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Volume 6 Issue 14 July 10 – 23, 2015

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Keeping abreast of cancer


New Hillcrest breast cancer clinic opens

By Rick Cervantes A deserved thanks


These eyes


Summer poppin'


I recently celebrated 100 days of taking PrEP (Pre-Exposure Prophylaxis), the once-daily pill that prevents transmission of HIV, and what a learning experience it has been. Just a few of the things I’ve learned include the importance of taking care of myself, how to have sex without shame, and the deep-rooted fears and stigma that so many of us have surrounding gay sex — and sex in general. Since the beginning of the AIDS epidemic, education and messaging about the virus has mostly been focused on fear: scaring people into being safe or not having sex in order to prevent transmission of HIV. Because HIV and AIDS had such a devastating and fatal impact in its early years, most of us are literally scared to death of it. So much has changed today — with advances in both prevention and treatment — but it’s hard to kick that deep-rooted fear. When I talk to people about PrEP — also known by its brand name Truvada — I typically get one of three reactions: those who are proud of me and want to learn more so they can possibly start taking it; those who have never heard of it, but are amazed that there is now a pill that can prevent HIV transmission; and

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Local activist Rick Cervantes proudly shows off his prescription bottle of Truvada on the steps of the San Diego LGBT Community Center, where he works. (Photo by Ben Cartwright) those who feel they need to remind me that I should use still condoms along with PrEP and say that we’re likely going to see a resurgence of STDs because of the drug. Those who fall into that last category are the ones who are, understandably, harboring the most fear. They’ve grown up in or lived through a time of hopelessness, when condoms seemed to be the only hope for saving one’s life, and now the shift of that dialogue to other options is scary. Let me make one thing clear: Neither I, nor anyone I am involved with, is saying not to use condoms. In fact, using condoms and PrEP

together is a great thing. What I am saying is that each person needs to take their health into their own hands. If, along with their doctor, they decide PrEP is the right choice for them, that choice should be available without anyone else dictating to them what the “right way” of protecting themselves should be. Sex should be something that is fun, not feared or shamed. The gay community has been especially shamed about sex for decades – from those who think what we do in bed is immoral, to those who

see PrEP, pg 2

Tribute to Elton John to close Pride He’ll be breaking our hearts Morgan M. Hurley | Editor

Rockin’ sandwiches

By Delle Willett

Die-hard Elton John fans have a real treat in store this Pride weekend. Not the fans who’ve only known John since the “Lion King’s” Broadway debut (although those fans would enjoy this, too), but more specifically, the fans who have followed him since he first touched down in America in 1970 and catapulted himself up the charts and to fame. “Kenny Metcalf as Elton” and The Early Years Band is a professional tribute band that perfectly captures not only that original voice, but the charismatic stage presence, thrilling performances and

outrageous costumes of the musical genius throughout the height of his long and storied career. Their “Vegas-style” production is so technically accurate and engrossing, you’ll think you are at a real show. I know; I’ve seen them — and Elton John — perform a half-dozen times each. “The tribute show is a technical show and not a classic rock band playing Elton’s material,” Metcalf said. Metcalf’s costumes alone are worth your time. He has had at least a dozen of Elton John’s most famous costumes meticulously recreated — often applying the rhinestones himself — including the infamous blinged-out Los Angeles Dodgers uniform John wore for a series of

see Elton Tribute, pg 9

“Kenny Metcalf as Elton” on stage in Phoenix on Fourth of July (Photo by Gunner Kal Rocktography)

Access to comprehensive breast health services just got easier and more accessible for lesbian and bisexual women of central San Diego neighborhoods, including Hillcrest, Mission Hills, Downtown, Bankers Hill, City Heights, North Park, Normal Heights, Mission Valley and Point Loma. Scripps Mercy O’Toole Breast Care Center, a $5.3 million facility, opened June 3 on the campus of Scripps Mercy Hospital San Diego in the Scripps Medical Building located at 550 Washington St. The center is a short walking distance to Scripps Mercy Hospital on Fifth Avenue and is conveniently located in the same building as the Scripps Mercy Surgery Pavilion. Its centralized location allows for more same-day scheduling of ser vices to patients, hospital officials say. The multidisciplinary center offers comprehensive breast health services in a convenient and comforting environment, with sophisticated screening and diagnostic mammography services. It replaces a temporary facility that opened last year near Scripps Mercy Hospital. “Because all required studies and procedures are available at the Scripps Mercy Hospital campus, there is no need for our breast-care patients to travel elsewhere for imaging services and needle localizations,” said Paul Goldfarb, M.D., chair of the Scripps Breast Cancer Task Force. “The goal of providing comprehensive services in one place is to help women navigate all phases of care, from screening to diagnosis, treatment, recovery and survivorship in a warm, comfortable environment,” he said. Though many major healthcare providers in San Diego have breastcare centers, Scripps not only offers “patient navigators” — nurses who give individual, personalized attention to their patients — but they are also known to be champions of equality.

see Breast Cancer, pg 4


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think our personal sexual lives make us “sluts,” to those who fear us because of the HIV risk factor. It doesn’t need to be this way. I’ll never forget a great column my good friend (and Gay San Diego contributor) Benny Cartwright wrote nearly five years ago about the fear and stigma that he lived with for most of his early adult life. Growing up in the 1990s, Benny was made to believe that his fate as a gay man would be to eventually contract HIV and one day die of AIDS. He wrote about having his first sexual experience at 15 but not getting his first HIV test until he was 25. Every time he had sex, he felt as if he had contracted something and would just live through this fear cycle. Benny, who leads The Center’s #BeTheGeneration (to end HIV) campaign, which I’ll discuss further in a moment, is very open about the fact that even today, HIV testing continues to scare him each time. As much as he knows about the virus, the treatment options and prevention measures — he’s even a certified HIV test counselor — the deep-seated fear is hard to kick. And that is one of the main reasons I’m writing this. I get private messages, texts and calls from friends and others who have seen me post about PrEP on Facebook, asking for more information. They are too afraid to ask their doctors or don’t know how to ask, and are full of fear and misinformation about the drug — often perpetuated by people’s own internal sex-shaming, fear and homophobia. I love sharing with the people who ask me about PrEP about all the great benefits it has had for me, especially — which I think is the best one — re-learning to have sex. I used to fear sex. Every. Single. Time. Sure, it was hot most of the time and I had fun with it, but it was always followed by fear, “what ifs,” and some shame. Now, I’m equipped with the tools to protect me — even if there is a slip up — and I just don’t have to worry anymore. Because I’ve taken the time to educate myself and speak regularly to my doctor, I also have a much greater understanding of how HIV is transmitted and can use harm reduction techniques to protect myself. PrEP has really given me power — power over the fear that had been instilled in me for so long. I thought a lot about this article and whether to spend time giving facts and figures about PrEP; Instead I encourage everyone to visit the San Diego LGBT Community Center’s #BeTheGeneration page, which talks a lot about the resources available and the work we do. There’s even a list of PrEP-friendly doctors and other HIV resources. Visit for more information. It can be incredibly helpful to hear from someone who’s been through an experience, so I’m going to tell you exactly how it was for me. In February, I thought long and hard about whether or not I wanted to go on PrEP. Do I really want to take a pill every day? Do I want to see a doctor every three months? And my own fears kicked in — what if it doesn’t work? I made an appointment with a doctor at Sharp, we talked about it honestly and I was sold. I had to get some initial bloodwork done, of course an HIV test, and some other general health tests. My test came back negative that same day and the doctor wrote a prescription for Truvada. My prescription was ready later that day, and the next morning I was taking my first pill. I’ve taken one pill every day since then — now over 100 days — and I’m so glad I made that choice. Sure, it was a little hard at first. After the first couple of days, when the medicine started to settle into my body, I didn’t feel so good. I had some mild nausea and decided to take a couple of days off work to let the symptoms subside — which they did after three days. I’ve never had another side effect since then and I’ve taken other medications in my life that were a lot more common than Truvada and had much worse side effects. I’ve proudly posted about taking PrEP on my personal social media and many other online groups related to PrEP and HIV, and, as I mentioned earlier, it’s really caught people’s attention. Working with the #BeTheGeneration campaign, we’ve really made an impact, and I hope more and more people continue to reach out to me, Benny and others at The Center to ask questions. We want people to know about the options available to them, and we want to help people stop being so fearful and put an end to the stigma and shaming. I know that being on PrEP has made feel more confident and healthier and has given me a better outlook on sex and I want you to be able feel this freedom too. Please don’t hesitate to contact me or anyone else at The Center’s #BeTheGeneration campaign, for more information or just to talk. Together, we can end new transmissions of HIV! —Rick Cervantes is the social media coordinator at The San Diego LGBT Community Center and active in its #BeTheGeneration campaign. Reach him at 619-692-2077 ext. 220 or follow his journey on Twitter @mistercervantes.t

Social media coordinator Rick Cervantes uses his skills for all the right things; work, play and advocacy. In early March he looked noticeably pensive as he prepared to start sharing his journey with PrEP with his followers. (Courtesy Rick Cervantes)

On his 47th day, Cervantes is nearly halfway through his first 100 days. (Courtesy Rick Cervantes)

Cervantes on his way to LA Pride to promote #BeTheGeneration identifies to followers that is his 100th day of taking the HIV-prevention pill. Follow him on Twitter @mistercervantes (Courtesy Rick Cervantes)


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San Diego PRIDE board of directors, staff and volunteers, STAND UP and be recognized! On behalf of the entire staff of Gay San Diego, we wish to thank each and every one of them for their tireless efforts and hard work all year long to bring the 41st annual San Diego LGBT Pride Parade and Music Festival, this year themed, “Justice and Liberty to All,” to fruition.

Some of San Diego Pride’s dedicated staff and volunteers: (l to r) Fernando Lopez (director of operations), Sarah Aldridge, Sarafina Scapicchio, Jesus Sanchez, Gardenia Partridge, Tomas Serrano, Stephen Whitburn (seated, executive director)

San Diego

• • July 17 – 19

Vancouver, B.C., Canada

• • Aug. 2

Reno, NV

• • Aug. 15

Chula Vista

• • Sept. 12

Gay Days Vegas • • Sept. 10 – 14

Las Vegas, NV

• • Sept. 18 – 19


• northcountypride. com • Oct. 10

Palm Springs • • Nov. 7 – 8

We hope to see everyone at the Stonewall Rally at the Stonewall Main Stage, Friday, July 17, at 6 p.m., for the and the Spirit of Stonewall Awards ceremony with keynote speaker, Toni G. Atkins, Speaker of the California Assembly.

