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DeMaio’s Republican Party evolution


Former Councilmember discusses fitting in to LGBT and Republican communities By Allan Acevedo | GSD Reporter

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t THEATER SDAFFL champions R Gang Bangers won the title game June 8. (Photo by Scott Donald)

R Gang Bangers claim SDAFFL championship League founder Ivan Solis holds title for first time J E F F P R AU G H T Kish says goodbye


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DUGOUT CHATTER The San Diego American Flag Football League (SDAFFL) held its playoff games Saturday, June 8 at Doyle Community Park, and the two top teams from the regular season ended up battling it out in the title game. The 16-team league split its playoffs into eight-team upper and lower playoff brackets. Both the R Gang Bangers (12-0) and True North Ball Hawks (12-0) finished the regular season undefeated, so it was appropriate that those two squads would square off in the finals. True North was led by highly respected quarterback Eric Reissner, who led San Diego to its first-ever Gay Bowl championship last Octo-

ber in Denver. They jumped out to a 21-7 lead over R Gang at halftime. The Bangers’ defense, which had been the best in the league over the course of the season, forced a rare Reissner interception and continued to shut down the Ball Hawks in the second half. R Gang was able to come from behind and defeat True North 28-21, claiming SDAFFL’s championship crown. R Gang almost did not reach that championship game. They opened the playoffs with a blowout 30-7 victory over Hillcrest Brewing Company Inferno, but were given a major scare by the Redwing Hitmen (8-4) in round two. R Gang was clinging to a 14-12 lead with 30 seconds to go, and the Hitmen had the ball on the Bangers’ 30-yard line. But a huge defensive stand that featured big plays by Jeremiah Aiken kept Redwing out of the end zone, sending R Gang to that title game.

One R Gang Bangers player probably enjoyed the title game victory more than anyone else: league founder Ivan Solis. He put together this football league back in 2004 but had never been on a team that had won the SDAFFL title, until this year. Even before the playoffs, he was strongly considering retiring from playing, so to win a title in what looks to be his final season was especially gratifying. “I couldn’t believe it,” he said. “When the game ended and we had pulled it off, people were running around the field everywhere, screaming and yelling. It was such an amazing feeling.” Solis’ playing days are not quite finished, though. He intends to put together a team to compete in the 40-and-over division at the Gay Games, held in Cleveland next year. In the lower division, congratulations are in order for The Loft United (6-6), who defeated the Fi-

see Dugout, pg 22

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Carl DeMaio: We laid out important reforms during my time on the City Council and run for mayor that will help us balance the budget, foster job creation and restore important services like after school programs and road repairs. Even though I won’t be able to advance those reforms as mayor, I have formed a political action group to help build a bipartisan commitment to implement these reforms and keep the public informed and engaged in what’s happening at City Hall. I also helped create a statewide California Reform Initiative to take many of the reforms we were successful with here locally and help implement them in Sacramento and local governments across California.

tion are capped at $5,000 and the program runs July 1 through June 30, 2014. The second program sees the organization designating up to $100,000 from their general endowment through direct grants, in order to fund as many different services as possible with the least amount of red tape, Brown said. “We are going to make this as easy as we possibly can for our LGBT organizations,” he said. “The last thing we want to do is become another bureaucracy and another grant process that you have to go through.” In the direct-grant program, qualifying organizations that offer services and programs to the LGBT community can contact the Human Dignity Foundation to request grants of up to $10,000.

CD: I see my role in two ways. Within the LGBT community, my focus has been on meeting with our service organizations, supporting funding for them and promoting their programs any way I can. Fortunately, our community groups are relatively strong and I have been fortunate to work alongside several LGBT elected leaders and community activists that are very engaged in helping get our service organizations what they need. I’m most proud of the work I have done outside of the LGBT community to advance change on our issues. That’s where I have had and continue to have the most impact. With rare exception, the establishment LGBT leadership come from the Democratic side of the aisle and usually travel in the same circles. They have the luxury of going to groups and speaking in front of audiences that already are

see Dignity, pg 20

see DeMaio, pg 17

LGBT philanthropy celebrated at annual Reunion Party June 8 By Anthony King | GSD Editor At the Human Dignity Foundation’s Reunion Party held Saturday, June 8, new Executive Director John Brown spoke on the importance of philanthropy to LGBT efforts and announced two new funding opportunities for local organizations. The evening was held at the Mission Hills home of Tom Hutchings and Bryan Leigh. “Any LGBT non-profit organization in our community, if they direct a donation to the Foundation for up to $500, we will take that donation, match it, and turn around and give it back to the organization so they can double their donations,” Brown said. The new grant program was expanded on the week following the Reunion Party, which served as a celebration of the philanthropic organization’s 17 years of supporting the LGBT community through managing funds and grant making. The match program designates up to $50,000 in funds directly from the Human Dignity Foundation – $100,000 in total giving – to various nonprofits, depending on individual donations. Donations per organiza-

Allan Acevedo: What have you been working on since the mayoral election ended?

AA: How do you perceive your role as a member of the LGBT community before and after the election?

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A lot has been written about Carl DeMaio as a candidate and as a gay Republican, and I wanted to take some time to speak to DeMaio about how he perceives himself fitting in with both the LGBT community and the Republican Party. While this email interview was conduced before DeMaio announced May 31 he was running against Rep. Scott Peters for the 52nd Congressional district, I asked him questions about his perceptions of a community he is at once a member of – and, by some, excluded – that continue to be relevant.

(l to r) Joel Trambly, Jerry Strayve and Gary Wayne attended the Reunion Party. (Photo by GSD)


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Vinnie Pompei creates safe haven for LGBT children Educator and activist honored as KPBS-Union Bank Local Hero By Monica Medina | Vincent “Vinnie” Pompei will never forget the first time he witnessed the bullying. He was a newly hired teacher at a Los Angeles County middle school. It was recess, and when he heard the words “You faggot” from one child to another, it struck a chord deep inside, leaving him cold and shaking. “I was new and my whole body felt like it did in fifth grade,” recalled Pompei, a 2013 LGBT Local Hero honoree. “Immediately I felt for that kid. Whether he was gay or not, that label hurts.” This one incident became a defining moment for Pompei, setting him on a journey to make schools a safer place for LGBT children, free from bullying and intimidation. And for Pompei, who himself was a victim of bullying, the journey is personal: a journey that he began by creating an environment of acceptance in his own classroom. “The day I saw the child bullied,” Pompei said, “I had a discussion with my students about treating people who are different from you with respect, and that people are of value. I made it very inclusive so that my class became, for the four years I worked there, a safe haven. Many kids would join me at lunchtime and talk to me about very personal things, which then led me to see I needed to become a school counselor.” Pompei enrolled at Azusa Pacific University to pursue a master’s degree in school counseling. He recognized that in order to effect real change, beyond the limits of his own classroom, he would need the degree and the skills to train school guidance counselors, as well as administrators and teachers, on LGBT student issues. Pompei vividly recalls the first time he was bullied. It was in fifth grade, in a school south of Sacramento, Calif. “It was during baseball,” he said, tearing

up. “I threw the ball and they didn’t like the way I threw it. So, one kid yelled out and then another – ‘queer,’ ‘you’re a girl’ – and the P.E. teacher did nothing. I felt my whole body turn bright red. I just wanted to hide and crawl into a hole. I tried to keep my composure because it was that secret that you knew you had, and someone just voiced it and labeled it.” Without a safe haven or support from the adults in his life, Pompei protected himself the best way he could. “I didn’t want to go to school, so I faked illness and injuries so I could stay home,” he said. “I went to the nurse’s office constantly, and never ever told my family that I was being bullied. I never told a teacher. How did I keep it hidden? I waited until I got home every day, and closed my bedroom door and cried. I also prayed.” During this time, Pompei was overcome with a feeling of loneliness that ultimately led to two suicide attempts in 11th grade. “I was all by myself and did it because I just wanted to end the pain,” he said. “It wasn’t because I was disgusted with myself, but because I didn’t want to hurt anymore. I was so depressed, and I didn’t want to face the bullying any longer.” After the second suicide attempt, Pompei had an epiphany. He began to believe that there was a reason he was still alive, and soon began to see a future for himself. Today, Pompei – while pursuing a doctorate in educational leadership at San Diego State University (SDSU) – is an educator and an activist. He has developed curriculum for schools on how to address the needs of LGBT students, and travels across the state and throughout the country conducting trainings. He has also served as a Trevor Project ambassador for San Diego. Four years ago, all his experience and efforts came together when he learned that

the Center for Excellence in School Counseling and Leadership (CESCaL) at SDSU was convening a conference for school counselors on LGBT student issues. “I was a full time graduate student and also teaching when I heard that Trish Hatch [CESCaL executive director] was planning a conference. I contacted her and told her I wanted to help. … By year two, Trish made me co-chair and I expanded the conference beyond just counselors to include all educators.” With Pompei’s involvement, the conference grew from 125 participants in the first year to 600 in the fourth. His commitment to his work on behalf of LGBT students is receiving national attention. Last year, he was one of our public educators invited to the first White House Anti-Bullying Summit with President Barack Obama and First Lady Michele Obama. This


ity California as the San Diego State Farm Good Neighbor Award winner. And, while his impact continues to grow, one thing is certain: no matter where life takes him, Pompei couldn’t imagine doing anything else, because for him it’s all about the children. “I will always be having something to do with equity and access for all children. That’s why I think I loved being a teacher, and loved being a school counselor, because that’s what you’re advocating for, and fighting for,” he said. “When it comes to working with LGBT youth, it’s personal. It’s my passion taken to the next level because it was my story, too. … I want to basically give them what I didn’t have.” Editor’s note: Monica Medina is director of diversity, engagement and grants at KPBS, and oversees their Local Hero program. This story on Vincent Pompei first appeared on June 6.t

