have great respect for Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) and other programs like it. I have seen these work wonders for many people, both friends and clients alike. While I am not a licensed substance-abuse counselor, I have worked with many clients who question why they are drinking and what they want to do about it. Many people can enjoy the occasional pleasurable effects of alcohol without suffering significant negative consequences. Some people can’t. They are often called alcoholics, but the more accurate psychological terms are alcohol dependent or alcohol abusing. People who are dependent upon alcohol need it to function. Do you need to drink to make it through the day? To get through a social situation? To cope with a difficult relationship? If so, you may have a form of alcohol dependence. You may have some degree of alcohol dependence if you try to impose limits on yourself but can’t stick to them. For example, you go out bar hopping with your friends and resolve to drink only two, maybe three, drinks max. Three hours later you’ve had eight drinks and wonder how you got there, cursing your lack of selfcontrol. If you find yourself wondering why you drink and if you have a problem with it, consider these questions: •Why do I drink? •How do I feel when I drink? •Is there any other way to get the same effect? •How many drinks are best for me? •How many drinks do I typically consume? It’s a good idea for all of us – myself included – to periodically take a good, honest look at our alcohol consumption. If you are concerned about how much you drink, you can get more information about alcoholism and alcohol dependence or abuse online or from a 12-step AA group – held every day, at all hours in San Diego – to help you decide if it’s time to modify your booze consumption. If your alcohol intake is working for you, great. If it’s not, tell yourself the truth and consider making some changes. For some of us, this is hard – if not impossible – to do alone. If you need help, get it. —Michael Kimmel is a licensed psychotherapist who specializes in helping LGBT clients achieve their goals and deal with anxiety, depression, grief, sexually addictive behavior, coming out, relationship challenges and homophobia. Michael is currently accepting new clients. Contact him at 619-955-3311 or visit

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(l to r, top) Dijon-Swiss chicken burger, and “Magic mushrooms;” (below) the Western burger (Photos by Frank Sabatini Jr.)

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round the time Veg-Nstrips. But customers must first Out opened in North choose between a house-made Park eight years non-GMO soy patty or a ago, it was particularly diffisoy-free version made of cult convincing fellow mixed veggies, brown carnivores to join me rice, quinoa and for meals at any vegspices. I’ve tried both etarian restaurant in and really couldn’t town. But since then, a tell the difference few in my pack have given amid an avalanche of up animal flesh altogether tasty toppings on them. while others have learned that The Western burger speaks meatless dishes, such as Veg-Nthe loudest. It’s comes with Out’s luscious Western burger, mock bacon, cheddar, onion can equal or exceed in calories, rings, lettuce, tomatoes, mayprotein and flavors that of a rib onnaise and robust barbecue dinner. sauce. And of those fake chicken While Veg-N-Out may not be fillets made of vegetable and (NOR TH PARK) the basilica for devout vegans and whey protein, they’re not too vegetarians seeking fancier digs, shabby when tucked into wheat it offers a repertoire of casual buns with sautéed mushrooms, non-meat fare that mainstream melted Swiss, mayo and Dijon Prices: Starters, consumers won’t readily shrug off. mustard (the fillet and cheese salads and sides, $1.75 Menu starters include tempura are available in vegan form upon to $8.75; sandwiches avocado, standard falafel and request). It was precisely the and burgers, $7.25 springy tofu triangles that are sandwich that promoted my to $9.75 lightly battered and served with meat-loving companion to say velvety Thai peanut sauce. My he’d come back. new favorite, however, is the “magA rather believable-tasting ic mushrooms” featuring several large button caps grilled hot dog that I chose previously with cheddar stuffed with feta, peppers and onions, and served with cheese and tofu chili captured all the mysterious tangy rosemary vinaigrette. A light sealant of tempura flavors of a real beef frank. Load it up further with onon the mushrooms helps keep the salty cheese inside ions, tomatoes and dill relish and you’d barely know at a pleasing near-liquid consistency. that the link didn’t originate from Oscar Mayer. A variety of salads are available in vegetarian or Other specialties include a “tofurkey” club, a vegan form, depending on whether you allow feta garden Philly and an Italian soy meatball hoagie that cheese and mayo-based dressings into them. The latrelies on the decent marinara sauce and fresh basil to ter includes a terrific creamy tarragon dressing that’s spare it from tasting suspicious. There’s also a “BLT loaded with the herb’s sweet, anise flavor. It performs royal” that passes as the real deal if you don’t mind well also on the plump, slightly oily potato wedges that the mock bacon offers only a wisp of smokiness. that are available a la carte or as a side option to the Unlike other meatless restaurants, there are no plates. faux-seafood selections on the menu, which is too Burger choices are prolific bad considering there are near-perfected vegan and creatively flavored with a versions of shrimp and white fish out there variety of fixings that include made with tapioca and potato starches. Swiss, cheddar and Jack I’ve been fooled by most of them at other cheeses, or vegan-friendly restaurants. inclusions like sautéed Veg-N-Out is considerably more com mushrooms, avocado grassroots in atmosphere comcompeti and faux bacon pared to its newer competitors. The interior reminds me of what vegan-vegetarian eateries looked before gaining wider appeal, with a mishmash of Hindu-style wall art and serving plates revealing washed-out flower prints that capture the early 1980s. The breeziness of the staff decla corresponds to the menu’s declaration that everything is cooked to order and that extra time is needed because of it. But when the hot dogs resemble those from a ballpark and the burgers taste as equally sinful as monstros a dripping monstrosity from Carl’s Jr., the 15-minute wait doesn’t feel so bad.t

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Tracy Borkum of Cucina Urbana in Bankers Hill and Fish Public in Kensington is expanding her portfolio into North County with Cucina Enoteca, slated to open Sept. 23 in Del Mar’s Flower Hill Promenade. The menu concept will be similar to that at the Italian-inspired Cucina Urbana while overlapping on dishes created for Cucina Enoteca that she recently opened in Ir vine, Calif. The new 7,000-square-foot Del Mar venture features a wine shop and in-house cheese program. 2730 Via de la Valle, 858-704-4500.

A lunch menu is in the works at the new Izakaya Ouan in Hillcrest, which recently opened to the tune of 20 varieties of sake and nearly 30 types of Japanese tapas, some of them prepared sous vide style. The eater y was launched by Ken Inoue, who previously worked at the famed Morimoto in Napa Valley and at Japengo in La Jolla. Open currently for dinner, Inoue says midday meal ser vice will begin sometime next month. 3882 Fourth Ave., 619-683-3230.


