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Volume 7 Issue 21 Oct. 14 - 27, 2016

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The year of the peacock

q DINING Pastor Colby Martin's journey of acceptance and understanding of the LGBT community put he and his wife Katie through heartache but led to eventual redemption in San Diego. His new book shares that story. (Courtesy Colby Martin)

Out of the theological closet Third time is a charm


A local pastor’s journey viewing the Bible through a different lens By Joyell Nevins Be brave! Because you’re a child of God. Be kind! Because everyone else is, too. That is the benediction of every service at Sojourn Grace Collective, a progressive Christian church located

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Turning lives around Stepping Stone gala to celebrate 40 years Morgan M. Hurley | Editor

Idina — on her own.

on Oregon Street in North Park and co-pastored by Colby Martin. Who would have thought that a message offering love, kindness and respect to everyone could be met with animosity? Yet Martin has been fired from other churches — twice. He’s been harangued on social media and berated by other clergy. That negative activity will likely not be stopping soon, either, with the recent release of Martin’s new book “UnClobber: Rethinking Our Misuse of the Bible on Homosexuality.” People on the outskirts, however, whom for many different reasons have been ostracized — sometimes because of their sexuality — by religious society,

A presentation by the San Diego AIDS Memorial Task Force was made at a recent meeting of the Metro San Diego Community Development Corporation (Metro SD CDC). The task force — co-chaired by San Diego’s first lady Katherine Stuart Faulconer and longtime activist and San Diego City Commissioner Nicole Murray Ramirez — has led the charge with raising awareness, fundraising and finding a permanent home for the memorial, which would honor thousands of San Diegans who lost their battle with the disease. “[Today] families don’t have a place to go to remember their loved ones,” said Susan Jester, the representing member of the AIDS Memorial Task Force at the meeting. Jester, along with Katherine Johnston and Jen Lebron, representatives of Mayor Kevin Faulconer’s office, appeared Oct. 10 before the group to give an outline of the AIDS Memorial project, planned to be located in a Bankers Hill park. The Metro SD CDC is a nonprofit that serves the Uptown communities of Bankers Hill/ Park West, Five Points/Middletown and the western slope neighborhoods of Mission Hills.

Throughout 2016, Stepping Stone San Diego (SSSD) has been celebrating its 40th year as the premier LGBT residential drug and alcohol rehabilitation center in San Diego with a series of mini celebrations, all which are about to culminate in one big party. A fundraising gala — called “Live Out Loud” — to celebrate Stepping Stone’s four decades in operation, will take place Oct. 22, 6–10 p.m., at Swiss Park, located at

2001 Main St. in Chula Vista. Longtime executive director Cheryl Houk calls the 40th anniversary a “momentous occasion.” “What started as a small lesbian and gay alcohol and drug recovery home opened by gay men in recovery all those years ago is still operating today and that says a lot about San Diego,” Houk said. “Since 1976, thanks to County of San Diego funding, SSSD has provided services to thousands of LGBT people needing to free themselves from alcoholism and drug addiction. “Right in the midst of those 40 years the AIDS epidemic arrived, taking a huge toll on the gay men’s population and devastating our community,” she continued.

see Stepping Stone, pg 7

(l to r) Board Chair Michael Moore and Executive Director Cheryl Houk are looking forward to Stepping Stone's 40th anniversary gala. (Courtesy SSSD)



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A carnival of creeps

HBA’s ‘Nightmare on Normal’ to take over the streets of Hillcrest Morgan M. Hurley | Editor

Nightmare on Normal Street is back with a creepier feel, an expanded costume contest and more treats for attending tricksters.

A spooky welcome

The annual Halloween block party, presented by the Hillcrest Business Association (HBA), takes place Saturday, Oct. 29, from 6–11 p.m. and spreads out from the intersection of University Avenue and Normal Street in Hillcrest. It will include an outdoor dance party, a costume contest, a fright zone and plenty of live entertainment. “The first 300 guests through the gate will have a complimentary hosted cocktail hour, so they can have as much as they can drink in that first hour,” said Michael Cox, the HBA’s new marketing and member services director. Hired Sept. 12 to fill the gap left by the departure of Megan Gamwell in August, Cox is the first LGBT member of the HBA staff since Lisa Weir moved to Oakland in July 2013. A former marketing consultant, Cox and his Navy husband have lived in San Diego for 18 months, and

he is eager to participate in his first event with the gayborhood’s business improvement group. Cox said this year’s Nightmare on Normal Street will take on a carnival theme, and feature Stoli and Skyy vodkas, with a host of specialty cocktails made just for the event. With creepy clowns making news across the country, Nightmare on Normal will bring themes from Stephen King’s “It” movie — and the Netflix smash hit, “Stranger Things” — to life as the HBA plans to significantly “up” the fright factor this year. “It will definitely be creepier in order to scare people, but very entertaining,” Cox said.

Each contestant will be given a time to prance down the runway and both promptness and punctuality is highly encouraged. Obviously with nearly 100 contestants and multiple categories, it will be a long night, so plan accordingly and hit your mark on time. Two finalists will compete for the grand prize, with secondand third-place winners as well.

Party in the street

Costume contest

The annual costume contest — which has always been a hit, with more than 90 contestants last year — is adding a new category: puppies. Yes, the HBA wants you to dress up your pooch and enter them in the contest. Organizers said if attendees plan to enter the costume contest, they need to visit the box office immediately after arrival and check in to register for the contest. Four local celebrity judges will eliminate contestants via rounds American Idol-style, with three winners per category moving on to the finals. Current

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One of last year's 90 contestants on the catwalk (Courtesy HBA) judges confirmed are City Councilmember elect Chris Ward, Benny Cartwright from the San Diego LGBT Community Center and Michelle Dederko from the San Diego Union-Tribune.

Rich’s Nightclub is once again sponsoring the Main Stage with popular local DJs. The “Creepy Carnival of Curiosity” will include “goofy” carnival games, tarot card readings and magicians. DJs poised to help you prance the night away are DJ K-Swift and DJ John Joseph. Hunger pangs can be mitigated with participating food vendors, including Lotus Thai, NaPIZZA, and the Salt & Lime food truck. General admission tickets are $15 presale and $20 at the gate. VIP tickets — which include a lounge area with comfortable chairs, private stage viewing, complimentary food and drinks, and private restroom access — are $45. Proceeds will be evenly split between the HBA and The San Diego LGBT Community Center. For presale tickets visit For more information, visit —Morgan M. Hurley can be reached at


New haunted tour comes to Hillcrest LGBT Visitor Center to thrill participants with neighborhood’s spooky history Morgan M. Hurley | Editor Sightseeing tours are not new, but each one is unique in its own way; some focus on attractions, others on food or drinking establishments, while others rely on the history of the neighborhoods or region they explore. Hillcrest has a rich and colorful history, and many who live and spend time there have always been enamored by what has come before, whether that be its historical buildings, its journey to becoming San Diego’s gay mecca, or the stories of its businesses, bars and people that have come and gone. Just in time for Halloween, locals can experience a tour that may scare the Beetlejuice out of you, as you walk through the streets of the Hillcrest gayborhood. Eddie Reynoso (aka Eddie Rey), founder of the San Diego

see Haunted Tour, pg 9



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Remembering Kurt By Frank Jones On Oct. 10, 2015, our friend Kurt Cunningham took his own life. Many people could not understand why Kurt would take his life at this particular time, because everything seemed fantastic: His physical health was good and continuing to improve. He had his dream job, a car, a place to live and was reconnecting with his family and friends. Yet he was still unable to be happy ... these are the tenets of depression. Recently a group of Kurt’s friends gathered to commemorate the anniversary of Kurt’s death and there was the consensus among all present that Kurt was passionate, charming and his smile was disarming. Anyone who knew him knew that smile. It could light up a room. You may also remember those looks [he gave], Summer Meadows, his wit, the KPBS appearances, the TLC No Scrubs videos and the neverending banter. We shared stories of our lives with Kurt; the peaceful, quiet poolside interludes, the drag antics in the middle of Hillcrest during the pouring rain, and his passionate and powerful mental health presentations. We also spoke of his activism for trans youth, HIV and mental health issues; the filming of the Ariana Grande cupcake scene during a lunch break; the restau restau-

rants and meals we enjoyed with him; the things that weren’t quite up to par with the Empress; those moments he shared with us when he was hurting and being vulnerable; and the plans we all had with him that never happened. No matter what Kurt did, he left a memorable, lasting impression. While Kurt could be a polarizing figure, he was also loved and revered, and all who knew him in our community would agree he was passionate, driven and wellintentioned in his actions. Kurt was an Empress, a director, business owner, activist, educator, volunteer, friend and a victim of depression. He was very open about his struggles with his illness; the archetype of what a stigma fighter is. He did not want people to be ashamed, because depression is a disease and there is no shame in having a disease. He spoke about it, blogged about it and eventually became Mental Health America San Diego’s LGBTQ+ outreach specialist. He was a fierce advocate and educator, asking everyone, everywhere he went, how they served his community. And if they weren’t, he wanted to know why. Some mental health events in our county were planned only because people could not get Kurt’s remarks out of their minds. His words were powerful. They made people not only think,

The new "Empress Peacock" graphic on a pillow at (Design by Clarione)


Some of Kurt's friends got together this week to remember him: (front row) Caroline Bender, Carrie Christie; (middle) Frank Jones, Coyote Moon, Jane Schmoll (bending), Steve White, Smokey Gonzalez (aka Yvette Ortega), Fernan Balsalubre; (back row) Barb Braasch, Connie Pelletier, Mario Garcia, Courtney Ray (Courtesy Mary Schmoll) but act. Kurt fought hard against his depression for decades. At times putting on a happy face, being charming and endearing. Other times, when his pain was too much to bear, he could be shorttempered and sharp-tongued. Depression hurts. Here is the tragedy: When you are the victim of depression, not only do you feel utterly helpless, you also know that very few people can understand, or even begin to believe, that your life can be that painful. It’s important that everyone understand that Kurt did everything he could to get well; he fought a brave battle. He went to a therapist, had a psychiatrist, used medication, practiced self-care, had a fantastic support network and had a supportive workplace and more, so much more. Depression robbed Kurt of his ability to feel joy on a daily basis. It sucked the life out of him. Kurt did not want to die; he simply wanted the pain to end. He was tired. Kurt does not want others to give up; he wants them to continue to fight and fight and fight some more against this damnable disease. Do it for him, honor him

Kurt Cunningham by never giving up or helping someone you know. Yes, you can live in denial. You can smile your way through your depression — but you don’t have to, because there is help, there is hope, and recovery is possible. #FightInTheOpen and reduce the stigma and shame that oftentimes is associated with #mentalillness. Let’s build on Kurt’s efforts and advocacy; we’re #notashamed to talk about #mentalillness and #mentalhealth!

What would Kurt want us to do? His Jan. 17, 2015 Facebook post sums it up well: “Always leave people better than you found them. Hug the hurt. Kiss the broken. Befriend the lost. Love the lonely.” If you or anyone you know is suffering from depression or any other mental illness, please seek help. You are never alone. If you feel that way, that’s the depression talking, so reach out to someone today. Let’s speak out about #mentalhealth and act #B4Stage4. Check your mood, take a mental health screening at If you would like to commemorate Kurt’s legacy and support the Kurt Cunningham Counseling Services Fund at the San Diego LGBT Community Center, donate directly to Kurt’s fund here: Purchase “Empress Peacock” clothing and accessories (proceeds benefit the Kurt Cunningham Counseling Services Fund) at —Frank Jones was Kurt’s roommate and a close personal friend. t

Know the signs The signs and symptoms of depression are: fatigue; lack of energy; sleeping too much or too little; overeating or loss of appetite; constipation; weight loss or gain; headaches; irregular menstrual cycle; loss of sexual desire; unexplained aches and pains; crying spells; withdrawal from others; neglect of responsibilities; loss of interest in personal appearance; loss of motivation; slow movement; use of drugs and alcohol; sadness; anxiety; guilt; anger; mood swings; lack of emotional responsiveness; feelings of helplessness; hopelessness; irritability; frequent self-criticism; self-blame; pessimism; impaired memory and concentration; indecisiveness and confusion; tendency to believe others see one in a negative light; and thoughts of death and suicide.

24/7 resources are available: National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 800-273-8255 San Diego Access & Crisis Line 888-724-7240 The Trevor Project 866-488-7386 Courage to Call (veteran staffed) 877-698-7838 Crisis Text Line — text MHASD to 741741 For resources and help — call 211

Other resources: Trans Lifeline (for and by trans people) 877-565-8860 San Diego Psychiatric Hospital (walk-in emergency mental health services) 3853 Rosecrans Street, 92110 619-692-8200 Become a certified mental health “first responder” Contact Carrie Christie, Mental Health America San Diego


Kurt, the Peacock Empress (Artwork by Clarione); Clarione illustrated the new children's book with LGBT themes, "A Peacock Among Pidgeons"

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The PTSD experience Life Beyond Therapy Michael Kimmel In the world of psychology, PTSD — post-traumatic stress disorder — is how doctors describe the experience of recovering from trauma. Created in 1980, the term was used to describe soldiers coming back from war: These men and women had often killed people and watched their friends die. Extremely traumatic, right? I would like to posit a slightly different definition of PTSD. I define trauma as “a deeply distressing or disturbing experience.” That certainly is not limited to soldiers coming home from war. I would say that the majority of people I know, myself included, are recovering from some sort of trauma. Trauma need not be dramatic. It can be the end of a relationship, job or friendship. It can be when someone says something to you that is so hurtful that it’s hard to take it in and your mind reels in shock. Trauma can be when your mother or father or best friend dies. Trauma can be when you get a really negative performance review from your boss and it blindsides you. Trauma can be when you best friend moves to Phoenix, Portland or Denver. Trauma can be when you realize that you drink too much, you try to cut back, but discover that you can’t. Trauma can be deep distress and fear about getting older. Trauma can be when it becomes crystal clear to you that you’re bisexual and don’t know what to tell your wife and kids. Trauma can be when someone you’ve long been in-love with, but never told, takes another lover. Trauma can be when you like crystal meth a whole lot more than you wish you did. Trauma can be when your family disowns you because you’re transgender. Trauma is personal; what is traumatic for you may not be so for me (and vice versa). As a psychotherapist, I think that we all are recovering from some kind of trauma. Typically, when someone is diagnosed with PTSD, it is to be expected that they kind of “fall apart.” You know how it is when you have to get through something difficult — the traumatic experience — and you just keep going until you get through it. Then, when the trauma is over, you let yourself fall apart.

It is this falling apart stage that I’d like to talk about. We all fall apart now and then. It’s normal, not abnormal. How do you know when you are in a PTSD mode? You may relive the trauma over and over. I was once fired from a job and kept reliving my termination interview over and over again. I also had bad dreams and frightening thoughts (e.g., that I would never get a job again). Let’s say that your trauma is that your partner ended your relationship. Typical PTSD responses may include: negative self-thoughts and negative feelings like doubt, shame or embarrassment. You may also feel like avoiding situations that remind you of the traumatic event, like staying away from places, events or objects that remind you of your ex. When we are recovering from any kind of trauma, we are often easily startled, feel tense and on edge. We may have difficulty sleeping and are likely to experience emotional (sad or angry) outbursts. When you’re in recovery from any kind of trauma, it may be hard to sleep or concentrate. You may have negative thoughts about yourself, life in general, or a loss of interest in activities that you usually enjoy. This is all normal. You are recovering from something traumatic. Here are some things you can do to help it pass: • Increase your level of selfcare; go out of our way to treat yourself kindly. • Spend time with other people and confide in someone you trust. • Engage in mild physical activity or exercise (you want those endorphins!). • Expect your symptoms to improve gradually, not immediately. • Identify and seek out comforting situations, places and people. Above all, don’t let someone else define what “traumatic” is for you. Each of us has our own experience of trauma. Whatever your trauma is, please help yourself to recover. Try the above suggestions, increase your level of self-care and get professional help if necessary. —Michael Kimmel is a licensed psychotherapist who specializes in helping LGBT clients achieve their goals and deal with anxiety, depression, grief, sexually addictive behavior, coming out, relationship challenges and homophobia. Contact him at 619-955-3311 or visit

(l to r) San Diego's First Lady Katherine Faulconer and City Commissioner Nicole Murray Ramirez, co-chairs of the San Diego AIDS Memorial Task Force, shown on stage at the recent B-52s concert fundraiser. (Facebook) FROM PAGE 1

MEMORIAL Metro SD CDC administrator Leo Wilson had invited the task force to the Oct. 10 meeting, to meet the development group in person. In a meeting last May, the Metro SD CDC had endorsed the preliminary plan to posit the memorial in Olive Park. A small parcel of land within Maple Canyon near the corner of Third Avenue and Olive Street in Bankers Hill, Olive Park is close in proximity to Truax House, the former home of Dr. Brad Truax and the first facility to offer AIDS-related services.

A total of 8,000 people have died in San Diego of AIDS/HIV since the 1980s, Jester said at the Metro SD CDC meeting, adding that San Diego is the only large American city without an AIDS/ HIV Memorial. “The 1980s were like a holocaust situation,” Jester said. “We want to remember that time in our history so that it doesn’t happen again.” Jester founded Walk for Life in 1984, the precursor to what is now called AIDS Walk and Run San Diego. The memorial will come one step closer to being a reality Nov. 1, when the Uptown Planners meet at 6 p.m. at the Joyce Beers Uptown Community Center in Hillcrest listen to plans for the

long-awaited park. Katherine Stuart Faulconer and Nicole Murray Ramirez, co-chairs of the San Diego AIDS Memorial Task Force, were unable to attend the meeting with SD Metro CDC, but will be at the Uptown Planners meeting, which is open to the public. The total project will cost $1.2 million and will take 25 months to build, said Johnston, a planner in the mayor’s office said, at the meeting. The memorial would open to the public by summer 2019. For more information on the AIDS Memorial, visit tinyurl. com/hrgz8cp. To keep up with the AIDS Memorial Task Force, follow them on SDAIDSMemorial.t

events attheCenter thursday, Oct. 20

tuesday, Oct. 25

non-Binary Gender Identity and exploration

Senior Food Bank 1 pm, the Center

7:30 pm, the Center Anyone who identifies with any part of the non-binary gender spectrum or anyone questioning/exploring their gender identity is welcome in this group, where casual social interaction is integrated with more structured discussion. The group meets on the 1st and 3rd Thursdays monthly, from 7:30–8:45pm at The Center. For more information, contact David Vance at or 619.692.2077 x109.

