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Standing in the way How procedural questions in the two Supreme Court marriage cases could preclude major rulings

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Latin-American cinema.” LGBT-focused feature films include “Habana Muda” (Cuba), “K-11” (USA), “Marcelo” (Mexico), “La Pasion de Michelangelo” (Chile), “Sleepless Knights” (Spain/Germany) and “Todo mundo tiene a alguien menos yo” (Mexico), which screen several times throughout the 11-day festival. “We try to actually get a good diversity in our films,” Franek said. “Just like any community, the gay community is not monolithic either. We want to try to show how diverse that community is … within the Latino cultures.” The Cine Gay showcase is sponsored by the San Ysidro Health Center. Community partners include FilmOut San Diego

It is hard to overstate the potential impact of the upcoming U.S. Supreme Court cases concerning marriage for same-sex couples. The primar y questions posed by the two cases – Hollingsworth v. Perr y involving Proposition 8 and U.S. v. Windsor involving the Defense of Marriage Act –– could lead to rulings that dramatically advance the equality of LGBT people under the law. But the Supreme Court may end up issuing no ruling in either case. How is that possible? It is possible because the Supreme Court can choose to consider whatever questions it wants to on a case, regardless of what question a party to the litigation has posed in bringing the case to the court. When the Yes on 8 coalition, led by Dennis Hollingsworth and other conservative activists in California, appealed a lower court ruling striking down Proposition 8, it asked the Supreme Court to decide, “Whether the Equal Protection Clause of the Fourteenth Amendment prohibits the State of California from defining marriage as the union of a man and a woman.” When Ted Olson and David Boies filed their brief on behalf of the two plaintiff same-sex couples in response to that appeal, they suggested the court decide “Whether it violates the Due Process and Equal Protection Clauses of the Fourteenth Amendment for a State to use the ballot-initiative process to extinguish the state constitutional right of gay men and lesbians to marr y a person of the same sex.” Alternately, when U.S. Solicitor General Donald Verrilli filed the government’s petition in the Second Circuit U.S. Court of Appeals case U.S. v. Windsor, challenging the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA), he asked the

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From “La Pasion de Michelangelo,” a young Chilean boy detracts from the country’s political turmoil through divine inspiration. The film is part of this year’s Cine Gay showcase. (Courtesy Media Arts Center San Diego)

CINE GAY showcase Underrepresented, LGBT films featured at this year’s Latino Film Festival highlighting a diverse Latino experience By Anthony King | GSD Editor

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Media Arts Center San Diego crosses a milestone this year, with their 20th anniversary celebration of the San Diego Latino Film Festival, including the eighth year for the Cine Gay showcase, highlighting featurelength and short films about the LGBT Latino experience. The festival runs March 7 – 17. What began as a project spearheaded by former Media Arts Center Director of Operations Patric Stillman, current programmer and Exhibitions & Artistic Director Lisa Franek said she used Stillman’s guidance in taking over Cine Gay, crediting him for building the program over the past eight years. “Having the Cine Gay showcase in the festival is just one more way that we serve our

mission, because our mission is to give the underserved a voice and to show perspectives that are outside of the mainstream Hollywood perspective,” Franek said. “I really like that we’re able to do that in the festival, and have another viewpoint, even within

John Jones announced as North County Pride director Vista resident comes along at ‘just the right moment’ to oversee Pride @ the beach festival By Morgan M. Hurley | GSD Assistant Editor On Feb. 24, the North County LGBT Coalition board of directors announced John Jones as their selection for the open position of director of Pride @ the beach. Jones, who at 23 may be the youngest person to direct a Pride celebration in San Diego County, was selected over other applicants when Tina LeightRoades resigned after many years of service earlier this year. “John Jones is certainly young, but he was already known in our community for his community activism, passion for human and civil rights and a great determination to make a difference,” said Max Disposti, executive director of the LGBTQ Resource Center. “Plus we were really encouraged by

John Jones (center), then president of the LGBTQA club, poses with a protest group at Palomar College on Day of Silence 2011. (Courtesy John Jones) the innovative energy he represents: a great asset for Pride.” Disposti said when the opening was announced, the board received applications from interested parties all over the county until people realized the position was still on a volunteer basis. “How do you ask someone to work for free for almost a year and dedicate all their energy till the last minute of the day?” Disposti said. “We

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Coming out on ‘The Biggest Loser’ Contestant Jackson Carter works at Utah LGBTQ youth center, credits reality TV show for emotional transformation

Carter Jackson celebrates his lowest weight on the March 4 episode. (Photo by Trae Patton/NBC)

By Anthony King | GSD Editor Jackson Carter may not be the first LGBT contestant on “The Biggest Loser” – nor the show itself, with veteran trainer Jillian Michaels returning after a threeseason absence – but he is certainly one of the most outspoken. Carter has reached week 11 of the current and 14th season, almost guaranteeing himself a chance at the $250,000 grand prize. He is also first to say being gay is not what got him on the show in the first place. “A person’s sexuality doesn’t determine whether or not they can get through a workout or get through a challenge,” Carter said. “I just so happened to be someone that they wanted on the show.” Carter started out on the show at 328 pounds. After 10 weeks, he lost a total of 93 pounds, weighing in at 235 pounds on the Monday, March 4 episode. Called the Makeover Episode, Carter and the rest of the contestants returned home after receiving a makeover from another reality TV star and out gay man, Tim Gunn of “Project

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Runway” fame. Carter was open about his sexuality from the start, saying he came out to NBC producers at the original casting in Salt Lake City. He calls his sexuality “100 percent part of the package” and made it clear he was not told how to act by anyone. “I was just my fabulous self, and it happened to translate well on TV,” he said. The 21-year-old’s life before the reality TV show included a similar tale of many LGBT youth. Growing up in rural Utah, he was teased and bullied for as long as

he can remember. “In eighth grade I remember a kid wrote ‘Jackson Carter is a faggot’ on my binder,” he said. He coped with the stress by eating, which caused a second reason for kids to tease him: his weight. “The bullying started when I was ver y young,” he said. “I started turning to food for comfort because I didn’t feel like I had any friends, and then I got big. … It was like I couldn’t win.” After switching schools several times, Carter credits his parents for supporting him through coming out at 14 years old and enrolling in a high school focused on the arts. He said it was at this time that he really started to flourish, and was also the time he began visiting a local queer youth center, the Ogden Outreach Resource Center in Ogden, Utah. Called OUTreach, the Resource Center ser ves as a safe space for LGBTQ, questioning and allied youth aged 14 to 23. Carter now ser ves on the board, and is the nonprofit’s volunteer coordinator. He even has his own page on the organization’s website, In addition to the support of his family, Carter said it was his work at the center that led him to “The Biggest Loser” tr youts. “We always preach abstinence and safe-sex practices, and

healthy eating … and being an active person,” he said. “I was a great role model in ever y aspect except for health and fitness. I always struggled.” Being at “The Biggest Loser” campus – the ranch, as it is called, is located north of Los Angeles – is more than a full-time job, Carter said. They work out every day between four and eight hours, and each contestant is focused completely on getting healthy. “There was never a time when we weren’t dedicated and focused,” he said. “Even when we didn’t have trainers on the ranch, we still had homework.” He called it a “raw” and “powerful” experience. “‘The Biggest Loser’ is as real as it gets. You can’t fake weight loss. You can’t fake workouts,” he said. “I know now that I can accomplish anything that I want to do. That’s definitely something that I want the kids to realize.”

The time spent on the Ranch is more than for the youth in Utah, it is also for Carter himself. He said the biggest transformation is emotional, not physical. “Growing up, being gay and being overweight was definitely a struggle,” he said. “I didn’t feel confident about going out [and] I didn’t feel confident about meeting guys.” Now, he said, it is exactly that confidence that has grown as he builds the foundation of a healthy life, which he credits to his work on “The Biggest Loser.” “I love my body now. I love where I’m at and I’m so much more confident than I was before,” he said. “If you’re confident with yourself, if you know who you are, then no one is going to stand in your way.” The semifinal will air Monday, March 11 on NBC at 8 p.m. with the live final – bringing back all the contestants from the season, including Carter – airing March 18.t



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Rainbow bike corral installed in Hillcrest Mayor Filner announces first CicloSDia event at unveiling

The new corral sits at Richmond Street and University Avenue. (Photo by Anulak Singphiphat)

By Ben Cartwright | SDGLN Staff Writer In a region where cars rule, San Diego is taking big steps to become a bicycle-friendly city, civic leaders said at the unveiling of a new bike corral Feb. 25 on Richmond Street in Hillcrest. The fifth such structure in the city, the bike corral includes six racks in the shape of bicycles that cyclists can secure their bikes to while stopping in the area. The first bike corral in San Diego was unveiled May 2012 – also in Hillcrest – at the intersection of Fifth and University avenues. Since then, the city has made it a priority to install structures, although all of them currently reside in neighborhoods in City Council District Three. Council President Todd Gloria said at the Feb. 25 ribbon-cutting ceremony that while he is proud to represent the district that is home to all the city’s bike corrals, he would like to see them placed in other areas too. “District Three residents need to be able to ride their bikes to other parts of the city,” Gloria said. The new bike corral on Richmond Street was created to celebrate the neighborhood’s history as the center of San Diego’s vibrant LGBT community. The racks are each painted a color of the rainbow, causing Gloria to call the structure “culturally competent for Hillcrest.” The Uptown Community Parking District paid for the bike corral and the organization has signed an agreement with the city to maintain the structure in perpetuity. Glenn Younger, Hillcrest Business

Association (HBA) president said the HBA is pleased to help support a more bike friendly Hillcrest and city. Calling Hillcrest one of the most bike-friendly neighborhoods in the City, Younger said it also lacks an adequate number of bicycle lanes and that the installation of these corrals is a step toward a more bicycle-friendly city. Mayor Bob Filner was also present at the event, and said bike corrals are the beginning of the City’s efforts to make San Diego more bike friendly. Filner told the crowd that he sympathizes with bicyclists – after participating in numerous ride-a-longs – and said that riders often endure harassment from drivers, car doors swinging open into bike lanes, and dangerous intersections. “We are beginning to build a bicycle infrastructure in San Diego with the installation of these bike corrals, and the bike-share program that will launch in a few months,” Filner said. The mayor also announced San Diego’s first “CicloSDia” event, scheduled for Aug. 18. Based on the ciclovía concept that is popular in many Latin American countries, an entire portion of San Diego’s roadways will be temporarily cleared of cars to make way for people to bicycle, walk, jog and relax without the interruption of cars. The first CicloSDia event will start in Barrio Logan and follow 30th Street into North Park. —Ben Cartwright is a staff writer at San Diego Gay and Lesbian News (SDGLN). He can be reached at

