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Volume 4 Issue 4 Feb. 22–March 7, 2013 Follow us on Facebook and Twitter.




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The People’s Empress


Candi Samples begins reign as Imperial Court leader, vows to bridge past with future

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By Anthony King | GSD Editor


Betty DeGeneres, a15-year member of PFLAG, accepted her award for Excellence in Advocacy for Safe, Welcoming & Inclusive Schools at this year’s conference. (Photo by Ferrer Productions) A slice of Chicago


Newly crowned Empress Candi Samples, dubbed “The People’s Empress,” held the Imperial Court de San Diego’s first meeting of the 41st reign on Wednesday, Feb. 20, where he outlined his goals for the year as figurehead and leader of the San Diego chapter of the International Court System. The philanthropic organization was founded in 1965, and is currently the longestrunning LGBT nonprofit in San Diego. “As the people’s empress, I want to reach out to ever yone in ever y community,” Candi Samples said. “My communities expand through so many people.” Crowned at the Court’s Coronation ball held Feb. 2, Candi Samples becomes the second empress in the organization’s

see Candi,, pg 18

CESCaL conference honors & empowers those who support LGBT youth By Morgan M. Hurley | GSD Assistant Editor

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This year’s fourth annual national educator conference focused on LGBTQIA youth may have been packed with celebrity honorees, but it was the 600 educators, school counselors and national LGBT leaders in attendance that were the real heroes of the weekend. Themed “Supporting Students – Saving Lives,” the conference is put on each year by San Diego State University’s school counseling graduate program, specifically its nonprofit, the Center for Excellence in School Counseling and Leadership (CESCaL). This year’s conference was held Friday – Sunday, Feb. 15 – 17. “I am very proud of the school counseling graduate students who devoted many hours making this conference so successful,” said Trish Hatch, director of the program and CESCaL. “Their experience provides invaluable knowledge, attitudes and skills for supporting LGBTQIA youth in schools after they graduate.” Its inaugural event in 2010 drew 150 attendees from

four different states. Since then, the conference has grown considerably each year, not only with regards to attendance, but also sponsorships, visibility and recognition within the national education community. Hatch, founder of the conference and directly involved in its production for the first several years, last year turned the operational reigns over to Vincent “Vinnie” Pompei, this year’s project director and conference chair. She said watching Pompei grow the conference to its current state makes her “very proud,” and was quick to note that her original idea to host the conference would have never gotten off the ground without the committed support of Ric Hovda, dean of the college of education at SDSU. Hatch said Hovda continues to be a staunch supporter and underwriter of the conference. Supporting Students – Saving Lives is three days of celebrity and educator honorees, presentations,

see CESCaL, pg 7

Mario Ortega, aka Candi Samples, at the first Imperial Court meeting of the 41st reign. (Photo by Anulak Singphiphat)

Bronwyn Ingram touts Team First Lady at GSDBA luncheon Mayor Bob Filner’s fiancée comments on homeless advocacy; says LGBT community is ‘number 1’ supporter By Anthony King | GSD Editor The First Lady of San Diego Bronwyn Ingram was guest speaker at this month’s Greater San Diego Business Association (GSDBA) luncheon, where she highlighted her new volunteer organization and dispelled the myth she was the sole organizer for homeless advocates. Held Tuesday, Feb. 12 at Wang’s North Park, Ingram told the crowd of approximately 35 her drive for organizing Team First Lady – the name given to both those who volunteer with Ingram as well as

the initiative launched earlier this year to help direct the group’s efforts – came during her fiancée Bob Filner’s run for mayor. “When we were campaigning, I had the privilege to go to all these different neighborhoods and all these different communities and meet so many people,” she said. “When I was meeting people and talking to them about their different issues … everyone told me they wanted to help out.” Linda Perine, a GSDBA member and new San Diego director of community outreach, introduced Ingram

(l to r) GSDBA CEO Tom Luhnow, Bronwyn Ingram and San Diego Director of Community Outreach Linda Perine at the Feb. 12 luncheon (Photo by GSD) at the luncheon, along with GSDBA CEO Tom Luhnow. Perine worked with Filner during the campaign, and was appointed to the position earlier this year. Founded in 1979, the GSDBA is the regional gay and lesbian chamber of commerce advocating for diversity and equality for the LGBT

community. It is the second-largest LGBT chamber organization in the United States and a founding member of the National Gay and Lesbian Chamber of Commerce, located in Washington, D.C. “I have to tell you the LGBT com-

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Dilno and Baza celebrated as ‘local heroes’ KPBS and Union Bank honor pair for LGBT Pride Month at annual ceremony By Anthony King | GSD Editor with Morgan M. Hurley | GSD Assistant Editor Jeri Dilno and Larry “Tito” Baza were among 16 individuals celebrated as San Diego “local heroes,” at a ceremony held Feb. 5. Active members of the LGBT community, Dilno and Baza were honored as LGBT Pride Month winners for 2012. Now in their 15th year, KPBS and Union Bank host the annual awards in part to signify both organizations’ commitment to diversity. “Diversity and inclusion are an important part of our Union Bank heritage, and we are proud of our Local Heroes program in partnership with KPBS that celebrates cultural diversity in our communities,” said Union Bank Senior Executive Vice President Pierre Habis in a release. The private awards ceremony was held at the San Diego Natural History Museum, with Kathi Diamant serving as host. “The program shines a spotlight on the accomplishments of extraordinary individuals, and we are thrilled to honor them with the recognition they deserve,” Habis said. Dilno, who helped organize Philadelphia’s first pride march in 1972, returned to San Diego in 1974 and quickly became active as a “political and social justice advocate” for women’s and LGBT rights, the announcement said. She became the first female executive director of The LGBT Community Center – then called The Gay Center – and served as editor of the Gay and Lesbian Times. She was president of the San Diego Democratic Club for four terms, as well as co-chair of the LGBT Caucus of the California Democratic Party in 1994. A current board emeritus for San Diego LGBT Pride, Dilno also serves as a member of the Balboa Park Committee.

Baza, an arts administrator and advocate, has also been on several nonprofit boards, including the Centro Cultural de la Raza, the California Arts Council and the San Diego Commission for Arts and Culture, among others. “Driven by the belief that access to the arts is vitally important to a civilized society,” the release said, he also assisted with establishing Chicano Park. Baza is past president of the San Diego Democrats for Equality – formerly San Diego Democratic Club – and is a board member of Honor Pac, a statewide Latino LGBT political action committee. He also serves on the advisory council of the Women’s History Museum and The Center’s Latino Services. Celebrated along with Dilno and Baza were Michelle Elise Houle, Doris A. Howell, Jill Spitzer, Dennis-Michael Broussard, JiAel Brownell, Bishop Roy Dixon, Mike Kawamura, Gussie Zaks, Michael Cruz, Danny Gutierrez, Louis Frick, Laurel Moorhead, Patricia Dixon and Leroy Elliott. In addition to LGBT Pride Month, honorees were acknowledged in one of seven other categories: Native American Month, Hispanic Heritage Month, Disability Awareness Month, Black History Month, Jewish American Heritage Month, Women’s History Month and Asian Pacific American Heritage Month. The ceremony and reception marked the end of the yearlong celebration. KPBS has long honored people within each of these communities as local heroes, and, recently, 18-year KPBS-veteran Monica Medina has taken that concept one step further. In November 2012, Media – director of diversity, engagement and grants at the media organization – led a group that launched the blog “Hey Neighbor!” on the KPBS website. In her position Medina initiates and oversees outreach campaigns within the greater San Diego area that focus on community areas like the Local Heroes

(back row, l to r) Honorees Michael A.V. Cruz, Larry T. Baza, Jill Borg Spitzer, Danny Gutierrez and JiAel Brownell; (middle row, l to r) honorees Michelle Houle and Mike Kawamura; KPBS General Manager Tom Karlo, Union Bank Executive VP George Ramirez, Union Bank Senior VP Lawrence Henry and honoree Jeri Dilno; (front row l to r) honorees Dennis-Michael Broussard, Louis Frick, Laurel Moorhead, Bishop Roy Dixon, Dr. Doris A. Howell and Leroy Elliott. Not pictured are honorees Patricia A. Dixon and Gussie Zaks. (Photo by Melissa Jacobs) program, as well as military, mental health and aging. An avid blogger in her own right, Medina has taken to writing on the KPBS blog about outstanding people within the community who may not have been honored with a hero nomination or award. Hey Neighbor! is inspired by the universal appeal of Mister Rogers and his decades-long request for viewers to “be my neighbor.” It sheds a shining light on those who dedicate their lives to making the world better for other people. Since first launching in November, Medina has profiled several people, including former-KPBS General Manager Stephanie Bergsma, Tom K. Wong – whose childhood as an undocumented alien Medina details with great care – Urban League President Ray King and others who are adding to the list of local heroes. On Feb. 14, Medina profiled Max Disposti, the North County LGBTQ Resource Center executive director. “Meet [Disposti] and you’re immediately caught up in his genuine enthusiasm and zeal for all he’s

been able to accomplish here, in San Diego,” Medina wrote. “Basically I am hoping as word gets out as people become more aware of the blog, they’ll contact me if they know of a story, or if they have a story that’s pretty extraordinary: an ordinary person that has done something extraordinary, while giving back to the community,” Medina said. Medina’s Hey Neighbor! team consists of her staff, Ashley Rodriguez, Trisha Richter, Clare Pister and Leng Caloh, interactive strategies manager. KPBS General Manager Tom Karlo, a 40-year veteran of the news organization, is a big supporter of Medina’s work and mission. “We celebrate diversity throughout the year and we tell the stories of those communities, and I want the website to reflect it more,” he said. “I want people of those different communities to come to our website and tell their stories.” To read the blog and to contribute story ideas to Medina, visit hey-neighbor.t


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NEWS picks next Travel Guru Bryan Kosarek kicks off 6-month tour in San Diego By Morgan M. Hurley | GSD Assistant Editor San Diego-based recently announced the winner of its latest Gay Travel Guru, chosen after months of rigorous competition between hundreds of contestants. A group of five final contestants assembled Jan. 13 – 20 at Aspen’s Gay Ski Week, fighting for the right to the coveted crown, which includes a $30,000 salar y and the opportunity to represent the online LGBT travel promotions company at destinations around the world. After two days in Denver and then a week in Aspen, Colo., Austin, Texas resident Bryan Kosarek was unanimously selected by the five judges as the Season Two winner. The first runner up, Jarred Gammon, was also from Austin. Season One winner Nick Vivion held the title in 2011. On Feb. 11, Kosarek began his sixmonth reign as the Season Two Guru here in San Diego. He spent most of his time at the company’s corporate offices in Del Mar, Calif., bonding with the team, prepping, planning, getting social media set up, strategizing and working on his branding. Kosarek then spent the weekend at the Lafayette Hotel in North Park so he could get to know the neighborhoods before heading back home for a three-week break. It was his first visit to San Diego; his next trip to the city will be a scheduled Guru stop in mid-July for Pride festivities. Originally from Chicago, Kosarek has been in Austin since 2005 where he is a real estate broker and runs the blog. Though he had not heard of Gay Travel Guru’s first season, when Season Two popped up on his radar, he said he knew he had to give it ever ything he had to make it happen.

