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Volume 4 Issue 13 June 28–July 11, 2013 Follow us on Facebook and Twitter.




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Dissecting the decisions




The DOMA decision, said Bonauto, “not only strikes DOMA but makes clear what we’ve been saying all along: that DOMA is discriminatory and that it is an effort by the federal government to deprive same-sex couples of their rights and to demean them.” “We have won the freedom to marry in California,” said Evan Wolfson, head of the national Freedom to Marry group, on MSNBC after the decision was released in the Prop 8 case. Wolfson said that, with the addition of California, at least a third of the nation’s population now lives in a state with marriage equality. Prior to today, it was at about 18 percent. Jon Davidson, legal director for Lambda Legal, called both decisions a “huge victory for married same-sex couples and their families because it will affect almost

In August 2010 when Proposi Proposition 8 was declared unconstitu unconstitutional by Judge Vaughn Walker, I could barely admit that I had voted no on the proposition. I wouldn’t come out until a year later. By the time the Ninth Circuit affirmed the decision and agreed that Prop 8 was unconstitutional in February 2012, I had begun following LGBT advocacy groups and met my cur current boyfriend. Since then, I participated in a rally for marriage equality on the day the Supreme Court heard oral arguments in the Prop 8 case, and I have been eagerly awaiting a decision from the Court in the marriage-equality cases, both for my own personal interest and out of a hope to see positive change in the way this country treats LGBT individuals and couples. On Wednesday, June 26, the Supreme Court declared the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) unconstitutional and declined to decide whether Prop 8 is constitutional, finding instead that the proponents lacked standing to bring it to the country’s highest court. Significantly, both opinions were announced exactly 10 years after the Court decided in Lawrence v. Texas that it is unconstitutional to criminalize same-sex sex practices. For this column, I will refer to the DOMA case as Windsor and the Prop 8 case as Perry, in reference to the way the Supreme Court titles the opinions. The decision in Windsor, written by Justice Kennedy, is supported by powerful language explaining how DOMA improperly creates two classes of marriages by denying federal recognition of same-sex married couples. “The avowed purpose and practical effect of [DOMA] are to impose a disadvantage, a separate status, and so a stigma upon all who enter into same-sex marriages made lawful by the unquestioned authority of the states,” he wrote. Additionally, “DOMA writes inequality into the entire U.S. code.” While I applaud the broad effects of the Windsor case, I am troubled by the lack of clear explanation of how the majority reached its conclusion. It suggests that DOMA presents specific problems with its wide reach that authorize the Court to ignore typical rules of standing. The majority also fails to clearly specify how it reached the result that DOMA is unconstitutional. The decision ignores the question of which level of scrutiny to apply and jumps around between arguments of state’s rights and arguments that those who supported DOMA initially were motivated by animus. This leaves us with another vague opinion in line with Lawrence v. Texas. Like Lawrence, Windsor leaves lower

see Victories, pg 17

see Legally, pg 8

GSDBA honors


The celebration on Wednesday, June 26 took over the streets in Hillcrest. (Photo by Anulak Singphiphat)

An icon in Hillcrest


Community gathers in Hillcrest for celebrations, vows to continue moving forward By Anthony King | GSD Editor

ion brings the ‘Heat’


Hillcrest was the center of celebrations following the monumental Supreme Court decisions solidifying marriage equality on Wednesday, June 26, with two separate rallies and people taking to the streets in solidarity and a renewed goal to fight for full rights. In anticipation of the Court’s rulings – the federal Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) and California’s Proposition 8 were both struck down – community members and activists began planning “Day of Decision” events weeks in advance. To start, SAME and Canvass for a Cause organized a political rally at the Hillcrest Pride flag for 5 p.m. Following the rally at the monument and a march on University Avenue, a second gathering was held at The LGBT Center. Both included guest speakers excited by

the decisions, and The Center CEO Delores Jacobs called the evening a “community celebration” for all. “What a great day to be Californian, what a great day for America and what a great day for love and equality,” said Assembly Majority Leader Toni Atkins, who flew from Sacramento, Calif. earlier in the day to be at The Center by 7 p.m. The standing-room only auditorium was decorated in rainbow colors, and The Center staff and volunteers were offering appetizers, drinks and a celebratory cake for attendees. “It has been a long five years since our right to marry was taken away from us at the ballot box. All of us can remember our summer of love, when we stood with our gay and lesbian friends as they married the person

see Celebrate, pg 8

Two huge victories California Attorney General Kamala Harris urges marriages to resume immediately By Lisa Keen | Keen News Service Marriage Equality

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In a stunning double victory, the U.S. Supreme Court issued decisions Wednesday, June 26 that strike down both the Defense of Marriage Act and Proposition 8. The DOMA decision, a 5-4 split, was written by Justice Anthony Kennedy and joined by the four liberal justices of the court. It strikes DOMA as unconstitutional because it violates the guarantees of equal protection and due process. The Proposition 8 opinion, a 5-4 vote led by the Chief Justice, vacates a Ninth Circuit U.S. Court of Appeals ruling. It says Yes on 8 defenders of the law lacked standing, under federal rules of law, to make the appeal. The decision appears to leave intact the district court decision, a much broader ruling. The dissent was a surprise: Justice Kennedy led two conservative justices plus liberal Justice Sonia Sotomayor. They said the court should accept the California Supreme Court’s determination that Yes on 8 had standing. Reaction was understandably euphoric from LGBT legal activists and the thousands of supporters of marriage equality gathered outside the Supreme Court building. “It’s nearly perfect. I’m thrilled,” said Mary Bonauto, civil rights project director for Gay & Lesbian Advocates & Defenders, the group which launched the first successful lawsuit challenging DOMA and secured the first right to marry from a state supreme court.

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With California, 13 states now have full marriage equality. Seven states offer civil unions or have no laws, and 30 have laws or amendments against same-sex marriage.


GAY SAN DIEGO June 28–July 11, 2013


GAY SAN DIEGO June 28–July 11, 2013

Hennepin, 1970


The quiet revolution for LGBT marriage equality By Lisa Keen | Keen News Service Nearly every LGBT person knows about “Stonewall,” the spontaneous resistance to police intimidation of LGBT patrons at the Stonewall bar in New York City in June 1969. Relatively few know about Hennepin in May 1970. Events in both places became powerful catalysts for change in the way mainstream society treats LGBT people. Stonewall took the form of hundreds of LGBT people using riots and defiance in a major city, refusing to obey laws that were hate-motivated and discriminatory on their face. Hennepin was one gay male couple, wearing suits and ties, walking into a county clerk’s office in the Midwest and applying for a marriage license. Stonewall inspired the creation of thousands of LGBT organizations, newspapers and communities that grew enough political strength to win elections, change laws and insist the world understand that gay people are here. Hennepin garnered a relative lightning flash of media attention: a story in Look magazine, appearances on two nationally televised talk shows and a summarily dismissed appeal of their lawsuit by the U.S. Supreme Court. Its specific goal – to allow same-sex couples obtain marriage licenses the same as malefemale couples – appeared to fail. Now, 43 years after Jack Baker and Mike McConnell walked into the Hennepin County clerk’s office and filled out an application for a marriage license, their quiet revolutionary act stands as a monument to perseverance and success. To say Richard John “Jack” Baker and James Michael McConnell were ahead of their time is an understatement. They are considered the first same-sex couple to walk into any municipal clerk’s office in the United States and apply for a marriage license. They were the first to sue the local clerk when their application was refused, and the first to take their lawsuit to the U.S. Supreme Court. They are also likely the first same-sex couple ever to obtain a marriage license, albeit through a sleight of name-change. According to a variety of news reports, Baker and McConnell were joined in marriage by a pastor in September 1971 after they obtained a marriage license from Mankato, Minnesota. An un-bylined “special” article in the January 7, 1973 New York Times reported that, in addition to their initial lawsuit over the rejected marriage application, McConnell adopted Baker in August 1971 “with the goal of securing tax and inheritance advantages.” “At that time, Mr. Baker legally assumed the name Pat Lynn McConnell, while continuing to use the name Baker in his daily affairs.” Then Baker, using his newly adopted name, filled out a marriage license application with McConnell in Mankato, a small city west of Minneapolis. “On Aug. 16, 1971, Blue Earth County issued the license, and, on Sept. 3, Mr. Baker and Mr. McConnell were married in a private ceremony in Minneapolis by the Rev.

Roger Lynn of the United Methodist Church,” noted the Times article. Although the Blue Earth County Attorney challenged the legitimacy of the license, a Hennepin County grand jury “found the question not worth pursuing,” and thus, left the license intact. Baker and McConnell’s actions garnered other publicity in the early 1970s, publicity that took some courage on their part, given the volatility of the time. They appeared on the “Phil Donahue Show” and the “David Susskind Show,” nationally televised talk shows. They were profiled briefly in Look magazine’s cover story on “The American Family.” Their willingness to identify themselves as gay touched many individual gays around the country. After reading about Baker and McConnell in Look magazine’s cover story, a Birmingham, Alabama, man called the telephone operator in Minneapolis to see whether there were phone numbers for Baker and McConnell. It’s not that he wanted to call them, it’s that he could hardly believe there were other men in the world like him: men who loved men. “I have secluded myself in an apartment in Birmingham where I live alone away from parents and friends,” wrote the man, whose hand-written letter to Baker is part of an archive at the University of Minnesota. “You and Mr. McConnell have more guts than any man I have ever met.” He asked them to

send him information about their gay political organization to “help make a new life” for himself. “At 17 years of age, I have already experienced the deep hurt of loving one who can never possibly love you,” wrote another young man, this one from a tiny rural town in Maine who said he had attempted suicide. He couldn’t even bring himself to spell out the word “homosexual” in his letter, and he cautioned them not to include their return address on the envelope because “I’m still unable to speak at home.” But he asked the couple to write “a hopeful clause” to him if they knew of any gay organization that might exist in Maine. It’s not clear whether Baker and McConnell were able to help the many individual people who wrote to them, but they continued their work of knocking on doors that had previously been closed to gay people: doors that many believed could get them killed. For whatever reasons, these two men believed in the system. They believed that they should trust the system to treat them with the same rights due to all American citizens. But despite the powerful burst forward provided by the Stonewall rebellion, many gay people at the time did not have the courage it took for Baker and McConnell to apply for that marriage license on May 18, 1970. And not everyone in the gay