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JONES asked for commitment to the community, leadership, a sense of belonging [and] in exchange we offer the opportunity to make a real difference in people lives. We feel that John came just at the right moment.” Seeing the position had come available, Jones said he “knew” it was something he wanted to do. “I couldn’t have been happier, because as someone who lives in North County and is LGBTQ, this event is very close to my heart,” he said of his selection. A native of Dallas, Texas, at age 8 Jones moved to Carlsbad, Calif. with his family and has lived in various communities of North County ever since. He said he always knew he was different from his peers from a young age but finally came to the realization he was gay in the sixth grade. During middle and high school he said things got increasingly easier as he came out to more and more friends, but he never recognized North County as having a “gay community”; that was something he heard might exist in a far away place called Hillcrest. In 2009 as he entered Palomar College, Proposition 8 was heading for the ballot and Jones saw his place as an LGBT activist for the first time. He and two friends looked into the campus Gay-Straight Alliance (GSA) only to find it had pretty much dried up. Jones helps serve free hamburgers to student At the encouragement of the GSA’s advisor, Jones participants of the Palomar College Day of Silence and his friends resurrected the organization. Within 2011. (Courtesy John Jones) a year, he was president and decided to expand the group’s reach. “I ended up changing the club’s name from GSA blast,” Jones said. to LGBTQA because I felt that GSA was very exclu“Working with Max is extremely inspiring,” sive, as it [had] no reference to those who identify Jones said regarding Disposti. “He has accomas bisexual, transgender, queer or questioning,” plished so much, continues to do so much for so Jones said. many and I truly look up to him as my mentor. Max As president, Jones worked hard to make the has a passion about him that is contagious, and he club as visible as he could, interfacing with other has really dedicated his life to helping others.” groups on campus, educating future allies about the As Jones takes over the helm of the increasingly issues facing members of the LGBTQ community successful Pride @ the beach event, the Vista, Calif. and offering a safe space for community members to resident does not have any big changes in mind for share their own stories and feelings. this year, but said, “marketing is key” for success. “I made sure that we participated in Coming Out “My goal is to let as many Day, World AIDS Day, the Day of Silence and other people know about Pride @ the large LGBTQ events to show the campus that we beach as possible,” he said. were present, and to advocate for equality,” Jones “I want to let people know said. “By the time I left in the spring of 2012, they are not alone and that the [LGBTQA] club was one of the top 10 most there is an entire commu commuactive clubs at Palomar College.” nity event they can come Now at California State University, San to. And if even for just that Marcos, Jones has again stepped into the role one day, I want them to as president and is pushing to expand the feel accepted and loved visibility of that LGBTQ group on campus. He for who they are.” has no plans to step down from this position or Pride @ the beach change his class load while performing his ad2013 is planned for Oct. ditional duties as director of Pride @ the beach. 12 at Betty’s Lot near the Jones said he first got involved with North Oceanside, Calif. pier. County LGBT Coalition in 2009 when he The organization is was beginning his activism at Palomar. ap currently accepting vendor ap“I truly believe in the prinplications for profit, nonprofit and ciple of Pride @ the beach: other organizations that want to provide North County to be a part this year’s event. residents – who may Jones encourages anyone otherwise have little to who has any questions no access to LGBTQ about getting involved, events – with a place including how to that they can come volunteer, to contact together as one and him at john@northcelebrate who they or John Jones (Courtesy John Jones) are while having a 760-638-1748.t


It’s not just a party


SOUTH BAY ALLIANCE A few months ago, a friend said, “I like to focus myself on other endeavors besides throwing just a party” in response to discussing the work that went into organizing a Pride event. Although I didn’t receive this well, I let it slide. After all, we all have to choose where to focus our energies. Even so, this statement has stuck with me because Pride is not “just a party.” One of the primary reasons for Pride is that it shows that the LGBT community is here and will not hide in the shadows. Our voices are the voices of family members, friends, citizens and consumers who will not let the heterosexist and homophobic memes go uncontested. It is a statement of community strength and yes, pride in who we are as opposed to silent capitulation in the face of people who would have us be ashamed and hide that we exist. It is also sculpting out a time and geographical space where the LGBT community can be open, knowing they are among supporters and like-minded people. Here we are surrounded by our own, and perhaps for many one of the few times they do not feel the outsider. It is about feeling connected to each other and having our identity mirrored back in a positive and affirming way. It is about knowing we are not alone and seeing a multitude of diverse models who can help us define our own selves and how we are going to navigate the larger heteronormative society. But even saying all of these things, it does not address my friend’s comments. I think all of

us know and understand that this is the purpose of Pride, at least intellectually. The emotions – the clarity of these purposes – may have faded for us old fogies that have integrated our LGBT identity into our everyday life, but we all remember a time, perhaps our first Pride, when it was vivid. We felt the wash of acceptance and excitement that we were many. There is another purpose served with Pride events. That purpose is actually the result of the time and effort that goes into organizing these events. It is the relationships that are built between people working together to pull off the actual day. Those relationships between the board, volunteers, entertainers, vendors, exhibitors, sponsors and attendees all are the cement that solidifies the community. It is the unexpected support you receive when people graciously donate their time and money to make it happen, and tell you they support what you are trying to do. It is the hope you feel that our world is in fact changing when local businesses and our politicians publically support and affirm that South Bay’s LGBT community is deserving of the same dignity accorded to others. This is how we change the world. Join us March 16 at 7 p.m. at Numbers Night Club, 3811 Park Blvd., for our March fundraiser hosted by the San Diego Kings Club, who will be celebrating their five-year “man-iversary.” Opportunity drawing tickets will be sold at the event, with the grand prize of a three-hour karaoke DJ session by Laura Jane. Come out, buy tickets – lots of them! – enjoy the show, and support South Bay Pride Art and Music Festival because though it may be a party, it is not just a party. — Dae Elliott is a sociologist and lecturer working at SDSU since 1994. She is one of the founding executive committee members and current chair of South Bay Alliance, a 501(c)3 nonprofit organized in fall 2006 with the purpose of building a coalition of the LGBT community and allies for social networking, business promotion and political awareness in South San Diego County. South Bay Alliance has been the organizer of South Bay Pride Art and Music Festival since 2007. Contact her at

GAY NEWS BRIEFS JEREMY DUTSON NAMED ENTREPRENEUR OF THE YEAR Tax specialist and certified public accountant (CPA) Jeremy Dutson was named the 2012 Entrepreneur of the Year by the Mind Masters business development organization, announced Monday, March 4. Dutson is a CPA with Abbas, Jenson & Cundari, located at 1940 Fifth Ave. in Bankers Hill. Dutson was officially recognized at the Jan. 7 Mind Master’s quarterly meeting, where founder Barbara Eldridge honored those who demonstrated “extraordinary focus, vision and growth” for their respective businesses in 2012. “Dutson was recognized for confronting his biggest challenge: transforming his business to grow. While handling clients, he worked at developing systems and procedures to raise the bar for himself and work towards the outstanding vision he has for the future of his business,” organizers stated in a press release. In addition to his CPA work, Dutson is active in the local LGBT community and spends time with his partner and two French bulldogs. DIVERSIONARY ANNOUNCES FULL 2013 LINE UP WITH ‘JUSTIN LOVE’ Diversionary Theatre added “Justin Love” to its complete 2013 main stage line up, joining the recent production “Birds of a Feather” and several upcoming shows. The complete season includes “The Further Adventures of Hedda Gabbler” running March 28 – April 28, “The Divine Sister” from May 23 – June 30, and “She-Rantulas From Outer Space” from Oct. 24 – Nov. 17. “Justin Love,” a new musical fantasy, will be directed by James Vásquez and runs Aug. 29 – Oct. 6. Vásquez also directed “Birds of a Feather” to lead off the 2013 season. “The Further Adventures of Hedda Gabler” is a San Diego premiere, and is directed by Matt McGrath, who returns to Diversionary after several performances in 2012. May’s “The Divine Sister” will be directed by ion theatre’s Glenn Paris, and the final production in the season, “SheRantulas From Outer Space,” will be directed by Ruff Yeager. In December, Diversionary will also be bringing back “Scrooge in Rouge,” Dec. 5 – 29, and will continue to offer selections throughout the year for their Cabaret Series, including the Monday, March 11 production “Señor Phil’s Casa Del Ha-Ha.” For the complete schedule, visit

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EMPOWERING SPIRITS FOUNDATION GAINS NEW LEADERSHIP La Jolla, Calif.-based nonprofit Empowering Spirits Foundation (EFS) announced several new changes in the organization at their annual meeting. Current president and CEO A. Latham Staples resigned to take a similar position at a private health care corporation, after founding ESF in 2008. He will remain chair of the board, which decided to split the president and CEO into two executive positions, as well as to create a vice president position. Elizabeth Casswell will take over as ESF’s new CEO, Clayton Gibson will become president and Lisa Kove, founder of the Department of Defense Federal Globe, will become vice president. All positions will become active June 1. “The day that I found ESF on Facebook years ago I knew it was a nonprofit close to my heart,” Casswell said in the press release. “I have always believed that all people should volunteer, and that the arguments about the LGBT community were too divisive. … I am honored to follow in Latham’s footsteps.” In other organizational changes, Victoria Kerley, former president of the San Diego chapter of the Log Cabin Republicans, along with Blue Montana, Prince Royale of the Imperial Court de San Diego, and Arleen GarciaHerbst were elected to the 15-member board. To provide additional guidance, a Board of Advisors was created as well. SD PRIDE GIVES $2,500 GRANT TO LAMBDA ARCHIVES San Diego LGBT Pride interim General Manager Stephen Whitburn and current boardmember William Rodriguez-Kennedy presented the board of Lambda Archives San Diego with a check for $2,500 at the Archives’ second Pajama Party fundraising event held Feb. 22. The grant will go toward the repair of a malfunctioning air conditioning unit in the Archives’ new facility, representatives said in a press release. “Pride’s core mission is to build respect for the LGBT community, a task that is impossible if we do not honor our history,” Whitburn said in the release. “Lambda Archives of San Diego has built a home for our history,


our movement [and] our shared journey. It is our distinct honor to support their incredible work.” Archive representatives said they were grateful for the grant, which will cover approximately half the repair costs. “Without stable temperature control, documents, media and ephemera are susceptible to rapid deterioration,” they said in the release. “Further, an overstressed and potentially leaky system could be disastrous to fragile and unique holdings, endangering the histories and legacies [of] our LGBT community.” DANA TOPPEL NEW CHIEF PROGRAM OFFICER AT JEWISH FAMILY SERVICE Announced Wednesday, March 6, Dana Toppel was recently named the new chief program officer at Jewish Family Service (JFS), a comprehensive human service nonprofit with locations throughout San Diego County and the Coachella Valley. Toppel, who started with JFS four years ago and most recently held the position of divisional director of clinical and educational services, has over 15 years experience working in both direct service and management capacities, including her work as a director, consultant and therapist for the San Diego LGBT Community Center. “Dana brings accountability, clarity, enthusiasm and a tremendous drive to improve our ability to serve the community,” said Michael Hopkins, CEO of JFS in a press release. “As a divisional director, she was an instrumental part of the agency’s most recent successes. Sometimes the best things are right in front of you.” A licensed clinical social worker, Toppel received a master’s degree in social as well as a master’s degree in business administration, both from San Diego State University. JFS was founded in 1918 by a group of women’s clubs “which sought to address the myriad of human needs of the time,” the release stated. The agency now provides over 50 programs, including counseling, refugee resettlement, senior services, and parenting, among others.

