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San Diego Opera pg. 11 Using literature to ‘open up conversations’ Bluestocking Books hosts multicultural LGBT book club to create alliances By Anthony King | GSD Editor

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One of the many stories published by Ugandan newspaper The Rolling Stone (Courtesy Hrw)

Film highlighting David Kato’s fight in Uganda opens HRW festival at MOPA By Anthony King | GSD Editor Leading off the Human Rights Watch Film Festival at Balboa Park’s Museum of Photographic Arts (MOPA) is the film “Call Me Kuchu,” documenting the struggle of the LGBT community in Uganda through the stories of five activists, including David Kato. Kato’s story rose to prominence months before his murder in 2011, and Uganda – the country’s “kill the gays” bill is still being considered – remains in the public’s conscious daily. Kuchu, which loosely translates to “queer,” is a term embraced by some LGBT people in Uganda and a rallying cry for filmmakers Katherine Fairfax Wright and Malika Zouhali-Worrall. The film screens Jan. 24 at MOPA, with an opening reception at 6 p.m. Following the screening, Wright will join Human Rights Watch (HRW) LGBT Program Advocacy Director Boris Dittrich in a talkback discussion with the audience. “We selected this movie because it’s such a clear picture of discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation and gender identity,” Dittrich said. “We want to show this film in a mainstream

… festival because we don’t want to talk only to the LGBT community, we want to show other people as well what it is like to be discriminated [against].” Dittrich visited Kato before his death, and the HRW director said he was saddened by Kato’s murder. “It was in a time that he really had hopes and expectations that things would improve in Uganda,” Dittrich said, “and unfortunately, after his murder, we see homophobia has become stronger and more ardent.” Wright and Zouhali-Worrall began filming a year before Kato was murdered, and the film provides some of the last and most detailed footage of the activist’s life. He is profiled with his closest friend, Naome; Bishop Christopher Senyonjo; Stosh, a female-to-male transsexual; and Longjones, a kuchu activist compelled to come out after Kato’s death. “Over the course of two years, we documented the daily lives and courageous work of David and his fellow kuchus,” Wright and Zaouhali-Worrall said in a statement. “In telling this crucial story,

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Mo’s Universe employees raise money for Hillcrest Youth Center

Keith Boykin’s ‘For Colored Boys’ is this month’s pick. (Courtesy Magnus Books)

ing mission as the only drop-in facility in San Diego County devoted to the needs of LGBT youth. Located at 1807 Robinson Ave., the Youth Center is administered by The LGBT Community Center and offers programs for LGBTQ+ youth and their allies aged 14 to 18.

January’s selection is “For Colored Boys Who Have Considered Suicide When the Rainbow is Still Not Enough,” and is a collection of short stories and essays that represent, in part, those diverse voices turned into stories. The collection is edited by MSNBC commentator and author Keith Boykin, and is Boykin’s response to the 1974 play “For Colored Girls Who Have Considered Suicide When the Rainbow is Enuf.” The play, which has been staged internationally including a recent production last fall in San Diego, was also adapted into a fulllength feature film. “A lot of times in conversations about race and sexuality, we think strictly in a black and white binary way,” Rainey said. In an effort to choose authors that represent the “diversity of racial experiences in the LGBT community,” Rainey said he wants to highlight the Latino, Asian-American and Muslim-American LGBT experiences, in addition to social issues within

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‘Young Mo’s Being gAy’ program aims to give back to community By Monica Garske | GSD reporter The Hillcrest Youth Center is getting a boost in the new year, thanks to ambitious fundraising efforts from employees at the Mo’s Universe family of restaurants. Mo’s Universe – the company behind popular Hillcrest hotspots Urban Mo’s, Baja Betty’s, Gossip Grill and Hillcrest Brewing Company – has just launched a new fundraising program dedicated to giving back to important organizations, charities and groups that ser ve the local LGBT community. “This community has been so good to us and so supportive of our company that giving back is simply the right

thing to do,” said Chris Shaw, president of Mo’s Universe, in a press release. The program is dubbed “Young Mo’s Being gAy” (YMBA), and the premise is simple: throughout 2013, employees at all Mo’s Universe locations will be asked to donate a minimum of $1 per shift to the YMBA program. Shaw said he believes this initiative falls perfectly in line with what his company stands for. “We can’t have a strong business without a strong community,” he said. “Ever since we started our first business, we have given back to the community.” The contributions will go directly to the Hillcrest Youth Center, aiding in their ongo-

Recognizing a need to represent the diverse voices in the LGBT community, Caleb Rainey started a multicultural book group held twice monthly at Bluestocking Books in Hillcrest. The group was created in part from Rainey’s thought that “literature can open up conversations,” he said. “There seems to be a gap in regards to conversation around race and sexuality,” the 24-year-old recent graduate said. “I was hoping to start filling that gap through literature.” Rainey grew up in Colorado, where he received his bachelor’s degree in women’s and ethnic studies. He moved to Hillcrest two years ago, and recently completed requirements for a master’s degree in multicultural gay and lesbian literature at San Diego State University. The group began late last year, and Rainey has selected the titles each month, including “Chulito” by Charles Rice-Gonzalez and “Gulf Dreams” by Emma Perez.

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Scott Lively’s day in court By Ken Williams | SDGln Editor in Chief The tables could be turning on anti-gay agitator Scott Lively, whose evangelical preaching and homophobic writings have demonized LGBT people the world over. On Monday, Jan. 7, Lively appeared in U.S. District Court in Springfield, Mass., where his attorneys attempted to get charges dismissed that he violated the Alien Tort Statute of the United States Code. The law allows the United States to hear human-rights cases brought by foreign citizens for conduct committed outside the U.S. In this particular case, Lively is being sued “for crime against humanity” by Sexual Minorities Uganda (SMUG), a human-rights group headed by Frank Mugisha and based in Kampala, Uganda. In the lawsuit, SMUG lists in breathtaking details the methods Lively employs to fan the flames of homophobia in Uganda, whose Parliament has been trying since 2009 to pass the Anti-Homosexuality Bill, also known as the “kill the gays” bill. That controversial bill could have top priority when Uganda’s Parliament returns from holiday break for a new session that starts in February. The draconian bill with the death penalty for those convicted of being homosexual, has been broadly condemned, led by the U.S., UK, European Union and much of the western world. SMUG asks the court for a trial jury and for compensatory as well as punitive and exemplary damages. The suit also seeks a declaratory judgment holding that Lively’s conduct was in violation of the laws of nations.

Lively is being sued as an individual and as president of Abiding Truth Ministries, a conservative Christian organization based in Temecula, Calif. Abiding Truth Ministries is labeled as an anti-gay hate group by the Southern Poverty Law Center. SMUG is represented by the Center for Constitutional Rights (CCR), including attorney Pamela C. Spees. Recently, Spees and Mugisha participated in a conference call with journalists to discuss the Jan. 7 hearing and the growingly tense situation in Uganda, where LGBT people face blatant discrimination, hate crimes, vandalism and violence. SMUG co-founder David Kato, an internationally known equality advocate for SMUG, was murdered on Jan. 26, 2011, four months after his photo was published by a tabloid exposing LGBT people in Uganda with a banner headline: “Hang them.” Spees told the media that the lawsuit, brought under the Alien Tort Statute (ATS), is a first-of-itskind case seeking “accountability for persecution on the basis of sexual orientation and gender identity.” If successful, the law could be used to prosecute others who export homophobia to other countries. Mugisha updated the media on the “Kill The Gays” bill and warned that the death penalty was still in play. He urged constant pressure from human-rights supporters from across the globe to stop Parliament from passing the bill. —Ken Williams is editor in chief of San Diego Gay and Lesbian News. He can be reached at, @KenSanDiego on Twitter, or by calling 888-442-9639, ext. 713.t

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Stills from the film: (r to l) the crown for Miss Kuchu 2010; a Kampalan drag queen tries on a favorite pair of shoes (Courtesy Hrw) said she is looking forward to this year’s festival. “MOPA strives to inspire, educate, and David Kato, the first openly gay man in Uganda engage our (Courtesy Hrw) audience,” she said. “Presentwe explore the paradox of democing a film festival like the Human racy in a country where a judiRights Watch Film Festival allows ciary recognizes the civil rights of us to accomplish this, with the individual kuchus, yet the popular strength of cinematic excellence, vote and daily violence threaten to in hopes to create change in our eradicate those rights altogether.” global community.” At the time, a new anti-homoNow in its third year presentsexuality measure that is since ing the HRW festival, MOPA uses been dubbed the “kill the gays” bill film and photography to educate was being introduced. Exempliand change minds. “Film and fied in the Ugandan press, the bill photography have the ability to inproposes death for all HIV-positive form an audience by documenting men and prison for anyone who often unseen realities of turmoil fails to turn in a known homoand distress,” Parra said. “When sexual. The bill has gone back and you are confronted with the forth in Uganda’s Parliament and is perspective of the lives and places currently being discussed, making being affected, the lens evokes the screening of the film at MOPA’s emotion and action.” festival particularly timely. For Dittrich, listening to people’s “When you watch this film, you life stories is one of the best aspects cannot just go home and forget,” of his job, which takes him around Dittrich said. “You want to do the globe to some of the most dansomething. You feel engaged, and gerous places for LGBT people. you want to help people.” “When I go to these very difficult This type of outreach and educountries where LGBT people are cation is part of MOPA’s mission, extremely discriminated [against], and Priscilla Parra, the nonprofit’s what I love doing is talking to them film and public programs manager, and listening to their stories,” he

said. “Sometimes, I’m the first one who really wants to listen to them because they live in an environment where everyone is homophobic.” Including Uganda, Dittrich said there are over 76 countries that criminalize homosexual conduct. Uganda’s anti-homosexuality bill resonates in those nations as well, however he also said he sees hope when he talks to individuals about advances in LGBT rights in places like the United States. “In their context, they talk about ‘don’t torture me, don’t discriminate against me [and] don’t throw me in jail,’” he said, but they remain inspired to “fight for social injustice.” Beginning Jan. 24 with “Call Me Kuchu,” the HRW festival continues at MOPA through Jan. 28, screening six films over five days. Other films include “Reportero,” which follows a Tijuana, Mexicobased reporter; “Putin’s Kiss;” “The Invisible War,” a documentary about underreported rape in the U.S. military; “Salaam Dunk” about an Iraqi women’s basketball team; and “Brother Number One.” Tickets for individual films are $4 for MOPA members, $6 for students, seniors and active military, and $8 for guests. Festival passes are also available. For more information visit



