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Volume 7 Issue 26 Dec. 23, 2016 - Jan. 5, 2017

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An ‘Idol’ comes to town


Looking back online's top-read stories from 2016

Morgan M. Hurley | Editor

Truax Award ‘home to roost’


From the roads of Bangkok


For the third year in a row, I’ve decided to take a look back on our year of publication, this time 2016 — not regarding the events that shaped this year or our lives from a historical perspective, which I can say with great certainty, were filled with both love and tragedy — but through the lens of our online portal. Gay San Diego comes out every other Friday and for some readers, picking up that newspaper and holding it in their hands is a big deal. Others prefer to read their news on the go, from the convenience of their smartphones, iPads or desktop computers. For those readers, we also have an online presence — This compilation is a list of the biggest stories — with criteria that it

was local, published within 2016, and ranked highest regarding the number of unique page views according to Google Analytics — published on our website. They run the gamut from news tidbits; several feature stories about the movers and shakers in our community; an interview with a teen idol who came to town; stories about what to expect from our local LGBT film festival — which contemplated a shutdown in recent years but saw its largest success in 2016 — a profile on an activist turned candidate; beautification of our neighborhoods; and an editorial about what matters in our community. The only trend I see is the uptick in stories about women in our

see 2016 Review, pg 13

Woman of the year

Dippity do dah day LGBT folk share their favorite party dips

After hunkering down for nearly two years, Barbra Blake is ready to roll out a renewed GSDBA

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(Editor’s Note: This is part two of a two-part series.) Time Magazine has its annual “Man of the Year” and the San Diego LGBT community has ours. The annual Nicky Awards took place a little later than usual this year, on Nov. 13, but were nonetheless as entertaining and enlightening as ever. The two top Nickys of the evening, “Man of the Year” and “Woman of the Year,” were bestowed upon two wellliked and longtime leaders of the San Diego LGBT community — but while both have endured some serious challenges in their current careers this year, they have been embraced by the community at large. “Man of the Year” went to Stephen Whitburn, former executive director of San Diego Pride since 2012. Whitburn was released from his duties by the board of directors in September, much to the disappoint-

Barbra Blake (in pantsuit) surrounded by her three nieces, is holding the "Woman of the Year" award she received at the Nicky Awards Nov. 13. (Courtesy Barbra Blake) ment of a large faction of the local LGBT community. In the weeks following his release, his supporters rallied support, protested board meetings and demanded his reinstatement. While no public explanation was given for Whitburn’s dismissal, the board has remained steadfast on its decision and continues the search for his replacement. Barbra Blake, current CEO of the Greater San Diego Business Association (GSDBA), was hon-

ored as “Woman of the Year.” Blake, too, has had some harsh critics within the past year regarding the organization’s seemingly slow bounce-back from the troubles that put her in the CEO seat in 2014. In our last issue on Dec. 9 [Vol. 7, Issue 25 or online at], we profiled Whitburn; in this second part of the two-part series, we will talk to

see Person of the Year, pg 15

They are the backbone of casual gatherings, the elements of style at fancy soirees, and a test of etiquette should temptation steer your index finger toward the bowl when nobody’s looking. Yes, we’re talking about party dips while keeping in mind a fast-approaching New Year’s Eve and the 2017 Super Bowl (Feb. 5). In our search for recipes that supersede queso and ranch dressing (once the stereotype preferences of gay men and lesbians, respectively), we tapped the local LGBT community for dips and spreads that get scooped up quickly and are easy to make.

see Party Dips, pg 14


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rave reviews from People Magazine, Billboard and USA Today. Owen’s first music video, “Can’t Fight It,” was originally written to end showing him walking out of a club with a young woman, but Owen said when he read the director’s plans for the scene, “I knew I couldn’t be dishonest.” The music video was later changed to show Owen kissing another man at the end. The “fun and eclectic show” and NYE celebration at Martinis will start at 9 p.m. and include a three-course dinner, the performance and a Champagne toast at midnight for $100. Martinis is located at 3940 Fourth Ave. (second floor) in Hillcrest. For more information or tickets, visit

The North County LGBTQ Resource Center is seeking a bilingual case manager to work in human trafficking prevention. According to a notice in The Center’s newsletter, this position will “augment efforts to target perpetrators, provide more and better services for victims and expand research initiatives.” To apply or receive a copy of the job description, send an email to


Openly gay Rayvon Owen, a top four finalist during the final year of the popular “American Idol” show, will perform at Martinis Above Fourth Table + Stage on New Year’s Eve. Along with his three-piece band, Owen will help San Diegans ring in the new year in style. Described as “contemporary R&B with a Sinatra-style voice,” Owen performed with Jamie Foxx, Rickey Martin, Boy George and others during season 14, when he became a “Twitter Save” champion. “I just got to give so much kudos to Rayvon, his voice is absolutely amazing,” Foxx said at the time. Owen has since received

Multi-talented Lea DeLaria (Courtesy ArtPower)


Lea DeLaria has been a famous name in LGBT circles for decades, but she received overnight stardom as part of the ensemble of Netflix’s original series “Orange is the New Black.” DeLaria is also a talented musician and will bring her vast skillset to San Diego, hosted by ArtPower at UC San Diego, on Jan. 14 at 8 p.m. at Mandeville Auditorium on the UCSD campus. A stand-up comedian, an actor on big and small screens, and a jazz musician, DeLaria, backed


and Spa Palm Springs, 400 E. Tahquitz Canyon Way) has a lowKnown as the “White Party” key pool party, with DJs and drink for the ladies, Club Skirts will specials. It’s your opportunity to return with the world-renowned watch the weekend take shape Dinah Shore Weekend, March poolside. That night, things start 29–April 2, 2017 in Palm Springs, heating up with the White Party California. at the nearby Hard Rock Hotel Dubbed “the largest girl party (150 S. Indian Canyon Drive). music festival in the world,” the Saturday is the Cabana Pool event has non-stop events, comParty back at the Hilton Hotel and edy, DJs, dances, performances Spa (400 E. Tahquitz Canyon). and pool parties from Thursday That night there will be a comedy through Sunday. Discounted early show at the nearby Hard Rock Hobird ticket sales will end soon. tel (150 S. Indian Canyon Drive). Though organizers are still Many years ago, the comedy finalizing details on performers event was on the weekend, but in and headliners, we can give you an recent years was moved to Thursoverview of the weekend and there day night and many were unable are a few changes, so stay tuned. to attend. Bringing it back front The official opening pre-party and center allows more opportunion Thursday night is always at ties for weekend ticketholders. Zelda’s Nightclub (611 S. Palm Later that night is the Hollywood Canyon Drive). Party at the same location. You Friday, which is when most of can catch the comedy and then the women start arriving from all dance the night away. over the world and checking into Sunday is the Wet & Wild Pool their hotels around the Coachella Party back at the Hilton Hotel and Valley, the host hotel (Hilton Hotel Spa (400 E. Tahquitz Canyon).

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Many San Diegans make a day trip just for this. Sunday night, the official closing party is again at Zelda’s Nightclub (611 S. Palm Canyon Drive). There is always a special performer to close out the weekend, so keep your eyes peeled for more details as they come available. Presale tickets for Club Skirts Dinah Shore Weekend are currently at their lowest rate and will go up Jan. 1. Get your early bird VIP Weekend Pass, which includes VIP admission to all events and shows, exclusive VIP lounges and bars and receptions on Friday and Saturday nights ($475 plus fee). The Early Bird Weekend Pass includes seven events (comedy show not included) ($199 plus fee – limited number) now to save. Regular early bird Weekend Pass will be $249 plus fee and advance will end March 29. The comedy show will be $20 plus fee. To get your tickets, visit Sale ends Dec. 31.t

see News Briefs, pg 7

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Dan Uhler: Recovering lives, one person at a time Profiles in Advocacy Ian Morton My December “Profiles in Advocacy” column is always special to me, in that it marks the anniversary of my foray into celebrating San Diego’s local advocacy heroes. My very first interview was Liz Brosnan-Johnson, then the executive director of Christie’s Place and the 2011 A. Brad Truax award winner, for her work in HIV advocacy. This has become my “World AIDS Month” tradition to profile the Truax winner, and I am so happy to feature the 2016 awardee, Dan Uhler, ‎intervention specialist and lead HIV prevention planner with the San Diego County HIV, STD and Hepatitis Branch of Public Health. For those not yet aware, this award is named for the physician activist, Dr. A. Brad Truax, and recognizes a person who has practiced consistent and ardent advocacy in the field of HIV/ AIDS. Dan’s work in the field of HIV spans nearly 40 years, having begun in 1988 while he was in Rochester, New York, and primarily working with injection drug users (IDU). This started a pattern of him “meeting people where they were,” both figuratively and geographically, as his

interactions often took place on the street or in “shoot-up” houses. In addition to his outreach work, Dan was also engaged with the New York “Act Up” branch, which took him to the steps of the National Institutes of Health as an activist for HIV/AIDS funding. In 1990, Dan received his own HIV diagnosis; he then became sober and began facilitating support groups for the HIV and recovery populations. In 1992, he became a licensed substance abuse therapist and the “go-to” for HIV-positive clients at the mental health/substance abuse dual-diagnosis clinic at which he worked. In the early 2000s, Dan began his trek west, first with a brief stay in Las Vegas, where he had his first opportunity to sit on an HIV Planning Council, and then to San Diego in 2002. His first months in San Diego were dedicated to addressing a muchneeded focus on his own health; however, before long he found himself getting back to his roots, with a position at Stepping Stone in their Positive Support Services, doing outreach to the IDU population. It was during this period that Dan found himself exploring and pushing the envelope with regards to what “harm reduction” meant in terms of individuals living with both HIV and addiction challenges. Again, focusing on “meeting people where they were,” he real-