“I knew this was exactly what I needed because I’d just gotten out of a three-year relationship and you know how it is. … I wasn’t ready to leave Austin, but … I just needed to get away,” Kosarek said. “This came along, and I was like, ‘this is it,’ and the universe delivered it.” As winner, Kosarek will travel to various destinations around the world, posting video and blog commentar y with photos along the way that focus on how each destination caters to the LGBT community. He will be producing his own social-media show for six non-stop months. “Br yan’s edge was his ability to create entertaining and high-quality videos, ver y similar to Nick Vivion, our Season One winner,” said Joey Konecek, community director. Kosarek had training in web and graphics design, and said he felt another advantage was his ability to self-manage. “Ever yone had their own unique talents,” Kosarek said. “I tried to position myself as … the perfect hybrid candidate … because I have the work ethic and the experience of the more mature contestants and the curiosity and playfulness of the younger ones.” He said high points during the competition were making it to the next round each time and participating in the “phenomenal” Gay Ski Week. By constantly assessing the strengths and weaknesses of the other candidates, taking inventor y of his own progress and collecting various other “intel” as he went along, Kosarek said by the end he was pretty confident he was going to win. He did feel mixed feelings when he won, since some contestants “hated him,” he said, and others were friends, but he has no regrets. Many contestants, including Hillcrest’s

(l to r) The team: Nicole Connell, Niell Talbot (foreground), Joey Konecek, Kyle Paxman, Chad King and Bryan Kosarek (foreground), CEO Steve Rohrlick (standing), Samantha Baron, and Chris Nguyen. (Courtesy Bryan Kosarek) Eddie Reynoso, marketing director of Mo’s Universe, have received travel perks just from being in the competition. Kosarek definitely plans to make his mark with what he calls the “wish list.” Accessible through the website, it will enable followers to contribute outlandish ideas that he must try to accomplish at each of his destinations, and they will be carried out similar to TV’s “The Amazing Race.” He will establish one wish for himself at each location and choose one from followers. “I want these [wishes] to be so far off – the chance of meeting the Queen of England – is that even possible?” he said. “You know… gay people work there. … How can we utilize the ‘gay mafia’ and navigate to make this happen? It’s not so much about getting there but the experiences. … When you start to engage the locals, new experiences open up.”

From March 7 – 11, Kosarek will be in New York City where one of the items on his wish list is to get himself on one of the big television screens in Times Square. From there, he heads to Napa, Calif. where he will partake in the Big Gay Wine Train, run by Guru contestant Mark Vogler, manager of Out in the Vineyards and Gay Wine Weekend. But Kosarek said he is really looking for ward to the two weeks in Thailand. “I’m a connector … at the end of the day, bringing people together through this journey,” he said, “that’s what I want.” Follow Kosarek on his journey through his use of social media. He will be updating twice per day. You can find him on Facebook as Gay Travel Guru, Twitter as @gaytravel and his blog at guru, where you can also read more about and add to his wish list.t


GSDBA munity has been number one in support of the efforts of Team First Lady,” Ingram said at the luncheon. “Once Mayor Filner got into office, it seemed clear that we just needed to all [come] together and all help each other out.” Team First Lady was formed to offer residents a chance to volunteer on different projects throughout the region. The group’s website,, serves as the hub, listing events on a community calendar that offers upcoming opportunities for people to get involved, from “cake walks to neighborhood beautification projects,” Ingram said. “It’s not only about what the city can do and using taxpayer money. It’s about all of us pooling our resources, working together,” she said. “You can commit to something that is three hours or you can commit to an ongoing project like helping with adult literacy at the library.” The group is holding an informal networking event planned for an undisclosed location Downtown on March 3. With a degree in psychology, Ingram has worked in the Social Security Administration in Los Angeles as an adjudicator for the past 21 years. It was in this position that she first met Filner, in 2009. Recently, Ingram has taken on the role as spokesperson for fighting homelessness in San Diego County. She was announced as a key player, along with Council President Todd Gloria, in the Jan. 30 Project Homeless Connect event, and has since become an advocate for homeless issues. While she did not speak on the issue during her initial speech to the GSDBA members – “I don’t talk long. I’m not an elected official so I don’t get really excited when I have a microphone in hand,” she said – Ingram fielded questions about her advocacy work from the audience. One attendee, who represented a homeless services provider in San Diego, was concerned about the “myth” that was being “perpetuated” about local providers not collaborating to help people who are homeless, she said. In a U-T San Diego article that profiled Ingram and the Team First Lady’s focus on homelessness, Ingram said she was hoping to bring service providers together in a “more cooperative manner.” The GSDBA member welcomed Ingram’s efforts, and said she was concerned because service provider groups were already

working together, every day. “It is great that you guys have been working together,” Ingram said to the representative at the luncheon. “I wish everyone was like that. Unfortunately, they’re not. The reality is that I do have different groups coming to me saying some unkind things about other groups.” While she said she had a “personal passion” for issues surrounding homelessness, Ingram was quick to say that she was not an expert. “I’ve been working with the disabled community for 21 years and that’s my profession,” she said. “The way I see my role is just to support the services that are out there already. I don’t want to start a new organization or think that I have some answer that’s not already out there. “It’s just a matter of I want to support the work that’s happening now,” she said. “I want to help in ever ything that I can get involved in.” The GSDBA luncheon series is sponsored in part by Cox Communications. Luhnow said his organization was working to secure a guest speaker on immigration issues for a future month, and the next speaker – scheduled for March 12 at Wang’s North Park – will be Bill Powers, engineer and author of “San Diego Smart Energy 2020.” Powers will be discussing solar power and sustainability. For more information visit

GAY NEWS BRIEFS GLBT HISTORIC TASK FORCE REQUESTS SCHOOL BE NAMED AFTER SENATOR KEHOE City Commissioner Nicole Murray Ramirez, chair of the GLBT Historic Task Force of San Diego County, sent a letter on Feb. 11 to the San Diego Unified School District board officially requesting that a school be named or renamed after former State Senator Christine Kehoe. The letter cited Kehoe as a historic figure in San Diego, being the first LGBT elected official in the City and referred to her as the “Harvey Milk of San Diego.” “As a Latino, I can proudly point to schools named after my community’s heroes and role models,” Ramirez stated in the letter. “But as a gay man [there] are no schools named after GLBT citizens of distinction that GLBT students can look up to as role models.” A decision is expected soon. SAN DIEGO LGBT PRIDE RELEASES 2013 PRIDE THEME San Diego LGBT Pride (SD Pride) announced the theme “Freedom to Love and Marry” for its 39th annual Pride celebration, scheduled to take place July 12 – 14 with a large community rally, Friday evening block party, parade and two-day festival in Bal-

GAY SAN DIEGO Feb. 22–March 7, 2013 boa Park. SD Pride made history and worldwide news with the first active-duty uniformed military contingent in a Pride parade with approval from the Department of Defense in 2012. The organization said it looks to continue its push forward on issues of equality with this year’s theme. “Our community, our country and our courts are all coming to the consensus that our freedom to love and marry is a basic human right. San Diego Pride stands to honor our history, celebrate the advances we’ve made and confront the issues we still face as a community,” said Public Affairs Director Fernando Lopez in a press release. “If justice prevails in the historic court cases now before the Supreme Court, San Diego Pride will be a huge victory party; if not, Pride will serve as reminder and rally cry that our work is not done.” BROADWAY/SAN DIEGO ANNOUNCES 2013-14 SEASON Broadway/San Diego – a Nederlander Presentation launched their 2013-2014 season lineup at a hosted reception Friday, Feb. 15. The new season opens Oct. 15 with “Priscilla Queen of the Desert” and features “The Book of Mormon,” “Evita,” “Million Dollar Quartet” and “The Music of Andrew Lloyd Webber.” The 2012 Tony Award-winner “Once” closes the season, beginning Aug. 12, 2014. “We are very pleased with the productions that comprise our 2013-14 season. Audi-


ences of all types will be thrilled with this current award-winning lineup. In addition, we hope to be able to build new and emerging audiences with the broad range of programming,” said Carl Thompson, Broadway/San Diego’s marketing director in a press release. “The Book of Mormon,” from the creators of “South Park,” will play a limited two-week engagement from May 27 to June 8, 2014 at the San Diego Civic Theatre. “Our new 2013-2014 Season includes Tony Award-winning shows, as well as timeless classics, lively 1970s disco hits and 1950s rock and roll,” said Nederlander Vice President Joe Kobryner in the release. “Plus, we are presenting one of Disney’s all-time family favorites, “Disney’s Beauty and the Beast,” which returns after its last sold-out engagement. Remaining in the 2012-13 season are “Billy Elliot” playing April 30 – May 5, “American Idiot” playing May 28 – June 2 and “Sister Act” playing June 30 – Aug. 4. JEWISH FEDERATION OF SD COUNTY APPOINTS NEW CEO Michael M. Sonduck, a local business leader from the LGBT community, was appointed as president and CEO of the Jewish Federation of San Diego County on Feb. 18, effective immediately. Sonduck was selected to fill the position after serving as Interim President and CEO since March

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Letters South Bay Pride’s commitment to community Way to go guys, love the commitment that South Bay Pride has shown for so long to our community at large [see “The return of South Bay Pride,” Vol. 4, Issue 3]. You were an inspiration for our Pride @ the beach and we support you all the way. We know that your Pride this year will come back bigger and better than ever. —Max Disposti, via Max, thank you for your continued support – we are so happy to see how you have grown! Gay

San Diego, thank you also for all of your support of South Bay Pride Art & Music Festival [see “The return of South Bay Pride,” Vol. 4, Issue 3]. … I am very excited to move the South Bay Pride Art and Music Festival to the Chula Vista Bay. This new venue will allow us to show off our beautiful bay front that has a backdrop of Coronado and the Downtown Skyline. In addition, this venue allows us to expand to allow more vendors a larger beer garden and a dance floor in addition to our musical stage. It is important that we continue to build the LGBT community in the South Bay and make our presence known with the residents and the politicians and this event has a great reputation for doing this and it is growing each year. We are looking for a bigger and more

enthusiastic event this year – we can’t wait for everyone to join us on Sept. 14th! —Marci Bair, via email and

Inspiration in Trent Osier’s story Excellent article, Morgan. Thank you for sharing Trent’s celebration with your readers [see Osier’s honor, courage and commitment shine,” Vol. 4, Issue 3]. Oh, how far we’ve come – it’s beyond inspiring. —Aaron Heier, via gay-sd.comt


Is the Constitution passé? On the precipice of big change in LGBT rights, perhaps it’s time for a rethink By Abby Dees Despite my radical spirit, my committed feminism and deep distrust of old establishments, after I went to law school I became a fawning, dorky fan of the U.S. Constitution. It’s normal for lawyers to do this. We see in the Constitution all this promise of equality and justice, even though we know all too well what a problematic document it is, and how very bloody its failings have been. We will fight for it like rabid dogs. I was, therefore, gobsmacked to hear esteemed constitutional law professor Michael Seidman calling it “an ancient and outdated document” on CBS Sunday Morning. I almost threw my cereal at the TV. I refrained, and instead continued to watch while suppressing a twitch. OK, he made some sense. His question was why are we so beholden to a bunch of dead guys? Come to think of it, is there really a good reason for the Elec-

toral College or a two-year term for members of the House other than, “because the it’s in the Constitution”? All those provisions have done for us is Bush II and unending campaign robocalls. Even beyond its pragmatic failings, Seidman points to the gun-control debate to illustrate our misguided obsession with what people thought 200 years ago. Instead of discussing the role guns should play in our society today, we get bogged down on what the framers meant in 1790. One’s opinion on the matter then becomes needlessly elevated to a litmus test about who’s most patriotic, all because of the 2nd Amendment, written back when guns coughed out a lead gumball. At this point, forget rational debate. I can’t really argue with him, but I’m not willing to concede so quickly, especially since this year promises to be a turning point in LGBT rights. There’s no doubt that the Constitution got many things profoundly wrong – for