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In addition to other workshops, the Youth Center organizes a young women’s group, young men’s group, coming out group and gender identity group. Through the employeegiving initiative, Mo’s Universe aims to raise $20,000 for the Youth Center in 2013. Of course, Mo’s Universe patrons can also help in the fundraising efforts. Customers who wish to give to the YMBA fund can make donations through their ser ver at any of the restaurants. And so far, the program has gotten off to a solid start. Since officially launching on Jan. 1, eager supporters have already raised $2,000. Matt Ramon, general manager of Urban Mo’s Bar & Grill and chair of the program, said it was important to give back to the community. “Mo’s Universe has always been committed to supporting the community, giving countless dollars out over our 20-year existence, and we are particularly in-

terested in supporting our LGBT youth,” he said in the release. Ramon, along with a committee entirely comprised of employees, will meet and decide how the money raised for the Hillcrest Youth Center will be spent, whether it be on art supplies, electronics, education, workshops, youth festivals or guest speakers. The Youth Center is the inaugural beneficiar y of this giving back program, and down the road other local organizations will be chosen as recipients of the fundraising efforts. Rick Cervantes, of the Mo’s Universe marketing and public relations department, will serve as YMBA treasurer. He said the idea of helping the Hillcrest Youth Center this way is something he holds very close to his heart. “I’m thrilled that we are going to be able to support the HYC, an organization that has been important to me since moving to San Diego,” he said in the release. For more information about the YMBA, visit mosuniverse. com” To learn more about the Hillcrest Youth Center, visit

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each of these groups. “I have a political commitment to ensuring the LGBT political agenda expands to include those communities,” he said. “Often times what gets considered to be a gay issue is kind of narrowly defined. We forget that racism and poverty and antiimmigrant sentiments are, in fact, just as much our issues as DOMA.” With a background in literature, Rainey said it was natural to want to help the community by forming a book group, and is purposeful in choosing each month’s selection. “I look for authors that are coming from small, LGBT-owned presses, mainly because our presses and our bookstores as a whole, as LGBT people, are dying,” Rainey said. “We’re not

encouraging people to read.” Partnering with Bluestocking Books appealed to Rainey for similar reasons, he said. Not only did he gravitate to the store because it is female-owned, but he was purposeful in using the independent store in Hillcrest “because we have lost so many of our bookstores,” he said. Different than most book groups, they meet twice a month to discuss the same title. Rainey said the multiple days are in part to provide as many options as possible for people who want to attend, but also because of the subject matter of the books themselves. “People are usually so unprepared to approach a novel of that complexity,” he said. “I wanted to ensure that we’ve had enough time to cover everything.” “For Colored Boys” touches on these more complex issues, addressing “longstanding issues of sexual abuse, suicide, HIV/

AIDS, racism and homophobia in the African-American, Latino and Asian-American communities,” it states. The anthology includes work from over 45 writers, including Emanuel Xavier, Jason Haas, David Malebranche and Boykin, among others. In the book’s introduction, Boykin begins by recounting several instances of recent suicides by LGBT people of color, which prompted him to release the book with Magnus Books publisher Don Weise. “To put tighter this book, I wondered what it would take for a young man to get to the point where he felt he had nothing left to live for,” Boykin wrote. “It is not always easy to be who we are, but as we grow and mature and develop coping mechanisms that enable us to survive and thrive in a complicated world, we have a responsibility to reach back and help others still struggling along the way.” The multiple days have worked out well, Rainey said, providing a way for people do “unpack” and gain “familiarity with the literature” over time. “One of the biggest things for me is ensuring that no one feels put off or scared by reading,” he said. The next meeting is Jan. 20 at 7 p.m., where the group will continue discussing “For Colored Boys.” For February, they will be discussing “The Color Purple” by Alice Walker, in part to explore how “gays, lesbians and bisexuals as different constituencies might better create alliances with one another,” Rainey said. The first Walker meeting is Feb. 3, also at 7 p.m. Bluestocking Books has copies of each month’s selection for sale and is located at 3817 Fifth Ave. For more information on the group, contact Rainey at or the store by calling 619-296-1424.t



He will serve as chair for the Reform Council.


SEvERAL DESIGNERS FRoM FASHIoN WEEK SAN DIEGo HEAD To NEW YoRK CITY Five of the designers from the 2012 Fashion Week San Diego runway show were asked to participate in this year’s Nolcha Fashion Week in New York City. Stacie May, Dos Caras Swimwear, nOia, Kenneth Barlis and Jessica Faulker will “take the momentum and knowledge they received from Fashion Week San Diego to one of the major fashion capitals of the world,” a press release stated. The New York event is scheduled Feb. 11 – 14. As part of an announcement for this year’s San Diego annual fashion event, organizers also said producers of The Style Network’s “Styled to Rock” TV show have showed interest in last year’s participating designers, with Andre Soriano joining Dos Caras Swimwear and Barlis in the second round of casting. The reality TV show is hosted and produced by singer Rhianna. “We couldn’t be happier for these designers and the momentum that Fashion Week San Diego has given them,” Amie Wilde, Fashion Week San Diego assistant director, said.

CARL DEMAIo To CHAIR LoCAL, STATE REFoRM GRoUpS Former Councilmember Carl DeMaio announced Thursday, Jan. 10 that he will be heading two different reform groups, Reform San Diego and the California Reform Council. “I’m excited to take on these two new roles that allow me to continue to shine a big light on state and local government and hold both accountable to taxpayers,” DeMaio said in a released statement. Focusing locally, Reform San Diego is a “research and political advocacy group” that serves as a relaunch of DeMaio’s former San Diego Citizens Budget Project, which began in 2003 to explore the city’s financial problems and offer reforms to balance the budget. DeMaio said his new focus with Reform San Diego will be to see that the city “stays on the course of fiscal reform, rather than sliding back to past practices.” One focus will be the implementation of Proposition B, the pension-reform initiative spearheaded by DeMaio and passed by voters in 2012. “We must hold the Mayor and City Council accountable for fully implementing the Pension Reform Initiative voters approved last year and implementing other reforms to transform how city departments serve our neighborhoods,” he said. DeMaio lost his bid for mayor to Bob Filner, who took office Dec. 3, 2012. California Reform Council is a part of the Los Angeles-based Reason Foundation, with a focus on reforming the state’s pensions using San Diego’s Proposition B as a model. DeMaio said the state faces a “pension tsunami,” claiming service cuts could occur through a “wave of municipal bankruptcies.”

LoCAL MAN WHo CLAIMED To CURE HIv CHARGED WITH pRACTICING MEDICINE WITHoUT A LICENSE Keith Allen Barton has been charged with multiple felony counts, including treating patience without a medical license, District Attorney Bonnie Dumanis announced Wednesday, Jan. 9. Barton claimed to be a medical doctor and that he could cure patients of cancer and HIV. He was arraigned in San Diego Superior Court on five felony counts, including additional charges of identity and grand theft. “By posting as doctor

and charging thousands of dollars for a phony cure, this defendant showed callous disregard for his victims and the medical field,” Dumanis said in the release. In one instance, a woman paid Barton $18,000 to be treated after he promised to cure her and her children of HIV. One of the children died as a result of not receiving effective treatment. Not a licensed medical doctor, Barton does share his name with a real doctor in California, using that fact to fool potential patients. Barton pleaded guilty on all counts, and faces up to five years and eight months in state prison if convicted. Arrested Tuesday, Jan. 8, the DA office said there may be more victims and are asking for anyone with information to call them at 619-531-3507. MAjoRITY LEADER ATKINS RECEIvES KEY CoMMITTEE ASSIGNMENTS Assembly Speaker John A. Pérez handed Assembly Majority Leader Toni Atkins key committee assignments, including the Joint Legislative Audit Committee and the Agriculture Committee. The Audit Committee is comprised of members of both the Assembly and the Senate, and serves as a “watchdog” group ensuring “fiscal responsibility and performance accountability by state programs,” a release stated. Atkins’ office said the Agriculture Committee is of high importance to San Diego County, as the county has the 12th largest farm economy in the nation, with an annual value of $5.1 billion. San Diego is home to more small farms and part time farmers than any other county in the United States. Atkins will continue to serve on the Health, Housing and Community Development, and Veterans Affairs committees. The new assignments are effective immediately, with the legislature beginning the new session Monday, Jan. 7.

GaY SAN DIEGO Jan. 11–Jan. 24, 2013 DINAH SHoRE WEEKEND 2013 LINE Up pRESENTED Scheduled for April 3 – 7, the Club Skirts Dinah Shore Weekend will present over 15 music, comedy and television stars. Billed as the largest “girl party/music festival” in the world, this year marks the 23rd anniversary of the Palm Springs, Calif. event. Headlining this year is Karmin, the pop duo and Rolling Stone Magazine’s “Woman Who Rock” contest winner. Announced Thursday, Jan. 10, other entertainment includes Havana Brown, Diana King, Kat Graham and Uh Huh Her. Musicians Anjulie, K. Rose and Katy Tiz will also perform over the five-day event. Comics Fortune Feimster of “Chelsea Lately,” Jackie Loeb and Suzanne Westenhoefer will make appearances, as will TV reality starts Lauren Bedford Russell and Kiyomi McCloskey of “The Real L Word” and the band Hunter Valentine. Two inaugural events will take place this year, including an exclusive “Celebrity Poker Tournament” on April 6 and the premiere of “Second Shot,” a film by Jill Bennett and Cathy DeBuono. All proceeds from the poker tournament will go to the Human Rights Campaign, and celebrity participants will be revealed March 1. For more information and tickets visit