Friday, Oct. 21

Wednesday, nov. 2

Guys, Games & Grub

Free Family Movie night 6:30 pm, the Center Join Families @ The Center at family movie night every third Friday of the month from 6:30-8:30pm. Bring the whole family with sleeping bags or blankets. Enjoy popcorn and snacks while you watch a familyfriendly movie. For more information, contact us at The San Diego LGBT Community Center 3909 Centre Street • 619-692-2077 Twitter: @LGBTCenter

The Senior Food Bank Program provides food and nutrition education to eligible low-income seniors 60 years or older on the 4th Tuesday of the month. Eligible applicants can enroll in the program by applying in person at our site on the day of the event or calling the Jacobs & Cushman San Diego Food Bank at 866.350.3663. For more information, visit or contact Larue Fields at or 619.692.2077 x205.

6-8:30 pm, the Center Guys, Games & Grub is a fun, monthly social event that is popular in the community, and we apologize for the schedule change. Keep an eye on the Center enews and the Men @ The Center Facebook page for details on a special late October social event for The Men @ The Center community. The next regularly scheduled GGG is on for Wednesday, Nov. 2 from 6-8:30 pm in The Center’s Auditorium. For more information call 619.692.2077 or e-mail



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Letters Charity in the right place

[Ref: “Hearts on your sleeve,” Vol. 7, Issue 20, or online at] Great article and congratulations to my good friend Big Mike and his new partner and business. —Nigel Mayer, via

Life in Azalea Park

[Ref: “Azalea Park: Still gay after all these years,” Vol. 7, Issue 20, or online at zd2rojk] Just wanted to thank you for running the “Azalea Park: Still gay after all these years” story by Catherine Spearnak on the front page of the latest Gay San Diego. Our story is ongoing and it’s great when it is remembered outside of the community. Ms. Spearnak did a good job on capturing the first efforts with the cleanups, the infusion of new neighbors with the Pride outreach and the current success that we have with young people like Jake Banfield-Wier and Brandie White simply being attracted to our neighborhood based on seeing a property in a neighborhood that they liked. Many thanks again! —Linda Pennington, via email

see Letters, pg 19

Guest Editorial

Proposition 61 is a bad prescription for Californians By Diane Abbitt You would think that patients, HIV/AIDS and LBGTQ activists would support a proposition that claims to lower prescription drug prices. Yet Proposition 61 on the November ballot is opposed by groups representing physicians, patient advocates and many others because the measure would actually increase state prescription drug costs and make it harder for millions of patients to get the medicines they need. The measure would impose unworkable contracting requirements for some state prescription drug purchases based on prices paid by the U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs. Prominent advocates in the HIV/AIDS and LGBTQ community have opposed Prop. 61, including Cleve Jones, founder of the AIDS Quilt; Hilary Rosen, former chair of the Human Rights Campaign (HRC); Neil Giuliano, former CEO of the

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San Francisco AIDS Foundation and former national CEO of GLAAD; and Peter Staley, AIDS activist and founder of Treatment AIDS Group, among many others. Prop. 61 is authored and almost exclusively bankrolled by Michael Weinstein, president of the AIDS Healthcare Foundation of Los Angeles (AHF). Weinstein is a highly controversial figure in the LGBTQ community because of the positions he’s taken on a number of issues, including referring to the HIV prevention drug PrEP as a “party drug.” AHF generated $800 million in 2015 selling prescription drugs. Interesting to note, while drafting Prop 61, Mr. Weinstein specifically exempted AHF from compliance with its provisions. Weinstein claims his goal is to lower prescription drug prices for the state of California. Yet his organization is currently suing the state of California so it can charge the state more for prescription drugs. His

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lawsuit is blocking a law that would save taxpayers $10 million a year. In addition, in four separate government audits, Weinstein’s organization was accused of overcharging Los Angeles County by more than $6 million. Prop. 61 has some significant negative consequences. It excludes 88 percent of Californians and only applies to 12 percent of residents, including some state government employees and prisoners. For the few programs where Prop. 61 would apply, it would be a disaster. The independent, non-partisan Legislative Analyst’s Office (LAO) found that Medi-Cal’s fee-for-service — currently serving 3 million people, the largest state health care program covered by Prop. 61 — could be hit with higher, not lower, prescription costs, negatively impacting those with HIV/AIDS in the Medi-Cal program. In fact, Project Inform, San Francisco AIDS Foundation, AIDS Project Los Angeles and

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the Los Angeles LGBT Center, all groups serving people living with and affected by HIV and hepatitis C, are officially neutral on the ballot measure, but have raised similar concerns about Prop. 61. They warn that Prop. 61 “could actually increase the price of drugs in a number of public programs, including AIDS Drug Assistance Program (ADAP), Medi-Cal, the VA, and California’s prison system.” If what the LAO suggests happens, patients would also have to go through a cumbersome and bureaucratic prior approval process before receiving certain medications, delaying or even preventing patients from receiving the medicines they need. That’s why the California Medical Association, representing 41,000 doctors in the state, opposes Prop. 61. They said Prop. 61 would “interfere with patient access to the medicines they need.” Similarly, CalPERS, which provides retirement and health

care benefits to California state government workers, raised red flags, citing, “decreased access to certain drugs for CalPERS members” and “increased administrative costs” under Prop. 61. And the Department of Veterans Affairs warns that Prop. 61 could increase costs to the VA by $3.8 billion annually which would ultimately increase costs or reduce care for our nation’s veterans. With so many active duty and retired military in our region, Prop. 61 would be bad news for San Diego. That’s why the Veterans of Foreign Wars (VFW)’s Department of California and more than other 20 veterans groups in California all oppose Prop 61. We are all concerned about health care costs, including drug prices, but Prop. 61 isn’t the solution. —Diane Abbitt is the first cochair of AIDS Project Los Angeles and former president of Equality California.t

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STEPPING STONE “SSSD was hit particularly hard by AIDS and it took the lives of many residents as well as staff.” Houk, who left the organization in 2006, returned last year after nearly a decade, to much fanfare. So far 30 of the 35 available tables at the gala have already been purchased, with most of those individuals having deeply-rooted connections to the place they fondly call “The Stone.” As a result, Live Out Loud will be like a reunion of sorts. “Because there has been such a long tradition of people who have gone through Stepping Stone and able to get their lives back, a lot of times they like to have the opportunity to come back see the people they went through the program with, thank the staff that may have been involved, or just be able to celebrate an organization that was a big part of a point in their life,” said Michael Moore, Stepping Stone board chair. And people are coming from far and wide to honor that connection. “We have one person — who I’d never seen his name before — and he’s getting one of our VIP tables,” Moore said. “He said it was a really special year for him to come back because he is celebrating 20 years sobriety after Stepping Stone, and he had been a staff member later on as it turns out. “He is coming back with a group of people from San Francisco.” After a number of very shaky years, the organization has made a complete turnaround — much like its mission for others — and Moore is said to be one of the reasons for that transformation. Since Moore took over as board chair in 2015, fundraising is at an all-time high. “We’re in a remarkably different situation than we were a year ago,” he said. “Outside of 40 years of celebrating, this has been one of our largest years of fundraising since they did the capital campaign for the new building [in 2001]. So it has helped us get a lot of stability back into the organization.” Another reason things turned around so quickly was the muchcelebrated return of Houk, who returned to the position last November after some coaxing by Moore. “Obviously Cheryl coming back was a huge help,” Moore said. “She brings back a lot of confidence in the community and just a lot of really good, skilled leadership,” Moore said. “She just loves to be back, you can just see it,” he said. “Each time I see her you can just tell she is back in her element and really loves it.” Moore said their newfound stability is also a result of their many dedicated donors. The organization raised a total of $165,000 in fiscal 2015, which ended in June. That not only puts them on even footing, but he said it gives them a “comfortable reserve” for the first time in years and a solid cushion “that will help the organization as it moves forward.” “As a board we feel very proud of it,” he said. And that couldn’t come at a better time, with four decades

(insert) Leslie Jordan, who has longtime ties with Stepping Stone, will host the 40th anniversary gala. (Photos courtesy SSSD)

worth of current and former residents, staff, board members, clients and donors soon descending upon Swiss Park, an outdoorindoor banquet facility. Both Houk and Moore said the dedicated staff are also a big part of the celebration and deserve thanks. “They are the ones that day to day that make sure that the services that the clients are getting are the best available,” Moore said. Live Out Loud will start at 6 p.m., with a carnival atmosphere out on the lawn, Moore said. Magicians and illusionists will roam the grounds, creating a carnival mood while attendees mingle and social-

ize, play games, ride a giant Ferris Wheel, take photos with friends and bid on silent auction items. At 7:30 p.m. the party will move inside and the official gala program will begin. Dinner will be served — beef, chicken and a vegetarian option —followed by several different speakers, special alumni and staff chosen from throughout the years who will talk about what Stepping Stone did for them, where they are now and share their overall experiences. Longtime volunteer and former staff member Alice Henry will present the inaugural “Alice and Ross Service Award.” The award was first dedicated to Henry and her husband Ross in June at a tile ceremony. Ross passed away a few weeks later.

Following Alice will be remarks from the board and then the host of the evening, Leslie Jordan, will take the stage. Jordan has longtime ties with Stepping Stone, having performed and shared his journey several times over the years, and Moore said it “made sense” to have him at the 40th anniversary celebration. Nearly 40 volunteers will be on hand to put the event together, including local residents who work for the Title Sponsor, Foresters Financial. “That’s a pretty exciting thing,” Moore said. “They are very new to us in terms of being a sponsor. They were really interested in reaching out to the LGBT community and were drawn to Stepping Stone and its overall

mission. So we ended up being an organization they wanted to start a partnership with and the gala is the first part of that, but we’re really excited.” Thanks to all their generous sponsors, 100 percent of proceeds from the event will go to Stepping Stone programs and services. Live Out Loud takes place Oct. 22, starting at 6 p.m. at Swiss Park in Chula Vista. Tickets to the carnival and dinner and entertainment are $125. A cash bar will be available. Cocktail or business style attire is requested. For more information including tickets, visit —Morgan M. Hurley can be reached at

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The San Diego Human Dignity Foundation, the longstanding philanthropic organization that has served the local LGBT community since 1996, is in the middle of a financial shake-up. On Oct. 7, the nonprofit hired an independent certified public accountant to review its books and “conduct a thorough and careful review of the organization’s financials.” The organization also cancelled its annual Aston-Brooks gala, which had been on the calendar and promoted for December, with Lea DeLaria of “Orange is the New Black” as the headliner. “The Board of Directors regards its responsibility to protect the Foundation’s operating income and assets seriously,” said Joselyn Harris, board president of SDHDF in a press release announcing the audit. “Therefore, we are imposing strict cost cutting measures which include placing on hold some foundation projects to address a shortfall in fundraising income.” The board plans complete transparency and integrity during the process, stating that they will plan to provide information whenever it is available in the coming weeks as they move forward as well as details on any actions they take. “The Board of Directors did not make these decisions lightly or hastily,” Harris stated in the release. “We are committed to continuing the mission of the Foundation — to fund programs and projects that promote equal treatment, tolerance, wellness, well-being, and human dignity.” Four days later, the organization made another big announcement; Roderick Reinhart, former board president, had taken over as interim executive director, replacing longtime former executive director John Brown. A press release stated that Reinhart, who is retired, previously served on the SDHDF board from 2002-06 and as president in 2003 and 2004. He originally got involved at the behest of the late Bill Beck, one of SDHDF’s founders, soon after its launch. “It is an honor for me to once again provide leadership services to the San Diego Human Dignity Foundation,” Reinhart stated in the press release announcing his emergency appointment. “The organization is very near and dear to my heart.” Community leaders lauded Reinhart’s return in the release, and Harris stated the board was grateful for the community’s support “in this time of delicate transition.” According to the press release, Reinhart’s first tasks will to “assess the Foundation’s financial strength and stability,” and renew fundraising activities. For more information, visit


HAUNTED TOUR LGBT Visitor Center, located at 502 University Ave. inside Creative Crossroads, is one of the many enamored with Hillcrest. “I am fascinated by history and I see gayborhoods around the nation undergoing massive changes,” Rey said. “I’d like to help cement our history as an LGBT community for future generations and one of the most effective ways of doing that is by re-telling our history.” Rey has launched the “Hauntseeing Tour” and he hopes to endear even more people to the haunted side of Hillcrest’s history — with all its frightening details — for three nights this month leading up to Halloween. In fact, Rey expects you to be so scared, he wants you to sign a waiver. While originally inspired by his travel to other cities and

Each participant on the "Hauntseeing tour" will receive a lantern. (Photo by Eddie Rey)

more recently by the Lambda Archives daytime LGBT history tours — see our calendar for date and times for the next one — Rey has been further inspired by spooky occurrences taking place at the building where he works. Products being knocked off shelves; things falling off the wall; door alarms going off when no one is there; and more. The “Hauntseeing tour” is a two and a half-hour, fully interactive, medium-to-light paced tour through the streets of Hillcrest, visiting up to nine of the “most haunted” and historic buildings. Promotional materials state that tour guests will visit “two abandoned hospitals, Hillcrest’s most haunted building, and local watering holes where ghosts are known to wander and spook staff.” It also says that guests will

learn about “the cold-case file of San Diego comic book publisher Todd Loren and enter the building where he is said to roam,” and even see proof of his existence. Without giving too many more details away, highprofile murders with ties to San Diego, including Andrew Cunanan, Betty Broderick and Harvey Milk, will also be discussed. Rey, a self-described “history geek” who has traveled the nation to witness events that are monumental in LGBT history, said he has recognized how much of our history was lost due to the AIDS epidemic and the stigmas attached to it. He said he wants to share some of the stories that “would otherwise be forgotten.” “I’ve spent much of the past year and a half building relationships within the LGBT travel market nationwide,” he said. “Locally I’ve built partnerships with companies and organizations that support my mission to make San Diego among the best places that the LGBT community can visit. Earlier this year I began providing private bar crawls for conference attendees. The haunted history tour is a natural extension of those tours.” Each tour begins at Scripps Mercy Hospital, on the west end, and wraps up near the Egyptian Quarter, located at the far east end of Hillcrest. After October, Rey plans to expand the frequency of the tours to monthly on the second Friday of each month. In January, he’ll have a special “Hauntseeing tour” on Friday the 13th. Private tours will also be offered soon. The three upcoming tours are Friday, Oct. 21, at 8 p.m.; Saturday, Oct. 22, at 7:30 p.m.; and Sunday, Oct. 30, at 7:30 p.m. Each tour is two and a half hours long. Rey said to dress comfortably and accordingly as tours take place rain or shine. Tickets for the upcoming tours, which include a lantern, are $25, or $20 if purchased in person at the San Diego LGBT Visitor Center. Space is limited so reservations with a paid ticket are required. You must give 24-hour notice to change or cancel your ticket and is subject to a $5 cancellation fee. To get your tickets online, visit Proceeds benefit the programs of the San Diego LGBT Visitor Center. For more information, call 619-432-LGBT. —Morgan M. Hurley can be reached at morgan@sdcnn. com.t

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The old Commercial Security and Savings building, located at the northeast corner of Fifth and University avenues and recently renovated, has long rumored to be haunted and Rey has proof of that on the tour. (Photo by Eddie Rey)



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Semolina soul Cucina Sorella

Restaurant Review Frank Sabatini Jr.

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What do you call a place that isn’t really a full-fledged Italian restaurant, but puts house-made pastas at the core of its menu? The answer: Cucina Sorella, which marks the third incarnation of a prime Kensington address that started more than 20 years ago as Kensington Grill and later operated as Fish Public for a brief time. Sorella is the sisterly offshoot of Cucina Urbana in Bankers Hill and a series of similar restaurants in Del Mar, Newport Beach and Irvine headed by restaurateur Tracy Borkum of Urban Kitchen Group. Borkum has done well in captivating consumers with her California-inspired, quasi-Italian concepts, which commonly spotlight polenta boards with various ragus, jazzy pasta dishes, and well-conceived meat and fish entrees, all laced with clever sauces and seasonal produce. Sorella sticks to the format, but ups the ante with additional scratch-made pasta dishes such as spaghetti tossed with duck and Brussels sprouts, and curly scoops of torchio noodles complemented by seafood sausage, white corn, burrata and cashew pesto. There are also wide, flat ribbons of pappardelle paired to an ambitious Bolognese of sausage, chicken livers, lamb, veal and

619-281-4014 Prices: Antipasti, soups, salads and appetizers, $8 to $14; pasta and entrees, $12 to $24 pork — something I’d favor on colder nights or after abstaining from meat for a week. The double storefront has been refreshed with eye-catching wallpaper Borkum designed, plus clusters of hanging plants, wooden tabletops and a small deli case flaunting fresh pastas for sale. A central bar separating the two dining areas remains intact, as does a retail section in the front stocked with candles, cookbooks and other homey goods. Helming the kitchen is chef de cuisine Daniel Wolinsky, who learned the art of pasta making after working in various restaurants in New York City. “I know all the rules of Italian food and like to throw them on the wall and then put them back together,” he said, while pointing out some of the dishes he recently added to the menu — cappellacci dumplings harboring pumpkin and oxtail ragu, and linguine tossed with prized chanterelle mushrooms

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(from top) Pasta-making takes center stage at Cucina Sorella (Photo by Singler Photography); chocolate peanut butter bar; pork shank; Tuscan white bean soup; and linguine with mushrooms and almond pesto (Photos by Frank Sabatini Jr.) and almond pesto. We ordered the latter and I haven’t stopped thinking about it since. The egg-based noodles were loose and luxurious, the mushrooms were meaty and tender, and the pesto was herby and substantially nutty. In our lead-up to the pasta, we spooned into a small glass jar of chicken liver pate garnished with balsamic onions. Not since reveling multiple times in the pate at the former Farmhouse Café in University Heights have I found a worthy equivalent until now. This was equally unctuous, and perhaps smoother, with proper accents of white wine, brandy and “lots of butter,” as Wolinsky revealed. Tuscan white bean soup needed herbs, and the beans were about 30 minutes shy of turning fully tender. Though the soup was clean and hearty, the biggest burst of flavor originated from finely grated Romano cheese centered on top. A trio of fried squash blossoms appeased with their light tempura batter and creamy ricotta fillings. Setting them apart from similar preparations elsewhere was a pool of fennel-lime vinaigrette at the bottom of the shallow bowl. It teased out the flavor of the subtle-tasting blooms, which doesn’t always spring forth from merely cheese and batter. Wolinsky does wonders with pork shank, too. The monstrous bone-in cut was slow-roasted to a splendid, soft texture and finished judiciously with gremolata, an admixture of citrus, parsley, garlic and olive oil that’s typically served with veal ossobuco. Here, his use of orange zest in the recipe (instead of that from lemons) gave the meat a deeper, fruitier essence that worked exceptionally well with the pork, which was encircled by a moat of earthy black lentils and braised dandelion greens. We shared the plate and still took home leftovers.

