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No increase in local meningitis cases reported San Diego health officials dispel rumors of rising instances as LA gay community sees 2nd death By Ken Williams | SDGLN Editor in Chief

“I think the greatest strength of the fourth district is its diversity. We are truly the most diverse district in the city,” he said. “As the LGBT community and other communities celebrate diversity, it’s all there in District Four.”

Local health officials are disputing a media report that meningitis has been found in San Diego’s gay community, and trying to quell rumors. An uptick in meningitis cases has been documented in the gay communities of New York City and Los Angeles. Seven men who have sex with men (MSM) have died in New York City since 2010, and at least two MSM have died in LA since December 2012. Some LGBT activists and community leaders are concerned and trying to prevent further infections or deaths. On April 16, AIDS Healthcare Foundation president Michael Weinstein spoke at a news conference in LA and worried that not enough is being done to prevent a serious outbreak in meningitis in the gay community. “We came before you a couple of days ago to say we’re here to raise an alert and not an alarm,” Weinstein said to reporters, as published by Frontiers LA. “That’s still the case because we do not know the extent of this and whether this should be characterized as an outbreak. But what is really alarming … [is] the fact that the officials knew of this other case here in Los Angeles and one or two more in San Diego and said nothing.” In LA, the recent deaths of at least two gay men – Brett Shaad, 33, on April 13 and Rjay Spoon, 30, on Dec. 16, 2012 – along with the infection of two more gay men reported Dec. 18, 2012 and Jan. 9 have led some LGBT health advocates and a West Hollywood City councilmember to advocate for heightened awareness and caution. People who knew Shaad and Spoon said both men were fit and healthy. San Diego Gay & Lesbian News reached out to health officials in San Diego and found no evidence to support Weinstein’s claims about local victims from the MSM or gay communities. A spokesperson for Family Health Centers of San Diego said their agency had no cases of meningitis affecting MSM or the gay community, and deferred to the San Diego County Health & Human Services Agency. San Diego County’s Public Health Officer Dr. Wilma J. Wooten said April 17 that the county has no meningitis cases involving MSM or the gay community. She said she is aware of Weinstein’s claims concerning San Diego, and is puzzled by them. To date this year, San Diego County has reported seven cases of meningitis, a number that Wooten called lower than normal. “This is well within what we would expect to see,” she said.

see Crenshaw, pg 3

see Meningitis, pg 4

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(top, l to r) District Attorney Bonnie Dumanis, Foundation Executive Director John Brown and former interim Executive Director David Miles; (bottom, l to r) Foundation staff Desmond Kelly and Janelle Hickey with volunteers Olaide Olabanji and Breeanna Bailey (Photos by Anulak Singphiphat)

Heart and experience San Diego Human Dignity Foundation welcomes new Executive Director John Brown, who brings ‘tremendous resume’ to philanthropic organization By Anthony King | GSD Editor

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Board members, staff and volunteers for the San Diego Human Dignity Foundation introduced the organization’s new executive director, John Brown, at a community reception held April 17. The meet and greet was hosted by Heat Bar & Kitchen in Hillcrest. “This is a very exciting time for the Foundation,” board Chair Kay Chandler said. “John is an incredible person with a big heart and a tremendous resume. He has been involved with LGBT foundations and causes for many, many years.” Chandler served on the selection committee along with other community leaders, and received applications from across the United States following former

executive director Tony Freeman’s departure in October 2012. Brown’s appointment was announced Jan. 15, and he took the position February 1. Brown comes to San Diego directly from the Coachella Valley, where he most recently served as executive director for Family Services of the Desert. Previously, he headed the Desert AIDS Project as well as the Los Angeles Gay and Lesbian Community Services Center, and was a founding board member for the Sunset Junction Neighborhood Alliance in Los Angeles. In his speech at the April 17 event, Brown highlighted one driving force for his personal and

see Foundation, pg 5

Seeing a new opportunity Council District 4 candidate Dwayne Crenshaw rebounds after past council runs, says sexuality not an issue By Anthony King | GSD Editor Dwayne Crenshaw, LGBT community leader and advocate, has less than a month before the election that may or may not see him assume a seat on the San Diego City Council. Crenshaw faces former police lieutenant Myrtle Cole in the May 21 runoff election, after both candidates advanced from the March 26 special election to fill the vacant position. Crenshaw and Cole are running in District Four, the Southeast district that borders National City to the west and Chula Vista to the south. Crenshaw calls it the “heart” of San

(l to r) Filipino-American Chamber of Commerce Chair Audie de Castro and Dwayne Crenshaw: The FACC endorsed Crenshaw April 27. (Courtesy Crenshaw campaign)

Diego County. For some, however, D4 is more than just a few miles away from Hillcrest, the assumed center of the LGBT community in San Diego. In an interview four weeks before the election, Crenshaw explained exactly what D4 is about: diversity and opportunity.


GAY SAN DIEGO May 3–May 16, 2013


GAY SAN DIEGO May 3–May 16, 2013


Laura Jane sings (and you sing, too)

(l to r) Sandy Spackman, Dwayne Crenshaw and Tony Villafranca: Spackman and Villafranca are former D4 candidates who now endorse Crenshaw. (Courtesy Crenshaw campaign) FROM PAGE 1

CRENSHAW Crenshaw grew up in the district, went to school at Horton Elementary – where he had a brief stint as a teacher after getting his degree in education from San Diego State University – and lives near his parents, who live in the original family home. He has four older brothers, all with ties to D4. Running for Council for the third time – he had a close but failed attempt in 2002, losing to Charles Lewis, and then again in 2004, when he did not gain enough votes to make it to the runoff election – Crenshaw said he now has the leadership to bring to the Council. In 2004, Crenshaw was outed in a local community newspaper, which he said in many ways derailed his campaign. He said he felt that for every person he encountered who told him his sexuality did not matter, there were almost 100 others who did care. “I stopped walking [the district] because I wasn’t ready,” he said. “I wasn’t ready to deal with it; I hadn’t even told my family, and now it’s in the paper.” That same publication published another editorial for this year’s campaign, saying in part Crenshaw was not fit to represent the district because he is gay. Crenshaw, for one, said now it did not matter to him. “That came out, and I’m like, one, ‘So what?’ … There [are] no secrets here,” he said. “The time has changed. I am personally stronger.” Campaigning door to door in 2013, Crenshaw said he finds D4 residents are not concerned over his sexuality, calling it a “non issue” in the race. “For me as a candidate, it’s a non factor,” he said. “The reality is, and what I’ve said all along, is

the Fourth District is not some unique special place from the rest of America. Things have changed dramatically.” Personally and emotionally, Crenshaw said he is “light years” away from that man in 2004. At the time, he told himself he was done with politics and went on to receive a law degree from California Western School of Law in 2011, then was hired as executive director of San Diego LGBT Pride that same year. Crenshaw went on leave from the nonprofit in January to focus on the election. Part of that focus is developing a one-year plan for D4 should he be elected, as whoever wins May 21 will be running for the seat again the following year. The special election is to fill the vacant seat left by former Councilmember Tony Young, who resigned as council president, effective Jan. 1. The current term ends in 2014. “Think of this as a job interview, and I am applying for a job

as a councilperson. In this unique context, we’re interviewing,” Crenshaw said. “We can both … give you some plans that you can hold us accountable to and evaluate us in a year, and you can either rehire us based on our job performance or not.” If elected, the short time before yet another campaign does not phase Crenshaw, who said he has a one-year plan in three, broad areas: jobs, education and safety. Through leadership campaigns, job creation for a younger workforce, city contract growth – promising to double contracts to minorities city wide and up to five times for D4 businesses – and installing solar panels for single-family homes, Crenshaw said he intends to be held accountable for each after one year of service. “I went to law school saying I want to figure out how to make life a little bit more fair,” Crenshaw said. “Now my quest is, ‘How do I deliver a fair share for the people in the fourth district?’”t


SOUTH BAY ALLIANCE This year is shaping up to be quite a year for LGBT community, with a ruling on marriage equality by the Supreme Court imminent and support for LGBT civil rights edging upwards. This fall’s South Bay Pride will be the 10th celebration. It has grown from a small family style picnic of about 50 called “Gay Day in South Bay” to a full-fledged community Pride event. And as always, this allvolunteer free event can’t be done without your support. Come out to our May party “Laura Jane Sings (and YOU sing, too!)” It is going to be a great time with proceeds benefiting Chula Vista’s South Bay Pride Arts and Music Festival 2013. Laura Jane Sings is Saturday, May 4 at the Bamboo Lounge, located at 1475 University Ave. The earlier portion, 2 – 5 p.m., is an all-ages, karaoke afternoon of fun.