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(l to r) DOE Acting Assistant Secretary Michael Yudin, Assembly Majority Leader Toni Atkins, Council President Todd Gloria and Vincent Pompei at this year’s CESCaL conference (Photo by Ferrer Productions)


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GAY SAN DIEGO June 14–27, 2013


GAY NEWS BRIEFS GEORGE TAKEI, LA TOYA JACKSON TO ATTEND SAN DIEGO PRIDE Announced Tuesday, June 11, actor and activist George Takei and philanthropist La Toya Jackson will join this year’s San Diego Pride festivities July 12 – 14. Takei, who appeared in San Diego in a starring role at The Old Globe Theatre, will be the keynote speaker at the Spirit of Stonewall Rally and flag raising, held July 12 at 6 p.m. He and his husband, Brad Takei, will then lead the Pride Parade as grand marshals the following day at 11 a.m. “Freedom, love and commitment are shared values across the spectrum of humanity, and I am honored to celebrate and share that truth alongside my husband at this year’s San Diego LGBT Pride,” Takei said in a press release. Jackson will also participate in the Saturday parade, as celebrity grand marshal because of “her efforts in continuing her late brother Michael’s mission to combat HIV and AIDS,” organizers said in the release. Jackson will also emcee at the festival main stage Sunday evening, July 14. “I am so excited and I am absolutely honored to be a part of San Diego Pride,” Jackson said in the release. “Love is hard for anyone to find and if you have someone who you love enough to marry, why not celebrate it?” Tickets for this year’s festival can be found at

Correction In the Best of Gay San Diego issue printed May 31 (Vol. 4, Issue 11) we incorrectly named one of the winners for best DJ. This year’s bronze winner is DJ Derek. We apologize for the error.t

FILMOUT 15TH ANNUAL FESTIVAL WINNERS ANNOUNCED FilmOut San Diego gave highest honors to the films “Meth Head” and “Raid of the Rainbow Lounge” at this year’s LGBT Film Festival, held May 29 – June 2 at the Birch North Park Theatre. “Meth Head,” a movie about the “scourge of meth addiction,” organizers said, won six awards: Best Narrative Feature, Best Director and Best Screenplay for Jane Clark, Best Actor nods for Lukas Haas and Blake Berris and Best Actress for Necar Zadegan. “I am truly humbled by the gift of honors that FilmOut

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Top 5 LGBT Supreme Court cases As San Diego awaits rulings on Prop 8 and DOMA, a look at the most important historical cases By Lisa Keen | Keen News Service The two high-profile opinions pending release this month from the United States Supreme Court could end up being as historic as the Loving v. Virginia decision, which struck down laws against marriage for interracial couples in 1967. They could also be as dramatic as Roe v. Wade, which struck down most restrictions against abortion in 1973. And, they’re already getting as much attention now, if not more, than pending decisions on the Voting Rights Act and affirmative action. If the Supreme Court makes definitive rulings in U.S. v. Windsor (regarding the Defense of Marriage Act) and Hollingsworth v. Perry (regarding California’s Proposition 8), the opinions will certainly warrant inclusion on any Top Ten LGBT Cases list, maybe even among the top five. Here are the cases that would make most LGBT legal activists’ Top Five LGBT Supreme Court opinions list today:

1. Lawrence v. Texas

Year: 2003 Vote: 6 to 3 Ruling: A Texas law making it a crime for two adults of the same sex to have consensual sexual relations in private violates the Due Process Clause. Impact: The ruling not only struck down the Texas law but those in eight other states. It also put a stop to the use of various other entities – employers, the militar y, family courts and others – from using the existence of the laws to justify various other forms of discrimination against LGBT people. Many believe it is the decision that most paved the way for the success of much later litigation, including on marriage, to assert equal protection rights for LGBT people.

2. Bowers v. Hardwick Year: 1986 Vote: 5 to 4

Ruling: A Georgia law making it a crime for two adults of the same sex to have consensual sexual relations in private was constitutionally permissible. Impact: Politically and legally, Hardwick lashed out against an LGBT community that was growing dramatically, in part due to legal gains and in part due to a need to address the devastating effects of the HIV/AIDS epidemic. It was cited by hundreds of later decisions in courts across the nation to justify all various restrictions on the rights of LGBT people.

3. Romer v. Evans Year: 1996 Vote: 6 to 3

Ruling: The voter-approved Amendment 2 to the Colorado constitution seeking to block any state or local jurisdictions from prohibiting discrimination based on sexual orientation violated the Equal Protection clause of the U.S. Constitution. Impact: It overturned Colorado’s hostile law and put the brakes on a devastating trend of other states passing or attempting to pass similar initiatives. It also put governments on notice that they could not pass laws that disfavored LGBT people simply because a majority of voters dislike LGBT people.

4. One v. Olesen

Year: 1958 Vote: Per Curiam (no dissenters) Ruling: Without comment, the court overturned a Ninth Circuit decision that allowed the public mail service to refuse delivery of a gay and lesbian newsletter, which a Los Angeles postmaster had deemed pornographic.

Impact: This marked the first time the high court protected the rights of LGBT people specifically, and it did so in the context of harassment that began during the McCarthy Era of witch hunts against communists and homosexuals. By upholding the rights of gays and lesbians to express themselves politically and poetically, and to share those expressions among themselves through the mail, the court left open the important means of communication that the LGBT political and cultural movements needed to exist and grow.

5. Hurley v. GLIB

Year: 1995 Vote: 9 to 0 Ruling: The First Amendment right to freedom of association trumped a state law prohibiting discrimination on account of sexual orientation in places of public ac-

commodation. Impact: This ruling not only weakened the ability of states to prohibit discrimination, it was the beginning of a trend in which people who did not like gays argued that the First Amendment gave them a right to express their disapproval in public contexts. In short order, numerous cases emerged, including Boy Scouts v. Dale (in 2000). Even today the argument is raised, most recently in Christian Legal v. Martinez, testing the right of school officials to require student campus groups to treat all students equally. Editor’s note: Lisa Keen is a renowned international journalist reporting on issues pertinent to the LGBT community. We are partnering with her for coverage concerning the Supreme Court’s upcoming marriage equality cases. This is the latest in a multiple-part series called History in the High Court.t


FLAMING STAR IN THE GALAXY Across 1 Memo start 5 Three-men-in-a-tub event 9 Sex toy for the butt 13 Prince’s purple precipitation 14 Kazan, whose desire was a streetcar 15 Glinda portrayer in “The Wiz” 16 Help with the heist 17 Trust, with “on” 18 Mournful cry 19 City of the team of 36-Across 22 Vardalos of “My Big Fat Greek Wedding” 23 R.E.M. frontman Michael 24 Riddler of old 26 Fabric name ending 27 Wet hole 31 McDowall of “Planet of the Apes” 32 Wolfe or Woolf, e.g. (abbr.) 34 Fiddle around with it 36 The first active openly gay male athlete to compete in a U.S. professional team sport 40 Tea or glory hole cry? 41 Himalayan legend 43 Traps for suckers 46 Org. that has never been to Uranus 48 Seminary subject

Flaming Star in the Galaxy solution on page 19

49 Eton alum 51 Erected 53 Unmannerly man 54 Position of 36-Across 58 “Ta ta!” 60 Marsh material 61 Skirt for Nureyev’s partner 62 Woman’s name embraced by hermaphrodites? 63 “She” to Rimbaud 64 “Peanuts” oath 65 Silence for Bernstein 66 It may be grand, to Glenn Burke 67 Scores

Down 1 Shrinking Asian body 2 One who may screw with your equipment 3 Connects with 4 Coming soon 5 It made people go down on the Titanic 6 On the calm side 7 Cash cache 8 Sean of “Will & Grace” 9 Try to seduce (with liquor, e.g.)

10 Soviet leader Brezhnev 11 Relax after a hard day 12 Team of 36-Across 20 Just out 21 Shoot off a larger branch 25 Hive product 28 Like some twins 29 Rest atop 30 Doone of fiction 33 Mushroom source? 35 Woody pile 37 It’s a bust 38 Lingering 39 Drag queen’s high heel, perhaps 42 Under guardianship 43 Sport of 36-Across 44 Trisha Todd’s “___ of the Moon” 45 Role played by a man named Julia 47 Follower of Jim Buchanan 50 “Blow me down!” 52 Part of UHF 55 Woody valley 56 Eleanor’s pooch 57 Bit from Michael Musto 59 Granola lesbian’s bit

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GAY SAN DIEGO June 14–27, 2013