House-made sangria with a burgundy base carried my companion through the dinner while this designated driver resisted the largely Italian wine list and crafty cocktail choices in lieu of “aquazul,” a house-made soda that our waitress wisely recommended. Flavored with muddled strawberries, lime, ginger and mint, the soda paired with every spec of food I ate and served also as an effective palate cleanser between our perfectly staggered courses. We concluded with a chic chocolatepeanut butter bar surrounded by dots of torched marshmallow and chocolate sauce. If the idea of a sweet-and-salty s’more fires your jets, don’t leave without trying it. Note: Chef Wolinsky will conduct a series of pasta-making classes at Sorella, starting with “long noodles” on Oct. 30, and continuing with “semolina dough” on Nov. 20 and “stuffed pasta” on Dec. 18. Classes start at noon and cost $68 per person (not including tax and gratuity).

—Frank Sabatini Jr. is the author of “Secret San Diego” (ECW Press), and began his local writing career more than two decades ago as a staffer for the former San Diego Tribune. You can reach him at fsabatini@san.


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Famous for its burrito-size sushi rolls, Rolled Up in Hillcrest will move several blocks east from its current location at Fourth and University avenues into the HUB Hillcrest Market. In doing so, owner James Markham might incorporate a second concept into the eatery that will include breakfast sandwiches and a cereal bar under the sub-name, Crackheads. The move will take place within four to eight weeks. Also coming into HUB under different ownership is the long-awaited Asian-European gastropub, Whistling Duck, which hasn’t yet announced an opening date. 1030 University Ave., Suite B113; 619-358-9397, Bar by the Red Door craft cocktail bar opens Oct. 20 alongside its long-established sibling restaurant, The Red Door. The new venture replaces Wellington Steak and Martini Lounge, after owner Trish Watlington decided fill a void in Mission Hills with a gathering spot that offers cocktails and small plates made with ingredients from her own garden and local farmers. 729 W. Washington St., 619-295-6001, Kearny Mesa’s much-loved K Sandwiches, which was ravished by a kitchen fire in mid-2015, has announced on its Facebook page that it is ready to start rebuilding. The eatery, which doubled as a bakery, became known over the years for its inexpensive banh mi sandwiches and other Vietnamese fare. “It’s been an extremely enduring process … our plans for rebuilding are currently pending approval,” the post stated in part. 7604 Linda Vista Road,

OCTOBER 22, 2016 A new seasonal product for holiday salads (Frank Sabatini Jr.) ‘Tis the season for pumpkin spice everything, which is best reflected at Trader Joe’s. The company this year has rolled out 70 products flavored with pumpkin spice at all of its 457 locations in 41 states. Ten of them are new, such as sticky pumpkin cake with hard sauce, pumpkin spice babka, cold-pressed pumpkin harvest juice, and in a most unlikely use of the flavor, pumpkin vinaigrette found in the refrigerated produce section. “We’ve gradually released the products since September, and by now all of them are on the shelves through the holidays,” Trader Joe’s spokesperson Alison Mochizuki said. The company launched its seasonal pumpkinspice inventory nearly two decades ago with the introduction of pumpkin granola. “As with all products carried by the stores, they must pass the scrutiny of our taste-testing panels,” Mochizuki added.

The family-operated Poki One N Half recently opened an offshoot of the eatery in North Park in the wake of launching its first location in Kearny Mesa this summer. Customers can craft their poki (or poke) from a choice of seven types of seafood and more than 10 toppings and sauces. Owner Yoojin Jeon said she plans to open at least two more locations within San Diego in the coming months. 3030 University Ave., 619-497-0697, A Hawaiian staple available in North Park (Facebook)




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Anil Popat, co-owner of Bombay in Hillcrest, is planning to open a similar Indian restaurant in San Diego’s El Cerrito neighborhood by the end of the year. The name hasn’t been decided, and Popat isn’t ready to divulge the exact address yet, but he said the menu will spotlight fusion dishes such as Indian sushi, tandoori mole and cross-national curries. “Sooner or later we might start introducing some of those recipes at Bombay,” he said. 3960 Fifth Ave., 619-297-7777,


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Chocolate made from organic cocoa beans, and containing cane sugar as the only other ingredient, is available at a new shop in Old Town called Nibble Chocolate. Owned by David Mejia and his wife, Sandra Bedoya, the couple originally launched the business in 2003 at the La Jolla farmers market before securing a kitchen in Sorrento Valley, where they make the chocolate. They source the beans from Brazil, Madagascar, Peru and the Dominican Republic. At the retail shop, the chocolate appears in bars, drinks, pastries and “super nibbles,” which are truffles containing various nuts, dried fruits and seeds. 2754 Calhoun St., 858-848-1781, —Frank Sabatini Jr. can be reached at

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(left) Diversionary's artistic director, Matthew Morrow; (right) "Lizard Boy's" original and current director, Brandon Ivie (Courtesy Diversionary Theatre)

Lizard Boy: a superhero for the 21st century The musical’s writer, director and Diversionary’s artistic director all chime in By David Dixon

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One of the goals of Matt Morrow, Diversionary Theatre’s artistic director, is to be an advocate for rising playwrights. The latest production at the LGBT friendly venue, called “Lizard Boy: The Musical,” is the latest example of having Morrow’s objective come to fruition. This superhero-influenced adventure, which first premiered at Seattle Repertory Theatre, is from the mind of theater artist Justin Huertas. Besides being the writer, Huertas is also the star, composer, projection illustrator and co-music director. Huertas plays Trevor, a gay Seattleite who was cursed, as a boy, with lizard skin. Although Trevor is considered to be an outcast, his life becomes more exciting after he starts dating an upbeat geek, Cary (William A. Williams). More surreal situations occur after Trevor realizes that a mysterious woman that he dreams about, Siren (Kirsten DeLohr Helland), is really a rock singer. Morrow became interested in the tale after hearing about the 2015 run in Seattle. “I was collaborating with Diversionary’s artistic associate Anthony Methvin on scouting new work,” Huertas said. “We heard about the first production and reached out to the original director, Brandon Ivie. He hooked us up.” As a result, Ivie, Huertas and the two supporting leads from Seattle are all involved with the new interpretation at the theater in University Heights. Ivie said having the original performers is critical to the show, since the three of them play various instruments throughout the evening. “At this point, the plot doesn’t really exist without me and the three actors,” Ivie said. “The score basically exists in their heads.” Morrow added that “Lizard Boy” would not work as well without Ivie and the ensemble. “The specific needs of the staging require that the cast and Ivie come with it intact,” he said. “They were doing something so unique and outrageous, that recreating that would be tough.”

Directing the stars has been both an exciting and difficult process for Ivie. “There is a level of complexity to what I have to do since they are the band,” he said. “It forces me to think outside the box as a director.” Watching the narrative unfold will be similar to a comic book brought to life for the stage. “The script is essentially an origin superhero story,” Ivie continued. “In the staging, there are projections that are influenced by comics. I even wanted the costumes, from Erik Andor, to have iconic looks similar to superhero iconography.” Although the plot should appeal to Marvel and DC fans, Ivie said he wants audiences to know that the night isn’t just a tribute to crime-fighting characters. “Trevor’s narrative is also a romantic comedy and indie folk rock concert,” he said. While there is a lot of appeal for millennial viewers, the play has a universal message and should also attract older audiences. “I was surprised how much the Seattle interpretation bridged the gap when it came to different generations,” Ivie said. “The eve is about a young person realizing that the thing that makes him weird also makes him special. I think that’s something anyone can relate to at any point in their life.” Morrow is not sure the next time an out-of-town theatrical event will play at Diversionary. However, he is looking forward to future possibilities. “This has been a wonderful experience of finding a tight family to bring into San Diego,” Morrow said. “It’s a little too far into the season to know when something like this will happen again. I am open to all sorts of opportunities.” The biggest reason Ivie said he wants theatregoers to experience “Lizard Boy” is because he believes that Huertas has crafted something fresh. “I say it all the time, but I don’t think anyone has seen anything like this,” he said. “The uniqueness is part of what makes the book and songs special. It’s only something that Huertas could have written.” “Lizard Boy: the Musical” will be performed through Oct. 30. For tickets or more information, visit or call 619-2206830. —A fan of film and theater from a very young age, David Dixon has written reviews and features for various print and online publications. You can reach him at


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(l to r) Kirsten deLohr Helland (Siren), Justin Huertas (Trevor/Lizard Boy), and William A. Williams (Cary) in Diversionary Theatre's run of "Lizard Boy, the Musical" (Photos by Simpatika)

‘Lizard Boy’ funny and endearing Theater Review Charlene Baldridge Having received several hearty testimonials from friends who saw “Lizard Boy The Musical” in previews, I saw the piece Sunday afternoon, Oct. 9. The work — which comes to Diversionary Theatre from Seattle Repertory — is sweet, sincere and impeccably performed by the three persons involved: Kirsten deLohr Helland as Siren, Justin Huertas as Trevor and William A. Williams as Cary. On stage with the attractive musical humans are numerous percussive devices to strike, including a piano; and instruments to strum or bow, ranging from cello to guitar to banjo and ukulele. That makes for never a dull moment as Trevor, the Lizard Boy of Ft. Defiance, meets Cary on Grindr (you need an app for that). Cary has just as many hang-ups as Trevor and is twice as aggressive, but they decide after their initial disastrous encounter to go slowly and be friends prior to consummation. Here’s where it gets weird and wonderful. Trevor’s been dreaming of a woman (Siren) whose body is sprinkled with stardust. When the two men discover that she is singing at a local watering hole, they go, and Trevor discovers that

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she is “family” in that she, too, had an encounter with the dragon at the eruption of Mt. St Helens! Siren is by turns seductive and downright scary as she predicts that all the dragons and lizards are coming to take over the world, which only she can save by usurping Trevor’s power as she has from other volcanic orphans, each of whom was gifted with a special power. Here my narrative ends because I don’t want to be a story spoiler, and this one is humongously bizarre. Director Brandon Ivie and scenic designer Ron Logan arrange the Diversionary stage, the comely performers and all their accouterments brilliantly. Erik Andor’s costumes are a hoot, including Siren’s get ups and Williams’

jockey shorts. The sound design (Matthew Lescault-Wood) is unobtrusive and effective and so are the projections (Huertas, Joe Huppert and Logan plus projection colorist Laura Marshall). For all its chaos, “Lizard Boy” is exceptionally well organized. Of course the metaphor is living life with a flaw, like scales. Scales are pretty challenging. How does that affect one’s self-image? Is it possible to find purpose? Friends? Even lovers? What power within makes it possible to discover what is needed? We’re certainly on Trevor’s side. Attractive and musically talented as Helland is, her menace is laid on a bit too thick and towards the end of the show people cheered whenever she was brought low, the only real flaw, so far as I can see. Maybe intended, though. All three are grand musicians and more than adequate singer/actors whose sincere performances of “Lizard Boy’s” 16 songs are delivered intelligibly and effortlessly. Kudos to Diversionary for finding this sweet little musical and bringing it to San Diego.




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(left) Kirsten deLohr Helland, as Siren, on stage; (right) Justin Huertas wrote, composed and stars in the original play. (Photos by Simpatika)



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The fellowship of Sojourn Grace Collective pose together in front of their progressive Christian North Park church on Easter Sunday. Martin is shown seated, lower left. (Courtesy Colby Martin) FROM PAGE 1


sometimes by society in general, have embraced the young, committed pastor. They have found love and acceptance with Martin, his family, and his new church. “This is what makes us come alive,” Martin said of he and his wife Kate. “Helping people see that they are loved by God. That they have meaning and purpose and value.”

A faith flip

Martin didn’t start out with that attitude. He was born and raised in Oregon in a Baptiststyle church. When he was 10 years old, his parents divorced. His mom stayed connected with the church world, but his dad was shunned. Eventually, his mom took them to a more welcoming congregation, but an imprint was made in Martin’s heart. “It planted seeds that the church could simultaneously be the safest and most dangerous place,” Martin said. His own conversion came when he was 17. Martin was participating in street ministry with his youth group during a summer conference when he realized that he didn’t have what he was sharing to others about. “I came back to my room and just started weeping,” Martin said. “I felt like the biggest fraud. I realized I was at a fork, one of those moments with massive implications. I could either keep going with this life where everything was about me, or I could make a choice to have a life where I lived for something bigger than myself.” Martin chose to live for something bigger than himself and dedicate his heart and life to follow Jesus. His zeal and bend toward intellectual study took him to train as a pastor at Western Baptist University. His study within what he deemed a “conservative theological framework” became focused on “being right.” Martin was a self-described “answer man,” the guy who had the pat answer to every question — and if he didn’t actually have the answer, he admitted he probably would have made one up before admitting he didn’t know. Then a book came across his

path, while reading a Time magazine interview with renowned author and progressive pastor Rob Bell. Bell identified the book, “A New Kind of Christian: A Tale of Two Friends on a Spiritual Journey” by Brian McLaren, as a major influence. That book soon set Martin on a journey of deconstructing his faith — not losing it, just reevaluating what that word means — and realizing that having the “right answer” was not the ultimate goal. He began to peruse books outside of his “narrow evangelical world” and study the Bible through a different lens. “Faith is the turning of our heart and head space to the light, to the truth,” Martin explained. “It’s about how, not what, you believe.” This quiet quest continued through graduation, marriage and becoming a new worship leader in Arizona. “It was simultaneously terrifying and totally liberating,” Martin said. “My most inner self thought that God wouldn’t be happy with me [if I didn’t have the right answers]. But then I thought, ‘what if the God we’ve been following is so much more deeper and wider than I understand?’” Martin began to believe that God didn’t discriminate at all, not on the basis of skin color, gender or sexuality. He was increasingly conflicted at the attitude of the church as a whole towards the LGBTQ community. The problem was that his then-spiritual environment was not a safe place to discuss these questions. His “internal convictions” were not meeting his “external reality.” Plus, Martin shared that the front he felt he had to wear created a stumbling block in developing true relationships. That is until Sept. 21, 2011. Martin remembers that to be the exact day of another of those “massive implication” moments; the day President Obama officially repealed the military policy known as “don’t ask, don’t tell.” Martin shared a news article about the repeal and posted “I’m glad this day finally came” on his Facebook wall shortly before he went to bed. He woke up the next morning to a litany of antagonistic comments on his wall, mostly from members of the church where he served. Some were alarmed

— others outraged — at the idea that Martin could be a spiritual leader in their evangelical church and be “pro-homosexuality” or “advancing the gay agenda.” Martin was taken aback by the intensity of the responses. He was even more shocked when he walked into work and his head pastor asked him to take the post down. “One of the pastor’s mantras was ‘there is no room for discrimination in the Kingdom of God,’” Martin explained. “It turned out there was an asterisk on that statement.” Martin did take the post down, but the cat was out of the bag and not going back in. Two days later, Martin was called in for a meeting with the church board (all older men, he notes now). He showed up at that Friday meeting with a 10-page letter and a copy for each board member. The letter described Martin’s heart for the church and the people of the church, his record of service, and his theological beliefs on homosexuality, using Scripture and how he felt it had been misused. The letter was basically what he now refers to as his “coming out of the theological closet.” A close friend and pastor told Martin ahead of time that if he read that letter to the board, it would be his resignation letter. As it turned out, the pastor was right. Martin was asked to “take the weekend off.” Then the following Tuesday, he was given a letter of termination.

Moving beyond the hurt

Martin and his family went home to Oregon to regroup and he said it took him two years to heal from the blow. They “went dark” — didn’t post a lot on social media, didn’t go after the members of the church. Martin said he and his wife were surprised and hurt by how few people reached out to them during that period. Six months after the termination, Martin started to share the how and why of his beliefs online, a series blog posts that later became a video series examining what Martin had heard referred to as the “clobber passages” — six specific verses or stories in the Bible that are used in condemnation of same-sex acts and samesex couples. Often in discussion with friends and foes, Martin found they would bring up these pas-

sages, such as Romans 1:26-27 or Genesis 19, as if Martin may have missed them in his study of the Word of God. He unraveled them in “UnClobber: Rethinking Our Misuse of the Bible on Homosexuality.” “I’ve written this book in part, to show that myself, and others like me, have surely not missed any verses,” Martin wrote in the introduction. Martin notes that many Christian supporters of homosexuality have a tendency to bypass Scriptures like those. But referencing the old camping song, “We’re Going on a Bear Hunt” — that’s refrain is “we can’t go over it; we can’t go under it; we’ve got to go through it!” — that is Martin’s view on how to confront the issue. “[The Bible’s] still a beautifully inspired text,” he said. “We have to go through it.”