Those who insist that Italian food isn’t as good outside of New York City and San Francisco are all wrong. With an evergrowing number of noteworthy pasta kitchens in San Diego, there is Davanti Enoteca, which recently made the list for “America’s 20 best Italian restaurants” by the well-respected culinar y blog, The Little Italy restaurant, owned by Chicago restaurateur Scott Harris, shares the honors with places like Mario Batali’s Babbo in New York’s Greenwich Village and Osteria Mozza in Los Angeles. A panel of national food judges cited Davanti for its rustic ambiance, in-house wine shop and various dishes such as the “fiendishly delicious” truffled egg toast. Davanti has an additional location in Del Mar plus others in the Chicago area. 1655 India St., 619-237-9606.

BY FRANK SABATINI JR. Word from MO’s Universe is that Gossip Grill in Hillcrest will relocate a couple blocks west to 1220 University Ave., into the space that last housed The Range Kitchen & Cocktails. Currently located at 1440 University Ave., the move is planned for late November and includes a takeover of the adjacent outdoor patio bar. The section of the property that operated over the years as Universal, Eden and 1202 will be developed for retail use and is not part of Gossip’s expansion. Sticking to its popular dining-and-cocktails concept, the new location will more than double Gossip’s square footage and feature a dance floor as well as a larger kitchen for increased menu development. “The move is a long time coming for the women’s community, offering an expanded space that is unparalleled in Southern California after the closing of ,” said MO’s Universe Marketing and Public Rela RelaWest Hollywood’s The Palms,” tions Director Eddie Reynoso in a statement released Monday, Sept. 16. Gossip Grill opened in 2009 and has become widely known as a “girl’s home base playing nice with boys too.” It is operated by MO’s Universe, a family of “hetero-friendly” restaurants with festive bars that also includes Baja Betty’s, Urban MO’s and Hillcrest Brewing Company. 619-260-8023.

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Truffled egg toast

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Attention gay bears: Carnitas Snack Shack in North Park just launched “The Bear Den” on Monday nights to coincide with the start of the NFL season. Get there between 5 and 10:30 p.m. to congregate over $3 draft beers (normally $6) when purchasing any food item from the pork-centric menu. Conceived by employee Luke Brosnikoff, who worked security at Pecs, the weekly event is held on the Shack’s recently remodeled back patio. The space features a beer bar, additional tables and a TV for watching the games. 2632 University Ave., 619-294-7675.

The Big Fat Fatty puts customers to the test. (Courtesy Fat Sal’s Deli) Bring along plenty of antacids if you dare take the food challenge at Fat Sal’s Deli in Pacific Beach. The eater y is known for outrageous sandwiches that include things like chicken fingers, French fries and mozzarella sticks layered atop various meats and cheeses. Among them is a 10-pound doozy called the Big Fat Fatty, which is free to customers who can finish it in 40 minutes or less. Other wise they pay $49.95. Constructed on a 27-inch hero roll, it’s stacked with pastrami, cheeseburgers, chipped beef, chicken fingers, bacon, fried eggs, chili, jalapeno poppers, onion rings and fries, all dressed in “fat sauce.” Co-owner John Maloney said that nobody has succeeded at the challenge since the deli opened here in January, although he sees an average of about two people a week make the attempt. Winners, such as those at the original Westwood, Calif. location, get to assist in creating a new menu sandwich named after them. 956 Garnet Ave., 855-682-4373.t


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Friday, Sept. 20

FLICKS AT 30: Come out to one of San Diego’s oldest video bars to celebrate 30 years catering to the LGBT community. Flicks opened in 1983 and became one of Hillcrest’s busiest bars; that definitely continues today. New owners Jeff Jackson and his partner Paul invite ever yone out for a special celebration from 6 – 9 p.m., with drink specials, hors d’oeuvres and, well, lots of fun. Flicks is located at 1017 University Ave. Visit or call 619297-2056. OUT ON THE MOUNTAIN: Mingle with the gays of the north at tonight’s Out on the Mountain at Six Flags Magic Mountain. It’s a private party for over 6,000 people from the LGBT community, with Natalia Kills, Shangela, Jessica Sanchez and Kwanza Jones performing. Ingenue will host. The party runs from 6 p.m. – 1 a.m., and online tickets start at $39 ($50 at the door). Six Flags is located at 26101 Magic Mountain Parkway in Valencia, Calif. You’ll have to look that one up. Visit OIL WRESTLING: Get ready ladies, it time for Rivalr y’s oil wrestling contest, with “slipper y and wet fun.” The featured match of the night is happy hour Gossip Grill bartender Missy Marker wrestling her BFF Kinsey. DJ Kiki spins, too. It all starts at 9 p.m. at The Brass Rail, 3796 Fifth Ave. Visit Facebook. com/brassrailsd/.

Saturday, Sept. 21

GAY FOR GOOD: The September service project of Gay For Good sees the group partnering with The San Diego Foundation to help renew Border Field State Park in the South Bay. Wear closed-toe shoes, rubber gloves and clothes that weren’t made by Gucci, and meet at the State Park at 8:45 a.m. The renewal project will run until approximately 12 p.m. Border Field is located at 1500 Monument Rd. Visit COMMUNITY BBQ: Stonewall Citizens’ Patrol will host today’s Community BBQ from 12 – 2 p.m. Everyone is welcome, and they’ll throw burgers, hot dogs and other traditionals on the barbeque, just bring your own non-alcoholic beverage and your spirit for getting involved. Formed in 2006, the community patrol will also invite interested volunteers to learn more about the organization, and representatives from the San Diego Police Department have been invited as well. The Community Round-Up Picnic will be in Balboa Park near Sixth Avenue and Laurel Street. Visit or call 619-320-8219. TWO YEARS: … and counting. The American Military Partner Association is hosting events throughout the United States, including San Diego, as part of the “don’t ask, don’t tell” two-year repeal anniversary. Celebrate at Baja Betty’s, 1421 University Ave., from 3 – 6 p.m. Visit 41 DRESSES: San Diego’s Imperial Court Reign 41, The People’s Empress Candi Samples

invites all of us to a “Night of 41 Dresses.” The spectacular auction event – yes, you get to bid on and take home the dresses – will benefit programs of the Imperial Court de San Diego. Of course there will be entertainment as well, and Mistress of Ceremonies Sable Le Roux will oversee the evening. The event takes place at The Center, 3909 Centre St. Tickets are $10, and doors open at 5 p.m. The event begins at 6 p.m. Visit samples/. HAVANA NIGHTS: I can’t believe it’s Havana Nights at #1 Fifth Avenue again… the monthly evening given over to all things Cuba is back, starting at 8 p.m. Manny Cepeda and Orchestra perform on the back patio and, rum drink in hand, we’ll be there. #1 is located at 3845 Fifth Ave. Call 619-299-1911. BLACKOUT: How sad, it’s the end of summer. Good news is (besides the fact that we live in San Diego) Numb3rs nightclub is partnering with SDPIX for an End of Summer Blackout Party, tonight starting at 10 p.m. DJ Taj spins and the SDPIX photo booth will be in full swing. No cover before midnight with a SDPIX VIP sticker, and Numb3rs is located at 3811 Park Blvd. Visit Facebook. com.numberssandiego/ or call 619-294-7583.

