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parade in 1974, which occurred without City help. “In 1974 [we] went to the police station to get a permit, and the police told us that they [would] not only not give a permit, but there would never be a homosexual march or parade in San Diego,” Ramirez said at the meeting. While a march did occur that year, the following year Homann threatened to sue the City, and its leaders relented, granting the first permitted Pride Parade for the region. Next year will mark the 40th anniversary of Ramirez, Jessop and Homann’s actions. “Those days there would not be this proclamation,” Ramirez said. “I’ve always said I am blessed to be both a Latino and a gay man, to see the growth and visibility of the two communities that I love.” Now the fourth-largest LGBT celebration in the United States, San Diego Pride brings more than 200,000 spectators to Hillcrest for the Parade and over

The Obama administration’s reaction to the U.S. Supreme Court rulings striking down parts of DOMA and Proposition 8 provides a stark contrast to that of the predecessor administration. In 2003, when the Supreme Court struck down laws prohibiting private intimate contact between same-sex partners (in Lawrence v. Texas), President George W. Bush had nothing to say, at least not publicly. His press secretary, Ari Fleischer, told reporters that the Bush administration had not filed a brief in the case and that it considered the decision to be “a state matter.” The Bush administration took no action to determine to what extent the Lawrence ruling might apply to various federal programs, such as the military’s “don’t ask, don’t tell” law banning openly gay servicemembers. It continued enforcing the ban and, though statistics showed the Bush administration reduced the number of discharges under the policy, it did so before Lawrence was issued and at a time when the demand for troops in Iraq and Afghanistan was intensifying. In the year following Lawrence, President Bush endorsed a Congressional bill seeking a federal constitutional amendment to ban marriage for gay couples nationally. Ten years later, the Obama administration’s response has been dramatically different. President Barack

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Prior to the Pride of Hillcrest Block Party on Friday, July 12, the entire city of San Diego has been celebrating pride festivities all week, including the annual Rainbow Flag-Raising Ceremony at San Diego State University (SDSU) and an official proclamation from the San Diego City Council. “We are here today to proclaim July 2013 to be San Diego Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender Pride Month in the city of San Diego,” said Council President Todd Gloria at the Tuesday, July 9 meeting. “We have both the past and the future of Pride right here in Council chambers for you all this morning,” he said, acknowledging San Diego LGBT Pride board, staff and volunteers, the organization’s general manager, Stephen Whitburn, and City Commissioner Nicole Murray Ramirez. Ramirez, along with community leaders Jess Jessop and Tom Homann, helped organize the first Pride

‘Sexual immorality’ seen and sewn abroad Film reveals anti-gay evangelical work extends beyond US borders By Morgan M. Hurley | GSD Assistant Editor

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On the heels of nationwide advances in the fight for LGBT rights in the United States, an awardwinning documentary coming to San Diego Friday, July 19 exposes the direct connection between United States Christian evangelism and violence against gays abroad, specifically in Uganda. “God Loves Uganda,” directed by Academy Award-winner Roger

Ross Williams, lets those involved speak for themselves as it ties all the naked, ugly truths together. The film first premiered to rave reviews at Sundance Film Festival earlier this year before hitting the greater festival circuit, where it continued to rake up awards. The weekend before it makes its debut in San Diego, it will be shown at OUTFest, the Los Angeles LGBT film festival. Openly gay Williams is an Afri-

(l) Bishop Senyonjo in “God Loves Uganda” (Photo by Crispin Buxton) can-American who made the film to unearth the hatred being cultivated through U.S. evangelical teachings positioning Bible scripture as law. As a result, incarceration, corrective rape and even death are daily threats for LGBT people.

“It’s fine if you believe that homosexuality is a sin, but to look the other way when the Bible is used to incite violence and intolerance cannot be called Christ-like,” wrote

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Achieving success together Max Disposti and Carolyn Bolton share LGBT Local Hero honor By Monica Medina | When it comes to collaboration, it seems to me that the key to success is in finding balance. At least, that’s been the case for Max Disposti and Carolyn Bolton, who for the past five years, have been working together effectively. And, the way they make it work is by building on each other’s strengths. Disposti, who grew up in Rome, Italy, is gregarious, outspoken and rather at home being the center of attention. Bolton, a native Californian, is cautiously quiet, and shies away from the limelight, preferring to work steadfastly behind the scenes. She’s not used to being interviewed and let me know right away. Disposti is a visionary, a big picture sort of guy. Bolton has a knack for pinning down those dreams and making them real. And when they speak, Disposti makes clear he wants to give Bolton her chance in the spotlight, so that she can share her perspective. Disposti is executive director and Bolton is board chair for the North County LGBTQ Resource Center, which they founded and opened 18 months ago. Together, they are being honored as KPBSUnion Bank Local Heroes for 2013 LGBT Pride Month. Bolton, who also serves as the center’s Project Youth director, explained how they’ve been able to work together to achieve their common goal of creating a presence and a safe place for all LGBTQ families in North County. “Max is a fabulous visionary,” she said. “He has all these wonderful ideas. We try to make it happen. If I get too involved in the details, building the structure, he’ll get me out of it, and get me to see the big picture. And, if he gets up in the clouds too much, we have to bring him around a little bit and say ‘OK, let’s build the infrastructure so that you can get it down.’ Without one or the other it would never work, but together we work in a mutually respective way.” Disposti agreed. “We are really different in terms of personality, but the same in terms of what we care about. Carolyn really helped pin down the dream of creating the space for the Resource Center, drawing from her past human resources expertise. Since the

beginning, her presence has made a real difference,” he said. Their work began five years ago, when Disposti founded the North County LGBT Coalition to address the needs of their community in an area largely dominated by the military presence of Camp Pendleton. Bolton joined the team and, along with a slew of volunteers, they worked arduously to open the Resource Center in December 2011. Located in Oceanside, it is the only one of its kind serving residents north of San Diego. “Our families had no representation, no visibility,” Disposti said. “We were completely isolated, and [a North County LGBT center] just didn’t exist, though we all knew that there are thousands of us in North County. We just didn’t have a voice.” One of the Resource Center’s primary efforts is to support the LGBTQ youth of North County. Bolton, as Project Youth director, gets emotional thinking about how they just held their very first Pride Prom, which was a labor of love. “The prom is something we’ve

(l to r) Max Disposti and Carolyn Bolton (Photo by Jim Spadoni / KPBS) wanted to do for a long time,” Bolton said. “To see what it means to these kids, who got so excited planning it, is amazing. It was all they could talk about for weeks.” With a masquerade theme, the prom hosted 88 students, and offered mask making and rainbow tutus for those needing to “dress up” their outfits. “They couldn’t dress up at home for a prom if they hadn’t yet come out to their parents,” Bolton explained. “That’s the struggle.” The prom also included HIV testing, offered by the Vista Community Clinic. “We are trying to get our youth in the habit of getting tested on a regular basis,” Bolton

said. “We want it to become a part of their wellness program.” Disposti and Bolton are each other’s best advocates, and when they describe what it means to them to be recognized as Local Heroes, it’s clear that what they have going is a mutual admiration society. “I am very happy that this award is shared with Carolyn,” Disposti said. “I’m glad that people have the chance to see that she is also a full part of the work that’s being done here, as the board chair and as the Project Youth director, and also as a friend who has been leading our board to a successful growth. It’s really a double honor

to share this with Carolyn, and for her to have the recognition.” Bolton was complimentary, too, saying, “It’s just so humbling, and the fact that Max is being recognized – and I have the privilege to be acknowledged with him – is really more of a reflection of everyone’s hard work. I feel privileged to join them, and be able to work with such an astounding group of individuals.” Editor’s note: Monica Medina is director of diversity, engagement and grants at KPBS, and oversees their Local Hero program. This story on Max Disposti and Carolyn Bolton first appeared on kpbs.org June 6.t


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DOMA Obama issued an immediate statement in support of the Supreme Court rulings in U.S. v. Windsor and Hollingsworth v. Perry. Windsor struck down the key provision of the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA), and Perry dismissed an appeal, effectively upholding a district court decision that struck down California’s ban on marriage for samesex couples, Proposition 8. “The laws of our land,” Obama said, “are catching up to the fundamental truth that millions of Americans hold in our hearts: when all Americans are treated as equal, no matter who they are or whom they love, we are all more free.” He said he had already “directed the Attorney General to work with other members of [the] Cabinet to review all relevant federal statutes to ensure this decision, including its implications for Federal benefits and obligations, is implemented swiftly and smoothly.” President Obama, traveling on Air Force One to the start of a multi-nation tour in Africa, also telephoned the plaintiffs in both cases, expressing his support of the ruling and thanking them for their efforts. U.S. Attorney General Eric Holder issued a statement of support for the Supreme Court rulings and another statement June 28, saying the federal government would, through the Office of Personnel Management (OPM), “now be able to extend benefits to Federal employees and annuitants who have legally married a spouse of the same sex.” The statement added that the Department of Justice (DOJ) would “continue to coordinate with other federal agencies to implement this ruling as swiftly and smoothly as possible.” Elaine Kaplan, the openly gay acting director of OPM sent a message to all federal department heads offering some preliminary details of how the administration would go about complying with the DOMA ruling. She said federal employees married to same-sex partners would have until Aug. 26 to make “immediate changes” to their federal health plans, adding that they would be able to do so again later in the year, during the federal government’s annual “open season” period for making changes to federal health coverage plans. Under these same deadlines, she said, federal employees could also opt in their same-sex spouses and families for coverage under federal dental, long-term care and life

insurance plans. Retired federal employees who are married to same-sex spouses will have two years to notify the federal government that they are married and qualify for retirement benefits. She said same-sex spouses would now be eligible for survivor annuities. Secretary of Defense Chuck Hagel also issued a statement after the DOMA ruling was released. “The department will immediately begin the process of implementing the Supreme Court’s decision in consultation with the Department of Justice and other executive branch agencies,” said Hagel. “The Department of Defense intends to make the same benefits available to all military spouses – regardless of sexual orientation – as soon as possible.” At a press conference later in the day, Hagel was even more firm, saying, “Make no mistake: it will be a decision implemented in every way, as it should be.” Joining him at the press conference, the chair of the Joint Chiefs of Staff, General Martin Dempsey, reiterated the point: “The Joint Chiefs have been very clear that we’ll follow the law of the land, and the law of the land has just changed, and we will now, as quickly as possible, assess what that means. I’m sure there will be some cost, but we’ll figure it out, because we’ll follow the law of the land.” Other department heads, including Secretary of State John Kerry, also issued statements in support of the DOMA ruling. Homeland Security Secretary Janet Napolitano issued a statement July 1 saying, “I have directed U.S. Citizenship and Immigration Services to review immigration visa petitions filed on behalf of a same-sex spouse in the same manner as those filed on behalf of an opposite-sex spouse.” Health and Human Services Secretary Kathleen Sebelius said her organization would “work with the Department of Justice to review all relevant federal statutes and ensure this decision is implemented swiftly and smoothly.” Making the transition between no recognition to equal recognition go smoothly may require Congressional action in some instances. Toward that end, U.S. Senator Dianne Feinstein of California reintroduced the Respect for Marriage Act in the Senate within hours of the Windsor ruling. The text of last year’s bill essentially re-

peals both sections of DOMA: the “no recognition” provision and the section that allows one state to ignore the valid marriage license issued by another state. The reintroduced Senate bill had 40 sponsors, including openly lesbian Senator Tammy Baldwin (D-Wisc.) and Senators Barbara Boxer (D-Calif.), Dick Durbin (D-Ill.), Carl Levin and Debbie Stabenow (Democrats of Michigan), and Elizabeth Warren and William Cowan (Democrats of Massachusetts). Rep. Jerrold Nadler (D-NY) introduced the bill into the House with 160 sponsors. Feinstein said the Respect for Marriage Act is still “necessary because inequities in the administration of more than 1,100 federal laws affected by DOMA – including Social Security and veterans benefits — will still need to be fixed.”

