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The return of South Bay Pride


Advocating for your own

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Sheryl Lee Ralph, actress and HIV activist (Photo by Duane Cramer)

Photographer Duane Cramer launches ‘I Design’ campaign on National Black HIV/AIDS Awareness Day By Anthony King | GSD Editor

Out at the Jewish Film Fest


Tegan and Sara’s evolution

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Cygnet’s ‘Gem’

After cancelling last year’s event, organizers are busy preparing for a ‘bigger, stronger, better’ Pride

Professional photographer and HIV activist Duane Cramer is the new voice of Merck’s “I Design” campaign, an online, community-building tool helping those living with HIV to take a personal stake in their health. Cramer, whose award-winning portraits have been seen around the globe, joins “Project Runway” star Mondo Guerra for the nation-wide initiative. Launched Thursday, Feb. 7 – National Black HIV/AIDS Awareness Day – Cramer, whose father died of AIDS-related complications in 1986 and who has been HIV positive for two decades, said the timing was especially important. “What I’m concerned about [are] the black teens aged 13 to 19. They represent 15 percent of the population, but 70 percent of the AIDS diagnoses in 2010,” Cramer said. “What that tells us is that we need to talk to these young people and to put things boldly in front of them.” National Black HIV/AIDS Awareness Day began as a way to increase AIDS awareness and prevention among African-

Americans in the United States. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention says African-Americans are facing the “most severe burden” of the virus, compared to all other race and ethnic groups. It is the statistics and personal stories that, while staggering, push Cramer to be an advocate for HIVhealth awareness. After creating a panel on the AIDS Memorial Quilt for his father, Cramer served as board member emeritus for the Names Project Foundation, and was a founding member of the San Francisco LGBT Community Center board. Merck, an international health and pharmaceutical company, launched the I Design campaign last year with Guerra.

see Health, pg 3

Photographer Duane Cramer

South Bay Alliance members are setting the wheels in motion for the return of the South Bay Pride Art and Music Festival, set to take place Sept. 14 in Chula Vista, Calif. After the cancelation of last year’s Pride, board chair Dae Elliott said the organization was looking to come back “bigger and better,” with eyes focused on the future. “The idea is to come out with a much bigger bang,” Elliott said. “The goal this year is to really push hard to make it substantially bigger.” Founded in 2006, the South Bay Alliance has been organizing events for the LGBT community in Chula Vista to provide a comfortable, social atmosphere where members can meet. Elliott, who served on the initial Alliance executive committee with John Acosta, Marci Bair and Craig Knudson, launched the first South Bay Pride in 2007. Early 2012, the Alliance first said they were looking to push back the date for can that year’s annual event, and then cancelled it all together. Both Elliott and Bair had stepped back from the organization after Pride 2011, in part to focus on work and family. Ben Orgovan, who now serves as operations manager for San Diego LGBT produc Pride, stepped into the position of producing 2011 South Bay Pride, but there was not enough time or resources. “Last year was just one of those that just seemed [like] very time we turned around, someone was going through a catastrophe,” Elliott said. “We were losing … the people that really put in a lot of energy, a lot of focus.” Calling herself compulsive, Elliott said after stepping back, she realized the pieces were not coming together quickly enough to stage an event in 2012. “When we looked at it again … around June [2012], we said, ‘you know what? You can’t do this,’” she said. “I know how much work it takes.” Elliott said she felt “very let down” at

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see SouthBay, pg 17

Osier’s honor, courage and commitment shine Navy retirement at LGBT Center may be first By Morgan M. Hurley | GSD Assistant Editor San Diego penned another first in the LGBT military history books when local resident Trent Osier held his United States Naval retirement ceremony at The San Diego LGBT Center Jan. 25. The hour-long ceremony was conducted in full military style and tradition in The Center’s main auditorium, with a reception immediately following. When Osier first joined the Navy in 1992, the country was embroiled in the controversy over President Clinton’s campaign promise to end the ban on gays and lesbians in the military, but Osier had not yet acknowledged his own sexuality, so the debate did not yet apply to him. He joined the Navy to “grow up a little bit, get some experience and get money from the GI Bill,” he said, and did not plan on making the military a

career at that point. That changed a few years later, once Osier found himself married with two children. He struggled with his sexuality on and off during his seven years of marriage and finally came to accept his attraction to men and told his wife, but not before bouts of depression and thoughts of suicide took their toll. Osier said he suffered for years while serving under “don’t ask, don’t tell” (DADT), afraid he would lose the income that sustained him and his children. “I lived in that deep, dark fear of getting kicked out,” he said. He also struggled with his sexuality, often agonizing over what he felt he did to his family, and what his friends, extended family and coworkers thought of him. When Osier met Lee Lozano, another sailor, in 2008, Osier’s personal life changed, but his Navy life did not. It became more and more

(l to r) Osier’s command’s Chief of Staff and Osier (Courtesy Trent Osier)

painful to hear those around him talk about their spouses or loved ones at work while he stood by silent, or “editing” his own story,” he said. Osier never expected DADT to be repealed “on his watch,” but that was exactly what happened in September 2011. Though on sea trials with the USS Carl

see Retirement, pg 8


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Cramer photographs leaders in the fight against HIV: (l to r) Darryl Stephens, RuPaul, Rockmond Dunbar, President Bill Clinton and Marjorie Hill. (Photos by Duane Cramer) FROM PAGE 1

HEALTH This year, the company has added two key components to the initiative: web-based tools aimed at promoting “active communication” with a user’s doctor or other medical professional. “It really draws attention to something that is really critically important,” Cramer said. “By being able to use the mobile application every day, you can go in and really focus on the things that are important to you to talk [about with] your doctor.” This type of activism is a natural part of Cramer’s life, which was sparked after his father’s death and his own HIV status years later. “I decided I was not going to be a victim. I was going to be victorious, and I was going to educate myself and be healthy,” he said. Self-educating about health issues surrounding HIV and AIDS is at the core of the I Design campaign, especially the two new tools, “My Health Matters” and “My Positive Agenda.” The website and applications help track a user’s HIV symptoms and medication schedule, among others, as well as provide

a “conversation checklist” that offers tips on community, an important aspect to his own discussing issues at a future doctor’s visit. activism. “We’re all on different applications “I specifically became empowered … ever y day,” Cramer said. “Certainly you from the support of my family, my friends can spend five minutes on your health and people that were working within differto foster an important conversation with ent AIDS-service organizations,” he said. your doctor the next time you see “This is another one of the great things them.” about this campaign. On the I Design The desktop and mobile apwebsite, you can … outreach to make plications are designed specifically those connections, to build a new famto engage the individual in his or ily [and] to realize [you] are not alone. her own health, making the issue We can beat this together.” personal and, Cramer said, empowIn addition to the application ering. tools, the I Design campaign “It continues to encourencourages creative outlets age and empower people for discussing HIV. For who are living with HIV Cramer, his photograto develop treatment phy expanded when he plans through their own discovered his own HIV lens that work for them status. “Everything I with their doctors,” he see is through the lens said. “I’m an advocate of HIV,” he said. for my own health, “As a photogand that’s what we’re rapher, I’m able trying to do here.” to express myself While the focus of through the work that the applications encourI do on images ever yday,” Photographer Duane Cramer Cramer said. “I realize that age individualism, Cramer (Courtesy Cohn & Wolfe) said they also promote … we all have the ability

to be creative with whatever we’re doing. The I Design’s campaign is exactly that. It really allows you to do something that is through your own lens, something that will work for you.” Some of Cramer’s work focuses on prominent leaders in the fight for HIV and AIDS awareness – “heroes in the struggle,” he said – including former-President Bill Clinton and former-Secretary of State Hillary Clinton. Images like these, Cramer said, can “make a big impact” by showing individuals in powerful situations advocating for change. “I realize that through that gift of being able to capture … diverse people at their best, that it can really have a big impact on other people,” he said. “Hopefully people can take positive action as an outcome of seeing some of these positive images.” Cramer, Guerra and representatives from Merck will be active on social media throughout the entire campaign, which Cramer said was key to reaching a wide audience. Follow them on Twitter: @Merck, @LoveMondoTrasho and @ DuaneCramer. For more information about Merck, I Design or the two applications, visit



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Falling for Lisa Loeb

Balancing family & career, 1990s sweetheart returns with ‘No Fairy Tale,’ first mainstream album in over 8 years

Lisa Loeb’s latest

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By Brendon Veevers | GSD Reporter The 1990s really were a vibrant decade for music. Along with the rise of the boy- and girl-bands of pop, the decade also gave way to a wave of female singer-songwriters. This was a time when chart-topping artists like Alanis Morissette, Jewel and Sarah McLachlan were showing the industry a new era of music had begun.

Helping propel that movement was Lisa Loeb, who erupted onto the scene with quite possibly one of the greatest and most romantic songs of the decade. Loeb first appeared drifting emotionally around an empty apartment, pouring her heart out over a love lost in the music video for her number-one hit “Stay (I Missed You).” We fell instantly in love. While success was generous

to Loeb for the remainder of the decade, fans began seeing less and less of her, and within a few years into the new millennium she had disappeared almost completely, while silently taking on other projects. With 2013 in full swing, Loeb returned with a brand new record, her first in nine years. “No Fairy Tale” – released Jan. 29 – is an accomplished and exquisite comeback album for Loeb, who appears unharmed by the time between releases.

can hear it in the production as well. There’s a lot of energy and dimension there. It’s poppy-punkyrock, but based, as always, in storytelling and songwriting. I’ve also covered another artist’s songs for the first time ever: one of my favorite current artists, Tegan and Sara, and Tegan sang on the record too.

Brendon Veevers: “No Fairy Tale” is your first studio album of all new mainstream material since 2004’s “The Way It Really Is.” Can you tell us about the new album and what fans can expect from the material?

LL: Funny, I didn’t think of it as a delay until you asked. I made a reality show, put out a “best of” record, made two kids books that come with CDs, made a Summer Camp Songs CD, started a summer camp foundation, collaborated on a kids’ musical, got married, had two kids, started an eyewear line, developed a voiceover career, and moved full time to Los Angeles. I guess I got a

Lisa Loeb: The new material really ranges. They all have a really strong emotional core that I think people will relate to. You

BV: It’s been just over eight years since the release of “The Way It Really Is.” Why the delay between album releases?

little side tracked. … BV: Was there any apprehension about recording a new studio album? LL: I thought we needed more planning than Chad [Gilbert of New Found Glory] thought we did, but in the end, he was right. We jumped right in, figured out which songs of mine to record, decided to write some more songs, and even got some songs from Tegan Quinn from Tegan and Sara to record for the album. BV: What would you say that the title of the new record is in reference to? LL: “No Fairy Tale” is one of the songs on the album. I wrote the song with Maia Sharp, and it’s meant to say that real life is even better than a fairytale, kind of a way to brag about how great life can be, even with its ups and downs. It’s a powerful statement. I think a lot of us strive for some kind of perfection: a perfect life or good grades, the perfect body, but really the process of a real life is also really rich and worth paying attention to, even when it’s not perfect. BV: Your first single gave you a number one hit when you were 26 years old, and at the time you were an unsigned artist. Your career really took off at that point on a global scale. Were you prepared for the success that you found so early on in your career and did you cope well with the transition into the world of celebrity? LL: It was a huge deal, and on some level I felt I was ready, having played music my whole life, written since I was a little kid, and recorded since high school. … In some ways, I felt that the success was a continuation of the work I’d done at that time. In other ways, I had a lot to learn. From performing on TV to learning how to travel internationally, continue to stand up for myself creatively, and learn about the music business, I kept evolving.