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Dan Uhler holds his 2016 Truax awards, one made by himself. (Photo by Vanessa Dubois/Courtesy SDPix)

ized that sometimes the first step wasn’t stopping substance use, but helping individuals adhere to their treatment concurrent with their drug use. He stresses the importance of understanding “recovery readiness” and that often, at the time of an individual’s first meeting with a recovery counselor, they may not truly be able to quit. These are the opportunities when a counselor can explore the “baby-steps” toward better health practices and eventual clean and sober living. Dan brought this mindset to subsequent positions, as a community health program manager at UC San Diego’s research program, and to the San Diego County HIV, STD and Hepatitis Branch of Public Health, where he has worked since 2007. I had an opportunity to speak with Terry Cunningham, the former chief of that department — as well as a Truax award committee member and past awardee — who explained why Dan was the committee’s unanimous choice for the 2016 award. “Dan has been a solid, steady voice for both HIV prevention and recovery for the past three decades,” Cunningham said. “His work in San Diego has informed organizations about the interaction of substance abuse and HIV to more effectively stop the spread of both diseases. Dan’s expertise has earned him the respect of his peers. His opinions and actions have helped shape HIV prevention efforts not only in San Diego, but also across the country.” In addition to being an HIV advocate, Dan is also a stainedglass artist, and has been commissioned to create the Truax award for the past eight years. As a nominee, he was not aware that he would be receiving his own piece of art until the day of the event. When he reflects upon his work, he sees how his vision for this year’s award has been mirrored by his own experience. “The award that I designed this year probably has the most meaning for me,” he said. “It was a deliberate and organic process, without any tweaks and I felt as though I knew what it meant from the beginning. “The stack of stained glass boxes each represent eras in the decades during which we’ve been

Uhler has designed the Truax award for eight years; this year’s award, which he received himself, represents all the different eras of the AIDS/HIV crisis. (Courtesy Ian Morton) fighting HIV,” he continued. “Elements I chose to embody these time frames include the black glass which represents the dark early years, mirrored glass during the time in which we saw ourselves reflected in the HIV community, to the clear glass at the top that represents the optimism that, with clarity and purpose, we will defeat this disease.” Dan’s current work includes the “Why Not?” campaign, envisioned as a social media forum to get back to the basics. With the passage of time and the advances in HIV medications and treatments, HIV/AIDS often does not have the same relevance for the current generation. Hence the open-ended, and sometimes controversial question, “Why not get HIV?,” is a jumping off point to reengage those discussions. Started as a closed Facebook group, the Why Not outreach team can now be found at venues like CityFest and San Diego’s regional LGBTQ Pride festivals, engaging in face-to-face conversations and creating a space where individuals can ask the hard questions. Dan sees a future where new HIV infections are a rarity, if seen at all. He has lived through the

worst part of the AIDS epidemic and can see the positive side of what this disease has brought to our social consciousness. “This disease and what it’s done to both the gay community and the community at large has been insane and magnificent on some levels,” he opined. “It has caused us to pay attention and to come together with this sort of grassroots advocacy and address an issue in a ‘person centered’ way; I don’t believe that this really happened before HIV.” Activist, therapist, program manager, and a “poster boy” for living well through recovery and HIV, Dan continues the fight against HIV in San Diego County. To engage with “Why Not? San Diego” and join the discussion, visit and don’t forget, the next Truax Awards will be Dec. 1, 2017 – World AIDS Day! —Ian D. Morton is the senior program analyst at San Diego Human Dignity Foundation and produces the Y.E.S. San Diego LGBTQ youth conference. To nominate an individual or nonprofit for this column, please email the information to ian@

A numb new year? Life Beyond Therapy Why do we numb ourselves? What is it we don’t want to feel? Is it so bad to “take the edge off”? Of course not, but how do you get there? Do you need something external (drugs, alcohol, sex, shopping) to make you feel better, or is there a way to get there on your own? As 2017 nears, there is plenty of stuff to worry about: homophobia, racism, Donald Trump, sexism, ageism, global warming, Donald Trump. But, does numbing ourselves really help the situation? In the short run, sure, have an occasional drink, do a little shopping or have sex to feel better … but, don’t make a habit of it. This is avoidance with a capital “A” and avoidance isn’t going to help us deal with any of the challenges coming our way in 2017. Instead, you could becoming more aware: aware of what you’re thinking, aware of what you’re feeling. Awareness is the antidote to numbness. It’s also a good antidote to fear, boredom and a whole host of negative emotions. I recently read a book —“Turning Toward Enlightenment” by Encinitas author Gary Crowley — that had a particularly unusual exercise to increase awareness: Imagine that your head has been removed. In its place imagine only awareness. Keep your eyes open as you do this. Notice there is only the awareness of a body and all that surrounds it. Having no head leaves “I am aware” as the only thing that sits on your shoulders. At first, this exercise seemed bizarre, but I gave it a shot and surprisingly, it brought me a lot of peace, “spaciousness” and a nice, relaxing “emptiness.” I felt my worries temporarily go away and I was able to think more calmly and clearly. Crowley’s book has a bunch of interesting exercises like this to help us “turn towards enlightenment.” I highly recommend it. Let’s talk more about emotional numbness. Why do we want to go there? From a psychological point of view, it can look appealing when we feel emotionally disconnected from a situation. For example, the U.S. elects a person like Donald Trump to be our next president and it’s such a shock that we feel disconnected from reality (“How could this happen?”) and hopeless (“OMG, his whole cabinet looks like the

COMMUNITY VOICES alt-right.”) Perhaps Mr. Trump’s election has been great news for alcohol, marijuana and sex-focused businesses, but, I have seen in my psychotherapy practice that the incoming Trump administration more typically invokes a PTSDlike reactions: (1) emotional arousal and/or (2) emotional numbing. Emotional arousal typically appears as being easily startled, upset or pissed off. All your senses are heightened and you frequently feel on the edge of losing it. In the emotional numbing stage, you try to avoid thinking about the traumatic event (e.g., four or eight years of a Trump administration). You may not want to feel much of anything, so you drink, smoke weed or find some other way to keep numbing yourself out. You may even experience problems with concentrating and remembering things. I know that the day after Trump won, I couldn’t focus on anything and my memory was shot: I was emotionally numb. For most of my clients, alcohol is their numbing agent of choice, with marijuana and sex tied for second. I read in the New York Times that many women have dramatically changed their haircut and color in the weeks following Trump’s election. This too is a way of coping with feeling numb: We try to “shock” ourselves into a better place by changing our hair, which can be a very symbolic way to tell the world: “Hey, it’s time for a big change. I don’t like how things are going, so I’ll start with my hair.” I know I’ve done this. I once went platinum when I was feeling particularly numb. I felt dead and after all that bleach, so did my hair! (I don’t recommend this as a constructive coping device). What about you? How do you numb yourself and escape things you don’t want to feel or face?  Would you be willing to try and just be aware of what’s going on — internally and externally — without habitually reacting or avoiding it? You can have a numb new year or an aware one; the choice is yours. (I hope it’s the latter!) —Michael Kimmel is a licensed psychotherapist who specializes in helping LGBT clients achieve their goals and deal with anxiety, depression, grief, sexually addictive behavior, coming out, relationship challenges and homophobia. Contact him at 619-955-3311 or visit

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Our neighbor’s cat’s nephew Lee Lynch | The Amazon Trail After the doom and gloom of our fall — and boy did moods around here fall — I’ve noticed, with the approach of the holidays, an unusually earnest air of festivity around town. People crave more light in winter; this year our neighborhood seems to be going all out on bright decorations. Homes that have never boasted more than a wreath in past years have strung up a sunrise of red and green and white and yellow — and purple — bulbs. And all the wreaths wear big red ribbons. It’s not simply the seasonal garnish on this part of the world. The townspeople seem determined to enhance their celebrations this year, to drop what divides us and honor the rituals that unite us. The men in our oldster community used to host monthly Saturday morning breakfasts and have made the effort to bring breakfast back for this special month. The women’s December lunch has never seen so many splendidly garbed and cheerful participants. Our clubhouse must have had extra volunteers, because it’s positively magical in its green, red, and gold regalia as well as its positive energy. Two more special events are scheduled and neighbors are talking about them with EDITOR Morgan M. Hurley (619) 961-1960 CONTRIBUTING EDITORS Ken Williams, x102 Jeff Clemetson, x119 ASSISTANT EDITOR John Gregory CONTRIBUTING WRITERS Chris Azzopardi Michael Kimmel Tarryn Mento Ian Morton Frank Sabatini Jr. Archives Staff SENIOR INTERN David Sengmany INTERN Jennifer Gotschalk

enthusiasm. I promised my sweetheart I would stop reading headlines, for my health and hers, and it appears I’m not the only one. Except for the neighbor who, sympathetically, told me that as a gay writer, I now have a bull’s-eye on my back, people are acting extra kind and cheerful. “I’m 81,” the neighbor, who is moving to another country, said. “I have a bad feeling about [the incoming administration]. I’m not spending the rest of my life putting up with that.” I told her, by the way, I’ve always had that bull’s-eye on my back. I’m fighting my cynicism, yet can’t avoid wondering how many in our ‘hood of mostly white, old, blue-collar-to-middle-class, heavilyChristian people, with assorted disabilities and dependence on Social Security and Medicare, are happy Trump is the president-elect. I’ve grown so fond of them, I’d rather believe they’ve benefitted to such an extreme from the last eight years under President Obama, that they don’t need to struggle as much as they once did, that they have the energy and means for bright lights and merrymaking. My sweetheart and I got into the swing of things at The Pianist and Handy Dyke’s jolly Thanksgiving dinner. All of us WEB & SOCIAL MEDIA Jen Van Tieghem, x118 COPY EDITOR Dustin Lothspeich

were in post-traumatic election shock and needed that bit of fun and togetherness. The next day, we avoided the day-after sales and shopped on Small Business Saturday. Our favorite stop is a used bookstore in our so-called Art Deco District, which consists of a couple dozen, mostly occupied, mostly not Deco, storefronts. When we walked in, what should appear under our feet, but a 7-week-old kitten the manager had adopted. He was light gray and white, with a spiky tail and fluffy fur that threatened to grow very long. A kitten enhances a bookstore, as if a bookstore needs enhancing, about 3,000 percent. Muffin was one busy cat baby. Aisles and aisles of runways, his person continuously available, a little kitten cave with little kitten dishes and a mini potty which Muffin proceeded to fill on our arrival. The manager had a Humane Society donation jar on the counter. It turned out that my sweetheart, the manager, and I, all knew the president of the local chapter. The manager asked if we also knew the president’s sister. Why, yes, we did, but didn’t say she was our sister also, our lesbian sister. The manager gestured to a framed and enlarged photograph on the wall behind her. “Have you met her cat?” she asked. “Gibby!” we cried. Of course we ACCOUNTING Priscilla Umel-Martinez (619) 961-1962