Nadler said the Act would also provide a uniform rule for recognizing couples under federal law, no matter where they live. There will be many questions to be answered about the existing definitions relating to marriage and spouses in various federal programs. Some federal programs recognize a marriage license regardless of where the couple lives; others are tied to the state of residence. And given that 37 states still ban recognition of same-sex marriages, many same-sex couples – including those with marriage licenses – could have trouble accessing certain federal benefits. For instance, under DOMA, a person who received health insurance coverage under their same-sex spouse’s health plan had to pay income taxes on the value of that coverage. Now, they don’t. And under DOMA, if the spouse lost his or her job, he or she could continue their health coverage

under the federal COBRA plan, but the samesex spouse could not. Now, they can. On the other hand, the Internal Revenue Service is expected to allow duly married same-sex couples to start using the designation “married,” whether filing jointly or separately. But the IRS’s current practice relies on whether the state in which one resides considers one married. Under the Social Security statute, said Mary Bonauto, civil rights project director for Gay & Lesbian Advocates & Defenders (GLAD), the government looks at the state of domicile of the decedent for survivor benefits, and looks at the state of domicile at the time of application for spousal benefits. That could be a complication for same-sex couples with marriage licenses who are living in one of the 37 non-marriage equality states. “This will likely be an evolving area of law and you should consult with a qualified tax expert about your circumstances,” advises an “After DOMA” guide prepared by GLAD, Lambda Legal, the National Center for Lesbian Rights, the ACLU and other national groups. “There’s a lot of intensive legal research still being done, including by lawyers within the Administration and the various agencies that administer federal programs,” said Jenny Pizer of Lambda Legal. And there are other complications, too. For example, some felt that couples that have a civil union or domestic partnership may be able to tap into some federal benefits, however Obama said this is not the case. The Social Security statute “can allow eligibility for those entitled to inherit per the state’s intestate inheritance law,” said Pizer. “That’s unusual, though,” she said. “For the most part, a recognized marriage is required. And that fact puts a bright light on the discriminatory effect of a state’s choice to offer a lesser status instead of marriage where there’s no constitutional barrier.” For the most part, however, several federal benefits and protections do require marriage, Pizer said. “That’s why the many tens of thousands of couples who have been in civil unions and domestic partnerships for years haven’t been able to access federal benefits,” she said. “And that’s why litigation for federal benefits began after couples began marrying in Massachusetts, not when they began entering civil unions in Vermont.t


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DOMA not quite dead Whoa! Whoa! Whoa! Anthony King, Paul McGuire and Lisa Keen all misrepresented the Supreme Court decision in the infamous Defense of Marriage Act [see Vol. 4, Issue 13]. All three declared that the Court decided that the act itself was unconstitutional. Not so. Only one clause in the Act was litigated, that relating to inequalities in Federal benefits, and the Court found that section unconstitutional. That’s great, as far as it went, and three cheers for the octogenarian Edie Windsor, who took on all the stress that involved. The court left the rest of the act in place, however, since those clauses weren’t being litigated. One of them was the clause that allows states to refuse to recognize marriages (and divorces, presumably) that are valid in other states – but it applies only to gay marriages. So states may continue to deny state benefits to gay persons whose marriages were valid in the state in which they were performed, but not recognized by the state in which they are now domiciled. If you’re married in California and move to Texas … too bad. I’m no constitutional law expert, but I did once teach a college course in American constitutional history. I read Article 4 Sections 1 and 2 as voiding that clause. But that challenge has not yet been made or worked its way up through the courts. Section 1, the “full faith and credit” clause, mandates that all states honor “the public Acts, Records and judicial Proceedings of every other State.” Section 2 states that “The Citizens of each State shall be entitled to all Privileges and Immunities of Citizens in the several

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From a skim milk marriage to the cream on top of the wedding cake, justice is not about ‘just us’ By Robin Tyler Diane and I were thrilled that DOMA was struck down, and that we and other same-sex married couples, including those in the military, will receive Federal benefits. We hope this will solve the problem for the tens of thousands of binational couples. However, we were less excited about Proposition 8 not being ruled on because of “lack of legal standing.” Yes, we are very excited that the freedom to marry will return to California (although we still worry and wonder why the case wasn’t filed on behalf of the two terrific

Pride, ‘80s style Celebrating our lives when no one cared that we were dying By Abby Dees The motto of my first Pride Parade was “Unity and More in ‘84.” If you think this is ancient history, I can assure you it’s not. Pride in ‘84 meant then, as now, that despite the insults and assaults we faced other days, for one weekend at least, we had each other and we were beautiful. Next came “Alive with Pride in ‘85,” with “alive” being the operative word. If it was possible to spend 1984 having only heard about the “gay plague,” by 1985 AIDS had touched almost every one of us. Pride in ‘85 felt like a wake. President Reagan, “the Great Communicator,” stayed resolutely silent about AIDS as the death toll kept climbing. Members of his administration, though, freely told the press that it was our own damn fault. So

couples and as a class action suit as well). This could possibly mean that someone might challenge the ruling as just applying to these two couples, or at least leave it open to interpretation. The Supreme Court ruling on Prop 8 was extremely narrow which is why some of the liberal justices disagreed. In effect, rather than ruling, they just sent it back to California. Then why did the justices accept the case? All of the major figures in the mid-20th century AfricanAmerican Civil Rights movements firmly rejected that notion of “states rights” because they knew that enshrining “states rights” over “civil rights” would only delay full equality.

much for policy. In 1986 at a centennial celebration of the Statue of Liberty, comedy legend Bob Hope cracked, “I hear Lady Liberty has AIDS. Nobody knows if she got it from the mouth of the Hudson or the Staten Island Ferry.” The Reagans, who were present, laughed. By the end of that year, U.S. AIDS deaths topped 11,000, with tens of thousands infected and no treatment in sight – my friends among them. Can you imagine if Leno joked about the victims of the Boston bombings or the Oklahoma tornadoes? What if the president did nothing but laugh? It was as bad as it sounds. … Clearly, to survive, we could only truly count on those personally affected by it. In 1987, five years in, the Reagan administration finally took some measure of leadership. AIDS historians still argue about what could have happened and what should have happened, but they surely must agree on what spurred the progress we made in this country to fight AIDS: relentless, unflinching activism by LGBT people and our allies. Now that it’s been 18 years since anyone in my life died from AIDS, my anger has

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We know this also. So while we celebrate today, we know of the tremendous amount of work that has to be done. The reversal of the successful Voting Rights Act shows how easily rights can be reversed. So now, more than ever, we need to keep fighting, not just for the freedom to marr y nationally, but for ENDA, housing and a comprehensive national civil rights bill that protects our entire community. Because justice is not about just us. Editor’s note: Robin Tyler and Diane Olson were the original lesbian plaintiffs to sue for the freedom to marry in California.

softened. I even publically praised Dubbya for his commitment to the issue. Yes, yes, I know about the abstinence-only garbage that passed for public-health education, but Bush did show commitment that his predecessors were afraid to. I’ll give him that. We have drugs that – for those with reliable access to them – can keep HIV at bay. No one is putting an AIDS quarantine initiative on the ballot like Lyndon LaRouche once did, or advocating branding people with AIDS like William F. Buckley once did. Childhood AIDS in the U.S. is now virtually nonexistent. Why am I talking about this now, then? Precisely because it’s easy to forget how bad things used to be, even if we were there. And when we forget how bad things used to be, two things happen: first, we get complacent about where we are now. The purpose of knowing our history isn’t to pat ourselves on the back for being wiser than people were back in the day; it’s to remind us to keep checking our assumptions and questioning our fears. They have always gotten humanity into serious trouble.

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The second thing that happens is that we lose our faith in the possibility of cultural progress. When state legislators can sponsor a bill prohibiting teachers from mentioning gay people at all – except to “out” a child (this year in Tennessee) – or when a young man can be gay-bashed and left for dead in his gay-Mecca neighborhood (last month in West Hollywood), it’s easy to think that we will never, ever get to a place of rational acceptance, let alone equality. But big change is possible and the history of AIDS in the U.S. is just one example. Of course, people had to fight with the profound knowledge that their lives and those of their loved ones depended on it. And lives still depend on it. This is why, for this year’s Pride, I’m remembering those who fought so hard not so long ago, many of whom are gone now. They would still be fighting today, I know, because there’s so much left to do. Abby is a civil rights attorney-turned-author who has been in the LGBT rights trenches for 25+ years. She can be reached through her website queerquestionsstraighttalk.com.t

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LETTERS States.” But that clause of DOMA has yet to be litigated. Article 4 of the Constitution is what allows marriages and divorces to be valid throughout the United States. I remember the days when the only grounds for divorce in New York State was adultery. But a spouse who couldn’t prove that just went to the notoriously lax state of Nevada, spent six weeks in Reno (cruel and unusual punishment though that may have been), established domicile, were divorced under the looser Nevada divorce laws, and went back to New York. … I appreciate the good work Gay San Diego is doing. But in this case the coverage of the Supreme Court’s decision suggests that the ruling meant that DOMA is dead. It isn’t, and the anti-gay discrimination embodied in it is still there, albeit in another place, and needs to be addressed. It’s been 40 years since I began writing a column for the old Gay Community News in Boston. If that experience taught me anything, it was that gay rights are always a case of “two steps forward, one step back.” It’s too early to start singing “Ding, dong, the wicked witch is dead” and drink up all the champagne. —William A. Koelsch of Bankers Hill, via email Editor’s note: Lisa Keen’s original story included a detailed analysis of the DOMA decision and implications, which was cut due to space constraints.

Thank you for explaining ADHD Wow. I knew it! I have hyperactive-compulsive ADHD. I had no idea that there were two distinctive types [see “Do I have ADHD,” Vol. 4, Issue 13]. I mean, that describes me exactly. And I have already figured out some of the tips that you have given me. The white noise can be very effective. I literally can’t sleep without a fan running. Thank you. You may have saved my life. I’m going to see a doctor ASAP and maybe I can continue my education, which had become too overwhelming to handle. Mostly because I have such a hard time sitting still. Thanks again. —Aaron, via gay-sd.comt

GAY NEWS BRIEFS INAUGURAL BAYARD RUSTIN CIVIL RIGHTS HONORS HELD The first Bayard Rustin Civil Rights awards were held Tuesday, July 2 at The LGBT Center, honoring leaders in the community who exemplify the civil rights and LGBT activist’s nonviolent and equalityminded ethics. Rustin is considered by some to be the father of the 1963 National Civil Rights March on Washington, and served as an openly gay advisor to Dr. Martin Luther King. The evening was in part to honor Rustin, and served as a benefit for the National Black Justice Coalition. “We are proud to join the National Black Justice Coalition in this long overdue recognition of civil-rights icon Bayard Rustin,” Nicole Murray Ramirez said in a press release. Mandy Carter, Mayor Bob Filner and Ashley Walker received Lifetime Achievement awards at the ceremony. Bayard Rustin Civil Rights Award honorees were Jimmy Lovett Jr. of the Malcolm X Library, Carole Norman of San Diego Black Nurses Association, Christopher Grinston of the Imperial Court de San Diego, Certez Burks, City Commissioner Stampp Corbin of the Equal Opportunity Commission, and Tracie Jada O’Brien of Stepping Stone. The evening was sponsored by the International Court Council, The Center and the GLBT Historic Task Force, and was underwritten by the San Diego Human Dignity Foundation. LGBT Weekly reported that Ramirez said there are plans for additional Bayard Rustin Civil Rights Honors in San Diego, as well as other cities in the United States, in a partnership with the Justice Coalition. “The GLBT community needs to lift up the name of Bayard Rustin to the level of Harvey Milk,” Ramirez said in LGBT Weekly. MARINE OFFICERS ALLOWED TO WEAR UNIFORMS IN PRIDE PARADE Marines with the First Marine Expeditionary Force (I MEF) received authorization to wear authorized leave and liberty uniforms in the 39th Annual Pride Parade to be held Saturday, July 13, a press release from San Diego LGBT Pride stated. I MEF personnel will be joining active-duty Navy servicemembers, who also recently received permission to wear their uniforms in the parade. The military contingent will lead the San Diego LGBT Pride Parade for a third year, with over 300 servicemembers expected to participate in uniform or in branch specific T-shirts. I MEF’s move to authorize their members to wear

their uniforms at the event shows the division’s commitment to making diversity a priority, commanding officer 1st Lt. Garth Langley said in the same release. “We are proud of the diverse backgrounds, cultures, and versatile skills of our men and women and embrace their personal decision to participate in this community event honoring their service,” he said. Servicemembers can register to participate in the military contingent online at sdpride.org/military, and can contact military@sdpride.org with additional questions. LOG CABIN REPUBLICANS ENDORSE DEMAIO FOR CONGRESS Log Cabin Republicans’ board of directors endorsed gay Republican and former San Diego City Councilmember Carl DeMaio to represent California’s 52nd Congressional District, a press release from the LCR said. DeMaio, who ran for San Diego mayor in 2012, will be challenging current Congressmember Scott Peters, a democrat, for the seat in the 2014 election. The LCR is a 30-year Republication organization based in Washington that represents gay and lesbian conservatives and allies. “The people of California need a reformminded, new generation Republican to represent them in Congress, and I can think of no one who fits that bill better than Carl: a successful businessman, a proven leader, and a fine example of a strong gay conservative,” LCR National Executive Director Gregory T. Angelo said in the release. DeMaio hopes to unite a new generation of Republicans by focusing on common issues and working towards keeping the politicians out of issues that are “frankly none of the government’s business in the first place,” the release stated.

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COMMUNITY GROUPS PLAN NEIGHBORHOOD CLEANUPS The Hillcrest Town Council (HTC) and Bankers Hill Residents Group (BHRG) are inviting everyone to take to the streets the morning of July 15, the Monday following the San Diego LGBT Pride weekend, to help clean up after the festivities. San Diego Pride will be donating $10 per volunteer hour to each neighborhood for cleanup efforts. The HTC will be meeting at 7 a.m. at Park Boulevard just south of University Avenue. Volunteers that meet that morning will receive orange Hillcrest Clean T.E.A.M. shirts, and the HTC are asking volunteers to report their hours when they leave the cleanup. BHRG volunteers received yellow BHRG shirts at their last monthly meeting for the cleanup, and additional shirts will be offered at their July 15, 6:30 p.m. meeting to those who participate in the cleanup. In Bankers Hill, volunteers can meet at either Thorn Street and Fifth Avenue or Ivy Street and Sixth Avenue, also at 7 a.m. They are asked to record their hours at the July 15 meeting. For more information call 619-260-1929.t

STILL TIME TO NOMINATE LOCAL PHILANTHROPISTS FOR AWARD The deadline for nominees for the National Philanthropy Day awards has been extended to July 23 at 5 p.m., a press release for the organization said. The Association of Fundraising Professionals San Diego Chapter will honor the eight finalists at their 41st annual philanthropy awards luncheon on Nov. 7. The organization is looking for San Diego philanthropists, volunteers and non-profit organizations to fulfill the categories of Outstanding Organizational Volunteer, Outstanding Development-Fundraising Volunteer, Outstanding Philanthropic Organization, Outstanding Philanthropic Corporation, Outstanding Celebrity Volunteer, Outstanding Youth-Student Volunteer, Outstanding Philanthropist, and Outstanding Development Professional. For more information and to make a nomination, visit NPD2013.org.