see Lisa, pg 20


GAY NEWS BRIEFS CHELI MOHAMED TO STEP DOWN FROM SD PRIDE San Diego LGBT Pride announced that Friday, Feb. 15 would be current Leadership and Community Resources Director Araceli “Cheli” Mohamed’s last day with the organization. Mohamed will be taking a position as the corporate and operations manager of the California Police Athletic Federation. “I am so proud of how this organization has moved from a once-a-year event to a yearround force of good for our community,” Mohamed said in a press release. “I am forever grateful for the love, support, and friendship our community has offered me and Pride.” Of her many duties, Mohamed oversaw the volunteer staff for the annual Pride event, working year-round in recruitment, training and staffing. “Cheli has added more to our organization, and in turn to our community, than most will ever realize,” Stephen Whitburn, SD Pride interim general manager, said. “Her 20 years of service with her Pride vision, drive and determination have inspired a generation of volunteers and community leaders.” After Feb. 15, volunteer inquiries will be handled by Cathy Hemphill, who can be reached at or by calling 619-297-7683. LAMBDA ARCHIVES RECEIVE DADT TRANSCRIPT FROM REP. DAVIS On Jan. 24, Congressmember Susan Davis visited and toured the Lambda Archives of San Diego in University Heights. Archives Board President Maureen Steiner introduced Davis to several staff, volunteers and board members, and gave a brief history of the organization. “It’s so rewarding to know the rich history of the LGBT community recorded by the Lambda Archives. As a member of Congress, my visit to the Lambda Archives encourages me to continue to work hard on behalf of the LGBT community,” Davis said in a press release. As a founding member of the LGBT Equality Caucus, Davis has been a strong ally of the LGBT community. Lambda Archives head archivist Kelly Revak gave Davis a tour of the facilities, including the exhibit area, processing rooms and archival collections. “It has been a true pleasure to be involved in an organization doing such good work, and to witness the changes as we increase our visibility and community profile,” Revak said in the release. At the end of the visit, Davis donated an official transcript of the hearings to repeal “don’t ask, don’t tell,” in which she played an integral part. “Helping to repeal ‘don’t ask, don’t tell’ was one of [my] proudest legislative accomplishments,” Davis said. The transcript joins an official copy of the repeal bill signed by President Barack Obama, as well as other materials in the Archives, strengthening the documentation surrounding this moment in the LGBT rights movement. HILLCREST MARDI GRAS STILL SET FOR TUES, FEB. 12 The Greater San Diego Business Association Charitable Foundation is moving forward with organizing and staging this year’s Hillcrest Mardi Gras Street Fair, to be held Tuesday, Feb. 12. Foundation board members partnered with large-scale party planner Bill Hardt for the annual Tuesday-night party. Hardt is known for producing several events in Southern California, including four annual Pride parties in San Diego: The Pride Ball, Circuit Daze, The Zoo Party and Fete Accompli. Stampp Corbin, Foundation board president and LGBT Weekly

publisher, said the nonprofit is looking to “expand the party,” and proceeds will benefit the Foundation. After the event, Corbin said the organization would assess if the proceeds would be used to organize a Hillcrest Mardi Gras celebration in 2014 or go directly to the Foundation’s LGBT scholarship fund. Tickets for this year’s Mardi Gras – held from 6 – 11 p.m. at the intersection of Fourth and University avenues – are $15 advance sale and $20 the day of the event for general admission. VIP tickets, which are $50 advance and $75 day of, include beer, wine and food in a special VIP section. For more information and to purchase tickets visit LOCAL BUSINESSES GO ABOVE AND BEYOND FOR DINING OUT FOR LIFE With more than 50 local restaurants and bars signed up to donate a minimum of 25 percent of their food and liquor sales from one specific night, the seventh annual Dining Out for Life San Diego is looking to be another successful fundraiser. This year’s event will see local businesses April 25 to donate a percentage of their profits to support HIV and AIDS services and prevention programs at The San Diego LGBT Community Center. Some businesses, like Barrio Star, Wang’s North Park, Mariposa Ice Cream and Gang Kitchen, have pledged to donate 50 percent of their sales. To date, the largest commitment was made by Burger Lounge in Hillcrest, with a donation of 100 percent of its sales during Dining Out for

see Briefs, pg 22

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Congressional update: Scott Peters By Scott Peters | Guest Columnist It is my distinct honor to ser ve California’s 52nd Congressional District as a member of the 113th Congress. I thank you for this humbling opportunity, and thought I would give you an update after the first few weeks. Many of you have asked what it’s like to be in Congress. Is it cool, or fun, or over whelming? Is it intense and busy? Well, yes. It’s been all of those. We have had orientation sessions where we have met our new colleagues, learned about Congressional process; received briefings about policy issues from both partisans and from academics. We have been assigned our offices in DC. We have begun to assemble our staffs in Washington and in our districts. I have been assigned to two committees of particular importance to San Diego: Armed Ser vices and Science, Space and Technology. And I have taken the cross-countr y flight a number of times, still tr ying to figure out the best way to deal with the time zone change. There are a lot of us new faces – 85 first year members out of 435. Of these, 49 are Democrats – that means that one quarter of all Democrats in the House are brand new. By our sheer

numbers, our class is positioned to have an impact in Congress on both sides of the aisle. I’m also encouraged that my colleagues from both parties are so thoughtful and accomplished. We bring a variety of backgrounds and perspectives to Congress, and we have a wide range of views. However, there is one experience we all share. Ever y one of us heard the same thing last fall from the voters who hired us: stop the political games in Congress and start the problem solving. If we can all remember and follow those marching orders – and given how many of us received them – we can help make change. Already, we have seen signs of bipartisan cooperation. To avert another “fiscal cliff,” I joined members of both parties in delaying a fight over the debt ceiling and adopting “No Bud-

get/No Pay.” This is the concept I supported in my campaign last fall, that if Congress can’t adopt a budget, they shouldn’t be paid. This week, we have also seen encouraging announcements about bipartisan immigration reform from the Senate and President Obama. I think those proposals emerged only because Washington received a loud and clear message about cooperation in November, here and across the countr y. We are far from declaring victor y in our effort to make a broken Congress work, and we have a lot of hard problems ahead of us. I can only promise what I did in the campaign – I will work hard ever y day with ever ybody to make Congress work again to support opportunity, prosperity, health and a bright future for San Diego, Coronado, Poway and the United States.t



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Letter Book group open to all contributions I work at Bluestocking Books, and I’ve really enjoyed reading the books and discussing them, but one of the great aspects of the book club is that if folks have personal stories or observations about the LGBT community, even without having finished – or sometimes even started! – the selected book, they can contribute to the discussion and get a lot out of it [see “Using literature to ‘open up conversations’,” Vol. 4, Issue 1]. Thanks to Caleb for promoting LGBT culture in San Diego! —Mary, via gay-sd.comt


‘How to Survive the Plague’ By Ira Sachs, filmmaker Twenty-four years after my first ACT UP meeting, I am at the Sundance Film Festival and I am in the audience for the second screening of David France’s “How to Survive a Plague.” I am sitting by myself in the back of the semi-crowded room, and I am crying. Watching this extraordinary film will be for me one of the most important personal experiences I have had at the cinema in years. I arrived in New York in January of 1988, and within a few weeks, I stated going regularly to ACT UP meetings at the Gay & Lesbian Community Center on 13th Street. I moved here with a bunch of friends from college, and we had all been very involved during school in various activist and feminist and queer politics. We won some battles, we lost others, but as young people in school in the ‘80s, we were in many ways much closer to the ideals of the ‘60s than we knew at the time. We thought we could make a difference, and the way we thought best to do that was to gather together and organize. So when I heard about this new group that was meeting at the Center to fight against AIDS, and against the government that didn’t seem to care much about it, I wanted to see what it was all about. As a young man starting a new life, I was also looking for any place to feel at home and to feel a part of some community, and in New York City in 1988, there was nowhere you felt more a part of something than at ACT UP meetings.

What drives NOM now? Greed! By Fred Karger The founder and former president of the National Organization for Marriage (NOM), Maggie Gallagher, has recently thrown in the proverbial towel as the freedom to marry marches on to become the law of the land. Maggie sees the writing on the wall and recently said that even her beloved Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) was going to be overturned by the Supreme Court this year. Even NOM’s last line of defense, “the people” has collapsed. Last November voters in Maine, Maryland, Minnesota and Washington state all voted against NOM’s campaigns of lies and distortions, and for the first time supported gay marriage in popular votes. Every public opinion poll now shows marriage equality enjoying well over 50 percent and gaining every day. Younger people support gay marriage two to one, and in some regions three to one. Many more

prominent Republicans have even come out in support of gay marriage. Seems like the limb that Maggie Gallagher has been standing on is about to break. Maggie along with her sidekicks, NOM president Brian Brown, NOM chairman John Eastman and NOM’s fulltime political hack Frank Schubert, all collect hefty six figure salaries from NOM and various other front groups year after year. No wonder they keep marching on. It’s the money, stupid! NOM’s fundraising is way down to its main 501(c)4 operation, and it was outspent four to one in the four November elections. The Catholic Church pulled out of the Maine election last year after leading the opposition to the gay marriage vote there just three years ago. The biggest news of all is that the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints (Mormon Church) “didn’t get involved in any of the four

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During my years in ACT UP, I was always a follower and never a leader. I would join subgroups within the organization and I would be on committees, and I would show up at demonstrations, and I would scream and shout, and I would get arrested. I would spend a few nights in jail, and many days on busses, to Albany, to Washington, and then arrive where I was told and shout some more, and get arrested again. By the time the early ‘90s rolled around something was different. It was like the long shadow of the ‘60s was fading and I found myself focused on other things: mostly myself, to be honest. I was trying to figure out how to make films, and how to build a career, and how to have a lasting relationship, and how to feed myself dinner, and how to make friends, and how to find a good therapist. How to become an adult seemed somehow, sadly – wrongly – connected to disconnecting from a community. Many people left ACT UP and took that energy and carried it into their jobs and their professions, or if not, into their lives. But I didn’t. Watching “How to Survive a Plague” two decades later, I was reminded of so many things. How smart and brilliant and charismatic New Yorkers were and still are. How devastating that period was, with all the loss and all the death, and how many of us are still in some state of mourning. But most of all I’m reminded that we have a voice, that we are stronger together than alone, and that we can be heard, if we don’t let others silence us. “How to Survive a Plague” is history telling at its best. It’s a film I’ll show my two children, now toddlers, when they are old enough to understand. It’s a movie that I cannot forget. —Ira Sachs’ most recent film, “Keep the Lights On,” debuted at the Sundance Film Festival in 2012. This editorial, reprinted with permission, first appeared in the Huffington Post Feb. 2, 2013.t races [gay marriage initiatives] that were on the [November] ballot – not one volunteer, not one dollar,” according to Utah State Senator Jim Dabakis, a prominent former Mormon and current Democrat State Chair of Utah. He said this recently in an interview with the Salt Lake Tribune. This was in spite of the fact that the Mormon Church has three prominent members on the NOM Board of Directors, author Orson Scott Card and wealthy Mesa, Ariz. partners Broc Hiatt and Craig Cardon. The Mormon Church even launched a web weeks ago,, which urges compassion toward its LGBT members. What else now drives Maggie, Brian, John and Frank except the money? It’s very difficult to determine exactly how much money and benefits these four greedy NOM leaders make, but rest assured that it will undoubtedly put them in the new highest tax rate, those making over $450,000 per year. According to the New York Times, Frank Schubert alone was making between $40,000 to $80,000 per month for running the four losing campaigns, plus untold hundreds of thousands more in

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commissions he earned off all his media buys. Washington, D.C. City Councilmember David Catania discovered that in addition to their six figure salaries, Maggie Gallagher and Brian Brown were both given free housing in Washington, D.C. when NOM moved its office there. New NOM Chairman John Eastman must be paid a salary like his two predecessors were, and undoubtedly gets legal fees as NOM’s special counsel in the Prop 8 case, which NOM is defending before the United States Supreme Court. Several of NOM’s staff and high-level supporters are dropping like flies. One of its top staffers Louis Marinelli now supports marriage equality, and NOM’s star witness in the Prop 8 trial, David Blankenhorn, recently kissed NOM goodbye and said that he now supports gay marriage. So with defectors from NOM and other anti-LGBT organizations outnumbering its shrinking staff what else could motivate these four but all that money? How sad that bigotry and money trump human happiness and equality.t

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Furthering equality step by step Of two cases, why DOMA is