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knew Gibby who, as a youngster, lost an eye to a bobcat. It turned out that the manager raised the Gibster until she found him a home with the president’s sister, both of whom are our neighbors. “We’re having lunch with them next week,” we said. Muffin sped by our feet. “Muffin,” said the unusually gregarious and affable store manager, pointing to a framed portrait of Gibby on the wall, “is Gibby’s nephew.” Crazy cat women, we all started talking at once, as if we had found our own long lost nephew. I’d never before put the words cat and nephew together in quite that way. Only in a small town — with the winter weather a mix of howling wind and rain, and where the citizens were in almost universally high-spirited holiday mode — could we, by happenstance, meet our neighbor’s cat’s nephew. I couldn’t stop laughing. May your winter holidays always be bright. Especially during the next four years. —Lee Lynch is an award-winning author and has written many gay and lesbian-themed novels over the course of her 30-year career. Her latest novel, “Rainbow Gap,” is now available at and other outlets. This piece is from her syndicated column, “The Amazon Trail.” To learn more about Lynch, visit

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Ever since the presidential race revealed a deep division in America, incidents of hate and harassment over a person’s race, ethnicity, religion, immigration status and sexual orientation have made headlines across the country, including here in San Diego. In a sign of unity with San Diegans from all backgrounds, local restaurant owners in three neighborhoods are encouraging nearby businesses to post a sign that identifies their establishments as a welcoming place. Juan Pablo Sanchez, who runs Super Cocina restaurant in City Heights, was one of three business owners Thursday who walked storefrontto-storefront with posters for nearby establishments to display. The signs say “Hate Has No Business Here” and include the hashtag #HateHasNoBizHere for social media. The effort is part of a campaign to promote acceptance amid a divisive time. Sanchez said he has heard from his employees and community members that some in the neighborhood are worried. His Super Cocina restaurant is a fixture in the community, which boasts a large Hispanic population and is home to immigrants and refugees from many countries, including Syria, Ethiopia, Somalia and Burma. “The news is focused on some of the backlash, little bit of racist things that have happened, stuff like that so it’s definitely — in a community as diverse as City Heights — it hits home,” Sanchez said. “People are afraid that it might creep here.” Plus, Sanchez said, promoting the campaign is also financially beneficial. “We promote that if you have an open business that

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NOBIZHERE accepts everyone, it’s better for business all around,” he said. The owners of Ponce’s restaurant in Kensington and Meshuggah Shack in Mission Hills also participated in the flyer-distribution event. The “All Are Welcome Here” campaign comes from the pro-small business nonprofit Main Street Alliance, which recently launched a chapter in San Diego. Karim Bouris, the local project director, said the movement launched in other cities last year and again after the mass shooting at a gay Orlando nightclub in June. “About a year ago, the Main Street Alliance at a national level partnered with MoveOn. org in response to some of the rhetoric we were hearing by then-candidate Trump around Mexican immigrants, around Muslims, refugees, and then we updated it in light of some of the rhetoric and the talk that came after the Pulse night club shooting in Orlando,” Bouris said. Since winning the election, Donald Trump has condemned the negative treatment of minorities. In an interview with


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“60 Minutes,” the presidentelect said he was “saddened” to hear about instances of harassment and instructed those responsible to “stop it.” In San Diego, there have been reports of a museum defaced with anti-immigrant graffiti, a Somali man attacked at a pizza restaurant and a Muslim student harassed and robbed on campus. The San Diego Police Department did not have data readily available to determine if the city is seeing an increase in hate crimes and incidents. The Southern Poverty Law Center reported a large number of hate incidents occurred across the U.S. immediately following Election Day, but has since said “the trend line points to a steady drop-off,” according to a Nov. 18 update on its website. SPLC has what it describes as a “hate map” on its site and said it has documented a total of 892 hate groups in the U.S. in 2015. To see the hate map, visit To watch or listen to the KPBS coverage of this story, visit —Tarryn Mento is a contributor to KPBS, San Diego’s Public Broadcasting Service (PBS) affiliate. To learn more, visit kpbs. org.t and multi-Academy Award-nominated film “The Crying Game” on Jan. 18. Neil Jordan directed the 1992 film about a hostage situation involving the Irish Republican Army, which starred Stephen Rhea, Miranda Richardson, Forest Whitaker and Jaye Davidson. Whitaker, who plays a British soldier, is taken hostage by an IRA unit, which includes Rhea and Richardson, in the film. Davidson plays Whitaker’s girlfriend, who later has a brief encounter with Rhea, a scene that provided a shocking moment for filmgoers 25 years ago. The film won six Oscar nominations and won for Best Screenplay. The screening will take place Jan. 14 at 7 p.m. at Landmark Hillcrest Cinemas, located at 3965 Fifth Ave., #200 (upstairs), in Hillcrest. Admission is $10. To see the film’s trailer, visit To learn more about FilmOut, visit

Members of the Imperial Court de San Diego, dropping off Christmas toys for underprivileged children at Barrio Station Youth Center as part of their 41th annual “Toys for Kids Drive.” (Courtesy Big Mike)

(l to r) Mel Merrill; Emperor Summer Lee; Empress Jaeda Reign; Lambda Archives outgoing president Maureen Steiner; Imperial Court president Michael Lochner, and Nicole Murray-Ramirez; at an end-of-the-year brunch gathering at Merrill’s home. The Imperial Court recognized Merrill and Steiner at the gathering and new Archives board members were also chosen. (Courtesy Lambda Archives)

A year of growth Out of the Archives Archives Staff We are pleased to announce the 2017 new board and where they spend the rest of their time: Gina Bravo, program development and coordination librarian, San Diego Public Library; Anna Culbertson, assistant head, special collections and university archives, San Diego State; Ted Holmquist, attorney; and Kara Lin, development associate, San Diego LGBT Community Center; as well as several continuing members. On Sunday, Dec. 11, David Ramos and Mel Merrill hosted a brunch at their lovely home to kick off our 30-30-30 campaign. The goal is to raise $30,000 by this Dec. 30, in time for the upcoming 30th anniversary of the Archives in 2017. We are thrilled to share that thanks to the generosity of so many people, we are already two-thirds of the way there! We are grateful for all of the support and will be most appreciative of any other donations — get your tax write-off for 2016 by visiting lambdaarchives. us/donations.htm or sending a check to 4545 Park Blvd. #104, San Diego, CA 92116. Help us continue to collect, preserve and teach your history. Also at the brunch, outgoing board president Maureen Steiner and former board

member (and still loyal archives supporter) Mel Merrill were honored by the Imperial Court for their years of service to the community. The Court also made a generous contribution to the 30-30-30 campaign. This past year we took major steps to fulfill the third prong of our mission statement — teaching the LGBTQ history of the greater San Diego region, in addition to our ongoing work to collect and preserve. In March, we held a gala that was both financially and spiritually successful; we honored a very important and under-recognized population: the women who supported the community in the dark days of AIDS. It has also been our first full year having three part-time staff. Prior to this, the Archives depended on board members, volunteers and a part-time archivist to keep thing organized. Now, with more staff hours (still assisted by the board and volunteers) we have been able to accomplish many of our goals and hit a few milestones. In 2016, we processed over 40,000 photos brought to us by Pride; we completed and indexed 60 new oral histories; we produced a newsletter and a monthly column for Gay San Diego; we answered questions and provided resources for dozens of researchers and community organizations and individuals; we have spoken at schools and to other organizations about the work do; we launched the very popular Hillcrest LGBTQ History Walking Tour; our archivist delivered a keynote address at a community archives forum at UC Los Angeles; we staffed tables and assisted at numerous community events; we partnered with the San Diego Gay Men’s

Chorus, University Heights Neighborhood Association, Balboa Park Veterans Museum, San Diego Repertory Theatre, and the San Diego LGBT Visitors Center; we continued working with The Center, San Diego Pride, Diversionary Theatre and TransNarratives; and also we hosted several exciting Out At the Archives events, including ones on the early days of AIDS, one for Veterans Day featuring LGBTQ people in the military, one with noted historian Lillian Faderman, and one with SCOTUS plaintiff Jim Obergefell. We took home the first place trophy from AIDS Walk as the top nonprofit fundraiser (for the second year in a row); we were honored by the city of San Diego Historic Resources Board; we were nominated for nonprofit of the year by the GSDBA and we won the top nonprofit award at the annual Nicky Awards. It has been a very busy and successful year and we look forward to doing even more for the community as we enter our 30th year. We could use your time, energy and, yes, your financial support to help the Archives grow even more in 2017. Happy holidays to all and best wishes for a good 2017. Challenges may lie ahead, but with a firm grasp of our history, we can learn from our past to inform the activism of our future. —Lambda Archives, a 501(c) (3) dedicated to collecting, preserving and teaching the history of the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people in San Diego and the Northern Baja California region, is located at 4545 Park Blvd., in University Heights. To learn more, stop in or visit their website at



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Restaurant Review Frank Sabatini Jr.