2012 CRAIG NoEL AWARD NoMINEES ANNoUNCED The San Diego Theatre Critics Circle announced Dec. 21, 2012 the nominees for the 2012 Craig Noel Awards, which will be handed out in a ceremony Feb. 4 in La Jolla, Calif. The Old Globe’s world-premiere production “Allegiance—An American Musical” lead the nominations with Moxie Theatre’s “A Raisin in the Sun,” with six nominations each. Cygnet Theatre’s “Parade” and The Old Globe’s “The Scottsboro Boys” both received five nominations. In addition to The Old Globe and Cygnet, other theater companies in Uptown were recognized with nominations, including nods for Diversionary Theatre’s “Harmony, Kansas,” “Pippin” and “Altar Boyz” and several productions for ion theatre company, based in Hillcrest. Deborah Roberts has been nominated for Outstanding Costume Design for San Diego Musical Theatre’s “White Christmas,” which played at the Birch North Park Theatre, and Uptown resident Shaun Tuazon received an Outstanding Lead Performance in a Musical for his role in Circle Circle dot dot’s “Deconstruction of a Drag Queen.” The nominees

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events attheCenter Wednesday, January 16

Friday, January 25

Lunch & Learn: aging Successfully with hIV

Sapphic Cinema Presents “the World Unseen”

12 noon, Center Library Join us in the library as Dr. David Moore & Dr. Pairya Fazeli give a presentation on aging successfully with HIV. Learn about the importance of positive psychological traits such as resilience and optimism, as well as recent research findings showing factors associated with lessening cognitive impairment. For further information, please contact Larue Fields at or 619.692.2077 x205.

tuesday, January 22

LGBt Military Family Support Group

7 pm, the Center Join us for this intriguing film! Bring your friends and join the WRC for Sapphic Cinema at The Center. The film is free to attend and light snacks are available for a small donation. For more information, email About the film: “The World Unseen” is a 2007 historical drama written and directed by Shamim Sarif, adapted from her own novel. The film is set in 1950s Cape Town, South Africa during the beginning of apartheid. The film stars Lisa Ray and Sheetal Sheth as two Indian South African women who fall in love in a racist, sexist, and homophobic society.

6 pm, the Center The Center and Fleet and Family Support Services are excited to provide this support/education group for LGBT active duty service members and their families. This group normally meets on the 4th Tuesday of every month and is for couples with or without children. Free child care is available if you RSVP by the 3rd Tuesday of each month. For more information, contact Caroline Bender at 619.222.5586 or caroline. and to rSVP for childcare contact Jane at

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Briefs represent over 45 San Diego theatrical productions and 110 local artists. In addition to the 23 designated categories, eight additional awards will also be handed out, from Outstanding Young Artist to Actor of the Year.

editorial progressing from the past Not a banner, but a historic LGBT year By Mark Segal Do you appreciate the watershed moment in LGBT history we are witnessing? If any of you doubt that we are living in historic times for LGBT equality, just note what you’re about to witness in the next few weeks and months. The first president of the United States of America who campaigned openly and often on the issue of LGBT equality – and won – is about to be inaugurated for a second term, and most likely somewhere in that second term will nominate the first out cabinet member, as well as host a landslide of equality initiatives. The first out elected U.S. senator, Tammy Baldwin, will be sworn into office, along with the largest-ever delegation of our Congress members. The Supreme Court will hear debates on marriage equality and will rule by the summer. More out state and city elected officials throughout the nation will take office than ever before. Do you feel it? Not yet? Then take a look at the issues and actions that started to take flight in the last 12 months. How about the advances in immigration for LGBT couples or the threat of foreign aid being withheld if Uganda enacts its proposed “kill the gays” bill? Has anyone noticed the host of Republicans quickly trying to change their positions on marriage equality?

Or the assistance the Department of Health and Human Services is giving to build and increase health services to LGBT communities around the nation? Or the U.S. Department of Housing and Urban Development increasing its efforts to combat LGBT discrimination in housing? It would be hard to find an area that has not improved toward equality in the last 12 months, progressing from the past. For most of you, the reactions you got when you came out to your parents and the statements they subsequently made would – if made public – most likely rule them out as contenders for the role of U.S. Secretary of Defense, according to some of our wise LGBT leaders. President Obama’s nominee for Secretary of Defense is former Nebraska Senator Chuck Hagel. Some LGBT leaders have opposed Hagel since way back in 1998, when President Bill Clinton nominated gay-rights activist James Hormel to be ambassador to Luxembourg, and Hagel called Hormel “openly, aggressively gay.” The idea of his comment was clear: that we Americans should not be represented by a gay person abroad. Hagel’s voting record on LGBT-rights legislation was no better. Let’s think how your parents first reacted when you came out, then how they are reacting towards you now. Chances are with them getting to see how LGBT people actually are, they have changed their views quite dramatically. While I don’t know Hagel or his personal views, I know he has apologized for that 1998 remark. For me that is not enough, and I’ll explain from experience what would be.

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If we as a community refused to work with people who only shared our views of equality in the past, then we’d never pass any legislation. The point is to win over allies. So what someone said in the past is the past — but only if they have progressed in some capacity on the issue. It’s in our best interest to work to make people change, rather than automatically counting them out. I’m not ready to count Hagel as an enemy, but I’m open to him proving to our community that he’s our friend and will fight for our inclusion and equality. That will come during the Senate confirmation hearings. When asked his views, we’ll discover if he’s still stuck in 1998 or if like many, including some of your parents, he’s advanced. A year ago, I predicted that it would be a good year. The stock market may use the term that I had “inside information,” and while I had high expectations, nothing was a done deal. And while there were issues that were on my mind as I wrote, never in my wildest thoughts would I have expected how great of a year 2012 was, for the community and for the body politic. And of course I promised to make some predictions for 2013, some of which might actually happen. If you haven’t noticed, those predictions are in the first paragraphs. Editor’s note: Mark Segal’s editorial is a combination of two separate, but similar columns. Segal, Philadelphia Gay News publisher, is the nation’s most award-winning commentator in LGBT media. He can be reached at

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ANTHoLoGY IN LITTLE ITALY CLoSES ITS DooRS FoR GooD Amid weeks of rumors and confusion, Anthology, the popular music and supper club located at 1337 India St. on the edge of Little Italy, has permanently shuttered its doors as of the start of the New Year. A statement issued by Casey Pukl, the venue’s marketing manager said, “It is with great sadness that I send this email today to inform you that owner, Howard Berkson announced today that Anthology has officially closed its doors and will not be reopening.” Berkson declined to comment at this time. Open over five years, the venue known for “fine tuned music and cuisine” had reached iconic status among visitors and musical artists. The venue boasted rock, jazz, blues and other musical greats, as well as comedic geniuses on its critically acclaimed and acoustic sound stage over the years. In addition the venue often served as a site for private events and the owners also offered up the space for dozens of nonprofit fundraising events over the years. SUSpECT IN NoRTH pARK RoBBERY STILL AT LARGE The San Diego Police Department (SDPD) want the public’s help in identifying the suspect who robbed a North Park gas station in the early morning hours of Christmas Eve. According to a press release, a clerk at the USA Gas Station located at 3255 University Ave., just west of the 805 freeway, said a Hispanic male in his mid 20s entered the store and brandished a short-barreled silver revolver at the clerk and demanded money. When the clerk refused, a struggle ensued during which the suspect hit the clerk in the face with the gun. He then reached over the counter and fled the store with the entire register drawer. The struggle was caught on surveillance video, which is available at SDPD Downtown headquarters on Broadway at the customer service counter. The suspect was between 5 foot 5 inches and 5 foot 8 inches tall, had a medium build, and a dark blue hooded sweatshirt pulled over a white bandana on his head. Anyone with any information on this robbery is asked to contact the SDSU Robbery Unit at 619-5312299 or San Diego County Crime Stoppers at 888-580-8477.t

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SpECTRUM Local community activist Linda Perine demanded a correction from me regarding a pervious comment I made in this column about City Council candidate Barry Pollard. It took Perine a few heated minutes to get to her point, but a point she did make. I was under the impression, as were many, that the District Four council race set to take place this spring would be the newly redrawn District Four created by the San Diego Redistricting Commission, after the 2010 census. In fact, Pollard and all candidates are actually running to finish the remainder of former Councilmember Tony Young’s term, and therefore will be running from the “old” District Four boundaries established after the 2000 census. While the winner will rep-

resent the new District Four, the voters and candidates must come from the old district. So when I stated Pollard’s involvement in the creation of the council boundaries that he was running for could be perceived as self-ser ving, they are in this instance not. However, I will caveat this by stating I do have the impression that Pollard was planning to run for the District Four seat whenever it opened up. Had Young stayed at his post and Pollard run in 2014, I would ver y firmly believe that it could be perceived as self-ser ving to have worked actively to create a district boundar y line that you intended to run for. Twice Californians have made it clear they do not believe people should be able to pick their own constituents. Proposition 11 in 2008 and Proposition 20 in 2010 took away the power from the Senate, Assembly, Board of Equalization and Congress to draw their own boundaries. Call me crazy, but I don’t see the difference between an aspiring politician and a sitting politician when it comes to trying to influence who will be in a district you plan to run to represent. While on the subject of district boundary lines – a riveting topic I know – I also must note that I am not sure if Myrtle Cole will be eligible to run for the District Four council seat. In an email she sent from her work account, she openly addressed the fact that she did not live within the proper, pre2011 redistricted boundary lines. She has been a long time resident of Rolando/Redwood Vil-

see Political, page 18

Hard times, powerful lessons When things appear to fall apart, rebound as quickly as you can. There may be a silver lining in those clouds: a layoff can be a wakeup call. Perhaps your field is no longer fulfilling or full of potential. Consider a new career; your life may get a whole lot better.

Most of us don’t learn through happiness. We learn through difficulties, and hard times present us with many opportunities to learn more about ourselves. Over the holidays, I read a lot of financial blogs, and would like to take the best of what I’ve read and boil it down to a few ideas you might find useful in this New Year.

Grow your life like a successful business The best businesses in the world prepare themselves for inevitable downturns. They diversify their income stream, stockpile a rainy day fund, make money during good times and keep their expenses low in bad times. You are your own best asset. Make a nice, long list of all your good qualities and post it on your refrigerator door or by your computer. Read it before you go to a job interview. Be your own best cheerleader. In 2013, don’t get complacent. Keep growing. When times are good, keep looking around for new things to do, new stuff to learn. When times are tough, know that you can thrive even when others falter.