SPECTRUM Activity and calls for action within the LGBT community are most strong when there is a specific and clear need for policy reform. When Proposition 8 was threatening to take our right to marry away in California, we came together strongly to fight. When the repeal of “don’t ask, don’t tell” seemed imminent, there were people organizing to make it visibly clear we would not accept anything short of full repeal. Yet after these amazing spurts of effort have come and gone, it seems our community is left with less, rather than more, resolve for the next fight. For many, the repeal of “don’t ask, don’t tell” was the end of a long chapter of discrimination in the military which have left thousands of voices silent as they continued to fight for our country. Now that the repeal is over, there is a whole other group of voices that are still silenced by discrimination in the military: the spouses and family members of LGBT service members. All the repeal did was allow service members to work without fear of losing their jobs because of their sexual orientation. While an important step, this is not a last step. Lucky for us, the Secretary of Defense confirmation hearing for former Nebraska Republican Senator Chuck Hagel has served as a clarion call to the Pentagon to examine if it is really doing everything within its power to treat openly gay service members as equally as possible, despite laws such as the so-called Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA). The hearing and the subsequent discussions brought to light that the Pentagon has full authority to grant many benefits to samesex spouses, regardless of DOMA. Through secretarial directive, the Pentagon could allow for same-sex partners to be issued military dependent identification cards, allow for joint-duty assignments for spouses who are both in the armed services, and grant access to family programs, legal programs and housing. Many benefits are not afforded to samesex partners in his country, but the Pentagon cannot continue to hide behind a law that does not actually prevent it from giving

benefits to same-sex couples. There are many steps that can be taken now, without the repeal of DOMA. Because of mounting political pressure due in no small part from the fact that we actually have one of our own fighting for us in the upper house – Senator Tammy Baldwin – we have actually forced the issue with Hagel, a former senator who once called Ambassador James Hormel “openly aggressively gay.” During the confirmation process, there were myriad openly, aggressively gay and lesbian people waiting and watching to see if Hagel was sincere in his apology, including Baldwin. Hormel himself has accepted Hagel’s apology. During his hearing last week, Hagel promised to move “expeditiously” on the issue of benefits for troops in same-sex relationships. I want you to pause now and realize how impactful our community has become. We have been able to affect the appointment of a Secretar y of Defense because of issues of equality and fairness impacting the LGBT community. This is a historic confirmation process and one that should not be taken lightly. Remember that President Obama signed the repeal of DADT on December 22, 2010 and certified it on July 22, 2011. The full repeal took effect Sept. 20, 2011. Now here we just a few 15 months later, and we’re fighting to inch toward equality a bit further. Should Hagel be appointed, this will amount to be the first time a Secretary of Defense promised to prioritize benefits for same-sex partners. This will mean we took that step, but should not lose sight of the step after. We must recognize that progress does not mean there is an end. It just means we took the next step. This is important for two groups of people. The first are those that helped us reach that step. We must ensure that you recommit to helping us reach the next. If you’re in the second group, this means you may not have been too engaged. That doesn’t mean you don’t have a voice, it just means you haven’t found it yet. You can still find it, right now. The next time you feel a sense of security in Hillcrest, or when you are holding your partner’s hand and you have an overwhelming sense of feeling equal, force yourself to remember that we are not. We are not equal in many senses of the words. We are not equal by law or actuality. We should celebrate our ability to influence the process, but also recognize that once this is over, there will be more to follow. —Allan Acevedo is co-founder and president emeritus of Stonewall Young Democrats of San Diego. He has worked on multiple political campaigns and served on numerous boards including the San Diego Democratic Club, California Young Democrats, Gay-Straight Alliant Network and Equality California PAC. Follow @allanacevedo on Twitter.t

more important to Californians


LEGALLY LGBT There are two big cases coming before the United States Supreme Court this term that involve LGBT rights. Most people in California know about the challenge to Proposition 8 that has been making its way through the court system for the last four years. Fewer are aware of the challenge to the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA), mostly because DOMA was passed while Bill Clinton was President. DOMA went largely un-noticed until same-sex couples started to gain legal recognition and sought the same from the federal government. At first glance it may seem like the challenge to Prop 8 is more important because a decision by the Supreme Court could allow same-sex couples to marry again in California. But consider for a moment that California is one of the few states where the domestic partnerships available for same-sex couples provide all the rights of a marriage. Also, a couple in California who really wants to marry can travel to Washington State. Thus, even if the Supreme Court decides that Prop 8 is constitutional, California couples won’t be so bad off. DOMA, on the other hand, prevents the federal government from recognizing same-sex couples that are validly married as spouses. DOMA also prevents the federal government from extending benefits to same-sex couples that are in domestic partnerships or civil unions. The way DOMA does this is by defining the words marriage and spouse for the purposes of federal law. DOMA defines marriage as “a legal union between one man and one woman as husband and wife.” Spouse is similarly defined as “a person of the opposite sex who is a husband or a wife.” Thus, by definition, the federal government cannot recognize a same-sex couple as married, nor can they recognize a domestic partner or partner in a civil union as a spouse.

There are a number of ways in which this is problematic. Most importantly, DOMA prevents same-sex married couples from taking advantage of a number of tax deductions married couples enjoy during life and after the death of one partner. Another major program run by the federal government is social security. Many of the benefits that a married couple can provide to their spouse in times of financial hardship or after their death through social security are not available to the surviving partner. Finally, DOMA prevents gay men and lesbian women from conferring U.S. citizenship on foreign-born partners. Typically a U.S. Citizen can marry someone who is not a U.S. Citizen and sponsor them for a green card, ultimately leading to transmitting citizenship to the spouse and any children. Both cases will have oral arguments at the Supreme Court in late March 2013. Prop 8 is scheduled for March 26. DOMA is scheduled for March 27. It is hard to say how soon the Supreme Court will issue a decision after oral arguments, but many hope that an opinion will be out by the end of the term in June. If DOMA is found unconstitutional, it is up to Congress to expand the various benefits associated with marriage to samesex couples in civil unions or domestic partnerships. If DOMA is upheld, it is up to Congress to repeal it or replace it with something else. That doesn’t seem very likely considering House Republicans have spent millions of taxpayer dollars to defend DOMA after the Obama administration declined to defend it. The road to equality is long. We will not find immediate acceptance even if both cases are decided in our favor. Still if we can receive federal recognition of our relationships, we will be one step closer to that goal. —Paul D. McGuire is an openly bisexual family law attorney in San Diego who assists families dealing with dissolution of marriage and domestic partnerships. He writes a blog on family law and LGBT issues at paul-mcguire.comt

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Dating, hanging out, hooking up


LIFE BEYOND THERAPY Dating. The word sounds ancient, doesn’t it? Instead, we usually hear “hooking up,” a phrase that sounds pretty meaningless and shallow, or “hanging out,” a terribly vague description of spending time together. All of this leads me to ask the question: is dating dead? Dating used to have a structure to it: you indicated interest in someone, asked them on a date and the two of you went somewhere, and got to know each other through conversation and shared activities. Now that structure appears obsolete. As a psychotherapist to many 20-something LGBT men and women, I am aware that the world of dating is being replaced by the paradigms of hanging out or hooking up. Let’s take a look at these three ways of relating to someone and see which ones – if any – are meaningful to you. In San Diego, many young LGBT people spend a lot of time hanging out in groups, leaving some uncertain about where friendship ends and romances begin. Hooking up, primarily a sexual thing, may or may not lead to a relationship, which can mean even more uncertainty. As one client said, “Are we dating or just hooking up? Nobody knows. It’s all so vague.” As a psychotherapist, I wonder if the current San Diegan hookup culture makes people more vulnerable to depression, low self-esteem and sexually transmitted diseases. Hooking up might be good for relieving sexual frustration, but is it good for your selfesteem? I’ve heard many clients say they feel worse and lonelier after hooking up than they did before. What do we expect from a hook-up? Affection? Kissing? An emotional connection? If so, it’s no wonder so many of us are depressed after hooking up, as we’re unlikely to get any of this from a hook-up.

On the other hand, hooking up gives us the freedom to enjoy our sexuality without getting locked into serious relationships and allows us to experiment sexually with all kinds of people and situations. Some, however, want more. Dating used to be how two people got to know each other. Have hookups replaced that, or is this where hanging out comes in? Hanging out gives us a relaxed, low-key way to get to know someone, particularly when done in a group. Group situations relieve the pressure of only two people sustaining a conversation. In a group, you can also see how someone you’re interested in reacts to and relates with other people. You can also get the 411 on someone by asking your mutual friends what he or she is really like. One-on-one dating can’t provide all this useful information. The downsides of hanging out? It’s awfully structure-less, but the worst part is probably the aftermath of a bad breakup with someone in your group, where you have to see that person again and again, maybe even with someone else they’re interested in. Do you dump your group and lose all your friends, or put up with seeing your ex with someone new? This is a hard choice. While it seems no one loves the hookup culture, nobody seems to hate it either. Maybe it’s a step in the right direction after the rigidity of dating. I encourage my clients to embrace their sexuality. If you want to hook up, do it, but be real about it. Don’t expect much. Sex as sex is great. Sex as an entrée to a relationship doesn’t always happen. On the other hand, for some people, romance and dating are alive and well. Some LGBT men and women are very clear on what they want, and won’t settle for less. They won’t have sex on the first, second or third date, usually waiting until they feel an emotional connection. They want kindness, dinner dates, romance and a slow progression from kissing to intercourse, but will they get it? In this post-dating world, you get to make up your own rules and see who is willing to join you. Can you simply enjoy getting to know people? Can you focus on friendships that may lead to more closeness and – eventually – intimacy? There’s no right way to get to know someone. Whether you try dating, hanging out, hooking up or all three, the bottom line is: trust your intuition and follow your heart. —Michael Kimmel is a licensed psychotherapist who specializes in helping LGBT clients achieve their goals and deal with anxiety, depression, grief, sexually addictive behavior, coming out, relationship challenges and homophobia. Michael is currently accepting new clients. Contact him at 619-955-3311 or visit

Osier in front of the Veterans Wall of Honor at The Center (Courtesy Trent Osier)


RETIREMENT Vinson the day DADT was repealed, the Hospital Corpsman was able to celebrate a week later when they sailed into San Francisco for “Fleet Week,” and he and others went drinking in the Castro in their uniforms. Osier said he would never forget the experience. “Everybody was coming up to us and hugging and buying us drinks,” he said of the civilian revelers he came in contact with. “Everyone was so elated about us being there [and] we could be there without being in fear. … Everyone had some story or connection to the military.” Since repeal, Osier has seen a tremendous shift in the military, and though he said he appreciated no longer having to lie about his relationship with Lozano, he did not think twice about his choice to retire once he reached 20 years. “Being gone from Lee constantly back-to-back like we were, I’m too old for that. I finally found someone to be with for the rest of my life and then I’m constantly being away, no thank you,” Osier said. “It’s just not the life any more.” When his Master Chief approached him to discuss his retirement plans, Osier shared his ideas and told him that having the ceremony at The Center was “non-negotiable.” Other than not being prepared for that response, Osier’s leadership didn’t condemn the idea, and were mostly concerned about it becoming a media circus. “[I told them] I have no intention to make this into a big old political statement. I wasn’t trying to make it a mock-

ery of the ceremony. I wanted everything to be traditional,” he said. “It was just important to be at the Center.” He got exactly what he wanted. Osier, with his partner Lozano by his side, was officially “piped ashore” at The Center in front of approximately 100 people, including Council President Todd Gloria, Osier’s commanding Chief of Staff, his parents and 40 from his Navy command. The ceremony went off without a hitch, although quite a few tears were shed before the day was over. Local Navy veteran and DADT activist Ben Gomez has been a longtime friend of Osier’s, and is the person who first introduced him to Lozano. Gomez attended the ceremony and said he was one of those moved to tears. “The Center was the perfect location to combine military service and being a member of the San Diego LGBT community,” Gomez said, calling the ceremony both professional and beautiful. “Seeing such a formal [military] affair at The LGBT Center demonstrated that the efforts of myself and others [regarding the repeal of DADT] has paid off,” Gomez said. “Trent thanking Lee for being there for him after several deployments and sticking with him was the icing on the cake. I’m so happy for them.” Another friend, local activist Aaron Heier, posted a video of the ceremony on YouTube with these words among the many he shared: “[T]he ceremony was a glowing tribute to a deserving serviceman, partner, son, brother, friend, activist and leader,” Heier wrote. “We’re all so very proud of you, Trent. I am truly honored to know you and thank you for inspiring all of us to be better.”t

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The restaurant foot tour, Dishcrawl, is holding its first Hillcrest outing Feb. 20 at 7 p.m. Ticket holders will be afforded three tasting-size dishes at four different restaurants that are kept secret until 48 hours before the event. The point of origin will also be revealed beforehand on Dishcrawl’s Facebook and Twitter pages. “We hope to show the delicious diversity found in the neighborhood and offer an opportunity for chefs to present their signature dishes,” said San Diego Dishcrawl Ambassador Kristi Bickel. “Also, the chefs and … restaurant owners will actually be present to meet the guests.” The restaurants are located within walking distance, and participants with special dietar y needs should email Bickel ahead of time at Since 2010, the company’s founder, Tracy Lee, has launched North American Dishcrawls in cities such as San Francisco, New York, Philadelphia, Toronto and Montreal. Also, last month’s Dishcrawl in La Jolla was a sellout. “We like to challenge our guests to tr y new restaurants and new dishes,” she said. Tickets are $45 and can be purchased online at

BY FRANK SABATINI JR. With nearly 600 locations nationally, Firehouse Subs recently blazed its way into San Diego, adhering to a fundraising model that benefits public safety organizations and first responders across the country. Customers contribute to the effort by either rounding up their purchases to the nearest dollar, with the differences going to the company’s Public Safety Foundation, or from buying a five-gallon pickle bucket for $2. Spare-change canisters are also available inside the Loma Portal restaurant. The monies provide funding for lifesaving equipment, disaster assistance and training programs. As for the subs, they include hickory-smoked brisket, Virginia honey ham, sirloin steak and more. In addition, they toast the buns! 3625 Midway Drive, 619-925-3473.