Sunday, Sept. 22

THE OCTOPUS PROJECT: We’ve highlighted them before, so you know we’re huge fans of this Austin, Texas-based band. The Octopus Project returns to Soda Bar tonight at 8:30 p.m. Do not miss them (and if someone

could get my number to the drummer, that would be great). Tickets are $10, and Soda Bar is located either in Normal Heights, City Heights or North Park at 3615 El Cajon Blvd. Visit or call 619-255-7224. CHARLOTTE SOMETIMES: Indie-pop fan-favorite from NBC’s “The Voice” Charlotte Sometimes brings her “Brilliant, Broke and Beautiful Tour” to San Diego, with a stop at Lestat’s Coffee House. Blake Shelton from the show said she was a true artitst, and “true artists have vision.” She’s got it. Not convinced by Shelton? VH1 named her one of their coveted “You Oughta Know” artists. See her live while you can. She’ll play at 9 p.m. at the Lestat’s on Adams, 3343 Adams Ave. Visit or call 619-282-0437.

Tuesday, Sept. 24

PRIDE TOWN HALL: Have some questions about all that’s happening at San Diego LGBT Pride? Concerned about some of the board changes, or excited to get involved in planning for next year’s event? San Diego Pride is hosting tonight’s Town Hall meeting to discuss this year’s Pride events, outline the grant process for organizations and recruit new board members. The event is happening at The Center, 3909 Centre St., at 7 p.m. Visit FORAGING LOCAL: Whole Foods Market Hillcrest is launching their first Local Days, with today’s “best of the Best” competition between growers and suppliers from 4 – 7 p.m. Everyone is welcome to the outdoor patio to taste and then

vote on their favorites. On Sept. 25, the “New Product Challenge” event from 4 – 7 p.m. will also feature locally made products, encompassing categories beyond fruits and vegetables. Product winners will earn a spot on the shelves. On the final day Sept. 26 at 5 p.m., wine aficionados will announce their winning local wine blend in the store’s 7th Ave Pub. Naturally, tastes will be available and all wine entrants will be recognized. Whole Foods is located at 711 University Ave. Call 619-294-2800.

Thursday, Sept. 26

C3 AND BILL FULTON: Going strong with the focus on neighborhoods, new-ish Planning Director Bill Fulton will speak today at the Citizens Coordinate for Century 3 breakfast meeting from 7 – 9 a.m., held at the Wyndham San Diego Bayside (1355 North Harbor Dr.). Moderated by the Chambers Group, Inc. Director of Environmental and Urban Planning, Fulton’s talk “How Does a World Class Planner Approach Planning in San Diego” should be very engaging. Cost is $35 for guests, $25 for C3 members. Visit TASTING DOWNTOWN: There’s always a “Taste of” event happening in San Diego, and tonight’s, from 5 – 9 p.m., hits up the best of the best in Downtown San Diego. It’s a self-guided tour – I know you know how this works – and tickets are $30 in advance ($35 on the day of the event). Visit our friends at the Downtown San Diego Partnership at tasteofdowntown/. OUT AT THE GLOBE: Attendees for tonight’s Out at The Globe special event – held for the LGBT community at The Old Globe Theatre – includes your choice of two plays: “Rosencrantz and Guildenstern Are Dead” and “The Last Goodbye.” For $20 per person (plus the cost of the theater ticket), you will enjoy a hosted wine and martini bar, appetizers, and door prizes. The pre-show mixer starts at 6:30 p.m. Call to RSVP at 619-234-5623. The Globe is located at 1363 Old Globe Way in Balboa Park. Visit

Friday, Sept. 27

INEQUALITY FOR ALL: Take a trip to Landmark Theatre’s Hillcrest Cinema to see the documentary, “Inequality for All.” Economic policy expert Robert Reich looks at what’s exactly happening with our economy. Yes, it looks like the United States economy is doing well: well, for the top one percent that is. On the anniversary of the Occupy Movement, where advocates for the rest of us – the 99 percent – fought so hard to bring attention to the inequalities in the U.S. capitalist system, this is a timely film to see. It shows at various times, and Landmark Hillcrest is located at 3965 Fifth Ave. Visit or call 619-298-2904 for show times.

Saturday, Sept. 28

ADAMS AVENUE STREET FAIR: With over 90 bands on eight stages in Normal Heights, you can bet we’ll be at the Adams Avenue Street Fair this year. Today’s bands take the stages

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CALENDAR from 10 a.m. – 10 p.m., and tomorrow run from 10 a.m. – 7 p.m. Headliners include Los Angeles garage-band the Standells, rockabilly band Dave & Deke Combo, San Diego’s Styletones, Jungle Fire and Old Man Markley. Big Black Delta, the solo project of Mellowdrone vocalist Jonathan Bates, makes their Street Fair debut, too. Plan to stay on the Avenue all day, with beer gardens, a beer tasting event, carnival rides, food and over 350 arts and crafts booths. Visit

Sunday, Sept. 29

HILLCREST UNPLUGGED: Unwind after this morning’s AIDS Walk, Run & Street Challenge with a new event at one of Hillcrest’s best locations. Sunday Funday at The Brass Rail is now all about Hillcrest Unplugged, for those who love to sing and play acoustic, from 2 – 6 p.m. Organizers are looking for acoustic artists to perform, and are calling it a good way to get in front of an audience. They plan on having art vendors as well; contact them at 619-298-2233 to learn more. The Brass Rail is located at 3796 Fifth Ave. Visit

Monday, Sept. 30

DOUBLE DUCHESS: Dubbed San Francisco’s newest queer hip-hop anthem band, Double Duchess transcends genres and genders through theatrical performances, both live and recorded. The divas – Krylon Superstar and davO – met in 2009, and Soda Bar hosts their campy electro-hop performance tonight at 8:30 p.m. Have you seen the video for “Deviant” yet? Magic Mouth and Glitterbang open, and tickets are $8. Soda Bar is located at 3615 El Cajon Blvd. Visit or call 619255-7224.