A new step in the journey The next church Martin worked with brought his family to San Diego. The congregation had an openly gay head pastor and was considered “progressive” in their faith. The good part about this church was that Martin and his wife felt they could take down the walls they had put up in Arizona and really connect with those around them. However, this church still had many unhealthy aspects within the leadership and the culture. Martin wrote that his “pastoral self, the part that chases after the abundant, flourishing life found in the Spirit, was stifled.” There were conflicts and a clash of values between him and the leadership as to “What it meant and what it looked like … to shepherd people.” As he and Kate worked out their exit plan to quietly leave the church a few months down the road, they experienced a deja vu: Martin was again brought before the board of elders and again asked to step down from his staff role. This time, however, Colby and Kate had a community of relationships — people they had worked with and invested in — people who reached out to them after the termination. That initial week, the couple had a “what are we doing with our lives” moment. They were living in a house with four kids without a backyard, one bath-

room and no bathtub, and Martin had just been fired from the second church in two years. Should they run back home to Oregon? Consider a new career path? In another defining moment, Kate looked around and said to her husband, “I choose relationships over a backyard and a bathtub.” So they called a few of their friends and said, “Come on over on Sunday — we’ll have coffee and food and just hang out.” That group grew from 12 to 20 to 60, the Sunday meetings took on more structure, and the Sojourn Grace Collective was born: “Sojourn” because they view faith as a journey and not a destination; “Grace” because it’s such a gift to just be alive; and “Collective” because they’re all in it together, he said. “The default is, you belong,” Martin said. “The table is big enough for everybody. Everybody’s in, baby!” The Martins and their Sojourn leadership team have worked to create a safe place where there are no contingencies on the love shared. “It’s still people, it’s still messy, there’s still relational conflict,” Martin said. “But it’s a safe place where you are loved and accepted — and that’s the truest thing about you.” And by the way, their new home has two bathrooms, a bathtub and a backyard.

Get the book, meet the man

Martin is hosting a “San Diego Release Party” for a special book signing and reading at 7:30 p.m. on Friday, Oct. 21 at Union Cowork North Park, located at 3919 30th St. The evening will include food, drink and live music from Girlboy and spoken word from Nate Howard. Visit or to learn more about the church, the book or Martin himself. “UnClobber: Rethinking Our Misuse of the Bible on Homosexuality” is available for purchase on Amazon. —Freelance writer Joyell Nevins can be reached at joyellc@ You can also follow her blog “Small World, Big God” at


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Idina Menzel on working toward LGBT-icon status, a lesbian Elsa and angry gays who oppose her “Beaches” remake Chris Azzopardi | Q Syndicate Though it arrives nearly 20 years after her debut album, the timing couldn’t be more perfect for a self-titled Idina Menzel release. Menzel’s latest is a declaration of self — of her real self, that is. “It’s how you pronounce my name,” the Broadway star says during our recent interview about the eponymous title — “idina.” — not-so-subtly alluding to that infamous name botch at the 2014 Academy Awards. You remember: John Travolta called her “Adele Dazeem” just before she hit the stage to perform her career-changing song “Let It Go” from Disney’s “Frozen,” during which the Tony winner voices cold-thwarting snow queen Elsa. “Frozen” fame took Menzel to Elphaba heights, but it was “Wicked” and “Rent” that forever made her a gay fave. Imagine, then, what a new “Beaches” might do for Menzel. The Lifetime remake of the 1988 classic has the 45-year-old portraying Bette Midler’s CC Bloom, a career choice the singer-actress admits has ruffled the feathers of her loyal queer following. Menzel talked about one gay fan’s tweet that led to her almost backing out of the film altogether, how LGBT support solidified her success and why she’s “excited” that “Frozen” fans are pulling for a lesbian Elsa. (Chris Azzopardi | CA) What’s a trip to the grocery like now, after “Frozen” made you a household name? (Idina Menzel | IM) It depends on how many little kids or gay men are there. And they certainly have been complimentary, and yeah, we take some pictures and I’ve put myself on a video for several people’s birthday wishes and bar mitzvahs. (CA) But the gay guys aren’t just singing “Let It Go” to you, I’m sure. (IM) Exactly. And you know what, I’m leaving out the ladies too! Because, of course, I was Maureen in “Rent,” so it’s not all the gay male community. There are a lot of beautiful women that have been very supportive of me. (CA) What does your long and loyal history with the LGBT community mean to you? (IM) Honestly, you said the word “loyal” — it means everything to me. All the women that

my name or [directed toward] anybody who has tried to keep me down. (CA) We refer to our most beloved icons by one name — Cher, Madonna, Mariah, Bette — so maybe this is also your initiation into gay iconography. (IM) [Laughs] Hey, if I can get into that realm or that class, I would be very happy. It would be a huge compliment. But I’m still working toward that. Those women have done a lot more than I have!

I’ve revered in my life have been beloved by the gay community. So, when I was younger it was like, “if I’m not in with that club, then I haven’t made it.” So, as soon as I felt like I was being included and appreciated and supported [by the LGBT community], it just really meant everything to me. Not to mention, the accolades and all the compliments don’t come easy. There can be harsh critics; it’s not an easy crowd to win over, so it feels good when you feel like you’ve made friends and they are so loyal and so supportive. (CA) When were you first aware of your gay following? (IM) The first moment was probably when I’d go to the Nederlander Theatre when I was in “Rent” (in the mid-’90s), and I’d get all these amazing letters from young kids struggling with their sexual orientation and who they were and how they wanted to come out. I’d get a lot of letters about that and how I was helping them be honest with themselves and be brave about coming out, so it started then and that was even … that was stronger than I had even anticipated or ever really had dreamed — just on a much deeper, much more important level than singing a high note with a lot of bravado and people clapping. And it’s continued to be like that, really, with “Wicked” and “Frozen,” with Elsa. There are always these characters who are literally trying to come out of the closet — they’re hiding something within them that they’re afraid to let people see, and then finally they embrace it and change the world around them. (CA) You seem to gravitate toward empowered female characters and tropes. Is there a particular reason why? (IM) I have no idea! [Laughs] I swear to god, I don’t know if I find them, or they find me. I went into the studio [for this album] — I was going through a divorce [Menzel and her former “Rent” costar Taye Diggs officially divorced in late 2014 after 10 years of marriage] — and I can’t tell you how many times I’d sit with these amazing writers and want to write some really upsetting, sad, dark song and it would turn out to be some uplifting, empowering song about trying to find my strength as a woman. I’d be like, “Aaack, why did we write that?! I hate that! I’m just so sick of it! I wanna be miserable! And I want people to let me be miserable!” [Laughs] But no, I’m half joking. I just want to make sure that people know that I’m not always feeling that empowered and that confident in what I’m doing. Just like anyone else, I gotta work on all that stuff. (CA) Are you saying you’re a real person? (IM) [Laughs] I think so! I think I am! (CA) There’s a lot of pressure on you and Disney to make Elsa gay. Are you surprised by the #GiveElsaAGirlfriend movement? (IM) Am I surprised? [Sighs] Maybe at first I was a little


(CA) Why was it important to you to be a part of the “Fight Song” for Hillary Clinton during the Democratic National Convention? (IM) Elizabeth Banks asked me to do it. You know, I’m just … I believe in Hillary and I’m a Democrat, and I’m not trying to put off or judge anyone who isn’t, but I felt it was important to be a part of it. (CA) Now that you’re obviously tight with Elizabeth Banks, could that mean we’ll see you in “Pitch Perfect 3”? (IM) [Laughs] Oh god, that would be awesome. That would be great.

Menzel, who said she has had a challenging but successful year, released a new album — "idina." — with a period. (Photo by Max Vadukul) surprised because it’s Disney, but I can say that I’m excited that the conversation is happening. I can’t promise anybody that that’s what’s gonna happen. I’m just a servant at a big company called Disney and I’m happy to have a role and a job. But deep down am I really happy that it’s causing people to talk about it and have these kinds of conversations? Yeah, I am. (CA) Do you think the world is ready for a lesbian Disney princess? (IM) Umm … I don’t know about that, considering we’re having a hard time even getting Donald Trump out of the way. Sometimes it’s a little discouraging. But you never know. We keep making all these strides. We’ve made a lot of strides in the last couple of years, and then all of a sudden the hate and the vitriol within our country is exposed and you’re like, “What happened? We’re in the ancient times again.” (CA) What does it mean to you to know that so many LGBT people interpreted “Let It Go” as a coming out anthem? And did you when you first read the lyrics? (IM) Yeah, umm ... probably not right at first because I’m an actor first, and so I’m thinking, what is it for this character and this young girl? Having had the “Wicked” experience, I bring those themes to it as well. But then I quickly saw all of the parallels and the universality of the song and how it could speak to so many people in so many different ways. (CA) We must talk about the Patti LaBelle-inspired note you slay during “Queen of Swords,” from your new album. (IM) [Laughs] I have to say that sometimes my best moments, artistically speaking, have come from really emulating some-

one I love and playing around, because then I get out of my own space. I was literally just having fun. We had already recorded the end of that song a million times and I sang a million different runs of ad-libs at the end, and I was trying to make my producer and engineer laugh. And I didn’t know I could do that one! So then, of course, they put it in. I’ve had other moments in my life where I’m on stage and if I’m having a hard time — if I feel insecure about a beat or how I’m interpreting something — I’ve done something like, how would Glenn Close approach this moment? Then, all of a sudden, I’m like, “Oh, look at this,” and I’m holding for applause and taking an extra two seconds just to own the stage, not feeling like I have to get out of there because I’m undeserving. It’s interesting if you put yourself in their footsteps once in a while how it can open that up for you and you realize, “Oh, I’ve been selling myself short. I can sell this moment.” I’m not saying anybody should copy anybody. I don’t think anybody should mimic anyone, but I’m always an advocate of emulating and soaking in all of the greats, because then once it comes out of you, it’ll never be a clone — it will be you inspired by these people. (CA) You’ve had three other studio albums — why self-title this one, and what’s the significance of the period? (IM) It’s very personal. I went through the hardest time in my life while writing this album — a beautiful, successful time, and also a very tumultuous, complicated time in my personal life, and so it’s very intimate. It’s my way of saying, “Hey, this is me and my barebones.” And the period is … what’s the word? ... just a little nudge, like, “This is me,” with a little attitude in there, whether it’s how you pronounce

(CA) “Wind Beneath My Wings” is a song that’s so iconic and so owned by Bette Midler. What was it like taking it on for your upcoming “Beaches” remake? (IM) [Sighs] It was almost reason to say no. I mean, I did say no a couple of times at first to the whole thing because to walk in her footsteps, I mean, you can’t. I needed to find what the reasons were, to be a part of this when the [original] movie is so beautiful as is. I found that there’s a whole young generation of women who hadn’t seen “Beaches.” Because of the time we’re in now, as women, there’s a new perspective we have within that story and there’s a new conversation that can go on as far as us living out our passions and our work and our home life. It’s a little different when you watch the movie now, in this context of life. There’s more that we can bring to it to update it. But as far as the song — the song terrified me. I brought it to my producer, Greg Wells, who did “Queen of Swords” and half of the album, and I said, “How can we make this contemporary?” We sat at the piano and stripped it down and he just found this way that brings in all these modern sounds. We stayed pretty strict to the melody and I don’t know — I’m just really happy about it. I think it came off really beautifully. It’s an homage to what was already there, but also just a new incarnation of it. (CA) Gay men are very devoted to “Beaches.” Have you consulted any of them for the role? (IM) By accident I went on my Twitter feed and saw somebody who wrote, “Idina, I love you, but it’s sacrilege that you’re doing this!” I called my agent and I was like, “Tell them I can’t do it. All these gay men are mad at me and they’re gonna hate me!” But it’s just such a great role for me and the experience of being on set and working every day on this

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INTERVIEW beautiful woman that is funny and talented and she gets to do drama and comedy — it was such a great experience for me and it was just hard to turn down. So I hope they’ll forgive me! I understand if they cannot. But you know, come on, Judy Garland redid “A Star is Born” and then Barbra redid Judy Garland! So sometimes these things happen. I’m not saying I’m any of those women, but you know, sometimes we redo these movies. (CA) Earlier this year, you reunited with your “Wicked” co-star Kristin Chenoweth and sang “For Good” with her for the first time in 12 years. What was it like to revisit that song a decade-plus later with Kristin and can we expect you to work on anything else with her? (IM) Ah, maybe! Yeah, I would never say never to that. That experience that day was very powerful for both of us and very moving. We have both sung that song a lot through the years in our own concerts, but we hadn’t gotten back and sung it together. And you know, that show changed our lives and the trajectory of our careers. It bonded us — it bonded lots of people — and it’s a song that people connect to in so many ways. They use it at their weddings and their dances with their mothers and they play it at funerals. It’s this incredible song, and for us to have sort of originated that — and together — it’s something we’ll always share. We felt such a pride about it.

(CA) Are you going to be OK if “Wicked” gets made into a film with actresses other than you and Kristin? (IM) No, I’m gonna — no! I’m gonna have a hard time with that. [Laughs] Let’s be honest … you want me to be honest? Or do you want me to say, “Oh, sure, can’t wait for whoever looks 20 years younger than me but can’t sing as good as me gets the role”? (CA) They better not fuck it up, right? (IM) They better not fuck it up! I’m lobbying to do it like “Benjamin Button.” A little CGI on a beautiful, green face. I could look gorgeous! Like, who cares — just take out a couple wrinkles. Green and exotic. I still have a girly innocence about me. And here I am trying to audition for this role ... [Laughs] (CA) I’m sorry, Idina; believe it or not, I have no say in this. (IM) [Laughs] No, it’s all good. It’s not gonna happen for a while anyway. I’ll be 70 by the time it comes out and still be trying to get this role. (CA) The special effects will be even better in 30 years. (IM) [Laughs] I hope I’m just not in Vegas in some bad lounge singing it, that’s all I hope. —Chris Azzopardi is the editor of Q Syndicate, the international LGBT wire service. Reach him via his website at chris-azzopardi. com and on Twitter (@ chrisazzopardi). t




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Waxing ecstatic Dishing with the Opera’s general director By Charlene Baldridge October ushers in the first full production in San Diego Opera’s 2016-17 season. For an opera company that nearly closed in 2014, creative endeavors are booming, with an expansion of what makes a season plus several new programs and activities that are more than enough to discombobulate the usual general director. Although he claimed to be crazed, exclaiming “It’s like back to school week here!” when interviewed at the Downtown office of San Diego Opera (SDO) on Sept. 9, General Director David Bennett (who came aboard in June 2015) was loquacious, enthusiastic and positive when assessing where the company is, what and how it’s doing, and where it’s going. The recent promotional activities of the organization are emblematic of Bennett’s intention to make SDO a meaningful part of the San Diego community; nonetheless, the season is the thing, and here it is:

who is beloved of a much younger aristocrat named Alfredo Germont (American tenor Joshua Guerrero). Bennett said that though it’s an LA Opera production, it was built in SDO’s scenic studios. The action is updated to the flapper era. Southwell reprises her LA Opera role as Flora, Violetta’s friend.

• Gioacchino Rossini’s “La Cenerentola (Cinderella),” Oct. 22-30 at San Diego Civic Theatre. The title role is played by Lauren McNeese, a graduate of the Ryan Opera Center at Chicago Lyric Opera; while Alidoro is played by SDO veteran Ashraf Sewailam, a native of Egypt who recently became director of opera at San Diego State. • West Coast premiere of David T. Little’s “Soldier Songs” conducted by UC San Diego professor Steven Schick, Nov. 11-13 at Balboa Theatre. KPBS will do a live telecast of the “Soldier Songs” performance Nov. 12, providing everyone an opportunity to see this important opera by composer David T. Little based on interviews with and letters written by veterans of five wars. In these interviews, the most common statement was, “I don’t talk about this with anybody,” and indeed that is how Little starts his opera, scored for Everyman Soldier (baritone David Adam Moore, who recently sang Silvio in SDO’s “Pagliacci”), two actors, and an instrumental group of 10 conducted by Schick, who called the work “a mirror rather than a message.”


General Manager David Bennett is shaking things up this season with a host of community outreach initiatives. The new season starts Oct. 22. (Courtesy San Diego Opera) • Verdi’s “Falstaff” Feb. 1826 at Civic Theatre. “Falstaff,” based on Shakespeare’s colorful character, is a Chicago Lyric production, which Bennett describes as looking like a wooden architectural model of the Globe Theatre. “It has riots of color in terms of costumes and projections, modern touches in a very traditional work,” he said. Verdi fans love the opera for its humor, melodic vocalism and magnificent orchestrations. The title role is sung by a SDO debutant, acclaimed Italian baritone Roberto de Candia. Daniele Callegari (“Aida,” “Don Giovanni”) returns to conduct.