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example, the notorious provision that counted slaves as three-fifths a person, or the fact that only rich white men got to vote. Whoops. I also see in it, though, a good faith attempt to be enlightened, to be better. The framers understood that it was inherently flawed and subject to the prejudices of the times. Thomas Jefferson probably embodied this contradiction as much as any of the founding fathers: he was a seeker of truth and also a slave owner. I make no excuses for this, but he was at least somewhat aware of his failings. He wrote, “I am not an advocate for frequent changes in laws and constitutions, but laws and institutions must go hand in hand with the progress of the human mind. … We might as well require a man to wear still the coat which fitted him when a boy as civilized society to remain ever under the regimen of their barbarous ancestors.” There is nowhere else in our legal canon such a document that allows for improvement to our collective wisdom or marks so well where we’ve been. The three-fifths provision still exists in the text of the constitution, but it has been

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superseded by the extraordinary historical moment of the 14th Amendment (1866), recognizing the equality of all American citizens. And we’ve bumped along toward full equality for women, despite the failure of the ERA. The Supreme Court, as interpreter of our Constitution, has enshrined our biases, and then at other times, pushed us well out of our national comfort zone. In recent history, we only need look at the shameful Korematsu case of 1944 in which the internment of JapaneseAmericans was held to be lawful. Then, just 10 years later, the Court declared segregation on the basis of race to be unlawful in Brown v. Board of Education. My point is the Constitution isn’t a crumbling piece of parchment; it is, like lawyers are fond of saying, a “living document.” In that spirit, LGBT rights are poised to be the next logical step in its – and our – growth. I’m all for deleting the Electoral College text, and who cares about the “framers’ intent” if it can’t guide us today. But I still have faith in the Constitution’s unique power to urge us forward. Absent a better alternative, I’ll keep it.t

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2012. The selection process was done with consultation from the Jewish Federation of North America’s Mandel Center for Leadership Excellence. Sonduck has been associated with the Federation as a consultant, director of strategic implementation and COO since 2004. “The Jewish Federation of San Diego is honored and delighted that Michael Sonduck has accepted the position of President and CEO of our Federation. As interim CEO for the past 10 months, we were fortunate to observe Michael’s skills in many areas especially in helping us forge a new purpose and strategy for our federation and building improved relationships with our partners and donors. We are so fortunate that his seven years prior experience with our Federation afforded us the added benefit of a smooth transition. Michael possesses the leadership, vision and enthusiasm that will move us to the next level in our community,” said board chair Claire Ellman in a press release. Prior to working with the Federation, Sonduck’s previous role was at a consulting practice for 25 years with a focus on the role of leadership in strategic change. The Jewish Federation of San Diego County is dedicated to building a vibrant and inclusive local Jewish community, and to enhance the wellbeing of Jewish culture in San Diego, Israel and throughout the world. REP. SUSAN DAVIS SUPPORTS IMMIGRATION EQUALITY FOR LGBT COUPLES Congressmember Susan Davis once again signed on as a cosponsor of the Uniting American Families Act (UAFA). Formerly the Permanent Partners Immigration Act, the UAFA would allow U.S. citizens and lawful permanent residents to sponsor a permanent partner, where, under current law, only legally recognized married couples can be sponsors to obtain immigration residence status. “Families are being torn apart because of unequal treatment suffered by LGBT couples,” Davis said in a press release. “Acceptance of immigration status should not be based on whom you love. I’ve heard from so many of my constituents who are distraught at losing someone they have been committed to for years because our immigration system views them differently than marries heterosexual couples.” The UAFA would provide equal immigration benefits to LGBT partnerships that exist for married couples, but will still impose the same enforcement standards and restrictions under current immigration law.t

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GAY SAN DIEGO Feb. 22–March 7, 2013



(l to r) Alyssa, Tim and Tracy Rodemeyer with CESCaL conference chair Vincent Pompei during the fourth annual conference. (Photo by Ferrer Productions)

Three voices making a difference Family of Jamey Rodemeyer bring hope as part of CESCaL conference By Anthony King | GSD Editor The family of Jamey Rodemeyer spoke on the final day of the San Diego CESCaL conference, highlighting a weekend focus on supplying educators with tools to address the needs of LGBT and questioning youth. Rodemeyer was 14 years old when he committed suicide in 2011, due in part to being bullied for his sexuality. His parents Tim and Tracy Rodemeyer spoke following their daughter, and Jamey Rodemeyer’s sister, Alyssa. The three have become a team of advocates, traveling the United States to tell their family story and raise awareness of bullying. “Jamey was so passionate,” Tim Rodemeyer said. “It’s because of him [that] we do it. I hope you guys take what you learn here and put it to good use, because I’m sick and tired hearing of kids being bullied just because they are different.” The San Diego State University Center for Excellence in School Counseling and Leadership (CESCaL) conference, called Supporting Students – Saving Lives, is now in its fourth year. The Rodemeyers spoke Sunday, Feb. 17 during the conference’s plenary, where educators and administrators joined students to hear several guest speakers, including bullied teen Jonah Mowry, Abbe Land of The Trevor Project and Jorge Valencia of the Point Foundation. A performance by De’Borah of NBC’s “The Voice” concluded the plenary. “We want to carry on Jamey’s lesson,” Tracy Rodemeyer said at the conference. “He gave his own life to help others. We want to help others not to have to go through what he did, feeling worthless and useless, [and] not worthy of this world. We don’t want another family to go through what we have.” Jamey Rodemeyer committed suicide September 2011 at his family home in Amherst, N.Y., a suburb of Buffalo. The high school freshman was active on social media websites like YouTube and Twitter, and had been a vocal advocate for LGBT rights, even creating a video for the anti-bulling It Gets Better campaign. The conference emphasizes support for students who are either questioning their sexuality or are openly LGBT. Alyssa Rodemeyer, who is bisexual, spoke from her own experience. “When people think of support and ac-

ceptance of the LGBT community, I think many people imagine large rainbow parades and tearful speeches about coming out,” she said. “But in the school environment, I can tell you from experience we just want to be accepted, we want to feel safe and we want to be left alone.” One topic the Rodemeyers touched on was the rhetoric that often surrounds discussing children who bully. Tossed aside as simply a fact of growing up, both Tracy and Tim Rodemeyer said they did not agree. “I’m sick of hearing, ‘kids are so cruel’ or ‘kids will be kids,’” Tracy Rodemeyer said. “These kids are smart enough to understand the difference between right and wrong.” Tim Rodemeyer conveyed a similar message, relaying his son’s acceptance of everyone. “There is the victim – the LGBT individual – and the instigator,” he said. “Jamey did not have a conflict with anyone. He wanted to sit in class and enjoy the opportunity to learn as all the others.” During the time since her son’s suicide, Tracy Rodemeyer said she has heard many stories from people who come up to her family after talks, all highlighting the same problem her son had. “Each and every one of them have shown that the kids are bullied in the LGBT community, and they often think about suicide or attempt it, many times. For them to share their stories with us shows that they want to live a quiet life away from hate and ridicule,” she said. “If we can make a difference for just one individual – one family – we feel that Jamey did not die in vain,” she said. Soft spoken, the parents recalled the days immediately following their son’s suicide as difficult, but said it was not as hard as understanding the bullying he went through for several years. “I grew up thinking that one person could not make a difference. From the time that my son was 12, he kept saying that he was going to make a big difference in this world,” Tracy Rodemeyer said. “He made a difference in millions of people’s lives, and he was one person. We now all speak out for the same cause,” she said. “We are three more voices that are making a difference. Do not ever underestimate the difference you can make daily to your students.”t

interactive panel discussions, networking, and intensive breakout sessions, all designed to give educators, nurses and counselors of K-12 schools the tools they need to best advocate for their LGBTQIA students. On the final day, 100 students are brought in to take part as well. This year, out MSNBC anchor Thomas Roberts flew in to accept his award for Excellence in Media and Journalism in person and stayed to moderate an interactive panel of national leaders in education on Saturday. The featured speaker of Friday night’s opening plenary, keynote and awards ceremony was Michael Yudin, acting assistant secretary of Special Education and Rehabilitation Services for the United States Department of Education (DOE). Yudin, who shared that he and his husband raised two daughters, represents a division within the DOE with a mission that includes the promotion of inclusion and equity for those with disabilities, something that directly aligns with LGBT issues. He offered resources to the group and emphasized the support coming directly from the Obama Administration. “Public schools have an obligation to treat all students equally in a socially just manner. It’s not only providing them physical safety, its actually making sure that they are emotionally safe and they have self esteem and that they are nurtured to thrive,” he said. Yudin offered the educators in attendance a charter that included guidelines such as creating a positive school climate, being proactive and visible to LGBT youth, identifying safe spaces in the counselor’s office, and encouraging the development of gay-straight alliances (GSA). He also told them to educate themselves in student mental health, and how to support and identify changes in behavior. “I need you to know you are not alone. You have partners in the Obama Administration and the federal government,” he said. The highlight of the evening was Betty DeGeneres, Ellen’s mother who accepted her award for Excellence in Advocacy for Safe, Welcoming & Inclusive Schools, in part for the recent public service announcement (PSA) she filmed for PFLAG. DeGeneres has been an active member of the organization for over 15 years. “I enjoyed my career as a speech therapist but I think I would have loved being a school counselor,” DeGeneres said to rousing applause. “Although even with all the


training I would have gotten fired, because I would have wanted to call those bullies the little jackasses they are.” DeGeneres said she never saw Ellen as a bullied teen, and that it was a friend who pointed out that the advertisers and executives who temporarily shut down Ellen’s career when she came out in 1997 were, in fact, bullying. Actor George Takei, who since publicly coming out in 2005 has been an outspoken advocate for the LGBT community, was also honored. Takei took special interest in the recent “Don’t Say Gay” legislation in Tennessee that prohibits acknowledgement or discussion of homosexuality, especially in schools. He recently made a PSA called “It’s okay to be Takei.” Conference attendees saw the humorous PSA before he received his award. The speaker session ended with Adam Bouska and Jeff Parshley, co-founders of the NOH8 Campaign, addressing the crowd about their photo project that is a silent protest against hate, and encouraged attendees to become part of the campaign. They said the photos and the NOH8 stickers “send a very strong message without even saying anything” to LGBTQIA youth, and offer them a safe space. On Saturday, attendees heard from more local and national education leaders before spending the day in breakout sessions. The keynote speaker, Secretary-Treasurer of the National Education Association Becky Pringle, received a standing ovation for her remarks. Pringle also later participated on a panel with other national education leaders. “Schools should be a sanctuary for learning rather than a fortress of fear,” she said. Council President Todd Gloria and Assemblymember Toni Atkins both addressed the lunchtime assembly, prior to the start of the panel. That evening, attendees were invited to take part in a “Cultural Plunge” around Hillcrest. They were driven through the neighborhood, took a tour of The LGBT Center and walked along University Avenue, socializing and patronizing local businesses. Though many attendees and volunteer graduate students said the weekend “changed their lives,” the true beneficiaries are all the LGBTQIA students at the schools across the country that were represented at the conference, which was Hatch and Pompei’s original goal. “The biggest highlight for me was hearing so many of the educator attendees [tell me] how empowered and inspired they were and how they couldn’t wait to get back to work and create needed change,” Pompei said.t