Bring the kids, have a delicious lunch, sip your favorite beverage and sing your hearts out for a great cause. There are over 4,000 songs to choose from plus prizes including tickets to the OnStage Playhouse and the Taste of Downtown with our opportunity drawing at 4:40 p.m. After the sun goes down and Laura Jane gets all “glammed up,” from 7 – 10 p.m. is a three-set showcase of Laura Jane’s favorite songs of all styles: pop, rock, country, disco, jazz, funk, blues, swing, and soul. She’ll be doing her vocal impersonations and providing some comical commentary as well. Requests are welcome. We will also be having opportunity drawings for more fabulous prizes, such as four tickets to the Monster Bash (value $400). Drawings are at 9 and 10 p.m. Tickets are $10, and gets you into both May 4th shows, with in-and-out privileges. In addition, South Bay Pride has started taking applications for vendors and exhibitors. Apply early and get your space. Vendor and exhibitor booths will look out toward San Diego Bay and wide expanses of lawn being enjoyed by the festival’s attendees. Stay tuned as we begin to announce our entertainment lineup. Hint: it is really fantastic and you are going to love it. Check out our website for more information: See you May 4! —Dae Elliott is a sociologist and lecturer working at SDSU since 1994. She is one of the founding executive committee members and current chair of South Bay Alliance, the organizer of South Bay Pride Art and Music Festival since 2007. Contact her at


GAY SAN DIEGO May 3–May 16, 2013


GAY NEWS BRIEFS MONICA, MORGAN PAGE TO HEADLINE SD PRIDE FESTIVAL Pride staff and volunteers announced Monica and Morgan Page as this year’s entertainment headliners at a special event held April 26 at 1202 nightclub. “Morgan Page and Monica are great highlights to Pride’s entertainment lineup,” said Pride interim General Manager Steve Whitburn in a press release following the April 26 event. “We are incredibly thrilled to announce this year’s headliners and a sampling of our featured entertainers as the Pride team is hard at work to make this the best Pride celebration ever.” Page, an international DJ, will perform Saturday evening during the weekend festival, held July 13 – 14 in Balboa Park, and Monica will perform Sunday evening. Page said he was excited to be a part of the festival. “It’s a pleasure to give back to my fans in the LGBT community who have supported my music over the years,” he said in the release. Monica also commented, saying it is an “honor and pleasure” to participate in Pride. “I look forward to sharing the universal language we all call music as we celebrate love, freedom and togetherness.” Additional entertainment scheduled for this year’s festival includes DJ Myndset, Luciana, Amanda Lapore, Pandora Boxx, Vassy, Beverly McClellan and Justin Utley. Performance times and the complete entertainment lineup will be release in the coming weeks, and early tickets to this year’s festival are available at

REP. SUSAN DAVIS COSPONSORS ENDA NON-DISCRIMINATION ACT Congresswoman Susan Davis signed on as an original cosponsor to the Employment Non-Discrimination Act (ENDA), prohibiting job discrimination based on sexual orientation or gender identity. “Discrimination has no place in America,” Davis said in a press release. “Hiring and firing should be based on job ability and performance, and not based on who you are or whom you love.” Reps. Jared Polis of Colorado and Ileana Ros-Lehtinen of Florida reintroduced the nonpartisan bill and Davis cosponsored with 157 other members of Congress. Called H.R. 1755, ENDA would prohibit employers from firing, refusing to hire or discriminating against employees or those seeking employment on the basis of their perceived or actual sexual orientation or gender identity. The release stated similar protections are in place for race, religion, gender, national origin, age and disability. H.R. 1755’s companion bill, S. 815, was introduced in the Senate on the same day, April 25. “I am proud to join my colleagues in the House and Senate to re-introduce [EDNA],” Ros-Lehtinen said in a separate press release. “It is inherently unfair that many skilled, qualified and motivated LGBT members of our communities too often experience rejections at job interviews, are denied promotions or [experience] other forms of harassment in the workplace simply because of their sexual orientation or gender identity.”

see Brief, pg 6


MENINGITIS A 22-year-old man died the second week of April, a 47-yearold man is hospitalized from the disease, and two probable cases are being monitored, Wooten said. Over the past five years, the yearly totals of meningitis cases locally have varied from a low of four to a high of 14, with the average being nine cases per year. Wooten said those numbers are very low, considering San Diego County’s population of 3.2 million people. County statistics show that meningitis in San Diego County is mostly affecting the MexicanAmerican population. “Some have been people who traveled to Tijuana,” Wooten said. Tijuana, Mexico experienced several cases of meningitis late last year, in which 20 people were infected, Wooten said, adding that no new cases have been reported there in recent weeks. The Tijuana outbreak prompted Orange County schools in March to warn parents of students. If caught early, meningitis can be treated with antibiotics. A vaccine is also available. However, untreated meningitis often proves fatal because the fast-spreading disease leads to an inflammation of the lining of the brain and the spine. The disease affects all communities, especially infants and very young children. The bacteria resides in mucous and saliva, Wooten said, and is generally spread when an infected person shares food or drink, a cigarette or a joint, or kisses someone deeply. Remaining in close contact with others in settings such as dorm rooms, classrooms, offices and prisons are also conducive to spreading. Some people are carriers of the disease and never show symptoms, Wooten said. Typically, someone with meningitis gets a fever, headache, nausea and vomiting, and complains of a stiff neck. Then a rash spreads rapidly, leading to an inflammation of the lining of the brain and the spinal cord. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention reports there were about 500 deaths out of 4,100 meningitis cases between 2003 and 2007. Survivors can suffer brain damage and hearing loss, among other consequences. —Ken Williams is Editor in Chief of San Diego Gay & Lesbian News. He can be reached at, @ KenSanDiego on Twitter or by calling 888-442-9639, ext. 713.t


GAY SAN DIEGO May 3–May 16, 2013


Has hooking up become boring?