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BRIEFS WHITE PARTY PALM SPRINGS LINE UP REVEALED White Party producer Jeffrey Sanker revealed a partial line up for this year’s annual party, held March 29 – April 1 in Palm Springs, Calif. Co-headlining the event is Ana Matronic of the Scissor Sisters, who will perform a solo show March 30. Joining Matronic will be Alexis Jordan, who will debut her new song “Acid Rain.” Before the Saturday night headliners, the March 29 Bulge Underwear Party will see Meital Dohan and Kwanza Jones perform, and March 30’s Splash Pool Party will feature Bleona and Adriana Moura. Moura will also serve as the Saturday evening’s white carpet arrival host. On March 31, Carmen Electra and Icona Pop will headline the Circus XTreme Sunday T-Dance, followed by “RuPaul’s Drag Race” stars Willam Belli & Detox, and Vicky Vox. The final performance of the weekend is by K. Rose, with her song “Sleep When I’m Dead.” Locations vary over the three-day event, as do ticket prices and passes. For complete information visit


Who’s afraid of a lesbian in a tie?

By Abby Dees I have a problem with lesbians in ties. I don’t have a problem with lesbians with short hair (I’ve got short hair), big clunky boots (those too), tattoos (yep), excess facial hair (no comment) or even drag kings (I’m not cocky enough). I’m not talking about FTM either, they’re not lesbians as far as I know. It’s a lesbian in a tie that makes me groan. Standard issue lesbians in poorly executed Windsor knots. Please, before you flame me for my internalized homophobia or unsolicited sartorial judgment of my sisters, allow me to be the first person to admit that I might be a hypocrite. After all, I put my own cat in a tie last month and posted the pictures on Facebook. There are worse things in the world than lesbians

in ties, which is why I am examining my excessive reaction to it here with some guarded hope that you will nicely debate the point in the comments section if you’re reading this online. This came up because I invited my straight sister to a big gala event for my favorite lesbian civil rights organization. She asked about the dress code and to assure her that she didn’t need to go shopping for something new to wear, I emailed her the photo page for last year’s bash. After scanning dozens of thumbnails, I summarized my assessment of the expected attire thusly: “Clearly, all you need is a tie.” Because my sister has hung with lesbians for years and is also the butchest straight woman I know, I felt no need to explain further, but I did have that niggling feeling that I didn’t want the rest of the world to see what lesbians wear to parties. Which made me feel like a schmuck. I asked my partner how she felt about lesbians in ties and she snapped, “I hate it!” I asked her to explain, and she said, “Because they look like high school boys from the ’80s.” I knew what she meant – one does not find nicely tailored suits and French silk in a gaggle of lesbians; instead, it’s skinny dad ties, typically uncoordinated and too loose. Still, “hate” is a strong word for poor tailoring. I doubt she would have such a reaction to practical shoes and acid-washed jeans, which are about as fashionable. I prodded her more and, no surprise,

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she voiced what I felt when I looked at all those pictures: that a lesbian in a tie confirms that old stereotype about lesbians – that we want to be men. This doesn’t explain, however, why my partner and I don’t have the same reaction to all those other traditional signifiers of masculinity that lesbians (including the two of us) often appropriate; i.e., the clunky boots and short hair. What’s the thing about a tie? Maybe it is the fact that lesbians wear them so badly. Think about it. We have made an art form of lesbian hair. We put Doc Martens on the map for women in America. If you want to see how to make jeans look cool, find a young lesbian and follow her around. There is, in fact, such a thing as lesbian fashion. Except that lesbians never did figure out what all moderately stylish men know: throwing any old tie onto any old outfit just won’t cut it. I think if I saw a confident butch woman wearing her tie like she gave it some serious thought, I’d be impressed. Straight people probably still wouldn’t get it, but they couldn’t possibly miss her sense of self-worth and dash, also known as pride. My advice, though you weren’t asking, is to get the best damn tie you can afford, practice your knot technique, proudly ask your local cleaners to make your suit actually fit your girly body, and wear it like you mean it. —Abby is a civil rights attorneyturned-author who has been in the LGBT rights trenches for over 25 years. She can be reached at OPINIONS/LETTERS Gay San Diego encourages letters to the editor and guest editorials. Please email both to Include phone number and address for verification. We reserve the right to edit letters and editorials for brevity and accuracy. Letters should be no longer than 350 words in length unless approved by staff editors. Letters and guest editorials do not necessarily reflect the views of the publisher or staff. SUBMISSIONS/NEWS TIPS Press releases and story ideas are welcome. Send press releases, tips, photos or story ideas to For breaking news and investigative story ideas contact the editor by phone or email. DISTRIBUTION GAY San Diego is distributed free, biweekly, every other Friday. COPYRIGHT 2013. All rights are reserved.

HUMAN DIGNITY FOUNDATION LAUNCHES LESBIAN HEALTH INITIATIVE At a hosted fundraiser held Feb. 24, the San Diego Human Dignity Foundation proposed a new initiative that will focus on “timely and appropriate health care services for lesbian and bisexual women” in San Diego County, a press release stated. The initiative will focus on assessing the current needs for lesbians and bisexual women; providing education, information and resources to lesbian and bisexual women, including how to obtain care; and organizing training opportunities for medical professionals. Additionally, it will focus on providing cultural sensitivity training for health care providers. Founded in 1996, the Foundation works to improve the quality of life in San Diego’s LGBT community through philanthropy. At the Feb. 24 fundraiser, attendees were able to meet new Executive Director John Brown, who replaced Tony Freeman last year after an extensive executive search. OLD GLOBE TO DONATE LGBT-NIGHT PROCEEDS TO MAMA’S KITCHEN Proceeds from the Wednesday, March 14 OUT at the Globe event will be directly donated to Mama’s Kitchen, The Old Globe representatives announced Monday, March 4. One of the theater company’s signature evenings for LGBT patrons, the March 14 event will feature a hosted wine and martini bar, DJ John Joseph, food and a raffle, followed by a performance of the world-premiere musical “A Gentleman’s Guide to Love and Murder.” Additionally, attendees of OUT at the Globe are encouraged to bring non-perishable food items to the event that will also be donated to Mama’s Kitchen. Mama’s Kitchen is a 22-year-old nonprofit that prepares and delivers food to San Diegans affected by HIV, AIDS or cancer. They also provide shopping services for clients at their City Heights location. Tickets for OUT at the Globe are $20 per person in addition to the cost of the ticket for “A Gentleman’s Guide to Love and Murder.” Located at 1363 Old Globe Way, for or more information and tickets visit or call 619-234-5623. DINING OUT FOR LIFE VOLUNTEER ORIENTATIONS SET To help prepare for San Diego’s April 25 Dining Out for Life event, The San Diego LGBT Center has scheduled five separate volunteer orientations, starting Saturday, March 9 at 10 a.m. Interested volunteers are encouraged to attend in order to meet new friends and learn about ways to make a difference for one of The Center’s signature fundraising events. Volunteers are not required to attend all five meetings, and all meetings take place at The Center, located at 3909 Centre St. In addition to the March 9 date, additional times scheduled are: March 20 at 5 p.m., March 28 at 6 p.m., April 3 at 6 p.m. and April 13 at 10 a.m. For more information, contact Jerry Tomaszweicz, Dining Out for Life volunteer coordinator, at 619692-2077 or

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The next step: 3 legal parents Stress: enemy or secret friend?


LEGALLY LGBT One of the key arguments made against same-sex marriage is that children should be raised by a mother and a father. As the law exists in most areas, children are limited to two legal parents. Thus, if a child is raised by two men, the child has two fathers and no mother. However, lawmakers in the United States and elsewhere proposed an option to allow for a third or even fourth parent. The additional parent is often of the opposite sex and gives the child access to role models they need. I recognize that most same-sex couples will be able to provide a loving home for a child that will foster healthy development. I also recognize that some parents feel the need to provide children with access to role models of the opposite sex. Sometimes the best way to provide this is by bringing in a parent of the opposite sex. A change in the current law is necessary to protect the rights of all parents involved. Nothing prevents a couple from bringing in extra parents to raise their child. Things can work out great as long as everyone is getting along. However, if the relationship breaks down, only legal parents have a right to courtordered visitation with their children. In a recent case in California, a woman conceived a child through artificial insemination and raised the child with the biological father for a time. Later, she became involved with another woman and they registered as domestic partners. While that relationship was doing well, the three raised the child together, though the second mother never officially became a parent to the child. A few years later when the women broke up, the second mother was unable to seek custody rights in court because she was not legally a parent. Recognizing the damage that custody battles can cause children caught in the middle, the last thing I would want to see is more custody battles.