Caught between two lines By Anthony King | GSD Editor

Director Michael Mayer went all out with his debut feature film. “Out in the Dark,” which has been making the festival circuit to great acclaim – including winning Best International Feature at this year’s FilmOut San Diego LGBT Film Festival – is the story of two Middle Eastern men on both sides of the line. The catch? They’re in love. Closeted Palestinian student Nimer (played by Nicholas Jacob) and Israeli lawyer Roy (Michael Aloni) have their relationship tested by more than society refusing to accept their sexuality. Their interaction and compassion, coupled with the ongoing fighting and tension between the two cultures, brings the international conflict into sharp focus. The pair meet in a small gay bar in Tel Aviv (yes, Nimer had to sneak into the Israeli city and yes, this does play an important undercurrent in the film) and, while it seems at times that the pair could actually stop a war when together, it is ultimately not true. “Director … Michael Mayer approaches his characters beautifully: the only time the film feels peaceful is when Roy and Nimer are together, hidden away

Wednesday, Oct. 2

SD FILM FESTIVAL: Tonight is opening night of the San Diego Film Festival, which runs through Oct. 6. The opening night film is still a secret, but it screens at Reading Cinemas Theater, 701 Fifth Ave. in Downtown at 7 p.m. The opening party? That’s definitely set. Bang Bang at 526 Market St. is host, from 9 – 11:30 p.m. In addition to a tribute to director Judd Apatow, other special events include the Friday night screening of


(l to r) Nicholas Jacob as Nimer and Michael Aloni as Roy (Courtesy Platform Media Group)

from the people who are certain that those on the other side of the conflict have no redeeming qualities,” said representatives at the Seattle International Film Festival, which debuted the film in May. Mayer attended the screening, and was honored with a Best Director award nomination. Mayer, who has writing and production credits for “Out in the Dark” (with Yael Shafrir as co-writer), was honored with a FilmOut Audience Award for Best First Narrative Feature as well. He was born in Haifa, Israel and has a film degree from the University of Southern California. The Hollywood Reporter called the “August: Osage County,” starring Mer yl Streep, Julia Roberts, Ewan McGregor and Juliette Lewis, among many, many more. For the gays, keep your eyes open for “Breaking Through,” a documentar y where openly LGBT elected officials tell their own stories (sound familiar?) and Del Shores’ “Southern Baptist Sissies.” Festival passes are available, starting at $60. Tonight’s opening night fun is $35 for the film and party. Visit for the complete lineup.

movie a “gripping debut,” and we couldn’t agree more. It is at all times, as they said, tender, tense, sensual and suspenseful. “Out in the Dark” opens at the Media Arts Center San Diego’s Digital Gym Cinema Friday, Sept. 27, and San Diego audiences are sure to welcome the film’s return. Running for one week only – the film must close Oct. 3 – this is a must-see film. General admission tickets are $10.50; students, seniors and Media Arts Center members are $8.50. The Digital Gym is located at 2921 El Cajon Blvd. For complete show times and tickets, visit or call 619-230-1938.t

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Marry me three times Diversionary’s Sondheim revue taken to new heights Singing Stephen Sondheim is in nature. Now, with sensibility to challenging, perhaps especially if match our times, “Marry Me a Litthe evening consists of outtakes tle” is currently seen at Diversionfrom eight shows. The composer ary Theatre through Sept. 29. No and lyricist’s entire oeuvre compris- matter the gender and chemistry, es 19 produced musicals written it’s an enjoyable evening. Considerwith various collaborators. ing there is no book, the wry love Sondheim’s Broadway career songs have dramatic arc and are began when, at 27, he wrote lyrics well turned out, as accompanied by for Leonard Bernstein’s “West music director Tony Houck. Side Story” (1957). Ensuing shows Director James Vásquez include “A Funny Thing Happened mixes his company on alternating on the Way to the Forum,” “Comevenings, utilizing four actors two pany,” “Follies,” “A Little Night at a time and creating gay, Music,” “Sweeney Todd,” “Sunlesbian and heterosexual day in the Park With George” couples. They are Stewart and “Into the Woods.” Later Calhoun, Jacob Caltrider, works include “Assassins” and Sarah Errington and Mitzi Michaels. “Passion.” Among numerous antholoThursday, Sept. 12, was gies are “Side by Side by boys’ night with Cal CalSondheim” (1976) and houn and Caltrider presenting a hand Craig Lewis and handsome duo. Both Norman René’s 1980 concoction, have great “Marry Me a hair, clean-cut Little,” which good looks was produced at and an air of The Old Globe needy appeal. in 1987, the sumIt’s Saturday night in the city, mer following and each makes The Globe’s worldpremiere production of his way home to a another night alone – “Into the Woods.” Back in the 1980s, on the same train and marriage was for one headed for the same man and one woman apartment building – Stewart Calhoun only, so the original (Photo by Ken Jacques) where they live one “Marry Me” was hetero on top of the other

(l to r) James Vásquez, Jacob Caltrider, Stewart Calhoun, Tony Houck, Sarah Erington and Mitzi Michael from “Marry Me A Little” (Photo by Ken Jacques) unaware, and in identically laid-out units. Songs ensue. Friday night was boy/girl night, with Caltrider and Errington doing the honors, performing the identical show, songs and stage directions. Errington, who lives in the space above Caltrider and purposely makes noise to counter his noise below, brings a joyous indifference to her role. It’s a fascinating experience to see all three combinations, and those who return get a discount at the box office. Saturday night, with slight lyrical adjustments, the girls were paired. Errington’s buoyant essence juxtaposed the gorgeous, luscious-voiced mezzo, Mitzi Michaels, who is new to my experience. Michaels’ gravitas and vocal timbre lend this duo an emotional depth of longing that the lads seem to lack. Sung by the women, the poignancy of the lyrics becomes Sondheim, and the cumulative

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writer didn’t go home singing “Being Alive,” absent from the revue but foreshadowed by “Marry Me,” which closes Act I of “Company.” Among others, additional songs are selected from “A Little Night Music,” “Follies,” and “Anyone Can Whistle.” And I can’t get enough of “All Things Bright and Beautiful, “Bang” and “There Won’t be Trumpets” – three nights in a row, and still no surfeit. The humor of Shirley Pierson’s “I’m home now” costumes, right down to characterful sox, is much appreciated. Vásquez and Bret Young marvelously adapted the scenic design, with Luke Olson on lighting and Kevin Anthenill, sound. Even David Medina’s props earn quiet laughter. Editor’s note: Get a triple dose of Sondheim’s “Marry Me a Little” on Saturday, Sept. 21 when Diversionary presents all three couples: at 3, 5:30 and 8 p.m.t