Baker and McConnell’s silent action, 1970

(Photo by R. Bertrand Heine / Courtesy Minnesota Historical Society)

community supported what Baker and McConnell were doing. It’s not that they were opposed, but rather they felt the community’s focus and resources needed to be concentrated on goals that were embraced by greater numbers in the community, goals such as laws prohibiting discrimination based on sexual orientation in employment and housing, and striking down sodomy laws. On the “David Susskind Show” in 1973, Baker said gay activists around the country had criticized him and McConnell, saying gay couples didn’t need a marriage license. And in a 1993 oral history recording, Minnesota State Senator Allan Spear spoke about Baker and McConnell’s efforts, saying marriage “wasn’t the issue that most of the rest of us saw as a front burner issue.” Today, there is little doubt that marriage for same-sex couples is a “front burner issue.” The U.S. Supreme Court issued decisions Wednesday, June 26 on two cases involving the legal rights of samesex couples. And Minnesota passed

a marriage equality law May 13, becoming the 12th state plus the District of Columbia to treat same-sex couples the same as male-female couples in marriage licensing. McConnell was on hand in the Senate gallery for the final passage of Minnesota’s marriage equality law, just days shy of the 43rd anniversary of the date he and Baker first filled out the application for a marriage license in Hennepin County. Though they have, from time to time, responded to questions via email, McConnell and Baker, both in their early 70s now, have eschewed interviews. But in a response to a question via email by Minnesota Public Radio reporter Sasha Aslanian, McConnell had this reaction to the passage of the Minnesota marriage equality bill: “I’m just so elated to have been alive to see and experience this moment in time. Words cannot describe the feeling. When I saw all those thousands of young and older people together celebrating the victory today, it was overwhelming.”t



GAY SAN DIEGO June 28–July 11, 2013

GSDBA honors LGBT leaders Robert Gleason given Good Neighbor Award awards: Marci Bair and her financial group, Bair Financial Planning, were honored as Business of the Year, and Council President Todd Gloria, who served as The Center board chair from 2006 to 2007, was honored with the GSDBA Community Leadership Award.

an incredible job of supporting the LGBT community from the The annual Greater San Diego very beginning,” Gelder said. Business Association (GSDBA) “We wish … them the best in the Business Awards luncheon was years to come.” held June 20, where the regional Gloria gave special recogniLGBT organization honored severtion from the City Council to each al prominent individuals, businessof the award winners, including es and organizations for Wells Fargo as GSDBA their work within and Corporate Partner of the for the LGBT commuYear, Comerica Bank nity. Mayor Bob Filner as Corporate Diversity served as the luncheon Leader and the Imperial keynote speaker. Court de San Diego as One of the ceremoNon-Profit of the Year. ny’s highest honors is Allan Spyere accepted the State Farm Good the award for the ImpeNeighbor Award, which rial Court. is presented to a memPresented in part ber of the LGBT comby the California Trust munity who has been a Bank, the luncheon also “beacon of light” for the (l to r) GSDBA board member Danielle Barger, honoree served as acknowledgecommunity, organizers Robert Gleason and board member David Muscat ment of the GSDBA (Photo by Erin Penwell / Ash & Arrow Photography) said. “This person is board. Past board memdedicated to improving bers Kevin Atto, Christhe lives of LGBT Californians.” “Todd attends nearly 400 tianna Connell, Keith Robinson Nominated by GSDBA memcommunity events each year. He and Nick Toledo were honored, bers and selected by State Farm works tirelessly, looking out for and new members Tim Fronczek, Insurance, this year’s honoree was the interests of all San Diegans,” Kevin Hannahoe and Kevin Kellar Robert Gleason, the 2003-2004 said Jeff Gelder, master of cerwere welcomed. board chair of The LGBT Center emonies. “He truly is a shining The GSDBA began in 1979 and current chair of the San Diego example of what public service and is a founding member of the County Regional Airport Authority. can achieve.” National Gay and Lesbian Cham“The State Farm Good NeighWang’s North Park received ber of Commerce (NGLCC). The bor Award was created to honor a the GSDBA Emerging Busiorganization’s mission is to properson’s contribution to the comness of the Year award, in part mote “prosperity and equality” for munity,” said David Muscat of State for their work supporting other group members, supporters and Farm, who gave Gleason the award. LGBT organizations in San Diego. the LGBT community. In 2006, the Muscat called Gleason an “iconic After opening in January 2012, GSDBA was named Chamber of leader” saying “he has been, and Wang’s has sponsored and hosted the Year by the NGLCC. continues to be, a strong advocate” numerous events for The Center, for the LGBT community. Mama’s Kitchen, the Harvey Milk Editor’s note: Gay San Diego Two other former board memFoundation and the GSDBA. Assistant Editor Morgan M. Hurley bers of The Center also received “Wang’s North Park has done contributed to this story.t By Anthony King | GSD Editor

GAY NEWS BRIEFS SEPT AIDS WALK WILL FEATURE NEW ROUTE, OBSTACLE COURSE Announced in a press release June 14, the San Diego LGBT Community Center’s 2013 AIDS Walk & Run will take place Sept. 29, and this year’s 24th annual fundraiser will feature a new route and new “5K Street Challenge” obstacle course. The run will begin at 7:30 a.m., the walk at 8:30 a.m. and the Street Challenge obstacle course will begin at 9 a.m. in heats of 100 participants, with new heats starting every half hour. More information on the course and challenge is forthcoming. Additionally, the post-AIDS Walk & Run festival in Balboa Park has been expanded to include a new health and wellness fair that will have free fitness classes, a pet rest area, face painting and snacks, among others. AIDS Walk & Run is San Diego County’s largest one-day HIV-AIDS fundraiser. Last year, more than $400,000 was granted to 10 local agencies. More information can be found at BRIDGET WILSON, JERI DILNO HONORED BY ASSEMBLY San Diego residents Bridget Wilson and Jeri Dilno were celebrated at a special Pride Month event in Sacramento, Calif. Tuesday, June 25, where Assembly Majority Leader Toni Atkins honored the two as LGBT leaders. A ceremony was held on the floor of the state Assembly chambers, sponsored by the Legislative LGBT Caucus. Dilno, current board emeritus of San Diego LGBT Pride, helped organized

Philadelphia’s first Pride march in 1970 before moving to California. In San Diego, Dilno was the first woman executive director of The LGBT Center, and served as the editor of the Gay and Lesbian Times. Wilson, an Army Reserve veteran, practices military and employment law, and civil litigation at The Dean Law Group. She has volunteered with Servicemembers Legal Defense Network, San Diego AIDS Foundation, the ACLU and San Diego Pride. “Recently we have had many LGBT milestones to celebrate and full equality seems possible,” Atkins said in a press release. “This is all the more reason to honor the pioneers of our movement who bravely and tirelessly worked on behalf of our community, long before there was broad public acceptance of LGBT rights. Jeri Dilno and Bridget Wilson personify that spirit of courage and leadership.” ACTIVE DUTY SERVICEMEMBERS INVITED TO JOIN PRIDE PARADE San Diego LGBT Pride officially welcome active duty and veteran servicemembers to participate in a military contingent that will lead the organization’s 39th annual Pride Parade. The Parade starts at the Hillcrest Pride Flag monument July 13 at 11 a.m. In 2011, San Diego Pride hosted the first active duty military contingent in a United States Pride parade, and in 2012, active duty military wishing to march in the parade were granted permission by the Department of Defense to do so in uniform. “American stands for liberty, for justice and equality for all,” said Fernando Lopez, San Diego Pride public affairs director, in a release outlining servicemember participation. “It is an honor to continue the tradition of reflecting those values in our 39th annual event.” Participants are encouraged to wear their uniforms, though San Diego Pride said to first seek approval from the appropriate commanding officers on a case-by-case basis. Alternately, participants and their families are asked to wear a branch-specific T-shirt. An information session about the military contingent will be held July 11 from 6 – 7 p.m. at Bourbon Street Bar & Grill, 4612 Park Blvd. The session is for those 21 and older. For more information and to register for the contingent, visit sdpride. org/military/. REP. SUSAN DAVIS PUSHES TO END LGBT STUDENT DISCRIMINATION Congressmember Susan Davis, a cosponsor for the Student Non-Discrimination Act (SNDA), urged the House Workforce Committee to add language from the SNDA to a bill up for reauthorization in order to “put in place legal protections against discrimination of LGBT students,” a press release stated. House Democrats on the committee are preparing a version of the Elementary and Secondary Education Act as Republicans prepare to bring it up for reauthorization. “Our children have the right to a learning environment that is free from intimidation, discrimination, bullying and harassment,” Davis said in the release. “As legislation moves forward, I hope we can find a way to include these basic protections for students.” Davis serves as a member of the committee, which is headed by Rep. George Miller (D-CA). Currently, federal statues address discrimination on the basis of race, color, sex, religion, disability or national origin, the release stated, but do not explicitly include sexual orientation or gender identity.t

GAY SAN DIEGO June 28–July 11, 2013




GAY SAN DIEGO June 28–July 11, 2013


Next time, take the gloves off

Celebrating today By Anthony King, editor It’s a good day in California. Watching and waiting each morning online – at 7 a.m. nonetheless – was exciting; the anticipation could be felt through the web. Dr. Delores Jacobs tweeted Wednesday that it looked like everyone she knew was online, and it seemed to be very true. The Supreme Court decisions will indeed push forward LGBT marriage equality rights. While the Ninth Circuit says we might have to wait approximately 25 days to get married, Gov. Jerry Brown has already told those in the system to get ready to hand out those coveted licenses. I have a tinge of sadness for the 37 states that will still have

to wait. Council President Todd Gloria and Assembly Majority Leader Toni Atkins recognize, as many do, that the long walk is not over. Seventy percent of people in the United States still do not live in states that allow full marriage equality. So as we celebrate, we vow to continue the fight for everyone. If you were able to make it to the Day of Decision celebrations and spent the evening in Hillcrest, you know the feeling was electric. It was wonderful to come together with so many others, congratulating each other, laughing and crying. It really was a party. For us at Gay San Diego, we are also celebrating a milestone. This issue marks our third anniversary, and we couldn’t be happier about this, either. Thank you to our readers for pushing us to be involved, and thank you to everyone for supporting our advertisers. We are all here together. We will continue to report and support you in return, for as this week shows, there are great thing to celebrate.t


Coming out, again How an oddball disorder sent me back to the closet By Abby Dees Last week I discovered that there’s a name for a problem I’ve had since I was 11. I’ve learned that other people have same problem, and quite a few have it way worse than I do. I found out that my “quirk” – one that close friends have lovingly tolerated, others have derided – isn’t just my own, solitary, rather embarrassing character flaw, but something very real. I have misophonia: literally “hatred of sound,” but that’s kind of misleading. I couldn’t live without my Beatles bootleg collection or my vintage Martin guitar, so I must love sound too. Here is misophonia in a nutshell: certain normal sounds that people make, invariably quite soft sounds, register in my brain like a hundred nails on a chalkboard. Open-mouth gum chewing, for example, or aimless whistling can torment me, as well as some visual stimuli. My thinking short-circuits if someone habitually shakes a foot anywhere in my field of vision. But because I’m otherwise a rational, relatively normal person, I have a cache of coping skills: I never leave the house without an iPod (a portable refuge), I have a list of handy reasons I may need to step away quickly and sometimes I just have to suck it up, which is incredibly difficult. PUBLISHER David Mannis (619) 961-1951 EDITOR Anthony King (619) 961-1952 ASSISTANT EDITOR Morgan M. Hurley (619) 961-1960 EDITORIAL INTERN Anna Frost ART DIRECTOR Rebecah Corbin (619) 961-1961

On a plane, I’ll barely notice the engine roar, but I’ll be completely unhinged by the guy 10 rows back who doesn’t know that Kleenex can bring his chronic sniffing to a halt. In those moments, strangers would have no way of knowing that I’m desperately eyeing the escape slide, but my partner now reads my body language like Sherlock Holmes and scans the crowd curiously to find the ordinary thing that has hijacked my brain. I know, it sounds ridiculous. Or you might be thinking, “But everybody hates it when people pop their gum. It’s just gross.” Yes, it’s gross (and bad manners), but is it profoundly upsetting to everybody? Even before I had a name for it, I’d try to explain it to friends. If they didn’t casually dismiss it, they’d breezily offer, “I’m like that too! It’s so annoying when people don’t blow their noses.” Again, let me explain. If there isn’t a good chance that you’ll either start crying or suddenly need to “use the restroom” because someone won’t stop smacking lunch, you don’t have misophonia. Then there’s the worst response of all: I should just get over it, as if my maddening neurosis were a choice. Fortunately, to those I’m closest to it exists as Abby’s amusing, at times exasperating, little eccentricity. They accept me, thank heavens. I don’t talk about it with anyone else; I just deal as best I can. After all, it’s not cancer. However, now that I know I’m not alone in this, I’m coming out, albeit with great trepidation that in so doing, I’ll lose all credibility as a serious person.