With over 200 volunteers helping out at each year’s event, SD Pride recently honored the following people with volunteer of the year awards: Gary Carver, Kimberly Correa, Shannon Drosdak, Gardenia Partridge, Jennifer Restle, Chad Ryan, Karen Stone, Jose Turavena, Angela Van Ostran, Johnny Vigil, Christopher Villa. They honored five more from their Pride 365! program, for their year-round commitment: Heather Reynolds, Elizabeth Hannon, Connor Maddocks and Callum Strode.

San Diego Pride’s 2015 board members are (l to r): Blue Montana, Steven Kilgore, Jaime Carrillo, Zach Schlagel, Phyllis Jackson, Jeri Dilno (emeritus), Nenette Agulto, Susan Jester, Bianca Burt (co-chair), Brett Granfield, Romer De Los Santos (co-chair). Not pictured: Joe Mayer (emeritus), Debra McEntee (emeritus), Doug Moore (emeritus), Judi Schaim (emeritus), and Matt Verdeflo.



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BREASTCANCER In October 2014, Scripps was recognized for healthcare equality for LGBT patients in an annual sur vey conducted by the HRC Foundation, an educational arm of the Human Rights Campaign, the countr y’s largest lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender advocacy organization. In fact, for the last three years in a row, Scripps has earned top marks for its commitment to equitable, inclusive care for LBGT patients and their families, while fostering a culturally inclusive workplace. The O’Toole Breast Care Center — named after lead donor, the Theresa and Edward O’Toole Foundation — features an array

of specialized medical rooms, an elegant lobby with comfortable seating, three changing rooms and a patient-friendly, well-stocked resource center, with a computer, educational materials and breast-care treatment-related items such as wigs, knitted hats and chemo caps. “We are grateful to the Theresa and Edward O’Toole Foundation and the Menard Family Foundation for supporting the expansion of breast care services in the communities that we serve,” said William Stanton, M.D., medical oncologist and medical director of the Scripps Cancer Center at Scripps Mercy Hospital’s San Diego campus. “We thank them for giving Scripps the opportunity to build a state-of-theart center where our experienced and compassionate medical staff can provide patient care using the most advanced technologies.”

The O’Toole Breast Care Center is centrally located in Hillcrest on Washington Street. (Photo by Delle Willett) The 3,612-square-foot facility has several specialized rooms for services such as: Mammography, including breast tomosynthesis, which uses three-dimensional digital imag-

ing to provide higher diagnostic pointments and ensure you underaccuracy stand all aspects of your care.” Dexa scans (for bone density The O’Toole Breast Care Cenmeasuring) ter is one of three Scripps Health Gynecologic and obstetric comprehensive breast care centers imaging in San Diego County. It is accredPre-surgery needle localization ited by the American College of using mammography, stereotacticRadiology and is listed as a Hologic guided or ultrasound-guided Pink Ribbon facility, a designation procedure for exact needle placement The center is staffed by two radiologists, two mammography technologists, one ultrasound technologist and has clerical support. “Our radiologists have decades of experience and can help determine whether a lump is a passing concern or a serious issue,” said Maya Borso, M.D., co-director of women’s imaging services at the center. “Throughout the process, our entire team will be there to answer questions and explain the next steps.” Nurse navigator Phung “Kimi” Nguyen in Though lesbians and bisexuals have been less likely to get O’Toole’s resource center. (Photo by Delle Willett) pregnant and carry a child to term — something often identified for imaging centers that provide as a low-risk factor —this trend is excellent breast care and support changing as marriage equality laws for women in their communities. have passed across the nation. UC San Francisco is launching “There is nothing specific a LGBTQ health study in early about [being a lesbian] that would 2016 called PRIDE, which stands cause and increase their breast for, “Population Research in Idencancer risk,” says Susan Love, tity and Disparities” for equality, to M.D., the lesbian founder of the Dr. examine how their sexual orientaSusan Love Research Foundation. tion affects their health. “However, many of the classic risk They plan to collect basic factors for breast cancer are more information about disease risk common in lesbians.” factors, like smoking, wellness Some of those “classic risk facactivities and stress levels. tors” are smoking and drinking ex“LGBTQ people continue cessively, factors some researchers to face significant health issues say are linked to behaviors associstemming from discrimination, ated with the stress of dealing with stigma, and a lack of information discrimination and homophobia about how our identities affect our “Lesbians are less likely to have health,” said PRIDE study co-direchealth insurance, less likely to get tor Mitchell Lunn said in a statescreened for fear of culturally incomment. “We hope this study, which petent healthcare providers, and will be designed with significant butch women may have an especially input from the LGBTQ community difficult time paying attention to their itself, will change all that.” breasts,” said Liz Margolis, founder Scripps-affiliated physicians and executive director of The comprise half the region’s physiNational LGBT Cancer Network, the cian membership in the American nation’s first program addressing the Society of Breast Surgeons. Scripps risks and cancer needs of the LGBT Health is a nationally recognized community. “Until we can bring leader in cancer care, providing our whole selves into treatment, we comprehensive services at its five either lie about who we are, or we hospital campuses and various leave the doctor’s office and don’t Scripps Clinic locations. Scripps come back.” Cancer Care physicians and staff With statistics often somewhat work collaboratively toward cancer conflicting as to whether lesbians prevention, early detection, coorand bisexual women are more dinated treatment and community or less at risk for breast cancer, support services. having a caring staff that you can More information about Scripps be open and honest with to answer and its cancer programs, visit questions is key. To learn O’Toole’s nurse navigator more about the O’Toole Breast Phung “Kimi” Nguyen provides Care Center, visit individual assistance to the center’s locations/specialty-centers_Otoolepatients. A registered nurse since breast-care-center. For a referral 1999, Nguyen has 10 years of expeto a Scripps cancer specialist, call rience performing clinical breast 858-207-3282. exams, involvement in the screening mammogram process, and —Delle Willett has been a assisting in patient care navigation. marketing and public relations “Through every step of your professional for over 30 years, with care, I am there for you,” she said. an emphasis on conservation of the “I will answer questions, describe environment. She can be reached at procedures, coordinate your


Start your Pride celebration early South Bay Alliance Dae Elliott Support South Bay Pride and keep it free while enjoying Sister Amanda Reckonwith and Sister Ida Know as they host this fantastic fundraiser dinner event at Center Cut Steakhouse by Gourmet San Diego, 534 Broadway, Chula Vista this Sunday, July 12 from 5 – 8 p.m. Musical entertainment is by our very own “The Social Animal.” A tax-deductible donation of $20 per person comes with a free sangria and appetizers while supplies last, so come early! While you are there, enjoy a great gourmet dinner (not covered in your ticket price) by Chef Ramon. Center Cut Steakhouse has amazing food that you will have you coming back for more! Chef Ramon and Rebeca have also generously offered to donate a portion of the proceeds to South Bay Pride, so visit our site at SouthBayPride. org to get your advance ticket or pay at the door. Just 10 minutes south of Downtown off of Interstate 5, take the H Street exit and head east a couple of blocks. It is just before the Chula Vista mall. A silent auction will also be held with great prizes including VIP box seat tickets for the Incubus concert on Aug. 30 at the Sleep Train Amphitheatre in Chula Vista. In addition, Imperial Court de San Diego and South Bay Pride are happy to announce that we are having our very first “Mr., Miss, and Ms. Gay Pride of South Bay” contest during this year’s South Bay Pride. The competition will be held between noon and 1:30 p.m. on the Port of San Diego live stage. Our judges will select our own official Imperial Court representatives from the contestants. If you would like to nominate someone or apply to compete, please fill out the form on our website. You need to live south of state Route 94 in San Diego County to be eligible. This includes south San Diego, Spring Valley, Coronado, Bonita, National City, Chula Vista, San Ysidro, and Imperial Beach. Come one, come all! We would also like to thank San Diego County and particularly Greg Cox for their generous support through the Community Reinvestment Program Grant in

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recognition of our leadership in promoting the South Bay LGBT community and the Chula Vista Harbor for future investment on the waterfront. We are extremely excited about being part of this development of South Bay and hope all of you come down in September to see for yourselves the amazing jewel of Bayside Park with its beach, gorgeous scenery and amazing access to our beautiful bay. And of course, happy San Diego Pride. It has been over 40 years since a small group of marchers made the first San Diego Pride parade. Much has changed in that time. We can celebrate that we have changed society for the better because we were willing to stick it out for the long haul even through the darkest of defeats. This will be a Pride march like no other. Enjoy your San Diego Pride weekend, come by and see us at our booth at the festival. Then, come out again on Sept. 12 at South Bay Pride Art & Music Festival at Bayside Park in Chula Vista. Let’s keep the momentum going towards justice and equality. We can, and we will do it! — Dae Elliott is a founding executive committee member and the current executive director of South Bay Alliance, a 501(c)3 nonprofit and organizer of the annual South Bay Pride Art & Music Festival. Contact her at southbayalliance@

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Reinventing marriage Life Beyond Therapy Michael Kimmel Now, no matter what state we live in, move to, or visit, our same-sex marriages are legal. Hooray! This has been a long time coming. As a therapist and someone who has conducted numerous workshops on same-sex relationships in the past few years, many LGBT men and women have come up to me after their particular workshop was over, pulled me over to the side, and asked, “So Michael, what do you think is really the best way to do same-sex marriage?” It almost makes me laugh; they think that I am withholding some special secret from them, like I had the “real” answer all along and was just keeping it to myself, only to be shared with my closest friends and favorite clients. The truth is that there is no “right” or “wrong” way to be married. There is only the way that works for you and your husband/wife. For example, some happily married couples have told me that monogamy would be the last thing on earth they would ever want; for others, it’s the foundation for a really wonderful relationship. When I work with couples on their relationship challenges, I like to present the concept of “create and adjust.” Often, people with control issues (I include myself here) want to keep things good and consistent. We think that change is the enemy and that it will threaten our relationship. Not so. Change is an inevitable part of marriage. You marry someone and think that you really know how she/he is and how they react in certain situations … in other words, you are certain that you know how your marriage is going to work.