5259 Linda Vista Road (Linda Vista)

I’ve never been to Thailand, but everyone I know who has traveled there raves about the street food, insisting it’s foolproof in terms of flavor and price. Enter J&T Thai Street Food in Linda Vista. A friend of mine feels the fast-casual eatery encapsulates the basic soul of dishes he buys often from vendors lining the roads of Bangkok — clean, tasty and affordable. Another friend rates the fare as “an American cliché,” praising only the duck noodle soup for its accurate range of herbs and spices. My take, based on three visits, is a mixed bag of highs and lows. Sandwiched within an elongated strip plaza called The Presidio, it’s easy to guess you’re just down the hill from the University of San Diego. Most of the customers are fresh-faced academic types, interspersed occasionally by professors and other faculty poking in for a quick no-frills lunch. The interior shows off a cool, industrial design of exposed air ducts, cement flooring and brawny wood tables. A back room, which tends to go unnoticed, offers additional seating. Guests place their orders at the front

619-294-7500 Prices: Soups, salads and appetizers, $3 to $9; entrees, $8 to $11 counter, where fresh limes are pressed for making Thai limeade enhanced traditionally with sugar and salt. Starting with the pleasurable dishes, a generously portioned appetizer of BBQ pork looked like scraps of tire rubber with a fresh sprig of cilantro slung over them. Yet to my delight, the meat strips were softer than expected, and their dark exteriors proved irresistibly sweet and spicy, due likely to a thick marinade of soy sauce, chili spices and brown sugar that caramelized lusciously when hitting the grill. An order of five oversized chicken wings stood well on their own without any detectable seasoning, thanks to their supercrispy skins and juicy interiors. The accompanying sweet-andsour sauce (something I normally push away in Asian restaurants) added a gracious depth of flavor. My favorite entrees were the spicy basil chicken, and the kao

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(clockwise from top) The Linda Vista storefront; kao mun gai tod (crispy chicken) over ginger rice; spicy basil chicken with rice; JT’s crispy chicken wings (Photos by Frank Sabatini Jr.)

mun gai tod, which trans-lates to crispy chicken. The former featured ground chicken strewn with wilted basil and grilled bell peppers and onions, much like the chicken larb I’ve come to love a mile up the road at The Original Sab-E-Lee. I ordered it here at level four and didn’t mind the spice factor verging closer to a six. Gulps of the limeade helped quell the mouth burn. Included with the dish was a Styrofoam bowl of clear chicken broth aided perhaps by bouillon. Not bad, but I would have preferred it served in an environmentally friendly vessel. The other chicken dish fea-

tured a couple of sliced thighs encased in golden-brown KFC-ish batter that rained its crunchy shards onto a bedding of rice flavored subtly with fresh ginger and chicken broth. Though somewhat greasy, I eagerly polished off the entire plate. On a more recent visit, I sent back an appetizer of garlic pork riblets that were deep-fried to an impossible, hard texture. When I asked the cashier if they’re normal-

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ly served this way, he shrugged indifindif ferently, but cordially refunded my purchase. J&T’s drunken noodles were also disappointing and should be renamed, “peppers and noodles.” In the one time I ordered them here, the chicken became a footnote in the company of countless, undercooked red and green bells. I’d like to think it was made like this in error. It would take me only a few more visits to try everything on the menu, which by most accounts contains only an abbreviated assortment of the dishes served from Thailand’s market stalls and food carts. But until I someday embark on a long flight across the Pacific, this hip little joint with its study-hall atmosphere can potentially make do. —Frank Sabatini Jr. is the author of “Secret San Diego” (ECW Press), and began his local writing career more than two decades ago as a staffer for the former San Diego Tribune. You can reach him at fsabatini@san.


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After shuttering 16 years ago, The BBQ Pit in North Park has reopened. Former longtime employee Tony Daniel purchased the standing lease, did some minor remodeling, and brought back the original menu items. “All of the recipes are the same as before, although I added mac n’ cheese and pulled pork,” he said. Known for its in-house smoked ribs and sliced roast beef sandwiches, the eatery has two other locations under different ownership in National City and El Cajon. 2888 University Ave., 619-298-2400.

A wide selection of chicken wings by Dirty Birds have landed in Point Loma. (Courtesy of H2 Public Relations)

Rib plate dinner at The BBQ Pit (Photo by Tony Daniel) Restaurateur Scott Slater recently sold all six locations of Slater’s 50/50 to Elite Restaurant Group Inc., a Los Angeles-based firm that will franchise Slater’s bacon-centric menu and retain its focus on craft beer in an effort to expand nationally. Slater’s decision to sell the brand coincided with his closing of S&M Sausage and Meat in University Heights. Sales broker Mike Spilky of Location Matters told Gay San Diego that the two San Diego locations of Slater’s 50/50 (Liberty Station and San Marcos) have already been acquired by franchisees through Elite and assured neither will be closing. The restaurant has other units throughout Southern California in Anaheim Hills, Pasadena, Huntington Beach and Rancho Cucamonga.

A third San Diego location of Dirty Birds opened Dec. 12 in Liberty Station, at the lip of The Loma Club’s nine-hole golf course. The 3,000-square-foot space was home to a location of Wine Steals a couple years ago. Famous for its 30-plus varieties of house-made chicken wing sauces, the new spot is distinguished by a nautical theme reflecting the locale. In addition to wings, the menu extends to salads, burgers, pizzas and desserts amid a full bar and multiple flat-screen TVs. 2970 Truxton Road, 619-756-7576, Farewell Salt & Cleaver. The restaurant and bar, known for its gourmet sausages and imaginative libations, closed Dec. 21 after a four-year run in the village section of Hillcrest. Lagging patronage was reportedly the cause and the ownership posted a heartfelt message to patrons on its Facebook page, stating in part: “True friendships have been forged within our walls, and without a doubt that is the hardest part about saying goodbye.” 3805 Fifth Ave.

Pappalecco is adding a fifth San Diego location to its portfolio, which already includes operations in Little Italy, Hillcrest, Kensington and Cardiff-by-the-Sea. Its newest outpost in Del Mar Highlands is scheduled to open by the end of December. The company was established nine years ago in Little Italy and is lauded for its Tuscan-style gelatos, coffees, pizzas and sandwiches. 12925 El Camino Real,

Look for bowls, burritos, and street tacos, including those filled with grilled octopus or cactus, at the new El Zarape Mexican Eatery in Normal Heights. As an offshoot to El Zarape at 4642 Park Blvd., the menu also carries that eatery’s famous lobster burritos and 99-cent fish tacos. In addition, brunch items such as chiliquiles and machaca with eggs are available from 11 a.m. to 3 p.m., on Saturdays and Sundays. 3038 Adams Ave., 619-794-0358,

Filter Coffee House in Hillcrest is closing its doors Dec. 24. (Facebook) Citing escalating rents, crime and a general malaise that has crept into the Hillcrest business community, Steve Price of Filter Coffee House recently announced in an email to community leaders and local media that he is closing the University Avenue business Dec. 24. The coffee shop, which was established originally in North Park, moved to its existing location more than six years ago and served as a hub for various arts groups, students, and LGBT organizations, which included Pozabilities. In thanking his staff and customers for their longtime support, Price concluded by stating: “… as everything, Filter has run its course.” 1295 University Ave., 619-299-0145. —Frank Sabatini Jr. can be reached at

Seared ahi at 57 Degrees in Middletown (Photo by Russ Kindom) Locals and their friends or family members arriving into town via San Diego International Airport are entitled to a glass of beer or wine at half off the regular price at 57 Degrees if they show their boarding passes at the bar. Located in Middletown, the spacious establishment also recently introduced several new fall-winter dishes by New Orleans native, Esteff DeFelice. They include fried green tomatoes, sesame-crusted seared ahi, PEI mussels, and house-made chocolate mousse. 1735 Hancock St., 619-234-5757,


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2016 REVIEW community making the list. Otherwise, outside of FilmOut San Diego making the top 10 twice, the types of stories that seem to interest our readers are all over the map. Enjoy.


“FilmOut’s LGBT festival taking shape” [Issue 7, April 1]

Online: This story, written two months in advance of the 18th annual FilmOut San Diego LGBT Film Festival that took place in June, summarized what film lovers could expect from this year’s festival. Contributing editor Ken Williams identified which films — out of 900 reviewed by the FilmOut team — made the festival cut. He also shared some of the plotlines of those being screened; details regarding how the weekend would roll out, including special events and featured films; and what the various costs to attend were. Shared widely on social media, it generated a good buzz for the festival, and helped make it one of their most successful to date. As a disclaimer, Williams also serves on the board of FilmOut and is the editor of our sister paper, San Diego Uptown News.


“Change agents” [Issue 14, July 8]

restrictions placed on bar-goers were frowned upon by the impatient and inconvenienced, overall, we knew we were protected and felt safe. In addition, openly gay Sgt. Daniel Meyer is the LGBT Community Liaison Officer for SDPD. His assistant, Officer Christine Garcia, is the first transgender police officer within the department. Together the two stand tall and represent us within and outside of the department, in a myriad of ways. This is their story.


“Gay News Briefs” [Issue 3, Feb. 5]

Online: High on the list was a series of our news briefs, which started with a short story sharing information about the upcoming celebration of life for popular bartender Cory Dalton. Before his untimely death, Dalton had worked at Rich’s Nightclub and The Loft for many years and had also written a popular column in the old Gay & Lesbian Times newspaper in the 1990s. This news bit announcing the memorial probably served as the first announcement of Dalton’s death to many in the community, causing it to be shared widely over social media.


