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Volume 5 Issue 13


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A global hero in our midst

Local Anglican priest speaks up for those who have no voice Monica Medina |

New agenda for small business


The year of love and progress

As a child in Belfast, the Reverend Canon Albert Ogle grew up in a place where being gay was criminalized. It was a violent time, filled with sectarian rioting, when Irish Catholics and Nationalists were demanding an end to years of discrimination. Ogle, a KPBS 2014 LGBT Pride Month Local Hero, wryly observes that despite the hostility between the factions, there was at least one item both sides could agree on.

(l to r) Susan Hartman and her spouse Stephanie Torres were the first couple to be married in San Diego once Prop 8 was repealed in June of 2013. The couple first ran into road blocks, allegedly due to County Clerk Ernie Dronenburg’s personal agenda against same-sex marriage. (Photo by Vanessa Dubois)

Local couple celebrates one year of legal marriage Kathy Bates on fire


No dog and pony show


Morgan M. Hurley | GSD Editor Every year since 1969, June has been celebrated by the LGBT community as the month of Pride. It has only been in recent years, under the administration of our current President of the United States, that June has been “officially” recognized as Pride Month on a national scale. So it was quite fitting that in June of 2013, after decades of activism, the LGBT community awaited Supreme Court decisions on two monumental cases, the results of which could finally shove open the floodgates of marriage

equality for millions of LGBT Americans and shape history for the community for years to come. When the decisions didn’t come in early June as expected, we held our national collective breath and looked forward to the week of June 20, 2013, the final week of last year’s Supreme Court session. The news finally came midweek, on June 26, when the Supreme Court ruled on not just one but both cases; Hollingsworth v. Perry and United States v. Windsor. The majority rulings not only did away with California’s Proposition 8 — a

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Participants in the 2014 Amazing High Heel Race prepare to start. (Photo by Amanda Nachman)

Amanda Nachman | Gay San Diego Devan Walton darted across University Avenue in strappy Michael Kors high heels, a long, wavy wig and a Beyoncéinspired pop-art tee. “Oh, we’re gonna win,” he said. Walton, 24, and his team, the Banshee Bitches, then rushed into Har vey Milk’s American

Diner, one of the many checkpoints in the fourth annual Amazing High Heel Race held June 21 from 3 – 6 p.m. on the streets of Hillcrest. There was a slight moment of confusion since Walton was the first to arrive, but an organizer quickly blew his whistle to alert the staff that it was “go-time.” A waiter handed Walton

Ogle flanked by Vinnie Pompei (left) and Max Dispotsi, both 2013’s LGBT Heroes. (Photo by Monica Medina)

and several other contestants a blindfold and a plate of whipped cream. The challenge? Place their hands behind their back and find the cherr y. Unfortunately for some, the cherr y turned out to be an olive. Walton succeeded, wiped the whipped cream from his hair and rushed off to the next challenge. Less than halfway through the race, the Banshee Bitches had briefly taken the lead. To compete in the Amazing High Heel Race, individuals and teams register to participate in a series of challenges while wearing heels at least three-inches high. Seventeen businesses participated in this year’s fun, with competitions such as pizza tossing, bunny hopping and a life-sized Jenga game all part of the action. Participants clicked their heels at the starting line, located at the corner of Fifth and Robinson avenues, before heading off to Babycakes, Salt & Cleaver, #1 on Fifth, Urban MO’s, Fiesta Cantina, Amici’s East Coast Pizzeria, Americana,

“One of the issues that united the Protestants and the Catholics was opposing the repeal of the anti-sodomy law that was on the books in Ireland since the 19th centur y,” Ogle remembered. “Both religions could find their unity in hating us even more. I knew I was gay and that law was a huge stigma.” For Ogle, those days left an impression on him that helped shape his values and beliefs and eventually led him to become an openly gay Anglican priest living in San Diego. “It’s a calling,” he revealed. “You feel connected to this work. Other people saw it in me as a young person. My parents went through a ver y nasty divorce when I was about 15, and the church community I grew up in in East Belfast became my extended family. They kept me stable and the clergy became like uncles to me, looking after me. It was a ver y caring community.” Today Ogle travels the world as an advocate for LGBT human rights in countries such as Uganda. He believes fighting for human rights in such countries is where he can be of most use. “The Christian right has been working for many years in most of Africa, in South and Central America, even in places like Eastern Europe and Russia,” explained Ogle in a 2012 inter view for GayTalk Tonight. “Often the churches are in sync with the government in creating these ver y draconian laws,” he continued. “For instance, just us talking about gay stuff … that would be deemed illegal. Uganda has helped us put a face on what’s going on throughout the world, and there are people fighting these laws, from the legal perspective, human rights perspective, and from a faith perspective who think these laws are really harmful. So we have to help these people to raise their voice.”

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November 2008 voter-enacted law that shut down same-sex marriages just months after the Supreme Court of California decided that barring them was unconstitutional — the Court also struck down Section 3 of the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA), which stated that “marriage” and “spouse” only related to heterosexual couples. Here in San Diego, after an impromptu march from Urban MO’s to the Pride Flag at the corner of University Avenue and Normal Street where a



GAY SAN DIEGO June 27–July 10, 2014

A community of inclusion Senior official at national SBA speaks at GSDBA luncheon

SBA's Eugene Cornelius Jr. (second from right) with GSDBA members at the "Start-up to Success Luncheon" (Photo by Varner Photography)

Hutton Marshall | GSD Assistant Editor Earlier this year, when Gay San Diego inter viewed Barbra Blake, the new CEO of the Greater San Diego Business Association (GSDBA), she said LGBT people, by their ver y nature, were the “perfect storm” to become successful entrepreneurs because of their courage to come out and live openly as who they are.

Now, catering to a new, “startup” business-centric focus at San Diego’s gay chamber of commerce, Blake recently began a series of educational luncheons, titled “Start-up to Success.” Designed to empower LGBT San Diegans interested starting their own businesses, the GSDBA held the first luncheon on June 12 at the W Hotel in Downtown San Diego.

Before a diverse audience of LGBT business owners, the GSDBA hosted Eugene Cornelius Jr., the Small Business Association’s (SBA) deputy director of field operations. Taking a break from his nationwide tour titled “Many Faces, One Dream,” Cornelius — who oversees all SBA of fices outside Washington D.C. — gave an emotive, half-hour speech on the SBA’s new message inviting LGBT business owners to join hands with fellow minority communities. Cornelius is focused on broad policy in his new position at the SBA, where he has worked his way nearly to the top since joining the organization in 1999. He described the SBA as the “economic engine of the federal government.” Founded in 1953, the SBA provides and facilitates loans, contracts, and other assistance to thousands of small businesses nationwide. Now overseeing 68 field offices, 90 sites, and more than 1,000 employees, Cornelius said his new role allows him to greatly influence the way he encourages diversity in the business community. With approval coming directly from President Barack Obama, Cornelius partnered with the National Black Justice Coalition (NBJC), a nonprofit focused on black LGBT civil rights, to go on a speaking tour across 13 states nationwide, speaking to the common ground that exists between the LGBT and black communities. “No longer can the people in our government and the SBA sit back and say they don’t see me,” Cornelius said. “I’ve always been an advocate, now I have a national stage.” Cornelius, a gay black man hailing from Chicago, said he’s the perfect person in the federal government to advocate for the shared plight of the LGBT community and the community of color. “Who can better deliver this message than me?” Cornelius asked. And that message is one of inclusion. Gay and lesbian African Americans are an often unheard

Cornelius speaks to attendees prior to addressing the GSDBA. (Photo by Varner Photography)

voice in the LGBT community, Cornelius said, and encouraging this demographic to join LGBT chambers, like the GSDBA, is a huge step for ward not just for LGBT people of color, but for all LGBT people. “A chamber is advocacy,” Cornelius said. “A chamber means working with your federal government or working with your local governments and other people to create an environment where your business can thrive and move for ward and participate at a full and competent level.” But to Cornelius, this is a bigger fight than diversifying LGBT chambers of commerce. It’s a new phase of the civil rights movement. “We’re moving into what I see as the third realm of civil rights,” Cornelius said. “We had the right to vote, the right to marr y, [now] the right to equity. “The true, real right to exist is the right to equity,” he added. Whereas suffrage and marriage equality guarantee basic human rights, equity and the right to financial independence are the great equalizer, according to Cornelius. He said we can improve minority communities “by bringing economic development, wealth and financial security, which lend itself to education and proper behavior and less suicide rates and things that are anecdotally killing our kids.” By blending his efforts with the social activism-oriented NBJC, Cornelius hopes to eradicate the “social ills” plaguing the black and LGBT communities. Indeed, a study co-authored by the NBJC titled “A Broken Bargain For LGBT Workers Of Color” found that while high unemployment rates are often high in black and Hispanic communities, non-LGBT workers fare significantly better than their LGBT counterparts. For example, the study found

that 20 – 40 percent of homeless youth identify as LGBT or believe they may be LGBT. Among these homeless youth who identify as gay or lesbian, 44 percent identified as black and 26 percent identified as Latino. Additionally, black same-sex couples are more than twice as likely to live in poverty as black heterosexual couples. So how can society fix this disparity? Cornelius said the ball is now in the court of LGBT people of color. “You have to become a member and you have to participate,” Cornelius said. “No longer are the days of saying to the white gay community, ‘you don’t have a place for me.’ Here’s your place. Take your place.” As an example of the benefit from engaging in a local chamber and the SBA, Cornelius told of a man who opened his own tea shop in Harlem after the SBA helped guarantee him a $1.5 million loan. Cornelius closed his speech echoing Blake’s sentiment on what makes LGBT business owners such promising entrepreneurs. He answered the question he said he’s been asked many times since starting the campaign: What inspired him to take the risk of adopting such an aggressive social agenda for the SBA? “’Why did you take the risk?’ Well I represent the biggest risk takers in America: I represent our small business owners,” Cornelius said. “If I can’t represent you all by taking a risk, then I’m not really your advocate.” Due to popular demand and positive reaction, Cornelius’s tour across the U.S. has now been expanded from 13 to 24 cities. For more information about the Small Business Association, visit For information on the GSDBA and their Start-Up to Success lecture series, visit


MARRIAGE celebration and rally took place in the streets, progress was at a standstill. The “stay” on same-sex marriages was still in effect, as we waited for our own state leaders to officially acknowledge the Supreme Court’s ruling. Local Hillcrest residents Stephanie Torres and Susan Hartman, together 22 years at that time, were caught up in the excitement of what the news meant to the community at large, but kept their conversations general. “Every time the community was coming out to support what was going on, we would be there and were talking about that, how great it was, how it could be a huge landmark case, but not about us,” Hartman said. Little did they know they’d soon become the first LGBT couple in San Diego to be married after the new ruling took effect. They first met in Hartford, Connecticut in Februar y of 1992, when both were working in loss prevention at a local department store chain. Torres came from a loving and accepting family, while Hartman’s had disowned her; but together they found the yin in each other’s yang. They clicked. They spent five years in Albuquerque, New Mexico pursuing their education before landing in San Diego in 1998. They’ve had their share of challenges since — Torres lost her mother to lung cancer shortly after they arrived, and Torres herself sur vived a bout with the same cancer two years later that plagued her for several years — but their years

together have been full of professional and personal sports, playful competition (one is a fer vent Yankees fan, the other a rabid Red Sox fan), travel and enjoying what life has to offer. The couple entered into a Domestic Partnership soon after Torres’ bout with cancer, but in 2008 when marriage first became legal in California, Hartman — a former public defender now in private practice — refused to take the plunge. “I said to Steph, ‘I don’t know if I could survive my government taking that right away once I get it,’” Hartman reflected. Fast forward to 2013. On June 28, a Friday, the 9th Circuit Court of Appeals lifted the stay, with Governor Brown immediately ordering the state’s county clerks to begin issuing same-sex marriage licenses and perform the civil ceremonies. It was a routine Friday for Torres, who had just put in a full day at the public defender’s office, spent time at the gym and was out shopping for the couple’s weekend on her way home. Suddenly she got a text from her partner. “The stay is lifted. It’s 4:10 now, the County [Administration Office] closes at 5. Will you meet me down there?” Torres said it took her a minute to process the text before she realized what Hartman was really saying. “I literally dropped the groceries into my cart and began jogging out to my car,” she said, smiling. “When I got outside I ran faster and then sped home.” Hartman had already done her homework and knew the County was only offering appointments for the following week. As they drove together, they began planning

what they expected to be a small future ceremony with friends. Things went very differently than they expected at the County Administration Building (CAB). Hartman asked the woman seated at the counter for an appointment, but was told she couldn’t get one. “I said, ‘but it’s 4:40 on a Friday and you don’t close until 5’,” Hartman said she told the woman. The woman refused again without explanation. “I gestured to Steph and said, ‘If her name was Steven, would we get an appointment?” The answer was “Yes.” “We started to get angry,” Torres said, adding that they refused to leave. A short time later the couple ran into Fernando Lopez, currently San Diego Pride’s public affairs director, but a longstanding marriage equality activist. Lopez had been assisting the media and same-sex couples sift through marriage equality rulings and decisions at the CAB for several years. “When the stay was lifted I knew I had to be there,” Lopez said. “I went in to the marriage office and was given the run around, as I was told they were waiting for clarification. Of course no clarification was needed, they had the directive they needed from the courts and the California Attorney General.” The offices began closing but Hartman and Torres refused to leave until they could speak to a supervisor. Then Val Woods, the assistant county clerk, walked past the couple. “It was hard for me to maintain professionalism because it was so personal, but I basically said I knew at least three other counties

GAY SAN DIEGO June 27–July 10, 2014 were marrying couples and keeping their offices open to do so, and that I knew [Dronenburg’s] letter was on the website from earlier this week saying that as soon as the stay was lifted, San Diego was ready,” Hartman said. Hartman said Woods could not answer her questions and said Dronenburg, who was the elected official that could, was on vacation. “Through all of this I stayed on the phone with local LGBT elected officials and community leaders as they too worked their channels to find out why San Diego was dropping the ball,” Lopez said. “It was while waiting around … and fiercely typing away on my phone that I noticed two women who also refused to leave. I thought it was incredible that they stayed and demanded answers when other couples had simply left feeling dejected — Steph and Sue stayed and fought.” That weekend, San Diego took a beating in the media, and local officials were up in arms. Lopez stayed in touch with his new friends and the media stayed in close touch with them, too. On July 1, 2013, that following Monday morning, Lopez, Hartman and Torres all arrived at the County Administration Building at 7:30 a.m. ready for anything. County Supervisor Dave Roberts, and out gay man himself, had called Lopez with the news that marriages would begin first thing. Wood, acknowledging the couples’ tenacity, sought them out, asking if they’d volunteer to be the first couple married. Sensing the couple was ner vous, Lopez began to prepare them for their ceremony. After going through the steps, he explained


that a county official would be marr ying them, and then offered his own ser vices. “Sue squeezed my arm and said, ‘yes, you do it,’” Lopez said. “So I stuck by their side for the rest of the journey.” Though Lopez has been certified since 2008, Hartman and Torres were the first legal ceremony he oversaw. “To have protested at this building for a decade and to think that now I was here officiating the first same-sex ceremony felt so fulfilling, it was as though I was standing just were I was meant to stand,” Lopez said. “This was the progress I had been fighting for all of these years.” A year later, Hartman and Torres both say July 1, 2013 made a huge difference in their lives. “I think there is a sense of security that was never there specifically for me, that my family can’t come in and do stuff is something were to ever happen to me,” Hartman said. “I happen to work at the most liberal office in the county,” Torres said. “My coworkers have always accepted her, always asked about her. But now they say, ‘how’s your wife?’” “As a gay couple, straight people don’t know how to correlate our relationships,” Hartman said. “All of a sudden, we are like them now. They get when you are married there is a different commitment. We’ve even felt that from my family.” Since June 2013, 22 other r ulings have cleared the way for same-sex marriage, with 19 states now allowing same-sex marriage and three still pending full approval. Progress is on the march. t