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Temecula Valley’s heart & soul Winemakers Roundtable highlights pride and camaraderie By Anthony King | GSD Editor September is officially California Wine Month, and the Temecula Valley Winegrowers Association is busy promoting their region – one of the fastest-growing wine areas in California – by highlighting what each winemaker strives for: excellent wines. On Saturday, Sept. 14, the Association staged a Winemakers Roundtable with some of the region’s oldest and best-known players in the valley. Hosted at Callaway Vineyard & Winery, the panel discussion included Callaway’s lead winemaker Craig Larson with vineyard and winery owners Joe Hart, Phil Baily and Nick Palumbo. Ben Drake of Temecula-based Drake Enterprises, Inc., a premier vineyard and avocado management company, also spoke on the panel. Tour and Tasting magazine owner Dan Fox moderated the 90-minute discussion, which included an overview of grapes produced in the Temecula Valley, a special wine tasting and a look back on winemaking this year. It is currently harvest season, so the winemakers were able to speak directly to this year’s crop. “This is actually the ninth year for California Wine Month, and the celebrations all up and down the Golden State keep getting bigger, and they keep getting better,” Fox said. “I can personally attest to the remarkable transformation of Temecula.” Following the roundtable, guests then took part in the Temecula Valley CRUSH, a “wine and culinary showcase” on the remodeled outdoor patio at Callaway. Approximately 700 people in attendance sampled wines from over 30 Association-member wineries, as well as food from select restaurants in the region. At the roundtable, the celebratory atmosphere surrounded the lighthearted, yet serious, conversa-

tion of wine making. The process is complicated – dependent on everything from heat, soil, barrels and aging, down to pH level, color, sugars and the way the wind happens to blow into the valley on any given day – yet the winemakers were content, even happy, with their chosen professions. “I consider everything that’s brought me to this point pure luck,” Palumbo said. A native of San Diego, he owns Palumbo Family Vineyards & Winery and is the current president of the Winegrowers Association. “Honestly, I knew when I came to the valley there was only one way I was going to get respect and that was to put my head down and work really hard and prove myself through wine,” he said. Hart and Baily are two of the longest-running winemakers in the valley and Hart, who owns Hart Winery, said he was most proud of being able to pass on his passion to his son, Jim. Hart Winery, which saw its first vines planted in 1974, is the only second-generation winery in Temecula Valley. Baily Vineyard & Winery, owned by Baily and his wife Carol, specializes in Bordeaux grape varieties. Their philosophy is to make wines they personally like to drink, Fox said, and they are the only commercial winemakers in the valley that ages their wine for 30 months. The average aging is approximately 14 – 18 months. For Drake, who oversees much of the harvest in the valley, the main concern for this year did not have much to do with the grapes, but with finding enough people to work during the busy, late-summer season. “Labor is my biggest issue. I can’t find enough labor to pick fruit in a timely manner,” he said. “I have a schedule and if you don’t get on my schedule, you’re not going to get picked.” Drake’s role in wine production

(l to r) Phil Baily, Joe Hart, Ben Drake, Nick Palumbo and Craig Larson spoke at the roundtable. (Photo by Leigh Castelli Photography)

in California is extensive, having worked on several initiatives throughout his 40 years in the Temecula Valley. Named the 2013 California Association of Winegrape Growers “Leader of the Year,” he also serves on a local water board and often travels to Sacramento, Calif. to lobby for water rights. Grape harvesting and timing was a main concern this year for the winemakers as well, ranging from equipment malfunctions to a season that had every grape ripen at practically the same time, Larson said. A Canadian-native, Larson followed his winemaking dream to California and, ultimately, to Callaway. The overall feeling, though, was

that this was a very good year for Temecula Valley wines. “I’ve pretty much seen it all. I think this has been quite a fascinating year,” Hart said. “I think you can expect some outstanding wines.” Fox agreed, tipping his hat to the pride and sense of respect of those in the entire region. “What’s really important is to listen to the camaraderie between the five gentlemen that are up here,” he said. “That is probably one of the components that make up the heart and soul of Temecula.” To continue their outreach for California Wine Month, the Temecula Valley Winegrowers Association is offering a “SIP Temecula”

passport, good for four different wine tastings at any of the 35-member wineries through Sept. 30. Cost for the passport is $35 and includes an Association souvenir glass for the tastings. The final event of the season is this year’s 23rd annual Harvest Celebration Barrel Tasting Weekend, held Nov. 2 – 3. Ticket holders can visit each member winery for $99. And yes, Association representatives said some visitors do actually make it to all 35. For complete information on the Temecula Valley vineyards and wineries, as well as to purchase SIP passport tickets, visit or call 800-801-9463.t

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INTERVIEW identities and our lives, and especially our loves lives. It’s very seductive to think that it just ought to be simple – and in real life, it’s not. CA: You use the word “faggot” at one point in the film, and even though it feels appropriate to the character, was there ever a discussion or any hesitation to use a word that many in the gay commu community find offensive?

Gordon-Levitt talks ‘Don Jon’ sex, ‘proud’ gay kiss and the harm in thinking he’s the ‘perfect man’ By Chris Azzopardi | Q Syndicate Who doesn’t see Joseph Gordon-Levitt as the “perfect man”? The one man who knows him best: Joseph Gordon-Levitt. And neither should you, he says. After playing a gay hustler in “Mysterious Skin,” a Mormon homophobe in “Latter Days” and Batman’s cool sidekick in “The Dark Knight Rises,” the actor takes on a porn-obsessed womanizer in his latest film “Don Jon,” a sex comedy he wrote, directed and stars in that contends there’s more to a person than meets the eye. Surely, plenty of Gordon-Levitt meets the eye in “Don Jon”: that chest, those arms and all the near nakedness of the New Jersey lothario he plays. Yeah, it’s easy to see why people might think he’s pretty perfect. Chris Azzopardi: Let’s talk about this intense, seductive look on your face during those masturbation scenes. What were you actually thinking about? And were you really watching porn? Joseph Gordon-Levitt: Nah, I wasn’t really looking at porn. But I was pretending I was looking at porn. CA: I’ve never pretended to watch porn. JGL: [Laughs] I have now! CA: There’s a bit of sex in the movie – and you’re always the one having it. How do you direct yourself in a sex scene? JGL: See, the sex scenes – with one exception – are very, very highly stylized and they’re not so much scenes that play out in real time; they’re more like narrated storybook versions of a look inside the mind of this guy, and so shooting them is like putting together a puzzle. They’re made of lots of little pieces. When you put the puzzle together it seems like a sex scene, but when you’re shooting it, it’s not like that at all. CA: This is a movie that has sex at its core, and we see plenty of boobs but never any Joseph Gordon-Levitt bits. Was it a con-

scious decision for you to avoid being completely naked? JGL: Yeah, because that would just be distracting. It’s really not the point of the movie. This is not a movie of brutal realism; it’s a comedy and it’s a story. It’s sort of a parable, so there would really be no reason to have any nudity. The only nudity that’s in the movie are these clips from real pornography videos, but they’re all very edited and cropped and they’re all very quick and sort of sanitized to fit into a Hollywood movie, if you want to call this movie a Hollywood movie. It’s sort of an atypical one, but it’s a movie about mainstream culture, so I wanted it to become part of mainstream culture. I always intended it to be that way. I think, in that way, it’s self-referential and it wouldn’t be as strong or effective or as complete a film if it were outside of those Hollywood filmmaking traditions. CA: How much did you want to get away with in this movie, and how much did you actually get away with? JGL: What’s in the movie is exactly what I wanted it to be. I wrote it exactly that way. I don’t think it’s all that sexually explicit; there are some very modified and stylized clips from pornography videos because that’s a central symbol in the movie, but there aren’t really any realistic sex scenes. It’s not a movie that’s about shocking you with anything graphic. CA: This film demonstrates what you’ve discussed in the past: that the media – the films we watch, the music we listen to, and so on – can really screw with our minds. When choosing films, do you think about how much influence you have on the people who watch them? JGL: I do, yeah. It’s always a balance between trying to keep an eye on my own self-fulfillment so that I’m always doing what’s inspiring to me, but also thinking about what this will mean to people who see it. I know for me, the movies and TV shows that I watch, and the songs or the books or the articles, are a big part of how I make sense