(l to r) Fort Worth, Texas Councilmember Joel Burns, DOE Acting Assistant Secretary Michael Yudin, Assemblymember Toni Atkins, Council President Todd Gloria and CESCaL chair Vincent Pompei (Photo by Ferrer Productions)


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GAY SAN DIEGO Feb. 22–March 7, 2013


Lest we forget: The arcHIVe Project Modernizing HIV health care laws


PROFILES IN ADVOCACY The history of archiving can be traced to beyond 2,000 BCE, and is an essential practice to helping us understand a given place, time or event. The past 30 years have introduced a defining event in LGBTQ history: the advent of HIV/AIDS and its affect on our community. In 2004, The arcHIVe Project founder Rodney Rodriguez watched as a friend received a HIV-positive diagnosis. The feelings of shame, fear and guilt experienced by that friend made Rodriguez decide that he needed to do his part in creating a world where HIV could be discussed without judgment and stigma. Rodriguez said the first time HIV really made an impact on his life was the announcement of basketball player Earvin “Magic” Johnson’s status in 1991. A Lakers fan, Rodriquez watched the press conference where Johnson told the world he was HIV positive. He related the aftermath that he saw among his classmates. “I remember going to school and seeing kids crying the next day because he was going the die. They wondered what he was doing to contract this disease, if he was gay and I, at 11 years old, just could not make sense of it,” Rodriguez said.

Rodriguez defines himself in part as a writer, and understands the power of stories. He believes that the personal effect that HIV/ AIDS has had on both infected and affected individuals is crucial to creating a global environment that promotes honest and sensitive discourse on the subject. And he is set on taking this message outside of the usual haunts, such as HIV agencies, events and support groups, and into some less-obvious platforms. The stories that Rodriguez collects come in various forms, and lend themselves to the bigger picture: an archived history of the HIV/AIDS experience for a four-fold purpose. The arcHIVe Project looks to make a difference through education, community, art and fundraising. Education: The authentic personal stories the project collects from those affected by HIV form the foundation of education gleaned from experiences. This aspect of education goes beyond statistics, charts and facts to touch on the heart of the HIV experience. By utilizing this approach, a framework is set to facilitate conversations and create a tableau of humanity upon which HIV data must be viewed. This style of education negates the sense of distance from the disease, and allows the listener to bond with these personal histories. Community: The arcHIVe Project understands and looks to respond to the sense of isolation that individuals experience when they or a loved one has received a HIV-positive diagnosis. Creating an accessible community is a vital part of the project’s mission to disseminate the stories it collects. One of the ways that Rodriguez leverages resources is to create a safe space for this exchange of experiences and ideas. Art: The use and nurturing of art is a way The arcHIVe Project redefines storytelling. Humans are visual creatures, and Rodriguez recognizes that art is a way to create that emotional

bond with others. He encourages all artists, from photographers to performance artists, to bring these stories to life in a new way. And he sees this art at relevant and important beyond events such as Pride and HIV conferences, and dreams of having displays at events like Burning Man and Comic-Con. “Art has always been close to me. It is this incredible medium that has the ability to reach out, touch and inspire people in ways that few mediums can do,” he said. Fundraising: At the end of the day, Rodriguez and The arcHIVe Project volunteers take seriously their responsibility to support the underfunded HIV and AIDS organizations that serve those affected by the disease. They are willing to make their art and stories attached to the art available to agencies across the country. As The arcHIVe Project collection grows, so then grows a treasure to be shared by all. I closed my conversation with Rodriguez by discussing the moments that resonate most with him, and he unequivocally goes to that moment when someone who has been in contact with The arcHIVe Project decides that their story will be a part of the collection. “It’s such an amazing amount of trust that someone is putting in me and what we’re doing,” he said, “and we’ve never had anybody come back and say they wished they hadn’t done it. People find it very freeing and exhilarating.” The arcHIVe Project is a dream in motion for Rodriguez, fueled by a promise he made to himself in the face of a friend’s uncertainty. With the hope of receiving their tax-exempt status before too long, this dream will be poised to further develop the lens through which we view and react to HIV and AIDS in our world. For more information about The arcHIVe Project, visit —Ian Morton has worked in the HIV field since 1994 when he began volunteering with AIDS Response Knoxville. He currently serves as outreach liaison for the AIDS Research Institute at UCSD. To nominate a person or organization to be featured in Profiles in Advocacy, please submit name, affiliation and contact information to



SPECTRUM As treatment, care and the reality of HIV have changed over the years, it is striking that our laws and policies have not kept up to pace with new knowledge. This week, California lawmakers began to take steps to modernize laws affecting those living with HIV. Nationally, Senator Barbara Boxer introduced bipartisan legislation that would allow for research on organ donation between people who are HIV-positive. The HIV Organ Policy Equity (HOPE) Act recognizes that a ban established in 1988 is outdated and does not take into account our modern understanding of HIV and AIDS. With new medication that allows for those infected with HIV to live longer and healthier lives, more patients are developing kidney and liver complications. But the current ban does not allow for research into the possibility of people living with HIV donating organs to other people with HIV. This bill, if the research is found to be positive, could lead to expanded options for HIV patients in need of organs. It has the potential of alleviating the entire organ transplant system in the country with the introduction of new potential donors. The HOPE Act would direct the Department of Health and Human Services to evaluate progress in medical research into HIV organ donation and, depending on the outcomes, authorize the Organ Procurement and Transplantation Network to create a process for these HIV-organ transplants. Here in California, Senator Mark Leno has also introduced legislation dealing with HIV. Leno proposed to modernize our state laws dealing with HIV confidentiality and information sharing. Current law bans disclosure of HIV infor-

mation between caregivers, and as medication has improved and care has expanded, outdated laws have actually created hindrances for patients attempting to transition care or coordinate among multiple providers. Leno’s bill, SB 249, also recognizes that not all new types of HIV tests are included in existing privacy protection guidelines. The bill would explicitly expand privacy requirements to all types of HIV tests including blood, urine and saliva tests. I applaud our California lawmakers for taking the initiative to streamline and expand care options for HIV patients. This is an often over looked community in need of stronger advocates. I would challenge our representatives to also work on HIV education in their campaign for modern laws. The realities of HIV are still too diluted in the specter of confusion and deaths from the 1980s. Laws created in the 1980s – including the current organ donation plan – were not drafted with any vision for how HIV exists in the world today. We may not have people dying in the streets, but the struggles are no less real. HIV treatment is not just a health care issue. It is a community issue. It is something we have to address holistically, and I can only hope that as lawmakers are recognizing outdated policies and laws, we can also recognize outdated prejudice and stigma associated with HIV. Those societal issues impact care. A study published by the Journal of Acquired Immune Deficiency Syndromes showed that 80 percent of those infected with HIV do not consistently use health care options in place for them. It also showed that 22 percent of patients never established care with a doctor after diagnosis. These are striking but not surprising figures. With the stigma and outmoded ideas of HIV, it makes sense that some people would prefer to ignore the problem rather than seek and adhere to care plans. This is especially true for people who can’t afford care or do not have their own health care insurance. There are onerous processes that one must go through to get care established, with paperwork that expires and must be renewed regularly. As someone who relies on these programs for my care, I have had difficulty getting appointments when I need them – knowing when paperwork expires and requires renewal – to the point where I could not get medication when I needed it. There are many barriers to establishing and maintaining care, but as we move forward in this new era of HIV, we must recognize the needs of HIV patients and create policies and procedures that promote adherence to care, not demoralize those seeking to take care of themselves. A more in-depth review of HIV treatment in the United States is needed, not just a piecemeal approach to fixing individual and specific problems. In order to make this review a reality, though, those of us who need it must be public advocates for ourselves. The reforms Boxer and Leno are introducing are needed, but there is much more work to be done. —Allan Acevedo is co-founder and president emeritus of Stonewall Young Democrats of San Diego. He has worked on multiple political campaigns and served on numerous boards including the San Diego Democratic Club, California Young Democrats, Gay-Straight Alliant Network and Equality California PAC. Follow @allanacevedo on Twitter.t


GAY SAN DIEGO Feb. 22–March 7, 2013



Never trust a deep-dish pizza unless somebody from the Windy City has their fingerprints on it. The same rule applies to Italian beef sandwiches garnished with giardiniera, and of course, those classic Chicago dogs bursting with sliced tomatoes and electric-green relish. At Lefty’s, owners Brendan and Lauren Hodson are native Chi-towners who have been slinging the abovementioned “big three” dishes with expected accuracy for the past eight years. Given their sustained success in North Park, they’ve since opened a second, roomier location in Mission Hills, due to expand in the coming months with a rear outdoor patio. Prior to Lefty’s arrival, my benchmark for these culinary mainstays didn’t extend far beyond the hot dog carts in Millennium Park or the eateries at O’Hare International Airport. And it wasn’t until recently that I even heard about Chicago’s deep-dish pizza tour. So I’ve instead relied on the testimonials about Lefty’s from various Chicago visitors and transplants, starting with a judicious bunch I encountered at the North Park location during their stay in San Diego. “We’re hoping the pizza is going to taste as good as Gino’s,” said a guy in the group, referring to the legendary Original Gino’s East on Chicago’s Superior Street. Sticking around for the 35-minute span it takes for classic deep-dish pizza to cook, I witnessed the party give it unanimous endorsement once they began feverishly cutting through the golden high-sided crust.




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Various transplants I’ve known over the years have made Lefty’s their second home, citing the cheerful but non-Pollyanna nature of the staff and other caloric foods that comprise the menu. Some of San Diego’s best homemade Italian sausage is found here, along with charry burgers and a few pasta pleasers like the creamy “Al Capone” with bacon and artichokes. If you’ve never had Kaukauna cheese, then order it on the Italian beef sandwich. The curds hail from the namesake town

The famous Chicago dog

(Photo by Frank Sabatini Jr.)

in Wisconsin, offering a strong cheddar-y tang similar to those holiday cheese balls we all secretly love. Though when spread onto an authentic Turano roll packed with thinly sliced top round, it softens lusciously to the warmth of the meat and its jus. The sandwich becomes stupendous when opting for giardiniera, a semi-spicy relish of brined carrots, onions, cauliflower and peppers. Lefty’s deep-dish pizzas recently grew heavier with the addition of more cheese, which now totals a whopping pound and a half per pie. “It makes a huge difference,” said Dave Eskra, general manager of the Mission Hills location. “The cheese now rolls over the edges and you get more pull.” We found the change pleasant and manageable, thanks to the fact that deep dish is pizza in reverse, with the cheese layer contained tidily beneath the toppings, and bright-tasting tomato sauce covering the top. But even before the extra gooiness was added, I loved Lefty’s deep-dish pizzas for the crust, which somewhat mimics the flavor of beer due to the generous measures of yeast and cornmeal in the recipe. Slices are available, although there’s something exceedingly magical about deepdish pizza when it’s pulled steaming from the oven in whole form rather than when it’s reheated in portions. The kitchen also bakes thin-crust pies, which don’t disappoint. As for the beastly stuffed pizzas possessing a

Italian beef sandwich

(Photo by Frank Sabatini Jr.)