GAY SAN DIEGO June 27–July 10, 2014

Ogle with Bishop Chrisopher Senyonjo and House Speaker Nancy Pelosi; Ogle gets former President Clinton’s ear (Courtesy Rev. Ogle)

Rev. Canon Albert Ogle (center) discussing LGBT poverty issues with leaders from different countries at this year's World Bank spring meeting. (Courtesy Rev. Ogle) FROM PAGE 1

LOCALHERO Because of the church’s involvement in anti-LGBT laws, there is often a general mistrust of the religious community. Even Ogle has experienced it when his calling has come into question. “Sometimes I get in front of people, including people from the gay community, and they’ll start attacking me because I’m wearing a collar,” Ogle explained. “I hear it from communities that have traditionally suffered because of the church, but if we all abandon the church, we give up on the core values of Christianity, which are really cool for us to live by.” Early on, Ogle felt it best for his career not to disclose his sexual orientation to members of the church. “I was in the closet,” Ogle said. “I was in Belfast and my partner was in London. We moved in together when I moved to a parish in Dublin. A friend of ours leaked one day to my boss that we were a couple, thinking that he knew. But he freaked out and went to the archbishop. We lost our home and I lost my job all at the same time.” When Ogle came to America in the 1980s he settled in Los Angeles where he worked with youth and soon found himself caught up in the AIDS epidemic. “We had lots of runaway and throwaway children who would leave the Midwest and come to the [west] coast and be involved in sur vival prostitution. The Gay and Lesbian Center helped through a big outreach program. A year later I became the youth director of the Center, working as an openly gay priest. It was 1983, and many of these kids were getting AIDS and dying.” In 1985, Ogle learned that his former partner had been diagnosed with AIDS. “We had split up when I moved to the states,” he recalled. “So I went back and spent two weeks with him. And at the time, when you were diagnosed with AIDS, that was it. So he died and I came back devastated.” Returning to the U.S., Ogle joined AIDS Project LA as their first planning director. He quickly saw that to help the victims of AIDS, he first had to convince civic leaders that there was a crisis. “I was saying, ‘There’s a train

coming down the track and we need to address it,’” he recalled. “Many were in denial. The association was that street kids died of AIDS, not upper middle-class gay white men. Members of the board of super visors would turn their backs on our staff, but my collar actually helped to bridge, and allowed me to go in as a credible witness.” When actor Rock Hudson died and President Ronald Reagan began talking about AIDS, Ogle remembers how it was the impetus for a “a huge shift” in how the disease was viewed. “Not only were we dealing with major loss and also afraid that we might be affected, you were facing your own mortality in your twenties and your friends were dropping like flies,” he said. “Nationally, the Episcopal Church began to create this compassionate response. Insurance companies had been canceling insurance, people were losing their jobs and the church said this is not appropriate.” Ogle became responsible for creating the first AIDS plan for California that addressed what a

prevention model would look like as the disease worked its way out of the city and into other areas. “It was a five-year prevention and care plan for the California War on AIDS, which we released in 1987,” he noted. Today, Ogle is founder and president of the St. Paul’s Foundation for International Reconciliation, a San Diego-based organization that addresses human rights, health and education through the prism of faith. It also empowers grassroots organizations in many countries to advocate for LGBT rights and AIDS prevention. He also is a contributor to a blog, Erasing 76 Crimes, which addresses the human toll of 76 countries’ anti-gay laws and the struggle to repeal them. “We are witnesses to the reality that you can have straight people love us and accept us, and that may help these other emerging places,” he said. Ogle, who is also working on his memoir about “being an openly gay priest in this climate right now,” writes a column for [Gay San Diego media partner] San Diego Gay & Lesbian News

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called “RGod2,” which explores faith and religion from an LGBT perspective. “RGod2” happens to also be on his license plate, ser ving as a reminder that God accepts all children, including those who aren’t straight. “I want to do more writing, preaching and mentoring young people,” Ogle admitted. “I’ve been spending a lot of time around young activists who are extraordinar y, intelligent and courageous. It’s ver y important for them to see there are people of faith at their side, that we’re not the enemy. “So much of the damage is being done by people of faith so it’s very important to show that there’s another voice which may never be the majority voice,” he said. For now, Ogle continues to work for LGBT rights around the world, with the hopes that he can change the mindset of the church from within. “I want to see the faith communities in those countries become more compassionate and not persecute their own children,

which is what they’re doing right now,” he said. “A friend once said, ‘Albert, our job is to dye these threads in the most amazing colors in our lifetime that others will weave. We will never see the cloth completed.’ He’s right,” Ogle said. “A cathedral isn’t built in a generation. It takes several generations adding to this sacred space. Ogle hopes that the challenges the global LGBT community struggles with today will no longer be an issue in 20 years. “The younger generation is going to be more worried about climate change and employment than they will be about equality,” he said. “We will have done our work.” Rev. Canon Ogle was chosen as a 2014 Pride Month Local Hero honoree. The Local Hero program, launched in 1998, is co-sponsored by KPBS and Union Bank and honors two local residents each month who go above and beyond. For more about the program, visit kpbs. org/news/blogs/hey-neighbor/ local-heroes.t

New York June 28 – 30 San Francisco June 29 – 30 Seattle June 29 – 30 Los Angeles (At the Beach – L.A. Black Pride) July 3 – 7 San Luis Obispo, Calif. July 11 – 14 San Diego July 12 – 14 Santa Barbara, Calif. July 13 Vancouver, B.C. Aug. 4


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West End

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The San Diego Museum of Art

Sorolla and America See newly discovered masterworks by the Spanish Post-Impressionist Joaquín Sorolla in the landmark exhibition Sorolla and America — now through August 26. Joaquín Sorolla y Bastida. After the Bath, 1908. Oil on canvas. The Hispanic Society of America, New York, A296.

Reno, Nev. Aug. 17 San Jose, Calif. Aug. 17 – 18 Las Vegas Sept. 6 – 7 Chula Vista, Calif. (South Bay Pride) Sept. 14 Oceanside, Calif. (Pride @ the beach) Oct. 12

The Old Globe

Othello From New York’s Shakespeare in the Park to Balboa Park, Old Globe Artistic Director Barry Edelstein directs one of Shakespeare’s greatest tragedies on the Globe’s outdoor stage, featuring Blair Underwood as Othello (“Sex and the City,” “Ironsides.”)

Mingei International Museum

SURF CRAFT An exploration of board design from ancient Hawaii to post-war Southern California. This unique exhibit explores board design from a new perspective.

Bakersfield, Calif. Oct. 19

Timken Museum of Art

San Bernardino, Calif. (Inland Empire Pride) Oct. 26 – 27

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Palm Springs, Calif. Nov. 2 – 3

El Lissitzky: Futurist Portfolios

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GAY SAN DIEGO June 27–July 10, 2014

Kathy Bates stars in “Tammy,” a new film out July 2, co-starring Susan Sarandon and Sandra Oh (Courtesy Warner Bros)

The true colors of Kathy Bates Hollywood luminary talks lesbians, drag and Uma Thurman Chris Azzopardi | Q Syndicate Long before dishing lesbian wisdom to Melissa McCarthy’s mess of a character in this summer’s road-trip comedy “Tammy,” Kathy Bates had the gay community in shackles. It didn’t take a sledgehammer to maintain our obsession with her — it just took the Hollywood icon’s every turn on television (“Six Feet Under,” “American Horror Story”), Broadway (“ ’night, Mother”) and the big screen (“Titanic”). First with her chilling role in 1990s’ “Misery,” followed by “Fried Green Tomatoes,” her 1991 girl dramedy, then “Dolores Claiborne” and “Primary Colors,” Bates has kept us captivated for over four decades, bound to her boundless greatness. Now, as one half of a

lesbian couple in “Tammy” (Sandra Oh of “Grey’s Anatomy” plays her partner), she’s giving you one more reason to be her biggest fan. Chris Azzopardi (CA): I’ve never been to an all-lesbian party, but based on the one your character, Lenore, throws in “Tammy,” clearly I’ve been missing out. Kathy Bates (KB): You have. It was a lot of fun! It really was. And there was a scene that was cut out of the movie where all the lesbian women on the dock were singing “Fire,” the Bruce Springsteen song, which was pretty fun. (CA): You really can’t go wrong with some lesbians and “The Boss.” (KB): No, no, no. It’s a sure thing.

(CA): Tell me about the best lesbian party you’ve ever been to. (KB): I don’t know if I’ve been to a lesbian party quite like the one we have in “Tammy.” [Laughs] I’ve known and loved many lesbians in my life … but I don’t know if I’ve ever gotten them all into the same room at the same time! I always imagined that my and Sandra’s characters lived in a very small town, so I think many of these lesbians they’ve known were shipped in and probably work in Lenore’s [pet] shops in other towns, that it’s an annual thing and they come in and hang out for the holiday. (CA): Melissa said your chemistry with Sandra was instantly palpable. Who are some other women you could see yourself going lesbian for onscreen? (KB): Let me think about that. I do know that I’m just absolutely in love with Sandra, and let me just say that she really brought our relationship to bloom. She brought a lot of love and warmth, and it was her idea to have wedding rings — because of course! — which I hadn’t thought about, and also, really, to think that our relationship is the healthiest relationship in the movie. You know, we’re non-judgmental, and my scene on the dock with Melissa — it was important for me to be able to ad-lib how difficult it is, or was, especially 20, 25 years ago, for lesbian women to come out. I think almost more difficult than for men to come out as gay. She brought just so much love, and she really helped create the little bubble of our relationship, and now I have forgotten your question. Oh, whom else would I like to be with. Ahh, let’s see. Who do I love? Oh, I could totally see this: I shared a plane trip with Uma Thurman once and I thought she was pretty cool. I could see doing a movie with her and having a lesbian relationship — although I’m much too old for her! [Laughs] (CA): These days, Kathy, that doesn’t matter. (KB): Yeah, that would probably be a fantasy movie relationship. Who else? I don’t know really. I’m just so in love and married to Sandra that I don’t know if I could come up with and celebrate their love in front of their friends and stand up together and say, “We love each other,” and be open about it and have the union blessed after all those years. I remember last summer I was on vacation with my best friend who’s gay and we heard about Prop 8 and how people were gonna be allowed to marry, and it’s just like, ‘why does it have to be legislated?’ Bates and Oh in a scene from “Tammy” How can you legislate (Courtesy Warner Bros) something like that, really? Why is it up for discussion? anybody else. It would feel like That’s my feeling about it. cheating! [Laughs] (CA): One of your earliest les(CA): Growing up in the South bian roles was in “Primary Colors,” and in the Methodist church, what which is notable for the big wet one was your introduction to the gay you exchanged with your co-star, community? Stacy Edwards. (KB): I really didn’t know what (KB): She was a doll. gay was until I got to college, but I was really in love with two of the (CA): What do you remember of guys who were in the theater departshooting that kissing scene? ment and then I realized they were (KB): I was really nervous! in love with each other. It was like, [Laughs] I wanted to do it great, you “Oh. Fuck,” — excuse my language know. I wanted to make it look like — “that just cut my opportunities in we’ve always done it. At the same half here. It’s hard enough to find a time, it had to be a shock for Adrian guy, and now that means there’s 50 Lester’s character, and Stacy’s so percent less!” adorable. I loved the fact that See, my parents were more of everybody assumes she’s straight, the age of grandparents in the ’60s, or maybe she swings — who knows! which certainly made it difficult for I think there’s also that: People are both parties. It took a little bit of doon the spectrum sometimes. So, I ing. So, when I brought gay friends just wanted to make it look real and home to visit, it was really kind of tough and sexy. funny to see them react. But they embraced them. They just thought (CA): Let’s talk about your it was hysterical that one of my involvement in the upcoming season friends, Milton, was walking around of “American Horror Story: Freak in a nightshirt that had been pressed Show.” What can you tell us so far? beautifully. They got along with them (KB): I gotta be honest with you, pretty well. I have to say my parents I don’t know yet. I have not read a never said anything to me derogascript. Ryan keeps promising scripts. tory about them, which was cool. He says I’m supposed to get some Unfortunately, one of the guys I this week, and I’m really hoping I do was in love with passed away a few because I’m leaving town to head to years ago from lung cancer, but I’m New Orleans. I’m just now beginning still very close to the other love of to work on the character, so I have my life. I just saw him in New York no idea. — he actually wrote the “Vanities” play that we did off-Broadway for (CA): Including the fact that many, many years; his name is Jack almost all of the names of the charHeifner — and so it’s wonderful that acters on “American Horror Story: that relationship has continued. Coven” — Myrtle Snow, Madame LaLaurie, Misty Day, Cordelia Foxx (CA): Lenore and her partner are — are ones you’d likely hear in a based on Melissa McCarthy’s own drag queen contest … friends. Did that help inform your (KB): Myrtle — oh my god! character? Did you base her off any lesbians you know? (CA): Right? “Coven” was widely (KB): I didn’t know that. Melissa regarded as being very gay. How never told me, but cool! I really aware are you, or have you become, didn’t. Like I say, I mean, how do you that the show has really resonated behave lesbian? [Laughs] I really with drag queens and the gay comthought about that. Unless you’re munity? gonna go to some kind of extreme (KB): Not at all! This is the first caricature that’s demanded of the I’m hearing of it. I mean, I don’t script for some reason, these are just know if it was a male or female regular people and that’s their sexual because he was so far away from orientation. Why do we have to ask us, but when we were doing the if somebody’s gay or straight? I hope PaleyFest (in Hollywood) there was we get out of that. I hope I see us get a guy — I think it was a guy — in a out of that before, you know, I exit Myrtle Snow wig, which we were this plane. delighting in. She just lends herself to that, I think. (CA): It’s refreshing to see a gay couple portrayed as the most (CA): But so does your charac“together” part of the story. What ter, Madame LaLaurie. And I’ve seen do you think that says about how far boys do her in drag. When that hapwe’ve come as a society regarding pens, can’t you retire? Inspiring drag gay issues? queens — that’s really the ultimate (KB): Going back to the scene life goal, right? on the dock, I wanted to improvise (KB): [Laughs] I hear about Sandra and how she stood by there’s a gay bar here in West me when the times were tough, how Hollywood where they do Dolobig her heart was and how comfortres Claiborne a lot. Listen, it’s ing she was. great to have your reputation I remember being at a wedding; still alive and kickin’ at my age, it was a male gay couple and they so I appreciate it wherever it must’ve been in their 70s. They had comes from. been together for 50 years, and for the first time they had been able to —Chris Azzopardi is the editor of go to Massachusetts and get marQ Syndicate, the international LGBT ried. It was so moving to me that wire service. Reach him via his webthey were able to have a wedding site at