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I might seem crazy. Or worse, silly. I’m coming out because as I learn about other people’s struggle with misophonia, I see nothing silly about it. In fact, the condition itself is rarely the biggest problem; lack of understanding by loved ones is. To other people, this sensitivity makes no sense. They downplay it, reject its existence or resent being inconvenienced or challenged by it. As a lesbian, this all seems oddly familiar. I’m not suggesting that having a mental health issue is equivalent to being LGBT, but we humans do have a habit of condemning or dismissing things we don’t understand. The result is that too many of us are painfully isolated because of it. A reporter friend recently told me that the more he meets people in his work, the more he understands that what is insignificant to one person means everything to another. We’re all just one hormone surge, one neuron ping away from experiencing the world totally differently from the person next to us. It reminds him to summon compassion before judgment, to see commonality in our very difference. For me, I’m taking my new diagnosis as a humble reminder of what it’s like to feel so different. It’s been a long time since I had coming-out jitters. It’s probably good for me. —Abby is a civil rights attorneyturned-author who has been in the LGBT rights trenches for 25+ years. She can be reached through her website: queerquestionsstraighttalk.comt

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Dear editor, Allan Acevedo’s recent front-page interview with Carl DeMaio was a series of softball pitches that were knocked out of the park [see “DeMaio’s Republican Party evolution,” Vol. 4, Issue 12]. As I read it, it seemed that DeMaio had written both the gentle questions and his answers. When DeMaio ran for Mayor as a conservative Republican, he explicitly promised Charles LiMandri, a very conservative, Catholic Republican … that he (DeMaio) would not push “the gay social issues agenda” if elected Mayor. This explicit promise was confirmed in an email from LiMandri to other conservative potential financial supporters of the DeMaio campaign. DeMaio would take one public position in community meetings in Hillcrest, and another very different position in private communications with conservative Republican supporters. It would have been appropriate for your reporter to have directly asked DeMaio as a conservative Republican, will he continue to refuse to push the gay social agenda (Equal rights under Federal Law, an equal right to marriage, freedom from discrimination in employment, etc.) should he run for office, or be elected to any office? When running for Mayor, DeMaio courted the gay vote and financial support. His total hypocrisy was revealed only in the closing days of that campaign with the disclosure of the explicit promise to LiMandri. Now he is running for Congress in a campaign having national significance. Perhaps a second interview would be appropriate. This time, please take the gloves off. If DeMaio wants the support of the gay community, that community should know in explicit detail what Carl stands for – and what he opposes. He should be held accountable for taking the same public and private positions in Hillcrest, before his conservative Republican base, and the voters of the 52nd Congressional district. —David Lundin, Son Appareil Photography president and creative director, via email

Planned Parenthood: health care provider for the LGBT community Like most responsible single adults, I get tested routinely for sexually transmitted infections (STIs). Recently, when I mentioned to a friend that I receive this service at Planned Parenthood, he raised an eyebrow and reminded me that I am a gay man. “Doesn’t Planned Parenthood just do birth control?” he asked. I realized that so many people in our community have no idea about the full range of services offered by America’s oldest and largest provider of reproductive and sexual health care. Before I started working at Planned Parenthood, I was a patient and turned to a local health care center for my HIV and STI testing. I had been to several places where I felt the level of care was not what I had hoped. Providers were judgmental; visits were rushed. This is a common experience, which is why members of the LGBT community experience greater obstacles to obtaining and benefiting from sexual and reproductive health services. We need and deserve care just as much as our straight counterparts. My experience at Planned Parenthood was a different story. The staff offered compassionate, confidential services for me at no cost. I was so grateful that I started volunteering. The more I learned about Planned Parenthood, the more committed I became. When a position at the health center opened, I was thrilled at the chance to work at Planned Parenthood, where I have now been for three years. As our community celebrates Pride Month in June and hosts the San Diego LGBT Pride Parade in July, I want to reach out to my community and share why I choose Planned Parenthood as my provider. When you – or someone you know – need care, I hope you will give one of our 14 San Diego health centers a chance to serve your needs. Planned Parenthood believes that all people deserve highquality, affordable health care, no matter who they are and no matter where they live. We believe that when people are truly cared for, they make their lives, their families, and their communities better and healthier. —Hector Sevilla, via emailt

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GAY SAN DIEGO June 28–July 11, 2013

LGBT divorce: how to prevent it ‘Christ Like’


LIFE BEYOND THERAPY There is much joy and excitement about same-sex marriage, and hooray for us. However, let’s look at what happens when same-sex marriage doesn’t go so well: same-sex divorce. When I think about same-sex divorce, three questions come to mind: •Why do couples divorce? •Can we – the LGBT community – do divorce differently? •What will our divorces be like? Same-sex couples have different challenges than opposite-sex couples. For example, a couple consisting of two men has double the testosterone. Testosterone is associated with aggression and energy. Are male couples more likely to have power struggles? If they divorce, will each man want to “win” the divorce? It is also uncertain what divorce will be like for female couples. I wonder if two women divorcing are more likely to make a strong effort to get along and make the divorce process more amicable than a straight couple would. From my research, I’ve discovered that LGBT divorce rates are, so far, lower than straight couples. Is it because we’ve fought so hard for marriage? If so, what happens when same-sex marriage becomes more commonplace and the specialness wears off? Will our divorce rates go up? Once we get married, how can we stay happily married? Let’s look at same-sex divorce rates in countries where same-sex marriage has been around for a while. The same-sex partnership divorce rate was significantly lower than that of heterosexual couples in Denmark. The majority of gay marriages in Denmark are male-male, and only 14 percent of these end in divorce, compared to 23 percent of female marriages. In Norway and Sweden, divorce rates were 50 to 167 percent higher for same-sex couples than opposite-sex marriages, and studies there show that lesbian marriages are less stable than gay male marriages. In the United Kingdom, the divorce rate of same-sex couples (within 30 months of the introduction of legally binding civil partnerships) was slightly less than one percent. In the United States, for states with available data, the dissolution rate of same-sex

couples is about half that of opposite-sex couples. The percentage of those same-sex couples that end their legal relationship is 1.1 percent per year, while 2 percent of married different-sex couples divorce annually. Danish psychologist Vibeke Nissen, herself a married lesbian, believes that the higher divorce rate for lesbians is consistent with data showing that women initiate most heterosexual divorces in Denmark. In the U.S., women request about two-thirds of divorces. “Women simply expect different things from marriage than men do,” Nissen said. “And if they don’t get them, they prefer to live alone.” Given all of that, how can you and your future husband or wife avoid same-sex divorce? One resource to tap into is couples therapy. If your marriage is having problems and you are doing something constructive about it, that’s a good sign: statistically, people who take action to save (or improve) a troubled relationship usually succeed. A good couple’s counselor is not on your side or your partner’s; we’re on the side of your relationship. I am not a referee, judge or jury. My intention is to help the couple overcome their obstacles, learn to communicate and negotiate conflicts. People who love each other can do really awful things to each other. However, holding a grudge won’t help your relationship. While it’s difficult in troubled times to keep your marriage healthy, both parties need to find a way to let go, forgive and move forward. Therapy can help with this. Does this all sound too hard? Never fear, there’s the good stuff too: love, affection and a renewal of sexual attraction can return when a couple’s problems and tensions are resolved. If and when you decide to marry, I encourage you not to settle for merely avoiding divorce. Instead, aim for real fulfillment in your marriage. Just because your relationship is in a bad place now doesn’t mean that the love is dead and your marriage is doomed. Feelings of love and affection ebb-and-flow in the best relationships; don’t judge the future of your relationship by whether you feel love for your husband or wife today. These feelings usually return as your relationship improves. We can do marriage differently than straight people. We can make it better and more fulfilling. We can work on our relationships and not slide easily downhill into divorce. We are LGBT people and we are strong and creative. Once we can marry, our marriages can be better and more fulfilling than the heterosexual model. Watch and see. —Michael Kimmel is a licensed psychotherapist who specializes in helping LGBT clients achieve their goals and deal with anxiety, depression, grief, sexually addictive behavior, coming out, relationship challenges and homophobia. Michael is currently accepting new clients. Contact him at 619-955-3311 or visit