After a few years of planning and build-out, Buona Forchetta in South Park has finally opened to intense fanfare in a historic building that has given way to a portly wood-fire pizza oven by Stefano Ferrara, considered the Cadillac of ovens. So precious, owners Matteo Cattaneo and Alexa Kollmeier named it after their daughter, Sofia. The menu features a slew of classic Neapolitan pizzas, along with house-made pastas and desserts. 3001 Beech St., 619-381-4844.

Local chefs, farmers and food purveyors will flaunt their goods at the evolving 92,000-square-foot San Diego Public Market in Barrio Logan Sunday, Feb. 10 at 4 p.m. The event, called Taste of the Market, is a preview to the fulltime operation slated to launch this summer. Participating toques include Miguel Valdez of The Red Door, Ricardo Heredia of Alchemy, Katie Grebow of Café Chloe and many others. The sample stations will also include nibbles from Venissimo Cheese, Supernatural Sandwiches and Jenny/Wenny Cakes. Limited tickets are available at $85 per person. The market is located at 1735 National Ave. For more information, call 619-233-3901 or visit

Name-your-own-burgers and have arrived to SeaWorld. (Courtesy SeaWorld San Diego)

The SeaWorld San Diego eatery formerly known as The Deli at Seaport Marketplace has changed its concept and name to Seaport Marketplace Hand Crafted Burgers, where customers to the theme park can wash down their burger creations with local craft beers by Stone Brewery, Karl Strauss and more. Those opting for handcrafted burgers can choose between beef, turkey or veggie patties before loading them up with a plethora of toppings that include guacamole, grilled onions, bacon, et cetera. The order forms also allow you to cleverly name your invention, which is called out when the burger is ready. 500 SeaWorld Drive, 800-257-4268.

A Little Italy restaurant gets high honors for authentic cooking. (Courtesy Bencotto Italian Kitchen)

If you’re wondering what the “Q” rating for Bencotto Italian Kitchen in Little Italy is all about, it’s a coveted honor designating “Authentic Italian Quality” bestowed by the Italy-America Chamber of Commerce West, which is promoted by the Italian government. The process for authenticity involved review of the restaurant’s wine list, use of Italian language, décor and proficiency in Italian cooking. Bencotto showcases handmade pasta dishes and home-style fare that align to Northern Italian cooking. 750 W. Fir St., 619-450-4786.t



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3797 Park Blvd. (Hillcrest) | 619-546-4328 | Dinner prices: Starters, $5 to $12; entrees, $12 to $21 San Diego’s newest gay-owned bar and restaurant has brought onboard one of our city’s most accomplished “out” chefs, and the result is a dining experience that greets you with a warm, radiant hug. Heat Bar & Kitchen replaces Urban Grind, which couple Sam Khorish and Pasqual Courtin took over two years ago before recently transforming it into a gracefully lit space defined by an illuminated “lava wall” and prominent circle boxes casting molten-gold hues. With the help of local architect Laurie Fisher, the stylish redo gives the impression of heated light all around you while avoiding the intimidating, overly trendy trappings of a nightclub.

Black garlic gives rise to salmon filet. (Photo by Frank Sabatini Jr.)

A comfortable amount of territory separates the bar from the dining room, allowing you to revel over beer, wine and sake or coolly lap up the seasonal cuisine without either experience intruding on the other. Between the two, however, is a raised communal table, should you care to savor charcuterie and mussels with strangers. Heat’s current introductory menu was conceived by Courtin, a native of Bordeaux, France. Though soon afterward, he and Khorish snagged Chef Chris Walsh, who became well known within the LGBT community for his culinary wizardry at the former California Cuisine and when he owned Café W and Bite. Outside of Hillcrest, he helmed the kitchens at Downtown’s Confidential and Lincoln Room, which also no longer exist. “This feels very natural to me,” he said while overseeing the rotating dinner specials and daily crudo, which on this evening involved raw sea scallops paired boldly grape with the citrus notes of grapefruit sections and yuzu sauce. Come spring, Walsh will exhibit additional authorship on the regular menu. Locally grown, organic veggies and “natural” meats comprise all of the dishes. And the only things stored in Heat’s freezer are low-sugar homemade

sorbets and ice cream. From the “snack” category, the long-tongued potato chips with smoked sea salt are homemade too. Ditto for the herby Green Goddess dressing served with “frito misto” broccoli and cauliflower. Even the beer in the tempura-like batter originates locally from nearby Hillcrest Brewing Company. Walsh’s dreamy lobster bisque is a carryover from everywhere else he’s worked. Lucky for us it was the soup du jour, crowned with unsweetened vanilla whipped cream. The shellfish and vanilla is a marriage seized by too few chefs, I feel. In addition to the daily special, which featured mushroom risotto with jumbo scallops, the entrée menu is refined to five entrées, a good indicator of quality execution. My companion’s salmon filet speckled with black garlic was accurately cooked, showing off a wisp of translucence in the middle. Fresh turnips and Brussels sprouts added a fresh organic flair to the plate, along with a smear of pureed rutabaga alongside. He scored the perfect wine pairing to the dish, a semi-sweet Bartenura Moscato at only $8 per glass. Tempted by the “heat burger” with bacon jam, but passing it up in lieu of something more dinner-appropriate, I chose the thymeroasted half chicken that is brined for 12 hours. The meat was exceedingly juicy and flavorful and the skin was crispy, although only in spots from a final roasting that I might

Smoked chocolate mousse

(Photo by Frank Sabatini Jr.)

have kept under the heat longer. We especially loved the accompanying tri-color potato smash on the side that was punctuated ever so slightly with roasted garlic and rosemary. They took on additional flavor from homey, clear jus. Heat’s pride-and-joy dessert is dark chocolate that is smoked in apple-cedar wood and then turned into a delicate, airy mousse. It was mantled with marshmallow cream and edible flower petals. Between that and fresh pineapple sorbet, we couldn’t name a favorite. Heat also serves brunch on the weekends, which puts under your nose things like leek and truffle quiche, smoked salmon omelets and multi-grain tropical pancakes. Based on our pleasurable dinner served within this friendly and visually glowing environment, we’ll be back to warm our senses over the morning fare.t

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Friday, Feb. 8

LARAMIE PROJECT: Our friends at the Trinity Theatre Company are staging four shows over two weekends of “The Laramie Project,” the re-telling of Matthew Shepard’s story. This needs no urging; it cannot be missed. All four shows are at 7 p.m., today, tomorrow (Feb. 9), Friday, Feb. 15 and Feb. 16. Presale tickets are $15 and $20 tickets at the door. The show is being performed at the Swedenborg Hall, 4144 Campus Ave. For more information and tickets visit CHINESE NEW YEAR AT WANG’S: Wang’s North Park is celebrating their first anniversary by hosting seven days of Chinese New Year parties, starting tonight with a warm-up to tomorrow’s red carpet photo night and traditional Chinese New Year dinner. The seven events span the entire two weeks, ending with a lantern festival on Feb. 24. Reservations are encouraged. Wang’s North Park is located at 3029 University Ave. For the complete schedule and more information visit

Circle dot dot theater company has set out to prove the truth: “San Diego, I Love You.” For two weekends, join the amazing troupe as they take to the streets, performing at various locations throughout Hillcrest. Directed by Patrick Kelly, the show is a modern-day comedy romance between Alex and Chris. Performance times start at 1 p.m. and run every half hour until 3:30 p.m., so there are plenty of chances to enjoy: Today, tomorrow Feb. 10, Feb. 16 and Feb. 17. Start off at Jake’s on 6th Wine Bar (3755 Sixth Ave.). Tickets are $20 adult general admission. For more information visit

Saturday, Feb. 9

CLEAN UP HILLCREST: The Hillcrest Town Council’s Clean T.E.A.M. is getting together for today’s “I Love Hillcrest Valentine’s Cleanup.” Join the orange-shirts at Park Boulevard and University Avenue at 8:45 to break into work parties that will span the neighborhood. Bring some gloves if you want to keep your hands delicate, and brooms, bags and cans will be supplied. When all is done at noon, you’ll be invited to the Hillcrest Brewery for some good cheer. Did we mention it is a HillQuest no-brainer? Yep. For more information visit hillquest. com or I LOVE YOU: While sometimes I wonder if San Diego loves me, Circle

Music and dancing, Brazil style (Courtesy Brazil Carnival)

BRAZILIAN CARNIVAL: It’s a veritable Carnivale and Mardi Gras ball happening right in the heart of Balboa Park. Presented by Copa Airlines and Brazilian Productions, the “Journey to Paradise” event will include Brazilian food, faces and lots of color. It’s the 21st annual in San Diego, but the first in Balboa Park so we have to show up and make sure they make it a good one. Samba beats and dancers, capoeira performances and nonstop Brazilian music from 9 p.m. – 1:30

a.m. General Admission tickets are $25, with Rio Lounge tickets for $55 and VIP reserved for $99. The fun goes down at the San Diego Museum of Art Sculpture Court, 1450 El Prado. For more information and tickets visit

Sunday, Feb. 10

COURT APPRECIATION BRUNCH: Two of my favorite people are being recognized today, and I couldn’t be happier for them. Hosted by Mr. and Ms. San Diego Leather 2012, Emperor Tom and Empress Ajaxx will be guests of honor at the brunch that will also serve as a fundraiser for the charity of their choice. The fun starts at 11 a.m. at Bistro Sixty, 5987 El Cajon Blvd. Tickets are $30 and seating is limited. They will not be available at the door, so go to for yours. HANDMADE REVOLUTION: It’s the third annual Valentine trunk show for The Handmade Revolution, where vintage, handcrafted art, jewelry, gifts and the like will be available. Support your local artisans by heading to 3054 Juniper St. in South Park from 11 a.m. – 5 p.m. For more information visit AIDS/LIFECYCLE KICK-OFF: If you are an athlete or fulltime cyclist, signing up for the AIDS/Lifecycle ride is the chance of a lifetime. The 545-mile, sevenday event raises money for HIV/AIDS services and programs, and a kick-off party will take place from 4 – 7 p.m. at The Range Kitchen and Cocktails, at 1220 University Ave. Admission is free if you RSVP and veteran riders, roadies and “newbies” are all encouraged to come out and consider participation this year in the San Diego contingent. In addition, attendees will receive $20 off the online AIDS/Lifecycle registration fee of $85. This year’s ride takes place June 3 – 9, starting in San Francisco and ending in Los Angeles. For

more information or to RSVP for the kickoff event, visit

Monday, Feb. 11

WRITE OUT LOUD: The local writing group, Write Out Loud, is offering up a love program this week in honor of Valentines Day. Tonight’s event, “Hearts Afire: Stories of Love and Romance” is at 7 p.m. at the Old Town Theatre. Guests will read their short stories, plus a few from selected authors, all about l.o.v.e. Tickets are $15 general admission and the theater is located at 4040 Twiggs St. For more information visit

Tuesday, Feb. 12

GSDBA FEATURING BRONWYN INGRAM: Get your tickets now for today’s GSDBA luncheon discussion, as the group’s special guest is Bronwyn Ingram, Mayor Bob Filner’s fiancée and advocate for people who are homeless. Ingram will be forming a group of citizen volunteers she has dubbed “Team First Lady,” and she is certain to discuss it here. Plus, it’s your chance to support her questions while supporting the GSDBA. The luncheon is from 11:30 a.m. – 1 p.m. at Wang’s North Park, 3029 University Ave. Tickets, which include lunch, are $25 in advance, and $35 at the door. For more information and tickets visit MARDI GRAS IN HILLCREST: It’s that time! Get a drink and get some beads, because Hillcrest is one of the stops in this year’s Mardi Gras circuit. Yes, the party is happening, and yes it’s continuing all night long at several Hillcrest locations: 1202, Flicks, Urban Mo’s and the Brass Rail. The Bill Hardt-produced event is on Fourth and University (see our news brief in this issue), and the party expands from there. For the most information visit

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Thursday, Feb. 14

HAPPY VALENTINES DAY: There are plenty of things to do this Valentines Day, I’m sure. As I am one of those “without significant others” as the website says, I have to put Martinis Above Fourth’s Dinner for Lovers (and those without) on the calendar. It’s a five-course dinner with live entertainment by Amelia Browning and Aaron Turner. For $50 a single (or $95 a couple, if you are) you’ll get a wonderful night of love or dreaming about love. Martinis Above Fourth is located at 3940 Fourth Ave. For more information and tickets visit

Friday, Feb. 15

Suzanne Vega

(Courtesy Balboa Theatre)

SUZANNE VEGA: As a young, angsty gay, I listed over and over to Suzanne Vega. Everything from “Tom’s Diner” (yes, yes) to “Luka” and more. Now older, I would love to see Vega on the stage. She performs tonight at 7:30, downtown at the Balboa Theatre. Presented by San Diego Theatres, tickets range from $32 – $48. Balboa Theatre is located at 868 Fourth Ave. For more information and tickets visit

ONE UPON A WEDDING: Dubbed the funnies dinner theater show to hit San Diego in years, “Once Upon a Wedding” plays at the Lafayette Hotel tonight at 7 and 9:30 p.m. Performed by Laughing Tree Productions and directed by Lisa Laughbaum, the audience interacts with the actors in a mock-wedding. You’re the guests, and the actors will be sure to make you laugh. Don’t worry, wedding cake is included. Tickets are $64.95 general admission, and $94.95 VIP. The Lafayette Hotel is located at 2223 El Cajon Blvd. For more information and tickets visit

Sunday, Feb. 17

NOH8 RETURNS: Celebrity photographer Adam Bouska and his partner Jeff Parshley are bringing their NOH8 Campaign to San Diego once again, from 2 – 5 p.m. at the Hotel Solamar, 435 Sixth Ave. NOH8 is a project that launched in the wake of the passing of Proposition 8. For the fourth time in as many years, Adam and Jeff will be photographing San Diegans – either alone ($40) or groups ($25 each person). Taking a photo auto-

matically includes you in the campaign, which focuses on spreading support for marriage equality and anti-discrimination through multimedia methods and the project’s simple message of no hate (NOH8). No reservation is required for your place in line, but in order to assist them with the number of photos to prepare, they request you respond on the FB event page, but arrive early and plan to wait. A plain white T-shirt is all you need. For more information, visit The Facebook Event page can be found at events/116070621900417/?ref=3

Monday, Feb. 18

YOU’RE TERRIBLE: “Muriel’s Wedding” at the Range Kitchen & Cocktails is just too much to ask for, yet the owners have delivered. This is the classic that launched Toni Collette’s career, and must not be missed at in this venue. Grab some friends, make some reser vations and have a good time being terrible. The Range is located at 1220 University Ave. For more information and to make reser vations visit or call 619-906-5555.