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of the world. I feel fortunate to be a part of that cultural conversation. And I try to be something positive. CA: The way in which media affects romantic relationships is also explored in another film of yours, “(500) Days of Summer,” in which you embody more of the traditional female archetype. What parallels do you see between that film and “Don Jon?” JGL: Yeah, there’s definitely a real parallel between “(500) Days of Summer” and “Don Jon” in that both male protagonists are quite selfish at the beginning of the story. Both of them in their own ways are very much objectifying the opposite sex. With Jon, his ideas of what women are supposed to be, or what love or sex are supposed to be, are sort of preset, and he’s not paying attention to the actual people in front of him. Then, they’re similar also in that they’re both coming-of-age stories, and by the end you see them both beginning to break out of their old ways and grow up a bit. CA: You seem like the complete opposite of a meathead, so how did you get in the mind and body of Don Jon? JGL: Yeah, I worked out a ton. And I ate a ton of chicken! You know, I think we all know guys like that, and we all have some of Jon and some of Barbara [his love interest in “Don Jon,” played by Scarlett Johansson] within us. I know that I have some of both. They’re both at extreme ends of the spectrum of cultural norms: what a man is supposed to be and what a woman is supposed to be. But I think we all have that tendency in a way. It’s easier to just oversimplify ourselves and our

JGL: Like you said, that character would say that at that point. It’s at a moment when he’s sort of feeling threatened. His buddy just said that there was a hotter girl at the club than his girl, and so in that moment of insecurity he uses that word. I think that’s usually where that sort of hateful language comes from: out of people’s insecurity. CA: When it comes to directing, what did you learn from Gregg Araki on “Mysterious Skin” that you fell back on during the filming of “Don Jon?” JGL: I remember working with Gregg and being very struck by the fact that he could watch the movie in his head while we were making it. It allowed him to be very decisive and specific because he knew how the whole movie was gonna cut together already, whereas oftentimes films are made and you just shoot lots of angles and cut it together later. With “Don Jon,” we took more of the approach that’s closer to what Gregg did. I already had in mind how I wanted the thing to be cut together while we were shooting. Another filmmaker who is like that is Rian Johnson [“Looper”]. Another one is Christopher Nolan [“The Dark Knight Rises]. These are the guys who are thinking that far ahead. Gregg really stood out in that regard. CA: You first really reached a gay audience with “Mysterious Skin.” How aware are you of having a gay following? JGL: I don’t spend much time distinguishing people into categories like that, so to be honest, I can’t say it’s really something I think about any more than I think about, “Oh, how many black people are watching my movies?” and “How many Catholics are watching my movies?” I don’t really think about it in that way. CA: If you were gay, you might realize how many gay people adore you. JGL: Well, that’s very nice to hear! I’m glad to hear it. CA: With “Don Jon” and your new beefy body, are you prepared for the extra attention you might get from the gay community? JGL: [Laughs] I hadn’t thought of it. My body’s not like that anymore. I was working out every day to play that character, but bodybuilding isn’t really my thing. I’ve lost most of the weight. CA: How do you reflect on your kiss with Topher Grace during a 1998 episode of “That ’70s Show” – the first gay kiss on North American primetime TV? JGL: Yeah, proud moment! CA: When you look back on that moment, how far do you think we’ve

come since that landmark kiss? JGL: I was actually just talking about this with a good friend of mine who’s gay. We were saying there really has been a change. I mean, that was more than 10 years ago that we shot that episode, and a lot has changed. I do think that television and movies have played a big part in it. It’s certainly not solely responsible, but that has been a part of it becoming a more normal and accepted part of our culture – that some people are gay and that’s just how it is, especially for people who are not used to that or close-minded toward that. There’s been a pretty big change, and we’re certainly not all the way open-minded – I mean, there was a civil rights movement in the ’60s and there’s still plenty of racism in the world – but we’ve come a long way. I certainly am proud to have made that small contribution of whatever kind to that progress. CA: BuzzFeed recently named off 42 things that prove you’re the perfect man. Included on that list: the forearms, your chic style, that you look great in women’s underwear. Even the “3rd Rock from the Sun” pigtails got a mention. JGL: [Laughs] that’s exactly the kind of oversimplified fantasy shit that I’m making fun of in “Don Jon.” CA: So you don’t like being the “perfect man,” then? JGL: To be honest, I understand it’s all in good fun and that’s fine, of course. We all have our media that we consume that we can admit is not the most healthy or positive, and sometimes I eat French fries and sometimes I’ll smoke cigarettes. We all do things that we know are bad for us. But I think it’s worth pointing out that stuff like that, it’s not harmless, especially if you consume a lot of that kind of media. I think it does seep into your brain and into your identity and will absolutely interfere in your ability to be happy – and that’s exactly what “Don Jon” is about. It’s a young man who watches too much pornography and a young woman who watches too many romantic Hollywood movies, and neither one of them can be satisfied in their relationship because they’re too busy comparing real life to these simplistic fantasies that they’ve seen on screen. Real life is so much more beautiful and rich and nuanced than those oversimplified fantasies, but you won’t feel that beauty if you’re too busy comparing it to the 42 reasons why your favorite actor is the perfect man. There’s no such thing as a perfect man. Every human being is a unique person. CA: There’s been talk of you starring in a remake of “Guys and Dolls” with Channing Tatum. Should we expect to see you in it? JGL: It’s one possibility. Chan and I really like the idea of doing a musical together, and we’re working on making that happen. We don’t know exactly how it will happen or what it’ll be or how long it’ll take, but we’re determined to do it. CA: I must say that every gay man also likes that idea. JGL: [Laughs] I’ll keep that in mind! —Chris Azzopardi is the editor of Q Syndicate, the international LGBT wire service. Reach him via his website at