UPCOMING CONCERT TO BENEFIT STRUGGLING VETERANS The San Diego Gay Men’s Chorus (SDGMC) is partnering with the Veteran’s Village of San Diego (VVSD) for the chorus’ summer show, a press release from SDGMC said. Called “Feelin’ Groovy - Songs of the ’60s,” the show will feature songs of peace and protest from the Vietnam era. Three concerts will be held at the Birch North Park Theatre, at which the SDGMC will collect cash donations. Show times are July 27 at 8 p.m., and July 28 at 2 and 7:30 p.m. In addition, chorus members are holding a two-week men’s clothing drive to support the VVSD’s annual “Stand Down” program. Stand Down provides a number of services and necessities to veterans who are homeless in mid-July, including meals, medical care, haircuts and employment counseling. “Given that our upcoming concert’s music is from the Vietnam War era, we wanted to team with the Veterans

Q PUZZLE

KINKY QUOTE Across 1 Chicago Bears wear them on their knees 5 Dances the horizontal mambo with 10 Lou Grant’s paper 14 “Climb ___ Mountain” 15 Bellybutton type 16 Prefix meaning “half” 17 Close by 18 “The Queen of Mean” Helmsley 19 “How queer!” 20 “Underground” org. 21 Issue supported by Kinky Friedman 23 Bearing 25 Lesbos and more 26 Skater Orser 27 Solving puzzles and such 31 Start of what 21-Across means, from a straight point of view 33 Relieved sighs 34 Plied with pinot, perhaps

Kinky Quote solution on page 23 35 Thompson of “Angels in America” 39 More of what it means 41 Workplace for Michelangelo 44 Come together 45 Jack of nursery rhymes 46 Sage of the East 47 End of what it means 52 Coop dweller 53 C&W’s McEntire 54 Reacts to a Margaret Cho set 55 Bible bk. at Beth Simchat Torah 56 Steamed up 57 “Ready ___, here I come!” 58 Maneuver slowly 59 Small pooch, briefly 60 Wet spots on a blanket of sand 61 Put the finger on

Down 1 Shadowy area 2 Companion piece to “Like a Virgin”? 3 Come close to your partner, perhaps 4 Neighbor of Leb. 5 Like rays caught at South Beach 6 Nephew of Disney’s Donald Duck 7 “Exotica” director Egoyan 8 Gershon of “Bound” 9 Lightly burn 10 Belief in the Divine Miss M? 11 Show a really good time 12 They may be spitting 13 ___ one’s time (waits) 21 Decent chap 22 Park of Queens 24 Slangy refusals 27 Model’s asset 28 Doubleday of baseball fame 29 Voyeurs, e.g. 30 Cry of pride

32 Boob, to a Brit 35 Salt’s saint 36 Nitwit 37 Female rubber 38 Gave in 39 Pass out 40 Frat hazing sounds 41 Property of one who has balls? 42 “Jeopardy!” host 43 Gay Pride event 45 “Take it off!” 46 Desires, with “after” 48 “Beat it!” 49 Scroll at Beth Chayim Chadashim 50 Holds title to 51 Ice in the sea 55 Nero’s “Of God”


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Sue Palmer to headline South Bay Pride Dae Elliott | South Bay Alliance South Bay Pride Art & Music festival is proud to announce our great line up for the Sept. 14 celebration. Our headliner is Sue Palmer & Her Motel Swing Orchestra. Once known for her mile-high beehive hairdo and wild accordion solos as a member of blues singer Candye Kane’s band, pianist Palmer struck out on her own in 2000, reinventing herself as San Diego’s queen of boogiewoogie. You can’t help but love her trademark “wall-climbing jump boogie,” a combination of boogiewoogie and swing with a slightly punk rock ethos. Palmer laughed when she said it makes listeners “a slave to the dance floor,” and it certainly seems that way. Palmer has had a day named after her by San Diego’s City Council – March 25, 2008 – and won numerous local and international awards, including the International Blues Challenge award for best self-produced album for “Sophisticated Ladies” in 2008. South Bay Pride has wanted to have her perform for them for the last few years and is very excited that she and her band will be our headliner. In addition to Sue Palmer & Her Motel Swing Orchestra, the main stage will also see a variety of local performers. Of course, we must have our ever-popular San Diego Gay Men’s Chorus (SDGMC) perform again. The SDGMC are always a favorite wherever they sing, but especially at our Pride celebration. The Full Strength Funk Band

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SOUTH BAY ALLIANCE will also be there playing all the great songs from the glory days of funk. We have an exciting new band, too: The Social Animal. This provocative indie-rock band, known for their soulfully charged lyrics, searing guitar solos and funky pop-rock rhythms, features Joshua Napier on lead vocals, who was one of the winners of the 2011 South Bay Pride Art & Music Festival’s talent competition. Our fantastic and always entertaining Laura Jane emcees all of this, plus we will feature performances by the San Diego Drag Kings Club and the two winners of our Gossip Grill’s Got Talent contest. The grand finale event of the talent competition will be held from 3 – 5 p.m. at Urban MO’s on Aug. 10. The winners are audience selected, so come out and support your favorite entertainer.

If that is not enough, we will have a second dance stage with a variety of DJs, Art of Pride in the Park, great food, vendors and exhibitors, MO’s Universe beer and wine garden, great prizes for our opportunity drawings throughout the day, and our ever popular Children’s Garden: all strategically placed so that you can enjoy the music and kick back for a great day at Bayfront Park, with the gorgeous Coronado Bridge as backdrop. Don’t forget to come by and visit us at our San Diego LGBT Pride Festival booth to sign up for an early bird opportunity drawing. The winner will get an Xbox 360 ($5.00 donation per ticket). Get twice the opportunity to win, as your ticket will be put back in for the Sept. 14 opportunity drawing. South Bay Pride Art & Music Festival is a free event, so come support us and maybe wine an Xbox 360. A final note: it’s last call for Art of Pride in the Park applications. Deadline to apply is Friday, July 19. Our art committee will select the top applicants and provide them free vendor and exhibitor space at our Festival. All artists are encouraged to apply. Visit southbaypride.org for the online application. —Dae Elliott is a sociologist and lecturer working at SDSU since 1994. She is one of the founding executive committee members and current chair of South Bay Alliance, the organizer of South Bay Pride Art & Music Festival since 2007. Contact her at southbayalliance@gmail.com.t

Pride @ The Beach: spreading the word

JOHN JONES

NORTH COUNTY UPDATE Beginning in 2008, Pride @ The Beach was founded by the North County LGBTQ Coalition (now the North County LGBTQ Resource Center) to serve North County San Diego with a day that celebrates the LGBTQ community. Held in Oceanside, Calif. in early October, Pride @ The Beach caters to those that may

otherwise be unable to participate in other Pride events, and creates a stronger community for those living outside of the city of San Diego. Pride @ The Beach has continued to be extremely community-based, with nearly all of its entertainment coming from local artists. The event offers food, live music, dancing, a children’s area and a way for people to embrace their pride, beachside. Each year our Pride @ The Beach event funds our Annual GayStraight Alliance (GSA) Awards. These awards go directly to North County GSA clubs in middle schools and high schools. These clubs promote respect for diversity in their schools, play a critical role in stopping and preventing harassment and discrimination against LGBTQ students, and help ensure that schools are safe for everybody. As the new director for Pride @ The Beach, it is my vision to continue serving North County San Diego by offering a safe, fun and entertaining event for the entire community. Living nearly my entire life in the North County area, I truly understand the need for such an event. It isn’t possible for all to make the trip to San Diego to be within the LGBTQ community, so with the work of the North County Resource Center, all of our wonderful volunteers and other hardworking members, we are better establishing a community here in North County so that all San Diegans feel they are close to people that care. This year, Pride @ The Beach will be held on Oct. 12 from 11 a.m. – 6 p.m. at 238 The Strand in Oceanside. With the event approaching in just three short months, it is important for people to spread the word about the event and our vision for North County. If you are interested in becoming a vendor or sponsor of Pride @ The Beach, visit northcountypride. com or email me at John@northcountypride.com.t


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Shyness and social anxiety • Set specific, manageable goals (going to a party) and reasonable means to attain them (going with a friend who will give you moral support) • Challenge negative thoughts about yourself

MICHAEL KIMMEL

LIFE BEYOND THERAPY

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50,000 to the two-day Festival in Balboa Park, Gloria said, calling it the “best attended and largest” event in the City. “That’s something that we’re really proud of,” he said. This year’s Pride theme is Freedom to Love and Marry, celebrated with the recent Supreme Court marriage-equality decisions and the redemption of same-sex marriages in San Diego County, July 1. “Freedom, love and commitment are shared values for all Americans, no matter what your gender or sexual orientation, and the Pride theme reminds us the time for equal rights and equal love is now,” Gloria said. “San Diego Pride stands to honor our history, celebrate the advances that we have made as a community and to confront the issues that we still have to face.” Speaking directly to the councilmembers, Ramirez said, “The City has changed because of you – and all of you signing this – and also being committed to social justice. I want to take the opportunity to thank you for your leadership in making our city truly the finest city in America.” Whitburn showed his appreciation to the Council as well, and accepted the proclamation on behalf of San Diego Pride. He said this week’s celebrations were going to be monumental.

“With the U.S. Supreme Court ruling a couple of weeks ago, giving all Californians the opportunity to marry the person they love, this is going to be the best and biggest Pride celebration that San Diego has ever seen,” Whitburn said. The following day, SDSU celebrated Pride week by hosting their annual Rainbow Flag-Raising Ceremony. Over 100 students, faculty, staff and community members attended the rally, held in front of Hepner Hall. For the first time in the ceremony’s seven-year history, the flag was raised by openly gay and ally members of the Boy Scouts of America. Their participation was to mark a recent decision by the national organization to allow openly gay members. Last year, uniformed servicemembers raised the flag to acknowledge the repeal of the military’s discriminatory “don’t ask, don’t tell” policy. “At SDSU, diversity and excellence go hand in hand,” said University President Elliot Hirshman at the ceremony, reported by Hallie Jacobs of SDSU. “Our community marches together to show our Aztec pride in diversity.” For complete information on this week’s celebrations – from community members’ thoughts on marriage equality, Festival headliner information and the entertainment schedule, to this year’s Stonewall Service Award winners and a comprehensive Community Calendar – see our 2013 San Diego LGBT Pride Guide insert in this issue.t

As a psychotherapist, lots of clients ask me if shyness or social anxiety is normal. It’s a tricky question: aren’t we all a little shy in new situations? Most of us are, but some people are energized by a room full of strangers and find it stimulating: “Oh, wow, all these new people. How cool is that?” If this is not you, never fear, it’s not true for most of us. Let’s look at shyness and social anxiety and see if we can understand them better. Social anxiety is an intense fear of criticism from and/or rejection by others. You feel insecure or not good enough for other people, like there’s something wrong with you. As a result, you feel fear and anxiety in social situations. This fear is so great that you may feel anxious just thinking about social situations and will go to great lengths to avoid them. Shyness is the less-intense cousin of social anxiety: you feel uncomfortable or awkward when you’re around other people, especially in new situations or with unfamiliar people. You’re afraid to say or do what you want. Smiling, starting conversations, being relaxed and making eye contact with others are not easy for you. Shy folks may seem distant during conversations. Ironically, trying too hard to help a shy person join in a social situation can backfire, making them feel worse by drawing attention to them and reinforcing the idea that there’s something wrong with them. Shy people feel reticence and hesitation in social situations; people with social anxiety experience panic and intense anxiety. What can we do about this stuff? If you are shy or afraid of social situations, consider these tips: • Acknowledge the conflict between your desire to belong and your fear of rejection

• Remember that shyness and social anxiety are common and universal experiences for most of us: you are not alone. • Be mindful about using alcohol and drugs to temporarily lower social anxiety. The two most common ways to reduce shyness and social anxiety are psychotherapy and medication. If you’re working on your shyness/social anxiety, psychotherapy not only gives you a place to explore your needs and behaviors in a safe environment, but it also provides you with skills to increase your social risk-taking and self-acceptance. A good therapist will give you support and help you to reduce your self-blame and shame. I often use cognitive therapy techniques in helping clients with shyness and social anxiety. I help you learn how to guide your thoughts in a more rational direction when you feel anxious or scared of social situations. This kind of therapy helps you to slowly become more comfortable in situations that once caused you anxiety. I also teach clients relaxation and stress management techniques – like breathing methods and muscle relaxation

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– specifically designed to reduce social anxiety and shyness. Different types of medications are used to treat social anxiety disorder: anti-depressants like Paxil or benzodiazepines like Librium, Valium and Ativan. A good psychiatrist is the person to talk with about these. In the long run, we are all pretty much stuck with our personalities, aren’t we? Bold people don’t usually become quiet; shy people rarely morph into attention seekers. But we can all learn to work with what we’ve got: to minimize unrealistic fears and maximize our enjoyment of life. If you’re shy, find a balance in the social world that works for you. Many shy people are wise and thoughtful. They may not dance on the bar, but they usually have deeper, more meaningful qualities that make them worth knowing. Work with your shyness so you don’t end up isolated. Make peace with it: intense social lives are not for everyone. Some of us prefer a quieter life. On the other hand, severe social anxiety can be emotionally crippling. Get help with it. Don’t suffer unnecessarily. People do like you and want to be with you. Don’t let distorted thinking keep you home alone. Find ways to break out of the box. —Michael Kimmel is a licensed psychotherapist who specializes in helping LGBT clients achieve their goals and deal with anxiety, depression, grief, sexually addictive behavior, coming out, relationship challenges and homophobia. Michael is currently accepting new clients. Contact him at 619-955-3311 or visit lifebeyondtherapy.com.t


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Brian Bielawski as Steve in “GAM3RS” (Photo by Walter Meyer)

