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National Coming Out Day anniversary event includes panel discussion By Ben Cartwright | GSD Reporter

headliner Alex Newell. “This year we have several free block parties Saturday night [Nov. 2] in Downtown and there is even a Parade VIP party right on the parade route where you can enjoy the parade with friends, with live entertainment, emcees and music by guest DJs,” deHarte said. “Another highlight is the Pride Sunday High Tea from 2 – 8:30 p.m. featuring DJ John LePage.” In addition to Newell, guest entertainers from across the United States will descend upon Palm Springs for the six-day festival, joining a bevy of the Valley’s own celebrity stars. Frenchie Davis headlines the Center Stage benefit concert Oct. 30, Irene Soderberg performs Nov. 1 at the Stonewall Equality Concert, Terri Nunn and her band Berlin perform on festival grounds in Sunrise Park, and Steve Grand – a headliner at this year’s IndieFest – takes the stage at the other block party, the OUT PSP party, Nov. 2. But it is not just the entertainment and the parties that make Palm Springs Pride special for deHarte. His organization’s focus on supporting area youth is

A few years ago, San Diego State University (SDSU) had very few services on campus specifically for the LGBT community. Now, the university is known as one of the most LGBT-friendly schools in the nation, receiving a five-star rating from CampusPride three years in a row. On Oct. 10, the LGBT community at SDSU celebrated the five-year anniversary of the school’s SafeZones program, an indication of the change that has occurred on campus. SafeZones works to ensure a campus atmosphere that is welcoming, educational and safe for all LGBTQQIA – lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, questioning, intersex and ally – students, faculty and staff. This is done by providing ally trainings to campus staff, as well as organizing other educational opportunities throughout the year. Over 700 people on campus have received SafeZones training since its inception. There was standing room only at the event, which included remarks by SDSU’s President Elliot Hirshman and was attended by several high-level campus officials. Dr. Susan Cayleff, cochair of SafeZones@SDSU, called the program one part of a “vibrant, active, pro-LGBT atmosphere” on campus. Since SafeZones’ founding, several other LGBT programs and groups have popped up on campus, including an LGBT studies minor and major, and the SDSU Faculty LGBTQ Research Consortium. Additionally, a permanent LGBT resource center will open in January. These groups are expand-

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The infamous San Francisco daytime drag party Daytime Realness comes to Palm Springs Pride with “Daytime DESERT Realness,” Nov. 3 from 1 – 6 p.m. (Courtesy David Richey)

By Anthony King | GSD Editor More than just the theme of this year’s Greater Palm Springs Pride, “It’s Time” symbolizes the present state of LGBT equality with an eye on both activism and the future, and sets the tone for all 27th annual Pride celebration visitors to “step off the sidewalk and into the street,” demanding equality for all, organizers said. Set for Oct. 29 – Nov. 3, official Palm Springs Pride events mix with multiple block parties, art openings, a horror film festival, wedding ceremonies, naked poolparties and all the other celebrations that help make the desert the true fall destination. The Pride party continues the following weekend, with Palm Springs Leather Pride Nov. 7 – 10. “The Festival is a fun, friendly and welcoming two-day event,” Palm Springs Pride board President Ron deHarte said, highlighting several of this year’s new events. Held in Coachella Valley, Palm Springs Pride was the first West Coast Pride to formally stage block parties, he said. The Arenas Road party is Nov. 2, and features “Glee” star and 2012 San Diego Pride

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While the flag football players were out in Arizona, San Diego was busy hosting the third-largest LGBT softball tournament in the world. Games were held on Saturday and Sunday, Oct. 12 – 13, at five complexes around the county: Chula Vista, Santee, Poway, Mira Mesa and Escondido. The tournament kicked off with a Friday evening registration party that saw Interim Mayor Todd Gloria make an appearance and announce it to be AFCSL Day in San Diego. Autumn Classic Tournament Director Roman Jimenez and a group of players appeared on the Channel 6 morning news to promote the event Friday morning. All told, 100 teams participated in the event and generated north of $1.1 million in revenue for the city. On the Open Division side, the Spikes captured one of San Diego’s best finishes in any division by placing

San Diego’s Looking To Score took first place at this year’s Autumn Classic softball tournament. (Courtesy Jessica DeLine) fourth in the B Division. The Spikes were knocked out by the eventual runner-up Las Vegas Rat Pack, who

also knocked out my Loft team. We were undefeated during the first day, but dropped a 13-12 heartbreaker to

third-place LA Thunder before falling to Vegas and finishing in a tie for fifth place. The only other top-10 finisher was the Mariposa SOL squad, who finished eighth in the C Division. I had the pleasure of coaching the Baja Betty’s D team, which included several rookies. After a disappointing winless first day, the boys bounced back by winning three games in a row on Sunday. First, we took out our friends from San Diego, the Dragons, 11-8. Next up was the Long Beach Hooks, who we held scoreless until the final inning in a 10-1 victory. After Babycakes (San Diego) pulled off a fantastic upset by knocking out The Loft D – congratulations to manager George Biagi for pulling off this feat with a team of mostly tennis players just learning the game – the team met us at our field for what turned out to be a fantastic affair. Betty’s was trailing and needed to get a third out by Babycakes before time expired, in order to get one more chance with the sticks. That they did, and they were able to send the game to extra innings, where

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Atkins offers her view

Assembly Majority Leader addresses local LGBT business owners, highlights legislative sessions

Assembly Majority Leader Toni Atkins discusses the past legislative year at the Greater San Diego Business Association luncheon. (Photo by Morgan M. Hurley) By Morgan M. Hurley | GSD Assistant Editor The Greater San Diego Business Association’s (GSDBA) professional lunch series featured Assembly Majority Leader Toni Atkins, who presented “A view from the State Capitol.” The luncheon, which was Oct. 8 from 11:30 a.m. until 1 p.m., was hosted by Wang’s North Park, located at 3029 University Ave. The series meets on the second Tuesday of every month and offers LGBT professionals and their allies the opportunity to network during a sit-down lunch and listen to speakers discussing pertinent issues. Both GSDBA members and non-members are welcome, and the October event drew a crowd of approximately 25 people. GSDBA Board Chair Eric Brown first addressed the group before lunch began and later introduced Atkins. The Majority Leader represents the 78th Assembly District, which includes coastal areas from the border with Mexico through Solana Beach, Calif. as well as the neighborhoods of Hillcrest, North Park, University Heights and Normal Heights, among others. Atkins gave an overview of state politics, offering budget information – which she called “especially appropriate” in light of the recent government shut down – as well as ongoing and approved legislation that would be of interest from a small-business perspective and other legislation focusing on LGBT issues. She thanked voters for assisting the state legislature in signing a budget “on time by our constitutional deadline,” she said, and for voting in the seven-year buffer allowed by Proposition 30 that will give the economy the time it needs to improve. “I will tell you, being able to pass a budget on time and having the revenue … has upped California’s credit rating significantly, which this fiscal year saved us $480 million in interest payments,” Atkins said. “So that’s what happens when you can get back on track.” She identified four key areas she and her colleagues were focused on: maintaining fiscal responsibility owed to voters, increasing prosperity and opportunity, delivering efficient and

effective services, and investing in California’s future. Atkins then outlined ways the legislature has worked to attain these focal points, including paying down the debt to the tune of $4.2 billion, redirecting $2.2 billion of redevelopment money for back payments owed the schools, reducing the wait time for new business licenses from 60 days to five, increasing the minimum wage to $10 by 2016, and improving hiring credits for employers, with added incentives for hiring long-term unemployed and veterans. Bills pertinent to LGBT issues Atkins mentioned included Assemblymember Tom Ammiano’s AB 1266, called “Equality for Transgender Students,” which was recently passed and signed by the Governor. Atkins said she expects the bill to see trouble next session from the opposition, calling the potential fight “unfortunate.” Another bill of interest is AB 1121, which at the time was on the Governor’s desk for his signature. The bill will make it easier for members of the transgender community to change their birth certificates “to reflect who they are,” Atkins said. A section of the bill that dealt with death certificates was more difficult to get the support it required, but she said she expects to work on getting that passed next session. Gov. Jerry Brown signed AB 1121 into law on Oct. 8, following Atkins’ luncheon talk. An infertility bill, AB 460, seeks to decrease discrimination against lesbian couples and single women, and another bill in the works is SB 323, which will put pressure on the Boy Scouts of America to choose discrimination over tax breaks, Atkins said. “We have a super majority in the Assembly and in the Senate, and we will retake a super majority in the Assembly after the first

of the year,” she said. After some movement to fill vacancies, Atkins said she anticipates a Democratic State Assembly and Senate, complimenting Gov. Brown, who is also a Democrat. “Our challenge is going to be – when you are the governing party – how do you do that responsibly, how do you protect the fiscal stability that we need to move forward on, and govern responsibly” she said. “I think we’ve shown that we can do that.” After a short question and answer session, Atkins turned the conversation to local issues. “In terms of our city, I will say this: on a bad day we live in San Diego and on a good day we live in San Diego,” she said. “We’ll get through this, we’ll get through it quite well, and I know it’s because we have a great city, great industries and a great economy. … I think Todd [Gloria as interim mayor] is doing a great job. I think he is absolutely focused. I sort of wished he had decided to run [for mayor in the Nov. 19 special election] but I think the world of him for deciding not to and helping the city.” After the session, Atkins said she was throwing her support behind David Alvarez for mayor. “I think it will be an interesting race. You have three individuals who people are really going to have to think about, and since it is a special election it’s really about them turning out voters for themselves,” she said. The GSDBA is part of the national Gay and Lesbian Chamber of Commerce, which gives members access to programs that offer financial support, advocacy and contract opportunities. To learn more about the organization, to gain membership or to view upcoming events, visit or call 619-296-4543.t

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(center) Todd Hughes appears before the Senate. (Courtesy

First openly gay judge confirmed to federal circuit court Todd Hughes, Elaine Kaplan join 6 other LGBT confirmations By Lisa Keen | Keen News Service

The United States Senate voted Sept. 24 to confirm openly gay nominee Todd Hughes to serve on the U.S. Circuit Court for the Federal Circuit. The 98-0 vote makes Hughes the first openly gay nominee to be confirmed for a federal circuit position. The confirmation comes just one week after the Senate confirmed Elaine Kaplan to serve as a judge on the U.S. Court of Federal Claims. Kaplan was approved by a vote of 64-35, the fourth closest margin out of 19 roll calls on judicial nominees this year. All 35 “no” votes were Republicans, including both Texas senators and reported presidential aspirant Marco Rubio of Florida. But 11 Republicans voted for Kaplan, including both senators from Tennessee and reported presidential aspirant Rob Portman of Ohio. In opening debate over Hughes’ nomination, Senate Judiciary Committee Chairman Patrick Leahy said Hughes would become the first openly gay judge in history to serve on a federal appellate court and asked that his other remarks be inserted into the Congressional Record. Then, Leahy used his time to speak against efforts to cut food stamps to people with low incomes. No other senator spoke before the roll call. A native of Ohio, Hughes, 47, graduated from Harvard College and then Duke Law School and, since 1994, has served in the Commercial Litigation Branch of the Department of Justice Civil Division. His questionnaire to the Senate Judiciary Committee indicated he was a member for one year (2010-11) in the National LGBT Bar Association and the GLBT Bar Association of Washington. He also volunteered legal advice on a variety of issues at the LGBT-run Whitman-Walker Clinic in Washington for people with HIV-related legal issues. Kaplan, a 58-year-old native of Brooklyn, N.Y., graduated from the State University of New York-Binghamton and Georgetown University Law Center. She has been serving as general counsel to the U.S. Office of Personnel Management (OPM) since 2009, and as its acting director since April, when openly gay OPM Director John Berry resigned. Kaplan also served as head of the U.S. Office of Special Counsel under President Clinton. She also noted her membership (from 1995 to

1997) in the Gay and Lesbian Attorneys of Washington, D.C. group, and brief memberships in Gay and Lesbian Parents International, the Human Rights Campaign Fund, the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force, and Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays. Kaplan’s questionnaire to the Senate Judiciary Committee noted that she participated in numerous LGBT-related panel discussions, including last year’s White House LGBT Youth Conference and its LGBT Conference on Families. She also participated in a panel at an Out and Equal Conference in Baltimore last October and at a forum of the American Bar Association concerning benefits to federal employees with same-sex domestic partners. The Senate Judiciary Committee advanced the nominations of both Kaplan and Hughes without asking them gay-specific questions, a practice of committee minority leader Charles Grassley (R-Iowa) with many gay nominees. The confirmations of Hughes and Kaplan bring to eight the number of openly gay candidates confirmed to the federal bench during the Obama administration. President Barack Obama initially nominated Washington lawyer Ed DuMont to the Federal Circuit appeals court, but Republicans on the Senate Judiciary Committee blocked DuMont’s nomination and DuMont withdrew. Hughes now becomes a member of one of the nation’s 13 federal appeals courts. While 12 of those have specific geographical jurisdiction, the U.S. Court of Appeals for the Federal Circuit, which has 12 judges, deals specifically with disputes involving international trade, government contracts and federal personnel, among other things.