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Washington’s San Juan islands ANDREW COLLINS OUT OF TOWN It’s amazing how easily you can feel completely removed from crowds, urbanity and the busy pace of modern life, even when you’re within 50 miles of several major cities. A nice case in point is the San Juan Islands, a blissfully tranquil and picturesque archipelago in Washington state’s Puget Sound that’s just 65 miles north of Seattle, 40 miles south of Vancouver, British Columbia and 10 miles east of British Columbia’s capital city, Victoria. These lovely isles with a friendly vibe, a strong following with LGBT visitors, and easy access – by ferr y boat or plane – from all of these nearby cities make for a restorative summer getaway. Although there are more than 170 islands in the archipelago, only four have regular ferr y service. On three of these – Lopez Island, Orcas Island and San Juan Island – you’ll find hotels and B&Bs, vacation rentals (a good option for longer stays), restaurants and other visitor ser vices, including outfitters and tour operators offering whale-watch-

ing excursions, kayak and bike rentals and guided rides, fishing tackle, and gear related to other outdoorsy endeavors. Lopez Island Lopez is the smallest of the three main islands, with a sparse population and few formal attractions. This pastoral island is less hilly and has far less car traffic than the other main islands, which has made it a magnet for biking enthusiasts. If you’re seeking a peaceful getaway and don’t have much want of social interaction, Lopez Island is an ideal choice. There are just a few accommodations on Lopez Island, including Lopez Farm Cottages ( and Edenwild Inn ( Most of the island’s restaurants are in the village of Lopez, a compact community on the west side of the island, about a five-mile drive from the ferr y terminal. Don’t miss the Bay Café ( for lunch or dinner overlooking the water (there’s a large deck). The contemporar y American fare here is first-rate. Another excellent option is Vita’s Wildly Delicious (, which has a few outdoor tables on a lovely tree-

The view of Orcas Island from a ferry nearing the terminal (Photo by Andrew Collins) shaded patio; this little gourmet food-and-wine shop is also useful for picking up picnic supplies and prepared salads. Caffe La Boheme baker y ser ves tasty cookies and sweets, Vortex Juice Bar & Café ( is wellregarded for its affordable and healthy vegetarian cuisine, and the Just Heavenly Fudge Factor y store carries locally beloved Lopez Island Creamer y ice cream, which comes in such delicious flavors as wild blackberr y and toffee coffee crunch. San Juan Island The most populated of the

three islands, and also the seat of county government, is San Juan Island, which also has the region’s largest town, Friday Harbor, a lively center of shops, restaurants, bars, and inns, and the site of a terrific farmers market on Saturday mornings. Within walking distance of the ferr y terminal, this is a great little neighborhood for a stroll. Be sure to stop by the Bean Café ( for a cup of well-brewed espresso; Pelindaba Lavender store, which sells all kinds of lotions, soaps and edibles featuring lavender grown on the store’s farm a few miles away; and San Juan Islands Museum of Art,

which shows rotating exhibits and recently announced plans to move into a new, larger space. Beyond Friday Harbor, the island has a few notable attractions; the most interesting of which is San Juan Island National Historic Park, which chronicles the strange – and now amusingly recalled – Pig War of 1859, during which the United States and British governments battled, or perhaps bickered, over possession of San Juan Island. The American government ultimately prevailed, and the maritime border between the U.S. and Canada

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The Loft wins SD Hoops summer league San Diego’s only basketball league for LGBT athletes and their friends, SD Hoops, held its first summer league this year, beginning in June and wrapping up with its title game on Sep. 11. The league, founded in 1999, had traditionally held one long season that began in fall and ran into the beginning of spring, followed by weekly open gym sessions. With demand for more game action rising, the league responded by organizing a shorter, 10-week regular season featuring six teams. Earning either the first or second seed in the standings would reward teams with a coveted first-round bye in the playoffs, and Baja Betty’s (7-3) and The Loft (6-4) reaped that benefit. Playoffs began on Sept. 4 with #6 Flicks (2-8) facing #3 Urban MO’s (6-4) in the opener. The game was a low-scoring, back-andforth affair, with Flicks holding a two-point advantage with about five minutes remaining. Bryan Robbins hit a couple of key buckets down the stretch for MO’s, and the favorites pulled away for a 50-44 victory. #5 Wsup Now (4-6) squared off against #4 Pecs (5-5) in what turned out to be the most exciting game of the playoffs. Each team relied on hot-handed scorers, as James Vidovich (Pecs) tallied 26 points thanks to a slew of threepointers, while Joe Mattia (Wsup Now) topped that with 31 points of his own. A close game throughout, Mattia’s floater at the buzzer sent the game into overtime, where

Devin Timpson in the title game; not pictured is Ace Vieyra. (Photo by Joe Covino)

Wsup Now rode the momentum to a 58-52 victory. Those byes were important for teams to get because it meant not having to play two games on one night, a fate the winners Urban MO’s and Wsup Now had to face. Worse, Wsup Now was the lowest remaining seed, which meant they had to play #1 Baja Betty’s just minutes after wrapping up their overtime win over Pecs. Betty’s, coached by Noah Ingram, won a lot of games because of the athleticism of its guards, Ingram and Devin Timpson. Pressure defense created plenty of turnovers, and Timpson just might be the fastest guard the league has seen in years. Against a tired Wsup Now team, Betty’s used its fresh legs to jump out to a big lead early. Wsup Now, coached by

MVP-candidate Jon Dyer, smartly rested its two best players (Dyer and 2-time MVP Patrick Schoettler) at the start of the game, hoping to keep the game close while getting valuable rest. The tactic seemed to play out well, as Wsup Now shot itself back into the game. What once was a double-digit lead was narrowed to just three points midway through the second half. Betty’s had trouble converting free throws, missing five of seven shots in the final minute. But Wsup Now couldn’t quite close the gap, falling 53-49 to the favorites. The nightcap pitted Urban MO’s against The Loft, and the rested second seed jumped out to a quick 14-2 lead over weary MO’s (who at least had a two hour break between games, unlike Wsup Now). Despite 29 points from Paul Piercy, MO’s never threatened The Loft, who went on to win 71-44. The results of those first four playoff games set up the third-place and championship games on Sept. 11. Wsup Now was forced to begin its game against Urban MO’s with just four players, and understandably fell behind by 12 points early against Sereeta Jones’ talented team. But when a fifth player (Evan Morris) arrived, the tide turned. Schoettler and Mattia began hitting shots left and right, and by halftime, Wsup Now had turned that deficit into a double-digit lead of their own. Morris hit a few key shots in the second half and came away with a few steals, helping