By Alex Owens | GSD Reporter As Comic-Con keeps getting bigger each year, longtime attendees can’t help but look back at the early days when the event was held in one or two rooms of the El Cortez Hotel. Those days aren’t coming back, but gamers and geeks can get the next best thing with Gam3rCon, a convention held Thursday, July 18 – 21 at the 10th Avenue Theatre, located at 930 10th Ave. A special Preview Night is scheduled for Wednesday, July 17. Now in its fourth year, Gam3rCon offers an affordable alternative to the “Con,” where people can play their favorite role-playing games, compete in video game tournaments on a 40-foot screen, and reminisce in the Retrocade, a room dedicated to the classic systems of

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the past where people can play oldschool Atari, Sega and other games they – or their parents – played as kids. Gam3rCon spokesperson Brian Bielawski estimates 5,000 people will attend the four-day convention this year, which, he said, is a far cry from the 50,000 expected each day at Comic-Con, also taking place July 17 – 21. Each year, however, Gam3rCon has grown exponentially larger. “We hope this is the year we finally outgrow the 10th Avenue Theatre,” Bielawski said, who started Gam3rCon in 2009 in part to promote the play, “GAM3RS,” that he wrote with fellow organizer, Walter Meyer. Meyer is no stranger to the LGBT community, leading the charge against bullying by becoming a nationally recognized

speaker on the subject. His novel “Rounding Third” addresses youth bullying and he has been an active volunteer with a number of local nonprofits. “The great thing about ‘GAM3RS’ is I can see the immediate reaction. I love watching people laugh and get the message,” Meyer said. “People can tell me they love my novel ‘Rounding Third,’ and often do, but I can’t watch them enjoy it.” Bielawski said their convention started as a way to promote the play. “With so much going on at the Con, we figured people wouldn’t walk that far to go to the play,” he said, adding that “Some people think there is not enough gaming at Comic-Con.” Meyer said he is looking forward to this year’s Gam3rCon, in part because he can see how much it has grown. “I look forward to the transformation of the entire four stories of the 10th Avenue

Theatre and how each year it looks even better than the year before,” he said. “And this year we are big enough that Mayor [Bob] Filner has offered to do our ribbon cutting and officially open this year’s event.” The official opening and ribbon cutting is Wednesday, July 17 at 7 p.m. As part of the festivities, “GAM3RS,” which has been presented all over the country, will have four performances at Gam3rCon, and there is also a new play contest. “From a writing standpoint, gaming offers a lot of possibilities for storytellers,” Bielawski said. “It’s a long story; between 10 to 50 hours of play are needed to win a game. It’s beyond a mini series. There’s a lot of plot and themes that you can do on a large scale, but then putting the player in the driver’s seat is just mind-blowing.” There will also be an exhibition

of fine-art paintings by some of the industry’s top artists, performances by a variety of musicians whose songs will focus on gaming or the characters featured in games, and panels on topics close to Meyer’s work: “Shooting Down Bullying in Video Games” and “Diversity in Gaming,” among others. Although Gam3rCon takes place during the same days as Comic-Con, it keeps different hours – between 2 p.m. and 2 a.m. – meaning there will be rooftop parties in the evenings and other events that will be going on long after the Convention Center has closed its doors. “We tell people, ‘Go to the Con during the day and come to us at night,’” Bielawski said. Day passes for Gam3rCon start at $20 and four-day pass are $50. The four-day passes include exclusive entry to Wednesday’s Preview Night events. For more information, visit gam3rcon.com.t

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Passion with no prejudice Local gay art dealer thrives through philanthropy By Morgan M. Hurley | GSD Assistant Editor When local art dealer Alexander Salazar finally opened up his own business in January 2010 after nearly two decades in the industry, choosing the right name was something he put a lot of thought into. Motivated by an article that said those who go into business using their own name tend to be more committed and successful, Salazar found himself conflicted by the idea of using his given name, “Alejandro,” because it was hard to say. “I wanted [my business name] to be something people would remember, not struggle with,” he explained. Shortly after inking the deal using the American translation of “Alexander,” Lady Gaga released a song that would introduce “Alejandro” to the world, and although he admits to initially mourning a lost opportunity, he quickly took the news in stride, gleefully playing the song on repeat during the grand opening of Alexander Salazar Fine Art, located at the corner of Broadway and Seventh Avenue, Downtown. Just under four years later, the openly gay art dealer is thriving. “The one thing that runs a gallery business is art sales,” he said. “In the beginning, it was really awesome. People were really excited and very supportive. Then there was an in-between lull that got me a little worried, but then there was a big ‘wow.’” His magic recipe seems to be his marketing endeavors – opening long-term mini-exhibitions in Downtown hotels, installing “popup” galleries in neighboring businesses, and hosting lots of charity events – which have all begun to pay off. One of his most successful pop-ups has been a two-year exhibition at FIT Athletic Club on 10th Avenue. The FIT installation, like another at Downtown’s Zanzibar Café, are offered free of charge by Salazar, and give those who wouldn’t normally have the opportunity to do so, a snapshot of the vast collection of artists he represents. “People have said, ‘Why would you put art into a gym?’ but it is a [high end] gym and executives go there,” he said. These exhibits resonate with art enthusiasts, especially when they become part of their daily routine. Salazar calls them “no pressure” exhibits, since sales only occur if someone sees something they like and then calls or visits his gallery, but it works. Salazar was born the youngest of seven to Catholic, MexicanAmerican parents in Houston. He spent his undergraduate years at Colorado College before heading east to Boston College for a master’s in art history. Not satisfied with just one master’s, he went on to attend Harvard University for theology and sociology, and later lived abroad in London and Italy before arriving in San Diego in 2001. His unique educational journey not only helped shape his taste and style, but also taught him important lessons for the career path he chose. “[I learned] to be honest and have a conscience,” Salazar said.

Salazar sits at home in his Church Lofts residence with several giant works adorning the 40-foot high wall behind him. (Photo by Morgan M. Hurley) “The art world is very malnutritioned; it’s a hard business. A lot of people are jaded because they get ripped off. Some people do it for a few minutes and some do it for a lifetime. I plan to do this until I’m dead.” His diverse and ever-expanding line of clients eventually caused him to separate his artists under differing brands. Aside from Alexander Salazar Fine Art, he also produces and curates under the names White Box Contemporary, Salazar – Contemporary Art Exhibits, and Salazar AIR. Now in its third year, the AIR project occupies a small, 250-square-foot space just adjacent to Salazar’s main gallery on Broadway. There, on a three-month rotational basis, he offers struggling artisans a studio of their own and lets them loose to create their art. It is an exercise in philanthropy for the 40-year-old art entrepreneur, since none of the artists pay him a dime to use the space. “I’ve been an educator all my life, so I wanted to continue that by helping young artists. All I have to do is pay the bills and be patient,” he said, adding that those who create enough inventory are also promised a solo show in his gallery. The artists he selects for AIR are by invitation only and there is no application process, but there is one requirement. “They have to be hungry,” he said. At White Box Contemporary – an exhibit space Salazar describes as “smart” and “academic,” located just steps from his main gallery – he recently sponsored an exhibition of the late Robert Mapplethorpe’s work. It was a “non-selling” show that raised approximately $500 for Mama’s Kitchen, but cost Salazar $20,000 to produce. “Why do I do it?” he asked rhetorically. “I believe in it. It’s important to me. [The exhibit] was a point of departure in Mapplethorpe’s career and just very important to show.” On a personal level, Salazar is

now considering marriage with his British-born partner and living his dream in an oversized loft in Trilogy’s repurposed Church Lofts building on 10th Avenue, where he combines his two favorite things: rare and unique furniture in a historical setting. He said he’s always wanted to convert a church into a house and this dwelling is about as close as you can get. Its 40-foot ceiling offers ample space on the walls to display as much art as he chooses, and his goal is to hang them floor to ceiling. Currently included are a pair of extremely large portrait photos of his adopted dogs – Lucky, a cocker spaniel-poodle mix and Mick, a schnauzer – that flank an equally large portrait of himself. A half dozen other massive paintings and sketches of his own likeness are mixed in with those of other people’s and adorn the expansive walls along with various other works, but it doesn’t even put a dent in his 1,000 piece personal collection. “My passion is giant paintings – something about the enormity – I could fall into them,” he said. “I think I have a piece from every artist I’ve ever represented, too.” Later this summer Salazar has exhibits planned in both Aspen, Colo. and his native Houston, but during Comic-Con week later this month, he will curate a special exhibition for Joe Phillips at his White Box space. Phillips, a local American artist, illustrator, animator and gay-icon known for his “Joe’s Boys” drawings and other animated depictions of gay life, said the “Heroes of Eros” exhibit will be a series of 4-by-5-foot oil paintings of “sexualized heroes” in spandex. “It should be shocking and fun,” Phillips said. “I hope people will like it.” For more information about Alexander Salazar Fine Art visit his gallery at 640 Broadway, Downtown, or his website alexandersalazarfineart.com.t


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3555 Rosecrans Ave. (Loma Portal) | 619-226-7866 Prices: Soups, salads and sandwiches, $6 to $9.50; egg and lunch entrees, $8.50 to $10.50

Naked & pretty Dining with

FRANK SABATINI JR.

Yes, they wear clothes at the Naked Café. But when it comes to salt, commercial seasonings and evil fats, the dishes are scantily dressed. And nobody’s complaining. Since making sporadic visits over the past five years to this breakfast-lunch café, which has additional locations in Solana Beach, Encinitas and Carlsbad, both the food and plate presentations seem better than ever. Maybe it’s due to my growing appreciation for “whole wheat this” and “brown rice that.” The menu, however, isn’t completely vegetarian or organic, but rather “alternative whole food,” as owner Gabriel Wheeler described to me when he opened at this strip-plaza storefront. What you get is freedom of choice and without feeling as though the food police are peering over your shoulder if you desire roast beef hash over an egg-white scramble with quinoa or buttermilk pancakes instead of whole-grain. Such contrasts extend also to smoked bacon versus soy sausage or coconut French toast competing with almond-spiked oatmeal. The options range from very healthy to semi-naughty, yet without any of the dishes riddled in cheese or sweating oil.

The beef hash is served alongside soft, herbed potatoes and scrambled eggs posing loosely as an omelet. Unlike other casual eateries that add salt into every step of a recipe, I took comfort over the lack of sodium in everything and fell into a rare moment of sprinkling a pinch of it over the plate on my own. The meat is also above board in that the kitchen uses lightly marinated, cubed filet rather than the minced mush that essentially hides high measures of fatty scraps. Horseradish cream sauce comes on the side. For that, I vote for less cream and hotter radish. An egg dish called “green & red pagoda” will have me returning quickly. It’s the perfect dish for when your appetite teeters between breakfast and lunch. Plated with a mound of mixed greens dressed in sweet balsamic vinaigrette were a couple of over-medium eggs

layered onto a thick slice of rosemary toast with walnut pesto, sun-dried tomatoes and soy chorizo. Artichoke hearts and avocado also surfaced, making for a rich meal sans the guilt. Upon stealing a forkful of scrambled egg whites from my companion’s plate, I hardly mourned the missing yolks since the whites were enhanced with Fresno chilies and bits of feta cheese. Rounding out the dish was a healthy serving of organic quinoa, a spinach tortilla and a tropical fruit salad that was dazzling enough to fashion a Carmen Miranda headpiece. We counterbalanced our healthy choices with a stack of three buttermilk blueberry pancakes. Despite their girth, we didn’t feel a nap attack afterwards. Regarding the pancake syrup, it’s made with 25 percent real maple extract. For $2.50 extra, you can upgrade to 100 percent. In other visits I’ve tried the sesameginger soft tacos using wheat tortillas curled around seared medallions of faintly seasoned chicken

breast. They’re served with brown rice that is creamier and sweeter than most, thanks to coconut milk in the recipe. Also, from the “infused dishes” category, where you’re likely to encounter bursts of heat from sriracha or Thai peanut sauces, the “green transcendence wrap” encasing tofu, basil and fresh spinach doesn’t disappoint. Like the food, Naked Café’s atmosphere is sunny and earthy. Cucumber-green walls are accented with bamboo wainscoting and the aromas of French-pressed coffee and pumpkin-spiced tea punctuate the air. Whether you’ve partied hardily during San Diego Pride weekend or need a break from greasy-spoon kitchens, a visit here will leave you feeling revived.t

(l) Blueberry buttermilk pancakes; (r) herbed potatoes

(Photos by Frank Sabatini Jr.)


14 GAY SAN DIEGO July 12–25, 2013 Don’t miss our additional Community Calendar in this issue’s San Diego LGBT Pride Guide 2013 insert. It has as many Pride-related events as we could cram into two pages, and should help keep you busy over the crazy – and amazing – Pride weekend.

Friday, July 12

JESSI MALAY AND THOMAS GRAFF: Rocker Thomas Graff is on at 8 p.m. and pop singer and dancer Jessi Malay will be in town all Pride weekend long with a number of performances, including tonight’s big party at Martinis Above Fourth. The set starts at 9 p.m. for this former member of No Secrets – she was 15 when she joined – and her first solo single was “Gimme” in 2006.

But this was all before she went back to school, got her degree and founded Wolfiskin Productions. The woman has been busy, and stays that way. After tonight, she performs on at the Pride Festival main stage Saturday then closes out the night with a performance at Bourbon Street. Martinis is located at 3940 Fourth Ave. For more information visit martinisabovefourth.com. SUMMER IN THE PARK: The University Heights Community Development Corporation’s Summer In the Park concert series is back, with tonight’s everpopular Stoney B Blues Band. The concerts – each Friday through Aug. 2 – are from 6 – 8 p.m. and are absolutely free. Trolley Barn Park is located at 1926 Adams

Ave. in Uni Heights. For more information visit uhcdc.org.