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Diego LGBT Center, the Center’s 50 & Better Together’ program, Lambda Archives, and other community groups. Prior to presenting the Pride World Forum, contingent members will tour The Center and learn more about the services the organization provides. Jill Secard, executive director of the San Diego Diplomacy Council, expressed her excitement about being able to present this group to the community. “These human rights leaders

Members from a recent multi-national coalition meet with San Diego Pride, thanks to the San Diego Diplomacy Council. (Courtesy San Diego Pride) George Vernon | Gay San Diego As part of the U.S. State Department’s International Visitor Leadership Program, a contingent of LGBT leaders from around the globe will be visiting San Diego later this month, and as part of the trip, will participate in a panel discussion titled “Pride World Forum” on Tuesday, July 1 at The San Diego LGBT Community Center. At least five of the 11 visiting leaders will speak on the panel, discussing challenges they face in their home countries. Part of the exchange program’s goals is to bring current and emerging foreign leaders in a variety of fields

together to experience the United States firsthand, while cultivating lasting relationships with their American counterparts. In addition to being able to meet with local San Diego LGBT leaders and organizations while in town, the contingent will also have the opportunity to mix and network with other local community members at the planed forum. While specific information about the individual contingent members is not yet available, they represent an array of nations, each facing unique challenges for their respective LGBT communities. Representatives will be visiting from Azerbaijan, India, Israel,

Members of an all female multi-national coalition recently met at the San Diego Pride offices. (Courtesy San Diego Pride) AIDS. In fact, the central focus of the group’s three-week visit to the U.S. is human rights and gender identity. The contingent has already arrived in the U.S., and is currently visiting other cities. Once in San Diego on June 30, the visitors will meet with representatives from San Diego Pride, San Diego State University’s Pride Center and LGBT Studies program, The San

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The San Diego LGBT Community Center hosts a distribution site once a month for the Community Cares Project of the San Diego Food Bank. On the first Tuesday of every month, visit The Center’s parking lot for emergency food. For more information, visit the San Diego Food Bank website at

Join the Women’s Resource Center for another installment of this popular series. This month our special guest is Janet Williams, award-winning author of “You Don’t Ask, You Don’t Get: Proven Techniques to Get More Out of Life.” Janet will discuss her book and talk about relationships, career, personal goals and more. Enjoy wine and snacks while learning more about notable women in our community. For more information, contact Sheena Whitaker at 619.692.2077 x212, or

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Guys, Games & Grub 6:30 pm, the Center Join us for Guys, Games & Grub with host Ben Cartwright! Meet new friends while enjoying snacks, food, and drinks for only a $5 donation to Men’s Programming. On the first Wednesday of every month, nearly 200 men of all ages (21+) gather at The Center for a night of games, pizza, drinks and socializing. Some of San Diego’s most interesting men are here – come join them. For more information, contact aaron heier at aheier@ or 619.692.2077 x211.

The Pride World Forum is being presented by the San Diego Diplomacy Council with support from San Diego Pride, the San Diego LGBT Community Center, the San Diego Human Dignity Foundation, and the U.S. Department of State’s Bureau of Educational and Cultural Affairs. Community members are invited to The Center that day to attend the forum, with doors opening at 6 p.m. The panel presentation, moderated by Fernando Lopez of San Diego Pride, will begin at 6:30 p.m. Community members will have the oppor tunity to par ticipate in a Q&A session following the presentation, and the event will conclude with a reception. Stephen Whitburn, executive director of San Diego Pride, said that it is important for civil rights activists from around the globe to come together. “Through interactions like this forum, we have the opportunity to learn about the struggles our community faces around the globe,” Whitburn said. “We are thrilled to have the opportunity to partner with the San Diego Diplomacy Council and other organizations to give community members the opportunity to learn from and connect with these courageous activists.” The Center is located at 3909 Centre St. in Hillcrest. For more information contact the San Diego Diplomacy Council at 619-291-8105. Space for the Pride World Forum is limited, so those wishing to attend should RSVP at lgbtworldforum. —George Vernon is a local freelance writer. He can be reached at

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We must fight the injustices HIV/AIDS thrives upon Editor’s Note: Reprinted with permission. This OpEd previously ran June 10, 2014 in By Scott Campbell Many Americans — and many donors — think that HIV/AIDS is a thing of the past or that other problems deserve more attention. But make no mistake: The AIDS epidemic in America is raging. It is being fueled by injustice and fanned by ignorance. We can put out this fire but only through a united effort by organizations and grant makers to promote more compassion toward people most often at risk of the disease — injection drug users, the incarcerated, racial and sexual minorities, and others who face inequality and discrimination in their daily lives. Recent years have brought some positive developments in the fight against HIV/AIDS. Annual infection rates, while still problematic, have stabilized. And more people with HIV/AIDS are aware of their condition than ever before, meaning they can seek the treatment that will prevent illness and further spread of the virus. Among marginalized populations, however, the AIDS epidemic is spiraling out of control. Gay and bisexual men, for instance, represent about two percent of the national population. But they accounted for 56 percent of Americans living with an HIV infection in 2010. African-Americans, meanwhile, accounted for 49 percent of Americans diagnosed with AIDS in 2011. And yet they make up only 12 percent of the national population. In the American South, HIV/AIDS is the leading cause of early death among gay men and transgender individuals; that is in part because homophobia is widespread in that region, especially in rural areas, and service providers and nonprofits don’t have the resources to reach men who need healthcare. One in seven people with HIV pass through the federal correctional system each year, but support services for recently released inmates remain scarce. The implication of these statistics is clear: Among populations that our society marginalizes or ignores, AIDS remains a devastating illness. The fight against AIDS is a fight against injustice. That is the fundamental insight that informs our grant making at the Elton John AIDS Foundation, and we hope our experience and approach can help demonstrate what more grant makers must do. At Resource Center Dallas, for example, our grants PUBLISHER David Mannis (619) 961-1951


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allow the organization to offer bilingual education, testing, and counseling aimed helping Latino Americans, who have three times the rate of new infections as other Americans. In Shreveport, Louisiana, our support for the Philadelphia Center is allowing the organization to provide care to people with AIDS while also supporting advocacy work to fight the entrenched homophobia that has made the region the deadliest in America for anyone with the disease. Many worthy organizations like these focus on two related goals: fighting a deadly disease and a culture that ignores their plight. But philanthropy needs to do more to support the brave and effective organizations that are on the front lines of the fight against HIV/ AIDS. For too long, the HIV effort has been seen as sufficiently funded by many grant makers. But while government programs have supported clinical-care services for people with HIV, crucial communitycentered education and social services have struggled. As a result, 55,000 people contract HIV every year, and over 700,000 HIV-positive people are not obtaining effective HIV-related care. For example, a recent Emory University study demonstrated that employment, education, race, social networks, and incarceration are all factors that contribute to one’s risk of contracting HIV. That’s why all grant makers that work to promote community development, social justice, and human rights must fund HIV programs and why those that already support HIV efforts must expand their grant making beyond HIV services to broader issues of rights and justice. The Elton John AIDS Foundation, for instance, is now the largest supporter of programs to aid black LGBTQ individuals in the United States, as well as the largest financier of programs supporting LGBTQ individuals in the American South. To end AIDS, we must end the injustice it thrives upon. Doing so will require a new sense of urgency and a new commitment to activism. It will require an understanding that the AIDS crisis is not a thing of the past but a scourge of the present. Most of all, it will require a sea change in the way society — and donors — view the communities that are being ravaged by this disease. Together, philanthropy can spark and sustain that change. —Scott Campbell is the executive director of the Elton John AIDS Foundation. Learn more at ejaf.orgt SALES INTERNS Edgar DeLeon Carlos Dervis

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Dear Editor, I write to set the record straight with facts about the recent transition in staff management at the Hillcrest Business Association (HBA). It is unfortunate that a disgruntled former staff member has joined with two long-time detractors of the association to actively seek to undermine an organization that is doing such positive work on behalf of Hillcrest. First, after numerous performance problems came to light, several board members suggested that our then Executive Director, Sonya Stauffer, receive guidance from a management coach to improve her communications with staff, vendors, and HBA members. Instead of participating in this corrective process, Ms. Stauffer simply stopped coming into work. The HBA has documented emails and text messages that not only document these performance problems but irrefutably demonstrate that Ms. Stauffer abandoned her job. Second, since leaving the HBA, Ms. Stauffer has lashed out at the Board and joined with long-standing HBA critics to level bizarre and unsubstantiated accusations against the individuals on the board and the organization at large. Her actions since her departure only reinforce the wisdom of the HBA’s decision to bring in an interim Executive Director to move the organization forward. The hard-working volunteers at the Hillcrest Business Association bring us our most successful events each year such as CityFest and do amazing projects to improve our quality of life – such as the Hillcrest Pride Flag.  It is unfortunate that a few critics would be willing to diminish this good work and undermine our community through their misguided actions. Don’t simply believe unsubstantiated accusations; instead give me a call at 619-299-3330 if you have questions. — Benjamin Nicholls, interim executive director of HBA, via email

Where is the pride of the last 40 years? I’m very disappointed looking at the San Diego LGBT Pride Program for this year and I saw only two photos of women who looked to be over 40 (outside of organization shots of groups of people). All of the performers look under 40 and non-lesbian. All of the award winners and honorees seem to be under 40 except Toni Atkins. Dykes on Bikes, Blood Sisters, Future, Former, Fundie Fighters (4Fs) and lesbian solidarity marches weren’t even mentioned in the HIStoric Timeline and very little was mentioned about our San Diego Lesbian trailblazers. This is San Diego LGBT Pride’s 40th anniversary and one would think there would be more lesbians over 50 being honored for our dedication and contributions to the San Diego LGBT community. Traveling back in time 40 years ago, in the early days of LGBT Pride marches/events, there were very few mainstream artists willing to perform at any gay events for fear of losing their careers and being labeled as “gay.” Artists who volunteered to perform did so for free because the LGBT Pride events were where we could perform to a large audience of our own peeps. The brave performers were drag queens, lesbian and gay male comedians, edgy artists, “disco queens” and open, loud, proud, lesbian musicians, such as Holly Near, Cris Williamson, Meg Christian, k.d. lang, Melissa Etheridge, comic and LGBT activist Robin Tyler, Phranc, Lucie Blue Tremblay, Ferron, Sweet Honey and The Rock, Sue Fink, the Washington Sisters, Judy Fjell and sooooo many other amazing womyn. These lesbian artists and many others including gay male groups such as The Flirtations, and Romanovsky and Philips, who paved the way to create queer culture are missing from the 40th Anniversary of San Diego LGBT Pride events. Mainstream non-lesbian artists and music that can be seen anywhere at any time has replaced our queer culture at San Diego LGBT Pride events, erasing our HERstory and lesbian visibility. Please check out lesbian artists, download and buy their music, and learn about our lesbian herstory that is missing from mainstream LGBT Pride celebrations. These lesbian artists and so many others can be found at ‘Lady Slipper’ ( and ‘Golden Rod’ ( music. Consider just a few local herstory places and events: Califia Community, Las Hermanas, The Club, Wing Cafe, The Box Office, Amazon Sweet Shop, The Aptartment, Future-Former-Fundie-Fighters (4-Fs), The Dixon 6, Paradigm Books, Shirt Tails Coffee House/Dances. Does anyone remember these? —Wendy Sue Biegeleisen, via emailt

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GAY NEWS BRIEFS ASSEMBLY’S LGBT CAUCUS NAMES GLORIA ‘HERO’ San Diego City Council President Todd Gloria was honored by the California State Assembly on June 23 as an LGBT Hero for Excellence in Public Ser vice. As one of ten honorees of the award, Gloria was nominated by Assembly Speaker Toni Atkins and Assembly Speaker Emeritus John Perez. “I am extremely humbled to be honored by California state leaders. Our state is home to many impressive members of the LGBT community, and to be included in such an impressive group is a proud moment for me,” Gloria stated in a press release. “Ser ving San Diego is rewarding ever y day, so this recognition is a true bonus.” Other honorees included Kate Kendall, executive director of the National Center for Lesbian Rights, actor and civil rights advocate George Takei, and founder of the San Francisco Suicide Prevention Hotline Bernard Mayes. Gloria was also recently recognized as one of the nation’s most promising young leaders in government with the Aspen Institute’s Rodel Fellowship Program for Public Leadership Award. SDGMC FORMALIZES ARTISTIC DIRECTOR POSITION After a seven-month nationwide search, the San Diego Gay Men’s Chorus (SDGMC) chose Hillcrest resident RC Haus as the organization’s new artistic director. Haus, who has been acting as the interim artistic director since Januar y, will officially begin ser ving in his new role as the chorus enters its 30th anniversar y celebration year in 2015. “I am so excited to be working with this amazing group of guys,” Haus stated in a press release. “We have a great time together. And we work just as hard on our shows as we do on our mission of social justice and outreach. We sing with a purpose!” Haus proved himself as a leader during his tenure as interim art director, where he conducted all of the sold-out spring 2014 shows and founded the SDGMC dance troupe and Chamber Chorale, both of which will premiere during the summer productions. “RC is an amazing ball of energy. His love of music, dance and all things creative is infectious and profound,” stated SDGMC President Bob Lehman in a press release. “Our audience loves

Celebrating Women’s History: (l to r) Ann Garwood and her wife Nancy Moors are shown enjoying the Wine, Cheese and Chocolate Festival, held Friday, June 20 at Liberty Station. The annual event is the primary fundraiser for the California Women’s Museum, which moved from Golden Hill to its current location at 2730 Historic Decatur Rd in 2012. For its first five years, the festival was held at Spanish Village in Balboa Park, but is now in its second year on the grass near the museum. Sue Palmer and her band again provided music for attendees, who danced into the night. Garwood and Moors are longtime supporters of the Women’s Museum. (Photo by Morgan M. Hurley) him and our guys have never had so much fun singing!” Audiences will be able to see Haus’s creative energy put to work as he leads the upcoming show, “LUV Madonna — Music of the Material Girl” on July 12 and 13 at the Balboa Theatre, located at 868 Fourth Ave., Downtown. Tickets for the show are now on sale for $29 – $70 at or by calling 877-296-7664.