And then, something happens and it shocks you. What do you do? You reinvent your marriage. In my experience, this is the best way to approach — and maintain — a happy same-sex marriage. Nothing that we create stays perfect forever: we change, the situation changes, life changes in ways we can neither predict nor control. We can adjust what we’ve created — tr y something to make it better and see if we like it — or resist the change; fight it, struggle, tr y to control the situation, and end up exhausted and defeated. From years of counseling same-sex couples — married or not — I have observed that samesex relationships are not the same as heterosexual ones. For example: Two married men may have more competition with each other as compared to straight couples. All that testosterone must have its way and power struggles are to be expected. Gay male couples may also find it harder to focus on emotional intimacy, expecting sexual intimacy to meet their emotional needs. And when their sex lives become predictable, the shit often hits the fan. Lesbian couples may find it harder to keep a rich and fulfilling sex life going, instead, focusing more on emotional bonding. There may be too much of a focus on caretaking/ nurturing and not enough on independence/self-determination, e.g., “All my friends became our friends. Now what do I do?” With same-sex marriage now legal in all 50 states, we LGBTers can break all the old rules about what marriage “should” be. That’s good (we have the chance to create something new) and yet scar y (how the hell do we pull this off?). Let me issue you an invitation: Since traditional marriage hasn’t been working so great for about 51 percent of straight folks, it’s not the best model


to blindly emulate. The good news is that we LGBT folks can reinvent it and make it more workable and flexible. This is not a challenge for the timid. While it sounds hot and trendy to talk about “reinventing” marriage, it’s not easy to question and create new forms of a cultural institution that has been around for hundreds of years. It evokes anxiety and discomfort to tr y something new, to change something that straight folks have been doing — not ver y well, admittedly — for generations. But, my sisters and brothers, we are up to the challenge. Be not afraid. The time is right and we are on the cutting edge of histor y. Let’s use samesex marriage as a laborator y for creating relationships and marriages that are dynamic, flexible and creative. We can do it. The time is now. —Michael Kimmel is a licensed psychotherapist who specializes in helping LGBT clients achieve their goals and deal with anxiety, depression, grief, sexually addictive behavior, coming out, relationship challenges and homophobia. Contact him at 619-955-3311 or visit

The San Diego LGBT Community Center offers HIV testing, prevention/PrEP information, counseling services (one on one, couples and group), HIV information and referrals, and is an enrollment site for Covered California. 619.692.2077 • 3909 Centre Street

This project is/was partially supported by the Health Resources and Services Administration (HRSA) of the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services (HHS) under H89HA00001, HIV Emergency Relief Project Grants for a contracted amount with the County of San Diego. This information or content and conclusions are those of the author and should not be construed as the official position or policy of, nor should any endorsements be inferred by HRSA, HHS, the U.S. Government or the County of San Diego.



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Gay Pride and prejudice By Jake Reynolds


Getting to marriage Let’s help our younger generation enjoy the fruits of our labors By James Clementi This year’s Pride celebration was the happiest I’ve known in my lifetime. Pride weekend kicked off with the historic announcement of the U.S. Supreme Court voting for federal marriage equality. After the decision was announced, I traveled to the Stonewall Inn where the movement began, and met up with my husband, my mom, and friends from every corner of my life. We were swept up in the crowd, and it was joyful, surreal and incredibly overwhelming. That day was the first time that I have ever felt that I, and all queer people, were fully embraced and valued by the mainstream. It felt like I was equal in the sense of being just like anyone else. In the days that followed, I have felt a tremendous amount of solidarity and support from straight family, friends and acquaintances. I have been shocked by the amount of people who have “rainbowed”

their Facebook pictures and unhesitatingly shown the world they support our community. This is a huge step for LGBT people, and in the relief and joy, it is easy to forget that the fight is not done. As a community, the LGBT people have crossed one gigantic hurdle by achieving full marriage equality. But now we need to be asking ourselves, what’s next? The fight is far from over and the danger of complacency is very real. In many ways, marriage equality is the privilege of older LGBT folk who have come out, gained the support of their families and communities, achieved success in their careers, found love and are ready to settle down. In order to make it to the point of marriage, first an LGBT person needs to make it to adulthood. LGBT youth are still thrown out of their homes by parents just for coming out (or being outed) at high rates, making up 40 percent of the homeless youth population. Sexual orientation and gender identity, real or perceived, continue to be the leading causes of bullying among youth. Bullying in the 21st century looks dramatically different than it did

15 years ago. With social media and smartphones, cyberbullying has changed the game to a brutal culture of public shaming that is available for the world to watch. Our call now as a community is to look beyond the marriage victory and take the next steps to protect our youngest and most vulnerable generation and help them make it to adulthood. Rightfully, our federal law protects against discrimination on the basis of race, color, religion, national origin, sex and disability, but there are no federal protections for discrimination on the basis of gender identity or sexual orientation. This means that LGBT youth in K – 12 schools have no protection from harassment, humiliation or bullying. The good news is that the proposed Student Non-Discrimination Act of 2015 (S.439) prohibits public schools from discriminating against any student on the basis of actual or perceived sexual orientation or gender identity. In addition, the SNDA prohibits discrimination against any student because of the actual or perceived sexual orientation or gender identity of a person with whom a student associates or has associated. Further, retaliation for lodging a complaint of discrimination is prohibited. SNDA has been introduced in the Senate and will be placed

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as an amendment to the Every Child Achieves Act (S.1177) this week ending July 11! A passing vote here will be a crucial step towards further equality for the LGBT community. This would be a victory for youth who are unable to vote for their own rights; the responsibility to advocate for and protect our young people falls on each of us. The bill has momentum and is moving forward. Let’s show the world how important this is! Contact your state Senator today and let them know how vital this legislation is. Protecting LGBT youth from harassment at school should not be a politically divisive issue. Tell your representatives to do what’s right, and make SNDA the law of the land. —James Clementi was thrust into the limelight and an activism role when his younger brother, Tyler Clementi, committed suicide after being cyber-bullied by his college roommate for being gay. His family has since launched the Tyler Clementi Foundation, an organization that seeks to address the needs of vulnerable populations, especially LGBT, and other victims of hostile environments. For more information, visit

I’m 24. I’m embarrassed to admit that when I was 23, I was still in the closet to my parents. I’m even more embarrassed to admit that I “came out” to my parents by mistake — and it had to do with a cell phone. I was living at home with them in Utah, and had saved up and bought my first iPhone — ironically the same week that Apple CEO Tim Cook came out as gay — and when my father saw it, he screamed, “How can you buy something from a company run by a faggot?!” It was like a bullet hit me and I yelled back, “Well, Dad, guess what? I’m a ‘faggot’ too!” He threw a punch at me, kicked me out of the house and announced I was dead to him. I felt dead inside and yet I was reborn: I was finally out to my father and as sad as I was, I had never felt more free. So that makes me pretty much a brand-spanking new out person. I moved from Utah to Los Angeles last year and slept on the lumpy couch of a friend from college until I could get my own apartment — and life — going. As a “hobby,” I started video blogging. My videos at first were silly ones like everyone else on YouTube makes — you know: drinking contests, challenges, stuff like that. Sure, I was gay, but my content was pretty generic. Then one day I went to a LGBT church. No, I’m not religious or even close. But a friend asked me to go with her and so I did. Afterward, the minister said that he’d seen my videos (!) and wondered why I didn’t do any “gaythemed” videos about marriage equality and equal rights. I told him I wasn’t political. “That’s not political,” he said. “That’s part of your heritage. Go home and study your history.” And so I did. I went to the library (okay: Wikipedia). I learned about the Stonewall riots, when a bunch of homosexuals in a New York bar that had been raided said "enough is enough" and fought back, which many people feel was the start of the gay rights movement. In the ’80s, AIDS activism reared its head and touched people’s hearts; and while other Americans were demonstrating against the military, gays and lesbians were fighting to get into the military; all leading up to struggle for marriage equality. Even before the Supreme Court’s marriage equality ruling, my videos changed. I started getting a social conscience, in small doses, and always ironically, making videos that, I hoped, were both thoughtful, but funny. I even started interviewing gay leaders, and did a series on transgender teenagers. I covered the LA Pride parade.

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Matt Bomer:

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Openly gay father of three Matt Bomer (left) — seen at right with costar Channing Tatum who joined Bomer on a float through WeHo during LA Pride last month — has a bigger role in the sequel “Magic Mike XXL,” released July 1. The movies celebrate the lives of male strippers. (Courtesy Warner Bros)

The “Magic Mike” star on telling his kids he’s in a stripper movie, Channing flattery and indecent gyrations By Chris Azzopardi | Q Syndicate Matt Bomer is not buying all the buzz about Matt Bomer. Channeling his trademark charm, the actor calls it “sheer fallacy” that anyone — let alone heterosexual men — could possibly find his piercing baby-blue eyes swoon-worthy. And then there’s his body. On display in all its near-nakedness in “Magic Mike XXL,” Bomer is modest about his sculpted physique. You expect it, of course. The 37-year-old dreamboat — just ask Channing Tatum — was born in Missouri and raised in Texas, and he hasn’t strayed from his humble Southern roots despite scorching screen after screen. Not just with a striptease, either.

His Golden Globe-winning performance as Felix Turner in HBO’s powerful adaptation of Larry Kramer’s 1985 play “The Normal Heart” was a tear-jerking tour de force. And soon, Bomer will bring the spooks, starring alongside Lady Gaga during the upcoming “American Horror Story: Hotel,” another collaboration with Ryan Murphy (both worked together previously on “Glee” and “The New Normal”). We talked to Bomer about geeking out to Gaga, explaining “Magic Mike” to his sons and how Channing Tatum made him blush. (Chris Azzopardi | CA) You and your “Magic Mike” co-star Channing Tatum recently made a surprise appearance at LA Pride. As a gay man yourself, what was it like having Channing show his support for you and the rest of the LGBT community? (Matt Bomer | MB) It’s one of the many things that makes him the magnanimous, amazing, cherished soul that he is. It was his idea, to be honest with you. And he didn’t have to do it. The reality of

the situation is, it wasn’t some PR move on his part — he wanted to be inclusive, and that’s a big part of who he is as a human being. So, given the opportunity to work with him, and really everybody in this cast — they’re just a great example of what we all can be, which are people who are secure in themselves, and loving and accepting of people no matter who they are and where they come from. (CA) Channing was very complimentary toward you in his recent Reddit AMA interview. He said he “absofuckinglutely” gets lost in your eyes, and that “I don’t know what they are made of outside of dreams and rainbows and amazingness …” How did you react when you learned of his enthusiasm for you? (MB) [Laughs] I mean, obviously, I blushed. Knowing Channing, and what a kind soul he is, I guess when you’re the most handsome man on the planet — and probably the most desired man on the planet — you have the security to give those kinds of

compliments. And so, it was great. It made my day, of course! I, and the rest of the world, feel the same way about him. (CA) Your eyes get a lot of attention from a lot of people. Have they always stopped traffic? (MB) I don’t think they do! I think that’s sheer fallacy and kindness on the part of others. [Laughs] No — I’m still just trying to wake up in the morning with the kids, so I don’t really have time to think about that. More like, “Do I look like I got five hours of sleep last night?!” (CA) So there’s a gay bar scene in “Magic Mike XXL.” (MB) How great is that, to have a gay bar scene with a full-on drag show and some of the best voguers in the world? I mean, it was like a little vogue ball going on. (CA) Did you shoot at a real gay bar? (MB) I’m not sure, to be honest with you. They sure made the location feel like it! I didn’t ask; you

roll up on set and that’s where you are that day. I wasn’t like, “Guys, is this a legit gay bar?!” The set-dec team on this movie is so gifted, so everywhere you go you just think, “Oh, this is what it is!” (CA) It’s good to see you have more lines in “XXL.” (MB) Well, that wouldn’t be hard. I would only have had to say, like, two or three words to have more lines than I had in the first one. [Laughs] (CA) And the singing! You get to cover D’Angelo’s “Untitled (How Does It Feel).” (MB) Oh my god. I mean, that was the best white man’s attempt I could make at that song. I just tried to stay in the game, man. I mean, that vocal and that song — I couldn’t believe we were even trying to touch it. (CA) Were you intimidated? (MB) Of course! The whole thing was Channing’s idea. We did the first movie on a tiny budget, and we entertained the extras between takes. One time he just threw them right in front of my face and was like, “Do something entertaining.” That’s the creative, spontaneous soul that Channing is, and Joe (Manganiello) have known me since we were 18 and so (Joe) was like, “You should sing something!” And I was like, “What do I sing?” Channing was like, “I don’t know — sing some Jodeci.” And so I did! He remembered that for the second movie. He was like, “Why don’t you sing something? What song would you sing?” I was like, “Obviously the sexiest song of all time is ‘How Does It Feel’ by D’Angelo, but I’m not gonna touch that song.” He was like, “Why don’t you give it a try?” So I basically recorded a vocal over a karaoke track, more or less — I ended up singing it live in the movie — but that recording is basically what we used to choreograph the piece and what we based the eventual performance on. (CA) What do you remember thinking the first time you saw D’Angelo bare almost all during the “Untitled” video? (MB) Honestly, I got “Voodoo” as soon as it came out [in 2000], and I remember hearing that song