OUT ON THE PAGE “In his drug enhanced daze, Mikey turned to watch the cars drive by with locked doors. The West Side Highway haunted by the ghosts of men who once walked in the arms of other men, women who once kissed the lips of other women, men who dressed as women, women who dressed as men and children who dressed as adults. However, in spite of death and AIDS, the Houses still prevailed, lingering in the hearts of a new generation living out the legends of the past” “Christ Like” by Emanuel Xavier is a fictionalized account of the author’s life. The opening scene of the novel takes place in a club called The Sanctuary where the protagonist Mikey, or Miguelito, is selling a variety of party drugs to the clientele as the “Houses” compete on the dance floor for attention and accolades. The novel goes back and forth in time, allowing the reader to gain an understanding of Mikey’s present situation through examining his past. Mikey is born to a single mother, Magdalena, who is forced to take up residence with her aunt in order to make ends meet. It is during this time that Mikey, who is 2 years old when this transition occurs, begins to be repeatedly raped by his older cousin, Chino. This experience, along with his new stepfather being physically and verbally abusive to both Mikey and his mother, leaves a mark on Mikey’s life that never fades. When Mikey comes out, his mother reacts with homophobic insults resulting in Mikey running away from home. The majority of the novel takes place after Mikey has run away, and chronicles his adventures, hardships and relationships along the way. One of the aspects of this novel that makes it so unique is the fact that Xavier does not give the reader a protagonist that is easy to love, rather the reader is treated to a complicated human being that does terrible, selfish and dishonest things alongside the moments where he is kind and caring. The novel also brilliantly highlights the lasting scars that sexual violence leaves. After Mikey has run away, he quickly becomes a hustler in order to generate income. It is during his time hustling when Mikey is introduced to drugs, which he uses to cope with the trauma


of abuse. Mikey is then quickly absorbed by New York City’s gay club scene and soon becomes a member of the House of X. As he delves deeper into the club scene, Mikey begins to flirt with a drug addiction and he is also forced to deal with the trauma from his past. Gay nightlife is undeniably one of the centers of gay life and provides a much-needed place for community, relaxation, and connection in an environment that is oftentimes safe and welcoming. However, as “Christ Like” so aptly demonstrates, the club scene can be and often is brutal to men who do not fit into the ideas of what gay men should be and how they should look. In the novel, Mikey’s participation at the clubs is inseparable from his drug use, and Xavier beautifully demonstrates that drugs can be both a bonding experience that forges good memories as well as a tool of self-destruction. “Christ Like” also sheds light on the conflicting demands of the club scene: on one hand gay men participating in the scene are expected to be buff and sculpted and look extremely healthy while on the other hand they are also encouraged to engage in harmful forms of drug use, which can often lead to unsafe sexual encounters, a fact that the novel does not ignore. This demand to be “healthy,” buff and beautiful and the simultaneous promotion of heavy drinking and drugs is a facet of gay club life across the country. “Christ Like” urges us, as a community, to be more critical of the club and bar scene. We need to take a hard look at the culture that is fostered in those settings and ask ourselves what type of changes are needed in order for our community to thrive in every sense. Where is the line between having fun and engaging in self-destructive behavior that is rooted in internalized homophobia or low selfesteem and how do we as a community address those issues? “Christ Like” does not provide the answers to the questions it raises, rather it leaves the reader sitting with those difficult questions long after the book is closed. Perhaps that is the very thing that makes “Christ Like” such a gem. If you would like to engage in more thoughtful discussions around similar issues, join the San Diego Multicultural LGBT Book Club at Bluestocking Books, 3817 Fifth Ave. in Hillcrest, on the first and third Sunday of every month at 7 p.m. —Caleb Rainey recently graduated with his master’s degree in cultural studies. He is a long-time activist, and the founder and current facilitator of the San Diego Multicultural LGBT Book Club. Contact him at


FOSTERING UNDERSTANDING Across 1 With 68-Across, she plays Stef in “The Fosters” 5 Michael Musto’s tidbits 10 British carbine 14 Russian John 15 Male counterpart to a Seattle Storm player 16 Estimate ending 17 Mary’s pet 18 Bruce Willis, to pals 19 “Puttin’ on the ___” 20 Producer of 2013 TV series “The Fosters” 23 Bara of the silents 25 Hot, in Vegas 26 Enjoy Stephen Pyles 27 Gay couples often meet in them 31 Come slowly closer 32 TV spots 33 One with a gifted tongue

36 Poet who inspired Cats, initially 37 Network of _The Fosters_ 39 TV monitor, in a way 41 Layers that got laid a long time ago 42 Part of BYOB 45 Benjamin Britten’s Peter 47 Flat-bottomed receptacle 48 Bottom’s date 49 Condenses on a surface 52 One who asks “Bride or bride?” at a wedding? 54 Partners, in “The Fosters” 58 Diva’s piece 59 Inn offerings 60 With 40-Down, Jackie’s designer 63 Taboo word for optimists 64 Bert’s longtime companion 65 Spread out on the breakfast table 66 Larry Kramer and peers 67 Fender bender scars 68 See 1-Across

Fostering Understanding solution on page 15 Down 1 Word in a store-hours sign 2 Madonna’s Peron role 3 Some plane engines 4 Where some may lie 5 A number of books 6 Spelling of _Trick_ 7 “No mo’!” to Gomer 8 Sal of “Exodus” 9 Contempt 10 Alpha Chi Upsilon, for example 11 “Third leg” guys 12 Getty of “The Golden Girls” 13 Hose part 21 One with a big bag of money 22 Article written by Frida 23 Bagged brew 24 Made a fool of 28 They aren’t straight 29 Boat that’s often blown up 30 Get the ball rolling

34 Barbra’s “Funny Girl” guy 35 ___ Mae Brown 37 They may take a tumble 38 Rim job? 39 Kind of case or court 40 See 60-Across 42 Moor drama 43 Misfortune 44 Listener-sponsored org. 45 Digs for the queen 46 Mysore Mr. 50 Like the cheeks of one who streaks 51 Make noise in bed 53 “John B.” of song 55 Neighbor of Mass. 56 Skip past 57 Treats as a sexual object 61 Long, slippery one 62 Sticky stuff



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(l to r) Council President Todd Gloria, Assembly Majority Leader Toni Atkins and ACLU Executive Director Kevin Keenan

(Photo by Anulak Singphiphat)


CELEBRATE that they loved … and received the full dignity and recognition that comes with marriage,” Atkins said. Atkins and her wife married in 2008 as well, when same-sex couples were granted the right before Prop 8, which banned marriage equality, was voted into law that November. The U.S. Ninth Circuit court declared the proposition unconstitutional in 2010, which Yes on 8 appealed. The June 26 U.S. Supreme Court decision said the anti-equality group had no right to appeal the decision, in affect striking down Prop 8 once again. The Assemblymember said she and her wife “treasure” the feeling of inclusion and equality being married gave them before Prop 8 took away the right to marry. “It’s been a long wait, but today the United States Supreme Court gave it back,” she said.

Both Atkins and Council President Todd Gloria thanked the Court justices who stood in favor of striking down DOMA and Prop 8, and Gloria echoed Atkins’ sentiment of the power of all individuals working together for one cause. “The fact of the matter is all of you are the ones that made this happen, by living your lives just as you are,” Gloria said to the packed house. “Never again are we going to have our rights stolen from us at the ballot box.” Kevin Keenan, the executive director of the ACLU of San Diego and Imperial Counties, also spoke at The Center, giving a brief outline of the two Supreme Court decisions. Keenan, as did most speakers that evening, recognized the continual fight for full marriage equality through a “state-by-state campaign,” he said. “We have a fight ahead of us, and the fight is not only for LGBT equality,” he said, “but the equality for all people.” The continual fight for rights – ranging from nationwide marriage

equality to immigration and women’s rights, among others – was the theme for the rally at the flag monument. A selection of community activists and church leaders each spoke on the importance of pushing ahead. “We celebrate today, but tomorrow we must continue to fight,” said Christina Griffin, an organizer for the NAACP and United Domestic Workers of America. Griffin is a straight ally and urged everyone to come out in support. The feeling of both rallies, as well as throughout Hillcrest the entire evening, remained celebratory. The San Diego Women’s Chorus sang at the flag rally and the San Diego Gay Men’s Chorus sang at The Center, both with renditions of “We Shall Overcome.” “We must continue to work with our friends and our allies,” Atkins said. “It may seem like a steep climb, but I believe and I know we will get to that mountain top. Until then, at least in California, today we celebrate and we let the weddings begin.”t

courts without clear guidelines for how to approach a similar case in the future. The dissents, authored by Scalia, Roberts and Alito, criticize the majority for stepping into a case best reserved for resolution in the political process. Scalia warns that the majority’s decision creates a “black-robed supremacy” that infringes on the right to self-rule and the powers of other branches of government. Scalia’s warnings might be more persuasive had he not supported expanding the reach of the Court when he struck down the Voting Rights Act one day earlier. The decision in Perry, written by Chief Justice Roberts, never reaches the question of whether Prop 8 is constitutional because the majority agrees that the initiative proponents do not have standing. Thus, the proponents did not have standing to appeal to the 9th Circuit in the first place and were not properly before the Supreme Court. According to the majority, once Prop 8 became a constitutional amendment the proponents lost their status as uniquely situated parties with an interest in the outcome of the case. Instead, their interest became equal with all other Californians who have an interest in seeing state laws comply with the United States Constitution. The dissent, written by Justice Kennedy, argues that to deny initiative proponents of the ability to defend initiatives leaves state officials with the power to kill

initiatives with which they don’t agree. The California initiative process exists precisely because the people of California don’t trust their officials to properly defend their interests. In order to prevent the result the majority reaches, California law authorizes initiative proponents to defend initiatives when state officials decline to do so. However, the majority limits this authorization to cases brought in state court. DOMA’s defeat is important but only the first step on the way to true federal equality for same-sex couples. Until same-sex married couples are treated as married in all states, we are not yet truly recognized. The Supreme Court’s decision in Windsor is nonetheless monumental because it wasn’t long ago – merely 16 yeas since 1996 – that DOMA passed through the House and Senate by a wide margin. The Supreme Court’s decision both recognizes the realities faced by same-sex households around the country and confirms well-established constitutional principles of equality before the law. After the Perry decision was issued, Gov. Jerry Brown said marriage licenses should once again be issued in California as soon as the Ninth Circuit lifts the current stay. It is unclear how long it will take for this to happen – some say up to 25 days – but we will likely see marriage licenses issued by August. —Paul D. McGuire is an openly bisexual family law attorney in San Diego who assists families dealing with dissolution of marriage and domestic partnerships. He writes a blog on family law and LGBT issues at


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BY FRANK SABATINI JR. In an update regarding the upcoming Harvey Milk’s American Diner, which will replace the iconic City Delicatessen & Bakery, co-partner Mike “Big Mike” Phillips said the transition will occur “as soon as possible, hopefully early summer.” Phillips has joined forces with restaurateur Tom Brown and media-marketing consultant Frank Lechner to open what is considered the first-ofits-kind eatery honoring the civil rights achievements of the LGBT activist. The venture has received licensing support from The Harvey Milk Foundation and human rights activist Stuart Milk, who is the nephew of the late Harvey Milk. Brown, who has worked extensively in the restaurant business, will initially head up the menus. The offerings will focus on comfort cuisine while catering also to vegetarians and those on gluten-free diets. In addition, the diner will expand on City Deli’s bakery selection, retaining some of their original recipes. “We’re stepping into a restaurant that has given so much to our community for the past 30 years,” Phillips said. “We literally have some big shoes to fill.”

Remodeling will occur in phases, Phillips said, assuring that the colorful relief work on the building’s exterior will remain intact. “That was put up there many years ago when it was a market. It’s a historical part of that corner in Hillcrest.” Both Phillips and Lechner will leave their respective jobs at Jimmy Carter’s Mexican Café and LGBT Weekly. “Once escrow is complete, we’ll be literally moving into our dream,” he said. Until then, the restaurant will operate as City Deli until the transition is complete. 525 University Ave., 619-295-2747.