• Peter Brook’s “La tragèdie de Carmen (The Tragedy of Carmen),” a distillation of Georges Bizet’s opera, March 10-12 at Balboa Theatre. Part of the Shiley Dētour series, “La tragèdie de Carmen” (sung in French with projected English translations) features the excellent Southern California mezzo-soprano Peabody Southwell, seen frequently at LA Opera and Long Beach Opera. • Verdi’s “La traviata,” April 22-30 at Civic Theatre. Directed by Marta Domingo (Placido’s wife) Verdi’s well known and popular “La traviata” tells the story of an aging Courtesan named Violetta (Corinne Winters)

Bennett waxed ecstatic about numerous young American singers cast in all the above. Clearly, he could not be more enthusiastic or supportive. “It should be a great year of good, young American singers at the cusp of their careers, which is very exciting to see,” he said. “What we’re putting on stage this season is going to be traditional, but look fresh. Each production has yet to be seen in San Diego. “Voice is the centerpiece of what we do,” Bennett continued. “Voice is at the heart of opera. That’s the over-riding nature of our thinking, plus trying to find work that really speaks to our community’s several experiences and to their issues, and gives voice to those experiences in ways that you don’t expect opera to do.” That having been said, the 2017-18 season opens with “Hansel and Gretel.” Just so you know, there will be accompanying discussions of childhood homelessness. “It makes me feel like we are doing more than just what’s on stage,” Bennett said. “And that I love.” For more information and tickets, visit —Follow Charlene Baldridge’s blog at charlenecriticism.blogspot. com or reach her at charb81@


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‘Closet Monster’: This film tells the story of a closeted teen named Oscar (Connor Jessup) who dreams of becoming a special-effects makeup artist but is terrified of his father finding out the truth about his sexuality. Oscar is forced to confront his fears when he falls for a handsome and worldly coworker. Unrated. 90 minutes. Screenings through Thursday, Oct. 20. Digital Gym, 2921 El Cajon Blvd., North Park. Visit


2nd annual Mac n’ Cheese Fest: This 21-and-older event will showcase restaurants/chefs from all over San Diego competing for the title of best mac n’ cheese in the county. Attendees will judge their favorites. Admission is $35 and includes mac n’ cheese tasting and 10 beer tasting. Proceeds from ticket sales will go to the nonprofit World Wide Network of Learning. 11 a.m.–2 p.m. County of San Diego Waterfront Park, 1600 Pacific Highway, Downtown. Visit Girls Night Out: Hosted by Out is In clothing, this monthly all women dance takes place at the newly-renovated Rail. This month attendees are asked to wear their favorite “band” shirts for the opportunity to win prizes. A Hi-Tech Singles Speed Dating Event is being offered from 5–7:30 p.m. DJ Susu will kick off the music at 7 p.m. For more info on the singles event, visit Advance tickets are $35 (plus fee) and can be purchased at $40 at the door. 4:30–10 p.m. Danceonly still $10. The Rail, 3796 Fifth Ave., Hillcrest. National Latino AIDS Awareness: Presented by VIDA, a nonprofit that works to de-stigmatize HIV through bilingual outreach and education, this memorial service will remember all Latinos lost while battling the disease and to commemorate Latino AIDS Awareness Day. This year’s theme is “healing wounds.” Non-alcoholic reception starts at 5 p.m., service begins at 6 p.m. 5–7 p.m. St. Paul’s Episcopal Cathedral, 2728 Sixth Ave., Park West.


Walking tour of Hillcrest LGBTQ History: Do you know where San Diego’s early gay bars were? Have you read the hatecrimes plaque? Have you looked at the base of the flagpole? Have you peeked into the secret garden? This tour by Lambda Archives of San Diego will showcase these places and more. $20 for members and $25 for nonmembers. 10 a.m.–noon. Meet

at University and Third avenues. Visit and


The Gender Creative Child: A special presentation Dr. Diane Ehrensaft, director of Mental Health of the Child and Adolescent Gender Center, UC San Francisco. Dr. Ehrensaft, a pioneering advocate and champion for gender-nonconforming children and adolescents, will bring her 30 years of experience to the discussion. Focus is for educators, parents, grandparents and other family members, and how they can nurture and support children who “live outside gender binaries” and how to prepare them to be their authentic selves. 1–3 p.m. Free. San Diego LGBT Community Center, 3909 Centre St., Hillcrest. For more contact


GSDBA business social: This business social will benefit Mama’s Kitchen’s “Pie in the Sky” bake sale. $15 for members and guests. 6–8 p.m. Hotel del Coronado, 1500 Orange Ave., Coronado. Visit YPC Voting phone bank: Help the Young Professionals Council “get out the vote” by volunteering to call community members and encourage them to vote. The calls are not for candidates, political parties or issues, just a reminder for potential voters to make it to the polls on Nov. 8. Snacks provided, giveaways, socializing and a way to make a difference with the election process. 4–8 p.m., The Center, 3903 Centre St., Hillcrest.



Bear Quake: Bears San Diego present its annual Bear Quake, a weekend-long social event for the Bear community with pool parties, beer busts, brunches and dinners at various locations throughout San Diego, including Redwing, Pecs Bar, private homes, Baja Betty’s, Rich’s and The Hole in the Wall. The host hotel is Handlery Hotel in Mission Valley. For a complete schedule of the weekend, visit

rive before noon to participate in a raffle for a 32-inch television. Other prizes will be raffled off everything 30 minutes. Breakfast and light snacks will be provided. 4102 El Cajon Blvd., City Heights. Visit bit. ly/2dii445. Free family movie night: The Center will host a screening of the animated DreamWorks film “Home.” These free family movie nights are held on the third Friday of each month. Attendees are encouraged to bring sleeping bags, blankets and pillows and dress in pajamas. 6:30–8:30 p.m. San Diego LGBT Community Center, 3909 Centre St., Hillcrest. Visit facebook. com/FamiliesAtTheCenter.

‘Shades of Color’: An empowerment group for black men (MSM) every Wednesday with lunch provided. These sessions cover a variety of topics and sometimes include guest speakers. Noon–1:30 p.m. San Diego LGBT Center, 3909 Centre St., Hillcrest. Visit




“Bedrooms and Boyfriends”: Presented by Compulsion Dance & Theatre, this production was a hit at the 2016 Fringe Festival, winning the award for “Outstanding Writing. “Bedrooms and Boyfriends” features three short plays staged on the same bedroom set exploring themes of love, lust, sex and romance. $20. Runs through Oct. 23. Ion’s BLKBOX Theater, 3704 Sixth Ave., Hillcrest. Visit


Auntie Helen’s new location grand opening: This event will celebrate the grand opening of Auntie Helen’s second location. Ar-

Halloween party: The Center will host family friendly Halloween costume with games, food and a costume contest. 2–4 p.m. San Diego LGBT Community Center, 3909 Centre St., Hillcrest. Visit facebook. com/FamiliesAtTheCenter. HRC San Diego Family Picnic: A celebration of LGBTQ families in San Diego open to families and kids of all ages. There will be games, activities and costume contests. Food and refreshments provided. 11 a.m.–2 p.m. Pioneer Park, 1501 Washington Place, Mission Hills. Visit The Pride Guide LGBT wedding and honeymoon expo: This event will include a fashion show, prize giveaways, a cake dive, bouquet toss, live entertainment and more. Tickets are $10 in advance and $15 at the door. 11:30 a.m.–4 p.m. Paradise Point Resort and Spa, 1404 Vacation Road. Visit


‘Women and Emotions: Friend or Foe?’: Every fourth Monday of the month the Women’s Center hosts experts who discuss various topics of interest. This month’s event will feature Sylvia Becker-Hill a corporate top-executive coach discussing emotional management, emotional intelligence and more. Suggested donation of $5. 6 p.m. Women’s Museum of California, 2730 Historic Decatur Road, Suite 103, Liberty Station. Visit


FilmOut San Diego double feature: In honor of Halloween, FilmOut will screen the “The Omen” and “Damien: Omen II.” It is the 40th anniversary of the original film. Visit for a chance to win a pair of tickets to the screening. $15. 7 p.m., Landmark Hillcrest Cinemas, 3965 Fifth Ave. #200, Hillcrest. Visit Lillian Faderman: Stories of the Gay Revolution: Lambda Archives of San Diego will host this event in honor of LGBTQ History Month. Lillian Faderman is an award-winning scholar and author of gay and lesbian history and literature. She will give a sweeping overview of the history and struggle for LGBTQ civil rights and offer stories and insights from her book “The Gay Revolution: The Story of the Struggle.” Tickets start at $15 for non-members and $10 for members. 6–9 p.m. Diversionary Theatre, 4545 Park Blvd., University Heights. Visit


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1 Mary’s pet 5 Tomlin and DeGeneres 9 Yellow-brick way 13 Like phone sex 14 To the ___ (how to play a pirate) 15 Garfield’s sidekick 16 Hathaway of “Bride Wars” 17 Head output 18 Billy Elliot portrayer Jamie 19 Kate McKinnon said she is very uncomfortable with this 22 Bernstein’s fifth 23 Bear necessity 24 Flow out 27 Kevin of “American Beauty” 30 Striped shirt wearer 33 Soft rock 35 “You want the light ___ off?” 36 Cinderella’s coming-out party

37 Lot measurement 38 Rubberneck 39 “Modern Family” girl 40 But on the other hand ... (with 58-Across) 43 Harbored ill will, with no grace 44 Monastery head 47 Homophobia and such 51 “Once Upon a Mattress” legume 52 1982 biopic with Ian Charleson 57 Right, to the ass 58 (See 40-Across) 61 Go down on a hill 62 Egyptian vipers 63 Historic Stonewall event 64 Business boss 65 Wear a lot of cologne, e.g. 66 Word used in dating

Film and Q&A – ‘Imitation Game’: Co-sponsored by Lambda Archives, the screening of “The Imitation Game,” the award-winning film about Sir Dermot Turing, the gay British codebreaker played by Benedict Cumberbatch, will be followed by a Q&A with Alan Turing, his nephew. —Compiled by Jen Van Tieghem. Email calendar items to or jen@



Adult Housing (MARYAH) and The San Diego LGBT Community Center present this fun filled evening to benefit The Center’s Youth Housing Project. Enjoy live entertainment and tasting stations from local restaurants at this Halloweenthemed celebration. Tickets start at $50. 6–9 p.m. Central Library, 330 Park Blvd., Downtown. Visit bit. ly/2d9aet6. Democrats for Equality: Monthly meeting, open to public, on fourth Thursday of month. Meeting at 7 p.m. with social time beginning one half-hour prior. Joyce Beers Community Center, 3900 Vermont St., Hillcrest. Visit

solution on page 16 DOWN 1 Mauna ___ 2 River of da Vinci’s land 3 “Death in Venice” author Thomas 4 Billie Holiday’s “God ___ the Child” 5 Water therapy devices for 3 men in a tub 6 West Wing worker 7 Fox comedy with Jane Lynch 8 Get it up and get up? 9 Batman’s buddy 10 Pindaric poems 11 Has an STD, e.g. 12 Penn. neighbor 20 Trig. ratio 21 F, in the orchestra pit 24 Vowel for Socrates 25 Adriatic seaport 26 Pleasured by mouth 28 Avoid going straight 29 “Harold and Maude” screenwriter Higgins 30 “Don’t ___ On My Parade”

31 Cousin of Jethro and Jethrine 32 Emulate Earhart 34 Site for a queen of the Nile 36 Zorro was a gay one 41 “Take your mitts off!” 42 Beverage from the land of Nureyev 44 Forbidden fruit 45 Henri’s boyfriends 46 Boat with a flat bottom 48 Another time 49 Short probe 50 Take care of 53 Out and then some 54 Org. closely watched by bears 55 411 56 Corn covering 59 Dick, for short 60 Title for a man who avoids sex with women


LETTERS Thank you for the great story about Azalea Park. When I think about our neighborhood, it really is a story about resiliency and the ability to visualize and create an environment that is inclusive and artistic. We are the only neighborhood in City Heights that has a coffee place, mosaics, murals, and we are home to the city’s only water conservation garden. These are not small feats, but due to years of planning and visualizing a stronger and healthier community, much of it under the leadership of Linda Pennington. In a city where so many people have been priced out of an affordable, gay-friendly neighborhood, Azalea Park is a great option. We have many great neighbors, gay and straight, with lots of new families moving in. And we look forward to many great years in this wonderful neighborhood. Your friend in Azalea Park, —Ricardo Moran, via email

Kudos for what matters

[Ref: “Back Out With Benny: Racial justice is an LGBTQ issue,” Vol. 7, Issue 20, or online at] Thank you, Benny. You are 100 percent correct. We created the problem. We ARE the problem. We need to correct it. It’s time to speak up and take action. —Cathy Hemphill via Wow Benny! This is beautifully put. Thank you for your eloquence and honesty. —Michael Kimmel, via Thank you Benny! As a person of color myself, I’m exhausted, and I feel like I keep on talking about the problems of our society, and no one listens. Benny is right, white people need to help us and fix this monster. Thank you for speaking up, and I hope more and more white people begin to do the same! —Rick Cervantes, via

Really moved by this piece Ben. Thank you! I could say a lot about this but really, I just want to reiterate this simple and powerful point you made: Because this [racial equality] is an LGBT issue. People of color are a part of our community and we can’t say we believe in equality unless we believe in full equality for everyone. We don’t do social justice work in silos. We all need to work together to make this world a better place. —Cara Dessert, via gay-sd. com [Excerpt from column] “I am almost certain that if my skin had not been white, I would have been (rudely) approached and told to take my bag to the counter at once or leave.” You have no way of knowing that. In fact, if I was working at that store I’d be more hesitant to say something about the bag to the black customer for fear of being accused as racist. —Aaron West, via gay-sd. com

Feedback on Pride

[Ref: “Analysis: Where is our pride?” Vol. 7, Issue 20, or online at] Thank you for your report. You have covered everything very well. What we need now is for this process to move forward in a quick and deliberate way towards answers and to correct the course of OUR community Pride. It looks like this is happening with some members of the Pride board and the committee that was chosen by protestors on the sidewalk after the meeting on Sept. 21. Please move forward to reinstate the Community Advisory Council with a new and robust mission statement and reinstate Stephen Whitburn to his position. —Luke Terpstra, former Pride volunteer and coordinator; Hillcrest Town Council, chair emeritus Thanks for your reportage. I am a bit out of the loop of all this so I appreciate your excellent summary of what’s been going on. —Michael Kimmel, via gaysd.comt

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This year's winners! San Diego is known for its thriving LGBT community, representing a close-knit family that is full of life. Our community returns again and again to the vibrant nooks and crannies of our city, patronizing businesses, supporting local community organizations and empowering its members, day in and day out. We recently asked the readers of Gay San Diego to take a moment and share with us their favorite restaurants, bars and retail businesses, found throughout our local neighborhoods and even beyond. While the LGBT family starts at the lively and colorful “gayborhood” of Hillcrest, we live in and visit all its surrounding areas — through the hip enclaves of North Park,

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South Park and University Heights, and the cozy kick-back neighborhoods that cling to the canyons overlooking Mission Valley, including Mission Hills, Normal Heights, Kensington and Talmadge. Our influence also extends to Downtown and those neighborhoods nestled along its border: Little Italy, Bankers Hill and Golden Hill. But that’s not to say we don’t frequent Point Loma, La Jolla, and Carlsbad, or even South Bay and North County, because we do; and we even have an LGBTQ resource center up north and Pride festivals both north and south that we support and love, too. That’s a pretty wide swath and from each point far and wide, our readers have chosen the best of the best in such categories as

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server, breakfast, happy hour, wine bar, art gallery, romantic dining, cocktail, florist, museum, local bar, and many, many more. Some winners have been serving customers for decades, while others are new to the scene but clearly already making an impact. In this month’s special section, we offer the full list of Best of Gay San Diego winners, showcasing them with colorful photos and highlighting many with their specific missions to serve. To each of our winners, we extend a hearty congratulations on your Best of Gay San Diego award and we hope our loyal readers — and your loyal customers — continue to show you patronage and appreciation for many years to come.