“Labor of love” [Issue 18, Sept. 2]


Online: There is no doubt why this ranked No. 2. In the wake of the tragic shooting at the Pulse Nightclub in Orlando, Florida, just one month before our San Diego Pride celebration, San Diego Police Chief Shelly Zimmerman took immediate action. She brought LGBT community leaders and bar owners together to outline how everyone could best keep our LGBT community safe. While some of the new

Our fourth most-read story, by contributing writer Dave Fidlin, was about the owners of Industrial Grind Coffee, Barbara Jeanine and Kathy Hansen, a local lesbian couple who are both retired from the military after juggling their long careers through the ban on LGBT service, prior to and during “don’t ask, don’t tell.” Fidlin’s feature explained how the two transitioned from their Navy careers to their bustling coffee and bakery business. Hansen and Janine make all of their own coffee — one of their biggest selling coffees is called Chief’s Blend,

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trodden neighborhood. Contributing writer Catherine Spearnak checked in on the quirky and fun little City Heights neighborhood — with its 16 treenamed streets — to see how it is doing today and spoke to some of its long-time residents about the work they did to turn their homes and yards around.

“The spectacular Donny Osmond” [Issue 2, Jan. 22]

Online: When I heard that Donny Osmond was coming to town, I have to admit I was giddy at the thought I might get the chance to interview him. When that day came I was just as giddy, but I decided, since this would be a story for Gay San Diego, that in between the swoon I would make sure to not ignore the elephant in the room: Mormons had recently made a very public announcement regarding how same-sex couples — even those who now were able to be legally married — were viewed within the church. Donny, the consummate professional, answered each of my questions with compassion and concern, and didn’t shy away from any of them. I received many letters from his fan clubs across the world thanking me for digging a little deeper than is often the case. It was my pleasure to speak to him; hell, I grew up with the guy, and every time he said my name my heart jumped as I smiled a big grin.


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“Azalea Park: Still gay after all these years” [Issue 20, Sept. 30]

Online: Azalea Park has been courting the gays for decades with its annual parade contingent and festival booth during San Diego Pride weekend. Since moving in, the gays redeveloped the area one house at a time, bringing up the property values in the once-down-




‘‘‘Kiss Me, Kill Me’ top winner at FilmOut festival” [Issue 13, June 24]

Online: FilmOut again found itself in the Top 10, with contributing editor Ken Williams summarizing all the films and actors that took home the big wins from the board and attendees of the 2016 festival. The top three films were “Kiss Me, Kill Me,” “Downriver” and “Upstairs Inferno,” the gripping documentary about the 1973 fire that ravaged an LGBT bar and former Metropolitan Community Church gathering place located in New Orleans’ French Quarter, killing 32.


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“Getting all dolled-up” [Issue 1, Jan. 8]

Online: There is an old joke in our community about lesbians bringing a U-Haul on their second date — but that also explains why we can’t sustain bars — once we’re hitched, we like to stay home and nest. If you think back on our community and its bar culture, you will remember that gay men’s bars, which have historically outnumbered lesbian bars 15-1, are often around for decades, while lesbian bars come and go. What does work for women is a monthly dance — and do they ever come out for that — and in large numbers. The “Girls Night Out” dances, produced by Sally Hall at The Rail on the second Saturday of each month, have seen attendance top out at nearly 600, but regularly see a minimum of 300 attendees every month. This article shared what makes these dances tick.

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This was my inspiring story about three-time world champion long board surfer and activist Cori Schumacher deciding to run for City Council in Carlsbad, after taking part in the successful campaign against that city’s Measure A, which put a stop to a 27-acre shopping and entertainment development on the shore of Aqua Hedionda’s south shore. The story won second place for feature stories at the San Diego Press Club awards. Schumacher won a spot on the City Council, by the way, making her the first Democrat in 50 years and the first-ever member of the LGBT community to serve.

#WeAllMatter” 10 “Editorial: [Issue 4, Feb. 19] Online: Published on the heels of a popular guest editorial titled “Straight behavior in gay bars,” this was the story of what happened to me one night — a lesbian who has been part of this local community since the late 1980s — while out with four gay male friends after we stepped into a place that is known as a men’s cruise bar and one that is clearly predominately male, but that women do frequent. We received a lot of response, both for and against me. A good read, nonetheless.

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Cover image: (clockwise from top left) Barbara Jeanine and Kathy Hansen of Industrial Grind Coffee; Rev. Troy Perry in an emotional scene from “Upstairs Inferno,” one of FilmOut’s award-winners; Gale Harold in a scene from “Kiss Me, Kill Me,” FilmOut 2016’s featured opening night film; Cori Schumacher (foreground) marching against Carlsbad’s Measure A; Donny Osmond; (l to r) Police Officer Christine Garcia and Sgt. Daniel Meyer are the SDPD’s LGBT Liaison Officers; Cory Dalton; ladies enjoy the monthly “Girls Night Out.”



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PARTY DIPS Roasted butternut squash hummus with cumin-toasted pumpkin seeds —Chris Walsh, Hillcrest, executive chef for California Cuisine Catering •1 to 1 1/2 pounds butternut squash, peeled, seeded and cubed •1 can of garbanzo beans, drained and rinsed •10 garlic cloves, two raw and finely chopped, and 8 roasted •1/4 cup of tahini •Juice of one lemon •Extra virgin olive oil •A handful of shelled pumpkin

seeds •A few thinly sliced radishes •Dash of cumin •Salt and white pepper to taste Toss the cubed squash in olive oil, salt and white pepper until lightly coated. Bake on a cookie sheet at 350 degrees for 20-25 minutes, until slightly browned. Add to food processor with the garbanzo beans, garlic cloves, lemon juice and tahini. Puree until smooth. Then in a skillet, briefly toast the pumpkin seeds in a little olive oil and a pinch or two of cumin. Remove from pan and let cool before placing them over the hummus with the radishes. Best dippers: Halved mini sweet bell peppers and pita bread

Layered goat cheese dome

—Sarah Bennington, Hillcrest, database architect •8 ounces of low-fat cream cheese •3 ounces of Chevre (goat cheese) •2 cloves of minced garlic •1 teaspoon of thyme •1 cup of basil pesto (homemade or store-bought) •1 jar of roasted red pepper strips Line a bowl measuring four to five inches in diameter with plastic wrap. Layer the bottom with the peppers, then the cheeses and pesto. Repeat until the layers reach the top of bowl. Cover and chill for at least two hours. On a serving dish, turn bowl upside down and remove the dip and wrap. Best dippers: Crackers, tortilla chips or pretzels

“French Bitch” Ham and Gruyere Dip

Butternut squash hummus dip (Photo by Chris Walsh)

—Danny Wright, San Carlos, retail supervisor •7 ounces of sour cream •1/2 teaspoon Dijon mustard •3 ounces of cooked, lean ham, finely diced •3 ounces of Gruyere cheese, finely grated •1 tablespoon of fresh parsley, chopped •3/4 teaspoon of ground black pepper Thoroughly mix the sour cream and mustard in a bowl. Add the ham and cheese and combine well. Stir in the parsley and black pepper. Cover and chill for at least one hour.

Green onions rise to the occasion in this simple chip dip. (Photo by Frank Sabatini Jr.) Best dippers: Small crusty bread rolls, sliced cucumbers or carrot strips.

Baked sweet onion and artichoke dip

—Brendetta Gentry, Allied Gardens, restaurant management •16 ounces of cream cheese •8 ounces of grated Parmesan cheese •1/4 cup of diced sweet onions •1 cup of chopped artichoke hearts •1 cup of mayonnaise Combine all ingredients and transfer to a 1-quart Corningware casserole dish or the equivalent of, and bake at 350 degrees for about 20 minutes until lightly browned on top. Best dippers: Cubed French bread or crackers

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—Yours truly, Mission Valley, food columnist for SDCNN •1 pint of sour cream •3/4 packet of Laura Scudders •Green Onion Dip Mix •3 tablespoons of finely chopped green onions, the white and green parts •2 cloves of minced, raw garlic (or 1/2 teaspoon of garlic powder) •3/4 teaspoon of black pepper Combine all ingredients in a glass or ceramic bowl and stir well. Cover and chill overnight or for at least two hours. Garnish the top with additional chopped green onions. Best dippers: Ridged potato chips, red bell pepper strips or celery sticks —Frank Sabatini Jr. can be reached at


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Woman of the Year: Barbra Blake

Blake grew up in Boston, Massachusetts. Just like Whitburn, she decided to move to the West Coast after a short visit to San Diego while on vacation. In the 1980s, she graduated from UC San Diego with a degree in molecular biology. Due to the timing of her graduation and the imminent needs of her new professional field in addressing a new, harrowing epidemic, she soon began her career in research with a major biotech company; focused on HIV and diagnostics. It was also at that time she became involved in the local LGBT community, volunteering for San Diego Pride and AIDS Walk, then called Walk for Life, due to the stigma surrounding the acronym “AIDS.” Blake soon met Tim Williams, a gifted and selfless individual who was leading both organizations at the time, for little pay. “Tim and I became fast friends and before I knew it, I was in his apartment every night and every weekend, working on these two events,” Blake said. “We got very little sleep and did very little else … and we loved it.” The following year, Williams disclosed to Blake that he had AIDS, fostering within Blake an even more fervent dedication to both him and his causes. “During that year, I spent much of my free time with Tim, sealing envelopes, painting signs, mapping out the festival, writing press releases and anything else to help Tim with the organizations,” Blake explained. “But Tim became more and more ill, causing both organizations to begin searches for a new executive director.” As her friend continued to succumb to the disease and searches for his replacements came up dry, Blake eventually moved the headquarters of both organizations into her own home and took them over herself. “I continued to work in biotech by day, and work and play with Pride and AIDS Walk at night and on weekends. It was truly a labor of love,” she said. A year later, she finally stepped away from biotech and ran the two nonprofits full time for the next five years; eventually putting San Diego Pride in other able hands and continuing to build AIDS Walk, before returning to science — and UCSD — in 1998. For the next 15 years, Blake served in various executive leadership positions across a wide spectrum at the university, enhancing her knowledge and skills, and informing her political awareness and business expertise. “I witnessed the need for every organization or business to remain innovative to reach sustainable success and remain relevant,” she said. While Blake retired in 2013, she continued to work as a consultant and mentor, keeping her passions alive, and a few months later got a call about the GSDBA’s open position. While initially hesitant, she said she was intrigued and had long considered a return to her

community and the nonprofit sector. Blake would soon replace interim CEO Michelle Burkhart, brought in to replace Tom Luhnow, who had been removed by the board earlier in the year. Within the first few months onboard, Blake said she identified three of the major contributors to GSDBA’s decline: the recession; the explosion of social media and its impact on business and consumer communications; and the cumulative effect of the LGBT community’s social and political progress since the organization was founded in 1979. In short, she assessed, the nonprofit was operating under an outdated model and needed to take what she thought was its sound membership and historic data and move forward with the times. “Today’s chamber of commerce, LGBT or otherwise, needs to serve as an economic pillar in its community,” Blake said. “This was our starting point; at the core of our strategic plan would be the expansion of GSDBA’s mission to include not only business ownership and success, but also LGBT consumer awareness and activism, a perfect means by which our businesses could reach more customers. GSDBA could best serve its members by becoming a business community of purpose.” With LGBT buying power across the U.S. estimated at $884 billion in 2014, Blake and the board sought to uncover the means to increase GSDBA’s relevancy. Unexpectedly, during the planning process for a revitalization of the programs and services avail-