June is packed with Gossip Grill’s Got Talent and Art of Pride in the Park


SOUTH BAY ALLIANCE Part of being a community-based Pride celebration is encouraging and supporting all the local talent that we have. South Bay Alliance is committed to building and expanding our sense of connections within our community, and the South Bay Pride Art & Music Festival’s primar y focus is to celebrate the wonderful organizations and people we have in San Diego County. At our last South Bay Pride Art & Music Festival, we teamed with Gossip Grill’s Trashy Classy Tuesday and produced a talent competition that featured the winners on our stage during the festival. It was fantastic, so of course we’re doing it again. “Gossip Grill’s Got Talent” started June 4 and will be ever y Tuesday through July 2. You may perform a karaoke song, tell jokes, do a spoken-word or poetic performance, play an instrument … you get the idea. Be creative, be yourself and be FAAABulous. This is always a great time. Come compete or just hang out, enjoy the entertainment and support your favorite act. There is no charge to participate. Here’s the skinny on changes this year: you must be 21 or over to enter. This is a competition for individual acts, so no groups or duets. Performances must be four minutes in length or shorter. Participation will be limited to the first six

performers that sign up each of these Tuesdays, and sign up as early as 6 p.m. with your Trashy Classy hostess Laura Jane at Gossip Grill. Make sure you sign up before 9 p.m. You perform your entr y the same night you sign up and are given a score based on the performance. The top two scoring acts of the five preliminar y Tuesdays will win a Gossip Grill T-shirt or gift certificate, and advance to the finale. You can compete ever y week if you want. The finale will be held at Urban MO’s on Aug. 10 from 3 – 5 p.m. Scoring of the 10 finalists will be based on audience vote. The two performances with the largest number of votes will get to perform their same act at our 2013 South Bay Pride Art & Entertainment Festival, held Sept. 14. We are ver y excited and if the great acts we have seen so far are any indication, this is going to be an awesome competition. In addition to the Gossip Grill’s Got Talent competition, South Bay Alliance is proud to support our local artists from the LGBT and ally community by providing a venue to exhibit their work. We are currently taking applications for our “Art of Pride in the Park” exhibition. Of those applying, we will be selecting the top 10 applicants to display their LGBT-themed art at our festival. You will need to provide us with three examples of your art. Keep in mind South Bay Pride Art & Music Festival is a familyfriendly event. Those selected will receive a free vendor/exhibitor space at the festival, and all local artists are encouraged to apply. Applications must be received no later than July 19. Our juried selection of presenting artists will be announced by July 31. We are eagerly looking for ward to all of the amazing submissions. For complete information visit or —Dae Elliott is a sociologist and lecturer working at SDSU since 1994. She is one of the founding executive committee members and current chair of South Bay Alliance, the organizer of South Bay Pride Art & Music Festival since 2007. Contact her at


BRIEFS has bestowed on me, our film and the amazing actors,” Clark said in a press release. “Raid of the Rainbow Lounge” was named Best Documentary and its director, Robert Camina, was given the Freedom Award by FilmOut festival and programming directors. In all, 16 festival awards, 13 audience awards and three programming awards were handed out. Other top winners were films “I Do” and the opening-night film, “G.B.F.” Festival Programmer Michael McQuiggan said this year’s anniversary event was “a huge hit with audiences” with “overwhelmingly positive” feedback from attendees. For the complete list of winners, visit



SPECIAL DELIVERY RECEIVES $57,000 GRANT The Thursday Club Juniors gave Special Delivery San Diego, a nonprofit that has prepared and served meals to over 4,500 individuals with HIV, AIDS, cancer, heart disease or other life-threatening illnesses since its inception in 1991, a grant for $57,000. Founder and Executive Director Ruth Henricks said the organization was “very pleased and honored” for the recognition. “We are thrilled to receive this very generous award from such a wonderful local organization,” Henricks said in the announcement. “This contribution will be used to help us continue our work of delivering nutritious meals to over 250 unduplicated men, women and children.” Special Delivery clients typically receive two cold and one hot meal daily, groceries and the ability to shop in the organization’s food pantry, representatives said. Special Delivery is located in Mission Hills at 4021 Goldfinch St., and Henricks said the grant would also help them to stock the pantry with “many much-needed, nutrient-sense super foods.” For more information visit or call 619-297-7373. ‘RIZZOLI & ISLES’ AUTHOR LAUNCHES CAMPAIGN TO FIGHT ALZHEIMER’S Bestselling author and San Diego native Tess Gerritsen is taking part in a new online fundraising campaign to support Alzheimer’s research at The Scripps Research Institute in La Jolla, Calif. Gerritsen’s crime novel series was turned into the TV drama “Rizzoli & Isles,” and the author is offering the chance for two grand prize fundraising supporters to name one character each in the next book, to be released in 2014. For each $5 donation, individuals are entered into the prize raffle. In addition to the two grand prize winners, there will also be three runner-up winners which will each receive a signed copy of Gerritsen’s latest, “Last to Die” and “Rizzoli & Isles” merchandise. Gerritsen said she is supporting Alzheimer’s research in memory of her father, who died of the disease. She will be matching every dollar raised from the campaign, which ends July 23, up to $25,000. As of Thursday, June 13, $5,300 had been raised. To donate visit

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GAY SAN DIEGO June 14–27, 2013



LIFE BEYOND THERAPY Far away and long ago, attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) and attention deficit disorder (ADD) were considered childhood disorders that somehow magically disappeared in adulthood. Welcome to reality: scores of recent studies have shown that ADD/ADHD is more common in adults than most health professionals realized. Unfortunately, since ADD/ ADHD are still largely considered problems of childhood, many of us with ADD/ADHD do not receive any treatment. We might feel we are lazy or lack motivation. We may have spent years feeling like we can never quite get it together. ADD/ADHD are pretty slippery to accurately diagnose. Most people – myself included – exhibit some of the symptoms from time to time. Who isn’t easily distracted or lethargic sometimes? Don’t most of us feel unmotivated and lazy periodically? Just because you feel this way now and then doesn’t mean you have ADD/ADHD. Let me define the terms. ADD is actually an outdated term that is no longer used by health care professionals. Instead, ADHD is the official name used by the American Psychiatric Association, and it encompasses hyperac-

tive, impulsive, and/or inattentive behaviors. Let’s look at the three different types of ADHD. Inattentive type: These folks typically have trouble paying attention, finishing tasks or following directions. They may also easily become distracted, appear forgetful, careless and disorganized, and frequently lose things. They can tend to be rather sluggish and slow to respond and process information. They often have difficulty sifting through relevant and irrelevant information. They may seem daydreamy, spacey or as though they are in a fog, and may be shy or withdrawn. Hyperactive-impulsive type: These folks may appear restless, fidgety, overactive and impulsive. They act before thinking and often speak before thinking by blurting out and interrupting others. People with these hyperactive-impulsive behaviors typically have difficulty sitting still. They often talk excessively, have trouble waiting and seem to be perpetually in motion. Combined type: These folks display both inattentive and hyperactive-impulsive symptoms. An accurate diagnosis and treatment of ADHD in adults is challenging due to other conditions that often accompany the disorder, like anxiety and depression. Medication is usually a big part of working with adult ADHD. Stimulants are used to treat hyperactivity and inattentiveness, non-stimulant medications are used in people who don’t respond to or can’t tolerate stimulants, and antidepressants are sometimes prescribed to manage moodiness. It’s not all about taking pills, however. There are lots of other things you can do to work with your ADHD: •Ask for accommodations at work like allowing meetings to be recorded and using room dividers or headphones to minimize distractions. •Use personal organizational

systems, email for scheduling, grammar and spelling software and any kind of reminder system that works for you. •Use white noise to help with concentration or to sleep. •Make lists to remember chores and errands. •Join an ADHD support group. There are quite a few in San Diego County. Many adults with ADHD have compensated for symptoms of ADHD throughout their lives without even realizing it, finding methods such as the ones listed above to overcome shortcomings. For some, finally having a diagnosis means understanding what has been causing problems for most of their lives. Beginning treatment, at any age, can radically change your life for the better. After all this information, you’re probably wondering if you have adult ADHD. To meet the diagnostic criteria, your symptoms must be present from childhood and persistently interfere with functioning in multiple spheres of your life, like work, school and interpersonal relationships. While I did a lot of research in writing this column, I am not a psychiatrist who diagnoses ADHD. If you wonder if you have ADHD, I strongly recommend you see a psychiatrist who is familiar with the diagnostic protocol for identifying and treating adult ADHD. Self-diagnosis – even from reading a column like this one – is not the same as being diagnosed by a qualified psychiatrist. ADHD is a lifelong condition that if left untreated, can lead to problems with self-esteem and social anxiety. If you suffer from ADHD, don’t suffer unnecessarily. Get help —Michael Kimmel is a licensed psychotherapist who specializes in helping LGBT clients achieve their goals and deal with anxiety, depression, grief, sexually addictive behavior, coming out, relationship challenges and homophobia. Michael is currently accepting new clients. Contact him at 619-955-3311 or visit