Wednesday, Feb. 20

THE CAN-CAN CAN: FilmOut San Diego is hosting the only place to be tonight, maybe even this month, with a special screening of “Moulin Rouge,” starting at 7 p.m. at the Birch North Park Theatre. Did your Valentine get you a box of old chocolates? Flowers wilted? “Moulin Rouge” will show you real love. It’s the number one requested film for the LGBT film organization, and they’ve gone all out by inviting host Celeste W. Starr. Tickets are $10 (cash only at the door). The Birch is located at 2891 University Ave. For more information visit


Thursday, Feb. 21

BRAHMAN/I: I’m ver y excited about this one. Part of La Jolla Playhouse’s DNA New Work Series, “Brahman/I” is a “one-hijra stand-up comedy” show by Aditi Brennan Kapil and directed by Jeremy Cohen. From the synopsis: “Sixth grade was hard enough before Brahman discovered he was intersex – or in the words of his traditional Indian aunt, a hijra.” It’s only an eightshow run, tonight at 7:30 through March 3 at 2 p.m. General admission tickets are $15, with discounts for students and subscribers. The workshop production takes place at the Play Development Center on the Playhouse campus, 2910 La Jolla Village Dr. For tickets and more information, including the complete schedule, visit

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Using the past to move forward Through Feb. 24

Magical realism shines best in August Wilson’s saga

‘Gem of the Ocean’

The Old Globe Sun., Tues. & Wed. 7 p.m. Thurs., Fri. & Sat 8 p.m. Sat. & Sun. 2 p.m. (l to r) Joshua Elijah Reese, Okieriete Onaodowan and Antwayn Hopper (Photo by Henry DiRocco)

Testing the bonds of family Tight and provocative, this unorthodox production pushes the audience The Old Globe is currently producing “The Brothers Size,” from Tarell Alvin’s Brother/Sister Plays trilogy that includes “In the Red and Brown Water” and “Marcus,” through Feb. 24. “The Brothers Size” is a fable that infuses West African mythology into a modern-day story about two brothers, Ogun and Oshoosi Size (played by Joshua Elijah Reese and Okieriete Onaodowan respectively), who test both their family and brotherly bond. Inspired by West African Yoruban mythology, Ogun is named after the Yoruban god and Oshoosi after a Yoruban hunter. Tea Alagic directs this 80-minute production in a tight, in-theround space with an almost-bare staging that includes a simple ring of sand and a bed of stones. The storytelling is unique in that the

characters announce the stage and character directions, offering another layer of mood and emotion. Alvin’s trilogy is set in a poor, African-American neighborhood on the Louisiana Bayou. Oshoosi has been released from prison and returns to live with his brother, Ogun, a law-abiding car mechanic. Elegba (played by Antwayn Hopper), a former prison mate, appears on the scene and makes moves to recapture Oshoosi’s heart and soul. Ogun is the everyday man with a pure soul, trying his best to protect his brother from the evil Elegba. Oshoosi is weak, not able to resist the charms of the hypersexual Elegba. In the end, a decision is made that will protect the younger brother but destroy their family bond. The production carries a musical beat that’s underscored by the

Through Feb. 24 Cygnet Theatre Wed. & Thurs. 7:30 p.m. Fri. 8 p.m. Sat. 3 & 8 p.m. Sun. 2 & 7 p.m. 619-337-1525

619-234-5623 onstage percussionist, Jonathan Melville Pratt. Additionally, there are songs by Otis Redding and Teddy Pendergrass. Reese plays his part of the brother-protector with a grounded sensibility that is mixed with tough love. Onaodowan gives his character an easy-going nature, one that runs into mischief and potential harm. Hopper handles Elegba with an evil presence that is muscular, inviting and provocative; few could resist his physical and emotional charms. This fable may not be for everyone; apart from the repetitive, potentially offensive vocabulary, some might find the recitation of stage directions unnecessary and irritating. And the story may be an overly simplistic tale of good triumphing over evil, or at the very least, moving a distance from that evil. Alvin is a most promising playwright, but the best I believe, is yet to come.t

(l to r) Laurence Brown and Melva Graham (Photo by Daren Scott) Cygnet Theatre pulled “Gem of the Ocean” from August Wilson’s 10-play “Pittsburgh Cycle” series for a shor t run through Feb. 24 in Old Town. The entire cycle takes on the ver y definition of freedom for African-Americans, with each play representing a decade of the last centur y. Chronologically, “Gem of the Ocean” represents the first decade in the cycle, and takes on slaver y. This Pittsburgh Hill district-based drama remains

somewhat wordy with many of Wilson’s monologues rambling and unnecessar y, especially in the rather tedious first act. Director Victor Mack, an alumnus of Nor th Carolina School of the Ar ts, had his work cut out for him in staging this 3-hour saga. He succeeds best when he tackles the territor y of magical realism. Aunt Ester Tyler (played by Brenda Phillips) is a long-time resident at the 1839 Wylie Avenue sanctuar y, and is one of the pivotal characters in Wilson’s play. Phillips handles her role as a spiritual healer with a calm, knowing command. Aunt Ester is a mere 285-years old, and is a repositor y for collective memories. “Gem of the Ocean” talks of the past and speaks to the hope of a better future. The title refers to the slave ship that Aunt Ester constructs out of paper: a ship that will take the entire cast on a voyage into darkness and then back to the light. Grandison Phelps III takes on the role of Eli, Ester’s caretaker and protector, with a fatherly charm. Antonio “TJ” Johnson livens up the play as Solly Two Kings, a man who sur vived slaver y and who was a conductor for the Underground Railroad. Rounding out the cast are Laurence Brown, playing a troubled young man named Citizen Barlow, who seeks redemption; Melva Graham as the emancipated “Black” Mar y Wilkes; Mujahid Abdul-Rashid as Caesar, Mar y’s brother who has become the district’s ambitious law enforcer; and Ron Choular ton, who takes on the role of Ruther ford, a sympathetic, traveling salesman. The highlight of the play is the mystical journey to the “City of Bones,” a location built from the bones of slaves. It’s a journey that incorporates voodoo and gospel, and allows Barlow a glimpse of the “other side.” It also gives the character an oppor tunity to break his emotional shackles, allowing him to move for ward in his life without the chronic distractions of his troubled past. In the end, Wilson informs and reminds the audience that an understanding of the past is crucial to moving for ward. t


returns for 23rd year

Organizers partner with FilmOut to present 3 screenings of transgender family-drama

The short film ‘Flamingo Pride’ screens with ‘Melting Away’ at this year’s festival. (Courtesy LFJCC)

By Anthony King | GSD Editor The 23rd season of the San Diego Jewish Film Festival returned Thursday, Feb. 7 for an 11-day, 47-film extravaganza, dubbed the largest Jewish cultural event in San Diego. Organizers expect over 16,000 attendees to the festival overall, which ends Feb. 17. “This year’s festival line up is extraordinar y in its depth and quality,” Festival Chair Saundra Saperstein said in a release. “You will find these films enticing, exciting, heart-felt and provocative.” Partnering with FilmOut San Diego, festival organizers are screening “Melting Away,” a drama centering on a family coming to terms with their transgender son. Anna – formerly Assaf – was kicked out of her home as a teenager, and, by chance, is reunited with her family several years later. “Melting Away” is also being shown with “Flamingo Pride,” a humorous, animated short that tells the stor y of the only heterosexual flamingo in a “flock of gay flamingos.” Organizers said there is a “surprise introduction” scheduled for the first screening, which takes place Saturday, Feb. 9 at 8:30 p.m. at the Edward San Marcos Stadium, in San Marcos, Calif. Two additional screenings occur Wednesday, Feb. 13 at 4:30 p.m. and Feb. 16 at 8:30 p.m., at the Clairemont Reading Cinemas 14 in North Clairemont. Opening the festival was “Under African Skies,” documenting singer-songwriter Paul Simon’s return to South Africa 25 years after his album “Graceland” was released. “The film may have you seeing the artist in an entirely new light,” organizers said. The closing-night film is “Hava Nagila: The Movie,” which explores the touching, up-and-down path of the movie’s title song. The filmmaker inter viewed Harr y Belafonte, Leonard Nimoy, The Klezmatics and Glen Campbell, among others, to show how the song “rose above boundaries of time, space and culture” to unite a world. Most films, including “Under African Skies,” screen several times, at four different locations spanning from North Clairemont

and the Lawrence Family Jewish Community Center’s (LFJCC) Jacobs Family Campus in La Jolla, to the Dove Librar y in Carlsbad, Calif. and San Marcos Stadium. “These films may not be seen in San Diego again, so now is the time to catch them,” Saperstein said. By popular demand, organizers said this year’s Centerpiece Film is an “encore screening” of “Stories from an Undeclared War.” First shown at the LFJCC’s Under writer Kick-off in 2011, the film documenting 150 at-risk teens from Long Beach, Calif. – called the Freedom Writers – inspired the full-length drama “Freedom Writers” starring Hillar y Swank. It is professor Erin Gruwell’s stor y, and Gruwell, along with several Freedom Writers, will be in attendance at this year’s festival. There are two screenings of “Stories from and Undeclared War.” Additionally, this year brings back the family-day event, “Shalom Sesame,” featuring 12 episodes from the creators of “Sesame Street” that highlight Jewish holidays, traditions and culture. The event is on Feb. 17, and last year’s “Shalom Sesame” sold out. Organizers are recommending early reser vations. Sponsored by the LFJCC, the

festival is produced by the San Diego Center for Jewish Culture, whose mission is to “expand and enrich cultural life” by presenting” the finest in Jewish artistic expression, encouraging the preser vation of Jewish culture and heritage, and nurturing new creativity in the arts.” The 11th annual Joyce Forum, celebrating “rising stars and seasoned filmmakers,” organizers said, will be presented for one night only at this year’s festival. Named in honor of Festival founder Joyce Axelrod, the forum supports upcoming filmmakers by bringing them together with established artists and industr y professionals. On Feb. 11 at 2 p.m., the Joyce Forum will present seven short films, followed by two longer films at 5 p.m. At 7:30 p.m., three films – “Life in Stills,” “Matkot” and “Audition” – will close the forum. Single ticket prices for most films range from $10.75 to $13.75, with discounts for JCC members and seniors. The Joyce Forum is $7.50 for the 2 p.m. showing, and festival passes are available. For complete information about the festival – including the Flix Mix young-adult mixer and the Teen Screen Night – visit or call 858-362-1348.t

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Tegan and Sara

(Photo by Lindsey Brynes)

The Quin sisters on pop evolution, advantages of having a lesbian sibling and why more artists should come out By Chris Azzopardi | Q Syndicate They’ve been on the verge of straight-up pop music for years, but Tegan and Sara are going all in with “Heartthrob.” Don’t think they’re all happy and stuff, though. “It’s our most heartbreaking record,” Tegan reassured. “It’s a great record for people who loved our past music. It’s just that they have to get past the sound.” The sound she’s referring to was captured in all its heavenly bliss when their seventh album’s first single, “Closer,” instantly aligned itself with some of the best pop songs of the mid ’90s. We revisited that defining era in music – and even before then, when the girls were hanging New Kids on the Block posters in their bedroom – during our new interview with the Quin sisters. Chris Azzopardi: Are your house parties anything like the one in the video for “Closer”? Sara: We were reimagining our teen years when we were putting this video together. In middle school and high school, we loved house parties. Our house parties then would’ve been an R-rated version of this. We were fairly disgusting and doing things that I would be embarrassed to have on camera. I’m like an old woman now. A house party for me now means more than two people over and me going to the store to get wine [laughs]. Tegan: Our house parties have gotten quite a bit less interesting than they were when we were younger. I still think we can throw down a pretty mean shindig, but we don’t generally do karaoke. And I’ve never had a costume party. CA: “Closer” could really be the theme song to somebody’s first kiss. What songs remind you of your first? Sara: There’s something about Björk, because this girl I had a crush on loved [“Post”], and if I hear it now I’m completely transported back to high school. I never could have told her that I felt something for her, that I had a crush, so whenever I hear any songs off of “Post” I immediately go there.