Fall down; feel bad; get back up If you lose your job (or your home or most of your retirement fund), it’s okay to feel depressed for a while, but as quickly as you can, dig deep for your determination and drive. If you get laid off, you could immediately file for unemployment and update your LinkedIn profile and resume while still feeling lousy. Lousy feelings are normal, but don’t let them go on for too long.

Fear sells; don’t buy it During the height of the recent recession, the media made a difficult situation much worse by their constant fear mongering. Would the stock market have fallen as much as it had without everyone being glued to the doomsday predictions of TV newscasts? Most media are in business to maximize their advertising dollars, and negative news does that extremely well. It’s like a traffic




accident by the side of the road; you don’t want to slow down and look, but it’s hard to not. Begin to consciously seek out more balanced media. Go to several different sources and get a bigpicture view. It’s not about money For most of us, it’s not the actual lack of money that messes with our heads, it’s the doomsday scenarios that we repeat and use to terrify ourselves. Many of us are repeating the beliefs about money and prosperity (or lack of it) with which we were raised. We mirror Mommy and Daddy’s views of the world. If you were raised with, “You are smart and you will always do well in the world,” that’s great. However, too many of us were raised with, “It’s a mean old world out there” or “People are gonna screw you, so screw them first.” These beliefs create a lousy relationship with money, and with trusting people. Money is energy, it is a means to an end. We say we want money, but we really want the experience that we hope money will buy. All too often, the money doesn’t bring that good experience and we’re disappointed. It’s not about the money; it’s about how happy and satisfied we are with what we’ve got. Your life is an experiment, not a problem to be solved As a psychotherapist, this is a crucial idea that I share with my clients. Your life is an adventure: a series of experiences that unfold over time. Some you have control over, many you do not. Obsessively solving one problem after another is a stressful way to live. Instead, be curious, not desperate. Use divergent thinking to explore new possibilities; who knows where you can go from here? Convergent thinking is very focused but can often be too narrow. Don’t box yourself in. I hope that 2013 is a year full of much joy and success for you, and that any hard times result in a powerful experience of your own true inner strength and wisdom. —Michael Kimmel is a licensed psychotherapist who specializes in helping LGBT clients achieve their goals and deal with anxiety, depression, grief, sexually addictive behavior, coming out, relationship challenges and homophobia. Michael is currently accepting new clients. Contact him at 619-955-3311 or visit






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Looking forward to ‘Bountiful’ entertainment this year Now is not the time to lament what you didn’t see in 2012, although the past year offered some stunning shows that included The Old Globe’s “Richard III” and “Allegiance,” La Jolla Playhouse’s “Yoshimi Battles the Pink Robots” and ion’s “The Little Flower of East Orange,” to name but a very few. It is the time, however, to look into the future and see how entertainment might bedazzle you in 2013. With these slate of shows, there is no need to look back – only forward – with a promise of great storytelling and bountiful entertainment in 2013. First up is Hershey Felder’s “An American Story” playing through Feb. 3 at the Birch North Park Theatre. It’s all about a young surgeon who cared for Lincoln in his final hours. Set in 1932, 90-year old Dr. Leale looks back on the day that changed his life, and American history forever. Additional information and tickets can be found at ion theatre will offer “Punk Rock” from Feb. 9 through March 9. British playwright Simon Stephens paints a story about bullying, underage sex, drugs and school violence. As the end of the school year approaches, a group of high school seniors prep for the next chapter in their adult academic lives. Tragedy results as friendships are tested and allegiances shift. Contact ion for tickets at 619600-5020 or

getting along just fine. The show features Eileen Bowman and Phil Johnson, and is packed with favorites songs like “Besame Mucho,” “Fever” and “Secret Love.” Tickets can be secured by dialing up the theater at 619-437-6000 or visiting online at

Cygnet Theatre will produce August Wilson’s “Gem of the Ocean” from Jan. 24 through Feb. 24. Set in 1904, the show is a chronology of the first 10 days in Wilson’s acclaimed Centur y Cycle, examining the African-American experience in the 20th Centur y. Citizen Barlow sparks a chain of events that drive a community into turmoil and set him on a journey, guided by 285-year-old Aunt Esther, towards personal redemption. Contact the theatre at 619-3371525 or visit for further details and ticketing information. Lamb’s Players Theatre will be entertaining audiences with “Pete ‘n Keely,” Jan. 18 – March 3. The year is 1968 and NBC is preparing for the live telecast of the “Pete and Keely Reunion” special. No matter what you’ve heard, or read in the tabloids, the couple is

at Diver‘Birds of a Feather’ team s) que Jac Ken sionary (Photo by Diversionary Theatre will take on Marc Acito’s “Birds of a Feather” Jan. 31 - March 3. It’s a smart comedy about two bird families – penguin and hawk – living at the Central Park Zoo and on a Central Park West roof, respectively. It’s based on the same true facts that inspired the famously banned book “And Tango Makes Three,” and will no doubt uplift your spirits and underscore what truly defines a family. For ticketing information contact the theatre at 619-220-0097 or visit

Bountiful, Texas. She takes off on her own for a journey to reclaim her memories, her youth and her life. Contact the theater for tickets at 760433-3245 or visit

Mo’olelo Performing Arts Company and Moxie Theatre team up with an adaptation of Toni Morrison’s “The Bluest Eye” (Feb. 2 – March 3). This joint production tells the story of one year in the life of a young African-American girl in 1940s Ohio. Eleven-year-old Pecola Breedlove wants nothing more than to be loved by her family and schoolmates; she dislikes her dark skin and prays for blue eyes. This drama paints a portrait of the legacy of racism on a young girl’s psyche. Call for tickets at 858-598-7620 or visit

New Village Arts Theatre will begin the New Year with Horton Foote’s “The Trip To Bountiful,” on the boards from Feb. 9 to March 3. The play is about finding your way home, as all Carrie wants to do before she dies is to see her hometown of

‘pygmalion’ at The Old Globe (Photo by Henry Dirocco)

The Old Globe Theatre will offer up two shows in the first month of the new year, “Pygmalion” (Jan. 12 – Feb. 17) and “The Brothers Size” (Jan. 26 – Feb. 24). “Pygmalion” is the story of the poor flower-seller, Eliza Doolittle. Henry Higgins, speech professor, takes on a wager that he can change her accent and pass her off as the epitome of English society. It’s all a battle of wits. “The Brothers Size” tells the story of Oshoosi, who is just out of prison and looking for a fresh start. He tests the bounds of family, friendship and his own dreams. Playwright Alvin McCraney spins a powerful tale, infused with West-African mythologies and rhythms of the Louisiana Bayou. Tickets for both productions can be obtained by calling 619-2345623 or visiting

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cover charge before 11 p.m. Doors are at 10 p.m. and Spin is located at 2828 Hancock St. For more information visit

Sunday, jan. 13

BeArS IN TeMeCuLA: Organized by Bears San Diego, the group is headed to Temecula for a wine tasting tour, today from 11:30 a.m. – 4 p.m. They will start with lunch at Spuntino Pizzeria in Temecula before four stops in Southern California’s wine country. The total cost is $32, not including lunch, and there will be designated drivers from San Diego, too. RSVP if you can, especially if you need a ride up. For more information visit or call 619-890-9182. Souleil at Bourbon Street: One-time-only special winter encore of Souleil, with Chicago house legend Roy Davis Jr. joined by residents DJ Ala, Paul Najera, Omar Paraiso and Mikeytown is tonight. From 1 – 9 p.m., head to Bourbon Street at 4612 Park Blvd. No cover. For more information visit

(Photos by raymond elstad)

Friday, jan. 11 – Sunday, jan. 13

hOT GuYS, DANCING: No, seriously. That’s the name of the latest cabaret production from Diversionary: “Hot Guys Dancing.” The new dance series is conceived and directed by Michael Mizerany, and will feature six choreographers presenting new and classic work. Joining Mizerany is Blythe Barton, Keith Johnson, Khamla Somphanh, Anjanette Maraya-Ramey and Spencer Powell. With only three shows – Friday, Jan. 11 and Saturday, Jan. 12 at 8 p.m., and Sunday, Jan. 13 at 2 p.m. – you need to get your tickets now. The hot guys dancing? Jacinto Delgado, Marty Anthony Dorado, Arthur Huang, Rogelio Lopez, Bradley R. Lundberg, Andrew Merrell, Ramon Montes, Edrian Pangilinan, Shannon Snyder, Nicholas Strasburg, Justin Viernes and David Wornovitzky. Tickets are $25 general and $39 VIP; Diversionary is located at 4545 Park Blvd. For more information and tickets visit or call 619-220-0097.

Friday, jan. 11

St. For more information contact Denise Serrano at or call 619-692-2077.

COMMuNITY COALITION BreAkFAST: Wake up early and come to The LGBT Center for this morning’s Community Coalition breakfast. Speaking this morning is Assembly Majority Leader Toni Atkins and Council President Todd Gloria, who will both discuss the upcoming legislative session. Admission is free, with breakfast available for $10. The breakfast is from 7:30 – 9 a.m., and if I can get up that early for it, so can you. The Center is located at 3909 Centre

Monday, jan. 14

MOMMIe DeAreST: It’s the event of the month, with FilmOut San Diego presenting “Mommie Dearest” tonight at 7 p.m. The Faye Dunaway as Joan Crawford classic was last screened by FilmOut over three years ago, so they went all out for tonight’s event. Co-presented by Ascent Real Estate, the film will be hosted by Tara Hole and audience participation is heavily encouraged. Get your wire hangers out from the closet, if you have any, and come

Saturday, jan. 12

ArreSTeD OPeNING NIGhT: DJ Shane Stiel opens San Diego’s newest and only after-hours leather and bear night, tonight at Spin Nightclub. Called Arrested, the event will repeat the second Saturday of every month. Drink specials all night long, with a $12 cover. Or text ARRESTED to 46786 and get a free shot and $8


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out to the Birch North Park Theater, located at 2891 University Ave. Tickets are $10 presale (cash at the door). For more information and tickets visit or call 619-239-8836.