Saturday, July 13

WOMEN’S PRIDE BRUNCH: It’s the Victory Fund’s annual San Diego Women’s Pride brunch, and it sells out every year (get your tickets ASAP). Ohio Rep. Nickie Antonio is this year’s guest speaker. The event takes place from 9 – 11 a.m. at Brazen BBQ Smokehouse & Bar, 441 Washington St. For more information visit victoryfund.org or email Jordan. markwith@victoryfund.org. SPECIAL DELIVERY AT THE TOP: It is the largest fundraiser for Special Delivery, and takes place immediately following the Pride Parade. From noon – 6 p.m., join the nonprofit at the Inn at the Park for a rooftop Pride barbeque. It has happened for over 15 years, and tickets are only $10 (at the door) for a barbeque feast. This year’s sponsors are Pecs Bar, Kaiser Permanente, The Loft, California Bank & Trust and Hillcrest Pharmacy, and all proceeds go to Special Delivery. Inn at the Park is located at 525 Spruce St. For more information call 619-297-7373. DAWN MITSCHELE: Mueller College plays host to musical Dawn Mitschele, who will be releasing her EP “Silence the Noise” at an exclusive show. Mitschele’s work has been featured on TV shows and movies, and the singer has been touring the United States with her “angelic” voice and “smooth acoustic style.” Carlos Olmeda opens at 8 p.m., and tickets are $10 at the door. Mueller College is located at 123 Camino De La Reina. For more information visit dawnmitschele.com.

L-NIGHT: U31 in North Park is hosting tonight’s L-Night Lesbian Pride Dance, with DJ Dirty KURTY from 7 – 11 p.m. “Shake what your mamma gave you” with a free photo booth, Don Julio shots, and drink specials all night long. There is a $10 cover. U31 is located at 3112 University Ave. For more information visit lnightdances.com.

Sunday, July 14

CAZWELL: It’s well worth noting that Cazwell returns to San Diego this weekend for a special Pride performance at The Range 1202. Worth noting because for one, it’s a great show. Two, we have a huge crush on the NYC hip hop artist and just knowing that he and Amanda Lepore are in the same city during the same weekend is enough to drive us crazy. We’re not sure when he performs, but it doesn’t really matter. We’ll be there all day long waiting: they open at 11 a.m. for High Tea Realness and stay open all day and night. The Range 1202 is located at 1202 University Ave. For more information and tickets visit 1202SD.com.

Monday, July 15

AFTER PRIDE CLEANUP: Bankers Hill Residents Group and the Hillcrest Town Council are hosting the annual after Pride neighborhood clean up parties, with extra incentive to participate coming from San Diego Pride. The nonprofit will donate $10 to each group depending on hours spent cleaning up. It’s fun too. For Hillcrest, meet just south of University Avenue on Park

Boulevard; Bankers Hill meets at Thorn Street and Fifth Avenue or Ivy Street and Sixth Avenue. Both groups meet at 7 a.m. For more information call 619-260-1929. FAMILY BUILDING: Reproductive specialists Dr. Arlene Morales and Dr. Wendy Shelly will discuss LGBT family-building options at this free event, held at the Family Specialists Medical Group office at 8010 Frost St., Suite P. The informal discussion is from 5:30 – 7:30 p.m. RSVP at info@ ivfspecialists.com or 858-505-5500.

Tuesday, July 16

STARS OF THE FUTURE: Presented by Leigh Scarritt, tonight’s evening of “hope and musicality” at Martinis Above Fourth will feature young performers showcasing their musical gifts. With credits from The Old Globe Theatre, San Diego REP and the La Jolla Playhouse, you’ll hear musical theater performances from the voices of future Broadway stars. Tickets are $20, and the show starts at 7:30 p.m. MA4 is located at 3940 Fourth Ave. For more information visit martinisabovefourth. com or call 619-400-4500.

Wednesday, July 17

LOG CABIN MIXER: San Diego Sheriff Bill Gore is this month’s featured speaker for today’s Log Cabin Republicans mixer at Diversionary Theatre. Alpha project COO Amy Gonyeau will also speak, and the mixer starts at 5:30 p.m. It’s a free event with a cash bar and happy-hour bites. Diversionary Theatre is lo-

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CALENDAR cated at 4545 Park Blvd. For more information visit lrcsandiego.org. BITCHY BINGO: Unwind from Pride weekend with a nice, relaxing game of Bitchy BINGO with Lips ladies Fifi and Kiki. Have dinner, play the game and win some prizes. The three-course meal is $15.95, and there is no cover. Dinner and games are from 7 – 10 p.m., and Lips is located at 3036 El Cajon Blvd. For more information visit lipsusa.com or call 619-295-7900.

Thursday, July 18

WE LOVE YOU, GILDA: Francesca Amari performs her show “You Make Me Laugh! A Love Song to Gilda Radner” tonight at Martinis Above Fourth. The cabaret singer presents a “musical biography” of the comedian: her loves, her peeves, her rise to stardom, her marriage to Gene Wilder and her battle with cancer. While including Radner’s own words, the show also includes classic songs, Broadway tunes and cabaret hits (plus a little Country tossed in for good measure). MA4 is located at 3940 Fourth Ave. and tickets range from $15 – 20. The show starts at 8 p.m. For more information visit martinisabovefourth.com or call 619-400-4500.

Friday, July 19

RICH’S COMICCON: Kick off the Comic-Con weekend with Iggy Azalea, who will debut her

hit single “work.” DJ Marcel and DJ WILL Z spin, there will be free body painting, and, of course, a costume contest (be amazing). Want more? No cover before midnight by texting “Richs” to 46786 (doors at 10 p.m.). Rich’s San Diego is located at 1051 University Ave. For more information visit richssandiego.com or call 619-2952195.

Front Runners & Walkers San Diego Take to the streets Saturday, July 13 before the annual Pride Parade for the group’s hugely popular Pride 5K Run/ Walk. The run, starting at 10 a.m. at the intersection of Centre Street and University Avenue, follows the Pride course and it a USAT&F sanctioned and certified run. Registration gets you an after-race continental breakfast, chip timing, tech shirt, computerized results, division awards and, of course, goodie bags. Organizers are encouraging rainbow costumes, and you’ll have sidewalks full of supporters. Bib pickup and in-person registration will be available on race day, as well as Friday, July 12 from 2 – 7 p.m. at Road Runner Sports, 5553 Copley Dr. in Kearny Mesa. Registration is $40 ($45 on the morning of the race). For more information visit frwsd.org.

Saturday, July 20

FILMOUT’S PETUNIA: Pride is never over for FilmOut San Diego. After a hugely successful anniversary festival, the group returns with their monthly screenings, with a twist. There are so many good LGBT films out there now, FilmOut will be presenting the San Diego premiere of “Petunia,” a new release by director Ash Christian. It’s a “Family in Progress” dramedy film that is super quirky and hilariously unpredictable. Before the fulllength film, FilmOut will be screening the short “Remember to Breathe,” also produced this year. Marc Saltarelli directs the 26-minute film. The night starts at 7:30 p.m. at the Birch North Park Theatre, 2891 University Ave. Tickets are $10 (cash at the door, or online first). For more information visit filmoutsandiego.com. HOTTIE HEROES: The Range 1202 and SDPix present one monster of a Comic-Con party, starting at 10 p.m. and lasting well into the night. “Hottie Heroes” will feature DJ Dawna Montell and superhero (or villain!) costumes are highly encouraged. Finish up at the

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Con and move to the Hill. The Range 1202 is located at 1202 University Ave. For more information visit range1202.com or call 619-906-5555 SUPERHERO NIGHT: There are plenty of Comic-Con nights to keep you busy. Don’t miss tonight’s “evening of righteousness” Superhero Night with Super DJ Lil Chris at Bourbon Street, 4612 Park Blvd. There is no cover, ever and doors open at 9 p.m. For more information visit bourbonstreetsd.com or call 619-291-4043.

Sunday, July 21

BEER BUST!: Flicks offers $1 16-ounce draft pints until the keg is kicked every Sunday through the rest of the summer. Starting at 2:45, there are other drink specials too and, as if you don’t know, karaoke at 9 p.m. Celene Dion covers welcome. Flicks is located at 1017 University Ave. For more information visit sdflicks.com or call 619-297-2056. BAR PINK ANNIVERSARY:

Congratulations Bar Pink, you’re celebrating your six-year anniversary today. Celebrate with them El Vez Punk Rock Revue, with the Schitzophonics & DJ Vaughn Avakian. Bar Pink is located at 3829 30th Ave. For more information visit barpinkcom.

Tuesday, July 23

PROFESSIONAL DEVELOPMENT: The Greater San Diego Business Association’s Engaging Aging Professional Development Group will be hosting a lunch program from 12 – 1:30 p.m. at Vi, located at 8515 Costa Verde Blvd. in La Jolla Village. Facilitated by Danielle Barger and Sacha Mackels, the programs are designed “to provide professional development and education for members in professions that are aligned to serve our aging population,” organizers said. RSVP is required to attend; for more information visit gsdba.org or email Danielle@bargerlawgroup.com or sacha.mackels@tfgroup.com.

Thursday, July 25

SONNY AND THE SUNSETS: This band’s “vintage-style West Coast pop” is the perfect way to close out a Thursday night, and they play The Casbah tonight. They have been dubbed “futuristic 50s R&B,” and that’s just amazing. Memories and Teenage Burritos open. Doors open at 8:30 p.m., and it’s a 21 and older event. Tickets are $10 advance ($12 at the door). The Casbah is located at 2501 Kettner Blvd. For tickets visit casbahmusic.com or call 619-232-4355. SIXTEEN CANDLES: The classic 1980s flick “Sixteen Candles” closes out the Lafayette Hotel’s Dive in Movies, and we can’t think of a better place to be: sitting in a pool with a drink, your friends and Molly Ringwald on the big screen. The film screens from 8 – 10 p.m. and the Lafayette is located at 2223 El Cajon Blvd. For more information visit lafayettehotelsd.com or call 619-296-2101.t

San Luis Obispo, Calif. July 11 – 14 San Diego July 12 – 14 Santa Barbara, Calif. July 13 Vancouver, B.C. Aug. 4 Reno, Nev. Aug. 17 San Jose, Calif. Aug. 17 – 18 Las Vegas Sept. 6 – 7 Chula Vista, Calif. (South Bay Pride)

Sept. 14 Oceanside, Calif. (Pride @ the beach)

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THEATER PATRICIA MORRIS BUCKLEY

THEATER REVIEW

Alive on the stage Top-tier actors, strong director make theater magic Tom Stoppard’s Tony Award-winning “Rosencrantz and Guildenstern are Dead” is not produced often and there’s a reason for that. It absolutely requires top-tier actors and a strong, decisive director for this spinningplate-of-a-play to work. Luckily, The Old Globe Theatre has both. In recent years, The Globe has preferred to produce two Shakespeare plays and another classic for its summer Shakespeare Festival. “Rosencrantz and Guildenstern are Dead” is a perfect fit because it centers around two minor characters from the Bard’s greatest tragedy, “Hamlet.” In fact, we even get a few glimpses of that play interjected in Stoppard’s text. It does help if you have some knowledge of “Hamlet” or of Samuel Beckett’s nonsensical “Waiting for Godot,” which Stoppard (“Shakespeare in Love”) has admitted influenced his work. But either way, it won’t be easy to keep track of what’s going on onstage and it’s not really meant to make sense in any version of logic most people use. Let the play wash over you instead of trying to grab any one line to search for meaning or reason. Rosencrantz and Guildenstern are two childhood friends of Hamlet’s. When Hamlet begins to act strangely, his mother and uncle (now the king after killing Hamlet’s father) ask the pair to spy on Hamlet to discover his state of mind. In doing so, they essentially betray Hamlet and he knows this. In the end, by trying to

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please everyone, they seal their own doom at Hamlet’s hand. In Stoppard’s version, the two are characters in a play who almost grasp the thought that they are merely characters who are only really alive when called onto the stage, which only happens a few short times. So when they first appear, they have no idea why they are there, which character is which and if there is any meaning to their being. To tr y to make some sense, they flip a coin, but it always comes out heads, as if there’s no real randomness to the world’s order. And yet they feel random from the beginning. Their patter, like Abbott and Costello’s “Who’s on First” routine, is the backbone of

the show. Rosencrantz (or the character who appears to be him – or not) is more laid back. “Relax and see where life takes us,” he tells the more tightly wound Guildenstern (we presume he’s Guildenstern, but are never sure and neither are they). As they try to figure out their purpose, they meet a wagon of Tragedians, led by the Player King. The Player King knows more than he lets on, which they often forget. “We are actors,” the Player says. “We’re the opposite of people.” As the three acts come to a close, it’s obvious that our characters do not survive and that their own inability to take action causes this to happen. The increasingly morose Guildenstern seems more aware of their imminent fate, yet the cheery Rosencrantz is the first to step through the curtain to offstage and meet his end. Three strong actors top the cast. Jay Whittaker takes the heavier of the burdens as Guildenstern, who also provides the most physical comedy. He acts as much when saying a line as when he doesn’t and the result gives the text added texture. John Lavelle’s Rosencrantz is endearing and so lost he seems puppy-like, but he keeps up the verbal exchange like a boxer in a 10-round

match. They are almost overshadowed by Matthew Bellows as the Player King, who is larger than life, but also like a methodical surgeon with his sharp reality cutting into their fuzzy world. The star of the production team is set designer Ralph Funicello, whose moving proscenium — complete with opulent curtains — not only helps delineate which play we’re in, but emphasizes that these characters are only alive on stage. Director Adrian Noble creates a nice rhythm of rising tension throughout, not unlike the frog in the pot finally boiling. He added a camera crew following Prince Hamlet around that might have been intrusive, but instead helps us understand when we’re in Shakespeare’s play and when we’re in Stoppard’s. “Rosencrantz and Guildenstern are Dead” is not everyone’s cup of tea. It’s strong, bitter and, at times, utterly confusing. But as Rosencrantz suggested, it’s about relaxing and seeing where life takes us. That journey is where the stage and life truly meet so that theater magic can happen.t