Tegan: I remember discovering Ani DiFranco and really embracing the side of me that liked girls. I was also really into Ace of Base and I would sit in my parents’ huge Jacuzzi tub in their bathroom and fill up the tub after school and sit in it and talk on the phone [with my friends] and listen to that Ace of Base record over and over again. It’s so weird that I was naked the whole time [laughs]. CA: Was your first kiss with a boy? Tegan: My first kiss was with a boy. If anything, I loved having boyfriends because I could talk about how much I liked girls with them all the time [laughs]. In my teen years I dated boys but I didn’t hate it. I wasn’t like, “Oh, gross.” And then I kissed a girl and was like, “One’s not right and one is definitely awesome.” CA: For this album you really immersed yourself in ’80s and ’90s pop music. What was the first pop album you owned? Sara: My first choice as a child was New Kids on the Block. We had all the records, sleeping bags and posters. Everything you could possibly have. Then I branched into punk, grunge, rock and indie rock. It’s only recently, in the last six or seven years, that I’ve gotten back into what I would now classify as pop music. Tegan: New Kids on the Block was huge for us. That first cassette tape that came out in 1986 was, besides children’s music, the first music that we picked ourselves. It was very empowering. Around that same time, I remember really getting excited about Michael Jackson, because he was on the radio all the time. In sixth and seventh grade it was Janet Jackson, Paula Abdul and Ace of Base. I think our parents were slightly horrified because we grew up with U2 and Bruce Springsteen, so we were much more blue-collar than that. Then came dance music – as much as we were total punkers and really into hardcore music, we were really into dance music, too. And then we got into Nirvana and we’d go to raves on the weekend.

We were very confusing [laughs]. CA: Why didn’t a full-on pop album come before this one? Are you just at a point in your career where you don’t really care what people think? Sara: We’ve been around now for 13 years, and you almost do stop caring what people think. If anything, you try to stop caring because you think to yourself, “We made some of our best music when we didn’t have an audience. We didn’t think anybody cared about us. So maybe it’s best to go back to when you’re trying to excite yourself and the band, and ultimately people will gravitate toward that.” Tegan: I think we were selfconscious. We didn’t think we could just jump right in, and I’m so glad we didn’t. I think we would’ve alienated our audience – and I also think we would’ve just alienated ourselves from our genre, as well. We were so indie rock that if, all of sudden, we made a pop record, they would’ve been like, “What the fuck?” This gradual evolution has been necessary. I don’t think we would’ve existed if we had tried to do it differently. CA: Did you worry about the hipsters who can’t really appreciate anything beyond that angsty indie rock? Tegan: No. It’s not necessarily hipsters, but there is a certain type of person who is really interested in what’s cool and being hip, but they don’t actually buy records. So when we sat down to make this record with Greg Kurstin, we talked about our fears. He said, “Don’t worry about your fans. You wrote great songs. Who cares if you put a bunch of keyboards on it? That is what you’re listening to; it’s what you’re inspired by. Embrace that part of yourself and don’t worry.” “Heartthrob” is that record where I just want people who love that record. We’ll take anybody. I don’t really care. If people from the dance world like it, great. If people from the indie world like it, great. If it’s those people who like Lady

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Gaga and Katy Perry, that’s fine, too. CA: Sara, feeling isolated within the queer community and not having LGBT role models is what inspired your song “I’m Not Your Hero.” But you had Tegan. Most people would think that would be the best kind of support. Is that not the case? Sara: Certainly having Tegan in my life has meant that I feel inherently supported, because I have someone who is like me and who is going through a lot of the same experiences I am. My life would be entirely different if Tegan were straight. I’ve always had this person who reflects, for good and for bad, so much of me. We look the same, and we enjoy so many of the same things and have so many of the same ideas about the world. We have this band and we also share this culture and identity of being queer. I can say all that now as an adult in my 30s, when I’ve built a whole language for myself around that identity – but when I was 15, 16, 17, I didn’t have any of that. In fact, I had no idea if I was really gay or if Tegan was gay. I didn’t understand any of that. I was astoundingly confused and blind about what was really going on, and there was lots of loneliness in that. Talking about feeling isolated within the queer community is so hard. It’s hard enough when you just sort of exist within a community and sometimes you feel like they’re actually not representative of you or like that’s all you have. It’s complex, and there was a time in my life where I felt all of those things. It gets even more complex when you are a public person and now you represent both people. You feel sometimes there’s a burden there, and sometimes you feel proud and other times you feel like everybody is mad at you because you’re not saying the things they would say. It’s complicated.

South Bay Pride returns Sept 14 (Courtesy South Bay Alliance) FROM PAGE 1

SOUTHBAY not having a Pride event in Chula Vista last year, as she has watched the event’s numbers grow from 200 to over 1,500 attendees throughout the years. She said she was hurt at the thought that the event – and the organization – had lost momentum. “Once again, we felt a bit helpless because we really couldn’t step up, nor could we expect Ben [Orgovan] to do it alone,” Elliott said. To help regain the momentum and to keep Elliott’s goal of a “bigger, stronger, better” pride, the Alliance has moved their event from Memorial Park in downtown Chula Vista to Bayfront Park, next to the J Street Marina. The Sept. 14 event will be from noon – 5 p.m. “Bayfront’s just perfect,” Elliott said. “It coincides a lot with the interests of Chula Vista.” One of the initial benefits of being in Bayfront Park, Elliott said, was being able to give more space to entertainment and vendors, who previously had to share an uneven, tight space in Memorial Park. Room to grow, too, is important to Elliott. “I have no intention of getting huge like San Diego [Pride],” she said. “I want it to be a community pride, but at the same time, I certainly want it bigger than we were getting.” Bayfront Park will also let organizers offer increased services for attendees, including a larger wine and beer garden, a children’s play area, and a dance floor that is separate from the main entertainment stage. In 2011, local entertainer and artist Laura Jane Willcock organized entertainment and staging for South Bay Pride, and she will be

taking on the role once again this year. She is asking interested DJs and live performers to contact her at Facebook. com/laurajanerocks, with all submissions to her by March 31. South Bay Alliance currently holds monthly planning meetings to help organize the Sept. 14 event. Elliott, Bair, Knudson and the rest of the committee – Mike Lamont and Bill Stanhope – have been meeting the second Thursday of each month at the Panera Bread West in the Chula Vista Mall, located at 555 Broadway. The meetings start at 6 p.m. The next one will be March 14, as February’s was cancelled due to Valentines Day. “We have some good people who are involved, and more are getting there,” Elliott said. “Right now, the meetings are going to be focusing first on finding sponsors … and secondly on promoting.” An all-volunteer organization, South Bay Alliance members are primarily from the Sweetwater area of San Diego County, but Elliott said they are welcome to anyone interested in making Pride a success. One of the biggest needs, Elliott said, was someone to oversee the volunteers leading up to the day. “It would be a fairly heavy-duty leadership position,” Elliott said. “We’re looking for someone who has some experience. … We want to get it in place so we can get some training [done].” In all, however, Elliott said she hopes South Bay Pride will serve its first purpose: to promote awareness and build community in South San Diego County. “The idea is to create a space that shows it can be safe here, if only for that time,” she said. “Silence – non-visibility – gives credibility to homophobia.” For more information about the South Bay Alliance, visit or call 619-934-8383. For information about this year’s Sept. 14 event, visit

CA: Is it a double-edged sword to talk about being lesbians because you care about the gay rights movement but also because you just want to be musicians? Tegan: I won’t deny that there have times in the last 12 years that I wish we never said we were gay. It overshadows the music, for sure. But honestly, and without coming off cheesy, every single day right now it feels like I run into someone who tells me a story about them or someone they know or their kids where they found comfort in that we’re different and we’re outspoken, whether it’s because we’re gay or because we’re women or because we have funny haircuts [laughs]. There seems to be people finding incredible comfort and inspiration and empowerment in who we are. We’ve had people be like, “Oh, they’re gay or “Oh, that’s gay music” or “I don’t like gay people,” but we gain so much from being out that it kind of neutralizes that. Like, I don’t care. There have been moments where it’s been dark, where someone is really homophobic, and I just wanna, like, run away and hide. Instead I just pick up a 2-by-4, metaphorically speaking, and bash through it and keep getting up on stage and being proud of who we are. I know so many people who are closeted,


and I make fun of them. I’m like, “You’re so ridiculous. What career are you protecting? You’re supposed to be selling your art. You’re supposed to be projecting this image, and you’re just clouding your image because you are not proud of you are.” You have to be proud. In the end, who cares if I was cool or not. Did I make change? Did I help the world? That should be more important. CA: What’s more challenging: growing up gay or a twin? Sara: I would say being gay. I had no other experience to compare it to. I always had a best friend. I always felt like I had someone who was someone I could check in with. We always had each other. But I think being gay is so complex and I felt incredibly isolated in that, in not understanding my identity. The world at large is projecting an image of heteronormativity all the time, and you’re thinking, “I’m not like that. I don’t behave like that.” Tegan: Being a twin, because we didn’t come out until we were almost out of high school. I didn’t feel weird about being gay, because we had gay friends and we had a really alternative group of friends and my mom was a social worker. Being a twin and just always being grouped together – always having to share same stories, the same friends, everything – it was so hard. That was way harder. CA: If you’re having a disagreement in the studio, who wins that battle? Tegan: It depends on who wrote the song. If it’s Sara’s song and she disagrees with me, she ultimately has veto power – which is annoying, because a lot of times I’m right [laughs]. Sara: We’re fairly democratic in the studio. We’ve never really had a huge blowout over a decision about a song in the studio. We’ve had blowouts about a lot of things, but it’s not usually like, “Hey, I think this guitar should be like this.” CA: What’s your biggest pet peeve about each other? Sara: She’s incredibly stubborn, and there’s this impulsive go-for-it attitude – and sometimes that drives me crazy when it seems like it’s going against me. But when it’s in terms of bringing us to the next level, I love that confidence and bold-headed stubbornness. That’s when I think, “Yes, go for it” – as long as it’s not directed at me [laughs]. Tegan: It would take me 24 hours to tell you all my pet peeves. We’ve been doing a lot of vocal work – lots of warming up and warming down – but she doesn’t warm up and warm down in her space or on her time; she does it right in the middle of the dressing room while we’re trying to talk before we go on stage. It makes me wanna tackle her. CA: Have you tackled her? Tegan: When we were young. I haven’t physically attacked her in probably, like, 15 years [laughs]. —Chris Azzopardi is the editor of Q Syndicate, the international LGBT wire service. Reach him via his website at


FIRST GAY INAUGURAL POET Across 1 Benjamin Britten’s Peter 6 Comedy sketch 10 Reproduced nonheterosexually? 14 Mother of the groom, to the other groom 15 Reverse an action 16 Foam at the mouth 17 Beethoven’s “F¸r ___” 18 Former lead singer of Culture Club 20 “America” writer 22 CBS show in which semen may be evidence 23 Athenian T 24 Strikes out 27 Series ender 29 Blowholes 33 “Let’s call ___ day” 34 Clean-air org. 36 Copy source 39 “America” writer’s role at a DC celebration

42 Glass footwear in a fairy tale 43 It connects Dick to Dyke 44 Article in a German newspaper 45 Spaghetti strainer 47 Carrier to Tel Aviv 51 A real mouthful 54 “Got a Rainbow” lyricist Gershwin 56 “Diamonds ___ Forever” 57 In “America”, the writer noted that his people weren’t like people on this TV show 62 Song from a broadway rock musical? 64 First name in Irish literature 65 Words said with a nod 66 Erotic opening 67 Brand of machine that cuts leaves of grass 68 The life of Riley 69 Cruising areas 70 Mistake by Glenn Burke

First Gay Inaugural Poet solution on page 19 Down 1 David Hyde ___ 2 Join the army 3 Cher’s portrayer in “Clueless” 4 Allergic reaction 5 Result of a good, hard workout 6 Overpower by force 7 Attachment often found on drawers 8 Pastoral poem 9 “Julius Caesar” costume 10 “Time in a Bottle” singer Jim 11 ‘60s First Daughter 12 One that gets laid 13 Low mark 19 Bring to a halt 21 Lays waste to 25 Louisiana, in old OrlÈans 26 Mineo of “Rebel Without a Cause” 28 Ballet move 30 Viking-liking 31 Part of a chorus line?