Wsup Now claim third place with a 68-55 victory. The title game started out as a sluggish affair. Betty’s could not hit a jump shot to save their life, but Timpson converted on a couple of breakaway lay-ups to get his team on the board. Pressure defense by Ryan Westover, Ingram and Timpson left The Loft unsettled early, but coach John Crockett, owner of a couple league titles already, smartly adjusted to the tempo. He dared Betty’s to make outside jump shots by putting his team into a 2-3 zone, and the adjustment worked. Betty’s was ice cold, even blowing several easy layups. Normally accurate from behind the 3-point line, Ingram and his teammates never found a groove from beyond the arc. Sensing desperation to score, Ingram played his smallest lineup full of fast guards, running a fullcourt press to try and create turnovers and fast break opportunities. The strategy did not work out as even Betty’s fastest guards were worn out by their high intensity play. Tired legs lead to shots falling short of the rim, and with a small lineup on the court, lanky BJ Famuyiwa was able to frustrate Betty’s by grabbing multiple offensive rebounds over his shorter counterparts. The two teams split their regular-season matchups, so this was not really an upset, but The Loft earned the last laugh, and the summer league title, with an ugly 42-34 victory. Open gym and fall league SD Hoops is wasting no time in preparing for its traditional full fall season. Weekly Open Gym

resumed on Wednesday, Sept. 18 at the Golden Hill Recreation Center and will be held each Wednesday from 6 – 8 p.m. until the beginning of the season. Open Gym welcomes returning and new players, who are asked to bring light- and darkcolored shirts to play in, as well as $5 to help cover the cost of renting the gym. Because teams are formed by coaches who draft, anyone who wishes to play in the fall season must attend one of the two coaches reviews (Oct. 9 and 16); this attendance requirement is waived for anyone who played in summer league. Those reviews give coaches a chance to assess the abilities of players, but they are not try-outs, per se. Any player who registers online and pays their player fee by the Oct. 18 deadline will be drafted onto a team. The season is expected to run from Oct. 23 until the end of March, with each team potentially being guaranteed as many as 18 games. With a player fee of just $90 for the season, SD Hoops offers, by far, the best deal in town. If interested in getting added to the league’s email list, contact me at or visit for more information. —Jeff Praught is actively involved in the LGBT sports community, where he plays in the local softball (AFCSL), football (SDAFFL) and basketball (SD Hoops) leagues. He has served on AFCSL’s board of officers in various capacities and is currently the commissioner of SD Hoops.t FROM PAGE 21

WASHINGTON now cuts down Haro Strait, the body of water between San Juan Island and Vancouver Island. The national park has two sections, a larger American camp and northwesterly English camp, and each has both historical exhibits and numerous opportunities for hiking, bird watching and wildlife viewing. Overlooking Haro Strait, another highly popular destination on the island is Lime Kiln Point State Park, which has a short trail leading along the shore to an ancient, oft-photographed lighthouse. Visitors here are treated to great views across Haro Strait toward Victoria, as well as regular sightings during the summer months of orca, humpback, blue, gray and other whales. San Juan Island has a variety of inviting places to stay. One of the region’s most popular venues for destination weddings, Roche Harbor Resort ( has quickly become a favorite of LGBT couples exchanging vows, now that Washington state has legalized same-sex marriage. It’s a scenic place to stay for any occasion, with a huge marina filled with pleasure boats, a few different restaurants overlooking the water, and a nice mix of overnight options, from standard rooms in a historic hotel to spacious, multi-bedroom village homes. Other properties on the island that are away from Friday Harbor and offer comfy accommodations and quiet, pretty surroundings include the stately Wildwood Manor ( and the artfully designed, eco-minded Juniper Lane Guest House ( In town, within walking distance of restaurants and shops, the economical Earthbox Inn & Spa ( is a good bet, as are the historic Tucker House Inn ( and the sleek and contemporar y Island Inn at 123 West ( An advantage to staying in Friday Harbor is that you

TRAVEL can walk to your hotel from the ferr y terminal, which is handy if you don’t bring your car over. Notable restaurants on the island include romantic and rustic Duck Soup (, a 15-minute drive from town, which is known for its house-smoked oysters and miso-ginger roast duck, and Coho Restaurant ( for Northwest-inspired Mediterranean fare in Friday Harbor. The Market Chef ser ves ver y good sandwiches and soups, and Cask & Schooner ( is a fun gastropub for brunch, dinner or knocking back a few beers with locals. Orcas Island Regular visitors to the archipelago all seem to have their favorites, with Orcas Island – the largest of the bunch in area and second-largest in population – garnering quite a few votes for number-one getaway. What’s nice about this 57-square-mile island shaped a bit like a butterfly is the tremendous variety: you’ll find the highest point in the San Juans, Mt. Constitution (elev. 2,398 feet, and with an obser vation tower at the top, which is reached by a scenic car ride), several gorgeous beaches and harbors, a couple of endearingly quiet rural villages (Deer Harbor and Westsound), a quaint cluster of shops and eateries by the ferr y terminal, and a bustling main village, Eastsound, near the center of the island. Visitors seeking total relaxation and quiet can find it on Orcas Island, but there are enough lively bars and restaurants to keep more socially inclined visitors happy. One of the favorite dining options, for lunch and breakfast especially, is quirky Café Olga, which occupies a historic building that once housed a strawberr y-packing plant and has become renowned for its savor y scallop-halibut (“scallibut”) cakes and fresh-made, sweet blackberr y pies. Also on this quiet southeastern side of the island you’ll find Doe Bay Resort (, a ver y gay-popular lodging with several types of accommodations. The cuisine ser ved at Doe Bay’s café is worth the trip, even if you’re not staying overnight.

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Most of the other noteworthy restaurants are in Eastsound, with Allium ( a particular highlight: talented chef Lisa Nakamura ser ves farm-to-table fare in a lovely second-floor space overlooking the water. Downstairs, Madrona Bar & Grill (madronabarandgrill. com) is a more casual option for beer and fresh seafood. Mijitas is a good bet for hearty Mexican food, and relative newcomers like Hogstone (, for wood-fired pizza, and the Barnacle, for tapas and craft cocktails, have quickly become top picks among local foodies. Getting to the San Juan islands takes a little planning, since there’s either a ferr y crossing or flight involved. The islands are big and spread out enough that it can be ver y handy having a car, or at least bikes, to explore a bit. The most frequent ferr y ser vice is out of Anacortes, Wash., about a 90-minute drive north of Seattle and a two-hour drive south of Vancouver; expect to pay about $75 for round-trip ferr y ser vice to the farthest (San Juan) island for a car and two passengers. The fare is much less if you leave the car in Anacortes, as there’s inexpensive, long-term parking there. Once a day, there’s also a passenger-only ferr y from Victoria’s Inner Harbour to Friday Harbor on San Juan Island, and carferr y ser vice from Sidney, British Columbia (a 30-minute drive north of Victoria) to Friday Harbor. Kenmore Air has flight-plane and conventional smalljet ser vice to Lopez, Orcas and San Juan islands from Seattle’s Lake Union. You’ll save a lot of time making the one-hour flight, but fares are rather steep and once you arrive on island, you may end up spending a good-bit more on rental cars. If time is tight and you can afford it, flying makes sense, but for most visitors, traveling by ferr y is an efficient, scenic and cost-effective way to get here. —Andrew Collins is the editor in chief of the GLBT travel magazines OutAloha and OutCity, and he covers gay travel for the website He can be reached care at


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