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ELTONTRIBUTE shows at the stadium in 1975; his white sparkle and feathers costume; his Caribou cover costume and even his Captain Fantastic costume, which was immaculately recreated down to the very last detail. He even wears frames hand-designed by the man who designed John’s signature eyewear. Costumes and appearance aren’t all that this band is about; they are the real deal. Metcalf, a lifelong musician who once toured with Christian rock band Stryper, has inhabited the sound of Elton John’s voice before all the throat surgeries changed its tone — and the band recreates every song, perfect, every time. “We really strive to perform these as close as we can to how Elton played them, and I continually practice his vocal tones and delivery to continue to improve inflections that are his key voice signatures,” Metcalf said. “If not … my voice can slip out and sing it sloppy, and I don’t want Kenny Metcalf to be heard … I want Elton John to be heard, and that is when it is a real tribute to him and his fans.” The Early Years band is Rolly DeVore, who plays Nigel Olsson (Elton John’s longtime drummer), with Dan LeVeille as Dee Murray on bass and Larry Hampton as Davey Johnstone, playing lead guitar. The band also includes three back-up singers; Sharlene Griffith and Desire d’amani — Metcalf’s adult daughters — and his sister-in-law, Stephanie Brignoni. Two and a half years ago Metcalf received the phone call of

a lifetime; Mark Cuban and Ryan Seacrest were searching for tribute bands for the first season of “The World’s Greatest Tribute Bands,” a new show on their AXS cable TV channel hosted by Katie Daryl. Daryl had found videos of Metcalf and The Early Years Band on YouTube and signed them. The first season gave Metcalf and his band an hourlong live-to-broadcast show that was seen by a national audience of 39 million viewers. They returned last year with a Billy Joel tribute for season two and played a live 90-minute set for 50 million viewers. “Having their backing really changed things up for us,” he said. “It took us from a Southern California tribute band to one that is always on the road playing shows all across the country.” Case in point, Fourth of July weekend saw them play in Upstate New York on Friday, Phoenix on Saturday and on Sunday, July 5, they closed out the Del Mar Fair. But it hasn’t always been wine and roses for the man who dedicates his life paying tribute to one of the biggest names in the history of the music business. Eleven years ago Metcalf contracted a deadly autoimmune disease called Pemphigus vulgarus that causes horrible sores and wounds on the surface of the skin, both inside and outside the body. There is no known cure and it is generally fatal; he lost the use of his voice and even drinking water was like swallowing broken glass. Within two years he said he was at death’s door. However, since finding his calling as “Elton” six years ago, his body and his voice have become stronger and stronger and this spring, his doctors took him off medication and told him he is cured.

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Metcalf shown with drummer Rolly DeVore at Whittier Center Stage Theatre in June (Photo by Sal Gomez) “The doctors say my turnaround was a miracle and they had nothing to do with it,” Metcalf said. “But they have been working with me for the last nine years helping me get stronger.” Someone is keeping him here to share Elton John’s music, that’s for sure. In the meantime, he’s got his sights set on closing out our music festival. “We’re really excited to be coming to play San Diego Pride,” Metcalf said. “We’ve been trying to get to that stage for years.” “Kenny Metcalf as Elton” and The Early Years Band will close out the San Diego Pride Music Festival on the Stonewall Main Stage at Marston Point in Balboa Park, Sunday, July 19 at 6 p.m. —Morgan M. Hurley can be reached at

(l to r) Metcalf in his Caribou costume, Larry Hampton playing lead guitar as Davey Johnstone and Dan LeVeille as bassist Dee Murray on stage in Whittier, California (Photo by Sal Gomez)




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Rebecca Taichman’s Old Globe production of “Twelfth Night” has got music, color, romance and sex the many mysteries of attraction and appeal. And it’s got wit and language mistaken identity. by William Shakespeare, most of it The senses are continually well spoken and well executed. assailed by beauty and animal attracFor innovation, a river runs tion: for instance, Orsino’s bare chest across the stage, roses and rose petand chains, his musculature and his als play a huge role, as do mistaken growing attraction to Cesario/Viola, identities, swordplay and ravishbeautifully demonstrated when she ingly beautiful costumes. emerges as the woman she is. Taichman impressed local In her growing love for Cesario, audiences last season with J.B. Topham’s Olivia is as valley girl and Priestly’s era-spanning, vacant as they come, giving complicated “Time new dimension to the role. and the Conways.” Clad in outrageously funny Her production of trousers, Kerr’s Aguecheek “Twelfth Night” is no is the most inept ever less fascinating in its (Taichman’s staging of the application of all the duel between Aguecheek above and its piquant and Cesario is among the casting. Perhaps the funniest I’ve ever seen, due plot is not crystal clear in part to Kerr’s superb to an unseasoned Barphysical comedy). dophile, but we’ll leave The über-talented Felthat to their pending ciano quite steals the show discussion; meanwhile, with his Feste, who sings, those who prepare in strums and plays the violin advance are rewarded and shows his character far bounteously, especially superior in intellect and wit those with eyes to see, to all the others. Try as she ears to hear and a pasmight, Wesley’s Viola/Cesion for poetry. sario pales in comparison to The mistaken identithe rest, a common problem. ties are caused by a set The upstage water of twins, Viola (Rutina element (scenic designer Wesley) and Sebasis Ricardo Hernandez) and tian (Leroy McClain), the immense roses are who are separated in quite captivating, adding to a shipwreck off the the splendor of an outdoor Rutina Wesley as Viola and Terence Archie as Orsino (seated) coast of the fictional evening (June 27) in which with Manoel Felciano as Feste in The Old Globe's 2015 Summer Illyria. Each thinks the “the rain [that] raineth Shakespeare Festival production of “Twelfth Night.” (Photo by Jim Cox) every day” rained only at other dead. Disguised as the lad Cesario, Viola the end of the show. enters service in the household in Orsino’s stead; Viola’s love for Christopher Akerlind provides of Duke Orsino (Terence Archie), Orsino, which is made impossible lighting design; Todd Almond, origiwho would woo the local countbecause he believes her a lad; nal music; and Acme Sound Design, ess, an heiress named Olivia (Sara Olivia’s love for Cesario (“he” tries the unobtrusive microphones that Topham). Though she entertains to tell her it’s impossible, but she make it all audible. Chase Brock is a household stocked with visiting keeps blooming in her passionchoreographer and George Ye, the relatives and potential wooers, Olivia ate reawakening, evidenced by fight director. is still in mourning for her late father David Israel Reynoso’s gorgeous and brother, and intends to remain costumes); and the plot hatched by —Charlene Baldridge has been without the company of suitors for Maria, Sir Toby and Aguecheek to writing about the arts since 1979. seven years. bring down Malvolio. You can follow her blog at charPrincipal among Olivia’s guests All comes out right with the reap- or reach her at are her wastrel but entertaining pearance of Sebastian, who solves

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Summer Pops! A season for the gays Morgan M. Hurley | Editor The 2015 Ashford University Summer Pops season kicked off last weekend along the water at the Embarcadero Marina South, and it promises to offer audiences a reason to keep coming back often through Labor Day. Matthew Garbutt returns as the principal conductor and will take the reins most of the season except for a few special performances. Films take center stage this year — literally, on a giant screen positioned above the orchestra. The excitement starts with this weekend’s offering — meant to entice Comic-Con fans — the latest in the Star Trek franchise, 2013’s “Star Trek: Into Darkness” with music from its award-winning composer Michael Giacchino (July 11). “The magic of this performance is that the score will be played by the San Diego Symphony live on stage — and perfectly timed to the action that the audience is watching on the big screen,” said Stephen Kougias, director of public relations for the San Diego Symphony. “Hooray for Hollywood” (July 31, Aug 1) will tip its hat at songs and clips from some of tinsel town’s best films, such as “Psycho,” “James Bond” and “Star Wars.” Other films include the return of the alluring Captain Jack, this time in “Pirates of the Caribbean: Dead Man’s Chest” (Aug. 9). The soundtrack, drama and excitement will all be there, the only thing missing is the musical score, and Kougias said “Star Trek: Into Darkness” show is one not to miss. “It’s a concert-going experience, a movie experience and a theatrical experience, as the conductor leads the orchestra through this wonderful presentation,” he continued. “We have found that the audience loves it — this journey, this ride, this wonderful night at the Summer Pops.” Giacchino began his long and storied award-winning career scoring video games. He won awards for scores he wrote for “Lost” and an Academy Award for Best Original Score for “Up.” He most recently composed for “Jurassic World.” “The composer’s job, regardless of the platform, is to support the story emotionally,” Giacchino told San Diego Community News Network. “Once I receive the film, I watch it and then see how it hits me emotionally, what feels tense, what is sad, where does it take me. For ‘Star Trek: Into Darkness,’ it was quite fun because I was given such a fantastic villain to write for played by the great actor Benedict Cumberbatch [‘Imitation Game’]. “Usually a sequel is like that, you have a few of your main themes that will be reprised but something different is happening, a new character is introduced, and you get to play with that,” he continued. “‘Star Trek: Into Darkness,’ has a much darker tone than ‘Star Trek 09’, so I was able to work with those colors as well.” While in the past Pops has featured the songs of Motown on its

Views from Summer Pops' Marina Park South Embarcadero are stunning (Courtesy SD Symphony)