LIFE BEYOND THERAPY While everybody is talking about hooking up, no one is exactly sure what it means. Here are some characteristics I discovered: •Almost any sexual act. A hookup can range from a make-out session to full out sex; •Sexual activity outside the context of a romantic relationship; •No commitment involved. If you hook up, the other person might have no expectations of hooking up with you again. I define hookup culture as choosing a pattern of unemotional, unattached sex. From my observations as a therapist to the San Diego LGBT community, hooking up has become extremely popular. But I wonder if it really working for us. Let’s check it out. Some older folks in our community see hooking up as a form of sexual experimentation. Maybe it used to be, but no more. For many of us today in the LGBT community, it’s become the norm. Dating is passé and commitment-free sex is the new normal. For many of my clients, having lots of fast, uncaring, unthinking sex isn’t very exciting. In fact, it can be downright boring. Yet hooking up has become the defining aspect of social life for many people in the community: so common that it leaves little room for experimentation. “If you’re not hooking up, people laugh at you and think you’re a loser,” one of my 20-something clients told me last week. Another said, “If you’re not hooking up, you better lie about it and pretend you are or people will wonder what’s wrong with you.” Wow, this is pretty rigid, isn’t it? Are we so afraid to challenge hookup culture that we just go along with it? A handsome go-go dancer in one of Hillcrest’s clubs told me, “It’s so boring to hook up, but what else is there?” I wonder if we’re all going along with something that doesn’t work well, because if we don’t, we’re afraid we’ll end up sitting at home every

night watching bad reality TV. What are the alternatives? Are we doomed to boredom because there’s nothing else out there? I think not. Let me throw out some words for your consideration: connecting, attachment and caring. These words have a completely different feel, don’t they? Also, what about real excitement, not just mechanical sex? What about delayed gratification? How about knowing what you want and not settling for less? Don’t these concepts offer us more than just getting off? When hooking up is what we’re expected to do, it becomes boring, not daring. Many of my clients tell me that even if they don’t like hooking up, they pretend they do because it’s a big part of San Diego LGBT social life and they want to fit in. Ideas like dating and get-to-know-you conversations before sex are mocked as unsophisticated. We’re encouraged to obey the guiding commandment of hookup culture: thou shalt not become attached to your partner. While this may sound good in theory, in reality it leaves many of us emotionally half dead and encourages us to give up on any ideas of emotional connection, sexual intimacy or romance. No wonder we’re depressed. Please be clear: I’m not against hooking up. For some folks, it’s like a delicious, high-fat dessert that’s fun to indulge in occasionally. But if hooking up has become your main course, don’t be surprised if it leaves you feeling empty and unloved. If you want to be a real rebel, consider a timeout from sex. Taking a step back from being sexually active – for even a weekend – can be empowering. A respite from hooking up can give you time and space to reflect on what you really want out of sex, and how and when you want to have it. Being a rebel could even look like getting to know someone before having sex, holding out for dates and an emotional connection focused on romance rather than sex. We in the LGBT community are known for being societal rebels, doing things our own way and making our own rules. If hooking up has become boring, maybe it’s time for some new and more rebellious ways of living. —Michael Kimmel is a licensed psychotherapist who specializes in helping LGBT clients achieve their goals and deal with anxiety, depression, grief, sexually addictive behavior, coming out, relationship challenges and homophobia. Michael is currently accepting new clients. Contact him at 619-955-3311 or visit

The Foundation board and staff at Heat Bar & Kitchen welcome new Executive Director John Brown. (Photo by Anulak Singphiphat)


FOUNDATION professional involvement in LGBT nonprofits, occurring in the early 1980s when faced with the start of the AIDS epidemic. He called the future unpredictable, and acknowledged the LGBT community’s continued response. “There are so many things in our future that we can’t be certain of, but what we can be certain of is that whatever the needs of the future of our community are, it’s going to be up to the LGBT community to take care of it,” he said. “That’s the way it’s always been, and that’s the way it’s always going to be.” Brown moved to San Diego with his 5-year-old son Cody and said being a single parent was one of the deciding factors in moving from the Palm Springs area. A vocal advocate for foster parenting and adoption, Brown has four grown children in addition to Cody, as well as 12 grandchildren. “For 30 years I’ve been on the program service delivery side of nonprofits where I’ve been running organizations that provide direct services, and I’ve wanted for some time to be on the funding end of this,” Brown said. “That’s what’s so exciting for this opportunity for me.” The philanthropic organization’s mission is to fund LGBT programs and projects, with five target areas: aging, arts and culture, civil rights, health and wellness, and youth and families. They are launching several new initiatives this spring, including a lesbian and bisexual women’s health care focus and a series of Professional Advisor Network educational seminars. An important focus Brown sees for the Foundation is the San Diego HIV Funding Collaborative, a program they currently oversee. The Collaborative’s mission is to allocate private funds to HIV/ AIDS service organizations to

help reduce the impact of the virus in San Diego County. In 2013, more than $360,000 in grants will be awarded to 10 organizations, and Brown said it would be a year of significant change for HIV and AIDS service providers due to the Affordable Care Act. “The idea of getting everyone enrolled into affordable health care, and everyone with HIV and AIDS into care and complian[ce] with their medication, is a huge challenge,” he said. “Beyond giving out the grants this year, we’re going to be looking at ways of facilitating training for … the various organizations who can help get people in health care and navigate the health care system.” There are current organizations doing the practical planning for the upcoming health care implementation, including the San Diego HIV Health Services Planning Council, Brown said, adding that the role of the Foundation would not be to take their place. “I’ve said to the organizations, ‘Use me. Let me help you get more resources from other places,’” he said. “I’m looking

forward to doing that.” After Freeman stepped down last year, David Miles served as interim executive director while Chandler and the board searched for a new leader. At the reception, board member Drew Jack thanked Miles for his service. “As with many things, David stepped in and stepped up, and not only shepherded us through the transition from one person to another, but served at a very critical time for the Foundation,” Jack said. Miles thanked the board, and said the Foundation served as a model for all communities “as a way our community pulls together and thinks about not just today, but tomorrow.” Brown echoed the sentiment, saying future planning was the “brilliance” of the Foundation. “You should be proud as a community that you have the San Diego Human Dignity Foundation,” Brown said. “I am really looking forward to working with all of you to grow our Foundation and to keep it strong, and to keep it relevant.”t


ENDER’S GAME; WHY AREN’T YOU? Across 1 “No problem” from a bottom? 6 Yr. before jr. 10 Like communion at the Crystal Cathedral 14 Connect with 15 Warhol pal ___ Sedgwick 16 Theater award 17 Sign in Frasier’s booth, perhaps 18 Actress Foch 19 Seizures for Caesar 20 With 36-Across, assessment of marriage equality by 51-Across 23 Burgundy Bible gospel 24 Vin Packer and others 25 Part of the Bush pere pair 29 Neighbor of Neb. 30 Philosopher Locke 31 Mom’s specialty, briefly 32 “La ___ aux Folles” 36 See 20-Across

40 Dike problem 41 Margaret of “Drop Dead Diva” 42 Type of queen 43 Prefix for system 44 Loads 46 “Metrosexual” pirate Jack 50 Vein filler 51 Antigay author of “Ender’s Game” 56 Out-of-this-world org. 57 Baseball diamond cover 58 Constellation with a belt 60 Fateful March day 61 Morales of “Resurrection Blvd.” 62 “You’ll ___ Walk Alone” 63 Susan B. Anthony colleague Carrie 64 Cut 65 Former NFL player Tuaolo

Ender's Game; Why Aren't You? solution on page 13 Down 1 Simpson trial judge Lance 2 It reveals a drag queen’s thighs 3 Gun, slangily 4 Inflamed end? 5 Locale of the Hawthorne neighborhood 6 Nero’s tutor 7 Garfield’s sidekick 8 Top 9 A wrestler may use it to hold his man 10 Nicholson title role 11 Final notices 12 Like a ballerina 13 Ass-kissers’ responses 21 Heston in a chariot 22 Tin Man’s request 25 Lament loudly 26 Skin moisturizer 27 Uncommon, to Caligula 28 Swindle 31 “Heather Has ___ Mommies”

32 Backs (out) 33 ___ bit (slightly) 34 Bannon’s “Odd ___ Out” 35 JFK predictions 37 Confronted 38 Trot out 39 Missile head 43 Suffix for southeast 44 Where a baker may put his meat 45 Gallery objects 46 Type of boom 47 What the Devil wears, in a movie 48 Nice buns, for example 49 Friar’s affair 52 Anal alternative 53 Greek war deity 54 It was gauche, for Debussy 55 Active one 59 Shooters’ org.