LGBT ‘ELECTRIC VEHICLE EVENT’ TO HONOR LOCAL OFFICIALS Both Assembly Speaker Toni Atkins and City Council President Todd Gloria will be honored during the “Drive Your Values Electric Vehicle LGBT Event” on July 24 at SDG&E’s Energy and Innovation Center, located at 4760 Clairemont Mesa Blvd. Hosted by the Greater San Diego Business Association (GSDBA) and the California Electric Vehicle Coalition, attendees will receive first-hand experience with the latest electric vehicle technology and learn more about the impacts electric vehicles have on our daily lives. GSDBA members and their guests are encouraged to attend to better understand the economic and health benefits of this growing marketplace, as well as enjoy the “Drive Electric Green Megaphone Awards” where Atkins and Gloria will be recognized. The event is open to the public. Those interested are asked to RSVP by July 18 to Sharon@better or call 818-563-9111.

ANNUAL PRIDE BBQ MOVES ITS GRILL With the closing of Top of the Park earlier this year, Special Deliver y San Diego’s annual Pride BBQ had to find a new home. The highly anticipated three-day BBQ and fundraiser will now be held at Rich’s in Hillcrest. Attendees can come out on Friday, July 18 to also enjoy food and festivities from 9 p.m. – 2 a.m., before making it back for Saturday’s famed cookout competition from 11 a.m. – 5 p.m. Purple Light Vacations, a new San Diego gay-owned and -operated travel and cruise agency, are co-sponsoring the event. Introducing their Purple Light Vacations Prize Wheel, the organization will be giving away hotel stays, an iPad mini and more. The festivities will continue on Saturday night from 9 p.m. – 2 a.m. All proceeds from the BBQ will benefit Special Deliver y, a non-profit organization that cooks and delivers meals to more than 130 individuals and families affected by AIDs, cancer and other critical illnesses in the San Diego community. ‘WOMAN IN MIRROR’ RETURNS FOR FRINGE FESTIVAL Professional dancer, Michael Jackson impersonator and San Diego native Devra Gregor y will once again bring the stor y of her life’s journey through dance and personal empowerment to the local stage. Gregor y and her one-woman show, “Woman In

GAY SAN DIEGO June 27–July 10, 2014 The Mirror, A Dancer’s Journey,” will see five performances during the upcoming San Diego International Fringe Festival, which takes place July 3 – 13 at various venues around San Diego. Gregor y’s performance will be at the 10th Avenue Theatre and Arts Centre, located at 930 10th Ave., Downtown. Directed by Jessica Bird, “Woman in the Mirror” first premiered at the L yceum Theatre in May of 2012. Gregor y garnered attention and rave reviews from both local audiences and critics, winning the Bravo San Diego Award for best solo concert in 2012, and was invited to perform the show for Live Arts Fest and White Box Live Arts, both in 2013. For tickets visit

NEW ‘SHE FEST’ LAUNCHES PRIDE WEEK On July 12, San Diego Pride invites women throughout Southern California to venture to the North Park Community Park for She Fest 2014, a women-centered event celebrating the talents and contributions of all women. Live music, workshops, booths and sports will pack this oneday festival starting at 11 a.m. A large lineup of musical performers will entertain throughout the day as well, with an after party at U-31, located 3112 University Ave., starting at 6 p.m. The event is free, but Pride encourages offering a helping hand with the purchase of She Fest T-shirts for $15 at she-fest-2014. The North Park Community Park is located at Idaho Street and Polk Avenue. Contact Kelcie Kopf at kelcie@ or 619-297-7683 for more information. MAMA’S KITCHEN SEEKS PUBLIC SUPPORT FOR FOOD DRIVES Mama’s Pantr y, a ser vice of Mama’s Kitchen that provides groceries at no cost for San Diego community members af fected by HIV/AIDS or cancer, is asking the public to par ticipate in its four th annual “Independence From Hunger” food drive. Throughout the month of July, individuals, businesses, schools and community groups are encouraged to host food drives to ensure the pantr y shelves are filled with non-perishable food items. Mama’s Pantr y hopes to collect 100 50-galloon barrels of food items like canned goods, boxes of cereal, jars of peanut butter and jelly, instant oatmeal packets, cans of tuna or salmon and boxes of pasta, among various other much needed perishable food sources. Founded in 1990, Mama’s Kitchen works to


feed over 800 low-income men, women and children af fected by HIV/AIDS or cancer each day at no cost. Statistics from the organization show that one trip alone to the Pantr y can provide 19 meals to a family in need. In addition, the Pantr y provided 112,366 meals to their clients in 2013. Mama’s Kitchen says the need for this ser vice is projected to increase in the coming years. Those interested can contact Bill Patten at or call 619-233-6262 to schedule a barrel deliver y and pick up once the food drive has ended. For more information about the “Independence from Hunger” food drive and to download a toolkit with ideas on how to host a successful food drive, visit events.php.

BERNAL ANNOUNCES CANDIDACY Anthony Bernal, long time staffer for Council President Todd Gloria, has announced that he will be running for City Council in 2016. In a message sent to an undisclosed email list, Bernal explained that he had filed his “candidate intention statement” with the Office of the City Clerk and asked that those in receipt of the email support his candidacy and share his website. District Three, which is currently in the hands of Council President Todd Gloria, includes North Park, Hillcrest, South Park, University Heights, Normal Heights, Old Town, Mission Hills, Bankers Hill, Middletown, Little Italy, Golden Hill and Downtown San Diego. As director of business and community projects for the last five years, Bernal ser ved as Gloria’s representative to Downtown, focusing on issues related to public utilities, public works, healthcare, and parks and recreation. Gloria, who will term out in 2016, was first elected to District Three in 2008. For more information about Bernal’s candidacy, visit ‘SMART METERS’ ON THE WAY Council President Todd Gloria announced June 16 the approval of a contract that would replace 97 percent of San Diego’s parking meters in exchange for new “smart” meters that would allow customers to pay with credit cards, as well as provide the City with more efficient ways to collect data on parking trends in San Diego. “Smart meters will finally bring San Diego’s parking management infrastructure into the 21st centur y,” Gloria stated in a press release. “With

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Down 39 Erie, to fifty million Frenchmen 41 Hard to come by 42 Whoopi and others, in “The Lion King” 45 “Annie” showstopper 48 Knock off 49 “The King and I” setting 50 Plague for payment 51 Act up, e.g. 54 “I ___, I float, I fleetly flee, I fly” 56 Went down on 57 Sophia’s job before transitioning 62 Puts on the dog? 64 NASCAR driver Yarborough 65 Use your tongue forcefully 66 Sitting sound 67 Sometime defender of gay rights 68 A bit, informally 69 “I’m too ___ for my shirt” 70 “Maude” producer 71 In a state, in southern states

1 Vanilla 2 ___ Gay Hamilton 3 Educational level of many fairy tale lovers 4 On the ball 5 Family 6 Glenn Burke’s sport 7 Expresses awe 8 Biscotti flavoring 9 Gear for going to the rear 10 Be in a cast 11 Type of fraud for which Sophia was imprisoned 12 Samuel Barber’s output 13 Word on some condom wrappers 21 Musical meter maid 22 ___ in the hay 26 It’s human 27 Place for Young men? 28 Depend (on)

29 Transgender actress who plays Sophia 31 You really suck if you use them 34 Less nuts 36 Drop ___ (moon) 37 Assured, with “up” 40 Synonym of 20-Across 43 “Yeah, right!” 44 Impassive 46 Bamako’s country 47 Cry of panic 51 Sounds like Fierstein 52 Scrabble piece that often goes with the Q 53 Smidgen 55 Ecstatic spasm, like an orgasm 58 Anne Hathaway’s “ __ Enchanted” 59 Pastry with fruit, perhaps 60 Caesar’s last question 61 Realize, as profits 63 Professional voyeur?


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Happy Birthday! San Diego Uptown News turned five years old this month, and Gay San Diego turned four. Staff of the San Diego Community News Network (SDCNN) — the parent company of the two papers — celebrated the two birthdays with a mixer at Gossip Grill on Monday, June 23. Writers, advertisers, friends, readers and other supporters all came together to mingle, gnosh, socialize and congratulate Publisher David Mannis and the entire staff. (Photos by SDCNN)

Hooked on ‘twinks’? MICHAEL KIMMEL

LIFE BEYOND THERAPY Dear Michael: I am 38 years old, handsome and successful. My problem is that only young guys turn me on. I like them between the ages of 21 – 24. Guys over 27 do nothing for me. Unfortunately, the guys I like are too young for a long-term relationship, so I’ve had a series of short relationships. But what I really want is a longterm relationship. Am I doomed to be hooked on twinks as I get older and older? And why does the thought of being with someone my age terrify me? I’m ready to grow up (I think). Help! Total Twink Fixation Dear TTF: Your email doesn’t give me much history to work with, so let’s look at several possibilities for your obsession with “unsuitable” potential partners, in this case, being hooked on “twinks.” Real intimacy is scary, it’s a lot of work and it forces us to see aspects of ourselves that we try and hide from the world. One way to avoid real intimacy is by choosing unsuitable partners. You never have to look at your own shit because no one ever gets close enough to you to see it (or call you on it). Another reason that people find

potential partners their own age unattractive is self-hatred. Both LGBT and hetero media encourage this by promoting images of (usually) white, hairless, perfect-looking young men and women — no fat or wrinkles — who sell us products that we think we need to stay young and desirable. The young gods and goddesses behind these images make great fantasy objects, but lousy partners for someone approaching 40. Obsessing with much younger people can also be about control. As the older person, you get to call the shots. It’s actually more of a business deal than it is a loving commitment: You provide security/money/stability for a younger person and they don’t challenge you the way someone your own age might. If you’re having big problems accepting your aging, picking a much younger lover is one way to avoid facing reality: It lets you live vicariously through someone else’s youth and beauty, and pretend that you’re still young and beautiful, too. Over the years I’ve worked with many clients who wanted much younger partners. Usually, these men and women had money, a pronounced need to be in control and a strong fear of aging. The scenario usually went something like this: Older man/woman finds beautiful young man/woman and wines and dines them — trips to Palm Springs/ Puerto Vallarta, expensive dinners at nice restaurants, shopping trips to Nordstrom — to convince them into becoming their lover. Eventually, the “hottie” acquiesces and moves into the gorgeous, luxurious home of their new lover. Time passes and young hottie grows bored. Money, clothes and trips are no longer enough. He/she misses people his or her own age with similar mindsets and beautiful bodies.

Young hottie picks a fight with older lover and leaves. Older lover comes crying to me: “I’ve been used.” My response: “Really? Who was using who?” Does this sound too harsh? Sorry, but obsessing on much younger people is usually a denial of what’s real and a way to pretend that we’re not aging. Only by telling ourselves the truth will we be able to free ourselves of this kind of obsession. And it IS an obsession. Let’s be clear about the difference between love and obsession: Love is about mutual caring, helping each other grow as individuals and as a couple, a partnership of equals (or near equals). Obsession is more like “I have to have you to be happy.” It’s narcissistic, really, because it’s all about “me”: “You are my love object and I’m using you.” This isn’t love. Being hooked on twinks is an obsession. Sometimes, an obsession is really stubborn. Despite your best efforts, you may not be able to shift it much. In that case, get some professional help. It may take some work to find out where your “twink” obsession comes from. There’s nothing wrong with finding young people attractive, but this “obsession” of yours is preventing you from being with someone hot, beautiful and mature … someone who could potentially be a good lover or long term partner for you. Don’t settle for less. —Michael Kimmel is a licensed psychotherapist who specializes in helping LGBT clients achieve their goals and deal with anxiety, depression, grief, sexually addictive behavior, coming out, relationship challenges and homophobia. Michael is currently accepting new clients. Contact him at 619-955-3311 or visit


Rachael Young

#1 on Fifth

Crest Cafe

Adam & Eve Bridal Veil

FIX Body Group

Saigon on Fifth

This year's winners!

San Diego is known for its thriving LGBT community, representing a close-knit family that is full of life. Our community returns again and again to the vibrant nooks and crannies of our city, patronizing businesses, supporting local community organizations and empowering its members, day in and day out. We recently asked the readers of Gay San Diego to take a moment and share with us their favorite restaurants, bars and retail businesses, found throughout our local neighborhoods and even beyond. While the LGBT family starts at the lively and colorful “gayborhood” of Hillcrest, we live in and visit all its surrounding areas — through the hip enclaves of North Park,

The Deli Llama

South Park and University Heights, and the cozy kick-back neighborhoods that cling to the canyons overlooking Mission Valley, including Mission Hills, Normal Heights, Kensington and Talmadge. Our influence also extends to Downtown and those neighborhoods nestled along its border: Little Italy, Bankers Hill and Golden Hill. But that’s not to say we don’t frequent Point Loma, La Jolla, and Carlsbad, or even South Bay and North County, because we do; and we even have an LGBTQ resource center up north and Pride festivals both north and south that we support and love, too. That’s a pretty wide swath and from each point far and wide, our readers have chosen the best of the best in such categories as

Inner Balance Institute

Bodhi Massage

server, breakfast, happy hour, wine bar, art gallery, romantic dining, cocktail, florist, museum, local bar, and many, many more. Some winners have been serving customers for decades, while others are new to the scene but clearly already making an impact. In this month’s special section, we offer the full list of Best of Gay San Diego winners, showcasing them with colorful photos and highlighting many with their specific missions to serve. To each of our winners, we extend a hearty congratulations on your Best of Gay San Diego award and we hope our loyal readers — and your loyal customers — continue to show you patronage and appreciation for many years to come.

Stockton Financial

Great Maple



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Congratulations Winners!