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able to their members, they realized the information at the core of their organization — the historical and membership data — was in a shambles. Their launch came to a screeching halt. In Blake’s own words, the GSDBA suddenly went into an “involuntary quiet period” as they crunched resources to rebuild the entire database and website from scratch while still providing basic services to keep membership on board. Only today are they seeing a light at the end of the tunnel and 2017 is poised to be one of great renewal for the organization. “Repairing and revitalizing GSDBA has taken an army of board members, committee members, long-time members, BNG [business networking group] members, new members, former members, a handful of staff and interns, the moral support from almost every major LGBT organization and leader in town, the public support of the mayor and Todd Gloria, the guidance of the National Gay & Lesbian Chamber of Commerce and countless boosts of confidence from many long time active members of our community.” During that “quiet time,” the organization was productive despite staff shake-ups and a lack of resources and it can now boast the following: a robust member-to-member information system; a dynamic web and mobile presence; a series of new member-only programs, including Chamber to Chamber Networking events that will expand their reach throughout San Diego County; and smaller events for members who enjoy similar activities.

They are also beta-testing San Diego’s first and only LGBT Job Board, which exclusively promotes LGBT friendly and safe work environments. They are also about to launch the LGBT Health & Wellness Referral Network (HWRN), the country’s first program to mandate training as a component of inclusion in the network. The last two years have been a lot of hard work and the job certainly ended up being a bigger challenge than Blake originally expected it to be, but she said she is empowered by the results and her recent Nicky Award gave her an additional boost. “When I look at the little statue sitting on my desk, I see it as representing the unfailing support, constructive criticism and positive feedback the board and I receive everyday from current members,” Blake said. “[I see] the steady increase in new members who share our vision and values, the growing partnerships with other chambers and corporate sponsors, GSDBA’s increased visibility within the larger San Diego business community and major employers, and the overwhelmingly positive response we have received from the LGBT consumer community. “This little statue represents the hard work of many, many people who believe in and are committed to GSDBA’s future,” she said. To learn more about the GSDBA and its membership benefits, visit —Morgan M. Hurley can be reached at

Center events attheCenter holiday hours

tuesday, Jan. 3

The Center will be closed Friday, Dec. 23 through Monday, Dec. 26. Regular hours resume on Tuesday, Dec. 27. The Center will be closed again Friday, Dec. 30 through Monday Jan. 2. Regular hours resume on Tuesday, Jan. 3.

Community Food Bank

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Young Men’s Discussion Group

7:30 pm, the Center

9-10:30 am, the Center The San Diego LGBT Community Center hosts a distribution site once a month for the Community Cares Project of the San Diego Food Bank. On the first Tuesday of every month visit The Center’s parking lot for emergency food. For more information, visit the San Diego Food Bank website at

Wednesday, Jan. 4

Guys, Games & Grub 6 pm, the Center

Connect to The Center and the community. Join other 18-35 year olds to talk about relationships, sexual health, activism, community building and more. The young men’s group meets at The Center on the 4th Tuesday of the month at 7:30 pm. For more information, contact aaron heier at 619.692.2077 x211, or

This is a fun, free monthly social event designed for men – where everyone is welcome. Join us at The Center on the first Wednesday of each month for free pizza, beer, wine, soft drinks, games, prizes and more. A donation of $5 is suggested to support men’s programming at The Center. Bring friends or come alone and meet new friends! For more information, contact aaron heier at or 619.692.2077 x211. The San Diego LGBT Community Center 3909 Centre Street • 619-692-2077 Twitter: @LGBTCenter


What’s Going to Happen to Health Care? In 2017, the healthcare system inside California isn’t going to change. You will still be required by law to purchase health insurance. And federal subsidies will still help pay for the insurance if you qualify. 2017 will bring around a new president, but any changes to the healthcare system won’t go into effect until 2018. What’s going to change after 2017? I have absolutely no idea. At a national level, I imagine there will be significant changes to the kinds of money funneled into the healthcare system. But repealing all aspect of the Affordable Care Act will be very, very, very difficult. So, some aspects of the law aren’t going to be undone easily - like refusing coverage to anyone with pre-existing conditions. On the state level, I hope our state lawmakers will create a system that mimics the Affordable Care Act beyond 2017. If you’ll recall, before the ACA, Massachusetts had universal health care created by Mitt Romney. The Massachusetts plan is a good example of how a state can successfully run a universal health care program without the federal government. And Covered California (our state’s ACA marketplace) is very successful in helping Californians access health insurance. What about “Repeal and Replace”? A significant number of people who voted for the new president did not cast a vote solely because of his promise to repeal and replace the healthcare system. Although it may have been a common phrase used during the campaign, there’s evidence that most voters want affordable, universal healthcare. Keep in mind, the original cry was to “repeal” Obama’s law. Then, it magically became “repeal and REPLACE.” Once voters have had a taste of affordable health insurance, it’s tough to take it away. Especially if the politicians want to keep their jobs in 2018. How Do I Buy Insurance? There are three primary options for buying health insurance. And the cost is the same. The difference is the difficulty in understanding your options. You can call the health insurance carriers directly. And to compare prices, you’d have to call all the companies offering ACA plans in San Diego County. You can call Covered California directly and speak to a call center representative. Or you can use a broker (like me) who will remain your health insurance agent throughout the entire year. Again, no difference in cost. I suggest you call a friendly, licensed agent (like me) who can remain a resource for you in 2017. And beyond.

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Good things come to those who are Megan Mullally “Will & Grace” star on real-life lesbian advances, James Franco’s pubes and Karen Walker’s return Chris Azzopardi | Q-Syndicate Tip one back for Megan Mullally, who’s making a move to the big screen in “Why Him?” after a drove of indie roles, including gay-affirming mom Mrs. Van Camp in 2013’s “G.B.F.,” and a variety of TV stints. But when it comes to the small screen, it was the 58-yearold actress’s eight-year role on the groundbreaking late ’90s NBC sitcom “Will & Grace” — as quippy, martini-swigging socialite Karen Walker — that changed Mullally’s life as much as it changed ours. So, honey, sit back and catch up on all things Mullally. She has a lot to say about that time a female coworker attempted to seduce her, crushing on “the gayest person in the world,” witnessing “100 percent” of James Franco’s butt crack and the likelihood of a “Will & Grace” reboot. (Chris Azzopardi | CA) There are a lot of gays who’d like to chat with you, so I feel very lucky. (Megan Mullally | MM) I love it. You can say, “Oh my god, she was really boring.” (CA) “Why Him?” centers on the awkward situation of bringing home someone your parents are likely to dislike. Have you ever brought a controversial boyfriend home to your parents? (MM) My first boyfriend in college, Brad. My father was an arch-conservative and Brad subscribed to the communist newspaper, so that was not cute. [Laughs] My father wasn’t too thrilled about Brad. (CA) You’re saying he had a “why him?” moment? (MM) Yeah … and then some. (CA) Having you and James Franco in a movie together is basically a match made in gay heaven. He has quite the gay resume. (MM) That’s funny. I never thought about that! But yeah, totally. (CA) I guess you didn’t have a chance to compare your queer credentials. (MM) No, but I’m familiar with straight James, gay James, all of that. I mean, I know him. We got along very well, James and I. Maybe there was something in the air … the gays brought us together. (CA) As someone I consider to be a guru of all things gay, were you able to determine what it is about James that appeals to the LGBT community? (MM) I think because he kind of flirts with them. [Laughs] I mean, he’s very cute. That doesn’t hurt. (CA) And in the movie, shirtless. (MM) He’s also pantsless! His butt crack was 100 percent showing — and, like, a little bit of pubes. (CA) What was it like shooting those scenes? (MM) Um, it wasn’t horrible. I