GAY SAN DIEGO May 3–May 16, 2013 FROM PAGE 4



Ignorance in LGBT community about mental health Great article, there is so much ignorance in our community about mental health issues [see “What is therapy and why would I want it?” Vol. 4, Issue 8]. Lots of self-medicating too, many times just done

because people go undiagnosed by a mental health professional. —CitizenKurt, via gay-sd.comt


San Francisco Pride: Reinstate Pfc. Manning as grand marshal By Gabriel Connaway, SAME Alliance Steering Committee member and Canvass for a Cause field coordinator On Friday, April 26, San Francisco Pride President Lisa L. Williams revoked the nomination of accused whistleblower Pfc. Bradley Manning as this year’s grand marshal, a position that is bestowed on those who significantly contribute to the lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and queer (LGBTQ) community. Manning, often referred to as a “modern-day Daniel Ellsberg,” was elected by a group of previous grand marshals, known as the Electoral College, fitting with tradition at San Francisco Pride. Manning, a soldier who may one day be on a short list of the most influential American queers, was nominated for heroism. In her letter explaining this embarrassing turn-around, Williams accuses Manning of actions “which placed in harm’s way the lives of our men and women in uniform” and asserts to all organiza-

tion members that “even the hint of support” for Manning’s action “will not be tolerated by the leadership of San Francisco Pride.” The former statement is false, and misrepresents Manning’s actual contribution to society. The latter authoritarian threat is anathema to the individualism that a Pride festival should represent. Finally, the position of the San Francisco Pride director is out of touch with the broader LGBTQ community. We at SAME Alliance, Canvass for a Cause and the San Diego Coalition to Free Manning know this person to be a true and selfless hero akin to Daniel Ellsberg who in the spirit of Stonewall, risked everything to better the lives of countless people worldwide. By exposing crimes and wrongdoing, Manning’s whistleblowing contributed to ending the Iraq War and bringing about the Arab Spring. As LGBTQ activists, we understand that the history of our struggle has depended on courageous individuals disobeying unjust laws in order to stand for what is

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right. This is exactly what Manning has done. We are proud that Pfc. Manning is a member of our LGBTQ community and we ask that readers make efforts to pressure San Francisco Pride to reinstate Manning as grand marshal. Sign the petition at, keyword search: “Bradley Manning Grand Marshall.” The LGBTQ communities in San Diego, the United States and around the world have long since looked to San Francisco as a space for free thought and a beacon of social justice. We call on San Francisco Pride to reinstate Manning as a grand marshal, and for Pride festivals around the nation to recognize this hero. For people whose mere embrace was considered illegal in this country not so long ago, we rely on events like Pride festivals to hold up the role models of our community with less criticism about what rules or laws may have been broken, but with appreciation for the intention and effect one’s actions have created.t

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OLD GLOBE RELEASES 2013-14 SEASON LINEUP The Old Globe Theatre announced Friday, April 26 their complete 2013-14 season, opening with “The Last Goodbye” Sept. 20 – Nov. 3. The rock musical fuses Shakespeare’s “Romeo and Juliet” with the songs of singer-songwriter Jeff Buckley. “I am proud, excited and just plain tickled to announce the 2013-14 season at The Old Globe, my first as artistic director,” Barry Edelstein said in a press release. “With two sensational new musicals, three award-winning plays about contemporary life by thrilling young American voices, a tour de force by an American comedic master and a poetic classic by a 20th century giant, this remarkable and wideranging lineup of productions stays true to The Globe’s storied reputation, even as it edges the company forward in some new directions.” The opening production is followed by the world premiere of “The Few,” the return of “Dr. Seuss’ How the Grinch Stole Christmas!” directed by James Vasquez, “Bethany,” Shakespeare’s “The Winter’s Tale,” “Time and the Conways,” Pulitzer Prize-winner “Water by the Spoonful,” “Vanya and Sonia and Masha and Spike,” and the musical comedy “Dog and Pony.” Edelstein will direct “The Winter’s Tale,” which will be the first indoor production of a Shakespeare play at The Old Globe in over 10 years. Before the 2013-14 season, the company presents their 2013 summer season, including the annual Shakespeare Festival starting with “The Merchant of Venice” June 9. For information on the complete summer season as well as tickets for all shows, visit or call 619-234-5623. ATKINS BILL TO INCREASE ACCESS TO EARLY ABORTIONS ADVANCES Assembly Majority Leader Toni Atkins’ bill to expand the list of health care professionals authorized to perform early abortions passed the Assembly Health Committee April 23, and will next be reviewed by the Assembly Appropriations Committee. AB 154 will allow nurses, physician’s assistants and nurse-midwives to perform aspiration abortions after receiving proper training, a press release stated. “As the former director of women’s health clinics, I know how critical timely reproductive health care is for women,” Atkins said in the release. “My bill will help ensure that no woman will have to travel a long distance or wait a long time for the care she needs because of a shortage of providers.” The bill is supported by the California Medical Association and sponsored by the California Women’s Health Alliance.

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SAN DIEGO OPERA ANNOUNCES 2014 INTERNATIONAL SEASON Following the completion of the 2013 season, San Diego Opera announced the complete lineup of their 2014 season. Ruggero Leoncavallo’s “Pagliacci” opens the international season Jan. 25 – Feb. 2, 2014, followed by “The Elixir of Love” Feb. 15 – 23, 2014; Giuseppe Verdi’s “A Masked Ball” March 8 – 16, 2014; and Jules Massenet’s “Don Quixote” April 5 – 13, 2014. The company will present a special event March 20, 2014: Verdi’s “Requiem” with Piotr Beczala (tenor), Ferruccio Furlanetto (bass), Krassimira Stoyanova (soprano) and Stephanie Blythe (mezzo soprano). Massimo Zanetti will conduct. “This season welcomes an extraordinary array of exciting debut artists including powerful Brazilian baritone Rodolfo Giugliani in his U.S. debut as Tonio in ‘Pagliacci,’” said San Diego Opera CEO and General and Artistic Director Ian Campbell in a press release. Other debuts include Stoyanova, Blythe and Giuseppe Filianoti. Tickets for the season are currently on sale, starting at $105 for three operas. “Seat prices have been lowered in some sections to make subscribing even more affordable, so this is the season to join us for music worth seeing,” Campbell said. For more information and tickets visit or call 619-533-7000. ‘THE WHO & THE WHAT’ TO SEE PREMIERE AT LA JOLLA PLAYHOUSE Ayad Akhtar’s “The Who & The What” will see its world premiere at the La Jolla Playhouse as the final production in the company’s 2013-14 season. Directed by Kimberly Senior, the play will run Feb. 11 – March 9, 2014. The play was originally developed during the Playhouse’s DNA New Work Series in February and company Artistic Director Christopher Ashley said he wanted it to be an official part of the upcoming season. “I was so moved, not just by the piece itself, but also by the passionate and invigoration discussions it prompted with our audience after the reading,” Ashley said in a press release. “The play tackles many hot-button issues surrounding religion and family traditions, but with tremendous wit, warmth and wisdom.” “The Who & The What” will receive an additional reading in June and a workshop in September, followed by post-show discussions with audiences and community leaders, the press release said. “We welcome the opportunity to work with Ayad [Akhtar] on his latest piece and witness the emergence of a major new voice in American theater,” Ashley said. The 2013-14 season includes “This Girl Friday,” “Tribes,” “Sideways,” “The Tallest Tree in the Forest” and “Side Show.” More information and tickets can be found at lajollaplayhouse. org or by calling 858-550-1010.t