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Powerful, honest & intimate Jess T. Dugan photographs explore identity, sexuality By Jennifer DeCarlo | GSD Guest Reporter Remember when I moved in you The holy dove was moving too And every breath we drew was Hallelujah The words of Leonard Cohen are an echo for many of us, and give fitting tone to the work of Jess T. Dugan, a queer photographer working out of the Chicago area. Dugan’s work, now on view at jdc Fine Art and soon to be included in the San Diego Museum of Art’s “Double Portraits” exhibition, is powerful and engaging, exploratory and substantive, honest and, above all, intimate.

self in a relational way. We do look into the faces of Dugan’s subjects and may wonder male or female, and straight or gay, but by the time we are aware of our own questioning, we are already seduced into the unique humanity of the person before us. This is where the power in the work exists. We lose our desire and ability to categorize people based on gender or sexuality, and instead find ourselves enchanted by the simple beauty of a gaze and the feeling of being close to another person. In this space we can only bask in the celebration of our plurality and our commonality: Hallelujah. “Every breath we drew” is currently on display at jdc Fine Art through Aug. 31. “Double Potraits,” including a talkback with Dugan Aug. 1 at 7 p.m., will be on display at the San Diego Museum of Art in Balboa Park Aug. 1 – Sept. 8. Editor’s note: Jennifer DeCarlo is the director of jdc Fine Art, which is hosting the exhibit “Every breath we drew.”t

Dugan uses portraiture to explore constructions of identity and sexuality. Her sitters come from all walks of life: some are allies and others are a part of the LGBT community. Dugan has often focused on transgender individuals on the female-to-male spectrum, and she has highlighted herself in the work through several self-portraits. While we all take it for granted that identity is a construction – an ever-evolving result of our own personal history – Dugan seeks to show how sexuality too is constructed. The work explores how identity is formed, sexuality and desire is expressed, and personal connections are made, but at its heart is humanity: that common denominator that unifies us all, and that obvious yet illusive reality for which we struggle. June 26 marked a major victory for humankind; the Supreme Court struck key parts of the Defense of Marriage Act down. The date is eerily close to the 150th anniversary of the Civil War, honored July 3, and 150 years after President Abraham Lincoln’s famous Gettysburg Address, his words again ring with fresh meaning. Our nation has remembered its “dedication to the proposition that all … are created equal.” With as far as we have come toward total equity – as individuals, as a community and as a nation – there remain barriers to overcome and hearts to win. So enter Dugan’s work. It is poignant, it is critical and it is real. It belongs to our time, and its greatest strength is its ability to use a language of intimacy to put us into a position to recognize and celebrate an almost spiritual unity. The work itself is quiet and seductive. A warm glow of light washes over figures in shallow-ground. The figures are very close to us, and they often look directly at us out of the frame, inviting us to engage with them on a highly personal level. We are brought to the most intimate of places, as Dugan often photographs her subjects in their homes or bedrooms. Intimacy is not just felt; it is also understood. We share not only a space, but a moment with Dugan’s figures. The works are rich and charged, lush and full, and her palate is so vivid you think if you touched it, it would leave its mark on your hands. These works reveal as much about us as they do about the people depicted within the frame. We become aware of our own learned, almost automatic desire to make assumptions about the people around us. For some, this may involve judgments, but for many it is simply an effort to position our

(far left) Jess T. Dugan’s “Self-portrait (muscle shirt),” 2013; (above) “Erica and Krista,” 2012 (Courtesy jdc Fine Art)

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Transgender artist to headline Pride Military Ball July 14 By Shane Gallagher | GSD Guest Reporter

Dina Delicious

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A staple among New York City’s velvet rope scene – alongside friends Amanda Lepore and hip hopper Cazwell – cel Dina Delicious’ name celebrates her curves. “My friends always called me Double Dee,” she said. “I added the delicious part as a surname because, well, I just am.” She has undergone dozens of surgeries to transform herself into the bodacious art form she is today. “You know when you go to the doctor and they have you fill out the form listing all previous surgeries? I leave it blank just to fuck with them,” she said, laughing.

Her earliest music memory is of her mom dancing around the house while listening to Donna Summer. Dina remembers being fascinated by how music could stir all kinds of emotions. She hopes her beats whip up similar feelings. “I hate when people try to stifle my creativity,” she said. “Do you know how many times I’ve heard, ‘You can’t because the world isn’t ready for a transgender pop star’ or ‘You can’t because you need the backing of a major record label?’ I believe the world is ready for everything, and that if I create openly and honestly, my message will get out there,” she said. In time for San Diego Pride, Dina is unleashing her remake of Stacey Q’s 1980s smash “Two of Hearts.” Hear it live on Sunday, July 14 when Dina performs for the Pride Military Ball at Numb3rs Nightclub, located at 3811 Park Blvd.

in the shower. But me as GI Jane? Oh no. I’m a lover, not a fighter. What inspired you to make “Two of Hearts” into a pride anthem? It’s a fun dance song with a message of one love and hope. I knew I could update it and still be true to the song. Does Dina Delicious allow herself to be vulnerable in love?

Have you ever considered joining the militar y?

I’m a very vulnerable person. I am open to experience. Most all, I am open to love. That doesn’t mean I’m easy, though!

No. Never! I mean, I’ve fantasized about hanging with the boys

Who taught you ever ything you know about love?

I think if you’re lucky, you learn love from your parents. Then you go out in the world and take your chances. For me, it was my mom. She taught me what I needed to know, though, in truth, I’m still learning. Why was it important to release “Two of Hearts” now? With marriage equality in the news and judgments being passed on whom we can and cannot love, I felt the song would speak to people. I love that there is no mention of ‘he’ or ‘she’ in it. It’s simply two hearts that beat as one. It’s about unity, the perfect subject for pride. What should the LGBT community be most of proud of this pride season? DOMA and Prop 8 are defeated! In addition to that, we should be overjoyed that we are finally being recognized. We have out actors that are working and thriving. Gays are adopting children. We are opening the world’s eyes and starting conversations. We are not backing down and we won’t ‘til the job is done. What personal achievement are you most proud? These past few years have been a roller coaster ride for me. But this year, I’m really proud of my music. There is so much more to come. Are you living your dream? I’m living my dream in so many ways. I enjoy great highs performing around the country, getting to meet amazing people from the community and helping to empower people. For all that, I feel blessed. How will you celebrate pride? Passionately. Enthusiastically. Bring it on! “Two of Hearts” is available now on iTunes. Visit dinadelicious. com, Facebook.com/dinadelicious or follow @DinaDelicious on Twitter.t

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UGANDA Williams in a recent Huffington Post article. Sponsored by FilmOUT San Diego, proceeds from the film’s showing will benefit St. Paul’s Foundation for International Reconciliation. “Where global equality and faith and health care collide, no city is doing more than San Diego right now because of the St. Paul’s Foundation,” Rev. Canon Albert Ogle said, adding that the film underscores the need for organizations like his. “What ‘God Loves Uganda’ exposes is the underbelly of American Christianity. These are the same people who are fighting us on issues of marriage equality, but over there they have no opposition,” he said. “Committed to the idea that God wants all forms of ‘sexual immorality’ eliminated from the Earth, the anti-gay movement was the reason why Uganda had dismantled its successful AIDS program in favor of an abstinenceonly policy,” Williams said in the Huffington Post article. Seventy-six different countries around the world currently promote similar anti-gay legislation and values, Ogle said, with much of it unknowingly supported by the U.S. government through continued aid despite poor records on human rights. The lack of access to health care for those suffering from HIV is a genocidal priority for St Paul’s Foundation, since 40 percent of clinics and hospitals on the African content are run by faith-based organizations prescribing to extreme anti-gay values. Ogle, who is also openly gay, is one of many U.S. faith-based clergy

who don’t equate scripture to such hate-filled teachings, but he said they are overpowered by the grassroots financial support received by the Christian-right organizations that do. “Our hope is that people who see the film connect the dots themselves, turn off the money from the bad guys and give it to the good guys,” he said. The St. Paul’s Foundation was launched three years ago after Ogle met ousted Ugandan Bishop Christopher Senyonjo, a fellow Anglican priest who provided counseling and ministry to LGBT people in Uganda and was disrobed specifically for his positive LGBT beliefs. Since then, the Foundation has built awareness within the U.S. State Department and World Bank, helped several Ugandans seeking asylum and others avoiding deportation, and has achieved countless other human-rights successes in a very short time. “These issues absolutely have to be addressed or millions of people will die, and it’s very hard to walk away from that,” Ogle said. Despite the urgency of the work, Ogle – the Foundation’s only full-time employee – said the organization is currently under great financial strain and he hopes money raised from the screening will get them through the rest of the year. “With a little help, we can do a lot of good,” he said. “God Loves Uganda” screens Friday, July 19 at 7:30 p.m. at the Birch North Park Theatre, located at 2891 University Ave. Tickets are $20, or $10 for military, nonworking, seniors and students. A special $15 Pride price is available Pride weekend. VIP tickets are $100 and include dinner at Wang’s North Park with Williams and VIP seating at the screening. For more information visit stpaulsfdr.org/ event/index.html.t

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Neil Patrick Harris will wig-out in ‘Hedwig’ Why didn’t someone think of this earlier? No sooner will “How I Met Your Mother” wrap up its last season with all questions about mother-meeting finally answered, than its womanizing star Barney (Neil Patrick Harris) will leap over to Broadway, strap on a wig and heels and turn himself into Hedwig, star of John Cameron Mitchell’s “Hedwig and The Angry Inch.” Harris is already excited to step into the role of the transgender, German, aspiring rock star for the show’s Broadway debut (it was off-Broadway before its 2001 film version) in spring of 2014. And while there’s no other casting news yet, does there really need to be? This is a slam-dunk of a casting move, with Broadway’s favorite sitcom star/song-and-dance-man/gay role model/Tony host/“Harold & Kumar” villain in the lead. It’s like an engraved invitation for 15 different audience demographics to flood the box office for tickets and a readymade, internet-igniting, post-Tony Awards performance clip before it even happens. Margaret Cho is ‘In Transition’ Margaret Cho has her own sitcom again, this time on the internet. Like everyone else with eyes facing forward, the comic is bypassing the TV gatekeepers and taking her work directly to her audience. The show’s called “In Transition” and it’s about female ex-cons (including Cho) with per-

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(l to r) Director Roger Ross Williams is joined by Rev. Canon Albert Ogle at this year’s San Francisco Pride Parade. (Courtesy Roger Ross Williams)

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Lauren Graham’s life to becomes book to TV “Gilmore Girls” and “Parenthood” star Lauren Graham is an ambitious sort. You kind of have to be when you’re a woman in Hollywood. The men who make decisions are almost never reliably into you, especially after you hit middle age, so Graham’s not taking her winning streak for granted. She wrote her first novel, “Someday, Someday, Maybe” – witty comic fiction loosely based on her own experiences as a struggling actress in 1990s New York City – and watched it hit the bestseller list. Then Graham’s friend Ellen DeGeneres – the pair talk a mile a minute every time Graham guests on “Ellen” – taking note of this development, decided to step in and produce the book as a TV series. The energetic Graham will adapt the book into pilot form and, with a little luck, careful shepherding from power-friends in high places and more good luck, this thing will go to series. We think Graham is cool, so fingers crossed.

‘Blue’ lesbians to warm up America’s big screens Filmmaker Abdellatif Kechiche’s three-hour lesbian romance, “Blue Is the Warmest Color,” is coming to the United States, thanks to distributor IFC. The controversial film (called a “voyeuristic exercise” by New York Times film critic Manohla Dargis) stars young actresses Léa Seydoux and Adéle Exarchopoulos as they come of age and fall in love, and it recently won the top prize at the Cannes Film Festival, the Palme d’Or. The intense love story, complete with lengthy sex scenes (reports are that the non-pornographic art film leaves nothing to the imagination, prompting New York magazine’s Vulture website to cheekily praise its “impressive scissoring”) found itself in the unique position of receiving the highest praise from the most prestigious film festival in the world at the same time that France was legalizing marriage equality and anti-gay protestors were busy taking to the streets in Paris to be angry about it all. Sounds almost like what would happen here, frankly. And this fall American art-house audiences will get their own chance to evaluate the merits of the 179-minute “Blue,” probably while another U.S. state tackles its own marriage equality legislation and One Million Moms goes ballistic about Target’s same-sex wedding registry. Vive le cinema! —Romeo San Vicente can be reached at deepinsidehollywood@ qsyndicate.com.t