(left) Megan Mullally, who played the sassy Karen Walker in “Will & Grace,” said she has been “really lucky” for all the roles she’s had since the popular sitcom ended (Photo by Scott Garfield); (above) Rumor has it that the ground breaking TV series will return this year. (Facebook)

was actually a little embarrassed when I walked on the set the first time and was like, “Oh my. Wow. OK.” [Sings Bing Crosby] “Getting to know youuuuu.” So yeah, that happened. (CA) You were raised in Oklahoma City. Before you became immersed in the gay community through living in West Hollywood and starring on “Will & Grace,” what was your introduction to it? (MM) Oh, that’s funny. A couple of things: I did my first summer stock musical when I was 12. I also did another summer stock when I was 14 and I had the biggest crush on this guy named Tommy who was in the ensemble and played a small part. He was the cutest blonde boy in the world and I just could not understand why he didn’t really pay very much attention to me. [Laughs] We were really good friends, always hanging out. But I was very naïve. Later I was like, “Ohh, wait. Totally the gayest person in the world.” Around that same era, there was a woman who was also somehow involved in this summer stock. She was gay and I used to go to her apartment and she would get me high. I remember one time I fell out of the chair, I got so high. I, like, hobbled over out of the chair and she thought it was hilarious. So yeah, she was gay and I thought, “Gosh, she really likes me,” and it dawned on me that she probably thought I was pretty cute, but she never made a pass at me. Even later, when I was 20 or 21, I was doing this musical in Chicago. [Screenplay writer] Pat Resnick wrote the book to the musical and we were doing it in Woodstock before we moved it

into downtown Chicago. There was one night she and the other writers in the musical were all running house together and we were having a party. They said, “Pat wants to talk to you — she’s upstairs.” I go upstairs, and I was just wandering down the hall and there’s this open doorway, and there was nothing in the room but a mattress on the floor and a red lightbulb and the light is on. So it’s a red light and she’s laying on the mattress and she wasn’t, you know, a knock-down, drag-out beauty or anything like that. She literally patted the mattress and was like, “Sit down.” She said, “Megan, have you ever kissed a woman before?” And I was like, “No.” And she said, “Do you want to?” And I said, “Nooo.” (CA) But you have kissed a woman before, right? (MM) I have. And I did like it. Maybe she tried to or something happened or I broke away. She just wasn’t the one for me. [Laughs] Later, when it happened, I thought it was quite cute. Different situation, different girl. Better. (CA) There’s no denying the influence of “Will & Grace” on generations of LGBT people. For you, what does it mean to hear stories from LGBT people who saw themselves being represented on a barrier-breaking TV show that cultivated visibility? (MM) Words can’t really describe what it means to me. All you really hope to do, if you’re a performer and if you’re not an asshole, if you’re coming from a really legitimate, sincere place, is to have a positive impact. So, to have been a part of a show that actually not only helped people

come out to their parents, or to come out period, or to not feel like they were alone — much less in the larger view and maybe, possibly even contributing to an awareness and an acceptance that has resulted in all the strides that have been made, especially gay marriage. I’m not saying “Will & Grace” is responsible for gay marriage [laughs]; I’m saying that maybe there was an element that helped in some way. (CA) When accepting other roles, did you ever say to yourself, “If it’s not as good as Karen, I’m not taking it”? (MM) Yeah, and it never is, but you have to work. I feel like I’m really lucky to have gotten a lot of the things that I’ve done since “Will & Grace.” I have “Why Him?,” but I also did four other indie movies this year that I really liked. Smaller parts. And just a lot of weird TV shows I’ve done: “Children’s Hospital” and “Party Down,” and Gayle on “Bob’s Burgers.” Obviously, “Parks and Rec.” That role was sort of tailor-made specifically for me, which was great and so fun to do. I mean, rarely is [a role] at the level of a character like Karen, although I think Tammy on “Parks and Rec” is one of those great characters, and Gayle on “Bob’s Burgers” is a great character too. I mean, you don’t always get an eight-year run at it, and that makes a big difference, too. (CA) How many roles came your way that were just like Karen? (MM) I got offered a few, but obviously, I didn’t take any of them. They were just a shadow of somebody trying to write something like that, but I never really took any of those parts. I’ve tried to pick things that I think are well written, basically, and hope that the people involved are really nice and good at their jobs.

(CA) In September, the “Will & Grace” cast reunited on-screen for the first time in 10 years for an election-themed episode that received more than 6 million views on YouTube. And then, recently, you tweeted a pic of yourself and fellow “Will & Grace” stars Sean Hayes, Eric McCormack and Debra Messing eating dessert. Is that what break looks like on the set of “Will & Grace” in 2016? (MM) That was actually over at Sean Hayes’ house, but, I mean ... what are you asking me? [Laughs] (CA) I’m asking you if the show is coming back and if you’re working on new episodes. (MM) Well, OK. All I can say is that there is a very good chance that that might happen. It’s not happening right this second. I mean, we’re not rehearsing or anything like that. But there is a very good chance that something is going to materialize. (CA) My heart wants to jump out of my body right now. (MM) I know. Mine too! But can’t really talk about it or say anything, because you know how it is. (CA) How might a “Will & Grace” revival reflect the strides we’ve made in the LGBT community since the show’s original inception as well as the current political climate? (MM) So speaking theoretically, in a completely made-up world where “Will & Grace” is coming back to NBC for 10 episodes — just in that made-up world — it couldn’t be a better time. [Laughs] I mean, it couldn’t possibly be better timing. I think more so now than even when we started! And who would have ever — I mean, it’s heinous that it’s because Donald Trump is the president-elect. That’s just a

see Interview, pg 19


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Beatles vs. Stones Christmas Show: This musical shootout at the Belly Up Tavern, 143 S. Cedros Ave. in Solana Beach, will match Beatles tribute band Abbey Road against Rolling Stones tribute band Jumping Jack Flash. Doors open at 8:30 p.m. and the show starts at 9 p.m. Tickets are $19 and $21, and may be purchased online at bellyup. com, by phone at 858-481-8140 or at the box office. ‘The Mystery of Love and Sex’: Only two more days to catch Diversionary Theatre’s presentation of “The Mystery of Love and Sex,” a Southern Gothic romantic comedy exploring themes of race, sexuality and secrets of the heart. Recommended for audiences ages 16 and older. 8 p.m. 4545 Park Blvd., #1, University Heights. Visit


Breakfast in North County: Have breakfast with North County LGBTQ Resource Center staff and check out their new digs. Breakfast will be served from 9–11:30 a.m. Take a tour! Their new location is 3220 Mission Ave., Suite #2 in Oceanside. RSVP at Winter White Party: SDPIX presents the Winter White Party with DJ Taj and DJ K Swift at Rich’s San Diego, 1051 University Ave. 10 p.m.-2 a.m. White attire is encouraged. Visit Christmas Eve at the Del: Celebrate Christmas Eve with an elegant Victorian buffet dinner in the Hotel del Coronado’s Crown Room, decorated to celebrate “A Season to Sparkle.” The celebration includes live music, a selection of winter cheeses, fresh seafood, cuts of meat and kids’ specials. Adults, $130; children ages 6-10, $48; children 5 and under, complimentary. For reservations, call 619-522-8490 or visit


Christmas at the Hotel Del: The Hotel del Coronado’s oceanfront Ballroom and the Crown Room will feature traditional holiday buffet dinners decked with all the trimmings. Both rooms will be decorated to celebrate “A Season to Sparkle” and will feature live music. Crown Room: adults, $125; children ages 6-10, $45. Ballroom: adults, $110; children ages 6-10, $43. No charge for children under 5 for either room. For reservations, call 619-522-8490 or visit bit. ly/2hQy5Rv.


Seafood Brunch: Treat yourself to a special New Year’s Day Seafood Brunch at Beerfish, 2933 Adams Ave. Menu includes crab cake benedict, sourdough French toast, smoked salmon, shrimp and grits, and corn meal pancakes. Call 619-363-2337 or visit Editor’s Note: See more events on page 20.

‘A Christmas Carol’: Two performances of this holiday classic remain this season: one at noon and one at 4 p.m. Cygnet Theatre’s presentation of “A Christmas Carol” is based on the story by Charles Dickens. This re-imagined, fully staged production features original new music, creative stagecraft and puppetry, and live sound effects. Plays at Old Town Theatre, 4040 Twiggs St. Call 619-337-1525 or visit


‘How the Grinch Stole Christmas!’: This is the last day to catch The Old Globe Theatre’s presentation of the family favorite “Dr. Seuss’ How the Grinch Stole Christmas!” Featuring the songs “This Time of Year,” “Santa for a Day” and “Fah Who Doraze,” the show has two remaining performances: one at 2 p.m. and the last at 5 p.m. At 1363 Old Globe Way in Balboa Park. Call 619-234-5623 or visit


Port of San Diego Holiday Bowl Parade: About 100,000 spectators are expected to line the parade route to view 28 gigantic balloons, 37 specialty units, four floats and 13 marching bands. The parade starts at 10 a.m. near the County Administration Building south of Grape Street on North Harbor Drive. It proceeds south and ends where North Harbor Drive curves around to meet West Harbor Drive, near Pacific Highway. Harbor Drive from Grape Street to Broadway will be closed from 7:45 a.m. until approximately 11:30 a.m. The annual Bumble Bee Seafoods 5K Run/Walk begins before the parade at 9:45 a.m. on North Harbor Drive near Ash Street. Visit Sister’s Saturnalia: The San Diego Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence invite you to join in their annual Winter Celebration, 6-9 p.m. at the Caliph, 3100 Fifth Ave. This free event will be a gathering to toast the work accomplished in 2016, kick off their Conclave Jubilee Year and re-energize for 2017. To make a donation, visit or


Anderson and Fry at MA4: Nicky Award-winners Andy Anderson and Nathan Fry will perform live at 7-10 p.m. at Martinis Above Fourth, 3940 Fourth Ave. Visit



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DIVAS Anniversary Party: Two-year anniversary party for San Diego DIVAS and DIVOS is set,

with doors at 7 p.m. and the show at 8 p.m. Includes giveaways and surprises. Sponsored by SDPix and Jaegermeister. For table reservations and VIP bottle service, call 619-817-9926. Rich’s San Diego, 1051 University Ave. Hillcrest. Visit Top of the Bay at the Porta Vista: Meet on the fifth floor of the Porto Vista Hotel for Top of the Bay San Diego — the original LGBT happy hour — located on the Ripassi Rooftop with beautiful harbor views. The T-dance starts at 6 p.m. with a social hour, followed by rotating DJs at 7 p.m. Round trip shuttle service is available to and from Rich’s Nightclub in Hillcrest. Attendees also receive a hand stamp good for free entry into Rich’s 10 p.m. to midnight every Friday; ask front desk for hand stamp. Visit


Take the Penguin Plunge: Del Mar lifeguards and community members will celebrate 2017 with a dip in the Pacific Ocean at the Del Mar Lifeguard Tower on 17th Street. Plunge into the new year during Del Mar’s 31st Annual Penguin Plunge at 11 a.m. No wetsuits allowed. Donuts and coffee will be served. Visit bit. ly/2hQYu1V.