3737 Fifth Ave. Suite 201 San Diego, CA 92103 (619) 519-7775

Business Improvement Association


Proposed CA law to protect transgender students from discrimination


LEGALLY LGBT Transgender individuals using the restroom of their expressed gender should not be an issue. Sadly, there have been a number of stories in which transgender individuals have been told that they cannot use the restrooms of their choosing. The issue is especially sensitive for school children who face teasing from their peers when they identify as transgender. Gender non-conforming children have a difficult time in school because they are presumed gay or lesbian. It should be a no-brainer that a kid who identifies as a girl should be able to use the girl’s restroom, but sadly that is not always the case. A proposed California law would guarantee transgender students the right to use the restrooms and participate on sports teams that correspond to their expressed gender. If approved by the legislature and signed by Gov. Jerry Brown, Assemblymember Tom Ammiano’s AB 1266 would give young people the right “to participate in sex-segregated programs, activities and facilities” regardless of what gender is listed on their school records. Discrimination against transgender individuals is already illegal in California but this would clarify the law so that schools will not have to wait until a student is excluded to address this issue. Colorado has anti-discrimination laws that protect transgender individuals, but that did not stop a school from excluding a young child from accessing the bathroom of her expressed gender. She is now suing to force her school district to allow her to use the proper restrooms. The proposed California law is not without opposition. The Capitol Resource Institute opposed the law in a newsletter to its members because it believes that students who ”object to sharing bathrooms, showers and locker rooms with students of the opposite sex” will face “discrimination claims and punishment.” Karen England, executive director of the Institute, said her group would fight the legislation, which she called “extreme” and “dangerous.” California is not the only state that has taken steps to address this issue. In Oregon, one high school created gender-neutral bathrooms as an option for students who don’t feel comfortable in either bathroom. I spoke to my friend Ashley, who is currently transitioning, and she said she would never want to use a gender-neutral bathroom because she identifies as a woman. However, the transgender man in Oregon who brought the issue to the school’s attention doesn’t feel comfortable using either the men’s or women’s restroom. Hav-

ing a third option is a way to make students similar to him feel safe. For lawmakers in other states, however, the issue has not been so straightforward. Arizona lawmakers proposed legislation that would have criminalized the use of bathrooms that do not correspond to the sex listed on your birth certificate. This proposed law was a response to a Phoenix City Council ordinance that expanded the anti-discrimination law to add protection for gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender people. The proposed legislation has been replaced by a version that would protect businesses from lawsuits for prohibiting transgender individuals from using the restroom of their expressed gender. The bill’s supporter, Rep. John Kavanagh said he believes this protection is necessary to protect children from pedophiles who want to expose themselves to children of the opposite gender. This indicates Kavanagh’s lack of understanding of what it means to be transgender, and thankfully, there was little tolerance for Kavanagh’s original bill, indicating that the general public is more understanding of the reality of these issues. As a bisexual man myself I have encountered my share of confusion from people who don’t want to take the time to understand what it means to be bisexual. So that everyone feels welcome in society, I think we all should take the time to learn about differences before jumping to conclusions based on stereotypes. Our elected officials have an even higher burden to explore those differences before proposing legislation that ostracizes a group of people. —Paul D. McGuire is an openly bisexual family law attorney in San Diego who assists families dealing with dissolution of marriage and domestic partnerships. He writes a blog on family law and LGBT issues at

GAY SAN DIEGO May 3–May 16, 2013


‘Butterfly Boy: Memories of a Chicano Mariposa’ CA L E B R A I N E Y

OUT ON THE PAGE Chicano novelist and poet Rigoberto González’s “Butterfly Boy: Memories of a Chicano Mariposa” explores the life of a young, gay, Chicano man growing up poor and brown in the 1980s. A son of farm workers, González spends most of his childhood and adolescence migrating throughout Southern California as his family attempts to piece together a living. The narrative switches from past to present as the reader alternates between learning about González’s childhood and his current relationship with an abusive lover. González has to navigate multiple issues throughout his life: the abusive lover, extreme poverty, the death of his mother and the estrangement of his father. Further, González does not represent the “ideal” gay male; he is effeminate and overweight, two characteristics that are often shamed and punished in various ways in our community. Indeed, as a poor, brown, fat and accented Chicano, González rarely embodies what our community tends to idealize. Consequently, González confronts assimilation in his memoir and how that process serves to benefit some Latina/os at the expense of others. Though it is undeniable that Latina/os are largely accepted by whites in San Diego, the price of such acceptance remains high, and many Latino/as such as González are excluded due to language barriers, culture, immigration status and poverty. It seems that in order for Latino/as to be accepted in predominately white circles they must speak “good” English, sever all deep ties to their cultural heritage, and at least pretend to have a middle class existence. Not surprisingly, a large part of González’s memoir focuses on poverty and work. The American ideal of hard work equaling a comfortable living does not apply to González or

his family. Even though they engage in back-breaking agricultural labor, they can never seem to come out ahead financially. In fact, the family often goes hungry. González beautifully captures the shame of poverty and hunger when he writes, “We were going hungry. A person who experiences hunger never forgets that feeling. It is more than emptiness, more than an ache at the center of the stomach – it is a waking up and going to bed with shame, as if the stiffness of the jaw and hardening of the belly is part of some punishment” (52). Poverty dominates González’s life and amplifies the other forces that are arrayed against González and his family, such as racism and antiimmigrant sentiments. Yet poverty is an issue that is rarely discussed in LGBT communities, and we do not have a single organization in San Diego that is dedicated to fighting LGBT poverty and underemployment. We seem to believe that poverty is an issue “out there” that harms other people; we are blind to the very queer face of poverty and how that poverty combines with racism, sexism and homophobia to disenfranchise huge segments of our community, particularly LGBT people of color. As an individual caught between and among those destructive forces, González attempts to cope with his situation by trying to minimize his racial, cultural and economic differences. When he is placed in the advanced classes in high school, and is the only Latino/a in the predominately white classes, González attempts to “disappear.” He recognizes early on that many of his fellow Latina/os are tracked into the easier classes, that they are being trained for a lifetime of low-wage labor. In an attempt to escape this fate, González shies away from his Chicano/a heritage and tries to make up for his perceived inadequacies through educational achievement. He is ultimately unsuccessful, for even when he gets to college, his economic and cultural differences from his white classmates create barriers between them. There is a similar dynamic

regarding assimilation that occurs within gay and lesbian communities. White gays and lesbians, such as myself, are very willing to allow Latino/as entrance into our circles on the condition that they resemble us in every way possible. As long as a Chicano gay man refrains from using Spanish, is buffed out, wears white clothing styles, has the right papers and can afford a middle-class lifestyle, we are more than willing to welcome him into our community. A similar dynamic is at play in lesbian circles. As a community, we need to take note of this phenomena and work to change it. We must refuse to allow ourselves, or others, to demand assimilation from our Chicano/a brothers and sisters. If you would like to engage in more thoughtful discussions around similar issues, join the San Diego Multicultural LGBT Book Club at Bluestocking Books, 3817 Fifth Ave. in Hillcrest, on the first and third Sunday of every month at 7 p.m. Be sure to like them on Facebook, and visit Bluestocking to pick up your copy of “Butterfly Boy.” Purchase it through the scholarship fund to get 25 percent off. —Caleb Rainey recently graduated with his master’s degree in cultural studies. He is a long-time activist, and the founder and current facilitator of the San Diego Multicultural LGBT Book Club. Contact him at



GAY SAN DIEGO May 3–May 16, 2013

7007 Friars Road (Fashion Valley Mall)

619-810-2929 Prices: Lunch, $4 to $20; dinner, $4 to $24

Turkey burger with Provolone cheese (Photo by Frank Sabatini Jr.)