However, it is in the child’s best interest to have access to the parents who raised them. Currently, the extra parent may find themselves excluded from the child’s life if things break down. In the U.S., the legal parents have a constitutional right to choose how to raise their children. Thus, the extra parent, who is not a legal parent, has a difficult time seeking custody because courts place a high burden on them before the wishes of the parents will be overturned. This is not a question of whether these different parenting arrangements should exist, but of whether we should provide them legal recognition. Many similar parenting relationships already exist. California parentage law protects the rights of parents who spend significant time raising a child regardless of biological relationship. It seems only natural that there should be some way for the third parent to protect that relationship without having to terminate the rights of one of the two legal parents. The California Legislature passed a bill last year, SB1476, which would have provided a way for a third parent to have their relationship with a child recognized. Governor Jerry Brown vetoed the bill, expressing concern that there were many questions not yet answered about how the law will deal with the extra parents. Opponents of the bill were concerned because it did not set a limit on the number of parents a child could have. It also did not take into account how additional parents would affect rights to inherit after death, social security benefits and how child support would be calculated among three parents. Similar legislation has been proposed in the Netherlands that would allow for three or more legal parents. One family at the center of the debate in that country is comprised of two moms and two dads. Each of the children is the biological child of one of the men and one of the women. However, only the two moms are legal parents. If the relationship between the parents breaks down, the two dads will likely be unable to seek custody through the courts. Hopefully in the coming years we will see similar efforts to recognize the many different parenting arrangements out there. For now, anybody considering acting as a third parent to a child should be careful to work out disagreements with the legal parents informally whenever possible because they might not have the support of the court later.


LIFE BEYOND THERAPY You hear a lot of talk about stress: “I’m so stressed out” or “My job is so stressful,” but what exactly is stress? I’ve read a lot of definitions and most of them focus on the worry and anxiety that come with stress. But what about stress as being healthy? Without some kind of stress, wouldn’t we all just lie around and eat Godiva chocolates all day, watching too much reality TV? Stress is a fearful response to life’s changing circumstances. We know that life is going to always be throwing changes at us; there’s no way to avoid this. If we try to dig our heels in and fight every change that comes our way, we will lose and we will be exhausted. Healthy stress: does that sound strange to you? Some of us work better with deadlines than without them (I’d raise my hand here). Some of us like a hit of fear or excitement now and then. Some of us don’t mind getting a little nervous before we speak before a group, walk into a party or give a presentation at work. For some of us, this kind of stress is energizing. Shirley MacLaine once said that if she’s not nervous before a performance, she knows it won’t be a good one. She said that the nervousness gave her energy and motivation. Years ago, a meditation teacher told me fear and excitement are two sides of the same coin. He was right. You can’t have one without the other. Anything new brings both excitement and fear in one big package. Healthy stress is when that package works for us; unhealthy stress is when it doesn’t. So how do we keep healthy stress from morphing into unhealthy stress? We can start by knowing and observing ourselves so we can find a desirable balance of healthy-unhealthy stress. It’s different for each of us: one person’s excitement is another person’s anxiety. Start to watch what situations bring you energy (healthy stress) and which ones overwhelm you (unhealthy stress). One great way to keep the balance on the healthy side is exercise. According to the research I’ve read, it’s one of the best ways to avoid unhealthy stress. Some doctors say there is no drug that offers us the benefits that exercise can. Research shows that exercise leads to bet-

—Paul D. McGuire is an openly bisexual family law attorney in San Diego who assists families dealing with dissolution of marriage and domestic partnerships. He writes a blog on family law and LGBT issues at

ter thinking and actually brings more blood flow to our brain. During and after exercising, parts of our brain are activated that are associated with complex thinking and problem solving. Exercising makes it possible for us to deeply rest and a relaxed brain makes creative associations much more easily than a stressed one. It’s important that we find our healthy-unhealthy stress balance because from what I’ve read, when we experience too much stress, our pituitary gland jolts our adrenal gland and adrenaline cranks up our heart rate and blood pressure. Cortisol – a hormone closely related to unhealthy stress – causes inflammation, strains our circulatory system, thins our skin, wastes our muscles, and weakens our immune system so viruses that cause colds and cold sores take hold. Another article I read says that under repeated high stress our cognition slows, we may feel depressed and our ability to concentrate goes down. Yikes! Unhealthy stress is certainly correlated with a whole bunch of negative stuff. On the other hand, research also shows that as human beings, we need a certain amount of healthy stress to keep our systems tuned. Some people enjoy the stimulation and excitement of healthy stress and wouldn’t want to live without it. I’ll close with how one study beautifully described the benefits of healthy stress: “Human minds literally seek reasons to live. Many people, as they get older, deeply care about future generations and the world’s survival. If they have a chance to make a difference, that keeps people healthy.” I couldn’t say it better. —Michael Kimmel is a licensed psychotherapist who specializes in helping LGBT clients achieve their goals and deal with anxiety, depression, grief, sexually addictive behavior, coming out, relationship challenges and homophobia. Michael is currently accepting new clients. Contact him at 619-955-3311 or visit

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OUT IN THE FIELD Across 1 Package container? 4 Start of an online view 8 Addis ___, Ethiopia 13 Early AIDS play 15 Jordanian queen 16 Puts to sleep 17 Garr of “Tootsie” 18 Adjust the guitar strings 19 Charles, who could make you a man 20 76 in a Broadway musical 22 What the boastful blow 23 Flips 24 Emulates Dick Button 25 Threatening words 27 Adjust slightly 29 Sondheim’s staff members 30 Daughters of Bilitis co-founder Phyllis 31 Supply-and-demand subj. 35 “Toodles” 36 Decimal dot

Out in the Field solution on page 17 37 All het up 38 Shooting star, maybe 39 Right on a map 40 YMCA and others 41 Stage offering 43 Keen longing 44 Sport of Robbie Rogers 47 Stripped (of) 49 Face-to-face tests 50 Pitchout from a quarterback that swings both ways? 53 “Hollywood Squares” choice 54 Not much 55 Opera queen’s delight 56 Druid, for one 57 Face defacer 58 “Sorry about that” 59 Stallion’s sound 60 Swimmer you can eat 61 One of The Three Stooges

Down 1 Colleague of Anthony 2 Person with a PC 3 Ballet spin 4 Chant 5 Pudendum 6 Start of a quote about coming out by Robbie Rogers 7 Bauxite and borax 8 State of polar bears 9 More of the quote 10 Divvy up 11 “The Pink Panther” director Edwards 12 Boobs or butts 14 End of the quote 21 Porgy’s lady 24 Really moved 25 Atop 26 Have itchy feet 28 “I ___ Grow Up” 30 Topsoil

32 Perry Mason milieu 33 Crystal balls, e.g. 34 Hatching place 36 Bartlett fruit 40 Guitarist Atkins 42 Take offense at 43 Bought and sold 44 “Desperate Housewives,” and others 45 “Put roses on the piano and tulips on the ___” 46 Sailor’s load 48 Writer Dykewomon 50 Meadow sounds 51 Food on the floor, maybe 52 Give the slip to



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Brunch with a punch DINING WITH


CUSP DINING & DRINKS 7955 La Jolla Shores Drive (La Jolla) | 858-551-3620

Sparkling rum punch with ginger (Courtesy Cusp)

Brunch prices: Egg dishes, cereals and hotcakes, $9 to $13; salads, sandwiches and flatbreads, $9 to $15

The usual regimen of weekend brunch has taken an upward twirl at the 11th-floor sky perch in Hotel La Jolla called Cusp. Instead of washing down eggs Benedict with bloody Marys and mimosas, patrons are favoring dishes like salmon hash and pork belly egg skillets with carafes of icy, cinnamon-rum punch parked alongside. Cusp marks the third incarnation of this penthouse restaurant that has long stood guard over a prime view of green residential hills sloping down to the Pacific. In earlier days, the space operated as Elario’s before changing to Clay’s La Jolla. Now managed by Kimpton Hotels, the property reveals a $4 million makeover, starting from the sleek lobby and rising to Cusp’s bigwindowed dining room, appointed with petrified wood and leafy inlays. Fashionable, yes, but without the stodginess you’d expect in these necks. Ample seating equates to landing a fast table, which might also be due to Cusp’s brunch service being relatively new. Get here between 8 a.m. and 2:30 p.m. on Saturday or Sunday, and you’re greeted with a menu that reaches well beyond scrambled eggs and bacon. Executive Chef Donald Lockhart’s menu of sophisticated salads, flatbreads, egg dishes and sandwiches is complimented by a few alcohol-spiked punches devised by Lead Mixologist Nate Howell. Served in curvy carafes, each order serves four people; or two if you’re a veteran of boozy brunches. For good reason the Johnny Appleseed punch is a top seller. It’s constructed with fresh ginger juice, lemon, sparkling cider and enough house-infused cinnamon rum to blur the million-dollar view. Howell also pays respect to the original New Orleans-style gin fizz, created in the late 1800s by famed bartender Henry C. Ramos. Here, the drink is finished off tableside with soda water, which triggers the components of egg whites, cream and orange flower water into a frothy white head that rises above the glass in a show of molecular science. Some of the food dishes are no less dramatic. Chef Lockhart goes bonkers with pork belly, dressing it inside a panini with honey sriracha and an intriguing pancetta cream sauce. More decadent is a baked egg skillet containing what daintier eaters might consider an overload of the unctuous meat.

We counted at least six thick pieces hiding beneath the eggs. In either case, the pork was glistening and crispy. The open-faced pastrami egg melt is also intensely rich and became my favorite dish while poking through a pair of eggs on top that were draped in velvety Dijon mustard sauce. Underneath was a modest layer of meat and Swiss cheese camouflaging thick sourdough. The dish was accompanied by excellent roasted potatoes, albeit in need of a tad more rosemary. If you’re hunting for an ultimate grilled cheese, you’ve come to the right place. Lockhart uses jalapeno bread that is sporadically spicy for capturing a foolproof combination of white cheddar, guacamole and bacon. No condiments needed. Lighter fare includes classic nicoise salad with garlic shrimp or the “roasted vegetable” salad, which featured artichoke hearts as the only warm, charred organic in a mix of chilled greens, tomatoes and spicy goat cheese. A fine salad nonetheless, and with a surprise smear of softened mascarpone cheese lurking at the bottom of the bowl. We designated Meyer lemon-blueberry pancakes as our dessert, skipping over caramel panna cotta and pumpkin trifle. Bravo for embedding some of the fresh blueberries into the batter, which lends extra flavor and juiciness. A couple strips of grilled bananas on top distracted us from the missing lemon element. Cusp is also open for dinner daily and serves breakfast and lunch on weekdays. Both its cuisine and cocktails have been cited nationally by The Travel Channel, Huffington Post and Esquire Magazine. Lucky for us, we have it looming over our own backyards.t

Skillet eggs over pork belly

Photo by Frank Sabatini Jr.)