32 Like the moon, at times 35 Type of tent that may be erected 37 1.0, for one 38 Actress Skye 39 Tennis champ Nastase 40 The Gay ___ 41 William Tell’s canton 42 Get hard 46 Moving porn 48 Cavalry member that can stick it in you 49 Jockey Eddie 50 Newsman Jim 52 Number of sides to a gay symbol 53 Like cool cats 55 Humble home 58 Antigay prejudice, e.g. 59 Go for another tour 60 Official records 61 Visitor at 62 Hurry, to Shakespeare 63 Nutty fruitcake center?




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David Quintanilla is a Fashion and Portrait Photographer that has recently relocated to San Diego from West Texas. His photography style is a marriage of saturated color and striking composition. Last year David started working with celebrity photographer and T.V. personality Mike Ruiz on his “Pretty Masculine” App. One of his latest projects is a highly stylized, photography calendar entitled “MACHO,” with proceeds benefitting AIDS initiatives. Quintanilla specializes in unique portraiture, fashion, modeling portfolios, head shots and editorial photography. His portfolio includes celebrities, politicians, athletes, models, and a wide range of clients looking for spectacular portraiture. David will be focusing his work in the San Diego, Palm Springs and Los Angeles area, but is also available for shoots on the East Coast. For more information visit his website

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Nutritional Therapost and Yoga Instructor | Jessica Quinn, a Nutritional Therapist and Yoga Instructor based on the island of Maui, will be returning to her hometown of San Diego to host a 7-day Yoga and Cleanse Workshop at Namaste Yoga Center in Ocean Beach starting on Saturday, February 16th with an introductory nutrition class and food prep demonstration. Influenced by the Chinese and Ayurvedic models of wellness, Jessica travels the world offering conscious and healthy resources, classes, cleanses, and retreats for those willing to further advance their healing and happiness. In this particular workshop, participants will focus on cleansing and strengthening their digestive tract while learning how to incorporate proper nutrition and a balanced yoga practice into their daily lifestyles. Included in this $249 workshop are 2 Nutrition classes, 7 yoga classes, a 7-day meal plan consisting of 3 meals per day and 2 optional liquid-only days, cleansing herbs/teas/essential oils, as well as an online supportive forum. Rejuvenate, revitalize, renew! Email to register for this simple and effective cleanse.

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Tax Strategies for Same-Sex Couples By Jeremy Dutson Another year and Tax Season is upon us. Opening our wallets to the government is painful enough, and deciphering the tax code can be extremely frustrating. Unfortunately, current tax codes make tax filing for members of the LGBT community much more complicated than for their heterosexual counterparts. Currently, the federal government does not recognize same-sex marriage. As a result, married, same-sex couples must file as “single” taxpayers on two separate, federal tax returns. Filing their state tax depends on where they reside. In the state of California, same-sex married couples and Registered Domestic Partners are required to file using a “married” status on their state tax return. To complicate matters, if a same-sex couple lives in a community property state, (like California), all community property income earned must be equally divided over two separate “single” (federal) tax returns. Community property income is most income earned within the union. This community property allocation can result in tax savings for a same-sex couple with a large disparity in income. If a same-sex couple in California chose to file “married filing separate” on their state tax return, they would have to treat community property income in the same way. An event that could drastically change the way a same-sex couple file their federal tax return would be if the Supreme Court found DOMA (Defense of Marriage Act) to be unconstitutional. If this happens, all same-sex married couples would be allowed to file jointly and potentially enjoy the tax savings of doing so. In the meantime, same-sex couples that may have benefited from filing a joint

tax return in the past, should consider filing a “Protective Claim for Refund.” By doing this, they reserve their right to potential prior year refunds in the event that DOMA is stricken down. Any claim to a refund would be lost if a protective claim was not filed before the statute of limitations. Jeremy Dutson is a Certified Public Accountant and tax specialist at the office of Abbas, Jenson & Cundari, CPAs in Banker’s Hill, he enjoys working with individual taxpayers and small businesses. “I believe that managing tax expense must be done consistently and frequently,” stated Jeremy, “with effective tax planning and comprehensive tax preparation, the amount of taxes paid will be reduced.” Jeremy donates his accounting skills to local charities and is an active member of the community; he was recently named 2012 Mind Masters Entrepreneur of the Year. When not working, he enjoys spending time with his partner and their 2 French bulldogs, traveling the world and various fitness and skiing pursuits. Please contact Jeremy with any questions about tax planning and preparation. The offices of Abbas, Jenson & Cundari, CPAs are located at 1940 5th Ave. Suite 300, San Diego, CA 92101. The website is Reach Jeremy by e-mail at or call (619) 298-9699. Written by Jeremy Dutson with assistance from Janice Sherlock, The J Sherlock Group, marketing and public relations.

Rick Sanchez has been Certified and Licensed since 1995. He works in Both the East & West Coast as well as between Northern & Southern California. In San Diego he is located in the Hillcrest/University Heights area right off the 163 Freeway with plenty of parking, with both easy access by car or Public Transportation. His training began in Sonoma County in Northern California and he has worked all around the country. Techniques include Swedish and deep-tissue Combinations *(Swedish is a lighter form of massage for Less strained muscle groups and deep-tissue works the more strenuous and stronger muscle groups). All appointments include a variety of heated oils and lotions, as well as specific crèmes depending on your issue. Aromatherapy is used to relax your spirit and senses and is used in all appointments. He also uses a variety of instruments which may be needed to increase circulation and blood flow for certain muscle groups creating a “Revitalizing Effect,” which is his goal. Hot-stone therapy is also included in the 90 minute massage appointments which deepens the relaxation of the muscles and is spiritually believed to help balance energies in the body. The environments are very clean, tranquil, and calming, and showering is at both locations available. His goal to maintain his high volume of repeat customers is to offer them a reasonable rate with the upmost comfortability and satisfaction.


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James Franco is one of the beautiful people, but you knew that Let’s just go ahead and make the man an honorary gay, shall we? Because at this point in his career, as a movie star, student, artist and culturecreator, James Franco is more than just gay-friendly or gay-adjacent, he’s gay-absorbed. A heterosexual who’s chosen queer culture as a topic to explore and explore and explore from as many angles as possible, including the much-buzzed about Sundance Film Festival entry “Interior. Leather Bar” (which imagined itself as a documentary about the mythical missing 40 minutes from the film “Cruising”), Franco will now take on “The Beautiful People,” a biopic of Jay Sebring, a straight man in a stereotypically gay profession. You might not know his name but Sebring was well known in Hollywood in the 1960s as the playboy hairdresser to the stars. He had an affair with “Valley of The Dolls” star Sharon Tate and, along with her, was tragically murdered by the Manson Family. In other words, his life has needs-to-be-a-movie written all over it. Franco will direct and star in the project, but there’s no other word on casting or a schedule, so this one will most likely show up in 2014 or later. For Ira Sachs, ‘Love Is Strange’

Sachs’ ‘Keep the Lights On’ (Photo by Jean-Christophe Husson) If you pay attention to this sort of thing, you’ll know that filmmaker Ira Sachs was the breakout gay indie filmmaker of 2012 thanks to his harrowing drug drama “Keep The Lights On,” an autobiographical story of a gay couple in New York caught in the spiral of addiction. Striking while the iron is hot, Sachs has already lined up his next feature, another indie called “Love is Strange” that is – surprise – about another gay couple (write what you know, they say). This one will star Michael Gambon (Dumbledore, gay after the fact in the “Harry Potter” franchise) and Alfred Molina (whose own career took off in the late ’80s playing

Joe Orton’s lover in the British drama “Prick Up Your Ears”) as a longtime gay couple in New York experiencing the ups and downs of a romance that’s lasted a lifetime. After their wedding, the couple finds themselves forced to be apart (for unexplained reasons at the moment), and they experience all the difficulty that comes with separation. Shooting is scheduled for this summer, so expect a highly anticipated 2014 release. Sean Hayes will not be told which sexual orientation to play After the “Promises, Promises” flap (in which a gay Newsweek reporter took issue with Sean Hayes playing a heterosexual character in a Broadway musical. Yes, really) it was only a matter of time before Hayes decided it was time to prove his non-gay-acting talents on a bigger stage. And after starring in last year’s TV pilot about gay parents, one that didn’t get picked up, the “Will & Grace” star is back with another untitled pilot from “Better Off Ted” creator Victor Fresco. This time he plays a single father (of no defined sexual orientation, but let’s assume the guy is straight, why not?) raising a 14-year-old daughter and dealing with a problematic boss at work. If it works, it’ll be one more brick out of the wall of resistance to openly gay actors crossing that boundary. So let’s all hope this one gets picked up. Neil Patrick Harris can’t carry this kind of sitcom burden all by himself. ‘AbFab,’ Part Eleventy A touchstone comedy series of the 1990s, one that permeated all of gay culture, won legions of fans and, to this day, refuses to go quietly into that good night. No, it’s not “Sex and the City,” it’s “Absolutely Fabulous.” And after one-off specials and mini-seasons, dormancy and resurrection, brilliantly funny periods and stretches where you wondered why they keep beating this dead horse only to rebound back into funny again, here comes a film. That’s right, an “AbFab” movie. Will it be theatrically released or will it stick to the familiarity of television? Nobody’s talking just yet, but Joanna Lumley has confirmed that it is, indeed, in the planning stages; that she’s fully on board to step back into Patsy’s sleek, drunken, vicious couture; that Jennifer Saunders is writing the script; and that she hears it’s also a musical (that last bit might just be wild conjecture and probably is). But whatever’s true, whatever it turns out to be, whenever it sees the light of day, we’re in. We’re always in. We always will be in. Until these two characters are a hundred. Or more. —Romeo San Vicente is still absolutely fabulous himself. He can be reached care of Gay San Diego or at



BV: Would you say “No Fairy Tale” falls within the same vein as your earlier records in terms of musical style? LL: If someone’s a fan of my earlier music, they’ll connect with this new music, as it’s song-based, and in the same vein as my previous music style. … BV: Is there any pressure for you to pen a number one hit, or is the release quite a laid back affair for you? LL: There’s no pressure from the outside for a number one hit, although it’s always the icing on the cake when a project reaches that level of commercial success. It’s always been about making music I’m excited about sharing, so there’s no extra pressure. I can really enjoy the process even more than I did in the past since I really understand now that the process should be something I connect to, regardless of the commercial success of the record. That being said, I do love cake, and icing too. BV: You have been recording and releasing records for 20 years now. What do you believe is the secret to artistic longevity? LL: I think if an artist has something to share, a story to tell and an audience to connect to, you’ll last a long time. I think we always have to keep making things, even if a person’s not a professional artist. BV: An instant favorite on the new album is a song called “The 90’s” which has numerous references to the years when you were most commercially successful, as well as various moments within that decade making the track quite a nostalgic inclusion. Can you tell us about the track? LL: I’m so glad you like the song. Chad had an idea for a song about the 90s, and I wasn’t sure I could do it. In the end, I rose to the challenge and was able to write something about making the video “Stay” and the music business at the time, and the fact that I loved that time period. … It was a very rewarding time for me, but it’s also very important to move forward. BV: Though you haven’t released any mainstream records in the past few years, you have been kept busy with other projects such as your collection of children’s books and albums. Can you tell us about this project? LL: I made a kids album called “Camp Lisa,” which was filled with old camp favorites and originals inspired by my summer camp days in Austin, Texas. This led to an offer to make a series of illustrated books, with CD included. Sterling Publishing hooked me up with Ryan O’Rourke to illustrate two books – “Lisa Loeb’s Silly SingAlong: The Disappointing Pancake and Other Zany Songs” and the upcoming book “Songs to Move and Shake.” I remember the times before computers when you actually interacted with friends and families and even by yourself, looking at books like these: full of songs, lyrics, detailed illustrations, and even some fun activities and recipes. I wanted to share these kinds of projects with other people. It’s really been a great way to write a different type of songs, and I collaborated on these with my very clever and musical friends, Dan Petty and Michelle Lewis. BV: Let’s talk about The Camp Lisa Foundation, which aims to help underprivileged kids attend summer camp. Can you tell us a little about the foundation and what prompted you to start the venture? LL: I loved camp so much. It really gave me a chance to get to know more about myself and grow as a person. It wasn’t about grades and that kind of thing, like school was. I wanted to share that with other kids who wouldn’t normally have an opportunity to go to camp, so we started the foundation to donate all proceeds from my “Camp Lisa Record” to these kids. We work with an organization called Scope to find the kids and the great camps to send them to. BV: You have also appeared in a number of film and television projects over the years showing off your diversity as an entertainer. Do you have any silver screen projects on the horizon or will the focus be placed predominantly back on your music career for now? LL: I hope to do some more acting in the future, and not just cameos as myself. Music always ends up being the most important part of my career, but I’m open to all kinds of creative expression. BV: Do you look back on “Stay” with fondness, or do you cringe when asked to perform the song? LL: I love singing that song. It really gave me so much freedom in my life. Because of its success, I’m able to make music the way I want to, meet so many people, and travel the world. … I’ll be on the road starting very soon in Japan then the East Coast, and I hope to get down to San Diego again soon. I was there within the last year, and I always love going back.t