Film: ‘Certain Women’: Kristen Stewart, Michelle Williams, Laura Dern and Lily Gladstone star in this film about three women whose paths cross as each tries to define their character and identity in a small Northwestern American town among the open plains. Directed by Kelly Reichardt. Unrated; 107 minutes. Runs Dec. 30–Jan. 5 at Digital Gym Cinema, 2921 El Cajon Blvd. Visit for show times and tickets.


Latin Dance Sampler: This class offered is an opportunity to experience an array of Latin dances in a small, semi-private setting. The dances fall under the Latin dance category in the ballroom world. Styling covers a range of social and showy looks, and is generally for beginner through intermediate abilities. Covers salsa, bachata, cha cha, rumba, bolero, hustle, East Coast swing, West Coast swing, mambo, merengue and samba. Held each Wednesday, 6:15-7 p.m. until May 31. Cori-ography, 1795 University Ave. Call 858-859-2674 or visit bit. ly/2hFAJMf.



‘In the Va Va Voom Room’: Leave your inhibitions at home and try not to blush while viewing this contemporary all-male burlesque. This eclectic one-hour dance concert features a variety of scintillating and dynamic dance styles. Contains adult content. Five performances only, Jan. 5-8. Diversionary Theatre, 4545 Park Blvd., # 101, University Heights. Visit or call 619-220-0097.

New Year’s Eve with Rayvon Owen: “American Idol” season 14 finalist Rayvon Owen headlines the New Year’s Eve celebration at Martinis Above Fourth with a new show featuring his three-piece band. Start the celebration with a party at 5:30 p.m. or the 9 p.m. event with food, drink and entertainment. Includes an array of tray passed hors d’oeuvres and a performance by Owen and his band. Round out the fun with a champagne toast. Tickets available at

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1 “I Love Rock ’n Roll” singer Joan 5 Kinnear of “As Good As It Gets” 9 Pockets stuffed with meat 14 Currency on the Continent 15 Composition of some beds 16 DeBeque in “South Pacific” 17 Hose trouble 18 Jazz singer Anita 19 Muscle Mary’s pride 20 Women placed “I voted” stickers on her headstone 23 First person in Berlin 24 Above, to Byron 25 Sex-toy batteries 26 Three for Sophia 29 Charles Atlas development areas 31 Bug with two homonyms 32 “See you later” 33 They may be kissed or kicked 34 In the public eye 35 Dave Pallone and others 36 City where 20-Across is buried 39 “Billy Elliot” epithet

Tango Festival: The final day for the 2017 San Diego Tango Festival will feature a night-long event: “TangOver Milonga.” Dance the night away with DJ Robin from 8 p.m. to midnight at the Centro Cultural de la Raza in Balboa Park, 2004 Park Blvd. Purchase tickets at the door for $15 each. Call 619-3931974 or visit sandiegotangofestival. com.

42 Stow, as cargo 43 Stonewall disturbances 47 Interjects 48 Green-lights 49 Like foamy heads in a gay bar 50 White or rose alternative 51 Eroded, with “away” 52 Brown’s Sneaky ___ 53 Word on either towel, perhaps 54 This enacted the right to vote for women 58 Comes to an end 60 Singer k.d. 61 Sommer of film 62 Nephew of Donald Duck 63 ___ homo 64 Astringent 65 Prudential rival 66 Will of “The Waltons” 67 Partners of bottoms

1 “Guiding Light” actress Leccia 2 Castratos, e.g. 3 Spreads gossip about 4 It covered Caesar’s Johnson 5 Big balls 6 Trooper’s device 7 Wolfson of Freedom to Marry 8 Writer with a family name? 9 Colombian coins 10 Hacker’s cry 11 Poorly endowed Dickens character? 12 Malt drink 13 Work under Edith Head, perhaps 21 Response to an error in “Do Re Mi”? 22 Regular hangout 27 Genre for Easy-E 28 Shooter in Bruce Weber’s field 30 Workers at the bottom 31 Satellite broadcasts 32 Queer souvenir 34 “Move your ass!” 37 Dressmaker’s need 38 Goofed up

39 Four to Sheehan, usually 40 Dedicated poem 41 Only thing that doesn’t fit in 44 Tragic Shakespearean character 45 Conceive, non-heterosexually 46 Methods for counting queens and other cards 49 Rub the right way 51 Cruising, maybe 52 Homophobe veep-elect 55 Back-row bowling target 56 Spice made from nutmeg 57 Type of market, to the sexually insensitive 58 Patty Hearst’s former org. 59 Foot fetish digit


James Franco (left) and Mullally (second from right) in a scene from the new film “Why Him?,” which will be released Dec. 23. (Photo by Scott Garfield) FROM PAGE 17

INTERVIEW crazy sentence that nobody would have ever thought they’d utter. But having said that, at the same time, that just gives us carte blanche. I think the first rule of any show — and again, we’re speaking hypothetically — is that it be funny and entertaining. I mean, it’s comedy. If you’re doing a comedy, the first rule is that there be good comedy in that comedy show, so that’s the jumping off point. Then, from there — the show was always very topical. For eight seasons, extremely topical — so much so that [director] Jim Burrows was always telling the writers, “Honey, it’s crazy topical — it’s not gonna stand the test of time.” But I just think that’s what the show is. It’s a very topical, current show. We had a gay marriage on “Will & Grace” in 2000/2001. And I was like, gay marriage?! I mean, it was just really early. (CA) Are you saying it was impossible to even think of the concept of gay marriage at the time? (MM) I was like, “Oh my god, I can’t believe it. You’re having two men get married to each other — that is such a great idea.” Because it was just not happening! It wasn’t something! It wasn’t like every weekend, “Oh no, I’m sorry, I have another gay marriage to go to this weekend.” [Laughs] People just weren’t getting gay-married as much at that point. And the whole thrust of that episode was that they were gonna have a wedding even though it wasn’t recognized by any officiant. There wasn’t any paperwork involved. They were gonna get married and honor their relationship and celebrate their love for each other. It was such a beautiful episode. People watching it must’ve been like, “Huh? Two gay people are having a wedding?” It was

early! And the thing is, we had a gay marriage on the show, but it still has to be funny, and so that was one of the episodes where Jack and Karen have one of those famous slap fights. There was still a lot of funny stuff going on. (CA) You were 40 years old when you played Karen on “Will & Grace.” Considering the amount of flak Hollywood gets for being ageist, what does fame feel like in your 40s, when most actresses would say they’d least expect it? (MM) Oh yeah, well, I don’t know because I think I’m a little anomalous in that I’ve always been a late bloomer in everything. I didn’t meet my husband [Nick Offerman] till I was 41, and I didn’t have that kind of career success till I was about that same age: 40, 41. A lot of things have come to me late in life, and it even applies to “Why Him?” I have gotten an actual part in a [major, big-screen] movie at the tender young age of 57! It’s all happening so fast! Hope I don’t get into drugs. [Laughs] It’s just funny: I’ve always been a late bloomer, so that gives me eternal optimism, so I never feel like, “Oh, I’m gettin’ older; I guess everything is gonna stop.” I’m the opposite: “Oh, I’m just getting started.” I really feel like that and also, I don’t really feel very much like a grown up, which is kind of a problem. [Laughs] (CA) I’m really starting to see the similarities between you and Karen Walker. (MM) [Laughs] That’s the thing that I really love about Karen — she has the ability to be very childlike and have a lot of joy. I think she’s a big optimist too, quite frankly. —Chris Azzopardi is the editor of Q Syndicate, the international LGBT wire service. Reach him via his website at and on Twitter (@ chrisazzopardi).t

Mullally (left) plays a mother questioning her daughter’s choice in James Franco (second from right) in “Why Him?,” in theaters Dec. 23. (Photo by Scott Garfield)

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GAY SAN DIEGO Dec. 23, 2016 - Jan. 5, 2017


The Stonewall Citizens’ Patrol, San Diego’s LGBT citizen’s safety nonprofit that works to keep the Uptown streets and communities safe, just reached its 10-year anniversary. To mark this milestone, on Nov. 29, the organization announced the appointment of a new executive director, Sean Redmond, and voted on board members. “By working together and looking out for each other, we can address and resolve problems which will affect lasting change in our community for

all to enjoy,” Redmond said. “Stonewall Citizens’ Patrol is community strong and I’m honored that our board has entrusted me with helping guide the organization as we strive to reach new heights and achieve new goals in the months and years ahead.” Other board members elected to two-year terms on Nov. 29 include Jay Turner (president); Edwin Lohr (vice president); Karen Stone (treasurer); Nestor Lopez (secretary); Kerrie Stone (director of events); Don Mitchell (director of training and community affairs); and Cris Soulia (member-at-large).

Aaron M. Heier (presidentemeritus), who has been active with the organization as both a patrol volunteer and board member since its first year in operation, was also acknowledged at the meeting. The organization was launched in 2006 shortly after a group of concerned citizens decided to respond proactively to a series of assaults on gay men in the community outside the Pride festival grounds on Pride weekend. The name “Stonewall” was chosen to honor those who stood up against violence and brutality at New York City’s Stonewall Inn in 1969. While they conduct themselves with a “hands-off” approach, the organization patrols the streets, focuses on crime awareness and crime prevention, distributes safety whistles, posters and safety tip cards. They do not carry weapons and strictly act as additional “eyes and ears” for the San Diego Police Department and other local emergency response teams. For more information, visit


The GSDBA’s weekly Business Networking Groups

(BNGs) want to “deepen” their relationships with the local LGBT business community. As a result they are launching a recruitment campaign for the first trimester of 2017. All GSDBA members are encouraged to attend a weekly BNG meeting for free during January, February and March, which is normally $40. There are many different BNGs — each with a different focus — to choose from. Once you sign up, a facilitator will contact you to find the best BNG fit. To learn more, visit tinyurl. com/h7huoeq or visit

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