Ginger Jacobs: Immigration justice through Alliance San Diego


PROFILES IN ADVOCACY When we consider the steps we have taken toward justice in the United States, one of the aspects that seems to defy black and white categorization is justice for immigrants. Though this country was settled by those seeking refuge from persecution in their native land, today’s U.S. citizens can be a little exclusive about who they want to let in. In the scope of human civil rights, immigration law is perhaps one of the most difficult to navigate, notwithstanding the fact that those who require such assistance often have language, financial and social barriers to overcome. Among those assisting and defending individuals with these barriers to legal status is lawyer Ginger Jacobs. Jacobs knew from 12 years of age that she wanted to be a lawyer and has always had an interest in social justice. Growing up in rural Indiana and describing herself as “bookish,” she was a member of the speech team and tended to choose topics like Apartheid or Tiananmen Square for her school projects. After graduating from Harvard Law School, Ginger worked in New York City as an associate, practicing commercial litigation from 1998. In 2000, along with a group of young attorneys, she had her first opportunity to take on a pro-bono asylum case regarding a detainee

in New Jersey. Their client, a political dissident from Cameroon, had literally fled his country with only the clothes on his back. The state of the detention center, later investigated for sexual abuse and other mistreatment of detainees, left a strong impression on Jacobs. “It was earthshattering to me, as an American citizen, that this was going on inside our country and being funded with our tax dollars,” she said. Jacobs said she felt she was finally using her degree to make a difference. She recognized that, with the hours she was spending on cases, she needed the subject matter to be something about which she could be passionate. Their victory on this case injected a well-needed sense of purpose into Jacobs’ career. Quickly on the heels of this positive event came the crushing blow of 9/11. She saw both the effect it had on the city and on U.S. immigration laws. With the creation of the National Security Entry/Exit Registration System, an initiative that specifically targeted Middle Eastern countries, Jacobs saw that justice was not equally and blindly distributed. When she left New York to travel with her husband to San Diego, she sensed it was time for a new direction. Having realized immigration law was truly her calling, Jacobs took the time needed to learn the nuances of that discipline and opened her own firm, Jacobs & Schlesinger, LLP in January 2004. Since opening, she has leveraged her experience toward partnering with agencies and projects, including Alliance San Diego and The Dreamer Assistance Network, to both provide legal assistance and mentor the next generation of immigration lawyers. Additionally, Jacobs serves as chair of the Advisory Board for the American Bar Association’s Immigration Justice Project (IJP) of San Diego. Her current work sees LGBT issues at the forefront, as laws develop in an exciting way. The impending fall of the Defense of Marriage Act has ignited a new conversation on how that will alter LGBT immigration issues. Legal immigration through marriage has long been the province of heterosexual spouses, but that may all change and she already has clients scheduling appointments for early July in anticipation. Additionally, as we see some laws and abuses against LGBT members become harsher in other countries, Jacobs sees more asylum cases stemming from such acts as sexual violence and torture toward transgender individuals in Mexico to the possibility of imprisonment or execution for being a gay man in Uganda. If you or someone close to you is facing immigration or political asylum challenges, be sure to get professional advisement before proceeding. Visit to be linked to resources in the area. —Ian Morton has worked in the HIV field since 1994 when he began volunteering with AIDS Response Knoxville. He currently serves as outreach liaison for the AIDS Research Institute at UCSD. To nominate a person or organization to be featured in Profiles in Advocacy, please submit name, affiliation and contact information to


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Painting 'out in the open' in today’s society Local artists & others featured at La Jolla Festival of the Arts By Morgan M. Hurley | GSD Assistant Editor For the 27th year, the La Jolla Festival of the Arts will bring fine art, music, food, wine and craft beers to San Diego’s “jewel by the sea.” This year’s festival, which since 1987 has raised over $1 million for adaptive sports and recreation programs for San Diegans with disabilities, will return to the University of California, San Diego (UCSD) campus, taking over Warren Field. Produced by the Torrey Pines Kiwanis Club, the festival will exhibit the work of over 200 artists drawn from throughout the western United States and will include fine art in all its variety; paintings in every medium and modality, photography, jewelry, pottery, sculptures, glass design and more. Described on its website as “a feast for the eyes, palate and ears,” the two-day festival will also include a variety of performance artists, ensembles and solo performers on two different stages. One local artist who will be featured again this year is Robert Ferguson, an Escondido, Calif.based “en plein air” landscape artist who also paints nudes. “En plein air” is a French expression that means “in the open air,” and artists who use this method take an easel and paint box out into nature and paint their landscape subjects live, out in the open, instead of working from photos in a studio. The tradition was made popular in the 1800s by Monet and other classic impressionists and is still popular today, though those done on canvases as large as Ferguson’s are rare, he said. Ferguson, a native of San Diego who moved with his family to Las Vegas and Montana during his childhood, later spent many years as a graphic designer and art director in New York City before settling back in Escondido over 20 years ago to focus on his career as a fine artist. “I wanted to paint outside and I

Robert Ferguson painting "en plein air" (Courtesy Robert Ferguson) knew that I couldn’t do that on the East Coast,” he said. He operates out of his own art gallery and studio, located at 1291 Simpson Way in Escondido. Growing up in “puritanical”

Montana, Ferguson said he wanted to explore painting the human anatomy but there were no organized life-drawing classes or teachings of that nature available to him, so he started with landscapes.

“I really wanted to paint and draw the [human] figure. I felt really guilty about that as a kid. You know, I’m really not supposed to be doing that, painting naked people. That’s bad; it’s sinful,” he said. After four years of art school in New York, he said he perfected his methods of painting live nudes, both male and female, and added them to his standard repertoire. Once back in Escondido, however, promoting this skill got him in a bit of hot water about five years ago. “I had a nude in my window at a gallery here and hell broke loose,” he said. “It was a male nude and it was full frontal. The mayor came to our studio, it was on CNN, [and people] were picketing the gallery and threatening to throw rocks at the windows. Calling the incidents “eye-opening,” Ferguson said it made him question “where we are mentally” as a society. “It was shocking and a very traumatic experience for me. I felt violated. I felt misunderstood,” he said. “It was so personal.” The incident may have shook him to the core and made him question where this societal fear of the human body came from, but Ferguson said he still paints nudes.


“It’s art. It is what artists do,” he said. Adding another twist of irony, he said that although his nude paintings are approximately 80 percent female compared to 20 percent male, this particular aspect of his art has caused people to think he is gay, but he’s not. “I do have a nice gay following for my nudes,” he said, “and actually for my landscapes, too.” Though still primarily sought out for his large canvas, en plein air landscapes, after over a decade of painting out in the open, Ferguson said these days he uses a collection of his original open air work to paint reproductions and perfect his craft, and even uses his nudes to work on his color mixing – he only uses three colors – and brush strokes. The majority of his work – he has created 1,700 paintings to date – is sold in Escondido, Beverly Hills, and La Quinta, Calif., at the annual art festival there each spring. This will be his fifth year at the La Jolla Festival of the Arts. To learn more about Ferguson’s work, visit The La Jolla Festival of the Arts runs June 22 and 23 from 10 a.m. to 5 p.m. at UCSD’s Warren Field. Organizers are offering free parking and a shuttle ser vice. For more information about the La Jolla Festival of the Arts, visit

BUSINESS SPOTLIGHTS MISSION HILLS AUTOMOTIVE 308 W Washington St., San Diego, CA 92103 | 619-299-9367 When I took over Mission Hills Automotive in 2008, I was well aware of the thriving LGBT community nearby, having watched its growth while working in the area since 1983. Although the former shop owner built his business on ethics and was AAA approved for 25 years, he never reached out or got involved with the community. I changed that, first by local advertising to let the community know we were here to serve. Then by doing what we do best, wowing each customer with great service, fair prices, and a two-year warranty. After a solid year of growth, we expanded to seven days a week. It was at this time, I was fortunate enough to meet an amazing technician with decades of experience named Jean Claude Gray. While employed at our shop, Jean Claude made the transition to Dusti Gray, and working in a supportive environment helped her make this happen. Being involved also means boots-on-the-ground events, and every year, we have a booth at the Pride festival. We also give back in other ways, such as keeping the Desert Aids Project trucks on the road, and donating to Mama’s Kitchen. As we move forward, we must all try to create a feeling of community in the areas we operate. No longer is it good enough to just open your doors and repair cars. The modern business landscape requires more involvement in the community to build the relationships that will last a lifetime.


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Day of decision:

The Supreme Court could announce their decision on the two marriage-equality cases any day, and the local LGBT and ally community will be coming together on the day of decision at 5 p.m. The court announces each Monday and Thursday, with the final day expected to be Monday, June 24. Join in the monumental occasion at the Hillcrest Pride Flag (Normal Street and University Avenue) at 5 p.m. and move to The LGBT Center (3909 Centre St.) at 7 p.m. See you there!

Friday, June 14

HEY BARTENDER: It had its world premiere at SXSW in March, its theatrical release in NYC last week and is now coming to San Diego’s Reading Cinemas Gaslamp 15 for one week only. The film “Hey Bartender” is written and directed by Douglas Tirola and is the story of “the bartender in the era of the craft cocktail.” No one knows craft cocktails better than San Diego at the moment, so it’s quite fitting “Hey Bartender” screens here. Reading Gaslamp 15 is located at 701 Fifth Ave. For show times and tickets visit readingcinemasus. com or call 619-232-0421.

Saturday, June 15

SUMMER OF LOVE: The San Diego Gay Men’s Chorus is hosting an encore gala, called Summer of Love, tonight from 6 – 9 p.m. The benefit takes place at the McMillin Company Event Center, 2875 Dewey Rd. at Liberty Station. VIP tickets are $125 (with VIP preview admission at 6 p.m.) and general admission is $75 (open at 7 p.m.). There will be live 1960s music, “groovy food tables,” and a silent and live auction. For more information and tickets visit or call 877-296-7664. URBAN STREET ANGELS: Marsha Starr, Antonio Barraza and our own Ian Morton perform tonight at a benefit for Urban Street Angels,

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the volunteer-based nonprofit helping youth who are homeless throughout San Diego County. The charity event and silent auction is from 7:30 – 9:30 p.m. at The LGBT Center, 3909 Centre St. and will include a “comedy hypnosis show” by Starr, where volunteers from the audience are taken on a wild ride. There will be raffle items, food and drink, and of course, great entertainment all for $15. For more information visit or call 858-444-0850. COFFEE WITH YOUR COUNCIL PRESIDENT: If you missed having a cup with Council President Todd Gloria in Mission Hills, feel free to come by Pizzicato in Bankers Hill for today’s relaxed meet and greet. Pizzicato is located at 2420 Fifth Ave. and Gloria will be there from 10 – 11 a.m. AMAZING HIGH HEEL RACE: It’s back for a third year, making this an annual Hillcrest must-do event where teams race around the neighborhood, completing tasks, having fun and raising money to support maintenance of the Hillcrest Pride Flag. Did we mention it all has to be done in high heels? Sponsored by the HBA, the race starts at 1:30 p.m. at Urban MO’s and Peet’s Coffee on University Ave. and ends at a wild awards ceremony and party at Gossip Grill. What do you win? Besides the Biggest Blister award, there are also Best Time, Highest Heel, Fiercest Heel, Most Creative Attire and Most Spirited honors. It’s a blast to watch, too, so come out and have fun. Signup to compete at, with individual registration today at $45. OLD HOUSE FAIR: It’s the 15th annual Old House Fair, put on by the South Park Business Group. The free festival includes vendors, walking tours, and arts and crafts, all centered around 30th and Beech streets. Plus, there is a historic home tour not to be missed, for $25.