Perhaps it was the pureed sea-buckthorn berries in the soda we drank or the colorful crudités we consumed as an appetizer that protected us from food comas. But after plowing through numerous other dishes on True Food Kitchen’s lunch menu, the intestinal bloating that often ensues from a big meal never occurred. The 9,500-square-foot restaurant in Fashion Valley Mall belongs to a chain of five others located in Arizona, Colorado and the Los Angeles area. Here, shoppers are afforded a radical break from standard food-court fare with meals that correspond to the anti-inflammatory diet promoted by holistic health guru, Dr. Andrew Weil. His culinary dictates for keeping at bay external and internal inflammations are fairly painless, hence a multi-scaled food pyramid he devised that puts vegetables and fruits at the base. The model ascends into lesser portions of pastas and grains; healthy fats such as olive oil, avocados and flaxseeds; fish and seafood; soy foods; lean meats and cheese; tea; vitamin supplements; and yes, red wine. At the pyramid’s

tip sits a piece of dark chocolate, which for us translated to a puck of house-made pistachio gelato and a small but ravishing no-egg lemon tart with gluten-free crust. The company’s executive chef is Arizona-based Michael Stebner, a fitting choice considering his penchant for showcasing seasonal organics when he ran the former Region restaurant in Hillcrest. Overseeing the open kitchen at Fashion Valley is Nathan Coulon, who is clearly working with less sugar and more vegetables than he did when cooking at the Ivy Hotel in Downtown. The crudités appetizer, for example, crams practically an entire garden into an ice-lined bowl of freshly scrubbed carrots, radishes, peppers, lettuce leaves and more poking out in every direction. Tzatziki and olive tapenade spiked with vegan Worcestershire sauce bring extra joy to this huge fiber intake. Fruits, vegetables and honey enter into a slate of “natural refreshments” that includes the slightly carbonated “medicine man.” It features pomegranate, cranberry, black tea and seabuckthorn berries, which contain

15 times more Vitamin C than oranges. Not sure if it’s the answer for swollen mall feet, but it sure felt good going down. The restaurant’s organic design, which greets with an herb garden outside the entrance, extends to natural woods and grassy liriope growing along illuminated side walls. All of the plants are tended to by Mission Hills Nursery. Only its massive size indicates that you’ve entered a mall restaurant. We continued with chicken soup tinted green from leeks and celery that are pureed into the broth. Plenty of shredded poultry surfaced. The miso soup was also robust, darker than traditional versions and exceedingly more flavorful. Ditto for the lettuce cups filled with organic tofu and shiitake mushrooms. Ginger and strong, low-sodium soy sauce made them winners. A caramelized onion tart behaved like a lightweight flatbread with its thin, charry crust and teasing measures of Gorgonzola cheese. The onions team up with black figs and smoked garlic, which effectively distracted our taste buds from the tart’s low level of fat. Garlic

and sweet onions also powered an asparagus-artichoke pizza, setting the stage for a rustic, Italian-style masterpiece accented with smoked mozzarella and oregano. From the sandwich section, the TLT (tempeh, lettuce and tomato) is served on whole-grain bread. The calorie boost is provided by thick avocado slices and Vegenaise. Otherwise, it would be a tough sell to ravenous mall shoppers. Other choices include grass-fed bison burgers and shaved turkey with yogurt dressing in pita. The turkey burger is all white meat, but cleverly engineered to avoid tasting like paper mache. Ground in-house and served on a flaxseed bun with Provolone cheese, the chef adds a portion of the skin into the mix to give it the flavor of an actual roasted bird. Cumin and garlic surface as well, although the latter could be easily reduced without compromising the savor.

Among the new menu items capturing springtime bounties are the strawberry chopped salad, kelp noodles and veggies in ginger vinaigrette and grilled rainbow trout with spinach and cauliflower. Pork is a no-no in the anti-inflammatory diet, but other meat dishes include red chili shrimp, turkey lasagna and grass-fed steak tacos. Only at True Food Kitchen can you wear yourself down from shopping, then eat your brains out and proceed to walk several laps through the mall without a single yawn.t

Asparagus-artichoke pizza (Photo by David Fox)


The croque Madame for brunch at 100 Wines (Photo by Frank Sabatini Jr.) Also joining the brunch scene in Hillcrest, from 10 a.m. to 2 p.m. on Sundays only is 100 Wines, featuring two outdoor patios and indoor seating with a farmhouse theme. Among the standout dishes created by Executive Chef Katherine Humphus are Manchego-stuffed dates; osso buco eggs benedict; prosciutto tartine and a croque Madame on country bread. 1027 University Ave., 619-491-0100. In its 48-year history, weekend brunch service has been introduced for the first time at Bertrand at Mister A’s in Hillcrest, where Chef de Cuisine Stephane Voitzwinkler conjures up such dishes as duck confit spring rolls, veal poutine and fruit fondue. The menu is available from 10 a.m. to 2 p.m. on Saturdays and Sundays. 2550 Fifth Ave., 619-239-1377. As if the bacon cotton candy, Krispy Kreme sloppy Joes and lobster nachos coming to this year’s San Diego County Fair (June 8 – July 4) weren’t enough, consumers can oink their way through the fair’s first-annual Big Bite Bacon Fest. The event, presented by Farmer John, is

scheduled from noon to 3 p.m. and 5:30 to 8:30 p.m. on Father’s Day, June 16. It will showcase unun limited samples of “bacon cuisine” created by local chefs and resres taurants. Tickets start at $55 and include admission into the Del Mar Fairgrounds. 2280 Jimmy Durante Blvd., 858-755-1161.

Burgers inspired by a place called Fergburger in Queenstown, New Zealand have arrived to Little Italy with the recent opening of Queenstown Public House.. Owners P.J. Lamont and Matt Baker, who also operate Raglan Public House and Bare Back Grill, seized upon a house built in 1902 and gave it a “shabby-chic” motif. The organic lamb burger with blue cheese and mint jelly is all the rage. The menu also features various burgers made with black beans or grass-fed beef as well as entrees like fish-n-chips and rack of lamb. Tap and bottled beers include local crafts and New Zealand labels. 1557 Columbia St., 619-546-0444.

GAY SAN DIEGO May 3–May 16, 2013


. r J i n i t a b a S k n By Fra Say goodbye to Kensington Grill and hello to Fish Public as owner Tracy Borkum transforms her long-estabsea lished neighborhood haunt into a place where seareincar food will be king. The restaurant’s reincarnation, due to materialize by summer, brings in Executive Chef Jordan Davis, who tenured at the reputable Boulevard Restaurant in San Francisco and Animal in Los Angeles. 4055 Adams Ave. For anyone who partied in the 1970s, the new Sycamore Den in Normal Heights recreates the good times with a retro cocktail lounge designed to feel like a middle-class den. Owner Nick Zanoni developed the concept as a tribute to his father, when he began looking back at the era in which his dad raised him. The trappings inside include a sunk-in seating area, a brass fireplace, heavy glassware and a player piano. Old photos of other dads submitted by the public in a Facebook contest are incorporated into the restroom wallpaper. The lounge features an extensive bar, though no kitchen. 3391 Adams Ave., 619-563-9019.

The dovetail julep at the new Sycamore Den combine absinthe with gin, cognac and peach bitters

(Photo by John Audley of Be Water Photography)

The Mediterranean crepe with prosciutto and olives at Bini’s Bistro & Creperie (Photo by Frank Sabatini Jr.)