Kaplan becomes one of 16 judges on the U.S. Court of Federal Claims, each with a 15-year term of office. The court is one of sev several courts of special jurisdic jurisdiction. The Federal Claims court addresses cases involving lawsuits against the federal government involving such matters as tax refunds, federal contracts and federal takings of private property. The Senate approved three other openly gay judicial nominees this year on voice votes, as well as openly gay nominee Stuart Delery to serve as assistant attorney general in the De Department of Justice’s civil division. Only two nominations are still pending among President Obama’s openly gay nominees for the federal bench. One is William Thomas for a seat to the U.S. District Court in Miami. The other is Judith Levy to a seat on the federal district court for the Eastern District of Michigan (Detroit). Thomas, 46 and a native of Pennsylvania now working in Miami, was originally nominated in November 2012. A majority of an American Bar Association committee that vets nominees voted him to be well qualified. An openly gay African American, Thomas was recommended by the Gay and Lesbian Victory Fund’s Presidential Appointments Project. Sen. Marco Rubio (R-Florida) announced he was withdrawing his support of Thomas, effectively blocking the nomination, The New York Times reported Sept. 23. President Obama nominated Levy, 55, in July of this year. She served as an intern at Lambda Legal Defense during the summer of 1994, is a member of the board of directors for DOJ Pride and the Human Rights Campaign. She received a scholarship from Parents and Friends of LGBT Students and has spoken on a number of panels concerning the Americans with Disabilities Act and its application to people with HIV. She also spoke at a White House Conference on Homelessness in LGBT Communities and at a University of Michigan Women Lawyers Association forum, “Multiple Layers of Identity: Being a Minority, Gay or Transgender Woman in the Workplace.” A native of Indiana, she has a bachelor’s of science degree and a law degree from the University of Michigan. She currently works in the U.S. Attorney’s Office in Detroit as chief of its Civil Rights Unit.t



ing on the work of long-standing student organizations, including the Queer Student Union, Gamma Rho Lambda and Delta Lambda Phi. Of great excitement to the campus community is the opening of the school’s first formal Pride Resource Center next year. SDSU student affairs staff member Anthony Keen was selected as the coordinator of the center, and Cayleff introduced him to the crowd. In his remarks, Hirshman credited Cayleff and fellow SafeZones co-chair Dr. Carrie Sakai for helping him understand the campus culture as it relates to the LGBT community. “Within my first few days at SDSU, Susan and Carrie were knocking on my door to tell me how important this program is,” Hirshman said of his arrival at SDSU in 2011. Cayleff acknowledged 23 longtime SafeZones supporters, including current and former staff as well as students who have worked on the program. Each of the supporters present were given a SafeZones@ SDSU branded tote bag, with a number of gift items inside. SafeZones committee members also unveiled the program’s new logo, which will replace the original design created in 2008. The original logo was designed by then-student Monica Bradley, whose work was selected after entering a campuswide design competition. Graduate student El Glasheen designed the new logo, and was introduced to the crowd after the logo’s unveiling. Following the recognition presentation, a National Coming Out Day panel was held, featuring Hillcrest Youth Center Coordinator Sophia Arredondo, her openly-gay son Sebastian, SDSU Women’s Studies Professor Emerita Dr. Oliva Espin, and SDSU Queer Student Union Transgender Affairs coordinator Wesley Ortiz, who is also a member of the Delta Lambda Social Fraternity for Gay, Bisexual and Progressive Men. The panelists each spoke about their unique coming-out experiences, all occurring in different stages of their lives. Audience members were then welcome to ask questions of the panelists, who were open and honest in their responses. The panel was one of SafeZones’ many educational events put on throughout the year, including the annual Resource Fair held in the spring. For additional information about SafeZones@ SDSU visit safezones.aspx or email

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South Bay Alliance announces 2014 Pride committee


SOUTH BAY ALLIANCE Our September South Bay Pride Art & Music Festival was a great success. Approximately 2,300 attended, and ever yone was thrilled with the new venue and had a great time. Kudos to all who participated and worked so hard to make this year’s event so fantastic. And now we are turning to next year’s plans. South Bay Pride Art & Music Festival 2014 will be held on Sept. 13, 2014 at Bayfront Park from 11 a.m. – 6 p.m. Mark your calendars. Responding to popular demand, in addition to continuing our live entertainment, having DJs and a dance floor, as well as a beverage and children’s

garden, we will be extending the hours in order to bring in even more great live entertainment for our LGBT community and their allies to enjoy. To help us with this bigger and better endeavor, we are welcoming our new South Bay Alliance steering committee board members, and eagerly look for ward to seeing their ideas for next year’s South Bay Pride and South Bay Alliance, overall. Please welcome them: •Executive Committee Secretar y Lee Sheridan: As a straight ally, Sheridan is a supporter of Equality of Human and Civil Rights. She is a Californialicensed general contractor and an advocate of Fall Prevention and Aging In Place. She has also enjoyed volunteering with the San Diego Paralyzed Veteran’s Association. We are thrilled to have her on board as her expertise in planning this year’s weddings were invaluable, and organizational skills and dedication will be a great asset. •Chair of Community Outreach Thomas Cirillo: Cirillo comes to South Bay in the guise of a Sister of Perpetual Indulgence. Cirillo currently works at the Naval Hospital. With his background in technology and extensive experience as a field engineer, he is a much needed and valued addition to the board. His support of South Bay Pride as Sister Ida Know of the Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence goes

back to our 2009 Pride event, and he has been a wonderful and prominent part or our Pride celebration every year since. Joining the board, Cirillo will be working to keep the web presence fresh as well as working with the board to once again bring yet another extraordinarily fun Pride event to the South Bay in 2014. •Chair of Business Outreach Scott Grayson Skyler: Skyler is owner of Celebration Hall, San Diego’s first gay owned, LGBTfriendly event space and wedding chapel. He is a valued contributor to San Diego’s LGBT community, including service within Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence. Skyler was also strategic in planning and organizing the weddings this past Pride and we are thrilled to have his energy and insight as we outreach to the LGBTfriendly businesses in south San Diego County, and continue to build a strong network between the LGBT community and those businesses. •Chair of Marketing Melanie Peters: As owner of Melanie Peters Productions – one of the premiere online marketing firms in San Diego providing complete marketing strategies, content and promotion for a large variety of businesses – Peters was a tremendous help this year in promoting our Art in the Park, GG’s Got Talent and My Gay Wedding contests. We are thrilled that she will bring her fresh approach to our organization, and through

her marketing skills she will enhance our ability to ser ve the LGBT and their allies in south San Diego County. South Bay Alliance is still looking for board members to be our Pride general event coordinator or Pride volunteer coordinator. If you are interested please email us with your resume at SouthBayAlliance@ In addition to our planning for next year’s South Bay Pride celebration, South Bay Alliance is hosting a mixer Nov. 14 from 7 – 9 p.m. at Celebration Hall, located at 1351 Palm Ave. in Imperial Beach. Appetizers, wine and nonalcoholic drinks will be ser ved. Entr y is $10 per person. Take advantage of this great opportunity to socialize and network here in the South Bay while supporting South Bay Pride 2014. —Dae Elliott is a sociologist and lecturer working at SDSU since 1994. She is one of the founding executive committee members and current chair of South Bay Alliance, a 501(c)3 nonprofit organized in 2006 with the purpose of building a coalition of the LGBT community and allies for social networking, business promotion and political awareness in South San Diego County. South Bay Alliance has been the organizer of South Bay Pride Art & Music Festival since 2007. Contact her at



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In the story “Democrats for Equality endorse Alvarez” from the Oct. 11 issue (Vol. 4, Issue 20), we incorrectly stated the club declined to vote on whether to endorse any Democrat if candidate David Alvarez failed to move to a potential run-off election. Democrats for Equality voted on and passed a motion that would see the club endorse any Democrat, should this occur following the Nov. 19 election. In the news brief “Multicultural LGBT book club becomes official foundation” from the Oct. 11 issue (Vol. 4, Issue 20), we advertently insinuated the foundation would soon be opening a physical bookstore. While the foundation, led by Caleb Rainey and CFO Stephany Farley, continues to look for a location for a future non-profit bookstore, their regular monthly events will continue at various locations, to be announced. Additionally, the Lambda Literary Foundation is co-hosting a Nov. 9 event at the Central Library but is not co-sponsoring the November Visiting Writers Program.


October update By Todd Gloria, San Diego Interim Mayor I’m happy to report the work in the Mayor’s office is charging full-steam ahead. My staff and all City employees are dedicated to doing the peoples’ work. They are knowledgeable professionals in their respective fields and are committed to being responsive and helpful to you. I invite you to visit our new Mayor’s web page to communicate with me and keep abreast of what we’re working on. Just how much can I accomplish in 81 days between when I took on this role and the Nov. 19 election? Visit the web site to find out: Additionally, I send out enewsletter updates about two times per month. You may sign up on the web site or send an email to and you’ll be placed on the list. In the name of progress, there is much to report. The previous administration was criticized for its lackadaisical approach to enforcing our laws and codes consistently, which led to unfair treatment benefiting San Diegans who happened to have access to my predecessor. As

your representative, I see it as my job to modify laws that don’t make sense. Unless and until laws can be modified, they must be enforced. This is the current challenge I face as I work with my City Council colleagues, the City Attorney and City staff to develop sensible code updates to allow medical marijuana dispensaries and food trucks to operate legally in ways that balance the needs of their clients and the surrounding neighborhoods. I appreciate the input provided from passionate San Diegans on both topics, and the measures we’re developing will be publicly vetted prior to their consideration by the City Council. It’s essential your voices are heard; my decisions are always informed by your input. Just like your participation guides our actions at City Hall, San Diego’s interests must be well represented in Sacramento and Washington, D.C. I am proud that we recently re-hired lobbying firms to resume the representation of San Diego before lawmakers and influencers in our state and national capitols. For the past nine months, San Diego has had no one at the table vying for our interests or funding, which is troubling given the recent sequestration and its effect on local families and businesses