All events take place from 10 a.m. – 4 p.m. For more information visit or call 619-233-6679. BIRD PARK CONCERTS: The North Park Community Association’s annual Bird Park Summer Concert series begins tonight at 5:30 p.m. with jazz musician Lenny “Fuzzy” Rankins. Bring a blanket and relax at Bird Park near Morley Field, located at the intersection of Upas and 28th streets. The concerts are free and are staged every other Saturday through the summer. For more information visit northparksd. org. LIFE’S A BEACH: 1202 is the spot to be tonight after a full day of events. It’s the SDPIXsponsored Life’s a Beach Party, and it takes place from 10 p.m. – 2 a.m. The dress code is anything beach (Speedos included) and DJ Dawna Montell will be spinning. Go-go dancers? Beach-themed. Drink specials? Always. No cover for SDPIX members before midnight. 1202 is conveniently located at 1202 University Ave. For more information visit

Sunday, June 16

DON GIOVANI: Reading Cinemas will be showcasing select opera and ballet performances on their high-definition movie theater screens throughout the summer, including today’s performance of “Don Giovani.” Can’t wait for San Diego Opera’s next season to get your opera fix? The show today is at 2 p.m. and “screens” again Tuesday, June 18 at 7 p.m. Tickets are $20, and the show is at three locations: Carmel Mountain, Gaslamp 15 and Town Square. For more information (including future opera performances and “The Best of the Bolshoi” showings) visit TRANS PRIDE BENEFIT: Redwing Bar & Grill is the spot for today’s Trans Pride fundraiser, taking place from 3 – 7 p.m. There will be an auction, a 50/50 raffle, entertainment and Jell-O shots,

with special guests the Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence. Emcee is our good friend Lady Ajax and money raised will go to the transgender contingent and booth at this year’s Pride. Redwing is located at 4012 30th St. For more information visit or call 619-281-8700.

Tuesday, June 18

HBA GREEN COMMITTEE: The first meeting of this newly formed Hillcrest Business Association committee, focusing on green and sustainable initiatives, meets today at 3:30 p.m. The meeting is open to anyone and, after today, will meet every third Tuesday of the month. Today’s meeting is at Snooze, 3940 Fifth Ave. For more information visit or call 619-299-3330. PRIDE MOTORCYCLE REGISTRATION: Register early for the Pride Parade motorcycle contingent, tonight from 6:30 – 9 p.m. at Gossip Grill. You can, of course, still register on the day of the parade, but this is so much more fun. Registration is $15 and Gossip Grill is located at 1440 University Ave. For more information contact Irene Herrig at VOICE OF PRIDE: It’s round six of the Voice of Pride open auditions, tonight at #1 Fifth Avenue. Sign ups begin at 8 p.m. with the performances starting at 8:45 p.m. The first 10 registrants will perform, with the winner of the entire competition opening for Monica at this year’s Pride Festival. The finals are June 27 at Top of the Park. #1 Fifth Avenue is located at 3845 Fifth Ave. For more information visit

Thursday, June 20

GSDBA AWARDS: Join the Greater San Diego Business Association for their 2013 awards luncheon, where they will honor businesses, nonprofits and community leaders in seven categories. Honorees include Marci Bair, the Imperial Court

de San Diego, Council President Todd Gloria, Wang’s North Park, Wells Fargo, Comerica Bank and Robert Gleason, with Mayor Bob Filner as the luncheon’s guest speaker. Master of ceremonies is Jeff Gelder, and the awards will be handed out at the Sheraton Mission Valley San Diego, 1433 Camino Del Rio South. Individual tickets start at $60. For more information and tickets visit gsdba. org or call 619-296-4543. MAMA’S KITCHEN CAMPAIGN: Mama’s Kitchen is celebrating their fundraising milestone with their Capital Campaign Celebration today from 4 – 7 p.m. They have just over 50 percent of their $2.6 million raised and are launching the second stage in the campaign by offering tours of their offices and kitchens, entertainment and refreshments. The event is free and open to the public. Mama’s Kitchen is located at 3960 Home Ave. For more information visit mamaskitchen. org or call 619-233-6262.

Friday, June 21

THE EDGE: Future Music Movement presents The Edge, a night of underground, deep and tech-house music with DJs Myxzlplix and John Volotti. Featured artists include Lolly Rodriguez, Skates and Kimso with giveaways from FEELiT and photography by Joey Hernandez. The night starts at 10 p.m. with a one-hour hosted bar and closes at 2 p.m. Numbers nightclub is located at 3811 Park Blvd. For more information visit or FIRESTORM DATE AUCTION: Softball team Firestorm will be putting themselves up on the auction block to raise money for a trip to Seattle’s Emerald City Classic tournament. Win a date (dinner for two)! And have fun while you do it, at Flicks, 1017 University Ave. The auction starts at 8:30 p.m. For more information visit or call 619-297-2056.

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CALENDAR Saturday, June 22

RAINBOW PROM: It has been 10 years strong for The LGBT Center’s Rainbow Prom, of fering youth a safe, welcoming and af firming prom night. From 6 – 9 p.m., LGBT youth and allies ages 14 – 18 will get the chance to dress up and dance just like ever y other young adult, with giveaways, treats and, of course, prom photos. I still have mine! The Center is located at 3909 Centre St. For more information visit or call 619-692-2077.

Sunday, June 23

AMBROSIA IN THE SKY: Join the Imperial Court de San Diego tonight for Ambrosia in the Sky, a dinner with the Empress and Royales to benefit the philanthropic arm of the Court. There will be entertainment, a prime rib, chicken or vegetarian dinner, dessert and no-host full bar for $49 per person. Martinis Above Fourth is located at 3940 Fourth Ave. For more information or to reser ve seats visit imperialcourtsandiego. com or call 619-400-4500.

Tuesday, June 25

GSDBA NETWORKING: Taste – A GSDBA Networking Mixer is from 6 – 8 p.m. at Kitchen & Bath Experts, 7475 Clairemont Mesa Blvd. There will be food, of course, but it’s a fun play on words, too. From the Greater San Diego Business Association website: “Come SAMPLE a TASTE of GSDBA. MIX it up. COOK up some leads. Find the right INGREDIENTS to make the perfect RECIPE for success.” It’s a free networking event. For more information visit or call 619-296-4543.

Wednesday, June 26

JOANNE WORLEY AT THE WELK: Master comedienne, singer and Broadway star JoAnne Worley plays at the Welk Resorts Theatre for five performances, starting today at 1 p.m. Worley will perform from her entire repertoire, including her roles in “The Drowsy Chaperone,” “Wicked,” “Gypsy” and “Mame.” Organizers said this one will sell out: Wednesday, Thursday and Sunday at 1 p.m., Thursday and Saturday at 8 p.m. Tickets start at $54 and the Welk is located at 8860 Lawrence Welk Drive in Escondido. For more information and tickets visit san-diego-theatre or call 888802-7469.

BANKERS HILL BUSINESS GROUP: If you missed Council President Todd Gloria at the Bankers Hill Coffee with your Councilmember on the 15th, tonight is your second chance to speak with Gloria. He will be presenting at tonight’s Bankers Hill Business Group general members meeting from 6 – 8 p.m. The public is welcome to attend. Inn at the Park is located at 525 Spruce St.

Thursday, June 27

PINK BOOMBOX: It’s that night again, every fourth Thursday of the month at The Brass Rail. The Pink Boombox revue takes over for their Beyond Burlesque show, with performances by the best of the best burlesque dancers in town. The night starts at 9 p.m. at 3796 Fifth Ave. For more information visit Facebook. com/thebrassrailsd or call 619298-2233. LEATHER AT DIVERSIONARY: It’s the first leather night at our local LGBT theater company, Diversionary Theatre. Watch the hilarious “The Divine Sister” and raise money for the Leather Foundation at the same time, with $29 tickets that include cocktails and treats beginning at 7 p.m. Diversionary is located at 4545 Park Blvd. For more information visit or call 619220-0097.t


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Ensenada, Baja Calif. June 15 Sacramento, Calif. June 15 Flagstaff, Ariz. June 15 – 16 Santa Fe, N.M. June 22 Tijuana, Baja Calif. June 22 New York June 28 – 30 San Francisco June 29 – 30 Seattle June 29 – 30 Los Angeles (At the Beach – L.A. Black Pride)

July 3 – 7 San Luis Obispo, Calif. July 11 – 14 San Diego July 12 – 14 Santa Barbara, Calif. July 13 Vancouver, B.C. Aug. 4 Reno, Nev. Aug. 17 San Jose, Calif. Aug. 17 – 18 Las Vegas Sept. 6 – 7 Chula Vista, Calif. (South Bay Pride)

Sept. 14 Oceanside, Calif. (Pride @ the beach)

Oct. 12 Bakersfield, Calif. Oct. 19 San Bernardino, Calif. Oct. 26 – 27 Palm Springs, Calif. Nov. 2 – 3



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his issue marks the end of an important part of Gay San Diego and the start of a new focus for one of our best contributors. It seems fitting that our friend and theater writer Cuauhtémoc Kish would choose this as his final issue for his theater reviews, as he started with us exactly three years ago: Gay San Diego’s inaugural issue June 18, 2010. In that first issue he debuted our Theatre Scene column where, among other happenings in the vibrant local theater world, he honored The Old Globe Theatre founding director, Craig Noel. Cuauhtémoc also penned the funny and

popular column Advice from the Beyond, where his most famous persona was no doubt Tammy Faye Bakker. It is Cuauhtémoc’s theater reviews that were most read, however. From his first reviews of Cygnet Theatre’s “Private Lives” and Diversionary Theatre’s “Dog Sees God,” to this issue’s final three reviews, we are proud Cuauhtémoc has been a part of Gay San Diego. Good luck to you, Cuauhtémoc, and thank you for being an important part of our community. Below is a letter from Cuauhtémoc to his readers.