Michael Giacchino (right) composing alongside "Jurassic World" director Colin Trevorrow (Photo by Maria Giacchino) schedule, this year they’ve moved into the 1970s and are offering the “Divas of Disco” (July 24, 25) performed by “Radiance,” a quartet that will offer songs from gay-icons Gloria Gaynor, Donna Summer and the Pointer Sisters backed by the orchestra. Pride weekend sees Big Bad Voodoo Daddy (July 17, 18), described as “jazz and jive with a big band sound.” To celebrate the 100th birthday of “Old Blue Eyes,” the Pops is bringing Cary Huffman back for a night filled with Sinatra (Aug. 14, 15). Burt Bacharach also returns, backed by the familiar trio that brings the lyrics of his music to the stage (Aug. 16). “It’s almost like the soundtrack of your life,” Kougias said. It’s just the most incredible evening with as many Burt Bacharach songs that you can imagine.” The award-winning Bacharach is the composer of numerous Academy and Grammy Award-winning songs, such as “Walk on By,” “Say a Little Prayer,” “Raindrops Keep Falling on My Head,” and others. Broadway will also get a nod in August, with a celebration of the 50th anniversary of Rodgers and Hammerstein’s “Sound of Music” (Aug 7). “San Diego is a very vibrant arts and theater community; people are very familiar with a lot of Broadway shows,” Kougias, said. LeAnn Rimes, who headlined this year’s White Party in Palm Springs, will also return (Aug. 21, 22) and Esperanza Spalding, the 2011 “best new artist” Summer Pops entertainment starts at 7:30 p.m. throughout the season except for the nights of film, which begin at 8 p.m. to take advantage of the sunset. Grammy-winner makes her debut (Aug. 20). The seating and pricing options at Summer Pops are diverse and there is something for everyone. You can’t go wrong with any of the choices, based on your personal preferences; the Champagne section is up front and closest to the orchestra, screen

and/or artist, and includes table service; the cabaret options a little further back offer a food court; the grandstand, with its individual seats and graduated seating offer a perfect line of sight; or the lawn, where you can bring a blanket or a beach chair and enjoy an evening under the stars on the grass. The choice of a Star Trek film experience is “tailor made” for Comic-Con attendees Kougias said and year after year they spend their Saturday evening of the fourday convention on the water with Summer Pops. “I look forward to attending these concerts because the audience has a chance to see how integral the musicians are to a film,” Giacchino said. “In my job, I get to see 90 musicians play together all the time at my sessions, and to be able to share that experience with an audience is so fulfilling. You may have a giant screen for home theater viewing, but you can’t have the San Diego Symphony accompanying your films in your living room! “Also, I love to encourage the audience to be really be engaged with the film, cheering the good guys, booing the villains, totally reacting in real time,” he continued. “I think the audience will have a great time. I can’t wait to be on the Embarcadero again for a beautiful evening with the San Diego Symphony and the incredible conductor David Newman.” A meet-and-greet with Giacchino before Saturday’s film and symphony performance will be available for VIP guests and the composer will welcome the audience at the start of the show. “Over the years, the Summer Pops has become a San Diego tradition — the fun, the festivity and the tradition of it all keeps people coming back,” Kougias said. For a complete list of season performances, seating and pricing options, visit sandiegosymphony. com/summerpops. —Morgan M. Hurley can be reached at

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Some of the sandwiches that appear on stage are (l to r) the Rockin’ Joplin; the Beatlemaniac; and the Sultry Stevie. (Photos by Frank Sabatini Jr.)

Restaurant Review Frank Sabatini Jr. When Angie Bowie made a surprise visit to the Classic Rock Sandwich Shoppe in North Park, she immediately pointed to a framed picture hanging on the wall of her exhusband dressed in a glam spacesuit before exclaiming out loud, “I bought that material for him!” As described by the eatery’s owner, Cheryl Dagostaro, it was closest brush she ever had with superstar David Bowie. “A local business person told her about my place when she was in San Diego a couple years ago doing a book signing for Lipstick Legends,” Dagostaro added. “She was wearing platinum-blond pigtails and stayed here for over an hour swapping stories about David.” The small sandwich shop is unlike any other in that it doubles as a shrine to famous rockers from the ‘60s and ‘70s. Their photographs plaster the walls, extending to every frontline musician who played at the three-day Woodstock music festival in 1969. Even the cube-shaped napkin dispensers placed along the lunch counter are slotted with images of rock stars: Robert Plant, Mick Jagger, Keith Richards, and others. Also on display are original tickets to Woodstock and a vintage poster promoting the event’s musical lineup — prized rarities

that might have you humming “In-A-Gadda-Da-Vida” while devouring a “Hendrix High” turkey-ham sandwich pepped up with cranberries and wasabi mayo. “I buy from collectors as well as photographers who shot at hundreds of concerts,” said Dagostaro as she directed our attention to a glossy photo of Jethro Tull. “That one took me a long time to find,” she added. Dagostaro’s passion for classic rock dates back to the age of 12, when she became enamored by the Beatles. After living in post-festival Woodstock, New York, for a few years and then working a while as a special-ed teacher, she felt a calling to “do something related to the music industry.” Opening the sandwich shop in 2011 became the answer after realizing that managing a band or working in public relations wouldn’t be a fit. The result has been the creation of 50 sandwiches named cleverly after music legends, dead and alive. Each is sub-captioned with a lyric lifted from one of their songs. If you can’t figure out the musicians corresponding to such sandwiches as the “Almighty Allman,” the “Mystical Marvin” or the “Slickwich,” then go ask Dagostaro, as they’d say around here. She eagerly provides history lessons, going so far at times as whipping out a metal pointer to engage customers in guessing the names of musicians displayed on her walls, all of which she leaves deliberately unmarked.

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seductive charm with its pineapple-habanero sauce and “stand back 3042 North Park Way habanero mayo.” Provolone, red onions, (North Park) The sandwiches are tomatoes, sprouts and 619-692-1969 hardly an afterthought in this lettuce were also part of mini rock-and-roll hall of fame. the sexy construct, which Prices: They’re constructed with crafty maintained its sassiness to $7.25 to $9.75 ingredients and condiments, and the very last bite. se span across several categories such Dagostaro’s sandwich seas “spicy,” “vegetarian,” “bacon/ham,” lection is still growing. There are “turkey,” “chicken,” etc. 20 more in the works that will soon Visiting with another growling stomput David Bowie, Ray Charles, Lou ach, we summoned three different music Reed and other celebrated musicians legends to our mouths. Despite their decent between fresh bread. girths, we polished them off effortlessly. She’s also adding more salads to an From a choice of sliced breads supplied existing list that includes safely spiced by California Baking Company, dark multijalapeno potato salad and lusciously hot grain proved fitting for turkey, pepper jack, habanero macaroni salad sporting a creamy avocado, spinach and red onions comprising egg-mayo dressing. the “Beatlemaniac.” Raspberry-chipotle sauce In the meantime, she continues filling hiding within provided a zesty, upbeat kick, in the shop’s few empty wall spaces with making it one of the eatery’s top sellers. photos of her favorite rockers, many of The “Rockin’ Joplin” with “Bobby McGee whom she refers to with amusing, heartspread” indeed stole a piece of our hearts felt interest. as we clamped down on fresh albacore tuna “They’re my boyfriends. And even salad, mixed greens, feta cheese and good olthough they don’t know we’re dating — ive oil residing between squaw bread. Adding we’re dating.” further splendor was the emulsified spread that Dagostaro revealed is made of canola oil —Frank Sabatini Jr. is the author of and 23 spices. “Secret San Diego” (ECW Press), and began My favorite was the “Sultry Stevie” from his local writing career more than two decades the menu’s spicy section. As Stevie Nicks ago as a staffer for the former San Diego might have it, the rotisserie chicken sandTribune. You can reach him at fsabatini@ wich we ordered on wheat bread exuded a


A third San Diego location of Dark Horse Coffee Roasters is opening next month in Golden Hill, at 811 25th St., across the street from Counterpoint. The company, which sources some of its beans from Brazil, Columbia and Ethiopia, opened its first local outlet in Normal Heights in 2012 before branching into North Park. The kitchen used for making pastries and donuts will be moved from North Park to the new location. 619-344-6962.

Customers coming into BJ’s Restaurant & Brewhouse with their summer diets in mind can now indulge in several entrees that don’t exceed 795 calories. The company’s expanded “enLIGHTened” menu features such new additions as fireroasted Barbacoa chicken with feta cheese over brown rice; cherr y-chipotle salmon; a combo plate of mahi mahi and shrimp with spicy garlic over couscous; plus more. The dishes join an existing lineup of light fare that extends to breast-meat turkey burgers, chicken pita tacos and barbecue bison burgers. They’re available at all locations, including at the Hazard Center in Mission Valley. 1370 Frazee Road, 619814-6350.

A sausage fest coincides with Pride weekend. (Courtesy PlainClarity Communications)

A sausage fest celebrating San Diego LGBT Pride will be held throughout the day, July 18, at Local Habit in Hillcrest. For $5, customers will receive a choice of alligator, andouille or chicken sausages prepared by head chef Jimmy Tessier, a protégé of famed chef Emeril Lagasse. In addition, machines for making frozen daiquiris and hurricanes for $7 per drink will be running at full throttle. 3827 Fifth Ave., 619-795-4770.

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Amid the return of 124 rainbow flags gracing the Gaslamp Quarter (beginning July 12), a couple of Downtown hotspots are also honoring San Diego LGBT Pride weekend with special cocktails that will be available July 17-19. At Saltbox, bartender Carin Larson has created the One Love, which blends together Bombay Gin, lime juice, lavender bitters and prickly pear wine. Over at Jsix, bar manager Chris Burkett will introduce The Jenner, a tiki-inspired drink made with Mt. Gay Rum and pineapple, orange and lemon juices. 1047 Fifth Ave., 619-505-3003; and 616 J St., 619-531-8744, respectively. A tasting event focusing on boutique wines, cheese and chocolate will be held from 6 to 8 p.m., July 16, at Hillcrest’s newest specialty store, Vom Fass. Seating is limited to 20 guests. The cost is $25 per person. Also on the shop’s event calendar is a complimentary pairing of “brunchables” to liqueurs and sparking wines, from 10 a.m. to 1 p.m., July 19; and a tasting demonstration of summer cocktails ($15), from 6 to 8 p.m., July 23. 1050 University Ave., Suite E-103, 619534-5034.

South Park’s Rose Wine Bar + Bottle Shop has acquired the adjoining space left behind by Stone Brewing Co., which operated a tasting room there for four years. In the coming month, the wine bar will begin utilizing the additional square footage for special events, movie nights and private parties. 2219 30th St., 619-281-0718.