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HEART IN MOTION A conversation with Christian music legend Amy Grant By Chris Azzopardi | Q Syndicate A call from Amy Grant started as these promo chats usually do. Hellos were exchanged, small talk was made and questions about her first studio album of all-new material in 10 years, “How Mercy Looks From Here,” were answered. Then we shifted into territory the most successful Christian music artist of all time, now 52, has never spoken about publicly since hitting the scene in the 1970s with her spiritual pop, before “Heart in Motion” turned her into a crossover success. During her first gay press interview, and for an entire hour, the Grammy winner reflected – with her usual sincerity and thoughtfulness – on her loyal gay fan base, how she reconciles Christianity and homosexuality, her “compassion” for gay marriage and the unforgettable dinner she shared with out ACLU Executive Director Anthony Romero. Chris Azzopardi: How are you, Amy? Amy Grant: Honestly, my brain is so rattled today. CA: There’s a lot going on in the world right now, especially with the Boston Marathon bombing and the Texas plant explosion. AG: There is a lot going on, yes. I just want to go somewhere and sit and be very still. I just did, with the band, a kind of unplugged performance for SiriusXM Radio. It was the first time I have sung some of those songs for an audience and, you know, you can create muscle memory with a song. You just work on your technique and then it becomes like muscle memory. But

the first couple of times you do it, it engages all the emotions around the song – and I just kept getting choked up. CA: Which songs from the album were you performing? AG: The first one was “How Mercy Looks From Here,” and with all the stuff going on I could hardly get the song out. I was going, “Well, great, they’ll be playing this over and over on XM.” So, there were the nerves of this being the first time performing those songs for anybody. I guess I have felt emotionally drained, but you’re right – it’s because of what’s been going on. We’re all connected. CA: How does this new album reflect your life at this point? AG: It’s funny, being 52 and putting a record out, I have felt this incredible freedom. It feels like this is going to be the least required of me as a person to sell the songs. As a woman, when you’re younger, so much of it has to do with looking pretty, doing a video and wearing the right clothes, because a lot of music is visual. But there is real freedom in going, “I never have to worry about what I’m going to look like in a bikini again.” Not that I ever looked good in one, but I would feel weird even just putting one on, because I’m old … er. Older! [Laughs] You sort of go, “Whew. That pressure’s not going to be there.” And I feel that way about the music. To me, it feels essentially about the message of the songs and not even a reflection of me. It just feels like collective life experience. CA: When the biggest Christian music artist of all time is doing gay

press, you know we’ve come a long way. Were you kept at bay from gay press beforehand, earlier in your career? AG: It never came up. CA: But you have obviously had a big gay following for quite sometime. Why have gay people connected to you in such profound ways? AG: All of us sometimes feel disenfranchised or, for whatever reason, like we’re just on the periphery or marginalized. People feel that for all kinds of reasons, and by the time you’ve lived any amount of life, I think anybody has had that experience somewhere. I remember doing concerts back in the early ’80s and going shopping with some of the singers that I was working with and one of them, Donna McElroy, had to get some makeup – and she’s African-American – and I said, “Hey, I’ll meet you back here.” I ran my errands and I came back and said, “Are you done?” She said, “No one’s waited on me.” Everybody is outside of some circle, but what I’ve always wanted to do is have a message of honesty and welcoming, and being willing to say this is the good, bad and the ugly. This is who I am. And if I’m saying that about myself, it’s like, jump in, the water’s fine. So I love that. I love that people connect to my music. CA: At this point in your career, are you at all concerned about people passing judgment on you for talking to gay press? AG: We all ultimately need to know that we’re loved, and I think it would be really crazy if you said,

gay-sd.com “I’m not going to talk to this group of people because someone’s looking on that’s not a part of the conversation and might have an opinion about it.” I mean, my whole life has been that [laughs]. It takes all of our energy to navigate whatever road we’re on. What’s interesting is, this last year I was invited on Monday mornings to go to a woman’s house – also a songwriter, also a singer – and just have some time of quiet stillness all together. But her house wasn’t even quiet. There were workers there sometimes, or there was nowhere to get that was quiet. As we were sitting there trying to get quiet, she said, “It never gets still, and so I’m not gonna get all rankled in my head. I’m just gonna say, ‘Well, there’s the noise of the person next door blowing off their driveway with that really load motor. There it is. There’s the sound of sirens going up and down the street.’” She said, “When we learn to observe without judgment, then we have the ability to observe and learn, or to observe and be.” And I said, “Do you know how exhausting it is to observe with judgment all the time? It’s just exhausting.” I have thanked her many times. We could all stand to hear that. CA: You came from a fairly strict religious upbringing, but it sounds like there’s been an evolution in the way you see people. AG: Well, I don’t know. When you say strict, that’s interesting. What do you mean by that? [Laughs] I mean, we went to church every Sunday morning, every Sunday night, every Wednesday night. CA: You’re right. I should say diligently religious. AG: Yeah. I remember when we moved to Texas and my parents went to this really, I guess, conservative church – a Church of Christ – and something incredible was happening within that church community. I remember seeing this transformation in my mom and dad. I was old enough to remember that. What I remember about our home after that was that it was

welcoming … to everybody. CA: To black people? To gay people? AG: Just to people. CA: Did you ever feel that you had to reconcile your Christian faith with your acceptance of homosexuality? AG: That’s not my life experience. In the same way, if you put my shoes on, you would go, “I thought this experience was going to be one way and it was totally different.” None of us has any idea what somebody’s life experience is like. CA: Do you remember the first gay person you knew? Did you have a close gay friend? AG: Absolutely. But my first: maybe college. Someone might have just seemed theatrical or, I don’t know, effeminate, but when I was in high school – I graduated in ’78 – I had friends in high school who eventually said, “I’m living a gay lifestyle,” but they didn’t say it then. People were very private about their sexuality, period. Maybe not everywhere, but I just don’t remember, “I’m exploring this, I’m exploring that.” CA: When did you first know you had a gay fan base? 18.

AG: Probably by the time I was

CA: How did you know? Did a fan tell you his or her coming-out story? AG: No. Just from meeting people. I don’t know. … That was a long time ago. I’m 52 [laughs]. I’ve never even thought about it. It’s like saying, “There’s gray-haired people in the crowd, too.” If people come to my shows, this is what they say: “Wow, there are people of all ages and lifestyles in your crowd.” That’s what they always say. But then someone will come up and say, “You know, I saw a guy with a boa on,” and I’ll say, “Oh yeah, yeah, I’ve always had a big gay following.” To me, I don’t give it a second thought. I remember the first time someone from the crew said, “I smell pot in the back of the crowd,” and I went, “Well, fantastic! Yay!” I’m so glad that just people are coming. CA: From photos I’ve seen and conversations I’ve heard, you seem to have established some close relationships with people in the Gay Friends of Amy Grant group on Facebook over the years. Can you describe your relationship with them? AG: When you’ve done something for a long time, there is a great familiarity that comes over the years. I will say that I have a couple of friends that I made – just because they came to shows for a long time – and I figure we must have some things in common because, of all the music we’re all attracted to, at least we share this music in common. CA: Weren’t you invited to perform at the wedding of one of your gay fans but couldn’t due to your schedule? AG: I was invited. I was honored to be invited. I have to tell

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GRANT you: Anytime somebody asks me to perform at a wedding, I say, “I do not have a good track record.” [Laughs], a lot of the weddings I’ve performed at, the marriages have ended poorly. CA: I recall seeing you perform with Melissa Etheridge for Lifetime’s “Women Rock!” special in 2000 and thinking, as a teenager struggling with his sexuality, “She’s performing with an openly lesbian performer; she’s throwing her gay fans a bone.” AG: You know what’s so interesting, even when I was discovering my own sexuality and meeting people that had a different experience, I didn’t categorize then, and I don’t categorize right now. It makes me realize that I don’t have any idea of what it would feel like every moment of my life to go somewhere and feel judged. CA: But you have felt judged, right? Judged for getting divorced. Judged for your pop crossover, even. AG: No, no. Do people from a distance have an opinion? Yeah, that’s human nature to have an opinion. Whatever was going on in a rag magazine, or whatever someone was saying behind my back or in a heated conversation, I was never in that circle. I wasn’t part of that conversation. I never, ever pursued one chat room. If there was an article or some argument – “I can’t believe you’re doing this” – I just never pursued it because I thought, “We don’t understand each other.” There are a lot of times that I wind up in situations that I do not see eye to eye with somebody. And it doesn’t help to throw gas on the fire. Clearly they’re going to have their opinion. Carry on. And I’m gonna go do what I’m gonna go do. CA: I know you are not a political person. AG: Yeah, I’m not. CA: So how do you respond to people when they ask you about your feelings on gay marriage? AG: In the same way that I did not tell one person who I voted for. I don’t. I never talk about anything like that. I did tell Vince [Gill, her husband] the day after the election [laughs]. But I think my response is, I

have had so many occasions in my life where I have felt really strongly about something – but that feeling has changed. Those feelings change about different situations, and so because I’m a public person – and because I want always to bring people together – I really do say this is a world that’s unfamiliar to me and I am always trying to observe with compassion. CA: This isn’t a cut-and-dry issue for you, then. AG: Well, nothing is cut-anddry. You know, one of the most fascinating dinners I’ve ever spent sitting next to somebody I had not met was at a large function with my family. We were all seated with place cards; it was a large group and I introduced myself to the fellow next to me. It was Anthony Romero [executive director of the ACLU]. I mean, we didn’t line up our views; I just said, “Oh my

goodness.” And he said, “I think they probably thought this was going to be very funny having us sit next to each other.” I just said, “Tell me about your life.” He asked me the same thing. He told me good things about his job and hard things about his job. It was two human beings that have had very different lifestyles sitting next to each other and sharing life. Given 10 choices, would Anthony and I choose the same things? Maybe so. Maybe not. But I felt so changed by that. And what I really felt was, well … I … [pauses] CA: What did you feel? AG: Well, I kept his card for a long time, and I hoped that our paths would cross again. I felt a lot of compassion for his parents, first-generation immigrants, and he described his childhood and what it was like. I went, “This makes total sense that he has invested his life coming to the aid of the people in his world that are disenfranchised because, for a whole different set of reasons, his parents were marginalized.” CA: And you found that inspiring?

AG: Yes. You know what, we all face challenges in our life that we didn’t anticipate, and the most important thing is that we not face them alone. To me, if there’s anything that comes out of this conversation, in the same way that a relationship cannot be nurturing if it’s competitive, it’s this: Amy Grant When you don’t un(Photo by Jim Wright) derstand something, you can either de-

GAY SAN DIEGO July 12–25, 2013 fault to judgment or you can default to compassion. Those take you down completely different roads. CA: Are you speaking about yourself? AG: Yeah, and that’s really … ahh, I’m just talking about life in general. This is interesting because I have never done an interview where it feels every question is saying, “Tell me I’m OK.” That’s what feels like the underlying energy behind the questions, and I’m just going, “That’s a powerful kind of energy” – and for different reasons. Maybe not sexuality. Because that’s what every person’s crying out for. Anyway, sometimes a good night’s sleep helps for more concise answers. It’s just that we’re living lives that are different from each other. It’s like two people sitting at a dinner table having a long conversation. If you and I were facing each other at a different table and we walked away and somebody asked us to describe where we were, my entire view was behind your head. I mean, I’m gonna describe the place differently than you. That’s just true about all of life and really, I’m trying to listen and learn and in a way have a great opportunity to try to understand the fan base that

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comes to a show. I’m even more glad they feel welcome. Even more glad after this. Can I say one thing? CA: Of course. AG: I know that the religious community has not been very welcoming, but I just want to stress that the journey of faith brings us into community, but it’s really about one relationship. The journey of faith is just being willing and open to have a relationship with God. And everybody is welcome. Everybody. —Chris Azzopardi is the editor of Q Syndicate, the international LGBT wire service. Reach him via his website at chris-azzopardi.com. Editor’s note: Chris Azzopardi wrote a follow-up piece to his interview with Amy Grant, reflecting on his own feelings toward the artist, the conversation and how the interview almost didn’t happen. We will print it in the following Gay San Diego, out July 26. Amy Grant performs with the San Diego Symphony for their Summer Pops series, July 26 and 27 at 7:30 p.m. The concerts take place at the Embarcadero Marina Park, Downtown. For more information visit sandiegosymphony.org.t


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following of repeat visitors while delighting first-timers with its eyepopping scenery and welcoming, laid-back personality. Home to two of the world’s most active volcanoes, the state’s highest mountain (13,800-foot Mauna Kea), a wealth of both ritzy resorts and

economical inns and B&Bs (quite a few of them gay-owned), some of Hawaii’s most secluded beaches and spectacular waterfalls, and miles of scenic roads, the Big Island – officially called the Island of Hawaii – is truly a land of superlatives. You’ll hardly be alone if you

spend most of a visit to the Big Island (gohawaii.com/big-island) by anchoring yourself at one of the larger resorts and it’s fairly tempting to while away your days lazing by the pool, swimming in the sea, enjoying a round of golf or some spa treatments, and eating and drinking fabulously, especially when some properties abound with cushy amenities. But do try to visit whichever side of the island you’re not staying on, either by car or by booking a helicopter tour of Hawaii Volcanoes National Park or over the amazing 1,200-foot waterfalls of the remote Waipio Valley. If you’re visiting the Big Island for the first time, plan to spend at least four full days here: you could easily stay two weeks without running out of things to see and do. Most visitors stay on the island’s West coast, either around the town of Kona, which is also home to the largest airport, or a little farther north along the Kohala Coast, which is renowned for its swank resorts and arid, beautifully desolate terrain, characterized by massive black fields of lava rock. There’s far less tourism development on the verdant but also quite rainy Eastern side of the island, but on this side you will find the small, historic city of Hilo, fascinating Hawaii Volcanoes National Park and the funky Puna Coast. There are quite a few gay-owned B&Bs in these latter two areas. Other areas that see fewer visitors but offer incredible scenery and all sorts of hidden charms include North Kohala, at the Northwest tip of the island, which includes the historic plantation villages of Hawi and Kapaau, and access to the magnificent black-sand beach at Pololu Valley, which is situated at the very end of Highway 270

and then reached by a somewhat steep trail (it’s about a 30-minute hike). In the upcountry not far from the Kohala Coast, Waimea is a vintage ranching town known for its Hawaiian paniolo (cowboy) culture. You pass through it if you drive to the East side of the island via the northern loop (Highway 19), in which case you’ll also have the chance to see the beautiful Hamakua Coast as you make your way down to Hilo. Waimea has several notable restaurants, from fancy Merriman’s to affordable and fun Big Island Brewhaus & Tako Taco Taqueria, which serves some of the finest artisan beers in the state. From near Waimea, you could also drive an alternate route to Hilo, via the narrow (but much-improved over the years) Saddle Road across the island’s midsection, perhaps visiting the Onizuka Center of International Astronomy on the upper slopes of Mauna Kea. Other communities in the cooler upcountry elevations of the Western side of the island include the prime coffee-growing and agricultural communities of Holualoa and Kealakekua, charming little towns with a number of distinctive restaurants and shops. Continue south along Highway 11 in order to take the southern loop around to Hilo – the road twists and turns along some dramatic stretches of the Kona Coast, eventually passing through Naalehu – the southernmost town in the United States. It then climbs northeast along the lower slopes of Mauna Loa and into the town of Volcano, which is the base camp for 520-square-mile Hawaii Volcanoes