Tuesday, jan. 15

STATe OF The CITY: Join the City Council for Mayor Bob Filner’s annual State of the City address, from 6 – 7 p.m. Doors open at 5:15 p.m., and will take place at Balboa Theatre, 868 Fourth Ave. There will be a reception immediately following at The Westin Gaslamp Quarter Hotel. For more information visit

Wednesday, jan. 16

BITChY BINGO: Lips in North Park is the home of this Wednesday night tradition, where Fifi and Kiki get mean and bitter so you can play BINGO and win prizes. The special three-course meal is $15.95, with drink specials all night long. Lips is located at 3036 El Cajon Blvd. For more information and reservations visit or call 619-295-7900.

Thursday, jan. 17

New YeAr’S MIxer: Join the GSDBA at their New Year’s mixer, held at the Top of the Park at Inn at the Park. Sponsored by San Diego Biz Law, you can pre-pay and print tickets on the GSDBA website. The cost is $10 for members, $25 for guests and it is a 21 and over event. The mixer is from 5:30 – 7:30 p.m. and Top of the Park is located at 525 Spruce St. For more information

and tickets visit or call 619-296-4543.

Friday, jan. 18

BIG TOP 2012: The folks at 1202 are bringing the circus to town, with an SDPix presentation including fire eaters and a real trapeze show. Come under the big top for a fundraiser benefiting Christie’s Place, tonight starting at 9 p.m. 1202 is located at 1202 University Ave. For more information call 619906-5555 or visit

Saturday, jan. 19

urBAN PrIDe INAuGurATION CeLeBrATION: Not heading to Washington, D.C. for President Obama’s inauguration? Celebrate the event with Urban Pride on the eve of Martin Luther King Jr. Day, from 10 p.m. – 2 a.m. Proceeds benefit Urban Pride, with $5 cover before midnight and $7 after. The party happens at the Hole, located at 2820 Lytton St. For more information visit urbanpridesd. AVANT GArDe DIVAS: It’s a new show for San Diego, hitting the Brass Rail tonight from 6 – 10 p.m. Sponsored by ThatsSoGayLIVE, the show is hosted by Lady Vajayjay and will feature performances by Glitz Glam, Lola Honey and Audrina Fernandez, among many more. DJ Sebastian La Madrid will spin, with $5 Svedka drinks all night long. The Brass Rail is located at 3796 Fifth Ave. For more information visit Facebook. com/brassrailsd or call 619-298-2233. weNDY hO: I haven’t thought about this parody Queen in some time, but Wendy Ho is the

see Calendar, page 11

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cAlendAr special guest for tonight’s Dream Girls dinner and show at Bourbon Street. Maybe – just maybe – she’ll perform “Bitch, I stole yo’ purse.” Hosted by Ladonna Monroe, the fun runs from 7 – 10 p.m. Bourbon Street is located at 4612 Park Blvd. For more information visit or call 619-291-0173.

Sunday, jan. 20

GLOSSArY: Tennessee-based band Glossary bring their seventh full-length album to Soda Bar tonight, which features the groups own style of “romanticized rock & roll.” Joey Kneiser from the band said they just wanted to make a positive record, so you know it’s going to be a positive night. Future You and Zozo Fiasco open, with doors at 8:30 p.m. Tickets are $5 and Soda Bar is located at 3615 El Cajon Blvd. For more information and tickets visit or call 619-255-7224.

Monday, jan. 21

hOwL’S MOVING CASTLe: Part of the complete Studio Ghibli Collection 1984 – 2004 retrospective screening at the Ken Cinema, tonight’s showing of “Howl’s Moving Castle” is not to miss. It’s a Hayayo Miyazaki (“Princess Mononoke”) animated adventure pulling from the “Wizard of Oz.” After being turned into a 90-year old woman by the Wicked Witch of the Waste, a teenage girl must travel to Howl’s magic castle to lift the spell. Show times have yet to be determined, but count on at least two throughout the day. The Ken is located at 4061 Adams Ave. For show times and tickets visit or call 619-283-3227.

San Diego Opera’s winning hand By Charlene Baldridge | GSD reporter It may come as news to some that San Diego Opera (SDO) General and Artistic Director Ian Campbell knows how to play his cards. Throughout his long career in grand opera – 30 years of it devoted to the City’s well-run 48-year-old institution – Campbell has kept cards on each singer he’s heard on stages in the U.S. and abroad. When he hears someone with extraordinary talent, Campbell has been known to rush backstage after the performance and offer a contract on the spot. Occasionally, the director plays a card that is trumped by circumstance, but that does not happen often. The opera network, comprising singers, managers, conductors and artisans, tells enquiring potential debutants that San Diego is a lovely city, SDO treats its artists well, the music-making is of high quality, and the audiences enthusiastic and informed. The 2013 season, including four performances each of four operas plus two performances of another (Jan. 26 – April 28), is especially pleasing to Campbell. He is staging the West Coast premiere of an opera he much admires (Idelbrando Pizzetti’s “Murder in the Cathedral,” March 30 – April 7), and cham-

pioning a special engagement of the first Mariachi opera (José “Pepe” Martinez and Leonard Foglia’s “Cruzar la Cara de la Luna,” March 13). Other operas in the repertory are Gaetano Donizetti’s “The Daughter of the Regiment” (Jan. 26 – Feb. 3), Camille Saint-Saëns’ “Samson and Delilah” (Feb. 16 – 24) and Giuseppe Verdi’s “Aida” (April 20 – 28). “The Daughter of the Regiment” features the return of two extraordinary singers, soprano L’ubica Vargicová as the regiment’s tomboy darling, Marie, and tenor Stephen Costello as Tonio, the peasant who loves her. Kevin Burdette portrays Sergeant Sulpice, Tonio’s rival, and divas Ewa Podleś and Carol Vaness make cameo performances as the Marquise de Birkenfeld and the Duchess of Krakenthorp respectively. Campbell wanted to go beyond the Tyrol and lederhosen, so he went with this production from Italy’s Teatro Comunale di Bologna, which moves the time and setting to France in the waning days of World War II. French-Canadian conductor Yves Abel makes his SDO debut. Based on the biblical story and blessed with Saint-Saëns’ voluptuous score, “Samson and Delilah” features Bulgarian mezzo-soprano Nadia Krasteva in her

company debut to court along as Delilah. She with other is paired with enslaved renowned tenor Ethiopians Clifton Forbes (the famous as the heroic Triumphal Samson, depenMarch). dent upon his Featurunshorn locks ing Mariachi for his strength. Vargas de The producTecalitián, the tion is known semi-staged for its dance, “Cruzar la costumes and Cara de la of course, the Luna” (To collapse of the Cross the temple. Face of Ian D. Campbell Campbell the Moon) (Courtesy San Diego Opera) said he has concerns the been fascinated Mexicanby “Murder in the Cathedral” American Mark Velasquez (Brian (based on T.S. Eliot’s verse Shircliffe) who questions his drama) since the 1970s, when he place in a bicultural world that laid hands on a pirated reel-tosweeps him from Michoacán reel tape of the opera’s 1958 La to Texas. Broadway director Scala debut. Leonard Foglia (“Moby-Dick”) “We have a lot of information stages the Mariachi opera, which about Sir Thomas Becket, even has been acclaimed in Houston, though he was assassinated at Texas and Paris. Campbell said Canterbury Cathedral in 1170,” he expects the two performances Campbell said. to sell out. One of the most popular, Tickets for SDO’s 2013 spectacular and aria-laden season are available now. There operas in the repertoire, “Aida,” is no rise in prices this year, and concerns an Ethiopian slave some tickets are being sold at (Moore) in the ancient Egypsubstantial discounts. Three- and tian court who is in love with four-opera season tickets are the battle hero Radames (tenor still available. Not part of the Walter Fraccaro). Radames is subscription packages, tickets for betrothed to Aida’s mistress, Am- “Cruzar” are individually priced. neris (mezzo Jill Grove). As part For specific dates and times, of his battle spoils, Radames has further information, and tickets, captured Aida’s father, Amonasro visit or call 619-533(Mark S. Doss), and brings him 7000.t

Tuesday, jan. 22

VICTOrY FuND wINTer SOCIAL: The San Diego Victory Fund will host a winter social in preparation for next month’s 2013 Champagne Brunch. Held every quarter, tonight’s social is from 5:30 – 7:30 p.m. at Uptown Tavern, located at 1236 University Ave. For more information and to RSVP email

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JOhN MeekS: Jennifer Cooke said Gene Autry fans would approve of the new work by John Meeks, the San Diego singer-songwriter taking the stage tonight at the Casbah. Meeks will no doubt present one of his newest singles, “Been Down by Love,” which we can’t wait to see live. Ugly Boogie opens. Tickets are $6, and it’s a 21-andover event. The Casbah is located at 2501 Kettner Blvd. For more information and tickets visit or call 619-232-4355.

Thursday, jan. 24

MIYAzAkI MASTerwOrk: The last in the Studio Ghibli Collection retrospective is actually Hayoa Miyazaki’s first film, which many consider his best. “Nausicaa of the Valley of the Wind” is the environmental animated-feature that tells the story of a world decimated by atmospheric poisons and swarming with gigantic insects. In it, a “young princess’ love for all living things” leads her to triumph. The film is from 1984, and screen times have yet to be announced. The Ken is located at 4061 Adams Ave. For show times and tickets visit or call 619-283-3227.t

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A trip into



2230 Shelter Island Drive (Shelter Island)


Seared ahi with crispy edges

Fried bass topped over vegetables

Lobster-mushroom risotto with egg

(Photo by Frank Sabatini Jr.)

(Photo by Frank Sabatini Jr.)