A special screening of the film is scheduled at Landmark Hillcrest. (Pinterest) The dramatic impact honey bees have on our food system is the focus of a critically acclaimed Swiss documentar y that will be presented by Slow Food Urban San Diego, at 7:30 p.m., July 23, at the Landmark Hillcrest Cinemas. The movie, titled “More Than Honey,” examines the challenges that honeybee colonies face in California, Europe, China and Australia. Admission is $11.50. 3965 Fifth Ave., 619-819-0236. —Frank Sabatini Jr. can be reached at fsabatini@

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OPINION And after the Supreme Court passed marriage equality a couple weeks ago, I did a video on how corporations have co-opted the “rainbow flag,” called “I Am So Over The Rainbow.” So what does Pride mean to me now that we have gay marriage? A hell of a lot more than it meant to me before I met the minister, that’s for sure. Because this win isn’t an isolated thing; it rests on the shoulders of many battles before it. And we have to remember the pioneers who went before us and how this triumph began with them. And “began” is the operative word here, because we still have a long way to go. There’s still a long list of things that need fighting against: bullying, transgender rights, hate crimes, gay teen suicides, workplace and housing discrimination. Marriage equality isn’t the end of the rainbow; it’s just a start, but it’s a big start. And just maybe things are changing a little bit. I got a call from my mother (yes, she sneaks off behind my father’s back to call me). She told me the usual tidbits about her life in Utah and there was an awkward pause. “Uh,” she said, “Your father asked me if I ever talk to you.” Pause. “And what did you tell him, Mom?” “I told him yes,” she said. My Mom had come out. “And what did he say?” I asked. “He said, ‘How is Jake?’” And how am I? “You’re good, I told him,” my mother said. See, even the most immovable can move. There is hope. Who knows — if I can actually find a date and eventually a mate, maybe my Dad will come to my wedding. He’s already said he’d like to give me away. —Jake Reynolds is a full-time videoblogger, who’s been called “the gay Jon Stewart.” His weekly vlog “Openly Jake” can be subscribed to at user/openlyme. He also appears on the weekly web series “The Spin-Offs.” He lives in a house in Los Angeles that he shares with other vloggers and drives a Prius (which he never shares).t

Local swim club celebrates a milestone Dugout Chatter Jeff Praught ‘Dif ferent Strokes’ sees 30 years in San Diego This spring marked the 30th anniversar y of the Different Strokes Swim Team (DSST), San Diego’s LGBT swim club. DSST features a membership of over 100 men and women, while hundreds of other members have participated in team events in the past. The origin of DSST dates back to 1985, when the group was formed in order to prepare for the first-ever Gay Games, held in San Francisco that year. Just two years later, San Diego had already begun hosting the International Gay and Lesbian Aquatics championships. Its members have participated in Gay Games as far away as Amsterdam (1998) and Sydney (2002), and some current DSST members will be participating in this year’s IGLA meet Aug. 5 – 8 in Stockholm, Sweden. On Sept. 12, the club will be commemorating its anniversary with a 30th anniversary swim meet, an event that also includes a Friday evening happy hour. DSST is actively recruiting new members, regardless of experience or skill level, and even offers a full month of free membership for those who join. Memberships can be as low as $40 per month, or “drop-ins” pay $10 per session to use the pool. “[We] welcome all swimmers without discrimination,” said DSST President Joe Clauson. “[When I joined] I was primarily a runner, but took some night classes to learn all strokes and

endurance. After I felt comfortable, and after several of those swimming classes, I finally took a leap to show up to a masters practice to see if I’d feel welcome.” Part of that welcoming experience is created by the practice schedule. Swimmers have an opportuni- The Different Strokes Swim Team is celebrating their 30th year in the water. Here members are ty to choose among shown at one of their annual Bart Hopple Memorial Swim meets. (Photo by Gary Karsten.) practices that are and fundraisers. on different days during a week, away from its traditional Golden The group’s charitable including weekends, and which Hill Rec Center location and up offer themes designed to cater to endeavors are highlighted by its the road a bit, to the Boys & Girls individual preferences. annual Bart Hopple Memorial Club (Ron Roberts Branch) in Weekday sessions vary Swim, a swim-a-thon designed Linda Vista. in theme: aerobic/anaerobic to raise money to assist people Six teams are vying for a workouts, individual medley, living with HIV/AIDS. DSST has summer league title, including middle-distance free (about 200 raised thousands of dollars for new sponsor Dog House Bar & yards), sprints (under 100 yards), this cause over the past 15 years. Grill. Each team consists of eight strokes, and distance (400-plus The group’s website,, players (men or women) and skill yards). The weekend practices is a treasure trove of information, levels vary across the board. are more intense. The group ranging from online registraThe group often gathers for labels them “power workouts” tion and practice schedules to a social events in sponsor bars because they are a little longer. detailed list of valuable swimming (Flicks, HBC, the Loft, Pecs, UrTraining locations include and training tips. ban MO’s) to watch college and Allied Gardens, Tierrasanta, the You can also meet members NBA games. Brian Bent Memorial Aquatics of the swim club at San Diego The fall season typically Center (BBMAC) in Coronado, Pride this year, as the group will begins in October, with more the Mission Valley YMCA, and be participating in the parade teams and a longer schedule that the Cameron Family YMCA and festivities. DSST can also be concludes in March. League fees in Santee. Practice times vary found on Facebook, Twitter, and are the lowest — per game — of depending on the day of the Instagram (@DiffStrokeSwim). any league in town. Anyone interweek and all pools are 25 yards in ested in learning more about the length; the BBMAC pool can be SD Hoops summer league league should visit set up for 50-meter swims. SD Hoops summer league or email Noah at commissioner@ DSST is a co-ed group, so men kicked off its third annual and women practice in the pools mer slate on July 1. Founded in together. Competitions, however, 1999, this basketball league for —Jeff Praught is actively are scored separately. There are LGBT athletes and their friends involved in the LGBT sports comco-ed relay teams consisting of has remained strong despite munity, having participated in two men and two women. nearly 100 percent turnover of softball, basketball, football and DSST spends time together its membership over the past depool as a player, and serving on outside of the pool as well. cade. Under the guidance of firstseveral boards in recent years. He Members organize potlucks, year Commissioner Noah Ingram, can be reached at dugoutchatter@ movie nights, birthday parties the league has changed venues,







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Happy Pride Notes from Toni | Speaker Toni G. Atkins Two weeks ago, the U.S. Supreme Court made history by ruling to legalize samesex marriage in all 50 states. It also marked the second anniversary of the U.S. Supreme Court decision to overturn Proposition 8 and the Defense of Marriage Act. The Stonewall Riots, the beginning of the modern movement for LGBT rights, started on June 28, 1969. LGBT Pride Month honors the courage, dedication and sacrifices made by members of our community to improve the lives of those without a voice. Pride Month is about celebrating how far our community has come. A Gallup poll found that 60 percent of Americans now support same-sex marriage. Transgender individuals are more prevalent in mainstream media — from depictions in shows like Orange is the New Black and Transparent to the revealing of Caitlyn Jenner in Vanity Fair — trans folks have never been as visible as they are today. But these developments didn’t always look possible. It was just seven years ago that Californians passed Proposition 8, and it’s only been within the past two years that we’ve seen rapid developments for marriage equality. The LGBTQ community has often been an overlooked part of our society but California is leading the way in changing that. We’ve made things better for LGBTQ individuals: • We created a transgender student bill of rights, which will allow those students in public schools to join sports teams and have access to school facilities such as restrooms according to their gender identity. • We ended the practice of “conversion therapy” for youth. • We’re establishing LGBT cultural competency across healthcare sectors. • Legislation that requires death certificates to reflect the decedent’s gender identity will become active on July 1. And this work will continue; in the state budget for the coming fiscal year, the California Legislature will address the healthcare needs of the LGBT community. Key highlights include: • AIDS Drug Assistance Program (ADAP) Modernization — financial eligibility for ADAP and Office of AIDS Health Insurance Premium Payment Program will consider family size and increase the income limit. • ADAP Enrollment Workers — added $2 million more for local health jurisdictions and $1 million to increase ADAP enrollment. • ADAP Linkage to and Retention in Care — the budget appropriates $1.5 million in federal Ryan White base funding to local health jurisdictions and/or community-based organizations to support efforts to re-engage HIV-infected minority clients in medical care and treatment. • ADAP Hepatitis C (HCV) Treatment — $6.5 million will go toward HCV treatment costs in ADAP. • Pre-Exposure Prophylaxis (PrEP) — we’ve approved $2.2 million for a PrEP Access and Affordability Pilot Program. This initiative will establish educational outreach to at-risk populations and PrEP providers while improving

cost-sharing assistance for underinsured individuals. • State Syringe Exchange Clearinghouse — the budget includes $3 million to purchase supplies for syringe-exchange programs. • Hepatitis C (HCV) — added $2.2 million for pilot projects aimed at preventing the transmission of HCV. The Assembly Democrats have committed to instituting these programs for the LGBTQ community. Increasing funding for disadvantaged members of our community is vital to advancing our progress. Pride month is all about celebrating how far we’ve come since Stonewall; while we honor our history and our achievements, we must remember that we need to help improve the lives of everyone — gay, lesbian, straight, or transgender — to continue to move our community forward. Around the District: Thank you for standing up for our veterans who will attend Stand Down! Your support for our Socks for Stand Down collection drive netted more than 2,000 pairs of socks for our troubled and homeless veterans. The weekend event starts July 17 at San Diego High School ... I look forward to helping to kick off San Diego Pride as the keynote speaker at the Spirit of Stonewall Rally at Balboa Park July 17, and of course, being part of the parade the next day. Hope to see you there! … I had a great time cuddling kittens and hugging a Great Dane at the Humane Society last month, all for a good cause – 209 animals found their forever homes over Father’s Day weekend when the shelter offered $4 adoptions. I hope you’ll consider a shelter animal when you decide to add a pet to your family. —Toni G. Atkins is the Speaker of the California State Assembly. For more information, please visit her website, where you can sign up for her e-newsletter or get the latest news on legislation and other activities. You also may follow her on Twitter, @toniatkins.t

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San Diego State University, recognized as one of the top LGBT-affirming campuses in the nation, will hold its eighth annual Pride flag raising ceremony at the flagpole in front of the Conrad Prebys Aztec Student Union on July 15, from 11:30 a.m. to 12:30 p.m. In a statement, Eric Rivera, vice president for student affairs, invited members of the faculty and all students to attend and encouraged wide participation of the event to show campus support of LGBT students on the SDSU campus as well as the local LGBT community at large. SDSU will have a contingent in the San Diego LGBT Pride Parade on Saturday, July 18. For more information about the SDSU LGBT Pride Center, visit go.sdsu. edu/student_affairs/pridecenter.