A classic, hefty deep-dish

pizza (Photo by Frank Sabatini Jr.) double crust and more than two pounds of cheese, it’s unlikely I’ll ever order one unless I can someday fit back into my college jeans. The kitchen had temporarily run out of Vienna Beef hot dogs in my last visit to Mission Hills, so we chose a Chicago-style Polish sausage instead. As with the dogs, the juicy link came on a poppy seed roll (also from the Vienna company), and with the obligatory blanket of mustard, onions, tomatoes, green relish, celery salt and sport peppers. As they say in Chicago, “It’s a sausage that’s been dragged through the garden.” I can’t think of a dessert that Chicago is specifically famous for, and apparently nor can the folks at Lefty’s. Under the dessert category, the menu reads, “inquire within,” as we did during our meal. But an employee told us that none exist, adding that the teaser was put onto the menu as an inside joke, with the punch line never explained to us. Just as well, for we couldn’t have allowed another morsel to enter our sated stomachs.t

10 GAY SAN DIEGO Feb. 22–March 7, 2013

Friday, Feb. 22

PAJAMA PAR TY 2: If you missed the first Lambda Archives Pajama Party, here’s your second chance to get in on the fun. Food, drink, contest and prizes are yours (don’t forget to wear your favorite PJs) for this Archives fundraiser. Members and guests are welcome, and the party is at Snooze, An A.M. Eater y from 6 – 9 p.m. Tickets are $35, which includes two drink tickets. Snooze is located at 3940 Fifth Ave. For more information and tickets visit lambdaarchives. com or call 619-260-1522.

Saturday, Feb. 23

HRC BOWING FOR EQUALITY: The San Diego chapter for the Human Rights Campaign, along with Chris Shaw Enterprises, is hosting today’s fifth annual Bowling for Equality fundraiser. The event runs from 1:30 – 4:30 p.m. at the Kearny Mesa Bowl, 7585 Clairemont Mesa Blvd. Individual bowlers are $35, with lane sponsors star ting at $125. For more information visit MEET JOHNNY HAZZARD: Bear night at Bourbon Street tonight brings you special guest Johnny Hazzard, the porn-star turned designer, in town promoting his new T-shir t line. The meetn-greet night also includes DJ Ryno and bears, bears and more bears. Don’t miss. Star ting at 10 p.m., Bourbon Street is located at 4612 Park Blvd. For more information visit or call 619-291-0173.

Monday, Feb. 25

LILY POND REOPENING: Oh the lovely Lily Pond. Come celebrate the new opening with a Friends of Balboa Park event at 9:30 a.m. The celebration includes the completion of repairs and renovation, recognizing the donors and volunteers who have helped and showcasing the pond’s enhancements. The Lily Pond is located in Balboa Park. For more information or to RSVP send a note to or call 619-232-2282.

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Sunday, Feb. 24

Shara Strand

(Courtesy Project Publicity)

SHARA STRAND: Don’t forget tonight’s chance to see club artist Shara Strand perform at Rich’s, including her hit “Jekyll or Hyde.” We’re especially excited about this one because Strand is with D1 Music, a indie, gay-owned dance label that has survived after all others struggle. The album is “Born Tonight,” and Strand said she wanted vocals to take center stage on the album. “I wanted people to hear a real human voice, telling a real human story,” she said. Rich’s is located at 1051 University Ave. For more information visit or

NEDA WALK: Feb. 24 – March 2 is National Eating Disorders Awareness Week, and the National Eating Disorders Association is launching the 26th annual event with an inaugural San Diego NEDA Walk today at 8 a.m. Called NEDA Walk, Save A Life organizers are asking participants to come to De Anza Cove at 3000 N. Mission Bay Drive for a fundraising walk and educational event. Performances by The FALK Sisters and special guests Jennifer Beasley and Kym Rains will be there, too. Pre-registration is $25 per adult and $10 per child under 12. For more information visit sandiego2013 or call 212-575-6200. RED CARPET PAR TY: It’s Oscar night, and the San Diego Gay Men’s Chorus is hosting an official Academy Awards viewing party at Flicks Bar, with food, drink, fun and cash prizes. Ser ving as a benefit for the choral group and their upcoming Elton Johnthemed concert in April, those in the know can win with their predictions of the night’s award winners. Think you know who will win Best Picture? Bring it. The fun starts at 4 p.m. and lasts until that last speech (or 9 p.m., whichever comes first). Flick’s is located at 1017 University Ave. For more information visit

(Courtesy Knuckle Rumbler)

Coheed and Cambria (Photo by Lindsey Byrnes)

COHEED AND CAMBRIA, LIVE: Ever yone in the office is excited for this one, so you know we’ll be there. Don’t miss tonight’s live set from Coheed and Cambria at the House of Blues. The band’s latest “The Afterman: Descension” is the second in a double-album release, and this “multidimensional rock band” is excited to play for an enthusiastic crowd. Opening sets are by Russian Circles and Between the Buried and Me. The House of Blues is located at 1055 Fifth Ave. Tickets start at $29.50. For more information visit coheedandcambria. com or call 619-299-2583.

Tuesday, Feb. 26

IAN MOR TON AT MAR TINIS: Naturally our good friend Ian Morton is also an amazing singer, and we’re ver y excited for his performance tonight with Aaron Turner on piano at Martinis Above Fourth. Morton said he would bring jazz, blues and soul for a night of music and fun. It’s four hours of music – from 6 – 10 p.m. – and well worth stopping by. Martinis is located at 3940 Fourth Avenue. For more information visit or call 619-400-4500.

GOD DES AND SHE: Openly gay, Texas-based hip hop and soul artists God Des and She come to the Ruby Room tonight, for a high-energy show that helps launch their fourth album, “United States of God Des and She.” Doors open at 8 p.m., with Tori Roze and The Hot Mess, The L yrical Groove, and Miki Vale opening. It’s a night to remember. General admission tickets are $8 in advance and $10 at the door. The Ruby Room is located at 1271 University Ave. For more information and tickets visit

Wednesday, Feb. 27

PICTIONARY NIGHT: I admit I haven’t been in awhile myself, so it’s time to get back to #1 Fifth Ave. for their regular Wednesday night Pictionar y Night. Held on the back patio (they have heaters!) the casual night is perfect for grabbing a drink and meeting some amazing people. You don’t even have to draw if you don’t want to, swear. #1 Fifth Ave. is located at 3845 Fifth Ave. For more information call 619-299-1911.

Thursday, Feb. 28

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CALENDAR cash and of course those bragging rights we all want from a good game of trivia. They welcome teams of “any IQ level or bra size” and will have drink specials, too, all starting at 7 p.m. Gossip Grill is located at 1440 University Ave. For more information visit or call 619-260-8023.

J*COMPANY’S ‘GYPSY’: We profiled them once before, but it’s worth noting that J*Company Youth Theatre’s 20th anniversar y Streisand season continues with tonight’s opening of “Gypsy – A Musical Fable.” Running through March 17, the youth group – a program of the San Diego Center for Jewish Culture at the Lawrence Family Jewish Community Center’s Jacobs Family Campus – has been taking on the films and musicals of our Babs. “Gypsy – A Musical Fable” is loosely based on the 1957 memoirs of Gypsy Rose Lee and is sure to be fun in the hands of this talented company. All performances are at the David and Dorothea Garfield Theatre, 4126 Executive Dr., in La Jolla. For more information visit sdcjc. org/jcompany or call 858-362-1348. MOJO MADNESS: It’s a new late night happy hour at the Range Kitchen & Cocktails, and we’re totally stoked for them. Called Mojo Madness, they’ve been getting the word out here and there leading up to today’s big launch, with the night happening ever y Friday from now on. Flak Productions is organizing the night, bringing in Dj Marcel Hetu and $3 happy hour starting at 7 p.m. The Range is located at 1220 University Ave. For more information visit their Facebook page Mojo Madness or call 619-607-2787.

Saturday, March 2

Jason Stuart

(Courtesy Modern Artists)

JASON STUAR T RETURNS: Funny man Jason Stuart is on a road trip that comes directly to Martinis Above Fourth. His show, “I’m the Daddy, and I have Candy” is in town for one night only, starting at 8 p.m. Stuart is well known for his comedy that transcends the boundaries of race, gender and sexual orientation. Organizers say his experiences as a single, Jewish gay man living in Hollywood is original and cutting edge. Tickets are $15. Martinis Above Fourth is located at 3940 Fourth Ave. For more information visit martinisabovefourth. com or call 619-400-4500.

NEO-BURLESQUE THEATER: Back by popular demand, The Range and 1202 present tonight’s neo-burlesque dinner theater production “After Dark.” Guest appearances by Jezabella D’Lish, Skky Masters, Misse Devore, Baby Nove and, of course, the return of the Pixie Stixx alumn, Peaches D’Light. The Range is offering a dinner option, and the party continues at 1202 after the show. Doors are at 6:30 p.m. with the show starting at 7 p.m. Tickets start at $15, with front-row seating $20 and the big event happens at 1202 University Ave. For more information and to purchase tickets visit

Sunday, March 3

AUTHENTIC MALBEC: South Park resident and wine connoisseur Courtney Quinn has been partnering with local restaurants to produce high-quality


tasting events. Her company Our World, Our Community’s last event at The Rose sold out quickly, and organizers hope for the same at tonight’s pairing, held at Cueva Bar in University Heights. It’s a celebration of Argentina’s har vest, and will pair traditional Argentinean food with torrontes, malbec and a malbec-cabernet sauvignon blend. Don’t know what that means? You should go. The event is from 5 – 8 p.m. and Cueva Bar is located at 2123 Adams Ave. Tickets are $50. For more information and reser vations contact or call 619-269-6612.

Wednesday, March 6

GSDBA 101: The Greater San Diego Business Association is hosting a new member orientation this morning, detailing how members can get the most from the LGBT organization. Check in is at 7:30 a.m., with scheduled topics such as maximizing benefits, advertising opportunities, volunteer opportunities and staff support. Please RSVP by March 1. The workshop lasts until 10 a.m. at the Handlery Hotel & Resort, 950 Hotel Circle North. For more information visit or call 619-296-4543. LGBT IMMIGRATION POLICY: The San Diego Public Librar y joins with Alliance San Diego to host tonight’s forum LGBT Asylum and Immigration in the U.S. Speakers will address the histor y of anti-gay and lesbian bias in our immigration policy, including a guest speaker from Uganda. The discussion starts at 6:30 p.m. at the Downtown branch, located at 820 E St. The group will meet on the third-floor auditorium. For more information visit or

Thursday, March 7

‘THIS IS MY LIFE’: Rebecca Clark returns to the MA4 Cabaret Supperclub with her show “This is My Life,” telling her story of overcoming adversity through song. From growing up in an orphanage in Brooklyn and her beauty queen years to a gig in Vegas as a Barbra Streisand impersonator, Clark will show how her relationship to music helped her “be everybody else.” The show starts at 8 p.m. and tickets are $10. Martinis Above Fourth is located at 3940 Fourth Ave. For more information and tickets visit or call 619-400-4500.