The Ruby Room has closed, but it may likely reappear under the same name at a different Hillcrest location. Co-owner Sean Cute and his wife Brittni are currently shopping for other properties with the hopes of further expanding Ruby Room’s art-music concept, and perhaps team up with a brewer. “We’re not in a crazy rush to find a new place, but when we see something that looks right, we’ll go for it,” Cute said. In the meantime, the bar’s remaining partner, Paul Smith, is rebranding the original property as The Merrow, named after a Scottish mermaid. Upgrades to the sound system and remodeling of the floors, restrooms and bar are currently underway, as Smith plans to reopen on time for a performance by three local bands on July 5, and a lesbian art show scheduled the following day. “There’ll be two faces to The Merrow,” Smith said. “I want to re-establish it as a bar for daytime and early-evening crowds, but continue with selective shows and performances later at night.” 1271 University Ave., 619-299-7372. Rumors are cooking about a glitzy 50s-style restaurant and lounge moving into the space left vacant by The Range after it moved across the street last year. The venture is reportedly due to open this summer as The Commonwealth. 1263 University Ave.

A confluence of specialty dishes from Malaysia, Korea and Thailand comprise the menu at The Snooty Asian, a new Hillcrest kitchen that recently replaced Kip’s Café. The Pan-Asian restaurant originally launched in May but then shut down temporarily for remodeling until kicking back into gear last week. Murals are still going up and a new cocktail lounge is being built without interrupting regular dinner service. The owners, who also run Bali Thai Café in Mission Valley, are planning a grand opening with various meal specials sometime in July. 3925 Fourth Ave., 619-255-6330.t

619-497-0914 Prices: Appetizers and soups, $2.75 to $11.25; salads, sandwiches, tacos and plates, $4 to $25.25


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Every city has a few, as in those restaurants that attract perpetual herds of customers from the moment they open their doors each day. In San Diego, they include Phil’s BBQ, Sushi Deli One and Lucha Libre Gourmet Taco Shop. You’ll also linger in line to enter Blue Water Seafood Market & Grill, where fresh fish is king and occasional Bob Marley tunes help temper the clamor. In my latest visit to Blue Water and with a patient companion in tow, it took us 40 minutes to reach the order counter. Clearly, the eatery’s popularity has grown in recent years, thanks partly to a segment that aired about it on Food Network’s “Diners, Drive-Ins and Dives” and mostly because of the buzz generated over its 24-hour rotation of seafood. What doesn’t get sold in a day becomes the hodgepodge for making fish stock, the cornerstone for hearty cioppino soup and lobster bisque offered on the menu. The leftovers also result in some lively ceviche served with paprika-dusted tortilla chips that originate from neighboring El Indio Mexican Restaurant. Once inside, you’re greeted with display cases flaunting such species as ruby-red sockeye salmon, thresher shark and local sea bass. As a seafood market, the fish is sold by the pound. When dining in, a portion of the inventory such as shrimp, crab and smoked white fish can be plopped into sandwiches and salads. The main rule to remember is that you must first place your order at the counter before seizing a table, although not everyone does. When the food is ready, the wait staff roams the dining room calling your name. With a simple raise of the arm, the eatery’s oceanic treasures are suddenly under your nose. We were impressed that

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Shrimp and our starters crab cocktail came first rather (Photo by Frank than concurrently Sabatini Jr.) with our main courses, which is a service crime that many casual restaurants commit. A seafood cocktail ($8.25) with five large shrimp hanging over a bed of chunky crab meat was excellent and substantial for the price. We began also with a bowl of New England clam chowder thickened by cream and potatoes; but it harbored a piney undertone from perhaps thyme or bay leaves that interfered. The main menu involves three steps: choose your preferred fish, pick a marinade that is brushed onto the fish as it grills, and then decide if you want it in a sandwich, salad, taco or plated with jasmine rice and salad. Certainly, there’s ample time to reach a verdict before making landfall at the counter. I love the soft Mexican bolillo rolls used for the sandwiches, especially when they’re toasted. But the kitchen runs out of them sometimes, which meant that the Alaskan red crab I chose on this day came layered instead between two slices of bread. Trawled from icy waters, the crabs are among the sweetest and meatiest on earth, so it was actually easy to forget about the AWOL roll. Sandwiches include lettuce, red onions, tomatoes and house-made tartar sauce infused with dill pickles. All combined, and no matter what fish you choose, they taste as good and juicy as an old-fashioned burger. My companion opted for a couple of tacos, one with jumbo scallops and the other with jumbo shrimp. Both were skillfully grilled, although the shrimp won the prize for size. They were shockingly enormous. With the exception of chilled seafood and oys oysters on the half shell, everything including lightly breaded red snapper used in fish and chips is cooked on a flame grill. Only the waffle-cut French fries and onion rings get deep-fried, although the cooks will abide if you insist on having your fish dragged through the fryers. Blue Water has clearly outgrown its space despite a somewhat roomy outdoor patio used regularly for overflow. Its concept is casual and friendly. Though for a city that gazes out to a very large tank of seafood, I can only hope that a greater number of affordable, high-quality joints like this keep sailing in.t

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Friday, June 28

LAST WEEKEND!: Don’t miss your chance to see the hilarious Diversionary Theatre production of “The Divine Sister,” which ends June 30. That’s three shows left: tonight and tomorrow at 8 p.m. and Sunday at 2 p.m. Diversionary is located at 4545 Park Blvd. For tickets and information visit or call 619220-0097. HILLCREST RUMMAGE SALE: It’s the biggest and longest-running rummage sale in Hillcrest, and it is taking place at the University Christian Church from 9 a.m. – 5 p.m. today, and from 9 a.m. – noon tomorrow. Proceeds from the sale – and there will be plenty of items to buy – go to several different local, national and international organizations. Have fun. The church is located at 3900 Cleveland Ave. STONEWALL REMEMBERED: The organization San Diego Remembers has organized a special evening to commemorate the 1969 Stonewall Riots at Babycakes in Hillcrest, where the community is invited to toast the civil rights movement and reflect on the work that needs to be done. It’s a HillQuest no-brainer and admission is free, however donations will be collected to support programs of San Diego Remembers. Babycakes is located at 3766 Fifth Ave. SUMMER LOVIN’: Mr and Miss Gay Pride 2012 step down at their final charity event. The event benefits The Center and the Imperial Court de San Diego, and is a summer-themed show

with music, performances and a raffle. Doors at Numb3rs open at 6 p.m., with the show at 7 p.m. There is a $5 donation for cover and Numb3rs is located at 3811 Park Blvd. For more information email

Saturday, June 29

PACHANGA DE FRIDA: Head to The LGBT Center from 6 – 10 p.m. for their annual Frida Kahlo birthday celebration, Pachanga de Frida. There will be tacos, dancing to live salsa music, a Frida look-alike contest and prizes. Tequila specials, and cold beer from Hillcrest Brewing Company top off the night. Tickets are $15 in advance and $20 at the door, with all proceeds benefiting The Center’s Latin@ Services. It’s a 21 and older event. The Center is located at 3909 Centre St. For information and tickets visit or call 619-692-2077. OKAPI SUN: Indie rock bank Okapi Sun play at tonight’s Bird Park Summer Concerts series, the second of five concerts presented by the North Park Community Association. All shows are from 5:30 – 7:30 p.m. and play every other Saturday through Aug. 10. Okapi Sun is an “electronic tribal dance party” band featuring Dallas and Leo, who combine dance and tribal beats with garage rock: perfect for a free outdoor concert in the park. Bird Park is located at Upas Street and Pershing Drive

in North Park. For more information visit TURN UP THE HEAT: It’s a fashion show to beat all fashion shows, hosted by Heat Bar and Kitchen (with plenty of good food, fun fashion and music). “Turn Up the Heat” is from noon – 3 p.m. and is to show off the small businesses and residents in the area formally known as the Egyptian District. Edith Ernestine Fashion & Lifestyle and Cat Lewis’ Sew-Cal Designs will be featured, as will stylists Morgan Freeman, Jeanelle Rosete and Carrie Gonzales. Heat is located at 3797 Park Blvd. Tickets are $20 and available at turnuptheheatsd.eventbrite. com or by calling 619-548-2329.

Sunday, June 30

HELEN MIRREN AS THE QUEEN: Watch as Mirren reprises her Academy Award-winning role as Queen Elizabeth in this National Theatre Live! Production of “The Audience.” For 60 years, the Queen has met each of the 12 prime ministers in a weekly “audience” at the palace. No one else knows what is said, but “The Audience” takes a guess at several pivotal meetings. NT Live! is exactly that: a live performance broadcast to theaters around the world, and include behind-the-scenes footage. “The Audience” plays at Reading Cinemas Gaslamp 15 at 2 p.m. today and 7 p.m. July 2. Tickets are $20, and the theater is located at 701 Fifth Ave. For more information visit or call 619-232-0401.

Monday, July 1

KIDS IN AMERICA: It’s another Manic Monday special event at The Brass Rail, with tonight’s official pre-July 4th Party with 80 cent drinks for the first 80 “kids” in red, white and blue. There are $2 wells from 9 p.m. – 2 a.m. The Rail is located at 3796 Fifth Ave. For more information visit or call 619-298-2233.

Tuesday, July 2

BAYARD RUSTIN CIVIL RIGHTS HONORS: Here is a very important event, not to miss. The inaugural Bayard Rustin Civil Rights Honors will be held at 6 p.m. tonight at The Center. Rustin was a nonviolent leader of civil rights, working directly with Martin Luther King Jr. as an out gay man. There is so much more to say; come to learn more. The evening will include an awards ceremony, a screening of the film “Brother Outsider,” entertainment and refreshments. Awards are being presented by the National Black Justice Coalition of Washington, The International Court Council and The Center, which is located at 3909 Centre St. Requested donation is $10. For more information visit or call 619-692-2077. UNOFFICIAL GAY DAY: Now in it’s third unofficial year, the Unofficial Gay Days at the San Diego County Fair is today, with gates opening at 10 a.m.: With LGBT nonprofit booths, girl-rock band Runhoney on stage, and Adam Lambert (!) on the main stage at 7:30 p.m. Miss your DJs? There will be dancing at the 21-and-older area at 9 p.m. too. The fair is located in Del Mar and tickets can be found at

Wednesday, July 3

PUPPY PLAY: I have been to The Eagle for one night of Puppy Play, accidentally actually (not that there’s anything wrong with that), and had a great time. You will too. And no, the dress code of dog masks and furry tails is not enforced. Swear. There is a community

potluck at 6:30 p.m. with the theme night happening all night long. The Eagle is located at 3040 North Park Way. For more information visit sandiegoeagle. com or call 619-295-8072.