Selective social justice I’ve stopped assuming the left is committed to LGBT rights By Abby Dees Last week I staffed a booth at a local fair for IMRU, the LGBT radio show I co-host. We were collecting and recording stories: any stories that people might want to share about their lives or points of view. Our only requirements were that the stories have something to do with LGBT issues and that they not be so long as to constitute “Bogart-ing” the microphone. This was good fun, especially when I got to cajole people into the idea that they too have a story to share with the world. They’d get giddy and nervous, but as soon as the record light went on, they were off like greyhounds. Everyone has something to talk about, if given enough encouragement. And there were the people who were bothered by the very PUBLISHER David Mannis (619) 961-1951

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whose way of life is directly connected to our military economy and other federal spending. Late last month, the City initiated a process for new lobbying contracts to ensure that, moving forward, San Diego receives the representation it deserves. I headed to Washington, D.C. with members from the San Diego Regional Chamber of Commerce the first week of October, and met with key stakeholders to advocate for San Diego on Capitol Hill. So what have I learned during these past few weeks as Interim Mayor? I’ve learned I really love this job. I love the people side of it, the consensus-building side of it [and] the making-progress side of it. Make no mistake, it’s a demanding job and I do my best to balance my roles as Interim Mayor, Council President and District Three Councilmember. But at the end of each day, it’s the people that make it great: diverse stakeholders coming to the table with different ideas on how we can collectively make San Diego a better place to live. This is a great gig. There is much work to be done between now and when a new mayor takes office. I appreciate your continued patience and participation in these upcoming months. As always, thank you for the opportunity to serve.t

existence of our show. Ironically, these people needed no cajoling at all to talk to us. They just needed to read our sign, “The nations’ longest running LGBT radio show!” One guy, dressed in coordinated velour leisure attire asked if we were communists. Thinking he was just messing around, my colleague replied with a hearty, “Yes!” The man then launched into a spiel about how we wanted to throw away his tax dollars. OK, his wasn’t such an off-the-wall question, since we broadcast out of one of the oldest public-radio stations around. If you shook our building hard enough, some old leftover reds would probably fall out from the cracks. But as far as I know, none of us on our little gay show is or has ever been a communist. We would have been happy to record his story too if it had any sort of LGBT theme, but he “hurrumphed” away before we could ask. There are always a few versions of this sort of thing when we go out to meet the public at large. Since before the begin-

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More places to hit up when in Palm Springs Hi Andrew, I love your travel tips and never go anywhere “gay” without referring to your insightful tips on the location [see “Palm Springs: 3-day weekend,” Vol. 4, Issue 20]. Being a full time resident in Palm Springs, I wanted to add a couple places to add to one’s itinerary while visiting. I highly recommend Sunnylands Estate and Gardens in Rancho Mirage, the former home of Ambassador and Mrs. Annenburg, and the only mid-century modern estate in the world. Digs Bar on Cathedral Canyon in Cathedral City – especially Saturday nights when it’s elbows to elbow with hot, sweaty cowboys two-stepping and line dancing to some of the best country western music I’ve ever heard, with in-house DJ Steve – [is another spot I recommend.] And enjoy creative drinks convoyed by professional mixologist Will, who is easy on the eyes, as is fellow Bartender Joey. My last addition would be Wang’s in the Desert for dinner anytime, and to be seen at one of PS’s hottest happy-hour scenes on Friday after 5 p.m. Thank you for providing your insight and guidance all these years. —Tadz Pendrak, via

Life Beyond Therapy is required reading I don’t care for anything I read in San Diego aside from this guy. … I think what he has to say should be required reading at colleges across the nation. This is very important commentary and opinion on the part of Michael Kimmel, which is the main reason I read the paper [see “Grindr, Facebook and the new image culture,” Vol. 4, Issue 20]. I wish I could re-post this stuff on my personal pages at Facebook. Thanks so much for this, Mr. Kimmel. —Anthony Gioffre, via

Showing our own pride in the 2013 Pride Family I’m in tears as I write this. What an honor it is to be part of such a beautiful article [see “United in diversity: The 2013 San Diego Pride Family,” Vol. 4, Issue 20]. I knew it was going to be good but I had no idea it would affect me the way it has. I’m lost for words. Thank you Ian for understanding what we stand for, you did an amazing job. —Terry Nuñez, Ms. San Diego Pride 2013, via I am so PROUD of the way this 2013 Pride Family molded together [see “United in diversity: The 2013 San Diego Pride Family,” Vol. 4, Issue 20]. It shows that working together can make a huge difference. As the Peoples Empress, I’m pleased to say this is our 2013 Pride Family of the Imperial Court de San Diego. Hugs & Candi kisses. XOXO —Candi Samples, via gay-sd.comt

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EDITORIAL ning of the gay movement, people have had a propensity to associate homosexuality with communism. We are, sadly, used to it. I haven’t yet gotten used to what happened next, however. A woman challenged us from the left: “Why does your show have to be gay? Isn’t poverty more important?” Which begged the question, is there only room in the world for one radio show? We explained the usual facts: LGBT people are at high risk for poverty, that we have particular concerns that other shows rarely address, and that there’s nothing wrong with dedicating an hour a week of interminable pledge-drivefunded radio to a marginalized population anyway. Hell, no one seems to mind the entire oeuvre of Judd Apatow movies, which, as far as I can tell, are created primarily for and about 18-to-30-year old white guys getting hit in the crotch by something. This isn’t the first time I’ve heard a lefty suggest that LGBT activists are taking resources away from “more important issues,” but this time it lingered with me for days. I could invoke Dr. King’s adage, “injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere,” but it’s not enough, even if it’s true. There’s still a peculiar resistance to actively supporting LGBT equality that has nothing much to do with where one resides on the left-right continuum. I could go on about the high suicide rate among LGBT teens, or the persecution of gays in Uganda, or the fact that millions of LGBT Americans have no family or workplace protections at all, and it won’t trump the notion that we are all rich white men living in WeHo or Chelsea, and thus not truly subject to injustice somehow. So why does our community keep giving the left a pass on our issues? In my many years as a progressive, I’ve never seen consistent commitment to LGBT equality that squares with the left’s stated ideals of social justice. Meanwhile, more and more on the right are standing up for our rights as a matter of individual freedom, contrary to stereotype. I’m done with making assumptions about who is in my corner based on a check box on a voter registration car. I’d rather just ask.

GAY NEWS BRIEFS HARVEY MILK USPS STAMP A REALITY Officially announced Friday, Oct. 4 by the United States Postal Service (USPS), slain LGBT- and civil-rights activist Harvey Milk will appear on a commemorative stamp, becoming the first open LGBT individual to receive the honor. International Imperial Court Council chair and San Diego City Commissioner Nicole Murray-Ramirez launched the campaign over five years ago to honor Milk on a stamp, and the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force Executive Director Rea Carey congratulated Ramirez and his team for the effort. “This is an incredible honor for the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender community and the Milk family,” Carey said in a release. Following the Friday announcement, Assembly Majority Leader Toni Atkins congratulated the International Court Council, GLBT Historic Task Force of San Diego County and the Harvey Milk Foundation for their efforts. “Harvey Milk left an indelible mark on the history of the United States, and the announcement that the [USPS] will issue a commemorative stamp in his honor affirms his important place in our culture,” Atkins said in a separate release. The Harvey Milk stamp will be unveiled in 2014. MR. SOCAL BEAR & CUB CONTEST, SHOW SET FOR BEARQUAKE 2013 Bears San Diego has a full weekend scheduled for this year’s BearQuake, taking place Friday, Oct. 18 – Sunday, Oct. 20. A kickoff dinner was held at the Redwing Bar & Grill Thursday, Oct. 17. Themed as a “Murder Mystery Weekend,” the highlight event will be the 2013 Mr. SoCal Bear and Cub contest and show Saturday, Oct. 19 at Rich’s San Diego, located at 1051 University Ave. The contest begins with a buffet at 5:30 p.m. followed by the contest at 6:30 p.m. Empress Roxy Bleu will host, with a blessing by the Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence. The murder-mystery show “Who

Killed Bear Michaels” will be after the contest, followed by Rich’s LL Bear-BearQuake dance. Special Delivery San Diego and Being Alive San Diego have been selected as this year’s benefiting nonprofits, and the weekend serves at Bears San Diego’s largest fundraiser of the year. Additional events include a private barbeque and pool party Saturday afternoon, brunch and BINGO with the Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence Sunday, Oct. 20 at Numbers Nightclub, a victory celebration at The Hole Sunday afternoon and a farewell dinner at Nunzi’s Cafe Sunday evening. For more information on BearQuake 2013 visit FASHION WEEK WOWS SAN DIEGO Running Sept. 30 – Oct. 6, Fashion Week San Diego (FWSD) was a huge success, organizers said, wowing San Diegans with a week of events including three days of runway shows, a trunk show and an art and beauty display. The event brought in over 3,5000 attendees and coincided with the launching of the FWSD Designer Spring/Summer 2014 Collections. First place Winning Designer award went to RHCREATION, with Wishnow coming in second and Greenpacha coming in third out of 26 designers. The Sunday trunk show brought in over $18,000 in sales for the designers. Interim Mayor Todd Gloria and County Supervisor Dave Roberts were in attendance, and Gloria presented an official proclamation to FWSD Founder and Director Allison Andrews. Also at the event were representatives from InStyle and Vanity Fair, plus several national fashion retailers. Designer Zandra Rhodes also made an appearance, and the final night ended with an after party featuring DJ Demon of Sleeping Giant Music. ASSEMBLY SPEAKER PÉREZ TO RUN FOR STATE CONTROLLER California Assembly Speaker John A. Pérez announced Wednesday, Oct. 9 his intention to run for the office of California State Controller in 2014. Pérez said that while California’s economy has improved significantly in recent years, considerable work remains to be done. “California has made

GAY SAN DIEGO Oct. 18–31, 2013 great strides in its path to recovery, but our work is far from complete. I’m running for Controller to ensure our government reflects the values of the people of California and increases prosperity, by managing our finances smartly, efficiently and effectively,” Pérez said in the announcement. Pérez noted that when he first joined the State Assembly, California’s budget deficit was more than $60 billion, over half the state budget for the year. “Fiscal restraint has been crucial to putting our finances back in the black, and will remain vital to ensuring a prosperous future for our state,” he said. As the first openly gay person to be elected to Assembly Speaker in the country, Pérez has been a longtime advocate on behalf of the LGBT Community. He has been especially active in the fight against HIV/AIDS, serving as a leader with AIDS Project Los Angeles, the Latino Coalition against AIDS and the California Center for Regional Leadership. HUMAN DIGNITY FOUNDATION SUPPORTS GLOBAL LGBT ADVOCACY The San Diego Human Dignity Foundation (SDHDF) recently awarded $10,000 to the San Diego Diplomacy Council (SDDC), a nonprofit organization and partner of the United States State Department. This grant will help promote cooperation between San Diego community members and emerging leaders from around the world. Earlier this year, the SDHDF announced two new grant programs to support qualified non-profit organizations serving the LGBT community. The SDHDF is the sole community foundation in San Diego dedicated to providing the LGBT community funds to support programs promoting equal treatment, tolerance and equality. In a matching-grant challenge, the Diplomacy Council successfully raised $5,000, which was matched by the CollingsworthSimmons Charitable Fund at SDHDF to help support programs provided by the Council. Former honorary board member Arthur Collingsworth said he strongly believed that international exchanges and SDDC’s mission was a worthy and important endeavor, and one of Collingsworth’s final wishes before


his recent death was to recognize SDDC’s commitment to expanding San Diego’s global understanding and leadership in the areas of LGBT rights and HIV/AIDS prevention. To learn more about these grant programs visit mylgbtfoundation. org or call 619-291-3383. To learn more about the San Diego Diplomacy Council, visitsandiegodiplomacy. org or call 619-291-8105. ATKINS TRANSGENDER NAMECHANGE BILL SIGNED INTO LAW Assembly Bill 1121, authored by Assembly Majority Leader Toni Atkins, has been signed into law by Gov. Jerry Brown. This bill streamlines legal name changes for transgender Californians while protecting their privacy. Previous law required a transgender person to obtain a court order and to publish the name change application in a newspaper. This process was expensive and also publicly exposed the person to potential discrimination, harassment or even violence because of being transgender, an Atkins release said. “Transgender people are entitled to have their official documents and their legal name reflect their true identity without a burdensome and expensive process that endangers their personal safety,” Atkins said in the release. “This bill improves the lives of transgender Californians because it creates a simpler, more affordable and safer process. I am very pleased that Governor Brown agrees and that he has signed my bill.” AB 1121 is sponsored by Equality California and the Transgender Law Center. BEING ALIVE LAUNCHES RIBBONS OF HOPE CAMPAIGN HIV/AIDS services foundation Being Alive San Diego is launching their annual Ribbons of Hope campaign, which will run from Nov. 1 through New Year’s Day. Customers at over 40 separate businesses throughout San Diego can donate $1 for a small ribbon or $5 for a large one. Donors will be encouraged to write messages of remembrance and hope on the ribbons, and the business will display them until the New Year. This campaign,

see Briefs, pg 22

—Abby is a civil rights attorneyturned-author who has been in the LGBT rights trenches for 25-plus years. She can be reached through her website:


UNTYING THE KNOT Across 1 Like an erect nipple 5 Boston ball handlers, briefly 10 Move the ball between your legs 14 Toward shelter 15 Hawaiian howdy 16 Boat bottom 17 Knock around 18 Stick it to 19 Prefix that means “queer” 20 Former partner of Julie 22 Start of a quote by 20-Across 24 Editor Roshan 25 David Fisher does it on “Six Feet Under” 26 Fish formation 29 Satisfy fully 31 Breakfast spread 32 Mary had a little one 34 Rocket guy Wernher von ___ 39 More of the quote 42 Rear follower 43 Jack of old oaters

44 Rowing team 45 Avoid premature ejaculation 47 Asks on bended knee 49 Showy cock’s partner 53 Colorado neighbor 54 More of the quote 57 End of the quote 61 Opera highlight 62 Avoid capture 63 Yellow-brick way 64 Slightly 65 They’re green when plucked 66 Not nuts 67 Is left with 68 Opening 69 Land of the leprechauns

Untying the Knot solution on page 19 Down 1 Do damage to 2 It’s for skin 3 Not fantastic 4 Whoopi’s “Ghost” dance partner 5 “Because I Said So” comic Maggie 6 Dana of “MacGyver” 7 Petty of “A League of Their Own” 8 The folks over there 9 Deemed appropriate 10 Top choice 11 Give a gentle push 12 “Are you calling me ___?” 13 Stratagems 21 Saint, in Rio 23 Year in the reign of Gaius Caesar 26 “___ Like It Hot” 27 Family group 28 Bunch of stallions 29 Refine ore 30 “Mamma Mia!’ band 33 Processes wine or cheese

35 A real stud 36 Star quality 37 Brought into play 38 Randy Shilt’s area 40 Couch potato 41 Least meaningful 46 Kushner’s “___ in America” 48 Restroom, for short 49 Local at a leaning erection site 50 Act badly 51 Black key for Elton John 52 They may be clitoral 53 Dairy outlet? 55 Touched down 56 Nick Adams’ Johnny 58 “The Lion King” sound 59 Request for permission 60 Rosie O’Donnell’s “Exit to ___”


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Gov Brown signs bill to allow more than 2 parents


LEGALLY LGBT What should a judge do when three people show up in court claiming to be parents of a single child? Until recently, a judge would not have been able to recognize more than two legal parents. However, a new law signed by Gov. Jerry Brown allows the recognition of more than two legal parents, in specific circumstances. The case that prompted a change in the law is the complete opposite of responsible parenting. In a 2011 California case, three people claimed parental rights to a single child. The biological mother and father conceived the child together, but by the time the child was born, the mother was married to another woman and the father was not around. The court became

involved after the child was removed following an incident where the biological mother’s boyfriend stabbed her wife. The biological mother, her wife and the biological father each claimed to be parents in the resulting juvenile court proceedings. The court stated that none of the three parents seeking recognition in this case was particularly suited to provide a safe and stable family environment for the child. Nonetheless, the judge also recognized that California’s existing statutory framework is ill equipped to “accommodate rapidly changing familial structures … and novel parenting relationships.” In the past, the California Supreme Court “rejected the concept of dual paternity or maternity where such recognition would result in three parents,” documents state. Typically, judges will avoid ruling in a way that would significantly change the law because it is for the state legislature to decide if a change is necessary. Judges are not well equipped to understand the needs and desires of the public. The judge here included this note specifically to give the legislature a chance to change the law if they saw fit. Under the new law it is unlikely that the case would have turned out differently. The California legislature responded to this case with a bill in 2012, SB 1476, that would have allowed for the recognition of more than two parents in certain cases.

I previous wrote about SB 1476 here in March, where I explained the objections that were raised and the concerns Gov. Brown noted when he vetoed the bill. Gov. Brown signed a similar bill, SB 274, into law Oct. 4. The new law allows judges to “find that more than two persons with a claim to parentage … are parents if the court finds that recognizing only two parents would be detrimental to the child.” The law also requires courts to “allocate custody and visitation among the parents based on the best interests of the child.” The new law also addresses one of the concerns with the previous bill: how to deal with determining child support. Child support in California is calculated using a formula based on a statewide guideline. The new law says it does not intend to change the calculations used for determining child support. The new law will also not change how California treats sperm donors. Under the California Family Code, a sperm donor is presumed to not be a legal father of the child if the couple uses a licensed physician for the procedure. A couple could now work up an agreement through which a donor would be involved in the child’s life and become responsible like a parent, including any financial responsibility for the child. Same-sex couples using a sperm donor may choose to do so in order to preserve the biological connection between the donor and the child. Though the new law allows judges to recognize more than two legal parents, it is important to speak with an attorney to determine the best way to ensure that a judge will recognize your specific setup. —Paul D. McGuire is an openly bisexual family law attorney in San Diego who assists families dealing with dissolution of marriage and domestic partnerships. He writes a blog on family law and LGBT issues at

Who do you love?

MICHAEL KIMMEL LIFE BEYOND THERAPY Do you ever read those little magazines that tell you all about porn stars and their latest movies? I do. I read just about everything in front of me: you never know what you might learn. I found an interesting article in one of them. The basic premise of the article was don’t get fat, or your lover will leave you. “Really?” I said to myself as I read this little piece of alleged wisdom. “Is that true? If your body changes, will your lover leave you?” Needless to say, this is not an example of good mental health. So I was inspired to ask the question: Do you love a body or a person? As we age, what is most likely to change? Our bodies. Only with massive plastic surgery and intense daily workouts are we likely to avoid any physical changes. And even then, we’ll still get older. Look at Cher. God bless her, she does it all and even she looks older. Well, a little older. Beautiful bodies are wonderful to look at, make love to and feel. No doubt about it. I too am drawn to those gorgeous young 20-somethings at my gym: they are visual perfection. How could you not be attracted to them? The only problem is, would

they be good love objects – Freud’s words – for you? In other words, could you love them well and could they return it? Over the years I have been privileged to be a psychotherapist to porn stars, go-go boys, escorts and even a male “madam” who asked me to do psychological evaluations of candidates for his stable of escorts (I declined). Many of these young men and woman were bright, creative people who were experimenting with their sexuality and supporting themselves by doing so. Most of them ultimately left their sexually oriented work and moved into other fields. It is clear to me that even porn stars and go-go boys realize that their amazing bodies are temporary assets. None of them thought they would be able to sustain their beautiful, fat-free bodies for long: they all accepted aging and the physical changes that go with it. So why can’t the rest of us? Do we expect our partner to look as amazing in one, two or three years, as she does now? Do we start to hint by saying “You better not get fat baby, you know I like those muscles” or “Isn’t it time you went back to that trainer?” Some people claim to fall out of love with someone when their body changes. In those cases, it’s clear who you love: the body, not the man or woman who inhabits it. Have you ever talked with older couples who have happily stayed together for years and years? You may look at their bodies and not find them to be your physical ideal. But, guess what? If you live long enough, this will be you. And your partner. Former beautiful boys and girls become elders who are beautiful in their own way (if you’re willing to see it). These folks may have been brought together by physical attraction, but that’s not what kept them together. They learned to love their partner as a whole person: body, mind and soul. A dear friend of mine has been married five times. She said that the first four were “all about the bodies. I loved these hot younger guys,” but that the last one was about friendship. “In the end, all you have left is friendship. … That’s why [number five] lasted.” Sometimes, by focusing on our partner’s aging and changing body, we are pulling a fast one: by doing so, we avoid looking at our own body, our own life or our own unhappiness. We get to blame our dissatisfaction on them: “How can I be attracted to you if you don’t take care of yourself? I’m not into you anymore.” Let’s be clear, I’m not talking about an unhealthy body, I’m taking about a body that ages: hair goes gray, thins or disappears, waistlines get larger, biceps aren’t quite as big and that perky butt isn’t quite so perky. Who do you love? The body or the person inside it? What you choose will determine the kind and quality relationships you have. Choose carefully. —Michael Kimmel is a licensed psychotherapist who specializes in helping LGBT clients achieve their goals and deal with anxiety, depression, grief, sexually addictive behavior, coming out, relationship challenges and homophobia. Michael is currently accepting new clients. Contact him at 619-955-3311 or visit

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(l to r) Roasted pork torta; loaded chili; and chicken enchilada with black beans (Photos by Frank Sabatini Jr.)

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on’t be misled by the name. There isn’t a hot dog to be found inside the sprawling, new Lazy Dog in Mission Valley. What you’ll find instead is a range of dishes and ingredients fairly uncommon to other chain restaurants attached to malls and plazas, not to mention proprietar y home brews from the bar and wagging tails on the dog-friendly patio. Lazy Dog looms largely within the hyper-charged Westfield Mission Valley shopping center, where Gordon Biersch, Trader Joe’s, BevMo and other big-name entities trigger competitive parking. Its debut in San Diego marks the company’s 12th location since entrepreneur Chris Simms founded it 10 years ago in Orange County. Heavily beamed high ceilings, stone accents and solid leather-padded chairs beckon to the lodge elements Simms enjoyed when vacationing with his family in Jackson Hole, Wyo. Missing of course are the pristine vistas and elk sightings outside the windows. But a warm, embracing comfort prevails, similar to what skiers would expect after coming off the slopes. I’ve visited Lazy Dog four times, more than any single chain restaurant in the land. And my meal experiences have held steady as being above average despite a lengthy menu that travels across the United States and into Asia, Mexico and Europe. It’s an ambitious approach that oftentimes signals mediocrity in other branded kitchens. Here, there are several standouts. Breaking from Southern tradition is an appetizer of whipped potato hush puppies encasing red and green onions, Jack cheese and bacon pieces. Ser ved five to an order, the golden fried orbs are delicately crisped and drizzled with house-made Tapatio crema. They’re deceptively light and go down much easier than their cornmeal counterparts. Healthier starters include fresh beets with Laura Chenel goat cheese, ahi poke that’s as clean and lush as what you’ll find in Hawaii, white fish ceviche garnished with micro herbs, edamame beans cooked in traditional Japanese Togarashi spices, and a trio of hummus that includes an impressive walnut-pesto variety. The ahi reappears in a delectable mediumrare “burger” crowned with Asian slaw and potent wasabi dressing. The regular beef burgers are also noteworthy, given their girth and charbroiled essence. Opt for the Baja preparation, and the jalapeno-lime


aioli slathered inside will have you forgetting ketchup and mustard forever. Even the most pedestrian grub takes on finer-than-usual qualities. Plump and tender Buffalo-style chicken nuggets, for example, are arranged scrupulously across a bed of highly compatible blue cheese coleslaw while a bowl of chili con carne becomes a gourmet event as ripe tomatoes and green onions surface between grids of sour cream on top. The food’s higher-than-expected quality can be attributed to the company’s Ritz-experienced executive chef, Gabe Caliendo, who also had a hand in securing a line of craft beer brewed exclusively for Lazy Dog. They include honey blonde, IPA and chocolate porter. Lounge-worthy cocktails are also available, along with house-made sangrias, such as the only white peach concoction I’ve ever found drinkable. From the sandwich section, I recently tried the new roasted pork torta accented with catchy chipotle-orange mustard that resembled marmalade, plus pickled carrots and Swiss cheese. The ingredients were stacked inside a toasted Dutch crunch roll, defined by its unusual, craggy topping of rice flour, yeast, sugar and salt.