BY FRANK SABATINI JR. Bay Area transplants Matt Belkin and Sylvia Szudelski debuted their first-ever restaurant venture last week in the Hillcrest strip plaza at Fourth and University avenues. Named Sloppy’s Burritos,, the fast-casual eatery is described by Belkin as “Chipotle meets Whole Foods,” with a strong emphasis on local, organic ingredients. The menu offers five types of tortillas and several protein choices that include grass-fed beef, free-range chicken and organic tofu. Lard-free beans are also in the offing. Visit by March 15 and receive a free four-ounce serving of guacamole, made from avocados grown at an EsconHealthy options in Hillcrest dido ranch, plus a side of non-GMO “Cabo (Courtesy BAM Communications) chips.” 3884 Fourth Ave., 619-269-2697. The vacant space left behind by Cote Sud on Fifth Avenue in Hillcrest makes way for Salt & Cleaver, an artisan sausage restaurant slated to open by April 1. Co-owner Galen Zanetakos says the idea came about based on the proliferation of so many burger joints popping up everywhere. “We wanted to do something different. And sausage is such an old, classic food,” he said. Some of the housemade specialties will include lobster sausage topped with shrimp mousse and rib eye steak sausage garnished with horseradish aioli. With more than a dozen other choices, customers can also imbibe from a full cocktail bar stocked with 50 beers on tap and bottled. Among the design features is a 19-foot perforated aluminum chandelier that runs the length of the bar. 3805 Fifth Ave. For updates, visit

Chocolate egg cream

(Photo by Carissa O’Connor)

A speedy source for dish and restaurant recommendations has arrived to San Diego via a free iPhone app called Chefs Feed, which relies on the trusty advice of well-known chefs, about 600 in all. Local contributors to the application include Chefs Deborah Scott of Indigo Grill and Island Prime/C Level; Jason McLeod of Underbelly, Craft & Commerce and Neighborhood; and Brian Malarkey of several area restaurants named after fabrics, including Searsucker. The app extends to dozens of cities throughout the U.S. and is available through iTunes. To download, visit

From whoever comes up with designated days of the year celebrating certain foods, March 15 is National Egg Cream Day, and bartender Erick Castro of Polite Provisions in Normal Heights is paying tribute. In doing so, he’s slinging a selection of revived seltzer-based drinks such as the classic egg cream, a tropical phosphate and a frothy Balboa Park fizz using egg whites and baking spices. 4696 30th St., 619-677-3784.

As a preliminary kickoff for Dining Out for Life San Diego on April 25, The San Diego LGBT Community Center is presenting Food Truck Fierceness in its parking lot from 5 to 8 p.m., March 21. Participating gastro trucks include Chop Soo-ey, Pearson’s Cajun, Burger Lounge and more. Staffers from the Hillcrest Brewing Company will host the beer garden, and “dragioke” will be conducted by the rousing Dining Out for Life Divas. 3909 Center St., 619-692-2077.

Expect some serious doses of barbecue, bourbon and cigar smoke at a special four-course dinner at 6 p.m., March 25 at True North Tavern in North Park. Chef Matt Gordon of the adjoining Urban Solace restaurant will head the menu and pair each course with various bourbons. The cigar pairings are courtesy of David Mogilner of Racine and Larime in Old Town. The cost is $50. Reservations are required. 3815 30th St., 619-291-3815.t

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Friday, March 8

BALBOA PARK WALKABOUT: SDG&E and the Balboa Park Cultural Partnership present the Balboa Park tour, where you’ll learn about energy efficiency in the park, looking at the Reuben H. Fleet Science Center, Museum of Photographic Arts, San Diego History Center and The Old Globe Theatre. It’s a great opportunity to get a deeper look at these iconic institutions in the park. The tour runs from 8 a.m. – noon, and guests are asked to meet at the Science Center, 1875 El Prado. Pre-registration is encouraged at, and there is no fee for attending. For more information call 800-613-8970.

Saturday, March 9

INTERNATIONAL WOMEN’S DAY: Celebrate the day with Wild Jammin’ Women, who love to sing and dance. It’s an afternoon of workshops and music, followed by a dance, dinner and concert in the evening. Festivities will be hosted by sinter-songwriter Judy Fjell and San Diego author Carolle Jean-Murat. Lisa Sanders and Peggy Watson, as well as the band The Trouble Clefs, will also perform. The evening concert is at 7:30 p.m., with the workshops starting at 2 p.m. Everything’s happening at Unity San Diego, 3770 Altadena Ave. For a complete schedule and more information visit ANTI-BULLYING PANEL AT ION: In conjunction with ion theatre’s latest show, “Punk Rock,” anti-bullying expert Walter Meyer will be presenting a talkback discussion about bullying in high school prior to the company’s matinee performance. Joining Meyer will be SDUSD board president Richard Barrera, ion artistic director Glenn Paris and a cast member from “Punk Rock.” The event happens at ion’s BLKBOX Theatre, 3704 Sixth Ave. from 2 – 3 p.m. For more information visit or call 619-600-5020.

TABOO AT LIPS!: It’s an all new Saturday night show at Lips, hosted by Mistress Malva and featuring “drag queens gone wild” Called Taboo: The Forbidden Show, the fun starts at 11:30 p.m., a witching hour if ever there was one. Lips is located at 3036 El Cajon Blvd. For more information visit or call 619-295-7900.

Sunday, March 10

CINE GAY RECEPTION: Join Bamboo Lounge for a celebration of this year’s Latino Film Festival Cine Gay showcase tonight from 5 – 7 p.m. The reception is before the 7:30 screening of “Marcelo,” showing at the theater at the Hazard Center. We’ve been told there are special guests who will attend the party, and knowing who’s in town for the festival, that’s very exciting news. Bamboo Lounge Sushi and Wine Bar is located at 1475 University Ave. For more information call 619-291-8221.

Monday, March 11

CASA DEL HA-HA: This looks amazing. Diversionary Theatre’s cabaret series continues with “Señor Phil’s Casa Del Ha-Ha,” the home of San Diego sketch comedy. On stage for this one-night-only production will be comics Billy Bonnell, Quartez, Monique Marvez and Ron Jones, actors Fran Gercke, Jones and Sam Ginn, and monologues by Ruff Yeager and Noel Tarpey. That’s a lot of funny on an intimate little stage, which can only mean good hilarity. Tickets are $20 general admission and $29 VIP. Diversionary is located at 4545 Park Blvd. For more information visit diversionary. org or call 619-220-0097. NEW WAVE MONDAY: It’s a special event night for Manic Monday at the Brass Rail, New Wave night with 80 cent drinks for the first 80 people in the door. Enjoy New Wave sets by DJ Junior the Disco Punk & XP and the rowdiest Monday-night crowd around. The Brass Rail is located at 3796 Fifth Ave. For more information visit 619298-2233 or visit

Tuesday, March 12

BILL POWERS AT THE GSDBA: Next in line for the Greater San Diego Business Association professional luncheon series is guest speaker Bill Powers. Powers is a professional engineer and author of “San Diego Smart Energy 2020: The 21st Century Alternative,” and will talk about sustainable business and private practices that will provide a clean and reliable way to generate energy for San Diego County. The lunch is at Wang’s North Park, 3029 University Ave. and is $25 pre-pay and $35 at the door. The luncheon will run from 11:30 a.m. until 1 p.m. For more information visit or call 619-296-4543. HILLCREST TOWN COUNCIL: Get involved! There’s a lot happening at this month’s Hillcrest Town Council meeting, including a presentation about the upcoming San Diego Gay Men’s Chorus show all about Elton John. The Uptown Parking District will present the new parking application, and then you can get involved in one more way: by running for the HTC board. Elections are held tonight. The HTC meets at 6:30 p.m. at the Joyce Beers Community Center, 1230 Cleveland Ave. For more information visit

Wednesday, March 13

DINAH SHORE WARMUP: Win tickets to the Dinah’s Friday-night White Party at tonight’s Dinah Shore Weekend warm-up party at Gossip Grill. DJ Sasha Marie will spin from 8 p.m. – 1 a.m., with happy hour all night long. Dinah Shore weekend? Not until April 4. Gossip Grill is located at 1440 University Ave. For more information visit or call 619-260-8023.

Thursday, March 14

MANKIND FASHION: Tori Heat and SD Pix present another night of Wet at Bourbon Street. Tonight’s fun includes the special

monthly Mankind fashion show, highlighting new designs and attire at the Hillcrest store. Bourbon Street is located at 4612 Park Blvd. For more information visit or call 619-291-0173.

Friday, March 15

‘Harvey Milk Portrait’ by Julie Warren (Courtesy Lambda Archives) QUEER ARTISTS PROJECT: Lambda Archives San Diego is hosting an opening reception to help kick off their latest exhibition, highlighting art from the San Diego LGBT community, past and present. Work by Julie Warren, Vickie Leon, John Keasler and Lisa Kanemoto, among others, will be on display for the first time in one location. The exhibit will be up for three months, but tonight’s party from 7–9 p.m. will include a special performance by artist Sami Peterson. Lambda Archives is located at 4545 Park Blvd. For more information visit DINAH OR BUST: Another Dinah Shore prep party, this one happening at the Brass Rail San Diego. You know the deal, the Dinah Shore fun isn’t happening until the first week of April, but now’s your chance to win tickets to the festival. Are you excited yet? Tonight’s kickoff features DJ Kinky Loops, with doors at 9 p.m. The Brass Rail is located at 3796 Fifth Ave. For more information visit or call 619-298-2233.

Saturday, March 16

BEING ALIVE YARD SALE: All sales from today’s huge yard sale will go to Being Alive’s Food Bank, called Daniel’s Pantry. All items are donated from both clients and the community, and there’s just about everything you could imagine. Head to Being Alive’s offices from 8 a.m. – 1 p.m. (but better early to be sure to scope out the best stuff) for the sale. If you have items to donate, contact them now. For more information visit or call 619-291-1400. ST. PAT’S PARADE AND IRISH FESTIVAL: Get green for the 33rd annual San Diego St. Patrick’s Day parade, starting and ending at Sixth Avenue and Laurel Street near Balboa Park. There will be over 150 parade entries, all kicking off at 10:30 a.m. But that’s not all, the Irish festival with traditional folk music, food, crafts and other treasures is from 9 a.m. – 6 p.m. There will be beer gardens, too, and an authentic Celtic village. For more information visit MARIACHI AND OPERA?: You bet. San Diego Opera is staging two performances only of “Cruzar la Cara de la Luna,” or “To Cross the Face of the Moon.” It’s a West Coast premiere, and features Mariachi Vargas de Tecalitlán playing onstage as the orchestra. This doesn’t happen very often, and organizers expect a full, full house. The shows are at 2 and 7 p.m. at the San Diego Civic Theatre Downtown. For more information and tickets visit sdopera. com or call 619-533-7000. GREEN PARTY: It’s not a white party, nor a pink party, but in honor of St. Patty’s, 1202 and SDPIX present tonight’s Green Party, with DJ Montell. There’s a green costume contest (try harder than camouflage, if you can) and doors open at 10 p.m. 1202 is located at 1202 University Ave. For more information visit 1202SD. com or call 619-906-5555.