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FARMERS MARKET Hillcrest Farmers Market Little Italy Mercato

OUTDOOR PATIO DINING The Patio on Goldfinch Babycakes

BANK California Bank and Trust Union Bank

JEWELER Stuart Benjamin & Co Jewels on 5th

FAST FOOD Chipotle Mexican Grill In-N-Out Burger

PET FRIENDLY DINING Beerfish The Patio on Goldfinch

BICYCLE SHOP Mission Hills Bike Shop Brooklyn Bicycles

LAWYER Law Offices of Susan L. Hartman Law Office of Rachel P. Young

FINE DINING The Patio on Goldfinch Eddie V’s Prime Seafood

PIZZA Bronx Pizza Dimille’s Italian Restaurant

BOUTIQUE Cody’s Home + Gift Creative Crossroads

MANICURE/PEDICURE SALON Beauty Lounge K & K Nails & Spa

FRENCH CUISINE Et Viola! French Bistro Pardon My French Bar & Kitchen

ROMANTIC DINING Florent Restaurant & Lounge Starlite

CHIROPRACTOR Chiropractique Inner Balance Institute

MASSAGE The Knot Stop Bodhi Massage & Wellness Center

FROZEN YOGURT Pinkberry Fiji Yogurt

SALAD Tender Greens Lemonade

COLLECTIVE PointLomaPatientsConsumerCo-op Harbor Collective

MUSEUM Natural History Museum Museum of Photographic Arts

GREEK CUISINE Olympic Café Alexi’s Greek Café

SEAFOOD Ironside Beerfish

COLLEGE/UNIVERSITY San Diego State University UC San Diego

MUSIC STORE M-Theory Music FeeLit

HAPPY HOUR #1 Fifth Avenue Redwing Bar & Grill

SPANISH CUISINE Café Sevilla Costa Brava

CONSIGNMENT/RESALEBUSINESS Rare Bird Consignment House Hillcrest Pawnbrokers

NEW BUSINESS Vom Fass San Diego LGBT Visitors Center

HEALTHY DINING Jyoti-Bihanga Tender Greens

SPORTS BAR True North Tavern Whiskey Girl

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PAWN SHOP Hillcrest Pawnbrokers North Park Jewelry & Loan

INTERNATIONAL CUISINE Kous Kous Moroccan Bistro Hanna’s Gourmet

STEAKHOUSE Donovan’s Steak & Chop House Red Fox Steakhouse

DAY SPA Bodhi Massage &Wellness Center Karma Relaxation Spa

PERSONAL TRAINER Ryan Gans, Fitness Together Chris Keith, SD Personal Trainer

IRISH PUB Oscar Wilde’s The Field

SUSHI Sushi Deli 1 Saiko Sake and Sushi Bar

DENTIST Dr. Jeffrey Keeny Mission Hills Dental Center

PET BOARDING Fido and Co., Canine Country Club Doozydog! Club

ITALIAN CUISINE DiMille’s Italian Restaurant Arrivederci Ristorante

THAI CUISINE Bahn Thai Veganic Thai Café

DOCTOR Dr. David Shamblaw Dr. Robert Houghton

PET GROOMING Art of Fur Academy You Dirty Dog

JAPANESE CUISINE Zensei Sushi Ichiban

VEGETARIAN/VEGANRESTAURANT Plumeria Vegetarian Restaurant Jyoti-Bihanga

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PET SUPPLY STORE Unleashed by Petco Urban Wolf

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VIETNAMESE FOOD Saigon on Fifth Pho Fifth Avenue

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WINE BAR Vom Fass Hillcrest Wine Steals

FLORIST Green Fresh Florals Florabella

PILATES Pilates Room Studios Pilates of San Diego


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GYM/HEALTH CLUB Fitness Together Mission Hills Chuze Fitness

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HARDWARE STORE Hillcrest Ace Hardware North Park Hardware

RETIREMENT LIVING St. Paul’s Senior Services Merrill Gardens at Bankers Hill

HEALTH FOOD STORE Stehly Farms Market Food Bowl

SOLAR COMPANY Sullivan Solar Power SolarCity

HOSPITAL SharpRees-StealyMedicalCenter Scripps Mercy Hospital

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HOTEL The Lafayette Hotel, Swim Club & Bungalows Porto Vista Hotel & Suites

TATTOO/PIERCING Church of Steel Vivid Tattoo

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VETERINARY HOSPITAL Bodhi Animal Hospital Kensington Veterinary Hospital YOGA STUDIO Pilgrimage of the Heart Yoga CorePower Yoga


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Dining & Entertainment Categories are divided into GOLD and SILVER winners

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WAYPOINT PUBLIC 3794 30th St. 92104 619-255-8778


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Barbecue PHIL’S BBQ

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Bar #1 FIFTH AVENUE 3845 Fifth Ave. 92103 619-299-1911

#1 Fifth Avenue: One of Hillcrest’s most legendary gay bars. #1 Fifth Avenue has seen many changes since it opened in the early ’80s. Now a relaxing tavern that caters to a casual crowd, #1 Fifth Avenue boasts shirtless bartenders, attractive waiters and an overall good energy. Conveniently located with a low-key vibe, #1 Fifth Avenue offers patrons delicious drinks at the lowest prices. A few televisions are set to whatever suits your fancy, but open ended, friendly conversation and whatever’s playing the jukebox typically fills the air. An outdoor bar allows patrons to avoid the indoor crowds during the bar’s busy hours and it also features an outdoor pool table. The courteous staff is more than willing to point out where to go and what to do in the neighborhood, however there’s nowhere quite as good to kick up your heels and throw back a drink or two than #1 Fifth Avenue.

REDWING BAR & GRILL 4012 30th St. 92104 619-281-8700

Billiards #1 FIFTH AVENUE 3845 Fifth Ave. 92103 619-299-1911

#1 Fifth Avenue: One of Hillcrest’s most legendary gay bars. #1 Fifth Avenue has seen many changes since it opened in the early ’80s. Now a relaxing tavern that caters to a casual crowd, #1 Fifth Avenue boasts shirtless bartenders, attractive waiters and an overall good energy. Conveniently located with a low-key vibe, #1 Fifth Avenue offers patrons delicious drinks at the lowest prices. A few televisions are set to whatever suits your fancy, but open ended, friendly conversation and whatever’s playing the jukebox typically fills the air. An outdoor bar allows patrons to avoid the indoor crowds during the bar’s busy hours and it also features an outdoor pool table. The courteous staff is more than willing to point out where to go and

what to do in the neighborhood, however there’s nowhere quite as good to kick up your heels and throw back a drink or two than #1 Fifth Avenue.


2046 University Ave. 92104 619-296-0889



142 University Ave. 92103 619-578-2909


308 University Ave. 92103 619-491-0400

2801 University Ave. 92104 619-220-8992

The Mission concept specializes in simple, healthy, tasty food with a whimsical edge and a focus on artful presentation at an affordable price. By focusing on the use of simple and fresh ingredients, this vibrant urban bistro promotes living in an increasingly health-conscious world. Our entrees are creatively presented, resulting in artful culinary displays that are sure to please the palette. Guests dine in dynamic, inviting surroundings with large, bright and airy windows and eye-catching local artwork. The menu, which includes everything from classic pancakes and sandwiches to modern Chino-Latino cuisine, is sure to satisfy every appetite. This concept in healthy dining, combined with pleasant surroundings, is The Mission’s specialty and has made The Mission a huge favorite among local San Diegans and travelers from around the world.

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9210 University Ave. 92103 619-692-9999


406 University Ave. 92103 619-487-1183


4642 Park Blvd. 92116 619-692-1652

COLIMA’S MEXICAN FOOD 2302 University Ave. 92104 619-297-2715 see Dining & Entertainment, pg 6

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Take a break from it all and enjoy world-class gaming, right here in the heart of San Diego. From 2,000 video or reel slots, table games, bingo, poker, Asian table games, roulette and craps, Sycuan Casino has the best that there is to offer for true gamers. And that’s just the beginning. There’s always something happening at Sycuan Casino — and the best news is that it is located just 20 minutes from Downtown San Diego. Whether it’s to enjoy one of their upcoming entertainers like The Spinners or Blue Oyster Cult — OR to feast on over 100 fresh food items at Paipa’s Buffet — your visit will be an experience you won’t forget. Whether it’s a special promotion like Military Mondays or Bingo After Dark —Sycuan Casino offers something for everyone. Head to Sycuan — to play — and win! BARONA RESORT & CASINO


1932 Wildcat Canyon Rd., Lakeside 888-722-7662

3812 Grim Ave. 92104 619-255-7136

Casual Dining PAESANO 3647 30th St. 92104 619-291-4090


3958 Fifth Ave. 92103 619-293-7900

Chinese Cuisine HONG KONG RESTAURANT 3871 Fourth Ave. 92103 619-291-9449


2877 University Ave. 92104 619-295-2610

Cocktail #1 FIFTH AVENUE 3845 Fifth Ave. 92103 619-299-1911

#1 Fifth Avenue: One of Hillcrest’s most legendary gay bars. #1 Fifth Avenue has seen many

changes since it opened in the early ’80s. Now a relaxing tavern that caters to a casual crowd, #1 Fifth Avenue boasts shirtless bartenders, attractive waiters and an overall good energy. Conveniently located with a low-key vibe, #1 Fifth Avenue offers patrons delicious drinks at the lowest prices. A few televisions are set to whatever suits your fancy, but open ended, friendly conversation and whatever’s playing the jukebox typically fills the air. An outdoor bar allows patrons to avoid the indoor crowds during the bar’s busy hours and it also features an outdoor pool table. The courteous staff is more than willing to point out where to go and what to do in the neighborhood, however there’s nowhere quite as good to kick up your heels and throw back a drink or two than #1 Fifth Avenue.


1236 University Ave. 92103 619-241-2710


1458 University Ave. 92103 619-269-4323

Coffee Shop LESTAT’S ON PARK 4496 Park Blvd. 92116 619-501-6638

FILTER COFFEE HOUSE 1295 University Ave. 92103 619-299-0145

Comfort Food HASH HOUSE A GO GO 3628 Fifth Ave. 92103 619-298-4646


3958 University Ave. 92103 619-293-7900

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3702 Fifth Ave. 92103 619-295-4666

“An icon” in Hillcrest, The Deli Llama has won 16 awards in its seven years by continuing to offer top quality sandwiches, soups and salads and the kind of customer service that makes you feel like family! Featuring specialty drinks, awardwinning sauces and aiolis, as well as gluten-free, vegetarian and vegan options, all in a whimsical circus environment. Come meet the Llamas for yourself and you’ll be a llama lover, too! Delivery and catering available. Unleash your inner Llama!"


6930 Alvarado Rd. 92120 619-265-0218


3766 Fifth Ave. 92103 619-296-4173


2929 Fifth Ave. 92103 619-294-2132

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THE PATIO ON GOLDFINCH 4020 Goldfinch St. 92103 619-501-5090

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3492 Adams Ave. 92116 619-283-3153

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We opened for business on Oct. 28, 1978 under the direction and guidance of Mamma and Pappa DiMille. The recipes for all the menu items were developed by Mamma DiMille, which included the same recipes she had learned from her mother and grandmother and had been cooking for her own family for years. During this time, her sons were active as cooks, waiters, dishwashers, and handymen. It was also during this time that Pappa DiMille taught the boys how to run a business. We love you San Diego! Let us cater to you!

WAYPOINT PUBLIC 3794 30th St. 92104 619-255-8778 © 2016 Ascent Real Estate® is a registered trademark licensed to Ascent Real Estate, Inc. An Equal Housing/Equal Opportunity Company. Information deemed accurate but not guaranteed. Buyer to verify all before close of escrow. CalBRE #01501132

see Dining & Entertainment, pg 7



Farmers Market HILLCREST FARMERS MARKET 3960 Normal St. 92103 619-299-3330

LITTLE ITALY MERCATO 519 W Cedar St. 92101 619-233-3901

Fast Food CHIPOTLE MEXICAN GRILL 734 University Ave. 92103 619-209-3688


2005 Camino del Este 92108 800-786-1000


4020 Goldfinch St. 92103 619-501-5090

EDDIE V’S PRIME SEAFOOD 789 W. Harbor Dr. 92101 619-615-0281

French Cuisine ET VIOLA! FRENCH BISTRO 3015 Adams Ave. 92116 619-209-7759


willing to point out where to go and what to do in the neighborhood, however there’s nowhere quite as good to kick up your heels and throw back a drink or two than #1 Fifth Avenue.

Frozen Yogurt PINKBERRY


3797 Park Blvd. 92103 619-546-4328

3795 Fourth Ave. 92103 619-260-9106

4012 30th St. 92104 619-281-8700


1010 University Ave. #C-103 92103 619-297-0850

Greek Cuisine OLYMPIC CAFÉ

2340 University Ave. 92104 619-692-9082

ALEXI’S GREEK CAFÉ 3863 Fifth Ave. 92103 619-297-1777

Happy Hour #1 FIFTH AVENUE

3845 Fifth Ave. 92103 619-299-1911

#1 Fifth Avenue: One of Hillcrest’s most legendary gay bars. #1 Fifth Avenue has seen many changes since it opened in the early ’80s. Now a relaxing tavern that caters to a casual crowd, #1 Fifth Avenue boasts shirtless bartenders, attractive waiters and an overall good energy. Conveniently located with a low-key vibe, #1 Fifth Avenue offers patrons delicious drinks at the lowest prices. A few televisions are set to whatever suits your fancy, but open ended, friendly conversation and whatever’s playing the jukebox typically fills the air. An outdoor bar allows patrons to avoid the indoor crowds during the bar’s busy hours and it also features an outdoor pool table. The courteous staff is more than

Healthy Dining JYOTI-BIHANGA

3351 Adams Ave. 92116 619-282-4116


2400 Historic Decatur Rd. 92106 619-226-6254

Indian Cuisine TASTE OF THE HIMALAYAS 1260 University Ave. 92103 619-888-5853

BOMBAY EXOTIC CUISINE OF INDIA 3960 Fifth Ave. 92103 619-297-7777


3940 Fourth Ave. 92103 619-295-5560


2864 Adams Ave. 92116 619-280-5600 see Dining & Entertainment, pg 8

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Live Music Venue HOUSE OF BLUES


1055 Fifth Ave. 92101 619-299-2583



1440 University Ave. 92103 619-567-8249

4612 Park Blvd. 2116 619-795-9700



544 Fifth Ave. 92101 619-232-9840

Italian Cuisine DIMILLE’S ITALIAN RESTAURANT 3492 Adams Ave. 92116 619-283-3153

We opened for business on Oct. 28, 1978 under the direction and guidance of Mamma and Pappa DiMille. The recipes for all the menu items were developed by Mamma DiMille, which included the same recipes she had learned from her mother and grandmother and had been cooking for her own family for years. During this time, her sons were active as cooks, waiters, dishwashers, and handymen. It was also during this time that Pappa DiMille taught the boys how to run a business. We love you San Diego! Let us cater to you!

ARRIVEDERCI RISTORANTE 3845 Fourth Ave. 92103 619-299-6282

Say Arrivederci to other Italian restaurants and find “heaven on earth” right here at this popular eatery in Hillcrest. Ask any local who voted Arrivederci Best Italian Cuisine and they will tell you just how terrific they think this trattoria is with “large portions of wonderful pasta” and “hearty” secondi.

Enjoy “consistently excellent daily specials” offered “at reasonable prices” and hunky, pleased-to-serveyou, waiters are some of the reasons the small quarters inside and out are “always full” at Arrivederci. Open daily for lunch and dinner.

Japanese Cuisine ZENSEI SUSHI 3396 30th St. 92104 619-546-6171


1449 University Ave. 92103 619-299-7203

Late Night Dining HONG KONG RESTAURANT 3871 Fourth Ave. 92103 619-291-9449


1236 University Ave. 92103 619-241-2710

4545 Park Blvd. 92116 619-220-0097

Diversionary kicks off Season 31 with the indie rock musical LIZARD BOY, playing through 10/30! Kirsten deLohr Helland, Justin Huertas and William A. Williams make up the cast and band of this fantastical comicbook and concert explosion. After being scorned by a lost love, Trevor (Huertas) hasn’t left home in a year. Curious to find his ex, he sneaks onto the hook-up app Grindr and inadvertently meets Cary (Williams), a kindred spirit who lures him out into the world. While on their night out, Trevor discovers a mysterious stranger who's been haunting his dreams (Siren, played by deLohr Helland), who catapults the two young lovers upon the adventure of their lives! LIZARD BOY illuminates a unique world that celebrates individuality to the tune of a wild assortment of instruments from cello to kazoos and reveals the thin line between what makes a freak or hero!


1363 Old Globe Way 92101 619-234-5623

The internationally-acclaimed, Tony Award-winning Old Globe is one of the most renowned regional theatres in the country, and has stood as San Diego’s flagship arts institution for over 75 years.



SEPT 29 - OCT 30 2016









The Old Globe produces a year-round season of plays and musicals on its three stages, including its highly-regarded Shakespeare festival. The Globe has become a gathering place for leading theatre artists from around the world, such as Tom Stoppard, Daniel Sullivan, and Chita Rivera, among many others. Numerous Broadway-bound premieres and revivals, such as Dirty Rotten Scoundrels, The Full Monty, and Damn Yankees, have been developed at The Old Globe and gone on to enjoy highly successful runs in New York and at regional theaters across the country. The Old Globe is at the forefront of the nation’s leading performing arts organizations, setting a standard for excellence in American Theatre.

4545 Park Blvd, San Diego, CA 92116


3040 North Park Way 92104 619-295-8072


2046 University Ave. 92104 619-296-0889


3958 Fifth Ave. 92103 619-293-7900


3702 Fifth Ave. 92103 619-295-4666

“An icon” in Hillcrest, The Deli Llama has won 16 awards in its seven years by continuing to offer top quality sandwiches, soups and salads and the kind of customer service that makes you feel like family! Featuring specialty drinks, awardwinning sauces and aiolis, as well as gluten-free, vegetarian and vegan options, all in a whimsical circus environment. Come meet the Llamas for yourself and you’ll be a llama lover, too! Delivery and catering available. Unleash your inner Llama!"

see Dining & Entertainment, pg 9


Neighborhood Bar #1 FIFTH AVENUE


3845 Fifth Avenue. 92103 619-299-1911



141 University Ave. 92103 619-692-4200

1458 University Ave. 92103 619-269-4323



1421 University Ave. 92103 619-269-8510

3812 Grim Ave. 92104 619-255-7136


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#1 Fifth Avenue: One of Hillcrest’s most legendary gay bars. #1 Fifth Avenue has seen many changes since it opened in the early ’80s. Now a relaxing tavern that caters to a casual crowd, #1 Fifth Avenue boasts shirtless bartenders, attractive waiters and an overall good energy. Conveniently located with a low-key vibe, #1 Fifth Avenue offers patrons delicious drinks at the lowest prices. A few televisions are set to whatever suits your fancy, but open ended, friendly conversation and whatever’s playing the jukebox typically fills the air. An outdoor bar allows patrons to avoid the indoor crowds during the bar’s busy hours and it also features an outdoor pool table. The courteous staff is more than willing to point out where to go and what to do in the neighborhood, however there’s

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nowhere quite as good to kick up your heels and throw back a drink or two than #1 Fifth Avenue.


2046 University Ave. 92104 619-296-0889

New Restaurant BEERFISH 2933 Adams Ave. 92116 619-363-2337


142 University Ave. 92103 619-578-2909


1051 University Ave. 92103 619-295-2195

Rich's is San Diego's largest and

most popular gay nightclub. We have two large, separate rooms each with a fullystocked bar, DJ, and dance floor; a VIP area with four private VIP booths and a separate private party room that overlooks the main dance floor; and an outdoor smoking patio. Located in the heart of Hillcrest , Rich's San Diego is on the main drag of University Avenue, across from the HUB. We are open 10 p.m.-2 a.m. Wednesday through Sunday. For more information check out or

see Night Club, pg 10


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NIGHT CLUB NUMBERS SAN DIEGO 3811 Park Blvd. 92103 619-294-7583


3766 Fifth Ave. 92103 619-296-4173

time, her sons were active as cooks, waiters, dishwashers, and handymen. It was also during this time that Pappa DiMille taught the boys how to run a business. We love you San Diego! Let us cater to you!