After operating in Coronado for 14 years, Bino’s Bistro & Creperie has relocated to Hillcrest in the space formerly occupied by Bai Yook. The creperie is owned by brothers Bogart and Balbino Sanchez, although its European-style menu is authored by Balbino’s wife, Roswita. In addition to sweet and savor y crepes, the offerings include fresh-baked pastries, salads, sandwiches and omelets. Dinner ser vice will begin in a few months when the eater y receives its beer and wine license. 1260 University Ave., 619-688-1674. t

10 GAY SAN DIEGO May 3–May 16, 2013

Pam Ann flies high Airhostess Pam Ann returns to Palm Desert and Los Angeles with her raunchiest comedy show ever By Jon Novotney | GSD Guest Reporter

In “Pam Ann: Cockpit,” the gutsy and glamorous 1960s-inspired comedian takes aim at the numerous airline calamities making news today. From the grounding of Boeing’s 787 Dreamliner to Emirates Airlines’ door blowing open at 37,000 feet, all the “deliciously alarming incidents” plaguing the world’s airline industry are discussed while audience members – as passengers – embark on a journey from security check-in to boarding and landing. “Pam Ann: Cockpit” lands at the McCallum Theatre, 73000 Fred Waring Dr. in Palm Desert, on Friday, May 10 and The Saban Theatre, 8440 Wilshire Blvd. in Los Angeles, on May 11. For more information and to purchase tickets visit

Friday, May 3

GSDBA CINCO: The Greater San Diego Business Association mixer takes a Cinco de Mayo turn tonight from 5 – 7 p.m. The free event is the launch of the Tuesday Lunch BNG and happens at the Cosmopolitan Restaurant & Hotel, 2660 Calhoun St. For more information visit gsdba. org or call 619-296-4543. FIESTA OLD TOWN: Give the weekend over to the Fiesta Old Town Cinco de Mayo festival, starting today at 5 p.m. and ending Sunday, May 5 at 8 p.m. It’s the 30th anniversary for the free festival centered at the Old Town San Diego Historic National Park. For more information visit cincodemayooldtown. com or call 619-291-4903.

Saturday, May 4

MISSION HILLS SALE: The Mission Hills Community Garage sale is back from 8 a.m. – 12 p.m. at participating homes throughout the neighborhood. Maps of homes can be picked up at Coldwell Banker, 1621 West Lewis St. today only. For more information call 619-800-1103.

Jon Novotney: Where have you been? Pam Ann: I was on tour in Australia, which was fucking fantastic. I visited the outback. I think I may be pregnant with an Aboriginal child. JN: Are you excited to come back to California? PA: Of course, I just love you bleach blond, gorgeously tanned bitches. JN: What are some of the latest calamities plaguing the airline industry? PM: Coach passengers! Their hands should be nailed to the armrests. JN: Does the economy continue to impact the airline industry? PA: Oh yes, most airlines continue to slash crew. On Pam Ann air, I’m the last woman standing and I can’t keep up with the demands of all my gay passengers. JN: Is it tough being a flight attendant? PA: Depends on the assignment. If we fly over water, we have to serve hot food and carry menus and it’s bloody exhausting. I prefer working on flights that fly over land. All I have to do then is serve popcorn

CINCO DE MAYO AT NUMBERS: The Imperial Court de San Diego hosts tonight’s Cinco de Mayo fundraising event featuring the annual Mr., Ms. and Miss Cinco de Mayo contest. Money raised will benefit the Tijuana AIDS Fund. A traditional Mexican buffet is open at 5:30 p.m. with the show at 6 p.m. Numbers is located at 3811 Park Blvd. For more information call 619-540-8727. WILDFIRE: Lady Jane is back to DJ for tonight’s Cinco de Mayo-inspired Wildfire dance event at the Brass Rail, 3796 Fifth Ave. from 6 – 10 p.m. $8 entrance until 7:15 p.m., $10 after. For more information visit WOMEN’S CHORUS: The San Diego Women’s Chorus welcomes the Black Storytellers of San Diego to present “Still We Rise” at the Hillcrest University Christian Church, 3900 Cleveland Ave. There are two shows: tonight at 7 p.m. and Sunday, May 5 at 5 p.m. Tickets are $15 general admission. For more information and tickets visit or call 619-291-3366.

and hand out price lists. JN: What does a passenger have to do to get a small bag of pretzels on a flight these days? PA: Shut up and don’t make eye contact with me.t

Sunday, May 5

FAMILY EQUALITY: Family Matters at The Center celebrates International Family Equality Day from 3 – 6 p.m. with a potluck dinner, music, dancing and more. Bring a dish and your family to 3909 Centre St. RSVP to Jane Schmoll at 619-692-2077 or HANDMADE REVOLUTION: Locally made art, jewelry and clothing will take center stage for tonight’s Handmade Revolution Spring Trunk Show from 11 a.m. – 5 p.m. at their new location: 3054 Juniper St. in South Park. For more information visit

Tuesday, May 7

MA4 LIVE!: Watch Aaron and Amelia on the main stage at Martinis Above Fourth, located at 3940 Fourth Ave. from 6 – 10 p.m. For more information visit

Thursday, May 9

WET WITH BENNY: SDPIX presents another night of WET with Benny, where wetunderwear contestants compete

one more show: “The Coffee Shop Chronicles” play at The Big Kitchen in South Park for shows tonight and Wednesday, May 15 at 7:30 p.m. Tickets are $30 at the door and $20 online; The Big Kitchen is located at 3003 Grape St. For more information visit or call 619-663-4852.

Saturday, May 11

Pam Ann

(Courtesy Project Publicity)

for over $600 in cash and prizes. It’s a Mankind fashion show too, from 10 p.m. – 2 a.m. at Bourbon Street, 4612 Park Blvd. For more information visit or call 619-291-4043.

Friday, May 10

MAMA’S DAY: The restaurants come to you at one of the premiere fundraising events for Mama’s Kitchen, Mama’s Day 2013. The event starts at 5:30 p.m. at the Hyatt Regency La Jolla, 3777 La Jolla Village Dr. General admission tickets are $125 and VIP are $250. For tickets visit THE HILLS ARE ALIVE: San Diego Musical Theatre presents “The Sound of Music” for a limited run at the Birch North Park Theatre, 2891 University Ave. Opening tonight at 7:30 p.m., the production runs Thursdays and Fridays at 7:30 p.m., Saturdays at 2 and 8 p.m. and Sundays at 2 p.m. through May 26. Tickets start at $26 and can be purchased at or by calling 858-560-5740. COFFEE SHOP CHRONICLES: It’s so popular, they added

ROCK FOR A CAUSE: Girls Think Tank presents “Rock Through the Ages” at the Museum of Man, 1350 El Prado in Balboa Park tonight from 7 – 11 p.m. All proceeds go to programs helping to end homelessness in San Diego County, and Bronwyn Ingram, Councilmember Marti Emerald and Laurie Black served on the host committee. Tickets are $100. For more information visit or email

Tuesday, May 14

GSDBA LUNCHEON: This month’s guest speaker at the Greater San Diego Business Association professional luncheon series is Gary John, who will speak about small business and entrepreneurship. The lunch is from 11:30 a.m. – 1 p.m. at Wang’s North Park, 3029 University Ave. Tickets are $25 (pre-pay), which includes lunch. For more information visit or call 619-296-4543.