Sunday, March 17

THE VIRGINS AT THE CASBAH: It’s a 21-and-older event featuring bands The Virgins, Har Mar Superstar and Color at the Casbah. Based in New York City, The Virgins formed in 2006 and have opened for all the greats: Iggy Pop, Sonic Youth, Patti Smith

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CALENDAR and on and on. You might have seen them on David Letterman’s show, or maybe Conan O’Brien’s. Like to watch TV late? Then Jimmy Fallon and Carson Daly had them on as well. The new album is out March 12. Tickets for the show are $12 in advance, $14 at the door and the Casbah is located at 2501 Kettner Blvd. Doors open at 8:30. For more information and tickets visit or call 619-232-4355.

Monday, March 18

VOICE OF IRELAND: Celebrate the Irish with Write Out Loud and Lamb’s Players Theatre, who will be presenting Voices of Ireland at 7:30 p.m. Irish stories, Irish music, Irish dancing, and you know this is one authentic place to be. The Celtic Echoes start playing at 7 p.m. and admission is $20. The fun is at Horton Grand Theatre, 444 Fourth Ave. in Downtown. For more information and tickets call 619-437-6000.

Tuesday, March 19

KPRI PRESENTS: Live at the Casbah, radio station 102.1 KPRi presents Matt Costa, Carly Ritter and Sam Outlaw. Costa hails from Huntington Beach, Calif. and has five independent releases, including last year’s “Sacred Hills” EP. With connections to No Doubt and Jack Johnson, this guy is going to take off. Tickets for the show are $15 and the Casbah is located at 2501 Kettner Blvd. Doors open at 8:30. For more information and tickets visit casbahmusic. com or call 619-232-4355.

Wednesday, March 20

LUNCH & LEARN: Protect yourself from identity theft and fraud by educating yourself through this Lunch & Learn lecture at The Center. Do you get those calls that say you’ve won millions? How about the foreign bank account that is waiting – just waiting – for you to transfer money? Scary stuff. Get in the know. The Center is located at 3909 Centre St. For more information email or call 619-692-2077.

Thursday, March 21

GREAT EXPECTATIONS: Reading Cinemas often shows

live stage performances from the United Kingdom, but this one is a special treat. Theater buffs know Charles Dickens’ classic “Great Expectations” is difficult to stage, but this production – captured live on Feb. 7 at the Vaudeville Theatre in London’s West End – was a huge success. Adapted by Jo Clifford, the production was directed by Graham McLaren and stars Jack Ellis, Chris Ellison, Paula Wilcox, Paul Nivison and Grace Rowe. Also on the big screen, Reading will present all the red-carpet arrivals from that February night and a behind-thescenes look at the production. The play, or film in this case, starts at 7:30 p.m. at both the Gaslamp 15 at 701 Fifth Ave. Downtown and Town Square, 4665 Clairemont Dr. For more information and tickets visit FREQUENCY FILM FESTIVAL: There are so many amazing movies available this month, including tonight’s start of the Frequency Film Festival, running March 21 – 23, March 28 – 30 and April 1–6 at The Ocean Beach Playhouse. The festival opens at 7:45 p.m. with “The Baron,” a North American premiere from Portugal. The film is a “mesmerizing black and white narrative” that was shot during WWII. Discovered in 2005 and screened for the first time in 2011, the dark gothic film is the story of a school inspector who travels to the castle of The Baron, a tyrant vampire. Tickets are $10. The playhouse is located at 4944 Newport Ave. For more information and tickets visit


The return of Yossi

(right) Actor Ohad Knoller reprises his title role in ‘Yossi.’ (Courtesy Strand Releasing) By Anthony King | GSD Editor

Gay-film buffs will recognize “Yossi” actor Ohad Knoller from the 2002 classic “Yossi & Jagger,” for Knoller reprises his role over a decade after the original film caught critics attention. He won a Best Actor award from the Tribeca Film Festival, and it is refreshing to see him on screen again. Knoller as the title character has packed on a few pounds, and settled into a life after his military service where he met, fell in love with, and then lost Jagger. “Yossi” is a multi-generational film, showing what happens quite naturally after 10 years of life, although it’s questionable if Yossi was actually “living.” “Yossi” is what you would expect from Israeli director Eytan Fox, who headed both films. It’s quiet, as most foreign films tend to be compared to what we’re used to from Hollywood, and intensely secretive in parts. Yossi the character is incredibly average, but average in a way that average encompasses all things good: kind, complex, reserved.

He’s a doctor now, keeping his attraction toward men to himself as much as he thinks he needs to. But Yossi has grown too, and viewers who were angry with him for being so closeted in the first film will perhaps understand more after seeing this performance. A pivotal moment in the film comes when Yossi discusses his past relationship with Jagger to silent awe, again hinting at secrets that are not divulged. The depth of Yossi’s feelings, which do not appear often enough, peak here, and again later in the film when jealousy confronts him in the face of a younger, far more forward man. It’s Jagger all over again, with less tragic results. I won’t lie; it’s a charming film worth seeing. While in reality you may know forever doesn’t always happen, the romantic in you will still want it to be true, if only for Yossi. “Yossi” opens in exclusive engagement Friday, March 8 at the Landmark Hillcrest Theatre, 3965 Fifth Ave. For more information, including show times, visit or call 619-298-2904.t



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(l to r) Mhari Sandoval and Francis Gerke (Photo by Ken Jacques)

(back left) Kate Del Castillo will attend the Cine Gay screening of “K-11.” (Photo by Matt Kennedy)



In pursuit of dreams Donald Margulies, best known for his Pulitzer Prize-winner “Dinner With Friends,” has written yet another drama with similar conversational themes called “Time Stands Still,” running through March 17 at the North Coast Rep Theatre. The storyline has two couples sharing the stage, with the couple who worked most of their adult lives in various war zones as journalists occupying the confined space most of the time. Margulies uses war as a backdrop for his play, but tells an all-too-familiar tale about how some individuals must make a decision that will better serve their lives, even if they must abandon their partner to accomplish that goal. Sarah, played by Mhari Sandoval, displays the physical effects of imbedded shrapnel. The character is a veteran photojournalist who has survived a roadside bomb attack in Iraq. She’s mending with long-time partner and previous war correspondent, James, played by Francis Gercke. They both work for the same magazine and have a friend in common, Richard (John Nutten), who is Sarah’s photo

Well-paced, emotional performances give Margulies’ drama flight

editor. Her middle-aged editor has found a new, young love, Mandy, played by Stacey Hardke. Mandy is a bubbly event planner. These four people visit with one another on various occasions, learning about themselves and questioning decisions about their futures. The action is confined within the parameters of a Brooklyn, New York apartment, well designed by Marty Burnett. Sarah hobbles about, healing not only her badly injured body, but her scarred emotions as well. It’s noteworthy to mention that the naïve party planner offers up the most profound commentary on life and living. Director David Ellenstein manages to get well-paced, emotional, solid performances from his four actors. Hardke plays upbeat throughout, offering up tidbits that are nothing less than profound. Gercke plays the injured, wantingto-please persona, until his character hits a brick emotional wall. Sandoval plays strong, no matter her injuries. Margulies writes language in a most natural way, often belying the

underlying drama: infidelity and the ethical nature of invading countries for journalistic opportunities. When it comes right down to it, there are some things that just can’t be explained, and wanting to be in the thick of a war zone is just one of them. “Time Stands Still” coaxes ever yone to pursue their own dreams – conventional or non-conventional – even when someone must be left behind.t

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and Bamboo Lounge, who will be hosting a reception and pre-screening party Sunday, March 10 from 5 – 7 p.m. at their Hillcrest location, 1475 University Ave. The party is prior to the 7:30 p.m. screening of “Marcelo,” which is being presented with FilmOut. FilmOut festival programmer Michael McQuiggan said he was happy to partner with the Latino Film Festival (LFF) for “Marcelo,” adding that the LFF would also be hosting a film for their anniversary festival later in the year. “This relationship has been going on for several years, and it allows crossover audiences from both film festivals to embrace LGBT Cinema in San Diego,” he said. Calling “Marcelo” a compelling film about self-identity, Franek said it had a combination of “dark moments” and “levity,” and acknowledged it addresses universal themes. “It’s life. It’s being around the people around you,” she said. Also at the March 10 screening, “Marcelo” director Omar Ynigo, along with actors Aarón Díaz, Laura Zapata, Héctor Jiménez and Olga Segura, will be in attendance. Díaz is known in part for his work as a Mexican actor and model, and Jiménez, who served as producer for “Marcelo” with Segura, starred in 2006’s “Nacho Libre.” Select films throughout the festival will feature guests similar

to the “Marcelo” screening, including the Friday, March 8 showing of “K-11.” Famed Mexican actress Kate Del Castillo, who plays a “transsexual diva” in the movie, will attend the 9:30 p.m. screening, along with Director Jules Stewart and Producer Tom Wright. Another film presented in Cine Gay, “La Pasion de Michelangelo,” is grounded in the political-religious landscape of 1980s Chile, and tells the story of a 14-year-old orphan who claims he speaks with the Virgin Mary. Franek said she was fascinated with the subject, which is based on true events. “It doesn’t directly address his sexuality because he is just 13 or 14, and he is still kind of in that discovery stage, but it definitely hints at this non-heterosexual identity,” she said. While not seen in the film, the subject “resurfaced” years later as a transgender woman, Franek said. “One of the reasons that I found it so fascinating is that, in a sense, it is not a transgender film, but it is about those times in the beginning of when you’re … just trying to discover … who you are as a person,” she said. “Most of the films that we see that identity [in] are already fairly well established. This is just a budding kind of sexuality,” she said. On Friday, March 15 at 6 p.m., the festival will screen the Cine Gay short films, including “Fallen Comrade,” “I Feel Lost,” “Loxoro,” “Sin Ruta,” “Las Vegas” and “The Rookie and The Runner.” The short films, Franek said, are especially pertinent, because their filmmakers have far more room for experimentation in their work. “Short films are incredibly difficult to make,” she said. “Because the time commitment and financial commitment is not quite so large, they’re able to take a lot of risks.” In addition to the complete Cine Gay showcase and to honor of the festival’s 20 years, the LFF will be screening their “top 10 groundbreaking and influential” Latino films from the past 20 years. Of the 10, Pedro Almodóvar’s “Todo Sobre Mi Madre” screens several times. “I really love the Cine Gay showcase because is shows the other part of our mission, but the really wonderful thing about this showcase is the community really comes out to support it,” Franek said. “That allows me to take some risks with the programming.” Films screen at the Digiplex Mission Valley, formerly the UltraStar Mission Valley Cinemas, located at 7510 Hazard Center Drive. General admission tickets are $10.50 per film, with discounts for students, seniors, military and Media Arts Center members. There are also special prices on passes and family tickets. For the complete schedule and movie information – including the closing weekend party and centerpiece showcase – as well as to purchase tickets, visit sdlatinofilm. com or call 619-230-1938.t