ACCOUNTANT Abbas, Jenson, & Cundari


ACUPUNCTURE Goldman Wellness Center



CHIROPRACTOR Tim Shannahan – Inner Balance Institute

AMERICAN CUISINE Harvey Milk’s American Diner ANTIQUES Zac’s Attic APPLIANCE STORE Sears Outlet ART GALLERY Alexander Salazar Fine Art AUTO DEALERSHIP Kearny Mesa Acura AUTO REPAIR SHOP Smitty’s Service BAKERY Bread & Cie BANK Wells Fargo BAR #1 Fifth Avenue BARBEQUE Brazen BBQ BAR CUISINE Urban MO’s BARTENDER Tug James – Rich’s BICYCLE SHOP Mission Hills Bike Shop BOUTIQUE Babette Schwartz BREAKFAST Snooze BRIDAL SHOP Bridal and Veil BRUNCH Urban MO’s BURGER Burger Lounge BURRITO El Zarape CASINO Sycuan

FINANCIAL PLANNER Mary Stockton – Stockton Financial FINE DINING Bertrand at Mister A’s FLORIST Green Fresh Florals

LAWYER Rachel Young

PIZZA Project Pie







LUNCH Urban MO’s


MANICURE/PEDICURE Lulu’s in South Park


MASSAGE The Knotstop

SALAD Whole Foods


SEAFOOD Blue Water Grill

MEXICAN CUISINE Ortega’s Mexican Bistro

SERVER Dennis Yrkoski – Urban MO’s

MICRO BREWERY Hillcrest Brewing Company





SUSHI Sushi Deli 1











PAWN SHOP Hillcrest Pawn


COCKTAIL Martinis Above Fourth






CONSIGNMENT SHOP Omar’s Consignment




CRAFT BEER BAR Hillcrest Brewing Company

GYM/WORKOUT STUDIO Crossfit Hillcrest


HAIRDRESSER Chuck Mitchell – Bear Hair

DAY SPA Bodhi Massage & Wellness Ctr


DELI Deli Llama

HAPPY HOUR Martinis Above Fourth

DENTIST Jeffery Keeny


DESSERT Extraordinary Desserts


DINNER Martinis Above Fourth


DEEJAY DJ Taj – Rich’s

HOSPITAL Scripps Mercy Hospital

DOCTOR Dr. Robert Houghton

HOTEL Lafayette Hotel & Suites



DRY CLEANERS Mission Cleaners





PET BOARDING Fido & Company

FARMERS’ MARKET Hillcrest Farmers’ Market




JEWELER Francis Family Jewelers

PET GROOMER Christine’s Pet Grooming


PHARMACY Pride Pharmacy

WEDDING VENUE The Prado WINE BAR Jake’s on 6th WOMEN’S FASHION Pretty Please YOGA STUDIO Core Power Yoga



ABBAS, JENSON, & CUNDARI 1940 Fifth Ave., #300, 92101 (619) 298-9699


GOLDMAN WELLNESS CENTER 2525 Camino Del Rio S., #265, 92108 (619) 917-6288



3847 Park Blvd., 92103 (619) 692-9499


HARVEY MILK’S AMERICAN DINER 535 University Ave., 92103 (619) 295-2747



2922 Adams Ave., 92116 (619) 284-0400



960 Sherman St., 92110 (619) 497-1123



640 Broadway, 92101 (619) 531-8996



5202 Kearny Mesa Rd., 92111 (858) 541-0200



3441 Adams Ave., 92116 (619) 281-7722 Smitty’s Service has been there for you since 1945. When Smitty first opened the shop he was just as likely to shoe your horse as he was to fix your car. Today we do only cars of course, but our level of training has evolved to match automotive technology. Providing dependable repair and maintenance requires knowledgeable technicians, but that’s only part of the equation. Offering San Diego’s best warranty requires a partnership with suppliers that not only stand behind their product but also have the track record we demand. We’re so confident of the quality of our work, we offer a two-year, unlimited mileage warranty! We also have a two-year, 24,000 mile nationwide warranty through TECH-NET that covers you when you travel. We also have roadside assistance available which covers every customer who purchases $25 or more at Smitty’s Service. This reimbursable program is good for up to a $75 on the following services — towing, battery jumpstarts, emergency fuel deliveries, lock out services and flat tire assistance. Grandpa Smitty always said “Customers don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.” Today we honor on that tradition and like to think it shows.



350 University Ave., 92103 (619) 683-9322



1220 Cleveland Ave., #M113, 92103 (619) 543-0096



3845 Fifth Ave., 92103 (619) 299-1911 One of Hillcrest’s most legendary gay bars, #1 Fifth Avenue has seen many changes since it opened in the early ‘80s. Now a relaxing tavern that caters to a casual crowd, #1 Fifth Avenue boasts shirtless bartenders, attractive waiters and an overall good energy. Conveniently located just steps from the Hillcrest sign, “#1” offers patrons delicious drinks at the lowest prices and a low-key vibe. A few televisions are set to whatever suits your fancy, but open-ended, friendly conversation and whatever’s playing the jukebox typically fills the air. #1 Fifth Avenue also features darts, pinball, and an outdoor pool table on the back patio. The patio bar also allows patrons to avoid the indoor crowds during the bar’s busy hours. The courteous staff is more than willing to point out where to go and what to do in the neighborhood, however there’s nowhere else quite as good to kick up your heels and throw back a drink or two, than at #1 Fifth Avenue.



441 Washington St., 92103 (619) 816-1990



308 University Ave., 92103 (619) 491-0400



1051 University Ave., 92103 (619) 295-2195


MISSION HILLS BIKE SHOP 141 W. Washington St., 92103 (619) 296-0618

Looking for somewhere to go for all your bike needs? Mission Hills Bike Shop is your answer. Customer service is taken seriously here; we want you leaving feeling satisfied with your bike’s wellbeing and safety. We know the importance of bike upkeep when it comes to the safety and longevity of your bike’s lifetime. The three main services we offer are the basic tune, the complimentary tune, and the protune.  All services range from $45 – $120. Our services aren’t just limited to bicycle needs, we can help with wheelchair issues as well. Whatever the issue may be, come stop by and see if we can help!



421 University Ave., 92103 (619) 220-7048 see Best Of, pg 14

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308 University Ave., 92103 (619) 491-0400



3940 Fifth Ave., 92103 (619) 500-3344



528 Fifth Ave., 92101 (619) 955-5727



1233 Camino Del Rio S., 92108 (619) 295-0820


4642 Park Blvd., 92116 (619) 692-1652



5469 Casino Way, 92019 (619) 445-6002


TIM SHANNAHAN – INNER BALANCE INSTITUTE 1816 Lincoln Ave., 92103 (619) 543-9999

Inner Balance Institute is committed to helping its patients achieve their optimal health potential. Inner Balance Institute’s goal is to discover the underlying root cause of your suffering and customize effective treatment solutions for lasting and permanent relief. Inner Balance Institute’s caring and professional staff utilizes state-of-the-art equipment in a warm and relaxing healing environment where our patients can melt away the stresses of everyday life.


MARTINIS ABOVE FOURTH 3940 Fourth Ave., 92103 (619) 400-4500

CASUAL DINING Bridal & Veil has been a full service Bridal Salon since 1941. Yes, we have been around for that long so we do know what we are doing. Planning your wedding may be stressful but we here at Bridal & Veil ease nerves by providing a salon that caters to the bride, mother of the bride, bridesmaids and the flower girls, so you can be taken care of within one visit. Our salon is open to everyone and we are profound supporters of the LGBT community. We have experienced consultants who can assist you with your every need. Please feel free to visit our website and get a preview of what our store has to offer at Come visit us in Mission Valley. We are open Monday through Friday from 11 a.m. – 7 p.m., Saturday 10 a.m. – 6 p.m. and Sunday, 11 a.m. – 5 p.m.

425 Robinson Ave., 92103 (619) 295-2510


3029 University Ave., 92104 (619) 291-7500


4096 30th St., 92104 (619) 521-0533



5500 Campanile Dr., 92115 (619) 594-6336

CONSIGNMENT SHOP 3847 Fifth Ave., 92103 (619) 291-1391

Thank you for voting us the #1 Consignment and Antique Store in Hillcrest. Please stop in to see our collection antiques and unique beautiful pieces and art. View our current inventory at Mention this ad and receive 20 percent off your purchase. Currently accepting fine antiques and unique pieces. We offer up to 70 percent commission.

DR. WILLIAM HEIMER 3737 Fourth Ave., 92103 (619) 299-0700

Located in the heart of Hillcrest, Martinis Above Fourth is an eclectic contemporary restaurant, lounge and bar, featuring award-winning martinis and casual fine dining. Voted #1 Martini Bar in San Diego from Sign On San Diego, MA4 features over 100 specialty martinis, a wide selection of spirits, wine and beer, and a main stage with performers spanning the entire musical spectrum from jazz to pop and everything in-between.

your skin is well taken care of, it acquires the famous “glow” and is “radiantly” beautiful. Though they may not be able to put their finger on the exact reason, people tend to notice something special about a person with perfect skin.



1458 University Ave., 92103 (619) 269-4323







Dr. William Heimer and the team at his San Diego area practice consistently strive to achieve the best results for their patients. Whether you come to him for skin rejuvenation with microdermabrasion, or wrinkle fillers such as Restylane, or for advanced acne treatment or laser hair removal, you can rest assured Dr. Heimer and his staff will do everything in their power to make sure you leave the office satisfied. Healthy, smooth skin gives you a fresh, youthful appearance. Great skin is a key element of beauty; when


2245 Fenton Pkwy., #107, 92108 (877) 732-2848 San Diego County Credit Union was founded on the principle that people come first and profits second. This forward-thinking approach in the banking industry has propelled SDCCU to become San Diego’s BEST Credit Union and largest locally-owned financial institution. SDCCU provides breakthrough banking products that meet the demands of today’s lifestyle and deliver banking services that save customers money. SDCCU serves customers nationwide with 30,000 surcharge-FREE CO-OP ATMs and 33 branch locations in San Diego, Riverside and Orange counties.



3678 Fourth Ave., 92103 (619) 274-2744 Bodhi San Diego Massage and Wellness Center is passionately dedicated to your health and well being. We are conveniently located in the heart of San Diego’s vibrant Hillcrest neighborhood. Find an escape here in our wellness center and treat yourself. We want you to feel like our space is a breath of fresh air. From our lush vegetation and all wood floors, to the natural fabrics and colors surrounding our studio, you’ll feel welcomed here. We work with each individual’s needs and want to cater to you during your visit. We emphasize a holistic approach when addressing all aspects of the body, mind and spirit. Our team offers relaxing spa treatments as well as long-term treatments, all customized to your specific needs. We look forward to seeing you soon.



3702 Fifth Ave., 92103 (619) 295-4666 It began with a concept — sumptuous sandwiches in a whimsical setting where customers feel like family. In just four short years, The Deli Llama has received eight local awards for Best Deli, Best Lunch and Best Sandwich, and a national award for best ad for Gay Pride. With a menu that offers specialty sandwiches and panini, gourmet soups and specialty drinks, as well as gluten-free and vegetarian options, The Deli Llama continues to draw new and loyal customers to enjoy its delicious food and fanciful setting ... the little deli where the staff treats customers like family!



1807 Robinson Ave., 92103 (619) 295-1512 Dr. Keeny practices general dentistry with a heavy emphasis on cosmetic treatments. His practice also offers implants, crowns, white fillings, prevention, sports dentistry and children’s dental services. Supporting Dr. Keeny are various special-

see Best Dentist, pg 15


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BEST DENTIST ists, including a team of four hygienists and a support staff that offer exceptional service. Dr. Keeny emphasizes that, “our patients are our friends.” When he is not offering exceptional dental services, Dr. Keeny is an avid athlete who has completed 10 Ironman triathlons. He also does fundraising for varying HIV/AIDS prevention programs as well as the Challenged Athletes Foundation (CAF) where he has bike-trekked from San Francisco to San Diego to raise over $30,000 for the foundation for the past two years. Not only does Dr. Keeney offer the community his valuable services, he also contributes with his work as a co-chair for Front Runners and a staff member at the HIV/AIDS clinic at the UCSD Medical Center. He also participates in the Advisory Board for Proctor & Gamble. He has been a member of the Greater San Diego Business Association (GSDBA) as well as other involvements that continue to make a progressive difference in the community.


EXTRAORDINARY DESSERTS 2929 Fifth Ave., 92103 (619) 294-2132


MARTINIS ABOVE FOURTH 3940 Fourth Ave., 92103 (619) 400-4500



1051 University Ave., 92103 (619) 295-2195

DR. ROBERT HOUGHTON 1855 First Ave., 92101 (619) 233-4044



631 B St., 92101 (310) 625-5571 Recently placing in top 10 best donut shops in the USA, Donut Bar’s efforts to concentrate on real ingredients, flavors, textures and design continues to be a success. Donut Bar promotes and celebrates an artisan baking culture that first appeared in Europe and America in the 1940s. This style has been taken and is simple to produce delightful treats for all to love. Donut Bar’s profound support toward the LGBT community has landed them Best Donut Shop of Gay San Diego. If you plan to stop by Donut Bar and see what they have to offer make sure to stop by early in the morning because they sell out fast! We are open Monday through Friday, 7 a.m. until we sell out, and Saturday & Sunday, 8 a.m. until we sell out.



105 Washington St., 92103 (619) 295-4139



2611 El Cajon Blvd., 92104 (619) 296-8268 see Best Of, pg 16

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3960 Normal St., 92103 (619) 299-3330



4365 Executive Dr., #800, 92121 (858) 623-8945 Mary has been a successful Financial Advisor with Stockton Financial for nearly 20 years. In 2009 and 2012 she earned the award Agent of the Year for the local New York Life office. She has also been awarded Top Producer, Mutual Fund Leader, Annuity Elite Champion, and the Life Star Award, among others. She was also acknowledged by San Diego Pride in 2011 with the Pride Community Service Award and by The Tom Homann Law Association in 2012 with the Outstanding Service to the Community Award. In 2009 she was awarded the Mind Masters Entrepreneur of the Year Award. Prior to moving to San Diego she owned the women’s bookstore, Crones’ Harvest, in Boston. Her business became a valuable cultural center and she was honored with the Helen Diner Community Leadership Award. Locally Mary has served on the boards of Stepping Stone of San Diego, The San Diego LGBT Center and Diversionary Theatre. She currently serves as treasurer for the board of the San Diego Human Dignity Foundation. Mary is married to Alison McManus, a Doctor in Nursing Practice and an activist in her own right. They live in North Park.

FINE DINING The Hillcrest Farmers’ Market is one of the largest and most well known outdoor markets in all of San Diego. On any given sunday from 9 a.m. to 2 p.m. you can find 125 vendors with fairly-priced items and a welcoming environment. Many of the local farmers participating in the market grow their produce organically or with no pesticides. We offer other activities as well, including a large number of participating arts and crafts vendors and live weekly entertainment by performers including Shawn Rohlf and the 7th Day Buskers, a local folk band. If you’re looking for a way to support local growers and enjoy San Diego’s sunny weather, check out this farmers’ market, you won’t be disappointed.



BERTRAND AT MISTER A’S 2550 Fifth Ave., #12, 92103 (619) 239-1377


GREEN FRESH FLORALS 3785 Fourth Ave., 92103 (619) 544-0504



420 Robinson Ave., 92103 (619) 268-2400



1010 University Ave., #103, 92103 (619) 297-0850



633 University Ave., 92103 (619) 291-1911



2340 University Ave., 92104 (619) 692-9082 For over 25 years Olympic Cafe has been your friendly neighborhood eatery specializing in Greek cuisine. Conveniently located in the North Park neighborhood of San Diego, we offer a large variety of award-winning menu items from breakfast to dessert. Olympic Cafe first opened in 1985 and has been serving some of the best Greek-inspired dishes ever since. Located at the corner of University Avenue and Texas Street, we are just a short drive from any point in the city.