The same roll is used for the “pot roast dip,” a homier sandwich of sub substantial mass that combines the nostalgia of Sunday pot roast with mozzarella, caramelized onions and horseradish cream sauce. Full entries run the gamut from chicken pot pies and Moroccan chicken with couscous to penne car carbonara and bacon-wrapped coulotte steak, a trendy sir sirloin cut ser ved here atop baby spin spinach, mashed potatoes and burgundy wine sauce. Or if traditional chicken chow mein calls, Lazy Dog obliges. From the weekend brunch menu, the wild blueberry pancakes prompted a friend’s return visit the following week for the same dish, partly because my own fork put a significant dent in it. The cakes were excep exceptionally fluffy, but the best part was the maplebacon butter that transformed their flavor into a full breakfast. No syrup, fruit or meat required. Ser vice is chirpy and somewhat ingratiating at the reception desk, although based on a complete lack of screw ups, particularly when visiting with a party of 12, I’d bet that the company’s training approach focuses first on efficiency and pleasantries second. Sadly, too many brandname restaurants in big shopping centers have it the other way around.t

Potato hush puppies (Photo by Frank Sabatini Jr.)


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BY FRANK SABATINI JR. Over in Little Italy, the doors just opened on Ballast Point Tasting Room and Kitchen, a massive smartly designed space replete with fermentation tanks, a tasting room and dining space. Helming the kitchen is Chef Colin MacLaggan, who owned and operated the former Avenue 5 restaurant in Bankers Hill. 2215 India St., 619-255-7213. The beer-centric bistro Waypoint Public opened this week in North Park with a 30-tap selection of West Coast brews and more than 300 bottled labels from around the globe. Launched by a trio of local hospitality veterans that includes accomplished chef and butcher Amanda Baumgarten, a sneak peak at the menu reveals oyster tacos, charred local octopus, pork-veal meatballs, Carlsbad mussels with slow-cooked pork belly and flank steak with mustard greens and chimichurri aioli. The 5,000-square-foot space formerly housed The Linker y and has been remodeled with an expanded central bar, a 45-foot art installation and an Astroturf play area for kids. Plans for an outdoor patio are in the works. 3794 30th St., 619-255-8778. The 7th Avenue Pub at Whole Foods in Hillcrest has revised about 75 percent of its menu to include a slate of Baja-inspired dishes that includes smoked duck flautas, Portobello burritos, jicama wraps and Caesar salad based on the original version from Tijuana. The new rollouts by Chef Martin San Romon, a global ambassador of Mexican cuisine, correspond to the store’s growing inventory of wines from Baja’s Guadalupe Valley, which now totals about 50 labels. In addition, the pub will host a “beer and home cooking” class from 6 to 7:30 p.m. Nov. 13, which teaches consumers how to use suds in their recipes. Local author and beer authority Schuyler Schultz will teach the class. The cost is $10. 711 University A sample from the new Baja-inspired menu (Photo by GSD) Ave., 619-294-2800. Looking to take home a little extra dough? Amateur cooks get to take home the extra raw dough made in a pizza class at Solare Ristorante in Liberty Station, where participants will learn the techniques for constructing several pizzas from various regions in Italy. Solare chefs will hold the class at 10:30 a.m. Oct. 26. The cost is $60 per person. 2820 Roosevelt Road, 619-270-9670.

The beer scene continues hopping with the opening of a cozy, new tasting room by Acoustic Ales Brewing Experiment in The Historic Mission Brewer y Plaza on Washington Street. The beer list features more than 20 different brews from taps and casks that customers can pair with a variety of eats from local food trucks that usually show up in front around 5 p.m., except on Mondays. 2120 W. Washington St., 619-299-2537.


In case you’re wondering about the construction occurring within that hang between North Park and South Park, near 30th and Redwood streets, it’s the groundwork for an upcoming restaurant that will be called MidPark. Formerly a Laundromat, the 2,000-plus square foot space is undergoing full renovation, due for completion in April. The venture is being launched by Frank Sciuto, who owns Tio Leo’s. Rumor has it that his planned global menu will perhaps mimic that of the now-defunct Vagabond that residents eagerly embraced. 3111 30th Street.

The new beer menu at San Diego’s largest wine bar (Photo by Frank Sabatini Jr.) The new tap system by The Brew Project is up and running at Fifty Seven Degrees, which recently replaced its southwest corner walls with retractable windows to bring in views of the Downtown skyline. The beer program, run by entrepreneurs Beau Schmitt and Kyle Chaykowksi, focuses exclusively on local brews with 31 varieties that change regularly. “The Brew Project brings in a different element and gives people more options,” said Russ Kindom, owner of the 10,000-square-foot wine bar and event space in Middletown. Kindom currently stocks about 450 wine labels in the bar’s retail section and has begun selling six select bottles for $60 as a holiday special that will run through December. 1735 Hancock St., 619-234-5757.t


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Friday, Oct. 18

IT’S BRITNEY: Hosted by Spot On Productions, “… Britney, Battle of the Divas” is a night dedicated to the popnightmare Britney, including her videos, performances and music all night long. Of course, Britney dress is strongly encouraged, so get out your BritBrit T-Shirts or go full-on “Baby One More Time” schoolgirl. Doors are at 10 p.m. at Numb3rs Nightclub, 3811 Park Blvd. Visit

Saturday, Oct. 19

BINGO: Hosts Gouda and Mama MO invite you to come play with their balls at this Throw Back BINGO event, with check in at 12:30 p.m. Start times run from 1 – 3 p.m., and it is $5 for one board or $10 for three. Yes, there will be fabu prizes and all money raised will go to the Tantrums & Tiaras contestants. Urban MO’s is located at 308 University Ave. Visit EXHIBIT AMBUSH: It’s Phase 2 of Exhibit Ambush, featuring the 2014 spring collection by Marteal and Estrada – out brothers Jesus and Antonio Estrada of New York City – and benefitting the Susan G. Komen for the Cure, San Diego. Jesus Estrada appeared on “Project Runway” and his brother is known for the documentary “Norte a Sur,” though it is surely their dual design-work that everyone will want to see. There will be many more designers as well, and Leslie Hughes from “The Bachelor” will host. The event takes place at Broadway Pier’s Port Pavilion, 1000 Harbor Dr. Doors open to

Saturday, Oct. 19 LOVE GONE WRONG: FilmOut San Diego goes tragic for this month’s film screenings, with an all-day, six-film marathon of films all about love, with a Halloween twist, of course. The Love Gone Wrong marathon features the classic’s – “Fatal Attraction” at 1:15 p.m., “Basic Instinct” at 3 p.m., “Beyond the Valley of the Dolls” at 6 p.m. – as well as three San Diego LGBT premieres. “Solo” opens the marathon at 11:45 a.m., with “Truth” at 8:15 p.m. and “Lose Your Head” at 10 p.m. It’s “Truth” we’re most excited about, as producers and stars Sean Paul Lockhart and Rob Moretti will be in attendance. the public at 5 p.m., following a 4 p.m. VIP pre-party. Oh, and there will be an after party, too. Visit THE GALA: This is a milestone. The LGBT Community Center is celebrating 40 years with tonight’s 40th Anniversary Gala, held at the Hilton San Diego Bayfront, 1 Park Blvd. from 6 – 10 p.m. There will be over 800 guests at this ruby anniversary celebration, from political leaders and nonprofit representatives to the people The Center serves most. Proceeds go to the over 40 programs The Center organizes, and attendees can stick around for the after party at Club 73, with a 13-piece band, casino games and after-dinner sweets. Tickets start at $200. Visit STEVE GRAND: It’s You-

Lockhart is a local boy, and all films screen at The Birch North Park Theatre. The film is a suspenseful, psychological thriller “exposing the hidden demons buried deep inside each and every one of us,” producers said. Lockhart plays Caleb, who meets and quickly falls for Jeremy (Moretti). “Soon the line between love and lies blur,” they said, as Caleb struggles to keep his mentally ill mother a secret, succumbing to his darker side. Is Jeremy innocent? Is he held captive? Is this a classic case of love gone wrong? The last question is your call, so you’ll have to attend the FilmOut marathon to find out. This might not be the best first-date ever, but you never know. Tube-sensation Steve Grand’s “All American Boy Tour” official stop in San Diego. MO’s Universe will host Grand for a one-night-only, 45-minute concert starting at 10 p.m. Following, the pop-rock singer will stick around for a meet and greet with fans. Tickets are $12, and Urban MO’s is located at 308 University Ave. Visit or call 619-491-0400. EYE CANDY: Global Male and SoulKiss are joining forces to offer up one amazing night of Hip Hop and Latin for both the ladies and the gentlemen. Eye Candy takes over one portion of Numb3rs Nightclub at 3811 Park Blvd., with $5 cover before 11 p.m. and $8 after. DJ Moody Rudy spins. Visit or DJ BATTLE: SDPIX takes over the other half of Numb3rs

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Nightclub, with an official Battle of the DJs between John Joseph, Marcel and dirtyKURTY. Vote for your favorite at the end of the night, but with three of the best, no one will lose. Doors are at 10 p.m. with free entry to SDPIX members before midnight by texting 313131. Numb3rs is located at 3811 Park Blvd. Visit

Sunday, Oct. 20

WOMEN’S EMPOWERMENT: Held at the new Central Library, today’s Women’s Empowerment International annual meeting is from 1 – 3:30 p.m. and has the theme “Celebrating Empowered Women.” Attendees will hear from featured speakers and get an update on what is happening in the San Diego-based organization’s mi-

crofinance programs around the world. It’s also a good way to introduce yourself to the group, and admission is free. The Central Library is located at 330 Park Blvd. Visit or call 619-333-0026. GLAMFEST: Lips Restaurant’s own Fifi has had so much success with her annual fundraiser for the Autism Society of San Diego, that she brings the event back for its fourth year. Fifi gathers 14 drag queens on one stage for an amazing performance, plus there will be dinner, prizes and “shenanigans only a true diva can bring out.” Bar opens at 6:30 p.m., with seating times starting at 7 p.m. The Show is at 8 p.m., all ending at 10 p.m. Lips will be closed to the public, so you must have tickets: $40 Gold Circle and $60 Diamond Circle. Lips is located at 3036 El Cajon Blvd. Visit

Monday, Oct. 21

NO COVER MANIC MONDAY: The Brass Rail is throwing us broke folk a bone with no cover all month long for their everpopular Manic Mondays. It’s retrotime, with music from the ‘80s and ‘90s. Grunge is back, so put on your best flannel plaid and get to it. Brass Rail is located at 3796 Fifth Ave., doors are at 9 p.m. Visit

Tuesday, Oct. 22

PHANTOGRAM: I have a friend who randomly saw electroband Phantogram once and he was sold, so it’s number one on

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CALENDAR our list for today. The group takes over The House of Blues tonight, bringing their “beautiful, beatdriven dreamlike pop songs” for one amazing set. Opening act is Giraffage, and tickets start at $20.50. Sponsored by The Casbah, doors are at 7 p.m. House of Blues is located at 1055 Fifth Ave. Visit

Wednesday, Oct. 23

HBC’S PUMPKIN CARVING: The Hillcrest Brewing Company’s pumpkin carving contest was so much fun last year, they brought it back with bigger, better and more wild pumpkins. Well actually, that’s up to you: bring in your bestcarved pumpkin and let the judges judge. Registration starts at 6 p.m. with the contest from 7 – 9 p.m. Prizes include growlers and gift cards. Attendees can also win tickets to “Kill Your Darlings,” the new Daniel Radcliffe film out soon. HBC is located at 1458 University Ave. Visit

Thursday, Oct. 24

COMPLETELY KAHLO: “The Complete Frida Kahlo—Her Paintings. Her Life. Her Story” opens today at Liberty Station. The exhibition features 123 precise replicas of Kahlo’s known paintings in their original size, becoming the largest, most comprehensive exhibition ever created about the iconic Mexican artist’s work, life and story (hence the exhibition title).