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Caro Emerald

(Photo by Adrie Mouthaan)

Dutch musician Caro Emerald’s mega success in Europe based on vintage 1940s and ’50s sound By Brendon Veevers | GSD Reporter While the United States is only now coming to know the force that is Caro Emerald, in her native Netherlands, as well as throughout the rest of Europe, the singer has become a staple in modern jazz and swing. Her debut album “Deleted Scenes from the Cutting Room Floor” surpassed the chart success of Michael Jackson’s “Thriller” in her homeland, nesting in the number one spot for a record-breaking 30 weeks in 2009. The album, which fuses 1940s and ’50s jazz with pop and electronica, catapulted the sultr y songbird into the glittering lights of superstardom throughout Europe, in part thanks to memorable singles “That Man,” “Stuck,” “Riviera Life” and “Back It Up.” Emerald is now working on a sophomore release, due sometime this summer, and has been putting finishing touches on the record at the famous Abbey Road Studios, a recording house made famous by the Beatles and which has seen the likes of Kylie Minogue, Adele and Lady Gaga pass through its doors. The music is captivating, and Emerald’s live shows are both memorable and entertaining while her music emulates the swinging 40s in its melodies and rich tones. In January, she visited the U.S. to showcase some of the talent that has made her one of the most successful female artists in Europe. Brendon Veevers: Is this your first time visiting the U.S.?

Caro Emerald: No, I’ve been in the U.S. a couple times before. The first time was when I was 17, entering a show-choir camp in Ohio. Had great fun. BV: You are here to promote your album “Deleted Scenes from the Cutting Room Floor.” For those who have yet to hear the record, can you tell us about the album? CE: Well, you can expect a fun mix of pop, jazz, beats [and] Latin, with an electronic vibe. It’s very catchy, danceable and easy listening. We tried to create a different atmosphere with each song, and every song tells its own story, like in old movies. We were inspired by music and movies from the ’40s and ’50s. BV: What appeals to you most about music from this period? CE: The sound of the recordings. That typical vinyl sound just makes my heart tick. BV: Did you grow up on a musical family? Where did you get your love of music and performing? CE: I did grow up in a ver y musical family. All of us would play an instrument, but only for fun. I was already fascinated by the stage at a ver y young age. I would enter a miming contest, imitating Madonna and the Beatles, ever y year.

BV: You are a household name in your homeland as well as in the United Kingdom, where you have performed numerous soldout shows. How does it feel to go back to basics when it comes to breaking into a new market, like the U.S.? CE: Oh it’s a lot of fun. To me, there’s nothing like a fresh audience and a fresh start. To feel that energy and the pressure to try and convince everyone makes me grow as an artist every time. BV: How do you find the U.S. audience in comparison to your fans in Europe? CE: Very, very enthusiastic. But I have to admit that my audiences everywhere are on the whole quite the same: cool, fun, enthusiastic and very devoted fans of all nationalities and ages that know how to create a party. BV: You performed in New York as well as the El Rey Theatre in Los Angeles. What can fans generally expect from a Caro Emerald performance? CE: Well, I bring my eight-piece, allmale band, including a horn section and a DJ. Expect a mix of an old-school jazz club [and] big-band vibe, combined with scratches and beats and other electronics. I

see Caro, pg 14




GAY SAN DIEGO March 8–21, 2013

ROMEO SAN VICENTE The sun’ll come out tomorrow for Jane Lynch

Jane Lynch


And that sun will stay out for exactly eight weeks. That’s how long mercurial Sue Sylvester, aka Jane Lynch, will star as fearsome orphanage meanie Miss Hannigan in the ongoing Broadway revival of “Annie.” She’ll take the boards beginning May 16 and will end her temp run in July, just in time to shoot more “Glee” episodes and begin her stint as host of Sean Hayes’ new primetime game show, “Hollywood Game Night.” Lynch will oversee contestants as they make their way through Hollywood cocktail parties, mingling with celebrities and competing for cash. We’re still not sure how this game will


work, or how knocking back martinis with “Dancing with the Stars”-level celebs constitutes a heated battle for game show dominance, but the unknown is enticing, isn’t it? Meanwhile, it’s just good to see Lynch diversifying and looking past “Glee,” lest that tracksuit become a corset. Kelly McGillis rides into a different danger zone Kelly McGillis is back, both the 1986 and the 2013 versions of her. With a 3D IMAX re-release of “Top Gun” drawing the retrominded curious (and diehard Kenny Loggins enthusiasts) back into a smattering of theaters, McGillis is currently popping off screens nationwide. But the older and wiser McGillis (she made news for refusing to comment on fellow lesbian thespian Jodie Foster’s recent Golden Globes speech) is also back in acting action in a creepy new film that just hit the Sundance Film Festival. It’s called “We Are What We Are” and it’s based on a 2010 Mexican film of the same name. This version, from filmmakers Jim Mickle and Nick Damici, is transplanted to New York state but the key disturbing elements remain the same: It revolves around the adventures of a family of ritualistic cannibals. Fun! Picked up at the festival by eOne Distribution, it should hit indie and arthouse-minded theaters later this year. And who knows,

Matt Bomer heats up ‘Winter’s Tale’ Every time a hot young actor comes out and keeps working in high-profile projects it further destroys the perception that openly gay men can’t succeed on screen without the closet. So here’s to Matt Bomer and his next movie, a little thing called “Winter’s Tale,” co-starring nobodies with names like Will Smith, Russell Crowe and Colin Farrell. The fantasy feature is based on Mark Helprin’s novel set in both 19th century and present day Manhattan and it involves a young thief, the dying visionary girl he loves and a flying white horse named Athansor that helps him ride into the future through a cloud wall. Or something like that. Anyway, it’s to be directed by screenwriter-producer Akiva Goldsman (“A Beautiful Mind,” “The Da Vinci Code”) and also stars Jennifer Connelly, William Hurt and screen legend Eva Marie Saint (“On The Waterfront”).

“C.O.G.,” the indie feature based on a David Sedaris story from his bestselling book “Naked.” And later this year Groff will voice the male lead in the latest Disney animated feature, “Frozen,” based on a Hans Christian Andersen tale, which co-stars Kristen Bell and his fellow “Glee” colleague Idina Menzel. But it’s the project with the least – and yet most intriguing – amounts of information that has us the most excited right now. Groff is starring in what is now known only as the “Untitled Michael Lannan Comedy,” which wouldn’t be of interest unless you already knew that Lannan is one of the producers of the buzzmaking James Franco Sundance entry “Interior. Leather Bar.” (the half-real, half-fake documentary about finding the missing footage from William Friedkin’s “Cruising’). And the soon-to-beactually-titled project has found a director in Andrew Haigh, the man behind the acclaimed (as in the Criterion Collection has already included it in their DVD release roster) gay indie feature “Weekend.” We figure it’ll be about something gay. But that’s just an informed hunch.

Jonathan Groff ’s ‘Untitled’ career move We’ve already reported that Jonathan Groff (“Glee,” “Spring Awakening”) will star in

—Romeo San Vicente’s own weekends are always acclaimed. And sometimes filmed. He can be reached care of Gay San Diego or at

with this and last year’s unnerving Ti West horror film “The Innkeepers,” McGillis may become a middle-aged scream queen. There are much worse career paths. FROM PAGE 13


always try to pull the audience into the music in a very atmospheric way, creating a different mood for every song. And expect a lot of dancing and sing-along. BV: Will the new record follow the same formula as “Deleted Scenes from the Cutting Room Floor” in terms of style? CE: Yes, definitely. For the second album I work with the same team, and you will definitely be able to hear that. BV: You have been recording the album at Abbey Road Studios in London. What is it like to have your album recorded in such an iconic studio, where so many legendary industry figures have recorded hits?  CE: My producers and fellow partners have recorded a fabulous orchestra there for the second album, which is a dream come true for us. The recordings sound wonderful, and I’m very proud. BV: The U.S. music market is famous for being a difficult market for foreign artists to infiltrate, though some Dutch artists including DJ Tiësto, Vengaboys, Within Temptation and 2 Unlimited all finding moderate success in the U.S. over the years. What do you think you bring to the current market that will stand out and get you on the right path toward breaking the U.S.?  CE: I think my music is very different as well as catchy, and I think that will stand out. It brings a very fresh sound to the radio, much different than all of the other music you hear nowadays. BV: How has the reaction in the U.S. been toward your music so far?  CE: Just great. People have given me great response about the music, as well as the live performances and I can’t wait to come back and play some more. BV: Whom are you listening to these days? What artists do you feel are making their mark in music? CE: I think Gotye is very good; very cool sound. BV: It’s not just your music and its style that is unique. Your music videos are also very eyecatching, particularly the videos to “Back It Up” and “That Man.” How involved are you when it comes to your image?  CE: Very involved. It’s something that me and my partners, David Schreurs and Jan van Wieringen, created together. We discuss everything, from makeup, to styling, to photography, to artwork to videos. BV: Your shows this month are being treated as showcases for the U.S. Does this mean we can expect larger headline shows in the future? CE: I hope so. At the moment, we’re making plans for it.t