1090 University Ave., 92103 (619) 296-3122


CROSSFIT HILLCREST 3746 Sixth Ave., 92103 (858) 859-2342


CHUCK MITCHELL – BEAR HAIR 4002 Park Blvd., #B2, 92103 (619) 694-8482



141 University Ave., #2, 92103 (619) 297-9333


MARTINIS ABOVE FOURTH 3940 Fourth Ave., 92103 (619) 400-4500



1007 University Ave., 92103 (619) 291-5988



4175 Park Blvd., 92103 (619) 291-8287



3492 Adams Ave., 92116 (619) 283-3153



449 University Ave., 92103 (619) 299-7203



4661 Park Blvd., 92116 (619) 269-9989


SCRIPPS MERCY HOSPITAL 4077 Fifth Ave., 92103 (619) 294-8111

Scripps Health is a nonprofit health care system based in San Diego, California. The system includes four hospitals and 19 outpatient facilities, and treats a half-million patients annually through 2,600 affiliated physicians. The system also includes clinical research and medical education programs. The organization has a number of projects planned, including Scripps Cardiovascular Institute, which will serve as a center for heart disease treatment, research and graduate medical education. The Scripps Proton Therapy Center is only the second facility in the western U.S. to offer proton therapy, primarily used in cancer treatment.


LAFAYETTE HOTEL & SUITES 2223 El Cajon Blvd., 92104 (619) 296-2101



3960 Fifth Ave., 92103 (619) 297-7777 bombayrestaurant.html



FRANCIS FAMILY JEWELERS 1050 University Ave., 92103 (619) 297-7300



425 Robinson Ave., 92103 (619) 295-2510 If eating a burger stuffed with butter is wrong, then I don’t want to be right. Crest Cafe has turned me on to a higher form of gluttony than I ever thought possible, and it feels good to be bad. Situated in one of San Diego’s 24-hour neighborhoods, Crest Cafe serves up outrageous comfort food for both morning and night. One bite of the signature Butter Burger, and Guy’s fingers weren’t dry for long: “This is a level of juice you haven’t seen before.” Crest Cafe is conveniently open 364 days a year from 7 a.m. to 12 a.m. With unbeatable discounts after 5 p.m., Crest Cafe is the place to get your grub on after work or to eat out with your family and friends.



3843 Richmond St., 92103 (619) 296-6056


3555 Fourth Ave., 92103 (619) 584-0505 The Law Office of Rachel P. Young is a San Diego located law firm that provides legal counsel in multiple areas to meet the personal and business needs of members of our diverse community. Attorney Rachel P. Young understands that each case is unique and requires of a unique blend of methods to yield the most favorable results for clients. As a boutique firm, we are able to provide the one-on-one attention to clients that larger firms cannot provide. Attorney Young takes a client-centered approach to her practice. This means having and showing compassion and respect for her clients, her client’s goals, and her client’s needs. In depth explanations to the client about the law and process is the rule for client interactions at this law firm, not the exception. We believe that everyone should have access to legal counsel, and our approach focuses on guiding the client in the legal process to ensure that the client’s decisions are informed and effective.



2046 University Ave., 92104 (619) 296-0889 see Best Of, pg 18


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LULU’S IN SOUTH PARK 2348 30th St., 92104 (619) 521-2026



143 S. Cedros Ave., 92075 (858) 481-9022



1363 Old Globe Way, 92101 (619) 234-5623


1080 University Ave., 92103 (619) 296-5668



160 Horton Plaza, 92101 (619) 231-4747


ORTEGA’S MEXICAN BISTRO The internationally acclaimed, Tony Award-winning Old Globe is one of the most esteemed regional theaters in the country. The Globe boasts three unique venues: the historic Old Globe Theatre, the intimate Sheryl and Harvey White Theatre, and the outdoor Lowell Davies Festival Theatre. Founded in 1935, the Globe produces 15 plays and musicals annually — from the renowned Summer Shakespeare Festival to world-premiere productions that have gone on to Broadway. No matter where you sit in this theatre you will always have an amazing and cozy seat with a marvelous view of the set.



308 University Ave., 92103 (619) 491-0400

141 University Ave., 92103 (619) 692-4200



1458 University Ave., 92103 (619) 269-4323



3845 Fifth Ave., 92103 (619) 299-1911



415 University Ave., 92103 (619) 291-6969 The Adam & Eve retail store is an upscale specialty retail boutique for discerning couples, women, and men. The store was specifically designed to give an increasing number of customers a refined alternative to online and catalog shopping. Our store offers a wide variety and selection of women and men’s apparel, lingerie, hosiery, shoes, games, novelties, massages, lotions, DVD’s, instructional/ self-help manuals, and books. By offering only the highest quality products, we maintain the integrity that our customers have come to expect over the years. Our target customers are women, couples, and men 21-59 and older.



1451 Washington St., 92103 (619) 255-2282 The Great Maple is a simple declaration and appreciation for seasonal produce, responsible seafood and farm fresh American meat. We show our love of these great gifts as we protect and serve them in a room created for libation and conversation. Echoing a stylish European dinette with rustic touches, seating options are plentiful: belly up to the bar, grab a two-top, have a slice of pie at the counter, settle into a booth, or get some air on the patio. Our chefs create great eats for all foodies alike and our staff offers an environment that is warm and welcoming to enjoy your meal with great company. We strive for a meal setting without pretense and that gives you the opportunity to celebrate daily seasonal items and of course, pies! We welcome you to enjoy yourself at The Great Maple and indulge in all we have to offer!



1051 University Ave., 92103 (619) 295-2195



3788 Park Blvd., #5, 92103 (619) 683-2020



2820 Lytton St., 92110 (619) 226-9019



308 University Ave., 92103 (619) 491-0400



3748 Sixth Ave., 92103 (619) 297-1224


LUKE DEPRON – FIX BODY GROUP 1010 University Ave., #C-203, 92103 (619) 295-9791

At Fix Body Group we have a team of elite and experienced healthcare professionals available to you. We are

see Best Trainer, pg 20


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GAY SAN DIEGO June 27–July 10, 2014


BEST TRAINER San Diego’s premier rehab and training center, ready to help you overcome any challenges you may face. We use a powerful blend of Chiropractic, Sports Therapy, Strength Training, Nutrition, and Manual Therapies such as Active Release Technique, Myofascial Release, and Structural Integration. We provide the necessary therapies to get athletes of all levels performing to their full potential. If you suffer from acute injury, chronic pain that seems incurable, or are simply are looking for ways to strengthen and realign your body or improve your performance, look no further. We gladly anticipate the chance to work with you. Our mission is to get you back doing what you love, pain free and stronger than before.


CHRISTINE’S PET GROOMING 4239 Park Blvd., 92103 (619) 299-6410



1270 University Ave., 92103 (619) 501-5888



3888 Fourth Ave., 92103 (619) 241-2881


1202 Camino Del Rio N., 92108 (619) 481-6191


410 Kalmia St., 92101 (619) 325-4170 The Ascent Real Estate team is experienced in property sales and acquisitions ranging from expansive estates to single-family homes and condominiums. Ascent Real Estate embodies an enviable combination of entrepreneurial energy, comprehensive industry experience and local market knowledge. Ascent Real Estate is comprised of a talented and highly motivated team with extensive experience in all phases of real estate transactions. The company maintains excellent relationships with key players across the residential real estate industry including brokers, home builders, and financial partners.


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Friday, June 27

Fridays on Fifth: HBA’s recurring Friday “San Diego Social Hour,” encouraging people to “eat drink and shop” from 4 – 9 p.m. on Fifth Ave. between Brookes Ave. and Washington St. Plenty of drink, food and shopping specials from local businesses. Visit Celebrate Speaker Atkins: The San Diego LGBT Community Center is hosting a community celebration to honor Toni Atkins from 6 – 8 p.m. Atkins is the first San Diegan and the first out-lesbian Speaker of the California Assembly. Appetizers, wine and beer will be ser ved. RSVP at SpeakerAtkins or call 619-6922077. The Center is located at 3909 Centre St. in Hillcrest. Live Music – Sue Palmer: join our ver y own Queen of Boogie Woogie in the Expatriate Room at 7 p.m. $5 cover if dining, $10 music only. Croce’s Park West, 2760 Fifth Ave., Bankers Hill. Call 619-233-4355 or visit

Saturday, June 28

Oceanside Freedom Parade: join the North County LGBTQ Resource Center as the only LGBT contingent in this annual city-sponsored Independence Day parade. 9:30 a.m. – 12 p.m. Meet at the 101 Café, 631 S. Coast Hwy, Oceanside. For more info visit the NCLGBTQresourcecenter page on Facebook. Jakes on 6th turns 5: join the staff at Jake’s for their fifth anniversar y party. They’ll have a hosted catered table for the first hour, a two-piece band (Don L. and Ria Carey), raffles and drink specials all night. 6 p.m. – close. 3755 Sixth Ave., Hillcrest. For more info visit Pachanga de Frida!: Commemorate the legendar y life of Frida Kahlo, one of the most influential Mexican painters ever, with the staff of the LGBT Center. Live music, art, vendors, a Frida look-alike contest, great food, beer and even tequila. 21+. 6 – 10 p.m. 3909 Centre St., Hillcrest. Tickets $15 advance, $20 door. Proceeds benefit Latin@ Ser vices at the Center. Tickets

Padres Fedora giveaway: Padres meet up with the Arizona Diamondbacks for night two of a three-day stint, 7:10 p.m. and all attendees get a Padres Fedora courtesy of Cox Communications. Petco Park, East Village. Tickets at Crawfish Boil: Are you missing some southern goodness? Local Habit is having their 3rd annual crawfish boil, with fresh live crawfish straight from "Nawlins" for your gnoshing pleasure, along with smoked Andouille sausage they make in house.

Monkey Paw Brewing has made a special sweet tea brew for the day. 11 a.m. to 10 p.m. The Euphoria Brass band will ser ve up some street jazz from 8 – 10 p.m. 3877 Fifth Ave., Hillcrest. Visit

Sunday, June 29

YPC Champagne Brunch: Celebrate with the latest graduates of The Center’s Young Professionals Council at their third annual brunch and graduation. Champagne glasses will clink at Wang’s North Park from 11 a.m. to 1 p.m. Tickets are $40 and available at events.thecentersd. org/brunch. Showtune Sundays at Lips: Babette Schwartz and Divettes bring you the best of Broadway musicals. 7 – 10 p.m. For reser vations, visit lipssd. com or call 619-295-7900.

Monday, June 30

World Cup: Flicks will be covering the World Cup matches all season. 4 p.m. 1017 University Ave., Hillcrest. For the entire World Cup match schedule, visit Padres tote bag giveaway: San Diego Padres welcome the Cincinnati Reds for a quick two-day stint, starting tonight at 7:10 p.m. and attendees get a reusable tote bag, courtesy of MLB Network. Petco Park, 100 Park Blvd., East Village. Tickets at Movie Monday at Croces: “Stripes” starring Bill Murray screens at 7p.m. ExPatriate Room, Croce’s Park West, 2760 Fifth Ave., Bankers Hill. Call 619-233-4355 or visit – FREE with food or drink purchase.

Tuesday, July 1

Lesbian Meet-up: Weekly early morning business networking meeting, offering a chance to share and support each other’s business or passions. All lesbians in community are invited. 7:30 – 8:30 a.m. Caffe Calabria, 3933 30th St., North Park. Pride World Forum: LGBT civil rights leaders from around the world will convene to participate in a panel discussion at the San Diego LGBT Center to discuss their work and human rights issues around the globe. Delegates will be in attendance from countries such as India, Israel, Nigeria, Turkey, Uganda, Vietnam and more. Hosted by San Diego Pride in The Center auditorium. 3909 Centre St., Hillcrest. Space is limited. Register at Spaghetti & Showtunes: When was the last time you had an all-you-can-eat plate of fabulous spaghetti for a mere $6? Now that’s a bargain. Plus showtunes and fun clips for your

favorite TV shows. 5 – 10 p.m. Urban MO’s, 308 University Ave. Visit

Wednesday, July 2

Diversionar y: “Bare: A Pop Opera” kicks off tonight, is a contemporar y rock musical that focuses on a group of teens wrestling with their sexuality at a Catholic boarding school. 8 p.m. Runs through Aug 2. 4545 Park Blvd., University Heights. Visit diversionar

Guys Games and Grub: For just $5 you can meet up with new and old friends for a night of pizza, drinks, games and socializing and your host is Benny Cartwright. Proceeds go to Men’s Programming. 6:30 – 9:30 p.m. For more info contact aheier@ or call 619692-2077 x211. Pictionar y: Come play with Tiger … and Sister Ida Know on the back patio. Match your skills, win fun prizes and raise money for good causes. 7:30 – 10 p.m. #1 on 5th, 3845 Fifth Ave.

Thursday, July 3

San Diego Fringe Fest: Opening night – check out the bold, cutting edge performances at one of nine venues through July 13. Too many to list! Find out more at shows.php.

Countr y Western Dancing: Kick up your boots and scoot over to Urban MO’s for some line dancing and swirling around the dance floor. All skill levels welcome. 7 p.m. to close. 308 University Ave., Hillcrest. Visit #Lez at Rich’s: The women are at Rich’s tonight with rotating DJs, hot go go girls and lots of music. 10 p.m. – 2 a.m. Rich’s is at 1051 University Ave., in Hillcrest. Visit richssandiego. com/lez. Male Box Night: While the girls are playing at Rich’s tonight, the boys are invited across the street to Gossip Grill. Special menu, drink specials and rotating DJs. 9 p.m. 1220 University Ave. Visit gossipgrill. com.

Friday, July 4 ** Independence Day ***

Summer in the Park: The University Heights Community Development Corporation’s annual summer concert music series is back at Trolley Barn Park, located at Adams Avenue and Florida Street. Tonight, Rhythm and the Method, 6 – 8 p.m. For full schedule, visit Big Bay Boom: Port of San Diego’s “Independence Day Spectacular” is a massive

fourth of July fireworks show produced simultaneously from four different barges located around San Diego Bay, with North Embarcadero, Harbor Island, Shelter Island, Coronado Ferr y Landing, and Seaport Village as the best viewing locations. Parking and shuttle ser vices are available. 9 p.m. For more info visit

Saturday, July 5

Padres beach bag giveaway: Come watch our San Diego Padres battle rival San Francisco Giants and get a Padres beach bag presented by National University. First pitch is at 4:15 p.m. Petco Park, 100 Park Blvd., East Village. Tickets at San Diego Fringe Fest: Check out the bold, cuttingedge performances at one of nine venues through July 13. Too many to list! Find out more at php. Kick-up your heels and dance: Countr y Western Night at Kickers inside Urban MO’s has been letting those cowboys and girls swing around the dance floor ever y Thursday and Saturday for decades. All skill levels, free lessons. 7 – 8:30 p.m. Urban MO’s, 308 University Ave.

Sunday, July 6

Not your momma’s Church: Welcome to the award-winning Church, happening ever y Sunday at World Famous Babycakes, located at 3766 Fifth Ave. There is definitely some preaching going on here between 3 – 8 p.m. Visit or call 619-296-4173. Sunday Gospel Brunch: Join Sister Nun-of-the-Above and the Sisters of Sequins for a spirit-lifting brunch. Seating 11 a.m., 11:30 a.m. or 12 p.m. $5 cover. Brunch $17.95. For reser vations, visit or call 619-295-7900 x5. Live Music – Besos de Coco: Part of the “Women in Jazz series” these three women create a “fresh and intense sound” that mixes oldworld Mediterranean, Latin American and Jazz traditions. Ex-Patriate Room, 6 – 10 p.m. $5 cover if dining, $10 music only. Croce’s Park West, 2760 Fifth Ave., Bankers Hill. Call 619-233-4355 or visit San Diego Fringe Fest: Check out the bold, cutting edge performances at one of nine venues through July 13. Too many to list! Find out more at shows.php.