The SDWC sent a group of wrestlers to the Sin City Shootout in Las Vegas last month. (Photo by Russ Connelly)

Wrestling Club to host San Diego tournament; flag football & softball schedule player clinics The San Diego Wrestling Club (SDWC) The San Diego Wrestling Club will be hosting their seventh annual Bulldogs Wrestling Tournament on Feb. 16, starting at 1 p.m. in the main auditorium of The LGBT Center. Spectators are welcome to come and check out the wrestling competition during the tournament for a $5 donation to the club. The annual wrestling weekend draws dozens of wrestlers from New York, Chicago, Denver, San Francisco and Los Angeles. Three days of wrestling actually begins Thursday, Feb. 14 with the club’s regular Thursday-night practice, beginning at 7 p.m. A skills and rules clinic will take place Friday night, followed by the tournament on Saturday afternoon. Now celebrating its 15th season, The SDWC is San Diego’s only year round wrestling group focusing on the adult wrestler. The club maintains diversity in its membership, and all weights, ages and skill levels are represented. Organizers say they are always looking to increase their membership and invite those interested in a good cardio workout as well as learning the sport of freestyle wrestling to check out their practices. The club is sanctioned by USA Wrestling, the national body for Olympic-style wrestling. In addition to their regular practices, the club hosts fundraisers and events throughout the year to bring together those interested in wrestling. The Bulldogs also participate in other freestyle wrestling tournaments, including those in San Francisco and the recent Sin City Shootout in Las Vegas. If you would like more information on the San Diego Wrestling Club or their upcoming wrestling tournament, visit or contact Coach Tom at 619-569-7547. San Diego American Flag Football League (SDAFFL) Saturday and Sunday, Feb. 9 – 10 marks the final opportunity for players to become eligible for the SDAFFL draft, which will take place on Sunday. Saturday morning’s schedule begins with a Rookie Camp from 9 – 11 a.m. at the Cabrillo Recreation Center (3051 Canon St.) in Point Loma. This camp offers new players and those with limited football knowledge an opportunity to learn the basics of flag football. The game involves running, throwing, catching, blocking and a wide variety of rules, and this camp will give attendees a chance to decide if SDAFFL is for them. Later that day from 1 – 3 p.m., the league will host its second of two player clinics. Anyone who wants to become eligible to play in the league this year must attend a clinic, and this will be your final chance. Attendees are split into groups that rotate through skill drills, giving coaches an opportunity to assess your abilities and take notes in preparation for the draft. While not required, cleats are highly recommended at the clinics in order to avoid injur y. The league’s draft takes place Sunday morning, and rosters are announced at SDAFFL’s annual draft party at Bourbon Street, beginning at 2 p.m. If you cannot attend the party, rosters will be posted shortly thereafter on the league’s website ( This year marks the 10th anniversar y of the league, and a record number of participants are expected. All players who attend a player clinic and pay their $110 fee online will be drafted onto a team. America’s Finest City Softball League (AFCSL) Now entering its 32nd season, AFCSL is offering

new-player clinics for anyone interested in joining the league. Different from the flag football league, only new players are required to attend one of these clinics. AFCSL does not draft players onto teams. Instead, players join existing teams or form their own, and are then placed in divisions based on the cumulative player ratings of their players. Here in San Diego, we have teams who play D (beginning), intermediate (C) and advanced (B) in both the Women’s and Open Divisions. A handful of women also elect to play in the Open Division each year. The first new player clinic is scheduled for Sunday, Feb. 10 at the Adams Avenue Recreation Center (Adams Avenue & 35th Street) in Normal Heights. The Women’s Division clinic will begin promptly at 3 p.m. and the Open Division clinic will follow at 4:30 p.m. Players should bring a glove and cleats if they have them. There is no cost to attend. More clinics are schedule for the remaining weekends in Februar y, with times and locations posted on the league’s website, —Jef f Praught is a contributing writer for Gay San Diego and fan of most sports. He is actively involved in the LGBT sports community, where he plays in the local softball (AFCSL), football (SDAFFL) and basketball (SD Hoops) leagues. He has served on AFCSL’s board of of ficers in various capacities and is currently the commissioner of SD Hoops.t

Benefit for David ‘Mona’ Valenzuela Friends have come together to organize a benefit on behalf of local athlete David Valenzuela. Known to his peers as “Mona,” Valenzuela had to undergo an emergency amputation of his right leg, below the knee. The dangerous and life-altering procedure was performed just after I wrote a profile about his 20 years of experience as an LGBT athlete and ambassador. He has volunteered his time in flag football, softball and basketball in areas such as recruitment, fundraising and serving on various boards. He was serving as SD Hoops’ Assistant Commissioner when his health emergency struck. Mona is a personal friend of mine as well as hundreds of others who have known him through sports, and as a waiter at various restaurants in Hillcrest over the years. He has been on the organizing side of benefits for so many worthy people and causes, and his peers are helping him by organizing a fundraising benefit. This will take place Feb. 17 at 1202 Nightclub (1202 University Ave.) in Hillcrest. There will be a raffle, silent auction and date auction. Barbeque dinner will be available, and 20 percent of food sales will go towards the cause. Randy Jenkins of Tripoint Holistic Therapy will be donating to the cause by offering massages for $1 per minute. If you are unable to attend the event but still wish to contribute, you may make online donations at

GAY SAN DIEGO Feb. 8–21, 2013



GAY SAN DIEGO Feb. 8–21, 2013


Fit body, fit brain Can’t remember where you parked the car or if you unplugged the coffee pot? Worried that as you age, your memor y and cognitive skills will deteriorate? Never fear: a regular exercise routine will strengthen your brain as well as your muscles. New research shows that even older adults who are physically active have a reduced risk of developing many forms of dementia. No doubt about it, a program of regular exercise and healthy eating has immense benefits for the mind. What’s the best type of fitness program for promoting brain health? Different types of exercise positively affect the brain in different ways. What you eat also affects your brain health. Here are three scientifically proven lifestyle changes you can make that, when combined together, are the best way to sharpen those brain cells and protect against dementia. Tips to keep those neurons firing Eat a nutritious, antioxidant-filled diet. Now is the time to change those unhealthy eating habits. Tr y to bump up your intake of colorful fruits and vegetables, whole grains and good fats. The more vibrant the color of the plant food, the greater the amount of powerful disease-fighting antioxidants you are feeding your neurons (brain cells). What’s more, the fat you choose to eat also has a huge affect on your brain cells. Omega-3 fat, specifically the fish fat called docosahexanoic acid (DHA), is essential for healthy brain growth and development, as DHA makes up a large portion of the gray matter in brain neurons. Because of this fact, DHA has taken on a critical role as a potential therapeutic inter vention in the treatment of Alzheimer’s disease. What’s the best food source of DHA?


FITNESS Large cold-water fish that swim in the deep oceans contain the highest amount of DHA as well as the other important omega-3 fish fat, eicosapentaenoic acid (EPA). Some fabulous fish choices high in omega-3s and low in mercur y include wild salmon, canned light tuna and catfish. Up your daily cardio exercise. You are probably already aware that regular aerobic exercise is key for keeping your body lean and your cardiovascular system fit. What you might not know is that cardio exercise has also been shown to boost brainpower by stimulating the formation of new brain cells, or neurons, and the connections between those cells, regardless of age. Regular exercise is thought to provide protection against age-related cognitive decline and possibly reduce risk of demen-

tias. A program of regular aerobic exercise specifically benefits the brain’s domain of memor y and learning. Recent evidence is shedding light on the mechanisms responsible for exercise’s ability to keep the brain fit. The increase in blood flow within the brain, changes in neurotransmitters and increased production of brain-derived chemicals stimulates new neuron growth. Don’t forget strength training. You’re never too old to see improvements in brainpower with a program of regular strength training. That’s the findings from a recent study published in the medical journal the Annals of Internal Medicine. The study demonstrated that a regular program of strength training improves cognitive function in women aged 65 to 75. What’s more, researchers showed that strength training also helps the wallet. The strength training group incurred fewer health care costs and had fewer falls than the subjects who were restricted to just balance and toning exercises. Indeed, the brain is like a muscle. With fitness training, it can be toned and sharpened. But you have to keep after it, as with everything it is a “use it or lose it” proposition. Managing your own health care and how you age is something to take charge of now. It is one workout and one meal at a time – over time – that will get you there. “Hoping” that the things in your family gene pool won’t rise up against you, like perhaps what your parents or grandparents suffered through, is ill advised. The path to longevity is found along the roadway of daily exercise and quality nutrition. —Gwen and Blake Beckcom own and operate Fitness Together Mission Hills, of fering personal training with qualified professionals by regular appointment in private suites. Exercise and nutritional programs are custom designed to fit your needs and abilities. Call 619-794-0014 for more information or to schedule a free assessment session. See what others are saying about us on and San Diego City Search.t FROM PAGE 5

BRIEFS Life. Adams Avenue Grill is donating 50 percent of their sales, and goes a step further by extending their participation from April 25 – 28. “Each year we are blown away by the generosity we receive from our local restaurants and bars for this truly communitybased fundraiser,” said Ian Johnson, Dining Out for Life coordinator. “We are so grateful for the continued support of our participants and for those who are joining for the first time this year. Their willingness to give to this effort makes a real difference in our efforts to fight HIV in San Diego.” For more information about Dining Out for Life visit their events.thecentersd. org/DOFL. DEMOCRATS FOR EQUALITY ENDORSE, RATE CANDIDATES IN KEY RACES At the San Diego Democrats for Equality Jan. 31 meeting, club members voted on endorsements in two key city and state races. In the San Diego City Council District 4 race, the organization ultimately voted to give two candidates – Dwayne Crenshaw and Myrtle Cole – “acceptable” ratings after two rounds of voting failed to secure a 60 percent vote for a full endorsement for either candidate. Crenshaw and Cole are looking to replace Tony Young on the Council in a special election held March 26. In the California State Senate District 40 race, the Democrats for Equality voted overwhelmingly to endorse Ben Hueso. Election for the Senate seat will be held March 12. MORE THAN 1.4 MILLION TELL BOY SCOUTS TO END BAN ON GAYS Gay scouts and leaders delivered more than 1.4 million signatures to the Boy Scouts of America headquarters Monday, Feb. 4 in Irving, Texas. Former Den Leader Jennifer Tyrrell, former Scoutmaster Greg Bourke, Eagle Scout Will Oliver, and Eric Andresen, the father of a gay Scout denied his Eagle Award, sparked a national movement with their petitions on to end the Boy Scouts of America’s anti-gay policy. The group was joined on Feb. 4 by Brad Hankins, campaign director for Scouts for Equality, and representatives from GLADD and After speaking outside of the Boy Scouts of America’s (BSA) headquarters, Tyrrell, Bourke, Andresen and Oliver hand-delivered the petition’s signatures to a representative of the Boy Scouts of America. “Today, I’m helping deliver more than 1.4 million petition signatures to the Boy Scouts of America, urging the national board to end bans on gay youth and parents, and give me the opportunity to once again serve my son’s Cub Scout Pack,” Tyrrell said in a press release. “I do not want one more mother or father to have to look their child in the eyes and tell them that their parents aren’t good enough or are different. The Boy Scouts of America can do better than that.” On Wednesday, Feb. 6, the BSA released an official statement saying the decision to vote on the membership policy needs more time for a deliberate review. The approximately 1,400 voting members of the National Council will meet in May and take action toward a resolution at that time. Zach Wahls, an Eagle Scout and founder of the organization Scouts for Equality released a statement, saying, “This is an abdication of responsibility. By postponing this decision, the BSA has caved to those who argue that their anti-gay attitudes trump basic Scouting values of kindness, courtesy and bravery. Scouting was built on a foundation of respect and dignity. Today, the BSA cracked that foundation.”t


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February 8, 2013 edition. San Diego's LGBT community newspaper.

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