(Photo by Frank Sabatini Jr.)


hen the flying-saucer shaped Bali Hai Restaurant opened on Shelter Island, the “I Love Lucy Show” was in its fourth season, Americans were introduced to TV dinners and President Dwight D. Eisenhower was in office. The year was 1954, which also started a running count for the number of extra-strength Mai Tais that Bali Hai has served to present day. The total easily exceeds 2 million, said Susan Baumann, whose late father, Tom Ham, established the restaurant after working briefly for it as an accountant. Organized record keeping has enabled the Polynesian-style operation to track sales of the

celebrated cocktail, which adheres to the original Trader Vic’s recipe that emerged from the tiki culture fad of the early ’50s. Lightweights beware. The drink contains no fruit juice as seen in later versions. This is basically dark and light rum hiding modicums of orange liqueur and sweet and sour. A thicket of finely crushed ice on top tempers the flavor but doesn’t necessarily diminish the brain slam. My dinner companion, a Hungarian transplant accustomed to hard liquors in his homeland, could barely finish the drink. A friend in a previous visit poured splashes of the cocktail into each Coke refill,

resulting in a series of brawny rum and Cokes that carried him through the evening. Provided you have a designated driver, the Mai Tais are a jolly part of the Bali Hai experience. Complimenting a $4.5 million renovation a few years ago, as well as one of the best bay views in San Diego, is an ever-changing menu of Pacific Rim dishes, most of them featuring contemporar y twists. As of this week, Executive Chef Dion Morales added several new supper creations to the lineup, which include rich lobster-mushroom risotto with a poached egg. Vegetable broth is used for achieving the ideal bal-

ance of creaminess while bits of the knuckle meat from Maine lobsters tease the palate with oceanic sweetness. As the egg yolk starts seeping in, the dish turns more luxurious. Crispy ahi is also new. Ruby-red in the center, the medallions are lined in nori and rice batter. We loved the contrast between their warm, flash-fried rims and their soft, fleshy centers. Fresh and flavorful, the fish was on target to what you’d find at top-notch sushi houses. Less exciting was a debut appetizer of smoked salmon Philly wontons. Assuming that the salmon will eventually be given greater prominence, we could detect only

Dinner prices: Starters, $8 to $17; entrees, $17 to $31 the cream cheese and scallions inside the delicate pillows. Among the standbys, a starter of coconut shrimp was fantastic. Unlike phony Hawaiian preparations that rely on white sugar to sweeten the shrimp, these are pre-soaked in coconut milk before taking on their sturdy coconut batter. Spunky ginger-lime dipping sauce and refreshing papaya salad provided Malaysian-Thai credence to the dish. From the salad category, the chef expertly matches Asian winter squash to spring greens, Parmesan cheese and curry vinaigrette. It’s an unusual and complex medley of ingredients, while at the same time it strikes an unexpected compatibility of flavors. Sweet and sour chicken has remained on the entrée list since Bali Hai opened, offering customers a taste of the past with chunked pineapple, peppers and onions in a Catonese-style sauce. The 14-ounce wok-fried Cor vina bass in ponzu sauce grabbed our attention instead as a relative newcomer to the menu since the remodel. “This reminds me of the fried fish I ate as a kid along the Danube River,” my companion said as we poked through the comforting batter and into the moist, flakey meat. The only difference is that in Hungary, such fish isn’t sold blanketed in bok choy, fresh chives and raw ginger. Both the presentation and flavors were rousing. Our dessert carried tropical flair with caramelized pineapple strewn across vanilla bean ice cream and cinnamon crumb cake; a James Dole meets Betty Crocker meets Ben & Jerry’s kind of treat that provided a fulfilling sugar fix. So what does San Diego’s “tiki temple” look like these days? The mysterious “goof on the roof” still stands over lush landscaping, while a network of slanted wooden beams throughout have been restored to their luster. The bayfacing dining room, open for lunch as well, feels roomier and with views offered from every whitelinen table. Polynesian artifacts are neatly contained in lobby display cases. And on ground level, an annexed pavilion plays host to weddings and other private events. Baumann’s latest renovation is occurring across the bay at Tom Ham’s Lighthouse, which her father also founded. Like Bali Hai, it is operated with the support of her husband and sons. Completion is due by early May.t


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If you’re among the first 1,000 customers buying a cupcake at Sprinkles Cupcakes on Sunday, Jan. 13, a free scoop of red velvet ice cream will be included with your purchase. The giveaway is part of the shop’s two-year anniversary since expanding here from Beverly Hills. 8855 Villa La Jolla Drive, La Jolla. 858-457-3800.

By Anthony King | GSD Editor Sponsored by the San Diego chapter of the California Restaurant Association (CRA), the City’s biannual Restaurant Week returns this month. For one week, Sunday, Jan. 13 through Friday, Jan. 18, over 140,000 people are expected to participate by visiting numerous participating restaurants. Restaurants will be offering three-course prix-fixe dinner menus for $20, $30 or $40 per person. There are over 180 eateries scheduled to offer the special prices. In addition, several restaurants will be offering twocourse lunch menus, starting at $10 per person. “San Diego Restaurant Week is the best time to relax at the newest tapas bar one night, dine al fresco by the bay the next and then end the week with an indulgent dessert at one of the city’s most remarkable five-star restaurants,” organizers said in a press release. Additionally, Restaurant Week organizers have chosen the San Diego-Imperial Counties chapter of the American Red Cross and the Jacobs & Cushman San Diego Food Bank as the official 2013 charity partners. The partnership, which includes $5,000 for each organization, was announced at a press conference held Wednesday, Jan. 9. Among those in attendance were Mayor Bob Filner, Andrea Waldron of the American Red Cross and James Floros of the Food Bank. Organizers said participating is easy, with no need to buy tickets or bring coupons. “There are no passes to buy, no coupons to carr y and no cards to punch, only a quick call to the restaurant of your choice to make reser vations,” they said. The complete list of restaurants, including prices, cuisine offered and location, is available on the official website, where individuals can search the database by a number of criteria. Alternately, the CRA is offering a Restaurant Week Application for smartphones, where patrons can find details on all participating restaurants, compare menus and make reser vations. The application details were announced at the Jan. 9 press conference, and include an opportunity for users who download the app to enter to win a VIP package from La Jolla Concours d’Elegance. The giveaway includes a two-night stay at the La Valencia Hotel in La Jolla and a $200 dining card to a La Jolla restaurant, among others. Organizers are recommending advance reser vations for all diners, including lunch and dinner. For more information, including a complete list of participating locations, visit or call 619-233-5008.t

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The Chinese chicken salad returns. (Courtesy Sammy’s woodfired Pizza & Grill)

Please a person’s palate and they will never forget you. Such was the case with devoted customers of Sammy’s woodfired Pizza & Grill as they reportedly applied some pressure on Sammy’s to bring back a host of dishes that had been axed in previous menu changes. Among the “classics” that were recently reinstated at all locations: Chinese chicken salad; lobster mac-n-cheese; crab and shrimp dip; and Thai chicken (or shrimp) pizza. In addition, things like tomato angel hair pasta and oak-roasted salmon filet have returned to their original recipes.

Get ready for Project Pie, a new pizzeria coming to Fourth and University avenues that allows you to pick and choose your toppings for a flat price of $7.50. Founded by restaurateur James Markham of Carlsbad, the Hillcrest opening at the end of this month marks the first San Diego location since launching at the MGM Grand Las Vegas last year. From an array of fresh ingredients kept in eyeshot, customers can opt for prosciutto, potatoes, feta cheese and roasted corn as well as traditional toppings. The pies measure about 12 inches in diameter. 3888 Fourth Ave.

Wild boar burger (Courtesy Burger lounge)

After operating five years in North Park in tight confines, William Gustweiller of eclipse Chocolat is quadrupling his space with a full restaurant in South Park. His new digs will feature a craft beer bar, daily brunch service, a chocolate factory and private dining room. Savories such as paninis and soups will be available during regular operating hours. “We’re looking forward to stretching our muscles,” said Gustweiller, who assures that his monthly chocolate-themed dinners will resume. The public grand opening is scheduled from 11 a.m. to 6 p.m., Feb. 2, at 2145 Fern St. 619-578-2984.

The pinot noir pizza at Wine Steals (Photo by Frank Sabatini Jr.)


As part of its “game-changing burger” promotion, Burger Lounge at all locations just rolled out a new smoky wild boar burger that will remain available for the next two months. The succulent patty is topped with smoked cheddar and housemade onion rings and barbecue sauce. In a single day last week, an employee at the Hillcrest location said the boar accounted for nearly half of all burger sales. The cost is $9.95.

William Gustweiller (Photo by Frank Sabatini Jr.)

An expanded food menu is in the works at all locations of wine Steals (Hillcrest, Point Loma and Cardiff) that will include new appetizers and pizzas geared for beer. The offerings currently include specialty pizzas named after wine varietals, plus salads, boards and wraps. Also, the company is now closed on Mondays and has moved its no-corkage” night to Sundays, from 4 p.m. to closing, which follows a Sunday-morning deal of six half-glasses of wine for $10 and mimosas for $1. 619-295-1188,



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Brandy will always love you Singer talks gay following, her zero tolerance for hate and why Frank Ocean’s coming out is a ‘gift’

B: With the first album I was just a teenager trying to find my way. Now I’m a woman and I know very much who I am, but I have not lost that innocence and that shy part of who I am. I’m still very shy. You would be shocked to find out that I’m still [having] stage fright, and although I will talk to anybody I meet – I’ll have a full conversation with them – there are still some things that make me shy and bashful. I never wanna lose that. I never wanna lose the part of me that I had when I first started, you know, the humble side. You always wanna be appreciative, and I think I’m more that now because of my struggle and because of everything that I’ve been through. I’m appreciative for every little thing that comes my way, even this conversation, to bring awareness to me and my music is a blessing. CA: When did you know you had a gay following?

Brandy (Photo by Gomillion & leupold) By Chris Azzopardi | Q Syndicate The ’90s wouldn’t have been the same without Brandy. The plucky then-teen, who was just 16 when she released her 1994 debut, dominated the charts with an iconic run of hits: “I Wanna Be Down,” “Have You Ever” and her diva-off with Monica, “The Boy is Mine,” a song so abiding that even “Glee” couldn’t resist a cover. But with a starring role in “Moesha,” debuting in 1996, the crosspollinating performer quickly made it clear that she wanted to conquer not just music but acting, too. Later that decade, she’d star in “Cinderella” with Whitney Houston. Brandy’s relationship with the legendary icon, and the tragedy of her death last year, is evoked in the title of Brandy’s latest album, “Two Eleven,” eerily representing the day Houston died and also Brandy’s birthday. Now 33 and recently engaged, Brandy opened up about those early years as a tomboy, how she can still channel heartbreak despite her happiness and why her gay audience is, as she says, “the best audience.”