Also included are over 500 identical Kahlo possessions and a recreation of her studio and bedroom, including the famous canopy bed. This is the North American premiere, and the exhibit will stay at Barracks 3 at the NTC Arts & Culture District in Liberty Station, 2765 Truxton Rd., Thursdays through Sundays before ending Jan. 10, 2014. Tickets start at $12.50. Visit PINK BOOMBOX: Every month the Pink BoomBox Revue takes over the Brass Rail with their burlesque circus review, featuring “grim, gritty” and “dreamy” performances by the baddest ladies of the underground burlesque scene: Lilly Holiday, Nancy Drew Blood, Stone L’Amour, SaraPhim, Holly Quinn and Avarra LaRoux. More will be announced soon, with the show at 10 p.m. Cover is $5. The Brass Rail is located at 3796 Fifth Ave. Visit

Friday, Oct. 25

ASYLUM AT MO’S: It’s night one of a two-night special Dreamgirls Halloween show, called “Asylum.” Hosted by Chad Michaels, the performances – both completely different, with the second happening Oct. 30 at the same time – are filled with “ghoulish, insane” and elaborately costumed performances. Tonight’s stars are Michael, Dolly Levi, Fontasia LA’Mour, Glitz Glam and LaDonna Monroe. On Wednesday, Delta Work and Shannel join the group as well. The show starts at 8 p.m. and tickets are $10. Urban MO’s is located at 308 University Ave. Visit

Saturday, Oct. 26

NIGHTMARE ON NORMAL: Hillcrest’s Halloween block party is tonight from 7 – 10 p.m., featuring the Outrageous Nicole as emcee for the night’s costume contest, with a first-place prize of $1,000 in cold, hard cash. Costume contest registration is limited to the first 66 entries, and will close at 8:30 p.m. The entire Nightmare on Normal Street is presented by Revivals, and is a fundraiser for The Center. The fun runs from 7 – 10 p.m., with $10 general admission tickets. Online VIP tickets are $50. Visit events. MORP: It is the third annual MORP fundraising spook-tacular party by Circle Circle dot dot, held this year at the Centro Cultural de la Raza, located at 2004 Park. Blvd. in Balboa Park. MOPRP 2013: Dead Man’s Party will include a never-before-seen collaborate storytelling performance with local writing group So Say We All, called “A Haunting in San Diego.” It’s a costume contest too, so get ready to be crowned a part of the Royal MORP Court. Food tucks, drinks and a raffle drawing all await in this special 21-and-older Holiday treat, all starting at 7 p.m. Tickets are $30 individual, or $50 couples and includes drink vouchers. Visit HALLOWEEN MASSIVE: Rich’s San Diego goes afterhours until 4 a.m. with tonight’s special Halloween MASSIVE. DJ dirtyKURTY spins in the front room, with Nikno and DJ Taj in the back. There will be an outdoor haunted trail and a $1,000 costume contest at midnight

(hosted by Bianca). Doors open at 9 p.m. and presale tickets are $15 ($20 at the door). Rich’s is located at 1051 University Ave. Visit

Sunday, Oct. 27

THE BOOB SHOW: Don’t be a boob; make sure to get your tickets to the Finest City Improv’s “The Boob Show” where sketch comedy, improv, rap and puppetry come together for one night to fight breast cancer. Hosted by Amy Lisewski and Peggy Walkush, the boob show will be one of the first performances in Finest City Improv’s new space, located at 4250 Louisiana St. and attached to the Lafayette Hotel. Tickets are $30 general admission and $60 VIP, with 100 percent of sales going to Making Strides Against Breast Cancer at the American Cancer Society thanks to volunteer performers and the sponsorship of Village Vino in Kensington and South Bark Dog Wash in South Park. Visit SPOOKY SOIRÉE: DJ Von Kiss spins for Bourbon Street’s ladies night Sunday Spooky Soirée, with a “Sexy Spooky Love” costume contest. There will be $500 given in cash and prizes for the contest, all starting at 10 p.m. Bourbon Street is located at 4612 Park Blvd. Visit

Monday, Oct. 28

FIERCE GREEN FIRE: Media Arts Center San Diego’s Digital Gym opens the much-anticipated documentary “A Fierce Green Fire.” Narrated by Robert


Redford, Meryl Streep and Ashley Judd, the film chronicles the environmental movement of the 20th century, focusing on activism and stories of survival in the hopes to continue the movement. Today’s showtime is at 2:30 p.m., with six more during the week: Tuesday at 4:30 and 9:30 p.m., Wednesday at 2:30 and 7:30 p.m. and Thursday at 2:30 and 5 p.m. Tickets are $10.50 and the Gym is located at 2921 El Cajon Blvd. Visit

Wednesday, Oct. 30

HARVEST HOWL: It’s the eighth annual Harvest Howl for Youth Housing, hosted by The Metro Area Real Estate Professionals for Young Adult Housing (MARYAH) and organized by The LGBT Center. Enjoy food from over 12 restaurants, all descending on Top of the Park at Park Manor Suites, 525 Spruce St. There will be live entertainment, a silent auction and hosted bar (for the first hour) from 6 – 9 p.m. Proceeds from the event benefit The Center’s Youth Housing Project, and general admission tickets are $40. Visit

Thursday, Oct. 31

BOO: It’s Halloween, kids. Have fun and be safe. And don’t miss MO’s Universe’s All Hallow’s Night Dance Party, with DJ John Williams and host Gliz Glam. There will be $500 for first place in their costume contest, too, taking place at 11 p.m. The $5 cover starts at 8 p.m. at 308 University Ave. Visit


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His private Idaho

Gentle, no-frills play gives hope amid hopelessness


o see Samuel D. Hunter’s “The Few” in its world premiere at The Old Globe makes one feel like a voyeur in a separate reality, an unfamiliar culture within our nation. Perhaps, in retrospect, that is its fascination and its raison d’être. The action is set on the brink of the millennium in Northern Idaho, where the play concerns the culture of long-haul truckers: those men and women who spend their lives driving 18-wheelers to and fro across the nation. Though adored by people who love spending a lot of time in their own heads, it’s a lonely life. Former truckers, Bryan and QZ – a woman with whom Bryan went to high school and was romantically involved – forsook the road many years ago when he bought a piece of property and founded The

(from top) Gideon Glick, Michael Laurence and Eva Kaminsky (Photo by Jim Cox)

Few, a newspaper dedicated to truckers. Several years before the action begins, Bryan (played by Michael Laurence) walked away from his life with QZ, who took over the editorship of The Few. It is now far from its high-minded original purpose, which was to help ease the loneliness. Under QZ’s pragmatic leadership, The Few has become a vehicle for personal ads. The answering machine whirs continually with ad placers. Just leave your number and we will phone you for payment. Bryan is not pleased. It takes the entire play, enacted without interval, for QZ (Eva Kaminsky) and Matthew (Gideon Glick), the oddball kid she employs, to find out exactly why Bryan left, and then to discover the motivation for his return. The amazing thing about the script, which employs the taped “voices of the few” (citizens of San Diego), is its simplicity, its ordinary, crippled characters, and its overriding sense of hope in the midst of hopelessness. Even though there is no happy ending in the usual sense of the word, the story leaves onlookers with a modicum of hope for the future of these damaged folks, who, though plain and plainspoken, have their own poetry. Laurence is the unkempt, rugged Jeff Bridges-Brian Kerwin type, absolutely fascinating, believable and watchable at every moment. It’s obvious this deeply resonant character has both invested and suffered the most. As Matthew, a boy beaten by his father because of his attraction to another boy, Glick creates such a wounded and endearingly gauche character that our opinion of QZ is automatically elevated because she has given him place and purpose. As QZ, Kaminsky fairly glows with a need to discover what lies beyond Idaho. Under Davis McCallum’s low-key direction, the three actors don’t appear to be acting but rather living in the now, right before our eyes. The production’s only flaw is that

(l to r) Eva Kaminsky Michael Laurence (Photo by Jim Cox)

"The Few" Through Oct 27 The Old Globe Theatre, Theatre, 1363 Old Globe Way Tues & Wed 7 p.m. Thurs & Fri 8 p.m. Sat 2 & 8 p.m. Sun 2 & 7 p.m.

Gideon Glick as Matthew (Photo by Jim Cox)

their diction, especially at line endings and in scenes facing away, was lost. Dane Laffrey’s set – a trailer-like room amid the White Theatre – is a miracle of clutter. Neat freaks avert their eyes, especially when things become even messier. One of the props in particular provides some excruciatingly funny comedy. Jessica Pabst provides the plain folks’ costumes and Matt Frey’s lighting gives one a sense of the lonely and claustrophobic. Daniel Kluger provides appropriate original music and sound design. “The Few” is a gentle play, providing an unusual, thought provoking, no-frills story, and a journey to the core of loneliness.t

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PALMSPRINGS important as well. “One of the most impactful elements of Pride is seeing participation of youth in the community. In addition to the Palm Springs High School Marching Band, students from just about every high school in the region will be marching in the parade,” he said. “It’s also very powerful to see youth participate in the Festival where they experience a safe and affirming environment.” TV talk-show host and best-selling author Ross Mathews serves as this year’s Parade celebrity grand marshal, kicking off the parade at 10 a.m. on Nov. 3 through the heart of Downtown Palm Springs. In a nod to their theme, the Palm Springs Pride board announced a second grand marshal: Sochi Pride 2014, a symbolic move demonstrating “solidarity” with the LGBT community in Russia, organizers said. “We will lend our support to the organizing committee of Moscow Gay Pride and founders of the banned Pride House Sochi in their efforts to organize the Sochi Pride march,” deHarte said in a press release, inviting all others to keep focused on the Russian government’s crimes against the LGBT community. Sochi, Russia will host the 2014 Olympic Winter Games amid repeated calls for a boycott because of the country’s

anti-gay policies. National grand marshal for this year’s parade is Joe Jervis, author of the LGBT news and culture blog Joe. My.God. Jervis will join community grand marshals Melanie Jones and Ellen Zimmerman, and Mark Jones and Brian Vatcher. Mark Jones and Vatcher are the pair who developed the proposal to bring the now-iconic “Forever Marilyn” statue to Downtown Palm Springs. The statue’s location is host to a number of official Pride events, including the Stonewall Equality Concert, OUT PSP block party and the complimentary wedding ceremonies held Nov. 2 from 10 a.m. – 4 p.m. Couples who register can get married by a officiant at the Forever Marilyn Wedding Garden throughout the day, returning to a 4:30 p.m. free “I Do” equality celebration with comedian and 2013 Community Service Award winner Shann Carr. Always an important part of Palm Springs Pride, this year’s Pride honorees were toasted at a ceremony Oct. 4 and will be celebrated during the entire pride weekend. Lifetime Achievement awards were given to Tom Bianchi, Katherine V. Forrest and Ginny Foat. Lambda Legal is being honored as the 2013 Advocate of the Year, and joining Carr is designer Christopher Kennedy as a Spirit of Stonewall Community Service Award honoree. For complete list of this year’s winners, as well as information on the 2013 Greater Palm Springs Pride weekday events and weekend Festival, Parade and block parties, visit or call 760-416-8711.t

Greater Palm Springs Pride Official Events LGBT Center Concert: Oct. 30 (5:30 p.m.)