More than 100 people attended the first LGBT Heritage Event at the U.S. Border Patrol, San Diego Sector’s regional headquarters in Chula Vista on June 30. The theme of the event was “Color our World With Pride,” and included speakers, including Fernando Lopez, director of operations at San Diego LGBT Pride, and Laura Duffy, the openly gay U.S. Attorney for the Southern California District and the first LGBT official confirmed by the U.S. Senate. Lopez shared LGBT history, his personal work with the marriage equality battle, and education and outreach

GAY SAN DIEGO July 10 - 23, 2015 programs. Other highlights were a color guard, a video featuring LGBT Border Patrol officers and agents and a Q & A panel. “We are proud of the Border Patrol for the steps they are taking to educate their organization on the authentic lives of the LGBT community,” Lopez at the event. “We are proud of all of our local law enforcement agencies for their efforts to break down the barriers on the path to Liberty, Justice, for All.” During her remarks, Duffy acknowledged the “profound — even astounding — national pivot away from hate and intolerance,” but added that many, including transgender individuals, are still the targets of violence. “Of course, even as we celebrate remarkable advances, it is clear that we still have more work to do,” she said, concluding her remarks with a call to action to renew the Department of Justice’s commitment toward equality for all Americans. The Border Patrol will have a contingent in the San Diego Pride Parade on Saturday, July 18. To view photos of the event, visit


The advisory council that oversees the San Diego LGBT Community Center’s Benjamin F. Dillingham, III & Bridget Wilson LGBT Veterans Wall of Honor is seeking public nominations through July 31 for consideration as one of this year’s series of inductees. The induction ceremony will take place Nov. 5 at The Center. The Veterans Wall recognizes LGBT veterans who have taken an oath to serve their country honorably, and have done so, and


have since acted as role models in the local LGBT community or in advancing equality. Founded in 2011, the Wall was launched to offer a place where those who for decades served in silence and fear as LGBT service members, could be openly recognized for their sacrifices. Since then, 33 veterans have been inducted during ceremonies in 2012, 2013 and 2014. Nomination packets should be received by 5 p.m. July 31 for consideration and will be vetted by the advisory committee to ensure they meet the criteria set forth by the advisor committee, which can be found at Questions about criteria and the process can be directed to Ben Cartwright, The Center’s director of community outreach at 619-6922077 ext. 106, or bcartwright@


To celebrate their 30th anniversary, the San Diego Gay Men’s Chorus (SDGMC) will be bringing songs from the famed Lennon-McCartney songbook to the historic Balboa Theatre on July 25 and 26. Called “Imagine,” after one of the most iconic of John Lennon’s hit songs, it will include songs from the early days of the British Invasion through its final albums. “We’re reinventing this incredible music with an unforgettable choral rock twist that can only come to life when interpreted by our talented singers and dancers,” said Artistic Director RC Haus in a press release. “It will be fun, powerful, beautiful and uplifting — all mixed together with the spark of energy and emotion our audiences have come to love.” More than 200

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Bust out your dancing shoes and join the Women’s Resource Center for our Red Hot ladies night. DJ Laura Jane will be in the house spinning all your favorite hits. Enjoy dancing, mingling, snacks and door prizes for only $5 per person. Tickets are available at the door. A no-host bar will be available, complete with drink specials all night. Women 21+ are welcome – ID must be shown at the door. For more information, contact Sheena Whitaker at 619.692.2077 x212, or

Join The Center’s discussion group on bisexuality on the third Wednesday of every month. It’s a welcoming space to share your experiences, ask questions, discuss community issues and meet like-minded people. This group is open to all persons who are sexually and/or emotionally attracted to more than one gender. For more information, contact aaron heier at

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Free Legal Consultations 9-11 am, the Center The Access to Law Initiative, a project of California Western School of Law sponsored by City Councilmember Todd Gloria, will hold legal clinics the SECOND TUESDAY of each month. At these clinics, attorneys will be available for free, 30-minute consultations to help evaluate legal issues. to make an appointment or for more information, please contact Joshua Bruser at 858.342.0551 or

Friday, July 17

trans*Pride 12 noon, Balboa Park The 2nd annual San Diego Trans*Pride will be held in Balboa Park, along 6th Avenue near Quince. The event will include a family style potluck and BBQ, open mic/speak out, and a march. The potluck BBQ will go from 12-5 pm, followed by open mic from 5-6 pm, and a march (from Juniper and Balboa) at 7 pm. The event will be ASL-interpreted and wheelchair accessible. For more information, visit the Facebook event. The San Diego LGBT Community Center 3909 Centre Street • 619-692-2077 Twitter: @LGBTCenter



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INTERVIEW and just playing it over and over again. And there’s an extended cut of that song that’s, like, seven minutes long! I was just so fascinated to hear a song that’s in six-eight time, and I know that’s musician lingo, but it was so inherently sexy in such an effortless way. Seeing the video was icing on the cake. I think I was like, “How do you get that jacked? How do you get in that kind of shape?” And then I was also like, “Was he really naked?!” (CA) And now you are that jacked in “Magic Mike.” (MB) Oh please! Not even. (CA) As they get older, how will you explain “Magic Mike” to your three sons? (MB) You know, I think the dialogue has already begun. I think it’s dangerous to just ignore something. Fortunately or unfortunately there are billboards on the way to their school, so when I’m driving them to school in the morning — the first couple of times I tried to duck my head — they realize it’s me. So, I told them when I was doing the movie, “This is a movie I’m doing where we play dancers and we have fun and we try to entertain these ladies.” I try to frame it in a context that they can understand so that they’re not just operating in the dark and going, “Why is my dad naked on a billboard?” Because I’m trying to help them make sense of their world. In terms of a real conversation as to what that is, that probably won’t start until they’re teenagers. [Laughs] And by the way, they keep me real grounded and real down to earth about it all. I remember I was actually taking my older son to see “Jurassic World,” and on the way there was the billboard and I was like, “Ah, crap.” And he brought it up. “Hey, that’s you on that billboard.” I was like, “Yeah.” And he goes, “But they’re not all you.” Like, you ain’t that cool. [Laughs] The interesting thing about kids is, they don’t care what you do so much or what other people think about you; they’re more interested in what your relationship with them is like and how you prioritize them in your life. I try to make a strong effort to make them know they’re always number one for me. (CA) As an actor, what’s it like to go from a role in a movie that’s as intense as “The Normal Heart” to “Magic Mike XXL”? Is that bal-

GAY SAN DIEGO July 10 - 23, 2015 ance critical for you as a person? (MB) I’ll be honest with you, it was for me, man. I went from “Normal Heart” into the last season of a show I’d done for six years [USA’s “White Collar,” 2009-2014], and then into a couple of more serious roles in other films and this was the perfect break. The thing about being an actor is you approach your work the same regardless of what the role is or what the genre is or what the themes are — you try to put the same amount of work into it — but it was certainly nice and a breath of fresh air to get to chill out and have fun with these guys. (CA) You came out publicly in 2012, and you handled it with so much grace and subtlety. These days, there’s a lot of pressure on Hollywood actors to take that step. Where do you stand on the role of public Hollywood figures in terms of advancing the gay movement? (MB) You know, it’s not my business to get up on a soapbox and tell people what they should and shouldn’t do. I think one thing that people don’t always take into consideration is a holistic aspect of what may or may not be going on in that individual’s life — you know, what kind of relationship they have with their family, how the people around them feel about it. But for me, having kids and being married, it was important to maintain the integrity of those relationships and not teach my kids that this is a shameful secret and that my husband [Simon Halls] has to be waiting in the wings all the time. So that’s why it was important to me personally. By the same token, I don’t hold anyone else accountable. It’s their choice. (CA) Now onto “American Horror Story.” According to a tweet from Ryan Murphy, Lady Gaga has to choose between you and actor Finn Wittrock during the upcoming season of “American Horror Story: Hotel.” First of all, have you even read the script yet? (MB) [Laughs] That’s a great question. You’re the first person who’s started with that question, which I think is, ultimately, the most important question. I’ve read a couple of them. I wish I could tell you more. Honestly, I have no specifics of who’s playing which role and what Finn is playing, but I have a tremendous amount of respect for him as an actor and a person, and I’m incredibly excited to work with Stefani [Germanotta, aka Lady Gaga] as well and see what she brings to the table. And listen, Ryan is a creative genius.


He really is. Nobody does a show quite like he does, so I’m really excited to get to play in that twisted and beautiful world they’ve created. Whatever they bring my way, I’m down. (CA) Which Lady Gaga song could you see yourself stripping to? (MB) Oh, you mean which one do I blast full volume in my car? I don’t know which one I’d strip to, to be honest with you, but I definitely get down to “The Edge of Glory” in my car and just geek out to it. If anyone saw me at a stoplight, they would think I was crazy. I just let it fly in the car. I’ll do that. Do you ever watch that show “Broad City”? It’s everything. I’m so in love with these two girls who are the leads, and one of them at one point finally gets the apartment to herself and she blasts “Edge of Glory” and just does a full-on dance around her apartment. I will straight up do the same thing at my house when I get, you know, two free seconds. (CA) How have the moves you’ve learned from doing two “Magic Mike” movies been an asset to you in your own life? (MB) Um, they haven’t been. [Laughs] First of all, after we finished the first film, my sister got married shortly thereafter, and I took some of my new gyrations to the dance floor at her wedding reception. I realized very quickly, after getting some scathing looks from my cousins, that some things are just best left in the club and not brought to your sister’s wedding reception party. Like, “Oh, I better check myself — I’m not in ‘Magic Mike’ anymore!” [Laughs] The nice thing about this movie, and what I personally love, is it’s about freedom, it’s about being comfortable with yourself — especially the second one. It’s about acceptance and a lack of judgment no matter who you are or where you come from. What I love about this world, this kind of odyssey that these guys all go on — yeah, they’re in a drag club, and then they’re at this party where people are doing drugs, but there’s no judgment about it. It’s these guys who are in this world trying to forget who they are but also accepting everything and everyone around them. That’s me, and something I take with me in my life. —Chris Azzopardi is the editor of Q Syndicate, the international LGBT wire service. Reach him via his website at and on Twitter (@ chrisazzopardi).t


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Cherr y at the Del: A pool party kick-off to San Diego Pride week benefitting the San Diego HIV Funding Collaborative at the San Diego Human Dignity Foundation. The event will feature DJs, swimwear fashion shows, drinks and more. Tickets are $25. 11 a.m. – 7 p.m. Hotel Del Coronado, 1500 Orange Ave. Visit Live music by Corday: Corday will play a solo acoustic show to celebrate her birthday. No cover; outdoor show with food trucks. 2:30 – 5:30 p.m. Belching Beaver, 980 Park Center Drive, Suite A, Vista. Find the event on Facebook. Team Chazzy fundraiser: In remembrance of Charissa Kolich, friends walk in the San Diego Downtown Relay for Life ever y year. This event will honor Charissa and raise money for the team. Event starts at 3 p.m. during happy hour. Lauren DeRose will perform. Entr y fee of $3 and raffle ticket sales will support the American Cancer Society. 3 – 5 p.m. Gossip Grill, 1220 University Ave., Hillcrest. San Diego Gay Pride Contest 2015: Contestants wanted to compete in two categories. Question: “What does gay pride mean to you?” Attire: Wear what represents your pride. 5 – 8 p.m. Numbers Nightclub, 3811 Park Blvd., Hillcrest. Find the event on Facebook. South Bay Pride fundraising dinner: Join Sister Amanda Reck Reckonwith and Sister Ida Know as they host this fundraiser for South Bay Pride. Music by The Social Animal. $20 donation includes a free sangria and appetizers. A portion of the proceeds from all purchases will go to South Bay Pride. 5 – 8 p.m. Center Cut Steakhouse, 534 Broadway, Chula Vista. Visit

MONDAY, JULY 13 Benny and Rick’s Second Annual Pride Kick-of f Happy Hour: A happy hour for all the industr y folks who will work extra hard during San Diego Pride. 6 – 9 p.m. #1 Fifth Ave., 3845 Fifth Ave., Hillcrest. Find the event on Facebook.