Chris Azzopardi: Can you believe it’s been almost 20 years since you released your self-titled debut? Brandy: Oh my lord. It doesn’t feel like it’s been that long. I remember doing the photo shoot for the album like it’s yesterday. I have so many memories of doing the first album and working with some of the producers that I worked with, and being in the middle of Times Square doing the video [for “Baby”]. I remember certain things about that album like it was yesterday. CA: And how about those clothes? You were such a tomboy then. B: I was! I was a tomboy. I still am sometimes. Boys are fun [laughs]. It’s fun, you know, wearing the boots and the baggy clothes – and the hat! Back then baggy clothes on a girl were so cute. If you didn’t have baggy clothes, you were not hot. CA: Besides your fashion evolution, how else have you changed between that album and “Two Eleven”?

B: This older guy came up to me – I was about 16 years old – and I think he was my makeup artist’s friend or boyfriend. They didn’t really admit it to me, but I kind of thought something was going on, and he comes up to me and he’s like, “Brandy, girl! We gay boys love you! We looooove you.” And I’m like, “Really? That’s dope!” One of my best friends was gay in high school and he just had so much love for me, but I didn’t know I had a following of gay fans, and so he was like, “Oh, and you so pretty. If I was straight I would take you out” [laughs]. He just made me feel so good, and then I noticed that a lot of gay people loved me and just made me feel so good. I have two gay best friends now, and I know they will keep it all the way real with me. If I’m not looking my best or if I could have sounded better, I go to them because they’re gonna tell me the truth. Everywhere I go, [my gay fans] come out and support me and make me feel so loved and so appreciated. I did a whole run of gay clubs recently with the album. I would do my other stuff and then go and perform at like 2 in the morning. The energy just feels completely different. Like, they go in for me. And I’m telling you, I become this other person onstage because of that. Ah, I could go on and on about my gay fans. CA: So you did a club run for “Two Eleven?” B: I did. I did a lot of stuff in New York. I did some stuff in – oh, where was I? I don’t know where I’ve been, but it was specifically for my gay fans. They have been the best audience for me. It’s just a different level of love. It feels like overseas love, because when you go overseas and you haven’t been in a long time they go crazy – and that’s how I feel. CA: You seem to know your gay fans pretty well. Which songs off the album do they love? B: I know they love “Let Me Go” and “Do You Know What You Have.” They’ve really been showing a lot of love for “Two Eleven” as a whole. But I go to this site that one of my gay fans started for me called and get all of their opinions on what I should do next, if they didn’t like my outfit … I need to know what they think! And they’re gonna tell me the truth. I love that. And it’s no shade, either! It’s just all love. CA: You and Frank Ocean haven’t just worked together, as you did on this album, but you’re also friends. What did you think of his coming-out letter on Tumblr? B: I was so amazed by that. It was just so brave and it represented so much. His truth just set him free. I just think that when you can tell your truth – and are proud of your truth and use your truth for your art and to inspire someone else to connect with their truth – you are now a gift. He is a gift. CA: Do you think the urban community is more accepting and open when it comes to gay people than it was when you first started two decades ago? B: It better be more accepting. This is just the way it is, and people just need to realize that love is unconditional. It knows no sex, no race, no culture. It just knows itself. That’s it. And if people don’t want to see that, then they’re blind. I have no words for people who don’t want to accept or see that. CA: Did you notice early in your career much homophobia within the urban community?

B: I’ve always been a part of that world. I’ve always accepted people for who they are and what they want to do. I wasn’t ever like, “Oh my god, that’s amazing that this person’s gay or that that person’s this.” I’ve never really looked at it like that. It’s always been a part of my life. I went to Hollywood High School and I saw everything, and I was so amazed by my best friend. He knew how to do the splits! I didn’t even know how to do the splits. I’m like, “Dang, you know how to do the splits?! I don’t know how to do the splits. We’re in the same damn class. You’re a boy, I’m a girl – what’s up with that?” We just connected and it’s just always been a part of me. I never really looked at it. CA: Your daughter is 10 now. How are you teaching her acceptance and love for everyone? B: I teach her that love is unconditional. It knows itself and that’s it. My tennis coach is a lesbian and she’s got a great partner and they have a child together, and we’ve all hung out. It’s not something I keep from her. She needs to know that this is the way it is and that love is gonna do what it do. That’s what I teach her. She loves my gay friends and she loves my tennis coach and her partner, too. To her, this is the way it’s supposed to be. CA: For the new album, Frank wrote “Scared of Beautiful,” a song you’ve said you relate to. Does that mean gay men understand women better than straight men? B: I honestly think that gay men understand women differently than straight men understand women, because my gay friends are like my girls sometimes. They understand me more than my girls understand me. They understand me sometimes more than women understand me, so you know they’re gonna understand me a little more than my man understands me [laughs]. My gay friends are like my girlfriends, and I connect to them sometimes more than my actual girlfriends because they just get it. They get it on the man side and they get it on the girl side, too. And sometimes straight men just get it on the man side and they think you’re trippin’. They think you mad at them! Your gay friends are like, “Girl, I feel you.” CA: Beyoncé told me the same thing when I interviewed her: that when she refers to the girls running the world, she also means the gays. B: Yes, B! B, I agree, girl. You guys give us life. —Chris Azzopardi is the editor of Q Syndicate, the international LGBT wire service. Reach him via his website at


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619-961-1958 | NEiL BERG’S 103 YEARS OF BROADWAY AT BALBOA THEATRE The highly acclaimed 103 Years of Broadway, a musical revue of Broadway’s most celebrated music, is coming to the historic Balboa Theatre in Downtown San Diego on Sunday, January 20, 2013 at 2:30 p.m. Featuring a dazzling cast of five Broadway stars accompanied by an all-star New York band, 103 Years of Broadway celebrates the best of Broadway in a high energy concert of Broadway’s current, recent and classic gems. Last year, Balboa Theatre audiences cheered 102 Years of Broadway, with many saying it was one of the best shows in recent memory, and fans have been clamoring for the return of this year’s updated presentation. Back from last year is the husband and wife team of Ron Bohmer and Sandra Joseph. They wowed the audience by recreating their performances as the Phantom and Christine in The Phantom of the Opera, just one of their many Broadway credits. Sandra Joseph has been the longest running

Christine in Broadway history. Ron Bohmer’s additional credits include Sunset Boulevard, Les Miserables and The Scarlet Pimpernel. This year’s cast also includes Jeffrey Denman from White Christmas, The Producers, and How to Succeed in Business Without Really Trying. From Jelly’s Last Jam and Black and Blue is powerhouse performer Ted Louis Levy. Fallbrook native Erin Denman brings her credits from Broadway’s 42nd Street and the national tour of The Producers. The producer, music director and MC of 103 Years on Broadway is Neil Berg, who provides an engaging narrative as well as behind-the-scenes stories to all the musical highlights performed by the five talented cast members and outstanding musicians. Neil’s depth of knowledge and his ability to tell little known Broadway tales, even further elevate this memorable concert. San Diego Theatres will present


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Neil Berg’s 103 Years of Broadway at the historic Balboa Theatre on Sunday, Jan. 20, 2013 at 2:30 pm. This is the perfect show for those who enjoy the best of Broadway musicals. Additionally, it would be a memorable gift. Tickets are available online at:, at the San Diego Theatres advanced ticket office (across the plaza from the Civic Theatre), by calling 570-1100 (619/760/858 area codes) and Ticketmaster, or day of show at the Balboa Theatre, located at 868 Fourth Ave.




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‘Magic Mike’ sizzles, ‘The Paperboy’ does whatever the opposite of sizzle is It was a year of male nudity at the movies, but it came with some strings attached. It turns out that sometimes what you think is going to happen, well, just doesn’t. Steven Soderbergh’s hit summer stripper movie opened with a lot of buzz about a lot of naked men. And it more or less delivered, especially where “True Blood” actor Joe Manganiello was concerned. But what the unsuspecting gays-and-their-straight-girls audience didn’t know was how the film would turn out to really be about the economic crisis and how much of a drag it is to be stuck in Tampa, Fla., in a go-nowhere job. Not quite the lap dance we were promised. Meanwhile, after a storm of press for its Cannes Film Festival premiere, Lee Daniel’s much-outraged-about “The Paperboy” (the one where Nicole Kidman urinates on Zac Efron’s face) barely made a noise at the box office. And it can be argued that Efron – mostly appearing in the film in a variety of dampened pairs of underpants – and co-star Matthew McConaughey both show much more skin than anyone in “Magic Mike” (McConaughey included, since he was in both films). It’s just that nobody seemed to care. Gay shows get cancelled, audiences refuse to freak out too much about it “The New Normal” is still buzzing along, thanks to juggernaut-master Ryan Murphy grabbing hold of the TV zeitgeist and turning every show he creates into miniature tempests of oneliners and plot continuity frustrations. But “Partners” is already done, out of here, erased. From the creators of “Will & Grace,” it came and went without audiences making much online outcry (the place where all outcries go to be stoked these days). It turns out that with so many gay characters on so many shows, the days of rallying around the only flag in town are over. You have to be the kind of gays we want to actually watch. And no, nobody has a good answer for what kind of gay that is. Ask the still-smarting-fromdefeat cast of “The A-List: Dallas” about it.

Rachel Maddow (Courtesy MSNBC) rachel Maddow is the boss of election night 2012 How great is it to have a brilliantly smart, rational, funny lesbian leading the pack of TV political pundits? That’s a rhetorical question, of course. Sure, Rachel

Maddow fumbles the ball every now and then, like any human being hosting a news program will, but overall she couldn’t be any better if she were dreamed up by a team of thoughtful lesbian marketing wizards. And the MSNBC host cemented her place as a leader in the world of talking heads on election night, as one run-of-the-mill, middle-of-the-road male pundit after another seemed to be courting her favor while results poured in. And because she is a recently installed queen, she was still gracious to them all. Long may she reign. ‘The Times of har vey Milk’ makes The National Film registr y “The Times of Harvey Milk,” the Oscar-winning 1984 documentary from Rob Epstein and Jeffrey Friedman, which also helped lay the cinematic foundation for Gus Van Sant’s later fictionalized biopic, “Milk,” was recently selected for The National Film Registry, which archives historically important movies for preservation. The story of the 1970s San Francisco City Councilmember and gay rights activist marks a first for the Registry, which was previously without any films by or about gay Americans. And if you’re wondering if this is going to open some kind of

floodgate, rest assured that “I Now Pronounce You Chuck and Larry” and “Boat Trip” are probably not on anyone’s short list.