Thursday, July 4

HAPPY FOUR TH OF JULY!: Celebrate well, be safe and don’t miss this year’s Big Bay Boom fireworks display at the San Diego Downtown waterfront. More information at

Friday, July 5

RODELLO’S MACHINE IN TROLLEY BARN PARK: It’s officially summer and the University Heights Community Development Corporation starts their Summer in The Park series – in its 17th year – tonight with Rodello’s Machine. The band is made up of Nate Donnis and Kolby Knickerbocker, who perform with a violinist as an acoustic trio. The concert series is free, and a perfect way to enjoy Uni Heights and get to know your neighbors. All concerts – there are five total, every week through Aug. 2 – run from 6 – 8 p.m. The park is located at Adams Avenue and Florida Street. For more information visit LAURENCE ANYWAYS: Playing now through July 11, “Laurence Anyways” is the stor y of an “impossible love” between Frederique and Laurence, a man who “reveals his inner desire to become his true self, a woman.” Impossible love? Maybe not, but the film looks fantastic and I can’t wait to see it. It’s set in the 1990s (love it) and screens at the Media Arts Center’s new Digital Gym. There are various show times for the seven-day screening, and the Gym is located at 2921 El Cajon Blvd. For more information and tickets visit or call 619-230-1938.

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GUYS LIKE US: Pool party season brings out the best and the Guys Like Us Pool Party is just that. It’s a benefit for AIDS Walk & Run as well, from noon – 5 p.m. at 1437 Sutter St. This one will fill up fast, so get your tickets now: $20 advance and $25 at the pool. DJ Marco will be spinning and there will be an open bar with food. For tickets visit

Sunday, July 7

SOFT-BRAWL: I don’t know why anyone would miss this one. It’s the San Diego Leather Community vs. The San Diego Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence, battling it out in one amazing softball game for charity. Tickets are $10 in advance and $15 at the gate, held at the North Park Community Park, 4044 Idaho St. The game starts at 11 a.m. and everyone will be heading to The Hole after! For tickets visit

Monday, July 8

NATIONAL DRAG DAY: Urban MO’s is celebrating San Diego Pride with their eight days of Pride and today is National Drag Queen Day! Dress in drag from 5 – 11 p.m. and eat for free (up to

$12, queens and kings). For more fun, they will screen “Priscilla Queen of the Desert” at 8 p.m. with Trash Disco Night at 10 p.m. No cover. MO’s is located at 308 University Ave. For more information visit or call 619-491-0400.

Tuesday, July 9

MARRIAGE EQUALITY AND YOU: Always timely, the Greater San Diego Business Association’s professional lunch series for July features a special guest panel discussing marriage equality, the law and you: lawyers Kevin T. Kellar, Larry Conway and Barb Cox. The trio will explain exactly what this week’s Supreme Court decisions mean to the LGBT community. The luncheon series is held at Wang’s North Park, 3029 University Ave. Tickets are $25 pre-registration and $35 at the door, and include lunch. The event is from 11:30 a.m. – 1 p.m. For more information and tickets visit or call 619-296-4543. HILLCREST TOWN COUNCIL: It’s your neighborhood; come out and have a voice. The Hillcrest Town Council meets monthly from 6:30 – 8 p.m. at the Joyce Beers Community Center, located at 3900 Vermont St. Tonight’s speakers are Marina Baroff, administrator at UC San Diego Health System,

and Karen Mitchell, Emergency Department case manager, to discuss how UCSD will unveil plans to improve discharges of individuals who are homeless. For more information visit

Wednesday, July 10

UPTOWN BIKE MEETING: Yes, it’s Pride week, but that doesn’t mean we have to forget our civic duties (plus we really want these Bike Corridor Project meetings to be successful). Today is the next Community Advisory Group meeting for the Uptown Bike Corridor Project, discussing routes and design concepts to meet the project’s goals. An open house is planned from 5 – 6 p.m. and 7 – 8 p.m., with a presentation in the middle from 6 – 7 p.m. The meeting takes place in the Balboa Park Club’s Santa Fe room, in Balboa Park (ride your bike there if you can). For more information email beth.robrahn@ or call 619-699-6980.

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DEMS FOR EQUALITY RECEPTION: Join the San Diego Democrats for Equality at their traditional Pre-Pride Reception, held today from 5:30 – 7 p.m. at Great Maple. If you are a member, the event is free, and if you’re not, it’s a good opportunity to meet some great people and get involved.

Tickets for you are $20. Great Maple is located at 1451 Washington St. For more information visit democratsforequality. org. FREEDOM OF SPEECH: Moxie Theatre is presenting “Freedom of Speech” at the Diversionary Theatre space, for several weeks through Aug. 11. But tonight’s opening night, and the fun for this one-woman show is at 8 p.m. Written, directed by and starring “South Park” voice actor Eliza Jane Schneider, the voice behind cartoon and video game characters, “Freedom of Speech” is a 34-character event based on Schneider’s wild ride across the United States, in an ambulance, of course. Diversionary is located at 4545 Park Blvd. For more information and tickets visit or call 619-220-0097. GSDBA PRIDE KICKOFF: Join the Greater San Diego Business Association for their Pride Kickoff Mixer, hosted by 1202. The fun event runs from 6 – 8 p.m. at 1202 University Ave., and is a perfect way to meet some new people and get into the Pride spirit. The Range will provide food. It is a 21 and older event, and is $10 for members, $25 for guests. For more information visit or call 619-296-4543.t


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THEATER REVIEW “John Ball’s In the Heat of the Night” Through July 13 | ion theatre company Thurs & Fri 8 p.m. | Sat 4 & 8 p.m. 619-600-5020 |

(l to r) Vimel Sephus and Eddie Yaroch (Photo by Daren Scott)

A stifling, suspense thriller Masterful actors, team move ion’s last production of the season Sometimes adaptation of a film works wonderfully well on stage, probably due more to the play script than anything else. A recent, satisfying example is John Guare’s adaptation of the film “His Girl Friday,” which has long, expansive scenes where the onlooker’s mind was unconfined. By its very nature Matt Pelfrey’s 2010 adaptation of Norman Jewison’s 1967 Oscar-winning film “In the Heat of the Night” (an adaptation of it’s own, of John Ball’s 1965 novel) is stifling, and it isn’t just the heat. The work, playing through July 13 at ion theatre, is written in a series of short scenes, as befits a filmic suspense thriller. Thus we have scene, blackout, scene, black-

out, scene, blackout and so forth. Such a cinematic work is not easily staged in seamless fashion without excellent actors and a crackerjack design team. The bumps could try one’s patience. Guest director Francis Gercke is assigned the task of smoothing “John Ball’s in the Heat of the Night.” He fields a magnificent company and cleverly expands the setting with a bench, a chair, and pair of headlights that suggest the automobile scenes. A lightweight library table sets the scene for a morgue, a diner, the mayor’s office and a home; a chair suffices for the police station interrogation room, and the bench for the train station waiting room. These disparate pieces compose an enchanting feat

of magic that relies on design to make it move. Mary Summerday is an appropriate name for costume designer of a play set in sweltering 1962 Argo, Ala. Brian Redfern is scenic designer. Melanie Chen is sound designer and Karin Filijan, the lighting designer. Properties designer Andrea Fields, dialect coach Annie Hinton and fight director Lance Arthur Smith also make important contributions. The play concerns Virgil Tibbs (played by Vimel Sephus), a successful Pasadena crime investigator who is just passing through small town Argo, where racial hatred runs high and the Klan still exists. Found at the train station with a wad of cash in his wallet, he

is taken to the police station and arrested for murder of Tatum (Eric Poppick), who was a partner with Kaufman (Fred Harlow) and Endicott (also Poppick) in a proposed factory. Tibbs is treated brutally by Chief Gillespie (Tom Stephenson) and town cops named Pete (Brian Mackey) and Sam Wood (Jake Rosko), that is, until Tibbs proves his identity and begins to ask questions about the corpse, employing logic and as well as techniques that preceded modern forensics. Even then Tibbs is treated with disdain: after all, what can a “black boy” know about crime investigation? Jessica John portrays the victim’s daughter. Rachael VanWormer plays Noreen Purdy, a provocative young woman. Eddie Yaroch portrays her father. Fred Harlow portrays the diner owner. Tim West plays the mayor. All are masterful. Relative newcomers Sephus (seen in San Diego Rep’s “Storyville”) and Rosko (seen in ion’s “Bengal Tiger at the Baghdad Zoo”) continue to impress, and once again Stephenson creates an indelible character. The work is rife with undercurrents. Gercke’s realizations of the last scene as well as Tibbs’ near lynching are hair-raising. Audiences in 2013 may gasp at the language and treatment of African-Americans in the rural

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Going outside the mainstream First San Diego Fringe Festival set for July 1 – 7 By Manny Lopez | GSD Reporter When the first ever San Diego Fringe Festival comes to town July 1 – 7, a smorgasbord of theatrical visions by a delegation of 50 different avant-garde theater and performance companies from around the world will be exhibited at eight diverse venues. Presented in the spirit of the outlandish Edinburgh Festival Fringe in Scotland, organizers described the San Diego Fringe as a low-cost, unjuried and uncensored showcase of live performances by new and emerging talent in the fields of theatre, comedy, music, dance, puppetry and poetry. “It’s called a Fringe festival because it’s on the outside and not mainstream,” said Kevin Charles Patterson, executive producer and director of the San Diego festival. “We put the call out and wound up with imaginative and cutting-edge submissions that would probably otherwise not be seen by the general public.” Patterson said the Fringe platform presents a rare opportunity for artists and theaters to take risks and dare to push new ideas to the forefront. With a large pool of talented artists hungry to get on stage, he also said the festival could help take the careers of writers and performers to a whole new level. “I knew immediately that this would be a solid and fruitful partnership,” said choreographer Michael Mizerany, whose mature-themed dance piece “INFAMOUS” plays on the main stage at the 10th Avenue Theatre July 5 – 7. Mizerany, the resident choreographer for Visionary Dance Theater, described “INFAMOUS” as six dances inspired by notorious couples, incorporating rousing leaps, moments of male nudity and heavy breathing, which culminate in a violent, sexual acquisition and acquiescence. “I love the idea of a week-long festival where patrons can walk around and experience a myriad of artists presenting their work in new and unique ways,” he said. Of particular interest to the LGBT community is “TEXAS LOVES LYLA!,” a solo musical comedy about a talk-radio queen from Cootersville, Texas, who tackles ignorance, adult bullies

and gay teen suicide via the web from her backyard. Written and directed by Jeffrey Wylie, the piece took the Best Solo Show honors at the Hollywood Fringe Festival in 2012. In “Dear Harvey,” playwright Patricia Loughrey pays tribute to the life of Harvey Milk through interviews conducted with people that either knew Milk or were inspired by him, including former Sen. Christine Kehoe and Nicole Murray Ramirez. Originally commissioned by Diversionary Theatre in 2009, the Fringe production is staged by Breakthrough Workshop Theatre. “Diapers, Dishes, and Dreams,” written, directed and starring Mark C. Reis, is a oneman comedy set in Los Angeles about an aging Broadway dancer and father, whose wish to return to the stage must be balanced with his life as a parent and partner. “Secrets of a Gay Mormon Felon,” also a one-man show, features 19 vignettes about the colorful life of Seattle playwright and actor Kimble Allen and his search for absolution. Allen chronicles his childhood in a puritanical Mormon society, his teenage gay awakening and drug abuse, ending with his arrest and trial for embezzlement. Patterson said the inaugural event has garnered strong support from the local arts community and businesses, with a mutual desire to produce a high-quality event. Venues for the week’s performances are the 10th Avenue Theatre and Arts Center, Space 4 Art, Seaport Village, Searsucker bar and NewSchool of Architecture + Design in Downtown, and the Whistle Stop bar in South Park. The roof of the 10th Avenue Theater has also been deemed “Fringe Central,” with a series of parties, free entertainment and open mics each day of the festival. The theater is located at 930 10th Ave. General admission tickets for all performances are $10 plus a processing fee if purchased online. Discounted multiple show tickets are also available. For the complete schedule and tickets, visit