Wednesday, May 15

MARYAH POKER: It’s the fifth annual casino night with poker tournament to help raise money for MARYAH, The Center’s Youth Housing Project. A $75 VIP ticket gets you into the VIP reception, a reserved poker seat and $500 in “casino cash.” Poker entry fee is $50, with the VIP reception at 5:30 p.m., registration at 6 p.m. and tournament at 7 p.m. It all happens at 1202, 1202 University Ave. For more information visit ANTI-BULLYING DISCUSSION: Our friend, author and anti-bullying expert Walter G. Meyer will be speaking about the timely topic of bullying at 6:30 p.m. at Mission Hills Books and Collectable, 4054 Goldfinch St. Meyer’s novel “Rounding Third” is about two high school baseball players who face harassment in their school, and has received critical acclaim for its realistic portrayal of bullying. For more information on the free event call 619-550-7749.t



Nothing odd about it

GAY SAN DIEGO May 3–May 16, 2013


Great casting, direction keep Neil Simon classic fresh and fun “The Odd Couple” should be ver y familiar to theatregoers. After all, it’s been around since 1965 and has been one of Neil Simon’s most produced plays. It’s also been reincarnated into a film (1968) as well as a long-running television sitcom (1970-1975). And yet after all these years, and thousands of community theatre and summer-stock productions, the current North Coast Repertor y Theatre version is remarkably fresh and enjoyable, thanks in part to great casting and direction. It’s more than enjoyable; Director Andrew Barnicle resuscitated this old warhorse to rediscover the humanity tucked between the layers of laugh lines. And it’s to Simon’s credit that the play remains efficient and relatively current. For those few people in the universe that haven’t visited yet with Oscar, Felix and the Pigeon sisters, the stor yline has two middle-aged men cohabiting after each has been tossed out by their respective wives. Oscar is already behind on his child support while Felix is about to walk through the messy divorce process. This new “odd couple” manages this arrangement for a mere three weeks before one walks out the door. Matt Thompson handles his Oscar duties with believability,

“The Odd Couple” Through May 12 North Coast Rep Wed 7 p.m. Thurs & Fri 8 p.m. Sat 2 & 8 p.m. Sun 2 & 7 p.m. 858-261-5944

never pushing it to stereotypical caricature. He’s lazy and a single man, but he’s also real. Louis Lotorto’s Felix is neurotically fastidious, but he’s also completely believable. And after the short time living in the same apartment, it’s patently obvious why Felix’s wife has left him. Callie Prendiville (Cicely Pigeon) and Amanda Schaar (Gwendolyn Pigeon) play their roles for all the sexy ditziness that Simon intended. The remaining four members of the cast are part of a weekly poker club. Bernard X. Kopsho stands out in his performance because he’s a natural comedian and, as the leader of the poker

(l to r) John Nutten, Albert Parks, Louis Lotorto, Cris O’Bryon, Bernard X. Kopsho and Matt Thompson (Photo by Ken Jacques)

club, he’s also blessed with the best lines of the foursome. The comic timing of the entire cast must be applauded. Scenic designer Marty Burnett has provided us with a generic apartment, while Sonia Lerner’s costumes complement a 60s period setting. In the end, it’s a war of messiness versus cleanliness, with apartment ownership calling the shots. Most of us can relate, and that’s ultimately what makes this vintage Simon vehicle work after almost five decades of shelf life.t

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JEFF PRAUGHT Jason Collins, active NBA player, comes out Chatter had ramped up over the last year that it would only be a matter of time before a professional athlete in one of America’s four major sports would come out. On the morning of Monday, April 29, National Basketball Association (NBA) center Jason Collins made the announcement in a cover stor y for Sports Illustrated. Collins co-authored the stor y with Franz Lidz, and opened by writing “I’m a 34-yearold NBA center. I’m black. And I’m gay.” NBA locker rooms do not have the homophobic reputation that football and baseball ones do. The league was at the forefront of gay issues when John Amaechi came out in 2007 after his retirement. While he did rounds of inter views with the press, there really was no large shock or backlash. The NBA seems pretty prepared to handle a player coming out. Collins, who is a free agent after finishing the season with the Washington Wizards, has played for six different teams, been a starter for two NBA Finals teams and hopes to continue his playing career. I suspect the stor y will seem bigger than it will actually become. It is definitely a landmark moment in the LGBT world, and I just do not see Collins facing much backlash from fans or players. We have progressed. If more players come out as a result of this announcement, that is fantastic. Regardless, it should be

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(r) Josh Zitting of San Diego (Photo by Scott Donald) an interesting stor y to watch as it unfolds over the NBA offseason. Flag Football’s Sur f & Tur f The San Diego American Flag Football League (SDAFFL) regular play took the weekend of April 27 – 28 off for the second year of the Surf & Turf Bowl; the first was held back in 2004. The only LGBT flag football tournament on the West Coast, this event brought in a total of 12 teams, including six from San Diego. Some players traveled from as far away as Boston and New York, joining forces with teams from Denver, Phoenix and Los Angeles. The LA Motion ul-

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Top 10 bone-building foods & exercises B L A K E & G W E N B E C KO M

FITNESS Take a minute to learn the best lifestyle strategies you can take to keep your bones healthy and strong. It is possible to eat and exercise your way to stronger bones. 1. Perform strength and resistance training exercises. Did you know that of all the athletes, bodybuilders have the highest bone density? In fact, it has been scientifically shown that muscle mass correlates with bone mineral density: more muscle equals stronger bones. Try to perform “axial loading” type exercises – movements where the weight compresses your spinal column from above such as squats – and balance exercises frequently.

2. Perform weight-bearing cardio exercise. Performing daily cardio exercise is not only great for cardio respiratory fitness and weight control but also is invaluable for boosting your bone density. Weight-bearing exercise is the kind you perform on your feet, with your bones and muscles supporting your full body weight. Examples include walking, running, stair climbing and using the elliptical machine.

transport to the bones. Your body can make vitamin D with the help of sunlight, but many of us – especially those in northern climates – simply do not get enough. The best food sources of vitamin D are fatty fish including wild salmon, herring, mackerel and sardines, as well as milk (fat-free), soymilk and yogurt. Few of us consume enough in our diet, so you may need to take a supplement. Ask your personal physician if a supplement is right for you.

3. Eat calcium-rich foods. The most abundant mineral in the body, calcium, is a critical mineral to bone up on in the diet for bone health. When it comes to osteoporosis prevention and treatment, adequate daily calcium intake is a must. Aim for consuming 1,200 mg per day from mostly food sources. The foods highest in calcium include fatfree plain yogurt, fat-free or low-fat milk and cheeses, calcium-fortified orange juice, tofu, soybeans, beans, canned salmon with bones, collard greens, kale, broccoli and almonds.

5. Eat vitamin C-rich foods. Vitamin C is an important structural component of healthy bones. It also helps with calcium absorption. Eating vitamin C-rich foods on a daily basis will contribute to the strength and structural integrity of your bones. Aim for eating these foods as often as you can: berries, citrus fruits, melon, bell peppers, hot chili peppers, broccoli, Brussels sprouts, cauliflower, cabbage, tomatoes and summer squash.

4. Get in enough vitamin D. Along with calcium, vitamin D is the sister mineral for boosting bone health. Calcium actually depends on vitamin D for absorption and

6. Eat soy protein. There is some scientific evidence that the isoflavones in soy may help strengthen bones. The studies support soy food consumption and not supplements, and appear to be most beneficial for

menopausal women in terms of preventing bone loss. Other studies suggest soy food intake may help slow bone loss over time and prevent fractures. Healthful soy foods to get into your day: soybeans (edamame), tofu, tempeh, soy nuts, soy flour, soy cheese, enriched or fortified soymilk, soy yogurt and soy crisps. 7. Get in enough Protein. If you do not consume enough protein in your diet, research shows that you may be shorting your bone strength. Aim for including a source of lean protein at every meal, but don’t go overboard. Enjoy moderate amounts of high-quality proteins including lean meats, fish, egg whites, fat-free and low-fat milk, cheeses, yogurt, beans, legumes and nuts. 8. Eat foods rich in magnesium. Did you know that half of your body’s store of magnesium is found in bone? Magnesium is one more mineral that will help your body to maintain a strong bone structure. Plus, the mineral is necessary for the absorption of calcium. Get magnesium from wheat bran, nuts, spinach, whole grains and beans.


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