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LATINO FILM FEST: This one’s big. It’s opening night of the 20th anniversar y of the San Diego Latino Film Festival, and the sixth year organizers have included an entire program featuring films from and about the LGBT community. Called Cine Gay, films in the series range from dramas to documentaries, and screen throughout the entire festival. But you don’t have to wait to see them, because helping to open the festival is “Sleepless Knights” from Spain. The film tells the stor y of Carlos and Juan, and the small town they meet in that’s far enough from Madrid’s gay scene to be considered the Middle Ages. Literally. It screens tonight at 10:30 p.m., and again later in the festival, which runs through March 17. Check out the next issue of Gay San Diego for a full feature on the festival and the Cine Gay Showcase. All films screen at the Digipex Mission Valley Cinemas, 7510 Hazard Center Dr. For more information and tickets visit

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ion, the bold and uncompromising theater at the corner of Sixth and Pennsylvania avenues in the heart of Hillcrest, is preparing to open the fourth play of its seventh (2012-2013) season of new plays and musicals. Previews began Feb. 9, 2013 for PUNK ROCK by British playwright, Simon Stephens. Featured are several local teenage and young adult actors directed by producing artistic director, Glenn Paris. The show runs through March 9, 2013. The San Diego UT has called ion theatre “the take-no-prisoners Hillcrest company with a well-earned rep for staging some of the most adventurous theater in town ...” and has ion has earned multiple awards and recognition for its excellent, electrically-staged, risk-taking work. About PUNK ROCK: Bullying. Underage sex. Drugs. School violence. The kids are not all right, as ion’s season bristles into the New Year with this startling play. Based on the author’s experience as a teacher in Northern England, the play explores the underlying tensions and potential violence in a group of affluent, articulate 17-year-old students as they prep for the next chapter in their adult academic lives. When a new classmate

arrives suddenly, friendships are tested and allegiances shift amidst the pressures of everyday adolescence – with tragic results. “Edgy and jangled,” “crackling and superb,” and “a remarkable new play” all described this astonishing new work when it premiered at London’s Lyric Hammersmith in 2009. Only the second production staged in the U.S., ion is thrilled to bring this play and playwright to San Diego audiences for the first time. The play features returning artists David Ahmadian and Benjamin Cole with the debuts of Ryan Casselman, Tyler Jones, Samantha Littleford, Charles Maze, Lizzie Morse, Emma Rasse and Samantha Vesco. The design team includes company members Karin Filijan (light-

ing), Melanie Chen (sound), Claudio Raygoza (producer/scenic), Courtney Fox Smith (costumes). The stage manager is Shawn Faber, and the assistant director is Gemma Grey. “Talkbacks” between the production team and audience members are scheduled after all performances (excepting matinees) in ion’s adjacent space, URBN CNTR 4THE ARTS at 3708 Sixth Avenue. The objective of the talkbacks is to discuss issues and themes explored in the play. PUNK ROCK inspired the formation of Identity Crisis, a program involving students, parents and teachers used in Manchester and London to address issues of bullying and violence in schools. Showtimes are Thursdays through Saturdays at 8 p.m., with matinees on Saturdays at 4 p.m., Feb. 9 - March 9. Tickets may be purchased on-line at or by calling 619-600-5020. Prices are $33 regular, $27 for students, seniors, and military, and $20 for members of AEA and AASD. All previews are $15. Groups receive $6 off regular ticket prices. ion’s BLKBOX theatre is located at 3704 Sixth Ave., San Diego, CA 92103. Please look for street parking or one of the many nearby parking lots.

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“Birds of a Feather”

(l to r) Mike Sears and Steve Gunderson in “Birds of a Feather” (Photo by Ken Jacques)

Light-hearted ‘Birds’ entertains Simple, uncomplicated relationships underscored in West Coast premiere Playwright Marc Acito tells the tale of two bird families in this quite human West Coast premiere of “Birds of a Feather,” playing at Diversionary Theatre through March 3. This light-hearted play juxtaposes the story of a pair of male penguins at the Central Park Zoo who hatch an egg together, with a family of red-tailed hawks who choose to mate atop a Central Park luxury apartment. Both feathered families attract lots of attention from the featherless forms, aka the humans. A splendid cast directed by James Vásquez will entertain you for 90-minutes of storytelling. Actors morph into various characters with literally the ease of a coat tail, thanks to Jeannie Galioto’s cleverly designed costumes that

suggest the species. “Birds of a Feather” is based on true New York events and inspired by a children’s book called “And Tango Makes Three,” which was banned in many libraries across the nation. Acito, who entertains us with expected, hilarious, one-liners throughout, pulls at our heartstrings as well. Along with the intertwined bird stories, he manages to interject some human tabloid about Paula Zahn and her super rich husband, Richard Cohen. Steve Gunderson and Mike Sears play both pairs of birds, making them as human as possible. Gunderson handles the roles of Roy and Pale Male, while Sears takes on Silo and Lola. Kevin Koppman-Gue and Rachael Van-

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Through March 3 Diversionary Theatre Thurs. – Sat. 8 p.m. Sun. 2 p.m. 619-220-0097 Wormer fill in the gaps by playing the other human forms, including the Birdwatcher and a Zookeeper. Gunderson plays the part of Roy with plenty of gay attributes, including a love of Broadway show tunes, while he plays Pale Male with an inquisitive, hawkish machismo. Sears’ bisexual Silo is always guarded and conflicted, while Lola is all loveydovey, Southern belle. Vásquez instructs his actors to keep the human form as birds, although he assigns a few mannerisms to the characters. In this way, Vásquez underscores the relationship with the featherless creatures who seem to have even less of a purpose in life than the birds themselves. In the end, whether in captivity or in a natural habitat, we are all “birds of a feather,” wanting simple, uncomplicated companionship, no matter the definition of the coupling.t

(l to r) Phil Johnson and Eileen Bowman in “Pete ‘n Keely” (Photo by Ken Jacques)

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Phil Johnson and Eileen Bowman play a musical couple reuniting for a TV special in the current Lamb’s Players Theatre production of “Pete ‘n Keely.” While these entertaining exspouses are clearly on the showbiz skids, Pete and Keely – formerly a happily married singing duo – have agreed to a reunion special for NBC to strut their stuff and feel the charge of yesterday’s success. Both broadly grin and bear it for the ratings and the much needed pocket change. This fictitious 1968 television special is fraught with one-liners that are a hoot and used sparingly enough that they remain funny throughout the production. Johnson and Bowman work well together and share the stage as if it were a positive addendum to their divorce settlement. Both headliners hold their own on songs as divergent as “This Could Be the Start of Something New,” “Fever” and “Besame Mucho.” For all their acrimony and airing of dirty laundry, these former sweethearts harmonize quite well together. It’s especially good to hear Johnson display his vocal range beyond a few brief wry, comedic notes. Playwright James Hindman appears to have pulled his material from vintage-musical couplings of the ‘50s and ‘60s, such as Sonny and Cher and Steve Lawrence and Eydie Gormé. And like many of these couples, after years of exercising histrionics they are finally able to display restrained tolerance in their advanced years. “Pete ‘n Keely” is a show where all of the players, including Brent Schindele, playing the emcee and jazz bandleader to a four-piece band, can push the envelope and get away with it. It’s evident in this show that the players are having just as much fun as the audience. When all is sung and danced, “Pete ‘n Keely” is a cute TV musical special with adlib sound bites, two back-up models who can carry a tune (Courtney Fero and Kyrsten Hafso), and blinking applause signs. Colleen Kollar Smith’s efficient choreography and Jon Lorenz’s capable musical direction assist the actors and the production well. Jeanne Barnes Reith dresses up both her principal actors in brightcolored, glittery costumes; Bowman is especially challenged with multiple dress changes. This show is a friendly, exaggerated, musical coupling where the audience can easily laugh, enjoy the music and even pick up some good one-liners to be used later, if the need arises.t


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Musician talks being an outsider, her San Diego lesbians and queer cowboys By Chris Azzopardi | Q Syndicate

Jewel’s life is the best kind of It Gets Better story. Even though the famed music-maker recorded a video to offer hope to struggling teens, she didn’t need to; to be inspired, one only has to look at how she went from living out of her car and her first gigs in San Diego, to being a Grammy-nominated, charttopping singer-songwriter. Jewel became so unbelievably successful, in fact, that she recently released a “Greatest Hits,” a collection of songs going back to her first mega 1996 single “Who Will Save Your Soul” and spanning her entire multigenre career. Jewel chatted about the queercowboy reality show she wants to make, how she threatened to kill the man who became her gay “manny” and the time she performed a notso-conservative song for a group of Republicans. Chris Azzopardi: “Pieces of You” was released 18 years ago. Do you relate to that album anymore, or does it feel like a stranger to you? Jewel: I never go back and listen to any of my albums ever. Once they were mixed and mastered, I’ve never gone back. But it feels like yesterday. I remember it so vividly. It’s such a big part of my heart. CA: And a big part of your career. J: A huge part of my career. Having moved out at 15, and being homeless at 18, I should’ve been a statistic. The fame should’ve just fueled every insecurity I had. Thankfully I was aware of that, and I worked really hard at trying to manage my neuroses and my insecurities so that fame didn’t completely act like fuel to the flame. That [album] really is just an honest portrayal of who I am and was at that time. I was accepted for who I was for the first time, and it was on a mass level. What a strange thing to go from being an outsider your whole life to suddenly having the whole world say, ‘We value your thoughts.’ It wasn’t that people thought I was pretty, it wasn’t that people thought I was clever or cool; people actually valued what I was thinking and they valued my emotions and they valued my earnestness, and that was pretty remarkable. It was actually very healing and it changed my life. I can’t even tell you in how many ways: not just psychologically and emotionally, but financially. It changed everything for me. CA: Your entire life really is an It Gets Better story. J: Aww. Yeah, it’s really true. You can’t live without hope. You can live without money, you can live without so many things, but you really can’t live without hope. It’s so hard to be able to look down the road and see that there are possibilities. As long as you feel like there’s a possibility, there is hope.