Presented as part of the inaugural San Diego Fringe Festival, Circle Circle dot dot’s production of “The Warriors’ Duet,” directed by Anne Gehman and Katherine Harroff, will see three shows only: Friday, July 5 at 11 a.m., July 6 at 12:30 p.m. and July 7 at 5 p.m. The performances are at the 10th Avenue Theatre’s cabaret space, located at 930 10th Ave. “‘The Warriors’ Duet’ is a celebration of love, life and language,” the theater company said in press material, and features the poetic words of Laura Jeanne Morefield coupled with Gehman’s choreography. The play, however, was written by Morefield’s mother, theater critic and word-lover Charlene Baldridge. After Morefield died of complications from cancer, Baldridge edited and published “The Warrior’s Stance,” a collection of her daughter’s poetry that primarily dealt with the cancer diagnosis. The Fringe Festival production stems from that collection, based on both Morefield’s and Baldridge’s work. Baldridge said when she was asked to have “The Warriors’ Duet” in the Fringe Festival, she was honored but had no idea what the directors had planned. “I knew only that [Harroff] loved the piece and that I trusted her as an artist and a director,” Baldridge said. “After meeting with [the company] to discuss the piece and answer questions, I set them free to become acquainted with Laura through her words. I think she’s captivated everyone through her legacy of humor and love of life.” “We are thrilled and honored to have the great opportunity to produce this beautiful piece with Charlene’s blessing and encouragement,” Harroff said in the press material. Harroff is Circle Circle dot dot artistic director, and is serving as associate director for the Fringe Festival. “Taking our lead from the fluid poetic text, co-director and choreographer Anne Gehman and I are creating a whimsical dance-theatre dream backdrop to explore the enchanting bond between a mother and daughter that is unhinged by but never wavers, following the diagnosis and ultimate outcome of a terminal illness,” Harroff said. Circle Circle dot dot representatives said they are proud to be a part of the first Fringe Festival in San Diego, joining “amazing organizations from all over the globe” to present a number of “innovative shows.” “The Warriors’ Duet” features actors Kathi Copeland, Samantha Ginn, Shaun Tuazon, Soroya Rowley, Matt Carney, Stephanie Smith, Maria Juan and Desiree Cuizon. Ginn, Tuazon and Rowley are Circle Circle dot dot company members, and Tuazon said working on the production has been a “beautiful” experience, in part because of Baldridge’s work as well as watching Gehman bring the text to life. “The poetry by Charlene and Laura is so touching that it has left me and the cast in tears during rehearsal,” he said. “Knowing Charlene personally has definitely added to the beauty of rehearsing. … It has made us all work so hard to make sure we honor her and her daughter Laura’s words and relationship.” Tickets are $10 and can be purchased at or by calling 619-460-4500. For more information visit

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Newcomer Israel Broussard on gay role, wearing stilettos and the real-life ‘Bling Ring’ By Chris Azzopardi | Q Syndicate In “The Bling Ring,” Sofia Coppola’s flashy zeitgeist neo-noir based on true events of teenaged Hollywood bandits, Israel Broussard takes lead-role reins as a gay Los Angeles transplant befriended by a chick clique of thieving punks. Marc, together with his four girlfriends (including one played by Emma Watson), loot the cribs of the rich and famous – Paris Hilton, Lindsay Lohan and Megan Fox – to get their own glam on. In a recent chat, Broussard, 18, talked about Marc’s homosexuality being a non-issue in the film, shooting in Hilton’s actual house and learning to walk in heels. Chris Azzopardi: How did you react when you first read the Vanity Fair article, “The Suspects Wore Louboutins,” an account of the San Fernando Valley teens who stole over $3 million from celebrities? Israel Broussard: A lot of people say they were shocked and surprised and maybe even disgusted, but what stood out to me was that they got caught through Facebook – and I thought that was pretty stupid. CA: What did your audition entail? IB: The audition process for this one took a couple months. It wasn’t

until after I booked it that the script was written, so I wasn’t sure what exactly I was getting into [laughs].

CA: It doesn’t sound like wearing heels was that pleasant for you.

CA: You must have known that Marc was gay, right?

IB: No, it wasn’t. You know, I looked at this role as something to overcome personally. I didn’t want to do a gay character or a Disney character or some sci-fi character because I didn’t want to be typecast, so it was important to me that this was kind of brushed over. You can tell in the movie Marc’s gay but, again, it’s not pointed out. I think this was a personal battle I overcame and I became a new person, because I felt like I could expand and do more with my acting. Image is everything … and I like to have control of that image.

IB: Well, reading the sides you can kind of tell, and I talked to Sofia about it; I was like, “What’s gonna come of this?” [laughs]. She said, “It is what it is. He’s not flamboyant or anything like that; there’s nothing over the top.” So I trusted her with that, and I think Sofia does a good job at not explaining it in the movie. There’s no scene where he’s coming out, where they actually point it out – it’s just accepted. It was refreshing to see that. You don’t have to have a big coming-out scene in every movie with a gay character, you know. CA: Especially if the boy has a thing for heels like Marc does. IB: Right, right [laughs]. CA: What was wearing the stilettos like? Did you need practice? IB: Yeah, we’d have little fashion shows and I had to learn how to walk in them and do the little runway walk … that was interesting. I’m not meant for heels [laughs]. But it went well. Katie [Chang] and I would have competitions of who can walk better. She said I won; I said she won. We haven’t come to an agreement on that yet.

CA: Would you play gay roles in the future? And what would that depend on? IB: Maybe in the future, yeah. And it would depend on how extreme the character was. I definitely want to take a break for a second and do a couple of movies where I’m straight. You know, homosexuality is being accepted more and more into our society. And there’s nothing wrong with it. The sooner people realize that, the better. But at the same time, I don’t want a finger being pointed at me. CA: As the “gay actor”? IB: Right. CA: So were you at all worried about playing a real person? Are you more conscious of being as accurate as possible because of that? IB: It crossed my mind. I wouldn’t say I was worried, though. Sofia was intent on making the movie a fictional film and yeah, there were a lot of true things that happened, but the storyline itself is completely fictional. We never

(l to r) Taissa Farmiga, Israel Broussard, Emma Watson, Katie Chang and Claire Julien (Photo by A24) met up with Nick Prugo or Alexis Neiers or any of the real Bling Ring … and we had no intent to. Now, if I were to meet him, it’d be all right. Maybe a little awkward. CA: How much trash TV were you required to watch to prepare for this role? IB: I had to watch quite a bit of reality TV. “Keeping Up with the Kardashians” was one of them. I watched “Fashion Police.” Mostly my focus was learning about fashion … and learning how to walk in heels. CA: How were you able to relate to Marc? IB: In elementary school, I didn’t have many friends. I wasn’t feeling the attention and the acceptance that I felt I deserved, so I just built the character up from that with his insecurities and lack of self-confidence. CA: Tell me about shooting the scene where it’s just you dancing in front of a webcam, one of the more telling and haunting parts of the film. IB: Sofia came up to me a couple of days before we filmed that and said, “Hey, have you seen the video of Nick dancing in front of the web-

cam?” I said no and she showed me it and said, “I want you to do this.” You can’t really say no to Sofia Coppola. So I’m trying to figure out how I’m gonna pull this off, because a) I have no rhythm and b) I have no selfconfidence – so now I’m gonna walk up to a webcam in front of a bunch of people and start dancing, pretty much half-stripping? I did it and I thought I was bombing it the entire time. Just completely destroying it. When I saw it, it was a little embarrassing, but people were saying it was real and vulnerable – and I don’t mean to toot my own horn with that. These days, it starts with social media. [People] get swept up and caught in the drifts of what’s cool and what’s not, and that’s when they lose touch with themselves. That scene was the truth. CA: You get to wear some blingin’ couture in the movie. What’s the most expensive piece of clothing you own? IB: That I bought? Maybe Hanes. You know what, I’ve got a peacoat from H&M that I bought. I’m comfortable in Levi’s and a Tshirt. It doesn’t take much to make me happy. CA: What did you learn about fashion from this role? IB: I learned what lapels are on a suit [laughs]. And I was surrounded by all these brand names, but it wasn’t until recently actually – when we started doing all the press – that I really kind of dove into fashion and all its brand names. Now I talk to my stylist and I’m like, “How about we switch it from the Marni to the J Brand?” CA: Filming in Paris Hilton’s house, the site of one of the robberies, were you surprised by how many of the belongings have her face on them? IB: You know, I was kind of expecting it. It was kind of overwhelming to be in her house. It was like the Garden of Eden, stepping into some place nobody else has really been. Rummaging through all her stuff, I kind of felt like I was part of the Paris Hilton family. CA: If you could legally break into a celebrity’s house, whose would you break into? IB: I probably shouldn’t say this, but I’d choose the White House. Think about how boss that would be [laughs]. —Chris Azzopardi is the editor of Q Syndicate, the international LGBT wire service. Reach him via his website at






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VICTORIES every facet of life from health care to retirement to taxes.” The two Prop 8 plaintiff couples emerged from the Supreme Court building on the front steps at 10:45 a.m. with Chad Griffin, who organized the lawsuit, and David Boies, one of the two lead attorneys who pressed the challenge. As they did, the Gay Men’s Chorus of Washington, DC sang the national anthem. On the plaza in front of the court, Boies spoke about both decisions and noted that June 26 is the 10th anniversary of the Lawrence v. Texas decision, striking down sodomy laws. In the Prop 8 case, Boies said, the court ruled that the Yes on 8 defenders of the law did not have standing to press the appeal. But he said the court’s opinion makes clear that

“when” a case involving a similar ban comes before the court on merits, it is clear the majority will find it unconstitutional. Plaintiff Kristin Perry emphasized the importance of the Prop 8 decision to the children of same-sex parents, children who can now know that their parents are equal to other parents. Her spouse-to-be, Sandra Stier, said the struggle must now continue to secure the right to marry for same-sex couples in states that deny them marriage licenses. CNN legal analyst Jeff Toobin said, in Hollingsworth v. Perry, the court could have said same-sex marriages must be allowed in all 50 states “and it did not say that … but it did seem to open the door to same-sex marriages in California and it … certainly does look like the court is moving in the direction of everybody has the right to marry.” The majority decision vacated the Ninth Circuit U.S. Court of Ap-

peals decision with instructions to dismiss the appeal pressed by the Yes on 8 coalition that won passage of Prop 8. It said Yes on 8’s “only interest in having the District Court order reversed [at the Ninth Circuit] was to vindicate the constitutional validity of a generally applicable California law.” Such a “generalized grievance,” said the majority, is “insufficient to confer standing.” Once Prop 8 was approved by the voters, said the majority, “the measure became a duly enacted constitutional amendment or statute. Petitioners have no role – special or otherwise – in the enforcement of Proposition 8. … We have never before upheld the standing of a private party to defend the constitutionality of a state statute when state officials have chosen not to. We decline to do so for the first time here.” Once the Ninth Circuit dismisses Yes on 8’s appeal, the district court ruling by former Chief Judge Vaughn

GAY SAN DIEGO June 28–July 11, 2013 Walker will remain the law concerning Prop 8. Walker ruled that Prop 8 violated the federal equal protection clause because there was no rational basis for limiting the designation of marriage to straight couples. Plaintiff attorney Ted Boutrous said they expect it will be about 25 days before the official judgment in the Prop 8 case takes effect, though it may happen sooner. Following the Supreme Court decisions, California Gov. Jerry Brown instructed County clerks to issue marriage licenses to same-sex couples. State Att. Gen. Kamala Harris urged the Ninth Circuit to lift the stay, allowing marriage to resume before the expected 25-day wait. In dissent, Justice Kennedy, joined by Justices Clarence Thomas, Samuel Alito, and Sonia Sotomayor, said they would have recognized Yes on 8 as having standing because the state supreme court had ruled Yes on 8 did have standing.