Diversionary dishes up staged silliness with ‘The Divine Sister’ Charles Busch has been writing plays that feature drag personas for years. His latest concoction is called “The Divine Sister” and will play at Diversionary Theatre through June 30. Busch, who played the lead in this hilarious comedy offBroadway for some 253 regular

Gay San Diego Readers,

—Cuauhtémoc Q. Kisht


Irreverent fun at its best

—Anthony King, editor

I have been writing theatre reviews for over a decade and it has opened up my eyes, ears, mind, soul and heart. My intension has always been to provide the reader with a simple guidepost for the staged event; was the production worthy of your time and hard-earned cash? I like to think, above all else, I was always honest in the telling. My best experience in writing reviews has been with Gay San Diego: Pat Sherman, the founding editor, and Anthony King have been nothing less than splendid, supporting editors and working for both has been a joy. But I will now join my fellow readers as a patron of the arts to allow more time for a passion I have developed in the past year or so, fabric art. If you’re interested in following me along this new path, find me on Google. In the meantime, enjoy some theater; there’s nothing like it.

Yolanda Franklin (Photo by Ken Jacques)

performances at the Soho Theatre, sets this spoof parody in the 1960s and reminds us all of our fascination with nun noir cinema like “The Singing Nun,” “The Sound of Music” and “Agnes of God.” The simple storyline has Mother Superior (played by Daren Scott) desperately seeking funding for a parochial school and nunnery that is literally crumbling to the ground. In her search for financial assistance to avoid bankruptcy, she visits a local wealthy widow named Mrs. Levinson (played sternly by Maggie Carney) and a mother-daughter relationship is rediscovered. The cast of zany characters, directed with camp by the cofounder of ion theatre, Glenn Paris, is a broad mix. First up is a young postulant, Agnes (Lauren King), who sees visions, her latest in a pair of yellow-stained undies. Two other nuns making an appearance include Sister Frank Acacius (Yolanda Franklin) and Sister Walburga (Jacque Wilke); one, a old friend from younger glory days who is the school’s wrestling coach and the other, a recent, heavily acac cented spy from Berlin. Dangerfield G. Moore plays Mrs. Levinson’s houseguest, Jeremy, who just

“The Divine Sister” Through June 30 Diversionary Theatre Thurs – Sat 8 p.m. Sun 2 p.m. 619-220-0097 happens to be a former beau of the “Mother” and still carries a torch for her. Moore takes on the additional role of an albino monk, while Carney plays a troubled male student. Playgoers should be prepared to laugh at the antics offered up in Busch’s script, a script filled with broad parodies and innuendos of films that highlight nuns and postulants from our cinematic past. There is lip-synching, musical interludes and enough compacted zaniness to entertain you for the full 90-minute farce. Corey Johnson’s costumes dress up most of the actors in appropriate habits, while Matt Scott’s scenic design allows for quick scene changes and even a bicycle ride across the stage. Peter Herman is responsible for some crazy wig creations. In the end, “The Divine Sister” is irreverent fun at its best, underscoring the power of prayer as well as the power of staged silliness.t



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Both playful and serious Commissioned lyrical play is enjoyable, in spite of missteps in script

(l to r) George McDaniel, Gerard Joseph, Douglas Sills, Jenn Lyon and Ronald Washington (Photo by Kevin Berne)

Never enough of a good thing All the many pieces come together in Christopher Ashley-led production After what seems like countless versions of “His Girl Friday” (aka “The Front Page”) playwright John Guare gives us yet another adaptation for a fourweek run at La Jolla Playhouse. Ben Hecht and Charles MacArthur, former Chicago crime reporters, wrote the first installment in 1928, spawning other adaptations of their play for the stage, film and television. The action unfolds from a Chicago court pressroom whose inhabitants have all penned their own storyline about a condemned killer, a very slender Earl Holub who is played winningly by Patrick Kerr. His hanging is scheduled for the following morning and no one doubts the man’s guilt. There are some 23 actors in the cast, and a good many are treasured locals. Non-local Douglas Sills takes on one of the pivotal roles with lots of bluster and double-talk, that of editor Walter Burns, while the exspouse and ex-reporter, Hildy, is played with gusto and confidence by Jenn L yon. She is on her way to New York to marr y her new man, Bruce, who lives under the ever-spreading shadow of his mother, Mrs. Baldwin, played with lots of uppity attitude by Mar y Beth Peil. The entire cast does especially fine work and includes an obituar y reporter (Kevin Koppman-Gue), a lost member of the clergy (Jonathan McMurtr y), the condemned man’s fiancée Mollie (Bethany Anne Lind) and many others too numerous to mention. Playhouse Artistic Director Christopher Ashley had his work cut out for him as director with such a large cast, but he manages to move this fast-paced troupe with exacting precision, so much so that the audience barely gets a breather with the non-stop overlapping dialog. Kudos must go to designer Robert Brill for a brilliant set design that includes a jailhouse, pressroom and outside gallows. He was proudly named La Jolla Playhouse artist in residence and no one could dispute his welldeser ved title. Paul Tazewell, costume designer, must have been doing lots of overtime to dress this extra large cast, but he nailed the period with appropriate suit, dress, hats and late-1930s shoe

“His Girl Friday” Through June 30 La Jolla Playhouse Tues & Wed 7:30 p.m. Thurs & Fri 8 p.m. Sat 2 & 8 p.m. Sun 2 & 7 p.m. 858-550-1010 wear. Mark Bennett writes some original music that underscores the time period (August 31, 1939) as well as a solid sound design. La Jolla Playhouse’s current witty concoction of “His Girl Friday” would argue convincingly that you never can get enough of a good thing.t


Richard Baird, Maritzell Carrero and Eileen Faxas (Photo by Ken Jacques) Melinda Lopez’s “Becoming Cuba” is a world-premiere production about intervention in foreign wars, most specifically the Cuban War of Independence of 1898. This lyrically infused play is not just about the politics of war; it’s about romance, family and history. North Coast Rep Artistic Director David Ellenstein directs with a light touch, allowing the characters to show both a playful side as well as a serious one. Adela, played by Eileen Faxas, is a recent widow and local apothecary, trying her best to stock the store with provisions that will benefit both the Spanish interlopers as well as the Cuban rebels. Into the mix of actors there is Martina, played by Maritxell Carrero, who assists her half-sister in the pharmacy. She’s young and outspoken, far unlike her sister, who is all business. There’s also an American reporter named Davis, comfortably played by

Richard Baird; Fancy, a high society Spanish wife played by Catalina Maynard; Isidore, the Spanish captain played by Mark Pinter; and an unnecessary street waif, played by Aaron Acosta and David Coffey on alternate nights. There’s also another sibling that shows up: Manny, played by Steven Lone, who is part of the rebel gang. And finally, a mythical ghost creature makes a few appearances that are spiced with humor, played by Pinter. Though the play has merit, the storyline rambles in too many directions and the second act needs a good clip. The Adela character is nicely drawn

“Becoming Cuba” Through June 23 North Coast Repertory Theatre Wed 7 p.m. Thurs & Fri 8 p.m. Sat 2 & 8 p.m. Sun 2 & 7 p.m. 858-481-1055 in parts, but ultimately comes off as too cold and standoffish for any possibility of romance with her courting Hemingway-esque reporter. The set, designed by Marty Burnett, is a bare bones Havana pharmacy that marks the era appropriately. The production is enhanced with lighting by Matt Novotny and period costumes are nicely done by Alina Bokovikova. Lopez has a great blueprint for an enduring play; she just needs to pare it down to the essentials and eliminate the unnecessary mystical elements that interfere with the tone and storyline. This production was commissioned by theatre patrons Jenie and Vin Altuda, and though some script problems persist, it is enjoyable and entertaining, and worthy of a visit to one of the most enduring theatres in San Diego County.t



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Dixie Chicks singer talks lesbian hair, Rachel Maddow crush and ‘fake’ country music