It’s important for people to feel that. I know what it’s like to get stuck in those moments, but sometimes it’s the littlest things. For me, sometimes it was somebody smiling at me kindly for no reason when people usually just looked at me like I was a leper because I was homeless. You never know what will touch somebody and give them that little something to keep going and keep fighting for what’s unique about them. CA: What in your life made you feel less like an outsider? Was it music? J: It was writing. Reading authors that were really honest and didn’t use art as propaganda to make themselves seem more perfect; they showed their flaws. At age 14, to hear somebody talk about being less than perfect made me feel a lot less alone. You do find people you feel accepted around, and then you get out of high school and life goes on and the weirdos are always the ones who end up influencing pop culture – so god bless us [laughs]. CA: Who was your first gay friend? J: Doug. I think we were in eighth grade. I was so terribly in love with him. He was the only guy who smelled nice and dressed good and was actually kind. I kept trying to turn him straight but it never worked [laughs]. Doug’s parents kicked him out when he came out and I had one friend – this black guy – and he hated gays. He said, ‘I’m not gonna let you be friends with Doug.’ I saw Arthur, the black kid, years later walking on the beach holding hands with a guy! Isn’t that typical? CA: “Pieces of You” really resonated with the gay community – especially the line, ‘You say he’s a faggot, are you afraid you’re just the same?’ – but some people missed the point of that song. J: I can’t tell you how many people walked out of a room for, like,

a political abstaining without getting the freaking lyrics [laughs]. CA: Well, the word ‘faggot’ carries a lot of weight. People really thought you were homophobic then, didn’t they? J: It’s hard to think that anybody earnestly thought it, but I was written up during New York Fashion Week. When I sang “Pieces of You,” you could hear forks dropping. Half the audience was gay and the other half was Jewish – and then there were pretty girls there. Nobody actually listened to the lyrics, and I was written about the next day as homophobic. It’s just so funny to me. But for the most part, I think people really got it. I wrote it from a very personal standpoint. CA: What inspired the ‘faggot’ line? J: All of my gay friends. Not anyone in particular. It just made me look at the nature of hate. It was a personal exploration of trying to figure out the root of my own insecurities – and, actually, that was right around the time my friend Arthur walked down the beach. CA: Would you ever write a song as socially charged? J: I had a song called “Jesus Loves You” that was kind of like that. I had just written it and I had a private gig where I was hired, but I forgot it was a very Republican room that I was in. I was in Austin and I sang that song not thinking it was that political and then I realized it was a Jesus song that’s completely offending everybody there and I was never asked back again [laughs]. And so there was that!

I don’t know. I’ll just have to see. But that song is definitely probably the most shocking of mine, and it’s probably harder to get away with that nowadays. CA: It was hard then, though, right? J: Yeah. I was just fascinatingly too ignorant to know better [laughs]. CA: When you look back on your hits, some of these probably feel like old friends. Any particular memories that returned to you while putting together this “Greatest Hits” collection? J: All of them have such a story. I was hitchhiking to Mexico when I was 16, when I wrote “Who Will Save Your Soul,” and I ended up on a Mexican drug bust by accident

when I was 18 and wrote “You Were Meant For Me.” All of them are really like having a yearbook. CA: Did you always have Kelly Clarkson in mind for “Foolish Games”? How did that come to be? J: Yeah, I really wanted to recut some of these songs, and some artists have been so sweet about saying that my music’s influenced them – something you don’t think about when you’re making music. It was sweet to hear stories of Kelly saying she sang “Foolish Games” at talent shows when she was a kid. She’s a really cool chick with a killer voice. CA: You started out at biker bars, where you performed for

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DEEP INSIDE HOLLYWOOD of historically important stor y that’s all too often been hidden from histor y. And you can bet it’ll be the kind of prestige project that gets the heavy Oscar push when it all finally comes to pass.

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Benedict Cumberbatch steps into DiCaprio’s shoes as Alan Turing It’s turning into Benedict Cumberbatch’s year at the movies. Co-starring in “The Hobbit” trilogy, “Star Trek Into Darkness” and the film adaptation of “August: Osage County” will put the acclaimed, chameleonic British actor on multiplex screens stateside for the foreseeable future. And now he’s in talks to star in “The Imitation Game” as famed British World War II hero Alan Turing (quick histor y lesson: Turing cracked the German “Enigma” code during the war, helping Allied forces win; he was prosecuted in the 1950s for homosexuality and chose chemical castration over imprisonment, later committing suicide). Originally planned as a vehicle for Leonardo DiCaprio, Cumberbatch is the likely successor to play the man widely considered to be the father of the computer. Morten Tyldum will direct Graham Moore’s screenplay and, OK, yes, it’s another gay tragedy in the “Brokeback Mountain” and “Milk” vein, that’s true, but it’s also the kind

Sean Bean and Channing Tatum are ‘Jupiter Ascending’ with the Wachowskis The crazy, heart-on-itssleeve sci-fi epic “Cloud Atlas” didn’t get the kind of love Andy and Lana Wachowski were looking for, but their latest project, “Jupiter Ascending,” is reported to be much more like their mega-successful “Matrix” trilogy (and that’s good for ever yone’s bottom line in the long run, since “Atlas” made about 35 cents at the box office). Of course, that doesn’t mean anybody can adequately explain the new film’s plot, which involves genetic superbeings who’ve been bred with animal DNA and the bounty hunters whose job it is to track them. But no matter, the Wachowskis are never boring, as though their own genetics were incapable of something so routine. It can be about anything, really, and nobody will accuse them of slacking. The movie stars Channing Tatum, Sean Bean (as a Han Solo-esque rogue), Mila Kunis and “Les Miserables”’s Eddie Redmayne in what is sure to be a headtrip to Jupiter and back. That is, unless the characters never actually ascend to Jupiter. We’ll all just have to wait and see. Adding on to Gregg Araki’s ‘White Bird’ Unlike filmmaker Gregg Araki’s most acclaimed film about troubled youth, the novel-based “Mysterious Skin,” his latest project feels a little more like a delicate secret being kept from advance spoilers, almost a protest to internet movie information glut. What we’ve known up to this point is that its title was “White Bird”

and it starred “The Descendents” star Shailene Woodley as a teenage girl whose life is thrown out of control when her mother (Eva Green) disappears. Well, we’re still fresh out of details regarding the plot, but there are other developments. Its title has grown and is now called, evocatively enough, “White Bird In A Blizzard.” The cast has expanded, too, rounded out with Chris Meloni, Angela Bassett, “Precious” star Gabourey Sidibe, “Glee” actor Jacob Artist and Mark Indelicato of “Ugly Betty.” And now for a reader’s poll: who among you quit reading after seeing Meloni’s name and went off to obey a Pavlovian response involving old “Oz” DVDs? No judgments. ‘Lust For Life’ digs deeper into the ‘Velvet Goldmine’ Director Todd Haynes’ trippy art-fantasia about an imaginar y glam-rock past, “Velvet Goldmine,” was never meant to be a faithful portrayal of the glitter-bombed 1970s: his David Bowie wasn’t really Bowie and his Iggy Pop wasn’t really Iggy. A more historically accurate representation now falls to “Lust For Life,” the stor y of the friendship between the musicians, their collaboration on both Bowie’s “Low” album and Pop’s first two solo records and their years spent being cooler than ever yone else in West Berlin. A script is ready from Robin French based on Paul Tr ynka’s Bowie book “Starman” and his Pop biography “Open Up And Bleed,” and Gabriel Range (“Death of A President”) is attached to direct. Now for the fun part: who gets to play two iconic musicians? Casting news coming soon. —Romeo San Vicente is still absolutely fabulous himself. He can be reached care of Gay San Diego or at



lots of lesbians. Are there a lot of lesbians in your life now? J: You know, I don’t have any lesbians right now. I used to when I lived in San Diego, but in Texas, it’s been a little bit slim on the lesbian front [laughs]. But what’s really cool is, I have to do a reality show about the gays in Texas, because there’s this whole gay culture in this really cowboy town that I live in that when guys break up, it’s like, ‘I’m gonna come get my cows off your place!’ ‘Well, I’m gonna take down the fence I built!’ ‘You better come get your mineral feeders!’ CA: You’re living “Brokeback Mountain” down there. J: It really is like that. And thank god for Grindr, otherwise they could never find each other. When I was 14 and hitchhiking in Alaska, this guy picked me up and he said, ‘You’re really pretty; you shouldn’t be hitchhiking.’ And I was like, ‘Thanks; I hear that a lot.’ And he said, ‘No, you’re really beautiful.’ He kept saying I was beautiful over and over, and I was getting really freaked out. I had a knife in my boot and I pulled it out and I stuck it under his chin and said, ‘Are you gonna fuck with me?’ And he laughed! And I realized the second he laughed that he was just the nicest gay guy on the planet earth, and we’ve been friends ever since. He lives with me in Texas now and he helps me take care of my baby. We call him the “manny.” He’s amazing. He’s just a treasure in my life and I don’t know what I’d do without him. CA: Do you always carry a knife in your boot? J: Not anymore [laughs]. CA: When you made the shift to country music, did you feel like the odd one out because your politics on gay issues don’t generally align with what is thought of as “conservative values”? J: No. I have one friend who definitely had a problem with gays, but I like to say that I’m so open-minded that I’m open-minded enough to have friends like that. You can’t control what other people think. All you can do is live your own life and see what makes life worth living. See what you believe in and what you think is right. I try to live my life according to that. CA: You were part of a wave of female singer-songwriters – Sarah McLachlan, Tori Amos, Ani DiFranco – who really owned the mid-’90s, from record sales to tours like Lilith Fair. Do you miss that time in music when you could sell millions of records and just write really good songs? J: Yeah, everything has changed. Music is like that. Everything is cyclical. I was almost embarrassed when they were making such a big deal out of us because of Carly Simon and Joni Mitchell – and even before them, there were these amazing artists. It’s always cyclical and I feel so fortunate that I was able to sell the records in the time that I did, because those days are gone. We’ll never sell records like that again. My whole goal is to have a long career. I never thought I’d get as popular as I did; I hoped to have a career like John Prine or something like that. I knew when I got as big as I did that it wouldn’t last forever. I grew up in nature; there’s nothing that’s immortal. CA: Would you ever return to the dance genre you explored on 2003’s “0304”? The gays gotta know. J: Yes, I want to service my gays [laughs]. I’m doing a bunch of remixes for this “Greatest Hits.” A lot of them are club remixes. “Standing Still,” “Two Hearts Breaking” and one of “Foolish Games.” But it’s been so hard to get the label to value my remixes. I think they don’t really look at it as sales, but to me, it’s so important. I love reinventing the songs; it’s such a creative outlet. —Chris Azzopardi is the editor of Q Syndicate, the international LGBT wire service. Reach him via his website at