Monday, July 7

Yoga for Ever yone: Wanting to tr y yoga but afraid to start? Check out this weekly free basic yoga class taught by Tim Schultheis. Options available for the more advanced. 10:30 – 11:30 a.m. The Center, 3909 Centre St., Hillcrest. Contact LaRue Fields, lfields@ Movie Monday: “O Brother, Where Art Thou?” the classic Coen brothers film starring George Clooney and John Turturro. 7 p.m. Free with purchase of food/drinks. Ex-patriate Room, Croce’s Park West, 2760 Fifth Ave., Bankers Hill. Call

619-233-4355 or visit San Diego Fringe Fest: Check out the bold, cutting edge performances at one of nine venues through July 13. Too many to list! Find out more at php.

Tuesday, July 8

Lesbian Meet-up: New weekly early morning business networking meeting, offering a chance to share and support each other’s business or passions. All lesbians in community are invited. 7:30 – 8:30 a.m. Caffe Calabria, 3933 30th St., North Park. San Diego Fringe Fest: Check out the bold, cutting edge performances at one of nine venues through July 13. Too many to list! Find out more at shows.php. Painting and Vino: Local professional artists instruct attendees on painting a masterpiece. Tonight — “Birch Trees Over Lake” at 98 Bottles in Little Italy, 2400 Kettner Blvd. Also — “Dolphins” at Marina Kitchen, located at the Marriott Marquis and Marina, 333 W. Harbor Dr., Downtown. Both events are 21+ and from 6 – 9 p.m. $45, all supplies included, registration required. Corkage fee $15 at 98 Bottles if you bring your own wine. For more info, visit

Wednesday, July 9

San Diego Fringe Fest: Check out the bold, cutting edge performances at one of nine venues through July 13. Too many to list! Find out more at sdfringe. org/2014/shows.php.

Pictionar y: Come play with Tiger … and Sister Ida Know on the back patio. Match your skills, win fun prizes and raise money for good causes. 7:30 – 10 p.m. #1 on Fifth Avenue, 3845 Fifth Ave., Hillcrest.

Thursday, July 11

San Diego Fringe Fest: Check out the bold, cutting edge performances at one of nine venues through July 13. Too many to list! Find out more at shows.php. #Lez at Rich’s: The women are at Rich’s tonight with rotating DJs, hot go go girls and the lots of music. 10 p.m. – 2 a.m. Rich’s is at 1051 University Ave., in Hillcrest. For more info, Male Box Night: While the girls are playing at Rich’s tonight, the boys are invited across the street to Gossip Grill. Special menu, drink specials and rotating DJs. 9 p.m. 1220 University Ave. For more info, visit

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Members of the Flicks Fireballs softball team participated in the drag fundraiser, “Hits, Runs, Whores.” (Photo by Michael Iglesias)

Outlaws advance to World Series The Open Division of America’s Finest City Softball League (AFCSL) held its C Division playoffs on Sunday, June 22 in Escondido at Kit Carson Park, and the favored Hillcrest Brewing Company Outlaws prevailed, earning the league’s final berth to the World Series this fall. By owning the second seed, the Outlaws earned a bye and were able to watch Lestat’s Wicked and Mariposa SOL battle it out for the right to advance to the title game. Wicked and Sol had met once before, with Sol eking out an 11–10 victor y. This time around, when it mattered most, Wicked pulled off the mild upset against the higher-seeded Sol squad (who was missing their top player and manager, Bill French), with a 9–8 victor y. The game was lowscoring at the onset, with Sol holding a 2–1 lead into the fourth inning. Sol added three runs, but Wicked responded with five of its own to take the lead. Sol fought back with another three-spot, only to be outdone by another three-run rally by Wicked in this highly entertaining ballgame. The Outlaws may or may not have been rooting for SOL to advance, if only to enact some revenge for their title game loss to French’s underdog squad in the 2013 playoffs. Regardless, the Outlaws took care of business, handing Wicked a 16–5 defeat. The World Series will be held Sept. 22–27 in Dallas. Joining the Outlaws will be the Spikes and The Loft from B, the Flicks Lawmen from C, and Pecs and the Hitmen from D. Hits, Runs, Whores The FilmOut Strike Force, one of the teams in AFCSL’s B Division, held a unique fundraiser on June 21 in North Park. With Ryan Galasso at the helm, the team organized a drag competition with entries from other AFCSL teams. Teams could offer solo or group acts, as long as the performers dressed as the opposite sex. Strike Force was not the only team earning money for the event, which was ultimately ver y successful according to Galasso. Teams themselves could earn

money for selling tickets, and the team that sold the most tickets was also awarded a minor prize. And of course, the drag team that won the contest, called Hits, Runs, Whores, would win $500. The Flicks Fireballs of the D Division cleaned up, not only winning the on-stage contest by vote of local drag personalities, but also by selling the most tickets to the event. Hits, Runs, Whores probably could have used a few more entrants — two performers had to drop out of the competition on the day of — but it was great to see someone step up and create an event that was unique and well-attended. Galasso, who moved here after years of playing softball in Los Angeles, brought the HRW to San Diego based on his experiences with LA’s popular softball event called the Switch Hitter’s Ball. No word yet if Strike Force will bring the event back next year, but I suspect they will, and I also believe the event will bring out even more performers, based on the positive feedback being expressed. World Cup Fever There is a running joke among soccer snobs that most of the people getting fired up watching this year’s World Cup are people who have never watched a match before. I understand the humor behind this, but honestly, I do not mind. We hear that joke ever y four years. I watch the United States qualifying matches because I find soccer interesting. But I do not see anything wrong with people tuning in for the first time. The event is a patriotic one. Soccer is always more fun to watch in big crowds, like any other sport, really. Watching the matches at Flicks has been a personal favorite for me, because the crowds for the U.S. matches there have been huge, as well as loud. Fans have been getting behind other countries as well. Mexico has a huge following, despite the controversy surrounding their fans’ homophobic chants any time an opposing keeper touches the ball. Spain, England, and Italy made surprising early exits from the tournament, but their fan following was

strong. Whether people are watching the sport for the first time, or rooting for particular teams based on something as trivial as the looks of certain players, I am cool with it. If 20 new fans watch the sport and even just one of them gets hooked, that is better for this awesome sport. Tony Gwynn (1960 - 2014) It is with unbelievable sadness that I reflect on the passing of the great and beloved Tony Gwynn. Great athletes come and go during our lifetime, but “Mr. Padre” was not just a great player for 20 seasons, he was a great person. Yes, his .338 lifetime average was higher than any player born after World War II — almost ten points higher, in fact. Yes, the Hall of Famer won five Gold Gloves and eight batting titles. And it is sad to me that a generation of San Diegans will only remember him as the broken down, over weight player (who could still hit) when he retired in 2001. He played elite defense. He once stole 56 bases in a season. In 1994 and 1995, he never went more than two games without getting a hit. That is astwounding. He struck out fewer than 20 times in eight of his 20 seasons! But he also did so much for our community, with many of his good deeds left as untold stories. Ask anyone who met the man (including me), and they can provide stories about how Tony always had a smile on his face, treated ever yone the same, and gave his time to ever yone as best as he could. I was not raised as a Padres fan, but his cancer-driven death at the young age of 54 is incredibly sad for me, and I mourn not only for his family, but for all of you who thought of Tony Gwynn as your idol. —Jef f Praught is actively involved in the LGBT spor ts community, where he plays in the local softball (AFCSL), football (SDAFFL) and basketball (SD Hoops) leagues. He has served on AFCSL’s board of of ficers in various capacities and is currently the commissioner of SD Hoops. He can be reached at dugoutchatter@ FROM PAGE 9

Life reports that while funds are still coming in, this has already proved to be one of its most successful years to date.

more user-friendly parking meters, customers will be able to more easily patronize the small businesses throughout Downtown, Uptown and Mid-City, contributing to the economic development of our city.” The five-year agreement between the City of San Diego and parking meter company IPS, Inc. will cost more than $8 million, of which more than $3 million will be funded by the Community Parking District and the rest will be covered by meter revenue throughout the five-year period, which ends in November 2018. Of the 5,700 metered parking spaces managed by the City, the majority are more than 10 years old and only accept coin or the outdated pre-loaded parking cards. The smart meters are expected to be installed this fall.

LABOR DEPARTMENT HIGHLIGHTS LGBT LITERATURE In honor of Pride Month, the U.S. Department of Labor recently chose a select a number of American, work-related LGBT literature to add to its list, “Books that Shaped Work in America.” Among the titles selected were George Chauncey’s “Gay New York” and Walt Whitman’s “Leaves of Grass.” The list is meant to reflect the significance and benefits of more diverse and inclusive workplaces, and was compiled from nominations by 24 high-ranking U.S. officials and non-government organizations. Two selections added came from Chad Griffin, president of the Human Rights Campaign, and Mara Keisling, executive director of the National Center for Transgender Equality. Those interested in nominating books for the list may visit dol. gov/books/form.


DOFL’S BIGGEST STARS REVEALED On April 24, more than 80 restaurants throughout San Diego participated in Dining Out For Life, which raises money for much-needed HIV/ AIDS programs and ser vices provided by The San Diego LBGT Community Center. This year, The Mission, who donated 100 percent of sales from all three of their locations that day, topped all other restaurants by bringing in more than $15,000. Other big supporters were Adams Avenue Grill, Martinis Above Fourth, Café 21 – Downtown, and Wang’s North Park, all of which raised between $5,000 and $14,999. Other restaurants notable for donating 50 percent of their sales that day were Project Pie, Barrio Star, and East Village Asian Diner. Dining Out For

CATALINA OFFSHORE PRODUCTS HOSTS TACO FIESTA On Sunday, June 29 from 1 – 4 p.m., 13 premiere San Diego chefs will converge at Catalina Offshore Products for a Taco Party showcasing Southern California’s favorite cuisine. The event will raise money for the Front Burner Fund, a monetar y benefactor helping to provide emergency medical needs and healthcare costs of the independent “back of the house” culinar y community. Participating chefs include Karen Blair of Hamilton’s Tavern, Miguel Valdez of 100 Wines and Ricardo Heredia of Alchemy. Tickets are $35 per person and may be purchased online at brownpapertickets. com/event/703298.t




hotels | rings | tuxedo & dress rentals | reception venues photographers | florists | cakes | honeymoons (l to r) Eric William Morris, Nicole Parker, Beth Leavel, Heidi Blickenstaff and Jon Patrick Walker in The Old Globe's "Dog and Pony" (Photo by Jim Cox)

‘Dog and Pony’ is no dog


xcitement was high. The scenes are so blithely delicious Sheryl and Harvey White one wants to take them home and Theatre was packed to the memorize them. rafters. And judging from openElice’s additional character ing night response — attendees conflation includes Beth Leavel’s include many Old Globe employassignments as both Mags’ and ees, walked in to fill empty seats Andy’s mothers. A treasured — the venerable theater nabbed theatrical moment transpires when a winner with the world premiere Leavel portrays both mothers as of Rick Elice and Michael Patrick they interact with their offspring. Walker’s new musical, “Dog and The only separation is an imagiPony.” Directed by esteemed nary line in the center of the stage. actor/director Roger Rees, the Appealing and versatile, Jon show continues through June 29. Patrick Walker plays all the other Grab tickets now. men in the company, including a Elice, who is Rees’ longtime host-emcee, Andy’s country neighpartner in life as well as in the bor, and Joe, a CNN fact checker realm of creativity, is exceptionally Mags and Andy meet on an airadept with dialogue and character. plane. Mags finally embraces her He co-wrote the Tony and Olivier feminist self and exits the plane, Award-winning musical “Jersey leaving the flight-phobic Andy to Boys” as well as the play “Peter and cope on his own. the Starcatcher,” The major which is recipidevice is a ent of five Tony framer, which Awards. Walker comes and goes pens rapid-fire, with ease. After word-laden an acrimonious songs (he’s the parting, Mags lyricist, too) and and Andy have was one of the not spoken for creators of “Altar (l to r) Jon Patrick Walker, Nicole 10 months. Boyz.” His song Parker and Eric William Morris Each receives (Photo by Jim Cox) lyrics advance an invitation to plot beautifully, The Ketchum but this listener waited all evening Komedy Honors, at which they for a full-on ballad. are to be honored for their comic Act One still needs to be films. Their joint interview frames trimmed a bit. This is one of those the story. musicals that in early stages has The beauty of this wella better Act Two, which is where constructed, splendidly cast, Elise’s other characters take flight, thoroughly entertaining work is and as they all collide the comedy its integrity. No character is unbecomes intense and the musical developed, and no laugh cheaply takes on fullness and hilarity that is evoked. The most clever musical quite unlike any other. moments are Jane and Mags’ With 11 hits in 13 years, the “One Less Pony,” Bonnie’s “Bonsingle and driven Mags (Nicole nie Doesn’t Get It,” and Mags’ Parker) and the neurotic, narcis“Mags Takes Flight.” Closest to sist, married-with-child Andy (Jon ballads are “One More Moment,” Patrick Walker) are an extremely “Be There,” and “Better.” successful film-writing team. Their A superb five-piece orchestra is relationship (she is the giver; hidden under the floor. The singers he the taker) is the epitome of see conductor Adam Wachter on codependency. Quite simply, Mags TV monitors. The mix is good and loves Andy and is used to tending the pace amazing. his every need, sans sex. “Dog and Pony” has been exWhen Andy’s marriage to the tended through July 6 in the Sheryl horsey, rifle-toting Jane (Heidi and Harvey White Theatre, 1363 Blickenstaff) ends, Mags is there Old Globe Way in Balboa Park. to pick up the pieces, obviously Tickets start at $35, visit theoldghoping for the biggest one, Andy. or call 619-23-GLOBE. Indeed, he proposes to her, but the marriage (in a humor-laced series — Charlene Baldridge has of aborted scenes) never takes been writing about the arts since place, and soon Andy announces 1979. Her book “San Diego, Jewel he’s met Bonnie (also Blickenstaff, of the California Coast” (Northland who really cuts loose), who turns Publishing) is currently available out to be a modern Ms. Malaprop in bookstores. She can be reached at of the first order. The Bonnie