By Chris Azzopardi | Q Syndicate To quote a Dixie Chicks song, fearless front woman Natalie Maines has “been a longtime gone.” Seven years after one of the most successful country music acts released “Taking the Long Way,” and its unapologetic single “Not Ready to Make Nice” in response to the singer’s political dig at thenPresident George W. Bush, Maines goes her own way for her first-ever solo album, “Mother.” Parting with longstanding band mates Emily Robison and Martie Maguire for the album (don’t worry, she says there’s a “50/50” chance for a reunion LP), it’s also decidedly not country. In our recent chat, Maines revealed why she went rock (country “seemed so fake”), how being disowned – and her new short hair – made her feel closer to the gay community and whether now, a decade after her Bush outburst, she’s ready to make nice. Chris Azzopardi: You’re sporting that punkish ’do; before, with the Dixie Chicks, it was the long,

blond locks. Natalie Maines: I know. Well, with the Chicks, I definitely felt like I was playing dress up a bit – but I liked it! CA: Are you conscious of your look and how it represents the music? NM: With two kids, there’s not enough time in the day to spend on what I look like; this is a much easier look. And it fits my personality more. I had short hair growing up, and it always felt right for me. CA: Has the short hair scored you more lesbian cred? NM: [Laughs] I barely leave my house. So maybe. But the lesbians liked me already. Yeah, this is definitely a lesbian-ish haircut I’ve got going on. I don’t mind. I love Rachel Maddow. She would be my lesbian girl crush. CA: Why Rachel? NM: She’s hot! And she’s

smart and beautiful … and I like her hair. CA: I could see it working out between you two. NM: Yeah, I think that would work. I don’t know if my husband or her girlfriend would think so [laughs]. CA: You’ve always had a really loyal gay fan base, even before you publicly chastised George W. Bush. How do you explain your connection with gay fans? NM: We had some ver y costume-y, over-the-top looks that the gays do appreciate [laughs]. But after the controversy, I feel like there was even more of a connection, and that’s just because we both know how it feels to be hated just for who we are – not for doing anything, bothering anyone, murdering anyone or being arrested. Just for being us. Apparently, that’s not good in some people’s eyes. But also, too, to just continue being and let other people get used to it – learning to be OK with yourself and just putting it out there, and people can either like you or not, but it’s really on them. CA: Were you noticing more support from the gay community at shows after the incident? NM: Yeah. And we would get lots of emails, and a lot of the community would come right up and say, “I love that you did this. I didn’t listen to your music before, but after this, I went and bought every record.” However it was that they showed their support, I definitely felt it. CA: During the time country radio blacklisted the Dixie Chicks and country stars stopped supporting you, what was it like for you behind the scenes? NM: At the time, I was just in fight mode and feeling defiant and ready to take on everything and everybody. Actually, at the time, we were getting such overwhelming support and letters from people in the industry – actors and all sorts of people – and that was all really positive. I was always able to separate business from personal, and my friends weren’t fellow country artists, so I really didn’t care about that. What I cared about was being banned at a corporate level; it felt very unAmerican and very not OK to me, so that was my issue. And that is my issue with country music. I don’t have an issue with country music fans. I don’t have an issue with country music artists. I was very honest about my influences and the kind of music I came from – and country was not it. I say that now and people think, “Ooh, she’s mad at country,” and I never listened to country. I would

say that if ever asked, but I was never asked as much as I am now. But … I can’t remember what I was talking about [laughs]. CA: You were talking about not being fond of the country music industry. NM: Oh, you asked if I felt let down. I mean, it did suck to see all these radio stations cave so quickly to emails and phone calls they were getting and feed the controversy, which was so really nothing and ridiculous. That did feel like a stabbing in the back, just because I felt like we waved that country flag and we had country pride for all those years. But everyone jumped on board. We were fun to hate. CA: That’s because you were ahead of your time. NM: Exactly. Always have been. CA: When hardly anyone in country music was speaking out about equal rights and gay marriage, you were. NM: Well, that’s why I was so shocked that people were so shocked that I was a Democrat and wasn’t for the war. I mean, I did not ever feel like I was hiding something. To be in country music, I felt like we were accepted because of our differences, really, and we went beyond your typical country fan base, and I feel like it was because we were different. It was a real surprise to me that people thought I was something that I wasn’t. I felt disappointed in myself. How could I let anyone think anything else?! But we did always answer questions if we were asked them, and I always supported women’s rights and gay marriage and everything. CA: Why do you think more country music artists haven’t taken that step in publicly supporting equal rights – even though some of them might? NM: Well, they weren’t speaking out about it before, either. But I’m sure some do. How I always viewed country music growing up – why I didn’t really relate to it or why I wasn’t drawn to it – was because, to me, it seemed so fake. Everyone was putting on these fake smiles, nobody had any anger and they were all just happy to be there. I just did not relate to that. Shoot. What was your question again? I get so on a soapbox [laughs]. CA: About the lack of country artists advocating for equal rights.

NM: I just think that’s the nature of country music. I don’t know. I just don’t feel like they ever have. I have to think that Faith Hill has answered that question, honestly, and that she’s for gay marriage. I don’t know that she is, but I’ve spoken to her some and I know that she’s a pretty liberal person. I don’t keep up with her press so I don’t want to assume these people haven’t spoken out. CA: Will there ever be another Dixie Chicks album? NM: I don’t know. It’s possible. I’d say 50/50 [laughs]. I tr y to not predict the future or project; I just really tr y to live in the now, so I’m open to it. I have no ill feelings about the Dixie Chicks. I think right now, it’s logistics. There are eight kids among the three of us and, for me, making an album takes a lot of focus and a lot of concentration and a lot of time, and I’m not willing to go to Texas to do that. I wouldn’t expect Martie and Emily to leave their families and come here to do that, either. I just think it’s really hard right now. CA: With the Dixie Chicks, you covered several Patty Griffin songs, and “Mother” features Griffin’s song “Silver Bell.” What is it about Patty and her songwriting that resonates with you so much? The darkness? The realness? NM: It’s all of that. I’m bad putting into words things like that, but I love her songwriting. And I hate her because, not only has she written a million songs that are out there, she’s got all these songs that we’ve never even heard. It’s so hard to write a song for me. And I’m so jealous that she has, like, back stock. CA: Why was the seven years between “Taking the Long Way” and this new solo album a necessary break for you? NM: Basically because kids take a lot of time [laughs]. I just decided to dive into motherhood and do that 100 percent – just try to enjoy this time and my life and my kids’ lives and be, you know, a stable force in their lives. I definitely felt like I had worked really hard and been on the road for over 10 years, so I did want to slow down and just get real for a while. So there was a lot of self-realization and a lot of things that went on, but yeah, I needed a long while to just … be.

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DEMAIO on board with our issues. As a Republican, I’m in front of groups and audiences every day that are not on board with our issues yet, but given the right exposure to the LGBT community are coming around and evolving their views. … Who would have expected the gay guy to get the pre-primary endorsement of the local Republican Party in a contested and high-profile race? I can’t tell you how many people told me I was the first gay candidate they ever voted for. Many also told me they had evolved their position on LGBT issues because they had worked with me, saw the loving relationship that my partner and I have and met many of my LGBT supporters. I can tell you firsthand from this campaign that the best way to change a mind is to touch a heart, and we did that. While we’re seeing many changes and welcoming new supporters to the cause for equality, much more work remains to be done and I’m committed to playing whatever role I can in that process. AA: Last year saw some high profile Republican LGBT candidates run for office. Do you think that trend will continue? If so are there any people we should look out for? CD: I certainly hope so. What I’m most happy to see are candidates who are running on their ideas, their experience and their accomplishments first and foremost, with the media coverage seeing their sexual orientation as secondary to those things. There is an interesting twist, however, that gay Republican candidates face. I know in talking with Richard Tisei [out, Republican politician from Massachusetts] and others that it has been a hard journey, not because they did not receive support from the Republican Party for being gay, but because they were shunned by some in their own LGBT community for being Republican. We should be encouraging, not discouraging, our LGBT Republicans to seek elective office. We live in a two-party system and it is vitally important to have members of the LGBT community in leadership positions in both parties. It is the only way we can achieve positive change. AA: How could the Republican Party better work with members of the LGBT community? CD: There is a big difference between the national Republican Party and the local Republican Party. I give the local Republican Party a lot of credit for taking steps to embrace the LGBT community. The local Republican Party had no problem endorsing me for mayor and had no problem supporting Bonnie Dumanis as District Attorney. Recently the San Diego chapter of the Log Cabin Republicans appointed a new president, Susan Jester, who is the founder of AIDS Walk San Diego. My hope is local Republicans will continue to reach out and include the LGBT community, and give them a full seat at the table in the Party. No amount of local outreach, however, can change the perception of the Party if we don’t see changes at the national Party. If the Republican Party wants to win a governing majority, it has to get off the social issues and refocus on economic and quality of life issues at all levels. That’s a tough battle, but I’m pleased to be part of the effort to push the Republican Party to evolve.t


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DIGNITY “We’re very, very excited about these two programs,” Brown said. The Foundation will continue includ their additional programs, including the recently announced Lesbian Health Care and Aging With Dignity initiatives. The organization currently oversees Col the region’s HIV Funding Collaborative, which granted over $360,000 to 10 HIV/ AIDS service organiza organizations in 2013. Marcus Fisher of San Diego Youth Services, a HIV Funding Collaborative Council President Todd Gloria recipient, attended the honored board members at the Reunion Party to thank Reunion Party. (Photo by GSD) the board.