2933 Adams Ave. 92116 619-363-2337


Pet Friendly Dining BEERFISH

3845 Fifth Ave. 92103 619-299-1911

#1 Fifth Avenue: One of Hillcrest’s most legendary gay bars. #1 Fifth Avenue has seen many changes since it opened in the early ’80s. Now a relaxing tavern that caters to a casual crowd, #1 Fifth Avenue boasts shirtless bartenders, attractive waiters and an overall good energy. Conveniently located with a low-key vibe, #1 Fifth Avenue offers patrons delicious drinks at the lowest prices. A few televisions are set to whatever suits your fancy, but open ended, friendly conversation and whatever’s playing the jukebox typically fills the air. An outdoor bar allows patrons to avoid the indoor crowds during the bar’s busy hours and it also features an outdoor pool table. The courteous staff is more than willing to point out where to go and what to do in the neighborhood, however there’s nowhere quite as good to kick up your heels and throw back a drink or two than #1 Fifth Avenue.


1220 University Ave. 92103 619-260-8023


4020 Goldfinch St. 92103 619-501-5090

672 Fifth Ave. 92101 619-595-0123


3175 India St. 92103 619-358-9766


2400 Historic Decatur Rd. 92106 619-226-6254

THE PATIO ON GOLDFINCH 4020 Goldfinch St. 92103 619-501-5090

Spanish Cuisine CAFÉ SEVILLA 353 Fifth Ave. 92101 619-233-5979


3815 30th St. 92104 619-291-3815


702 Fifth Ave. 92101 619-236-1616

8590 Rio San Diego Dr. #109, 92108 619-291-1122


3958 Fifth Ave. 92103 619-293-7900



1654 India St. 92101 619-269-3033

Steakhouse DONOVAN’S STEAK & CHOP HOUSE 570 K St. 92101 619-237-9700 La Jolla Location: 1250 Prospect St. 92037 858-450-6666




We are “A sub above!"

1653 Garnet Ave. 92109 858-273-1218

1010 University Ave. 92103 619-452-2856

111 Washington St. 92103 619-291-3341

We opened for business on Oct. 28, 1978 under the direction and guidance of Mamma and Pappa DiMille. The recipes for all the menu items were developed by Mamma DiMille, which included the same recipes she had learned from her mother and grandmother and had been cooking for her own family for years. During this

2933 Adams Ave. 92116 619-363-2337

Sub Sandwich IKE’S PLACE


3492 Adams Ave. 92116 619-283-3153


Jersey Mike’s Subs on Mission Gorge Road is pleased and grateful for the support of our Gay San Diego readers. We would not have the high ratings that we do, without our readership and customer base. We are known for our multitude of choices and the freshest subs, hot or cold available in San Diego. Call ahead or stop in today. Remember we are the perfect tailgate food this football season, or to have for your home parties!

Donovan’s Steakhouse is one of San Diego’s premiere steak and chophouses, serving mouthwatering steaks and exquisite seafood. With a lavish yet welcoming atmosphere, Donovan’s is the perfect spot to grab an amazing meal or enjoy world-class drinks. While all items on Donovan’s menu are delectable, the star attractions are their USDA Prime graded steaks. These fresh, never frozen cuts of meat are wet-aged for tenderness and peak flavor and are incredible on their own, or are delicious paired with rock lobster or King crab legs for the ideal surf and turf combination. Speaking of seafood, one of Donovan’s most awe-inspiring dishes is the chilled seafood tower. Complete with rock lobster, King crab legs, Blue Point oysters and white Gulf shrimp all served on ice. While customers are familiar with Donovan’s Downtown location, many are unaware of their equally impressive La Jolla site. Anyone who craves a great dining experience should make Donovan’s Steakhouse their next destination.

RED FOX STEAKHOUSE 2223 El Cajon Blvd. 92104 619-297-1313


228 W. Washington St. 92103 619-231-9597

Sushi Deli was started in 1983 by Mrs. Otake. She worked alone out of a small storefront shop in Downtown San Diego making simple sushi rolls and sandwiches, hence Sushi Deli. The business has grown over the years and although they no longer making sandwiches, Mr. and Mrs. Otake take pride in ensuring the highest quality and quantity of Japanese style cuisine at a super value. Although the days of the 99 cent Bud Light may be gone, the new days of local craft beers, specialty sake and unique sake cocktails has only just begun. So come on in, order your favorite appetizer and roll — maybe it’s the Scallop Dynamite and the Hillcrest Roll or could it be the Sushi Deli Fries and the San Diego Roll — and don’t forget to enjoy it all with one of San Diego’s popular craft beers. I’ll see you at the bar!


2884 University Ave. 92104 619-677-3907

Thai Cuisine BAHN THAI 4646 Park Blvd. 92116 619-299-6363


1417 University Ave. 92103 619-230-5540 see Dining & Entertainment, pg 11


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Acupuncture FIX BODY GROUP


1010 University Ave. 92103 619-295-9791



4661 Park Blvd. 92116 619-269-9989

3080 N. Park Way 92104 619-294-6616


Salon For Men

Thank you for Voting for Bear Hair by Chuck


3351 Adams Ave. 92116 619-282-4116

2525 University Ave. 92104 619-822-4280

Vietnamese Cuisine SAIGON ON FIFTH

3900 Fifth Ave. 92103 619-220-8828

We enjoy having our shop in Hillcrest and being a “neighborhood store,” where customers return again and again and we are able to help with local community fundraising events. We invite you to come and enjoy the world’s best tasting experience. In addition, we have wine tasting every Wednesday, from 5:30-7:30 p.m., and its just $5. Be sure and bring a friend, too!

PHO FIFTH AVENUE 3807 Fifth Ave. 92103 619-260-3555

Wine Bar VOM FASS HILLCREST 1050 University Ave. 92103 619-534-5034

VOM FASS Hillcrest is locally-owned by Jay and Colleen Cavalieri. We opened our shop in the HUB — by Ralph’s and Trader Joe’s — in May 2015. We satisfy your cravings for life's little luxuries, worldly experiences and easy, delicious, healthy meals and entertaining at home. Our products include the world’s finest olive oil, nut and seed oil, balsamic vinegar, spices, liqueurs, wines and spirits — including 18 different Scotch, American and Irish Whiskies, and 10 different brandies. We enjoy sharing our love of the products with customers, with free tastes daily in the shop, as well as private tasting parties. We are a terrific resource for your corporate and personal gift giving and unique private events.

1407 University Ave. 92103 619-299-7186


1243 University Ave. 92103 619-295-1188


Business & Retail Accountant CARLSON TAX SERVICE 2637 Adams Ave. 92116 619-298-7562

ABBAS, JENSON & CUNDARI CPAS 1940 Fifth Ave. 92103 619-298-9699

“October Sky feels good all over!” Talkin’ Broadway

October Sky Book by Brian Hill and Aaron Thielen Music and Lyrics by Michael Mahler Directed and Choreographed by Rachel Rockwell Inspired by the Universal Pictures film and Rocket Boys by Homer H. Hickam, Jr.


One More Week! Must Close October 23

The cast of October Sky. Photo by Jim Cox.

“Only the hardest-hearted could resist.” The New York Times

The Lion Written and Performed by Benjamin Scheuer Directed by Sean Daniels

Limited Engagement through October 30 Benjamin Scheuer. Photo by Matthew Murphy.

(619) 23-GLOBE (234-5623)

Antiques INDIA STREET ANTIQUES 2361 India St. 92101 619-231-3004


3795 Park Blvd. San Diego 92103 619-295-4832 see Business & Retail, pg 12



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Appliance Store SEARS OUTLET

3131 National City Blvd. National City 91950 619-336-4020

960 Sherman St. 92110 619-497-1123

AZTEC APPLIANCE 665 15th St. 92101 619-236-0616


Slow Down & Taste Awhile

Taste the World’s Finest Oils, Vinegars, Spirits, and Wines Before You Buy!

502 University Ave. 92103 800-685-2513

ALEXANDER SALAZAR FINE ART 1040 Seventh Ave. 92101 619-531-8996

Well-respected international art dealer Alexander Salazar opened Alexander Salazar Fine Art in Downtown San Diego in March 2010. Salazar holds a master’s degree in theology and art from Harvard University and a second masters in sociology and art from Boston College. While an undergraduate at the Colorado College he lived in London to study modern and contemporary art and then moved to Florence, Italy to study the masters, such at Bernini and Botticelli. With over 15 years experience as an art dealer, Salazar has built private and corporate collections worldwide. Specialties include corporate art collections; hotel art collections; art appraisals; art investments; private collectors; and young collectors.


5090 Kearny Mesa Rd. 92111 858-223-5000

Ever since we first opened our doors, our focus has been on pairing the right person with the right vehicle. At South Bay Volkswagen it’s never about another sale, but about helping our friends, neighbors and members of the National City, California, community find their dream car. Your car is more than a mode of transportation, but is representative of your style and personality. The car shopping experience should be no different. The South Bay Volkswagen shopping experience is personalized and is built to accommodate you. Whether you know exactly what you want or want to look at some options, the South Bay Volkswagen team is here to help. There are no high-pressure sales, just a friendly staff standing by to help if and when you need us.


308 W. Washington St. 92103 619-299-9367

Established in 1981, Mission Hills Automotive has a spotless reputation as an auto repair company. This company aims to do excellent service at a reasonable cost, never leaving its customers unsatisfied. Both foreign and domestic cars are serviced, and all types of auto repair are handled from under the hood, service repairs and fluid changes, to accessories and custom modifications. Professional technicians are ASE master certified and highly educated about the newest machinery and equipment in the automotive field.To ensure this, employees have on-going

training to keep up with the changing technology. Customer service is highly valued by Mission Hills Automotive and your satisfaction is a must, with your car, the price, and the service. For any questions or make an appointment and bring your car in today, go to their website or call today.


4491 Park Blvd. 92116 619-297-4204

Bank CALIFORNIA BANK AND TRUST 3737 Fifth Ave. 92103 619-299-9700

California Bank & Trust (CB&T) is a full service banking company out of San Diego that specializes in commercial, business, personal banking, wealth management and commercial real estate. Established in 1972, it has grown to acquire several smaller banks and now employs nearly 1,700 people, operating in 102 branches throughout California. CB&T has rapidly grown to be a leader in global financial services, including areas of research and consulting, is rated “outstanding” by the FDIC for its performance under the Community Reinvestment Act, and is a preferred lender of the Small Business Association. As a company, CB&T focuses on personal relationships, building trust and meeting the client’s needs. In return, clients get the opportunity to work with get highly educated, experienced, professional bankers who attend to them on a very personalized, one-on-one basis. For more information or to speak to customer service call 800-400-6080 or visit their website above.


CalBRE# 01308749 REALTOR


Commercial Properties Income Properties 3930 Idaho Street, San Diego, CA 92104

• Highly experienced mechanics • Friendly and honest service • Fully licensed and insured technicians • Open 7 day a week

308 Washington St., San Diego, CA 92103

(619) 299-9367 • Hours: Monday-Friday 7 am - 6 pm • Saturday 8 am - 5 pm • Sunday 8 am - 5 pm Visit our PB location: Cass Street Automotive, 5165 Cass Street, Pacific Beach CA 92109



We are Your Bumper-to-Bumper Complete Dealership Alternative!

see Bank, pg 13




3900 Fifth Ave. #100, 92103 619-682-5160

With three branches located in the Bankers Hill, Hillcrest and North Park neighborhoods, Union Bank is your community bank and well positioned to serve the needs of residents and businesses. As a strong community partner, Union Bank is proud to have been voted Best Bank by the readers of GAY San Diego. Thank you to our customers and fans.

Boutique CODY’S HOME + GIFT 1029 University Ave. 92103 619-269-7264

CREATIVE CROSSROADS 502 University Ave. 92103 800-685-2513


2301 El Cajon Blvd. 92104 619-269-9909

INNER BALANCE INSTITUTE 1816 Lincoln Ave. 92103 619-543-9999

Collective POINT LOMA PATIENTS CONSUMER CO-OP 3452 Hancock St. 92110 | 619-574-0415



Thanks to everyone for voting Mission Hills Bikes the Best. Serving the community since 1938, we have always taken pride in providing quality service to all cyclists. We look forward to taking care of your cycling needs in the future. Whether it is fixing your current bike or finding the new bike of your dreams, we are here for you. Looking forward to seeing you soon. Thanks again for voting us Best Bike Shop!


141 W. Washington St. 92103 619-296-0618

BROOKLYN BICYCLES 3437 Adams Ave. 92116 619-283-1926

2405 E. Harbor Dr. 92110 619-841-2045

5500 Campanile Dr. 92182 619-594-5200


10300 N. Torrey Pines Rd. La Jolla, CA 92037 858-534-2230

Consignment/Resale RARE BIRD CONSIGNMENT HOUSE 1918 Ft. Stockton Dr. 92103 619-450-6500

Located in Mission Hills, Rare Bird Consignment shines as soon as you take a stroll up their brick walkway and step through the doors of this quaint and treasure-filled cottage. Founded in 2011, Rare Bird is run and operated by a native of the Mission Hills neighborhood, who prides herself in not only her discriminating eye, but her brilliant way of taking something that may appear “ordinary” at first glance and turning it into something beautifully unique. Owner Kelly Kraus has over 20 years of experience in art, graphic design, interior design and furniture. If you are lucky enough to chat with her as you hunt for goodies in this picturesque shop, you will quickly learn that her knowledge and love of home furnishings and design is boundless. Unlike many consignment stores, Rare Bird has the uncanny ability of taking pieces from various backgrounds, time periods, and styles- and making them coalesce. If you are looking for inspiration, expert advice and handpicked pieces for your home or office, put all of your eggs in one basket because this bird is one of kind.

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strive to achieve the best results for their patients. Whether you come to him for skin rejuvenation with microdermabrasion, or wrinkle fillers such as Restylane, or for advanced acne treatment or laser hair removal, you can be rest-assured Dr. Heimer and his staff will do everything in their power to make sure you leave the office satisfied. Healthy, smooth skin gives you a fresh, youthful appearance. Great skin is a key element of beauty; when your skin is welltaken care of, it acquires the famous “glow,"

it is "radiantly" beautiful. Though they may not be able to put their finger on the exact reason, people tend to notice something special about a person with perfect skin.

see Dermatology, pg 14

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3678 Fourth Ave. 92103 619-274-2744

3911 Normal St. 92103 619-795-6700


502 University Ave. Suite 500, 92103 (877) 732-2848

San Diego County Credit Union has been in business since 1938 and today offers its financial services to over 285,000 San Diegans. Individuals who live in Orange County, Riverside, or those who join the Financial Fitness Association are also eligible to become members. Not only have we served San Diego for nearly 100 years, we are also locally owned and the leading economic establishment in the area. Checking and savings accounts, mortgage loans, auto loans, online and mobile banking, and investments are readily available. We pride ourselves in being involved with over 75 local nonprofit organizations such as the National Multiple Sclerosis Society, Rady Children’s Hospital, San Diego Blood Bank, San Diego Humane Society and beyond. San Diego is not only your hometown, but ours as well. We understand what it’s like to live in San Diego and will help you in all your individual needs. Come stop by today!


1060 University Ave. #101, 92103 858-495-1600

For over a decade now, Bodhi Massage & Wellness Center has served San Diego as a respite and neighborhood sanctuary. Located in a century-old craftsman home, nestled under a sacred ficus or “Bodhi” tree, the ambiance is set before you even walk in the door. The aroma of handcrafted candles and essential oils entice all who enter and the compassionate staff greets you with smiles and refreshing spa water. With services ranging from deep tissue to Thai yoga massage and couple’s treatments, there is something for everyone. You can also add-on reflexology, aroma-therapy, a deep scalp treatment, or a radiant face renewal treatment to any session. Our practitioners are of the highest level of talent and handpicked based on education, experience and the ability to provide results for our clients. The Bodhi team is dedicated to serving you with simply the best massage, acupuncture and bodywork available for many years to come.

KARMA RELAXATION SPA 3696 First Ave. 92103 619-299-9888

Karma Relaxation’s motto is “affordable indulgence.” They have packages for everyone and offer many services at their Hillcrest location. Among the most popular are the sports massage, Swedish massage, deep tissue massage, hot stone massage, hot oil massage and of course the couples massage. But their offerings don’t stop there. Also available are facials, body scrubs, body wraps and detox, aromatherapy,

A strong community stArts With A strong bAnk. Doing right starts right here. Community banking is at the heart of what we do. From giving customers more convenient access to their money to financing their homes in the neighborhood, Union Bank® believes in acting locally.1 We also believe that investing in local businesses helps everyone. For 150 years, Union Bank has grown strong, one community at a time. We live here. We do business here. And we’re here, for you.


Jeffrey S. Keeny, DDS is a dentist who can provide you with exceptional service through regular dental cleanings, root canals, implants, dentures, crowns, bridges, teeth whitening, dental insurance, and more. Dr. Keeny’s staff is always willing to help and can be contacted at any time to help aid in any of your dental needs. We are open from Monday to Friday and have an open schedule to fit you in at your earliest convenience. Not only is Dr. Keeny’s practice open and friendly, but the location is in the heart of San Diego. Whether, you live near Fashion Valley, North Park, University Heights, Mission Hills, or other nearby locations this establishment is just a hop, skip, and a jump away. Patient forms are available online. We hope to see you today and would love to help you have an amazing, bright beautiful smile. Give us a call today.

MISSION HILLS DENTAL CENTER 718 W. Washington St. 92103 619-699-9008

Doctor DR. DAVID SHAMBLAW 2970 Fifth Ave. #140, 92103 619-260-3456

Dr. David Shamblaw is a primary care physician with over 15 years of experience and he specializes in general, preventive medical care and HIV services. Dr. Shamblaw truly cares about his patients and listens to each and every individual concern, creating a welcoming and comforting environment in which patients can discuss their health. He is also a member of the American Academy of HIV Medicine, San Diego Business Association and the San Diego County Medical Society. He also participates in clinical trials at his practice. Services include immunizations, routine screenings for cardiovascular disease, cancers and sexually transmitted diseases. His practice is conveniently located in Hillcrest and offers free parking. Come make an appointment today and experience genuine and exceptional care.