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HAWAII National Park. This park, devoted to a pair of extremely active volcanoes, is one of the best places on earth to view and learn about geothermal energy and volcanology. Trails lead from the visitor center, which overlooks the steam plumes rising out of massive Halemaumau Crater (which erupted in 2008 and has been belching toxic gas ever since). You can drive along part of the rim of Kilauea Volcano caldera, which has been sending rivers of molten lava down to the ocean off and on since it entered into a period of hyper activity in 1983. You can drive the park’s scenic, 23-mile Chain of Craters Road, accessing many other trails along the way, including a short and memorable jaunt through a lava tube and others along hardened lava flows. For another opportunity to come fairly close to where lava has quite recently flowed directly into the ocean, drive along to the end of Highway 130 on the Puna Coast to Kalapana, where in the 1980s and ’90s, huge swaths of lava destroyed more than 100 homes. The big resorts along the Kohala Coast include everything from

ultra-posh hideaways to moderately upscale chain hotels. Among the former, the Four Seasons Hualalai (fourseasons.com) is a supremely swank property, consisting of spacious rooms set within secluded three- and four-unit bungalows facing either the ocean or golf courses. Private entrances, spacious lanais, a magnificent health club and spa, and park-like grounds set this compound apart from the competition. The Fairmont Orchid (fairmont. com) is another of the area’s notable luxury resorts, while the Waikoloa Beach Marriott (marriott.com) is a more affordable through still exceptionally comfy – and very gay-friendly – hotel with a great beachfront setting. Down a side road near the Marriott, you’ll also find one of the sweetest little lodging gems in all of Hawaii, the gay-owned Lava Lava Beach Club (lavalavabeachclub. com), which comprises just four immaculate and smartly furnished bungalows on the beach at Anaehoomalu Bay, each with private outdoor lava-rock showers, a large lanai and a well-equipped kitchen. This mini-resort, which opened in spring 2012, is also home to an excellent and very LGBT-popular beachfront restaurant: it’s owned by partners Eric von Platen and Scott Dodd, who also operate the exceptional

Kona restaurant, Huggo’s. Up on the North Coast, just a five-minute drive from Hawi, the charmingly secluded Hawaii Island Retreat (hawaiiislandretreat.com) is another of the Big Island’s newer and still relatively lesser-known jewels. Built in 2009 by spa therapist and healer Jeanne Sunderland and her husband Robert Watkins, this tranquil “eco-boutique hotel” set dramatically atop a seaside cliff comprises nine simply but elegantly furnished rooms, all with whirlpool paths, plus several economical yurts, as well as a spa, yoga studio, fitness room and infinity pool. The property has developed a strong following among spiritually minded visitors who appreciate the magical setting, kind staff, healing spa treatments, and peaceful vibe. Down near Hilo, the lush Puna Coast is home to a favorite of LGBT visitors, Kalani (kalani.com), a long-established retreat center with eco-cottages, a clothing-optional pool, an open-air restaurant with meals enjoyed family-style, hot tubs, a sauna, gathering spaces in

GAY SAN DIEGO July 12–25, 2013 which workshops and classes (from yoga to martial arts) are offered, and massage rooms where you can book a wide range of spa services. Although this non-profit resort is popular with groups on retreat, it also draws plenty of solo travelers, couples and small groups of friends seeking rejuvenation, wellness, and relaxation. Smaller gay-owned B&Bs abound in this area anchored by the quirky town of Pahoa. A few favorites include Absolute Paradise B&B (absoluteparadise.tv), the Ohia House B&B (ohiahousebb. com), and Coconut Cottage B&B (coconutcottagehawaii.com). Just outside Hawaii Volcanoes National Park, gay-owned Hale Ohia Cottages (haleohia.com) is an airy, warmly decorated seven-room complex nestled amid pine trees and ferns. The elegant cottages and suites sleep from two to five persons, and some have kitchen facilities. In the same village, other gay-popular inns with excellent reputations include Volcano Village Lodge (emmaspencerliving.com/volcano-

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village-lodge) and Volcano Rainforest Retreat (volcanoretreat.com). Finally, along the Kona Coast you’ll find several other terrific lodgings. An upscale house that offers elegant decor along with intimacy and seclusion, Horizon Guest House (horizonguesthouse.com) has four units that afford unparalleled ocean views, as does the in-ground infinity pool and sweeping grounds on this 40-acre mountainside high above the Pacific. And on a 30-acre coffee plantation in an artsy upcountry enclave above Kona, the Holualoa Inn (holualoainn.com) is an absolute stunner, with handsomely appointed rooms, dramatic sea views, and lushly landscaped gardens. On the Big Island, there’s a lodging that fits just about every style and budget, a reflection of this wonderfully diverse, enchanting getaway. —Andrew Collins is the editor in chief of the GLBT travel magazines OutAloha and OutCity, and he covers gay travel for the website GayTravel. About.com. He can be reached at OutofTown@qsyndicate.com.t


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SPORTS

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San Diego Tennis Federation hosts 28th Open San Diegans claim 8 of 11 titles; Women’s Division returns San Diego took center stage over the Independence Day holiday weekend as the San Diego Tennis Federation (SDTF) hosted its annual San Diego Open, Friday – Sunday, July 5 – 7. The 28th edition of this popular tournament was hosted at three sites: Peninsula Tennis Club, University of San Diego and the SDTF’s home court, the Balboa Tennis Club at Morley Field in Balboa Park. Thanks to a morning marine layer, temperatures were perfect throughout the weekend, with thermometers remaining in the low- to mid-70s for the majority of tournament play, accompanied by light winds. This year’s entrants included a handful of players who traveled from as far away as Washington, D.C., Kansas and Texas. The majority of the 177 entrants come from Southern California, with half the field represented by San Diegans. The tournament structure has consistently featured five divisions in singles and doubles play: Open, A, B, C and D, with A being the most competitive skill level. For the first time since the 1980s, a Women’s division was included, as six entrants participated in a 40-and-over bracket. Per usual, the most populous division was the Men’s Singles C bracket, with 45 entrants and just one more than the Men’s Singles B bracket. In doubles play, the B divi-

sion led the way with 27 entrants. Friday’s competition was split between the Balboa Tennis Club and Peninsula Tennis Club. On Saturday, matches were held at Balboa and USD. All the action was concentrated at SDTF’s home court for Sunday’s tournament finale. San Diegans took home their share of hardware, claming titles in eight of the 11 divisions. Among the highlights, Vince Riveroll claimed his 11th Open Division Singles championship by edging Max Salonga in two sets that each went to tiebreakers, 7-6(5) and 7-6(6). In the Women’s Division, Sandra Isaac took down Janene Christopher in straight sets (6-2, 6-4) to capture first-place honors. A special shout out goes to my 40-something softball teammate, Grady Mitchell, who won three matches in B Singles before falling in the semifinals to Daniel Barry (1-6, 6-4, 7-5). He played in one B Doubles match as well. That is an impressive accomplishment for a seasoned veteran competing in a difficult division. “The event went off without a hitch,” said co-Tournament Director Andrew Hoffman, who shared the leadership duties with Todd Linke for the second consecutive year. “Pretty much all of the matches were played on time. We received a lot of positive feedback after the tournament, and even had a Las Vegas player tell us this was

the best tournament he had ever played in.” In addition to running the event, Linke and Hoffman each participated as well. Linke won two matches in Singles C before falling in three sets to Allen Sanchez (6-2, 3-6, 6-1). Hoffman won a pair of matches as well before falling to eventual Singles C runner-up Myrsso Contreras, 7-5, 6-3. A large-scale event such as San Diego Open relies heavily on volunteers, and Hoffman was quick to appreciate the 20 people who offered their time throughout the weekend with various tasks. Those duties ranged from running water bottles to players during their matches, to assisting with the first-aid tent. The athletes who traveled from around the country enjoyed a welcome registration party at The Range on July 4 in Hillcrest, where they could register and receive their player swag bags. The Gay and Lesbian Tennis Association (GLTA) is the organization that sanctions all national LGBT tennis tournaments, and requires that each event be philanthropic in nature. Saturday night, SDTF continued that tradition by hosting a charitable banquet for the players at the Handlery Hotel. This year’s benefactor was the Hillcrest Youth Center. It will be some time before the final numbers are crunched, but last year’s benefit generated a

(l to r) Andrew Hoffman, Cami Gill, Janene Christopher and Todd Linke (Photo by Alisal)

record contribution of approximately $3,000 to the Balboa Warrior Athlete Program. The SDTF is one of the oldest and largest gay tennis leagues in the nation and currently includes over 200 members. Year-round, the organization holds events such as a Singles League, Team Tennis, Promiscuous Doubles (where partners swap every 20 minutes) and the popular Friday Night Doubles at Balboa Tennis Center (2221 Morley Field Drive). “For people who want to check [SDTF] out, we encourage them to come to our Friday Night play. It is a great chance to meet people and decide if they like [the group],” Hoffman said. Sign-ups for Friday Night Doubles are at 6 p.m., with matches beginning an hour later. Skill levels range from beginners to experts. Membership is just $48 per year. For more information about membership, upcoming tournaments, and social activities, visit the league’s website at sdtf.org.t

San Diego Open 28 Tournament Finals Open Singles: Vince Riveroll d. Max Salonga 7-6 (5), 7-6 (6) Open Doubles: Brian Barley/Seth Makechnie d. Patrick Loo/Jim Winters 6-4, 7-6 (6), 6-2 A Singles: Jim Winters d. Jerry Sabio 6-2, 6-2 A Doubles: Jose Becerra/Ulyses Rivera d. Chad Hayashi/Brett Pearce 6-0, 4-6, 6-3 B Singles: Arman Davtan d. Daniel Barry 6-2, 6-1 B Doubles: Roger Lowe/Chuck Yeaman d. Miguel Escobar/Peter Goatz 3-6, 7-6(6), 6-1 C Singles: Jay Hill d. Myrsso Contreras (walkover) C Doubles: Eric Bowers/Steve Potter d. Steve Cole/Matt Hooven 6-3, 4-6, 6-3 D Singles: Jarrett Zarate d. Keith Forman (walkover) D Doubles: Zach Engman/Norman Tucker d. Dan Gannon/Vonn Marson 7-5, 6-0 Women’s Singles: Sandra Isaac d. Janene Christopher 6-2, 6-4


FITNESS

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January in July fitness goals. Close out the secondhalf stretch strong and feeling great with the following tips to recommit to your resolutions and incorporate fitness into your daily activities.

The biggest battle is good nutrition, which means eating real, unprocessed whole foods. You shouldn’t have to be a rocket scientist to understand food labels. If you don’t know what the ingredients are on a label, put it back on the shelf and move on to healthier options. Keep it simple and keep it real to stick with your health and fitness resolutions. Portion size, frequency and quality are key.

Real resolutions for real results One of the biggest obstacles for staying on track and achieving your resolutions is setting realistic goals that focus on long-term health and fitness results. Short-term goals of losing a certain amount of weight in only a few days or weeks is not only potentially dangerous, but can set you into a vicious start-stop workout cycle. Instead, break out your longterm fitness goals into short-range achievements that you can realistically accomplish. This approach will leave you feeling motivated and focused as you progress toward your ultimate fitness goals. People generally set unrealistic goals. So when they don’t achieve losing 100 pounds in six months, for example, they feel like a failure. Try to be realistic, taking into account the time you have available, work and family commitments and how committed you are to sticking to the nutrition side of the program.

Fitness on the road and at home Summer is a great time to take a break with a relaxing vacation, but that doesn’t mean you should vacate from a consistent exercise program. Do at least 30 minutes of exercise every day. The 30-minute sessions should include aerobic exercise to work the heart and lungs, as well as resistance exercises on alternate days to strengthen your core, tighten your stability and improve balance. If you’re unable to commit to a full 30 minutes, break it up into 10-minute sessions throughout your busy day. In a short 10 minutes, you can do pushups, squats and some walking lunges. No matter where you are on vacation, have a resistance band in your suitcase and either walk or run. On alternate days, do bodyweight exercises for 30 minutes, which is really not much time taken out of your day. Most resorts have posh fitness facilities and great staffs; check it out.

Recommit to your resolutions this summer

B L A K E & G W E N B E C KO M

FITNESS Do you make health and fitness resolutions to start out the New Year, but end up abandoning them before the first summer heat wave? Are you having a difficult time living a healthy and fit lifestyle this summer with the lure of outdoor barbecues and poolside parties? Have no fear: resolutions aren’t just for the start of the year any more. Now that you have hit the midpoint of the year, July is the perfect time to realign your health and

GAY SAN DIEGO July 12–25, 2013 Find what you love If you are struggling with taking the first step to an active lifestyle, start out simple by finding an active outlet that you enjoy doing. If you can grab a partner in fitness to share the experience, that’s even better. By reaching out to others who may be struggling with committing to a healthier lifestyle, you not only will support each other, but also enjoy working out together. The task is less daunting and a lot more enjoyable.

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Working out can be a chore unless you find something you enjoy doing. If you love dancing, try Zumba fitness. If you like walking, try progressing to jogging. There are no rules. —Blake and Gwen Beckcom own Fitness Together Mission Hills, offering personal training by regular appointment in private suites. Call 619-794-0014 for more information or to schedule a free assessment session.t


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