Hot Wet & Proud Pool Party: Nov. 2 (12 – 11 p.m.)

Center Stage, a benefit concert headlined by Frenchie Davis with special guest emcee Alec Mapa at the Palm Springs Convention Center, 277 N Avenida Caballeros. $100/$85, or 760-416-7790

Live DJ’s, drag show and a nude contest along with a free barbeque and no-host cocktails at the CCBC Resort, 68300 Gay Resort Drive, Cathedral City. $25/$30 or 760-324-1350

Palm Springs Pride Golf Classic: Nov. 1 (8 a.m.)

Open-air OUT music and dance festival at the Forever Marilyn statue, 125 N. Palm Canyon Dr. Free, 21+

Breakfast and lunch buffet, contest prizes, and instructional clinic. Tahquitz Creek Golf Resort, 1885 Golf Club Dr. $99, 760-775-2000 x 212 or

Broadway in Drag Pageant: Nov. 1 (8 p.m.)

Palm Springs Canyon Theater, 538 N. Palm Canyon Dr. $35/$50, or 760-323-5123

Stonewall Equality Concert: Nov. 1 (6 – 10 p.m.) Forever Marilyn statue, 125 N. Palm Canyon Dr. Free

Standing on Ceremony: Nov. 1 & 2 (8 p.m.)

OUT PSP Block Party: Nov. 2 (6 – 10:30 p.m.)

Arenas Rd. Block Party ’13: Nov. 2 (6 – 11 p.m.)

Featured headliners Alex Newell of “Glee” and pop sensation Meital Dohan, Arenas Road, located between Indian Canyon and Calle Encilia Free, 21+

The Official Ladies’ Party: Nov. 2 (9 p.m. to 2 a.m.) Azul, 369 N. Palm Canyon Dr. $10, 21+

Wang’s in the Desert Pride Dance Party: Nov. 2 (10 p.m. to 2 a.m.)

“Standing on Ceremony, The Gay Marriage Plays” at Palm Springs Art Museum’s Annenberg Theater, 101 N. Museum Dr. $39/$2, or 760-325-4490

Jonny McGovern and his go-go boys, Wang’s in the Desert, 424 S. Indian Canyon Dr. $20 760-325-9264 or

Uptown Design District chill-out: Nov. 1 (6 – 9 p.m.)

VIP Parade viewing area in the shadow of the Forever Marilyn statue, 125 N. Palm Canyon Dr. $10, 21+

Pride Weekend Kickoff party at participating stores between Alejo Road and Tachevah Drive, Free

Two-Day Pride Festival: Nov. 2 & 3 (11 a.m. – 6 p.m.)

Palm Springs Stadium’s Sunrise Park, 1901 E. Baristo Rd. $15 daily; $25 pass; $10 daily for seniors, youth & students

13th Annual Front Runners & Walkers Run/Walk: Nov. 2 (8 a.m.)

Palm Springs High School athletic stadium (Baristo Road and Farrell Way). $25/$30 Race day registration starting at 6 a.m. or online registration at or

Wedding Ceremonies: Nov. 2 (10 a.m. – 4:30 p.m.)

Get married at the Forever Marilyn Wedding Garden, 125 N. Palm Canyon Dr. Mandatory online registration at

Parade VIP Party: Nov. 3 (8:30 a.m. – 1:30 p.m.)

27th Anniversary Pride Parade: Nov. 3 (10 a.m.)

Traveling north along Palm Canyon Drive starting at W. Baristo Road, ending at E. Tamarisk Road

Sunday High Tea: Nov. 3 (2 – 8:30 p.m.)

Exclusively at Forever Marilyn statue, 125 N. Palm Canyon Dr. $15 advance, 21+

Daytime DESERT Realness: Nov. 3 (1 – 6:00 p.m.)

San Francisco daytime drag party “Daytime Realness” after the Pride Parade. Alcazar Palm Springs, 622 North Palm Canyon Dr. $10, 760318-9850 or

Leather Pride: Nov. 7 – 10

Palm Springs Leather Order of the Desert gathers in the Desert Oasis each November for a weekend celebration of Leather/Fetish fellowship and fun. Tickets are $125,

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Avicii International super-DJ & producer releases first studio album, talks working with Madonna and our own Adam Lambert

By C. Cacciatore | Fly Life Inc Two-time Grammy-nominated producer and DJ Avicii, aka Tim Bergling, released his debut studio album “TRUE” in September via PRMD Music/Island Records, with the lead single “Wake Me Up” taking over the airways all summer long. Despite global successes in concert, on the radio and in video, “TRUE” is Avicii’s first full album, ever. In this chat with the superstar international DJ, Avicii talks about his new album, spinning at gay clubs, performing with Madonna, the shift in LGBT rights across the world and working with San Diego’s own Adam Lambert. C. Cacciatore: Congrats on making a great record. The record is not just about the singles. It’s a nice ride all the way through. It’s one of those records that you can listen to from start to finish. Avicii: Thank you. CC: One of the tracks on “TRUE” that we are hoping is the next single is “Lay It Down” with Adam Lambert. What was it like working with Adam? A: It was great. Adam has an

amazing voice. More than anything, he’s also a great writer. But his voice is just insane! He’s like a reincarnation of Freddie Mercury. Actually more like a mixture of Freddie Mercury and Robert Plant. CC: Is that what attracted you to working with Adam? His showmanship as a performer? A: Yeah, I think so. It was Nile Rodgers that kinda had the connection with him and brought him down to put the vocals on a demo that Nile and I did. We weren’t even intending to have him sing on the final track. But then he did such an amazing job on the demo, we were like, “Why go look for someone else. It’s brilliant as it is.” There was another song we did with Adam. It was about going down on a girl. He was like, “well it’s not for me, but I’ll sing it. I’ll do it for the people. I’ll go down for the people.” One way or another we all go down. CC: I don’t know how you did it, but you’ve managed to put all these different genres together, and managed to make a balanced record, whether you are hitting a dance vibe, a traditional blue grass vibe or a rock vibe. One of the

tracks, “Liar Liar,” has a 1960s psychedelic vibe keyboard to it. Let’s talk about the track for a minute. A: “Liar Liar” was done with Aloe Blacc and Blondfire [an indie band from Los Angeles]. I was kinda mashing two tracks together. I already had two ideas, so I pulled them together and they just kind of worked well mashed into one. CC: What is the keyboard sound in that track? A: It is farfisa. It’s an amazing keyboard sound that hasn’t been used in a long time. CC: It has a classic vibe. When you listen to that track it reminds me of something coming out of Los Angeles in the ‘60s. A: For sure. A lot of the elements on this record are like that. Their sounds give different imagery and a lot of different influences. Like, we have a kazoo on one track. There was a lot of experimenting in general on the record. CC: You definitely get that that from the record. You get the live feel, the traditional and non-traditional instruments come through,

even when they are played over a heavy beats-driven track. A: That’s definitely the point of “TRUE.” That was my main goal and to achieve a sound that works on and off the dance floor. CC: What was it like working in L.A.? You actually sat still for a minute in L.A. around the time of the Grammys. I know you were out there for more than a couple of weeks. A: I loved it. That’s when I feel the best, mentally, physically and everything. Just not having to travel constantly [and] doing a couple of shows a week, but on weekends have a house to go back to. It doesn’t necessarily have to be L.A., but of course I love L.A. I’ll probably be there for the next couple of years. The work is there and it’s such a creative environment. CC: Did you learn how to drive out there? A: [Laughs] no, I’m still using my Uber app. CC: The other track on the record that resonated with us is “Addicted To You.” I could see that

A: [Laughs] yes, definitely it has that very house diva-ish vibe. So yeah I can see that. CC: Have you ever played at a gay club? A: I have played at gay clubs. I haven’t played at an exclusive gay night in America yet. But there have been gay clubs and spaces that I’ve played in. When I spin, it isn’t just gay people that come out, it’s for everyone. It’s a lot calmer, there isn’t as much violence and [it’s] more about fun, just less bras being thrown at me [laughs]. CC: The gay community has always been the primary audience that drove dance music into the mainstream. In the last 10 years, that has changed somewhat with dance music being driven by the wider festival circuit and the mainstream. What are your thoughts on that? A: Well it’s constantly changing and evolving. As for the gay community, especially with house music, which is what I do, that’s where it started. I worked a lot with Nile Rodgers and we’ve done about six or seven tracks together, and we spoke a lot about that too. It’s just funny ‘cause all his music started and [was] rooted in the gay community, and so many gay people have been his audience for such a long time. CC: Not only has dance music changed in the past 10 years but so has the shift in LGBT rights across the world. Have you felt the changes or would you like to comment on the changes? A: I have family and friends that are gay and it’s an important issue for me. I grew up in Sweden. So it’s really not that much of an issue in Sweden the same way it is for gay marriage in America. Even within the society in general, at least from what I feel growing up. I’ve never had any friends being homophobic or never even heard any parents being homophobic. I’ve never even seen that. But in America, you still see homophobia. It’s getting better but you can tell that it still exists. CC: Talk to me about your charity House For Hunger ( It’s great that you are doing charitable and philanthropic work at an early stage in your career. A: Thank you. It is a joint thing with my manager, Ash Pournouri. We wanted to do something for charity for a while. We didn’t want to just do a charity show. We wanted to do something more: something bigger and something that hasn’t been done before. It’s sort of what we try to do with everything we approach. We always set the bar very high right from the start and that’s what we are still doing. We are actually going to go back and look at how the money we raised was put to use through the charity, so that is something that I am excited about. CC: Last question, as we are about to pull up to your gig. What was it like working with Madonna on her last tour? A: It was amazing. Yeah, I played at Yankee Stadium twice and that was definitely a big gay show. There were a lot of very animated people, a lot of drag queens and tons of fun.t


Jodie Foster (Courtesy Featureflash) Jodie Foster leaves prison, moves into ‘House of Cards’ Jodie Foster’s next feature as a director, “Money Monster,” is in that weird no-person’s-land known as pre-production, so in the meantime, the double Academy Awardwinning actor has been dropping in for guest spots directing cool episodic television. She helmed the fittingly-titled “Lesbian Request Denied” episode of the hit Netflix series “Orange Is The New Black,” and will now step into David Fincher’s shoes to work on an upcoming episode of “House of Cards,” the critically acclaimed and Emmynominated political drama, also from Netflix, starring Kevin Spacey and Robin Wright about a manipulative – and murderous – congressmember with his eyes on the White House prize. Producer and director



Fincher is stepping back for the show’s second season, so Foster (in addition to Spacey and Wright) reportedly will direct at least one episode. If she keeps on working with Netflix, will Foster get her own special section of streaming product there? It would make it a lot easier to watch “Freaky Friday” and “Bugsy Malone” whenever we want. And we really do want. Boots, biceps and bulges The late Touko Laaksonen, the Finnish artist also known as Tom of Finland, probably did more to push gay male erotic images into the mainstream than anyone else in the 20th century. His illustrations were designed to inspire lust and to erase the boundary between art and pornography. They also helped re-create happier, hornier selfimages for many gay men in the 1970s with their fantasies of muscular masculinity, confidence and outsize sexual achievement. One documentary short film “Boots, Biceps and Bulges: The Life & Works of Tom of Finland” arrived in the late 1980s, while the 1990s “Daddy and The Muscle Academy” was an LGBT film festival staple in its moment, just as Tom himself was dying at age 71. Now a biopic currently titled “Tom of Finland” is in production, ready to tell the story of the sexual and artistic pioneer. Finnish director Dome Karukoski will helm the feature, which has yet to be cast. And it has the official, authorized blessing of the Tom of Finland Foundation, so as extremely hot men find their way into the cast, you’ll hear about it here first.