NEWS Brown also told attendees of good news, he said, acknowledging Charity Navigator’s recent announcement that San Diego received top placement in their annual philanthropic rankings. San Diego has been at the number one spot for four of the study’s nine years, and beat out all other metropolitan areas in the United States in this year’s ranking. “Of course our LGBT nonprofit charitable organizations have a lot to do with that ranking,” Brown said. “You should all be proud of the fact that you’re part of that ranking that makes San Diego number one in philanthropy.” Speaking specifically of LGBT nonprofits, however, Brown did tell of sobering news. “The sad reality is that for every dollar that is raised on behalf of LGBT charities and organizations in this country, three are raised for anti-LGBT organizations and efforts,” he said. “This says to us we should be happy and proud of what we’re doing here in San Diego, but we’ve got a long way to go.” Council President Todd Gloria congratulated the Foundation on their efforts, and made special recognition to individual board members for their work. “We’re all grateful to be here tonight to support the Foundation’s 17 years of work,” Gloria said. “We know that that’s not done just on its own. You have to have individuals who are committed.” Chris Ward of Sen. Marty Block’s office also thanked board members, on behalf of both Block and new Assemblymember Lorena Gonzalez. Earlier in the evening, Mayor Bob Filner joined board President Kay Chandler to hand out scholarships to two Palomar Collage students. Derik Steinkirchner and Kacey Jordan received financial assistance for their future studies, and both had family and friends in attendance. “Both of these students are very active in the Pride Center at Palomar, and we felt that they were extremely worthy students,” Chandler said. Filner agreed, thanking the students and calling them future leaders. Steinkirchner, with a 3.7 GPA, intends to study psychology at University of California, San Diego and Jordan, who has a 4.0 GPA, will transfer to Humboldt State University to major in wildlife biology and minor in multicultural queer studies. “This is a community that has really come a long way, and the Foundation has been a great part of that,” Filner closed, saying the LGBT community has helped the entire San Diego community progress. “We’ve come a long, long way.” For more information on the Foundation and the organization’s two new grant programs, visit or call 619-291-3383.t


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Brick-oven roast pork with beans & rice


(Photo by Frank Sabatini Jr.)

Chips with Miguel’s legendary sauce (Photo by Frank Sabatini Jr.)

Caesar salad with shrimp, carnitas & mangos (Photo by Frank Sabatini Jr.)

Big flavors from a little brick oven

he three main reasons I’d poke into Miguel’s Cocina in Old Town were for the table chips with jalapeno white sauce, the “ultimate margaritas” made with fresh fruit juices and for anything wrapped in warm, house-made corn tortillas. That list recently grew after visiting last weekend. Without forgoing the above-mentioned yummies, a friend and I arrived a little past the lunch frenzy, seizing comfy wiggle room on the semi-enclosed front patio. Although in a break from our usual go-to taco and enchilada plates, a small menu category titled “brick oven specialties” would lure us with its deeply seasoned meats when it came time to order our entrees. We kicked off with margaritas, a “green iguana” with melon liqueur and lime for my companion and the “ultimate” for me, served in a 16-ounce shaker that yields two glasses. The recipe has earned standing as the “mother of all margaritas” because it’s spiked with Grand Marnier, Cointreau and the juices from limes and oranges, which serve as a superior substitute for standard sweet-and-sour mix. Unlike others, this is fruitier, thus making it easier to forget you’re slugging 40-proof Azul Reposado Tequila. Freshly fried table chips and the restaurant’s famous jalapeno white sauce are

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complimentary and dangerously addicting. The creamy, roux-based sauce is built with chicken stock, white cheddar and Jack cheese. Served warm with bits of jalapeno winking from within, I could sit in a soaking tub filled with the stuff. Fortunately, our starters and entrees arrived quickly. “Barb’s Caesar” is a colorful departure from the classic Tijuana-style Caesar salad in that it contains cubed mango, spiced shrimp and carnitas. The dressing tasted milder and less tangy, or so it seemed when meshing with the bonus ingredients. We also shared a shrimp cocktail while counting along the way nearly a dozen mediumsized white Mexican shrimp that we fished out from chilled tomato sauce speckled with cucumber, celery and jalapenos. Miguel’s has six locations, although only in Old Town and at its 4S Ranch operation will you find a low-heat brick oven used for finishing off such specialties as marinated skirt steak, Veracruz-style white fish and a few other proteins, all served with

rice and beans. My companion chose the garlicseasoned New York strip steak, which was thinner than a chophouse cut, but substantial nonetheless. Adding richness was Oaxacan-inspired chili negro sauce that blends guajillo peppers with discrete measures of coffee and chocolate. Though not as complex as mole sauce, its sharp, pungent flavor contributed impressive depth to the meat. Also from the brick oven was the pork shoulder I ordered, marinated first in citrus and achiote paste, and then roasted in a conventional oven before undergoing a final crisping in the brick oven. The double cooking process evaporated some of the meat’s natural juices, but the overall flavor was terrifically porky with fruity undertones, especially in the pieces with fat clinging to them. Miguel’s is owned by The Brigantine Family of Restaurants, which means that those saucy, cabbage-adorned fish tacos

that have become popular mainstays at Brigantine kitchens are also found here. Other standouts (unique to Miguel’s) include vegetable enchiladas, chicken mole, seafood stew and some well-endowed torta sandwiches made with a choice of carne asada, chicken or calamari. In addition, the menu abides with all of the usual tacos, burritos and combo plates that appease tourists and locals alike. But if you want to pair a decent margarita with food that takes you further into Mexico, and without mystifying your palate, Miguel’s is a safe place to start.t


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esta Cantina Dirty Birds (5-7) to claim the lower division title. The league will now begin the process of assembling three teams to send to Gay Bowl XIII in Phoenix, Ariz. this October.

CA: Why was the distinction between this album and your work with the Dixie Chicks important to you?


AFCSL One week of games remains in America’s Finest City Softball League (AFCSL) action, but for the most part, division races have been decided. The final games of the season will be played on June 23, with the Women’s Division playing at the Poway Sportsplex and the Open Division battling in Chula Vista at Mount San Miguel Park. In the Women’s Division, the veteranbacked Urban MO’s (9-3) team has long since wrapped up the B Division title, distancing themselves from the Lunchboxes, who are in their first year in San Diego’s B Division. Looking to Score (15-3) has claimed the D Division title as they hold a fourgame lead over Baja Betty’s (11-7) and the Kamikazies (11-7) with just two games remaining. Impressively, Looking to Score has limited opponents to just 55 runs over those 18 games played, and average of 3.1 runs per game, easily the lowest in AFCSL. Two teams may be battling it out against each other for the C Division championship, but the Ballers (12-6) will need a little bit of outside help to make that happen. They trail first-place Aberration (12-4) by two games with two remaining. The Ballers will first need to get past last-place Yo Soy Fiesta (6-12) in an 8 a.m. game. If they can do that, the Ballers will face Aberration at 10 a.m. with title hopes still up for grabs. The two teams have split their season series so far, so a Ballers win would give them the


True North Ball Hawks took second after a hard-fought match. (Photo by Scott Donald) tiebreaker advantage. However, that win alone would still not be enough. They would then need Silver Fox (7-11) to upset Aberration in order for the Ballers to claim the division. Unlike in past years, the Open Division races have been narrowed to just a few teams who are still in contention for World Series berths. Any team can participate in the Women’s World Series, but on the Open Side, AFCSL’s berths are limited and only offered to the top teams in each division. The Loft (20-4) wrapped up the B Division title a few weeks ago and will be heading to Washington to play in the World Series Aug. 26 – 31. The Flicks Lawmen (13-3) have finished their season as C Division champions for the third year in a row. A new twist has been added to the C Division, thanks to the growth of the league and need to divide C into two divisions. The team with the best overall record in C, which was Flicks, earns one of the two C Division World Series berths. The second berth will be awarded to the team that wins the AFCSL C Division playoffs, which will take place June 23. The three teams with the best records

after Flicks are seeded, with the numberone seed getting a bye. These playoff games are sure to be exciting as they will feature three strong teams: The Outlaws (12-4), Sol (11-5) and The Loft (11-5). Sol and The Loft split their two games this year, and they will play yet again. The winner will then take on the Outlaws for the right to go to Washington. The was potential for a crazy threeteam frenzy in the D Division’s final week, but the Rebel’s 10-9 extra-inning upset of the Baja Betty’s Sin Nombre on Sunday, June 9 mostly ended that chance. By virtue of its big victory over then-first place Krush (13-3), The Loft (13-3) has caught Krush in the standings and holds the tiebreaker between the two teams. Betty’s (11-5) sits two games back and needs one of those two teams to lose twice on June 23, an unlikely scenario. They do get to play The Loft, but a victory there would still leave Betty’s hoping for the Dragons to upset The Loft. Sponsoring a third Open Division team for the first time, the Loft could potentially send a team to the World Series in all three Open divisions, which would be pretty neat.t

NM: It’s just bugged me whenever I would see lead singers do a solo album that sounded exactly like their band. It always seemed to be a way to get all the money for yourself [laughs]. So I did want to be different. But I didn’t have to be conscious of that; this is just what I’m naturally drawn to. When we went into the studio, we didn’t even know we were making a record. I was very upfront about that with Ben [Harper’s] band, just because they were basically coming [to the studio] for free every day; they enjoyed music and they wanted to experiment and see what happens – but I wasn’t telling my management or my label, so there was no money coming from anywhere. It was really like a band starting from scratch, everybody putting in the same amount of time and hard work … and they got paid eventually [laughs]. There just wasn’t a discussion; it was just very organic in what naturally comes to me musically or appeals to me. CA: Are you ready to make nice yet? NM: I don’t sit around stewing over it or thinking about it at all, but if making nice means making a country record and going back to that, then no, I’m not ready. CA: Has there been a peace agreement between you and Toby Keith? NM: Sure, I’ve got no issues. I don’t even think about any of these people [laughs]. I wouldn’t have even thought of Toby Keith if he hadn’t put out a picture of me and Saddam Hussein cuddling. CA: He could’ve at least had you cuddling with Rachel Maddow. Gosh. NM: Exactly! —Chris Azzopardi is the editor of Q Syndicate, the international LGBT wire service. Reach him via his website at




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