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The Matchmaker

of flavors


Hanna’s Gourmet

2864 Adams Avenue (Normal Heights) 619-280-5600 breakfast, $7 to $13; lunch, $9 to $13; dinner, $9 to $20 The “perfect masterpiece” that is Beef bourguignon


ometimes you have to look beyond the publicity glare surrounding certain restaurants to discover a chef who truly deserves a big, bright dot on the radar screen. Such is the case with Hanna Tesfamichael, a master of international cuisine wowing customers from behind the modest façade of Hanna’s Gourmet restaurant in Normal Heights. The Ethiopian native majored in food and nutrition at San Diego State University and later worked as a nutrition counselor for Jenny Craig. She also dug her roots in pastry during a mentorship at Opera Patisserie, although she ultimately broadened her intrinsic gift for cooking by reading hundreds of cookbooks that she continues collecting. Since my last visit a couple years ago, Tesfamichael has added full dinner service, acquired a beer and wine license and expanded the restaurant’s square footage before giving it an exquisite remodel. Soft-green walls and crystal chandeliers compliment a span of white marble gracing the

(Photo by Frank Sabatini Jr.)

tabletops and pastry counter. Opposite a row of mirrors are bottles from her focused, global wine list, stacked decoratively on exposed wall racks towards the back. In addition, a new side patio is in full operation. Each week, Tesfamichael presents a dish or two from a particular country. (Look for Spain, Greece, Algeria and Egypt in the coming months.) The encores from her “world tour” specials end up on the regular menu. Among them is an Afghanistan-inspired lamb kebob served over cherry rice; Moroccan chicken tagine with apricots, dates and preserved lemons over couscous; and fabulous meat lasagna constructed with tomato and pesto sauces, which rivals any that my favorite Italian restaurants crank out. Her beef bourguignon, also on the regular menu, is a perfected masterpiece of wine-braised meat served with root vegetables and a dreamy mash of potatoes harboring pools of sweet butternut squash. The meal will easily win over the most diehard

Francophiles. On this visit, France happened to be the country featured on the specials board. The dish was prune-stuffed pork loin with cream of cauliflower soup for $16. Though tempting, we couldn’t resist the herby, ultratender bourguignon. Tesfamichael’s culinary magic becomes evident in her ability to balance sweet and savory flavors in dishes like a mangoserrano chili quesadilla layered also with creamy brie cheese. It’s an appetizer that warrants a follow-up of mixed greens with toasted hazelnuts, cranberries, crispy pears and top-quality Gorgonzola cheese. Even her Caesar salad transcends the ordinary, thanks to a lacy Parmesan bowl that offers tangy bursts of flavor as it breaks apart into crisp romaine lettuce leaves and flawlessly emulsified dressing. Nothing ever registers as outright salty, sour, spicy or sweet. You instead taste all of the primary flavors in nearly every dish. Bobotie, for example, is a South African meatloaf baked in a ramekin with cinnamon, cloves and cumin. Yogurt egg sauce and Tesfamichael’s addition of almonds on top result in a flavor profile is both soothing and complex. And then there’s the fourlayer asparagus lasagna bathed in creamy pesto sauce, a temple of green that my companion aptly described as “a vegetarian birthday cake from Provence.” Made with egg sheet pasta, it’s

the richest and earthiest dish I’ve eaten here, but no less captivating than any other. The regular menu also includes a “Mediterranean feast” platter, beef and mushroom ragu over creamy polenta, mirin-glazed salmon with buckwheat noodles in Asian broth and chicken stuffed with apples and goat cheese with tarragon (above) Asparagus-pesto lasagna; The South Africa bobotie sauce. entrée (Photo by Frank Sabatini Jr.) At the start of our meal, it was love at first sip The selection rotates regularly. when trying the Saison-Brett Hanna’s Gourmet is also open Belgian-style ale from Boulevard for breakfast and lunch. If you’ve Brewing Company in Kansas long been on the hunt for that City, Missouri. The suds had evspecial gem of a restaurant, that erything going for them: toasted wish will likely be fulfilled right dry hops, discernible yeast and here. — Frank a solid, long finish. Other booze Sabatini Jr can choices include Dark Truth be reached at Stout, also by Boulevard, and fsabatini@ Nelson the Impaler by Iron Fist, not to mention wines hailing from international regions. Tesfamichael possesses the rare dual talent of specializing in savories as well as confections, leaving guests to conclude with things like tall-standing chocolate-raspberry cake, ginger-infused carrot cake, tarts, mousses and everything ever invented with sugar, cream and butter.


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Attention mac-and-cheese lovers. Bazinga Eater y in North Park opens any day now as San Diego’s first “urban mac-and-cheese spot” with a menu that captures both classic recipes as well as highfalutin varieties combining steak and brie. The curds also find their way into salads and appetizers. The venture was launched by first-time restaurant owner Leila Ouahla, who took over the space that formerly housed Sea Rocket Bistro. 3382 30th St., 619-255-8940. The large space formerly occupied by Pita Jungle is making way for Kato Sushi, which is branching into Hillcrest since establishing itself in Pacific Beach two years ago. Co-owner Kevin Qasawadish hopes to soft open by San Diego Pride weekend, July 18-20. Kato’s Hillcrest menu will eventually become more extensive compared to its Pacific Beach location, offering Asianstyle pizzas, glazed steaks and signature salads. It will also carr y a full liquor license. Design elements include interior stonework and a lighted, enclosed front patio. 1045 University, 619-578-2877.

Cali “O” Burgers is up and running on University Avenue. (Photo by Frank Sabatini Jr.)

They came and suddenly vanished. American Voodoo in University Heights and Rockfire Grill each closed recently after operating for only a short time. Inside sources say that funding and partnership disputes led to their demise.

Elk, ostrich, bison and grass-fed beef are among the meat choices at the new Cali “O” Burgers, which opened recently in Hillcrest at the corner of University Avenue and Richmond Street. Other burgers and sandwiches feature turkey, salmon, seared ahi and a handmade quinoa veggie patty. The kitchen is equipped with both a flame grill and standard griddle, allowing customers to choose how they prefer their burgers cooked. Organic salads, fries and shakes are also in the of fing, as well as “sidewinders,” which are best described as falling somewhere between steak and curly French fries. The eater y is still waiting for its license to ser ve craft beer. 1290 University Ave., 619-692-9999.

The owners of Blind Lady Ale House and Tiger!Tiger! are moving full steam ahead for opening Panama 66 in what was the Sculpture Cour t Café by Giuseppe in Balboa Park. The seasonal menu will be headed by Tiger’s head chef, Sharon Labate, who is still finalizing the dishes. Set among the sculptures within an outdoor garden space, the eater y will also feature craft beer, wine and craft cocktails. 1450 El Prado.

An express version of Greekfusion cuisine arrived recently to Mission Valley from Meze, a popular family-owned restaurant in the Gaslamp District specializing in Mediterranean fare with Southern California twists. At this smaller, more casual offshoot, the menu includes Greek-style tacos and nachos, filet mignon wraps and kabobs. Meze joins several other counter-ser vice eateries in the Ralph’s shopping plaza at 5618 Mission Center Road, Suite 1002, 619-297-0855.

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Juices packed with organics will soon take center stage. (Courtesy Ritual Wellness) Coming in late July to the Uptown District (soon to be renamed The Hub) is Ritual Juicebox, an Orange Countybased outfit that sells wellness through a variety of organic, raw and coldpressed juices and smoothies. Ritual’s antioxidant-rich lemonades are touted for helping customers “flush toxins and curb cravings,” while a variety of other packaged juices infused with spinach and leafy greens are geared for ridding the body of toxins. Alkaline waters are also in the offing to “stimulate digestion and optimize nutrient absorption” and the edibles point to acai bowls. 1030 University Ave.t


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Putting a stop to middle-age spread as well as in an unhealthy situation with additional weight in your mid-section. To successfully fight the battle of the bulge, you have to arm yourself with an active lifestyle that extends past the gym, make good whole food choices, and reser ve enough time in your busy schedule for a restful night’s sleep.


FITNESS As you approach the 40-50 age groups it can be an exciting time of change, opportunity, prosperity and positive personal growth. But, at the same time, life can get complicated and busy as your family grows, you find less time for you, find yourself getting more involved in, well, ever ything. Before you know it, the growth that becomes the most present in your life is the spare tire that wraps around your mid-section. Most commonly known as the middleage spread, this unwelcome feature to your physique is a compilation of the choices you make throughout your life with regards to the food you eat, your daily activity levels, and the quality of sleep you log each night. All three of these critical factors to living a healthy lifestyle are tightly intertwined so when even one is lacking, it creates a spiraling snowball effect that can leave you feeling tired and out of energy,

Stand up for a healthy belly When you’re a child all you want to be is an adult and then when you’re finally an adult, all you do is reminisce about the good old days of your childhood. To tackle your mid-section spread, it can be beneficial to pull from the past and revert back to your childhood days of running, playing and moving throughout your day. The fountain of youth is strength training and running, right? But, as we get older, we stop running for some reason … because that’s not what adults do? Running is a fantastic exercise that is excellent for your health and your hormones, while strength training can give you the most return for the time/effort invested. The best approach is that you perform most strength training exercises standing up whenever possible. Even if you aren’t directly working the core, you still have to stabilize the trunk and mid-section muscles when you are in an upright position. It also is important to keep moving during your ever yday life outside of your designated gym time. If all you do is go to the gym an hour per day and the rest of the time you’re sitting in the car, at work or on the couch, you’re not going to be happy with your results. In addition to consistently working out regularly, daily non-exercise physical activity such as taking the stairs instead of the elevator, parking your car in the spot furthest away from the door, and taking regular recess breaks from your desk to

walk or stretch, will help combat your middle-age spread and sedentar y adult-life tendencies. Eat good food While fad diets that target the abs and mid-section may seem like the best choice when you’re tr ying to reduce your spare tire, feeding your belly without fueling your bulge actually can be a lot simpler than following a strict eating plan. The best foods nutritionally for your belly and your total body are ones that have a mother or come from the earth. When choosing foods that are good for busting your bulge, you may see better results following these guidelines: • 90 percent of what you eat should be good food — it comes naturally from the earth (fruits, vegetables, etc.) and it has a mother (meats, eggs, fish, etc.). • Everything that comes in a package or a container shouldn’t be a part of your diet. • Stay away from foods without expiration dates or with a long shelf life. • Shop around the perimeter of the store where most fresh, preser vative-free foods exist. • Ever ything that comes from the middle of the store should be eaten sparingly. • Shop more frequently, buy more locally and shop seasonally, when possible. Collect your Z’s Just like you have to make deposits into your bank account regularly to be financially vibrant, it is just as important to deposit regular hours of sleep each night into your body’s wellness account to maintain the balance of your energy, hormones and internal clock. When you sleep poorly, you typically don’t eat well and then you don’t have enough energy to work out or move more throughout your day. Skimping on your sleep can start a negative chain reaction that leads to enlarged mid-sections, increased mental and physical stress, and unhealthy lifestyle choices. Getting enough sleep, eating the right foods and exercising all feed the mind, body and hormone system in a positive way. But, lack of these things does the opposite. Whether you consciously or unconsciously make the choice to disregard eating well, sleeping well and exercising regularly, the bottom line is that all areas in your life — your career, family, mental and physical health — will feel the repercussions when you put these essential ingredients to living a healthy lifestyle on the backburner. If you don’t put in the time to take care of yourself properly and don’t make your health a priority, then it will ultimately be impossible to stop the middle-age spread from expanding your waistline and negatively impacting your overall health. It all comes down to the personal choices you make every day and over long periods of time that add up to this middle-age spread. —Gwen and Blake Beckcom own Fitness Together Mission Hills, of fering personal training with qualified professionals by regular appointment in private suites. Exercise and nutritional programs are custom designed to fit your needs and abilities. Call 619-794-0014 for more information or to schedule a free fitness diagnostic and private training session.t

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HIGHHEELS Har vey Milk’s American Diner, 7th Avenue Pub (Whole Foods), Fix Body Group, Flicks, Obelisk Merchantile, The Merrow, Baja Betty’s, Hillcrest Brewing Company, Gossip Grill and Rich’s, all which ser ved as checkpoints where those highheeled racers engaged in obstacles and picked up clues to further them along the way. The annual event benefits projects of the Hillcrest Business Association’s Beautification Committee, and proceeds from the first few years went to the construction and maintenance of the 60-foot Hillcrest Pride Flag. This year’s race benefits the Pride Plaza Project, a new initiative to build a small grassy park around

FEATURE The fact that Davis often wears heels out at night makes him an exception among most contestants of the race, as the majority of participants identify as gay men who don’t dress up regularly. Only one woman participated in the race. For Christian Piencka, a 32-year-old first-year participant, the race was an excuse to play in heels. He snagged his red and gold studded pumps at Flashbacks and admitted at registration that they already felt horrible. “I’m gonna make it through this,” he said. Another participant, a 44-year-old paramedic firefighter, competed solo in a cheetah-patterned shirt, tight leather short shorts and a long, flowing blonde wig. His wife helped him apply his makeup. “It’s empowering,” he said. “You just don’t give a shit what anyone thinks.” Though the paramedic preferred to remain anonymous, he said when he cross-dresses, he and

Members of the Banshee Bitches (Photo by Amanda Nachman)

Referees keep track of the finishers .(Photo by Lukas Volk) the Pride Flag. The goal is to raise $20,000 this year through team registrations, business participation, sponsorships and other public donations. “We wanted an event as outlandish and fabulous as Hillcrest,” said Jesse Gonzalez, one of the original creators of the Amazing High Heel Race. Dressed in a black-and-white striped referee’s uniform, Gonzalez enforced the rules throughout the day, although breaking them wasn’t a serious offense. Instead, the organizers focused on making sure ever yone had fun, coupled with a heavy dose of smack talking. Team Honey Pot contestant Alex Davis was notorious for throwing out playful insults. Dressed in bunny ears and “Daisy Dukes,” Davis said he was confident about the race before he started because he loves wearing heels.

his wife only go out in Hillcrest, where they feel comfortable. It certainly wasn’t all tits and giggles for these participants. Surprisingly, there were ver y few busty costumes — even team “Business Ladies” embraced a flat-chested, minimalistic look with simple T-shirts and svelte blazers. “My toes are numb,” screamed one contestant halfway through the race, boasting a hot pink wig and running at full speed. Davis, the high-heel shoe professional, trailed behind due to a leg cramp. “Can’t … run ... anymore,” whined Gustavo Lopez, one of the Banshee Bitches, who was barely walking let alone racing, as his fur coat hung off one arm. Nearing the end with only a handful of challenges left, the Banshee Bitches lost steam and leaned on one another at a street corner, before heading into The Merrow. They heard there was an award for Best Cheaters, and it was one they thought they might have to settle for as Team Rainbow Road bolted ahead of them in their meaty heels. The Banshee Bitches considered getting a L yft to car t them to the remaining venues. Instead, they pulled an unaware bar tender into a much more simple scheme, to sign of f on all unfinished activities. When Walton and his Banshee Bitches finally arrived at the finish line at Rich’s, they were disheveled and out of breath. Though they were the second team across the finish line, they proudly admitted that they had duped the system. All smiles, they accepted the award for Best Cheaters. For more information about the annual Amazing High Heel Race, visit —Amanda Nachman is a local freelance writer and the publisher of She can be reached at Gay San Diego Editor Morgan M. Hurley contributed to this report.t

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