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since it’ll be on HBO, we’re just going to start lobbying right now for full frontal nudity from everyone in the cast. No more sex with bras on and strategic sheet placement! Liberation for the flesh!

Ryan Murphy

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Casting update: Ryan Murphy’s ‘Open’ gets some Earlier we reported that Ryan Murphy’s latest project, the HBO series “Open” (note: this is the one that will not involve singing teenagers or covens), would star Wes Bentley. That’s still the case, but he’s got more people to act opposite and behave R-ratedly around him at this point. Jennifer Jason Leigh, Scott Speedman, “Mission Impossible: Ghost Protocol” star Michelle Monaghan and “Fringe” actor Anna Torv have all signed on to participate in what is described as a “provocative” investigation of human sexuality and modern relationships. That means everyone on the show till be attractive and, really, that’s kind of what you want with a show about sex. With Murphy at the helm it’s certain to have its share of gay characters and plotlines, we just don’t know who the homo characters are going to be at this point. And, most importantly,

Nearly naked men, it’s time for your close-up Alan Ball has a to-do list when “True Blood” comes to an end: he’s going to get a lot of guys naked. That means he’s writing and directing “I Am Chippendales,” adapting his screenplay from the book by Rodney Sheldon. It’s the story of Somen “Steve” Banerjee, an Indian immigrant who started his career pumping gas in Los Angeles before running an upscale nightclub that would evolve into the Chippendales male revue franchise. Exploding into the mainstream of pop culture in the 1980s, when gangs of women decided, en masse, to begin attending male strip clubs in groups, Banerjee became very, very rich catering to the as-yet-untapped market potential of the straight female (and gay male) libido. As the decade wore on, however, Banerjee’s excessive lifestyle and paranoia grew. Things got weird, illegal activity followed, assassination plots were hatched (!) and the man who brought so much joy to so many people via the simple act of taking off a man’s shirt and leaving the bow tie affixed to his neck, found himself in prison, where he died. One day there’ll be a happy male stripper movie (downbeat “Magic Mike,” we’re looking at you) but until then we’ll take what we can get. Casting is underway right now, and Ball hopes to start

shooting sometime in early 2014. Until then, keep it in your pants. Oprah’s ‘Gay In Hollywood’ Set your DVR because Oprah’s gearing up for a late October night of gay programming that’ll probably make you laugh as well as move you to tears. On Oct. 27, the OWN Network will air “Oprah’s Next Chapter: Gay In Hollywood.” No, she has nothing to announce about Gayle, but she will be interviewing the hilarious Wanda Sykes, “Modern Family” star Jesse Tyler Ferguson and actor, producer and writer Dan Bucatinsky about how being openly gay has affected their careers in entertainment. Immediately after that, OWN will host the television premiere of “Bridegroom,” the devastating documentary that’s been the talk of LGBT film festivals all year. It tells the story of Shane Bitney Crone and Tom Bridegroom, a young male couple whose happy relationship was cut short when Tom died in tragic accident. What unfolded after that sad day – Bridegroom’s family rejected Crone entirely and denied him access to his partner’s funeral and more – would come to shed ugly light on what happens when same-sex couples in relationships without the legal protections of marriage find themselves cut out of families during times of crisis. Don’t miss it. —Romeo San Vicente’s acting career involves a variety of all-male amateur productions (you know, for the love of performing). He can be reached care of Gay San Diego or at



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DUGOUT Betty’s prevailed. A subsequent one-run loss knocked the boys out of the tournament, but the three wins made Sunday a success and made this manager proud of his players. Hats off to Looking To Score in the Women’s Division. They claimed the D Division title, giving San Diego it’s only championship in the tournament. Gay Bowl XIII It took 12 tries for a flag football team from San Diego to finally win a Gay Bowl title, which the San Diego Bolts did in Denver last year. It took just 12 more months to capture another crown, as the Bolts defended their title with a 2726 victory over the Washington Generals in the A Division championship game, held in Phoenix. The number one-seeded Bolts were joined in the desert by the fourth-seeded Toros and 15-seed Sharks, making San Diego one of the few cities sending three teams to the men’s tournament, each of them competing in the highest division. Pool play began on Friday, Oct. 11 with each team playing a pair of games and continued with one more early tilt on Saturday before the real tournament began. Each team’s pool play results would be used to establish a new seed for the single-elimination tournament, which began late afternoon on Saturday. San Diego’s rosters were created with one thing in mind: winning a title. The Bolts were granted the chance to draft the best players from the San Diego American Flag Football League (SDAFFL). The Toros would then get the next picks, followed by the Sharks. Obviously, the Sharks were at a disadvantage, but the players did not come away empty from the experience. After falling to LA Motion 28-7 in their pool play opener, the Sharks proved they would be competitive by taking the Salt Lake City Avalanche to overtime before falling 3332. Chicago Freeze took out the Sharks 28-8 on Saturday morning. Being winless headed into the playoffs did not phase the Sharks, as they took down the

sixth-seeded B division Phoenix Fireballs 2012 in a wild card game to gain entry into the A playoffs. As fate would have it, the Sharks then squared off against the favored Toros, who completed a 28-0 shutout against their underdog friends. But the Sharks went out on a winning note, capturing 13th place by crushing the Avalanche 32-14 in a rematch. The Toros went undefeated in pool play, though they needed a 33-32 overtimevictory over the Boston Hancocks to remain unbeaten. Sandwiched around that triumph were wins over the Michigan Panthers (34-7) and Houston Hurricanes 27-6.

triumph over the Toros, the Bolts were slated for a rematch with the Washington Generals, who were seeded sixth in the playoffs. The Bolts not only were the only team that defeated Washington, but the Generals defeated every other opponent by at least 14 points. Barely clinging to a 13-12 lead coming out of halftime, the Bolts faced their first real adversity when they yielded a go-ahead touchdown and two-point conversion, giving Washington a 20-13 lead in the second half. But quarterback Eric Reissner led the Bolts downfield and knotted the game up with another score. The Generals got the ball back, but the drive lasted just two plays, as the Bolts picked off an errant pass and took over at midfield. Five plays later, another Bolts touchdown put San Diego up 27-20. The Generals threw another interception, but San Diego could not convert as they turned the ball over on downs. With time running out, Washington needed just a couple of plays to drive downfield and score, bringing them with 27-26 with 1:30 remaining. Instead of playing for a tie, Washington went for two and could not convert. San Diego started their next drive with a chance to run out the clock, but Washington held them to a three-and-out, while burning just 30 seconds off the clock. The Generals took over at midfield Manny De Leon makes a throw for and got down to the 10-yard line. Mariposa SOL in the Autumn Classic From there, on the game’s final (Photo by Joe Covino) play, a pass was thrown into the back of the end zone but deflected away, and once again, the San The Toros’ playoff run began with the Diego Bolts were Gay Bowl champions. aforementioned whitewash of the Sharks. Not to be overlooked is San Diego’s Next up was the fifth-seeded Chicago women’s team, the Breakers. While they Freeze, who they edged 24-20 to advance to were unable to capture a pool play victory the semifinals. As luck would have it, they and were knocked out of the playoffs by the ran into the powerhouse Bolts, whose 39-6 third-seeded Brooklyn Menace 26-0, the ladrubbing ended the Toros’ playoff run. dies and their coaching staff made San Diego For the Bolts to have reached that semiproud by becoming the first women’s team final game, they obviously needed to rack up from San Diego to participate in Gay Bowl. a few wins. Like the Toros, the Bolts went Congratulations to the 90 athletes who undefeated in pool play. They crushed the made the trip to the desert and competed in Cleveland Rockers 46-6, edged the WashGay Bowl XIII. ington Generals 39-32, and outscored the Washington Admirals 47-26. —Jeff Praught is actively involved in the The favorites stormed into the A playoffs LGBT sports community, where he plays in the with an opening round thumping of the 16local softball (AFCSL), football (SDAFFL) seed Philadelphia Revolution (39-14). They and basketball (SD Hoops) leagues. He has followed that with a 41-14 thrashing of the served on AFCSL’s board of officers in various same Boston Hancocks squad that the Toros capacities and is currently the commissioner of edged in pool play. Following their semifinal SD Hoops.t


Pleasures & Treasures: Explore your inner adult!

The Phantom of the Opera, inspired by Her Majesty’s Theater in London, has come to life San Diego. Visit Pleasures and Treasures located at 2525 University Ave., to see their Halloween spirit. If you’re in the North Park neighborhood, especially at night, look closely at the detail of the handcrafted display in the window, designed and created by Joseph A. Valenzuela. Then come inside, meet Bill, Tim and the staff, and browse for a costume, accessory, or new toy. Voted San Diego’s Outstanding Adult Business. Store hours are Monday thru Saturday, 11 a.m. – 11 p.m. and Sunday, 11 a.m. – 6 p.m. 2525 University Ave., CA 92104 | 619-822-4280 | FROM PAGE 7

BRIEFS presented by Revivals, is a means to keep Being Alive San Diego’s services available to clients and provide them with hope. Being Alive San Diego’s mission is to deliver quality and compassionate services to people affected by HIV/AIDS and to provide education to those in need. Today Being Alive San Diego is the longest-running AIDS service organization in San Diego, serving more than 10,000 individuals every year. For more information visit and businesses interested in participating can contact Terry Summers at 619-291-1400 x 313. FREE HIV TESTING AT URBAN MO’S Free, confidential HIV testing is being offered once again every Wednesday at Urban MO’s Hillcrest location. The screenings are provided by Lead the Way, a program dedicated to providing HIV testing for the LGBT community. The program returns after a seven-month hiatus due to federal budget cuts, which also saw the end of free testing at the Walgreens drug store in North Park. “We’re excited to be back at Urban Mo’s to provide free, confidential HIV testing to the community,” said Lead the Way Community Outreach Manager Joshua Romero in a press release. “Mo’s has always been instrumental in making HIV testing more accessible to our community.” Urban MO’s is located at 308 University Ave. Testing is available from 10 a.m. – 4 p.m. For more information about Lead the Way visit or visit their Hillcrest location at 3830 Park Blvd. UPTOWN NEWS WINS IFPA AWARD FOR BUSINESS COVERAGE San Diego Uptown News was awarded second place in best Local Business Coverage from the Independent Free Papers of America (IFPA) and Southeastern Advertising Publishers Association (SAPA) Advertising and Editorial Awards. The honor is given out yearly to top publications from across the United States, and first-place honors went to the Oyster Pointer in Newport News, Va. Uptown News is published by San Diego Community News Network, which also publishes San Diego Downtown News and Gay San Diego. The news organization is located in Hillcrest at 3737 Fifth Ave.t


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(All photos by Goldy Valiente unless indicated otherwise)

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