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Local athletes find love on the diamond Meeting people in the LGBT community can be a challenge when putting one’s self out there in the dating world. I often recommend to my friends that they join one of the local sports leagues, regardless of their athletic abilities. Whether for friendships, relationships or trysts, participating in these leagues is a great way to meet people who are not inebriated at a bar or suffering from Grindr ADHD. Grady Mitchell and James Tuck can attest to this. After all, the gay softball league is how they first met, under the most unlikely of circumstances. Over a dozen years later, the happy couple is still going strong. Before the day in 1999 when he met what would be his future husband, Grady was living in Florida where he was raised. He and his twin brother were the youngest of eight, six of whom were boys. The Mitchell family placed an emphasis on athletics from the outset, and all the kids were avid swimmers at a young age. Despite the softball connection that would later transpire when Grady set foot on a diamond for the very first time at the age of 6, it was actually bowling that became his favorite sport, and for a variety of reasons. First, bowling is more of an individual sport and Grady seemed to thrive in situations where he could control his own destiny, as opposed to the nature of team sports where you are just one cog in a wheel. And then there was the matter of Grady’s frame. “I was just too tiny to play or be successful at any organized sport, even up into high school,” he said. “I could tell the other players were better than me. I was the only one in my family that didn’t get picked for All-Stars because they didn’t think I was giving it my all. But that challenge gave me something to play for.” While he continued to play the game up until age 17 – “Baseball is what I know. It would have been hard to give up those friends,” he said – Grady picked up the sport of bowling by learning from his brothers when he was 13 years old. Grady’s interest in bowling also came as a direct result of playing baseball. His friends from little league were bowlers and encouraged him to get involved. When his high school dropped bowling as a club, Grady made the drive to a neighboring school to participate in their club. There, he was competing against kids who had picked up the sport as early as age 6, but Grady quickly caught on. Remarkably, his average jumped from 107 in his first year to nearly 200 within just five years. After graduating from high school, Grady briefly took a job at a bowling center in Tampa, Fla. before getting a job as a teller at age 19. He has been in the banking business ever since, now working as a senior membership services representative here in San Diego. In 1994, Tampa’s gay softball league was formed, and Grady was among the founding members of what would become the Sun Coast Softball League. At one point, a gay bar called Baxters began helping a team travel to tournaments across the country, and Grady’s interest in softball was piqued again. James Tuck never spent much time in the same place. Military kids never do, as their parents are constantly being transferred. Every three years, the Tuck family packed up and moved to a new location. Participating in sports was the fast track to making friends and staying busy during James’ childhood, and he excelled at just about every sport he tried. Some of those sports were more like inventions. “We were all usually bored and the only way to entertain ourselves was with a bicycle, a skateboard, or to make games up. We used to take coat hangers and some duct tape and make planes to just spin around. If someone got new tennis shoes, that was a big deal,” he said. During his junior year in high school, James’ father transferred to Miramar and brought the family to San Diego. Tennis was the only team sport that James played, an impressive feat because he was self-taught and played varsity for three of his four seasons in high school. Still, team sports were not in James’ comfort zone. “I was deathly afraid of team sports. It was like being your own pilot. You were always afraid you were going to screw something up for the rest of the team,” he said. After enrolling at San Diego State in 1981 to pursue broadcast journalism, Tuck picked up tennis again. He then found the San Diego Tennis Federation, our local gay league, and joined.

At that point, softball was not even on James’ radar until some friends at a local gym approached him. Noting his muscular physique, they rightfully assumed that he would be a decent ballplayer. James attended a practice and said he recalled being so intimidated because he assumed a gay softball practice would be like picnic softball. Instead, the guys were fantastic athletes, and James instead went in search of a less-serious team that was more focused on camaraderie than winning. Within a couple of years, James had distinguished himself as one of the better players in America’s Finest City Softball League (AFCSL). Friends such as Mike Travers and Tony Shea scouted out players they felt could comprise a solid B team, and eventually James became the clean-up hitter and left-centerfielder for the Boots & Co. team. Every year, the national gay softball league convenes in a different city to hold its World Series, welcoming the best teams from each member city. James and his crew from San Diego headed to Kansas City for the 1999 event. Grady and his Tampa team did the same. Grady said he told his friends, “don’t pick up a guy on the first day or two because then you will be stuck with them the remainder of the week.” So of course, early during that World Series week, James and Grady met. At a local dance club, Grady’s friends caught him staring at James on the dance floor, though James never noticed. Grady and his group went on to another bar for the remainder of the night but coincidentally, James ended up arriving there too, standing behind Grady and not realizing he had been getting cruised earlier. James had actually gone to that second bar in search of someone else, but after he and Grady struck up (l to r) Grady a conversation about Mitchell and softball, James said James Tuck he remembered he (Courtesy Grady was compelled to stay. Mitchell) “Something told me that I needed to stay right there. I was really enamored with his athletic ability and that cute Southern accent,” he said. While describing the fluke meeting between the two, James recalled what he had told his teammates before the Series: “Someone’s life is going to change during this week.” Little did he know it would be his own. After that first night, Grady said that he thought the spark had died down. As he tells the story, James stood him up when invited to join Grady at his team dinner – a story James refutes, citing preexisting plans. But the two reconnected later in the week, and upon returning to their home cities, they called each other nearly every day. Grady visited San Diego three times before James asked him to move in June 2000. Since becoming official, the two have continued to various sports to this day. Grady tutored James in bowling and helped him become a pretty decent bowler, with a high score of 279; Grady has rolled four 300 games. The happy couple has played tennis together for years, and been teammates or on separate teams in AFCSL as well. When asked to describe his husband, Grady said, “James has always been a very understanding partner and versatile athlete. He’s always had my back and looked out for me when I was the new guy in San Diego. At first, I couldn’t stand to be apart from him. Now, I can’t wait to come home to him.” Given the chance to respond, James said, “Grady has a duality of his personality. The way he is in public is in contrast to how he is at home. He’s nothing if not honest, and never missed a chance to speak his mind. He loves to talk and you always know where you stand. But at home, he’s always looking out for me and loyal as can be.” When they aren’t bowling or playing tennis, you can find Grady playing for The Loft in the B Division, while James plays for the Renegades in the C Division of AFCSL. Look up your local sports leagues, whatever they may be. Maybe you too will end up taking a random trip somewhere and end up with the person of your dreams. —Jef f Praught is a contributing writer for Gay San Diego and fan of most spor ts. He is actively involved in the LGBT spor ts community, where he plays in the local softball (AFCSL), football (SDAFFL) and basketball (SD Hoops) leagues. He has served on AFCSL’s board of of ficers in various capacities and is currently the commissioner of SD Hoops. t FROM PAGE 1

CANDI histor y to reign without an emperor. Regina Styles, the 38th empress and current board member, was the first. Over 50 attendees were at the meeting, including past monarchs, residents, active-duty militar y and Candi Samples supporters, several who are volunteers at Revivals in Hillcrest. Mario Ortega, aka Candi Samples, is a manager at Revivals and moved to San Diego in 2011 to help open the store, which is owned and operated by the Desert AIDS Project in Palm Springs, Calif. “This is the first time the empress of San Diego has not been in drag at a Court meeting, and I think that’s ver y important,” said Nicole Murray Ramirez, current board member and multi-year monarch. Ramirez’s title is Queen Mother of the Americas, Nicole the Great, and has been empress of the organization six times. “There’s more to Candi Samples than the crown,” Ramirez said. “I think all of you that have met her knows that why we do love her and respect her is she’s down to earth.” Ramirez and the rest of the board said they fully support the new monarch, and hope the year brings a “new beginning” to the Court system. “Candi not only has the support of the board of directors, but also has our belief that she’s [going to] tr y to do things in new ways and come up with a different approach,” Ramirez said. “She’s been given the keys to do what she wants with the Court, to mold it in a new direction.” Deciding to run for the title was not an easy decision, Candi Samples said, and came after talking with several people, including past monarchs and his partner of 12 years, James. However the decision was always his. “I talked to ever yone, to get ever yone’s opinion and then I made my own choice,” he said. “I will do the best that I can to represent San Diego and represent all of you. … I can’t do it without your help.” The main focus for reigning monarchs is ser ving as the face of the organization, appearing at public and private events to help educate the community about the different fundraising activities that occur throughout the year, as well as the many ways the Court has given back throughout its long histor y in San Diego. Founded in 1971, the San Diego chapter helped finance the start of several LGBT institutions, including the present-day LGBT Center, San Diego Pride and Mama’s Kitchen. That histor y, Candi Samples said, was key to the reign, which he is calling “Looking to a Brighter Future, but Honoring the Past.” The Court’s first Emperor, local business owner Omar Lowr y, was crowned in 1971 and attended the Feb. 20 meeting. Ramirez acknowledged Lowr y’s presence, calling him a “gentleman” and a “trailblazer.” “Omar doesn’t come to too many Court meetings,” Ramirez said. “That’s certainly a salute to [Candi Samples].” One of the first scheduled appearances for the new monarch is the Court’s 10th annual Community Children’s Easter Egg Hunt, held Easter Sunday in Trolley Barn Park. For part of the event, the court collects over 600 donated Easter baskets to hand out to children, and also stages a bicycle raffle and egg hunt. “My basic vision is a brighter future while honoring the past,” Candi Samples said. “Building those bridges and mending bridges in San Diego.”t


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More than 20 million Americans – 8.7 percent of all adults – now practice yoga, according to a new study by Yoga Journal. Exercise trends come and go, but after 2,200 years, yoga is more popular than ever. A friend of mine in Manhattan told me that a lot of his friends spent New Year’s Eve at a yoga studio, complete with a DJ, a sweaty yoga class and kombucha on-tap. Many people attribute yoga’s increased popularity to renewed interest in spiritual enlightenment; others are interested in feeling



calmer and happier while others still go for better sex (yes, really). Yoga classes of all shapes and sizes are trendy, but is there a scientific basis for its popularity? Recent studies, including many supported by the National Center for Complementary and Alternative Medicine (an arm of the National Institutes of Health) have demonstrated that regular yoga practice can improve cardiovascular risk factors like elevated blood pressure, blood sugar, blood cholesterol and clotinducing fibrinogen, and it can raise levels of protective antioxidants. Yoga was shown to improve balance and, by enhancing blood flow and the production of growth factors, yoga can counteract the deterioration of spinal discs. Possibly through its stimulation of the vagus nerve, yoga appears to counter inflammation throughout the body, and may reduce the effects of arthritis. Many studies verify that yoga helps to relieve physical and mental stress, which can erode the tips of DNA (called telomeres) and program cell death. In this way, yoga may slow biological aging and prolong life. A more immediate benefit is yoga’s apparent ability to revitalize a person’s sex life by producing surges in sex hormones and brain waves associated with sexual arousal. Yoga may even help with hang-

cal workout. Vinyasa is typically a long, fluid, fast series of asanas with chanting, headstands, forearm stands, and handstands. Kundalini refers to the energy force that exists at the base of the spine and is the most overtly spiritual type of yoga. Classes move slowly through gentle stretches, prolonged chants and lots of breathing exercises. Iyengar, my personal favorite, has instructors focus on alignment through held postures. When I was in a car accident seven years ago, my Iyengar teachers created a routine for me that helped me heal from my injuries so fast that my doctor asked me how I did it. There are many different kinds of yoga; each has its own devotees. Check them out and pick the ones that make you feel the best. Be picky about teachers. Don’t settle for less than a good fit. If you don’t like the teacher, you won’t go to the class. Set yourself up to succeed and watch your anxiety go down and the quality of your sex life go up.



overs: “Yoga reduces stress and has health benefits,” said Dr. Debbie L. Cohen, a kidney specialist at the University of Pennsylvania who is studying yoga as an alternative to medication to lower high-blood pressure. She cites studies showing that yoga can reduce chronic stress. “Yoga can make you feel better,” she said, recommending yoga with an emphasis on meditation and breathing exercises to help ease your hangover. Whatever your motivation may be – to reduce stress, tone the body, improve your mood – there is a yoga class here in San Diego that will meet your needs. How to choose among so many offerings? After taking hundreds of yoga classes over the past 15 years, here is my experience of the main types offered around town: Hatha is both an umbrella term that covers a number of disciplines and a discipline of its own. Expect a reasonable amount of chanting, a moderately quick series of asanas (poses) and a long relaxation period at the end of class. Bikram relies on a set series of 26 asanas, mostly forward bends and spinal twists, per 90-minute class. The classroom temperature is set at a minimum of 100 degrees in order to warm the muscles for easier stretching. Sivananda classes begin with 10 minutes of chanting and end with a 15-minute relaxation period, but the middle is a vigorous physi-

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