Family Research Council leader Tony Perkins told CNN the Prop 8 decision was a “punt” on the question of same-sex marriage bans. But supporters of marriage equality see a much different scenario. Chad Griffin, the founder of the American Foundation for Equal Rights which organized the Prop 8 lawsuit and who now heads the Human Rights Campaign, said in a telephone press conference with reporters Wednesday afternoon that he had already been in touch with Att. Gen. Eric Holder about implementation of the ruling. Currently 13 states, with California included, and the District of Columbia will issue marriage licenses to same-sex couples the same as to male-female couples. Griffin said the LGBT civil rights movement must now adopt an “urgent new commitment” to bring marriage equality to all 50 states “within five years.”t



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Open division softball season ends with upset The final weekend of the local softball league season featured exciting games Sunday, June 23, as America’s Finest City Softball League (AFCSL), San Diego’s largest and longest-running LGBT sports league, wrapped up its 31st season. As always, the final week provided some drama as teams battled to clinch World Series berths in the Open Division. All eyes were on the Open C games, as the division expanded so much it needed to be split in two. The Flicks Lawmen wrapped up the title in early June, punching their ticket to the World Series, held in Washington at the end of August. Up for grab was the division’s second berth, and for the first time that berth would be awarded to the winner of the new C division playoffs. Those were held on Sunday in Chula Vista, Calif. at Mt. San Miguel Park. The Hillcrest Brewing Company Outlaws were granted the top seed in these playoffs, by virtue of having the second-best regular season record. This team has a track record unmatched by anyone else on the Open division side of AFCSL, having been to the World Series for several seasons in a row and usually finishing well. They have won a handful of tournaments, including Las Vegas and Phoenix. Holding the top seed meant the Outlaws would enjoy a bye and watch the other two teams, Sol and The Loft, fight it out in the first game. Sol features a power-packed lineup headed up by manager Bill French, and they are a team that takes advantage of mistakes. The Loft, a bit of a surprise contender this season, maintains an older squad that knows how to hit but can struggle with the glove on occasion. The Loft was the visiting team and they jumped on the board early with four runs

in the top of the first inning, highlighted by a booming double off the bat of Alan Campbell. Sol chipped away with the help of some shoddy defense by The Loft’s outfield, as easy fly balls ended up hitting the turf several times. The Loft couldn’t really get their bats going to match Sol, who kept hitting and ran away with a 14-7 triumph. In the title game, Sol jumped out early on the Outlaws, scoring three times in the top of the first inning. The Outlaws got a man on in their half, but Julio Montano smoked a ball Loft shortstop Troy Camacho collides with a Sol base to right centerfield that was caught, runner during the playoffs (Photo by Joe Covino) and Aaron Frommeyer was doubled off first base to end the threat. After Sol scored again to make it 4-0, the Outlaws inside-the-park home run to deep left center halved the lead with a pair of runs in the by French made it 7-2, and the Outlaws then second inning. went one-two-three in their half of the fifth. Shortstop Sergio Haro and left fielder By then, the lead felt insurmountable Darrin Bishop made fine running catches in as their dugout was very quiet. Softball is the third to keep Sol off the board, and the a game of offense and even the best teams sense in the stands was that this was when have bad days. This was true for the Outthe Outlaws would make their standard run. laws, because they are capable of putting 20 They got a couple of runners on with one out runs up on the board at any moment. Not on and their best hitters coming up, but Richie this day, however. Holdren and Montano each popped out. Sol delivered a crushing five-run rally in Sol looked like they were going to rethe sixth inning that all but iced the game. ally seize the momentum, as they scored The Outlaws managed a couple of runs but twice and loaded the bases with nobody ultimately fell 12-5. out, thanks to some inopportune errors. The win for Sol was a mild upset, only in But Haro made an incredible play to force a that the Outlaws have long been expected to runner at home for the first out, and Holdren represent AFCSL in the World Series. Those fielded a grounder, tagged the runner comexpectations are warranted because manager ing his way, and threw to first to complete a Randy Miller’s squad had earned a berth five double play that held the lead at 6-2. years in a row and finished sixth last year, an The Outlaws needed to respond, and amazing accomplishment in softball’s biggest although Sol made a few mistakes in the division. fourth, the Outlaws only plated one run. An “We ran into a hungrier team on this day

and they gave us a wake-up call,” Miller said. “I am so proud of my guys to go through so much adversity this year and still finish second in a league with more parity than it has had in recent memory. Make no mistake: this feeling sucks and the Outlaws will be back even stronger.” In the D division, three teams were jockeying for two berths in what was the final regular-season week of action in that division. The Loft (13-3) and Krush (13-3) led Baja Betty’s (11-5) by two games, but Betty’s still had a chance to make it if they could beat the Grizzlies and The Loft, and then have the Dragons defeat The Loft. Two losses by Krush would have potentially knocked them out as well, but Betty’s couldn’t count on that. The Grizzlies ended Betty’s World Series dreams early with a 15-5 rout that clinched berths for Krush and The Loft. The division crown was up for grabs still, and Loft would claim that with two victories. In their game against Betty’s, the teams traded leads before going to extra innings, where The Loft was the home team and prevailed 10-9. The loss was Betty’s fifth one-run loss of the year, leaving them feeling they were on the cusp of making the Series. All that The Loft needed to do was defeat the underdog Dragons and they would claim the division title, but the Dragons clawed their way to a one-run victory, paving the way for Krush to win the division with a pair of victories that they ultimately achieved. So The Loft D, Krush, Flicks and Sol will join The Loft B in Washington for an exciting week of World Series action. The B team finished third in the nation two years ago but will be bringing a much different roster this time around.t


Flat bellies: tips that really work


FITNESS Had a little too much comfort food and lack of movement these last months? Maybe you’ve put on a few pounds around the middle? The summer bathing suit season is here, so if the pooch in your belly is the pain in your mirror, now is the time to do what it takes to get rid of it once and for all. Where you tend to store body fat is related primarily to your genetic disposition. If you have an excessive amount of body fat, and heredity dictates storage around the middle, then unfortunately you will gain fat in the abdominal area. That said, many women notice abdominal weight gain when they go through

menopause. This is because hormonal shifts can change the way the body breaks down and stores fat, hence a redistribution of body fat and the tendency for it to accumulate in the belly as women grow older. This tendency is particularly unhealthy, as excessive abdominal fat – especially the deep abdominal visceral fat – increases the risk for cardiovascular disease, diabetes and certain cancers. What really works to get rid of stubborn belly fat? The good news in the battle of belly bulge is that there are three scientifically proven lifestyle changes you can make that, when combined together, are the best way to attack that fat around the middle and flatten your belly. Eat a nutritious, calorie-controlled diet: Excess body fat, whether it’s in the stomach or the thighs, is the result of routinely consuming more calories than you expend. Now is the time to change those unhealthy eating habits. Eat lots of fruits and vegetables, whole grains, lean protein and good fats. Eat breakfast, don’t skip meals, drink lots of calorie-free liquid, and eat small, frequent, lighter meals at home. Watch your portion sizes and calculate your daily calorie intake to ensure you’re eating the right amount to lose body fat at a safe rate. Strength training: While you can’t “spot reduce” belly fat, you can strengthen and tone the abdominal muscles. That way, once you lose that extra fat around

the tummy, you’ll be able to clearly see your toned, flat stomach. Keep in mind that a single abdominal exercise won’t make a flabby stomach into washboard abs. Plus, there are certain abdominal exercises that are much more effective in strengthening and tightening the middle than others. Your flat-tummy workout should incorporate exercises that target both the deeper and the lower abdominal muscles. For example, the rectus abdominis muscle is the most common target of abdominal exercises, such as crunches. This is a postural muscle; it’s also a paired muscle that runs vertically and has distinct segments on each side. The rectus is responsible for the “sixpack” visible in toned athletes. Another important core muscle is the transverse abdominis, buried deep beneath the rectus. This muscle, though often neglected, also helps flatten the stomach. It runs horizontally and acts like a girdle, strengthening the core and decreasing risk of back injury. Daily cardio exercise: Calorie-burning cardio exercise is one of the best ways to target stubborn belly fat. This is because stomach fat is more metabolically active and when you exercise, you target that area for fuel. What’s more, when you burn those calories up, you reduce your percentage of body fat, thereby shrinking those bellyfat cells. This will allow you to see those abdominal muscles you’ve worked so hard in the gym to define. Beating belly fat has long term effects, on multiple fronts, so get moving. Better movement with better nutrition equals less

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fat, which equals better health, which leads to better outcomes. The overall benefits of daily physical activity are numerous: •Reduces the risk of heart disease by improving blood circulation throughout the body •Keeps weight under control •Improves blood cholesterol levels •Prevents and manages high blood pressure •Prevents bone loss •Boosts energy level •Helps manage stress •Releases tension •Improves the ability to fall asleep quickly and sleep well •Improves self-image •Counters anxiety and depression and increases enthusiasm and optimism •Increases muscle strength, increasing the ability to do other physical activities •Provides a way to share an activity with family and friends •Establishes good heart-healthy habits in children and counters conditions – obesity, high blood pressure, poor cholesterol levels, poor lifestyle habits, etc. – that lead to heart attack and stroke later in life •In older adults, helps delay or prevent chronic illnesses and diseases associated with aging, and maintains quality of life and independence longer. —Blake and Gwen Beckcom own Fitness Together Mission Hills, offering personal training with qualified professionals by regular appointment in private suites. Exercise and nutritional programs are custom designed to fit your needs and abilities. Call 619-794-0014 for more information or to schedule a free assessment session.t


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