TUESDAY, JULY 14 LGBT Parents Connect: This group features a monthly presentation followed by Q&A on topics of interest to LGBT parents. Free childcare available. 6 – 7:30 p.m. San Diego LGBT Center, 3909 Centre St., Hillcrest. Visit or email families@


FilmOut screening: “Studio 54 – The Director’s Cut,” a film starring Ryan Phillippe, Salma Hayek, Breckin Meyer and more. 7 p.m., Landmark Cinemas, 3965 Fifth Ave. #200, Hillcrest. $10. Visit

Rainbow Flag Raising Ceremony: San Diego State University raises this flag annually in conjunction with San Diego Pride to “foster pride in and respect for all lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender communities, locally, nationally and globally.” 11:30 a.m. – 12:30 p.m. Flagpole in front of Conrad Prebys Aztec Student Union at SDSU, 5500 Campanile Drive, San Diego. Visit pridecenter.

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THURSDAY, JULY 16 ‘The Cocktail Hour’: Park & Rec has events all weekend to celebrate San Diego Pride and will donate a portion of the weekend’s proceeds to the ACLU and Pride. Tonight’s event features DJ Yuso. 4 p.m. – 2 a.m. Park & Rec, 4612 Park Blvd., University Heights. Visit ‘I Am’ – A celebration of individuality and authenticity: The San Diego Women’s Chorus kicks off San Diego Pride week with their first-ever full-length Pride concert. Pre-show happy hour at 6:30 p.m. Concert at 7:30 p.m. The Irenic, 3090 Polk Ave., North Park. Visit ‘Word of Mouth’: A social event featuring stories, perfor performance, poetry and art. This “Rites of Passage” edition will feature over 20 personal accounts of selfdiscovery and coming out – in honor of Pride weekend. Proceeds benefit Sunburst Youth Housing Project. $5. 8 p.m. The Merrow, 1271 University Ave., Hillcrest. Visit ‘Hairspray’: Cinema Under the Stars presents the John Waters favorite starring Ricki Lake, Divine and more. Additional screening on Sunday, July 17. 8 p.m. $15. 4040 Goldfinch St., Mission Hills. For more info visit or call 619-295-4221. ‘Rediscover a Classic’ – The Hole in The Wall grand opening: The iconic bar will celebrate the grand opening under their new

San Diego’s Trans* Pride: Enjoy great food with family and friends from 12 – 5 p.m. at the family style potluck and BBQ, then experience open mic from 5 – 6 p.m. The event concludes at 7 p.m. with a march from Juniper Street and Balboa Drive. Carpooling encouraged, the venue is wheelchair accessible and has ASL interpretations. Sixth Avenue and Quince Street, Balboa Park. Visit events/1597906477115330. Splash 2015 – Pre-Pride Pool Party: Come to the Lafayette Hotel and pre-celebrate from 1 – 5:30 p.m. Presale tickets are $20 through July 16 at midnight. Then tickets will be $25 at hotel’s front desk. 2223 El Cajon Blvd., North Park. More info visit facebook. com/events/397645897093511. ‘Pride Kick Of f ’: Park & Rec has events all weekend to celebrate San Diego Pride and will donate a portion of the weekend’s proceeds to the ACLU and Pride. Tonight’s event features DJ Elvee. 4 p.m. – 2 a.m. Park & Rec, 4612 Park Blvd., University Heights. Visit Lez Pride Dance: Have fun in a lip sync battle and listen to featured artists like Sapphire Sandria, from HRC on the tops of tables at Gossip Grill. Special appearance by Corday. 6 – 10 p.m. Brass Rail 3796 Fifth Ave. Visit facebook. com/events/837465459681501.

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33 Fifth-century pope 34 Perfect serves from Mauresmo 36 Limp watch painter 39 Kate Clinton or Margaret Cho 40 Stage offering 42 “Dancing with the Stars” routine 45 Hagen of “The Boys from Brazil” 48 Drag queen’s hose problem 50 Boo-boos, to Billy Bean 51 Human Rights Campaign fundraiser 53 Word before “ho!” 55 Lost some of its size 56 Pilot’s place 57 Artist Hernandez 58 Elizabeth of “Transamerica” 59 Part of a title by Tennessee Williams 60 What libraries do 61 “Orange Is the ___ Black” (source of the line in the puzzle’s title) 63 Actress who said the line whose name is visible in this puzzle


– four shows only, final performance today. 2 p.m. Diversionary Theatre, 4545 Park Blvd., University Heights. Tickets diversionary. org or call 619-220-0097.



Flaunt Pool Party – SD Pride Edition: Have fun in the sun and listen to great music with Dan De Leon + GloVibes. 11 a.m. – 5 p.m. Presale tickets are limited. $25.00. Lafayette Hotel, Swim Club & Bungalows, 2223 El Cajon Blvd., North Park. Visit events/973290009379769. San Diego Pride Parade: This year’s parade will celebrate the theme “Liberty and Justice For All.” The route is 1.1 miles beginning at the Hillcrest Pride Flag ending on Balboa Drive at Laurel Street. 11 a.m. Visit Pride After Party: Park & Rec has events all weekend to celebrate San Diego Pride and will donate a portion of the weekend’s proceeds to the ACLU and Pride. Today’s event features DJ Von Kiss. Noon – 2 a.m. Park & Rec, 4612 Park Blvd., University Heights. Visit Sisters Post Pride Parade Tea in the Park: The San Diego Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence will host a relaxing tea in Balboa Park after the Pride Parade. 12 – 4 p.m. Near Sixth Avenue and Laurel Street. Visit facebook. com/thesdsisters. Bill Hardt Presents ‘Circuit Daz’: Featuring Alain Jackinsky from Canada and Isaac Escalante from Mexico. 10 p.m. – 4 a.m. Hall of Champions, 2131 Pan American Plaza, Balboa Park. Call 619-2342544 or visit ‘The Skivvies’: This “undierock and comedy-pop” duo will perform during a special Pride weekend cabaret engagement – four shows only, two today. 5 and 9 p.m. Diversionar y Theatre, 4545 Park Blvd., University Heights. Tickets diversionar y. org or call 619-220-0097. ‘Sunset Boulevard’: Cinema Under the Stars presents the 1950s satire starring William Holden and Gloria Swanson. Additional screening on Sunday, July 19. 8 p.m. $15. 4040 Goldfinch St., Mission Hills. For more info visit or call 619-295-4221.

SUNDAY, JULY 19 – SAN DIEGO PRIDE – SEE OUR PRIDE GUIDE INSERT Bill Hardt Presents Féte Accompli: Join in on the fun featuring ABEL from the United States. 4 a.m. – 10 a.m. at the House of Blues, 1055 Fifth Ave. Call 619299-2583 or visit houseofblues. com/sandiego. Clique XVI Pool Party Edition: Listen to great music from Bruno de Mata, Paulo, Leo, and Mad Waves, while sitting at the pool. Lafayette Hotel, Swim Club & Bungalows 2223 El Cajon Blvd., North Park. Find the event on Facebook. Day Camp Pride Edition: Park & Rec wraps up San Diego Pride weekend with this event. They will donate a portion of the weekend’s proceeds to the ACLU and Pride. Today’s event features live music by Tori Roze and The Hot Mess and DJ Carlo. Noon – 2 a.m. Park & Rec, 4612 Park Blvd., University Heights. Visit Flawless Pool Party 2015: Ladies come celebrate Pride from noon – 8 p.m. at the Andaz Hotel’s beautiful rooftop pool with a view and be constantly entertained through music, drinks, food, and unforgettable experiences. Andaz San Diego Hotel (Rooftop 600) 600 F St. Tickets must be purchased before the event, as there are no tickets available upon entry. Book your ticket: flawles-pool-party-2015-tickets-16789062538 Bill Hardt Presents ‘The Zoo Party’: Featuring Wayne G from the United Kingdom and Ralphi Rosario from the United States. 4 – 11 p.m. San Diego Zoo, 2920 Park Blvd. Call 619-231-1515 or go to ‘The Skivvies’: This “undierock and comedy-pop” duo will perform during a special Pride weekend cabaret engagement

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Bill Hardt Presents ‘The Morning Part’: Featuring Joe Gauthreaux from the United States. 4 a.m. – 10 a.m. Spin Nightclub, 2028 Hancock St. Call 619-294-9590 or visit ‘Pride Clean Up’: Though Pride brings a lot of fun it also produces a lot of waste and litter, so come support the community and keep it clean by volunteering with one of two Post-Pride Clean-Up teams. The Hillcrest Clean T.E.A.M. (Together Each Achieves More) will meet at Park

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Boulevard and Essex Street at 8 a.m. The Bankers Hill Community Group will meet at Sixth Avenue and Ivy Street at 8 a.m. You get a free T-shirt and lunch at Urban MO’s after ward. For more info visit or



GSDBA Advocacy Committee meeting: Fighting for public policies consistent with GSDBA mission and core values, the current priorities of premier concern are attaining full business equality for GSDBA members and full equality for LGBT persons. 12:15 – 1:30 p.m. GSDBA Conference Room, 3737 Fifth Ave., Hillcrest. Visit

‘Kiss Me, Kate’: Tonight’s performance of the Cole Porter musical will include a free postshow forum with members of the cast. 8 p.m. Donald and Darlene Shiley Stage, Old Globe Theatre, 1363 Old Globe Way, Balboa Park. For more information visit or call 619234-5623.

HIV testing: Lead the Way is offering this free and confidential ser vice ever y Wednesday from 10 a.m. – 4 p.m. Walgreens, 301 University Ave., Hillcrest. Visit


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