1020 University Ave. 92103 619-299-2378

VERIBEST CLEANERS 419 Robinson Ave. 92103 619-574-6239

North Park Branch Lynette Hurd, Director & Branch Manager 2927 University Avenue San Diego, CA 92104 619-220-7620

Loans subject to credit and collateral approval. Financing available for collateral located in CA, OR, or WA. Restrictions may apply. Terms and conditions subject to change. ©2016 MUFG Union Bank, N.A. All rights reserved. Member FDIC. Equal Housing Lender. Union Bank is a registered trademark and brand name of MUFG Union Bank, N.A.

1807 Robinson Ave. #101, 92103 619-295-1512

1855 First Ave. 92101 619-233-4044 Hillcrest Branch Rick Bernardo Vice President & Branch Manager 3900 5th Avenue, Suite 100 San Diego, CA 92103 619-682-5160



Experience the strength of community banking. Stop by your local branch today.

Fourth & Laurel Branch Randy Truax Vice President & Branch Manager 344 Laurel Street San Diego, CA 92101 619-702-2780

reflexology and acupressure. Many customers also enjoy spending time in the sauna and steam room. Whatever your reason, you’ll be glad that you came to Karma Relaxation Spa. Packages are available. Give them a call today!


4365 Executive Dr. #80, 92121 858-623-8945

Mary has been a successful financial advisor with Stockton Financial for nearly 20 years. In 2009 and 2012, Stockton earned the Agent of the Year award for her local office. She has also been awarded Top Producer, Mutual Fund Leader, Annuity Elite Champion, and the Life Star Award, among others.

see Financial Planner, pg 15


FINANCIAL PLANNER Stockton was acknowledged by San Diego Pride in 2011 with the Pride Community Service Award, and in 2012 by the Tom Homann Law Association with the Outstanding Service to the Community Award. In 2009 Stockton was awarded the Mind Masters Entrepreneur of the Year Award. Prior to moving to San Diego she owned the Crones' Harvest, a women’s bookstore in Boston. Her business became a valuable cultural center and she was honored with the Helen Diner Community Leadership Award. Locally Stockton has served on the boards of Stepping Stone of San Diego, the San Diego LGBT Center, San Diego Human Dignity Foundation and Diversionary Theatre. Stockton is married to Alison McManus, a doctor in nursing practice and an activist in her own right. They live in North Park.


8910 University Center Dr. 92122 858-457-1310

Florist GREEN FRESH FLORALS 3785 Fourth Ave. 92103 619-544-0504


1732 Madison Ave. 92116 619-574-7673

Furniture Store LIVING SPACES

8730 Rio San Diego Dr. 92108 877-266-7300


2149 Fenton Pkwy. 92108 | 888-888-4532

4019 Goldfinch St. 92103 619-794-0014 (See our Personal Trainer winner p18)


GALLERY WEST SALON 3975 Fifth Ave. 92103 619-501-2068


NORTH PARK HARDWARE 3090 University Ave. 92104 619-295-2125

Health Food Store STEHLY FARMS MARKET 4142 Adams Ave. 92116 619-290-7400

1233 Camino Del Rio S. 92108 619-297-7000




4002 Park Blvd. 92103 619-694-8482

While most patrons visit Bear Hair by Chuck for either a haircut or trim, there is yet another reason for a visit. Chuck is most excellent with his haircutting skills, and he also carries an exceptional line of hair care products, from shampoos to hair pomades, he has it all. With brands such as Beardashery beard oils, Paul Mitchell tea tree products, Layrite styling products and American Crew styling products, you can’t help but look and feel good. Bear Hair by Chuck is open Tuesday through Thursday, 10:30 a.m.–9 p.m.; Friday, 10:30 a.m.-7:30 p.m.; and Sat 10:30 a.m.–6 p.m. Bear Hair by Chuck is


conveniently located on Park Boulevard. Haircuts are by appointment only.

1003 University Ave. 92103 619-291-5988


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3035 Cedar St. 92102 619-239-4709

300 Fir St. 92101 858-499-2600

SCRIPPS MERCY HOSPITAL 4077 Fifth Ave. 92103 619-294-8111

Hotel THE LAFAYETTE HOTEL, SWIM CLUB & BUNGALOWS 2223 El Cajon Blvd. 92104 619-296-2101 see Hotel, pg 17


Thanks for voting us Best Bike Shop again!

Bicycle Store and Repair Serving San Diego cyclists since 1938!

Hours: Mon-Thu 9am - 6pm • Fri-Sat 9am - 7pm • Sun 10am - 4pm

Mission Hills Bikes

(619) 296-0618 141 West Washington Street (between Front St & 1st Ave)


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60 Minute Body Massage .......$39 90 Minute Body Massage ....... $59 2 Hour Body Massage ............ $79 $10 Off Any Package *Must pay cash to receive specials.

3969 1st. Ave. San Diego, CA. 92103

(619) 299-9888



PORTO VISTA HOTEL & SUITES 1835 Columbia St. 92101 619-544-0164


4365 Executive Dr. #800, 92121 858-623-8945


7676 Hazard Center Dr. 92108 619-546-6160

Jeweler STUART BENJAMIN & CO. 7510 Hazard Center Dr. 92108 619-297-7666

San Diego’s trusted third generation jeweler. When shopping for a ring, would you rather speak to a jewelry expert or a salesperson? Expert of course! That’s why more people look to San Diego’s trusted thirdgeneration jeweler, Stuart Benjamin & Co. Jewelry Designs for professional knowledge on their purchase and repair. This exceptional level of service and integrity has been rewarded, with Stuart Benjamin & Co. becoming an American Gem Society (AGS) member, which only 5 percent of jewelry stores in the nation qualify. In addition, their staff is all graduates of the Gemological Institute of America (GIA), which means you can feel confident with your purchase and know they stand behind their jewelry and reputation of quality. From their intimate showroom highlighting a beautiful selection of bridal rings, exquisite diamonds, custom jewelry and repairs, to their award winning service, its easy to see why Stuart Benjamin & Co. Jewelry Designs, remains a favorite in San Diego.


3975 Fifth Ave. 92103 619-269-5853


8880 Rio San Diego Dr. 92108 619-260-1122

Susan L. Hartman, Esq., is a Connecticut native who attended the University of New Mexico for her undergraduate degree. She earned a bachelor of arts in criminology, with a minor in sociology, graduating with a 3.52 GPA. In 1998, Hartman moved to San Diego to attend law school at Thomas Jefferson School of Law, were she graduated Cum Laude in December 2002. Following graduation, Susan opened her own law office with a focus on estate planning. A few years later she was offered a position as a Deputy Public Defender in Orange County, where she practiced as a trial attorney. In 2010, after her tenure as a public defender, she reopened her own practice, exclusively defending individuals accused of DUI in the San Diego area.

LAW OFFICE OF RACHEL P. YOUNG 101 W. Broadway #1950, 92101 619-584-0505

Manicure/Pedicure Salon BEAUTY LOUNGE

3745 Fifth Ave. 92103 619-255-2591


1278 University Ave. 92103 619-574-6752


1080 University Ave. 92103 619-296-5668

The mission of the Knotstop is to offer their clients an accessible massage and skin care experience where they feel truly relaxed and welcomed. With locations in San Diego and Aliso Viejo, their team of expert licensed massage and skin care practitioners are available seven days a week to provide massage and skin care services at an exceptional value. Founder Adam Shevel opened Knotstop with a deep commitment to making a quality massage affordable for his community. Ten years and hundreds of customer service awards later, this growing company is still as focused as ever to provide the best in service and value when it comes to massage and skincare. From the day they opened their doors in 2006, they have strived to be an enjoyable place for their customers and a partner in the small business community. Whether it’s one of their restorative massages or soothing skin care treatments, The Knotstop’s therapists are independent business professionals who understand the importance of quality. They are here to provide that rejuvenating and affordable escape you need. Check out their massage and skin care services and book a session today!

BODHI MASSAGE & WELLNESS CENTER 3678 Fourth Ave. 92103 619-274-2744



502 University Ave. 92103 619-432-5428

1788 El Prado 92101 619-232-3821




New Business VOM FASS

1649 El Prado 92101 619-238-7559

915 W. Washington St. 92103 619-220-0485

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909 E St. 92101 707-733-3548

1050 University Ave. 92103 619-534-5034

Optometrist URBAN OPTIKS OPTOMETRY 3788 Park Blvd. 92103 619-683-2020


1010 University Ave. 92103 619-955-5369 see Business & Retail, pg 18



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BUSINESS & RETAIL Pawn Shop HILLCREST PAWNBROKERS 3748 Sixth Ave. 92103 619-284-7243


3104 El Cajon Blvd. 92104 619-298-6882


4019 Goldfinch St. 92103 619-794-0014

Ryan Gans has been involved in the fitness community for the better part of a decade. His journey in fitness started after suffering a brutal knee injury, requiring surgery. Required to undergo intensive knee rehabilitation in order to gain basic function back in his knee, Ryan developed a passion for fitness and learned the amazing capabilities of the human body. In the

years that followed, Ryan found the tools to improving human performance. Anyone who has trained with Ryan can attest that his workouts are effective in achieving results. Fitness Together’s private suites and one-on-one focus, combined with Ryan’s customized workouts will get you results. Clients are never more than a couple of feet away, proximity wise, enhancing focus and taking away the fear; the intimidation, and the waiting found in most training/ gym scenarios. Clients train in private, fullyequipped suites, on an appointment-only basis, where the focus is totally about them and no one else. They bring a highly efficient process to working out, combining a superior

degree of coaching with smart nutrition to get results faster and safer. Your first session is complimentary and more diagnostic in nature, to allow a better understanding of your medical and medicinal background, as well as previous work out experiences, timelines and goals. Clients at Fitness Together range across the spectrum, both in age and fitness levels. We meet clients “where they are,” fitness and health wise, and safely move the needle in the right direction. One thing that sets Ryan apart from other trainers is that he has tested numerous fitness methodologies and knows firsthand how it affects the human


body. Ryan would never give you an exercise or workout he hasn't, or wouldn't do, himself. If you are looking to lose a few pounds, make a major comeback from an injury, or need to better your body’s performance in any way, Fitness Together and Ryan Gans are a great choice. See what others are saying about us on YELP.


3969 Fourth Ave. Suite 209, 92103 619-869-1205


2811 University Ave. 92104 619-295-9663



634 14th St. 92101 619-231-4701


3805 Utah St. 92104 619-452-2366

YOU DIRTY DOG Mobile Pet Groomer 619-297-6299


308 Washington St. 92103 619-725-0850



475 Tenth Ave. 92101 (845) 328-0364


313 Washington St. 92103 619-291-7170

AIDS HEALTHCARE FOUNDATION PHARMACY 3940 Fourth Ave. 92103 619-574-9700

AHF Pharmacy believes that filling your prescriptions should be the last thing that you should have to worry about. By filling your prescriptions through an AHF Pharmacy, you are helping people living with HIV, because 96¢ of every dollar collected by our pharmacies directly fund AIDS Healthcare Foundation’s HIV/AIDS programs and services domestically and abroad. Providing cutting-edge HIV medical care, regardless of a person’s ability to pay. Our staff is available to assist you with your prescription questions 24 hours a day/7 days a week. Call 855-894-MEDS or fill out our contact form and an AHF Pharmacy team member will contact you as soon as possible. See for yourself why AHF Pharmacy truly is your 24/7 HIV expert.

Pilates PILATES ROOM STUDIOS 10330 Friars Rd. 92120 missiongorge 619-230-0889

PILATES OF SAN DIEGO 310 K St. 92101 619-239-1319

Real Estate Agent TONY AZAR, THE METROPOLITAN GROUP 3930 Idaho St. 92104 619-944-6901

Buying or selling a property can be a bewildering and stressful ordeal. But with the help of an expert, this

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REAL ESTATE AGENT potentially perplexing experience can be made trouble-free. One such qualified individual is Tony Azar. As a long-time resident of San Diego and an active member of the San Diego Association of Realtors, Azar is more than just a realtor. He is dedicated to the needs of his clients whether in residential, income or commercial real estate. He strives to make each client’s buying or selling experience one that is truly positive and care-free. If you or someone you know is thinking of buying or selling a home, income or commercial property, call Tony Azar for guidance and advice on any and all of your Real Estate needs. He will also provide you with a complimentary Home Buyers/Sellers Guide or a market analysis of your property.


2468 Historic Decatur Rd. 92106 619-222-6800

Real Estate Office ASCENT REAL ESTATE 410 Kalmia St. 92101 619-325-4100

Ascent Real Estate’s professional team of REALTORS® has tracked over $4 billion in sales volume since 2005. While, according to Sandicor MLS, the company is the county’s largest independent real estate brokerage based on units sold in 2014, Ascent manages every transaction with personal “above and beyond” standards of service. The company’s mission is to hire, develop and retain the real estate industry’s most respected agents; cultivating a work environment that is cutting edge, diverse, ethical, compassionate, and strong in its convictions. Ascent Real Estate has eight offices throughout San Diego in Bankers Hill, Coronado, Downtown, Kensington, La Jolla, Mission Hills, North Park, and Point Loma.

THE METROPOLITAN GROUP 3930 Idaho St. 92104 619-260-1977

MERRILL GARDENS AT BANKERS HILL 2567 Second Ave. 92103 619-752-1099

Merrill Gardens Senior Living is proud to offer our “enjoy more anytime dining” program. We have always believed that you should be able to dine much like you did before you moved in — on your own schedule. “Enjoy more anytime dining” takes that to a whole new level. It means that you can visit the dining room as often as you like, and anytime you want throughout the day when the dining room is open. “Enjoy more anytime dining” provides you with additional flexibility, as your friends and family can join you for a meal at whatever time works best. We offer delicious and wholesome restaurant-style meals prepared under the direction of our very own executive chef. Contact us or visit our website to learn more today! We’ll be here to serve you a delicious meal in comfortable elegance, whenever you’re ready.


8949 Kenamar Drive, 92126 858-271-7758


5183 Mercury Point 92111 (855) 860-7652


660 University Ave. 92103 619-298-1826

iTAN Hillcrest has been serving the community since 2009. We offer several sun, spray, and spa services, including Versa Spa, Mystic HD, Hydration Station

and FIT Body Wraps, among others. Our knowledgeable staff is ready to assist with any of your needs and is educated on the smartest way to tan. We strive to provide the highest standards of both cleanliness and customer service to our clients for the best experience each and every visit. From skin sensing beds to the newest spray formulas, iTAN provides the latest in self-administered sun, spray, and spa technology.


1400 Camino de la Reina, Suite 121, 92108 619-260-9017

Tattoo/Piercing CHURCH OF STEEL 1433 University Ave. 92103 619-232-5752

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microchip implants, vaccinations, parasite prevention, dieting and even hospice care. And, we also offer nontraditional services such laser therapy, ultrasound and digital radiology. Give them a call today — they would love to meet your beloved friend and help in your pet’s health needs.

KENSINGTON VETERINARY HOSPITAL 3817 Adams Ave 92116 619-584-8418


3800 30th St. 92104 619-677-2022

Pilgrimage of the Heart Yoga offers a


wide variety of classes at its two studios in Normal Heights and North Park. Whether you want to nurture your body with a restorative, gentle class or yearn for a challenge with a Heated Power Flow class, our caring and attentive teachers and staff are eager to help you discover the yoga classes that are best suited to your needs and goals. Pilgrimage of the Heart’s monthly membership is one of the lowest rates in town. For just $75/month, members enjoy unlimited classes, free monthly workshops, and receive guest passes for friends and family. We look forward to welcoming you to our practice space!


1080 University Ave. 92103 619-295-9642t


449 University Ave. 92103 619-487-0237

Veterinary Hospital BODHI ANIMAL HOSPITAL 2200 University Ave. 92104 619-677-6366

Bodhi Veterinary Clinic and Animal Hospital is devoted to your pets and offers the upmost care and quality service to your beloved friend furry or scaly. We have a state-of-the-art facility that has the latest technology, a surgical room and a fully-equipped laboratory on site for cultures and both blood and urine analysis. Bodhi veterinarians practice both Eastern and Western medicinal practices to ensure your pet’s health and wellbeing in our safe and welcoming environment. Some of our services are more traditional than others. Bodhi offers annual wellness examinations,

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Resale/Thrift Store BUFFALO EXCHANGE 3862 Fifth Ave. 92103 619-298-4411


1219 University Ave. 92103 619-795-6630

Retirement Living ST. PAUL’S SENIOR SERVICES 328 Maple St. 92103 619-239-6900

Since 1960, St. Paul’s Senior Services has been dedicated to serving the physical, spiritual and social needs of the elderly and community. Through independent, assisted living and skilled nursing communities as well as an intergenerational day care program and Program of All-inclusive Care for the Elderly (PACE), St. Paul’s provides affordable, innovative and comprehensive programs in a non-denominational environment with great value placed on optimal independence at all stages of life. Our history of innovative programs and services has been guided by our overall mission and vision. We look forward to another 50 years of service to San Diego seniors and would love to give you a tour of any of our communities or programs.

Our friendly staff and compassionate instructors offer a wide variety of classes to diverse groups of students. Present this ad to receive unlimited yoga classes for 10 days. Limit one offer per student. Offer expires on October 31, 2016.

Gay San Diego News recently announced Stuart Benjamin & Co. Jewelry Designs as the favorite jewelry store among its readers. As San Diego’s 3rd generation jeweler, we thank you for the recognition and appreciate the opportunity to provide you with expert services you can trust. See our exciting selections of designer bridal jewelry along with renowned repair and redesign craftsmanship.

Normal Heights Studio

3287 Adams Ave, SD 92116


North Park Studio

3800 30th St, SD 92104




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