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Viggo Mortensen & kirsten Dunst are ‘The Two Faces of Januar y’ Eventually they’ll run out of Patricia Highsmith books to adapt into films, but until that day, the late bisexual author’s body of work continues to make for great entertainment of the rich-peopleplus-crime variety. Currently in production is “The Two Faces of January,” based on Highsmith’s 1964 novel and starring Viggo Mortensen and Kirsten Dunst. Set in Greece and France, the psychological thriller concerns a con man (Mortensen) who accidentally kills a Greek police officer. The con man’s wife (Dunst) and a stranger (Oscar Issac) help to cover up the incident before fleeing the country in some really impeccable period costumes. And if all of that sounds more than a

little bit like “The Talented Mr. Ripley,” give or take a handful of details, that’s because Highsmith wrote that one, too. The film is set for a late 2013 release. Make sure your shoes are properly shined and your necktie is knotted “just so” before then. ‘One Million’ moms pick fights with elle and J. Lo A group of several thousand online activists calling themselves – counting be damned – One Million Moms, decided to court media attention by organizing an ineffectual boycott of JC Penney, Co. after they put Ellen DeGeneres in some of their TV ads. Yes, that Ellen DeGeneres, the frothing monster and supervillain, that one with her own widely watched afternoon talk show, the one who dances adorably with the audience and is generally beloved by actual millions. Then “One Million Moms” decided to get mad at Jennifer Lopez. Why? J. Lo is now a TV producer, see, and she is working on a show where two characters are a lesbian couple with children. Obviously, this is also an outrage because “One Million Moms” hate other moms almost as much as they hate Ellen. When the J. Lo tempest went nowhere, OMM decided to return to the scene of the crime and get angr y about JC Penney again for putting Ellen in their Christmas-

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themed commercials. Or maybe they’re mad about elves and little gingerbread cakes. It’s hard to keep track. More from them in 2013, we’re sure. Hope it’s just as entertaining. Gay indie film ‘keep The Lights On’ makes critics’ yearend best lists It’s an explicitly sexual indie film about a gay couple dealing with drug addiction. But Ira Sachs’s “Keep The Lights On,” an autobiographical account of his relationship with a partner caught in a spiral of substance abuse (a character based on Bill Clegg, whose own memoir “Portrait of An Addict As a Young Man” tells his version of events) crossed over from the usual gay-indie-cinema world of film festivals and low-key DVD release schedules to win acclaim across the board and a wider release than this sort of thing usually receives. It was sensitive, intimate, harrowing and maddening, intelligently written and directed, and acted with quiet intensity by Danish star Thure Lindhardt and Zachary Booth (“Damages”). Just because you watched an episode of “Intervention” once, don’t think you know everything. This movie will take a bite out of you. —Romeo San Vicente can be reached care of Gay San Diego or at



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Tournaments highlight new year Sin City Shootout The largest annual LGBT sports competition in North America takes place Jan. 18 – 20 in Las Vegas, and many San Diegans will be making the trip to participate. Now in it’s sixth year, the annual Sin City Shootout began as simply a softball tournament organized by leadership from the Los Angeles area softball league, but held in Las Vegas. Since 2007, several sports have been added each year, and over 6,000 athletes are expected to participate in at least one of the 12 competitions available, with some signing up for more than one sport. The offerings include basketball, bodybuilding, bridge, dodge ball, Frisbee, golf, ice

hockey, soccer, softball, tennis, volleyball and wrestling. Tennis, softball and basketball are among the more popular fields in this year’s event, and San Diego will be represented well. Many of our local tennis athletes have signed up to play, including Chad Kawahara, who also plays for my Loft softball team and will be playing in both competitions. Several members of San Diego Hoops, our local LGBT league, have formed a team to try and improve upon their second-place finish in 2012. My Loft team will be San Diego’s lone representative in softball’s B division this year, as we try to top our fifth-place finish from last year. The

Hillcrest Brewing Company Outlaws seek to defend their championship trophy from last year, and a handful of other C and D division teams will make the trip as well. Tournament Director Eric Ryan, who serves as the D division commissioner of the Greater Los Angeles Softball Association (GLASA), has put together a fantastic event that has become a must-attend tournament each year. The Tropicana serves as the host hotel and will be the site of a huge registration party on Friday of that weekend, followed by a massive closing party on Sunday that will bring together athletes of every sport into their club. Players enjoy big discounts on airfare, car rental, restaurants, hotel stays, and more. In all, this promises to be a wild and exciting weekend for everyone, and hopefully San Diegans will be able to bring back more hardware. Surf ’n Turf Bowl coming in April A new flag football tournament is in the works for San Diego, headed by local flag football leader Ivan Solis. The event will be held here at Doyle Community Park near UTC over the weekend of April 27 – 28. Solis, who founded the San Diego American Flag Football League (SDAFFL) in 2004, has made a name for himself by also running a similar tournament in Palm Springs. The new tournament will have a more traditional format, where players are allowed to form their own teams and enter the tournament instead of being subjected to a draft system. A minimum of four San

The Outlaws at last year’s Sin City Shootout (Photo by Brian Burnett) Diego teams are expected to compete, and Solis has received verbal commitments from teams based in Denver, Los Angeles, Phoenix, Salt Lake City, San Francisco, and potentially, Portland, Ore. and Seattle. “We just want to have a successful tournament that we can run under our rules, since there really isn’t any other tournament held every year on the West Coast,” Solis said. Teams will compete in a pool play bracket that will determine seedings for single-elimination play later in the tournament. Unlike Gay Bowl, which crowns an ultimate champion each year, this tournament will have one open level of competition instead of an A and B division. Solis attempted a similar concept in 2006 here in San Diego, but the thinking is that now that gay flag football has exploded in popularity across the nation (and San Diego has earned a reputation has home to many of the best players), teams will want to make the trip here every year and participate.

SDAFFL Important Dates The Surf ’n Turf Bowl will fall right in the heart of SDAFFL’s regular season schedule. That league kicks off its newest season with a pub crawl on Jan. 19. Any interested players who feel like they need some additional help learning the skills of football are encouraged to attend the league’s Rookie Camps on Jan. 26 and Feb. 2. On those same dates, player clinics will be held for all players who want to play in 2013. Everyone who wishes to play in 2013 must attend at least one of these clinics. Players are run through a battery of drills so that coaches can assess their abilities and make draft charts. All eligible, registered players will then be selected by coaches at the league’s annual draft on Feb. 9, and rosters will be announced that day at the SDAFFL Draft Party. For more information about the league and to keep track of times and locations for these events, visit


poliTicAl lage, which was added to the council district after the 2010 census. To get around this “technicality” of not living in the district, Cole said she had moved and was renting in Paradise Hills. It is also unclear when Cole filed her changed voter registration form for her new address, and if she will meet the 30-day residency requirement as mandated by the City Charter. On Tuesday, Jan. 8 when the City Council voted to set the date of the special election, Cole argued that if they could not use the new District Four boundary lines for candidates, then she would urge them to choose a later date to ensure she would qualify to have her name on the ballot, regardless of the cost. I am disappointed and sickened that Cole would specifically ask the City Council to hold the special election on March 26 rather than have it be in conjunction with the March 12 special election taking place for State Senate, just so that she could run for Council. That is a $100,000 selfish request, and I hope the residents of District Four know who promoted that additional expense just to promote herself. —Allan Acevedo is co-founder and president emeritus of Stonewall Young Democrats of San Diego. He has worked on multiple political campaigns and served on numerous boards including the San Diego Democratic Club, California Young Democrats, Gay-Straight Alliant Network and Equality California PAC. Follow @allanacevedo on Twitter.t


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elderly parents and feeding the kids each evening; there are many more. But barriers should not stop you from implementing positive changes to secure a long and healthy life. What is a “fence sitter”? That is a person who only puts their foot halfway in the water, or halfway to a commitment. Now it’s the first of the year and time to make some positive changes to your lifestyle. You can surely find one to two things that you do control, and you can attack those. Make them positive habits that you always think about, and then pick two more. Before you know it, you are on your way to a new you. I knew a nurse who said that her challenge was eating cake at work. With 40 fellow staff members, seldom did a week go by without a cake or party celebrating a birthday, wedding anniversar y or birth. What did she do? She found a few charities that the staff could get behind and at ever y party, they decided to donate $1 in that person’s name instead of buying and eating cake. At the end of the year they had over $1,000 for charity and celebrated

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walking six days a week. Then, find that special time for walking on Sunday. There are indeed things that you can control in life that will make you healthier and ultimately happier. Ever ything in life is brighter and more abundant when you are happy and healthy. When you feel and look your best, you are on top of the world and can do anything. Throw out “happy” and “healthy” and life can take you down a dark path. The good news is you can control your health and your happiness. Start with only one to two things that you can control, and then go to work on them. You’ll soon see your world change.



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an end to eating cake! It’s hard to change your diet overnight, but you can form one or two new habits ever y month to do just that. Tr y eatinghealthy tips such as these: a half a sandwich instead of a whole one at lunch; swearing off fried foods and soda; adding one piece of fruit per day; cut-back or eliminate alcohol. You can also make a quality lunch at home from nutritious ingredients you pick out, instead of buying lunch out. Don’t be fooled by any fashionistas in your circle. A lunch cooler tote is ver y chic. Maybe you can’t workout ever y day, but an easy way to start is to find a buddy or co-worker, and walk together at lunch. Then make sure you go out ever y day. If the weather is bad, look for an indoor mall or other enclosed facility. After you’re in the habit of going five days a week, car ve out some time each Saturday when you take a walk. Select a time of day (maybe first thing in the morning) when you don’t have conflicts or distractions and you know you can always get it done. Before you know it, you’ll be out


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January 11, 2013 edition. San Diego's LGBT community newspaper.

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