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court to decide “Whether Section 3 of DOMA violates the Fifth Amendment’s guarantee of equal protection of the laws as applied to persons of the same sex who are legally married under the laws of their State.” The Bipartisan Legal Advisor y Group (BLAG) brief in response to that also posed the equal protection question, but added two questions regarding legal standing: one concerning plaintiff Edith Windsor’s marriage certificate – obtained in Canada and not recognized in New York when her spouse Thea Spyer died in 2009 – and another concerning the legal standing of the executive branch to appeal a decision that “it requested” from the Second Circuit. But when the U.S. Supreme Court announced December 2012 that it would review the two cases, it added questions to both concerning legal standing. In the Proposition 8 case, it asked whether Yes on 8 has standing under Article III, Section 2 of the constitution. In the DOMA case, it asked whether the executive branch’s agreement with the Second Circuit precluded the Supreme Court from ruling in the DOMA case and whether BLAG has standing. Case, controversy and injur y Standing is another way of saying “right to sue.” To have the right to sue, a party must have suffered or be threatened with a discernible injur y, the lawsuit must be directed at the cause of that injur y, and the controversy must be one that a court decision could remedy. The question about legal standing for the Yes on 8 coalition was first raised by the plaintiff couples’ legal team in the courts below, and in their brief to the Supreme Court, Olson and Boies argued that Yes on 8 does not have standing and that its appeal should be dismissed. As their brief argues, Yes on 8 groups have “never once suggested that permitting same-sex couples to marry could harm them – or anyone else – personally.” Of course, the Ninth Circuit U.S. Court of Appeals panel, which struck down Proposition 8, accepted a California Supreme Court ruling that Yes on 8 did have legal standing to appeal, even though California state officials chose not to. The Ninth Circuit panel unanimously

concluded it was “bound” by the unanimous state supreme court determination that California law authorized Yes on 8 to have standing “to assert the people’s and hence the state’s interest in the validity of the measure and to appeal a judgment invalidating the measure.” The Ninth Circuit panel, which seemed troubled that denying Yes on 8 standing would amount to giving state officials veto power over voterapproved initiatives, said Yes on 8 did not “need not show that they would suffer any personal injur y from the invalidation of Proposition 8.” In the DOMA case, BLAG argues – much as Yes on 8 does – that, because the executive branch did not defend DOMA in court, it should not have the right to petition the Supreme Court for review of the lower court decision that found the law unconstitutional. Professor Jackson’s brief argues that BLAG has neither suffered nor been threatened with “injury,” that one chamber of Congress cannot assert that Congress has suffered injury, and that BLAG “is not the House” but rather an advisory group to the House. “It is the Executive Branch, not Congress, that is obligated to ‘take Care’ that laws are enforced,” said Jackson’s brief. “Moreover, any injur y that might arise from nondefense of a law would be to the whole Congress, which one House cannot alone assert.” Jackson’s brief also argues that the Supreme Court does not have jurisdiction to consider the Second Circuit decision given that the executive branch agrees with that decision, so, there is no “case or controversy” and no “injur y.” The U.S., Jackson said, agrees that DOMA is unconstitutional and that Windsor deser ves a refund of the more than $300,000 she had to pay in estates taxes following her spouse’s death as the sur viving spouse of an opposite-sex marriage is not required to pay taxes on joint property. But because Section 3 of DOMA forbids federal agencies from recognizing marriages between same-sex spouses, the Internal Revenue Ser vice did not grant Windsor the exemption. “The United States thus offers no concrete injur y to its legal interests from that judgment sufficient to invoke the jurisdiction of this Court,” Jackson said. No standing, no step for ward? What if the court finds the

petitioner for either case has no legal standing, or that the court itself has no jurisdiction to decide the DOMA case? If a petitioner does not have standing, the Supreme Court will not decide the underlying constitutional question. In many cases, that means the lower court decision stands, but it applies only to the lower court’s jurisdiction. For instance, if a Second Circuit decision is left intact, it benefits only people living in the Second Circuit states of New York, Connecticut and Vermont. With these two cases, there are a multitude of things the court might do if it finds no standing and a staggering number of ways experts have thought of for how both cases might play out. For instance, one law professor and former advisor to the Department of Justice under Presidents Clinton and Bush, Marty Lederman, thinks lack of standing in the Proposition 8 case could mean as little as the grant of marriage licenses to the two plaintiff couples only. That’s what Yes on 8 proponents argue, too. But others, including UCLA law professor Erwin Chermerinsky, say no standing in the Prop 8 case means California officials would be able to issue marriage licenses to same-sex couples anywhere in the state. And many experts believe there could be additional litigation over that matter, too. A finding of lack of standing or lack of Supreme Court jurisdiction on the DOMA case is even more complicated. First, as Hunter points out, allowing the Second Circuit decision to stand would leave a judicial system in which same-sex couples in three states could receive federal benefits of marriage while same-sex couples in the other states could not. One of the primary responsibilities of the Supreme Court is to address such inconsistencies among the circuits. Meanwhile, on Monday, March 4, the Supreme Court issued an order granting a request from all parties to the DOMA case and added 50 minutes to the usual 60-minute argument time for the March 27 case, specifically to address the questions of standing. Editor’s note: Lisa Keen is a renowned international journalist reporting on issues pertinent to the LGBT community. We will be partnering with her for coverage concerning the Supreme Court’s upcoming marriage equality cases. This is the first in a multiple-part series called History in the High Court to prepare our readers for what to expect leading up to and after March 26 and 27.t



(l to r) Brett Drake and Jamie Ciecko on SDAFFL’s opening day (Photo by Scott Donald)

March sports roll in like a lion The month of March is one of my two favorite months because of what it means in terms of sports in my life. September brings us Major League Baseball pennant races and the advent of a new National Football League season, as well as college football. But March is a month full of new beginnings on the playing field. San Diego American Flag Football League (SDAFFL) The nation’s premier flag football league for LGBT athletes and their friends exists right here in San Diego. Sixteen teams strong and player interest at an all-time high, SDAFFL kicked off its 10th season on Saturday, March 2. The biggest blowout of the day was produced by Flicks A-Team (coached by fourth-year veteran Tommy Miles), who whitewashed the Tanline Hooligans 39-0. I am participating in my second season, and my team played in arguably the most dramatic game of the day. Holding just an 8-7 lead at halftime, my Bourbon Street Gators were able to jump out to a 14-7 lead over R Gang before allowing a couple scores, including a touchdown with just under 30 seconds remaining. The Bangers held on for a 20-14 victory. League play continues on Saturdays at Doyle Community Park near University Town Center. If the rain holds off, games this weekend (March 9) will begin at 9 a.m. and include the awesome tunes of local DJ John Joseph. Dozens of fans line the sidelines and cheer on the nearly 300 athletes who play each week. Following the games, the players and their friends convene at the sponsor bar of the week for a big party. Check out to

learn more about the league and see the game schedule online. America’s Finest City Softball League (AFCSL) Some people just can’t get enough recreational sports on their own calendars, and I am one of those people. Saturdays are for football, and Sundays are for softball. AFCSL, now in its 32nd season, opens March 10 with games in Poway and Santee. All told, there are 40 teams participating this year, with 16 Women’s Division teams and 24 Open Division teams in the fold. My Sundays are doubly packed because I co-manage the Open D Division Baja Betty’s Sin Nombre team, and I play on and manage The Loft in the Open B Division. Sometimes this involves going to Santee for one pair of games and then racing over to Poway to catch the other two games, but I do not mind. Playing the game at a high level has always been a thrill for me. But the opportunity to coach beginners and teach, as I do for Betty’s with my co-manager and good friend Roman Jimenez, gives me just as much satisfaction. Taking a kid who has never made contact with a ball and converting him into a consistent hitter gives us a certain parental pride. And it does not hurt that each of my teams are competitive teams among the best in their respective divisions. Like football, the softball players get together for “Sunday Funday.” This weekend’s Opening Day party will be held March 10 at Wang’s North Park from 3 – 6 p.m. For the next three months, I will get to enjoy – or endure – football

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FITNESS For the most part when we eat, we think little of fuel. Yet we all have that innate sense of knowing what we eat provides us the energy needed for a day’s work. Where we lose sight – or are being blinded by convenience – is how we are fueling our body and with what grade of fuel. What is it exactly that I am eating? How is it prepared, and how is it ultimately fueling me? This is a good questioning plan to ponder at each meal, even at each bite. Note the word “plan.” It confirms action.

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We “set the table” to run on a fuel shortage using food for a myriad of reasons such as boredom, convenience, loneliness, comfort, depression, socialization and for the pure enjoyment and decadence of it. We need to move the needle to adopting a more critical discernment of our eating motivations, and what we are chowing down on. Our body is a complex machine that requires the right combinations of foods to keep it running at peak efficiency. Put low octane grade gasoline in your high-end sports car, and you get less horsepower, less performance, less fuel efficiency and, ultimately, more bills from your mechanic. The same thing applies with your bodies. One quarter of what we eat keeps us alive. Three quarters of what we eat keeps our doctors alive. Start your day with a balanced breakfast. A cup of coffee and a slice of toast, or triple shot latté with a scone, will rev up your heart rate and get your motor running, but once you get to the office, you’ll be faced with a real fuel crisis: a jolt of hunger likely quenched by whatever is available in the vending machine or break room. When we lose control of choice, we lose sight of fuel. We’ll eat anything to end the hunger pains, usually out of convenience. Choice is recognizing the difference between comfort or convenience and fuel. If you want to perform better and be more alert and alive, then eat the higher-octane qual-


SD Hoops Not to be forgotten, our local basketball league is winding down its regular season and about to hold playoffs. This nine-team league, of which I am proud to ser ve as commissioner, will crown a new champion this year on March 27 at Golden Hills Recreation Center. Eight of the nine teams will make the playoffs, where any team can get on a run and win it all. In my first year in the league, my 1-13 team ended up knocking off all the favorites en route to the most unlikely championship in league histor y. Check out the league online at

Food as fuel

ity fuels. Drop your propensity for fast foods as they make you fat, leaving you longing for more due to their typically high fat and sugar content. Fresh and whole grains prepared at home and then ported to and fro is the best way to go. Think of the word “diet” as your Daily Intake of Energy Treats. Your daily eating plan consisting of five to seven meals a day is your daily intake of energy treats: your fuel. Again, it’s a plan. All good things begin and end with a purposeful plan of attack. No deprivation here, it’s just real foods – no packaged or pre-cooked – all built into a healthy fueling plan. Let’s stop and think about the foods people ate back in the 1800s: vegetables grown in the ground, fruits off the trees, animals that were hunted, fish that were caught, and grains that were picked. There were no pasta primavera, cheese enchiladas or chili rellenos, and definitely no burgers and fries. Our fitness level is won and lost at the food table. We simply cannot out train bad nutrition no matter how hard we work at it. Embrace the idea that it is OK to be uncomfortable, and you should be somewhat uncomfortable making choices you know you should make. It’s a onemeal, one-workout-at-a-time approach, using the word “fuel” as mental and physical propulsion along the fitness highway. Let’s fill up and get going; you can do it.


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